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Speaker 1: What is going on? We made it to Friday, Thank goodness.

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Speaker 1: I am so excited for the weekend I'm going to

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Speaker 1: be spending time with I call her my final roommate.

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Speaker 1: She was the last woman I lived with before I

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Speaker 1: started living on my own, and she got married and

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Speaker 1: now currently goodness, like within five years, has a husband

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Speaker 1: and three children and now lives outside of Richmond. So

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Speaker 1: looking forward to a weekend of some girl time. And

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Speaker 1: in the meantime, I want to tell you about something

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Speaker 1: I shared during a coaching call this morning. I was

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Speaker 1: working with someone who has a goal to get more

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Speaker 1: publicity for her business, and we were chatting about how

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Speaker 1: she could do that and what specifically that goal would

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Speaker 1: look like flesh out. I asked her how she'd want

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Speaker 1: to feel in a year if she was successful in

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Speaker 1: that goal, and then asked her the following question, which

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Speaker 1: is the thoughts starter I want to bring here this week.

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Speaker 1: I asked her, knowing that your goal is to secure

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Speaker 1: x amount of press opportunities within the next three sixty five,

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Speaker 1: what is one thing that you can do within the

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Speaker 1: next two weeks to get you closer to your goal?

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Speaker 1: And sometimes it's hard to think that micro right we

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Speaker 1: get overwhelmed and over consumed by our big, hairy, scary,

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Speaker 1: audacious goals, as Selene Flanagan once told me. But the

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Speaker 1: thing is is that by breaking it down and thinking small,

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Speaker 1: getting and we've talked about that acronym so many times

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Speaker 1: on the show, specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time bound,

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Speaker 1: you can then go after whatever it is that you're

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Speaker 1: after in a more intelligent way. So let's zero in

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Speaker 1: on an example. I have always wanted to give a

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Speaker 1: my radar and something that I am nowhere near accomplishing

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Speaker 1: at this moment. Logistically, I would say that I have

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Speaker 1: the outline of my talk what I believe I would

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Speaker 1: talk about. I've watched plenty of Ted talks, right, but

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Speaker 1: I've made no progress necessarily in terms of figuring out

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Speaker 1: exactly how to make this happen, connecting, researching, et cetera.

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Speaker 1: So if I know that my goal by April twenty

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Speaker 1: eighth of twenty and twenty four, a year from now,

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Speaker 1: is that I want to give a TEDx talk, let's

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Speaker 1: narrow it down a little bit more. Then this week

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Speaker 1: a small goal that I can set something that I

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Speaker 1: can make sure happens is I do research into where

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Speaker 1: the TEDx talks happen in my area and build myself

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Speaker 1: a spreadsheet of the people that are responsible for putting

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Speaker 1: together these events. That way, with that information, I can

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Speaker 1: start to think about reaching out. Another thing that I

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Speaker 1: can do if I know that I want to reach

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Speaker 1: out perhaps within the next month, is take some time

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Speaker 1: over the next two weeks to draft what that email

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Speaker 1: would look like. So now you're starting to see where

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Speaker 1: my thought process is going. Right. You might not think, oh,

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Speaker 1: I want to give a ted talk, So the first

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Speaker 1: thing I should do is think about the email that

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Speaker 1: I'm going to send to someone that might get me there,

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Speaker 1: or maybe you would. But all of this to say

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Speaker 1: is that there are small steps that we must take

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Speaker 1: on our journey to get to where we want to go.

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Speaker 1: We don't just run a marathon without doing the training

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Speaker 1: rate and if you do, bless Truly. I've said this

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Speaker 1: before and I'll say it again, the journey is the destination.

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Speaker 1: So make sure that, regardless of what your big goals are,

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Speaker 1: if you dread it, then truly you have to ask

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Speaker 1: yourself what was my why to begin with? So my

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Speaker 1: prompt for you this week what is something that you

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Speaker 1: now a listener question.

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Speaker 2: Hi Emily, it's fearing to hear from West Sussex in

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Speaker 2: the UK. My question is how do you go about

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Speaker 2: making big career or life decisions. Have you got a

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Speaker 1: This is a really good question. Hey Fiona, I love

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Speaker 1: I love hurdlers from all corners of the world. Thank

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Speaker 1: you so much for this question decision making. I would

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Speaker 1: generally speaking, go by this compass that I'll share with you.

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Speaker 1: If something happens, whether it is an opportunity, an email

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Speaker 1: Right I get an email in my inbox and it's

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Speaker 1: offering me a gig that I'm very excited about. Okay, awesome.

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Speaker 1: If I was to reply right then and there, I

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Speaker 1: aligns with my values? And what is a priority for

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Speaker 1: say this in terms of something similar to that situation,

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Speaker 1: Ask yourself what would be the damage quote unquote if

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Speaker 1: I just waited so that I could respond instead of react.

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Speaker 1: do whatever it is that truly feels like it serves

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Speaker 1: much bigger decisions to be made than whether or not

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Speaker 1: I would accept a gig, you know, moving into a

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Speaker 1: to change cities, ending or starting a new relationship. Goodness.

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Speaker 1: I mean, the list goes on, right and when it

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Speaker 1: So when all else fails, my biggest piece of advice

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Speaker 1: I've doubted mine in the past, but I truly believe

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Speaker 1: that what is meant to be for me will be

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Speaker 1: for me. Have someone that you trust that you can

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Speaker 1: bounce things off of. For me, it is my family,

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Speaker 1: it is my parents, It is my dear friends that

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Speaker 1: I'm so lucky to have as a part of my life.

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Speaker 1: These are people that I know do not judge, but

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Speaker 1: rather listen and also truly want what's best for me.

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Speaker 1: And so I would encourage you to lean on your people,

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Speaker 1: your anchors, and know that they've got your best interest

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Speaker 1: in mind as well. That's it for this week. Make

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Speaker 1: sure you're following along with Hurdle over on social It's

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Speaker 1: at Hurdle Podcast. I am over at Emily a Body

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Speaker 1: another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time. Yeah,