Speaker 1: What's up? And welcome back to another episode of No
Speaker 1: Sealer's Podcast with your hosts Now fuck that with your
Speaker 1: loap glasses, Malone.
Speaker 2: Please don't worry, trust me. The last thing I'm scared
Speaker 2: of is.
Speaker 1: Anything, And that's the problem. It's the fucking problem my
Speaker 1: drinking and dropping. My last thing I'm worried about is
Speaker 1: any exactly. Oh, let me ask you a question, Pete,
Speaker 1: what's the best age to get married?
Speaker 3: Shoesh that's a good question. Not for Pete, No, I'm
Speaker 3: not saying.
Speaker 1: Okay, for regular human beings.
Speaker 3: Yeah, death is not an age.
Speaker 1: If you're asking you, there's never a time to die,
Speaker 1: There's never a good time to die.
Speaker 3: Shout be told. It's probably it's probably mid twenties, early
Speaker 3: mid twenties.
Speaker 1: Britt, When is the best time the best age for
Speaker 1: a woman to get married for.
Speaker 4: A woman, I would say somewhere in the early thirties.
Speaker 1: Red, When is the best time for a woman to
Speaker 1: get married?
Speaker 5: I say twenties, early twenties.
Speaker 1: Siah, when is a great time the best time for
Speaker 1: a woman to get married?
Speaker 2: Thirty seven and a half or something the other side
Speaker 2: of thirty.
Speaker 1: Okay, So let me ask you a question for the
Speaker 1: thirty year olds, right, the guys that said thirty brit side,
Speaker 1: Why is it thirty years old? Why is that?
Speaker 4: Because I think, Okay, she's gonna do. I just think that.
Speaker 4: I don't know why. I think it's a good age.
Speaker 4: I just think in your twenties you're kind of still
Speaker 4: trying to figure it out. Most times, you probably if
Speaker 4: you some most some people go to college and do
Speaker 4: all that and then live on they you know, lead
Speaker 4: their the nest and do all that. So I think
Speaker 4: that's why I said thirties because usually thirties you kind
Speaker 4: of somewhat kind of figured it out a little bit,
Speaker 4: and then you kind of know yourself because I feel
Speaker 4: like when you get married, like shit, it's just a
Speaker 4: little different that I've never been married. But that's why
Speaker 4: I said thirties. Is that realm.
Speaker 6: I've seen the difference in ages and getting married, and
Speaker 6: I think that thirties is good, Yes, good, because.
Speaker 2: In your twenties, depending on how you.
Speaker 6: Were raised, that's the time that you get to yourself
Speaker 6: to figure out some shit.
Speaker 1: What are you figuring out? Brett? And sayah, in your twenties,
Speaker 1: who you are, what you want?
Speaker 4: I don't say like whether you know you're career like
Speaker 4: things in that nature, like better yourself, Like I don't know.
Speaker 4: In my twenties, like I said, I had a kid
Speaker 4: and so I was definitely trying to figure a whole
Speaker 4: lot of things out. But for those like my sister,
Speaker 4: you know, she's twenty seven, I could not see her
Speaker 4: being married right now. Like she's like literally traveling and
Speaker 4: doing a lot of things with her career and stuff
Speaker 4: like that, and she's she's really understanding what she wants
Speaker 4: in life. So I think right now wouldn't be a
Speaker 4: good time for her. But shit like in her thirty
Speaker 4: should be straight. She already established the things that she wanted.
Speaker 4: And you got to remember when you get married, like
Speaker 4: you guys come as one, so you know you gotta
Speaker 4: I feel like you need to know yourself. I didn't
Speaker 4: take the time to get to know myself until way later,
Speaker 4: and that was bullshit. Be honest with you.
Speaker 1: What did you learn about yourself when you knew yourself?
Speaker 4: Shit that I I was putting. I needed to focus
Speaker 4: more on myself. I gave a lot of myself and
Speaker 4: I did a lot. I don't get emotional, but basically
Speaker 4: I just I do get emotional do don't do that
Speaker 4: to me. But I'm just saying like, I just felt like,
Speaker 4: I just felt like I gave myself a lot and
Speaker 4: a lot of different things and I sacrificed a lot
Speaker 4: when there was no reciprocation of any of that through
Speaker 4: any of those times in my life. So I think
Speaker 4: as now as I got older, I just feel like
Speaker 4: I'm just meaning like and this is my fault. This
Speaker 4: is the learning. You can't always expect people to be
Speaker 4: like you. All my life, I've always stepped out and
Speaker 4: I'm that that person that you can call I'm gonna come,
Speaker 4: I'm gonna show up, milestones whatever, I'm hurt.
