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Speaker 1: It's an awkward Tuesday day. It begins right now.
Speaker 5: It can be complicated changing careers later in life.
Speaker 1: Oh check, Oh yeah, are you planning something.
Speaker 6: That you know about? Not me.
Speaker 5: It just made me think of when Brooks Uncle Soupy
Speaker 5: the Clown decided to hang up his balloon animal gig
Speaker 5: and transition to oversized shoe salesman.
Speaker 1: It's sponging whatever.
Speaker 3: How could you not remember when it happened.
Speaker 5: I just know the whole family scoffed at him, saying,
Speaker 5: you're besmirching the good Fox family clown legacy.
Speaker 1: Come on, I say, we haven't seen him at a
Speaker 1: Thanksgiving table, And.
Speaker 5: They said it all while honking their noses at him
Speaker 5: the entire time.
Speaker 3: Everyone's spraying with your flower tough crowd.
Speaker 5: Well, we've got another dramatic career change that's affecting one
Speaker 5: young couple and it could throw a giant clown wrench
Speaker 5: into their happy relationship.
Speaker 1: If you don't know, that's not good. In cloud work,
Speaker 1: it's not good.
Speaker 5: And you're gonna hear why in your brand new awkward
Speaker 5: Tuesday phone call right after this.
Speaker 3: It's awkward, it's Tuesday.
Speaker 1: It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 5: When you're in a relationship with someone for long enough,
Speaker 5: it's natural to worry about them.
Speaker 1: What do you mean, like when you care about someone, Yeah,
Speaker 1: about their safety, total happiness.
Speaker 5: You start thinking like are they eating healthy enough to
Speaker 5: live a long, happy life with me? Are they dressing
Speaker 5: nice enough to attend this fancy dinner with me? Are
Speaker 5: they not drinking enough at this house party? So everyone's
Speaker 5: gonna think we're the boring couple.
Speaker 1: But you can't be fun without alcoholic. Who do you
Speaker 1: hang out with?
Speaker 4: God?
Speaker 5: These are just natural things that come up in normal relationships.
Speaker 3: Nothing.
Speaker 5: You wouldn't know anything about that. But one of our
Speaker 5: listeners says he's been worrying about his girlfriend lately and
Speaker 5: does it nowhere else to turn. So we're going to
Speaker 5: be here for him in his moment of need. Aaron Man,
Speaker 5: Welcome to the show.
Speaker 6: Look, so guys, how are you.
Speaker 4: Hey?
Speaker 1: We're good? How long have you and your girlfriend been together?
Speaker 6: Almost four years?
Speaker 1: Now?
Speaker 6: Oh?
Speaker 3: Okay four years?
Speaker 1: Wow a chunk.
Speaker 5: You're starting to get into a serious party.
Speaker 6: Yeah, definitely the number one person.
Speaker 2: In my life.
Speaker 1: Ah, you guys live together too.
Speaker 6: Yes, yes, we do.
Speaker 5: Okay, all right, So, uh, you said that in your
Speaker 5: email that you've been worried about her.
Speaker 3: What's going on?
Speaker 6: That year?
Speaker 4: She worked an office job, you know, an administrative assistance.
Speaker 4: But he's been kind of feeling bored and doesn't feel
Speaker 4: like she's.
Speaker 6: Happy there, so she wants to switch her career up.
Speaker 4: He's decided to become a cop instead.
Speaker 1: Oh, she's going to be a police officer.
Speaker 5: Really needed right now. It's quite a shift from office
Speaker 5: administrator too, which.
Speaker 6: Is what I'm saying. I'm just nervous because I see
Speaker 6: the news all the time.
Speaker 4: And I see what they have to deal with and
Speaker 4: just the kind of stigma that is surrounding them.
Speaker 1: And maybe she feels like true calling to go out
Speaker 1: and change something in the community, you know, and give back.
Speaker 6: Yeah, but like I feel like there's other ways to
Speaker 6: go about it. She says that it's good money.
Speaker 4: And maybe that's true, and like they.
Speaker 6: Need more people in law enforcement, but I never.
Speaker 5: Get bonuses and stuff sometimes and you sign up?
