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Speaker 1: I told my pregnant daughter that she cannot have a baby.

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Speaker 2: I want to stop her by any means necessary. Am

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Speaker 2: I the a hole?

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 1: How dare you think that just because I had you,

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Speaker 1: that you can also have a baby?

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Speaker 2: You know? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: The gall What a what a audacious assumption to make. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: the line stops here, It really does. Like I give

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Speaker 1: birth to you. In fact, you know what, that goes

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Speaker 1: through your whole generation?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know what?

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Speaker 2: Like you?

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Speaker 1: No, one of my children's generation they're not allowed having kids.

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Speaker 2: Nah, it's mine stops with you. I am Samuel Donner,

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Speaker 2: first and last of his names.

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Speaker 3: None shall succeed him. No, I shall reign supreme for

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Speaker 3: a tanity.

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Speaker 2: I fifty eight female and my husband Rob, sixty one male,

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Speaker 2: have two kids, Erica thirty five female and Mike thirty male.

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Speaker 3: Gross.

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Speaker 2: They're old as fuck. Both kids are married. But Erica

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Speaker 2: and her husband, Steve thirty eight male, lived nearby to us,

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Speaker 2: and this issue concerns them. They work full time and

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Speaker 2: have two kids, five male and four female. Five years ago,

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Speaker 2: my daughter asked my husband and me if we would

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Speaker 2: be willing to become their full time childcare so she

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Speaker 2: could continue to work. And afford their comfortable life.

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Speaker 1: Full time you say full time? See Sam, last time

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Speaker 1: I checked, A full time comes with a check, it does.

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Speaker 3: That's shmula.

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Speaker 2: That's shmula, which maybe could be used on some childcare.

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Speaker 2: Ooh maybe maybe maybe. I mean if their life is

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Speaker 2: so comfortable at all, I mean, just clushy as all. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: let's see, let's see we agreed. Okay, So it sounds

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Speaker 2: like the grandparents are like okay, yeah, down. Oh interesting,

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Speaker 2: But we didn't discuss much more than watching the baby

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Speaker 2: and their expectations. We are not paid, which you know,

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Speaker 2: if my parents to like, hey, can you watch the kids,

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't I wouldn't be I wouldn't expect them to

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Speaker 2: be like, cop up some cash, Sam.

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Speaker 1: But also, but also it's not like, hey, we're going

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Speaker 1: on a date night. This is like you will full

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Speaker 1: time watch and observe my children. They're every breath in stuff.

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Speaker 2: That's true. That's true. It's a little bit more involved. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: we're not paid, and we didn't ask to be. My

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Speaker 2: daughter and sister in law have plenty of money and

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Speaker 2: are reasonable when it comes to cost. But my sister

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Speaker 2: in law is very cheap. Ooh, I was a teacher

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Speaker 2: and retired two years before I could make my pension.

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Speaker 2: So my husband continued to work and we made a

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Speaker 2: few sacrifices like vacations and adding to our savings, but

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Speaker 2: we were able to make it work so I could

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Speaker 2: take my full pension at fifty five, and my husband

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Speaker 2: retired a year later.

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Speaker 3: Nice finessa system over there.

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Speaker 2: Sounds pretty good. Our arrangement worked and we enjoyed having

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Speaker 2: the kids, except by year three, twenty twenty, we started

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Speaker 2: to feel like they were taking advantage of our help.

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Speaker 1: Wow, three years of full time child Yeah, that's a lot.

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Speaker 1: It's pretty good.

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Speaker 2: That's a lot. That's a lot. Parents. Yeah, I know.

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Speaker 2: It's like are they just like what are they doing?

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Speaker 1: Are they over They're over here at happy hours, just

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Speaker 1: throwing shop backroad.

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Speaker 2: In twenty twenty, during the lockdown, they were both working

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Speaker 2: from home and they expected us to keep the kids

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Speaker 2: all day, and we wanted to split the time during

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Speaker 2: the week since their preschool slash daycare was closed, So

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Speaker 2: basically during twenty twenty, they didn't go to school right

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Speaker 2: and so they were completely at the Yeah, they were

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Speaker 2: grandparents house, the kids grandparents house, so OPI was taking

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Speaker 2: complete care of the kids. Non, that's a lot. That's

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Speaker 2: a lot. We settled on two with them and three

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Speaker 2: pretty much every day. Okay, So, like I understand, takes

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Speaker 2: a village, right, takes a village. What do you want

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Speaker 2: to spend time with your kids?

