1 00:00:16,320 --> 00:00:19,959 Speaker 1: Hey, Hurdler's Emily here chiming in with another installment of 2 00:00:20,040 --> 00:00:24,280 Speaker 1: five Minute Friday from Hurdle. Before we get into it, 3 00:00:24,320 --> 00:00:29,440 Speaker 1: a big announcement, I am taking a one week season 4 00:00:29,560 --> 00:00:34,280 Speaker 1: break because season three of Hurdle is coming to a 5 00:00:34,320 --> 00:00:37,920 Speaker 1: feed near you asap wherever you get your podcasts. In 6 00:00:37,960 --> 00:00:41,600 Speaker 1: all facts, it's actually launching on July thirteenth, So next 7 00:00:41,600 --> 00:00:43,879 Speaker 1: week I'm taking some time to get some ducks in 8 00:00:43,920 --> 00:00:44,959 Speaker 1: a row before I. 9 00:00:45,000 --> 00:00:48,880 Speaker 2: Come back with a really, really exciting season. 10 00:00:49,400 --> 00:00:53,080 Speaker 1: I mean that I am such a huge fan of 11 00:00:53,159 --> 00:00:55,200 Speaker 1: all of the individuals I bring on the show, but 12 00:00:55,880 --> 00:00:58,320 Speaker 1: let me tell you the guests that I have lined 13 00:00:58,480 --> 00:01:04,040 Speaker 1: up for season three. It makes me feel really content, 14 00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:07,240 Speaker 1: which sounds like an odd word I guess to use 15 00:01:07,240 --> 00:01:09,840 Speaker 1: in this case, But some of these individuals I have 16 00:01:09,840 --> 00:01:12,240 Speaker 1: been quote unquote chasing forever. 17 00:01:12,800 --> 00:01:15,920 Speaker 2: When I ask on social media who it is that. 18 00:01:15,840 --> 00:01:18,680 Speaker 1: You want to hear from, these are a lot of 19 00:01:18,680 --> 00:01:23,520 Speaker 1: the names that come into my dms. And I'm also 20 00:01:23,800 --> 00:01:27,560 Speaker 1: really proud that it is the most diverse season of 21 00:01:27,640 --> 00:01:31,240 Speaker 1: the show yet. I'm really looking forward to bringing you 22 00:01:31,480 --> 00:01:33,720 Speaker 1: some super engaging stories. I can tell you right off 23 00:01:33,760 --> 00:01:36,120 Speaker 1: the bat that I cried and at least two of 24 00:01:36,160 --> 00:01:37,920 Speaker 1: the interviews I have coming down the pipe for you, 25 00:01:38,280 --> 00:01:41,440 Speaker 1: So trust me. Stay tuned again to reiterate, I'll be 26 00:01:41,480 --> 00:01:43,839 Speaker 1: taking a quick break next week, but I'll be back 27 00:01:43,959 --> 00:01:50,040 Speaker 1: on July thirteenth, coming in summer primetime hotter than ever. Anyway, 28 00:01:50,160 --> 00:01:52,960 Speaker 1: this week for five Minute Friday, I'm talking about the 29 00:01:53,000 --> 00:01:57,120 Speaker 1: difference between fact versus feeling. So I'm going to give 30 00:01:57,120 --> 00:02:01,240 Speaker 1: you some background. A few years ago, I took I 31 00:02:01,360 --> 00:02:06,160 Speaker 1: participated in a forty day challenge of sorts through one 32 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:08,840 Speaker 1: of my favorite yoga studios, Lines Done. They have two 33 00:02:08,840 --> 00:02:11,480 Speaker 1: locations in New York City. They've got one in Tribeca 34 00:02:11,840 --> 00:02:15,760 Speaker 1: and one in Chelsea. And this forty day Challenge, of 35 00:02:15,880 --> 00:02:20,040 Speaker 1: course included a ton of yoga, but it also had 36 00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:25,360 Speaker 1: weekly meetings where we went through a book from Baron 37 00:02:25,400 --> 00:02:29,240 Speaker 1: Baptiste called The Forty Days to Personal Revolution, and the 38 00:02:29,280 --> 00:02:32,640 Speaker 1: sub title on this is a