Speaker 1: Hello, Is this is this Kaitlin.
Speaker 2: Taylor? Yes, it is Kaylin.
Speaker 1: How are you Kaitlin?
Speaker 2: Oh good? You know you are a hard wizard to
Speaker 2: get in contact with. I had to call it them
Speaker 2: like two hundred times.
Speaker 1: You called two hundred times. You said I had you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Well, isn't it Kayla?
Speaker 1: If you Kaitlin, Kayla, Kaitlin. You know what's annoying about
Speaker 1: your name is that it's so close to being Caitlin,
Speaker 1: but it's not, and it's not Kaylen. It's like something
Speaker 1: in It's like Kayla and Caitlin divided by two. It's
Speaker 1: Kayla plus Caitlin divided by two the average of those two.
Speaker 1: And that bothers me. I wish it was just one
Speaker 1: of them, But what what is it? One more time
Speaker 1: and all internalize.
Speaker 2: It forever, like and klan.
Speaker 1: So she called two hundred times, and I assume if
Speaker 1: you call two hundred times, there there is something that
Speaker 1: that you want to talk about.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. So I really just need some petty
Speaker 2: advice kind of m So I was pregnant, I was
Speaker 2: dating this boy and a week before I had my baby.
Speaker 2: She's on me and kicked me out, and so then
Speaker 2: I was nice enough. I allowed him to be there
Speaker 2: while I gave birth. In the whole time, I laid
Speaker 2: up all night and watched him snapchat his new girlfriend
Speaker 2: back and forth.
Speaker 1: So he was hold on, hold.
Speaker 3: On, so he was.
Speaker 1: So he was in the room in the hot with
Speaker 1: the hospital room. Yes to tufe it away from you
Speaker 1: snapchat and his new girl. Yes, did he do any
Speaker 1: did he do anything to like in any way, shape
Speaker 1: or for I'm like, help you through the process of
Speaker 1: of the pregnancy.
Speaker 2: Oh, we were together the whole pregnancy until a week
Speaker 2: before I had the baby.
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, so continue to continue with you with
Speaker 1: your story.
Speaker 2: So his new girlfriend is pregnant, but it's not his
Speaker 2: it's her husband. So she left her husband the day
Speaker 2: he left me and moved into his house to day
Speaker 2: that I sent stuff out. So and I've been like
Speaker 2: trying to think, like I don't know, I feel like
Speaker 2: I've been really laid back about the whole ado. You know,
Speaker 2: Like the pettiest thing I did when I moved out
Speaker 2: was stole I. He had a bucket of change, and
Speaker 2: I took the bucket of change with me and the
Speaker 2: living room coffee table, so like I could have done,
Speaker 2: and now I I don't know, he doesn't do anything
Speaker 2: to help, and then he wants to sit and then,
Speaker 2: you know, just like he wants to act like he's
Speaker 2: such a good dad. It just makes me mad, and
Speaker 2: so I try to piss him off as much as possible,
Speaker 2: which isn't good and I shouldn't do that. I know that.
Speaker 1: You say you try to piss him off as much
Speaker 1: as possible. Besides stealing seventy cents in change and a
Speaker 1: coffee table, what do you do to piss him What
Speaker 1: other things do you do to try to piss him off?
Speaker 2: Okay? Like, so, my son has his last name and
Speaker 2: the other day I just texted him out of nowhere
Speaker 2: and was like, so I think I'm gonna change his
Speaker 2: last name to mine. Just little things like that, like
Speaker 2: I know would make him angry.
Speaker 1: And are you actually going to do that? Were you
Speaker 1: just doing that or just telling him?
Speaker 2: No, I'm just doing it. I'm just trying to pis
Speaker 2: him off. He called me immediately and I was like,
Speaker 2: I'm not only gonna do it, I just wanted to
Speaker 2: make you mad, and he's like, you're ignorant.
Speaker 1: Okay, I don't know what. I don't know, please continue.
Speaker 2: Oh that's it, Like, I just I need to know
Speaker 2: what I can do.
Speaker 1: You say you need to know what you can do?
Speaker 1: So well, i'm hearing from you. You're saying that you
Speaker 1: feel like you've been well. Well, this is very interesting
Speaker 1: to me because you're saying to me that you feel
Speaker 1: like you've been pretty chill despite the you know, craziness
Speaker 1: of the situation.
Speaker 2: Right, Like, I feel like i've been I mean, I
Speaker 2: try to. I don't know. He just makes me so
Speaker 2: mad all the time, and I just want I don't know,
Speaker 2: I just want to.
Speaker 1: What's going on with this dog? My dog?
Speaker 2: Oh, she's so bad. Her name's Macie. She's in yelling
Speaker 2: right now.
Speaker 1: She's in what.
Speaker 2: She's been dogs yelling right now?
Speaker 1: Oh good. She sounds like, UH say that she did something.
Speaker 1: I hear her. I hear her barks, translating into I
Speaker 1: didn't do it, but I know she did.
Speaker 2: She's so bad. She does everything. She choos up all
Speaker 2: my son's toys.
Speaker 1: So do you feel like you so like so like
Speaker 1: the are you conflicted?
Speaker 3: Here?
Speaker 1: Are you like thinking you've been too chill?
Speaker 2: Yeah? I really have, Like that's what I feel like.
Speaker 2: I feel like I've been bee chill and I want
Speaker 2: to not be too chill like he's been.
Speaker 1: Why do you well, why what do you mean? What
Speaker 1: do you mean? Why? Why do you say that you
Speaker 1: want to not be chill? That dog gets some lunch.
Speaker 2: That's weird. That is a weird thing to say that
Speaker 2: I don't want to be chill. I don't know, I
Speaker 2: just I feel like being petty. I guess.
Speaker 1: You feel like being petty. Well to me, so I
Speaker 1: feel like there's a sort of like peace. Well, you
Speaker 1: sound like you're It sounds like it's it's good that
Speaker 1: you don't want to be petty, right, because typically if
Speaker 1: you're going out of your way to like get revenge
Speaker 1: on people or piss people off, it like a lot
Speaker 1: of it is like at your own expense in a way,
Speaker 1: because they're as as people like to say, uh, living
Speaker 1: in your head of rent free. But it doesn't sound
Speaker 1: like uh sounds like it's a good thing that you've
Speaker 1: been chill about this situation.
Speaker 2: Yeah it is. I don't know. Maybe I'm just angry.
Speaker 1: It's just a place that you could talk with where
Speaker 1: the door the dog is not there.
Speaker 2: Yes, hold on, So okay? Is that better?
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's way better. Okay, So so you what do
Speaker 1: you like want to not be chilled? Like, what are
Speaker 1: you feeling conflicted about?
Speaker 2: You know, I think today we just had a conversation
Speaker 2: and it made me really angry and then so like
Speaker 2: I was just I don't know, and so now I'm
Speaker 2: upset with him and I'm like, I just want to
Speaker 2: be ignorant, but I'm not really that ignorant of a person.
Speaker 2: So like I can't thinking I don't know.
Speaker 1: You well, I saw it do but like I mean,
Speaker 1: I I I almost feel like, well, listen, if you're
Speaker 1: going about your life in a way that is like
Speaker 1: peaceful for you, I don't know why you're why you
Speaker 1: feel this desire to to to want to be angry right,
Speaker 1: like you're chilling, You got your dog, your son, you're
Speaker 1: like your move you're sort of I'm not I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna put words in your mouth and say that you've
Speaker 1: moved on because I don't know, but like you're you're
Speaker 1: you're living your life. You're on the path to moving on.
Speaker 1: Uh sounds like fucking faster than a lot of people
Speaker 1: on average would. Uh would do you know? So I
Speaker 1: I I'm I don't know. I think I think it
Speaker 1: sounds to me like you're handling this in a good way.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, probably, But I don't know. I think I'm
Speaker 2: just angry today honestly at him, because I don't know,
Speaker 2: because some days I'm just angry at him.
Speaker 1: How often do you do you, like, uh, interact with him.
Speaker 2: Even not very often, maybe like three or four times
Speaker 2: a month?
Speaker 1: Okay, And are you going out and trying to to
Speaker 1: meet someone new or are you focusing on Oh so
Speaker 1: you have a boyfriend already?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 1: Ah, okay, well shit, I mean you you you have
Speaker 1: a new relationship, you got your kid, you get the dog.
Speaker 1: It sounds like you're like four dogs. I mean it
Speaker 1: sounds like you you you're you're sort of like quickly
Speaker 1: moving up and onwards with your life. I mean, I
Speaker 1: think that's good, right because pettiness, to me, like being
Speaker 1: petty and going out in secret revenge just means that
Speaker 1: like the feelings that that you have of rage are like,
Speaker 1: you know, still boiling and influencing you and and and
Speaker 1: you know, I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing,
Speaker 1: but uh, I mean, I don't know. I like the
Speaker 1: strategy you've taken on with this, you know, just fucking
Speaker 1: moving on with your life. Yeah, okay, next, Caitlin.
