WEBVTT - Bad Girls. Good Moms. Ft. BTL (Winter + Chy) 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.480 Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife. 0:00:03.680 --> 0:00:06.560 She cooked, she cleaned, cared for her children and the 0:00:06.600 --> 0:00:09.639 man of the house, and of course she didn't talk back. 0:00:09.760 --> 0:00:10.600 She was both. 0:00:10.400 --> 0:00:12.200 Obedient and soft by nature. 0:00:12.320 --> 0:00:15.600 She was a good woman who always made good choices. 0:00:16.600 --> 0:00:18.720 That we're good mom's bad choices. 0:00:18.760 --> 0:00:19.599 Who's single mom? 0:00:19.600 --> 0:00:19.960 Who said? 0:00:20.000 --> 0:00:22.639 But the patriarchy shared all their bad choices and found 0:00:22.640 --> 0:00:25.280 out they were so bad after all, we're experts overhairs 0:00:25.440 --> 0:00:26.479 and your new vestie. 0:00:26.680 --> 0:00:28.000 Sit back and do the ride. 0:00:28.760 --> 0:00:34.360 I can do a bad I can. 0:00:34.320 --> 0:00:35.720 Do a bad on my. 0:00:40.920 --> 0:00:43.559 Welcome back to good Mom's bad choices. I'm Erica and 0:00:43.600 --> 0:00:47.519 I'm Nila. Happy humpday, bitches, It's another wonderful hump day 0:00:47.560 --> 0:00:49.519 in the neighborhood of good Mom's bad choices. 0:00:49.760 --> 0:00:50.920 Welcome, Welcome. 0:00:51.159 --> 0:00:51.880 How are you feeling. 0:00:52.560 --> 0:00:54.320 I feel good, I feel great. 0:00:54.440 --> 0:00:57.280 I feel tan, I feel moisturized. 0:00:57.560 --> 0:00:59.840 I just came back from a trip, so I feel good. 0:01:00.480 --> 0:01:01.160 Goodout you. 0:01:01.440 --> 0:01:04.440 I feel great, I feel activated. I just turned thirty eight. 0:01:04.920 --> 0:01:07.200 I want you a Matrix sex party. I had a 0:01:07.200 --> 0:01:09.200 hell of a weekend, a hotel staycation. 0:01:09.680 --> 0:01:10.720 I'm a little bit, you. 0:01:10.600 --> 0:01:17.320 Know, catching up, but I feel very grown and sexy. 0:01:15.840 --> 0:01:16.679 I do awesome. 0:01:17.520 --> 0:01:19.520 I love that for you, friend, because you were really 0:01:19.680 --> 0:01:21.560 paranoid and stressed about turning thirty eight. 0:01:21.920 --> 0:01:22.840 I was really parent. 0:01:23.040 --> 0:01:25.039 I was just like, oh God, time is moving so 0:01:25.080 --> 0:01:26.399 fast and there's nothing I could do about it. With 0:01:26.400 --> 0:01:29.720 the fuck every year, That's what I feel like. But yeah, 0:01:29.720 --> 0:01:35.679 I'm feeling grounded and time. But we have a special 0:01:35.720 --> 0:01:37.680 guests today, so let's not waste any time we do. 0:01:38.400 --> 0:01:41.479 This is a very special duo because we haven't had 0:01:41.520 --> 0:01:44.000 a friendship duo on the show in some time. They 0:01:44.000 --> 0:01:46.080 are local right here in LA which is also where 0:01:46.160 --> 0:01:49.000 all the podcasters be other places like the East Coast, 0:01:49.720 --> 0:01:53.640 and one of our girls is pregnant, so I'm very 0:01:53.680 --> 0:01:58.040 excited to welcome Shy and Winter from behind the likes A. 0:02:00.960 --> 0:02:01.840 Hi, ladies, how. 0:02:01.800 --> 0:02:03.840 Are you fine, I'm Shy Winter. 0:02:04.480 --> 0:02:05.680 Hi here, we are here. 0:02:06.560 --> 0:02:08.840 Thank you for having us, Thank you. We're so happy 0:02:08.840 --> 0:02:09.280 to have you. 0:02:09.960 --> 0:02:12.320 You know, when we see a friendship duo, we always 0:02:12.360 --> 0:02:15.280 I want to say a prayer over their union because 0:02:15.360 --> 0:02:17.560 you know, when you come into this podcast space and 0:02:17.680 --> 0:02:19.800 just working with friends and just like you, just like 0:02:20.120 --> 0:02:23.560 we've seen, we've seen them perish, we've seen what can happen. 0:02:23.600 --> 0:02:26.080 So I think it's really beautiful when women can come 0:02:26.080 --> 0:02:30.640 together and have a support system and a conversation. So, yeah, 0:02:30.760 --> 0:02:32.679 I'm curious because I don't really know how y'all met. 0:02:32.760 --> 0:02:34.160 How the fuck did y'all meet? 0:02:34.919 --> 0:02:37.679 We've known each other for years, but we have we've 0:02:37.680 --> 0:02:39.160 known each other for years, and you know, how la 0:02:39.320 --> 0:02:41.440 is you that bitch just be in the same corner, 0:02:41.520 --> 0:02:43.400 you know what I'm saying. So that's how it usually happens. 0:02:43.760 --> 0:02:45.880 But randomly, we had a friend I went to when 0:02:45.880 --> 0:02:50.720 I heard taco Tuesdays, randomly like before COVID, and I 0:02:50.800 --> 0:02:53.000 just had a ball. I was cracking jokes. I was there, 0:02:53.080 --> 0:02:54.880 I barely. I was like, yeah, I did my house, bitch. 0:02:54.919 --> 0:02:58.000 You know what. From there, we just clicked and then, 0:02:58.120 --> 0:03:00.680 you know, like we were inseparable, especially in COVID. It 0:03:00.760 --> 0:03:02.440 was just like you had nothing else to do but 0:03:02.440 --> 0:03:05.120 get to know somebody on such an intimate And we 0:03:05.160 --> 0:03:07.280 lived literally right now on each other down the street 0:03:07.360 --> 0:03:09.280 all the time, so that's how it kind of. 0:03:09.480 --> 0:03:12.520 So we were getting drunk together every single day, passing 0:03:12.560 --> 0:03:16.240 out waking up at a Yeah it again, yes, literally, 0:03:16.320 --> 0:03:18.079 so that's how we got super close. 0:03:18.120 --> 0:03:19.959 But yeah, like she said, we knew each other for years. 0:03:19.960 --> 0:03:21.720 We at one point lived in the same building with. 0:03:21.840 --> 0:03:25.560 Likes randomly yeah, like hey, how you doing in the 0:03:25.560 --> 0:03:27.560 elevator be like hey girl, yeah, but not knowing, like 0:03:27.919 --> 0:03:30.120 we were going to have like a whole future future 0:03:30.320 --> 0:03:34.480 and what's it the red string theory connected or whatever. 0:03:34.560 --> 0:03:36.840 Everybody said that they were senior at one point. If 0:03:36.880 --> 0:03:39.360 you were you know, if you if you've ever been 0:03:39.400 --> 0:03:41.800 in la and you are like a transplant to l A, 0:03:41.920 --> 0:03:43.800 you've stayed at the Orsini. So that's what. 0:03:47.960 --> 0:03:50.400 Yes, so mixed and so ghetto. 0:03:50.520 --> 0:03:53.440 Yeah, back in the I don't know, back then the 0:03:53.480 --> 0:03:55.480 Lakers used to play that. They used to come in, 0:03:55.560 --> 0:03:57.680 they used to come and you know practice. 0:03:57.720 --> 0:04:00.320 I had my downtown era. I lived on yes seventh 0:04:00.320 --> 0:04:04.120 and Spring. Speaking of baddies and bad choices, have y'all 0:04:04.120 --> 0:04:05.680 made any bad choices this week? 0:04:08.280 --> 0:04:10.600 I've been on a pretty good choice path for a 0:04:10.640 --> 0:04:13.400 while now. I mean I don't I don't think so. 0:04:13.480 --> 0:04:16.240 I think I've been doing pretty good with good choices. 0:04:16.440 --> 0:04:20.400 I mean, yeah, I took a plan B, so that 0:04:20.920 --> 0:04:22.200 a choice. 0:04:22.520 --> 0:04:24.599 That's actually a good You took a. 0:04:27.000 --> 0:04:30.480 Girl, yes, so he's shooting up the club that's crazy 0:04:30.839 --> 0:04:32.360 trying to be pregnant right next to me. 0:04:35.480 --> 0:04:37.200 One of us have a pregnancy pack. 0:04:37.400 --> 0:04:38.080 You know. 0:04:39.000 --> 0:04:40.240 I said that on the last episode. 0:04:40.360 --> 0:04:43.479 You were like, yeah, you get you're gonna be taking 0:04:43.480 --> 0:04:45.000 care of ladies ready. 0:04:45.839 --> 0:04:47.440 But she's a little too far behind. Now you're supposed 0:04:47.440 --> 0:04:47.880 to get pregnant. 0:04:50.240 --> 0:04:51.320 I could. 0:04:51.360 --> 0:04:53.719 I don't even want a dog like a baby. 0:04:54.120 --> 0:04:55.479 She changed her mind every two days. 0:04:56.279 --> 0:04:58.200 I changed my mind sometimes. 0:04:58.279 --> 0:05:00.479 But now I feel like there's already a baby on 0:05:00.480 --> 0:05:02.440 the way, so like I'm fully settled. Like you know, 0:05:02.520 --> 0:05:04.960 like around the holidays, I get really baby fever, but 0:05:05.000 --> 0:05:06.520 now it's like, Okay, we're gonna have a baby for 0:05:06.600 --> 0:05:07.000 the holiday. 0:05:07.040 --> 0:05:08.200 So I think I'm set. 0:05:08.279 --> 0:05:10.080 Like around the holidays I want a baby. 0:05:10.160 --> 0:05:12.919 Yeah, like you know, November to January, I love baby, 0:05:12.960 --> 0:05:14.080 And then the rest of the year, I'm. 0:05:13.960 --> 0:05:15.840 Like January like he'll me bitch, no baby. 0:05:16.120 --> 0:05:20.640 Yeah. Literally, that's a majority like year round babies, but 0:05:21.400 --> 0:05:23.880 especially around the holidays. So I'm like it's perfect that 0:05:23.960 --> 0:05:26.240 I'm due, like in around October, because I'm like it 0:05:26.240 --> 0:05:28.839 will be a little holiday baby as a little pumpkins. 0:05:29.000 --> 0:05:30.480 He's gonna be Turkey, he's. 0:05:30.320 --> 0:05:33.840 Gonna be a little el miss, he's gonna do all that, 0:05:33.960 --> 0:05:34.640 He's gonna do it all. 0:05:34.760 --> 0:05:37.000 That's nice that you guys have this camaraderie around the 0:05:37.000 --> 0:05:39.000 baby noess, because I feel like sometimes when you're like, 0:05:39.120 --> 0:05:40.960 do you have a lot of other friends that have kids? 0:05:41.320 --> 0:05:44.400 Not really, I have one. I have two close best 0:05:44.440 --> 0:05:47.200 friends who also have two boys. So I mean it, 0:05:47.520 --> 0:05:51.080 yes I do, but in La for sure, not really. 0:05:51.160 --> 0:05:53.680 But you know what's interesting is that we're all older now, 0:05:53.760 --> 0:05:56.479 and I feel like now everybody's like all right, time 0:05:56.560 --> 0:05:58.320 to like have kids, Like you either miss that part 0:05:58.360 --> 0:06:00.880 where it's like twenty two to twenty six kids and 0:06:00.920 --> 0:06:03.159 now it's like geriatric. You know. 0:06:03.279 --> 0:06:05.880 So because some sometimes moms get pregnant their homegirls that 0:06:05.880 --> 0:06:08.760 they party with and be like, Okay, well I'm just gonna. 0:06:08.520 --> 0:06:09.440 Slowly back out. 0:06:09.560 --> 0:06:12.960 I want to party too, want to hang. 0:06:12.839 --> 0:06:16.120 Well, she like, I mean honestly, like it's so funny 0:06:16.120 --> 0:06:18.200 because like me and Shi are best friends to the 0:06:18.200 --> 0:06:20.640 point where like we're damn near like sisters, so we 0:06:20.680 --> 0:06:23.320 don't even really like like we obviously have had our 0:06:23.360 --> 0:06:25.520 times like where we party together, but like I have 0:06:25.600 --> 0:06:28.360 my friends, She has her friends, and like sometimes even 0:06:28.400 --> 0:06:30.159 when we go out, like we're not up under each other, 0:06:30.160 --> 0:06:32.120 because we're up under each other every damn day pretty much. 0:06:32.120 --> 0:06:33.800 So yeah, it's like that. 0:06:33.960 --> 0:06:37.039 Like so we're not like party best friends, We're like 0:06:37.080 --> 0:06:38.120 real best real buns. 0:06:38.120 --> 0:06:39.599 Like yeah, like I have the most fun with her 0:06:39.680 --> 0:06:42.240 when I'm like, we might to have a slummer party tonight. 0:06:42.040 --> 0:06:43.200 But like we're just like chilling. 0:06:43.640 --> 0:06:46.440 She'll cook and we'll just be watching TV, are doing stuff, 0:06:46.440 --> 0:06:48.080 like doing things like that. It's like very chill. But 0:06:48.120 --> 0:06:51.240 like when I go out our age, it's like she 0:06:51.279 --> 0:06:51.760 can hang. 0:06:52.160 --> 0:06:54.839 I can't really like I can hang on my own ship, 0:06:54.920 --> 0:06:56.880 but like she, yeah, I can't. 0:06:56.680 --> 0:07:00.680 Hang sho, you might really be me in the real one. 0:07:00.680 --> 0:07:02.600 Thing about me, bitch, If I'm gonna go, I'm going 0:07:03.000 --> 0:07:03.559 going hard. 0:07:03.560 --> 0:07:05.479 I'm going to an aftis and another afternoon. 0:07:05.560 --> 0:07:09.960 Yeah yeah, I'm like this weekend, literally we did the 0:07:10.000 --> 0:07:11.560 whole We had a hotel party and I haven't been 0:07:11.560 --> 0:07:12.320 to a hotel. 0:07:12.040 --> 0:07:13.480 Party in fucking one hundred years. 0:07:13.520 --> 0:07:16.040 But we went to an after hours, eeries after hours, 0:07:16.240 --> 0:07:18.280 and then I was like back to my place, everybody. 0:07:18.480 --> 0:07:20.160 Then I put on my shipper shoes and I got 0:07:20.200 --> 0:07:23.080 on the table and dance on everybody. And then I 0:07:23.080 --> 0:07:24.480 told I've got in the bathroom with my man, and 0:07:24.480 --> 0:07:26.480 I was like, do you think will me to invite 0:07:26.520 --> 0:07:28.240 people back to our hotel room at four forty five 0:07:28.280 --> 0:07:28.600 in the morning. 0:07:28.600 --> 0:07:29.720 They think everybody's gonna. 0:07:29.520 --> 0:07:32.440 Fuck, And he goes yeah, and I was like, but 0:07:32.440 --> 0:07:34.080 that's not what I want to do want and then 0:07:34.240 --> 0:07:35.680 he's like whatever, and then he got in the shower 0:07:35.680 --> 0:07:37.280 and everybody could see him in the power. And then 0:07:37.280 --> 0:07:40.080 I proceeded to get on the table and dance on 0:07:40.120 --> 0:07:42.000 everybody after I asked this question. You see, everyone thinks 0:07:42.000 --> 0:07:43.120 we gonna fuck. He's like, he has, like I don't 0:07:43.160 --> 0:07:46.280 want to, and then proceeded to lap dance everybody living 0:07:46.360 --> 0:07:47.680 round and I said it's wrong with me. 0:07:47.760 --> 0:07:48.160 I don't know. 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:49.720 Well, yeah, you just have. Yeah. 0:07:49.720 --> 0:07:50.960 I just happened a green ball. 0:07:51.040 --> 0:07:53.000 But I also stepped into my thirty eight year old 0:07:53.280 --> 0:07:55.520 boundaries and I was like, when I told everyone to 0:07:55.520 --> 0:07:57.120 come back to our room at four forty five, I said, 0:07:57.160 --> 0:07:59.160 everybody has to leave by six a m. And that 0:07:59.200 --> 0:08:01.760 means you call your car at five forty five forty five. 0:08:02.120 --> 0:08:02.880 And usually I'd just. 0:08:02.800 --> 0:08:04.960 Be like, fucking, let's just until anybody wants to leave 0:08:05.280 --> 0:08:05.680 by eight. 0:08:05.600 --> 0:08:06.560 I'd be like I'm tired. 0:08:06.720 --> 0:08:10.480 Yeah, yeah, so yeah, I under six is a good boundary, right, 0:08:10.520 --> 0:08:12.160 six reasonable. 0:08:12.280 --> 0:08:15.000 I bought a banner from Amazon's like leave by ten, 0:08:15.360 --> 0:08:17.400 so I'm like, I'm like, i haven't got to use 0:08:17.400 --> 0:08:18.720 it yet, but I'm like, I really want to have 0:08:18.800 --> 0:08:20.600 like a little game night like in the day and 0:08:20.640 --> 0:08:22.760 then be like leave by ten. You know, let's just 0:08:22.800 --> 0:08:23.280 keep it chill. 0:08:23.280 --> 0:08:25.360 I'm pred of the invitation to know, Like I don't 0:08:25.520 --> 0:08:25.760 say it. 0:08:25.800 --> 0:08:28.080 I think it's important as the ragers of the crew 0:08:28.280 --> 0:08:31.120 to have a strong boundary because you'll raise yourself into 0:08:31.280 --> 0:08:33.480 non rage moment You're like, I've gone too far. 0:08:33.640 --> 0:08:35.280 Why why we've still here? 0:08:35.320 --> 0:08:39.920 Why am I giving lap dances and having silettos. 