Speaker 1: Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife.
Speaker 2: She cooked, she cleaned, cared for her children and the
Speaker 2: man of the house, and of course she didn't talk back.
Speaker 3: She was both.
Speaker 1: Obedient and soft by nature.
Speaker 2: She was a good woman who always made good choices.
Speaker 3: That we're good mom's bad choices.
Speaker 4: Who's single mom?
Speaker 3: Who said?
Speaker 5: But the patriarchy shared all their bad choices and found
Speaker 5: out they were so bad after all, we're experts overhairs
Speaker 5: and your new vestie.
Speaker 4: Sit back and do the ride.
Speaker 3: I can do a bad I can.
Speaker 2: Do a bad on my.
Speaker 5: Welcome back to good Mom's bad choices. I'm Erica and
Speaker 5: I'm Nila. Happy humpday, bitches, It's another wonderful hump day
Speaker 5: in the neighborhood of good Mom's bad choices.
Speaker 3: Welcome, Welcome.
Speaker 4: How are you feeling.
Speaker 6: I feel good, I feel great.
Speaker 3: I feel tan, I feel moisturized.
Speaker 6: I just came back from a trip, so I feel good.
Speaker 4: Goodout you.
Speaker 5: I feel great, I feel activated. I just turned thirty eight.
Speaker 5: I want you a Matrix sex party. I had a
Speaker 5: hell of a weekend, a hotel staycation.
Speaker 4: I'm a little bit, you.
Speaker 5: Know, catching up, but I feel very grown and sexy.
Speaker 3: I do awesome.
Speaker 7: I love that for you, friend, because you were really
Speaker 7: paranoid and stressed about turning thirty eight.
Speaker 4: I was really parent.
Speaker 5: I was just like, oh God, time is moving so
Speaker 5: fast and there's nothing I could do about it. With
Speaker 5: the fuck every year, That's what I feel like. But yeah,
Speaker 5: I'm feeling grounded and time. But we have a special
Speaker 5: guests today, so let's not waste any time we do.
Speaker 5: This is a very special duo because we haven't had
Speaker 5: a friendship duo on the show in some time. They
Speaker 5: are local right here in LA which is also where
Speaker 5: all the podcasters be other places like the East Coast,
Speaker 5: and one of our girls is pregnant, so I'm very
Speaker 5: excited to welcome Shy and Winter from behind the likes A.
Speaker 4: Hi, ladies, how.
Speaker 3: Are you fine, I'm Shy Winter.
Speaker 2: Hi here, we are here.
Speaker 3: Thank you for having us, Thank you. We're so happy
Speaker 3: to have you.
Speaker 7: You know, when we see a friendship duo, we always
Speaker 7: I want to say a prayer over their union because
Speaker 7: you know, when you come into this podcast space and
Speaker 7: just working with friends and just like you, just like
Speaker 7: we've seen, we've seen them perish, we've seen what can happen.
Speaker 7: So I think it's really beautiful when women can come
Speaker 7: together and have a support system and a conversation. So, yeah,
Speaker 7: I'm curious because I don't really know how y'all met.
Speaker 6: How the fuck did y'all meet?
Speaker 2: We've known each other for years, but we have we've
Speaker 2: known each other for years, and you know, how la
Speaker 2: is you that bitch just be in the same corner,
Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying. So that's how it usually happens.
Speaker 2: But randomly, we had a friend I went to when
Speaker 2: I heard taco Tuesdays, randomly like before COVID, and I
Speaker 2: just had a ball. I was cracking jokes. I was there,
Speaker 2: I barely. I was like, yeah, I did my house, bitch.
Speaker 2: You know what. From there, we just clicked and then,
Speaker 2: you know, like we were inseparable, especially in COVID. It
Speaker 2: was just like you had nothing else to do but
Speaker 2: get to know somebody on such an intimate And we
Speaker 2: lived literally right now on each other down the street
Speaker 2: all the time, so that's how it kind of.
Speaker 1: So we were getting drunk together every single day, passing
Speaker 1: out waking up at a Yeah it again, yes, literally,
Speaker 1: so that's how we got super close.
Speaker 3: But yeah, like she said, we knew each other for years.
Speaker 3: We at one point lived in the same building with.
Speaker 2: Likes randomly yeah, like hey, how you doing in the
Speaker 2: elevator be like hey girl, yeah, but not knowing, like
Speaker 2: we were going to have like a whole future future
Speaker 2: and what's it the red string theory connected or whatever.
Speaker 2: Everybody said that they were senior at one point. If
Speaker 2: you were you know, if you if you've ever been
Speaker 2: in la and you are like a transplant to l A,
Speaker 2: you've stayed at the Orsini. So that's what.
Speaker 3: Yes, so mixed and so ghetto.
Speaker 2: Yeah, back in the I don't know, back then the
Speaker 2: Lakers used to play that. They used to come in,
Speaker 2: they used to come and you know practice.
Speaker 7: I had my downtown era. I lived on yes seventh
Speaker 7: and Spring. Speaking of baddies and bad choices, have y'all
Speaker 7: made any bad choices this week?
Speaker 3: I've been on a pretty good choice path for a
Speaker 3: while now. I mean I don't I don't think so.
Speaker 1: I think I've been doing pretty good with good choices.
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, I took a plan B, so that
Speaker 1: a choice.
Speaker 3: That's actually a good You took a.
Speaker 2: Girl, yes, so he's shooting up the club that's crazy
Speaker 2: trying to be pregnant right next to me.
Speaker 3: One of us have a pregnancy pack.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 3: I said that on the last episode.
Speaker 2: You were like, yeah, you get you're gonna be taking
Speaker 2: care of ladies ready.
Speaker 6: But she's a little too far behind. Now you're supposed
Speaker 6: to get pregnant.
Speaker 2: I could.
Speaker 3: I don't even want a dog like a baby.
Speaker 2: She changed her mind every two days.
Speaker 3: I changed my mind sometimes.
Speaker 1: But now I feel like there's already a baby on
Speaker 1: the way, so like I'm fully settled. Like you know,
Speaker 1: like around the holidays, I get really baby fever, but
Speaker 1: now it's like, Okay, we're gonna have a baby for
Speaker 1: the holiday.
Speaker 3: So I think I'm set.
Speaker 4: Like around the holidays I want a baby.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like you know, November to January, I love baby,
Speaker 1: And then the rest of the year, I'm.
Speaker 3: Like January like he'll me bitch, no baby.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Literally, that's a majority like year round babies, but
Speaker 2: especially around the holidays. So I'm like it's perfect that
Speaker 2: I'm due, like in around October, because I'm like it
Speaker 2: will be a little holiday baby as a little pumpkins.
Speaker 4: He's gonna be Turkey, he's.
Speaker 3: Gonna be a little el miss, he's gonna do all that,
Speaker 3: He's gonna do it all.
Speaker 5: That's nice that you guys have this camaraderie around the
Speaker 5: baby noess, because I feel like sometimes when you're like,
Speaker 5: do you have a lot of other friends that have kids?
Speaker 2: Not really, I have one. I have two close best
Speaker 2: friends who also have two boys. So I mean it,
Speaker 2: yes I do, but in La for sure, not really.
Speaker 2: But you know what's interesting is that we're all older now,
Speaker 2: and I feel like now everybody's like all right, time
Speaker 2: to like have kids, Like you either miss that part
Speaker 2: where it's like twenty two to twenty six kids and
Speaker 2: now it's like geriatric. You know.
Speaker 5: So because some sometimes moms get pregnant their homegirls that
Speaker 5: they party with and be like, Okay, well I'm just gonna.
Speaker 4: Slowly back out.
Speaker 5: I want to party too, want to hang.
Speaker 1: Well, she like, I mean honestly, like it's so funny
Speaker 1: because like me and Shi are best friends to the
Speaker 1: point where like we're damn near like sisters, so we
Speaker 1: don't even really like like we obviously have had our
Speaker 1: times like where we party together, but like I have
Speaker 1: my friends, She has her friends, and like sometimes even
Speaker 1: when we go out, like we're not up under each other,
Speaker 1: because we're up under each other every damn day pretty much.
Speaker 3: So yeah, it's like that.
Speaker 1: Like so we're not like party best friends, We're like
Speaker 1: real best real buns.
Speaker 2: Like yeah, like I have the most fun with her
Speaker 2: when I'm like, we might to have a slummer party tonight.
Speaker 4: But like we're just like chilling.
Speaker 2: She'll cook and we'll just be watching TV, are doing stuff,
Speaker 2: like doing things like that. It's like very chill. But
Speaker 2: like when I go out our age, it's like she
Speaker 2: can hang.
Speaker 3: I can't really like I can hang on my own ship,
Speaker 3: but like she, yeah, I can't.
Speaker 4: Hang sho, you might really be me in the real one.
Speaker 3: Thing about me, bitch, If I'm gonna go, I'm going
Speaker 3: going hard.
Speaker 2: I'm going to an aftis and another afternoon.
Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, I'm like this weekend, literally we did the
Speaker 5: whole We had a hotel party and I haven't been
Speaker 5: to a hotel.
Speaker 3: Party in fucking one hundred years.
Speaker 5: But we went to an after hours, eeries after hours,
Speaker 5: and then I was like back to my place, everybody.
Speaker 5: Then I put on my shipper shoes and I got
Speaker 5: on the table and dance on everybody. And then I
Speaker 5: told I've got in the bathroom with my man, and
Speaker 5: I was like, do you think will me to invite
Speaker 5: people back to our hotel room at four forty five
Speaker 5: in the morning.
Speaker 3: They think everybody's gonna.
Speaker 5: Fuck, And he goes yeah, and I was like, but
Speaker 5: that's not what I want to do want and then
Speaker 5: he's like whatever, and then he got in the shower
Speaker 5: and everybody could see him in the power. And then
Speaker 5: I proceeded to get on the table and dance on
Speaker 5: everybody after I asked this question. You see, everyone thinks
Speaker 5: we gonna fuck. He's like, he has, like I don't
Speaker 5: want to, and then proceeded to lap dance everybody living
Speaker 5: round and I said it's wrong with me.
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, you just have. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I just happened a green ball.
Speaker 5: But I also stepped into my thirty eight year old
Speaker 5: boundaries and I was like, when I told everyone to
Speaker 5: come back to our room at four forty five, I said,
Speaker 5: everybody has to leave by six a m. And that
Speaker 5: means you call your car at five forty five forty five.
Speaker 3: And usually I'd just.
Speaker 5: Be like, fucking, let's just until anybody wants to leave
Speaker 5: by eight.
Speaker 4: I'd be like I'm tired.
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, so yeah, I under six is a good boundary, right,
Speaker 5: six reasonable.
Speaker 2: I bought a banner from Amazon's like leave by ten,
Speaker 2: so I'm like, I'm like, i haven't got to use
Speaker 2: it yet, but I'm like, I really want to have
Speaker 2: like a little game night like in the day and
Speaker 2: then be like leave by ten. You know, let's just
Speaker 2: keep it chill.
Speaker 6: I'm pred of the invitation to know, Like I don't
Speaker 6: say it.
Speaker 5: I think it's important as the ragers of the crew
Speaker 5: to have a strong boundary because you'll raise yourself into
Speaker 5: non rage moment You're like, I've gone too far.
Speaker 4: Why why we've still here?
Speaker 2: Why am I giving lap dances and having silettos.
