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Speaker 1: This episode includes mention of sexual assault and rape. Please

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Speaker 1: take care while listening.

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Speaker 2: Hello Sunshine.

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Speaker 3: Today on the bright Side, we're joined by one of

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Speaker 3: selling Sunsets standout stars, Mary Bonnet. She's giving us a

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Speaker 3: peek behind the scenes at the magic that brings those

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Speaker 3: incredible homes to life and sharing why she always looks

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Speaker 3: for the bright side even when things get tough. It's Monday,

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Speaker 3: November eleventh. I'm Danielle Robe.

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Speaker 1: And I'm Simone Voice, and this is The bright Side

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Speaker 1: from Hello Sunshine, a daily show where we come together

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Speaker 1: to share women's stories, laugh, learn and brighten your day.

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Speaker 3: All right, Simone, It's Monday, so I know you must

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Speaker 3: have something on your mind.

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Speaker 2: What's going on?

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Speaker 1: Well, today I'm actually thinking about an experience that I

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Speaker 1: had recently that changed the way that I think about hope.

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Speaker 1: And this is a bit of a long story, but

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Speaker 1: bear with me, Danielle. Think you'll see where I'm going here.

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Speaker 1: So okay, So one day recently I was leaving work

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Speaker 1: and I get a call from my friend. I knew

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Speaker 1: and of course we're bracing for more bad news, right,

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Speaker 1: but they give us four words that felt like a lifeline.

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Speaker 1: They said the baby was okay, The baby was actually okay.

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Speaker 1: They explained that the pregnancy was this rare type of

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Speaker 1: least we have hope. We didn't leave the hospital that

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Speaker 1: about our understanding of hope, Like, what is it really?

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Speaker 1: I don't know about you, but sometimes it feels like

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Speaker 1: what hope is, Danielle? Do you feel like it's also abstract? Sometimes?

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Speaker 2: That's a really interesting question.

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Speaker 3: I don't feel like it's abstract.

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Speaker 2: I actually think.

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Speaker 3: Of the word hope quite often, because you know, I'm

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Speaker 1: Well, here's how doctor chan Hellman, one of the leading

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Speaker 1: He also tells us what hope isn't. He says, hope

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Speaker 1: Other researchers have couched it as an active process. There's

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Speaker 1: In researching the scientific perspective on hope, I have been

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Speaker 1: the Hope Research Center at the University of Oklahoma says

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Speaker 1: a few ingredients first, starting with goals. Goals are the

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Speaker 1: cornerstone of hope, and it's a two way street. Researchers

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Speaker 1: These researchers found two more components to hope, pathways and willpower.

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Speaker 1: Pathways really speak to our ability to identify how we're

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Speaker 4: Sometimes you only have one or the other.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes you know the pathways but you don't have the willpower,

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Speaker 1: illness do impact people's hope. It's much lower who have

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Speaker 2: That's interesting because I always feel like people.

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Speaker 3: That have been through the most have the most to

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Speaker 2: I'm surprised to hear that.

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Speaker 4: Actually, I think that's true.

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Speaker 1: And look, the reality is there's not a ton of

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Speaker 1: Maybe as they continue to investigate this sensation, that they'll

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Speaker 1: learn more about how people with traumatic backgrounds can you know,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think hope is contagious. Absolutely, I think hope

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Speaker 3: I read women's stories or I listen to inspirational YouTube videos,

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Speaker 2: It gives me.

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Speaker 3: Hope, which is I think, honestly a cornerstone of our podcast.

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Speaker 1: One thousand percent. There's one more child'slike activity that I

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Speaker 1: Doctor chan Hellman says that imagination is an instrument of hope.

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Speaker 1: So that's going to be something that I'm going to

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Speaker 3: That makes sense, Like you're imagining a brighter future, a

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Speaker 3: Well, our guest today has really had to hold on

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Speaker 3: one of Selling Sunset stars. Mary Bonnet is here to

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Speaker 3: talk with us about her memoir Selling Sunshine, where she

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Speaker 1: We'll be back with our conversation with Mary Bonet in

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Speaker 4: Stay with us.

