Speaker 1: Second date, up date. Some guys feel this way. I
Speaker 1: know I do. But as a man, if a person
Speaker 1: on a dating side ever approaches me and is very
Speaker 1: forward and direct in their pursuit, that sends up alarms.
Speaker 1: It's funny because it's like, boy, this person must be
Speaker 1: really messed up if they actually want me.
Speaker 2: Oh well, actually yeah, actually, now that you like pinpoint
Speaker 2: it to just you and me in the red flag?
Speaker 1: Actually did they lose a bet or something? Am I
Speaker 1: being lured and do a trap of some sort? What
Speaker 1: is going on with you? I do for work, but
Speaker 1: for our listener, Damon, he looked right past those blaring
Speaker 1: alarms and went forward with a different type of date,
Speaker 1: A date he says he's never been on before in
Speaker 1: his life, and he's gone on a lot. So Damon,
Speaker 1: welcome to the show. What type of date was it?
Speaker 3: So?
Speaker 4: I was on a dating app with this girl, Marissa,
Speaker 4: and she called it a contradictory date.
Speaker 1: Contradictory date? What is that date?
Speaker 2: Like you do opposite things, You eat dessert and then
Speaker 2: you work out.
Speaker 4: It was?
Speaker 3: It was?
Speaker 4: It was weird. I had no idea what I was
Speaker 4: getting into, and she told me it's kind of like
Speaker 4: the person and the type of date that you would
Speaker 4: normally not go on. So it's counter through what you're using.
Speaker 5: So is she telling you a little offensive to you? Yeah,
Speaker 5: because basically she's saying you're not my type.
Speaker 4: So that's the thing, is like, Yeah, it was kind
Speaker 4: of like a backhanded compliment. She was like, nothing about
Speaker 4: your profile really speaks to me. But I.
Speaker 2: Mean I could see where like you've been doing the
Speaker 2: same thing for so long and you're like it's not
Speaker 2: working on.
Speaker 5: These apps, so let me do the good.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe what she's saying isn't that like you're bad,
Speaker 1: It's that I have bad taste, so I need to
Speaker 1: switch its icky. Yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah, well she did say that I was cute, so
Speaker 4: I took that as a good side.
Speaker 2: She's like, go on a date you Usually I go
Speaker 2: with hot, muscular, but you're sick.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's like going for a person who're not
Speaker 1: normally going for. And what was the other part of
Speaker 1: a contradictory.
Speaker 4: Date, Well, it was like going for a person but
Speaker 4: also going four experiences. And her friends apparently told her
Speaker 4: about this type of date and she was like, screw it,
Speaker 4: I'll try it. And apparently she was like, would I
Speaker 4: be up for this? And I was like, sure, that
Speaker 4: sounds interesting experimental? Why not well out there?
Speaker 1: So like, did she explain what was contradicting? Like you
Speaker 1: said the date itself.
Speaker 5: Was even the activity atty is supposed to be.
Speaker 4: Different exactly, So I guess. I mean, like from her
Speaker 4: profile and from her photos and everything, it looked like
Speaker 4: she was like a really outdoorsy type of person. And
Speaker 4: don't get me wrong, I like going out, but when
Speaker 4: I'm going out, I like to do more like urban
Speaker 4: exploration stuff and.
Speaker 3: Go to like a.
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, Well you want to have five bars on
Speaker 1: your phone signal wherever you're going. Make sense to me.
Speaker 5: So what did you guys end up doing?
Speaker 4: Yeah, we went out to a bar. We went out
Speaker 4: to a pool hall, I know.
Speaker 2: And okay, you like, okay, yeah, so it was something
Speaker 2: new for.
Speaker 4: Really Yeah, yeah, because she was like, I want to
Speaker 4: do stuff that I don't normally do.
Speaker 2: Well, maybe she's not calling you back because she hated it.
Speaker 4: No, no, no, she seemed to enjoy it. And it's
Speaker 4: weird too because she was like, do something you would
Speaker 4: normally do, and I would normally go and play pool
Speaker 4: at this pool hall with my friends, and so she
Speaker 4: was like, you should also invite your friends so I
Speaker 4: can get to know them and everything. And I was like, sure,
Speaker 4: for a first day it was weird. I mean, don't
Speaker 4: get me wrong, like that's not how I play it.
Speaker 4: But at the same time, like she was gung ho
Speaker 4: about it.
Speaker 2: So I was like, all right, oh my god, what
Speaker 2: were your friends reactions when you told them what they
Speaker 2: were meeting you up and meeting up with you for I.
Speaker 4: Mean before the date, they were like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 4: she's gonna be a catfish or whatever. And then when
Speaker 4: we got there, and when she got there and we
Speaker 4: were all playing pool and we were all getting a long,
Speaker 4: they kind of pulled me aside. They were like, dude,
Speaker 4: she's actually really hot.