Speaker 5: Like literally lap dance toilettos. I'm like, I'm the I'm
Speaker 5: the resident lap dancer and my crew.
Speaker 2: I was just so, I'm like today, I was like
Speaker 2: looking at like baby shower venues or whatever, and I
Speaker 2: was like, Okay, all of these venues in at like
Speaker 2: four o'clock, we can have a rager in my house afterwards.
Speaker 2: Like that was that was like I was like, we
Speaker 2: can do something there, or we can go to a
Speaker 2: club and mid section I'm like, I'm thinking of waste
Speaker 2: party after the baby shower. I'm not fighting section, right.
Speaker 2: I was like, we're gonna have a baby shower. Section.
Speaker 2: I was like, I don't know, it's gonna be a vibe,
Speaker 2: you know, like, let's figure it out.
Speaker 5: I mean, you got to go out with you with
Speaker 5: your balls out, like exactly, rock out with my cock out,
Speaker 5: you know.
Speaker 3: I mean, if everybody's gonna be in town, might as
Speaker 3: well have a ball.
Speaker 5: I suck ad that I agree with this racher as
Speaker 5: a baby baby racher.
Speaker 3: A baby racher.
Speaker 4: That's hilarious.
Speaker 7: I'm curious to know, Like, when, so you're newly ish pregnant,
Speaker 7: how did you tell her?
Speaker 6: And what was your first thought?
Speaker 3: Jesus, what was your first thought?
Speaker 2: I called crying. I was like, I'm you just asked me.
Speaker 2: You were like, was this plan? I was like, hell no,
Speaker 2: this was not plaanned, Like this was a year. Like
Speaker 2: I was literally like, I swear twenty twenty six. I
Speaker 2: was like, twenty twenty six. I'm getting my shit together,
Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 6: So like it really manifested.
Speaker 2: That getting my shit together was being pregnant. But literally,
Speaker 2: I don't know, but no, I literally was, like I
Speaker 2: wrote in a journal. I was like, all right, I'm
Speaker 2: starting this year off fresh cause I was kind of
Speaker 2: like depressed after year last year. So I was like,
Speaker 2: I'm going to go into this year fresh, rejuvenated, getting
Speaker 2: my shit together to do my business, blah blah blah.
Speaker 2: I don't know. I just felt like around this, this
Speaker 2: is no I'm not gonna say this because people, but whatever.
Speaker 2: I just felt like I had drink a fresh cup
Speaker 2: of coffee and I was like, then a pregnancy happened.
Speaker 2: I was like shitt in the coffee and I was like,
Speaker 2: oh my goodness. That was my first that was my
Speaker 2: initial thoughts. It really was like I'm ready for a
Speaker 2: new like so, so I explained this on my podcast
Speaker 2: and I was just basically saying that, like you know,
Speaker 2: it took me a while to get to where I
Speaker 2: was at, but my first reaction was like, oh, no,
Speaker 2: I'm pregnant. And I called her and I was basically crying.
Speaker 2: So she came over and yeah, we took Yeah. She
Speaker 2: brought a bottle of wine. I had a bottle of
Speaker 2: wine there because.
Speaker 3: I was like I'm on my way. I didn't say anything.
Speaker 2: I was just like, yeah, so she came over, she
Speaker 2: got wasted, dropped.
Speaker 5: The whole bottle, and I was just like, yeah, well,
Speaker 5: like we're pregnant.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so yeah, So she was.
Speaker 2: So a first day, she was very much like supportive.
Speaker 2: Second day, I think reality clicked in and was like
Speaker 2: we got a lot going on, well and a lot
Speaker 2: of stuff. Like she was like, we got a lot
Speaker 2: of things to do, which is normal because I think
Speaker 2: her first reaction was friendship. Second reaction was like all
Speaker 2: right in the business side too. And I was like,
Speaker 2: all right, I got a lot of things to think about,
Speaker 2: and I think first one is this, you know what
Speaker 2: I'm saying. So it was like that was where my
Speaker 2: mental was. So I think after a while we both
Speaker 2: were just like I mean, shit, it is what it is,
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 5: Yeah, at any point where you're like I don't know
Speaker 5: if I want to carry out the pregnancy.
Speaker 2: Well, of course, for like the first month, so the
Speaker 2: whole February, I found out around my birthday, like two
Speaker 2: days before my birthday. My birthday is on January thirty.
Speaker 2: First I found out like January twenty ninth.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So the whole month of February, there were days
Speaker 2: where I was like I can go to the chap shop.
Speaker 2: And then there were others like literally I was thinking,
Speaker 2: like these were my real thoughts, and so then there
Speaker 2: were other days was like, oh, I could you know,
Speaker 2: I could do I could do it me and little
Speaker 2: me and men you know what I'm saying. But like
Speaker 2: I obviously was talking to you know, my partner as well,
Speaker 2: and he was like, you know, I support whatever you
Speaker 2: want to do, because I was very vocal about what
Speaker 2: I wanted to do, and he was just like, I
Speaker 2: was very very supportive what you want to do. I
Speaker 2: even like scheduled an appointment one time and it was
Speaker 2: just like I don't know, Like I just don't want to.
Speaker 2: It's so much to deal with. And I scheduled appointment
Speaker 2: and he was just like, please don't do this, and
Speaker 2: so basically, you know, I was just like, still, I
Speaker 2: have to do this for myself. So he altered the time,
Speaker 2: But in my head, I was like, if I want to,
Speaker 2: I will, but I had to make sure that I
Speaker 2: was doing it for me and nobody else. So I
Speaker 2: think that was the biggest part that I had to
Speaker 2: come to was if nobody's around, do I still want
Speaker 2: to do this on my own? You know, And I
Speaker 2: think that's what was the most important thing for me.
Speaker 1: For for like my perspective, Like obviously, at first day one,
Speaker 1: I was like, whatever you want to do, Like we're
Speaker 1: going to get through it.
Speaker 3: We can get through anything.
Speaker 2: Baby daddy getting drunk. No, literally got wasted.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was like no.
Speaker 1: But then I mean obviously, like throughout the whole time,
Speaker 1: I was never like get an abortion.
Speaker 3: I really thought she was going to get abortion.
Speaker 1: But I was like we're still, like I'm still going
Speaker 1: to be here with you no matter what, Like we'll
Speaker 1: figure it out. But like, also I think my biggest
Speaker 1: fear was like is she gonna want to quit the podcast?
Speaker 1: Like that was what I was more scared of. And
Speaker 1: I was like, bro, like we got hell of shit
Speaker 1: going on. And more so for me, it was like
Speaker 1: if you want to do this, and like we make
Speaker 1: it work. I want to make it work. But like
Speaker 1: I like more so I was just scared, like are
Speaker 1: you gonna have a baby and then like leave and
Speaker 1: then this is gonna be over and like we've built
Speaker 1: so much and we worked so hard and like just
Speaker 1: like not knowing what it's gonna look like and like
Speaker 1: me just being like what the fuck Like. Also, I
Speaker 1: didn't know that she was like even hooking up with
Speaker 1: her partner before this happened, so well, nobody did were
Speaker 1: all together.
Speaker 2: Everybody asked me. Every single one of my friends asked
Speaker 2: me when I And it's wild to say, because I'm like,
Speaker 2: imagine me think y'all think I'm gonna keep a random
Speaker 2: man's baby. Everybody, all of my friends were like, because
Speaker 2: nobody knew. The thing is I only have sex with
Speaker 2: him one time, and I mean, that's how it happens.
Speaker 1: But you know, well, no I knew, actually, but I
Speaker 1: knew from somebody else, So she didn't know that I knew.
Speaker 3: It was like a whole thing. Can I say how
Speaker 3: I knew?
Speaker 1: No, okay, whatever, So whatever, I knew from somebody else.
Speaker 1: And then when she called me, I didn't say by
Speaker 1: who because I had already found out. I just didn't
Speaker 1: tell her that you alreadyknew that I already knew. So
Speaker 1: I was like, all right, I'm on the way whatever.
Speaker 1: But then, like you know, after we spoke, and she
Speaker 1: just basically was like, I'm not about to like give
Speaker 1: up everything we worked for.
Speaker 2: To me, I thought that was like a crazy thought
Speaker 2: process too, cause it's like the first thing I think
Speaker 2: of when like I understand it. I understood exactly what
Speaker 2: you were thinking. But in my head, I'm like, the
Speaker 2: moment I have a child, that's the first thing I
Speaker 2: think about, like money, you know what I'm saying, and
Speaker 2: like what I'm gonna do next. I understood the thought
Speaker 2: process of it, so that's why I'm like, I get it,
Speaker 2: and I understood that part of it, but I think
Speaker 2: other than that, it was just like my initial thought
Speaker 2: was like how can I support this child? That was
Speaker 2: the first thing and my obviously my main source of
Speaker 2: income is this podcast with my best friend, and so
Speaker 2: that was like my thought process.
Speaker 6: I was like I.
Speaker 2: Can't do anything else without that, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: So that was like and it's just a little fucking baby,
Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying, Like it's just one.
Speaker 3: Well now that's like obviously like now.
Speaker 2: No, but I know it changed my whole world up.
Speaker 4: Yeah, No, it's just.
Speaker 1: A big change, Like you know, like that's just like
Speaker 1: I think that's just like the scariest part because it's
Speaker 1: like we don't know what it's going to look like
Speaker 1: I know that we could handle whatever life throws at us,
Speaker 1: like as long as we're on the same page and
Speaker 1: you know, like we have our friendship first, I know,
Speaker 1: we could do whatever, get through whatever, and like, you know,
Speaker 1: handle it like a boss. But it's just like when
Speaker 1: something so life changing happens, it's like, okay, but how
Speaker 1: we gonna do it?
Speaker 3: Like you know, so now that we're like already past that.
Speaker 1: And now it's just like pretty much the excitement stage,
Speaker 1: Like that's just just.
Speaker 3: Like a happy time.
Speaker 2: She's more excited than me. Bought clothes art. The first
Speaker 2: time I bought clothes was when I took the maternity
Speaker 2: pictures for Amazon, I mean off Amazon. She has showed
Speaker 2: me a little winsie. I was like, oh h nice,
Speaker 2: because I've been sick. This pregnancy hasn't been like the easiest,
Speaker 2: so I haven't been able to like boys, yeah, adjust
Speaker 2: to those type of and the Old Wives Tale it
Speaker 2: says that you're not supposed to be sick with boys,
Speaker 2: So I don't know, really, yeah, I.
Speaker 6: Feel like a lot of my friends that were had
Speaker 6: boys were sick.
Speaker 2: Yeah no, I'm just like, yeah, I don't know. I
Speaker 2: seen the Old Wives Tail and it was just like
Speaker 2: you don't get sick with boys.
Speaker 4: She was sick as fuck.
Speaker 5: I'm sick an right, So I mean the old wives
Speaker 5: tales are old wives tales. Their tails, they'd be lying
Speaker 5: and and it's true, Like it is just a little
Speaker 5: motherfucker baby, like you.
Speaker 4: Feed it through your tits.
Speaker 5: They need some diapers, but for the most part, the
Speaker 5: best advice someone told me was, like, the baby comes
Speaker 5: up into your life, Like you don't come up to
Speaker 5: the baby's life, so you make the baby adjust to
Speaker 5: your life, you know what I mean. So it's like,
Speaker 5: if you treat your baby like a fragile porcelain fucking cup,
Speaker 5: it's gonna be fucking delicate and porcelain and like. But
Speaker 5: if you treat your baby like you're my side cake
Speaker 5: and we're hitting the road and this is how.
