1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:03,800 Speaker 1: My family always left me out. So I finally confronted 2 00:00:03,840 --> 00:00:06,760 Speaker 1: my parents about their blatant favoritism. 3 00:00:06,880 --> 00:00:08,639 Speaker 2: Confront them, front them. 4 00:00:08,680 --> 00:00:11,360 Speaker 1: So, I, twenty seven year old male, am the third 5 00:00:11,480 --> 00:00:14,880 Speaker 1: of four siblings and have always felt like an afterthought. Lourie, 6 00:00:15,000 --> 00:00:18,840 Speaker 1: we might need the whiteboard for this. Lowie thirty three 7 00:00:18,920 --> 00:00:21,560 Speaker 1: year old female, Chuck twenty nine year old male, and 8 00:00:21,680 --> 00:00:25,119 Speaker 1: Jade twenty five year old female, so somewhat around the 9 00:00:25,160 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 1: same age as a little gap between the youngest and oldest. 10 00:00:29,000 --> 00:00:31,560 Speaker 1: Have always gotten the first and best for my parents 11 00:00:31,640 --> 00:00:35,120 Speaker 1: and each other. I get the leftovers if I'm lucky. Wait, 12 00:00:35,200 --> 00:00:41,120 Speaker 1: so twenty seven Okay, so he's like middle middlest child. 13 00:00:41,200 --> 00:00:44,040 Speaker 1: So I haven't gotten a birthday present from any of 14 00:00:44,080 --> 00:00:46,080 Speaker 1: my siblings in about ten years. 15 00:00:46,240 --> 00:00:49,080 Speaker 2: What the heck get your siblings? 16 00:00:48,400 --> 00:00:49,840 Speaker 3: What are you doing? 17 00:00:50,080 --> 00:00:53,199 Speaker 2: I always can say I'm a gift. It might come monthsly, 18 00:00:53,880 --> 00:00:55,160 Speaker 2: but I always get them against. 19 00:00:55,200 --> 00:00:57,640 Speaker 1: I just got my brother meet what is it dry 20 00:00:57,680 --> 00:00:59,640 Speaker 1: aging bags for him to dry age his beef? 21 00:01:00,160 --> 00:01:02,080 Speaker 2: That I took Sam to a Remy Wolf concert. 22 00:01:02,080 --> 00:01:03,840 Speaker 3: That was, Oh, really, that's cool. Remy Wolf is cool. 23 00:01:03,880 --> 00:01:04,840 Speaker 2: It was a really good concert. 24 00:01:04,880 --> 00:01:06,720 Speaker 4: Sweet, I thought you just said I got my brother, 25 00:01:06,800 --> 00:01:07,720 Speaker 4: meet my brother. 26 00:01:07,800 --> 00:01:10,560 Speaker 3: You'd be happy with that. But no meat drying bags. 27 00:01:10,760 --> 00:01:11,200 Speaker 3: I love that. 28 00:01:11,560 --> 00:01:13,759 Speaker 1: Okay, So I've got to a birthday president from any 29 00:01:13,760 --> 00:01:15,880 Speaker 1: of my siblings in about ten years, but I still 30 00:01:15,880 --> 00:01:18,199 Speaker 1: get asked to pitch in for group gifts for each 31 00:01:18,240 --> 00:01:19,399 Speaker 1: of them every year. 32 00:01:19,640 --> 00:01:20,640 Speaker 3: It suck. 33 00:01:21,040 --> 00:01:23,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, They're like, yeah, can you, you know, pitch in 34 00:01:23,400 --> 00:01:25,240 Speaker 1: for our presidence, But you don't need a present. It's 35 00:01:25,280 --> 00:01:28,240 Speaker 1: not even like it's the oldest sibling either, where they're like, oh, 36 00:01:28,319 --> 00:01:30,319 Speaker 1: that's basically an adult, they don't need anything. 37 00:01:30,520 --> 00:01:32,639 Speaker 2: Yeah, no, this is like just twenty seven. 38 00:01:32,840 --> 00:01:33,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's a gift. 39 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:37,320 Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from you self serve sports 40 00:01:37,640 --> 00:01:41,399 Speaker 1: wash on the r okay storytime subreddit. So on Friday night, 41 00:01:41,440 --> 00:01:43,600 Speaker 1: we were having a family dinner and it honestly felt 42 00:01:43,640 --> 00:01:45,880 Speaker 1: like every other sentence was a dig at me or 43 00:01:45,920 --> 00:01:48,520 Speaker 1: a less than subtle brag by my siblings about something 44 00:01:48,560 --> 00:01:51,840 Speaker 1: they have been given by my parents that I was denied. 45 00:01:51,960 --> 00:01:55,120 Speaker 1: They talked about how nice almost all of our weddings were, 46 00:01:55,200 --> 00:01:57,600 Speaker 1: but made sure to mention it was okay that my 47 00:01:57,720 --> 00:01:59,960 Speaker 1: wife and I had a small Loafi wedding. 48 00:02:00,440 --> 00:02:04,080 Speaker 2: They were like, yeah, our weddings were so big amazing, amazing, 49 00:02:04,360 --> 00:02:07,320 Speaker 2: it's fantastic, and that yours was like small and lamb. 50 00:02:07,160 --> 00:02:09,760 Speaker 1: It's okay, don't feel bad, not great, but it's okay, 51 00:02:09,880 --> 00:02:11,800 Speaker 1: it's fine, and it was okay. 52 00:02:11,960 --> 00:02:12,600 Speaker 3: We loved it. 53 00:02:12,680 --> 00:02:13,400 Speaker 2: It was okay. 54 00:02:14,040 --> 00:02:15,799 Speaker 3: It was okay, guys. 55 00:02:16,639 --> 00:02:19,359 Speaker 1: But they brushed over the fact that my parents pay 56 00:02:19,480 --> 00:02:21,960 Speaker 1: for all of my siblings' weddings but not mine. 57 00:02:22,200 --> 00:02:24,840 Speaker 2: What the frick? But you had a small wedding. Maybe 58 00:02:24,880 --> 00:02:26,440 Speaker 2: it was so small because they wouldn't pay for it. 59 00:02:26,520 --> 00:02:27,400 Speaker 3: No, that's what I'm thinking. 60 00:02:27,440 --> 00:02:29,440 Speaker 1: Maybe like they had to have a small wedding because 61 00:02:29,480 --> 00:02:32,960 Speaker 1: the parents didn't pay for it. BB memes quick, Alex, 62 00:02:33,040 --> 00:02:36,280 Speaker 1: do you have a meditation content? I could follow going 63 00:02:36,280 --> 00:02:38,160 Speaker 1: through a lot. If so, where do I find you? 64 00:02:38,280 --> 00:02:40,280 Speaker 1: And Hi, guys, love you little warm me. I don't 65 00:02:40,320 --> 00:02:44,760 Speaker 1: have meditation content. I do have content around belonging in connection. 66 00:02:45,000 --> 00:02:47,160 Speaker 1: I'm shouting myself out belonging beings. 67 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:48,639 Speaker 5: No, it's free sponsor. 68 00:02:48,200 --> 00:02:50,520 Speaker 3: Doing it belonging beings on Instagram. 69 00:02:50,600 --> 00:02:53,120 Speaker 2: It's not free sponsors. If he's working for us for. 70 00:02:53,040 --> 00:02:54,240 Speaker 3: Five that's true. 71 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:57,960 Speaker 1: And you can find my substack which has relevant information. 72 00:02:58,919 --> 00:03:01,440 Speaker 1: Just look up Alex Hirshman H E. R. S H 73 00:03:01,639 --> 00:03:04,600 Speaker 1: m a n at sub Stack sponsored dide. I just 74 00:03:04,639 --> 00:03:07,160 Speaker 1: sponsor the crap out of myself right there. John and 75 00:03:07,240 --> 00:03:11,080 Speaker 1: Sam are gonna murder me, they asked, They asked, I 76 00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:14,440 Speaker 1: know they Sam spent, Sam sponsored you, Sam sponsored. 77 00:03:15,760 --> 00:03:16,480 Speaker 2: The stream. 78 00:03:16,639 --> 00:03:17,119 Speaker 4: Yeah. 79 00:03:17,160 --> 00:03:19,800 Speaker 1: I was in your plug. I was in Guatemala when 80 00:03:19,840 --> 00:03:22,600 Speaker 1: Sam plugged me. Yeah yeah, okay, So but thank you 81 00:03:22,600 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 1: for the opportunity b me memes. Okay, Because somehow they 82 00:03:25,480 --> 00:03:28,160 Speaker 1: couldn't afford it, so they bought everyone else's wedding. 83 00:03:28,240 --> 00:03:30,360 Speaker 3: But when it came to op, they're like, we don't. 84 00:03:31,320 --> 00:03:34,920 Speaker 2: We've spent so much money. Five year old and it 85 00:03:34,960 --> 00:03:36,800 Speaker 2: was like, oh okay, we can. We can spend money again. 86 00:03:36,920 --> 00:03:40,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, cowboyt is God says, your wedding was so cute. 87 00:03:41,040 --> 00:03:42,480 Speaker 2: Your wedding was like homely. 88 00:03:42,600 --> 00:03:43,520 Speaker 3: It was really quaint. 89 00:03:43,520 --> 00:03:44,320 Speaker 2: It's really nice. 90 00:03:45,040 --> 00:03:47,280 Speaker 3: It was really rostics intimate. 91 00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:49,160 Speaker 2: But you know, science, does it matter? 92 00:03:50,160 --> 00:03:52,280 Speaker 3: It doesn't. It doesn't. 93 00:03:52,520 --> 00:03:58,040 Speaker 1: It doesn't, Okay, it doesn't because somehow they. 94 00:03:57,800 --> 00:03:59,920 Speaker 4: What was that? What was that I struck a chord? 95 00:04:02,240 --> 00:04:06,880 Speaker 1: Like literally doesn't it doesn't because somehow they couldn't afford 96 00:04:06,920 --> 00:04:09,160 Speaker 1: it because they were saving up for Jay's wedding. 97 00:04:09,560 --> 00:04:10,440 Speaker 3: So they're like, we can't. 98 00:04:10,480 --> 00:04:14,360 Speaker 1: They literally are just like no, shame, like, we can't 99 00:04:14,640 --> 00:04:17,040 Speaker 1: pay for your wedding because we're paying for your sibling's wedding. 100 00:04:17,160 --> 00:04:18,359 Speaker 3: Right, I'm just gonna say it. 101 00:04:18,440 --> 00:04:19,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, they called jibs. 102 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:23,080 Speaker 1: So they brought up how little student loans they have 103 00:04:23,320 --> 00:04:26,400 Speaker 1: because my parents helped them. All of them lived on 104 00:04:26,480 --> 00:04:28,839 Speaker 1: campus at expensive four year schools. 105 00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:30,880 Speaker 3: But also Sophia went to Oxford. 106 00:04:31,120 --> 00:04:32,320 Speaker 2: I literally went to Oxford. 107 00:04:33,120 --> 00:04:36,320 Speaker 3: Say Oxford, educated at Oxford. 108 00:04:36,560 --> 00:04:37,520 Speaker 2: He went to Oxford. 109 00:04:37,560 --> 00:04:38,400 Speaker 4: I went to Oxford. 110 00:04:38,640 --> 00:04:40,279 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm educated. 