Speaker 2: What's next for me? I applied to college. Actually, next,
Speaker 2: what's next for me?
Speaker 1: Perfect? Listen, the best revenge is life well lived, isn't it.
Speaker 2: That's true?
Speaker 1: Well, then keep living life well, Kaitlin.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think maybe I just needed to talk about
Speaker 2: it beautiful, and I feel it does feel better.
Speaker 1: Well, I hope you.
Speaker 4: Uh.
Speaker 1: I hope that your dog. Uh. I don't know. You
Speaker 1: can get some horse tranquilizer for that guy. He definitely
Speaker 1: needs something. You know, you can give dogs like I
Speaker 1: started like vets who like prescribe like xanax and weed
Speaker 1: to dogs.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Actually, so she is super hyper and no joke.
Speaker 2: When she was little, she would just like randomly wake up,
Speaker 2: like two o'clock in the morning and start chasing her jail.
Speaker 2: So I used to give her beIN a drill when
Speaker 2: I would go to bed. That way she would sleep
Speaker 2: through the night, which I know sounds terrible.
Speaker 1: But if not, she was that is that veterinarian recommended.
Speaker 2: Yeah, dog's gonna have a drill.
Speaker 1: Yes, I don't know. I was just joking when I
Speaker 1: said to give your dogs annex and weed. I've fucking
Speaker 1: no idea. I don't. I don't endorse. I don't endorse
Speaker 1: taking my advice on anything about what to give to
Speaker 1: your dog. All right, well you say that one, Klein. Huh,
Speaker 1: have a good night, Klen. Thank you for calling too.
Speaker 1: Someone in the chat said that it's that it is safe,
Speaker 1: and uh, I'm gonna add on to what I said.
Speaker 1: I don't endorse taking my advice on, uh, what to
Speaker 1: give your dog. Don't endorse giving Uh, I don't endorse
Speaker 1: taking the advice of a random Twitch commentator on what
Speaker 1: you should to your dog. And yeah, I have no
Speaker 1: idea give your dog dog's like cheese. I think give
Speaker 1: your dog some parmesan cheese. Soon asked why I hate dogs.
Speaker 1: I don't hate dogs. I just hated I don't hate dogs.
Speaker 1: I just hated that dog for I hated that dog
Speaker 1: for that specific period of time, for one specific reason.
Speaker 1: My hatred was very pointed, explained and specific toward that
Speaker 1: one dog for that one purpose at that one time.
Speaker 1: And now that time is over and the purpose is over,
Speaker 1: and I'm never gonna see that dog ever again. And
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't care what happens to it. Not
Speaker 1: in like a bad. I don't. I don't wish it harm,
Speaker 1: but I don't. It's not I'm not gonna follow up
Speaker 1: to know what happened to it in the future, which
Speaker 1: is fair because why would I have no attachment to
Speaker 1: the dog. Let's take a phone call. Hello, we have Bono,
Speaker 1: twenty eight years old from Florida. That's me. I'm trying
Speaker 1: to do a radio thing. But by saying your your
Speaker 1: age and where you're calling from and your name in
Speaker 1: like that way, what do you think about that?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 5: Man, is this really the gecko?
Speaker 1: Is this really Bono?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 1: It is.
Speaker 5: Man. That is great to hear you. Man, I've been
Speaker 5: listening to you every day for eight hours when I
Speaker 5: do my landscape being on spot.
Speaker 1: Okay, and this is fucking.
Speaker 5: Amazing that you answered. And it is my week vacation,
Speaker 5: so it makes it even not much better?
Speaker 1: Is your week vacation?
Speaker 5: Yeah, I took a whole week off the work man.
Speaker 1: Oh wow, I'm honored to be a part of this
Speaker 1: valuable time that you're spending. Am I on the speakerphone
Speaker 1: right now? Bono?
Speaker 5: Yeah? I could take you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, take me off the speakerphone. It's easy to hear
Speaker 1: you on speak Yeah, there we go.
Speaker 5: I tak get off.
Speaker 1: Now, beautiful, beautiful, bino. What's going on? Tell me everything?
Speaker 1: Tell me nothing.
Speaker 5: Well, I mean I took a week off vacation. I
Speaker 5: had a job interview last week, didn't get the job,
Speaker 5: but happy that I got to talk to you. So
Speaker 5: I mean it's a win win in my situation. And
Speaker 5: I'm a vacation so I couldn't be happier.
Speaker 1: I guess is there anything in particular that you want
Speaker 1: to talk about by him?
Speaker 5: I mean there was a I mean I was telling
Speaker 5: my old lady the other day that it was kind
Speaker 5: of weird how when I was younger when a juvie
Speaker 5: about five or six times, and ever since I turned eighteen,
Speaker 5: I'm actually on the opposite side of the law. So
Speaker 5: now I do like security, cut grass and sell fire.
Speaker 5: So so that I was just kind of a weird
Speaker 5: change that I did.
Speaker 1: M hm. So you werean out of juvi, I guess.
Speaker 1: I guess I had have been like over ten years ago.
Speaker 5: Yeah. Yeah, it was when I was in my younger age.
Speaker 1: H And do you feel like you sort of learned
Speaker 1: learned a lot from that experience?
Speaker 3: Uh?
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean as I got older, I said Okay,
Speaker 5: you kind of where you know, the younger guys are,
Speaker 5: I mean, prison is where the big boys are, so
Speaker 5: you kind of don't want to end up going there.
Speaker 5: So it's either turn your life around or keep going
Speaker 5: a big pass. So decided to turn it around.
Speaker 1: And you said you went multiple times. You said you
Speaker 1: went like six times, do you.
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 7: I went?
Speaker 5: First time, I got fourteen charges stood on note of
Speaker 5: this day. Why my mom has all my paperwork somewhere,
Speaker 5: so I haven't really got into it. And then the
Speaker 5: second time was because I've been in a follow the roads,
Speaker 5: I guess in probation, so I got sent back again.
Speaker 5: Third time was just for a different charge that I had.
Speaker 7: M hm.
Speaker 1: So like when you went to Juvie, I'm curious, I
Speaker 1: know this is a long time ago, and I don't
Speaker 1: want to just focus on the bad stuff because I
Speaker 1: want to I want to sort of like hear about
Speaker 1: the the flip that you're telling me about right now,
Speaker 1: how you sort of you know, got on the other
Speaker 1: side into security. But so you started out so so
Speaker 1: apparently the first couple of times you went, was it
Speaker 1: not awful enough to like prevent you from ever wanting
Speaker 1: to go back.
Speaker 5: Uh, it wasn't that bad because I've been an arternative
Speaker 5: school when I was younger. So I got kicked out
Speaker 5: of my regular school and went to an alternative school
Speaker 5: and it was basically just like a juvie, just without
Speaker 5: the walls. I guess. So first two times didn't really
Speaker 5: affect anything, but as I got to the thirty and
Speaker 5: four ORF, I was like, I'm getting older, the charge
Speaker 5: are going to be a bit bigger, and they're charging
Speaker 5: people as adults now. So it's one of those things
Speaker 5: that you're just gonna have to change before it gets
Speaker 5: worse here.
Speaker 1: And so then what set you back for the fifth
Speaker 1: and sixth time, I guess let's.
Speaker 5: Just say I was selling stuff that I wasn't too,
Speaker 5: so I ended up getting charged for that. Well, I
Speaker 5: got kicked out of school at first, right, and got
Speaker 5: charged for it, and then got kicked out of the state.
Speaker 1: So yeah, but so then, oh, you got kicked out of.
Speaker 5: The state, Yeah, the whole state. They gave me twenty
Speaker 5: four hours to leave the state. If I didn't leave,
Speaker 5: I was either going to go to a foster home
Speaker 5: for juvie for about a year or two till I
Speaker 5: turned eighteen or a prison. So I left the left
Speaker 5: about two hours later after they told me that.
Speaker 1: Wow, I didn't even know. I didn't even know that
Speaker 1: you could be banned from a state.
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, you should have seen how I surprised my
Speaker 5: family was. But I mean, that's the quickest ticket, o't
Speaker 5: And I don't like planes, so I kind of don't
Speaker 5: remember being on the plane half the time, because yeah,
Speaker 5: I was just too terrified to even realized I was
Speaker 5: on the plane.
Speaker 1: Were you Were you terrified of being on the plane?