Speaker 3: This is the mammy you got yeah, and now strap
Speaker 3: your shit up.
Speaker 4: You know what I mean.
Speaker 5: Like I feel like like the like my child was
Speaker 5: the first child in our friend group, and I took
Speaker 5: that baby bowling and she was fucking three months like
Speaker 5: she's fine, she was knocked out like everything. I took
Speaker 5: her to a party and she was like a month
Speaker 5: and it was a New Year's Eve party.
Speaker 4: She was just like I was like, she's fine outside.
Speaker 5: She was outside of New York probably, I mean, and
Speaker 5: I didn't I don't like believe in immunizations. And she's
Speaker 5: fucking healthy and she's great. And I also I was
Speaker 5: twenty seven, I was younger. But I think a lot
Speaker 5: of the times people give you like all this advice
Speaker 5: and like a lot of people do all these things,
Speaker 5: they baby proof and they do this, they do this,
Speaker 5: like the baby figures that it's shit out.
Speaker 2: Yeah you know, I had a glass table.
Speaker 4: The baby was like, I'm like, yeah, you see that's glass,
Speaker 4: don't catch it.
Speaker 3: Yeah. I mean, I was born in ninety three.
Speaker 1: My mom was twenty when when she had me, and
Speaker 1: I was around all kinds of shit, Like I don't
Speaker 1: feel like I was ever like super sheltered or anything.
Speaker 5: And look, I'm great, You're great. And it's not about
Speaker 5: being like a careless mom. It's about being a realistic parent,
Speaker 5: about like just understanding like you got this and all
Speaker 5: the tools that you have to like you're supposed to
Speaker 5: know will come to you. So like there's nothing and
Speaker 5: you have like a tribe of people who care about you.
Speaker 5: And so I mean, I think it's beautiful and not.
Speaker 3: To worry, and I hope you.
Speaker 5: Have a beautiful, wonderful pregnancy and birth and it'll be great.
Speaker 7: How do you feel like your identity has shifted so far?
Speaker 7: And like you as her friend, like, have you seen
Speaker 7: anything shifting in how she's showing up now versus before pregnancy?
Speaker 6: Same bitch like that she's not.
Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly, I mean I haven't even registered yet. Honestly,
Speaker 2: today I was today at Zion, like you know, the
Speaker 2: miseducation in Laurence Hill. Zion came on and I was
Speaker 2: just like, bit just really told me to get an abortion. No,
Speaker 2: but I did like that, like I get these random
Speaker 2: like I remember when the first time I felt flotters,
Speaker 2: I was like, okay, I feel a little. But there
Speaker 2: have been times and just being pure honesty, I felt
Speaker 2: like so emotionless to where I had to chat GBT
Speaker 2: is this normal one? And it is, you know what
Speaker 2: I'm saying, So it is normal. But there are times
Speaker 2: where I've just been very much like completely dismissed from it,
Speaker 2: and I'm like, I do have a little baby growing
Speaker 2: inside me, so I'm like now I'm I'm I think
Speaker 2: I'm more aware, but like I don't know. It just
Speaker 2: hasn't I don't know, the reality hasn't really come in
Speaker 2: that sense yet. I don't know.
Speaker 3: Do you feel like I've shifted?
Speaker 2: Uh? No, different, You act the same you act. She
Speaker 2: acts pretty auntie coated for sure.
Speaker 3: She's always You're always coded.
Speaker 2: And I think I'm so thankful that I have like
Speaker 2: a tribe of people who are excited for me and
Speaker 2: who like love me enough to like go through this
Speaker 2: with me. And I'm just like, I'm so blessed for
Speaker 2: them because I understand the dynamic can change and you
Speaker 2: never know how it looks after having because I don't
Speaker 2: know what life is prepared for me after this, and
Speaker 2: I understand that it's going to be difficult, it's going
Speaker 2: to be different, it's going to be trial and era.
Speaker 2: But I'm just so grateful for my friends that they
Speaker 2: are who they are and how they are now, and
Speaker 2: I hope it doesn't change, you know.
Speaker 3: I feel like having a kid leveled me up. M h.
Speaker 3: That's how I felt.
Speaker 2: That's why I was like, I'm get my ships together.
Speaker 6: Like I ate my like mushroom, like Mario.
Speaker 7: You know, at first, you're exhausted and you don't know
Speaker 7: who you are a little bit, and you know, but
Speaker 7: I think that you have this little human looking back
Speaker 7: at you.
Speaker 3: You really have to kind of figure it out, and.
Speaker 7: You might go through seasons of feeling like immense pressure,
Speaker 7: but then like shit, just kind of you're in the
Speaker 7: creation energy, like you literally are in creating life. So
Speaker 7: it's like a beautiful time right now, even in your
Speaker 7: friendship and in your business, to like really ask for
Speaker 7: exactly what the fuck you want, yeah, because you already
Speaker 7: have that creation energy coming through, and you're both women.
Speaker 7: So I feel like it's an invitation for y'all to, like,
Speaker 7: for your show, for your friendship, for everything to even
Speaker 7: expand even more.
Speaker 3: Yeah, So I'm excited.
Speaker 5: For y'all, And I think it's it's a little bit
Speaker 5: it is like I'm happy that you said you don't
Speaker 5: feel anything, because sometimes I think people feel like a
Speaker 5: way about saying that. But I think it's such a
Speaker 5: big thing that you're going into that sometimes like it
Speaker 5: does feel like what the fuck? Yeah, So it's almost
Speaker 5: so overwhelming that you kind of numb out. And even
Speaker 5: right now I'm discussing having getting pregnant again, I was like,
Speaker 5: I don't really remember that I remember but I don't
Speaker 5: remember much. I feel like I was fine, you know.
Speaker 5: But it's like sometimes when you're going through something for
Speaker 5: the first time, especially and it's like such a you know,
Speaker 5: it's a big life change that your body does kind
Speaker 5: of put it outside of yourself. So be honest and
Speaker 5: like that's normal. And also the closer it gets, the
Speaker 5: realer or git in the moment that baby comes out,
Speaker 5: you're gonna be like, oh shit, Yeah, it's like such
Speaker 5: an overwhelm with like beautiful bliss, Like I can't describe
Speaker 5: how much like when that baby slaps on the chest,
Speaker 5: like the overwhelm of like, oh my god, I'm exactly
Speaker 5: where I'm supposed to be, doing exactly what I'm supposed
Speaker 5: to do. So, you know, just just trust the process
Speaker 5: and tap into your power, your importal power right.
Speaker 4: Now, so do all the things.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I will.
Speaker 7: I want to talk about your friendship because you know,
Speaker 7: we are a friendship podcast, and we've built our podcast
Speaker 7: really on just being authentic and being honest with each
Speaker 7: other and.
Speaker 3: With people that write into us.
Speaker 7: You mentioned on because we were a guest on your Podcat,
Speaker 7: But y'all are like very different, right and say in
Speaker 7: some capacities. So now that you guys have this podcast,
Speaker 7: which is a business, how do you guys, Like how
Speaker 7: do you guys navigate challenging situations like when you guys
Speaker 7: have a disagreement or like you're not fucking with something
Speaker 7: a choice or a decision, like is it something that
Speaker 7: you guys addressed straight on or like how do you
Speaker 7: guys move through challenging moments?
Speaker 1: Well, we have to have hard conversations obviously, Like we
Speaker 1: have to have hard conversations. And honestly, like we're low
Speaker 1: key codependent on each other in a sense. So like
Speaker 1: when we're beefing and we're like not speaking or like
Speaker 1: we know, there's like an awkward vibe between us, like
Speaker 1: it really is like uncomfortable and it really is hard.
Speaker 1: So I think that we just try to like communicate
Speaker 1: kind of as quickly as we can. Sometimes it will
Speaker 1: last a couple of days whatever, just to like get
Speaker 1: it over with, cause like genuinely, like if me and
Speaker 1: her are arguing, like I feel physically like something is off,
Speaker 1: like I'm not happy, like you know, like I'm just
Speaker 1: like I'm not completely full, Like me and Shi aren't talking,
Speaker 1: or like we have like an awkward tension. So we
Speaker 1: just try to basically have those hard conversations, and like
Speaker 1: we've definitely had to have uncomfortable conversations because, like you know,
Speaker 1: usually you could sweep it under the rug and like
Speaker 1: go a long time without talking to somebody, but like
Speaker 1: when you also have a business together, it's like, but
Speaker 1: you have to get the fuck over this because y'all
Speaker 1: got shit to do.
Speaker 2: So yeah, no, I agree. And then also I think
Speaker 2: that before we would let things rock a little longer
Speaker 2: sometimes because that's how I am. She's very confrontational head
Speaker 2: on and be like let's get this shit over, like,
Speaker 2: let's address this, and me, I'm like, shit, don't be
Speaker 2: that deep, you know what I'm saying. So like those
Speaker 2: two type of dynamics, sometimes they'd be like we can
Speaker 2: get over this, you know what I'm saying, Like this
Speaker 2: is fine, Like let's just move on to the next situation.
Speaker 2: And so I've had to learn to like be able
Speaker 2: to be like, look, if I have an issue, instead
Speaker 2: of letting it fester, talk about it right then and there,
Speaker 2: because she will She'll be like if I have this
Speaker 2: problem right now, I'm gonna talk about it right now,
Speaker 2: and then like if I let things fester, I'll blow
Speaker 2: up and then it'll be like way deeper than what
Speaker 2: it normally needs to be. Right, So I think we
Speaker 2: just address things head on now, and just like even
Speaker 2: if we have issue, Like even when I was like
Speaker 2: on our last episode when I was tripping that Sunday,
Speaker 2: later that night, I was like, my bad, you know
Speaker 2: what I'm saying. Sometimes, you know, sometimes you have to
Speaker 2: push your ego to the side and be like, admit
Speaker 2: when I'm wrong, or when like are we wrong, or
Speaker 2: if like once Slacken or the other ones not, like,
Speaker 2: you just have to address those things like head on,
Speaker 2: because firsthand, we both know like if you let shiit fester,
Speaker 2: it will blow up, and then it gets like awkward,
Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying, and then everybody else around uncomfortable.
Speaker 2: They'll be like are they okay?
Speaker 4: Right?
Speaker 3: Oh, you don't know if we're like not good, Yeah,
Speaker 3: we're not good.
Speaker 2: Even like when we film like a podcast episode where
Speaker 2: we had like a little disagreement, we'll be like, we
Speaker 2: won't even look at each other. I literally saw something.
Speaker 3: Say I can tell every time they're fighting because we
Speaker 3: look at each other.
Speaker 2: We'll be like yeah, yeah, tell me about your week.
Speaker 4: It was good to get the camera.
Speaker 7: How's your week on that was the next question is
Speaker 7: like who's more likely to apologize first?
Speaker 2: Me, I don't be doing nothing wrong, Aquarius. No. I
Speaker 2: I feel like sometimes you got she's gotten better though, No,
Speaker 2: you you gotta fight bitch with bitch sometimes you know
Speaker 2: what I'm saying, but I'm saying but like I be thinking,
Speaker 2: I'm like it's justified, but like it's not justifiable because
Speaker 2: it's like if she don't know what she's doing, I
Speaker 2: can't be mad at her for it. So like I
Speaker 2: think that in those situations sometimes it would just be like.