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Speaker 1: We're back and today we're delighted to welcome Mary Bonnet

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Speaker 1: to the bright Side. She is one of the longest

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Speaker 1: running cast members of Selling Sunset, and she just published

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Speaker 6: Mary Bonett, Welcome to the bright Side. Thank you.

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Speaker 1: We're so happy to have you here. Thank you for

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Speaker 1: bringing the sunshine, your beautiful smile. We're here because you've

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Speaker 1: just published a new memoir called Selling Sunshine, which is

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Speaker 1: so on brand. And I saw that you posted on

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Speaker 4: I'm ready to tell my story.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: When a woman says that, like you better watch outs.

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Speaker 1: But it was really important for you to tell your

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Speaker 5: Because I've been through a lot of ups and downs

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Speaker 5: because I'm very sensitive to the way my family feels

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Speaker 3: When you say sensitive subject, are you able to share

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Speaker 6: So I have all kinds of issues basically.

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Speaker 5: So I had my son when I was sixteen, got

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Speaker 5: went through domestic violence. My ex husband was terrible, my

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Speaker 5: I have very very bad ADHD and it's taken a

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Speaker 5: lot for me. I get like just ridiculed all the

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Speaker 5: time because my mannerisms and stuff. I'm like, yeah, I'm

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Speaker 5: pretty quirky, but I've had to put a lot of

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Speaker 5: be successful, and so there's so many things. And fertility,

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Speaker 5: I mean, that's one that I think that a lot

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Speaker 5: but I can help people.

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Speaker 3: At the same time, you say in the book when

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Speaker 3: but I'm actually really curious about how being a young

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Speaker 6: Best decision I've ever made, clearly.

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Speaker 3: As I'm listening to you, like you're sharing all this

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Speaker 5: No, I never thought it was going to be like this,

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Speaker 6: And so because you don't have a choice, really, what

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Speaker 4: It's not very fun.

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Speaker 1: And we know you've been through a lot, a lot

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I mean when you say that, it's so clear why

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Speaker 4: It's so important.

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Speaker 6: Yeah. Yeah, I just don't know any other way. Really.

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Speaker 5: I mean I'm human, like you know, I come home

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Speaker 6: I have rants and everything.

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Speaker 2: Okay, we have questions about this get into the show. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: here's the thing.

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Speaker 3: Simone and I actually individually watch different reality TV shows,

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Speaker 2: Okay, we both watch Selling Sunset.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we've got some hard many questions for you.

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Speaker 3: In this last season, there's like a bajillionaire who is

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: When things like that happen on the show, is that

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Speaker 5: We're really selling the house, Like, I mean, it's so

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Speaker 6: I was like, it's public, it's public knowledge, Like here's

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Speaker 1: I think the internet has questions about some of the

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Speaker 4: Maybe Okay, well that's true.

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Speaker 2: It's not been questioning.

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Speaker 5: It's just like sometimes it's not that person. I will

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Speaker 1: It seems like being on the show is a real

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Speaker 1: I mean, my biggest question is like, how much of

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Speaker 4: All of it really?

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Speaker 6: More?

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Speaker 2: No, Oh, Mary, you're kidding.

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Speaker 6: It's in full force.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it's it's a mess. Really, I just don't get it.

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Speaker 3: And it don't strike me as doing that though. You

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Speaker 5: No? Because I know the real reason that we're not

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Speaker 6: Yeah, and I love G. We're just busy.

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Speaker 2: I think like Chrischelle does that.

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Speaker 5: I do not understand when I see comments and stuff

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, she's a girls girl. And but don't don't do

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Speaker 6: She will not let up.

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Speaker 5: But I think on season eight though, I think she

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Speaker 2: Yes, why did you decide to stay.

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Speaker 5: I wasn't going to let the frustrations and certain people's

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Speaker 5: focusing on that, and I can stay out of the

445
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Speaker 5: girls drama. So I just quit being a manager instead

446
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Speaker 5: of quitting the show.