Speaker 1: Are you person?
Speaker 4: I don't know, Man, I can't explain to you why
Speaker 4: she lives out of her heart space. I can't even
Speaker 4: tell you why. I honestly g I just that's just hard.
Speaker 4: So as I got as I got older, I started
Speaker 4: feeling like, damn, I've really been this person. And when
Speaker 4: I needed shit the most, I literally was like, Damn,
Speaker 4: I look at my hand, I'm damn.
Speaker 1: Are you really that person? Then?
Speaker 4: I am that person? Because that's why it hurt me
Speaker 4: so much, because that that was me and I really
Speaker 4: I don't know just now.
Speaker 2: It's just.
Speaker 4: That was me, because I wouldn't have done it if
Speaker 4: it wasn't.
Speaker 1: The reason I'm asking is because like, why would it
Speaker 1: bother you if somebody else is you? If you're just
Speaker 1: being you, Like even like when I'm being me, right,
Speaker 1: it's like, it don't matter what nobody else is doing.
Speaker 1: Like if I'm giving you energy, it's because I want
Speaker 1: to give you energy. That's who I am. I'm not
Speaker 1: looking for it to be reciprocated.
Speaker 4: Well, okay, I showed the wrong word as far as reciprocate.
Speaker 4: I'm just feeling I just feel like I've always just
Speaker 4: been that person and important person and doing a lot
Speaker 4: of things, and in my head I'm thinking like the
Speaker 4: world would do the same, like you know what I mean,
Speaker 4: like and it just it's not like that.
Speaker 1: But that's why I asked, is it really you? Because
Speaker 1: I don't think I've ever looked for the world.
Speaker 4: Well I'm not saying I look for it, but I
Speaker 4: just it just feels a certain type of way, like
Speaker 4: if you wake up in the morning and you can't
Speaker 4: fucking call motherfucker whatever it is that what you need,
Speaker 4: it's just like, damn that makes you feel a certain
Speaker 4: type of way. I'm not saying I looked for it,
Speaker 4: but it did hit you when it actually happened, though,
Speaker 4: and that's how it hit me.
Speaker 5: So I think if you if you were looking at
Speaker 5: it as an expectation that they would do it for you, Yeah,
Speaker 5: then that's where it's gonna end.
Speaker 1: Because disappointment only lives where expectation exists.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you're right about that, But I don't think, like
Speaker 4: I said, guys, I don't think at that moment when
Speaker 4: I was doing it, I wasn't expecting anything at that moment.
Speaker 6: When you're always for someone and then when you're going
Speaker 6: through something you may need something, nobody is able to
Speaker 6: give you what you.
Speaker 4: Need or not even won't even give a fuck to Okay,
Speaker 4: like you know so, and it's and it's cool because
Speaker 4: I made that decision. No one woke me up and said, hey,
Speaker 4: go over there and do this and that. No one
Speaker 4: told you to do any of those things. So I'm saying,
Speaker 4: as me getting older, that's how I learned myself. Like, well,
Speaker 4: maybe I wasn't shit. I don't know. Maybe talking to
Speaker 4: you guys right now is making anythink, But I'm telling
Speaker 4: you I didn't. I didn't go into it as a
Speaker 4: like I want something from you, but that's me, Like,
Speaker 4: I'm just that my mama says I'm her carrying most
Speaker 4: carrying child.
Speaker 1: I totally get it, but I'm just saying the reason
Speaker 1: I'm saying that, right, and because I still haven't figured
Speaker 1: out quite why you would need to be thirty something,
Speaker 1: I don't think.
Speaker 3: I got a hypothesis on that.
Speaker 1: No settlings, glasses, love. My boy Peter is in the house,
Speaker 1: Bred is in the house, the sister Siah is in
Speaker 1: the house. I'm gonna make this your simple, give me
Speaker 1: your hyppot.