Speaker 1: She would be mad at me for ship, like like
Speaker 1: she said, like they're like this is like probably more
Speaker 1: in the beginning, she would be like annoyed at me
Speaker 1: for something, and it would just build that build that
Speaker 1: build up, and then I would like feel like if
Speaker 1: it was like a slick comment or like a like
Speaker 1: you're annoyed at me for something, but like you're not telling.
Speaker 3: Me what you're everything else is annoying.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So now it's like I'm like, what the fuck, Like,
Speaker 1: why are you like saying a little slick ship?
Speaker 2: Like no, she swears I'm passive aggressive, but I'm regular aggressive.
Speaker 3: She extra aggressive regular.
Speaker 1: I can say that, yeah, that's that's true. But no,
Speaker 1: we we've definitely like got past that pretty much. I mean,
Speaker 1: we still have our little moments, but in the beginning
Speaker 1: it was it was a lot more difficult to navigate.
Speaker 2: Now, yeah, and now we're so it's we're so locked in,
Speaker 2: and it was like, we have the same game plan,
Speaker 2: we have the same you know, like mindset when it
Speaker 2: comes to what we want to do and where we
Speaker 2: want to go. So it's just like it doesn't make
Speaker 2: any sense to let like little like minuscule arguments like
Speaker 2: get in between us, Like it just it to me,
Speaker 2: it really don't be that deep. And then something, but
Speaker 2: I had to say that lightly because to someone else
Speaker 2: it could be that deep. And like, I don't want
Speaker 2: to minimize somebody else's feelings just because I lack them. Sometimes,
Speaker 2: you know, have you.
Speaker 7: Always been, like, I guess, like a girl's girl, or like,
Speaker 7: have you always had a lot of female friends.
Speaker 3: I've always been a girl's girl for sure, A female
Speaker 3: a lot of female friends. I mean, yeah, I've always
Speaker 3: had girlfriends.
Speaker 1: I'm not like a I'm not like a homeboy ass bitch,
Speaker 1: Like I don't be like brother, Like that's.
Speaker 4: Just not me.
Speaker 3: I'm not that bitch.
Speaker 1: But I I've not really ever been good with having
Speaker 1: like groups of friends, Like I could have like two
Speaker 1: to three really close friends and like what ever boom.
Speaker 1: But she's more like a group she could have hella
Speaker 1: best friends. I can't have hella hella like best friends,
Speaker 1: like I could have like a couple.
Speaker 3: Of you did you were you in Badgirls Club? Yeah?
Speaker 4: I was that That didn't make you like have a.
Speaker 5: Like a women fucking problem because I watched that show
Speaker 5: like years ago, but I'm like, oh my god, these
Speaker 5: bitches are nuts.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Well, I mean I didn't know the girls, so like,
Speaker 1: I mean whatever, and then like I don't know, I
Speaker 1: just think, like who I was at that point in
Speaker 1: my life. I was only like twenty two going on
Speaker 1: twenty three when I was on that show, So I
Speaker 1: mean I've been doing bitches was crazy. Like I was
Speaker 1: a stripper at seventeen years old, so I was already
Speaker 1: dealing with crazy as bitches in a strip club.
Speaker 3: So to me, you know, I've already experienced crazy bitches.
Speaker 5: Yeah, because sometimes women like when they're in certain environments,
Speaker 5: baggirls club, the strip club. I know, like there is
Speaker 5: a you know for self people steal bitches are.
Speaker 3: Crazy, you know what I mean?
Speaker 5: Like, so does it have the has that like infiltrated
Speaker 5: your personal relationships since those chapters in your life?
Speaker 4: But it's good that it hasn't.
Speaker 3: Yeah, No, I mean I think I'm just like how
Speaker 3: could I be?
Speaker 1: I mean, I I just think I'm really seasoned, Like
Speaker 1: you know, like I'm just really seasoned, Like I've walked
Speaker 1: through a lot of different paths of life, Like I've
Speaker 1: been around ho strippers, pimps, like drug dealers, super rich
Speaker 1: people like I've been, Like I'm I have a really
Speaker 1: good balance. So I don't know, I don't think it's
Speaker 1: like infiltrated my life in a way, but like it's
Speaker 1: it's helped me, I guess, like to know what kind
Speaker 1: of people to stay clear of, or like understand people's
Speaker 1: personality traits or you know, is this somebody I want
Speaker 1: my life to like be around all the time?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: Probably not, Like, but.
Speaker 5: How did you when did you guys first know in
Speaker 5: your friendship like this is worth fighting for, this is
Speaker 5: worth keeping when.
Speaker 2: I missed her? Yeah, it's just like cause I really can.
Speaker 2: Like I She's right, I have a lot of friendships,
Speaker 2: and I've cultivated really great friendships, like sisterhoods I also have.
Speaker 2: I come from a big family but were close knits,
Speaker 2: so it's like that's embedded in me. So if somebody there,
Speaker 2: you know, like I know how to put people in categories,
Speaker 2: but also have really great friendships. And I felt like
Speaker 2: like when we had our argument. When we had our argument,
Speaker 2: oh no, that's what I said, I lost my train
Speaker 2: of thought, like I can stop talking to somebody and
Speaker 2: it won't affect like I can't like that's the.
Speaker 6: Argument happened before the podcast or yes, before the podcast.
Speaker 3: We quit talking for what six months.
Speaker 2: I don't know, sevens one of them.
Speaker 3: Yeah some shit girl, but come on, no, I mean
Speaker 3: we don't.
Speaker 2: We we argued, we argued about it was like it
Speaker 2: was just brothers. When you're getting to know like the
Speaker 2: ins and outs of friendships, sometimes it just sometimes just
Speaker 2: you know, you'd be like I just.
Speaker 1: Basically had like our first argument, our first falling out,
Speaker 1: and then we didn't talk for months, and it was
Speaker 1: like extremely hard for me, Like I was like, mind
Speaker 1: you I cut bitches off, like I don't be giving
Speaker 1: a fuck, like which you could go, you could run
Speaker 1: in traffic, I don't care. You're done, like genuinely, but
Speaker 1: like for me, it was really hard, Like I was heartbroken.
Speaker 1: I felt like I really lost my sister. And then
Speaker 1: like it was funny because like I would like talk
Speaker 1: to her friends.
Speaker 3: About the situation.
Speaker 1: And then there was a time we tried to meet
Speaker 1: up and talk about the situation.
Speaker 3: It didn't go well.
Speaker 2: Both both came drunk, both came drunk, both left out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so after that it was like we knew, like
Speaker 1: we really loved each other, we really like wanted to
Speaker 1: like work it out. And that was pretty much it.
Speaker 1: Like we were like we're really best friends, Like.
Speaker 3: You know what was that?
Speaker 6: What was that conversation like the one that brought you
Speaker 6: guys back together?
Speaker 1: Was it like just too I don't remember fully exactly
Speaker 1: the conversation. I don't I don't remember either, just kind
Speaker 1: of explaining our perspectives, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2: And we were just saying the other day we were
Speaker 2: like cause we were like what do we really be
Speaker 2: arguing about?
Speaker 3: For real?
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying? It would be like what
Speaker 2: do it like, what do our arguments be about like
Speaker 2: when you asked about so this one was a big one,
Speaker 2: but like, yeah, we have like little I'd be like,
Speaker 2: I don't even know what we was mad for last year. Yeah,
Speaker 2: we just talked about that on the pots.
Speaker 3: But I think it was explaining our perspective.
Speaker 2: Yeah, just explain our perspectives. And I respecting our boundaries.
Speaker 2: I think that was the big thing. Like sometimes you
Speaker 2: get your boundaries, like when you are so close to somebody,
Speaker 2: like boundaries get cross and I feel like we just
Speaker 2: we just understood our boundaries and you know, like I
Speaker 2: just how we want to move accordingly.
Speaker 5: I think, what are some things that she tolerates from
Speaker 5: you and you tolerate from her that only you two
Speaker 5: would tolerate from each other.
Speaker 1: She tolerates for me, Yeah, I'm pretty I'm annoying. I'm
Speaker 1: pretty clany. I mean I'm annoying, Like I am pretty annoying,
Speaker 1: I'm pretty clingy. I'm very like I could be kind
Speaker 1: of abrasive.
Speaker 2: But you know what, and I tolerate that because I'm
Speaker 2: not that type of person at all. I'm free spirit.
Speaker 2: I like my space, and I tolerate that from her
Speaker 2: because she is such a great friend. So that is
Speaker 2: not even not tolerate, like I've accepted and I've welcomed
Speaker 2: with open arms because she's.
Speaker 3: Thinking, like, what is it?
Speaker 6: What is a friendship clingy?
Speaker 7: Like because when I think of it, when I think
Speaker 7: about Clinky, I think of like like.
Speaker 3: I always want to hang out, Like can I come over?
Speaker 3: Like I'm like that, like and she'll be.
Speaker 2: Like no, I remember she cried me. She's like, I
Speaker 2: can't go to my best friendid. I was like, stop
Speaker 2: being gay bro. Like I's just like no, I want
Speaker 2: my space, right And I'm like, no, you can't not
Speaker 2: stop being bro. But but it's not even a tolerable
Speaker 2: thing are because I love her and I love her,
Speaker 2: I love her being around, so it's not even that.
Speaker 2: But she's right, she's the nail on the head because
Speaker 2: that's just not my personality. That's just not me.
Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm just different in that type of way.
Speaker 3: But then we do balance it. We do spend a
Speaker 3: lot of time together.
Speaker 1: But like that's the thing, like I'm somebody like I
Speaker 1: could spend time with like my best friends like all
Speaker 1: the time, So.
Speaker 2: I don't want to spend time even with my man,
Speaker 2: Like I'm just I'm just like, are you cling in
Speaker 2: love as well?
Speaker 1: Yeah, to an extent, I like my I like my
Speaker 1: time to myself too, though like with a man, this
Speaker 1: is my best friend ship, Like you know this my
Speaker 1: this is my husband.
Speaker 4: So give me the.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah we have keys.
Speaker 1: But wait, what do I tolerate from you? You say,
Speaker 1: so I don't say the wrong thing make you mad?
Speaker 3: What do you think I tolerate from you?
Speaker 4: Nothing?
Speaker 3: You think I don't tolerate anything. You think you're just
Speaker 3: a perfect little maybe. See that's the problem. That's the problem.
Speaker 3: Really genuinely, don't think she do?
Speaker 2: I know, I know I do. Do I do be
Speaker 2: doing shit? Like I know that I could. She already
Speaker 2: said annoying. I know it could be annoying too, but
Speaker 2: like and also I think what she tolers for me
Speaker 2: is that I am like I am more reserved when
Speaker 2: it comes to friendship sometimes, like are just like shutting down.
Speaker 3: Or this is the thing that we have to get
Speaker 3: over there in two different ways.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I'm saying. In the beginning, she had
Speaker 2: to understand that, like, it's not personal against you. If
Speaker 2: I just want my space, you know what I'm saying. So,
Speaker 2: like I have to, Like, as an extrovert, I do
Speaker 2: need to recharge my battery sometimes and just like be
Speaker 2: in my own space. And like, I like that was
Speaker 2: the thing. I think that she tolershs for me now.
Speaker 2: She like I I was talking to somebody the other
Speaker 2: day and she was like, I just gotta le shy,
Speaker 2: do shy and I and I love that about her
Speaker 2: because it's like she's we've gotten to that place where
Speaker 2: it's like you allow me to be.