447
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Speaker 1: Yeah.

448
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Speaker 2: Smart, Yeah, Well, I'm so.

449
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Speaker 4: Glad that you stayed. I mean for a lot of reasons.

450
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Speaker 1: I think you're one of the more grounded voices on

451
00:22:03,240 --> 00:22:05,920
Speaker 1: the show, so it helps to have that presence in there.

452
00:22:06,480 --> 00:22:10,000
Speaker 1: But I've also learned a lot about fertility through your

453
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Speaker 1: own journey, Like you recently revealed that you discovered a

454
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Speaker 1: septum in your uterus. I didn't even know that this

455
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Speaker 1: was a condition. And I'm a mom, and I feel

456
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Speaker 1: like I'm so informed about, you know, the female body.

457
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Speaker 6: What was it like to finally get that diagnosis? Bittersweet?

458
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Speaker 5: Really, you know, it made sense why I've had so

459
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Speaker 5: many miscarriages. So I was happy that I knew what

460
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Speaker 5: to do at this point because I was actually sitting

461
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Speaker 5: with my good friend ex boyfriend but now good friend.

462
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Speaker 6: He's in oegyn and I was sitting with them.

463
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Speaker 2: I love that you're friends with all your exes, including

464
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Speaker 2: your boss.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, no, all of them.

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Speaker 4: Okay.

467
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Speaker 5: So I was sitting with him and I did the

468
00:22:52,640 --> 00:22:54,760
Speaker 5: pernuvo scant and they found it. They were like, hey,

469
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Speaker 5: so we actually want to talk to you about this,

470
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Speaker 5: and he saw it right away.

471
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Speaker 6: I've been through IBF, I've had a son.

472
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Speaker 5: I have gone through fertility treatments and egg freezing and

473
00:23:06,080 --> 00:23:08,240
Speaker 5: trying to do all these things you're telling me about.

474
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Speaker 5: One doctor and forty four years has found this, Like,

475
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Speaker 5: how is that possible? And if they did, I would

476
00:23:16,560 --> 00:23:18,639
Speaker 5: have been able to handle this, get it removed, and

477
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Speaker 5: have been able to be in control of my fertility.

478
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Speaker 5: A long time ago, when I still had eggs. I

479
00:23:24,400 --> 00:23:26,960
Speaker 5: could have handled it back then and my life would

480
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Speaker 5: have been completely different.

481
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Speaker 6: So that was frustrating.

482
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Speaker 5: But at least now I can educate people and show

483
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Speaker 5: them this is a thing. And if you are having pumps,

484
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Speaker 5: you are in control of your health. And no one's

485
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Speaker 5: going to fight for women's health except you. And that's

486
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Speaker 5: why I'm on the board of directors for a women's

487
00:23:46,640 --> 00:23:49,840
Speaker 5: health organization now because of it. Like eight out of

488
00:23:49,880 --> 00:23:54,280
Speaker 5: ten women are undiagnosed or misdiagnosed with endometriosis, like that

489
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Speaker 5: is insane.

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Speaker 2: Out of ten is quite a lot.

491
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Speaker 6: Eight out of ten.

492
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Speaker 5: Like that is absolutely insane. And I'm not saying doctors

493
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Speaker 5: are about We need doctors. We love doctors, but there

494
00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:05,960
Speaker 5: is a gap.

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Speaker 3: Yes, in.

496
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Speaker 6: Women's health, and so we need to fix that.

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Speaker 1: There's a gap in medical research when it comes to

498
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Speaker 1: understanding women's bodies. There's a gap in diagnoses. Can I

499
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Speaker 1: ask you where are you at on your fertility journey now?

500
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Speaker 1: Like getting this diagnosis, as you mentioned, is bittersweet. Yeah,

501
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Speaker 1: I can only imagine how painful it was to kind

502
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Speaker 1: of accept and process that news.

503
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Speaker 5: Yeah, we are, We're unsure. I have to have the surgery.