0:08:38.920 --> 0:08:42.000 Like literally lap dance toilettos. I'm like, I'm the I'm 0:08:42.040 --> 0:08:43.600 the resident lap dancer and my crew. 0:08:43.880 --> 0:08:46.080 I was just so, I'm like today, I was like 0:08:46.080 --> 0:08:48.000 looking at like baby shower venues or whatever, and I 0:08:48.040 --> 0:08:49.960 was like, Okay, all of these venues in at like 0:08:50.000 --> 0:08:53.120 four o'clock, we can have a rager in my house afterwards. 0:08:53.120 --> 0:08:56.240 Like that was that was like I was like, we 0:08:56.280 --> 0:08:57.600 can do something there, or we can go to a 0:08:57.600 --> 0:08:59.959 club and mid section I'm like, I'm thinking of waste 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:02.560 party after the baby shower. I'm not fighting section, right. 0:09:02.600 --> 0:09:04.040 I was like, we're gonna have a baby shower. Section. 0:09:04.120 --> 0:09:05.400 I was like, I don't know, it's gonna be a vibe, 0:09:05.440 --> 0:09:06.640 you know, like, let's figure it out. 0:09:06.679 --> 0:09:08.320 I mean, you got to go out with you with 0:09:08.320 --> 0:09:10.760 your balls out, like exactly, rock out with my cock out, 0:09:10.880 --> 0:09:11.120 you know. 0:09:11.200 --> 0:09:13.720 I mean, if everybody's gonna be in town, might as 0:09:13.760 --> 0:09:14.800 well have a ball. 0:09:15.040 --> 0:09:17.040 I suck ad that I agree with this racher as 0:09:17.080 --> 0:09:18.160 a baby baby racher. 0:09:18.679 --> 0:09:19.600 A baby racher. 0:09:20.000 --> 0:09:21.000 That's hilarious. 0:09:21.480 --> 0:09:25.960 I'm curious to know, Like, when, so you're newly ish pregnant, 0:09:26.440 --> 0:09:27.319 how did you tell her? 0:09:27.400 --> 0:09:28.760 And what was your first thought? 0:09:29.440 --> 0:09:30.760 Jesus, what was your first thought? 0:09:30.920 --> 0:09:34.040 I called crying. I was like, I'm you just asked me. 0:09:34.000 --> 0:09:35.640 You were like, was this plan? I was like, hell no, 0:09:35.840 --> 0:09:37.680 this was not plaanned, Like this was a year. Like 0:09:37.720 --> 0:09:39.560 I was literally like, I swear twenty twenty six. I 0:09:39.559 --> 0:09:41.040 was like, twenty twenty six. I'm getting my shit together, 0:09:41.280 --> 0:09:41.920 you know what I'm saying. 0:09:41.920 --> 0:09:43.600 So like it really manifested. 0:09:45.360 --> 0:09:47.640 That getting my shit together was being pregnant. But literally, 0:09:47.720 --> 0:09:49.720 I don't know, but no, I literally was, like I 0:09:49.720 --> 0:09:51.319 wrote in a journal. I was like, all right, I'm 0:09:51.360 --> 0:09:53.280 starting this year off fresh cause I was kind of 0:09:53.280 --> 0:09:55.040 like depressed after year last year. So I was like, 0:09:55.320 --> 0:09:57.880 I'm going to go into this year fresh, rejuvenated, getting 0:09:57.920 --> 0:10:00.319 my shit together to do my business, blah blah blah. 0:10:00.440 --> 0:10:02.559 I don't know. I just felt like around this, this 0:10:02.600 --> 0:10:05.000 is no I'm not gonna say this because people, but whatever. 0:10:05.600 --> 0:10:07.400 I just felt like I had drink a fresh cup 0:10:07.440 --> 0:10:10.520 of coffee and I was like, then a pregnancy happened. 0:10:10.559 --> 0:10:12.320 I was like shitt in the coffee and I was like, 0:10:12.320 --> 0:10:13.840 oh my goodness. That was my first that was my 0:10:13.920 --> 0:10:16.920 initial thoughts. It really was like I'm ready for a 0:10:16.960 --> 0:10:19.720 new like so, so I explained this on my podcast 0:10:19.880 --> 0:10:21.520 and I was just basically saying that, like you know, 0:10:21.559 --> 0:10:22.920 it took me a while to get to where I 0:10:23.000 --> 0:10:26.360 was at, but my first reaction was like, oh, no, 0:10:26.480 --> 0:10:29.199 I'm pregnant. And I called her and I was basically crying. 0:10:29.280 --> 0:10:33.000 So she came over and yeah, we took Yeah. She 0:10:33.280 --> 0:10:35.320 brought a bottle of wine. I had a bottle of 0:10:35.360 --> 0:10:36.520 wine there because. 0:10:36.520 --> 0:10:38.600 I was like I'm on my way. I didn't say anything. 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:40.880 I was just like, yeah, so she came over, she 0:10:41.000 --> 0:10:45.040 got wasted, dropped. 0:10:44.720 --> 0:10:47.080 The whole bottle, and I was just like, yeah, well, 0:10:47.320 --> 0:10:48.120 like we're pregnant. 0:10:48.320 --> 0:10:50.200 Yeah, so yeah, So she was. 0:10:50.400 --> 0:10:53.000 So a first day, she was very much like supportive. 0:10:53.080 --> 0:10:55.120 Second day, I think reality clicked in and was like 0:10:55.320 --> 0:10:57.600 we got a lot going on, well and a lot 0:10:57.600 --> 0:10:58.760 of stuff. Like she was like, we got a lot 0:10:58.760 --> 0:11:00.560 of things to do, which is normal because I think 0:11:01.160 --> 0:11:04.080 her first reaction was friendship. Second reaction was like all 0:11:04.200 --> 0:11:06.600 right in the business side too. And I was like, 0:11:06.800 --> 0:11:08.440 all right, I got a lot of things to think about, 0:11:08.480 --> 0:11:10.839 and I think first one is this, you know what 0:11:10.880 --> 0:11:12.520 I'm saying. So it was like that was where my 0:11:12.520 --> 0:11:15.040 mental was. So I think after a while we both 0:11:15.040 --> 0:11:17.880 were just like I mean, shit, it is what it is, 0:11:18.000 --> 0:11:18.200 you know. 0:11:18.320 --> 0:11:20.280 Yeah, at any point where you're like I don't know 0:11:20.320 --> 0:11:23.040 if I want to carry out the pregnancy. 0:11:22.720 --> 0:11:24.520 Well, of course, for like the first month, so the 0:11:24.520 --> 0:11:26.720 whole February, I found out around my birthday, like two 0:11:26.800 --> 0:11:29.400 days before my birthday. My birthday is on January thirty. 0:11:29.400 --> 0:11:31.840 First I found out like January twenty ninth. 0:11:32.000 --> 0:11:32.200 Yeah. 0:11:32.280 --> 0:11:35.440 Yeah, So the whole month of February, there were days 0:11:35.440 --> 0:11:38.800 where I was like I can go to the chap shop. 0:11:38.840 --> 0:11:40.640 And then there were others like literally I was thinking, 0:11:40.640 --> 0:11:43.080 like these were my real thoughts, and so then there 0:11:43.080 --> 0:11:45.200 were other days was like, oh, I could you know, 0:11:45.559 --> 0:11:46.920 I could do I could do it me and little 0:11:46.920 --> 0:11:48.600 me and men you know what I'm saying. But like 0:11:48.640 --> 0:11:51.240 I obviously was talking to you know, my partner as well, 0:11:51.280 --> 0:11:54.480 and he was like, you know, I support whatever you 0:11:54.520 --> 0:11:56.559 want to do, because I was very vocal about what 0:11:56.600 --> 0:11:57.920 I wanted to do, and he was just like, I 0:11:57.960 --> 0:11:59.520 was very very supportive what you want to do. I 0:11:59.559 --> 0:12:01.439 even like scheduled an appointment one time and it was 0:12:01.480 --> 0:12:03.160 just like I don't know, Like I just don't want to. 0:12:03.200 --> 0:12:06.120 It's so much to deal with. And I scheduled appointment 0:12:06.240 --> 0:12:09.120 and he was just like, please don't do this, and 0:12:09.160 --> 0:12:12.760 so basically, you know, I was just like, still, I 0:12:12.760 --> 0:12:16.440 have to do this for myself. So he altered the time, 0:12:16.480 --> 0:12:18.440 But in my head, I was like, if I want to, 0:12:18.520 --> 0:12:20.360 I will, but I had to make sure that I 0:12:20.400 --> 0:12:22.600 was doing it for me and nobody else. So I 0:12:22.640 --> 0:12:24.400 think that was the biggest part that I had to 0:12:24.440 --> 0:12:28.640 come to was if nobody's around, do I still want 0:12:28.679 --> 0:12:30.360 to do this on my own? You know, And I 0:12:30.360 --> 0:12:32.480 think that's what was the most important thing for me. 0:12:32.760 --> 0:12:36.800 For for like my perspective, Like obviously, at first day one, 0:12:36.920 --> 0:12:38.600 I was like, whatever you want to do, Like we're 0:12:38.600 --> 0:12:39.160 going to get through it. 0:12:39.200 --> 0:12:40.199 We can get through anything. 0:12:40.440 --> 0:12:47.679 Baby daddy getting drunk. No, literally got wasted. 0:12:47.800 --> 0:12:50.120 Yeah, I was like no. 0:12:50.360 --> 0:12:53.120 But then I mean obviously, like throughout the whole time, 0:12:53.200 --> 0:12:54.920 I was never like get an abortion. 0:12:55.320 --> 0:12:56.800 I really thought she was going to get abortion. 0:12:57.040 --> 0:12:59.200 But I was like we're still, like I'm still going 0:12:59.240 --> 0:13:01.080 to be here with you no matter what, Like we'll 0:13:01.080 --> 0:13:03.959 figure it out. But like, also I think my biggest 0:13:04.080 --> 0:13:06.920 fear was like is she gonna want to quit the podcast? 0:13:07.120 --> 0:13:08.760 Like that was what I was more scared of. And 0:13:08.800 --> 0:13:10.120 I was like, bro, like we got hell of shit 0:13:10.160 --> 0:13:12.240 going on. And more so for me, it was like 0:13:12.559 --> 0:13:14.880 if you want to do this, and like we make 0:13:14.960 --> 0:13:17.200 it work. I want to make it work. But like 0:13:17.520 --> 0:13:19.640 I like more so I was just scared, like are 0:13:19.679 --> 0:13:22.280 you gonna have a baby and then like leave and 0:13:22.280 --> 0:13:24.160 then this is gonna be over and like we've built 0:13:24.200 --> 0:13:26.720 so much and we worked so hard and like just 0:13:26.760 --> 0:13:28.840 like not knowing what it's gonna look like and like 0:13:29.040 --> 0:13:32.679 me just being like what the fuck Like. Also, I 0:13:32.720 --> 0:13:38.360 didn't know that she was like even hooking up with 0:13:38.520 --> 0:13:42.280 her partner before this happened, so well, nobody did were 0:13:42.400 --> 0:13:42.800 all together. 0:13:43.720 --> 0:13:46.760 Everybody asked me. Every single one of my friends asked 0:13:46.760 --> 0:13:48.880 me when I And it's wild to say, because I'm like, 0:13:48.960 --> 0:13:50.760 imagine me think y'all think I'm gonna keep a random 0:13:50.760 --> 0:13:55.800 man's baby. Everybody, all of my friends were like, because 0:13:55.840 --> 0:13:58.360 nobody knew. The thing is I only have sex with 0:13:58.400 --> 0:14:01.240 him one time, and I mean, that's how it happens. 0:14:01.360 --> 0:14:04.599 But you know, well, no I knew, actually, but I 0:14:04.679 --> 0:14:08.000 knew from somebody else, So she didn't know that I knew. 0:14:08.559 --> 0:14:10.320 It was like a whole thing. Can I say how 0:14:10.360 --> 0:14:10.720 I knew? 0:14:10.880 --> 0:14:14.880 No, okay, whatever, So whatever, I knew from somebody else. 0:14:15.120 --> 0:14:17.120 And then when she called me, I didn't say by 0:14:17.160 --> 0:14:19.640 who because I had already found out. I just didn't 0:14:19.680 --> 0:14:21.800 tell her that you alreadyknew that I already knew. So 0:14:21.800 --> 0:14:23.400 I was like, all right, I'm on the way whatever. 0:14:23.680 --> 0:14:26.280 But then, like you know, after we spoke, and she 0:14:26.480 --> 0:14:28.280 just basically was like, I'm not about to like give 0:14:28.320 --> 0:14:29.360 up everything we worked for. 0:14:29.880 --> 0:14:31.760 To me, I thought that was like a crazy thought 0:14:31.800 --> 0:14:33.600 process too, cause it's like the first thing I think 0:14:33.640 --> 0:14:36.440 of when like I understand it. I understood exactly what 0:14:36.480 --> 0:14:38.280 you were thinking. But in my head, I'm like, the 0:14:38.320 --> 0:14:40.000 moment I have a child, that's the first thing I 0:14:40.040 --> 0:14:42.000 think about, like money, you know what I'm saying, and 0:14:42.040 --> 0:14:52.120 like what I'm gonna do next. I understood the thought 0:14:52.120 --> 0:14:53.720 process of it, so that's why I'm like, I get it, 0:14:53.720 --> 0:14:55.480 and I understood that part of it, but I think 0:14:55.520 --> 0:14:58.680 other than that, it was just like my initial thought 0:14:58.720 --> 0:15:00.440 was like how can I support this child? That was 0:15:00.480 --> 0:15:02.680 the first thing and my obviously my main source of 0:15:02.680 --> 0:15:05.200 income is this podcast with my best friend, and so 0:15:05.280 --> 0:15:06.480 that was like my thought process. 0:15:06.480 --> 0:15:07.080 I was like I. 0:15:07.000 --> 0:15:09.280 Can't do anything else without that, you know what I'm saying. 0:15:09.320 --> 0:15:11.360 So that was like and it's just a little fucking baby, 0:15:11.360 --> 0:15:12.840 you know what I'm saying, Like it's just one. 0:15:13.280 --> 0:15:15.400 Well now that's like obviously like now. 0:15:22.120 --> 0:15:23.600 No, but I know it changed my whole world up. 0:15:23.760 --> 0:15:24.960 Yeah, No, it's just. 0:15:24.880 --> 0:15:27.080 A big change, Like you know, like that's just like 0:15:27.120 --> 0:15:28.800 I think that's just like the scariest part because it's 0:15:28.800 --> 0:15:30.600 like we don't know what it's going to look like 0:15:30.960 --> 0:15:34.480 I know that we could handle whatever life throws at us, 0:15:34.640 --> 0:15:36.920 like as long as we're on the same page and 0:15:37.320 --> 0:15:39.800 you know, like we have our friendship first, I know, 0:15:39.880 --> 0:15:43.360 we could do whatever, get through whatever, and like, you know, 0:15:43.480 --> 0:15:45.920 handle it like a boss. But it's just like when 0:15:45.960 --> 0:15:48.440 something so life changing happens, it's like, okay, but how 0:15:48.480 --> 0:15:49.160 we gonna do it? 0:15:49.200 --> 0:15:52.360 Like you know, so now that we're like already past that. 0:15:52.440 --> 0:15:55.040 And now it's just like pretty much the excitement stage, 0:15:55.160 --> 0:15:56.640 Like that's just just. 0:15:56.600 --> 0:15:57.600 Like a happy time. 0:15:57.800 --> 0:16:00.600 She's more excited than me. Bought clothes art. The first 0:16:00.600 --> 0:16:02.400 time I bought clothes was when I took the maternity 0:16:02.400 --> 0:16:05.160 pictures for Amazon, I mean off Amazon. She has showed 0:16:05.160 --> 0:16:06.800 me a little winsie. I was like, oh h nice, 0:16:06.800 --> 0:16:09.200 because I've been sick. This pregnancy hasn't been like the easiest, 0:16:09.200 --> 0:16:13.000 so I haven't been able to like boys, yeah, adjust 0:16:13.120 --> 0:16:15.440 to those type of and the Old Wives Tale it 0:16:15.440 --> 0:16:17.200 says that you're not supposed to be sick with boys, 0:16:17.200 --> 0:16:19.000 So I don't know, really, yeah, I. 0:16:18.960 --> 0:16:20.520 Feel like a lot of my friends that were had 0:16:20.520 --> 0:16:21.200 boys were sick. 0:16:21.280 --> 0:16:24.240 Yeah no, I'm just like, yeah, I don't know. I 0:16:24.320 --> 0:16:25.720 seen the Old Wives Tail and it was just like 0:16:25.760 --> 0:16:26.840 you don't get sick with boys. 0:16:27.040 --> 0:16:27.840 She was sick as fuck. 0:16:27.960 --> 0:16:31.200 I'm sick an right, So I mean the old wives 0:16:31.200 --> 0:16:33.760 tales are old wives tales. Their tails, they'd be lying 0:16:33.840 --> 0:16:35.680 and and it's true, Like it is just a little 0:16:35.680 --> 0:16:37.480 motherfucker baby, like you. 0:16:37.360 --> 0:16:38.440 Feed it through your tits. 0:16:38.480 --> 0:16:40.840 They need some diapers, but for the most part, the 0:16:40.880 --> 0:16:44.120 best advice someone told me was, like, the baby comes 0:16:44.160 --> 0:16:46.000 up into your life, Like you don't come up to 0:16:46.080 --> 0:16:48.120 the baby's life, so you make the baby adjust to 0:16:48.160 --> 0:16:49.640 your life, you know what I mean. So it's like, 0:16:49.640 --> 0:16:52.360 if you treat your baby like a fragile porcelain fucking cup, 0:16:52.560 --> 0:16:55.400 it's gonna be fucking delicate and porcelain and like. But 0:16:55.440 --> 0:16:57.160 if you treat your baby like you're my side cake 0:16:57.200 --> 0:16:59.120 and we're hitting the road and this is how. 0:16:59.160 --> 0:17:01.680 This is the mammy you got yeah, and now strap 0:17:01.720 --> 0:17:02.360 your shit up. 0:17:02.280 --> 0:17:02.840 You know what I mean. 0:17:02.920 --> 0:17:05.119 Like I feel like like the like my child was 0:17:05.160 --> 0:17:07.680 the first child in our friend group, and I took 0:17:07.720 --> 0:17:10.720 that baby bowling and she was fucking three months like 0:17:10.760 --> 0:17:14.160 she's fine, she was knocked out like everything. I took 0:17:14.160 --> 0:17:15.920 her to a party and she was like a month 0:17:15.960 --> 0:17:17.399 and it was a New Year's Eve party. 