Speaker 1: Were you terrified of.
Speaker 5: Leaving being on the plane? I actually wanted to come
Speaker 5: back to my state because I didn't really like it
Speaker 5: up there anymore, so I kind of wanted to just
Speaker 5: come back. It was more of a country life over
Speaker 5: there where I was instead of being in the city.
Speaker 5: So I kind of wanted to come back to the
Speaker 5: city life.
Speaker 1: Mh. And are you still banned from this state? How
Speaker 1: long does this ban last?
Speaker 5: No, it was just a year banned, So I'm good
Speaker 5: to go back and forth as I please now. But yeah,
Speaker 5: I was pretty shocked that they can actually kick you
Speaker 5: out the whole stae.
Speaker 1: How did your family react when you had to leave?
Speaker 5: They just told me to go home and pack my
Speaker 5: bags and get the quickest ticket I can and we
Speaker 5: left a couple hours later.
Speaker 7: M hm.
Speaker 1: So all right, so you got kicked out of school
Speaker 1: and you had to leave the States, but you didn't
Speaker 1: go You didn't end up going back to juvie? What what? So? What?
Speaker 1: What did you like? What was your next sort of
Speaker 1: move after that?
Speaker 5: Basically I was already getting to that age where are
Speaker 5: a team, So chargers are not as small as they
Speaker 5: were when you were a teenager. So I decided to
Speaker 5: take the right path because I didn't want to go
Speaker 5: to the prison. And that's when I started changing up
Speaker 5: and doing better.
Speaker 1: I guess, did you get like a gig of some
Speaker 1: kind doing something? Did you? Were you able to get
Speaker 1: a GED or go back to school or anything like that.
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 5: Yeah, as soon as I came back, I went to school,
Speaker 5: I jumped out. In about the same month I dropped out,
Speaker 5: I got my GD because nowadays you can't really do
Speaker 5: nothing without a GD if you didn't have one, So
Speaker 5: made sure that was the first thing I did.
Speaker 1: And you said you work at security now right.
Speaker 5: Yeah, working security, sell firearms, you know a little.
Speaker 1: Bit of everything, And are you enjoying what you're doing now.
Speaker 5: I wouldn't say I enjoyed, but I mean a learning.
Speaker 5: As I keep making money, I'll do whatever I need
Speaker 5: to do, so that keeps me going.
Speaker 1: To the point of what keeps you going? I'm curious, like,
Speaker 1: what would you say are the most prominent motivating factors
Speaker 1: in your life? We know that money is won, but
Speaker 1: but is there anything else that that that you think
Speaker 1: is a significant motivating factor for you?
Speaker 5: Uh, my mother and my younger sister. I mean, they've
Speaker 5: seen it from where I used to be the tour now,
Speaker 5: so that keeps me on my toes to keep doing
Speaker 5: better decisions instead of making bad ones.
Speaker 1: Nice. Nice? Do you still have a have a good
Speaker 1: relationship with both of them?
Speaker 6: Oh?
Speaker 5: Yeah, I have a great relationship with even though they
Speaker 5: say I eat a lot, But I don't think I
Speaker 5: eat a lot. I think it's just I'm hungry all
Speaker 5: the time. So what do you need to.
Speaker 1: Eat a lot?
Speaker 5: My mom? My mom is Mexican, so I basically have
Speaker 5: like a Mexican restaurant in my house all the time.
Speaker 1: That's cool. What like what specifically, like what kind of Mexican.
Speaker 5: Food tacos, manulo, mola, floutes, some OLiS, basically anything I
Speaker 5: can and ask her to make sure'll make and I
Speaker 5: get to eat it the same day.
Speaker 1: That's pretty awesome. Actually, yeah.
Speaker 5: I mean a lot of people tell me why I
Speaker 5: don't go you a Mexican restaurant, But like I said,
Speaker 5: why go to a Mexican restaurant? I could just go home?
Speaker 1: What your name was? Bono? Yep, Bono. Is there anything
Speaker 1: that you want to say to the people before we go?
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe something you would say to someone who was
Speaker 1: in a similar position as you when they were younger,
Speaker 1: or or any or anything at all that you want
Speaker 1: to say to the people.
Speaker 5: Yeah, anybody that's doing bad and I feel like they're
Speaker 5: in a bad situation and they can't turn their lives around.
Speaker 5: You can always turn your life around. You got to
Speaker 5: put your mind to it, and you don't always have
Speaker 5: to be doing the same task, just to choose a
Speaker 5: different one to make sure that you're happy and make
Speaker 5: sure you're family happy, beautiful.
Speaker 1: Thanks for Colin, Bono, take.
Speaker 7: It easy all right, man.
Speaker 5: Thank you.
Speaker 7: To see someone in the.
Speaker 1: Chat said that this paint has to be very bad
Speaker 1: for my skin, and to that, I say, we will
Speaker 1: find out in a few years, because I think I've
Speaker 1: only been doing this a year and a half and
Speaker 1: I don't think that the paint. I don't think it.
Speaker 1: I don't think that the paint attacks in the short term.
Speaker 1: The short term. I think the paint plans ahead and
Speaker 1: will kill me slowly over a long period of time.
Speaker 1: So I don't know just yet, but we will see.
Speaker 1: I feel like I remember reading somewhere that you know,
Speaker 1: there's no violent jay from the insane clown Polse. I
Speaker 1: don't know if this was like if this might have
Speaker 1: been a fake article, but I remember reading somewhere that
Speaker 1: he got some kind of I don't know if it
Speaker 1: was a cancer or does he something happened to him
Speaker 1: because he was wearing the paint all the time. And
Speaker 1: if hey, if that article is fake, then look if
Speaker 1: he can do it, I can do it. Potentially, everyone
Speaker 1: in the chat is like, oh, you gotta use here's
Speaker 1: one more thing, and then we'll take phone calls. But
Speaker 1: this happens all the time. I swear you guy, this
Speaker 1: is always happening. I get on here and I complain
Speaker 1: about this paint killing me, and then someone will DM
Speaker 1: me on Instagram or something and be like, gek, you
Speaker 1: gotta hear the products that you got to use, the
Speaker 1: fucking the primer, the the cleansing oil, moisturizer thing. And
Speaker 1: I do them for like a day and then I
Speaker 1: get I get lazy, and I said, up doing them?
Speaker 1: How badly do I need to moisturize? Really? Can I
Speaker 1: live a successful, happy, fulfilled life without moisturizing? I feel
Speaker 1: like I can. Hello is this Colby?
Speaker 7: Yes?
Speaker 1: It is hello, Colby.
Speaker 8: Oh, so nice to be on here.
Speaker 1: I'm glad, you know. I'm I think it's cool that
Speaker 1: you were able to make that decision. After only being
Speaker 1: on here for a second, you immediately felt like like
Speaker 1: it was good to be on here, And I'm I'm
Speaker 1: that's good. I think right, Maybe it's maybe it's too
Speaker 1: snap of a judgment, maybe five minutes from maybe I
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't know. I'll shut up. What's your
Speaker 1: name again, Colby?
Speaker 8: Yep?
Speaker 1: What's going on? Colby?
Speaker 8: So I came on here to tell the story about
Speaker 8: when I was like five years old, I went to
Speaker 8: a Mexican restaurant in Bangor Main called Miguel's. I was
Speaker 8: a very what I need to go to the bathroom, right,
Speaker 8: very very dirty bathroom leaving, a shy five year old
Speaker 8: decides to pee all over the floor.
Speaker 1: Okay, when you say you were OUs, you were five
Speaker 1: years old on a Mexican restaurant. You go to the
Speaker 1: use a bathroom, You go to use the bathroom alone,
Speaker 1: your parents don't like take you.
Speaker 8: Oh no, it's just how old.
Speaker 1: How old are kids usually when you got to go
Speaker 1: take them to the bathroom or when they can go
Speaker 1: on their own. It's five ah, right, five years so
Speaker 1: let's see. So well, Okay, when you say you peed
Speaker 1: all over the floor, is it something where you attempted
Speaker 1: to use the urinal but you failed and you peed
Speaker 1: on the floor, or you in the middle of the
Speaker 1: bathroom intentionally just went straight for the floor.
Speaker 8: Oh, right out the door. Honestly, it was very very
Speaker 8: dirty bathroom. As I said, it was, yeah, kind of
Speaker 8: like a gas station bathroom, you know what I mean.
Speaker 6: Mm.
Speaker 8: And then after that, I mean, the waiter came up
Speaker 8: to me and looked at me and my mom and
Speaker 8: her partner and looked at us and was like, I
Speaker 8: know what you did, And me, being a shy five
Speaker 8: year old, looked back at him and asked, what do
Speaker 8: you mean? My mom stuck up for me and like.