Speaker 1: Is she in police school? What do you call that?
Speaker 1: Don't like the movies?
Speaker 4: Yeah? Yeah, she's looking into it, but like, I think
Speaker 4: she has decided that and she's just gonna do it
Speaker 4: and whatever comes with they comes with it.
Speaker 6: I don't know she really understands all the.
Speaker 5: Have you tried sitting her down in front of the
Speaker 5: TV and showing her an episode of NYPD Blue.
Speaker 4: Anytime I try to say anything about the dangerous stuff,
Speaker 4: she kind of brushes it off as I'm worrying too much.
Speaker 1: And yeah, I mean I think it's natural to worry,
Speaker 1: Like that would be a job that I think anyone
Speaker 1: would worry about someone that they love entering.
Speaker 3: Totally. She also wants you to take her seriously.
Speaker 4: I'm saying that Blake, maybe start off as the.
Speaker 5: Mall cop, mall cop, work your way up in the danger.
Speaker 3: I can see why she's like, no, I don't want
Speaker 3: to do that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, nobody wants to be.
Speaker 4: A I don't know.
Speaker 6: It's just a lot to take in right now. And again,
Speaker 6: whatever she does, I'll support, I'll accept her. But like,
Speaker 6: you're just worried.
Speaker 4: I want to have this conversation about all the risks
Speaker 4: and everything.
Speaker 6: Like it's hard to sit her down and really.
Speaker 1: Liked a man's playing being a cop to her.
Speaker 5: It sounds like what he was saying was that he's
Speaker 5: tried to like tell her about some of the risks
Speaker 5: and she's not listening.
Speaker 1: I agree with Lex this. It feels a little weird
Speaker 1: for you to be explaining to her something that she's
Speaker 1: passionate about.
Speaker 6: But yeah, but not a passion of her. It's been
Speaker 6: something that she just thought of within the past.
Speaker 5: Month, that you know of, right, Okay, So Brooke, let
Speaker 5: me just ask you if the genders were reversed and
Speaker 5: he wanted to become a cop and she felt hesitation
Speaker 5: about it, I think would that feel different.
Speaker 1: I think it's normal to feel hesitation. I think to
Speaker 1: say that she doesn't understand the dangers of being a
Speaker 1: police officer is pretty Yeah.
Speaker 5: I would trust what her boyfriend of four years has
Speaker 5: to say. Like he's coming from a place of concern,
Speaker 5: it sounds like, and then that must be grounded in
Speaker 5: something sounds like you you feel like you're gonna say
Speaker 5: something to her and she's just gonna go, oh my gosh,
Speaker 5: we didn't think of that.
Speaker 1: There's guns involved, girl, I didn't know way. CoP's too
Speaker 1: dangerous thing.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but Aaron, I swear we're not mocking you. Right now.
Speaker 5: We're just trying to get all of this out before
Speaker 5: we get your girlfriend Fiona on the phone, and before
Speaker 5: we give you our real advice to tell you how
Speaker 5: you should call up your girlfriend and really help her
Speaker 5: think about is this the right career move?
Speaker 3: Does that make sense?
Speaker 5: Aaron? I know you're not laughing.
Speaker 3: Okay, you know where a jokey show. And remember you're
Speaker 3: doing all the talking.
Speaker 6: We're not gonna bru it this for you.
Speaker 5: You can do your thing.
Speaker 4: Thank you.
Speaker 3: He's kind of regretting. He's totally regretting calling in.
Speaker 5: We're gonna come back give you some solid advice and
Speaker 5: let you make your awkward Tuesday phone call to your
Speaker 5: girlfriend to see if she really wants to be a
Speaker 5: cop coming up right after this. It's awkward. It's an
Speaker 5: awkward Tuesday phone call. When you come to us for
Speaker 5: an awkward Tuesday phone call. The truth is we may
Speaker 5: not give you.
Speaker 3: The advice that you want to hear.
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, but that's why we're here to give you
Speaker 5: a different opinion.
Speaker 1: Why did you come to us free advice? Yeah?
Speaker 5: Yeah, not great advice. It's the best we can do.
