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Speaker 1: Hey, I'm Cadine and we're the Ellises. You may know

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Speaker 1: us from posting funny videos with our boys and reading

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Speaker 1: each other publicly as a form of therapy. Wait, I'll

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Speaker 1: make you need therapy most days. Wow. And one more

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Speaker 1: important thing to mention, we're married. We are. We created

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Speaker 1: this podcast to open dialogue about some of life's most

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Speaker 1: taboo topics, things most folks don't want to talk about

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Speaker 1: through the lens of a millennial married couple. Dead adds

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Speaker 1: is the term that we say every day. So when

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Speaker 1: we say dead ass, we're actually saying facts, the truth,

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Speaker 1: the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. Were about

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Speaker 1: to take Phillow Talk to a whole new level. Dead

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Speaker 1: ass starts right now. Yeah, what's up, y'all? Y'all look good,

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Speaker 1: I can't see ship. I'm lying. Everybody come out on

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Speaker 1: the stage. The first thing they said, Yeah, look good, Right,

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Speaker 1: I can't see nothing. We outside though I haven't been

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Speaker 1: on stage since two thousand and nineteen. I ain't gonna lie.

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Speaker 1: I'm nervous. I just got done filming. Yes, who watch

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Speaker 1: your sisters? Yeah? Yeah, y'all, my sisters PU your favorite character. Hey,

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Speaker 1: so I know, I know, I know I know, I know,

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Speaker 1: I'm know y'all want to know when's the team is

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Speaker 1: coming out? Right? I can't tell y'all, but I will

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Speaker 1: tell you all this. We just got done finished rapping

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Speaker 1: season two. Yes, so we already filmed two seasons as

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Speaker 1: a team of shout out Tyler Perry Studios BT for

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Speaker 1: doing all that good stuff, but without any further ado. Hey, hey, hey, y'all,

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Speaker 1: don't be capt calling my wife. I know that's why

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Speaker 1: y'are here. She's a real star. She is a real star.

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Speaker 1: So I'm gonna need you to get on y'all feet

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Speaker 1: because coming to the stage, the queen be wife of

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Speaker 1: not one, not two, not three, but four whole boys,

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Speaker 1: the baddest being all of Brooklyn can't care. Damn you

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Speaker 1: know what was hand me crying back there? I'm not

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Speaker 1: supposed to. I cried enough for the past week, y'all

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Speaker 1: with this tooth when I tell y'all debilitating pain like

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Speaker 1: I had four whole boys, as you know, two of

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Speaker 1: them at home, no pain meds. But that too took

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Speaker 1: me out. But I'm here. I'm here to see I

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Speaker 1: eat you everyone, y'all. How you feeling about this pony tail?

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Speaker 1: So Janelle my hair stylish shout out to Janelle. I

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Speaker 1: was like, girl, what are we gonna do about this here?

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Speaker 1: She's like, I'm thinking we're doing nice, slick ponytail. Let's

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Speaker 1: go with this dress, you know, because I was thinking

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Speaker 1: New York City cabaret, feel close to Broadway back home,

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Speaker 1: and I was like, you know what, give me a braid,

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Speaker 1: but make it long and dutty. So, Senior, this is

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Speaker 1: the best part of the Brave right here. Why do

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Speaker 1: you just added this to the Brave? God, I love you.

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Speaker 1: Just a little razzle dazzle, you know, a little function.

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Speaker 1: So as you all know who here listens to the

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Speaker 1: to the podcast? Anybody here listen to the Boggle A

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Speaker 1: So on the podcast, we have two different jobs. Okay,

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Speaker 1: she does all the work. I don't prepare at all.

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Speaker 1: I'll just be talking. She keeps me like on schedule.

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Speaker 1: So what's next? I don't know. So we're back home, y'all,

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Speaker 1: So everybody knows that we're down in Atlanta. Now anybody

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Speaker 1: from Atlanta area? Okay, okay, how about Queens the Bronx

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Speaker 1: oh le Brons head deep that's cut Harlem uh Staten Island.

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Speaker 1: anybody traveled from the New England area, like Connecticut or

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Speaker 1: anything Connecticut. Okay, now time for the thoroughist borrow. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: boo your way. Yes. I love that. I love that.

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Speaker 1: I love that, I love I love of being from Brooklyn.

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Speaker 1: From being from Brooklyn, what are the things that you

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Speaker 1: I don't claim Atlanta, people be like, oh where you from?

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Speaker 1: Even now, I'm still like, I'm from Brooklyn. I live

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Speaker 1: put it is that I am now like, I guess,

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Speaker 1: a Georgia peach, but I have an Apple Core. You know,

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Speaker 1: My core is Apple Baby all day, every day Brooklyn.

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Speaker 1: I'm a big it up wherever I go. So where

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Speaker 1: do you miss the most? Bacon, egg and cheese? Bacon,

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Speaker 1: egg and cheese. And I missed the fact that you

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Speaker 1: can always find a Jamaican spot to get some curry

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Speaker 1: ox tails extray it. They don't ever have gravy though Jamaicans,

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Speaker 1: and they charge you two dollars, tell gravyes, after charge

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Speaker 1: you candy dollars for a large and you get beer rice? Right,

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Speaker 1: don't you miss? Alternate side of the street park Yo?

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Speaker 1: Every morning my long ago got a circle and were

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Speaker 1: Brooklyn is almost like unrecognizable. Yeah, gentrification is real. What

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Speaker 1: Ain't where we go gentrification? No, I'm not gonna blame you.

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Speaker 1: She pushing her stroller with her baby, or maybe it's

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Speaker 1: let me explain something to y'all. Thought. So white people

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Speaker 1: moved to Crown Heights, I'll never forget it. Son. We

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Speaker 1: we moved back. I was playing ball. We was broke, right,

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Speaker 1: we was broke. We moved back to an apartment. Conine

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Speaker 1: have no situational awareness or anything. I did. You did,

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Speaker 1: We got a car broken into the first night we

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Speaker 1: stayed in the Crown Heights. Why because Cadine left her

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Speaker 1: product bag on the front seat. Why were they touching

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Speaker 1: my ship? That's my face, it's my car, it was

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Speaker 1: don't touch my ship. Listen. We moved back the first day.

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Speaker 1: We've seen the yellow tape. When you see the yellow tape,

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Speaker 1: you see the little orange beads on the floor. Was like,

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Speaker 1: the kids. That's where it all started. Y'all. I kid

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Speaker 1: The hood is safe. It's safe. People just don't like

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Speaker 1: being disrespected. That's all it is. Think about it. When

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Speaker 1: my pops, Troy Big mentoring Flatbush. We went to sell

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Speaker 1: we grew up together. That was an album, All Road

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Speaker 1: Driveball Don't Stop at All, Arizona, Alabama. Yes, the songs

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Speaker 1: But all of the guys that people were afraid of.

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Speaker 1: let me talk to you real quick. Don't don't call

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Speaker 1: nobody buddy. That's automatic disrespect, all right, call them chief,

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Speaker 1: But there wasn't scared. Now they outnumber us, and I

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Speaker 1: You know who will also getting involved with gentrification? Black people.

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Speaker 1: I brought property, did anybody else? Not my property? We

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Speaker 1: empowering the people that I grew up with. Right. I

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Speaker 1: This is a safe space to think outside of the

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Speaker 1: So as we get on with the show, I want

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Speaker 1: you to think about God, laugh, have a good time,

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Speaker 1: I be better tomorrow? So, yes, you keep me on

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Speaker 1: track because you know I'll talk all day. Hold that thought.