Speaker 5: He didn't do that?
Speaker 8: Like, yes, yeah, but I did. I mean, I'm a
Speaker 8: fier would be ashamed for that. M.
Speaker 1: So you denied it, and your mother believed you, and
Speaker 1: she joined you in your denial.
Speaker 8: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Did you feel at the time any guilt for bringing
Speaker 1: your mother into your lie?
Speaker 8: Honestly? Now? I was kind of afterwards, continued to eating
Speaker 8: my food.
Speaker 1: Really didn't think about it at all in any sort
Speaker 1: of guilt framed way, honestly, now and contemporarily, how do
Speaker 1: you feel about it?
Speaker 8: Honestly, I don't know how to feel about it now
Speaker 8: now that I have my own hit of my own
Speaker 8: you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: You have a child of your own now?
Speaker 8: Yes, I do.
Speaker 1: And how would you feel if if you were in
Speaker 1: a similar situation as your mother with your current child?
Speaker 8: You know, I'd stick off for my daughter as well,
Speaker 8: But afterwards, I don't know how i'd feel, like what
Speaker 8: I would say to her? M.
Speaker 1: Well, here's the thing is it sounds like, and correct
Speaker 1: me if I'm wrong, but it sounds like you did
Speaker 1: not pee on the floor intentionally out of malice. Sounds
Speaker 1: like you peeed on the floor out of like some
Speaker 1: sort of maybe it was shock. I don't I don't,
Speaker 1: I don't know what what like propelled the pee out
Speaker 1: of your body, but it was. It feels like it
Speaker 1: was like an involuntary emotional response to something more than
Speaker 1: it was an act of malice.
Speaker 8: Yeah, I would agree with that. I mean, I didn't
Speaker 8: do it to do it right, You didn't want to
Speaker 8: walk any further into the bathroom.
Speaker 1: Mhm. What was the name of this restaurant.
Speaker 8: It was Miguel's in Bangor, Maine.
Speaker 1: Is it still there? Yeah, go back there, stand by
Speaker 1: the bathroom and next time somebody peas in there on
Speaker 1: the floor, you bring a rag, you clean it up yourself.
Speaker 1: You clean up pissing that bathroom once, and then you're
Speaker 1: done forever. Your your deaths have been repaid. But you
Speaker 1: got to go back there and you gotta clean up
Speaker 1: someone's piss just to sort of.
Speaker 8: Or I never thought of doing.
Speaker 1: You gotta find the owner of the restaurants and let
Speaker 1: their kid piss in your mouth.
Speaker 6: That.
Speaker 1: No, it's too far, you don't have to do that,
Speaker 1: but you could.
Speaker 8: I kind of feel like it's one of those acts
Speaker 8: that was just kind of frown upon, you know what
Speaker 8: I mean, Like masturbating on a place.
Speaker 1: I also I also think it would be very frowd upon.
Speaker 1: What's your name again?
Speaker 7: Colby?
Speaker 1: Colby? Thank you very much? Calling hello, Dinkas, Hello, how
Speaker 1: are you dinkis?
Speaker 7: So my calling topic probably isn't too good now about uh,
Speaker 7: your rant about how much you hate talks?
Speaker 1: I didn't go on to do you all right? Clearly
Speaker 1: nobody was listening to I was very I never said
Speaker 1: I hate dogs. I like dogs. I just said I
Speaker 1: hated like that specific dog for that I no longer
Speaker 1: hate that dog, by the way, but I just hated
Speaker 1: that dog for that specific time, for that specific reason.
Speaker 1: Did that? Did that not cut? Did I not make myself?
Speaker 1: I feel like I made myself pretty clear. I feel
Speaker 1: like no, you did. I'm sorry.
Speaker 7: It's when you were talking about it. When you were
Speaker 7: talking about it, I had the feeling of, Uh, you
Speaker 7: were going to pick my call for comedic bits.
Speaker 1: You thought I was going to pick your call for
Speaker 1: comedic bits. I'm sorry. I drank a bunch of whole
Speaker 1: milk before the stream, so I'm a little amped up.
Speaker 1: M tell me, tell me what you wanted to talk about.
Speaker 7: Why I called in is tomorrow I have to put
Speaker 7: down my dog, and I don't know. I don't know
Speaker 7: if advice is the right question, because you know, advice
Speaker 7: about what, But I guess I don't know just how
Speaker 7: to process that. I guess looking for information with that.
Speaker 1: How old is your dog?
Speaker 7: Eleven and a half eleven and a half.
Speaker 1: What kind of dog is it?
Speaker 7: Golden Retriever?
Speaker 1: What's their name? Maggie, Maggie.
Speaker 7: Yeah, so they get Golden Retrievers for some reason get
Speaker 7: like tumors really bad. So she now is like she's
Speaker 7: been doing fine, and then all of a sudden, like
Speaker 7: she's not eating and she has a bunch of tumors
Speaker 7: and stuff. So I think tomorrow is the day. Unfortunately.
Speaker 7: Mm hmmm.
Speaker 1: I have a Golden Retriever too, and I love gold Numbertrievers. See,
Speaker 1: I don't hate dogs. I hated that dog, but I
Speaker 1: don't hate dogs in general. I love Golden Retrievers. They're
Speaker 1: good dogs, They're very active, they're very sweet, the very
Speaker 1: affectionate dogs.
Speaker 6: Mm hmm.
Speaker 1: How would you.
Speaker 7: Describe what the name of the dog you hate?
Speaker 1: The name? I don't know. I don't even I don't
Speaker 1: hate them enough to know their name. I'm over it completely.
Speaker 1: Tell me more about Maggie. What what is Maggie like?
Speaker 7: Well, she used to be very hyper and run around
Speaker 7: and stuff and you know, typical dog stuff. Now she
Speaker 7: just pisses and ships everywhere.
Speaker 1: Mm hmmm hm. That's where we.
Speaker 7: All are her body.
Speaker 1: I had a dog, Yeah, I had a right my
Speaker 1: I had a gold I had a Golden Retriever that
Speaker 1: died as well. Her name was it was Jessica, And
Speaker 1: I'm sorry I remember she uh. Shortly before she died,
Speaker 1: I watched her take a full shit on her own leg.
Speaker 1: And that's it's not that I don't think that's the
Speaker 1: place where anyone wants to be.
Speaker 7: Yeah, it's just sucks for you know, like humans, it
Speaker 7: takes eighty years to get to that. But you watch
Speaker 7: a dog in this lifespan of ten years, you know.
Speaker 1: Do you know this dog? Do you own the dog
Speaker 1: with anyone, like a partner or like or is it
Speaker 1: just you and the dog.
Speaker 7: I got the dog when I was a kid, and
Speaker 7: then so it's been at my parents since that's where
Speaker 7: I lived. And then I just bought a house and
Speaker 7: so I didn't bring her with me because I knew
Speaker 7: this point was coming sometime this year. So to then
Speaker 7: up end everything that she's used to and be like, oh,
Speaker 7: we're living here for three months and then die. So
Speaker 7: she's right, she's with my parents right now.
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, And how how are your parents? How are
Speaker 1: your parents feeling? Did they also have as as strong
Speaker 1: a connection to the dog as you do?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 7: Yeah, My my mom's gonna have kind of brought it up,
Speaker 7: you know, since for these last few months I haven't
Speaker 7: been there that you know, she thinks now is the time.
Speaker 7: M So it's not just my call I'm making, So
Speaker 7: it's kind of a joint.
Speaker 1: Call, right, I mean, that's that that it's you know,
Speaker 1: I uh, you know, all the circumstances considered, it is
Speaker 1: it is nice to be able to celebrate the life
Speaker 1: of your dog alongside other people who also cared about Maggie.
Speaker 3: Mm hm, m hm.
Speaker 1: And you guys said you're going tomorrow.
Speaker 7: Yeah, because what it is is she's been off and
Speaker 7: on in you know, she's very sick, but at the
Speaker 7: same time, there's been weeks to a month where she's
Speaker 7: been perfectly healthy and happy or act at least acting healthy.
Speaker 7: But the last three days she hasn't eaten at all.
Speaker 7: And then uh so we called the vet and she
Speaker 7: said that if she doesn't eat by the third day, right,
Speaker 7: I got Tomorrow will be the third day that she
Speaker 7: hasn't eaten, And if she hasn't eaten by then, it's
Speaker 7: kind of a sign mm hm. Which it's been. It's
Speaker 7: been downhill, uh for close to a year or two years.
Speaker 7: So do you I went over, I was trying to
Speaker 7: I was trying to like give her cheese and stuff
Speaker 7: and like all the stuff she normally would eat she
Speaker 7: has no interest in.