0:17:17.880 --> 0:17:21.119 She was just like I was like, she's fine outside. 0:17:21.400 --> 0:17:24.680 She was outside of New York probably, I mean, and 0:17:24.760 --> 0:17:26.960 I didn't I don't like believe in immunizations. And she's 0:17:27.080 --> 0:17:29.040 fucking healthy and she's great. And I also I was 0:17:29.080 --> 0:17:31.160 twenty seven, I was younger. But I think a lot 0:17:31.160 --> 0:17:33.280 of the times people give you like all this advice 0:17:33.359 --> 0:17:35.520 and like a lot of people do all these things, 0:17:35.520 --> 0:17:36.960 they baby proof and they do this, they do this, 0:17:37.200 --> 0:17:39.000 like the baby figures that it's shit out. 0:17:39.240 --> 0:17:40.560 Yeah you know, I had a glass table. 0:17:40.600 --> 0:17:42.600 The baby was like, I'm like, yeah, you see that's glass, 0:17:42.640 --> 0:17:43.119 don't catch it. 0:17:43.400 --> 0:17:45.560 Yeah. I mean, I was born in ninety three. 0:17:45.560 --> 0:17:47.159 My mom was twenty when when she had me, and 0:17:47.200 --> 0:17:49.080 I was around all kinds of shit, Like I don't 0:17:49.080 --> 0:17:51.359 feel like I was ever like super sheltered or anything. 0:17:51.640 --> 0:17:54.399 And look, I'm great, You're great. And it's not about 0:17:54.400 --> 0:17:56.879 being like a careless mom. It's about being a realistic parent, 0:17:57.040 --> 0:18:00.480 about like just understanding like you got this and all 0:18:00.520 --> 0:18:02.359 the tools that you have to like you're supposed to 0:18:02.400 --> 0:18:04.639 know will come to you. So like there's nothing and 0:18:04.720 --> 0:18:06.919 you have like a tribe of people who care about you. 0:18:06.960 --> 0:18:09.639 And so I mean, I think it's beautiful and not. 0:18:09.520 --> 0:18:11.400 To worry, and I hope you. 0:18:11.359 --> 0:18:15.000 Have a beautiful, wonderful pregnancy and birth and it'll be great. 0:18:15.040 --> 0:18:17.280 How do you feel like your identity has shifted so far? 0:18:17.720 --> 0:18:20.040 And like you as her friend, like, have you seen 0:18:20.080 --> 0:18:25.359 anything shifting in how she's showing up now versus before pregnancy? 0:18:29.160 --> 0:18:30.399 Same bitch like that she's not. 0:18:30.600 --> 0:18:34.200 Yeah, honestly, I mean I haven't even registered yet. Honestly, 0:18:34.240 --> 0:18:36.359 today I was today at Zion, like you know, the 0:18:36.359 --> 0:18:38.480 miseducation in Laurence Hill. Zion came on and I was 0:18:38.560 --> 0:18:44.359 just like, bit just really told me to get an abortion. No, 0:18:44.440 --> 0:18:47.240 but I did like that, like I get these random 0:18:47.280 --> 0:18:48.879 like I remember when the first time I felt flotters, 0:18:48.920 --> 0:18:50.800 I was like, okay, I feel a little. But there 0:18:50.880 --> 0:18:53.000 have been times and just being pure honesty, I felt 0:18:53.080 --> 0:18:56.280 like so emotionless to where I had to chat GBT 0:18:56.520 --> 0:18:58.119 is this normal one? And it is, you know what 0:18:58.119 --> 0:18:59.560 I'm saying, So it is normal. But there are times 0:18:59.560 --> 0:19:03.440 where I've just been very much like completely dismissed from it, 0:19:03.440 --> 0:19:04.920 and I'm like, I do have a little baby growing 0:19:04.960 --> 0:19:07.080 inside me, so I'm like now I'm I'm I think 0:19:07.080 --> 0:19:09.960 I'm more aware, but like I don't know. It just 0:19:09.960 --> 0:19:12.560 hasn't I don't know, the reality hasn't really come in 0:19:12.640 --> 0:19:13.959 that sense yet. I don't know. 0:19:14.040 --> 0:19:15.080 Do you feel like I've shifted? 0:19:16.680 --> 0:19:19.679 Uh? No, different, You act the same you act. She 0:19:19.720 --> 0:19:21.520 acts pretty auntie coated for sure. 0:19:21.600 --> 0:19:23.680 She's always You're always coded. 0:19:23.720 --> 0:19:25.520 And I think I'm so thankful that I have like 0:19:25.520 --> 0:19:27.919 a tribe of people who are excited for me and 0:19:27.960 --> 0:19:29.720 who like love me enough to like go through this 0:19:29.800 --> 0:19:31.840 with me. And I'm just like, I'm so blessed for 0:19:31.920 --> 0:19:35.720 them because I understand the dynamic can change and you 0:19:35.800 --> 0:19:37.640 never know how it looks after having because I don't 0:19:37.680 --> 0:19:39.960 know what life is prepared for me after this, and 0:19:40.000 --> 0:19:42.240 I understand that it's going to be difficult, it's going 0:19:42.280 --> 0:19:43.720 to be different, it's going to be trial and era. 0:19:44.160 --> 0:19:45.959 But I'm just so grateful for my friends that they 0:19:46.000 --> 0:19:48.119 are who they are and how they are now, and 0:19:48.160 --> 0:19:49.240 I hope it doesn't change, you know. 0:19:49.640 --> 0:19:52.639 I feel like having a kid leveled me up. M h. 0:19:53.240 --> 0:19:54.000 That's how I felt. 0:19:54.040 --> 0:19:56.720 That's why I was like, I'm get my ships together. 0:19:56.880 --> 0:19:58.760 Like I ate my like mushroom, like Mario. 0:20:00.119 --> 0:20:01.960 You know, at first, you're exhausted and you don't know 0:20:02.000 --> 0:20:04.159 who you are a little bit, and you know, but 0:20:04.240 --> 0:20:06.520 I think that you have this little human looking back 0:20:06.560 --> 0:20:07.000 at you. 0:20:07.000 --> 0:20:09.760 You really have to kind of figure it out, and. 0:20:10.200 --> 0:20:12.560 You might go through seasons of feeling like immense pressure, 0:20:12.600 --> 0:20:14.879 but then like shit, just kind of you're in the 0:20:14.920 --> 0:20:17.879 creation energy, like you literally are in creating life. So 0:20:17.920 --> 0:20:20.320 it's like a beautiful time right now, even in your 0:20:20.359 --> 0:20:22.879 friendship and in your business, to like really ask for 0:20:23.000 --> 0:20:25.960 exactly what the fuck you want, yeah, because you already 0:20:26.000 --> 0:20:29.080 have that creation energy coming through, and you're both women. 0:20:29.680 --> 0:20:32.479 So I feel like it's an invitation for y'all to, like, 0:20:32.680 --> 0:20:35.520 for your show, for your friendship, for everything to even 0:20:35.560 --> 0:20:36.520 expand even more. 0:20:36.840 --> 0:20:39.520 Yeah, So I'm excited. 0:20:39.200 --> 0:20:40.760 For y'all, And I think it's it's a little bit 0:20:40.800 --> 0:20:42.640 it is like I'm happy that you said you don't 0:20:42.640 --> 0:20:44.600 feel anything, because sometimes I think people feel like a 0:20:44.640 --> 0:20:47.080 way about saying that. But I think it's such a 0:20:47.280 --> 0:20:50.840 big thing that you're going into that sometimes like it 0:20:50.880 --> 0:20:52.800 does feel like what the fuck? Yeah, So it's almost 0:20:52.800 --> 0:20:55.360 so overwhelming that you kind of numb out. And even 0:20:55.440 --> 0:20:58.199 right now I'm discussing having getting pregnant again, I was like, 0:20:58.200 --> 0:21:01.160 I don't really remember that I remember but I don't 0:21:01.200 --> 0:21:03.119 remember much. I feel like I was fine, you know. 0:21:03.240 --> 0:21:05.560 But it's like sometimes when you're going through something for 0:21:05.600 --> 0:21:08.399 the first time, especially and it's like such a you know, 0:21:08.480 --> 0:21:11.040 it's a big life change that your body does kind 0:21:11.040 --> 0:21:14.600 of put it outside of yourself. So be honest and 0:21:14.640 --> 0:21:18.040 like that's normal. And also the closer it gets, the 0:21:18.080 --> 0:21:20.320 realer or git in the moment that baby comes out, 0:21:20.320 --> 0:21:22.760 you're gonna be like, oh shit, Yeah, it's like such 0:21:22.760 --> 0:21:26.520 an overwhelm with like beautiful bliss, Like I can't describe 0:21:27.400 --> 0:21:29.960 how much like when that baby slaps on the chest, 0:21:30.040 --> 0:21:31.879 like the overwhelm of like, oh my god, I'm exactly 0:21:31.880 --> 0:21:33.760 where I'm supposed to be, doing exactly what I'm supposed 0:21:33.760 --> 0:21:36.600 to do. So, you know, just just trust the process 0:21:36.800 --> 0:21:39.879 and tap into your power, your importal power right. 0:21:39.760 --> 0:21:41.840 Now, so do all the things. 0:21:42.200 --> 0:21:43.160 Yeah, I will. 0:21:44.160 --> 0:21:46.480 I want to talk about your friendship because you know, 0:21:46.560 --> 0:21:50.920 we are a friendship podcast, and we've built our podcast 0:21:51.000 --> 0:21:54.040 really on just being authentic and being honest with each 0:21:54.080 --> 0:21:55.240 other and. 0:21:55.000 --> 0:21:56.240 With people that write into us. 0:21:57.760 --> 0:22:00.000 You mentioned on because we were a guest on your Podcat, 0:22:00.320 --> 0:22:02.399 But y'all are like very different, right and say in 0:22:02.400 --> 0:22:06.320 some capacities. So now that you guys have this podcast, 0:22:06.320 --> 0:22:10.439 which is a business, how do you guys, Like how 0:22:10.480 --> 0:22:12.840 do you guys navigate challenging situations like when you guys 0:22:12.920 --> 0:22:15.640 have a disagreement or like you're not fucking with something 0:22:15.880 --> 0:22:18.359 a choice or a decision, like is it something that 0:22:18.440 --> 0:22:20.879 you guys addressed straight on or like how do you 0:22:20.920 --> 0:22:23.360 guys move through challenging moments? 0:22:23.480 --> 0:22:27.600 Well, we have to have hard conversations obviously, Like we 0:22:27.680 --> 0:22:30.439 have to have hard conversations. And honestly, like we're low 0:22:30.480 --> 0:22:32.520 key codependent on each other in a sense. So like 0:22:32.560 --> 0:22:35.480 when we're beefing and we're like not speaking or like 0:22:35.560 --> 0:22:37.480 we know, there's like an awkward vibe between us, like 0:22:37.520 --> 0:22:40.480 it really is like uncomfortable and it really is hard. 0:22:40.960 --> 0:22:43.280 So I think that we just try to like communicate 0:22:44.000 --> 0:22:46.440 kind of as quickly as we can. Sometimes it will 0:22:46.480 --> 0:22:48.480 last a couple of days whatever, just to like get 0:22:48.480 --> 0:22:50.639 it over with, cause like genuinely, like if me and 0:22:50.680 --> 0:22:55.359 her are arguing, like I feel physically like something is off, 0:22:55.560 --> 0:22:58.760 like I'm not happy, like you know, like I'm just 0:22:58.800 --> 0:23:01.800 like I'm not completely full, Like me and Shi aren't talking, 0:23:01.920 --> 0:23:03.720 or like we have like an awkward tension. So we 0:23:03.880 --> 0:23:06.879 just try to basically have those hard conversations, and like 0:23:07.080 --> 0:23:09.639 we've definitely had to have uncomfortable conversations because, like you know, 0:23:09.800 --> 0:23:11.359 usually you could sweep it under the rug and like 0:23:11.440 --> 0:23:13.560 go a long time without talking to somebody, but like 0:23:13.640 --> 0:23:15.560 when you also have a business together, it's like, but 0:23:15.960 --> 0:23:17.680 you have to get the fuck over this because y'all 0:23:17.680 --> 0:23:18.199 got shit to do. 0:23:18.480 --> 0:23:21.240 So yeah, no, I agree. And then also I think 0:23:21.280 --> 0:23:25.320 that before we would let things rock a little longer 0:23:25.359 --> 0:23:28.160 sometimes because that's how I am. She's very confrontational head 0:23:28.160 --> 0:23:29.800 on and be like let's get this shit over, like, 0:23:30.080 --> 0:23:32.720 let's address this, and me, I'm like, shit, don't be 0:23:32.720 --> 0:23:34.879 that deep, you know what I'm saying. So like those 0:23:34.920 --> 0:23:37.159 two type of dynamics, sometimes they'd be like we can 0:23:37.200 --> 0:23:38.439 get over this, you know what I'm saying, Like this 0:23:38.480 --> 0:23:40.440 is fine, Like let's just move on to the next situation. 0:23:40.920 --> 0:23:43.800 And so I've had to learn to like be able 0:23:43.800 --> 0:23:45.720 to be like, look, if I have an issue, instead 0:23:45.760 --> 0:23:47.800 of letting it fester, talk about it right then and there, 0:23:47.840 --> 0:23:49.600 because she will She'll be like if I have this 0:23:49.600 --> 0:23:51.240 problem right now, I'm gonna talk about it right now, 0:23:51.400 --> 0:23:53.440 and then like if I let things fester, I'll blow 0:23:53.520 --> 0:23:55.560 up and then it'll be like way deeper than what 0:23:55.600 --> 0:23:57.399 it normally needs to be. Right, So I think we 0:23:57.520 --> 0:23:59.720 just address things head on now, and just like even 0:23:59.760 --> 0:24:01.159 if we have issue, Like even when I was like 0:24:01.359 --> 0:24:04.000 on our last episode when I was tripping that Sunday, 0:24:04.280 --> 0:24:06.119 later that night, I was like, my bad, you know 0:24:06.160 --> 0:24:09.679 what I'm saying. Sometimes, you know, sometimes you have to 0:24:09.680 --> 0:24:11.800 push your ego to the side and be like, admit 0:24:11.880 --> 0:24:14.000 when I'm wrong, or when like are we wrong, or 0:24:14.000 --> 0:24:16.199 if like once Slacken or the other ones not, like, 0:24:16.240 --> 0:24:18.040 you just have to address those things like head on, 0:24:18.119 --> 0:24:21.720 because firsthand, we both know like if you let shiit fester, 0:24:21.800 --> 0:24:24.360 it will blow up, and then it gets like awkward, 0:24:24.760 --> 0:24:26.760 you know what I'm saying, and then everybody else around uncomfortable. 0:24:26.760 --> 0:24:27.919 They'll be like are they okay? 0:24:28.080 --> 0:24:28.320 Right? 0:24:28.359 --> 0:24:31.040 Oh, you don't know if we're like not good, Yeah, 0:24:31.160 --> 0:24:31.680 we're not good. 0:24:31.840 --> 0:24:33.800 Even like when we film like a podcast episode where 0:24:33.800 --> 0:24:36.080 we had like a little disagreement, we'll be like, we 0:24:36.119 --> 0:24:38.800 won't even look at each other. I literally saw something. 0:24:38.800 --> 0:24:40.439 Say I can tell every time they're fighting because we 0:24:40.800 --> 0:24:41.360 look at each other. 0:24:41.480 --> 0:24:43.200 We'll be like yeah, yeah, tell me about your week. 0:24:43.359 --> 0:24:45.800 It was good to get the camera. 0:24:45.880 --> 0:24:47.840 How's your week on that was the next question is 0:24:47.880 --> 0:24:50.159 like who's more likely to apologize first? 