Speaker 1: So did the friends sign of approval?
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 4: And so at this first point, I was like, you know,
Speaker 4: speaking of a contradictory date and everything, I was. I
Speaker 4: was kind of like, usually on one of my dates
Speaker 4: at this point, I would have gotten a second base
Speaker 4: by now. So you should contradict yourself.
Speaker 1: If you want to do stuff that you normally don't do,
Speaker 1: you should start kissing that that's funny.
Speaker 5: Did she laugh?
Speaker 6: She did?
Speaker 4: She did laugh.
Speaker 5: Okay, but she didn't kiss you right then?
Speaker 4: No, No, no, not at all.
Speaker 1: Okay, So was that the whole date? You guys just
Speaker 1: did beer and pool with your buddies.
Speaker 4: Well no, So she was actually asking me, like, what
Speaker 4: do you normally do from here? And the game was on,
Speaker 4: so we went to a sports bar and we're drinking
Speaker 4: and watching college football.
Speaker 2: I'm sure she asked you normally do with your friends,
Speaker 2: not what you normally do on a date, you're.
Speaker 4: I mean she was trying to like kind of get
Speaker 4: out of her comfort zone.
Speaker 1: Got it.
Speaker 4: So she was like, how do you normally hang? How
Speaker 4: do you normally chill? And we can turn that into
Speaker 4: a date?
Speaker 1: Okay? All, so maybe it's like Alexus said, it's a
Speaker 1: fun night with the bros, but nothing necessarily romantic unless
Speaker 1: I don't know, how did it end?
Speaker 4: So I told her, I mean, you know, at that point,
Speaker 4: I was like, I tell you what, this isn't over.
Speaker 4: You owe me at this point. How about I get
Speaker 4: a contradictory date and I will do all of the
Speaker 4: things that are outside of my comfort zone and more
Speaker 4: within your realm.
Speaker 5: I love that. I mean that's cute.
Speaker 3: Try to leave it open.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and I've been texting her only like once or twice.
Speaker 4: I'm not trying to be like super pushy about it.
Speaker 5: Once or twice an hour.
Speaker 6: I feel like at least you gave her the out,
Speaker 6: Like even if she had a bad date, she can
Speaker 6: drag you on a bad date next, Like, now it's.
Speaker 5: Her if you have one bad date, who doesn't want
Speaker 5: another life.
Speaker 4: Honestly, I would love a BA date with her.
Speaker 1: Okay, let's talk to her, get her on the phone,
Speaker 1: and try to convince her to take you on the
Speaker 1: absolute worst date of your entire life when you come
Speaker 1: back for a second date. Update right after that second date.
Speaker 1: Update if you're just joining us. We've been talking to
Speaker 1: Damon about his contradictory date with Marissa, which is a
Speaker 1: new thing that we just learned about, where you go
Speaker 1: out with someone you normally wouldn't go for and do
Speaker 1: activities you normally wouldn't do.
Speaker 2: Oh man, that's a lot of wood. It's there, you know,
Speaker 2: like maybe we just do the one, not both.
Speaker 1: Well, like if we were to do that on our show,
Speaker 1: jose would run a five k oh my god, well
Speaker 1: he'd walk it. Yeah, not even uber eats guy to
Speaker 1: do it for you. An Alexis would go out with
Speaker 1: an American man to a comedy pun off, I can't
Speaker 1: think about, Oh my god, a pun off American. Oh
Speaker 1: no so. But our listener Damon was challenged to do
Speaker 1: that go on a contradictory date with Marissa, and that
Speaker 1: consisted of her drinking beers, playing pool, and watching football
Speaker 1: because she normally doesn't do any of that.
Speaker 5: Yeah, do you regret Damon?
Speaker 2: If? Like, because I know now you want her to
Speaker 2: take you out doing stuff you don't normally do.
Speaker 5: Like, maybe you should have started with.
Speaker 2: That, you know what I'm saying, Like the first date
Speaker 2: should have been all about things she likes that you
Speaker 2: have never done.
Speaker 5: Well, it's too late now, bru.
Speaker 1: Try to read through the pity of what she just said.
Speaker 1: Do you feel like maybe you could have done a
Speaker 1: better job.
Speaker 4: I mean, don't get it wrong, Like that is a
Speaker 4: smart idea. I would have gone with that. But at
Speaker 4: the same time, she was the one that kind of
Speaker 4: came at me with this notion that's has egged on
Speaker 4: by her friends.
Speaker 1: So I like that if she didn't like any part
Speaker 1: of the date, when we call her, were just like, Hey,
Speaker 1: that's your fault. You wanted this, you brought it upon yourself.