breakthrough program to radically 39 00:02:32,680 --> 00:02:35,000 Speaker 1: change your body and awaken the sacred within your soul. 40 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:36,800 Speaker 2: Sounds like a lot. I know. 41 00:02:37,880 --> 00:02:42,360 Speaker 1: Basically in these weekly meetings we would go through a 42 00:02:42,400 --> 00:02:46,799 Speaker 1: workbook and really kind of open up and do just that, 43 00:02:46,960 --> 00:02:50,799 Speaker 1: like crack into the nitty gritty. I remember as part 44 00:02:50,800 --> 00:02:53,959 Speaker 1: of the conversations that we were having in these weekly workshops, 45 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:57,040 Speaker 1: people would share personal stories of things that they were 46 00:02:57,040 --> 00:03:01,200 Speaker 1: going through. And I don't recall the exact story that 47 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:04,640 Speaker 1: was shared, but I do remember a woman saying I 48 00:03:04,840 --> 00:03:08,640 Speaker 1: can't do this, and that is where Bethany Lyons, the 49 00:03:08,639 --> 00:03:11,680 Speaker 1: founder of the yoga studio, stopped her and she said, 50 00:03:11,919 --> 00:03:14,119 Speaker 1: I want to talk you through something, and I'll never 51 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:18,240 Speaker 1: forget this. She said, there's a difference between what you 52 00:03:18,480 --> 00:03:21,000 Speaker 1: feel to be true and what is true. And she 53 00:03:21,040 --> 00:03:23,960 Speaker 1: gave us an example. She said, I have blonde hair, 54 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:29,160 Speaker 1: I am afraid of heights. Now there's a difference between 55 00:03:29,200 --> 00:03:29,920 Speaker 1: those two statements. 56 00:03:30,040 --> 00:03:30,239 Speaker 2: Right. 57 00:03:30,400 --> 00:03:33,600 Speaker 1: In fact, she does have blonde hair. I don't think 58 00:03:33,680 --> 00:03:36,200 Speaker 1: that comes from a box of dyes. She was born 59 00:03:36,760 --> 00:03:41,440 Speaker 1: naturally a blonde. I am afraid of heights, though she 60 00:03:41,640 --> 00:03:45,880 Speaker 1: feels as though she's afraid of heights. That is something 61 00:03:45,920 --> 00:03:48,560 Speaker 1: that you could probably do something about, right, You could 62 00:03:48,600 --> 00:03:51,520 Speaker 1: try to face your fear. But think about just how 63 00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:54,800 Speaker 1: that changes things. Right when you say I feel as 64 00:03:54,880 --> 00:03:59,520 Speaker 1: though I'm afraid of heights versus I am afraid of heights, 65 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:04,320 Speaker 1: it makes it no longer a definitive statement. So I'll 66 00:04:04,360 --> 00:04:07,080 Speaker 1: bring a couple of examples from this week into the mix. 67 00:04:07,680 --> 00:04:12,760 Speaker 1: For years now, I have been scared to cross the 68 00:04:12,800 --> 00:04:16,599 Speaker 1: George Washington Bridge on foot or on bike. I have 69 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:21,600 Speaker 1: been told for so long now that getting there is scary. 