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Speaker 1: We have so much more to say, but not before

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Speaker 1: So how many couples do we have in the house tonight?

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Speaker 1: All right? See, I'll made this a cute little date

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Speaker 1: night situation. Love that? How about my singles? So based

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Speaker 1: on the tone of that that yell, it was what

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Speaker 1: the singles ain't playing right now? Hold on, wait, but

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Speaker 1: the tone of it. You're the single man, yo, You

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Speaker 1: win it right now? Bro? You tried. That's my brother,

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Speaker 1: my brother in law, Tristan Brow. Yes, so we have

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Speaker 1: one single man in the house to night. You're the

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Speaker 1: smartest You're the smartest guy in the world. Listen, if

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Speaker 1: I was single I was I was single, I would

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Speaker 1: go to places like Essence Best. I would go to

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Speaker 1: places like dead Ass Podcast, Live Talk, because you know

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Speaker 1: you're gonna see some beaut a full intelligent young women

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Speaker 1: or old women, no disrespect people been looking for old

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Speaker 1: has now been dubed like Auntie Fest? Is that the

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Speaker 1: If well, there's no single gentleman, Christan, did you learn

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00:27:58,960 --> 00:28:02,879
Speaker 1: anything today? Be better tomorrow today stay out of the

422
00:28:02,960 --> 00:28:07,199
Speaker 1: friend zone, my brother. All right, So here's how we're

423
00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:09,400
Speaker 1: gonna work it. Maybe we'll tell Josh how he wants

424
00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:12,320
Speaker 1: us to stand. But each couple, we'll be sitting back

425
00:28:12,320 --> 00:28:15,720
Speaker 1: to back with a marker and a note pad. Deval

426
00:28:15,840 --> 00:28:22,360
Speaker 1: and Cadeen, that's us triple definitely give it up for trible. Yeah, yes,

427
00:28:23,119 --> 00:28:26,480
Speaker 1: as a step on my pony too. Devalcanti will ask

428
00:28:26,680 --> 00:28:29,959
Speaker 1: the women and the men questions respectively, allowing them to

429
00:28:30,000 --> 00:28:34,440
Speaker 1: answer for what their spouse would say. Each player will

430
00:28:34,440 --> 00:28:37,679
Speaker 1: write down their answer without consulting with their spouse or

431
00:28:38,240 --> 00:28:42,080
Speaker 1: fiancee in this case, to see who knows their partner best.

432
00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:46,160
Speaker 1: Each player will have fifteen seconds to answer. A timer

433
00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:51,320
Speaker 1: will go off when their time is up. W's where's

434
00:28:51,360 --> 00:29:00,320
Speaker 1: my paper? That's adorable. I feel like it's a photo moment. Yeah,

435
00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:12,760
Speaker 1: I love it. Do you want to ask some questions? Well,

436
00:29:12,840 --> 00:29:14,960
Speaker 1: you gotta ask the gentleman, and I'm going to ask

437
00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:19,120
Speaker 1: the women. Okay, sounds good, sounds like a plan. I

438
00:29:19,120 --> 00:29:20,760
Speaker 1: was gonna want to ask the sex questions took ahead?

439
00:29:21,320 --> 00:29:23,160
Speaker 1: How we already know where he'd be at with you

440
00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:24,800
Speaker 1: make it seem like, well, I think about his sex.

441
00:29:25,640 --> 00:29:35,160
Speaker 1: I think about money too than one dimension. All right,

442
00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:38,440
Speaker 1: you want to ask your question first? All right, here's

443
00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:43,320
Speaker 1: the first question. You have ten seconds to give an answer.

444
00:29:44,320 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 1: All right. If the answers match, the team gets a point.

445
00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:57,600
Speaker 1: The team with the most point questions score, the team score. Sorry, alright.

446
00:29:57,720 --> 00:30:00,200
Speaker 1: One thing you also learned about marriage? Your wife gonna

447
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:03,720
Speaker 1: give a shit if you're talking, She's just gonna talk

448
00:30:03,760 --> 00:30:08,320
Speaker 1: over you. That was gonna portant part. I didn't want

449
00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:12,480
Speaker 1: to miss it. How thank you sis. Look my friend

450
00:30:12,520 --> 00:30:18,400
Speaker 1: over and talking to that goddamn trying to help you out.

451
00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:21,080
Speaker 1: So look, let me show you have something on right.

452
00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:24,480
Speaker 1: You know why they think about that who's keeping score? Why?

453
00:30:24,640 --> 00:30:27,000
Speaker 1: Because the team with the most points don't win nothing.

454
00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:32,240
Speaker 1: Y'all worried about the thing. He's know what I'm saying,

455
00:30:33,360 --> 00:30:38,320
Speaker 1: all right, it's bragging rights for me, all right. Pressure

456
00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:43,280
Speaker 1: question number one? How many times a week would your

457
00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:47,280
Speaker 1: partners say you have sex? You better write that number bigger.

458
00:30:47,280 --> 00:30:51,920
Speaker 1: You're writing that number mask, You better write that number bigger.

459
00:30:54,040 --> 00:30:58,120
Speaker 1: We're you gonna start with the couple number one. I

460
00:30:58,120 --> 00:31:00,320
Speaker 1: ain't trying to sleep on the couch. You ain't trying speaking,

461
00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:07,680
Speaker 1: all right, tread lightly number one, Turn around and show

462
00:31:07,840 --> 00:31:15,520
Speaker 1: the audience your answer. Now the times. Hey, you're a

463
00:31:15,600 --> 00:31:20,200
Speaker 1: smart man because you're trying to get something tonight, he

464
00:31:20,320 --> 00:31:27,840
Speaker 1: says every day, Josh, I can't stand up here, Josh.

465
00:31:28,440 --> 00:31:31,680
Speaker 1: Couple number two, number two, we got Eddie and Marie

466
00:31:33,320 --> 00:31:36,040
Speaker 1: two times a week. Let me explain something to y'all.

467
00:31:36,240 --> 00:31:40,240
Speaker 1: They learned how to speak English together. They two weeks apart.

468
00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:43,640
Speaker 1: He is, motherfucker's know how many times they having sex?

469
00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:49,320
Speaker 1: It's like telepathy. You look at her and now whispering

470
00:31:49,320 --> 00:31:53,640
Speaker 1: and creole over here. Neither I'm listening for cheating, okay.

471
00:31:54,120 --> 00:32:01,120
Speaker 1: Couple number three zero, he's still the friends on guys,

472
00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:08,600
Speaker 1: he was lying, he was lies. Or maybe her parents

473
00:32:08,680 --> 00:32:11,520
Speaker 1: might be watching, like your parents are here and she's

474
00:32:11,520 --> 00:32:16,040
Speaker 1: waiting for marriage. How about that? You know what, Maybe

475
00:32:16,760 --> 00:32:24,280
Speaker 1: that's what it is. Alright, I'm getting points. You can

476
00:32:24,360 --> 00:32:28,200
Speaker 1: rip that off, all right, Go ahead and rip that

477
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:31,760
Speaker 1: page off from you, or just put it behind you.

478
00:32:31,840 --> 00:32:35,080
Speaker 1: There you go, So couple number one, and I'm gonna

479
00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:39,760
Speaker 1: raise the stinks everybody up here. A drink, drink, drink, drink.