111 00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:43,359 Speaker 1: All of them lived on campus at expensive for your schools. 112 00:04:43,400 --> 00:04:46,280 Speaker 1: I lived at home and went first to a very prestigious, 113 00:04:46,520 --> 00:04:48,360 Speaker 1: very hard to get into watchmakings. 114 00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:50,680 Speaker 3: Okay, cool, Oh I've never heard that. 115 00:04:50,760 --> 00:04:51,520 Speaker 2: It's pretty sick. 116 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:54,159 Speaker 1: I got paid to attend the school, so I paid 117 00:04:54,240 --> 00:04:57,280 Speaker 1: rent at home. But the parents are paying for your 118 00:04:57,279 --> 00:04:58,720 Speaker 1: siblings to live outside of home. 119 00:04:58,720 --> 00:05:01,960 Speaker 4: But could we get a payment tree here? 120 00:05:02,440 --> 00:05:02,839 Speaker 2: Sucks? 121 00:05:03,120 --> 00:05:04,919 Speaker 4: But yeah, I feel like he's paying up for a 122 00:05:04,960 --> 00:05:05,440 Speaker 4: lot of stuff. 123 00:05:05,440 --> 00:05:08,279 Speaker 1: That's really Yeah, he's paying Hannah should have just paid 124 00:05:08,320 --> 00:05:08,640 Speaker 1: for him. 125 00:05:08,960 --> 00:05:10,520 Speaker 3: This is like, no, this. 126 00:05:10,520 --> 00:05:14,599 Speaker 2: Is like to compare it to our economy, op is 127 00:05:14,680 --> 00:05:18,640 Speaker 2: the middle class paying taxes to support the wealthy one percent. 128 00:05:18,760 --> 00:05:25,279 Speaker 1: Literally, op is actually the one financing their siblings. Yeah, okay, 129 00:05:25,600 --> 00:05:28,800 Speaker 1: I'm reading comments laughing. Okay, so I paid rent at home. 130 00:05:29,000 --> 00:05:32,320 Speaker 1: My parents paid for my tool. Okay, so they got 131 00:05:32,320 --> 00:05:34,599 Speaker 1: financed a little bit by the parents. And I appreciate 132 00:05:34,640 --> 00:05:36,880 Speaker 1: the help, I really do. But they paid one hundred 133 00:05:36,920 --> 00:05:40,280 Speaker 1: and twenty to one hundred and fifty thousand dollars each 134 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:44,000 Speaker 1: for my siblings, so it's potentially like four hundred and 135 00:05:44,040 --> 00:05:45,960 Speaker 1: fifty almost half a million dollars. 136 00:05:46,320 --> 00:05:48,960 Speaker 3: They paid for their education for the. 137 00:05:48,920 --> 00:05:51,080 Speaker 2: Siblings, and they wouldn't they wouldn't pay. 138 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:54,919 Speaker 3: For it, and they paid for their tools for the watch. 139 00:05:55,360 --> 00:05:58,520 Speaker 1: They give me seven K for tools, that's great, weird 140 00:05:58,760 --> 00:06:01,800 Speaker 1: compared to one in twenty one hundred and fifty that's. 141 00:06:01,680 --> 00:06:04,440 Speaker 2: Like not seven kids, not even housing. That's like two 142 00:06:04,520 --> 00:06:06,440 Speaker 2: months rent or maybe I don't know, depending on actually 143 00:06:06,480 --> 00:06:07,719 Speaker 2: that maybe four months rent. 144 00:06:08,160 --> 00:06:09,960 Speaker 3: So but to them it's equal. 145 00:06:10,040 --> 00:06:12,479 Speaker 1: When I went back to school on my own, I 146 00:06:12,520 --> 00:06:14,719 Speaker 1: didn't ask for money and wasn't offered it. When my 147 00:06:14,760 --> 00:06:17,640 Speaker 1: brother went back to school, they covered everything without even 148 00:06:17,720 --> 00:06:20,880 Speaker 1: having to ask. Okay, at this point we got to ask, like, 149 00:06:21,200 --> 00:06:23,600 Speaker 1: is are they adopted? Are they in the fair? 150 00:06:23,720 --> 00:06:24,200 Speaker 2: Baby? 151 00:06:24,600 --> 00:06:27,560 Speaker 3: Like where are they an accident? Like what is happening? 152 00:06:27,640 --> 00:06:30,440 Speaker 2: I think sometimes I don't know. I mean, like at 153 00:06:30,520 --> 00:06:33,839 Speaker 2: least in in shows when you have multiple kids, there's 154 00:06:33,839 --> 00:06:36,680 Speaker 2: always that one kid that's just kind of front. Yeah, 155 00:06:37,480 --> 00:06:38,479 Speaker 2: probably fine. 156 00:06:38,520 --> 00:06:39,280 Speaker 3: It's just jamming. 157 00:06:39,320 --> 00:06:41,960 Speaker 1: No one likes Jammy anyways, and. 158 00:06:41,920 --> 00:06:44,200 Speaker 6: They always do like the weirdest things, like they're like 159 00:06:44,240 --> 00:06:46,120 Speaker 6: the weird one off sibling. 160 00:06:46,320 --> 00:06:48,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, they just don't like know it because there's always. 161 00:06:48,160 --> 00:06:50,080 Speaker 6: Like the two budding out, like they're like the main 162 00:06:50,120 --> 00:06:52,880 Speaker 6: characters and like, all right, you've been in the background. 163 00:06:53,040 --> 00:06:54,839 Speaker 4: Yeah, and that's Opie right now. 164 00:06:55,000 --> 00:06:57,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, like Malcolm in the middle. It's like the very 165 00:06:57,400 --> 00:06:58,320 Speaker 3: youngest one kind. 166 00:06:58,520 --> 00:06:59,520 Speaker 2: I literally was going to make. 167 00:06:59,440 --> 00:07:01,800 Speaker 3: That really, don't you dare call out Dewey right now, 168 00:07:02,080 --> 00:07:04,920 Speaker 3: shout out dude. I loved I loved the goat. 169 00:07:05,120 --> 00:07:06,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, well they put a lot of emphasis on. 170 00:07:06,839 --> 00:07:09,760 Speaker 4: The There was four, so it was Francis. Francis is 171 00:07:09,760 --> 00:07:10,280 Speaker 4: the weird one. 172 00:07:10,400 --> 00:07:13,720 Speaker 2: I like, I love Francis. I had such a crush 173 00:07:13,760 --> 00:07:16,480 Speaker 2: off Francis. Yes, okay, I loved Francis. 174 00:07:16,520 --> 00:07:18,720 Speaker 3: Shout out Francis, shout we're plucking it. 175 00:07:20,600 --> 00:07:24,720 Speaker 4: We're just plucking malchemy. Yeah, it's really. 176 00:07:25,360 --> 00:07:28,480 Speaker 3: It was shout out, it was a fantastic show all right. 177 00:07:28,520 --> 00:07:29,720 Speaker 4: Back to the story, Back to the story, back to 178 00:07:29,720 --> 00:07:30,280 Speaker 4: the story. 179 00:07:30,280 --> 00:07:34,200 Speaker 1: When there was just many other small moments, comments about 180 00:07:34,280 --> 00:07:37,360 Speaker 1: cars and their lifestyle choices. But it made me snap 181 00:07:37,600 --> 00:07:41,000 Speaker 1: was my brother and his wife mentioning their marriage being 182 00:07:41,120 --> 00:07:44,280 Speaker 1: so great because they do things like spontaneous dates like 183 00:07:44,320 --> 00:07:46,600 Speaker 1: the one they had the prior Friday night. The Friday 184 00:07:46,680 --> 00:07:49,520 Speaker 1: night where my parents called my wife and I last 185 00:07:49,600 --> 00:07:52,440 Speaker 1: minute to cancel plans. They had to eat dinner at 186 00:07:52,440 --> 00:07:54,960 Speaker 1: our house because they had to watch Chuck's kid because 187 00:07:55,000 --> 00:07:55,880 Speaker 1: of an emergency. 188 00:07:56,160 --> 00:07:57,440 Speaker 3: Oh so okay. 189 00:07:57,480 --> 00:07:59,680 Speaker 2: So op was like, we were gonna have a date night, 190 00:07:59,720 --> 00:08:02,280 Speaker 2: but then we had to help them my parents. Was 191 00:08:02,280 --> 00:08:03,160 Speaker 2: that just what happened? 192 00:08:03,160 --> 00:08:06,280 Speaker 1: So OPI was gonna, okay, waits he had to eat 193 00:08:06,360 --> 00:08:08,520 Speaker 1: dinner at our Okay, so parents are going to come 194 00:08:08,600 --> 00:08:11,800 Speaker 1: over to Opie's house eat dinner with them, and then 195 00:08:11,960 --> 00:08:14,920 Speaker 1: they canceled because of the emergency. But the emergency was 196 00:08:15,000 --> 00:08:18,920 Speaker 1: in quote because essentially it was that this Op's sibling 197 00:08:19,040 --> 00:08:20,200 Speaker 1: just wanted to go on a date night. 198 00:08:20,440 --> 00:08:21,560 Speaker 3: Oh okay. 199 00:08:21,600 --> 00:08:23,680 Speaker 2: So the sibling was bragging about it, and who was like, 200 00:08:23,840 --> 00:08:24,720 Speaker 2: I freaking had. 201 00:08:24,560 --> 00:08:25,960 Speaker 3: To like like What the frick? 202 00:08:26,160 --> 00:08:28,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you messed up my plans. 203 00:08:28,240 --> 00:08:28,480 Speaker 3: Yeah. 204 00:08:28,920 --> 00:08:32,040 Speaker 1: So it turns out that emergency was a dinner for 205 00:08:32,160 --> 00:08:35,320 Speaker 1: Chuck and my sister in law at Texas Roadhouse. What's 206 00:08:35,320 --> 00:08:38,160 Speaker 1: an emergency? Maybe he needed protein in the stage meat 207 00:08:38,400 --> 00:08:42,720 Speaker 1: sounds good. I had spent hours making my grandpa's zd 208 00:08:42,880 --> 00:08:48,640 Speaker 1: and meatballs with homemade Marinera because my mom's favorite, and 209 00:08:48,679 --> 00:08:49,599 Speaker 1: they canceled. 210 00:08:49,760 --> 00:08:50,480 Speaker 2: That's so much to. 211 00:08:50,679 --> 00:08:52,240 Speaker 3: Hours to make the mari andera. 