504
00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:39,680
Speaker 5: I haven't had it yet, and then plus the recovery

505
00:24:39,720 --> 00:24:42,520
Speaker 5: time for the surgery and everything like that. The quality

506
00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:44,959
Speaker 5: of my eggs aren't very good from what it was,

507
00:24:45,280 --> 00:24:48,359
Speaker 5: and then the number isn't very good, so the chances

508
00:24:48,440 --> 00:24:52,919
Speaker 5: of it happening are just very, very slim. So I

509
00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:55,600
Speaker 5: think we've just come to terms with that and we're

510
00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:58,000
Speaker 5: still gonna try. But we're both happy with our little

511
00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:01,119
Speaker 5: fur baby right now. Or he's takes a lot of

512
00:25:01,160 --> 00:25:04,560
Speaker 5: time too. He's so cute, just living life and loving

513
00:25:04,600 --> 00:25:07,720
Speaker 5: each other and stuff. If we decide to do something,

514
00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:10,920
Speaker 5: if we decide to do like some other form, if

515
00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:12,960
Speaker 5: I can't carry the baby, if I don't have.

516
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Speaker 6: The eggs, we'll figure it out.

517
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Speaker 5: But we're not putting pressure on ourselves because we just

518
00:25:16,280 --> 00:25:18,400
Speaker 5: kind of know what it's going to be.

519
00:25:18,640 --> 00:25:21,199
Speaker 6: But you know, miracles can happen, so you never know.

520
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Speaker 4: About Staying busy really helps.

521
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Speaker 2: It does.

522
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Speaker 5: It helps a lot, and knowing I can try to

523
00:25:26,480 --> 00:25:30,720
Speaker 5: help other people avoid going through this is very helpful.

524
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Speaker 5: And then I love traveling too, so I try to

525
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Speaker 5: look at the bright side on things. I'm like, well,

526
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Speaker 5: it's harder with a baby too, so hey, we can

527
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Speaker 5: travel more, and so I just try to always find

528
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Speaker 5: the bright side of things, like if you can't do

529
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Speaker 5: anything about it, Well, you came to.

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Speaker 2: The thing too that it was so good.

531
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Speaker 6: I didn't even mean to do that.

532
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Speaker 2: I could tell it felt natural.

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Speaker 1: That's going in our promo now, So thank you for that. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I think we have to take a hard left turn

535
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Speaker 1: now and talk about real estate. We have a little

536
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Speaker 1: bit of like lightning round real estate questions for you.

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Speaker 2: Because you are a real real estate agent.

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Speaker 6: I'm a real real estate agent.

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Speaker 4: Let the record show y.

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Speaker 1: So a question that a lot of listeners have right

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Speaker 1: now is regarding lowered interest rates. Yes, talk to me

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Speaker 1: about how that affects the work that you do as

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Speaker 1: a real estate agent.

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Speaker 5: Oh well, say someone wants to sell their house, they

545
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Speaker 5: have a lower interest rate at the moment on that house.

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Speaker 5: It's very very hard to get people to change and

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Speaker 5: get a higher interest rate just to move home. So

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Speaker 5: everything holds when when the interest rates go up and

549
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Speaker 5: they're starting to come down. So it does help pick

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Speaker 5: up the real estate market in LA right now. We're

551
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Speaker 5: battling a lot of things, though it's not just interest rates.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So would you consider now to be a buyer's market.

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Speaker 6: I think it's a shitty market. What's I'm sorry, that's okay.

554
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Speaker 3: You know what.

