WEBVTT - Easy does it

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura, Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to find easy ways of getting together

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<v Speaker 1>with friends, so you spend your time enjoying each other's company,

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<v Speaker 1>not dealing with logistics or preparation. So we have all

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<v Speaker 1>tried to plan a night out with friends and got

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<v Speaker 1>admired in the annoying back and forth about dates and

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<v Speaker 1>times that might work. Or maybe you've decided to invite

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<v Speaker 1>friends over to your home and you spend a day

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<v Speaker 1>or more planning the menu and spiffing up your house,

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<v Speaker 1>only to spend the morning after the dinner party washing dishes.

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<v Speaker 1>Even if they get together is wonderful, this can feel

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<v Speaker 1>like a lot of bother. Life soon gets too busy

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<v Speaker 1>for bother, so we don't see our friends as often

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<v Speaker 1>as we'd like to. If what you want is to

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<v Speaker 1>spend time with your friends, then the key is to

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<v Speaker 1>reduce the bother. See if there is a way you

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<v Speaker 1>can pare down your planning and focus on simply getting together.

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<v Speaker 1>No reservations, no menu planning or cooking, no decorating, no cleaning,

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<v Speaker 1>just getting together. So, for instance, if you'd like to

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<v Speaker 1>see more of a particular circle of friends. Set recurring

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<v Speaker 1>times forget togethers that are easy for everyone. A recurring

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<v Speaker 1>time means people no way in advance. When they get

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<v Speaker 1>together happens perhaps every Thursday morning at eight or the

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<v Speaker 1>third Friday of every month at six pm. Plus with

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<v Speaker 1>a recurring date, you remove the pressure of finding a

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<v Speaker 1>date that works for everyone. Every date will work for

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<v Speaker 1>some people, and some dates will work for everyone, so

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<v Speaker 1>no need to figure out availability and r s v

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<v Speaker 1>ps every time. Maybe you and your neighbors decide together

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<v Speaker 1>for drinks every Friday after work, You simply head over

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<v Speaker 1>to the neighborhood playground. You take a drink and perhaps

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<v Speaker 1>a snack to share. Chairs for the adults and a

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<v Speaker 1>soccer ball or bubbles for the kids. No other prep required.

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<v Speaker 1>I know of a couple who invite their friends over

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<v Speaker 1>for porch parties, a series of get togethers on their

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<v Speaker 1>porch when the weather is mild. They send out invitations

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<v Speaker 1>with the dates. You don't have to r s v P.

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<v Speaker 1>You just show up and bring whatever you want to.

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<v Speaker 1>Kids and friends are welcome to come along. You don't

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<v Speaker 1>even necessarily go into the house. You just sit on

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<v Speaker 1>the porch and enjoy the time together with none of

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<v Speaker 1>the fuss that entertaining sometimes entails. You could do something

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<v Speaker 1>similar with your porcher yard, or put a new spin

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<v Speaker 1>on the office hours professor's hold by going somewhere that

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<v Speaker 1>people know they can find you at a certain point.

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<v Speaker 1>Every week, for instance, you could go to a cafe

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<v Speaker 1>near your home or work for social hours. Perhaps every

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<v Speaker 1>Wednesday from five thirty to sixty. You could go to

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<v Speaker 1>the same cafe and your friends know they will find

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<v Speaker 1>you there and so they can stop by to say hi.

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<v Speaker 1>Will you end up alone sometimes perhaps, but take a

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<v Speaker 1>good book and the time will be nice either way.

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<v Speaker 1>If you want to spend more time with people you enjoy,

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<v Speaker 1>focus on doing just that, spending time together. Don't layer

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<v Speaker 1>on any needless complexity in terms of hosting, getting reservations,

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<v Speaker 1>or coordinating complicated schedules. Just find a rhythm and a

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<v Speaker 1>venue that work and enjoy the fun instead of enduring

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<v Speaker 1>the logistics. If you take an easy desert approach to

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<v Speaker 1>gathering with those you want to see more of, I'd

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<v Speaker 1>love to hear how you do it. You can reach

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<v Speaker 1>me at Laura at Laura Vanderkam dot com in the meantime,

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<v Speaker 1>this is Laura. Thanks for listening and here's to making

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<v Speaker 1>the most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to

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