Speaker 1: But she does it kind of been like really annoying
Speaker 1: times like her birthday. Oh, I don't want to do
Speaker 1: nothing for my birthday.
Speaker 2: No, even when we like pack or do something, are like,
Speaker 2: are like you like, I know, se gonna get it together,
Speaker 2: Like you know, I know you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 2: So I know you tolerate that with me. Of like
Speaker 2: I think it was the word I can't figure out
Speaker 2: a word for it. Of kind of lax. Yeah, the
Speaker 2: lacks of daisicalness because she I would both type A
Speaker 2: and to a different extent, she'd type about that's annoying.
Speaker 2: I'm a little extreme extreme, but like you know, I'd
Speaker 2: be like, well, here we are, Everything's gonna be fine. Yeah, everything, Yeah,
Speaker 2: everything's gonna be fine, you know, and she knows it.
Speaker 3: Will you know, And it always is, it always is
Speaker 3: in between.
Speaker 5: But you know, it's beautiful to see women be able
Speaker 5: to vocalize who they are and how they can incorporate
Speaker 5: other people, because I think there's not there's no tools
Speaker 5: for that, there's no blueprint.
Speaker 4: No one says this is how to be a best friend.
Speaker 5: And a lot of times bitches will be loyal to
Speaker 5: men and relationships niggas and cheated on them, babies on them,
Speaker 5: and they'll be like going back and going back and
Speaker 5: try and going to therapy.
Speaker 4: But with women would be like, ah, fuck her. Yeah,
Speaker 4: you know what I mean.
Speaker 5: So it's good to see examples of women, you know,
Speaker 5: just like coming finding new ways to come together and
Speaker 5: resolve issues and conflict and doing it public.
Speaker 3: But it also depends on the friendship because don't get
Speaker 3: it twisted.
Speaker 1: Like I will say, I do cut baches off, not
Speaker 1: gonna hold you.
Speaker 3: But that's because I show up as such a good friend.
Speaker 1: If you don't show up as that good friend, then
Speaker 1: I'm not really going to over extend myself and try
Speaker 1: to work on that relationship. I put so much effort
Speaker 1: into this relationship with I because she genuinely shows up
Speaker 1: for me as an amazing friend if she wasn't showing
Speaker 1: up for me or being a weirdo or doing weird shit. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we have like the same morals, like you know, like
Speaker 1: we wouldn't do certain shit, we don't cross certain lines.
Speaker 3: So that that's the reason why.
Speaker 1: We both put so much into our friendship because we
Speaker 1: literally show up the same for each other.
Speaker 5: There's a difference between being like having personality differences that
Speaker 5: you have to learn versus like having foundational princess and like, sure,
Speaker 5: you're a weird bitch and that was disloyal and that's
Speaker 5: just right exactly.
Speaker 2: We are very foundational when it comes to that, and
Speaker 2: I and I wholeheartedly agree because there's certain things that
Speaker 2: were like rub me, Like I'll be like, I'll never
Speaker 2: like have beef with somebody, but I'll be like, oh,
Speaker 2: I see how you move, and you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 2: I'm good that can y'all have? Like, so y'all turn
Speaker 2: that a c off, We turn it back on Jesus. Look,
Speaker 2: I want to see something.
Speaker 4: Stop.
Speaker 3: Don't rereading the funk.
Speaker 4: Around right you?
Speaker 3: Like, is this a small room?
Speaker 4: Pregnant, pus pregnant.
Speaker 2: But they did see my blue bandies. Whatever.
Speaker 3: Now I have a question.
Speaker 6: I have two questions, like have you sucked all you've
Speaker 6: been pregnant yet?
Speaker 3: And also, yes you have, have.
Speaker 4: You been horny you've been pregnant?
Speaker 2: So fifteen weeks, I was like, why am I watching
Speaker 2: cut holding porn? And so I was like holding specifically,
Speaker 2: holding specifically. I was like, why am I in the
Speaker 2: mood for some cuck holding? You know, I've never felt
Speaker 2: this in my life?
Speaker 3: Why am I here for this?
Speaker 2: And I was like, around like the fifteen sixteen week mark,
Speaker 2: you get this like extra, this burst of morning is
Speaker 2: I ask Shatgibt Gloria Patricia Tabernacle, I asked her everything
Speaker 2: why But so I asked Gloria, I was like, why
Speaker 2: am I watching like holding porn? But it's because I
Speaker 2: was like the hormones around that time like make me
Speaker 2: super fucking horny. And I was just like, oh, this
Speaker 2: is crazy because I'm really not that like I'm sexual.
Speaker 2: I know how to get down, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 2: But I don't really she's not.
Speaker 3: Really freaky though.
Speaker 2: I'm not a freaking decky girl, you know, what I'm saying, like.
Speaker 3: Vanilla, Yeah, no, you don't watch porn. She does.
Speaker 2: Don't watch porn. Well, and if I do watch porn,
Speaker 2: I don't masturbate. I'm just tearing. Yeah, what are you doing?
Speaker 2: I'm just like, yeah, let's let's see this, let's do this.
Speaker 3: Is I don't know.
Speaker 2: I just think it's just like a lot. But I'm
Speaker 2: just like, yeah, what are we doing? And then after
Speaker 2: I feel nasty, I'm just like, if.
Speaker 4: You're communists, yeah, I watched it feelsy.
Speaker 2: I'm a dirty horror but so I'm not really like that.
Speaker 2: So I really don't watch porn. I don't. I can
Speaker 2: go without sex, but like, you know what, I feel
Speaker 2: these things. But I'm like it was really that sixteen
Speaker 2: week mark, and I was just like, I am like, money,
Speaker 2: do it.
Speaker 5: That's good though, being horny is good because not being
Speaker 5: horny is not fun.
Speaker 2: My other question, which has nothing to do with this,
Speaker 2: was what is your perspective on like what if like
Speaker 2: Winter had a friend that you don't fuck with, like
Speaker 2: or like are falling out with a friend, Like are
Speaker 2: you like that she's not my friend?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 1: More?
Speaker 3: Like how does that help out there? How do you
Speaker 3: guys navigate things.
Speaker 4: So I me personally is actually funny.
Speaker 2: This is funny because me personally, i'd be like whatever,
Speaker 2: I don't care, like you know what I'm saying, Like,
Speaker 2: I always think of things in a sense of like
Speaker 2: those friendships, because that's how I been. I'm like, look,
Speaker 2: I understand we need to take a break and then
Speaker 2: we'll come back to each other. I don't ever end
Speaker 2: things in like a beefing manner like, so I don't
Speaker 2: end things disrespectfully with friendships. I just be like, you
Speaker 2: know what, this ain't our season. So that's things I understand.
Speaker 2: I'm like, maybe we can come back in seasons. So
Speaker 2: I'm very lenient when it comes to like if we're
Speaker 2: not in the season, it's seasons. If me and my
Speaker 2: friend aren't in this season, I don't need my friends
Speaker 2: to cut them off in that season.
Speaker 3: Well, can I tell the story fun?
Speaker 2: Yeah, of course.
Speaker 3: Okay, So basically I had cut a girl off, mind
Speaker 3: you you know this is the second but jo I
Speaker 3: cut off in like a year and a half, two years.
Speaker 3: I don't fucking judge you, babe, you gotta go. But no,
Speaker 3: So I basically.
Speaker 1: Cut one of my friends off and like but it
Speaker 1: was a falling out, though it wasn't falling out, like
Speaker 1: the exchange of words was like extremely disrespectful. So I
Speaker 1: cut the big job whatever, go out. I'm leaving a party.
Speaker 1: She's walking into the party. One of my other best
Speaker 1: friends is behind me and they speak to each other
Speaker 1: and I'm like, why did you just speak to that
Speaker 1: beach like I'm not fucking with her, and she goes, oh, well,
Speaker 1: she had said something about my hair and dah da
Speaker 1: da she had posted on Instagram. I said, you're still
Speaker 1: following her Instagram? Why are you following her Instagram?
Speaker 3: And she's like, well, I went to go check if
Speaker 3: sh I was following her.
Speaker 2: She was so so listen.
Speaker 3: So the next day I tell sh what happened. I said,
Speaker 3: and she still following her because you followed her? Why
Speaker 3: are you follow her? She said, Well, I went to
Speaker 3: go see if Don was following her.
Speaker 2: She was, so I did heard that before you even
Speaker 2: told me that Don was following me. I was. I was, like,
Speaker 2: I said, I was. She was like, why are you
Speaker 2: still follow her? I was like, well Don was, And
Speaker 2: so it was the same thing, like we've both said
Speaker 2: the same thing.
Speaker 1: But they were like they were like, oh, well, the
Speaker 1: reason why we were still following was because we thought
Speaker 1: there was a potential y'all would get to be back.
Speaker 2: Friends because you had an argument with two girls that
Speaker 2: same day. It was the two girls that same day.
Speaker 2: They worked it out with the one, so I'm like, okay, aventual,
Speaker 2: she's gonna work it out with the other one. But
Speaker 2: I ended up unfollowing the girl because it don't be
Speaker 2: that deep to me.
Speaker 1: If if she wants me to unfollow somebody or quit
Speaker 1: fuck with somebody, I will like and I know if
Speaker 1: I told her like no, like I that's upsetting me,
Speaker 1: that's pissing me off, Like don't follow that bitch, Like
Speaker 1: of course she's gonna fucking follow the girl. But it
Speaker 1: was just never even a conversation. But then there was
Speaker 1: somebody else that I had cut off like two years before,
Speaker 1: who remember, Yeah, and then and then I was like,
Speaker 1: I was like, you know, like she's where it spuck
Speaker 1: for that that I and you were like I've been
Speaker 1: waiting to follow that.
Speaker 3: So it just different.
Speaker 2: It It'd be certain things like yeah.
Speaker 3: You had a thing with a friend and I did
Speaker 3: not follow the girl, but I mute at her.
Speaker 5: What's a friendship violation, is that an unwritten role you
Speaker 5: must If I don't fuck with her, everyone mustn't followed her.
Speaker 5: It depends, but you have to make the announcement. You
Speaker 5: can't just assume if I get into with somebody, I'm
Speaker 5: telling everyone in the friend group, Hey, I'm follow this bitch.
Speaker 2: Can you say that?
Speaker 5: Yeah, if it's that serious, because it's not, And I
Speaker 5: actually have to do some double checking to make sure
Speaker 5: all my friends are not following people, because I'll go
Speaker 5: back and be like, why.
Speaker 1: The fuck are you still fall If it's like a
Speaker 1: deep situation, like obviously, like you have to show where
Speaker 1: your loyalty lies.
Speaker 3: But like, if it's not that deep, y'all probably gonna
Speaker 3: work it out.
Speaker 1: Like I don't want awkward tension with your friends if
Speaker 1: y'all are gonna end up working it out.
Speaker 3: But if it's like on some final.
Speaker 1: Word ship, then it's like, all right, I got you,
Speaker 1: Like I'm gonna do it.
Speaker 5: I need the bitch, I need who ever to know whoever,
Speaker 5: whatever it's temporary or permanent, they're with me.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Yeah, but you got to pick a side like friends
Speaker 5: in this one discrepancy.
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah.