Speaker 7: This is peak, I think, quote unquote finding yourself. And
Speaker 7: that's sort of a context means I need to build
Speaker 7: myself up to be more independent and less vulnerable so
Speaker 7: that I can be in a relationship that has more
Speaker 7: defined barriers, where I can exist comfortably without being so
Speaker 7: exposed to being dependent on somebody else because there's risk
Speaker 7: involved in that.
Speaker 4: That could be it down, which.
Speaker 1: Kind of set to that for failure.
Speaker 7: Though it does, it's a mentality that's not really all
Speaker 7: that great when the expectation is this is the singular
Speaker 7: individual that you have chosen to commit the rest of
Speaker 7: your life to sharing with.
Speaker 3: You shouldn't have those inhibitions. If you're gonna, if you
Speaker 3: if you're gonna take that.
Speaker 7: Journey, take on that journey, you shouldn't bring that with
Speaker 7: you for that journey.
Speaker 1: You can't shoot the shot worried about missing. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I saw something on Instagram and it was like, yeah, girl,
Speaker 1: you need to travel and see the world and you
Speaker 1: need to date. And I thought to myself, like, like,
Speaker 1: the worst thing you can do is like go through
Speaker 1: me and other experiences. Yes, like literally, because what you
Speaker 1: do is start to compare everything.
Speaker 4: I agree with that.
Speaker 5: I think it's best twenties. You're young, you're growing, you're learning,
Speaker 5: but you're doing it with your mate. That's the only
Speaker 5: person like that you're with, So you your guard is
Speaker 5: down because you're everything is new to you. I think
Speaker 5: the later that you wait, you've really just had a
Speaker 5: chance to just you know, you having a party. Yet
Speaker 5: we're getting to know each other, but I mean getting
Speaker 5: to know yourself.
Speaker 4: True, that has to.
Speaker 5: Happen, but you're really just you're just going through men
Speaker 5: and you're just kind of learn unless you're not dating,
Speaker 5: unless you're not dating, well not fu Yeah, Okay, yes
Speaker 5: you're not.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're right.
Speaker 5: You could date, yes, unless you're not having sex and
Speaker 5: you're not, you know, in these relationships that are marriages,
Speaker 5: but they're not marriages.
Speaker 4: Gotcha, then okay, But otherwise.
Speaker 5: I mean, get married, be with that person, commit, do it, learn,
Speaker 5: be vulnerable, to be able to just take it all in.
Speaker 4: I mean, I just know too many. I personally know
Speaker 4: too many. Well, three people I know that it was
Speaker 4: with their person from like nineteen all the way up
Speaker 4: until their forties, and they're not together no more.
Speaker 1: Yeah, listen, you know what I'm saying. You're not gonna
Speaker 1: shoot every You're not gonna make every shot you take.
Speaker 4: No, But I'm saying that that that's probably another reason
Speaker 4: why I would say to kind of like wait a
Speaker 4: little bit, But I don't. They were together more really
Speaker 4: long time, but.
Speaker 1: More times than not, though young marriages last the longest.
Speaker 2: I do agree.
Speaker 1: It's actually like a statistic.
Speaker 3: You're like learning when you're when you're learning about yourself,
Speaker 3: you're learning how to be a partner through all those
Speaker 3: learning years, as opposed to when you're a single. You
Speaker 3: learn to be learning how to be single for all those.
Speaker 4: And you become more selfish. I agree with that.
Speaker 2: Longer.
Speaker 4: I agree with that by yourself.
Speaker 3: I've learned is more? Is it?
Speaker 7: I've just learned it's too much, a series of more
Speaker 7: and more and more things.
Speaker 1: I don't think that.
Speaker 7: You don't like that's true, that is really true.
Speaker 4: I got it, okay, So I didn't know guys, but
Speaker 4: like that too, because I didn't think that, and.
Speaker 1: I like that. I think about it when you If
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go with them, then I'll just I'm already with.
Speaker 2: The I'm learning to love myself more. Somebody else I
Speaker 2: don't like it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I know all. I'm just no longer and longer.
Speaker 1: Honestly, he's not lying.
Speaker 3: Ship.
Speaker 1: That's how I feel about being a parent. As every
Speaker 1: I look at everybody I know who's a parent. I
Speaker 1: look at kids, and I be like, yo, this is
Speaker 1: not a good idea. It's not going the other way.