0:24:51.720 --> 0:24:58.440 Me, I don't be doing nothing wrong, Aquarius. No. I 0:25:00.080 --> 0:25:03.080 I feel like sometimes you got she's gotten better though, No, 0:25:03.160 --> 0:25:05.440 you you gotta fight bitch with bitch sometimes you know 0:25:05.480 --> 0:25:10.040 what I'm saying, but I'm saying but like I be thinking, 0:25:10.080 --> 0:25:12.960 I'm like it's justified, but like it's not justifiable because 0:25:13.000 --> 0:25:14.560 it's like if she don't know what she's doing, I 0:25:14.600 --> 0:25:16.159 can't be mad at her for it. So like I 0:25:16.160 --> 0:25:21.119 think that in those situations sometimes it would just be like. 0:25:20.160 --> 0:25:22.800 She would be mad at me for ship, like like 0:25:22.880 --> 0:25:24.959 she said, like they're like this is like probably more 0:25:25.000 --> 0:25:26.679 in the beginning, she would be like annoyed at me 0:25:26.720 --> 0:25:28.159 for something, and it would just build that build that 0:25:28.240 --> 0:25:31.000 build up, and then I would like feel like if 0:25:31.040 --> 0:25:33.240 it was like a slick comment or like a like 0:25:33.640 --> 0:25:37.200 you're annoyed at me for something, but like you're not telling. 0:25:36.880 --> 0:25:38.879 Me what you're everything else is annoying. 0:25:39.200 --> 0:25:41.040 Yeah, So now it's like I'm like, what the fuck, Like, 0:25:41.040 --> 0:25:42.640 why are you like saying a little slick ship? 0:25:42.720 --> 0:25:46.600 Like no, she swears I'm passive aggressive, but I'm regular aggressive. 0:25:46.680 --> 0:25:53.080 She extra aggressive regular. 0:25:53.240 --> 0:25:55.879 I can say that, yeah, that's that's true. But no, 0:25:56.040 --> 0:25:59.119 we we've definitely like got past that pretty much. I mean, 0:25:59.160 --> 0:26:01.680 we still have our little moments, but in the beginning 0:26:01.760 --> 0:26:04.160 it was it was a lot more difficult to navigate. 0:26:04.400 --> 0:26:08.800 Now, yeah, and now we're so it's we're so locked in, 0:26:08.800 --> 0:26:10.640 and it was like, we have the same game plan, 0:26:10.680 --> 0:26:13.280 we have the same you know, like mindset when it 0:26:13.280 --> 0:26:14.840 comes to what we want to do and where we 0:26:14.880 --> 0:26:16.840 want to go. So it's just like it doesn't make 0:26:16.840 --> 0:26:20.080 any sense to let like little like minuscule arguments like 0:26:20.119 --> 0:26:22.199 get in between us, Like it just it to me, 0:26:22.320 --> 0:26:24.159 it really don't be that deep. And then something, but 0:26:24.240 --> 0:26:27.360 I had to say that lightly because to someone else 0:26:27.400 --> 0:26:28.720 it could be that deep. And like, I don't want 0:26:28.720 --> 0:26:31.800 to minimize somebody else's feelings just because I lack them. Sometimes, 0:26:31.800 --> 0:26:34.560 you know, have you. 0:26:34.480 --> 0:26:37.199 Always been, like, I guess, like a girl's girl, or like, 0:26:37.240 --> 0:26:39.200 have you always had a lot of female friends. 0:26:39.400 --> 0:26:42.520 I've always been a girl's girl for sure, A female 0:26:42.560 --> 0:26:44.359 a lot of female friends. I mean, yeah, I've always 0:26:44.359 --> 0:26:44.879 had girlfriends. 0:26:44.920 --> 0:26:47.120 I'm not like a I'm not like a homeboy ass bitch, 0:26:47.160 --> 0:26:48.960 Like I don't be like brother, Like that's. 0:26:48.760 --> 0:26:49.199 Just not me. 0:26:49.280 --> 0:26:50.040 I'm not that bitch. 0:26:50.440 --> 0:26:54.080 But I I've not really ever been good with having 0:26:54.160 --> 0:26:57.920 like groups of friends, Like I could have like two 0:26:57.920 --> 0:27:00.639 to three really close friends and like what ever boom. 0:27:00.720 --> 0:27:03.359 But she's more like a group she could have hella 0:27:03.400 --> 0:27:06.160 best friends. I can't have hella hella like best friends, 0:27:06.160 --> 0:27:07.399 like I could have like a couple. 0:27:07.320 --> 0:27:10.160 Of you did you were you in Badgirls Club? Yeah? 0:27:10.160 --> 0:27:12.679 I was that That didn't make you like have a. 0:27:14.680 --> 0:27:17.920 Like a women fucking problem because I watched that show 0:27:17.960 --> 0:27:19.639 like years ago, but I'm like, oh my god, these 0:27:19.680 --> 0:27:20.560 bitches are nuts. 0:27:20.720 --> 0:27:20.960 Yeah. 0:27:21.000 --> 0:27:23.159 Well, I mean I didn't know the girls, so like, 0:27:23.560 --> 0:27:26.359 I mean whatever, and then like I don't know, I 0:27:26.400 --> 0:27:28.119 just think, like who I was at that point in 0:27:28.160 --> 0:27:29.879 my life. I was only like twenty two going on 0:27:29.920 --> 0:27:32.280 twenty three when I was on that show, So I 0:27:32.280 --> 0:27:34.000 mean I've been doing bitches was crazy. Like I was 0:27:34.000 --> 0:27:36.119 a stripper at seventeen years old, so I was already 0:27:36.119 --> 0:27:37.920 dealing with crazy as bitches in a strip club. 0:27:38.280 --> 0:27:41.640 So to me, you know, I've already experienced crazy bitches. 0:27:41.720 --> 0:27:44.240 Yeah, because sometimes women like when they're in certain environments, 0:27:44.240 --> 0:27:47.199 baggirls club, the strip club. I know, like there is 0:27:47.240 --> 0:27:50.520 a you know for self people steal bitches are. 0:27:50.400 --> 0:27:51.359 Crazy, you know what I mean? 0:27:51.480 --> 0:27:53.800 Like, so does it have the has that like infiltrated 0:27:53.840 --> 0:27:56.360 your personal relationships since those chapters in your life? 0:27:56.359 --> 0:27:57.359 But it's good that it hasn't. 0:27:57.520 --> 0:28:01.560 Yeah, No, I mean I think I'm just like how 0:28:01.600 --> 0:28:02.040 could I be? 0:28:02.200 --> 0:28:04.560 I mean, I I just think I'm really seasoned, Like 0:28:04.640 --> 0:28:06.760 you know, like I'm just really seasoned, Like I've walked 0:28:06.760 --> 0:28:09.320 through a lot of different paths of life, Like I've 0:28:09.320 --> 0:28:14.720 been around ho strippers, pimps, like drug dealers, super rich 0:28:14.800 --> 0:28:17.720 people like I've been, Like I'm I have a really 0:28:17.720 --> 0:28:20.280 good balance. So I don't know, I don't think it's 0:28:20.280 --> 0:28:22.720 like infiltrated my life in a way, but like it's 0:28:23.359 --> 0:28:25.680 it's helped me, I guess, like to know what kind 0:28:25.680 --> 0:28:29.040 of people to stay clear of, or like understand people's 0:28:29.040 --> 0:28:31.960 personality traits or you know, is this somebody I want 0:28:32.040 --> 0:28:34.560 my life to like be around all the time? 0:28:34.920 --> 0:28:35.040 No? 0:28:35.160 --> 0:28:36.560 Probably not, Like, but. 0:28:37.040 --> 0:28:38.880 How did you when did you guys first know in 0:28:38.920 --> 0:28:41.200 your friendship like this is worth fighting for, this is 0:28:41.240 --> 0:28:42.960 worth keeping when. 0:28:42.840 --> 0:28:48.040 I missed her? Yeah, it's just like cause I really can. 0:28:48.240 --> 0:28:50.760 Like I She's right, I have a lot of friendships, 0:28:50.800 --> 0:28:54.920 and I've cultivated really great friendships, like sisterhoods I also have. 0:28:55.120 --> 0:28:58.080 I come from a big family but were close knits, 0:28:58.120 --> 0:29:00.760 so it's like that's embedded in me. So if somebody there, 0:29:01.080 --> 0:29:03.320 you know, like I know how to put people in categories, 0:29:03.360 --> 0:29:08.040 but also have really great friendships. And I felt like 0:29:08.040 --> 0:29:10.160 like when we had our argument. When we had our argument, 0:29:10.280 --> 0:29:11.680 oh no, that's what I said, I lost my train 0:29:11.720 --> 0:29:14.640 of thought, like I can stop talking to somebody and 0:29:14.800 --> 0:29:16.640 it won't affect like I can't like that's the. 0:29:16.640 --> 0:29:20.200 Argument happened before the podcast or yes, before the podcast. 0:29:20.240 --> 0:29:21.960 We quit talking for what six months. 0:29:21.760 --> 0:29:24.000 I don't know, sevens one of them. 0:29:24.120 --> 0:29:29.360 Yeah some shit girl, but come on, no, I mean 0:29:29.480 --> 0:29:29.840 we don't. 0:29:30.040 --> 0:29:32.560 We we argued, we argued about it was like it 0:29:32.600 --> 0:29:36.280 was just brothers. When you're getting to know like the 0:29:36.280 --> 0:29:39.200 ins and outs of friendships, sometimes it just sometimes just 0:29:39.600 --> 0:29:40.680 you know, you'd be like I just. 0:29:40.600 --> 0:29:43.840 Basically had like our first argument, our first falling out, 0:29:44.440 --> 0:29:46.560 and then we didn't talk for months, and it was 0:29:46.680 --> 0:29:49.960 like extremely hard for me, Like I was like, mind 0:29:49.960 --> 0:29:51.680 you I cut bitches off, like I don't be giving 0:29:51.720 --> 0:29:53.520 a fuck, like which you could go, you could run 0:29:53.520 --> 0:29:56.400 in traffic, I don't care. You're done, like genuinely, but 0:29:56.480 --> 0:29:59.280 like for me, it was really hard, Like I was heartbroken. 0:29:59.480 --> 0:30:02.200 I felt like I really lost my sister. And then 0:30:02.240 --> 0:30:05.000 like it was funny because like I would like talk 0:30:05.080 --> 0:30:06.040 to her friends. 0:30:05.800 --> 0:30:06.720 About the situation. 0:30:06.920 --> 0:30:08.880 And then there was a time we tried to meet 0:30:08.960 --> 0:30:10.080 up and talk about the situation. 0:30:10.120 --> 0:30:10.800 It didn't go well. 0:30:10.920 --> 0:30:20.000 Both both came drunk, both came drunk, both left out. 0:30:20.120 --> 0:30:24.200 Yeah, so after that it was like we knew, like 0:30:24.240 --> 0:30:26.320 we really loved each other, we really like wanted to 0:30:26.400 --> 0:30:29.800 like work it out. And that was pretty much it. 0:30:30.080 --> 0:30:31.960 Like we were like we're really best friends, Like. 0:30:31.960 --> 0:30:32.600 You know what was that? 0:30:32.640 --> 0:30:34.400 What was that conversation like the one that brought you 0:30:34.440 --> 0:30:35.160 guys back together? 0:30:35.320 --> 0:30:38.920 Was it like just too I don't remember fully exactly 0:30:38.960 --> 0:30:42.360 the conversation. I don't I don't remember either, just kind 0:30:42.360 --> 0:30:44.520 of explaining our perspectives, yeah, exactly. 0:30:44.640 --> 0:30:46.200 And we were just saying the other day we were 0:30:46.240 --> 0:30:49.600 like cause we were like what do we really be 0:30:49.720 --> 0:30:50.280 arguing about? 0:30:50.320 --> 0:30:50.680 For real? 0:30:50.760 --> 0:30:51.880 You know what I'm saying? It would be like what 0:30:51.920 --> 0:30:53.480 do it like, what do our arguments be about like 0:30:53.480 --> 0:30:55.400 when you asked about so this one was a big one, 0:30:55.400 --> 0:30:56.840 but like, yeah, we have like little I'd be like, 0:30:56.840 --> 0:30:59.040 I don't even know what we was mad for last year. Yeah, 0:30:59.040 --> 0:31:00.320 we just talked about that on the pots. 0:31:00.760 --> 0:31:02.880 But I think it was explaining our perspective. 0:31:02.920 --> 0:31:07.000 Yeah, just explain our perspectives. And I respecting our boundaries. 0:31:07.080 --> 0:31:08.400 I think that was the big thing. Like sometimes you 0:31:08.400 --> 0:31:10.720 get your boundaries, like when you are so close to somebody, 0:31:10.760 --> 0:31:12.520 like boundaries get cross and I feel like we just 0:31:12.720 --> 0:31:15.920 we just understood our boundaries and you know, like I 0:31:16.160 --> 0:31:17.920 just how we want to move accordingly. 0:31:18.120 --> 0:31:21.320 I think, what are some things that she tolerates from 0:31:21.360 --> 0:31:23.040 you and you tolerate from her that only you two 0:31:23.040 --> 0:31:24.120 would tolerate from each other. 0:31:24.400 --> 0:31:29.920 She tolerates for me, Yeah, I'm pretty I'm annoying. I'm 0:31:29.960 --> 0:31:34.240 pretty clany. I mean I'm annoying, Like I am pretty annoying, 0:31:34.240 --> 0:31:37.280 I'm pretty clingy. I'm very like I could be kind 0:31:37.320 --> 0:31:38.520 of abrasive. 0:31:38.720 --> 0:31:40.960 But you know what, and I tolerate that because I'm 0:31:40.960 --> 0:31:43.360 not that type of person at all. I'm free spirit. 0:31:43.400 --> 0:31:45.040 I like my space, and I tolerate that from her 0:31:45.080 --> 0:31:47.840 because she is such a great friend. So that is 0:31:48.040 --> 0:31:50.560 not even not tolerate, like I've accepted and I've welcomed 0:31:50.600 --> 0:31:51.760 with open arms because she's. 0:31:51.960 --> 0:31:52.640 Thinking, like, what is it? 0:31:52.680 --> 0:31:53.960 What is a friendship clingy? 0:31:54.400 --> 0:31:55.920 Like because when I think of it, when I think 0:31:55.920 --> 0:31:57.400 about Clinky, I think of like like. 0:31:59.080 --> 0:32:01.160 I always want to hang out, Like can I come over? 0:32:01.520 --> 0:32:03.120 Like I'm like that, like and she'll be. 0:32:03.080 --> 0:32:07.520 Like no, I remember she cried me. She's like, I 0:32:07.560 --> 0:32:09.120 can't go to my best friendid. I was like, stop 0:32:09.160 --> 0:32:11.480 being gay bro. Like I's just like no, I want 0:32:11.480 --> 0:32:13.320 my space, right And I'm like, no, you can't not 0:32:13.360 --> 0:32:17.320 stop being bro. But but it's not even a tolerable 0:32:17.320 --> 0:32:18.600 thing are because I love her and I love her, 0:32:18.680 --> 0:32:20.280 I love her being around, so it's not even that. 0:32:20.320 --> 0:32:22.520 But she's right, she's the nail on the head because 0:32:22.560 --> 0:32:24.520 that's just not my personality. That's just not me. 0:32:24.720 --> 0:32:26.840 I'm like, I'm just different in that type of way. 0:32:27.000 --> 0:32:28.480 But then we do balance it. We do spend a 0:32:28.480 --> 0:32:29.160 lot of time together. 0:32:29.320 --> 0:32:31.240 But like that's the thing, like I'm somebody like I 0:32:31.240 --> 0:32:33.880 could spend time with like my best friends like all 0:32:34.040 --> 0:32:34.960 the time, So. 0:32:35.520 --> 0:32:37.200 I don't want to spend time even with my man, 0:32:37.760 --> 0:32:40.760 Like I'm just I'm just like, are you cling in 0:32:40.800 --> 0:32:41.360 love as well? 0:32:42.120 --> 0:32:44.000 Yeah, to an extent, I like my I like my 0:32:44.080 --> 0:32:46.480 time to myself too, though like with a man, this 0:32:46.520 --> 0:32:48.120 is my best friend ship, Like you know this my 0:32:48.240 --> 0:32:48.959 this is my husband. 0:32:49.000 --> 0:32:49.680 So give me the. 0:32:51.560 --> 0:32:53.520 Oh yeah we have keys. 0:32:53.560 --> 0:32:57.960 But wait, what do I tolerate from you? You say, 0:32:58.280 --> 0:33:01.120 so I don't say the wrong thing make you mad? 0:33:05.600 --> 0:33:07.040 What do you think I tolerate from you? 0:33:08.840 --> 0:33:09.160 Nothing? 0:33:09.200 --> 0:33:11.000 You think I don't tolerate anything. You think you're just 0:33:11.000 --> 0:33:15.480 a perfect little maybe. See that's the problem. That's the problem. 0:33:16.120 --> 0:33:17.960 Really genuinely, don't think she do? 0:33:18.840 --> 0:33:20.440 I know, I know I do. Do I do be 0:33:20.480 --> 0:33:23.480 doing shit? Like I know that I could. She already 0:33:23.480 --> 0:33:25.080 said annoying. I know it could be annoying too, but 0:33:25.200 --> 0:33:27.719 like and also I think what she tolers for me 0:33:27.800 --> 0:33:30.680 is that I am like I am more reserved when 0:33:30.720 --> 0:33:33.440 it comes to friendship sometimes, like are just like shutting down. 0:33:33.320 --> 0:33:34.680 Or this is the thing that we have to get 0:33:34.720 --> 0:33:36.160 over there in two different ways. 0:33:36.200 --> 0:33:38.239 Yeah, that's what I'm saying. In the beginning, she had 0:33:38.280 --> 0:33:40.600 to understand that, like, it's not personal against you. If 0:33:40.600 --> 0:33:42.479 I just want my space, you know what I'm saying. So, 0:33:42.520 --> 0:33:44.120 like I have to, Like, as an extrovert, I do 0:33:44.160 --> 0:33:47.160 need to recharge my battery sometimes and just like be 0:33:47.240 --> 0:33:49.040 in my own space. And like, I like that was 0:33:49.080 --> 0:33:50.480 the thing. I think that she tolershs for me now. 0:33:50.520 --> 0:33:52.720 She like I I was talking to somebody the other 0:33:52.800 --> 0:33:54.240 day and she was like, I just gotta le shy, 0:33:54.320 --> 0:33:56.080 do shy and I and I love that about her 0:33:56.080 --> 0:33:58.000 because it's like she's we've gotten to that place where 0:33:58.000 --> 0:33:59.440 it's like you allow me to be. 0:34:00.120 --> 0:34:02.040 But she does it kind of been like really annoying 0:34:02.360 --> 0:34:05.240 times like her birthday. Oh, I don't want to do 0:34:05.280 --> 0:34:06.040 nothing for my birthday. 