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Speaker 3: Absolutely not you.

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Speaker 1: I am optimizing every second of my life to ensure

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Speaker 1: that I never have to.

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Speaker 2: Isn't that why? Like you send your kids off to

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Speaker 2: boarding school? You know, Hey, they're the see ya, they're

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Speaker 2: they're mister feather bottoms. Hey problem now?

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Speaker 3: Hey?

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Speaker 1: You know you know I want someone they can relate to.

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm an old, washed up bag of phones, you

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Speaker 1: know what I mean. I want them to talk to

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Speaker 1: people they can relate to, like their grandparents.

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Speaker 3: What was the war?

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Speaker 2: Like grandma? Yeah, things got a little better when the

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Speaker 3: Fast forward to year four.

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Speaker 2: Twenty twenty one. We have a bit of a blow

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Speaker 2: up over kindergarten. My daughter did not want five male

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Speaker 2: I guess the other kid, right, that's actually what they

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Speaker 2: called the kid five mail Hey, five males something that

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Speaker 2: to start school in the unknown. But I insisted that

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Speaker 2: he needed to go because I needed a break. So basically,

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Speaker 2: the daughter was like, hey, like like I don't know

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Speaker 2: this whole thing with COVID, Like, let's keep the kid

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Speaker 2: at home? Ye low key not. I mean, I guess

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Speaker 2: health wise it could be issue, but socially it's also

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Speaker 2: an issue to keep them at home because they're not

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Speaker 2: like socializing. This is true. I also asked for four

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Speaker 2: female to spend more time at preschool slash daycare program.

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Speaker 2: Sister in law complained about the cost, but I pushed anyway.

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Speaker 2: They relented, and then this past spring, sister in law

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Speaker 2: pushed for us to take the kids for a week

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Speaker 2: so they could go on vacation. We said they could

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Speaker 2: take the kids, and he said they couldn't afford it.

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Speaker 2: No one went on vacation. Dude, these parents sound like

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Speaker 2: they just do not want to take care of their kids.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like I don't know, like they I get it,

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Speaker 1: like that, like plane tickets alone, Like what I like,

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Speaker 1: you're probably on COVID, you're partaking a road trip. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's almost the same. I want to go to the Bahamas. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: show kids five? Your five year old demanding to go

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Speaker 2: This was I was impersonating the daughter.

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Speaker 3: Oh right, yeah, the adult daughter, the adult daughter.

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Speaker 2: Yes, sorry, yeah, my hissy fit belies the fact that

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Speaker 2: these people are thirty five. Come on, grow up. Maybe

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Speaker 2: that is too much background, but I feel like the

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Speaker 2: context is important for what I said. My daughter and

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Speaker 2: I asked if everything was okay, and she said, Steve

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Speaker 2: and her were trying for baby number three. Yo, you

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Speaker 2: can't take care of baby number one and two.

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Speaker 1: I think what we need to do, sam is have

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Speaker 2: That is actually what happens. My dad's one of ten.

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Speaker 2: The parents don't raise you. After like six, the oldest

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Speaker 2: kid starts raising all the other kids. I'm raised my kids.

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Speaker 3: Kind of an interesting model.

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Speaker 2: It is pop them out until until they can they

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Speaker 1: Okay, a two income household of like you know, meeting adults,

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Speaker 1: But what about a five income household from teenagers?

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Speaker 3: Exactly?

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Speaker 2: Come on, no, I want every penny of what you

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Speaker 2: make for the Burger king? Is this household right now?

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Speaker 2: And also hand me downs. You get one thing, it

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Speaker 2: gets in the free cycles. By the end of the line,

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Speaker 2: it's just like tattered. Number number ten is just wearing rags.

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Speaker 3: But dad, you can see my nipples. I don't care. Boy.

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Speaker 2: Put that ship on. Put some duct table over those nipples.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, isn't that what the kids like these days?

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Speaker 2: Don't be so, don't be such a prude.

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Speaker 3: Come on.