480
00:32:41,320 --> 00:32:45,360
Speaker 1: You only have one drink. Whoever wins drinks on me

481
00:32:45,520 --> 00:32:50,920
Speaker 1: for the rest of the night. Okay, that's fair, that's fair.

482
00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:54,239
Speaker 1: We went from nothing to drinks. That works, all right.

483
00:32:55,800 --> 00:32:57,680
Speaker 1: You want me to ask a question from here? That's

484
00:32:57,720 --> 00:33:00,440
Speaker 1: a question, all right, we'll change it up. A bab

485
00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:03,960
Speaker 1: will change the speed. If you were riding in a

486
00:33:04,040 --> 00:33:07,440
Speaker 1: car with your spouse and their mother, who would your

487
00:33:07,440 --> 00:33:11,520
Speaker 1: spouse want to sit in the front? And I guess

488
00:33:11,640 --> 00:33:14,280
Speaker 1: this is a question for the guys, right, isn't your

489
00:33:14,320 --> 00:33:18,000
Speaker 1: wife or your mom for the guys? Or your mom?

490
00:33:18,280 --> 00:33:20,600
Speaker 1: Is your wife or your mom sitting in the front?

491
00:33:22,640 --> 00:33:31,200
Speaker 1: Couple number one, turn your answer around and three two one?

492
00:33:32,640 --> 00:33:38,560
Speaker 1: Mother sick in her feet like she has a lot

493
00:33:38,560 --> 00:33:42,479
Speaker 1: of things okay, let me, let me, let me just

494
00:33:42,560 --> 00:33:49,280
Speaker 1: because I hear the cloud, shut it off. This is

495
00:33:49,320 --> 00:33:53,200
Speaker 1: the point of the game. If both of them agree,

496
00:33:53,960 --> 00:34:01,920
Speaker 1: it don't matter what y'all think. That's a relationship in

497
00:34:02,000 --> 00:34:04,720
Speaker 1: marriage for you as long as they agree. Who are

498
00:34:04,720 --> 00:34:14,879
Speaker 1: we right, oh, wife and my brother. Let me tell

499
00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:16,560
Speaker 1: you a funny story. Let me tell you all the

500
00:34:16,600 --> 00:34:21,840
Speaker 1: funny story about my mom. All right, my mom, you

501
00:34:21,880 --> 00:34:24,879
Speaker 1: should sit in the front of my car. Because both

502
00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:28,239
Speaker 1: my mom and my wife are very similar. They both

503
00:34:28,280 --> 00:34:29,919
Speaker 1: like to be of service. They don't want to be

504
00:34:30,360 --> 00:34:34,719
Speaker 1: any problems. When Cadine became my fiance, I kid you not.

505
00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:39,359
Speaker 1: My mom went to the back and said to me,

506
00:34:39,680 --> 00:34:45,239
Speaker 1: you always put your wife in the front, and my lion, sure,

507
00:34:45,239 --> 00:34:49,120
Speaker 1: I did one thing to that also, will never let

508
00:34:49,160 --> 00:34:51,000
Speaker 1: me do as per His mom is walking on the

509
00:34:51,040 --> 00:35:03,440
Speaker 1: outside of the decided by the street. So yes, couple three. Okay,

510
00:35:04,960 --> 00:35:08,600
Speaker 1: you said wife before mom? Yeah, so his wife. Yeah,

511
00:35:08,719 --> 00:35:17,279
Speaker 1: he's a very complicated I'm starting to like the Strada defense. No,

512
00:35:17,400 --> 00:35:19,959
Speaker 1: you get a point, you get a point, Yes, good job,

513
00:35:20,000 --> 00:35:24,200
Speaker 1: good job. Won't point here at one point. At one

514
00:35:24,239 --> 00:35:30,760
Speaker 1: point from Madison and christ All right, go ahead, baby,

515
00:35:30,880 --> 00:35:34,440
Speaker 1: all right? If your spouse had to give you a

516
00:35:34,440 --> 00:35:39,759
Speaker 1: report card? What sex position? Would she give you? An

517
00:35:39,760 --> 00:35:50,000
Speaker 1: A plus four? We're talking about the tricks, all right.

518
00:35:50,080 --> 00:35:52,239
Speaker 1: I'm interested to see what Madison gonna say. See she

519
00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:55,400
Speaker 1: have sex zero times a week, so I'm interested to

520
00:35:55,400 --> 00:35:57,960
Speaker 1: see what they asked. Are gonna be over there, says

521
00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:10,960
Speaker 1: mother Mary over here. Okay, I smell cap now, I

522
00:36:11,000 --> 00:36:13,960
Speaker 1: smell somebody capping over there, because I see her face.

523
00:36:13,960 --> 00:36:19,640
Speaker 1: When I asked the question, she was like, whoa, all right?

524
00:36:20,080 --> 00:36:26,840
Speaker 1: Got you Keana and Reggie? What we got? Number one? Oh?

525
00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:32,920
Speaker 1: Don't you stass? He put two questions, though he put

526
00:36:32,920 --> 00:36:51,080
Speaker 1: two answers, Babe giving head and back shots. Kay, look

527
00:36:55,560 --> 00:37:02,759
Speaker 1: who we go? We wo Yeah, we'll take that. Give

528
00:37:02,840 --> 00:37:14,920
Speaker 1: him two points couple number two bagshots. But her laying flat,

529
00:37:15,400 --> 00:37:27,440
Speaker 1: it's like they down. That's that's the one. Is that

530
00:37:27,560 --> 00:37:32,080
Speaker 1: the one that's gotta be flat. She gotta be flat down.

531
00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:38,880
Speaker 1: She gotta be flat down. But with the ass respects?

532
00:37:38,960 --> 00:37:44,160
Speaker 1: Got you? Okay, well two respects. That's because that's your wife.

533
00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:48,480
Speaker 1: But I get it. I understand you engage. We've been

534
00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:52,440
Speaker 1: there as well. We've been there. Sure give him two

535
00:37:52,440 --> 00:37:57,600
Speaker 1: points two over here with the friend zone zero over here?

536
00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:09,040
Speaker 1: Hold on, hold on, Madison, what you say? Ready? Turn?

537
00:38:10,080 --> 00:38:15,800
Speaker 1: Madison said, this is hypothetical. Guys, she's gonna lie and

538
00:38:15,800 --> 00:38:20,640
Speaker 1: talking about a hypothetical hypothetical doggie style. It's your mom

539
00:38:20,719 --> 00:38:28,040
Speaker 1: here too? Where is her mom? She's definitely here? All right,

540
00:38:28,160 --> 00:38:32,080
Speaker 1: So everyone gets a point. Everyone gets a point. Very nice, nasty,

541
00:38:34,520 --> 00:38:40,560
Speaker 1: nobody said, missionary? Al right? Next question, Next question, where

542
00:38:40,719 --> 00:38:50,480
Speaker 1: twist the lizard luck? Who remembers that video the wheel

543
00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:54,120
Speaker 1: barrow twists the lizard luck? That was a good one,

544
00:38:54,480 --> 00:38:58,040
Speaker 1: all right. If you gave your spouse a whole pass,

545
00:38:58,480 --> 00:39:01,600
Speaker 1: what celebrity or who were? Which celebrity would they use

546
00:39:01,640 --> 00:39:04,120
Speaker 1: it for? So women were I'm asking you this, ladies,

547
00:39:04,200 --> 00:39:06,400
Speaker 1: if you were to give your guy a hall pass

548
00:39:07,040 --> 00:39:12,960
Speaker 1: to be with a celebrity, who would he pick? Yo?