0:34:06.160 --> 0:34:09.799 No, even when we like pack or do something, are like, 0:34:09.880 --> 0:34:11.760 are like you like, I know, se gonna get it together, 0:34:11.840 --> 0:34:13.000 Like you know, I know you know what I'm saying, 0:34:13.000 --> 0:34:14.560 So I know you tolerate that with me. Of like 0:34:15.360 --> 0:34:17.080 I think it was the word I can't figure out 0:34:17.080 --> 0:34:21.960 a word for it. Of kind of lax. Yeah, the 0:34:22.040 --> 0:34:24.360 lacks of daisicalness because she I would both type A 0:34:24.440 --> 0:34:28.120 and to a different extent, she'd type about that's annoying. 0:34:28.239 --> 0:34:32.359 I'm a little extreme extreme, but like you know, I'd 0:34:32.400 --> 0:34:36.600 be like, well, here we are, Everything's gonna be fine. Yeah, everything, Yeah, 0:34:36.640 --> 0:34:39.799 everything's gonna be fine, you know, and she knows it. 0:34:39.760 --> 0:34:42.359 Will you know, And it always is, it always is 0:34:42.480 --> 0:34:42.960 in between. 0:34:43.560 --> 0:34:45.719 But you know, it's beautiful to see women be able 0:34:45.719 --> 0:34:49.520 to vocalize who they are and how they can incorporate 0:34:49.520 --> 0:34:51.840 other people, because I think there's not there's no tools 0:34:51.840 --> 0:34:52.920 for that, there's no blueprint. 0:34:53.160 --> 0:34:54.600 No one says this is how to be a best friend. 0:34:54.640 --> 0:34:56.840 And a lot of times bitches will be loyal to 0:34:56.920 --> 0:34:59.440 men and relationships niggas and cheated on them, babies on them, 0:34:59.440 --> 0:35:00.880 and they'll be like going back and going back and 0:35:00.920 --> 0:35:01.840 try and going to therapy. 0:35:02.040 --> 0:35:04.520 But with women would be like, ah, fuck her. Yeah, 0:35:04.560 --> 0:35:05.080 you know what I mean. 0:35:05.120 --> 0:35:07.719 So it's good to see examples of women, you know, 0:35:07.880 --> 0:35:10.759 just like coming finding new ways to come together and 0:35:10.800 --> 0:35:12.800 resolve issues and conflict and doing it public. 0:35:12.880 --> 0:35:15.120 But it also depends on the friendship because don't get 0:35:15.120 --> 0:35:15.560 it twisted. 0:35:15.600 --> 0:35:18.880 Like I will say, I do cut baches off, not 0:35:18.920 --> 0:35:19.480 gonna hold you. 0:35:19.640 --> 0:35:23.040 But that's because I show up as such a good friend. 0:35:23.200 --> 0:35:25.120 If you don't show up as that good friend, then 0:35:25.160 --> 0:35:27.600 I'm not really going to over extend myself and try 0:35:27.600 --> 0:35:29.960 to work on that relationship. I put so much effort 0:35:30.000 --> 0:35:32.880 into this relationship with I because she genuinely shows up 0:35:32.880 --> 0:35:35.640 for me as an amazing friend if she wasn't showing 0:35:35.719 --> 0:35:39.480 up for me or being a weirdo or doing weird shit. Yeah, 0:35:39.520 --> 0:35:42.920 we have like the same morals, like you know, like 0:35:43.000 --> 0:35:46.080 we wouldn't do certain shit, we don't cross certain lines. 0:35:46.160 --> 0:35:48.799 So that that's the reason why. 0:35:48.760 --> 0:35:51.160 We both put so much into our friendship because we 0:35:51.200 --> 0:35:52.680 literally show up the same for each other. 0:35:52.920 --> 0:35:56.719 There's a difference between being like having personality differences that 0:35:56.760 --> 0:36:01.200 you have to learn versus like having foundational princess and like, sure, 0:36:01.200 --> 0:36:03.279 you're a weird bitch and that was disloyal and that's 0:36:03.320 --> 0:36:04.520 just right exactly. 0:36:04.560 --> 0:36:06.480 We are very foundational when it comes to that, and 0:36:06.520 --> 0:36:09.400 I and I wholeheartedly agree because there's certain things that 0:36:09.440 --> 0:36:11.359 were like rub me, Like I'll be like, I'll never 0:36:11.440 --> 0:36:12.880 like have beef with somebody, but I'll be like, oh, 0:36:12.960 --> 0:36:15.319 I see how you move, and you know what I'm saying, 0:36:15.440 --> 0:36:18.279 I'm good that can y'all have? Like, so y'all turn 0:36:18.360 --> 0:36:21.600 that a c off, We turn it back on Jesus. Look, 0:36:22.120 --> 0:36:22.879 I want to see something. 0:36:22.920 --> 0:36:23.200 Stop. 0:36:24.400 --> 0:36:26.120 Don't rereading the funk. 0:36:25.920 --> 0:36:27.920 Around right you? 0:36:28.440 --> 0:36:31.200 Like, is this a small room? 0:36:32.480 --> 0:36:38.239 Pregnant, pus pregnant. 0:36:35.280 --> 0:36:39.120 But they did see my blue bandies. Whatever. 0:36:40.760 --> 0:36:41.399 Now I have a question. 0:36:41.440 --> 0:36:42.839 I have two questions, like have you sucked all you've 0:36:42.840 --> 0:36:43.480 been pregnant yet? 0:36:43.480 --> 0:36:46.480 And also, yes you have, have. 0:36:46.440 --> 0:36:47.720 You been horny you've been pregnant? 0:36:47.800 --> 0:36:50.480 So fifteen weeks, I was like, why am I watching 0:36:50.520 --> 0:36:54.360 cut holding porn? And so I was like holding specifically, 0:36:54.760 --> 0:36:57.319 holding specifically. I was like, why am I in the 0:36:57.360 --> 0:37:00.319 mood for some cuck holding? You know, I've never felt 0:37:00.320 --> 0:37:01.000 this in my life? 0:37:01.040 --> 0:37:02.040 Why am I here for this? 0:37:02.440 --> 0:37:05.439 And I was like, around like the fifteen sixteen week mark, 0:37:05.520 --> 0:37:08.520 you get this like extra, this burst of morning is 0:37:08.600 --> 0:37:11.800 I ask Shatgibt Gloria Patricia Tabernacle, I asked her everything 0:37:11.880 --> 0:37:17.160 why But so I asked Gloria, I was like, why 0:37:17.200 --> 0:37:21.040 am I watching like holding porn? But it's because I 0:37:21.120 --> 0:37:23.839 was like the hormones around that time like make me 0:37:24.200 --> 0:37:27.600 super fucking horny. And I was just like, oh, this 0:37:27.680 --> 0:37:30.840 is crazy because I'm really not that like I'm sexual. 0:37:31.000 --> 0:37:32.799 I know how to get down, you know what I'm saying, 0:37:32.840 --> 0:37:33.799 But I don't really she's not. 0:37:33.800 --> 0:37:34.480 Really freaky though. 0:37:34.520 --> 0:37:36.680 I'm not a freaking decky girl, you know, what I'm saying, like. 0:37:36.719 --> 0:37:39.000 Vanilla, Yeah, no, you don't watch porn. She does. 0:37:39.200 --> 0:37:41.160 Don't watch porn. Well, and if I do watch porn, 0:37:41.200 --> 0:37:46.680 I don't masturbate. I'm just tearing. Yeah, what are you doing? 0:37:47.280 --> 0:37:49.520 I'm just like, yeah, let's let's see this, let's do this. 0:37:49.600 --> 0:37:50.600 Is I don't know. 0:37:50.600 --> 0:37:53.440 I just think it's just like a lot. But I'm 0:37:53.480 --> 0:37:54.640 just like, yeah, what are we doing? And then after 0:37:54.800 --> 0:37:57.160 I feel nasty, I'm just like, if. 0:37:57.040 --> 0:38:00.360 You're communists, yeah, I watched it feelsy. 0:38:00.400 --> 0:38:02.680 I'm a dirty horror but so I'm not really like that. 0:38:02.719 --> 0:38:04.279 So I really don't watch porn. I don't. I can 0:38:04.320 --> 0:38:05.960 go without sex, but like, you know what, I feel 0:38:05.960 --> 0:38:08.160 these things. But I'm like it was really that sixteen 0:38:08.160 --> 0:38:11.560 week mark, and I was just like, I am like, money, 0:38:11.760 --> 0:38:12.080 do it. 0:38:12.280 --> 0:38:14.520 That's good though, being horny is good because not being 0:38:14.520 --> 0:38:15.319 horny is not fun. 0:38:15.960 --> 0:38:17.600 My other question, which has nothing to do with this, 0:38:18.800 --> 0:38:21.600 was what is your perspective on like what if like 0:38:22.600 --> 0:38:24.759 Winter had a friend that you don't fuck with, like 0:38:25.440 --> 0:38:27.839 or like are falling out with a friend, Like are 0:38:27.880 --> 0:38:30.080 you like that she's not my friend? 0:38:30.080 --> 0:38:30.160 No? 0:38:30.200 --> 0:38:30.399 More? 0:38:30.440 --> 0:38:32.840 Like how does that help out there? How do you 0:38:32.880 --> 0:38:33.840 guys navigate things. 0:38:35.960 --> 0:38:38.040 So I me personally is actually funny. 0:38:38.239 --> 0:38:40.280 This is funny because me personally, i'd be like whatever, 0:38:40.400 --> 0:38:41.960 I don't care, like you know what I'm saying, Like, 0:38:42.400 --> 0:38:44.719 I always think of things in a sense of like 0:38:46.360 --> 0:38:48.480 those friendships, because that's how I been. I'm like, look, 0:38:48.520 --> 0:38:50.279 I understand we need to take a break and then 0:38:50.320 --> 0:38:51.719 we'll come back to each other. I don't ever end 0:38:51.719 --> 0:38:53.560 things in like a beefing manner like, so I don't 0:38:53.640 --> 0:38:56.160 end things disrespectfully with friendships. I just be like, you 0:38:56.200 --> 0:38:59.080 know what, this ain't our season. So that's things I understand. 0:38:59.120 --> 0:39:00.560 I'm like, maybe we can come back in seasons. So 0:39:00.600 --> 0:39:03.239 I'm very lenient when it comes to like if we're 0:39:03.280 --> 0:39:05.200 not in the season, it's seasons. If me and my 0:39:05.239 --> 0:39:06.879 friend aren't in this season, I don't need my friends 0:39:06.920 --> 0:39:08.000 to cut them off in that season. 0:39:08.680 --> 0:39:10.560 Well, can I tell the story fun? 0:39:10.680 --> 0:39:11.200 Yeah, of course. 0:39:11.239 --> 0:39:14.440 Okay, So basically I had cut a girl off, mind 0:39:14.520 --> 0:39:16.400 you you know this is the second but jo I 0:39:16.440 --> 0:39:18.360 cut off in like a year and a half, two years. 0:39:18.440 --> 0:39:21.520 I don't fucking judge you, babe, you gotta go. But no, 0:39:21.640 --> 0:39:23.280 So I basically. 0:39:22.880 --> 0:39:25.719 Cut one of my friends off and like but it 0:39:25.719 --> 0:39:27.640 was a falling out, though it wasn't falling out, like 0:39:27.680 --> 0:39:30.680 the exchange of words was like extremely disrespectful. So I 0:39:30.719 --> 0:39:34.160 cut the big job whatever, go out. I'm leaving a party. 0:39:34.160 --> 0:39:36.239 She's walking into the party. One of my other best 0:39:36.239 --> 0:39:38.480 friends is behind me and they speak to each other 0:39:38.840 --> 0:39:40.600 and I'm like, why did you just speak to that 0:39:40.640 --> 0:39:43.759 beach like I'm not fucking with her, and she goes, oh, well, 0:39:44.440 --> 0:39:46.000 she had said something about my hair and dah da 0:39:46.080 --> 0:39:47.640 da she had posted on Instagram. I said, you're still 0:39:47.640 --> 0:39:49.640 following her Instagram? Why are you following her Instagram? 0:39:49.680 --> 0:39:51.160 And she's like, well, I went to go check if 0:39:51.160 --> 0:39:52.040 sh I was following her. 0:39:52.080 --> 0:39:58.720 She was so so listen. 0:39:58.840 --> 0:40:00.600 So the next day I tell sh what happened. I said, 0:40:00.640 --> 0:40:02.319 and she still following her because you followed her? Why 0:40:02.320 --> 0:40:03.840 are you follow her? She said, Well, I went to 0:40:03.840 --> 0:40:05.120 go see if Don was following her. 0:40:05.440 --> 0:40:08.600 She was, so I did heard that before you even 0:40:08.640 --> 0:40:10.319 told me that Don was following me. I was. I was, like, 0:40:10.360 --> 0:40:11.800 I said, I was. She was like, why are you 0:40:11.840 --> 0:40:13.520 still follow her? I was like, well Don was, And 0:40:13.560 --> 0:40:15.120 so it was the same thing, like we've both said 0:40:15.120 --> 0:40:15.760 the same thing. 0:40:15.640 --> 0:40:17.680 But they were like they were like, oh, well, the 0:40:17.719 --> 0:40:20.600 reason why we were still following was because we thought 0:40:20.600 --> 0:40:22.400 there was a potential y'all would get to be back. 0:40:22.280 --> 0:40:24.400 Friends because you had an argument with two girls that 0:40:24.440 --> 0:40:26.080 same day. It was the two girls that same day. 0:40:26.280 --> 0:40:29.280 They worked it out with the one, so I'm like, okay, aventual, 0:40:29.280 --> 0:40:30.560 she's gonna work it out with the other one. But 0:40:30.640 --> 0:40:32.160 I ended up unfollowing the girl because it don't be 0:40:32.200 --> 0:40:32.719 that deep to me. 0:40:32.800 --> 0:40:34.799 If if she wants me to unfollow somebody or quit 0:40:34.840 --> 0:40:36.960 fuck with somebody, I will like and I know if 0:40:37.000 --> 0:40:39.799 I told her like no, like I that's upsetting me, 0:40:39.840 --> 0:40:42.000 that's pissing me off, Like don't follow that bitch, Like 0:40:42.239 --> 0:40:44.040 of course she's gonna fucking follow the girl. But it 0:40:44.080 --> 0:40:46.319 was just never even a conversation. But then there was 0:40:46.360 --> 0:40:49.120 somebody else that I had cut off like two years before, 0:40:49.320 --> 0:40:55.520 who remember, Yeah, and then and then I was like, 0:40:55.840 --> 0:40:57.520 I was like, you know, like she's where it spuck 0:40:57.560 --> 0:40:58.680 for that that I and you were like I've been 0:40:58.680 --> 0:40:59.400 waiting to follow that. 0:41:00.120 --> 0:41:02.320 So it just different. 0:41:02.640 --> 0:41:04.880 It It'd be certain things like yeah. 0:41:04.719 --> 0:41:06.160 You had a thing with a friend and I did 0:41:06.239 --> 0:41:08.080 not follow the girl, but I mute at her. 0:41:07.960 --> 0:41:10.520 What's a friendship violation, is that an unwritten role you 0:41:10.600 --> 0:41:12.839 must If I don't fuck with her, everyone mustn't followed her. 0:41:12.880 --> 0:41:16.400 It depends, but you have to make the announcement. You 0:41:16.440 --> 0:41:18.879 can't just assume if I get into with somebody, I'm 0:41:18.880 --> 0:41:21.319 telling everyone in the friend group, Hey, I'm follow this bitch. 0:41:21.400 --> 0:41:21.960 Can you say that? 0:41:22.320 --> 0:41:25.319 Yeah, if it's that serious, because it's not, And I 0:41:25.400 --> 0:41:27.160 actually have to do some double checking to make sure 0:41:27.200 --> 0:41:28.560 all my friends are not following people, because I'll go 0:41:28.600 --> 0:41:29.400 back and be like, why. 0:41:29.280 --> 0:41:31.680 The fuck are you still fall If it's like a 0:41:31.719 --> 0:41:34.680 deep situation, like obviously, like you have to show where 0:41:34.680 --> 0:41:35.600 your loyalty lies. 0:41:35.640 --> 0:41:37.480 But like, if it's not that deep, y'all probably gonna 0:41:37.520 --> 0:41:37.960 work it out. 0:41:38.280 --> 0:41:41.080 Like I don't want awkward tension with your friends if 0:41:41.120 --> 0:41:42.560 y'all are gonna end up working it out. 0:41:43.200 --> 0:41:44.839 But if it's like on some final. 0:41:44.600 --> 0:41:47.200 Word ship, then it's like, all right, I got you, 0:41:47.320 --> 0:41:48.160 Like I'm gonna do it. 0:41:48.320 --> 0:41:50.520 I need the bitch, I need who ever to know whoever, 0:41:50.560 --> 0:41:52.719 whatever it's temporary or permanent, they're with me. 0:41:53.040 --> 0:41:53.239 Yeah. 0:41:53.320 --> 0:41:57.320 Yeah, but you got to pick a side like friends 0:41:57.320 --> 0:41:58.600 in this one discrepancy. 