Speaker 5: Because one of our listeners, Aaron, has a girlfriend of
Speaker 5: almost four years now, who recently told him she wants
Speaker 5: to give up her office job and become a cop,
Speaker 5: and his immediate reaction worry, concern that she made not
Speaker 5: understand the full impact taking this job could have on
Speaker 5: her life and on his because they're a unit together now.
Speaker 5: But some of us here are concerned that this is
Speaker 5: going to come across as a classic case of man'splaining.
Speaker 1: Well, he did a lot of like, she doesn't understand
Speaker 1: how dangerous it is.
Speaker 4: Right.
Speaker 5: I agree that could come across as I know better
Speaker 5: than you do.
Speaker 3: And here's why he's.
Speaker 1: Got to watch the wording a little right.
Speaker 5: Definitely, that's not what you're looking to do here right
Speaker 5: Erin No, and.
Speaker 6: Whatever she wants to do, I will fully support her.
Speaker 4: I'm just more worried because she's focused on the money aspect.
Speaker 4: Everything that we talk about whenever we talk about is
Speaker 4: just how much money she's going to make.
Speaker 6: How she loves the money, the money, the.
Speaker 4: Money, and we never talk about the safty And that's
Speaker 4: just all I was trying to get across.
Speaker 5: Okay, So you need advice because you feel like she's
Speaker 5: not hearing you and your concerns. How do you get
Speaker 5: her to at least be open to.
Speaker 4: That need to to think more about the safety parts
Speaker 4: and not just focus on money, because we can make
Speaker 4: money in any type of way, you know.
Speaker 1: Right, money comes and goes. Your life is precious, right.
Speaker 5: So, Brook, what's your advice to Aaron here before we
Speaker 5: call his girlfriend?
Speaker 1: Well, I think no matter what you do, have to
Speaker 1: come in saying I fully support you in whatever decision
Speaker 1: you make because it's not your choice, it's her career choice.
Speaker 1: And I think the way you can show that is
Speaker 1: you could follow it up by saying, why don't I
Speaker 1: help you with the pros and console list? That way
Speaker 1: I get to better understand why you want to do this.
Speaker 1: Maybe you come away feeling more secure in the choices
Speaker 1: that she's making, or she comes away feeling like, oh man,
Speaker 1: there's a lot of cons here. Maybe it's not a
Speaker 1: good idea. Women do love a pros and consoless I.
Speaker 5: Love those t Nothing more exciting in radio than listening
Speaker 5: to somebody make a pros and cons list too.
Speaker 1: And they don't have to do it live on the
Speaker 1: radio necessarily.
Speaker 3: So they're just offering it.
Speaker 1: Yes, like coming up with that idea, you know.
Speaker 3: Very thoughtful jose what do you think.
Speaker 7: Well, she probably knows what it takes to be a
Speaker 7: police officer, but something maybe she should consider is, you
Speaker 7: guys aren't married yet or engaged, thank you, but one
Speaker 7: of the highest divorce rates in society or cops, honey,
Speaker 7: that may not be great for us.
Speaker 1: Because the schedules are terrible.
Speaker 5: That's interesting threatening her with divorce, but.
Speaker 1: Divorce rates were already high. Cops.
Speaker 6: What do you think about that, Aaron, that's the interesting point.
Speaker 6: I'll bring it up when I thought.
Speaker 1: That's on the cons list for just in case you weren't.
Speaker 5: You were wondering, all right, So that's our advice for you,
Speaker 5: Like I said, may not have been the greatest advice,
Speaker 5: but the important thing is we're here in your corner,
Speaker 5: ready to support you if you need a little help, Okay.
Speaker 1: Or interrupt if you start man explaining.
Speaker 3: We'll stop you from doing that. You're on it, all right.
Speaker 5: We're gonna call your girlfriend here. Sorry, what was her
Speaker 5: name again? All right, here we go, we'll see, we
Speaker 5: will see.
Speaker 3: Let's see how this goes.
Speaker 6: Hello, babe, babe, how are you?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 2: Hey, how's it going?
Speaker 4: Oh? You know, just chilling, chilling, I know, you're busy,
Speaker 4: but I just wanted to see if you had some
Speaker 4: time to talk records.