Speaker 1: Like I don't wake up every day like, oh man,
Speaker 1: one day I hope to be a parent. It's like
Speaker 1: every day I look, I'll be like when I was young,
Speaker 1: Like it's almost like you ignorant, right, and you don't know.
Speaker 1: So it's like you're excited I'm a parent, and I
Speaker 1: get to raise a child, and it takes a little
Speaker 1: bit of ignorance to even want to do some ship
Speaker 1: like that. Like if you think about why two people
Speaker 1: come together and have a kid, it's like, it's the
Speaker 1: most selfish fucking reason in the world. We want a
Speaker 1: product of our love. I want to continue. I want
Speaker 1: to continue my legacy when I'm dead. I'm like, you're
Speaker 1: that like you're that special on planet fucking Earth that
Speaker 1: we need you here. How much you want.
Speaker 4: If we look age.
Speaker 7: Of like first child born again, like if we were
Speaker 7: to look at a chart, you know, so like that
Speaker 7: determined how old people were at their first at the
Speaker 7: age of their first child being born, it's probably to
Speaker 7: some degree you shaped you have young and ignorant, then
Speaker 7: you have smart enough to know not to do it
Speaker 7: right now. Then you have oh shit, if I don't
Speaker 7: do it now, it's never gonna happen.
Speaker 3: Let's do it.
Speaker 1: That would be a great chart.
Speaker 2: That is because some women be like, oh, my class ticking.
Speaker 1: So Sia is mad because we had a conversation because
Speaker 1: she because she said that right there. But what we
Speaker 1: were just playing in the side, because I was talking
Speaker 1: about spirituality and nature and I was like nature when
Speaker 1: a woman that.
Speaker 2: Her period cut cut, don't just let's not go.
Speaker 1: Into we're going there. So when I told her, when
Speaker 1: a woman has her period, that's nature entering her into womanhood. Okay, right,
Speaker 1: Pete was explaining to her, like she Pete just talked
Speaker 1: about He said, what's the word you use with Sida
Speaker 1: when she wants to find the small nuances and make
Speaker 1: that the whole point.
Speaker 3: Of defining the rule by the exception?
Speaker 1: Exactly right. So she was like, what if somebody had
Speaker 1: a period at nine? I'm like, bro, like, what are
Speaker 1: you doing? Why would you say? Why would you say that?
Speaker 3: Lazy ship?
Speaker 1: Most people don't find no period?
Speaker 3: You're doing it.
Speaker 1: You're doing it. You guys are all doing it. Ag again,
Speaker 1: you're defining the rule by the essex.
Speaker 2: And you have your period. It's okay to pro create.
Speaker 3: That's literally, it's not that's not what it's said. I said.
Speaker 1: Nature makes it to where she can pro create.
Speaker 2: But she's still growing and learning.
Speaker 1: She's gonna you're you're still growing and learning, and.
Speaker 7: You're between a woman twelve and a woman at forty
Speaker 7: is negligible, exactly.
Speaker 3: I agree.
Speaker 2: I hate this conversation.
Speaker 1: I understand because the truth and facts are hard for
Speaker 1: you because you live in a space where you want
Speaker 1: to feel good about anything.
Speaker 2: Converted.
Speaker 1: It's not it has nothing to do pervert perverted listen, Yes,
Speaker 1: but but but how do you care strong? Yeah, but
Speaker 1: that's because you're not existing in facts. You know what?
Speaker 1: Wing Still you're going, you're growing, still have That.
Speaker 2: Doesn't mean they're ready, they're they're they're being prepared.
Speaker 1: Nature totally disagrees.
Speaker 6: Yeah, Nature says that the nature told that.
Speaker 2: They're having a period. Nature, you have to learn, learn
Speaker 2: what it is and how it feels and what it is.
Speaker 4: No, they do not, Yes they do.
Speaker 6: Why for some animal wants to come and just take
Speaker 6: over what they're experiencing right away, because no, nature's not
Speaker 6: saying that.
Speaker 2: Nature is saying that, So you just.
Speaker 1: Don't snore what nature is saying.
Speaker 2: It's saying that, but it's not yet.