212 00:08:52,480 --> 00:08:55,560 Speaker 1: I wanted more than anything the scream athumb, but instead 213 00:08:55,640 --> 00:08:57,640 Speaker 1: I got up and left without saying a word, and 214 00:08:57,720 --> 00:09:01,040 Speaker 1: my wife followed me. When my mom later to ask 215 00:09:01,040 --> 00:09:03,920 Speaker 1: why I left, I just explained exactly why. I explained 216 00:09:03,920 --> 00:09:07,160 Speaker 1: the favoritism, the unfairness, and the fact that it doesn't 217 00:09:07,240 --> 00:09:09,640 Speaker 1: feel like they care about me. She didn't say much, 218 00:09:09,720 --> 00:09:12,120 Speaker 1: and I wasn't really looking for an explanation or an 219 00:09:12,120 --> 00:09:14,200 Speaker 1: apology in the moment. I just felt like it was 220 00:09:14,240 --> 00:09:17,160 Speaker 1: self evident, but she really didn't see it. I'd spell 221 00:09:17,320 --> 00:09:18,360 Speaker 1: it out, just. 222 00:09:18,280 --> 00:09:20,440 Speaker 2: Feels like OPI was like, it feels like you don't 223 00:09:20,440 --> 00:09:21,760 Speaker 2: care about me, and the Mom's. 224 00:09:21,520 --> 00:09:23,840 Speaker 3: Like, ooh about that? 225 00:09:25,000 --> 00:09:27,600 Speaker 4: About you care about you? 226 00:09:27,960 --> 00:09:31,200 Speaker 1: Put your siblings though, have you looked. They're pretty cool 227 00:09:31,440 --> 00:09:33,839 Speaker 1: for a sec Mirka weist not. 228 00:09:33,960 --> 00:09:37,439 Speaker 3: The Baked ZD exactly, not the big CD. A lot 229 00:09:37,480 --> 00:09:38,360 Speaker 3: goes into the Bake CD. 230 00:09:38,559 --> 00:09:41,680 Speaker 1: So evidently at least parts of what I said having 231 00:09:41,800 --> 00:09:44,720 Speaker 1: shared with my siblings, because now Chuck and Laurie are 232 00:09:44,760 --> 00:09:47,760 Speaker 1: furious at me and saying I ruined dinner and my 233 00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:49,440 Speaker 1: mom is upset that I am hurt. 234 00:09:49,480 --> 00:09:51,920 Speaker 3: They say I'm immature for keeping score. 235 00:09:52,320 --> 00:09:55,160 Speaker 1: No, they're like, op ruined dinner, and I was like, 236 00:09:55,320 --> 00:09:57,600 Speaker 1: my relationship with all of you guys is ruined. 237 00:09:57,600 --> 00:09:59,720 Speaker 3: And then they're like, yeah, but like you really killed 238 00:09:59,720 --> 00:10:00,000 Speaker 3: the vie. 239 00:10:00,440 --> 00:10:03,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, no, this is not it's not keeping score. It's 240 00:10:03,480 --> 00:10:06,240 Speaker 2: just saying like, hey, you literally care about everyone more 241 00:10:06,240 --> 00:10:06,520 Speaker 2: than may. 242 00:10:06,720 --> 00:10:09,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's one thing to keep score when it's like 243 00:10:09,679 --> 00:10:12,480 Speaker 1: it's not exactly equal, but it's equitable. You know, everyone 244 00:10:12,559 --> 00:10:14,520 Speaker 1: gets their own thing and it's not the same, but 245 00:10:14,559 --> 00:10:16,880 Speaker 1: it kind of all evens out. This is just so evident, 246 00:10:17,040 --> 00:10:20,960 Speaker 1: like zero fifty not equaling out in the slightest and 247 00:10:21,000 --> 00:10:22,119 Speaker 1: it's just so obvious. 248 00:10:22,400 --> 00:10:24,160 Speaker 3: Update so update time. 249 00:10:24,360 --> 00:10:26,600 Speaker 1: About a week after that post, my wife and I 250 00:10:26,640 --> 00:10:28,640 Speaker 1: sat down with my parents and cleared the error. 251 00:10:28,679 --> 00:10:29,800 Speaker 3: Shout out communication. 252 00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:33,240 Speaker 1: Okay, As several people suggested, I wrote down my thoughts 253 00:10:33,240 --> 00:10:36,000 Speaker 1: and compiled to the best of my knowledge of listing 254 00:10:36,040 --> 00:10:38,760 Speaker 1: and full accounting of the disparity and what my siblings 255 00:10:38,760 --> 00:10:41,040 Speaker 1: were given over the years and what I was given. 256 00:10:41,200 --> 00:10:43,440 Speaker 1: I did actually sit down and do the math, and 257 00:10:43,440 --> 00:10:45,920 Speaker 1: it turns out that why I was at the technicom, 258 00:10:46,080 --> 00:10:48,520 Speaker 1: I actually paid my parents more in rent than they 259 00:10:48,520 --> 00:10:51,800 Speaker 1: ever paid for my tools, Like I've paid no more 260 00:10:51,800 --> 00:10:54,760 Speaker 1: than they ever even gave money to OP. And they 261 00:10:54,760 --> 00:10:57,640 Speaker 1: put almost five hundred K half almost half a million 262 00:10:57,679 --> 00:11:01,920 Speaker 1: into OPI's sibling. Ridiculous, But the final reckoning came to 263 00:11:02,200 --> 00:11:05,760 Speaker 1: between around three hundred and seventy thousand dollars on the 264 00:11:05,840 --> 00:11:09,000 Speaker 1: high end Jade to around one hundred and ninety k 265 00:11:09,160 --> 00:11:11,960 Speaker 1: on the low end, Chuck, so even more than the 266 00:11:11,960 --> 00:11:12,960 Speaker 1: original estimation. 267 00:11:13,320 --> 00:11:14,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, what makes sense. 268 00:11:14,520 --> 00:11:15,320 Speaker 7: It's for colleges. 269 00:11:15,480 --> 00:11:17,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, college is expensive. 270 00:11:17,840 --> 00:11:20,760 Speaker 1: For how much my parents directly gave to my siblings 271 00:11:20,800 --> 00:11:22,520 Speaker 1: that they never gave me. Oh and it was their 272 00:11:22,559 --> 00:11:25,840 Speaker 1: weddings as well. Sitting down and seeing the full amount 273 00:11:25,880 --> 00:11:28,360 Speaker 1: all spelled out like that is probably the angriest I 274 00:11:28,440 --> 00:11:29,760 Speaker 1: got during the whole mess. 275 00:11:29,960 --> 00:11:32,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, like they do, like they write a number on 276 00:11:33,160 --> 00:11:34,520 Speaker 2: a sheet of paper in the passitive. 277 00:11:35,520 --> 00:11:39,560 Speaker 1: It was like, yeah, I'm sure it felt like a 278 00:11:39,640 --> 00:11:42,840 Speaker 1: dagger to see the difference between that. But like, op's 279 00:11:42,880 --> 00:11:46,320 Speaker 1: like negative money and they're like in like the what 280 00:11:46,400 --> 00:11:46,720 Speaker 1: was it? 281 00:11:46,760 --> 00:11:46,880 Speaker 6: Like? 282 00:11:46,920 --> 00:11:50,080 Speaker 1: The highest was three hundred and seventy K one of 283 00:11:50,080 --> 00:11:52,920 Speaker 1: them got and he's negative money from the messed up. 284 00:11:53,080 --> 00:11:55,680 Speaker 1: So my parents had been aware that there was discrepancies, 285 00:11:55,720 --> 00:11:58,280 Speaker 1: but really pushed back on the actual amounts until we 286 00:11:58,400 --> 00:12:01,520 Speaker 1: sat down and went through each major gift incident case 287 00:12:01,600 --> 00:12:03,560 Speaker 1: by case. Glad that the parents are like, not like 288 00:12:03,760 --> 00:12:06,200 Speaker 1: f this, We're not even gonna look at it. They're 289 00:12:06,280 --> 00:12:09,320 Speaker 1: like putting on their glasses some sort of deficiting. 290 00:12:09,880 --> 00:12:11,400 Speaker 3: I'm sensing some disparity. 291 00:12:11,960 --> 00:12:15,280 Speaker 2: Interesting, we were going off the laughing curve, which is, 292 00:12:15,640 --> 00:12:20,280 Speaker 2: if you increase spending on all of our other children 293 00:12:20,559 --> 00:12:24,920 Speaker 2: and decrease spending on you, we would balance even. 294 00:12:25,200 --> 00:12:28,520 Speaker 3: That's what we were going for. But which point my 295 00:12:28,600 --> 00:12:30,559 Speaker 3: dad admitted, so. 296 00:12:30,559 --> 00:12:32,440 Speaker 2: I guess I went to Oxford, you're what I went 297 00:12:32,440 --> 00:12:32,920 Speaker 2: to Oxford. 298 00:12:33,280 --> 00:12:34,120 Speaker 3: She went to Oxford. 299 00:12:34,360 --> 00:12:36,360 Speaker 2: I know about the laugh of groo whatever. 300 00:12:36,160 --> 00:12:40,000 Speaker 1: By which point my dad admitted my reckoning was likely conservative. 301 00:12:40,080 --> 00:12:43,760 Speaker 3: So Dad was like it's actually worse than you're thinking 302 00:12:44,120 --> 00:12:48,560 Speaker 3: out a couple zeros in the g A move the decimal. 303 00:12:48,640 --> 00:12:49,800 Speaker 2: We're being a little generous. 304 00:12:51,080 --> 00:12:53,400 Speaker 1: That was more or less the end of any productive 305 00:12:53,440 --> 00:12:55,880 Speaker 1: talk that night. My dad just claimed they didn't think 306 00:12:55,880 --> 00:12:58,440 Speaker 1: it got in that bad, but wouldn't give any details 307 00:12:58,440 --> 00:13:02,160 Speaker 1: about how he could have possibly not notice. In the interim, 308 00:13:02,320 --> 00:13:05,720 Speaker 1: Chuck and Laurie continue to escalate their anger, continue to 309 00:13:05,760 --> 00:13:09,200 Speaker 1: call and text me my parents an extended family, extended 310 00:13:09,280 --> 00:13:12,480 Speaker 1: family like texting like Aunt Jamie. 311 00:13:12,240 --> 00:13:15,040 Speaker 2: Believe this? Are you saying that we don't give them 312 00:13:15,080 --> 00:13:15,640 Speaker 2: any money? 313 00:13:15,840 --> 00:13:16,520 Speaker 3: Ridiculous? 314 00:13:16,720 --> 00:13:17,719 Speaker 2: That's stupid. 315 00:13:17,920 --> 00:13:19,600 Speaker 3: Anyways, you shouldn't give them money. 316 00:13:19,360 --> 00:13:22,040 Speaker 2: Now, stop sending them birthday gifts. 317 00:13:22,160 --> 00:13:25,199 Speaker 3: Yeah. Well, I'm always confused with whever we have involve 318 00:13:25,280 --> 00:13:26,080 Speaker 3: other people. 319 00:13:26,040 --> 00:13:29,360 Speaker 1: In, Like so many stories people involving like freaking their 320 00:13:29,520 --> 00:13:32,320 Speaker 1: third cousin. I'm like, why your third cousin doesn't like you? 321 00:13:32,360 --> 00:13:34,240 Speaker 1: What does third cousin Amy need to know about this? 322 00:13:34,320 --> 00:13:37,079 Speaker 1: How is that relevant? So I've not spoken to either 323 00:13:37,120 --> 00:13:40,960 Speaker 1: of them directly since, and I don't expect to anytime soon, 324 00:13:41,200 --> 00:13:43,480 Speaker 1: but we wouldn't want you not to talk to us, 325 00:13:43,480 --> 00:13:45,600 Speaker 1: So you could join us live on YouTube every weekday 326 00:13:45,600 --> 00:13:48,360 Speaker 1: at three PMPs teachers tap our profile, don't neglect us. 327 00:13:48,480 --> 00:13:50,400 Speaker 3: Please we get lonely. 328 00:13:50,840 --> 00:13:54,840 Speaker 8: Okay, whatever you say, we get lonely. We get needy too. 329 00:13:55,679 --> 00:14:00,520 Speaker 8: It's winter, winter is coming, it's it's getting cold season. 