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Speaker 5: When we started filming this show, though, we really thought

556
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Speaker 5: like we got in fights with production like all of

557
00:27:00,600 --> 00:27:03,919
Speaker 5: like constantly we would battle them on no, we have

558
00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:05,480
Speaker 5: to tell all of this stuff, and we wanted to

559
00:27:05,520 --> 00:27:09,520
Speaker 5: tell all the details to educate people. They're like nobody cares, okay,

560
00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:12,840
Speaker 5: and so ap pieces and they're like okay, okay, okay,

561
00:27:12,840 --> 00:27:14,600
Speaker 5: say it, and they would see they're not even the

562
00:27:14,680 --> 00:27:16,720
Speaker 5: camera wasn't even honest. They're like okay, yeah, go ahead,

563
00:27:16,720 --> 00:27:19,000
Speaker 5: go ahead. And then we're like they weren't filming us,

564
00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:21,199
Speaker 5: they weren't doing anything. They were just But now we

565
00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:23,199
Speaker 5: get it. People have very short attention spans.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm really curious about like young Mary selling homes

567
00:27:28,359 --> 00:27:32,719
Speaker 1: to powerful men and what that dynamic was, Like do

568
00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:35,880
Speaker 1: you ever feel like, I guess I'll ask you this,

569
00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:40,359
Speaker 1: what is the biggest misconception that people have about you?

570
00:27:40,960 --> 00:27:44,080
Speaker 5: Then I'm weak because I don't fight. I think I

571
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:48,640
Speaker 5: work with like very powerful men because I'm extremely honest.

572
00:27:49,160 --> 00:27:51,360
Speaker 5: I don't bullsh it. I'm not short sighted where I'm like, oh,

573
00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:53,439
Speaker 5: just it's okay, like, I'm just going to try to.

574
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Speaker 6: Get this one deal done. I look long term.

575
00:27:56,400 --> 00:27:59,400
Speaker 5: If something's I'm right and I think it's a bad thing,

576
00:27:59,440 --> 00:28:00,960
Speaker 5: I tell them it's up to them if they want

577
00:28:00,960 --> 00:28:06,160
Speaker 5: to to move forward anyway. And I think powerful men

578
00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:10,520
Speaker 5: are very wealthy people, Like they get taken advantage of

579
00:28:10,520 --> 00:28:13,639
Speaker 5: a lot, and they value honesty, and so they know

580
00:28:13,720 --> 00:28:15,960
Speaker 5: I will always have their back, and so I don't

581
00:28:15,960 --> 00:28:18,320
Speaker 5: need to be forceful. We both have a common goal,

582
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Speaker 5: and so I just know how to get a deal

583
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Speaker 5: done because I'm like, it doesn't help you in a

584
00:28:23,200 --> 00:28:25,560
Speaker 5: real estate transaction by being mean to the other person,

585
00:28:25,680 --> 00:28:27,840
Speaker 5: just trying to show I'm tougher than you. It's like,

586
00:28:28,160 --> 00:28:31,080
Speaker 5: you both have the same goal to get that home sold.

587
00:28:31,280 --> 00:28:34,440
Speaker 5: Let's work together, Like what can we do to get

588
00:28:34,440 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 5: it done? Like both of our clients both want to

589
00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:40,520
Speaker 5: sew or want this transaction to close. Let's let's make

590
00:28:40,560 --> 00:28:43,080
Speaker 5: it happen. And I think a lot of people don't

591
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Speaker 5: look at it that way.

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Speaker 1: And so Mary's been in her bag, she will stay

593
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Speaker 1: in her bag. The reason why I'm so curious about

594
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Speaker 1: that is because we have a lot of conversations with

595
00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:57,080
Speaker 1: women on our show about how they've been underestimated early

596
00:28:57,120 --> 00:29:00,760
Speaker 1: on in their careers, either because they're a woman, or

597
00:29:00,840 --> 00:29:06,080
Speaker 1: because of their appearance, or because of you know, feminine

598
00:29:06,080 --> 00:29:08,560
Speaker 1: traits that they choose to embrace in the workplace.

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00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:10,880
Speaker 4: Did that dynamic ever.

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Speaker 1: Play out for you in the real estate world, like

601
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Speaker 1: being underestimated as a woman.

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00:29:15,360 --> 00:29:16,240
Speaker 6: Yeah, I think so.

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00:29:17,240 --> 00:29:21,240
Speaker 5: It's always been a male dominated industry. I think the

604
00:29:21,280 --> 00:29:24,160
Speaker 5: show's helping with that for sure. Yeah, the show's helped.