Speaker 5: Blame your friends.
Speaker 4: Yes, I wouldn't throw it in her face like that.
Speaker 1: Well I will. You don't have to. Guy, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: call her right now and we're gonna make her feel
Speaker 1: bad if she didn't.
Speaker 5: Have a good Is that what we're gonna do.
Speaker 1: Well, we'll convince her to take you on the worst
Speaker 1: date ever. That was what you want, the worst date ever.
Speaker 1: Let's go. Okay, let's make you hate this. We're going
Speaker 1: to do it. Here we go. Hello, Hey is this Marissa?
Speaker 1: I it is Hey Marissa. I think that you think
Speaker 1: you said yes, Yeah, she did said phone's not great.
Speaker 1: But Marissa, you're on the radio right now with a
Speaker 1: show called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 3: Hi, what's happening right now?
Speaker 1: What's happening is a segment that we do on the
Speaker 1: show called a second date update.
Speaker 5: Hey, you're on the show.
Speaker 2: Show. Okay, try to be pop, jeff it's not coming through.
Speaker 1: It sounds very sarcastic if I but no, we are.
Speaker 5: We're all I'm not going to try anymore.
Speaker 1: That's the spirit broke anyway, Marissa. We actually are excited
Speaker 1: to talk to you because we've spoke earlier to a
Speaker 1: guy that you went on a date with named Damon.
Speaker 2: Oh Man, you'd say somebody else's name.
Speaker 3: At first, I don't know what I was. I was hoping.
Speaker 3: You guys have caught me so off guard.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's okay. I mean maybe you're just kind of taking.
Speaker 7: It all in.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, we're contacting you for a good reason because
Speaker 1: Damon said he had a really nice time with you.
Speaker 1: He actually told us about the whole idea, which we
Speaker 1: thought was really interesting. You wanted to do a contradictory date. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it is kind of silly. We heard about it. It
Speaker 1: was interesting.
Speaker 2: I mean, I gotta say good for you for proposing
Speaker 2: this and telling him you're not someone that would normally
Speaker 2: go for and then having him still agree to a date.
Speaker 3: I felt so bad saying it, but you know, I
Speaker 3: wanted to be upfront with him, right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he wasn't insulted at all. He was actually really
Speaker 2: excited about you know how different you were.
Speaker 1: We're just trying to get a vibe of, like, what
Speaker 1: did you think about your contradictory day? Did you have
Speaker 1: a good time?
Speaker 3: I actually did have a good time. I mean, this
Speaker 3: was not my idea, right. It was my friends who
Speaker 3: suggested it. I thought they were insane, but clearly what
Speaker 3: I was doing wasn't working for me anyway. So I
Speaker 3: was like, Okay, we'll just try something. And it was
Speaker 3: probably the most relaxed date I've ever been on.
Speaker 5: Well that's that's great news.
Speaker 3: Normally, like it was hanging out, it was watching sports,
Speaker 3: it was you know, going to bars, and like.
Speaker 5: You know, oh my gosh, wait were your friends right?
Speaker 2: Was this like something to get you out of your
Speaker 2: comfort zone and find somebody you actually like?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I didn't want it to be right.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, but you did have a good time.
Speaker 3: I'm like embarrassed to say that I did have a
Speaker 3: good time.
Speaker 1: Why aren't you calling Damon back? If you guys had
Speaker 1: a blast together?
Speaker 5: What's embarrassing about it?
Speaker 3: Well, he's he is normally not not my type. That's
Speaker 3: not something that I've ever done before. I feel like
Speaker 3: we just like leapt to the like the third date,
Speaker 3: you know, where you just get to hang out, you
Speaker 3: know what I mean. It was so it was so
Speaker 3: chill and it was so comfortable, and I don't know
Speaker 3: what to do with that. That's like not what I'm
Speaker 3: used to.
Speaker 2: You know, it freaks you out that you are so
Speaker 2: comfortable with him? Is that what you're getting to?
Speaker 3: Yeah? I guess Okay, does that sound crazy?
Speaker 1: So now you want to go back to your normal.
Speaker 5: Type the ones that make are really uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: On edge and you're not having fun or everything.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't feel like you're self.
Speaker 3: Well, when you put it that way, it doesn't sound so.
Speaker 1: Good, doesn't But that sounds like what you're saying you want.
Speaker 3: Isn't that what dating should be?
Speaker 7: No?
Speaker 1: Well, like, yes, for a little bit, I don't think so.
Speaker 2: I think that when you meet somebody that you feel
Speaker 2: more yourself with than anyone else, then that's the sign
Speaker 2: that that could be it like, that could be the person.