330 00:14:00,600 --> 00:14:04,760 Speaker 1: We need to there's another relevant update, but let's discuss 331 00:14:05,040 --> 00:14:08,120 Speaker 1: what's happening. I can't imagine, like what the it's probably 332 00:14:08,160 --> 00:14:10,600 Speaker 1: so awkward for the parents again putting on like counting 333 00:14:10,720 --> 00:14:14,599 Speaker 1: glasses and they're like, oh, you're right, that's awkward, Like 334 00:14:14,640 --> 00:14:16,720 Speaker 1: they kind of have to admit that, like, oh, maybe 335 00:14:16,720 --> 00:14:18,440 Speaker 1: we just like our other kids more. 336 00:14:18,800 --> 00:14:20,360 Speaker 2: Maybe we just don't like you. 337 00:14:20,640 --> 00:14:22,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, Like there must be a like there to be 338 00:14:22,960 --> 00:14:25,720 Speaker 1: a reason. There needs to be like a really relevant reason. 339 00:14:25,800 --> 00:14:29,720 Speaker 1: Otherwise it's like it's already such a bad look. It's 340 00:14:29,760 --> 00:14:31,920 Speaker 1: already so embarrassing, Like how can you come back from 341 00:14:31,960 --> 00:14:35,440 Speaker 1: this cool? So roughly a week after that first sit down, 342 00:14:35,600 --> 00:14:37,600 Speaker 1: my mom and dad asked to meet again. 343 00:14:37,840 --> 00:14:40,400 Speaker 3: And also why the sibling is getting so upset? 344 00:14:40,520 --> 00:14:43,280 Speaker 1: Are they maybe feeling like defensive of like, oh, our 345 00:14:43,360 --> 00:14:45,360 Speaker 1: money is gonna yeah they like, are they. 346 00:14:45,240 --> 00:14:47,360 Speaker 2: Feeling share money? Four ways? 347 00:14:47,440 --> 00:14:48,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, before it. 348 00:14:48,200 --> 00:14:51,520 Speaker 1: Was only three, when we only had three children. Anyways, 349 00:14:51,640 --> 00:14:54,080 Speaker 1: lots was said, but they just is this. They felt 350 00:14:54,080 --> 00:14:56,480 Speaker 1: I was doing well and didn't need their help. Basically, 351 00:14:56,480 --> 00:14:59,080 Speaker 1: they thought I would be fine without them. They admitted 352 00:14:59,080 --> 00:15:02,120 Speaker 1: they probably live outside their means and gave more to 353 00:15:02,200 --> 00:15:04,960 Speaker 1: my older siblings than they should have and could never 354 00:15:05,040 --> 00:15:07,640 Speaker 1: have given me that much. They claimed the timing of 355 00:15:07,640 --> 00:15:09,960 Speaker 1: my wedding lined up with probably the most dire of 356 00:15:10,000 --> 00:15:13,080 Speaker 1: their overspending slash lack of saving, because they were giving 357 00:15:13,080 --> 00:15:16,200 Speaker 1: that money to their other kids, and that they literally 358 00:15:16,200 --> 00:15:18,720 Speaker 1: did not have the funds to live up to their promise, 359 00:15:18,960 --> 00:15:21,320 Speaker 1: especially as they were paying for Jade's tuition, car and 360 00:15:21,400 --> 00:15:23,800 Speaker 1: apartment at the time. So literally they were like, sorry, 361 00:15:23,800 --> 00:15:25,480 Speaker 1: we were paying for her, we couldn't pay for. 362 00:15:25,360 --> 00:15:27,440 Speaker 2: You, and we couldn't split the funds. 363 00:15:27,840 --> 00:15:28,760 Speaker 3: We don't have enough for you. 364 00:15:28,840 --> 00:15:31,520 Speaker 1: They have offered money, they have offered to pay for vacations, 365 00:15:31,520 --> 00:15:33,560 Speaker 1: a car, all kinds of stuff, but I think they 366 00:15:33,600 --> 00:15:36,800 Speaker 1: don't really get it yet. Okay, so like retroactor money 367 00:15:37,560 --> 00:15:39,840 Speaker 1: to fix the problem. Yeah, other than like acknowledging that, 368 00:15:40,080 --> 00:15:41,640 Speaker 1: like that's super isolating and. 369 00:15:41,640 --> 00:15:42,400 Speaker 3: Hurtful for OP. 370 00:15:42,640 --> 00:15:43,120 Speaker 2: Yeah. 371 00:15:43,160 --> 00:15:46,280 Speaker 1: My wife Ellie says, they're worried the favoritism is going 372 00:15:46,360 --> 00:15:49,040 Speaker 1: to end the other kids. Yeah, yeah, they're like, oh, 373 00:15:49,160 --> 00:15:51,320 Speaker 1: this is actually a six setup. Don't ruin this for us? 374 00:15:51,840 --> 00:15:54,280 Speaker 1: For us, Yeah, we got so much money chill. 375 00:15:54,920 --> 00:15:57,360 Speaker 3: Alissa says, we flipped a coin. Yeah. Think they're like, 376 00:15:57,400 --> 00:15:58,680 Speaker 3: who's the rent of the house? 377 00:15:59,080 --> 00:15:59,280 Speaker 4: Op? 378 00:15:59,720 --> 00:15:59,920 Speaker 2: Sorry? 379 00:16:00,040 --> 00:16:02,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, my wife and I don't want their money, but 380 00:16:02,160 --> 00:16:04,960 Speaker 1: we aren't really sure yet what an ideal resolution to 381 00:16:05,000 --> 00:16:06,880 Speaker 1: this looks like. At least they have admitted they were 382 00:16:06,960 --> 00:16:09,400 Speaker 1: unfair and are open to working things out. My wife 383 00:16:09,480 --> 00:16:12,000 Speaker 1: and I spent Easter with Jade and her husband and 384 00:16:12,080 --> 00:16:14,680 Speaker 1: my grandparents. My mom and dad came over in the evening. 385 00:16:14,800 --> 00:16:16,560 Speaker 1: This seems to be more or less a new normal 386 00:16:16,640 --> 00:16:17,000 Speaker 1: for now. 387 00:16:17,160 --> 00:16:19,040 Speaker 3: That's it. That's it, that's the story. 388 00:16:19,160 --> 00:16:20,920 Speaker 2: I mean, at least you talk to them and they 389 00:16:21,200 --> 00:16:22,360 Speaker 2: kind of admitted it. 390 00:16:23,200 --> 00:16:26,920 Speaker 8: Yeah, they're like okay, okay, yeah, what do you do 391 00:16:26,960 --> 00:16:29,560 Speaker 8: about it? 392 00:16:29,560 --> 00:16:31,480 Speaker 1: It almost got to wait with it if it wasn't 393 00:16:31,520 --> 00:16:33,600 Speaker 1: for you meddling kids. 394 00:16:33,920 --> 00:16:36,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I guess this is like I think this 395 00:16:36,160 --> 00:16:40,120 Speaker 2: is a like we're heading towards we're heading on a 396 00:16:40,160 --> 00:16:42,880 Speaker 2: good path, I would say, But it still seems like 397 00:16:42,960 --> 00:16:45,360 Speaker 2: they're in that we can just use money to fix everything, 398 00:16:45,400 --> 00:16:47,640 Speaker 2: for sure. Like money buys our kids labs. 399 00:16:47,720 --> 00:16:51,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, and it seems like they have an irresponsible relationship 400 00:16:51,240 --> 00:16:55,040 Speaker 1: with money and giving it to their children. And so 401 00:16:55,280 --> 00:16:57,680 Speaker 1: I don't think that's going to mend anything with this. 402 00:16:57,680 --> 00:17:00,480 Speaker 1: This is what like got them in the trouble. And 403 00:17:00,520 --> 00:17:02,760 Speaker 1: I think I can't speak for them. I'm not, but 404 00:17:02,880 --> 00:17:05,000 Speaker 1: what I would imagine OP would just want is to 405 00:17:05,040 --> 00:17:06,679 Speaker 1: acknowledge the hurt. 406 00:17:06,560 --> 00:17:07,399 Speaker 2: Just like recognize that. 407 00:17:07,440 --> 00:17:10,760 Speaker 1: Let's have conversations of being excluded from the family, like 408 00:17:10,960 --> 00:17:15,280 Speaker 1: severely financially, just like, yeah, that's so crappy, Like I 409 00:17:15,280 --> 00:17:17,000 Speaker 1: can't imagine what it was like for you, Like we're 410 00:17:17,040 --> 00:17:17,600 Speaker 1: so sorry. 411 00:17:17,600 --> 00:17:20,320 Speaker 3: I imagine, like that's ope, what wants. 412 00:17:20,160 --> 00:17:21,679 Speaker 2: The let's money on therapy? 413 00:17:21,840 --> 00:17:24,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, I kind of look like Francis from How Come 414 00:17:24,280 --> 00:17:26,320 Speaker 1: in the Middle. I don't think so. 415 00:17:26,280 --> 00:17:28,520 Speaker 2: At all see it, but he. 416 00:17:28,600 --> 00:17:32,000 Speaker 6: Was like blonde as well. He's blonde and doesn't have 417 00:17:32,040 --> 00:17:33,040 Speaker 6: a beer. He's like stubble. 418 00:17:33,240 --> 00:17:37,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, he's blond. He looks like in this dark mode Francis. 419 00:17:39,080 --> 00:17:40,440 Speaker 4: I don't think so at all. 420 00:17:40,760 --> 00:17:41,919 Speaker 3: That's the end of that story. 421 00:17:41,960 --> 00:17:45,760 Speaker 1: And if you love us, make sure to subscribe. 422 00:17:46,040 --> 00:17:48,680 Speaker 3: We love you and see you tomorrow. 423 00:17:49,840 --> 00:17:52,280 Speaker 7: This is an episode from Deep Within the archives time 424 00:17:52,320 --> 00:17:58,880 Speaker 7: for okop Rewlas. My husband's sister is trying to set 425 00:17:58,960 --> 00:18:01,440 Speaker 7: him up with another woman, but what he said next 426 00:18:01,560 --> 00:18:02,200 Speaker 7: hurt the most. 427 00:18:02,359 --> 00:18:05,000 Speaker 5: You know, sometimes it's like she's just being a good sister. 428 00:18:05,080 --> 00:18:06,560 Speaker 5: You know, she's like, hey, look it up. 429 00:18:06,520 --> 00:18:09,320 Speaker 7: You're with this ugly sack of dookie when you could 430 00:18:09,359 --> 00:18:12,800 Speaker 7: be with Brazilian supermodel, a Brazilian supermodel. My sister in 431 00:18:12,880 --> 00:18:16,240 Speaker 7: law twenty three female, is my husband's twenty eight male 432 00:18:16,480 --> 00:18:19,520 Speaker 7: half sister. She was the product of their mother's infidelity. 