Speaker 1: Mm hmm.
Speaker 3: Have you.
Speaker 1: Sort of taken uh have you have you have you
Speaker 1: reflected on I don't know, maybe maybe maybe nice memories
Speaker 1: that you have that you have had with Maggie, anything
Speaker 1: in particular that you want to share. Uh.
Speaker 7: Well, last year we kind of knew like she was.
Speaker 7: She started getting bad last year, like real bad, and
Speaker 7: so when we went to the beach, we took her
Speaker 7: with us and that was I mean, she lives in
Speaker 7: my backyard. Other than not living out there all the time.
Speaker 7: I'm just saying.
Speaker 3: She she.
Speaker 1: Has a very limited uh, travel experience, as most dogs do.
Speaker 7: Yeah, so I guess you know from her perspective, knowing
Speaker 7: that there's an ocean and the beach is probably surprising
Speaker 7: and weird. So that was kind of like a nice
Speaker 7: last thing to do, even though it was.
Speaker 1: A half ago. That's interesting, right because you you almost like,
Speaker 1: I like the way you're talking about that, Like, you know,
Speaker 1: your dog is a very limited worldview, only to like
Speaker 1: your backyard. But then they're like, oh, there's a whole
Speaker 1: ocean and beach and stuff. I almost almost almost feel
Speaker 1: like I almost feel like that every time I go
Speaker 1: to the beach, you know, because we're all spending all
Speaker 1: of our time in our fucking rooms and offices and
Speaker 1: caves and shit. You get the guy You're like, as
Speaker 1: a whole, we're all we're all kind of dogs too
Speaker 1: in a way, you know, we all live sedentary lives
Speaker 1: and then shut ourselves and die, and.
Speaker 7: People standing around talking about us dying, and one will
Speaker 7: die and then it actually happens.
Speaker 1: Does that feel? Do you feel weird talking about you're
Speaker 1: the fact that your dog will around the dog?
Speaker 7: I wouldn't say so. I mean, she was right there
Speaker 7: today when I was talking about it.
Speaker 1: Mm hmm.
Speaker 7: But yeah, she's just she's not doing good at all,
Speaker 7: Like when I was petting her. She kind of just
Speaker 7: now feels like a skin with a sack of in it,
Speaker 7: if that makes sense.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that makes sense kind of.
Speaker 7: I mean it's a gross description.
Speaker 1: But it's a little it's a little gross, but still
Speaker 1: a good dog, you know, Maggie. What's your name again?
Speaker 1: Dinks Dinkas, Dinkas. I'm sorry I didn't give you any
Speaker 1: advice because I don't necessarily necessarily no, but is there No,
Speaker 1: I don't hate dogs, Dinkers. I love dogs. I have
Speaker 1: a dog. I have a Golden Retriever. I have too
Speaker 1: gold I two Golden retrievers. One of them died. One
Speaker 1: of them took a ship on her leg and then
Speaker 1: died right after. But I like dogs. I love dogs.
Speaker 1: I love your dog, dude, I love your dog. I'm
Speaker 1: proud to hear. But she had a wonderful time at
Speaker 1: the beach, and proud of you for giving her a
Speaker 1: good life. You take some time, you take some time
Speaker 1: on these next few days, when you're reflecting on the
Speaker 1: life of this dog. You give yourself a pat on
Speaker 1: the back, thinkers, for all the good work you've done
Speaker 1: to give that dog a good life. You feel good
Speaker 1: about that. You reflect, you think about her life. You
Speaker 1: feel good about her life. She had a good life.
Speaker 1: You gave one to her, and you know, I don't know,
Speaker 1: I hope, I hope that as as as you're bathing
Speaker 1: in the reflection of of your dog's life, of of
Speaker 1: of what she meant to you, you're you're almost given
Speaker 1: this like, I don't, I don't, I don't know how
Speaker 1: you would say it, but this this rejuvenation for all
Speaker 1: the all the various joys in your life, not just
Speaker 1: the joy that this dog gave to you. You're like, oh,
Speaker 1: maybe I should, you know, appreciate the the sky while
Speaker 1: I could still see it, or my my my parents
Speaker 1: while I can still see them. You know, I hope,
Speaker 1: I hope it gives you a greater appreciation and for
Speaker 1: all the other things that are bringing to joy in
Speaker 1: your life. That's a great point, you know, so so
Speaker 1: so thank you very much for calling Dinkas and and
Speaker 1: real quick, of course you can say something real quick.
Speaker 7: You might ignore this question. That's fine and do that
Speaker 7: thing where you say good night Denkas.
Speaker 1: We've had to sincere a conversation for me to do that.
Speaker 1: Now I would normally do that, but that we've had
Speaker 1: we're at it sincere point. Now where if I did that,
Speaker 1: it wouldn't come off as funny. I would just look
Speaker 1: like a dick.
Speaker 7: So well, it's very it's very off. It's very off topic.
Speaker 7: Oh sure, is there a chance that you will ever
Speaker 7: do a an Age three team up again for Collins?
Speaker 1: If if? I mean, look, if he ever calls me,
Speaker 1: I'll come on anytime that they that they want me
Speaker 1: to come on, you know, mm.
Speaker 7: Hmm, all right. I just figured I asked because I
Speaker 7: was curious.
Speaker 1: I don't hate dogs. I hated that one, I explained
Speaker 1: myself already. I refuse to do it again. I love dogs.
Speaker 1: I love your dogs.
Speaker 7: I love you, I said, now was a chance I
Speaker 7: didn't say you hate dogs. I fully believe you love dogs.
Speaker 1: Think it's yep, thank you for calling. Much love to you.
Speaker 1: I have a good rest of the night. Hello is
Speaker 1: this Joshua?
Speaker 6: Yes?
Speaker 7: It is?
Speaker 6: What is going on in Lisle?
Speaker 1: What's up, Joshua? How you doing? Man?
Speaker 5: Good man?
Speaker 6: Just walking back from the store.
Speaker 1: What'd you get?
Speaker 6: I had to unfortunately use the restroom up there.
Speaker 1: You had to use the restroom at the store. What's
Speaker 1: wrong with your restroom at home?
Speaker 8: Man?
Speaker 6: So my apartment complaces are kind of old. SORRYR cars
Speaker 6: passing my apartments are kind of old and the setic
Speaker 6: tints kind of got backed up, and for the last
Speaker 6: four days I haven't been able to use the rest
Speaker 6: room in no form of fashion unless I want to
Speaker 6: pretend to be a plumber. Get the plunger everything, draino
Speaker 6: and go add a little elbow grease.
Speaker 1: At what point does it I mean, how far away
Speaker 1: is the story?
Speaker 6: You're walking up to my door now, Oh, it's like
Speaker 6: a two minute walk.
Speaker 1: How at what point does it become more efficient for
Speaker 1: you in terms of your energy to just fix the toilet?
Speaker 6: Well? See, I live in a apartment complex, so I
Speaker 6: complained to the office and they're like, well, we come
Speaker 6: little use the hose and put it in there and
Speaker 6: drill it out. But it's the whole complex, so they're
Speaker 6: just kind of postpone and fixing the whole septic system.
Speaker 1: Oh wait, so the septic system is fucked for the
Speaker 1: whole apartment complex.
Speaker 7: Absolutely wow?
Speaker 1: And how long has it been fucked? Four days?
Speaker 6: About four days?
Speaker 1: How is there not rioting going on at the fucking office? Man?
Speaker 6: Man? So like, as of as of this morning, I
Speaker 6: literally going door to door, I'm walking in my house now,
Speaker 6: I started going door to door, like you're.
Speaker 1: Building a fucking militia to go tear down the apartment
Speaker 1: complex office and get that.
Speaker 6: Shit fixed exactly, Like we need some free rant and
Speaker 6: we need to be able to shit when we want
Speaker 6: to see it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, no, literally, get everywhere. Here's what you do.
Speaker 1: You get everyone to go out, You get everyone like
Speaker 1: you like, Okay, Wednesday, five pm, we all take a
Speaker 1: ship in the middle of the hallway. They can't evict
Speaker 1: all of us at once. If we do that strength.
Speaker 6: In numbers, that's the next level.
Speaker 1: You're already going around campaigning for the for the your cause.
Speaker 1: I feel like that's the only way you're gonna get
Speaker 1: them to really pay attention. Joshua Bom and your fucking
Speaker 1: smoke detector needs batteries.
Speaker 6: Oh oh, that was my son.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I thought it was a smoke detector.
Speaker 6: My son came in.
Speaker 1: He yelled, hey, Dode, you hold you take a ship.