549
00:39:13,120 --> 00:39:15,279
Speaker 1: Tom out? Tom out? Let me explain something to you

550
00:39:15,280 --> 00:39:19,000
Speaker 1: about this guy right here? Hold on. When when Kay

551
00:39:19,080 --> 00:39:25,640
Speaker 1: asked the question, he said, he's sweating over here. Poor Reggie,

552
00:39:26,600 --> 00:39:29,560
Speaker 1: you were vet in this fucking game. You're gonna laugh,

553
00:39:29,600 --> 00:39:37,160
Speaker 1: all right. Reggie's He's like, this is my fifth wedding anniversary.

554
00:39:37,239 --> 00:39:40,160
Speaker 1: Y'all got me underpression. Poor Reggie's over here, sweating, y'all.

555
00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:47,279
Speaker 1: Al Right, Reggie, that baldy shining, shining, all right, all right,

556
00:39:47,719 --> 00:39:52,840
Speaker 1: all right, I take Rihanna any day anybody else? Baby

557
00:39:54,160 --> 00:40:16,000
Speaker 1: baby one. All right, Reggie, you're gonna get you. That's

558
00:40:16,080 --> 00:40:19,320
Speaker 1: the only way she gets the hall pass if it's Jesus.

559
00:40:22,800 --> 00:40:25,719
Speaker 1: I like the way you think, Reggie. I like the

560
00:40:25,800 --> 00:40:30,440
Speaker 1: way you think. Couple number two, I canna say real quick? Oh,

561
00:40:30,520 --> 00:40:40,360
Speaker 1: Tracy Alice Ross, Okay, wait, how do we do it?

562
00:40:40,440 --> 00:40:42,319
Speaker 1: Was it he he would pick or who she would pick?

563
00:40:42,600 --> 00:40:45,320
Speaker 1: He would pick? Right? Yeah, yeah, I got you ready?

564
00:40:45,480 --> 00:40:56,479
Speaker 1: All right? Sheila Marie's wife's wife. They know Sheila Marie.

565
00:40:57,160 --> 00:41:00,360
Speaker 1: Wherever you are, Eddie, about the bis is if he

566
00:41:00,400 --> 00:41:04,600
Speaker 1: gets a hall task, just so you know, sis alright?

567
00:41:04,840 --> 00:41:18,680
Speaker 1: One point over here, Couple of number three, Megan, Megan, goodgod,

568
00:41:19,680 --> 00:41:24,799
Speaker 1: that neither I'm either all right happy looking at points?

569
00:41:24,880 --> 00:41:31,839
Speaker 1: Do we need to leave treble the soul mates? It's

570
00:41:31,880 --> 00:41:35,600
Speaker 1: a three way time, two way time. Alright, alright, let's

571
00:41:35,640 --> 00:41:37,839
Speaker 1: keep going and let's keep going. All right, let's keep going.

572
00:41:40,960 --> 00:41:45,640
Speaker 1: How would your spouse rate your sex drive on a

573
00:41:45,760 --> 00:41:49,680
Speaker 1: scale from one to ten? Y'all laughing? Let me be

574
00:41:49,800 --> 00:41:57,320
Speaker 1: honest with y'all right, listen, listen, listen, niggas be tired.

575
00:41:59,600 --> 00:42:08,279
Speaker 1: Time I was in college, a pile drive. Kay, Now

576
00:42:10,400 --> 00:42:16,280
Speaker 1: we got four kids. Okay, you get six minutes tops

577
00:42:16,880 --> 00:42:19,400
Speaker 1: if you If you don't get yours in six minutes,

578
00:42:19,480 --> 00:42:22,640
Speaker 1: don't even look at me if you know what it is.

579
00:42:22,880 --> 00:42:25,080
Speaker 1: I'm about to turn forty soon. Okay, I have nothing

580
00:42:25,120 --> 00:42:30,480
Speaker 1: to prove anymore. I'll be honest. I ain't being honest. Okay,

581
00:42:30,600 --> 00:42:32,719
Speaker 1: I don't care the ship you're still on TV, Zach

582
00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:34,720
Speaker 1: Zach can do all that ship in the blue shower

583
00:42:36,440 --> 00:42:40,319
Speaker 1: by the time I get home from doing that. Say,

584
00:42:40,400 --> 00:42:42,960
Speaker 1: y'all know that blue light and the shower scene is

585
00:42:43,040 --> 00:42:46,359
Speaker 1: how Dakota got here. Dakota I sold out blue lights

586
00:42:46,400 --> 00:42:48,640
Speaker 1: on Amazon. Everybody was buying them up. I'm like, hey,

587
00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:54,439
Speaker 1: you know when art imitates life? Alright, Couple number one

588
00:42:55,360 --> 00:43:02,040
Speaker 1: three two one go low three, low three. They're on

589
00:43:02,120 --> 00:43:07,879
Speaker 1: the same, They on the same. I respected that's honest. Yes,

590
00:43:09,640 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 1: I ain't mad at it. Couple number two, well, I'm

591
00:43:15,640 --> 00:43:20,000
Speaker 1: hearing I'm here in judgment out in the streets, I'm

592
00:43:20,040 --> 00:43:24,759
Speaker 1: hearing that's my talking about y'all. Look at my man

593
00:43:24,840 --> 00:43:31,680
Speaker 1: with my missing and he said, he's at eight with

594
00:43:31,760 --> 00:43:36,720
Speaker 1: y'all think I'm still thoroughbread out here with something chilly

595
00:43:36,960 --> 00:43:49,880
Speaker 1: with something couple number three low two. They knew you

596
00:43:49,960 --> 00:43:53,759
Speaker 1: could tell they new in the game. They they don't know.

597
00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:57,480
Speaker 1: They ain't listening to the questions. Wait, so what did

598
00:43:57,560 --> 00:44:04,359
Speaker 1: y'all think was gonna they arguing already y'all don't get

599
00:44:04,440 --> 00:44:06,279
Speaker 1: no points. So what did they think? You thought that

600
00:44:06,360 --> 00:44:10,680
Speaker 1: your sex drive you were writing down or his? So

601
00:44:10,840 --> 00:44:14,239
Speaker 1: he's a five and yours is hers is a two? Oh,

602
00:44:15,000 --> 00:44:18,400
Speaker 1: and y'all are't married yet. Damn y'all starting off on

603
00:44:18,480 --> 00:44:25,319
Speaker 1: the low end. Man, leave the judgment at home. It's

604
00:44:25,360 --> 00:44:29,799
Speaker 1: not judgment. Don't. Don't. Just speaking from experience. I'm gonna

605
00:44:29,840 --> 00:44:35,040
Speaker 1: tell you, gentlemen, where where my gentlemen? Listen? Listen to

606
00:44:35,160 --> 00:44:38,680
Speaker 1: me right When when I was in college, I used

607
00:44:38,680 --> 00:44:42,200
Speaker 1: to be trying to go forever right and Kail used

608
00:44:42,200 --> 00:44:47,200
Speaker 1: to be like, stop, okay, nobody want to be doing

609
00:44:47,239 --> 00:44:53,880
Speaker 1: this ship all night? Are you done? I thought this

610
00:44:53,960 --> 00:44:57,440
Speaker 1: is what she wanted and she was like no, no, no,

611
00:44:59,520 --> 00:45:01,360
Speaker 1: And then tho some kids into the mix. Forget it,

612
00:45:02,200 --> 00:45:06,160
Speaker 1: forget it. I all got no judgment for nobody. Make

613
00:45:06,200 --> 00:45:11,440
Speaker 1: sure you get yours man and he get his last question.