433 00:18:19,640 --> 00:18:22,320 Speaker 7: His father divorced their mother when he was twelve after 434 00:18:22,400 --> 00:18:24,879 Speaker 7: he found out through a paternity test that she wasn't 435 00:18:24,880 --> 00:18:28,320 Speaker 7: his classic. My father in law refused to have anything 436 00:18:28,400 --> 00:18:30,399 Speaker 7: to do with my sister in law, but continue to 437 00:18:30,440 --> 00:18:32,760 Speaker 7: have a relationship with my husband. Because of this, sister 438 00:18:32,840 --> 00:18:35,399 Speaker 7: in law is very clinging to my husband. My husband 439 00:18:35,480 --> 00:18:37,800 Speaker 7: is also very protective of a sister and generally doesn't 440 00:18:37,800 --> 00:18:40,440 Speaker 7: tolerate anything negative being said about her, which is why 441 00:18:40,520 --> 00:18:43,240 Speaker 7: I'm posting this here before mentioning anything to him. My 442 00:18:43,320 --> 00:18:45,199 Speaker 7: husband and I bought a house last year which has 443 00:18:45,240 --> 00:18:48,480 Speaker 7: an indoor swimming pool. My sister in law was super 444 00:18:48,480 --> 00:18:50,440 Speaker 7: excited when she saw it and asked if she could 445 00:18:50,600 --> 00:18:52,800 Speaker 7: use it sometimes with her friend. We said it was fine, 446 00:18:52,800 --> 00:18:55,200 Speaker 7: as long as she gave us notice before she turned up. 447 00:18:55,200 --> 00:18:57,760 Speaker 7: Her and her friend, Chloe, have used it many times before, 448 00:18:57,880 --> 00:19:00,520 Speaker 7: but almost never when my husband is home. He's a 449 00:19:00,600 --> 00:19:03,359 Speaker 7: lawyer and works long hours with lockdown. My husband has 450 00:19:03,359 --> 00:19:05,160 Speaker 7: started to work from home. My sister in law asked 451 00:19:05,160 --> 00:19:06,679 Speaker 7: me if she and Chloe could come over and use 452 00:19:06,720 --> 00:19:09,360 Speaker 7: the pool. I told her I was uncomfortable with them 453 00:19:09,400 --> 00:19:12,320 Speaker 7: coming over as I'm pregnant and don't want to accidentally 454 00:19:12,359 --> 00:19:15,000 Speaker 7: expose the baby to anything risky. My sister in law 455 00:19:15,119 --> 00:19:17,800 Speaker 7: asked if she and Chloe quarantined for two weeks, would 456 00:19:17,800 --> 00:19:19,760 Speaker 7: they be able to come over. My husband said it 457 00:19:19,800 --> 00:19:21,879 Speaker 7: was fine. Two weeks later, they turn up to my house. 458 00:19:21,960 --> 00:19:23,640 Speaker 7: My husband was in the office, so they go straight 459 00:19:23,680 --> 00:19:26,040 Speaker 7: to the pool after making small talk. My husband ends 460 00:19:26,080 --> 00:19:28,040 Speaker 7: up coming out after an hour and we're hanging out 461 00:19:28,040 --> 00:19:29,639 Speaker 7: in the kitchen. My sister in law walks in to 462 00:19:29,680 --> 00:19:31,760 Speaker 7: get a drink and starts talking to my husband before 463 00:19:31,800 --> 00:19:34,160 Speaker 7: she goes back to the pool. She says, Chloe's gonna 464 00:19:34,240 --> 00:19:37,560 Speaker 7: be so happy to see you. It was weird because 465 00:19:37,600 --> 00:19:40,520 Speaker 7: my husband and Chloe aren't close Chloe comes into the 466 00:19:40,600 --> 00:19:42,879 Speaker 7: kitchen two minutes later and spends the rest of the 467 00:19:42,960 --> 00:19:46,159 Speaker 7: time talking to my husband until he excuses himself to 468 00:19:46,160 --> 00:19:48,640 Speaker 7: get back to work. She's super gig, glee and smiley 469 00:19:48,720 --> 00:19:51,160 Speaker 7: when she talks to him. He would say something sarcastic 470 00:19:51,240 --> 00:19:53,560 Speaker 7: and she would laugh like it's the funniest joke she's 471 00:19:53,600 --> 00:19:56,960 Speaker 7: ever heard. Oh boy, it honestly felt like she was 472 00:19:56,960 --> 00:19:57,640 Speaker 7: flirting with him. 473 00:19:57,760 --> 00:19:58,359 Speaker 5: Rapa plee. 474 00:19:58,400 --> 00:20:00,280 Speaker 7: Before she went back to the pool, she he gave 475 00:20:00,320 --> 00:20:03,040 Speaker 7: me this weird, smirky look like Before they leave, they 476 00:20:03,080 --> 00:20:05,480 Speaker 7: ask my husband if he's working from home every day 477 00:20:05,480 --> 00:20:07,840 Speaker 7: of the week, and he confirms that he is. The 478 00:20:07,880 --> 00:20:10,359 Speaker 7: next two weeks, they come over to the house to 479 00:20:10,560 --> 00:20:14,280 Speaker 7: swim every single day, Oh my god, except Chloe never 480 00:20:14,359 --> 00:20:16,960 Speaker 7: gets in the water. Instead, she hangs around the house 481 00:20:17,000 --> 00:20:19,600 Speaker 7: in her bikini she was previously wearing a one piece. 482 00:20:19,640 --> 00:20:22,080 Speaker 7: If it makes a difference. Every single day, whenever my 483 00:20:22,200 --> 00:20:25,080 Speaker 7: husband comes out to hang around me, she quickly interrupts 484 00:20:25,119 --> 00:20:27,240 Speaker 7: him and starts talking until he has. 485 00:20:27,119 --> 00:20:29,640 Speaker 5: To go back to work. Oh my god, I'm your. 486 00:20:29,600 --> 00:20:31,560 Speaker 7: Husband's I made lunch for us all and when I 487 00:20:31,600 --> 00:20:34,320 Speaker 7: excuse myself to call my husband down, my sister in 488 00:20:34,400 --> 00:20:37,120 Speaker 7: law quickly stopped me and said Chloe could call him 489 00:20:37,160 --> 00:20:40,240 Speaker 7: bore me. They shared a look, and Chloe looked really 490 00:20:40,280 --> 00:20:42,560 Speaker 7: happy when she went out to get him. Boe has 491 00:20:42,600 --> 00:20:45,240 Speaker 7: also started to get touchier with my husband. She's put 492 00:20:45,280 --> 00:20:48,520 Speaker 7: her hands on his chest and arms, stands or sits 493 00:20:48,560 --> 00:20:51,200 Speaker 7: really close to him. To my husband's credit, he does 494 00:20:51,320 --> 00:20:54,480 Speaker 7: usually create space between them whenever she does something like this. 495 00:20:54,680 --> 00:20:57,000 Speaker 7: The reason I believe my sister in law is in 496 00:20:57,080 --> 00:20:59,719 Speaker 7: on this is because she's made a few pregnancy related 497 00:20:59,760 --> 00:21:01,960 Speaker 7: jazz at me. Recently, she told me a story about 498 00:21:01,960 --> 00:21:04,440 Speaker 7: how one of her friend's boyfriends was cheating on her 499 00:21:04,480 --> 00:21:06,600 Speaker 7: and then said something along the lines of did you 500 00:21:06,640 --> 00:21:08,560 Speaker 7: know a lot of men start cheating when their wives 501 00:21:08,560 --> 00:21:10,920 Speaker 7: are pregnant. She's also made comments about how I look 502 00:21:10,960 --> 00:21:13,400 Speaker 7: chubby now and it looks weird next to my husband 503 00:21:13,440 --> 00:21:16,520 Speaker 7: because he's quote unquote well built, which is a weird 504 00:21:16,520 --> 00:21:19,639 Speaker 7: thing to say about you, my biologic related brother. If 505 00:21:19,680 --> 00:21:22,159 Speaker 7: she spots my husband out of the office, she quickly 506 00:21:22,200 --> 00:21:25,000 Speaker 7: goes to inform Chloe, I know pregnancy hormones can mess 507 00:21:25,000 --> 00:21:27,000 Speaker 7: with a person's brain, so I'm wondering if I'm just 508 00:21:27,119 --> 00:21:29,120 Speaker 7: looking for something that isn't there. My sister in law 509 00:21:29,160 --> 00:21:31,520 Speaker 7: sent me a text yesterday asking if they could swim 510 00:21:31,560 --> 00:21:33,639 Speaker 7: next week, and I really want to say no, but 511 00:21:33,720 --> 00:21:35,440 Speaker 7: I know she'll whind to my husband if I do. 512 00:21:35,560 --> 00:21:38,719 Speaker 7: I ideally want to have a conversation with him before then, 513 00:21:38,880 --> 00:21:40,720 Speaker 7: but I'm not sure if I should mention the flirting. 514 00:21:40,840 --> 00:21:44,320 Speaker 7: Am I being delusional? And John, there's a beefy update 515 00:21:44,440 --> 00:21:44,760 Speaker 7: coming in? 516 00:21:44,880 --> 00:21:45,080 Speaker 6: Oh? 517 00:21:45,160 --> 00:21:46,640 Speaker 7: Okay, some beef, But what do you think? 518 00:21:46,720 --> 00:21:49,120 Speaker 5: I think it's pretty clear from everything we've seen that 519 00:21:49,200 --> 00:21:51,760 Speaker 5: this woman is absolutely trying to do it, and the 520 00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:54,040 Speaker 5: sister in law is trying to, like, so the seeds 521 00:21:54,040 --> 00:21:56,040 Speaker 5: of it. Talk to the husband and be honest. This 522 00:21:56,160 --> 00:21:57,360 Speaker 5: is how I'm feeling. 523 00:21:57,119 --> 00:22:00,000 Speaker 7: And I imagine the husband isn't like completely a blome 524 00:22:00,440 --> 00:22:02,560 Speaker 7: to what's happening. Yeah, I hate just have an honest 525 00:22:02,560 --> 00:22:04,720 Speaker 7: conversation with your husband. He seems like a reasonable dude. 526 00:22:04,760 --> 00:22:06,360 Speaker 7: I was trying to figure out how he is going 527 00:22:06,359 --> 00:22:08,480 Speaker 7: to bring up the issue. Turns out I didn't have to. 528 00:22:08,640 --> 00:22:10,600 Speaker 7: We were watching a movie and my phone lit up 529 00:22:10,600 --> 00:22:12,720 Speaker 7: with another text for my sister in law telling me 530 00:22:12,760 --> 00:22:14,560 Speaker 7: how she now is going to be here at one 531 00:22:14,600 --> 00:22:17,040 Speaker 7: pm the next day to swim with Chloe. My husband 532 00:22:17,119 --> 00:22:19,280 Speaker 7: saw it and told me to tell her not to come. 533 00:22:19,359 --> 00:22:21,880 Speaker 7: This is really behavior from my husband, because he tends 534 00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:24,199 Speaker 7: to do anything to accommodate my sister in law and 535 00:22:24,520 --> 00:22:28,080 Speaker 7: very rarely refuses her anything. I asked him if something happened, 536 00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:30,040 Speaker 7: and we shrugged it off and kept watching a movie. 537 00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:32,280 Speaker 7: A few minutes later, he paused the movie and said 538 00:22:32,359 --> 00:22:34,600 Speaker 7: he wanted to ask me a question. He asked if 539 00:22:34,640 --> 00:22:37,520 Speaker 7: I noticed Chloe never swam when she came to her house. 540 00:22:37,600 --> 00:22:39,600 Speaker 7: I wish I could say it was calm and collected, 541 00:22:39,640 --> 00:22:43,000 Speaker 7: like the comments were advising, but I ended up laughing hysterically. 