605
00:29:24,160 --> 00:29:28,120
Speaker 5: But I've definitely been underestimated. If I am and people

606
00:29:28,120 --> 00:29:30,200
Speaker 5: are like brush past me or whatever, then I'm like,

607
00:29:30,240 --> 00:29:33,719
Speaker 5: well that's okay. I'll prove it and I'm just not

608
00:29:33,720 --> 00:29:35,880
Speaker 5: going to let someone else tell me who I am

609
00:29:36,160 --> 00:29:37,080
Speaker 5: or let them get to me.

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Speaker 2: Mary, I think you got a lot of gusts too.

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Speaker 4: Well, thank you, and a lot of sunshine too.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you, thank you for joining us.

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Speaker 5: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Mary Bonnet is the author of Selling Sunshine and a

615
00:29:53,840 --> 00:29:55,480
Speaker 1: cast member on Selling Sunset.

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Speaker 3: We're taking one more short break, but when we come back,

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Speaker 3: we're getting into the holiday spirit with missus Myers. Welcome back, Bestie's.

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Speaker 4: Welcome back, y'all.

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Speaker 1: Okay, before we wrap up the show, we do have

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Speaker 1: one more thing that's on our minds that we want

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Speaker 1: to share with you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we do.

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Speaker 3: We've got a little holiday themed experiment brought to you

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Speaker 3: by Missus Myers.

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Speaker 4: Ooh, I'm so excited for this.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So, Danielle, you've probably heard about the link between

627
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Speaker 1: smells and memory, right.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I have so many that I can think of.

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Speaker 2: It's so strong.

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Speaker 6: Mm hmm.

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Speaker 4: It's fascinating how it works.

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Speaker 1: So science actually shows us that our brain processes sense

633
00:30:37,560 --> 00:30:41,400
Speaker 1: differently than our other senses because onlike sites and sounds,

634
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Speaker 1: smells go directly to the amygdala and the hippocampus. So

635
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Speaker 1: researchers think that might actually explain why memories triggered by

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Speaker 1: smells are often more emotional and tend to go back

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Speaker 1: further into our childhood than memories that are triggered by

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Speaker 1: something else that we might, let's say, see or hear,

639
00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:02,440
Speaker 1: And those emotional memories can have a big impact on

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00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:05,280
Speaker 1: our mental health. Studies have even shown that smell induced

641
00:31:05,320 --> 00:31:08,040
Speaker 1: memories can reduce stress and improve your mood.

642
00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:09,600
Speaker 2: Okay, you want to hear something weird.

643
00:31:09,800 --> 00:31:13,080
Speaker 3: Tell me my grandfather who passed away had a really

644
00:31:13,160 --> 00:31:16,800
Speaker 3: distinct smell, and when I smell it, I get so

645
00:31:17,720 --> 00:31:20,440
Speaker 3: overcome with joy and like I could smile.

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00:31:20,840 --> 00:31:22,640
Speaker 2: And I know how strong that link is.

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00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:26,120
Speaker 1: I have family members like that too, where certain certain

648
00:31:26,200 --> 00:31:29,240
Speaker 1: sense just take me back into their arms. Yeah yeah, yeah,

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00:31:29,280 --> 00:31:31,920
Speaker 1: it's a beautiful thing. Okay, So with all of this

650
00:31:32,040 --> 00:31:35,360
Speaker 1: in mind, we're going to smell this limited edition line

651
00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 1: of holiday scented cleaning products from Missus Myers yep, and

652
00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:40,320
Speaker 1: share what they remind us of.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Well, in thinking about that strong link, Missus Myers

654
00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:45,640
Speaker 3: has a line of holiday sense that are great for

655
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Speaker 3: getting you into the holiday mood. So their line includes snowdrop, Peppermint,

656
00:31:51,400 --> 00:31:53,080
Speaker 3: Iowa Pine, and gingerbread.

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Speaker 4: So curious, I want to just smell them right now.

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00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:56,520
Speaker 2: Let's just try them.

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Speaker 4: Okay, let's do it.