0:41:58.680 --> 0:41:59.480 Yeah yeah. 0:42:00.400 --> 0:42:05.200 A friendship violation for me would be I'm not really 0:42:05.280 --> 0:42:09.440 like I don't know, fucking my man or something or 0:42:10.120 --> 0:42:12.520 like those are friendship violations to me, I'm very much 0:42:12.640 --> 0:42:16.799 like I think also like foundational things as well, Like 0:42:16.880 --> 0:42:18.800 I don't I think a friendshi violence for me, somebody 0:42:19.080 --> 0:42:21.759 had fucking my man or backdooring me or doing some 0:42:21.800 --> 0:42:24.480 weird shits stealing money from me or doing something like 0:42:25.120 --> 0:42:29.000 those type of things. But or but that's not a 0:42:29.000 --> 0:42:30.680 breakup to me, Like if somebody don't show up as 0:42:30.680 --> 0:42:32.399 a friend for me, you just on the back burn 0:42:32.440 --> 0:42:34.360 of a friendship, those aren't breakups, but like things that 0:42:34.400 --> 0:42:36.640 are just like you gotta ball this bitch is done 0:42:36.719 --> 0:42:38.799 like she is. You might you're liable to get beat 0:42:38.800 --> 0:42:40.399 the fuck dealing with somebody man. 0:42:40.560 --> 0:42:43.239 Yeah, I think if you do anything weird over men 0:42:43.320 --> 0:42:45.399 in general, to me, I'm looking at you side eye 0:42:45.400 --> 0:42:47.719 because it's like, if you're doing some weird shit over 0:42:47.800 --> 0:42:49.200 this funky ass nigga, then I don't know what the 0:42:49.200 --> 0:42:51.120 fuck you're gonna do about my actual man. I don't 0:42:51.160 --> 0:42:54.439 trust you now, Like if you're doing weird shit over just. 0:42:54.440 --> 0:42:57.120 Any man in general, time can hear yes, Like, I'm. 0:42:56.960 --> 0:42:59.279 Just like, bro, you're laying because like there's just so 0:42:59.360 --> 0:43:01.120 many men in the world, and like me and my 0:43:01.160 --> 0:43:03.360 close friends, we don't even have those problems, like we 0:43:03.360 --> 0:43:05.600 don't go through that ship like you know, So like Mitch, 0:43:05.640 --> 0:43:08.840 if you. 0:43:07.320 --> 0:43:08.920 You gotta go, I'm sorry, you must leave. 0:43:09.760 --> 0:43:10.799 No, I agree, don't. 0:43:12.160 --> 0:43:15.840 Yeah, I saw you guys did this podcast or I 0:43:15.880 --> 0:43:17.000 don't know what it was, like kind of a cute 0:43:17.000 --> 0:43:21.680 podcast like on the Subway, and you said that on 0:43:21.800 --> 0:43:24.120 popular opinion, you don't think that men can have female friends. 0:43:24.160 --> 0:43:27.000 And I stand by it, and I stand by it. 0:43:27.160 --> 0:43:29.160 I'll go to war, I'll down that hill alone. 0:43:29.239 --> 0:43:30.359 That's so crazy. 0:43:30.480 --> 0:43:31.040 I don't give. 0:43:33.120 --> 0:43:35.040 I don't super agree. But I did just have a 0:43:35.080 --> 0:43:36.600 situation with like the guy that. 0:43:36.560 --> 0:43:39.759 I'm dating, and like he picked his homegirl up from 0:43:39.760 --> 0:43:41.760 the airport, and I was like, and she didn't. 0:43:41.880 --> 0:43:43.680 That's that's I don't want to tell her picking someone 0:43:43.800 --> 0:43:44.040 from the. 0:43:44.040 --> 0:43:54.399 Airport very very. 0:43:52.320 --> 0:43:52.480 La. 0:43:52.840 --> 0:43:53.680 He doesn't live in l A. 0:43:53.920 --> 0:43:55.920 But like, no, he she had like given him a 0:43:56.000 --> 0:43:57.759 right to the airport and then like he had had 0:43:57.800 --> 0:43:59.560 her do a favorite for him, and she was like 0:43:59.560 --> 0:44:01.640 bringing him something back and he was like, well, she 0:44:01.680 --> 0:44:02.600 gave me a ride. 0:44:02.719 --> 0:44:05.920 So I'm too I was like, I called her. I 0:44:06.040 --> 0:44:07.680 was like, should I be should I be upset? 0:44:08.000 --> 0:44:09.719 She did? She didn't call me. She called me for something. 0:44:09.840 --> 0:44:11.040 She was like, I don't really want to know your 0:44:11.080 --> 0:44:13.040 opinion on AX already know it? And I was and 0:44:13.040 --> 0:44:14.959 so I was like, just tell me, and she said 0:44:14.960 --> 0:44:15.640 something by a friend. 0:44:15.680 --> 0:44:19.760 I said, this is not even your man, you was talking. 0:44:20.000 --> 0:44:22.239 No, We're like that's her and her ma and her 0:44:22.360 --> 0:44:22.960 yet but is it? 0:44:23.000 --> 0:44:23.920 But like we just. 0:44:23.840 --> 0:44:25.960 Haven't got a relationship yet, but we are probably going 0:44:25.960 --> 0:44:26.759 to be in a relationship. 0:44:26.880 --> 0:44:29.280 Is that friend someone from back in the day, somebody's 0:44:29.320 --> 0:44:31.319 been knowing? Is it a new friend that just popped up? 0:44:31.520 --> 0:44:31.960 I don't know. 0:44:32.040 --> 0:44:34.960 I mean, she like, I'm not super pressed about the situation. 0:44:35.239 --> 0:44:36.480 Like he even was like, do you want to go 0:44:36.520 --> 0:44:39.040 with me? And I was like, not really, but enjoy 0:44:39.200 --> 0:44:41.520 And have you been around this friend? No, me and 0:44:41.560 --> 0:44:43.160 him haven't been dating for that long. Have you been 0:44:43.200 --> 0:44:44.440 dating for like two and a half. 0:44:44.880 --> 0:44:45.840 Listen to this scenario. 0:44:45.960 --> 0:44:48.120 Imagine like you're in the front seat and then like 0:44:48.160 --> 0:44:49.319 she tried to get in the front seat, and. 0:44:49.239 --> 0:44:52.040 That would never happen. The Queen would never allow somebody 0:44:52.080 --> 0:44:56.319 in the front seat. Okay, it never happened. I'd be like, 0:44:56.400 --> 0:44:59.239 get in the back peasant. Who I am? 0:45:00.560 --> 0:45:02.879 No, no, no, no, I wouldn't do that. But I wasn't 0:45:02.920 --> 0:45:05.360 really tripping. But then I was like, should I be tripping? 0:45:05.560 --> 0:45:08.560 Like, you know, it's so crazy that the psycho like 0:45:09.080 --> 0:45:12.040 brain of a woman, because like, my man is so 0:45:12.239 --> 0:45:14.000 fucking friendly, like, but so am I. 0:45:14.719 --> 0:45:16.160 So it's like I'm bating myself. 0:45:16.239 --> 0:45:19.759 And like he was like he's first of all, he 0:45:19.800 --> 0:45:21.960 talks so much, especially when we drink. So I'm like, 0:45:22.040 --> 0:45:23.680 it's I always tell my friends it's always good to 0:45:23.680 --> 0:45:25.360 have one new bitch because then he can talk to 0:45:25.400 --> 0:45:27.240 her and he didn't have to talk to us because. 0:45:27.000 --> 0:45:27.960 We didn't know the stories. 0:45:28.280 --> 0:45:29.719 So it's always like one. And then he was like 0:45:29.760 --> 0:45:31.160 talking this bitch to death and she was kind of 0:45:31.200 --> 0:45:33.160 cute or whatever. And I was like, you know, I'm 0:45:33.160 --> 0:45:34.799 not annoyed because now he's not talking. I was talking 0:45:34.840 --> 0:45:35.319 to her, but. 0:45:35.280 --> 0:45:37.239 Then when she left, he was like raving about her. 0:45:37.280 --> 0:45:38.600 I said, nigga, come. 0:45:40.280 --> 0:45:42.400 Like, now I am like she was, so I was 0:45:42.440 --> 0:45:44.239 like she wasn't, she was not? 0:45:45.040 --> 0:45:45.360 I see you. 0:45:45.400 --> 0:45:47.160 I said, well what did you see? Because that was 0:45:47.160 --> 0:45:50.960 with her two and I just saw a bitch and 0:45:51.000 --> 0:45:52.239 I was like, and then I had to talk like 0:45:52.280 --> 0:45:52.960 am I crazy? 0:45:53.040 --> 0:45:53.560 Or am I like? 0:45:53.800 --> 0:45:54.440 Am I tripping? 0:45:54.640 --> 0:45:56.560 I'm like, I don't like super friendly man though, so 0:45:56.880 --> 0:45:57.840 I mean I would be annoyed. 0:45:57.840 --> 0:46:00.560 But the only thing is I am a super friendly bitch. 0:46:00.640 --> 0:46:02.120 So there's a lot of things in my relationship that 0:46:02.160 --> 0:46:03.920 I have to like reflect on myself and be like 0:46:04.239 --> 0:46:06.200 I would do that, do that. And then at the end, 0:46:06.200 --> 0:46:07.480 he's like getting her number, and I'm like, I don't 0:46:07.480 --> 0:46:08.719 really give a fuck something right here. 0:46:08.760 --> 0:46:10.959 But also my man is a big dick. His robe 0:46:11.000 --> 0:46:11.279 is open. 0:46:11.320 --> 0:46:13.279 We're like naked people. I'm like, I don't know this 0:46:13.320 --> 0:46:15.400 bitch personally and I don't know where she thinks this is. 0:46:15.480 --> 0:46:16.440 And I will cut a bitch. 0:46:16.600 --> 0:46:17.759 But this is how we are in front of all 0:46:17.800 --> 0:46:20.080 of our friends, but our close friend group. So when 0:46:20.120 --> 0:46:22.399 there's someone new, I'm like, I don't like people think 0:46:22.400 --> 0:46:24.520 we're trying to threesome them. We're not, And like, I 0:46:24.520 --> 0:46:27.160 don't know, you know, wait, are y'all in an open relationship? 0:46:27.200 --> 0:46:29.040 No, girl, we are monogamous. 0:46:29.040 --> 0:46:30.640 I mean we'll like, if we want to play together 0:46:30.719 --> 0:46:33.320 or have fun together, we will, but we're monogamous. And 0:46:33.360 --> 0:46:35.440 I think people think that we're not monogamous because we'd 0:46:35.440 --> 0:46:38.440 be naked. I'd be dancing on everybody and he'd be like, go, baby, go, 0:46:38.560 --> 0:46:43.040 baby go, and before yeah, yeah, but I had to 0:46:43.080 --> 0:46:45.040 I had to like tell him, like, just because we're 0:46:45.080 --> 0:46:46.680 this way and our friends are this way, we don't 0:46:46.719 --> 0:46:49.120 know every bitch. You know, every bitch might think thinks 0:46:49.120 --> 0:46:51.400 it's sweet, she thinks you got her, you got her number. 0:46:51.719 --> 0:46:53.799 Then this is a green light for the side because 0:46:53.800 --> 0:46:56.040 everyone does think we're open and we're not. So I 0:46:56.160 --> 0:46:58.400 just have to, like I constantly have to tell myself, 0:46:58.440 --> 0:47:00.560 like he could have friends. He's grown here, expects you, 0:47:00.960 --> 0:47:02.879 he knows you'll cut him, he's afraid of you, so 0:47:03.000 --> 0:47:06.520 that there's no discover But I don't want anyone to 0:47:06.520 --> 0:47:08.080 tell me what to do. So I'm not telling anybody 0:47:08.080 --> 0:47:09.480 else what to do either. But I'm going to give 0:47:09.520 --> 0:47:10.799 you a strong perspective. 0:47:11.120 --> 0:47:13.520 And I understand that. And this is the thing with me. 0:47:13.680 --> 0:47:16.080 Why I say that is because I've never been one 0:47:16.120 --> 0:47:19.560 to like have homeboy guy like now I've cultivated as an adult, 0:47:19.560 --> 0:47:21.680 I've cultivated these friendships and these relationships with men that 0:47:22.000 --> 0:47:25.240 you know, I can I do believe in platonic relationships. 0:47:25.239 --> 0:47:27.160 I do, but like when I'm in a relationship, I 0:47:27.160 --> 0:47:29.360 feel like it just takes the like men take the 0:47:29.400 --> 0:47:31.600 back burner. But I've never been the time to be like, 0:47:31.680 --> 0:47:33.279 let me just call my homeboy, because I'm just not 0:47:33.360 --> 0:47:35.439 like that. But I'm also extremely friendly. And I don't 0:47:35.440 --> 0:47:37.160 mind a friendly man either, Like I don't want a 0:47:37.200 --> 0:47:39.040 man to be rude to women. I don't want a man, 0:47:39.200 --> 0:47:42.319 you know what I'm saying, Like I don't when they 0:47:42.320 --> 0:47:46.279 skip you, Yeah, I don't like. I don't like that. 0:47:46.400 --> 0:47:48.560 So I don't mind a friendly man to a certain 0:47:48.600 --> 0:47:50.120 extent as well, like don't have me out here, like 0:47:50.200 --> 0:47:52.880 it's stupid. But but men will always embarrass you. They 0:47:52.960 --> 0:47:56.719 will find a way somehow, sometimes not all. But I 0:47:56.760 --> 0:47:59.200 just feel like I don't require anything from somebody that 0:47:59.200 --> 0:48:00.800 I don't do myself, if you know what I'm saying, like, 0:48:00.840 --> 0:48:04.040 and I think, honestly, to me, low key, that is 0:48:04.080 --> 0:48:05.879 a deal breaker, Like I would not date somebody who 0:48:05.920 --> 0:48:07.920 has a lot of a lot of a lot of 0:48:07.920 --> 0:48:10.120 female friends. You want to be one, So I don't know, 0:48:10.200 --> 0:48:11.919 So do you have any male friends. I have male 0:48:11.920 --> 0:48:14.000 friends yet, so if they got into a relationship, would 0:48:14.000 --> 0:48:18.839 you hold yourself to that same standard? Yes, Like, yeah, 0:48:18.880 --> 0:48:20.520 I've had that happen, but like you would do that 0:48:21.000 --> 0:48:22.919 just naturally or you they'd have to ask. I would 0:48:22.920 --> 0:48:24.839 do that naturally because I would I know what I 0:48:24.880 --> 0:48:26.600 want in a relationship and what I would do. But like, 0:48:26.640 --> 0:48:28.359 I have guy friends, but not to a point where 0:48:28.360 --> 0:48:31.080 it's like, hey, let me call him up. Like if 0:48:31.080 --> 0:48:33.799 we're out and about in these settings, I'm always completely fine, 0:48:33.840 --> 0:48:35.880 you know what I'm saying. So if I'm like, I'm 0:48:35.920 --> 0:48:38.040 probably most likely there with one of my homegirls who's 0:48:38.080 --> 0:48:40.120 cool with the guy friend. That's how I get guy friends. 0:48:40.160 --> 0:48:42.359 Like say, it's one of your homeboys and I come 0:48:42.400 --> 0:48:45.000 around you and then like he's just there. That's how 0:48:45.040 --> 0:48:46.759 my situations you normally go. 0:48:46.920 --> 0:48:49.000 You know, you're not like pouring into your friendships with 0:48:49.120 --> 0:48:49.719 mad No. 0:48:50.160 --> 0:48:51.719 I never really have, though I don't. 0:48:51.800 --> 0:48:53.640 I've never done that, Like not really. 0:48:53.719 --> 0:48:56.560 I do need a gay bestie. Your brother, Look, he's 0:48:56.600 --> 0:48:56.960 a great. 0:48:57.520 --> 0:49:00.360 Sometimes I forget because we're not blood brother, blood brother sister, 0:49:00.680 --> 0:49:02.520 and then he'll like, I like take my shirt off 0:49:02.560 --> 0:49:03.399 and he'll like squeeze my tip. 0:49:03.400 --> 0:49:07.680 People be like what the brother you probably need? Yeah, 0:49:07.840 --> 0:49:08.560 might be forgetting. 0:49:08.719 --> 0:49:15.120 I'm like, no, that that's funny and. 0:49:15.160 --> 0:49:16.480 That is why you're from Alabama. 0:49:17.400 --> 0:49:18.520 They're like, that's some elation. 0:49:18.719 --> 0:49:20.359 But no, I mean, I don't think. I mean, I 0:49:20.400 --> 0:49:22.640 don't know, Like I mean, I understand that there's there, 0:49:22.680 --> 0:49:25.160 there are friendships that could be cultivated from the sex, 0:49:25.200 --> 0:49:27.239 but I do this is another hot take. I love 0:49:27.239 --> 0:49:29.680 a hot take, But like I do think women control 0:49:29.760 --> 0:49:32.880 that narrative when it comes to female male relationships like 0:49:32.920 --> 0:49:37.000 I do female male friendships. Because it's like if I 0:49:37.080 --> 0:49:40.520 say to any of those my homeboys right now, pregnant 0:49:40.560 --> 0:49:43.120 and all, they probably still would you know what I'm saying, 0:49:43.960 --> 0:49:48.280 want and even more, I don't think I genuinely now 0:49:48.440 --> 0:49:50.160 like no, But like I do, I think women control 0:49:50.160 --> 0:49:51.880 that narrative sometimes you know what I'm saying most of 0:49:51.920 --> 0:49:52.239 the time. 0:49:52.360 --> 0:49:54.880 So we do we yield the power exactly. There's men 0:49:54.960 --> 0:49:57.479 will there's no happening less we say it isn't gape. 0:49:57.719 --> 0:49:59.160 So why do I exactly? 