614
00:45:12,000 --> 00:45:14,560
Speaker 1: All right, last question, and then we'll see how we

615
00:45:14,640 --> 00:45:16,520
Speaker 1: are with tides and whatnot, and then we'll have a

616
00:45:16,600 --> 00:45:22,359
Speaker 1: tide break around. Okay, let's see. Let's pick a good

617
00:45:22,400 --> 00:45:24,239
Speaker 1: one here. Let me see why the questions you have left?

618
00:45:24,480 --> 00:45:27,160
Speaker 1: If you have a better question history questions here? Oh,

619
00:45:27,239 --> 00:45:30,840
Speaker 1: this is the one? Which one the first one? Yes? Oh,

620
00:45:30,880 --> 00:45:33,000
Speaker 1: a matter of fact, we're gonna do this isn't for

621
00:45:33,800 --> 00:45:39,000
Speaker 1: any gender and specific? Who said I love you first?

622
00:45:40,680 --> 00:45:48,360
Speaker 1: And where? And where? Don't be nervous, girl, don't be nervous.

623
00:45:49,120 --> 00:45:56,439
Speaker 1: Couple number one, who's in the lead, Trouble one? Two

624
00:45:56,640 --> 00:46:02,560
Speaker 1: or three? One is in the league? These two tables

625
00:46:02,600 --> 00:46:05,799
Speaker 1: down here, be on everything, y'all be on everything. One

626
00:46:05,920 --> 00:46:07,640
Speaker 1: is on the least. So pretty much just for the game.

627
00:46:07,920 --> 00:46:10,520
Speaker 1: If they get it right, they win the game. All right.

628
00:46:11,440 --> 00:46:14,440
Speaker 1: If not, we'll tide break around it. Come on, redge

629
00:46:16,920 --> 00:46:25,479
Speaker 1: go who she said me via text and he said

630
00:46:25,600 --> 00:46:29,920
Speaker 1: me my birthday at the next game? Who's right? Who

631
00:46:30,000 --> 00:46:37,040
Speaker 1: was right? You don't remember? She don't remember? Broken? What

632
00:46:37,160 --> 00:46:48,759
Speaker 1: would you do that? No? No, she was drunk a

633
00:46:48,800 --> 00:46:51,359
Speaker 1: lot in the beginning of the relationship. Puble Number two

634
00:46:52,160 --> 00:46:56,560
Speaker 1: all right, I understand you under It was a good time,

635
00:46:56,640 --> 00:47:03,040
Speaker 1: wasn't it. Yeah? Number two, both of them said, And

636
00:47:09,840 --> 00:47:11,600
Speaker 1: so when they getta half a point, they're gonna have

637
00:47:11,719 --> 00:47:15,399
Speaker 1: a point. So they're gonna have a point. Okay, half

638
00:47:15,400 --> 00:47:26,319
Speaker 1: a point for Marie and Eddie. Couple number three. Chris, Wait,

639
00:47:27,120 --> 00:47:30,360
Speaker 1: wait a second, come for rd Come forward, come for

640
00:47:30,719 --> 00:47:33,040
Speaker 1: Chris said, for y'all in the back. You can't see it.

641
00:47:33,520 --> 00:47:35,759
Speaker 1: Chris said, me on the side of the bed. After

642
00:47:35,880 --> 00:47:41,960
Speaker 1: we had sex, No, no, no, before before girl, I

643
00:47:42,160 --> 00:47:44,520
Speaker 1: love you. Yeah, so I said, I love you. I

644
00:47:44,600 --> 00:47:47,120
Speaker 1: did this poem and everything, and then it was on

645
00:47:47,280 --> 00:47:48,879
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Well, I ain't gonna say

646
00:47:48,920 --> 00:47:51,320
Speaker 1: what I did, but you know it's not either pussy

647
00:47:51,360 --> 00:47:58,080
Speaker 1: and everything and everything. She said, no, she said, nobody

648
00:47:58,120 --> 00:48:03,799
Speaker 1: did it like you this before. That's how you got

649
00:48:03,840 --> 00:48:07,520
Speaker 1: off THET zone. That's how you got off the first zone.

650
00:48:09,320 --> 00:48:11,279
Speaker 1: But he said, sitting on the side of her bed.

651
00:48:11,360 --> 00:48:16,560
Speaker 1: Then we had bad sex, or then we had sex. Okay,

652
00:48:16,560 --> 00:48:19,840
Speaker 1: I said bad sex. They don't sound like that sext

653
00:48:19,880 --> 00:48:23,560
Speaker 1: to me. Can we give all about couples around them? Aploys?

654
00:48:25,160 --> 00:48:26,560
Speaker 1: So who was in the lead? Because I feel like

655
00:48:26,560 --> 00:48:28,520
Speaker 1: we should have a dance off for the person who

656
00:48:28,960 --> 00:48:33,840
Speaker 1: if there's a tie, there's no ties, there's no ties.

657
00:48:34,280 --> 00:48:39,279
Speaker 1: There's no ties to everybody one everybody, So triple, what

658
00:48:39,320 --> 00:48:43,920
Speaker 1: are they getting? Come? Come, Triplet? She just gave him

659
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:47,680
Speaker 1: something that ran away. They got tickets to Um Dougie

660
00:48:47,680 --> 00:48:54,359
Speaker 1: Fresh tomorrow here at Sony Hall, back to back date nights,

661
00:48:54,600 --> 00:48:57,840
Speaker 1: y'all got. Y'all got participation gifts, So thank you just

662
00:48:58,040 --> 00:49:01,080
Speaker 1: for participating, because it's not easy to get up here

663
00:49:01,480 --> 00:49:03,800
Speaker 1: and be this honest with a group of people to

664
00:49:03,960 --> 00:49:08,799
Speaker 1: give him a round of the floor. All right, before

665
00:49:08,840 --> 00:49:10,960
Speaker 1: you keep going, let's stop for a quick second. We're

666
00:49:11,000 --> 00:49:13,040
Speaker 1: gonna go pay some bills. We're gonna be right back,

667
00:49:13,120 --> 00:49:21,120
Speaker 1: so hold that thought. We're gonna get to our favorite

668
00:49:21,160 --> 00:49:26,920
Speaker 1: part of the show, which is listener letters. This is

669
00:49:26,960 --> 00:49:30,120
Speaker 1: where we're gonna let you guys ask the questions and

670
00:49:30,200 --> 00:49:33,040
Speaker 1: we're going to discuss what you guys want to discuss.

671
00:49:33,840 --> 00:49:38,360
Speaker 1: How y'all feeling so far? Yeah, I'm really enjoying this

672
00:49:38,520 --> 00:49:41,040
Speaker 1: time with y'all, Like I really really am. This is

673
00:49:41,080 --> 00:49:42,719
Speaker 1: it's it's so good to be back on stage. I mean,

674
00:49:43,160 --> 00:49:47,879
Speaker 1: Nika took my water to you can have some of mine.

675
00:49:50,160 --> 00:49:54,919
Speaker 1: There you go, Brian, Brian brother, get his asked, Brian.