Speaker 2: Yeah, give me two seconds to walk away from my
Speaker 2: riveting dusk job.
Speaker 7: What's going on?
Speaker 1: It?
Speaker 7: So?
Speaker 6: You know I love you and you know that whatever
Speaker 6: you do, I will always put you like I always
Speaker 6: have where you know we will always do everything together.
Speaker 6: I am a little concerned about your new career path
Speaker 6: you are trying to go on.
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna lie o.
Speaker 2: Wait, hold on, you're calling me in the middle of
Speaker 2: the morning to tell me that you don't like the
Speaker 2: new job that I'm looking at.
Speaker 4: No, no, no, I just want it to be a
Speaker 4: thing where we think about it together.
Speaker 6: You know, we can go through the pros, the cons
Speaker 6: and just weigh out all of our options.
Speaker 2: I mean, sure, but I don't understand. Yes, look, we're
Speaker 2: a team. We're going to talk about everything. But why,
Speaker 2: why why are you so concerned?
Speaker 4: I mean, you're going out at night, first of all,
Speaker 4: putting yourself in bad situation with who knows who?
Speaker 6: Like it's.
Speaker 2: I will not be going out at night. I will
Speaker 2: only be working days.
Speaker 6: So but how do you know that?
Speaker 4: And even if you were in the daytime, daytime can
Speaker 4: still be risky, like you've seen a naer.
Speaker 2: What what are you even saying? Why is it risky?
Speaker 2: I mean, I know it's it's new and different.
Speaker 6: But like, what do you mean how is it riskicked?
Speaker 6: I'm worried.
Speaker 4: I'm care about you, and all you're thinking about in
Speaker 4: the situation is just the money, Like the money, the money,
Speaker 4: the money.
Speaker 2: Well, of course it is good money and it's gonna
Speaker 2: help us, Like, I don't know, we might even get
Speaker 2: a boat, Like this is a different game for.
Speaker 6: Us, a boat. We're talking about it, and you care
Speaker 6: about a boat? Who cares about the boat? I'm worried
Speaker 6: about you getting shot?
Speaker 4: What?
Speaker 2: No one's gonna get shot at my job. No one
Speaker 2: has guns at my job.
Speaker 7: What do you mean.
Speaker 6: Nobody has gunns? I've watched TV suites. You have to
Speaker 6: everybody has guns.
Speaker 2: No, nobody has guns when they're a mortgage officer.
Speaker 1: What I mean?
Speaker 2: Have you ever seen that an episode of House Hunters
Speaker 2: where they meet a mortgage person and they pull out
Speaker 2: an automatic weapon? Like, what are you talking about?
Speaker 6: Oh I'm so confused.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm confused now too.
Speaker 1: Wait that's also a desk job.
Speaker 2: Hold on, what is happening?
Speaker 1: Hey?
Speaker 2: Aaron, what's going on?
Speaker 5: Ye, Fiona, I'm just going to jump in here because
Speaker 5: you're on the radio right now with a show called
Speaker 5: Brook and Jeffrey in the morning because of.
Speaker 1: Your guys' killer a couple communication. Yeah, don't killer a
Speaker 1: good point?
Speaker 4: Say good point?
Speaker 1: The dangerous words you're using you to what's going on? Guy, Fiona?
Speaker 5: This is called an awkward Tuesday phone call. Your boyfriend,
Speaker 5: Aaron reached out to us because he said he was
Speaker 5: worried that you were considering changing careers and wanting to
Speaker 5: become a police officer. You're saying a mortgage officer.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I am not going to be a police officer.
Speaker 2: A mortgage officer was the plan all along?
Speaker 1: Oh you never thought police? How did you get police
Speaker 1: out of it? Then?
Speaker 5: From the word officer, Aaron, where was your head at.
Speaker 4: A mortgage officer, A police officer who evicted people that
Speaker 4: can't pay their mortgages, like they're all risky.
Speaker 2: That is not what I wantage officer.
Speaker 5: Stars, Aaron, I think you're thinking about dep who evict
Speaker 5: people when they're not paying. That's not a mortgage officer.
Speaker 5: That's just a normal police officer.