542 00:22:43,119 --> 00:22:45,439 Speaker 7: I was, honestly so relieved he brought it up instead 543 00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:47,000 Speaker 7: of me having to be the one to do it. 544 00:22:47,040 --> 00:22:49,320 Speaker 7: I think my husband thought I was losing my mind. 545 00:22:49,320 --> 00:22:51,760 Speaker 7: When I finally stopped laughing, he repeated the question and 546 00:22:51,760 --> 00:22:54,600 Speaker 7: said he wanted a serious answer. I said, of course 547 00:22:54,640 --> 00:22:57,320 Speaker 7: I noticed, and he awkwardly applied, so you must have 548 00:22:57,440 --> 00:23:00,640 Speaker 7: noticed the other thing too. To summarize the conversation that followed, 549 00:23:00,720 --> 00:23:03,440 Speaker 7: my husband hadn't noticed Chloe flirting with him the first 550 00:23:03,440 --> 00:23:05,400 Speaker 7: few days because he was busy with work. He wasn't 551 00:23:05,440 --> 00:23:07,439 Speaker 7: really paying attention to anything else. He said, when she 552 00:23:07,520 --> 00:23:10,120 Speaker 7: started getting handsy is when he suddenly had the light 553 00:23:10,160 --> 00:23:12,480 Speaker 7: bulb moment that she was into him. He says he 554 00:23:12,480 --> 00:23:15,120 Speaker 7: didn't want to unnecessarily stress me out, so he never 555 00:23:15,160 --> 00:23:17,840 Speaker 7: mentioned anything, but he was worried I'd noticed too and 556 00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:21,119 Speaker 7: thought he was interested because he hadn't immediately shut it down. 557 00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:23,640 Speaker 7: He realized he would eventually have to have this talk, 558 00:23:23,640 --> 00:23:25,200 Speaker 7: but he wasn't sure to bring it up. He did 559 00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:28,320 Speaker 7: privately speak with Chloe and told her he was happily 560 00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:31,840 Speaker 7: married and wasn't interested in starting anything with anyone else. Apparently, 561 00:23:31,880 --> 00:23:35,440 Speaker 7: she never took him seriously because she kept touching his strong. 562 00:23:35,320 --> 00:23:36,720 Speaker 5: Sexy arm. Oh God. 563 00:23:37,119 --> 00:23:39,000 Speaker 7: In the end, he called his sister on Sunday to 564 00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:41,880 Speaker 7: tell her either to stop or Chloe couldn't come anymore. 565 00:23:41,960 --> 00:23:44,399 Speaker 7: His sister ended up having a tantrum and said a 566 00:23:44,440 --> 00:23:47,240 Speaker 7: few nasty things about me, the baby in our relationship. 567 00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:50,160 Speaker 7: She insisted I was somehow behind his request and made 568 00:23:50,160 --> 00:23:53,280 Speaker 7: some comments about how I was controlling and insecure because 569 00:23:53,320 --> 00:23:56,080 Speaker 7: I looked like a beach whale compared to Chloe, who 570 00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:58,800 Speaker 7: was younger and hotter. He was pretty pissed at this 571 00:23:58,920 --> 00:24:01,440 Speaker 7: and said if she said something like that about me again, 572 00:24:01,520 --> 00:24:03,639 Speaker 7: he would stop speaking to her. She claimed I had 573 00:24:03,640 --> 00:24:05,879 Speaker 7: baby trapped him, and when my husband pointed out we 574 00:24:05,880 --> 00:24:08,400 Speaker 7: were already married, so I didn't need to trap him, 575 00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:10,080 Speaker 7: and that he was the one who wanted to start 576 00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:13,040 Speaker 7: a family, she kept insisting I had manipulated him into 577 00:24:13,080 --> 00:24:15,719 Speaker 7: feeling this way. She claimed he was unhappy in our 578 00:24:15,720 --> 00:24:18,800 Speaker 7: relationship and he always looked tired because I was forcing 579 00:24:18,920 --> 00:24:22,200 Speaker 7: him to slave away to fund my fancy lifestyle whilst 580 00:24:22,320 --> 00:24:24,840 Speaker 7: I sat on my ass all day. He pointed out 581 00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:26,639 Speaker 7: he chose to be a lawyer knowing he would have 582 00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:29,440 Speaker 7: to work long hours, and I had only recently left 583 00:24:29,440 --> 00:24:32,520 Speaker 7: my job, so her accusations were baseless. She said some 584 00:24:32,560 --> 00:24:34,560 Speaker 7: other stuff along the same lines, But the thing that 585 00:24:34,640 --> 00:24:36,960 Speaker 7: made my husband finally snap was when she said it 586 00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:40,480 Speaker 7: the baby was already ruining everything and it was just 587 00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:42,399 Speaker 7: going to get worse when it was born, and he 588 00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:45,280 Speaker 7: should have dragged me to the abortion clinic while he 589 00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:46,560 Speaker 7: had the chance. 590 00:24:46,760 --> 00:24:47,520 Speaker 5: Oh my god. 591 00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:50,679 Speaker 7: He told her, neither her nor Chloe were welcome in 592 00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:53,320 Speaker 7: her home anymore until they apologize for how they've been 593 00:24:53,359 --> 00:24:55,720 Speaker 7: behaving and for the things my sister in law said. 594 00:24:55,800 --> 00:24:57,800 Speaker 7: He said he wasn't sure he could ever forgive or 595 00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:00,760 Speaker 7: forget what she'd said about our child, even if she'd apologize, 596 00:25:00,800 --> 00:25:03,159 Speaker 7: and he couldn't believe she would even think something like that, 597 00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:05,840 Speaker 7: let alone say it. Apparently she started crying and said 598 00:25:05,880 --> 00:25:07,720 Speaker 7: she was sorry. She said she didn't mean it, and 599 00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:10,199 Speaker 7: she was just scared to lose him, and that she 600 00:25:10,480 --> 00:25:12,879 Speaker 7: wasn't thinking clearly. He hung up on her, and he 601 00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:15,320 Speaker 7: showed me his phone and that she's been calling and 602 00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:17,280 Speaker 7: begging him to reply. I want to know what you 603 00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:19,640 Speaker 7: would think. Would you still have a relationship with a sister? 604 00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:22,240 Speaker 7: Would you still like Chloe into your life even though 605 00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:24,840 Speaker 7: she was obviously flirting with your husband? Put your answers 606 00:25:24,840 --> 00:25:25,520 Speaker 7: in the comments right now. 607 00:25:25,520 --> 00:25:27,840 Speaker 5: Well, season today, I effed up by getting the girl 608 00:25:27,880 --> 00:25:32,000 Speaker 5: I consider a sister to me pregnant. Oh no, you know, 609 00:25:32,720 --> 00:25:36,359 Speaker 5: typically people who you're like, hey, you're my sister, you 610 00:25:36,359 --> 00:25:38,520 Speaker 5: don't try and get them pregnant. 611 00:25:38,640 --> 00:25:39,960 Speaker 7: Do you know? It depends what state you're in. 612 00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:43,600 Speaker 5: You say you're my sister, are you trying to get 613 00:25:43,640 --> 00:25:44,240 Speaker 5: them pregnant? 614 00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:47,440 Speaker 7: It depends on the state. Every state I had different 615 00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:49,280 Speaker 7: laws and rules and regulation. 616 00:25:49,119 --> 00:25:52,639 Speaker 5: You know. Sometimes some some might call it family love. 617 00:25:53,240 --> 00:25:56,639 Speaker 7: Okay, take an Alabama equivalent in like the Europe and 618 00:25:56,800 --> 00:25:57,160 Speaker 7: the Europe. 619 00:25:57,280 --> 00:25:59,800 Speaker 5: Yeah, I was trying to think of other you know, honestly, 620 00:25:59,840 --> 00:26:03,840 Speaker 5: I'm I'm sure. I'm sure it's like the Boonies of every. 621 00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:08,320 Speaker 7: Yeah, I wonder, I wonder what the Alabama of Europe is. Hey, 622 00:26:08,560 --> 00:26:10,399 Speaker 7: all of our europe people, let us know what the 623 00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:11,520 Speaker 7: Alabama of Europe is. 624 00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:14,680 Speaker 5: Please, or wherever you're from. If you're from a country 625 00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:17,000 Speaker 5: that's not the US, let us know what the Alabama 626 00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:19,320 Speaker 5: of your country is. We want to know. 627 00:26:19,600 --> 00:26:26,719 Speaker 7: And we're defining Alabama as the as a population that 628 00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:31,119 Speaker 7: on average sleeps with their sister. 629 00:26:32,560 --> 00:26:34,240 Speaker 5: That's the bar ladies and gentlemen. 630 00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:35,320 Speaker 9: Let us know. 631 00:26:36,760 --> 00:26:39,199 Speaker 5: I'm Sam, I'm John. Let's get into the story. So 632 00:26:39,359 --> 00:26:41,760 Speaker 5: this is probably my biggest f up ever, which will 633 00:26:41,800 --> 00:26:44,600 Speaker 5: haunt me for the next eighteen years. 634 00:26:44,880 --> 00:26:47,600 Speaker 7: Ever Ever, well, I guess like, if you know, if 635 00:26:47,600 --> 00:26:52,520 Speaker 7: it's the ramifications of eighteen years, then it's probably pretty bad. 636 00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:57,240 Speaker 5: Getting the person you consider a sister pregnant probably a 637 00:26:57,240 --> 00:26:58,160 Speaker 5: pretty big mistake. 638 00:26:58,240 --> 00:26:58,439 Speaker 8: I know. 639 00:26:58,680 --> 00:27:06,239 Speaker 7: I feel like on the list of no no's, they 640 00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:08,080 Speaker 7: don't teach you that in school. 