Speaker 1: You hold your son, you in what you take off
Speaker 1: his diaper? You ship with your son in the middle
Speaker 1: of the hallway. Yeah, yeah, how's he eat?
Speaker 7: He's good, he's great.
Speaker 6: He we went to the park today. We've been playing.
Speaker 6: He's been on his tablet, but you know, he ships
Speaker 6: in the diaper so he doesn't feel my pain.
Speaker 1: Mm hmmm hmm. Well wait a minute, what do you
Speaker 1: what do you do with the diapers? You don't you
Speaker 1: don't flush me in the toilet, do you? You just throw
Speaker 1: them away? Oh?
Speaker 6: No, See, yeah, I have a dumpster, like it's not
Speaker 6: too far from my house to take him out there.
Speaker 7: Put him in a bag.
Speaker 6: Diaper genie stuff like that.
Speaker 1: Do you feel stuff? And he know what is a
Speaker 1: diaper genie?
Speaker 6: It's like so it's like a little container where you
Speaker 6: put all its like, has a scented bag and you
Speaker 6: put all the diapers in there so it doesn't make
Speaker 6: your house smell like shit. And then you take one
Speaker 6: bag out it holds like thirty diapers in it at
Speaker 6: one time.
Speaker 1: Oh, it's a scented well, I'm familiar with the concept
Speaker 1: of a scented garbage bag to make the garbage less.
Speaker 7: Yeah, scented, same thing.
Speaker 6: It just has like a latch and it holds up
Speaker 6: the diapers and whatnot. It's just made specifically.
Speaker 1: Hypergenie. Do I detect a podcast sponsor somewhere in the.
Speaker 6: Future, Oh, look at us diaper Genie is on the way.
Speaker 6: It's not a friend though, it's.
Speaker 1: Just like the concept.
Speaker 7: It's not a brain, it's just a concept.
Speaker 1: So okay, So Joshua, aside from the fact that you
Speaker 1: have to go, Actually, I'm curious, has the store noticed
Speaker 1: a strong influx of people coming to use its toilets
Speaker 1: from your apartment?
Speaker 6: See me, I live so close and I go there
Speaker 6: so frequently. I told him, I'm like, hey, tween toilets
Speaker 6: fucked up, got to use the restroom. And he's like,
Speaker 6: you're the third person today, and I'm like, oh my god,
Speaker 6: So he definitely noticed it.
Speaker 1: Well, I mean, every single person your apartment's got to
Speaker 1: go use his fucking toilet somewhere.
Speaker 6: It's like it's only like two it's two gas stations
Speaker 6: and a Dairy Queen. Everything else you have to drive to.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that Dairy Queen bathroom is probably fucked.
Speaker 1: It's fucked.
Speaker 7: How many people do My girlfriends is?
Speaker 6: It's my girlfriend and my son, and she's watching the
Speaker 6: stream in the other room and she heard me mention
Speaker 6: the dairy Queen bathroom and since she's been happening to go,
Speaker 6: she's like, yeah.
Speaker 5: Definitely gross.
Speaker 1: Would does she go with you to take a ship.
Speaker 1: Is it almost like a date?
Speaker 6: No, I wouldn't say a date, but it's definitely We
Speaker 6: got to try to plan the trips at the same time,
Speaker 6: so we're not just alternating trips, you know.
Speaker 1: Mm hmmm. Lemansha is just the worst thing that's going
Speaker 1: on in your life right now. Yeah, that's pretty good.
Speaker 6: Bills are caught up, sunstead, girlfriend's happy dogs, chilling, got
Speaker 6: a good job, well, a decent job, you know.
Speaker 3: So just can't ship.
Speaker 1: You just can't ship well.
Speaker 6: And like I told your call representative, I was really
Speaker 6: kind of was in an upset move because I really
Speaker 6: had to go. And then like I called sixty times
Speaker 6: on my girlfriend's phone and forty times on my phone,
Speaker 6: and then it finally went through and my day changed around.
Speaker 1: Did did the wait? So are you telling me that
Speaker 1: you had to take a ship at the beginning of
Speaker 1: this call, but then you got so engrossed in the
Speaker 1: call that you forgot you had to take a shit.
Speaker 6: No, When I walked to the store and then I
Speaker 6: came back walking from the store.
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm sorry.
Speaker 6: I thought I did something, so so on, Hold, I
Speaker 6: was in the ship at some point.
Speaker 1: You were in the Were you prepared? Were you prepared
Speaker 1: to have this conversation while you were on the toilet?
Speaker 7: Absolutely?
Speaker 6: I was going to be like, but I didn't want
Speaker 6: to feel contradicted because I didn't want to be like, oh,
Speaker 6: my toilet's not working, but I'm sitting on the toilet
Speaker 6: right now.
Speaker 1: You would, I would have allowed you to explain yourself.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I know you would because I listened to your
Speaker 6: podcast while I'm at work, So I do understand that
Speaker 6: you do give everybody a fair chance, even if they
Speaker 6: don't understand the question or whatever, to explain themselves.
Speaker 1: Thank you man, Thank you. Do you ever listen to
Speaker 1: it while you're taking a ship? Yes?
Speaker 6: Sometimes, like if I'm at work and I'm moving the boxes, man,
Speaker 6: it's like, oh I gotta take a ship. I don't
Speaker 6: stop the podcast to keep it rolling.
Speaker 1: That's awesome, Joshua, Joshua, I appreciate your your your kind words,
Speaker 1: and your listenership, and uh, do you have any Do
Speaker 1: you have anything else that you want to say before
Speaker 1: we go to the people?
Speaker 3: No chat?
Speaker 6: You guys are awesome. Thank you, Lyle. You're awesome. Keep
Speaker 6: doing what you do.
Speaker 1: Get beautiful. Talk to you soon, josh.
Speaker 6: Hey, bing bomb up bing.
Speaker 1: Bong, Dude. I don't know what that means, but I'm signing.
Speaker 1: I'll sign off on it. James, Yeah, James, how's it going? Yeah?
Speaker 9: It's going good?
Speaker 1: Man, Yes, sir, it's going good. Why is it going
Speaker 1: so well? What's what's so good about it?
Speaker 9: I'm just enjoying myself.
Speaker 1: How was going for you?
Speaker 7: Get?
Speaker 1: Uh's going pretty well? If you had a really good
Speaker 1: night of calls, I've been enjoying the whole the whole
Speaker 1: damn thing. Am I on the speakerphone? By chance?
Speaker 9: You're not on the speakerphone, but I had you on
Speaker 9: Reddit while I was watching you, so now you're You're
Speaker 9: just on my AirPod.
Speaker 1: It's just me and you. So what's going on? James?
Speaker 9: Not much? Man. Actually started up a video game to
Speaker 9: play while I was waiting, but you hit me up
Speaker 9: in the middle. So here I am with you.
Speaker 1: Is there anything in particular that you wanted to talk about?
Speaker 9: So my issue I spoke to the individual on the
Speaker 9: phone was as recently became a manager of a bar,
Speaker 9: and I never had an issue while I was bartending
Speaker 9: or serving in a restaurant with talking to people, But
Speaker 9: since I've became a manager. I'm kind of timid about it.
Speaker 9: I don't know if it's the responsibility that is expected
Speaker 9: of me.
Speaker 3: Or what, but I just.
Speaker 9: I don't feel like myself going up to people and
Speaker 9: talking to them, Like I don't feel comfortable doing it.
Speaker 9: Before I did and now I don't. So I was
Speaker 9: wondering if it's an anxiety issue which I've never had
Speaker 9: before in my life, or what could be going on.
Speaker 9: So I was wanting a second opinion and seeing if
Speaker 9: you could help me out with it.
Speaker 1: MM, so this is interesting. So you were, well, no,
Speaker 1: I you know, it's funny you say that because I
Speaker 1: used to like throw illegal bar, like running a legal
Speaker 1: bar out of my fucking basement, and I felt like
Speaker 1: the man when I was there. I felt like it
Speaker 1: was way easier to talk to people because I was like,
Speaker 1: you know, because you're the guy in charge, you know,
Speaker 1: it makes you feel like you belong there. Whereas you know,
Speaker 1: if I were just like a patron at a bar,
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know, fucking I would wouldn't talk to anyone.
Speaker 1: So it's interesting to me that you're feeling sort of
Speaker 1: an opposite feeling. That's that's very interesting to me. So
Speaker 1: tell me all right, So when you were just a bartender,
Speaker 1: you weren't a manager. And by the way, are you
Speaker 1: a do you own this? Do you own this establishment
Speaker 1: now or just a manage?