Speaker 1: Officer, someone you go to when you need a house loan,
Speaker 1: and they do all the paperwork and figure out if
Speaker 1: you can get a good rate.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I think they make good money too.
Speaker 1: It's literally so boring.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would work for like a bank or a
Speaker 2: credit union. Like, it's not even remotely violent at all.
Speaker 5: You've spoken about the dangers of banking paper cuts, Aaron,
Speaker 5: Is this making sense to you?
Speaker 6: So it's not dangerous?
Speaker 1: No, we all just heard the light bulb, so you
Speaker 1: knew it was mortgage officer this entire time. You just
Speaker 1: didn't understand the difference between that and a police officer.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 6: I guess I just never heard the term.
Speaker 4: I just heard officer, and you know, different type of officer,
Speaker 4: especially since we're watching those police shows of the day.
Speaker 6: I don't know. I just.
Speaker 1: If it makes you feel better. Erin has been thought
Speaker 1: taxidermy was for taxes, like doing paperwork.
Speaker 5: So okay, okay, he's still hearing about it from Brook
Speaker 5: and that was five years ago.
Speaker 1: That is part of my arsenal for sure. That's a
Speaker 1: funny story.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 5: Yeah, so clearly this was a giant misunderstanding. I'm really
Speaker 5: glad that we took time out of our day to
Speaker 5: get this cleared up.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you use your pros and cons list.
Speaker 5: Yeah, you could still make a pros and cons for
Speaker 5: the mortgage officer thing though, if you want to, Aaron.
Speaker 6: Can we just forget this call I've ever happened?
Speaker 1: The definitely not, She says, that'ship for the rest of
Speaker 1: your life.
Speaker 5: The good news is your boyfriend, Aaron was genuinely concerned
Speaker 5: about you and your safety, and he went through all
Speaker 5: this trouble to come to a radio show to.
Speaker 3: Reach out and just make sure that his points were heard.
Speaker 1: So it makes sense why he thought you didn't understand
Speaker 1: the dangers of that job.
Speaker 5: Actual about it, because the basically are none.
Speaker 2: Right, Yes, this does make a lot more sense now, Okay.
Speaker 5: Yeah, well, good luck to the two of you as
Speaker 5: your relationship continues to grow.
Speaker 1: And hey, and let's hope those Feds drop the rate
Speaker 1: right Oh.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, no kidding, brooking Jeffrey in.
Speaker 5: The morning, getting a lot of texts into seven eight, five,
Speaker 5: nine two with a decent amount of people who also
Speaker 5: did not know what a mortgage officer was or just
Speaker 5: weren't familiar with the terms. Okay, but did anybody think.
Speaker 3: It was that extreme?
Speaker 1: Yeah? I get it, though, if you've never bought a
Speaker 1: house like I. You know, I had never dealt with
Speaker 1: one until we bought a house. Yeah, what it is,
Speaker 1: But I wouldn't jump the cop.
Speaker 5: Ever, it's confusing if you've never heard mortgage officer before.
Speaker 5: But basically, take the most boring job you could think of.
Speaker 5: Multiply that by ten, and that's almost as dull as
Speaker 5: what an actual mortgage officer does.
Speaker 1: I mean not to insult any mortgage officers listening or anything.
Speaker 5: No, No, I mean I say that in the most
Speaker 5: risk sul way possible.
Speaker 1: Why do you do the paperwork?
Speaker 3: That's right.
Speaker 5: I do have a feeling though, when Aaron and Fiona
Speaker 5: talk about this a little later tonight, he's gonna be like,
Speaker 5: are you sure you can't do like a little bit
Speaker 5: more dangerous of a job, because this isn't very fun
Speaker 5: to talk about.
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, it sounds like he just wanted the handcuffs.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you don't need a job title for those,
Speaker 1: No you don't.
Speaker 5: Yeah, we'll send you a link to get your own
Speaker 5: eron if you want those. But if you ever want
Speaker 5: some of our advice, some of our help, you can
Speaker 5: always email the show. We'll try and help you through
Speaker 5: whatever awkward personal family situation you're dealing with.
Speaker 1: Yeah, misunderstanding.
Speaker 5: Either way, we're there for you. Just find us online
Speaker 5: at Brook and Jeffrey