0:49:59.160 --> 0:50:01.040 So why do I want my boy, I mean my 0:50:01.120 --> 0:50:03.759 man having another homegirl with the power to do that. 0:50:04.000 --> 0:50:05.560 I want to know the friend. I want to be 0:50:05.600 --> 0:50:05.960 around you. 0:50:06.080 --> 0:50:07.600 I want to see your face, I want to feel 0:50:07.600 --> 0:50:09.080 your energy. I want to see how you interact. Like 0:50:09.360 --> 0:50:11.000 that's one thing is like I'm going to be the 0:50:11.560 --> 0:50:13.440 teller of all what the fuck it is. 0:50:13.520 --> 0:50:16.200 And I'm like, that bitch likes you. Yeah, that bitch. 0:50:15.920 --> 0:50:16.480 Doesn't like me. 0:50:16.680 --> 0:50:16.919 Yeah. 0:50:17.080 --> 0:50:20.160 Yeah, that bitch feels uncomfortable because she I'm a psychic bitch. 0:50:20.400 --> 0:50:21.160 I will tell you that. 0:50:21.200 --> 0:50:23.000 I do believe that men and women can be friends. 0:50:23.000 --> 0:50:23.359 But I do. 0:50:23.480 --> 0:50:25.560 I do think like you said, A, I think women 0:50:26.160 --> 0:50:27.880 A do we do hold the power and but b 0:50:28.040 --> 0:50:32.640 I think also we have oftentimes more clarity around what 0:50:32.760 --> 0:50:35.880 a true friendship is. Where there's like I've dated men 0:50:35.920 --> 0:50:37.840 where they be like, no, for real, this's my homegirl, 0:50:37.880 --> 0:50:40.719 and I'd be like, niggash, show us around you because 0:50:40.719 --> 0:50:41.960 you pay, you know what I mean. And then I've 0:50:41.960 --> 0:50:44.520 had other ones where I'm like, yeah, that's your homegirl. 0:50:44.880 --> 0:50:48.360 You know, would she fuck if the same thing, like, 0:50:48.400 --> 0:50:50.239 would she fuck if you put if you said, come on, 0:50:50.320 --> 0:50:50.759 let's do it? 0:50:50.840 --> 0:50:53.920 Yeah maybe probably Yeah, But at the. 0:50:53.920 --> 0:50:56.120 End of the day, it's like, do I trust you, 0:50:56.120 --> 0:50:58.439 you know, because I have I have male friends, and 0:50:58.800 --> 0:51:01.239 I've had situations where I've had partners say like, yeah, 0:51:01.520 --> 0:51:04.480 that's not your friend. No more really, and yeah, and 0:51:04.520 --> 0:51:08.440 I've fought tooth and nail about it really, yeah, because 0:51:08.440 --> 0:51:10.800 I know, because I know that that's really a trust 0:51:10.840 --> 0:51:12.040 issue with you that you have with me. 0:51:12.160 --> 0:51:13.399 It's not it's not them. 0:51:13.560 --> 0:51:15.640 I've been in multiple relationships and had that friend be 0:51:15.719 --> 0:51:19.680 in my life and there's been no transgressions. Yeah, but 0:51:19.840 --> 0:51:21.680 I think that's a I think that specific topic is 0:51:21.719 --> 0:51:24.720 always really a hot topic for it's. 0:51:24.560 --> 0:51:27.880 A hot topic. And because I recently, like there was 0:51:27.880 --> 0:51:31.920 a situation one time where I had sucked at homeboy 0:51:32.520 --> 0:51:35.719 and like and and it was once it was here's 0:51:35.800 --> 0:51:37.920 my friend for a while. And I do honestly regret 0:51:37.960 --> 0:51:40.279 that situation because it's like I lost out on a 0:51:40.320 --> 0:51:43.319 friendship and it's like because I could not maintain that 0:51:43.360 --> 0:51:45.520 friendship once I got into a relationship, because I do 0:51:45.560 --> 0:51:48.000 think that is disrespectful to me. Like if you have 0:51:48.080 --> 0:51:50.080 a homegirl that you fucked before and now y'all just friends, 0:51:50.080 --> 0:51:51.680 it's like, no, I don't want that type of energy around, 0:51:51.719 --> 0:51:53.360 So I can't do that to the same sense, you 0:51:53.400 --> 0:51:55.239 know what I'm saying. So it's just like it's too 0:51:55.239 --> 0:51:57.800 many lines that get crossed and it just gets confusing. 0:51:57.880 --> 0:51:59.560 So like to me, I'd rather not, but I still 0:51:59.800 --> 0:52:02.919 have I can maintain male friendships, like I have guy 0:52:02.960 --> 0:52:05.359 friends that I talk to now still to this day 0:52:05.560 --> 0:52:06.760 that everything is fine. 0:52:06.880 --> 0:52:09.840 Yeah, you know, it's just got maturity and honestly and trust, 0:52:10.000 --> 0:52:11.360 you know what I mean. Trust because at the end 0:52:11.360 --> 0:52:12.680 of the day, there's always going to be a bitch 0:52:12.760 --> 0:52:15.319 or nigga or something. I mean, I there's people that 0:52:15.400 --> 0:52:17.320 I fucked, you know, but we're gonna be best friends. 0:52:17.320 --> 0:52:19.520 Probably not, but it happens and I get it. 0:52:19.560 --> 0:52:22.000 And not having the same understanding for him too, It's like, 0:52:22.560 --> 0:52:25.680 I trust you. I understand we're sexy people. Shit gets, 0:52:25.719 --> 0:52:29.640 Shit happens, you fall into fucking sometimes, Yeah, like it 0:52:29.640 --> 0:52:30.160 slips on. 0:52:30.080 --> 0:52:32.879 A banana peel and then slept over. 0:52:33.520 --> 0:52:39.040 Yeah. Do you guys have any affirmations for our audience today? 0:52:39.520 --> 0:52:42.640 Affirmation like something you tell yourself that keeps you going, 0:52:42.760 --> 0:52:43.040 keeps you. 0:52:43.040 --> 0:52:45.959 Pumped up, something that keeps me going, something that keeps 0:52:46.000 --> 0:52:46.879 me popped up. 0:52:47.640 --> 0:52:48.120 I don't know. 0:52:48.440 --> 0:52:51.800 I mean, you're that bitch, stay a bitch, been that bitch, 0:52:51.800 --> 0:52:54.640 gonna be that bitch forever day today? 0:52:54.800 --> 0:52:57.840 Yeah, the one that I think about first off, and 0:52:57.880 --> 0:52:59.719 I'm not even in this space anymore, but the one 0:52:59.800 --> 0:53:07.480 that the note mirror mirror. I will be okay, but 0:53:07.600 --> 0:53:10.280 it's true tales all the time. I will be okay, 0:53:10.440 --> 0:53:12.359 like I will, I will always be okay. Everything will 0:53:12.400 --> 0:53:13.840 be all right. And I feel like whatever I go 0:53:13.920 --> 0:53:15.919 through in this moment, like at the end of it, 0:53:15.960 --> 0:53:18.920 I will always come out okay. And my favorite Bible 0:53:19.000 --> 0:53:21.759 verse is I can do all things through Christis strengthens me. 0:53:22.480 --> 0:53:25.000 And I feel like, yeah, those things, like I can 0:53:25.040 --> 0:53:28.400 do it. I am capable, I am willing, I'm able, 0:53:28.760 --> 0:53:30.560 you know, so I feel like those are I'm very 0:53:30.560 --> 0:53:33.400 big on affirmation. I have affirmations journal, so like I 0:53:33.400 --> 0:53:36.880 made an affirmations journal. So I'm very big on affirmations 0:53:36.920 --> 0:53:40.040 because I'm a very big words person. It's important to me, 0:53:40.239 --> 0:53:43.239 like you are great, you are lovely, you are like 0:53:43.360 --> 0:53:46.520 you are, you were kind, you were sweet, you was important, 0:53:46.600 --> 0:53:50.400 you was important. I'm like, I love affirmations. Words or 0:53:50.400 --> 0:53:51.839 spose yeah, word, yeah there. 0:53:54.600 --> 0:53:56.040 I don't know a lot of time I was gonna 0:53:56.040 --> 0:53:57.160 play Trigger, should. 0:53:56.880 --> 0:53:58.360 We Yeah, let's play Trigger. 0:53:58.520 --> 0:54:02.680 It's party, okay, Okay, we have a we have a 0:54:02.680 --> 0:54:05.320 game on our show called Trigger. So I'm going to 0:54:05.400 --> 0:54:07.640 say a word and you say the first thing that 0:54:07.680 --> 0:54:08.280 comes to mind. 0:54:08.520 --> 0:54:11.719 Okay, so maybe you want to you want to go first, 0:54:11.760 --> 0:54:14.399 you can go first one a time, yeah, okay, yeah, sure, 0:54:14.680 --> 0:54:15.440 I'm triggered. 0:54:17.280 --> 0:54:21.440 Marriage, single, what marriage? 0:54:21.640 --> 0:54:23.399 Oh? Hopefully ship? 0:54:26.840 --> 0:54:28.400 Religion, God? 0:54:32.000 --> 0:54:36.520 First word, first word Christian? 0:54:38.080 --> 0:54:40.200 Last time you had sex yesterday? 0:54:40.800 --> 0:54:43.879 Clearly I have to look on my flow app. It's 0:54:43.920 --> 0:54:44.920 been a minute. 0:54:45.800 --> 0:54:47.360 Favorite porn category. 0:54:47.400 --> 0:54:55.279 Cook No, it really, Actually it is embarrassed to say. 0:54:55.400 --> 0:55:00.080 I'm going to say amateur like like homemade. Yeah, I 0:55:00.080 --> 0:55:02.440 don't like that super. 0:55:04.120 --> 0:55:05.600 Where was the one You're gonna say? What was your O? 0:55:05.719 --> 0:55:06.120 G would? 0:55:06.600 --> 0:55:06.799 Yay? 0:55:07.840 --> 0:55:08.040 Yeah? 0:55:08.520 --> 0:55:12.919 I love like I love the intros of it. I've 0:55:12.920 --> 0:55:15.000 never struck before, Yes, you have. 0:55:14.800 --> 0:55:17.680 You know. I came to the conclusion it's just that 0:55:17.719 --> 0:55:20.000 we like Dick a lot, so she is better than. 0:55:21.600 --> 0:55:24.360 Okay, yes, So what this means. 0:55:24.160 --> 0:55:25.920 I don't like dick a lot because I don't want 0:55:25.920 --> 0:55:26.880 to watch niggas. 0:55:27.600 --> 0:55:31.319 Girls love lesbian portant exactly. I like lesbian poor, but 0:55:31.400 --> 0:55:33.239 only when I could tell that they're really into it. 0:55:33.280 --> 0:55:34.920 Because I know how to fake a nut bitch, and 0:55:34.960 --> 0:55:35.239 I know. 0:55:35.200 --> 0:55:37.799 When you're doing it. So if I can tell you're 0:55:37.840 --> 0:55:40.239 not into it, I cut the ship off and the 0:55:40.239 --> 0:55:42.600 boys are always they'd be like barely looking the pussy, 0:55:42.800 --> 0:55:44.160 like like, no. 0:55:44.080 --> 0:55:46.840 That's why I beat off you. 0:55:46.840 --> 0:55:48.440 You'd be faking fake lesbian in it. 0:55:48.600 --> 0:55:51.560 Yes, and it would be like. 0:55:53.560 --> 0:55:58.480 You not to do it if you're gonna make that lord. 0:55:58.640 --> 0:56:00.120 Okay, my next question pussy eating. 0:56:00.800 --> 0:56:01.640 Yeah, that's her. 0:56:03.719 --> 0:56:04.600 Okay, I've only eaten. 0:56:04.640 --> 0:56:08.319 Wanted to have couchies for this because I only liked 0:56:08.320 --> 0:56:10.279 it like twice and it just didn't go for it. 0:56:10.440 --> 0:56:12.440 Would you do it again? Yeah? 0:56:12.160 --> 0:56:13.520 She's gay over here. 0:56:13.640 --> 0:56:14.240 I'm not gay. 0:56:14.239 --> 0:56:15.960 I wanted to have coochies on her belt. 0:56:16.320 --> 0:56:19.160 I looked one one time when I was off of Mali, 0:56:19.239 --> 0:56:21.640 and I said, all right, well I'm done here. You know, 0:56:22.640 --> 0:56:27.799 you got sober real quickly, finish finished, And then she 0:56:27.920 --> 0:56:30.000 asked me, and everybody'd be like, well, did you did she? 0:56:30.400 --> 0:56:32.600 I said no, and they're like you have you done 0:56:32.600 --> 0:56:33.719 any scissoring? No? 0:56:33.960 --> 0:56:35.759 I don't know from a lot of girls, but I've 0:56:35.800 --> 0:56:38.080 only looked on I don't really like girls like that. 0:56:38.400 --> 0:56:40.880 I think girls, I think women are far superior. I 0:56:40.880 --> 0:56:43.520 think we're beautiful. I think I I think so much 0:56:43.560 --> 0:56:46.680 more highly of women. I wish I could I just don't. 0:56:47.120 --> 0:56:48.839 I love everything about a man. I love his back, 0:56:48.880 --> 0:56:50.680 I love his penis. I love the way it feels 0:56:50.719 --> 0:56:54.640 pumping inside. Yes, I love all. That's what I'm pregnant, 0:56:54.680 --> 0:56:56.520 but I love it all. 0:56:56.800 --> 0:56:59.000 You know. Yeah, I love language. 0:56:59.160 --> 0:57:02.480 Yeah, Oh, affirmations. 0:57:02.560 --> 0:57:06.799 I would say physical touch, cannabis. 0:57:08.160 --> 0:57:08.319 Hi. 0:57:08.960 --> 0:57:10.560 I just smoked weed, y'all this weekend. 0:57:10.800 --> 0:57:16.880 Quite a bit paranoid. Yeah, mushrooms easy, easy, Remember when 0:57:16.920 --> 0:57:18.440 we did those on the beach. 0:57:19.080 --> 0:57:21.800 I don't care for really shrooms that I don't really 0:57:21.880 --> 0:57:24.360 I've never been super high off of them, maybe like once, 0:57:24.800 --> 0:57:26.040 but I'm not really a drug person. 0:57:26.160 --> 0:57:28.240 I barely like fuck with weed, so when I do, 0:57:28.920 --> 0:57:30.400 I just had a good time of smoking weed. Though 0:57:30.440 --> 0:57:32.760 I like to do it outdoors. That's when I actually 0:57:32.800 --> 0:57:34.600 enjoy smoking weed indoors. I'm like paranoid. 0:57:34.640 --> 0:57:36.160 Are you like a joint smoker or backwards? 0:57:36.320 --> 0:57:39.920 I'm a joint smoker. When I do toxic. 0:57:39.560 --> 0:57:47.840 Trait thinking imperfecting my husband think he's so perfect. 0:57:48.080 --> 0:57:50.160 We are the toxic tray. 0:57:50.880 --> 0:57:55.040 I would say, probably cutting people off too easily. Yeah, 0:57:55.280 --> 0:57:56.800 that's a little toxic sometimes. 0:57:57.160 --> 0:58:00.720 Celebrity celebrity crush. I don't have one. 0:58:00.800 --> 0:58:01.400 I don't have one. 0:58:01.440 --> 0:58:03.160 Either I feel like I forget anybody I want. 0:58:03.480 --> 0:58:05.760 That's how I feel too, though, honestly, and especially when 0:58:05.760 --> 0:58:07.720 you be in these parties, in these environments, you like, 0:58:08.280 --> 0:58:09.920 I didn't realize you were accessible like. 0:58:09.880 --> 0:58:13.680 This, mind right white man? 0:58:14.160 --> 0:58:20.040 Yeah, I'm kidding. Have you remember the white man? 0:58:20.400 --> 0:58:20.640 Yes? 0:58:20.920 --> 0:58:23.040 When not really as an adult, like when I was 0:58:23.040 --> 0:58:25.840 a teenager, Like I dated like some white boy whatever. 0:58:26.080 --> 0:58:27.680 I don't want to say. The man over there is 0:58:27.720 --> 0:58:28.840 a white man that was really meat. 0:58:29.920 --> 0:58:31.320 I've been with a white guy and he has small 0:58:31.360 --> 0:58:32.640 penis And I was like, I'm still doing it for 0:58:32.680 --> 0:58:34.360 the plot. Here we are you know what I'm saying, Like. 0:58:35.800 --> 0:58:44.320 You're apologizing to Yeah, everybody else coming like, oh, who's 0:58:44.320 --> 0:58:46.360 that guy? I was like, No, he's very cute, but 0:58:46.400 --> 0:58:47.320 it looks like he got a. 0:58:47.240 --> 0:58:48.720 Little cheerkey in him or something. 0:58:58.400 --> 0:58:59.600 Black man, I. 0:58:59.720 --> 0:59:01.080 Love black king. 0:59:01.520 --> 0:59:02.920 That's a black king right there. 0:59:03.760 --> 0:59:05.760 Yeah. 0:59:06.320 --> 0:59:07.320 Do y'all date older man? 0:59:07.680 --> 0:59:08.800 A y'all ever dated older man? 0:59:08.880 --> 0:59:10.000 This is a cougar over here. 0:59:09.960 --> 0:59:12.160 I will I Look. I knew I was on to 0:59:12.240 --> 0:59:14.680 something when I started being attracted to ball heads. I said, oh, 0:59:14.680 --> 0:59:15.440 we're somewhere now. 0:59:15.440 --> 0:59:17.640 I honestly, I don't know what it is, but I 0:59:17.680 --> 0:59:20.680 have been dating younger than me, like Whyan's Wyan. 0:59:21.720 --> 0:59:24.400 So you're the cougar's you tell me what the wayan 0:59:24.520 --> 0:59:28.120 ages is it? Like under twenty five? 0:59:28.440 --> 0:59:29.400 What are we talking about? 0:59:29.520 --> 0:59:29.680 Yeah? 0:59:29.960 --> 0:59:33.280 Always talking about everything. Yeah, he's actually he's great. Honestly, 0:59:33.280 --> 0:59:33.880 he's amazing. 0:59:33.960 --> 0:59:34.640 Here me teaching me. 0:59:34.680 --> 0:59:34.840 Shit. 0:59:34.920 --> 0:59:38.320 I'm like because I feel like I hear this every time. 0:59:38.480 --> 0:59:41.520 You know what, Yeah, great, he's. 0:59:41.360 --> 0:59:42.680 So different, he's so smart. 