676
00:49:57,000 --> 00:49:59,800
Speaker 1: Thanks all right. So I feel like we have a

677
00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:03,919
Speaker 1: wordless mike like ours that we can probably pass through

678
00:50:04,440 --> 00:50:09,040
Speaker 1: to you guys if someone has a question, Oh, trouble, trouble,

679
00:50:10,800 --> 00:50:13,480
Speaker 1: there's trouble right there with the mic. All right, So

680
00:50:13,680 --> 00:50:16,960
Speaker 1: let's dive in. Anybody got a question, don't be shot.

681
00:50:17,080 --> 00:50:19,719
Speaker 1: Don't be shot like anybody, don't be had so much

682
00:50:19,800 --> 00:50:24,040
Speaker 1: to say when the couple was up in here, you'll

683
00:50:24,080 --> 00:50:28,080
Speaker 1: be writing in to that at gmail dot com. We

684
00:50:28,200 --> 00:50:49,360
Speaker 1: promise we're not going to judge, y'all. Hello, you know,

685
00:51:06,000 --> 00:51:15,960
Speaker 1: help me, help me? Oh god, girl. So I haven't

686
00:51:16,000 --> 00:51:18,440
Speaker 1: been on the dating scene in a minute, you know,

687
00:51:18,760 --> 00:51:22,240
Speaker 1: but from what I'm here, it's trash. Yeah, it's trash.

688
00:51:23,600 --> 00:51:28,600
Speaker 1: Access pool, oh a pissie pool, time out, time out,

689
00:51:28,680 --> 00:51:35,840
Speaker 1: flying in traveling. There's no men in here to to

690
00:51:36,200 --> 00:51:40,320
Speaker 1: give their opinion because all the women are saying is trash.

691
00:51:41,040 --> 00:51:42,719
Speaker 1: But I can't even argue because they ain't even know

692
00:51:42,800 --> 00:51:48,920
Speaker 1: men in here. So I get it. Act. This is

693
00:51:50,760 --> 00:51:54,480
Speaker 1: me and Kay actually talked about this, right. It's funny

694
00:51:54,560 --> 00:51:59,000
Speaker 1: the dynamic in life that happens like throughout ages right.

695
00:51:59,280 --> 00:52:03,160
Speaker 1: For example, remember when you were in high school, the

696
00:52:03,239 --> 00:52:07,319
Speaker 1: popular girls went after who the older guys, Right, They

697
00:52:07,400 --> 00:52:10,200
Speaker 1: went after the older guys, and then the guys who

698
00:52:10,239 --> 00:52:12,480
Speaker 1: are their age, they kind of looked down on them. Right.

699
00:52:13,440 --> 00:52:16,839
Speaker 1: The older guys dragged the popular girl through the mud

700
00:52:16,920 --> 00:52:19,719
Speaker 1: through all that time. Right, the same thing happens in

701
00:52:19,760 --> 00:52:23,200
Speaker 1: your twenties. The popular girl in your twenties, what do

702
00:52:23,280 --> 00:52:26,799
Speaker 1: they do? They go after the ball players, the entertainers.

703
00:52:27,480 --> 00:52:29,160
Speaker 1: They want, you know, they want to go on trips

704
00:52:29,239 --> 00:52:31,200
Speaker 1: and do all this other stuff to do that is broken,

705
00:52:31,280 --> 00:52:32,840
Speaker 1: ain't got no money. He's kind of left on the

706
00:52:32,920 --> 00:52:37,320
Speaker 1: side until he builds his resume to be able to

707
00:52:37,400 --> 00:52:40,279
Speaker 1: do the same things. Right, and then when he gets

708
00:52:40,360 --> 00:52:42,040
Speaker 1: the chance to do that in his thirties, what does

709
00:52:42,080 --> 00:52:46,400
Speaker 1: he do? Goes back to the twenties. And it's a cycle.

710
00:52:46,480 --> 00:52:50,440
Speaker 1: It's a perpetuating cycle that's happening because I feel like

711
00:52:51,120 --> 00:52:54,920
Speaker 1: a lot of people are looking for instant gratification and

712
00:52:55,000 --> 00:52:58,840
Speaker 1: not looking to build. K and I built everything together.

713
00:53:00,080 --> 00:53:04,920
Speaker 1: I was broke. He didn't have nothing either, and we

714
00:53:05,200 --> 00:53:07,600
Speaker 1: dealt with each other and all of our bullshit and

715
00:53:07,680 --> 00:53:15,040
Speaker 1: trauma together, like seriously. And the rea the reason why

716
00:53:15,120 --> 00:53:19,000
Speaker 1: I say that is because you may think the dating

717
00:53:19,040 --> 00:53:21,600
Speaker 1: pool is trash because the guy you're talking to is trash.

718
00:53:21,680 --> 00:53:24,440
Speaker 1: But if we're being honest, we probably would have considered

719
00:53:24,520 --> 00:53:28,520
Speaker 1: our situations while we were dating to be trash if

720
00:53:28,560 --> 00:53:31,560
Speaker 1: we listened to everybody else during that time. You know

721
00:53:31,560 --> 00:53:34,640
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. I wasn't perfect, She wasn't perfect. We

722
00:53:34,760 --> 00:53:36,560
Speaker 1: were trying to figure it out. I just think you

723
00:53:36,640 --> 00:53:39,239
Speaker 1: have to learn how to give people grace and uh

724
00:53:40,320 --> 00:53:44,480
Speaker 1: ask yourself, who are you choosing to date? Because if

725
00:53:44,520 --> 00:53:47,040
Speaker 1: you keep dating the same person over and over and

726
00:53:47,120 --> 00:53:50,719
Speaker 1: over again, at some point it ain't that person or

727
00:53:50,760 --> 00:53:53,680
Speaker 1: those people, is you? You know what I'm saying. And

728
00:53:53,760 --> 00:53:57,200
Speaker 1: that's that's men and women. That's not just one thing,

729
00:53:57,280 --> 00:53:59,320
Speaker 1: you know. But I think for us, the advantage that

730
00:53:59,400 --> 00:54:01,040
Speaker 1: we had because guy said, we haven't been in this

731
00:54:01,200 --> 00:54:03,239
Speaker 1: dating scene in a long time. But the advantage that

732
00:54:03,280 --> 00:54:04,879
Speaker 1: the val and I had is that when we met

733
00:54:05,239 --> 00:54:06,920
Speaker 1: and started dating, Like, of course, we knew each other

734
00:54:07,040 --> 00:54:09,720
Speaker 1: since elementary school, but when it came down to actually dating,

735
00:54:10,000 --> 00:54:12,320
Speaker 1: we didn't do that until college. And we were eighteen

736
00:54:12,360 --> 00:54:14,759
Speaker 1: and nineteen years old. We were babies, and we thought

737
00:54:14,760 --> 00:54:16,319
Speaker 1: we knew it all. We had it all figured out,

738
00:54:16,400 --> 00:54:19,080
Speaker 1: and we thought we were grown and um, I remember

739
00:54:19,120 --> 00:54:23,000
Speaker 1: my mom de Vos mom being like, slow down, who

740
00:54:23,080 --> 00:54:25,640
Speaker 1: were you as a person? Who are you as an individual? Um?

741
00:54:25,719 --> 00:54:27,680
Speaker 1: But the advantage that we had at the time was

742
00:54:27,800 --> 00:54:31,040
Speaker 1: that there wasn't much social media. We were young, and

743
00:54:31,080 --> 00:54:33,880
Speaker 1: there weren't much egos. I think you have that eighteen

744
00:54:34,000 --> 00:54:37,040
Speaker 1: nineteen twenty year old invincibility where you're just like, well, whatever,

745
00:54:37,680 --> 00:54:39,440
Speaker 1: we're gonna do whatever, We're gonna see how it goes.