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Speaker 3: Okay, We're going to start with snowdrop, which smells super clean.

661
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Speaker 2: I get why it's called snowdrop.

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Speaker 3: It reminds me of the very first snow in winter

663
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Speaker 3: I was growing up in Chicago.

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Speaker 2: The snow would come early morning.

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Speaker 3: My brother and I would look outside the window and

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Speaker 3: see all the trees covered, are driveway covered, and we

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Speaker 3: would beg our mom to make snowmen before we went

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Speaker 3: to school. And now that I'm thinking about that, memory.

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Speaker 3: They should have been called snow women.

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Speaker 1: Well, I trust you because growing up in Chicago, you

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Speaker 1: know a thing or two about snow.

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Speaker 6: Oh yeah, oh yeah, you're right.

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Speaker 1: It does take me back to like playing in that

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Speaker 1: first fresh snow with my cousins in Maryland.

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Speaker 4: There's nothing like that fresh white powder.

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Speaker 1: Okay, up next, we have a peppermint scented room freshener.

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Speaker 4: I get this one to spray. Oh you know what

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Speaker 4: this reminds me of.

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Speaker 1: This reminds me of peppermint bark, which is one of

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Speaker 1: my favorite holiday snacks.

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Speaker 2: I love peppermint bark.

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Speaker 4: I love a peppermint bark.

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Speaker 3: I dated someone that hated chocolate and peppermint together, and

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Speaker 3: I just felt like I couldn't trust them.

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Speaker 4: No, you had to break up with them. Right, you're done,

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Speaker 4: You're out of here.

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Speaker 2: I love peppermint and chocolate together, all right.

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Speaker 1: Next up, we have the Iowa Pine multisurface everyday cleaner. HM.

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Speaker 1: That reminds me of Christmas trees. I love having a

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Speaker 1: real Christmas tree in my house. I know that most

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Speaker 1: people do the artificial trees, but there's something about that

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Speaker 1: scent of just having those pine needles in your house.

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Speaker 1: All the time. Oh, just makes me feel right at home.

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Speaker 1: It's so comforting.

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Speaker 3: Okay, next step, did you save this one for me?

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Speaker 3: Because you know I love gingerbread. This is the gingerbread

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Speaker 3: scent hand soap made with olive oil and alovera. Okay,

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Speaker 3: that smells exactly like gingerbread. And I have so many

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Speaker 3: memories making gingerbread men, gingerbread women, gingerbread houses. Do you

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Speaker 3: remember you would like try and make a gingerbread mansion. Oh?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we used to do this in school.

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Speaker 3: I would beg my mom to do this out of

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Speaker 3: school too, I love. Okay, Simone, what part of the

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Speaker 3: gingerbread do you eat first?

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Speaker 2: Says a lot about you.

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Speaker 4: I want to say, I start with the feet and

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Speaker 4: move up from there.

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Speaker 2: Okay, you're a humane person. You can't start with the head.

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Speaker 2: It's not nice.

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Speaker 4: I just think of the gingerbread character and Shrek.

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Speaker 2: Yes, exactly.

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Speaker 4: Wow.

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Speaker 1: I feel like I just took a sensory induced trip

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Speaker 1: straight to the holidays.

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Speaker 3: Yes, this is getting me really excited for the holidays.

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Speaker 2: I need to do a little shopping. I even want

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Speaker 2: to do a holiday deep clean.

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Speaker 3: I think we're ready to make some wonderful new scented

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Speaker 3: Memories this year.

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Speaker 2: Thanks to our partners missus Myers.

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Speaker 3: You can learn a lot about a person by their

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Speaker 3: dish soap Visit missus Myers dot com.

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Speaker 2: That's it for today's show.

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Speaker 3: Tomorrow, we're joined by negotiation expert Mari to Harrapoor, author

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Speaker 3: of Bring Yourself, How to Harness the Power of Connection

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Speaker 3: to negotiate fearlessly.

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Speaker 1: feel free to tag us at Simone Voice and at

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Speaker 1: Danielle Robe.

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