70 00:04:22,080 --> 00:04:27,880 Speaker 1: You're super close to oncoming traffic, the turns leading up 71 00:04:27,920 --> 00:04:31,960 Speaker 1: to the bridge are super narrow, There's one particular hairpin 72 00:04:32,080 --> 00:04:36,119 Speaker 1: turn that is super uncomfortable if you're on a bike. 73 00:04:36,240 --> 00:04:39,320 Speaker 1: The climbing the hills, it's just a lot. And so 74 00:04:39,440 --> 00:04:42,800 Speaker 1: for years I've just said the sentence, I can't do 75 00:04:42,920 --> 00:04:46,320 Speaker 1: the GW. Last week, a friend of mine got back 76 00:04:46,320 --> 00:04:48,760 Speaker 1: into town and she asked me, now that I have 77 00:04:48,839 --> 00:04:51,640 Speaker 1: been biking, if I wanted to join her on a 78 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:55,280 Speaker 1: ride across the GW into New Jersey and go up 79 00:04:55,320 --> 00:04:59,320 Speaker 1: a popular path here called River Road. And I wanted 80 00:04:59,360 --> 00:05:01,640 Speaker 1: to say the exact same thing that I've been saving 81 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:03,400 Speaker 1: for years, Oh, I don't do the GW. 82 00:05:03,800 --> 00:05:05,040 Speaker 2: But then, like I took a. 83 00:05:05,000 --> 00:05:11,320 Speaker 1: Step back, and I remembered again Bethany saying I feel 84 00:05:11,400 --> 00:05:17,680 Speaker 1: as though, and the idea of separating fact from feeling, 85 00:05:18,360 --> 00:05:21,960 Speaker 1: And I thought to myself, what am I waiting for? 86 00:05:22,480 --> 00:05:24,960 Speaker 1: You know, almost nine years ago when I moved to 87 00:05:24,960 --> 00:05:26,919 Speaker 1: New York, and that's just the craziest sentence for me 88 00:05:26,960 --> 00:05:28,800 Speaker 1: to say. But I came here with a to do 89 00:05:28,880 --> 00:05:32,680 Speaker 1: list of more than one hundred things, and this to 90 00:05:32,760 --> 00:05:35,640 Speaker 1: do list like it had a ton of different things 91 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:38,640 Speaker 1: on it, literally from visiting like different museums, to going 92 00:05:38,680 --> 00:05:43,520 Speaker 1: to beauty and Essex to staying up until dawn and 93 00:05:44,279 --> 00:05:46,760 Speaker 1: something else that was on there was run, walk or 94 00:05:46,839 --> 00:05:49,760 Speaker 1: bike across every major bridge that touches Manhattan. 95 00:05:50,240 --> 00:05:51,480 Speaker 2: This would include the GW. 96 00:05:51,960 --> 00:05:54,599 Speaker 1: Now I do need to note that I once told 97 00:05:54,680 --> 00:05:57,080 Speaker 1: someone this on a date, and on the second date 98 00:05:57,320 --> 00:05:59,359 Speaker 1: he had me meet him in a bar in the 99 00:05:59,400 --> 00:06:03,040 Speaker 1: Lower east Side. And then our next stop on the 100 00:06:03,120 --> 00:06:06,359 Speaker 1: date was the two of us, little beknownst to me, 101 00:06:06,960 --> 00:06:09,320 Speaker 1: walking across the Williamsburg Bridge, and it was probably one 102 00:06:09,320 --> 00:06:12,000 Speaker 1: of the sweetest things that anyone has ever done for me. 103 00:06:12,720 --> 00:06:13,400 Speaker 2: I digress. 104 00:06:13,960 --> 00:06:16,760 Speaker 1: Basically, on this do list, the GW was the last 105 00:06:16,800 --> 00:06:20,640 Speaker 1: bridge in me checking off this walk, run bike across 106 00:06:20,680 --> 00:06:23,520 Speaker 1: every major bridge that touches Manhattan thing, and I was 107 00:06:23,560 --> 00:06:26,680 Speaker 1: the only thing that was standing in my own way. 108 00:06:27,400 --> 00:06:28,400 Speaker 2: So finally, when. 109 00:06:28,279 --> 00:06:31,200 Speaker 1: I agreed to go with my friend on this bike 110 00:06:31,279 --> 00:06:34,599 Speaker 1: ride on Monday, like I was scared, don't get me wrong, 111 00:06:35,120 --> 00:06:39,039 Speaker 1: but it was really empowering to be like, this is 112 00:06:39,080 --> 00:06:39,760 Speaker 1: how I feel. 113 00:06:40,320 --> 00:06:42,719 Speaker 2: I understand that it is just a feeling. 