Speaker 2: A friendship violation for me would be I'm not really
Speaker 2: like I don't know, fucking my man or something or
Speaker 2: like those are friendship violations to me, I'm very much
Speaker 2: like I think also like foundational things as well, Like
Speaker 2: I don't I think a friendshi violence for me, somebody
Speaker 2: had fucking my man or backdooring me or doing some
Speaker 2: weird shits stealing money from me or doing something like
Speaker 2: those type of things. But or but that's not a
Speaker 2: breakup to me, Like if somebody don't show up as
Speaker 2: a friend for me, you just on the back burn
Speaker 2: of a friendship, those aren't breakups, but like things that
Speaker 2: are just like you gotta ball this bitch is done
Speaker 2: like she is. You might you're liable to get beat
Speaker 2: the fuck dealing with somebody man.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think if you do anything weird over men
Speaker 1: in general, to me, I'm looking at you side eye
Speaker 1: because it's like, if you're doing some weird shit over
Speaker 1: this funky ass nigga, then I don't know what the
Speaker 1: fuck you're gonna do about my actual man. I don't
Speaker 1: trust you now, Like if you're doing weird shit over just.
Speaker 3: Any man in general, time can hear yes, Like, I'm.
Speaker 1: Just like, bro, you're laying because like there's just so
Speaker 1: many men in the world, and like me and my
Speaker 1: close friends, we don't even have those problems, like we
Speaker 1: don't go through that ship like you know, So like Mitch,
Speaker 1: if you.
Speaker 3: You gotta go, I'm sorry, you must leave.
Speaker 4: No, I agree, don't.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I saw you guys did this podcast or I
Speaker 7: don't know what it was, like kind of a cute
Speaker 7: podcast like on the Subway, and you said that on
Speaker 7: popular opinion, you don't think that men can have female friends.
Speaker 2: And I stand by it, and I stand by it.
Speaker 2: I'll go to war, I'll down that hill alone.
Speaker 4: That's so crazy.
Speaker 2: I don't give.
Speaker 3: I don't super agree. But I did just have a
Speaker 3: situation with like the guy that.
Speaker 1: I'm dating, and like he picked his homegirl up from
Speaker 1: the airport, and I was like, and she didn't.
Speaker 6: That's that's I don't want to tell her picking someone
Speaker 6: from the.
Speaker 5: Airport very very.
Speaker 2: La.
Speaker 3: He doesn't live in l A.
Speaker 1: But like, no, he she had like given him a
Speaker 1: right to the airport and then like he had had
Speaker 1: her do a favorite for him, and she was like
Speaker 1: bringing him something back and he was like, well, she
Speaker 1: gave me a ride.
Speaker 3: So I'm too I was like, I called her. I
Speaker 3: was like, should I be should I be upset?
Speaker 2: She did? She didn't call me. She called me for something.
Speaker 2: She was like, I don't really want to know your
Speaker 2: opinion on AX already know it? And I was and
Speaker 2: so I was like, just tell me, and she said
Speaker 2: something by a friend.
Speaker 3: I said, this is not even your man, you was talking.
Speaker 2: No, We're like that's her and her ma and her
Speaker 2: yet but is it?
Speaker 4: But like we just.
Speaker 1: Haven't got a relationship yet, but we are probably going
Speaker 1: to be in a relationship.
Speaker 5: Is that friend someone from back in the day, somebody's
Speaker 5: been knowing? Is it a new friend that just popped up?
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I mean, she like, I'm not super pressed about the situation.
Speaker 1: Like he even was like, do you want to go
Speaker 1: with me? And I was like, not really, but enjoy
Speaker 1: And have you been around this friend? No, me and
Speaker 1: him haven't been dating for that long. Have you been
Speaker 1: dating for like two and a half.
Speaker 4: Listen to this scenario.
Speaker 2: Imagine like you're in the front seat and then like
Speaker 2: she tried to get in the front seat, and.
Speaker 3: That would never happen. The Queen would never allow somebody
Speaker 3: in the front seat. Okay, it never happened. I'd be like,
Speaker 3: get in the back peasant. Who I am?
Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, I wouldn't do that. But I wasn't
Speaker 1: really tripping. But then I was like, should I be tripping?
Speaker 5: Like, you know, it's so crazy that the psycho like
Speaker 5: brain of a woman, because like, my man is so
Speaker 5: fucking friendly, like, but so am I.
Speaker 4: So it's like I'm bating myself.
Speaker 5: And like he was like he's first of all, he
Speaker 5: talks so much, especially when we drink. So I'm like,
Speaker 5: it's I always tell my friends it's always good to
Speaker 5: have one new bitch because then he can talk to
Speaker 5: her and he didn't have to talk to us because.
Speaker 4: We didn't know the stories.
Speaker 5: So it's always like one. And then he was like
Speaker 5: talking this bitch to death and she was kind of
Speaker 5: cute or whatever. And I was like, you know, I'm
Speaker 5: not annoyed because now he's not talking. I was talking
Speaker 5: to her, but.
Speaker 4: Then when she left, he was like raving about her.
Speaker 4: I said, nigga, come.
Speaker 2: Like, now I am like she was, so I was
Speaker 2: like she wasn't, she was not?
Speaker 4: I see you.
Speaker 5: I said, well what did you see? Because that was
Speaker 5: with her two and I just saw a bitch and
Speaker 5: I was like, and then I had to talk like
Speaker 5: am I crazy?
Speaker 3: Or am I like?
Speaker 4: Am I tripping?
Speaker 3: I'm like, I don't like super friendly man though, so
Speaker 3: I mean I would be annoyed.
Speaker 5: But the only thing is I am a super friendly bitch.
Speaker 5: So there's a lot of things in my relationship that
Speaker 5: I have to like reflect on myself and be like
Speaker 5: I would do that, do that. And then at the end,
Speaker 5: he's like getting her number, and I'm like, I don't
Speaker 5: really give a fuck something right here.
Speaker 4: But also my man is a big dick. His robe
Speaker 4: is open.
Speaker 5: We're like naked people. I'm like, I don't know this
Speaker 5: bitch personally and I don't know where she thinks this is.
Speaker 4: And I will cut a bitch.
Speaker 5: But this is how we are in front of all
Speaker 5: of our friends, but our close friend group. So when
Speaker 5: there's someone new, I'm like, I don't like people think
Speaker 5: we're trying to threesome them. We're not, And like, I
Speaker 5: don't know, you know, wait, are y'all in an open relationship?
Speaker 3: No, girl, we are monogamous.
Speaker 5: I mean we'll like, if we want to play together
Speaker 5: or have fun together, we will, but we're monogamous. And
Speaker 5: I think people think that we're not monogamous because we'd
Speaker 5: be naked. I'd be dancing on everybody and he'd be like, go, baby, go,
Speaker 5: baby go, and before yeah, yeah, but I had to
Speaker 5: I had to like tell him, like, just because we're
Speaker 5: this way and our friends are this way, we don't
Speaker 5: know every bitch. You know, every bitch might think thinks
Speaker 5: it's sweet, she thinks you got her, you got her number.
Speaker 5: Then this is a green light for the side because
Speaker 5: everyone does think we're open and we're not. So I
Speaker 5: just have to, like I constantly have to tell myself,
Speaker 5: like he could have friends. He's grown here, expects you,
Speaker 5: he knows you'll cut him, he's afraid of you, so
Speaker 5: that there's no discover But I don't want anyone to
Speaker 5: tell me what to do. So I'm not telling anybody
Speaker 5: else what to do either. But I'm going to give
Speaker 5: you a strong perspective.
Speaker 2: And I understand that. And this is the thing with me.
Speaker 2: Why I say that is because I've never been one
Speaker 2: to like have homeboy guy like now I've cultivated as an adult,
Speaker 2: I've cultivated these friendships and these relationships with men that
Speaker 2: you know, I can I do believe in platonic relationships.
Speaker 2: I do, but like when I'm in a relationship, I
Speaker 2: feel like it just takes the like men take the
Speaker 2: back burner. But I've never been the time to be like,
Speaker 2: let me just call my homeboy, because I'm just not
Speaker 2: like that. But I'm also extremely friendly. And I don't
Speaker 2: mind a friendly man either, Like I don't want a
Speaker 2: man to be rude to women. I don't want a man,
Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying, Like I don't when they
Speaker 2: skip you, Yeah, I don't like. I don't like that.
Speaker 2: So I don't mind a friendly man to a certain
Speaker 2: extent as well, like don't have me out here, like
Speaker 2: it's stupid. But but men will always embarrass you. They
Speaker 2: will find a way somehow, sometimes not all. But I
Speaker 2: just feel like I don't require anything from somebody that
Speaker 2: I don't do myself, if you know what I'm saying, like,
Speaker 2: and I think, honestly, to me, low key, that is
Speaker 2: a deal breaker, Like I would not date somebody who
Speaker 2: has a lot of a lot of a lot of
Speaker 2: female friends. You want to be one, So I don't know,
Speaker 2: So do you have any male friends. I have male
Speaker 2: friends yet, so if they got into a relationship, would
Speaker 2: you hold yourself to that same standard? Yes, Like, yeah,
Speaker 2: I've had that happen, but like you would do that
Speaker 2: just naturally or you they'd have to ask. I would
Speaker 2: do that naturally because I would I know what I
Speaker 2: want in a relationship and what I would do. But like,
Speaker 2: I have guy friends, but not to a point where
Speaker 2: it's like, hey, let me call him up. Like if
Speaker 2: we're out and about in these settings, I'm always completely fine,
Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying. So if I'm like, I'm
Speaker 2: probably most likely there with one of my homegirls who's
Speaker 2: cool with the guy friend. That's how I get guy friends.
Speaker 2: Like say, it's one of your homeboys and I come
Speaker 2: around you and then like he's just there. That's how
Speaker 2: my situations you normally go.
Speaker 3: You know, you're not like pouring into your friendships with
Speaker 3: mad No.
Speaker 2: I never really have, though I don't.
Speaker 3: I've never done that, Like not really.
Speaker 2: I do need a gay bestie. Your brother, Look, he's
Speaker 2: a great.
Speaker 7: Sometimes I forget because we're not blood brother, blood brother sister,
Speaker 7: and then he'll like, I like take my shirt off
Speaker 7: and he'll like squeeze my tip.
Speaker 3: People be like what the brother you probably need? Yeah,
Speaker 3: might be forgetting.
Speaker 7: I'm like, no, that that's funny and.
Speaker 2: That is why you're from Alabama.
Speaker 3: They're like, that's some elation.
Speaker 2: But no, I mean, I don't think. I mean, I
Speaker 2: don't know, Like I mean, I understand that there's there,
Speaker 2: there are friendships that could be cultivated from the sex,
Speaker 2: but I do this is another hot take. I love
Speaker 2: a hot take, But like I do think women control
Speaker 2: that narrative when it comes to female male relationships like
Speaker 2: I do female male friendships. Because it's like if I
Speaker 2: say to any of those my homeboys right now, pregnant
Speaker 2: and all, they probably still would you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 2: want and even more, I don't think I genuinely now
Speaker 2: like no, But like I do, I think women control
Speaker 2: that narrative sometimes you know what I'm saying most of
Speaker 2: the time.
Speaker 7: So we do we yield the power exactly. There's men
Speaker 7: will there's no happening less we say it isn't gape.
Speaker 4: So why do I exactly?
Speaker 2: So why do I want my boy, I mean my
Speaker 2: man having another homegirl with the power to do that.
Speaker 4: I want to know the friend. I want to be
Speaker 4: around you.
Speaker 5: I want to see your face, I want to feel
Speaker 5: your energy. I want to see how you interact. Like
Speaker 5: that's one thing is like I'm going to be the
Speaker 5: teller of all what the fuck it is.