Speaker 9: So it's a it's a corporate owned establishment. It became
Speaker 9: corporate within the past few years, within the past four months,
Speaker 9: I believe, or four or five months, given I became
Speaker 9: a manager from a bartender. I bartended for eight years
Speaker 9: before that, and I've been in the industry for fourteen
Speaker 9: So this is like brand new to me, like straight
Speaker 9: up never done it before, brand new type stuff. But
Speaker 9: before I never had an issue. Now it's kind of.
Speaker 5: If if.
Speaker 9: There's there's a problem with the table, I like you
Speaker 9: sure you don't want somebody else to go to it?
Speaker 9: And in like in any other instance, I was always
Speaker 9: the first person, like I would I would deal with
Speaker 9: the problem.
Speaker 1: So you said that when you were a bartender, when
Speaker 1: you were just a bartender, you were and a manager.
Speaker 1: Do you feel did you feel okay? I want you
Speaker 1: to rank you? Okay, between you as a patron at
Speaker 1: a bar, you as a bartender at a bar, and
Speaker 1: you as a manager of a bar. Who is where
Speaker 1: would you rank those? In one to three from outgoing this,
Speaker 1: outgoing this.
Speaker 9: I would say actually being a bartender would be number one, okay,
Speaker 9: Second would be a patron at a bar and bullshit
Speaker 9: during the manager. Three would be the actual actual manager.
Speaker 1: Yes, so crazy, okay, So that all right? So so
Speaker 1: then this is interesting to me because that you put patron,
Speaker 1: that you put working at the bar above the patron,
Speaker 1: because tell me, what is it about being the bartender
Speaker 1: that actively gives you, uh let's call it confidence?
Speaker 9: So so being the bartender, I don't necessarily say it
Speaker 9: would be confident, but it would be that you you
Speaker 9: have to come before me before you come before anybody else.
Speaker 9: So if I tell you know, if I'm cutting.
Speaker 5: You off, if say, the.
Speaker 9: Get comes to my to my bar and you've had
Speaker 9: too many Woodfords, I'm telling you know, right you keep
Speaker 9: going on and on with me. I'm telling you know.
Speaker 1: It's an authoritative position.
Speaker 9: Authority exactly exactly, and I'm not used to it. This
Speaker 9: is never I've never been in that authoritative position, and
Speaker 9: I don't know how to not I wouldn't say mentally,
Speaker 9: but I don't know how to process that.
Speaker 1: So you well, well, no, I'm saying that being the
Speaker 1: bartender in a way is an authoritative position because you
Speaker 1: you know, you cut people off and you'll feel as
Speaker 1: though you are in command of the place. But now
Speaker 1: as a manager, you like actually are in command of
Speaker 1: the place. Is that like give you anxiety? This is
Speaker 1: so I don't know, this is so like it's hard
Speaker 1: to crack because it feels so counterinto it.
Speaker 9: It it's foreign to me as well. That's why I
Speaker 9: figured i'd give you a call.
Speaker 1: Do you feel like do you feel like there's like
Speaker 1: more pressure on you now?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 1: Yes, Okay, maybe that's it.
Speaker 9: I came I came from an establishment before the place
Speaker 9: I'm working at. I came from an establishment to where
Speaker 9: as a bartender I would have to call the cops,
Speaker 9: like at least once a weekend. It was given to
Speaker 9: Now I'm kind of in a nicer, kind.
Speaker 5: Of upscale.
Speaker 9: Type of environment.
Speaker 1: Sure, yeah, and it's uh interesting.
Speaker 9: I think it's kind of messed with my head a
Speaker 9: little bit. And and I can't I can't figure out
Speaker 9: how it's messed with me. I know it's there, but
Speaker 9: I can't cross fit in my head that this is
Speaker 9: why or this is this is the reason this is
Speaker 9: going on. And that's kind of that's kind of what's
Speaker 9: thrown all of this off. And I want to be
Speaker 9: great at what I do, but it's throwing your arrangement.
Speaker 1: So you're not new, as you said, to the industry.
Speaker 1: You've been here, you know for years and years and years.
Speaker 1: But are you new to this sort of upscale establishment?
Speaker 1: Is this your first time working in what you would
Speaker 1: consider an upscale an upscale establishment?
Speaker 9: Yes, sir, you're you're correct for probably about maybe that's it. Yes,
Speaker 9: And and see that that's kind of what I thought
Speaker 9: as well. So I wasn't sure, but I never went
Speaker 9: like so I started the establishment as a server, became
Speaker 9: a bartender, put me through management training, and uh like,
Speaker 9: throughout the whole process, I was like, this is freaking awesome.
Speaker 9: Like I had confidence, I felt great in myself until
Speaker 9: they sent me back to the store I was going
Speaker 9: to be at. And then once I got back to
Speaker 9: the store, it was kind of like I hit my
Speaker 9: head into a wall. It was like, Damn, this is
Speaker 9: completely a different environment than I envisioned.
Speaker 1: You know, I feel like and uh, this could be
Speaker 1: a load of shit, but I feel like, you know,
Speaker 1: I mean, well, well look at it like this, right,
Speaker 1: you've been in the industry for what fifteen years? And
Speaker 1: you said you've been working mostly at the CD sort
Speaker 1: of places where you would always have to call the
Speaker 1: cops when you first show like when you were when
Speaker 1: you first showed up, whatever, when you were eighteen or whatever.
Speaker 1: The fuck uh at one of these places to be
Speaker 1: a bartender. Were you not sort of having to deal
Speaker 1: with and adjust to this, to this environment.
Speaker 9: Dude, I my first month bartending, no shit, I googled
Speaker 9: how to talk to people. So I googled what what
Speaker 9: I should be doing as a bartender. I figured out,
Speaker 9: you talk about the news, you talk about sports, you
Speaker 9: talk about you talk about non non confrontational stuff, and
Speaker 9: I would. I would sit there before I went to
Speaker 9: work every day. I would read non confrontational stuff so
Speaker 9: I could have something.
Speaker 1: To talk to people about, like local news stories.
Speaker 9: Not necessarily local, but local, national, weather, sports, all that,
Speaker 9: just because I didn't I wasn't acclimated to being a
Speaker 9: bartender and actually having people right there in front of
Speaker 9: me like I was used to being a server, and
Speaker 9: I would. I would take your orders walk away, wouldn't
Speaker 9: have anything to do with you being a bartender. I would.
Speaker 9: I'd be there in front of you. I would always
Speaker 9: have shit to do in front of you, so it
Speaker 9: always if you wanted to talk to me, I'd have
Speaker 9: to be there. So I looked this stuff up, and
Speaker 9: every single day before I went into work, I would
Speaker 9: I would do research, and I mean for like three
Speaker 9: or four months until I got the confidence too not
Speaker 9: not to have to do this. So that's where the
Speaker 9: anxiety part comes into, is that I was thinking that
Speaker 9: it comes from that or it stems from that issue,
Speaker 9: and but I've never had that issue before in my life,
Speaker 9: so that that's what kind of throws me off.
Speaker 1: You have to google how to talk to rich people.
Speaker 1: See if you get any other responses. See what Googles
Speaker 1: say about that.
Speaker 9: You know, I wouldn't say you're you're too too far
Speaker 9: off there if you throw old in the mix, that
Speaker 9: would that would be.
Speaker 1: Like on point, well, I get well, So I mean
Speaker 1: to like to throw it back to the reason I
Speaker 1: was I was originally asking, is like, you know, okay,
Speaker 1: when you when you were eighteen, you were like you
Speaker 1: were googling how to talk to people like you were
Speaker 1: you were you were clearly, like you know, in a
Speaker 1: brand new environment that you were adjusting to but then
Speaker 1: you know, X amount of years later, you you adjusted
Speaker 1: to the environment, you know, and then you're you became
Speaker 1: a pro And I believe that, you know, I mean,
Speaker 1: it sounds to me like this is a brand new
Speaker 1: sort of position for you. I believe that as time
Speaker 1: moved on you you became more socially ept in in
Speaker 1: this uh like c D environment as you say, you
Speaker 1: became comfortable with that. And then you're in a new environment,
Speaker 1: so you're naturally going to be uncomfortable. But you know,
Speaker 1: as as you've already proven you will naturally over time,
Speaker 1: I think at least from from what you've told me
Speaker 1: uh acclimate to that new environment. Okay, I would think, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: see what Google has to say. It seems to like
Speaker 1: it works for you the first time.
Speaker 9: And I don't necessarily want to just jump to Google.
Speaker 9: That that was I mean, but no, most definitely, But
Speaker 9: that was my first persons think. To be honest, Now
Speaker 9: that I'm in my thirties, I'm kind of kind of
Speaker 9: like I need to like, are my people still wearing
Speaker 9: thin or what's going on?