114 00:06:43,240 --> 00:06:49,440 Speaker 1: I am capable of moving past this, of overcoming my fears. 115 00:06:49,800 --> 00:06:54,040 Speaker 1: And once I recognized that, like I was capable and 116 00:06:54,080 --> 00:06:59,240 Speaker 1: that that fear was not fact, it was just a feeling, 117 00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:03,080 Speaker 1: then I would able to do more to take action. 118 00:07:03,320 --> 00:07:06,960 Speaker 1: And so like God crossing that bridge and like finally, 119 00:07:07,000 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 1: like being in New Jersey, which sounds super silly because 120 00:07:10,680 --> 00:07:13,400 Speaker 1: like who says I'm so excited to go to New Jersey? 121 00:07:13,480 --> 00:07:16,960 Speaker 1: But I got to New Jersey and I was stoked, 122 00:07:16,960 --> 00:07:19,920 Speaker 1: Like I was. I had the biggest goofiest grin across 123 00:07:19,920 --> 00:07:23,480 Speaker 1: my entire face. I was so satisfied. I felt so 124 00:07:23,800 --> 00:07:27,880 Speaker 1: empowered that I did it right, Like I finally did 125 00:07:27,960 --> 00:07:31,080 Speaker 1: this thing that I've been wanting to do for so long, 126 00:07:31,200 --> 00:07:35,080 Speaker 1: And that's because I was able to distinguish from what 127 00:07:35,360 --> 00:07:39,160 Speaker 1: is fact and what is feeling. I know it can 128 00:07:39,200 --> 00:07:42,400 Speaker 1: be like really hard, right, we get crippled with these ideas, 129 00:07:42,440 --> 00:07:45,880 Speaker 1: like I think about someone saying I am stuck in 130 00:07:45,960 --> 00:07:51,280 Speaker 1: this awful relationship or I'm not productive those two things, 131 00:07:51,320 --> 00:07:54,120 Speaker 1: Like you feel as though you're stuck in this relationship, 132 00:07:54,160 --> 00:07:57,400 Speaker 1: you feel as though you're not productive, but don't let 133 00:07:57,520 --> 00:08:01,400 Speaker 1: your feelings define who you are are. You can still 134 00:08:01,440 --> 00:08:06,000 Speaker 1: be a productive person and have non productive days. It 135 00:08:06,080 --> 00:08:09,080 Speaker 1: happens to everyone. Heck, we're in a pandemic. We're working 136 00:08:09,080 --> 00:08:12,600 Speaker 1: from home constantly, like it happens to the best of us, 137 00:08:12,640 --> 00:08:17,000 Speaker 1: to the most productive humans. But when you can separate 138 00:08:17,120 --> 00:08:22,000 Speaker 1: again this fact from feeling, you can have some grace 139 00:08:22,040 --> 00:08:26,880 Speaker 1: with yourself and you can make positive progress when you 140 00:08:26,920 --> 00:08:32,400 Speaker 1: recognize that you have control, it's a really beautiful thing. 141 00:08:32,559 --> 00:08:35,000 Speaker 1: And once you understand that you have the power to 142 00:08:35,280 --> 00:08:38,880 Speaker 1: make an impact on your own feelings, you take ownership 143 00:08:38,960 --> 00:08:42,360 Speaker 1: over that. It's pretty great. So my prompt for you 144 00:08:42,440 --> 00:08:47,080 Speaker 1: this week think about this. What is one example of 145 00:08:47,320 --> 00:08:53,600 Speaker 1: feel versus fact in your life? Where can you take control? 146 00:08:55,280 --> 00:08:58,640 Speaker 1: Highlights of the week, and as always, links to all 147 00:08:58,720 --> 00:09:01,600 Speaker 1: this goodness can be found in the show notes in 148 00:09:01,640 --> 00:09:05,120 Speaker 1: the link with the description to this episode. First things First, 149 00:09:05,280 --> 00:09:09,200 Speaker 1: read a Movement not a Moment from GQ. 150 00:09:09,840 --> 00:09:10,160 Speaker 2: Wow. 151 00:09:10,240 --> 00:09:12,360 Speaker 1: I mean I clicked on this earlier today and my 152 00:09:12,400 --> 00:09:17,720 Speaker 1: mind was blown just looking through the powerful imagery in 153 00:09:18,240 --> 00:09:22,080 Speaker 1: this article. The photos are taken by a Harlem based photographer. 