Speaker 3: And I'm like, that bitch likes you. Yeah, that bitch.
Speaker 4: Doesn't like me.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that bitch feels uncomfortable because she I'm a psychic bitch.
Speaker 3: I will tell you that.
Speaker 6: I do believe that men and women can be friends.
Speaker 3: But I do.
Speaker 7: I do think like you said, A, I think women
Speaker 7: A do we do hold the power and but b
Speaker 7: I think also we have oftentimes more clarity around what
Speaker 7: a true friendship is. Where there's like I've dated men
Speaker 7: where they be like, no, for real, this's my homegirl,
Speaker 7: and I'd be like, niggash, show us around you because
Speaker 7: you pay, you know what I mean. And then I've
Speaker 7: had other ones where I'm like, yeah, that's your homegirl.
Speaker 7: You know, would she fuck if the same thing, like,
Speaker 7: would she fuck if you put if you said, come on,
Speaker 7: let's do it?
Speaker 6: Yeah maybe probably Yeah, But at the.
Speaker 7: End of the day, it's like, do I trust you,
Speaker 7: you know, because I have I have male friends, and
Speaker 7: I've had situations where I've had partners say like, yeah,
Speaker 7: that's not your friend. No more really, and yeah, and
Speaker 7: I've fought tooth and nail about it really, yeah, because
Speaker 7: I know, because I know that that's really a trust
Speaker 7: issue with you that you have with me.
Speaker 6: It's not it's not them.
Speaker 7: I've been in multiple relationships and had that friend be
Speaker 7: in my life and there's been no transgressions. Yeah, but
Speaker 7: I think that's a I think that specific topic is
Speaker 7: always really a hot topic for it's.
Speaker 2: A hot topic. And because I recently, like there was
Speaker 2: a situation one time where I had sucked at homeboy
Speaker 2: and like and and it was once it was here's
Speaker 2: my friend for a while. And I do honestly regret
Speaker 2: that situation because it's like I lost out on a
Speaker 2: friendship and it's like because I could not maintain that
Speaker 2: friendship once I got into a relationship, because I do
Speaker 2: think that is disrespectful to me. Like if you have
Speaker 2: a homegirl that you fucked before and now y'all just friends,
Speaker 2: it's like, no, I don't want that type of energy around,
Speaker 2: So I can't do that to the same sense, you
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying. So it's just like it's too
Speaker 2: many lines that get crossed and it just gets confusing.
Speaker 2: So like to me, I'd rather not, but I still
Speaker 2: have I can maintain male friendships, like I have guy
Speaker 2: friends that I talk to now still to this day
Speaker 2: that everything is fine.
Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, it's just got maturity and honestly and trust,
Speaker 5: you know what I mean. Trust because at the end
Speaker 5: of the day, there's always going to be a bitch
Speaker 5: or nigga or something. I mean, I there's people that
Speaker 5: I fucked, you know, but we're gonna be best friends.
Speaker 6: Probably not, but it happens and I get it.
Speaker 5: And not having the same understanding for him too, It's like,
Speaker 5: I trust you. I understand we're sexy people. Shit gets,
Speaker 5: Shit happens, you fall into fucking sometimes, Yeah, like it
Speaker 5: slips on.
Speaker 2: A banana peel and then slept over.
Speaker 5: Yeah. Do you guys have any affirmations for our audience today?
Speaker 5: Affirmation like something you tell yourself that keeps you going,
Speaker 5: keeps you.
Speaker 3: Pumped up, something that keeps me going, something that keeps
Speaker 3: me popped up.
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I mean, you're that bitch, stay a bitch, been that bitch,
Speaker 1: gonna be that bitch forever day today?
Speaker 2: Yeah, the one that I think about first off, and
Speaker 2: I'm not even in this space anymore, but the one
Speaker 2: that the note mirror mirror. I will be okay, but
Speaker 2: it's true tales all the time. I will be okay,
Speaker 2: like I will, I will always be okay. Everything will
Speaker 2: be all right. And I feel like whatever I go
Speaker 2: through in this moment, like at the end of it,
Speaker 2: I will always come out okay. And my favorite Bible
Speaker 2: verse is I can do all things through Christis strengthens me.
Speaker 2: And I feel like, yeah, those things, like I can
Speaker 2: do it. I am capable, I am willing, I'm able,
Speaker 2: you know, so I feel like those are I'm very
Speaker 2: big on affirmation. I have affirmations journal, so like I
Speaker 2: made an affirmations journal. So I'm very big on affirmations
Speaker 2: because I'm a very big words person. It's important to me,
Speaker 2: like you are great, you are lovely, you are like
Speaker 2: you are, you were kind, you were sweet, you was important,
Speaker 2: you was important. I'm like, I love affirmations. Words or
Speaker 2: spose yeah, word, yeah there.
Speaker 6: I don't know a lot of time I was gonna
Speaker 6: play Trigger, should.
Speaker 3: We Yeah, let's play Trigger.
Speaker 7: It's party, okay, Okay, we have a we have a
Speaker 7: game on our show called Trigger. So I'm going to
Speaker 7: say a word and you say the first thing that
Speaker 7: comes to mind.
Speaker 2: Okay, so maybe you want to you want to go first,
Speaker 2: you can go first one a time, yeah, okay, yeah, sure,
Speaker 2: I'm triggered.
Speaker 3: Marriage, single, what marriage?
Speaker 2: Oh? Hopefully ship?
Speaker 6: Religion, God?
Speaker 2: First word, first word Christian?
Speaker 6: Last time you had sex yesterday?
Speaker 2: Clearly I have to look on my flow app. It's
Speaker 2: been a minute.
Speaker 6: Favorite porn category.
Speaker 2: Cook No, it really, Actually it is embarrassed to say.
Speaker 3: I'm going to say amateur like like homemade. Yeah, I
Speaker 3: don't like that super.
Speaker 4: Where was the one You're gonna say? What was your O?
Speaker 3: G would?
Speaker 2: Yay?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 2: I love like I love the intros of it. I've
Speaker 2: never struck before, Yes, you have.
Speaker 5: You know. I came to the conclusion it's just that
Speaker 5: we like Dick a lot, so she is better than.
Speaker 3: Okay, yes, So what this means.
Speaker 6: I don't like dick a lot because I don't want
Speaker 6: to watch niggas.
Speaker 1: Girls love lesbian portant exactly. I like lesbian poor, but
Speaker 1: only when I could tell that they're really into it.
Speaker 1: Because I know how to fake a nut bitch, and
Speaker 1: I know.
Speaker 3: When you're doing it. So if I can tell you're
Speaker 3: not into it, I cut the ship off and the
Speaker 3: boys are always they'd be like barely looking the pussy,
Speaker 3: like like, no.
Speaker 2: That's why I beat off you.
Speaker 4: You'd be faking fake lesbian in it.
Speaker 2: Yes, and it would be like.
Speaker 5: You not to do it if you're gonna make that lord.
Speaker 3: Okay, my next question pussy eating.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's her.
Speaker 3: Okay, I've only eaten.
Speaker 1: Wanted to have couchies for this because I only liked
Speaker 1: it like twice and it just didn't go for it.
Speaker 4: Would you do it again? Yeah?
Speaker 3: She's gay over here.
Speaker 4: I'm not gay.
Speaker 3: I wanted to have coochies on her belt.
Speaker 2: I looked one one time when I was off of Mali,
Speaker 2: and I said, all right, well I'm done here. You know,
Speaker 2: you got sober real quickly, finish finished, And then she
Speaker 2: asked me, and everybody'd be like, well, did you did she?
Speaker 2: I said no, and they're like you have you done
Speaker 2: any scissoring? No?
Speaker 1: I don't know from a lot of girls, but I've
Speaker 1: only looked on I don't really like girls like that.
Speaker 2: I think girls, I think women are far superior. I
Speaker 2: think we're beautiful. I think I I think so much
Speaker 2: more highly of women. I wish I could I just don't.
Speaker 2: I love everything about a man. I love his back,
Speaker 2: I love his penis. I love the way it feels
Speaker 2: pumping inside. Yes, I love all. That's what I'm pregnant,
Speaker 2: but I love it all.
Speaker 3: You know. Yeah, I love language.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Oh, affirmations.
Speaker 3: I would say physical touch, cannabis.
Speaker 5: Hi.
Speaker 3: I just smoked weed, y'all this weekend.
Speaker 2: Quite a bit paranoid. Yeah, mushrooms easy, easy, Remember when
Speaker 2: we did those on the beach.
Speaker 1: I don't care for really shrooms that I don't really
Speaker 1: I've never been super high off of them, maybe like once,
Speaker 1: but I'm not really a drug person.
Speaker 3: I barely like fuck with weed, so when I do,
Speaker 3: I just had a good time of smoking weed. Though
Speaker 3: I like to do it outdoors. That's when I actually
Speaker 3: enjoy smoking weed indoors. I'm like paranoid.
Speaker 6: Are you like a joint smoker or backwards?
Speaker 3: I'm a joint smoker. When I do toxic.
Speaker 2: Trait thinking imperfecting my husband think he's so perfect.
Speaker 3: We are the toxic tray.
Speaker 1: I would say, probably cutting people off too easily. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's a little toxic sometimes.
Speaker 3: Celebrity celebrity crush. I don't have one.
Speaker 2: I don't have one.
Speaker 3: Either I feel like I forget anybody I want.
Speaker 2: That's how I feel too, though, honestly, and especially when
Speaker 2: you be in these parties, in these environments, you like,
Speaker 2: I didn't realize you were accessible like.
Speaker 6: This, mind right white man?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm kidding. Have you remember the white man?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 1: When not really as an adult, like when I was
Speaker 1: a teenager, Like I dated like some white boy whatever.
Speaker 3: I don't want to say. The man over there is
Speaker 3: a white man that was really meat.
Speaker 2: I've been with a white guy and he has small
Speaker 2: penis And I was like, I'm still doing it for
Speaker 2: the plot. Here we are you know what I'm saying, Like.
Speaker 5: You're apologizing to Yeah, everybody else coming like, oh, who's
Speaker 5: that guy? I was like, No, he's very cute, but
Speaker 5: it looks like he got a.
Speaker 2: Little cheerkey in him or something.
Speaker 3: Black man, I.
Speaker 4: Love black king.
Speaker 3: That's a black king right there.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Do y'all date older man?
Speaker 6: A y'all ever dated older man?
Speaker 3: This is a cougar over here.
Speaker 2: I will I Look. I knew I was on to
Speaker 2: something when I started being attracted to ball heads. I said, oh,
Speaker 2: we're somewhere now.
Speaker 1: I honestly, I don't know what it is, but I
Speaker 1: have been dating younger than me, like Whyan's Wyan.
Speaker 5: So you're the cougar's you tell me what the wayan
Speaker 5: ages is it? Like under twenty five?
Speaker 6: What are we talking about?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Always talking about everything. Yeah, he's actually he's great. Honestly,
Speaker 1: he's amazing.
Speaker 4: Here me teaching me.
Speaker 3: Shit.
Speaker 6: I'm like because I feel like I hear this every time.
Speaker 2: You know what, Yeah, great, he's.
Speaker 4: So different, he's so smart.
Speaker 7: And then when it's like seven months and he's like
Speaker 7: he's so fucking immature and he's twenty two.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: No, I've been waiting to like see whatever that is.