641 00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:11,080 Speaker 5: Truly, they don't say, Hey, all of the women in 642 00:27:11,119 --> 00:27:15,000 Speaker 5: your life you consider a sister, don't get them pregnant. Yeah, 643 00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:17,920 Speaker 5: let the people, let's let's put this in the curriculum. Yeah. 644 00:27:18,240 --> 00:27:21,600 Speaker 7: And like, also, you know, what does consider a sister mean? 645 00:27:22,920 --> 00:27:25,400 Speaker 5: Like you are. 646 00:27:28,280 --> 00:27:31,960 Speaker 7: It's like OP likes just actingly my sister, which is. 647 00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:37,159 Speaker 5: Why why Yeah, it only makes sense. 648 00:27:39,000 --> 00:27:41,000 Speaker 7: You don't have to go through too many hoops. 649 00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:44,520 Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, I want to know what the f 650 00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:48,720 Speaker 5: bigger than that is? I mean, uh, maybe maybe killing 651 00:27:48,760 --> 00:27:51,680 Speaker 5: the president, Like if you kill the president, like. 652 00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:55,800 Speaker 7: Certain countries are are rewarded for killing presidents. You know, 653 00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:57,800 Speaker 7: have you ever heard of like a successful coup? I 654 00:27:57,800 --> 00:28:00,840 Speaker 7: mean I know, I'm sure they've happened. Yeah, successful coups. 655 00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:03,440 Speaker 7: They're like, oh, we killed the president, now we're in power. 656 00:28:03,760 --> 00:28:06,920 Speaker 7: That's this is TikTok. This is not saying I'm going 657 00:28:06,359 --> 00:28:11,600 Speaker 7: to podcast Samuel going to kill the president. Old man 658 00:28:11,720 --> 00:28:13,320 Speaker 7: Time is probably gonna do that before. 659 00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:17,000 Speaker 5: That's exactly Mother nature is gonna do her dirty business. 660 00:28:17,280 --> 00:28:17,480 Speaker 8: Oh. 661 00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:20,720 Speaker 7: Joel Baden falling off his bicycle again. 662 00:28:22,640 --> 00:28:25,600 Speaker 5: This is the last ride, everybody. 663 00:28:26,440 --> 00:28:30,080 Speaker 9: You know, Back in my day, bicycles used to have 664 00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:33,640 Speaker 9: one big tire and one small tire That's why I'm 665 00:28:33,640 --> 00:28:37,080 Speaker 9: not used to these new fangled double tired things. 666 00:28:37,800 --> 00:28:41,080 Speaker 5: I'll show you what riding off into the sunset really means. 667 00:28:41,080 --> 00:28:43,520 Speaker 7: Oh yeah, let me uh, let me give you a 668 00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:47,160 Speaker 7: little little kiss on the lips now, because the death 669 00:28:47,280 --> 00:28:49,720 Speaker 7: hands in Joe Biden coming at you. 670 00:28:49,720 --> 00:28:50,440 Speaker 5: You gotta love it. 671 00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:54,880 Speaker 7: Yeah, what handsy Joe Biden. Dude, he gives the best 672 00:28:54,920 --> 00:28:57,760 Speaker 7: massages in the White House. Oh dude, I heard those 673 00:28:57,840 --> 00:28:59,240 Speaker 7: Those shoulders are real. 674 00:29:00,840 --> 00:29:01,120 Speaker 5: Dude. 675 00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:04,880 Speaker 7: You know why Obama is such a great president Joe 676 00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:09,800 Speaker 7: Biden's massages. Giving him a little kiss on the cheek. 677 00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:13,000 Speaker 5: You know. Uh, there's been a lot of talk about 678 00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:17,000 Speaker 5: Joe Biden massages, and I'm here to say that he 679 00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:19,640 Speaker 5: gives the best massages in the world. 680 00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:21,640 Speaker 7: That was Obama? 681 00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:22,120 Speaker 5: Is that you? 682 00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:25,040 Speaker 7: That was great? That was a great impression. You know, 683 00:29:25,400 --> 00:29:27,760 Speaker 7: we're out here, he is out here. Maybe maybe one 684 00:29:27,840 --> 00:29:30,080 Speaker 7: day is out here we'll read We'll read a story 685 00:29:30,120 --> 00:29:34,280 Speaker 7: as Obama. Wow. Wow. I'm I'm just I'm always impressed 686 00:29:34,280 --> 00:29:36,760 Speaker 7: when every like whenever John pulls out a new impression, 687 00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:38,719 Speaker 7: I'm just like, where did that come from? 688 00:29:39,480 --> 00:29:44,000 Speaker 5: Today? I fed up by getting the woman I consider 689 00:29:44,120 --> 00:29:46,840 Speaker 5: my sister pregnant that. 690 00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:51,680 Speaker 7: Was okay, very patriotic. Please please don't deep take me. 691 00:29:51,760 --> 00:29:56,760 Speaker 5: Guys, this just feels so surreal and I'm not necessarily panicking, 692 00:29:56,800 --> 00:29:57,719 Speaker 5: though not panic. 693 00:29:57,800 --> 00:29:59,520 Speaker 7: You should be right, Maybe you should be that he 694 00:29:59,560 --> 00:29:59,960 Speaker 7: should be. 695 00:30:00,080 --> 00:30:01,280 Speaker 5: This is maybe you should be. 696 00:30:01,400 --> 00:30:04,040 Speaker 7: I feel like the fact that you aren't panicking is 697 00:30:04,080 --> 00:30:04,880 Speaker 7: what's worthing is. 698 00:30:05,320 --> 00:30:08,240 Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm twenty three male and my female friend, who 699 00:30:08,240 --> 00:30:10,479 Speaker 5: I've known for the most part of my life is 700 00:30:10,520 --> 00:30:11,520 Speaker 5: currently twenty two. 701 00:30:11,800 --> 00:30:13,600 Speaker 7: The most part of my life, you know, I guess 702 00:30:14,120 --> 00:30:16,520 Speaker 7: most of my life, the most part, the most. 703 00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:19,520 Speaker 5: Part of my life. And I still remember us playing 704 00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:22,680 Speaker 5: every single day as little kids and hanging out almost 705 00:30:22,720 --> 00:30:25,840 Speaker 5: every day as teenagers. We often went on vacations together 706 00:30:26,040 --> 00:30:30,760 Speaker 5: with either my or her parents. Huh, But I. 707 00:30:31,280 --> 00:30:33,840 Speaker 7: Just like, I'm not weird it out yet. 708 00:30:34,280 --> 00:30:37,600 Speaker 5: First, first I get the girl I consider a sister pregnant. 709 00:30:37,680 --> 00:30:39,600 Speaker 5: Then I got her mom pregnant. 710 00:30:39,800 --> 00:30:42,200 Speaker 7: That would be a story, That would be a story. 711 00:30:42,320 --> 00:30:45,160 Speaker 7: But like, is it just like the classic like girl 712 00:30:45,280 --> 00:30:48,560 Speaker 7: next door kind of thing? Oh yeah, maybe you ever 713 00:30:48,600 --> 00:30:49,920 Speaker 7: had a crush on a family friend. 714 00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:52,200 Speaker 5: He was a boy, she was she was a girl. 715 00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:55,480 Speaker 7: It couldn't be any more obvious, couldn't it couldn't and 716 00:30:55,520 --> 00:30:56,920 Speaker 7: it actually, you. 717 00:30:56,840 --> 00:30:59,320 Speaker 5: Know, this story might be the story of that song. 718 00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:01,640 Speaker 7: Because I think it is the song of the summer. 719 00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:04,880 Speaker 5: Fitting pretty well. She was sort of like the sister 720 00:31:05,000 --> 00:31:08,520 Speaker 5: I never had, sort of. 721 00:31:09,320 --> 00:31:12,200 Speaker 7: I wanted to come out that they're related. You know, 722 00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:16,360 Speaker 7: I'm done with this sort of let's stop playing the 723 00:31:16,400 --> 00:31:18,080 Speaker 7: games'll not playing against. 724 00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:19,280 Speaker 5: I'm tiptoeing around the issue. 725 00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:23,080 Speaker 7: Okay, ancestry dot com, find your twenty three and me 726 00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:27,560 Speaker 7: and actually give us the deats, the results, the tea, 727 00:31:28,520 --> 00:31:30,880 Speaker 7: none of this fake tea, none of this steamo. 728 00:31:31,520 --> 00:31:35,960 Speaker 5: And people are now hearing that I got her pregnant. 729 00:31:36,360 --> 00:31:38,960 Speaker 5: It feels like it's almost illegal. 730 00:31:40,000 --> 00:31:43,000 Speaker 7: There's a lot of almost. 731 00:31:44,800 --> 00:31:48,680 Speaker 5: We'll see a few months ago, I was at her apartment, 732 00:31:48,840 --> 00:31:54,680 Speaker 5: both of us super wasted, and yeah, it somehow just happened, 733 00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:57,480 Speaker 5: if you catch my drift. Now, how the heck did 734 00:31:57,520 --> 00:31:59,520 Speaker 5: she get pregnant? I know there are a few of 735 00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:03,680 Speaker 5: you who even get pregnant on birth control, but never 736 00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:07,760 Speaker 5: thought it would happen to us who defunk it. You 737 00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:10,560 Speaker 5: never think it happens to you. Then, you know, you 738 00:32:10,640 --> 00:32:12,840 Speaker 5: always think it's going to just be some some random 739 00:32:12,840 --> 00:32:15,760 Speaker 5: person on a Reddit story. But yeah, it turns out 740 00:32:15,840 --> 00:32:19,520 Speaker 5: random person is you. She took five pregnancy tests and 741 00:32:19,640 --> 00:32:23,600 Speaker 5: one week later went to the gynecologist, who confirmed she 742 00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:24,760 Speaker 5: is pregnant. 