0:59:42.720 --> 0:59:44.640 And then when it's like seven months and he's like 0:59:44.680 --> 0:59:46.640 he's so fucking immature and he's twenty two. 0:59:46.880 --> 0:59:47.080 Yeah. 0:59:47.160 --> 0:59:50.560 No, I've been waiting to like see whatever that is. 0:59:50.600 --> 0:59:53.960 But like, honestly, like I can't really complain. He's great communication, like, 0:59:54.320 --> 0:59:57.520 he's fellas smart. Like anytime there's been any issue that 0:59:57.600 --> 1:00:00.840 I felt, he's like worked through it, like and it's 1:00:01.000 --> 1:00:01.960 very surprising to me. 1:00:02.040 --> 1:00:04.200 So the new wrong it? 1:00:04.520 --> 1:00:07.200 So I do birth? 1:00:08.400 --> 1:00:08.680 Birth? 1:00:09.720 --> 1:00:10.520 What you mean? 1:00:10.160 --> 1:00:10.280 Oh? 1:00:10.600 --> 1:00:15.360 No, the word is birth. The word is birth, scarce birth. 1:00:16.680 --> 1:00:19.960 I'm scared too. I actually cried thinking about Shy giving birth. 1:00:20.360 --> 1:00:23.200 Yeah, motherhood exciting. 1:00:24.000 --> 1:00:27.120 I think it's interesting, new, new, exciting. 1:00:27.320 --> 1:00:29.320 I think it's going to be exciting, even though I'm 1:00:29.320 --> 1:00:30.400 not turning into a mom, y'all. 1:00:30.400 --> 1:00:31.040 But what about you? 1:00:31.080 --> 1:00:33.240 What about your what are you was your first instinct. 1:00:32.880 --> 1:00:37.680 About I don't know, like honestly, like losing my independence, 1:00:37.720 --> 1:00:39.000 which is a little bit scary for me. 1:00:39.160 --> 1:00:41.880 That's the trigger word. Yeah, what do you mean your independence? 1:00:42.080 --> 1:00:44.280 Yeah, that's what I feel when I think about motherhood 1:00:44.280 --> 1:00:44.880 for myself. 1:00:45.080 --> 1:00:47.760 Yeah. Yeah, no, I thought about that too, though. It's like, damn, 1:00:47.800 --> 1:00:49.280 I gotta be less of But I'm like, I feel 1:00:49.280 --> 1:00:50.680 like I'm at that age like if I was younger, 1:00:50.680 --> 1:00:53.440 it would be it would feel more crazy or crazier 1:00:53.480 --> 1:00:54.960 to me. But I'm like, I'm thirty four. 1:00:55.240 --> 1:00:56.840 Yeah, I just don't know if I want to, I'm. 1:00:56.680 --> 1:00:57.400 Not going to do right now. 1:00:59.200 --> 1:01:00.360 Me, I was like I keep it was like, what 1:01:00.400 --> 1:01:00.960 else are you doing? 1:01:02.960 --> 1:01:05.200 No. I remember one of my my little cousin told 1:01:05.240 --> 1:01:06.880 me and because this is we were pregnant at the 1:01:06.880 --> 1:01:09.360 same time, like years ago, and now she has like 1:01:09.360 --> 1:01:12.080 a seven year old son, I probably would have one too, 1:01:12.560 --> 1:01:15.440 and so like this time I told her I was 1:01:15.440 --> 1:01:16.800 pregnant and she was like, well, what are you going 1:01:16.880 --> 1:01:18.600 to do? She was like, what are you gonna do? 1:01:18.640 --> 1:01:19.920 And I was like, I really don't know. She was like, 1:01:19.920 --> 1:01:23.160 you need to grow the funk up. And I said, okay, 1:01:23.280 --> 1:01:25.440 well you write that one and then you ain't that 1:01:25.480 --> 1:01:27.720 one looked because I was like, yeah, you're right. I 1:01:27.760 --> 1:01:29.360 was like, I can't keep a boarding them, you know what, I. 1:01:30.840 --> 1:01:33.080 Can't keep doing that parenthood. 1:01:33.800 --> 1:01:35.800 Well they was outside with them signs last time. 1:01:35.800 --> 1:01:37.320 Oh my god, I've been there signs and I want 1:01:37.320 --> 1:01:38.640 to be like, bitch, you get a life. 1:01:38.960 --> 1:01:46.560 Yeah no, that's kind of a life. Oh we fun. 1:01:48.920 --> 1:01:49.840 I'm not a whole y'all. 1:01:50.160 --> 1:01:50.560 Now we. 1:01:52.800 --> 1:01:56.400 What else do you? Yeah? Do you these niggas? Sorry? 1:01:56.600 --> 1:02:00.080 Right, biggest regret. 1:01:59.320 --> 1:02:00.920 Getting out a board when I was young, and I'm 1:02:00.920 --> 1:02:05.240 just kidding. I always said, this is not finishing in college. 1:02:05.680 --> 1:02:06.280 My honest. 1:02:06.320 --> 1:02:08.760 My biggest regret is getting my T three done in 1:02:08.800 --> 1:02:09.520 by Miami. 1:02:09.560 --> 1:02:10.320 That's still to this day. 1:02:10.400 --> 1:02:11.600 My biggest regret making. 1:02:11.360 --> 1:02:14.400 A mistake on choosing the right person for cosmetic surgery. 1:02:14.480 --> 1:02:15.560 You shouldn't have went to Miami. 1:02:15.760 --> 1:02:20.760 Yeah, Columbia not mad No. Yeah, I went to fucking 1:02:20.800 --> 1:02:23.760 Miami and it costs me over eighty thousand dollars in 1:02:23.800 --> 1:02:27.080 like chronic paying chronic TMJ, like just too much. Worst 1:02:27.080 --> 1:02:28.960 decision And that's my only regret in life. 1:02:28.960 --> 1:02:30.200 I don't have no other regrets. I don't need a 1:02:30.200 --> 1:02:35.080 lot of shit. Y'all. Pet peeve winning like I hate 1:02:35.080 --> 1:02:38.120 people are like, oh, y'all, you're sorry, but. 1:02:38.040 --> 1:02:40.800 That really gets Like now, she was like ten minutes 1:02:40.840 --> 1:02:41.840 and she was like, where are they at? 1:02:41.960 --> 1:02:45.880 I said, relaxed on the phone five minutes I was 1:02:45.920 --> 1:02:46.840 sweating coming down. 1:02:47.960 --> 1:02:50.720 I think my pet peeve is the most recent one. 1:02:50.960 --> 1:02:52.600 I get so annoyed when I'm on the phone with 1:02:52.640 --> 1:02:54.520 somebody and they got thirteen other things going on in 1:02:54.560 --> 1:02:55.000 the background. 1:02:55.040 --> 1:02:55.800 Bitch, you want to call. 1:02:55.760 --> 1:02:58.400 Me later, just hang up. I don't need to be here. 1:02:58.400 --> 1:03:00.040 Why are you? And then when you call me and 1:03:00.080 --> 1:03:01.840 you got thirteen things beat in the back? Can I 1:03:01.840 --> 1:03:02.120 get it? 1:03:02.160 --> 1:03:02.360 You know? 1:03:02.840 --> 1:03:03.840 Just what are we doing? 1:03:04.360 --> 1:03:04.920 Why did you call me? 1:03:05.040 --> 1:03:07.000 Why'd you call me? You talking to everybody else? 1:03:07.160 --> 1:03:10.520 Yeah? Okay, last question, best advice you've ever gotten? 1:03:12.360 --> 1:03:12.680 Keep it? 1:03:12.720 --> 1:03:16.600 And I'm saying, okay, I don't know the best advice 1:03:16.640 --> 1:03:19.160 I've ever gotten, Share you go. 1:03:20.160 --> 1:03:21.640 Best advice I've ever gotten. 1:03:22.920 --> 1:03:24.880 I'm gonna be real, I haven't really gotten too much 1:03:24.880 --> 1:03:28.040 advice from people, Like genuinely, I feel like my whole 1:03:28.040 --> 1:03:30.439 life has been like just trial and tribulation. Like I've 1:03:30.440 --> 1:03:32.439 had to kind of figure out everything on my own. 1:03:32.960 --> 1:03:35.840 But the best advice I could give to people, since 1:03:35.880 --> 1:03:38.840 I haven't really gotten great advice, is to just like 1:03:39.000 --> 1:03:41.000 do what you want to do and make that shit happen, 1:03:41.280 --> 1:03:43.600 and don't be scared to make it happen because you 1:03:43.640 --> 1:03:45.480 can literally do anything that you want to do in 1:03:45.520 --> 1:03:45.760 the world. 1:03:45.880 --> 1:03:48.160 Yeah, I have good I have someone one of my 1:03:48.480 --> 1:03:50.160 close friends, one of my best friends, gave me this 1:03:50.200 --> 1:03:53.120 advice one time, and she put it in regards to anything, 1:03:53.120 --> 1:03:55.680 but especially relationships. She was like, just pay attention always 1:03:55.680 --> 1:03:58.440 to how you feel, how people make you feel. And 1:03:59.440 --> 1:04:01.280 she was like, just pay attention to how you feel 1:04:01.320 --> 1:04:04.360 because you are the most important person in these scenario sometimes, 1:04:04.360 --> 1:04:06.640 so pay attention to your feelings and how people make 1:04:06.680 --> 1:04:08.600 you feel is very important. And so I do I 1:04:09.360 --> 1:04:10.960 use that. I keep that in mind a lot. With 1:04:11.040 --> 1:04:12.400 a lot of time, I'm like, how do I feel 1:04:12.400 --> 1:04:13.919 in this scenario? How do I feel with these people? 1:04:13.920 --> 1:04:15.880 How do I even feel if I'm even looking something 1:04:15.920 --> 1:04:17.320 as simple as looking for a venue, how do I 1:04:17.360 --> 1:04:19.640 feel in these spaces? So I just feel like being 1:04:19.720 --> 1:04:22.800 very in tune with like my feelings sometimes because it 1:04:22.840 --> 1:04:24.120 is kind of hard for me, so like I have 1:04:24.160 --> 1:04:25.640 to do keep that in mind of like how do 1:04:25.720 --> 1:04:27.840 I feel right now? So I think that was a 1:04:27.880 --> 1:04:28.640 really good one for me. 1:04:29.240 --> 1:04:31.160 Yeah, that is great. 1:04:31.760 --> 1:04:35.560 What about y'all? I told you, Yeah, the. 1:04:35.520 --> 1:04:36.840 Baby's coming to your life. You're not going to the 1:04:36.880 --> 1:04:37.920 baby's life. That was what I was like. 1:04:37.960 --> 1:04:41.960 And also that they're pretty, They're pretty, uh durable. 1:04:42.120 --> 1:04:43.720 So I was like, she's fine, it's adorable. 1:04:43.760 --> 1:04:47.360 I was like, oh, okay, do you guys want to 1:04:47.360 --> 1:04:49.160 pick a tarot card before we get out of here? 1:04:49.160 --> 1:04:50.080 Do you? 1:04:50.640 --> 1:04:52.480 She don't like taro Okay. 1:04:52.440 --> 1:04:54.800 No, I don't mind. I know she talked about because 1:04:54.800 --> 1:04:57.600 we went for the girl now because okay, we went 1:04:57.640 --> 1:05:01.440 to a Patreon. We went to a Patreon, and I 1:05:01.440 --> 1:05:03.520 didn't like that lady. I'll be in my business talking 1:05:03.560 --> 1:05:07.560 about and she was a rip off. Anyways. 1:05:05.440 --> 1:05:09.720 But when I got the card of Judgment. 1:05:10.360 --> 1:05:15.240 Judgmental I'm just kidding. I got the card of x 1:05:15.400 --> 1:05:16.360 v X exit. 1:05:17.080 --> 1:05:20.040 You got a show it's three cups? Or is that 1:05:20.040 --> 1:05:21.800 three cups? What is that called? 1:05:22.800 --> 1:05:25.120 It's eight of cup, eight of cups? 1:05:25.320 --> 1:05:30.680 Okay, judgment the judgment card, you pulled it up right, Yeah, 1:05:33.000 --> 1:05:34.440 of course, this is what always happened. 1:05:34.480 --> 1:05:36.280 My Internet is hello. 1:05:53.880 --> 1:05:55.520 The judgment card is calling you to rise up and 1:05:55.560 --> 1:05:57.720 embrace a higher level of consciousness for the service of 1:05:57.720 --> 1:05:58.400 your highest good. 1:05:58.480 --> 1:05:59.520 You are experiencing a. 1:05:59.480 --> 1:06:02.520 Spiritual awakening and realizing that you are destined for so 1:06:02.680 --> 1:06:05.600 much more. This is your cosmic leveling up. 1:06:05.720 --> 1:06:06.920 You hear the call and you're. 1:06:06.760 --> 1:06:07.400 Ready to act. 1:06:07.520 --> 1:06:10.920 Tune into a higher frequency, Let go of old self 1:06:10.920 --> 1:06:13.280 and step into this newest version of who you really are. 1:06:13.400 --> 1:06:15.720 The judgment card often indicates that you need to make 1:06:15.760 --> 1:06:18.840 a life changing decision, but unlike those associated with the 1:06:18.880 --> 1:06:22.320 logical justice card, the decision requires a blend of intuition 1:06:22.440 --> 1:06:25.240 and intellect. You may be at a crossroads, aware that 1:06:25.320 --> 1:06:27.840 any choice you make will bring significant change with long 1:06:27.920 --> 1:06:31.120 lasting effects. Judgment pops up in a tarot reading when 1:06:31.120 --> 1:06:37.840 you are close to reaching a signific You are reaching 1:06:37.840 --> 1:06:41.480 a significant stage in your journey. You have reviewed and 1:06:41.480 --> 1:06:44.920 evaluated your past experiences and have learned from them. The 1:06:45.000 --> 1:06:47.520 judgment card suggests that you may find comfort in sharing 1:06:47.560 --> 1:06:50.480 your struggles with others within a group environment a podcaster. 1:06:51.320 --> 1:06:53.480 There will be others who have experienced something similar and 1:06:53.480 --> 1:06:56.040 who can show you the way of freedom from your troubles. 1:06:56.160 --> 1:06:58.360 Let them guide you and help you rise together. 1:06:58.680 --> 1:06:59.080 I love it. 1:06:59.160 --> 1:07:00.840 I love it. Look like Michael Jackson. 1:07:01.000 --> 1:07:04.360 Nope, not Michael Jackson. The ative cups. 1:07:04.360 --> 1:07:06.200 When the ative cup shows up in the tarot reading, 1:07:06.240 --> 1:07:08.760 you may feel compelled to walk away from a disappointing situation. 1:07:09.320 --> 1:07:12.000 It could mean turning your back on an unfulfilling relationship, job, 1:07:12.040 --> 1:07:14.919 career path, living arrangement, or creative project that was once 1:07:14.960 --> 1:07:17.040 a source of great happiness to you, but now it 1:07:17.120 --> 1:07:20.360 only brings you pain. You have invested yourself emotionally, but 1:07:20.400 --> 1:07:23.040 despite your best efforts, are disappointed it hasn't turned out 1:07:23.040 --> 1:07:24.840 the way you expected it to, and you realize that 1:07:24.880 --> 1:07:27.000 you're no longer getting anything out of this situation. 1:07:27.640 --> 1:07:27.960 Now. 1:07:28.120 --> 1:07:29.800 The only choice is to put it behind you and 1:07:29.840 --> 1:07:31.760 move on with your life, even if it brings you 1:07:31.800 --> 1:07:34.640 sadness as you say goodbye. The aative cup suggests that 1:07:34.680 --> 1:07:37.640 you sense that something is missing, particularly on an emotional 1:07:37.680 --> 1:07:40.160 or spiritual level, and instead of waiting around for things 1:07:40.200 --> 1:07:42.000 to get better, you know you need to leave that 1:07:42.160 --> 1:07:46.240 unfulfilling situation. It may not make sense to others because 1:07:46.400 --> 1:07:48.280 on the face it looks as if you have everything 1:07:48.280 --> 1:07:50.320 you had wished for, but deep down you know it's 1:07:50.360 --> 1:07:52.760 not serving your highest goods and it's time for you 1:07:52.800 --> 1:07:57.240 to let go. And I mean, if it doesn't speak 1:07:57.280 --> 1:07:59.680 to you, it doesn't necessarily mean anything. 1:08:00.320 --> 1:08:02.560 But if it does, you know, just take it in. 1:08:02.840 --> 1:08:04.479 The cars usually don't last the cars. 1:08:04.840 --> 1:08:06.000 The cars will reach you down. 1:08:06.280 --> 1:08:06.520 Really. 1:08:06.920 --> 1:08:09.320 Yeah, it might not be anything like you can think 1:08:09.360 --> 1:08:11.320 of right now, but maybe there's something that I. 1:08:11.320 --> 1:08:14.520 Don't pop up and be like, oh that was that car? Yep? H. 1:08:16.040 --> 1:08:18.559 Well, thank you ladies for joining us of course on 1:08:18.640 --> 1:08:22.479 the pod, for having us yea so fun. Y'all are 1:08:22.520 --> 1:08:25.000 in the area, on the area, always welcome to come 1:08:25.040 --> 1:08:27.479 back on the show, come hang out if you ever 1:08:27.520 --> 1:08:30.400 need a space to work, yes we all have about 1:08:30.479 --> 1:08:31.439 studio next door too. 1:08:31.560 --> 1:08:33.879 And also sending you so much love on your journey 1:08:34.160 --> 1:08:36.120 the last couple of months and on your birth and 1:08:36.160 --> 1:08:39.680 don't be afraid and just like tap in, you were 1:08:39.680 --> 1:08:40.400 born to do this. 1:08:40.720 --> 1:08:43.360 Yeah, thank you so much. I appreciate it. 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