746
00:54:39,480 --> 00:54:41,200
Speaker 1: We're gonna see how And we talked about a lot

747
00:54:41,239 --> 00:54:43,680
Speaker 1: of this too in our book that's coming out, because

748
00:54:44,000 --> 00:54:46,160
Speaker 1: it was a way for us to really grow together.

749
00:54:46,680 --> 00:54:48,960
Speaker 1: And we came from a place where we were kind

750
00:54:49,000 --> 00:54:52,640
Speaker 1: of a learning life at the same time simultaneously and

751
00:54:52,680 --> 00:54:54,719
Speaker 1: at the same time giving each other grace, So we

752
00:54:54,840 --> 00:54:58,520
Speaker 1: weren't really we didn't have too many life experiences separately

753
00:54:58,719 --> 00:55:02,640
Speaker 1: or together to really judge each other by. We didn't have,

754
00:55:03,080 --> 00:55:06,799
Speaker 1: um a lot of outside noise like, for example, social

755
00:55:06,840 --> 00:55:09,520
Speaker 1: media now and all of the distractions that are out there.

756
00:55:10,040 --> 00:55:14,600
Speaker 1: We really just were organically and authentically growing together almost

757
00:55:14,640 --> 00:55:17,080
Speaker 1: as babies. So I think that's the advantage that we

758
00:55:17,239 --> 00:55:19,759
Speaker 1: did have, and that I think that's something missing with

759
00:55:20,040 --> 00:55:23,080
Speaker 1: this particular generation with dating is because people are showing

760
00:55:23,200 --> 00:55:27,440
Speaker 1: up not as themselves but as representatives of who they are.

761
00:55:28,200 --> 00:55:30,919
Speaker 1: And if more people were showing up as their true,

762
00:55:31,000 --> 00:55:34,920
Speaker 1: authentic selves and being honest from jump and being transparent

763
00:55:34,960 --> 00:55:37,200
Speaker 1: about what they're looking for about who they are, then

764
00:55:37,239 --> 00:55:38,920
Speaker 1: it will be a little bit easier to connect with

765
00:55:39,040 --> 00:55:41,440
Speaker 1: someone who genuinely likes you as a person. So we

766
00:55:41,480 --> 00:55:44,239
Speaker 1: could put down the facades, we can put down who

767
00:55:44,320 --> 00:55:46,239
Speaker 1: we think this person wants us to be, who we

768
00:55:46,280 --> 00:55:49,320
Speaker 1: think society needs us to be, and really connect with

769
00:55:49,440 --> 00:55:52,880
Speaker 1: someone without that um. So that's important. I think that's

770
00:55:52,920 --> 00:55:55,520
Speaker 1: what's missing from the generation. So to answer your questions,

771
00:55:55,560 --> 00:55:58,480
Speaker 1: this um, show up as who you are, and your

772
00:55:58,480 --> 00:56:00,880
Speaker 1: person is going to find you. It may not be

773
00:56:01,000 --> 00:56:03,680
Speaker 1: in your time, it's gonna be in God's time, and

774
00:56:03,760 --> 00:56:10,800
Speaker 1: it'll happen. It'll happen. It'll happen. You know you you

775
00:56:11,080 --> 00:56:14,520
Speaker 1: find and ship. But sometimes I get lost just listening

776
00:56:14,680 --> 00:56:20,000
Speaker 1: you talk like you're kind of smart. Sometimes sometimes you

777
00:56:20,080 --> 00:56:24,600
Speaker 1: know you. I agree with you, though, Like, don't just

778
00:56:24,680 --> 00:56:28,040
Speaker 1: go to one place, go different places, try church, try

779
00:56:28,120 --> 00:56:30,759
Speaker 1: sports ball, go on vacation, don't get stuck in the

780
00:56:30,840 --> 00:56:33,640
Speaker 1: same spot, because if you're finding the same people in

781
00:56:33,719 --> 00:56:36,040
Speaker 1: the same spot, then you're going to keep doing the

782
00:56:36,080 --> 00:56:39,000
Speaker 1: same thing over and over again. Just travel, travel, Just

783
00:56:39,440 --> 00:56:41,080
Speaker 1: do as much as you can to be the best

784
00:56:41,200 --> 00:56:43,760
Speaker 1: version of yourself, and you're gonna find the right person

785
00:56:43,840 --> 00:56:46,160
Speaker 1: when you do that. Yeah, I feel like mutual friends, too,

786
00:56:46,280 --> 00:56:47,600
Speaker 1: is a good way. Like if you have a friend

787
00:56:47,640 --> 00:56:49,480
Speaker 1: that kind of knows a friend that says me, she

788
00:56:49,680 --> 00:56:55,080
Speaker 1: might are you someone saying no, no, I was. I

789
00:56:55,200 --> 00:56:59,960
Speaker 1: think it could work potentially if you see that's it's

790
00:57:00,000 --> 00:57:05,359
Speaker 1: to get on you. I get like, such a such

791
00:57:05,440 --> 00:57:08,719
Speaker 1: would be so cute together. And then yeah, I tried

792
00:57:08,800 --> 00:57:11,640
Speaker 1: that one time. They're calling me, you know what's wrong

793
00:57:11,640 --> 00:57:16,120
Speaker 1: with your nigga, bro? I'm like, what you made? I

794
00:57:17,240 --> 00:57:19,960
Speaker 1: thought y'all was nice. You said that happens all the time.

795
00:57:20,040 --> 00:57:23,520
Speaker 1: Insist this, but I don't think necessarily playing matchmaker. But

796
00:57:23,560 --> 00:57:25,920
Speaker 1: I'm saying, for example, I'm having to cook out at

797
00:57:26,000 --> 00:57:28,400
Speaker 1: my house, a couple of friends get together, a couple

798
00:57:28,400 --> 00:57:30,640
Speaker 1: of friends together, and people organically just kind of hit

799
00:57:30,680 --> 00:57:33,160
Speaker 1: it off, and it's like, Okay, if my like minded

800
00:57:33,200 --> 00:57:36,000
Speaker 1: groups of friends get together in the same comple space,

801
00:57:36,440 --> 00:57:40,200
Speaker 1: then maybe somebody might connect, you know, so not necessarily matchmaker,

802
00:57:40,280 --> 00:57:42,480
Speaker 1: but more like that. So good luck to you sis

803
00:57:43,160 --> 00:57:53,600
Speaker 1: on your search. Us question, what's up? Brother? I want

804
00:57:53,640 --> 00:58:07,040
Speaker 1: to know how y'all like everything like constant conversation, like

805
00:58:07,440 --> 00:58:10,200
Speaker 1: no real talk. People think that in order for you

806
00:58:10,280 --> 00:58:12,880
Speaker 1: to have longevity with someone, you just have to have

807
00:58:13,000 --> 00:58:15,440
Speaker 1: a soul mate with everything y'all agree on everything, all

808
00:58:15,520 --> 00:58:18,760
Speaker 1: your ideologies online. That's not the case. We tend to

809
00:58:18,840 --> 00:58:21,400
Speaker 1: disagree on a lot of things. But what makes us

810
00:58:21,440 --> 00:58:24,520
Speaker 1: work is that I feel safe being open about what