Speaker 5: You're supposed to be with. I don't know about forever,
Speaker 5: but at least for right now.
Speaker 3: You saying that, actually scarce, say a lot?
Speaker 1: Are you doing? Why are you scaring the women on
Speaker 1: the phone we're talking about them feeling.
Speaker 5: Good just because you like him?
Speaker 1: Rush into anything?
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, people for like two years and we're still
Speaker 2: not doing.
Speaker 1: If you want to feel like uncomfortable and like you
Speaker 1: don't know what's going on, then let me do this
Speaker 1: to you and surprise you by telling you Damon has
Speaker 1: been secretly listening to this conversation wanting to talk to you.
Speaker 1: Doesn't that you out?
Speaker 4: Uh So it sounds like you were shocked that you
Speaker 4: had such a good time with me.
Speaker 3: Huh Oh, yeah, I didn't expect to, but I did.
Speaker 3: I mean, like, nothing in my body says like I
Speaker 3: should have had a good time, but I I mean,
Speaker 3: I've kind of been thinking about you, which.
Speaker 1: Is weird, and you're making her feel too comfortable.
Speaker 4: I mean, I'm kind of blushing on my end. I mean,
Speaker 4: I'm glad I've made you feel good. I'm sorry that
Speaker 4: apparently other dates haven't made you feel good.
Speaker 1: She doesn't want to, she doesn't want to enjoy your time.
Speaker 3: Scared. Oh boy boy, you are so cute.
Speaker 7: Are you opening to feel more good in the future,
Speaker 7: because I, like I said at the end of our date,
Speaker 7: I'm down to have a contradictory date the other way, Yeah, around.
Speaker 2: A bad date like you want it, or you just
Speaker 2: tell them to treat you poorly all night long, because that.
Speaker 3: Would definitely make me feel more comfortable.
Speaker 5: One of my sure friends. As the shirt says, don't
Speaker 5: be mean it turns me on.
Speaker 1: Yeah, damon, are you capable of that? Can you be
Speaker 1: the opposite of what you normally are?
Speaker 4: I mean, that would be way outside my own comfort zone,
Speaker 4: and that's not exactly what I had in mind for
Speaker 4: a contradictory date. But that's what she's into.
Speaker 5: It's different, that's awesome.
Speaker 1: It is possible. Like Brooks said that, maybe there's a
Speaker 1: chance you two are just made for each other opposite.
Speaker 5: They do say that, so this contradicting thing may be onto.
Speaker 1: Something makes me sick to say it. But yeah, you
Speaker 1: guys sound cute, and that's contradictory to everything that I
Speaker 1: believe in. So yeah, I mean, this is disgusting. I
Speaker 1: am I want to get off the phone with these two.
Speaker 1: I'm wondering.
Speaker 4: I'm wondering if Marissa has been out with you before, mister.
Speaker 1: I mean, she's not my type, so yeah, him. Anyway, Look,
Speaker 1: we want to send you guys out on another date.
Speaker 1: That's the whole reason that we called you, Marissa. We
Speaker 1: will pay for it if you say yes.
Speaker 5: If you don't say yes, I'm going to call all
Speaker 5: your girlfriends. I'm gonna let them know listeners.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, all my girlfriends are going to start
Speaker 3: dating this way. This is going to be crazy. I
Speaker 3: think they would kill me if I if I said no, Gamon,
Speaker 3: I would like to go on another date with you.
Speaker 1: It's so cute, It's disgustingly beautiful. Congratulations too.
Speaker 4: I'm so excited to go on the worst date of
Speaker 4: my life.
Speaker 3: I will do whatever I can to make it terrible.
Speaker 1: This is a come we needed, Yeah, rookie Jeffrey in
Speaker 1: the morning. Was that the most sweetest, touching second date
Speaker 1: update we've done all year?
Speaker 6: Yes?
Speaker 5: And my soul needed that. It was so good. Look,
Speaker 5: there's hope for love out there. People don't give up.
Speaker 5: Try something new, try something different. You can do it right.
Speaker 1: Tell me you don't want to hear a part three
Speaker 1: from these two? Get an update update. I don't know
Speaker 1: if I could stomach it.
Speaker 5: Unless they go on the second date and it's terrible.
Speaker 3: Yeah, heartbroken.
Speaker 5: I want to know is that she gonna have just
Speaker 5: as much fun as he.
Speaker 1: This is just making all of our single listeners feel
Speaker 1: bad listening to stuff like this.
Speaker 5: Did you give him hope?
Speaker 1: Nobody wants hope.
Speaker 6: Yes, Johan, Yeah, Well if you do have any hope left, yikes,
Speaker 6: But you can always email the show.
Speaker 1: We'll call that person who's not calling you back. Go
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