154 00:09:22,080 --> 00:09:24,360 Speaker 1: Her name is Flo Nagala. I hope I'm saying that 155 00:09:24,440 --> 00:09:28,560 Speaker 1: right there. The photos are incredible. She's documenting the energy 156 00:09:28,640 --> 00:09:31,640 Speaker 1: of New York City during the Black Lives Matter protests, 157 00:09:31,679 --> 00:09:35,320 Speaker 1: and it is something you definitely have to give it 158 00:09:35,360 --> 00:09:39,199 Speaker 1: a look. Next up for listen Monovision, a new album 159 00:09:39,320 --> 00:09:42,000 Speaker 1: by ray La Montayanne. I used to listen to ray 160 00:09:42,080 --> 00:09:46,040 Speaker 1: La Montayne in the Homer Babbage Library at Yukon. This 161 00:09:46,120 --> 00:09:48,920 Speaker 1: new album has been my background music for the last 162 00:09:48,960 --> 00:09:51,640 Speaker 1: couple of days as I'm working, and I really dig it. 163 00:09:51,800 --> 00:09:53,719 Speaker 2: I suggest starting with the. 164 00:09:53,760 --> 00:09:57,360 Speaker 1: Songs roll Me, Mama, Roll Me or I Was Born 165 00:09:57,440 --> 00:10:00,440 Speaker 1: to Love You, which may or may not eventually just 166 00:10:00,520 --> 00:10:04,240 Speaker 1: have to be my wedding song. Also, take a listen 167 00:10:04,320 --> 00:10:08,560 Speaker 1: to Brene Brown's podcast Unlocking Us. Her episode with Judd 168 00:10:08,679 --> 00:10:13,960 Speaker 1: Apatow on Vulnerability and Laughter was a really, really, really 169 00:10:14,000 --> 00:10:16,400 Speaker 1: great conversation. I know that most of you know who 170 00:10:16,480 --> 00:10:19,000 Speaker 1: Judd Appatao is. He's responsible for some of the best 171 00:10:19,040 --> 00:10:21,880 Speaker 1: comedy films and hit TV shows from the past couple 172 00:10:21,880 --> 00:10:25,080 Speaker 1: of decades, including Knocked Up and train Wreck and Anchorman 173 00:10:25,200 --> 00:10:27,160 Speaker 1: and The Big Sick, which I feel like I. 174 00:10:27,120 --> 00:10:28,120 Speaker 2: Want to watch later tonight. 175 00:10:28,440 --> 00:10:31,640 Speaker 1: Anyway, in this episode of the podcast, they talk about 176 00:10:32,200 --> 00:10:35,600 Speaker 1: what makes things funny and why they're funny, and they 177 00:10:35,640 --> 00:10:39,280 Speaker 1: also have a really really interesting talk about the thin 178 00:10:39,440 --> 00:10:42,800 Speaker 1: line between humor and grief. And last, but not least, 179 00:10:42,960 --> 00:10:46,240 Speaker 1: you have got to check out my friend Aarin has 180 00:10:46,400 --> 00:10:49,920 Speaker 1: a newsletter called the Daily Writing Dose, and so every 181 00:10:50,000 --> 00:10:53,680 Speaker 1: day she delivers a thoughtful prompt to your email inbox. 182 00:10:53,760 --> 00:10:56,400 Speaker 1: And I just love the idea of This is something 183 00:10:56,440 --> 00:10:58,480 Speaker 1: that I wanted to do for all of you, but 184 00:10:58,679 --> 00:11:01,920 Speaker 1: I just came to realize that it's not within my bandwidth. 185 00:11:02,040 --> 00:11:05,560 Speaker 1: So Alas, I have found the perfect person to give 186 00:11:05,559 --> 00:11:09,040 Speaker 1: you regular writing prompts so you can tune in to 187 00:11:09,160 --> 00:11:12,240 Speaker 1: your soul, you can uncover some feelings and just get 188 00:11:12,320 --> 00:11:15,800 Speaker 1: some writing done. 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