811
00:58:24,720 --> 00:58:27,200
Speaker 1: I need and what I want, and I try to

812
00:58:27,280 --> 00:58:28,960
Speaker 1: create a safe space for her to do the same

813
00:58:29,080 --> 00:58:31,120
Speaker 1: thing because what I don't want her to do is

814
00:58:31,160 --> 00:58:33,160
Speaker 1: to ever feel like she has to say what I

815
00:58:33,280 --> 00:58:34,840
Speaker 1: want to hear and in order for us to work,

816
00:58:35,400 --> 00:58:38,480
Speaker 1: because ultimately actually gets exhausting, and then you're like, man,

817
00:58:38,480 --> 00:58:40,080
Speaker 1: I'm tired of doing this, no more. No, I don't

818
00:58:40,160 --> 00:58:43,080
Speaker 1: like popcorn. You know what I'm saying. You know, it'd

819
00:58:43,080 --> 00:58:45,240
Speaker 1: be it'd be simple things. When you're in a relationship

820
00:58:45,320 --> 00:58:47,840
Speaker 1: with somebody for a long time and you're trying to

821
00:58:48,000 --> 00:58:50,480
Speaker 1: be something that you're not because you want to appease

822
00:58:50,560 --> 00:58:54,439
Speaker 1: that person, It'll be something that just breaks the Campmel's back.

823
00:58:54,560 --> 00:58:57,280
Speaker 1: I remember one of the first arguments we had that

824
00:58:57,480 --> 00:59:00,840
Speaker 1: was like like like really like like big deal. When

825
00:59:00,920 --> 00:59:03,320
Speaker 1: we moved to Detroit. This is the first time we

826
00:59:03,400 --> 00:59:05,600
Speaker 1: had our own house and you could set the furnace

827
00:59:06,200 --> 00:59:08,880
Speaker 1: to make it how a cold and she leaves that

828
00:59:09,000 --> 00:59:13,560
Speaker 1: motherfucking man eighty degrees. I like my thermostat on Kingston, Jamaica,

829
00:59:13,880 --> 00:59:17,520
Speaker 1: and period, you come to the house, it's gonna be hot.

830
00:59:17,680 --> 00:59:21,760
Speaker 1: It's always hot. And I remember I was just frustrated

831
00:59:21,800 --> 00:59:24,040
Speaker 1: trying to jump through these hoops to be like the

832
00:59:24,160 --> 00:59:26,720
Speaker 1: perfect man or ideal man of what she wants. And

833
00:59:26,760 --> 00:59:28,280
Speaker 1: I'm jumping through the hoopsman. And I walked in the

834
00:59:28,360 --> 00:59:30,160
Speaker 1: house one day and I was just wearing bullets and

835
00:59:30,240 --> 00:59:33,840
Speaker 1: I was like, enough, turn the heat down, what's your problem?

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Speaker 1: And then I didn't realize she was doing the same thing,

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Speaker 1: and she like, did nobody wanted that cold in here?

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Speaker 1: I'll come here every day. You want me with my

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Speaker 1: ass out, you want me wearing this stuff. I can't

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Speaker 1: be coldhead. And we arguing about the thermostat, bro the thermostat.

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Speaker 1: We arguing, screaming, cursing at each other, talking about each other,

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Speaker 1: families opened the thermostat bro. I didn't say anything about you,

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Speaker 1: my scoop, Brian, I said nothing about you. Guys, have

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Speaker 1: nothing but love in respect for all of you. She's

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Speaker 1: like you like, get colder. He's just like your father.

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Speaker 1: You're sitting down, Just watch the teeth like your father.

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Speaker 1: Old your hand back just like dude. But no, seriously,

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Speaker 1: like we have. Do you remember the clip that went

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Speaker 1: viral of us. The people were trying to like pretty

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Speaker 1: much bash us, and we were talking about sex openly

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Speaker 1: and talking about monogamy in all honesty. That has been

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Speaker 1: the key to our relationship. We have hard conversations all

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Speaker 1: the time, just hard conversations about anything. Why Why do

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Speaker 1: you not know how to manage money? Where where did

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Speaker 1: that come from? Let's talk about your family history with finances.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Devout, Why do you like

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Speaker 1: sex so much? What? What? What is it about it?

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Speaker 1: And we sit down and have these conversations, and then

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Speaker 1: once you have those conversations, you start to realize, like, wait,

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Speaker 1: we can work our way through these things. You know

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Oh, if if that's what you need

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Speaker 1: in order to feel comfortable, I'm willing to bend for that.

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Speaker 1: And if that's what you need, I'm willing to bend

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Speaker 1: for that. But a lot of people don't want to

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Speaker 1: have those conversations, you know, So he said, a lot

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Speaker 1: of people are not blunt. They are they want to

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Speaker 1: spare other people's feelings. What's the name of this podcast,

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Speaker 1: dead ass? It's dead ass for a reason because a

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Speaker 1: lot of our arguments would end in you really said

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Speaker 1: that and dead ass? You feel that way? Dead ass?

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Speaker 1: If this is gonna be my soul, many like I'm

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Speaker 1: supposed to spend the rest of my life with this woman,

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Speaker 1: I have to know how she feels. And I have

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Speaker 1: to as a man because a lot of times it

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Speaker 1: would be us who feel like And I'll be honest,

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Speaker 1: we're taught. We're taught. Somebody talk about it a vow

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Speaker 1: say it again, No understand understand what it's like to

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Speaker 1: be a black man in this country for for a minute, right.

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Speaker 1: You're taught that when you go out in the world,

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Speaker 1: you have to be strong. You have to hold your

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Speaker 1: feelings aside, and you have to keep this facade of strength.

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Speaker 1: That's what you're taught from young Like if you just

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Speaker 1: put a young black man in the room. He doesn't

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Speaker 1: come up with that himself. He's been taught that. So

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Speaker 1: now that he's a man, and that's how you asked,

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Speaker 1: you can't say or you got problems, I'm leaving you alone.

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Speaker 1: We gotta work through that together. That was a large

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Speaker 1: part of my problem. I didn't want to be vulnerable.

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Speaker 1: I had to be tough. I had to be strong.

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Speaker 1: My father taught me that. My father taught me that

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Speaker 1: because his father, who was in the nave, he taught

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Speaker 1: him that. You understand what I'm saying. When you get older,

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Speaker 1: you start to learn that these are the things that

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Speaker 1: you can break down. And when you can be vulnerable

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Speaker 1: with the person that you love, that toughness comes from

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Speaker 1: you sharing. You know what I'm saying. What I'm saying

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Speaker 1: are on This is some best friendship. Like he and

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Speaker 1: I literally best friends. And when you think about the

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Speaker 1: relationship of a friend, it's a relationship that you generally

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Speaker 1: have by choice, right, It's not like a family type joint.

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Speaker 1: And I choose to want to understand him, I choose

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Speaker 1: to want to respect him. I choose to want to

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Speaker 1: not make him happy because I don't think that I

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Speaker 1: can make him happy happy. This is something that he

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Speaker 1: has to find within. But however, I can contribute to

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Speaker 1: making his workload lighter. If he has to fight his

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Speaker 1: way through the world, He's not gonna have to fight

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Speaker 1: his way with me at the end of the day.

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Speaker 1: Dead Ass is a production of I Heart Media podcast

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Speaker 1: network and is produced by Dinorapinia and Triple Follow the

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