743 00:32:24,920 --> 00:32:27,720 Speaker 7: Oh God, I like, I wonder why they didn't hook 744 00:32:27,800 --> 00:32:30,720 Speaker 7: up earlier, Like, if they're both like into each other 745 00:32:30,840 --> 00:32:32,520 Speaker 7: and they've known each other for so long. 746 00:32:32,680 --> 00:32:34,360 Speaker 5: I think I think we'll get more a little more 747 00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:36,920 Speaker 5: insight into into that. At the end of the story, 748 00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:40,160 Speaker 5: we both couldn't bring ourselves to terminate the baby, so 749 00:32:40,520 --> 00:32:44,040 Speaker 5: we're keeping it. We're financially stable, so I don't think 750 00:32:44,080 --> 00:32:49,200 Speaker 5: it will be a problem. There we go, Salute my guy. 751 00:32:49,240 --> 00:32:55,320 Speaker 5: Becoming parents. Here we go life's next great adventure. After 752 00:32:55,400 --> 00:32:58,720 Speaker 5: accidentally getting the girl considered a system to be pregnant, 753 00:32:58,720 --> 00:33:01,160 Speaker 5: we're planning on telling our parents this evening. Now, this 754 00:33:01,240 --> 00:33:04,640 Speaker 5: is so awkward, since they've seen me grow up with her. 755 00:33:05,120 --> 00:33:07,760 Speaker 5: The only one who's been shipping us since day one 756 00:33:08,040 --> 00:33:13,640 Speaker 5: was her grandma. Dude, MEM's Mima's freaking freaking Mimas No, man, 757 00:33:13,920 --> 00:33:16,880 Speaker 5: they you know, have your granny call me up now. 758 00:33:16,960 --> 00:33:19,760 Speaker 5: I still can't believe I'll have to spend eighteen years 759 00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:23,280 Speaker 5: of my life, well not even eighteen years if it's 760 00:33:23,280 --> 00:33:25,000 Speaker 5: a life commitment. Lol. 761 00:33:25,560 --> 00:33:27,760 Speaker 7: I mean more, it's like your kid's always your kids 762 00:33:27,840 --> 00:33:28,560 Speaker 7: the rest of your life. 763 00:33:28,640 --> 00:33:31,760 Speaker 5: Yeah, for those of you suggesting to me to get 764 00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:34,720 Speaker 5: a paternity test. Yes, she even told me that she 765 00:33:34,840 --> 00:33:37,400 Speaker 5: doesn't mind if I'm doubting that the child is mine, 766 00:33:37,640 --> 00:33:41,320 Speaker 5: since the scenario is somehow unlikely. She told me that 767 00:33:41,400 --> 00:33:44,320 Speaker 5: she didn't sleep with another guy for the last two months. 768 00:33:44,880 --> 00:33:47,480 Speaker 5: I'll be taking a paternity test, but I'm already ninety 769 00:33:47,520 --> 00:33:51,920 Speaker 5: nine percent sure the child is mine and there's an 770 00:33:52,080 --> 00:33:56,240 Speaker 5: pat Whoo. Okay, guys, I just went to her parents' house. 771 00:33:56,440 --> 00:33:59,520 Speaker 5: We actually wanted to go in the evening, as I said, 772 00:33:59,600 --> 00:34:02,560 Speaker 5: but the sooner the better, I guess. I was really nervous. 773 00:34:02,720 --> 00:34:05,240 Speaker 5: Her dad was working in the garden and her mom 774 00:34:05,280 --> 00:34:06,240 Speaker 5: was cleaning around the house. 775 00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:09,360 Speaker 7: Oh wait, wait, there's a sent Okay. I just realized 776 00:34:09,400 --> 00:34:11,719 Speaker 7: that we're like, oh my god, we're telling the parents. 777 00:34:11,800 --> 00:34:13,720 Speaker 7: Is are crazy diving in Oh my god. 778 00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:17,120 Speaker 5: After thirty minutes, everyone was gathered in the kitchen, so 779 00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:21,640 Speaker 5: we thought a better opportunity wouldn't come, not like the 780 00:34:21,640 --> 00:34:26,920 Speaker 5: opportunity that already came. My friend, Hey you, Oh my god. 781 00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:31,920 Speaker 5: We told them and I could see the horror in 782 00:34:32,000 --> 00:34:36,680 Speaker 5: their eyes. Oh god, I don't know, but they seemed 783 00:34:36,800 --> 00:34:38,720 Speaker 5: kind of happy but also shocked. 784 00:34:38,719 --> 00:34:42,400 Speaker 7: They're like, we wanted this to have it the whole time, Yeah, 785 00:34:42,520 --> 00:34:45,719 Speaker 7: but but not yet. 786 00:34:45,840 --> 00:34:50,279 Speaker 5: Probably. Her mom was twenty two and twenty three. 787 00:34:50,360 --> 00:34:51,680 Speaker 7: Oh that's pretty yeah, it's pretty young. 788 00:34:51,760 --> 00:34:51,920 Speaker 5: Yeah. 789 00:34:52,520 --> 00:34:52,960 Speaker 7: Yeah. 790 00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:55,680 Speaker 5: Her mom started tearing up, so I guess she's either 791 00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:59,600 Speaker 5: happy or disappointed. Her dad asked why we didn't tell 792 00:34:59,680 --> 00:35:04,000 Speaker 5: them that we were dating, and my god, was that 793 00:35:04,160 --> 00:35:07,040 Speaker 5: such an awkward moment when both of us didn't reply 794 00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:13,879 Speaker 5: and gave him the old awkward silence you know when 795 00:35:13,920 --> 00:35:17,960 Speaker 5: you slip on a banana peel and you ding down. 796 00:35:18,160 --> 00:35:22,319 Speaker 5: Just let's see through the pants and everything. They were 797 00:35:22,320 --> 00:35:24,719 Speaker 5: asking us a bunch of questions, and we even called 798 00:35:24,719 --> 00:35:28,440 Speaker 5: her grandma, telling her that her prediction was right. That's amazing. 799 00:35:28,960 --> 00:35:31,960 Speaker 5: Grandma's now, Grandma's now. We made up an excuse and left. 800 00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:34,360 Speaker 5: Later on, in the car, she gave me a kiss 801 00:35:34,400 --> 00:35:36,080 Speaker 5: and told me that she was proud of me. The 802 00:35:36,120 --> 00:35:39,279 Speaker 5: whole drive, her hand was resting on my thigh, like, 803 00:35:39,760 --> 00:35:43,439 Speaker 5: does this mean she likes me? Do dope? 804 00:35:43,440 --> 00:35:44,160 Speaker 7: You really say that? 805 00:35:44,320 --> 00:35:44,560 Speaker 2: Yes? 806 00:35:44,880 --> 00:35:47,040 Speaker 7: Oh my god, yeah, she likes. 807 00:35:47,000 --> 00:35:49,919 Speaker 5: I wonder I don't want to misinterpret anything to make 808 00:35:49,960 --> 00:35:50,759 Speaker 5: things get worse. 809 00:35:50,840 --> 00:35:52,560 Speaker 7: So you have a kid, you don't need to be 810 00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:57,719 Speaker 7: quoiet anymore, just like be upfront. It's on a first date, well, 811 00:35:57,760 --> 00:36:00,319 Speaker 7: I guess it kind of is low key, though it. 812 00:36:00,280 --> 00:36:02,239 Speaker 5: Is in a way. In a way, she's a very 813 00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:04,319 Speaker 5: very kind person in general. So a bunch of guys 814 00:36:04,360 --> 00:36:07,840 Speaker 5: always thought she liked them. Meanwhile, she was only being nice. 815 00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:09,680 Speaker 5: And there's one final update. 816 00:36:09,840 --> 00:36:10,560 Speaker 7: Okay, let's hear it. 817 00:36:10,800 --> 00:36:13,520 Speaker 5: Okay, guys, here it is. I discussed everything with her 818 00:36:13,560 --> 00:36:16,160 Speaker 5: that needed to be discussed. We're planning on moving in 819 00:36:16,239 --> 00:36:18,920 Speaker 5: together when she's six to seven months pregnant, and we'll 820 00:36:18,920 --> 00:36:20,440 Speaker 5: see how it works. 821 00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:24,880 Speaker 7: Wow, roller coaster dude, Yeah, exciting, exciting, you're going to 822 00:36:24,920 --> 00:36:26,000 Speaker 7: be a dad, Opie. 823 00:36:26,239 --> 00:36:28,560 Speaker 5: We both admitted to having feelings for each other, so 824 00:36:28,800 --> 00:36:31,839 Speaker 5: we'll see where it goes and leave our relationship how 825 00:36:31,880 --> 00:36:36,600 Speaker 5: it is best friends who live together and hook up. 826 00:36:36,880 --> 00:36:37,280 Speaker 5: I guess. 827 00:36:39,080 --> 00:36:43,120 Speaker 7: Oh oh boo pee, how I met your mother? 828 00:36:43,680 --> 00:36:47,279 Speaker 5: Seriously, Season forty, Thanks for all the encouragement, and I 829 00:36:47,400 --> 00:36:49,640 Speaker 5: lied because there's one final update. I find it sort 830 00:36:49,640 --> 00:36:52,560 Speaker 5: of funny how people are actually believing that I was 831 00:36:52,560 --> 00:36:56,680 Speaker 5: oblivious to her liking me. Which actually wasn't. Haha, sounds 832 00:36:56,719 --> 00:36:59,160 Speaker 5: like it was. It sounds like you're going to cover 833 00:36:59,239 --> 00:37:03,040 Speaker 5: your Trackso for being a nerd, well, maybe a bit 834 00:37:03,920 --> 00:37:07,120 Speaker 5: realizing that she's been dropping hints since we were sixteen. 835 00:37:07,000 --> 00:37:11,080 Speaker 7: Since you were sixteen. It's a lot of hints, dude, 836 00:37:11,200 --> 00:37:12,239 Speaker 7: it's a lot of mishints. 837 00:37:12,320 --> 00:37:14,920 Speaker 5: The final sentence is sweet. The best feeling is to 838 00:37:14,920 --> 00:37:17,480 Speaker 5: find a best friend in a lover, and I couldn't 839 00:37:17,520 --> 00:37:20,839 Speaker 5: imagine loving anyone as much as I love her. 840 00:37:21,640 --> 00:37:26,600 Speaker 7: Damn, that's cute, that's adorable. Get that shit away from me, though. 841 00:37:26,680 --> 00:37:27,759 Speaker 5: Congrats on getting. 842 00:37:27,480 --> 00:37:30,040 Speaker 7: Your sister right away from me. Don't make me sad. 843 00:37:31,440 --> 00:37:32,520 Speaker 7: Don't make me sad.