Speaker 1: But like, honestly, like I can't really complain. He's great communication, like,
Speaker 1: he's fellas smart. Like anytime there's been any issue that
Speaker 1: I felt, he's like worked through it, like and it's
Speaker 1: very surprising to me.
Speaker 4: So the new wrong it?
Speaker 2: So I do birth?
Speaker 3: Birth?
Speaker 2: What you mean?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 2: No, the word is birth. The word is birth, scarce birth.
Speaker 3: I'm scared too. I actually cried thinking about Shy giving birth.
Speaker 6: Yeah, motherhood exciting.
Speaker 2: I think it's interesting, new, new, exciting.
Speaker 1: I think it's going to be exciting, even though I'm
Speaker 1: not turning into a mom, y'all.
Speaker 3: But what about you?
Speaker 6: What about your what are you was your first instinct.
Speaker 1: About I don't know, like honestly, like losing my independence,
Speaker 1: which is a little bit scary for me.
Speaker 2: That's the trigger word. Yeah, what do you mean your independence?
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I feel when I think about motherhood
Speaker 3: for myself.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, no, I thought about that too, though. It's like, damn,
Speaker 2: I gotta be less of But I'm like, I feel
Speaker 2: like I'm at that age like if I was younger,
Speaker 2: it would be it would feel more crazy or crazier
Speaker 2: to me. But I'm like, I'm thirty four.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just don't know if I want to, I'm.
Speaker 2: Not going to do right now.
Speaker 4: Me, I was like I keep it was like, what
Speaker 4: else are you doing?
Speaker 2: No. I remember one of my my little cousin told
Speaker 2: me and because this is we were pregnant at the
Speaker 2: same time, like years ago, and now she has like
Speaker 2: a seven year old son, I probably would have one too,
Speaker 2: and so like this time I told her I was
Speaker 2: pregnant and she was like, well, what are you going
Speaker 2: to do? She was like, what are you gonna do?
Speaker 2: And I was like, I really don't know. She was like,
Speaker 2: you need to grow the funk up. And I said, okay,
Speaker 2: well you write that one and then you ain't that
Speaker 2: one looked because I was like, yeah, you're right. I
Speaker 2: was like, I can't keep a boarding them, you know what, I.
Speaker 4: Can't keep doing that parenthood.
Speaker 2: Well they was outside with them signs last time.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I've been there signs and I want
Speaker 3: to be like, bitch, you get a life.
Speaker 4: Yeah no, that's kind of a life. Oh we fun.
Speaker 3: I'm not a whole y'all.
Speaker 4: Now we.
Speaker 3: What else do you? Yeah? Do you these niggas? Sorry?
Speaker 6: Right, biggest regret.
Speaker 2: Getting out a board when I was young, and I'm
Speaker 2: just kidding. I always said, this is not finishing in college.
Speaker 3: My honest.
Speaker 1: My biggest regret is getting my T three done in
Speaker 1: by Miami.
Speaker 3: That's still to this day.
Speaker 4: My biggest regret making.
Speaker 3: A mistake on choosing the right person for cosmetic surgery.
Speaker 3: You shouldn't have went to Miami.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Columbia not mad No. Yeah, I went to fucking
Speaker 1: Miami and it costs me over eighty thousand dollars in
Speaker 1: like chronic paying chronic TMJ, like just too much. Worst
Speaker 1: decision And that's my only regret in life.
Speaker 3: I don't have no other regrets. I don't need a
Speaker 3: lot of shit. Y'all. Pet peeve winning like I hate
Speaker 3: people are like, oh, y'all, you're sorry, but.
Speaker 2: That really gets Like now, she was like ten minutes
Speaker 2: and she was like, where are they at?
Speaker 5: I said, relaxed on the phone five minutes I was
Speaker 5: sweating coming down.
Speaker 2: I think my pet peeve is the most recent one.
Speaker 2: I get so annoyed when I'm on the phone with
Speaker 2: somebody and they got thirteen other things going on in
Speaker 2: the background.
Speaker 3: Bitch, you want to call.
Speaker 2: Me later, just hang up. I don't need to be here.
Speaker 2: Why are you? And then when you call me and
Speaker 2: you got thirteen things beat in the back? Can I
Speaker 2: get it?
Speaker 3: You know?
Speaker 2: Just what are we doing?
Speaker 3: Why did you call me?
Speaker 2: Why'd you call me? You talking to everybody else?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Okay, last question, best advice you've ever gotten?
Speaker 4: Keep it?
Speaker 2: And I'm saying, okay, I don't know the best advice
Speaker 2: I've ever gotten, Share you go.
Speaker 3: Best advice I've ever gotten.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be real, I haven't really gotten too much
Speaker 1: advice from people, Like genuinely, I feel like my whole
Speaker 1: life has been like just trial and tribulation. Like I've
Speaker 1: had to kind of figure out everything on my own.
Speaker 1: But the best advice I could give to people, since
Speaker 1: I haven't really gotten great advice, is to just like
Speaker 1: do what you want to do and make that shit happen,
Speaker 1: and don't be scared to make it happen because you
Speaker 1: can literally do anything that you want to do in
Speaker 1: the world.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I have good I have someone one of my
Speaker 2: close friends, one of my best friends, gave me this
Speaker 2: advice one time, and she put it in regards to anything,
Speaker 2: but especially relationships. She was like, just pay attention always
Speaker 2: to how you feel, how people make you feel. And
Speaker 2: she was like, just pay attention to how you feel
Speaker 2: because you are the most important person in these scenario sometimes,
Speaker 2: so pay attention to your feelings and how people make
Speaker 2: you feel is very important. And so I do I
Speaker 2: use that. I keep that in mind a lot. With
Speaker 2: a lot of time, I'm like, how do I feel
Speaker 2: in this scenario? How do I feel with these people?
Speaker 2: How do I even feel if I'm even looking something
Speaker 2: as simple as looking for a venue, how do I
Speaker 2: feel in these spaces? So I just feel like being
Speaker 2: very in tune with like my feelings sometimes because it
Speaker 2: is kind of hard for me, so like I have
Speaker 2: to do keep that in mind of like how do
Speaker 2: I feel right now? So I think that was a
Speaker 2: really good one for me.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that is great.
Speaker 2: What about y'all? I told you, Yeah, the.
Speaker 4: Baby's coming to your life. You're not going to the
Speaker 4: baby's life. That was what I was like.
Speaker 5: And also that they're pretty, They're pretty, uh durable.
Speaker 4: So I was like, she's fine, it's adorable.
Speaker 5: I was like, oh, okay, do you guys want to
Speaker 5: pick a tarot card before we get out of here?
Speaker 4: Do you?
Speaker 3: She don't like taro Okay.
Speaker 2: No, I don't mind. I know she talked about because
Speaker 2: we went for the girl now because okay, we went
Speaker 2: to a Patreon. We went to a Patreon, and I
Speaker 2: didn't like that lady. I'll be in my business talking
Speaker 2: about and she was a rip off. Anyways.
Speaker 3: But when I got the card of Judgment.
Speaker 2: Judgmental I'm just kidding. I got the card of x
Speaker 2: v X exit.
Speaker 3: You got a show it's three cups? Or is that
Speaker 3: three cups? What is that called?
Speaker 4: It's eight of cup, eight of cups?
Speaker 7: Okay, judgment the judgment card, you pulled it up right, Yeah,
Speaker 7: of course, this is what always happened.
Speaker 3: My Internet is hello.
Speaker 6: The judgment card is calling you to rise up and
Speaker 6: embrace a higher level of consciousness for the service of
Speaker 6: your highest good.
Speaker 3: You are experiencing a.
Speaker 6: Spiritual awakening and realizing that you are destined for so
Speaker 6: much more. This is your cosmic leveling up.
Speaker 3: You hear the call and you're.
Speaker 6: Ready to act.
Speaker 7: Tune into a higher frequency, Let go of old self
Speaker 7: and step into this newest version of who you really are.
Speaker 7: The judgment card often indicates that you need to make
Speaker 7: a life changing decision, but unlike those associated with the
Speaker 7: logical justice card, the decision requires a blend of intuition
Speaker 7: and intellect. You may be at a crossroads, aware that
Speaker 7: any choice you make will bring significant change with long
Speaker 7: lasting effects. Judgment pops up in a tarot reading when
Speaker 7: you are close to reaching a signific You are reaching
Speaker 7: a significant stage in your journey. You have reviewed and
Speaker 7: evaluated your past experiences and have learned from them. The
Speaker 7: judgment card suggests that you may find comfort in sharing
Speaker 7: your struggles with others within a group environment a podcaster.
Speaker 7: There will be others who have experienced something similar and
Speaker 7: who can show you the way of freedom from your troubles.
Speaker 7: Let them guide you and help you rise together.
Speaker 3: I love it.
Speaker 2: I love it. Look like Michael Jackson.
Speaker 3: Nope, not Michael Jackson. The ative cups.
Speaker 5: When the ative cup shows up in the tarot reading,
Speaker 5: you may feel compelled to walk away from a disappointing situation.
Speaker 5: It could mean turning your back on an unfulfilling relationship, job,
Speaker 5: career path, living arrangement, or creative project that was once
Speaker 5: a source of great happiness to you, but now it
Speaker 5: only brings you pain. You have invested yourself emotionally, but
Speaker 5: despite your best efforts, are disappointed it hasn't turned out
Speaker 5: the way you expected it to, and you realize that
Speaker 5: you're no longer getting anything out of this situation.
Speaker 4: Now.
Speaker 5: The only choice is to put it behind you and
Speaker 5: move on with your life, even if it brings you
Speaker 5: sadness as you say goodbye. The aative cup suggests that
Speaker 5: you sense that something is missing, particularly on an emotional
Speaker 5: or spiritual level, and instead of waiting around for things
Speaker 5: to get better, you know you need to leave that
Speaker 5: unfulfilling situation. It may not make sense to others because
Speaker 5: on the face it looks as if you have everything
Speaker 5: you had wished for, but deep down you know it's
Speaker 5: not serving your highest goods and it's time for you
Speaker 5: to let go. And I mean, if it doesn't speak
Speaker 5: to you, it doesn't necessarily mean anything.
Speaker 4: But if it does, you know, just take it in.
Speaker 6: The cars usually don't last the cars.
Speaker 2: The cars will reach you down.
Speaker 4: Really.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it might not be anything like you can think
Speaker 5: of right now, but maybe there's something that I.
Speaker 2: Don't pop up and be like, oh that was that car? Yep? H.
Speaker 7: Well, thank you ladies for joining us of course on
Speaker 7: the pod, for having us yea so fun. Y'all are
Speaker 7: in the area, on the area, always welcome to come
Speaker 7: back on the show, come hang out if you ever
Speaker 7: need a space to work, yes we all have about
Speaker 7: studio next door too.
Speaker 5: And also sending you so much love on your journey
Speaker 5: the last couple of months and on your birth and
Speaker 5: don't be afraid and just like tap in, you were
Speaker 5: born to do this.
Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you so much. I appreciate it. I've loved
Speaker 2: being here.
Speaker 3: Yes, thank you guys.
Speaker 7: Can you let our people know the tribe where they
Speaker 7: can find you.
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Speaker 3: Dallas, Philly, Oakland and DC.
Speaker 2: Yes yeah, so we will be there soon in these
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Speaker 3: Yes, bye bye An.
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Speaker 3: Bye.
Speaker 2: Thank you,