Speaker 1: No, I don't think you're people. No, this isn't no. Look,
Speaker 1: I don't think your people's skills are ranked in because
Speaker 1: it you just had a new environment, dude, Like like
Speaker 1: like I don't know that has to be that has
Speaker 1: to be it right, Like maybe it's not. But but
Speaker 1: as we've talked and explored the different possible variables, if
Speaker 1: I had to pick one based on the information give me,
Speaker 1: it sounds like you're just in a new environment. I
Speaker 1: mean again, there there there are infinite variables, but that
Speaker 1: sounds like it's the one. Because if you're telling me
Speaker 1: that when you're in other environments you're feeling socially appt
Speaker 1: and you know, it sounds like that's the right variable.
Speaker 1: So so would you say your name was again?
Speaker 9: H James? James?
Speaker 1: James James. Do you have any any final things that
Speaker 1: you want to say before we go?
Speaker 9: No, sir, I just appreciate you taking my call and
Speaker 9: you look dream today.
Speaker 1: Bro. Oh, thank you man. That's the nicest thing anyone's
Speaker 1: ever said to me.
Speaker 5: Yes, sir, I know it is beautiful.
Speaker 1: Talk to you soon, James.
Speaker 9: Good luck all right, brother, take care of yourself. Have
Speaker 9: a happy Christmas.
Speaker 1: Hey, folks, this is Lyle. In this next call, I
Speaker 1: am joined by my sister. So if you hear a
Speaker 1: voice that is not mine or a callers that is
Speaker 1: my sister. Okay, back to the podcast. Jeremy, Jeremy, Jeremy. Okay, guys,
Speaker 1: how are you.
Speaker 3: I'm doing good. It's uh four am in Germany.
Speaker 4: You're in Germany? Are you German?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 10: Actually, I'm from the Washington State, but I've been here
Speaker 10: for since two thousand and four.
Speaker 9: I'm just four.
Speaker 1: Wait, but this is two thousand and four and you
Speaker 1: still have an American phone number.
Speaker 5: Hey Google Voice.
Speaker 7: Oh it's it's free. It's awesome.
Speaker 1: Wow, what are you doing. I'm a translator, so he
Speaker 1: speaks just fluent German. Hey, better, dude, tell us something
Speaker 1: in German? Was in Germany?
Speaker 4: She was in Germany, had a cousin in Germany for
Speaker 4: a while.
Speaker 3: But I don't think how was that working out for you? Guys?
Speaker 4: It's working out really well. We never went to Germany.
Speaker 4: Wants to visit her.
Speaker 1: It's working out for us as much. It's working out
Speaker 1: for us very neutrally.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it really isn't working out either way. It's fine,
Speaker 4: but she doesn't live there anymore. So the conversation was mute.
Speaker 1: We were just trying to connect to you. How do
Speaker 1: you say gecko in German?
Speaker 3: That's not one of my husbands.
Speaker 1: How do you not know what to say lizard? Can
Speaker 1: you say lizard?
Speaker 3: I don't.
Speaker 1: What lizards?
Speaker 3: More calm, I don't.
Speaker 7: I don't don't talk about geckos.
Speaker 3: I do stupid.
Speaker 10: Translations about like product manuals and like how did like
Speaker 10: insert part a into like lot be and ship?
Speaker 4: So, but you've never had a conversation with anyone about
Speaker 4: like animals, believe.
Speaker 1: What is how about lizard? What is the lizard?
Speaker 8: Ia?
Speaker 1: Ex I think ex I don't know.
Speaker 4: I think I don't think we've said one portion of
Speaker 4: that correctly.
Speaker 3: It's good, I think I think.
Speaker 4: Ex exa sound like fucking idiots? What's up, Jermy? What's
Speaker 4: you want to tell us about?
Speaker 3: Absolutely nothing? I'm just watching you guys without a calling.
Speaker 1: Wow, I'm thinking what do you think about Germany on
Speaker 1: this topic? Beforehand? What do you think about Germany as
Speaker 1: a place to abandon your current life and start a
Speaker 1: new one?
Speaker 3: Well, so I did. I moved here when I was
Speaker 3: twenty one and here I'm like it, that's what I did.
Speaker 3: I have like more or less no contact with the
Speaker 3: US at this point.
Speaker 1: And cool, you didn't know anyone when you went over there.
Speaker 10: Well, it's a long story, but yeah, I moved here
Speaker 10: to work with the band.
Speaker 1: Any band we know?
Speaker 3: Rumsteinine kind of music?
Speaker 1: What kind of music does Rumstein do?
Speaker 10: Industrial metalish pop stuff more or less?
Speaker 1: But metalish pop stuff? What industrial metal?
Speaker 4: I didn't know that metal music had different types of
Speaker 4: Is there electrical.
Speaker 10: Heavy, heavy guitars, the distorted stuff?
Speaker 1: You got the is there manufacturing and you got the
Speaker 1: and you got the keyboard? What?
Speaker 7: Sorry, let's luck.
Speaker 4: But no, I'm just being stupid, so I wouldn't worry
Speaker 4: too much about what i'd say.
Speaker 1: Rumstine.
Speaker 7: Damn.
Speaker 1: So you went there when you were twenty one to
Speaker 1: work with the band. How did you even connect with
Speaker 1: this band? Yeah?
Speaker 3: Did you know it?
Speaker 10: I mean, oh yeah, I did three years in high school,
Speaker 10: which is apparently enough for me.
Speaker 1: How'd you connect with the band?
Speaker 3: I found them?
Speaker 8: Do you know?
Speaker 10: It's a long story, but I basically I made a
Speaker 10: fan pagement I was in high school.
Speaker 1: You were a super fan of Rumstein. Wow, so you
Speaker 1: made a fan page when you were in high school?
Speaker 1: I made page with them, and they just what, like,
Speaker 1: what was the when you're like sixteen?
Speaker 10: I was sixty eh, and like I was like post
Speaker 10: like the track listening to the new album before it
Speaker 10: was supposed to be posted.
Speaker 1: Interesting. So, so you were sixteen you got this crazy
Speaker 1: you're like the president of the Rumshtein fan club. How
Speaker 1: did how did they first make contact with you? What
Speaker 1: did they like?
Speaker 3: Oh? Like, how do you take that offline?
Speaker 7: God? Damn it?
Speaker 1: Oh really? So friend the first message or a pissed
Speaker 1: off Oh that's funny. And now then you work with them,
Speaker 1: he still talks, You still keep up with them?
Speaker 3: No, I mean it's been at least ten years since
Speaker 3: I was really actively involved in anyway.
Speaker 1: Are they still together? Yeah?
Speaker 11: Yeah, they're still They're still putting stuff up rum Sty.
Speaker 7: That's how I got my story.
Speaker 1: That's so interesting. Hell, I really I really need to
Speaker 1: close the gap here because between because I'm still not
Speaker 1: closed for me. Before we move on to this call,
Speaker 1: I need to close the gap between sixteen year old
Speaker 1: kid running fan page two five years later moving to
Speaker 1: Germany to work with the band again.
Speaker 11: That's a long story, but I had basically I was
Speaker 11: in contact with them and they were asking to take
Speaker 11: the off line or whatever. But we had a sort
Speaker 11: of working relationship, like we knew each other sort of
Speaker 11: that the management and me, not the band directly, and
Speaker 11: then I just said, hey, did you guys maybe have
Speaker 11: a job for me in Berlin and they're like okay,
Speaker 11: and then I came here. Basically it was like a
Speaker 11: shitty an internship, hardly.
Speaker 10: Paid for anything.
Speaker 7: And a year later they're like.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we don't really need a webmaster anyway, because the
Speaker 3: internets are bad.
Speaker 1: The internet is such a bad So then they just
Speaker 1: they just they didn't up break you into a full
Speaker 1: time job. But then there you were in Germany. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: and you were just like a stick around.
Speaker 10: I pivoted to translation because I was already doing that
Speaker 10: with them anyway, and I.
Speaker 1: Speak that's very interesting topics. Wow, Jeremy, Wow that you
Speaker 1: know that that kid who wanted to be a mom. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I feel like that's an inspiring story for him, you know,
Speaker 1: because he's in fucking whatever college stuff, and he could
Speaker 1: just go to Tibet, become a month, find out being
Speaker 1: a monk sucks, but that the bet is sick, and
Speaker 1: just hang out there for you know, until he's dead.
Speaker 3: Not everything in Germany works out perfectly, but so far
Speaker 3: it's working.
Speaker 1: Good for me, beautiful. Thank you for sharing, Jeremy, you
Speaker 1: have a good rest of the night.
Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you.
Speaker 1: That Bah never goes on the line making his on
Speaker 1: calls every night, never goes to teach you.