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Speaker 2: I asked her what her childcare plan was, and she

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Speaker 2: looked at me like I was crazy. I said, us,

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Speaker 2: you know, you're just gonna keep doing what you're doing, right, bro.

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Speaker 2: I said that it would have been nice if she

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Speaker 2: told me this before trying for another baby. She said

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Speaker 2: it was none of my business. I then told her

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Speaker 2: that we were not a viable childcare option for a

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Speaker 2: new baby and begged her to reconsider. And like, okay,

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Speaker 2: low key, like oh, the daughter said, is none of

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Speaker 2: her business. If I'm taking care of your kids, it

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Speaker 2: becomes my business. You asked me full time? Yeah, this

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Speaker 2: is actually this is literally my business. It's my full time. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Like hello, four female is going off to kindergarten. We

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Speaker 2: feel like we were getting our days back to some extent,

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Speaker 2: and I refuse to start all over again with an infant.

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Speaker 2: Erica said we were making her choose between her dream

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Speaker 2: shouldn't ruin that with another baby. I might be the

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Speaker 2: never agreed to a lifetime of raising their kids. And

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Speaker 2: there is a pretty juicy update. Oh but is OPI

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Speaker 2: like like I mean like like a lot of families

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Speaker 2: What do you think of this story? Do you think

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Speaker 2: wrong here? But John questioned to you and to the audience,

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Speaker 2: is OP the a hole for saying I'm not going

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Speaker 2: to raise your third child.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely not, you got it.

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Speaker 2: Uh?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, No, I don't think that OP is the a

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Speaker 1: hole because like OP is literally given three years, three four,

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Speaker 1: five years not complaining either, not complaining of full time childcare.

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Speaker 1: To me, I'm like, you've saved all of that money

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Speaker 1: now you've with the savings that you should have had,

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Speaker 1: you should now be able to start, you know, childcare

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Speaker 2: Exactly exactly. I think I think the time has come. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: the time has come for you to maybe take responsibility

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Speaker 2: of your own children. This is true.

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Speaker 1: Speaking of children, I think we're going to bring a

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Speaker 1: child into the mix. Kiddy ladies and gentlemen, say hi

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Speaker 1: to our child. We'll see if she stays quiet.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, what do you think?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So just to.

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Speaker 1: Summarize, yeah, I do not think that OP is the ahole.

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Speaker 1: They've saved a bunch of money and it's really not

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Speaker 1: it's I don't think it's Ope's obligation.

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Speaker 3: Ye offered a lot.

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Speaker 2: Ultimately, is the it is the parents responsibility, yes, to

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Speaker 2: care for the children. That's that's it. That's that the

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Speaker 2: end of the day. That's that's that right, right. And

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Speaker 2: I don't think you can expect your parents to do

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think there's there's a degree of like, hey,

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Speaker 2: See soon. My husband keeps crashing and ruining my job interviews.

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Speaker 2: I locked him out, but then chaos ensued. Babe, I

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Like, I feel like if they see me, then

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Speaker 3: Oh my god.

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Speaker 2: family standards. They'd mocked me a lot for it, and

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Speaker 3: Sales. Sales is like literally tied to money.

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Speaker 2: What. Yeah, I don't understand. You canna make as much

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Speaker 3: Come on.

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Speaker 2: He suggested he finds me a better job since he

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Speaker 2: Really, I've had several job interviews and my husband has

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Speaker 3: What kind of he says?

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Speaker 1: He's like, Oh, I know how to help you, bro,

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Speaker 2: A good sabotage his argument was that he's just making

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Speaker 2: Several days ago, I'd gotten a job interview, and after

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, get a fucking hint, bro, And then

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Speaker 2: He went off on me, calling me disrespectful and awful

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Speaker 2: to lock him out like that. She said, a fucking interview, bro, who's.

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Speaker 3: Really the disrespectful one here? My guy?

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Speaker 2: I said, I was sorry, Oh b, you don't need

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Speaker 2: I said, I'm not a child, but he said that, yes.

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Speaker 2: I was, especially with how I behaved for excluding him

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Speaker 2: from the interview. Bruh Okay, I want to know what

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Speaker 2: Is Op being the a hole by locking her husband

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Speaker 2: out of the room that she's interviewing in, John, what

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Speaker 1: I didn't know that that call her daddy host had

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Like oh like get the best deal Babel, like

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