Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.
Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura, Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.
Speaker 1: Today's tip is to find easy ways of getting together
Speaker 1: with friends, so you spend your time enjoying each other's company,
Speaker 1: not dealing with logistics or preparation. So we have all
Speaker 1: tried to plan a night out with friends and got
Speaker 1: admired in the annoying back and forth about dates and
Speaker 1: times that might work. Or maybe you've decided to invite
Speaker 1: friends over to your home and you spend a day
Speaker 1: or more planning the menu and spiffing up your house,
Speaker 1: only to spend the morning after the dinner party washing dishes.
Speaker 1: Even if they get together is wonderful, this can feel
Speaker 1: like a lot of bother. Life soon gets too busy
Speaker 1: for bother, so we don't see our friends as often
Speaker 1: as we'd like to. If what you want is to
Speaker 1: spend time with your friends, then the key is to
Speaker 1: reduce the bother. See if there is a way you
Speaker 1: can pare down your planning and focus on simply getting together.
Speaker 1: No reservations, no menu planning or cooking, no decorating, no cleaning,
Speaker 1: just getting together. So, for instance, if you'd like to
Speaker 1: see more of a particular circle of friends. Set recurring
Speaker 1: times forget togethers that are easy for everyone. A recurring
Speaker 1: time means people no way in advance. When they get
Speaker 1: together happens perhaps every Thursday morning at eight or the
Speaker 1: third Friday of every month at six pm. Plus with
Speaker 1: a recurring date, you remove the pressure of finding a
Speaker 1: date that works for everyone. Every date will work for
Speaker 1: some people, and some dates will work for everyone, so
Speaker 1: no need to figure out availability and r s v
Speaker 1: ps every time. Maybe you and your neighbors decide together
Speaker 1: for drinks every Friday after work, You simply head over
Speaker 1: to the neighborhood playground. You take a drink and perhaps
Speaker 1: a snack to share. Chairs for the adults and a
Speaker 1: soccer ball or bubbles for the kids. No other prep required.
Speaker 1: I know of a couple who invite their friends over
Speaker 1: for porch parties, a series of get togethers on their
Speaker 1: porch when the weather is mild. They send out invitations
Speaker 1: with the dates. You don't have to r s v P.
Speaker 1: You just show up and bring whatever you want to.
Speaker 1: Kids and friends are welcome to come along. You don't
Speaker 1: even necessarily go into the house. You just sit on
Speaker 1: the porch and enjoy the time together with none of
Speaker 1: the fuss that entertaining sometimes entails. You could do something
Speaker 1: similar with your porcher yard, or put a new spin
Speaker 1: on the office hours professor's hold by going somewhere that
Speaker 1: people know they can find you at a certain point.
Speaker 1: Every week, for instance, you could go to a cafe
Speaker 1: near your home or work for social hours. Perhaps every
Speaker 1: Wednesday from five thirty to sixty. You could go to
Speaker 1: the same cafe and your friends know they will find
Speaker 1: you there and so they can stop by to say hi.
Speaker 1: Will you end up alone sometimes perhaps, but take a
Speaker 1: good book and the time will be nice either way.
Speaker 1: If you want to spend more time with people you enjoy,
Speaker 1: focus on doing just that, spending time together. Don't layer
Speaker 1: on any needless complexity in terms of hosting, getting reservations,
Speaker 1: or coordinating complicated schedules. Just find a rhythm and a
Speaker 1: venue that work and enjoy the fun instead of enduring
Speaker 1: the logistics. If you take an easy desert approach to
Speaker 1: gathering with those you want to see more of, I'd
Speaker 1: love to hear how you do it. You can reach
Speaker 1: me at Laura at Laura Vanderkam dot com in the meantime,
Speaker 1: this is Laura. Thanks for listening and here's to making
Speaker 1: the most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to
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