Speaker 6: They're mothering that it's about to be ready after you
Speaker 6: understand it.
Speaker 1: You don't understand your ship. Now, fine, what the hell
Speaker 1: are you talking about again?
Speaker 2: That's not kind of like, yes, when I got pregnant,
Speaker 2: I was just like.
Speaker 7: Oh, yeah, when you got pregnant, you were alone when
Speaker 7: the baby came out, No, you weren't eleven, but I
Speaker 7: know anyway.
Speaker 1: You mean you you mean you didn't have it figured
Speaker 1: out and you wasn't eleven.
Speaker 2: And I was like, it feels like alien.
Speaker 1: So anyway, that's not so, that's not like I have
Speaker 1: another human to be so but that's not the point
Speaker 1: that So we were explaining to her that that's nature's
Speaker 1: way of saying she is ready to procreate. So so
Speaker 1: I had a problem with that. I'm like, don't like
Speaker 1: if they're thirst like, don't take that up with me,
Speaker 1: to take it up with fucking nature. Like, And we
Speaker 1: were talking about standards versus emotions, and we're like, California
Speaker 1: has set a standard that says the legal age of
Speaker 1: consent for a woman.
Speaker 4: Is eighteen, Okay, so is that.
Speaker 1: In Nevada the legal age of consent the standard is sixteen.
Speaker 1: And I'm telling her nature says it's when she has
Speaker 1: her period. Now again, we live in a society with
Speaker 1: standards because we exist in here, even to the point
Speaker 1: where people from California be telling about she ain't eighteen,
Speaker 1: it's nasty, but in Nevada, like if it's sixteen, she's nasty.
Speaker 1: If it's in Germany, like she if she's fifteen, if
Speaker 1: she ain't fifteen, it's it's like you got a bunch
Speaker 1: of motherfuckers arguing standards set forth, and I explained, the
Speaker 1: sigh of nature doesn't care about humanity's standards. That's what
Speaker 1: we were talking about. So that's how we got there.
Speaker 1: But the point I was saying about marriage, and and
Speaker 1: that's the point we were saying, is like you have to,
Speaker 1: like if you wait till you thirty. First off, you're
Speaker 1: trying to give him some used product.
Speaker 4: You don't necessarily yes, like A just said, you probably yes,
Speaker 4: do it doesn't You don't have to. Why do you
Speaker 4: always think people just just.
Speaker 1: Why do I think everybody out here fucking no, not
Speaker 1: like that?
Speaker 4: But you just you don't have to.
Speaker 5: But more than likely they were fucking what are we
Speaker 5: talking about?
Speaker 4: All the time?
Speaker 2: You can date.
Speaker 4: It's plenty of guys I dated.
Speaker 1: There's plenty of guys you dand that you fucked, and.
Speaker 4: I sure did. But but what I'm saying is.
Speaker 3: You don't.
Speaker 4: Went on and keep it one hundred?
Speaker 1: Did you roll it back like a car of the knowledge?
Speaker 3: Was it like off?
Speaker 7: No?
Speaker 4: Isn't nothing like that in my face right now?
Speaker 3: I'm not about that's what drawing loan backwards.
Speaker 4: But no, I don't know. All the thing that's crazy
Speaker 4: ain't because us product.
Speaker 3: Man.
Speaker 4: I was just saying, as far as.
Speaker 3: I think the term is certified.
Speaker 4: Pre hey, well, I mean as long as was it
Speaker 4: the car facts, I mean you could get them.
Speaker 1: I don't know. You don't want nobody to check your
Speaker 1: car fact?
Speaker 3: What you mean you better get recorded.
Speaker 4: Something like that?
Speaker 2: You let me know, right like for real?
Speaker 1: Because never never I'm saying, think about how many owners
Speaker 1: they would switch hands.
Speaker 7: I always like to let my cars appreciate on someone else's.
Speaker 4: I about a valance.
Speaker 2: Since we're being.
Speaker 1: Honest, well that's a difference.
Speaker 5: Boy.
Speaker 4: Of course it should have brought the real, real, good,
Speaker 4: full flash form to night.
Speaker 2: I just want to know.
Speaker 6: I know it's not the same when girls have a
Speaker 6: certain amount of people they sleep with.
Speaker 2: Its terrible both men. It's okay.
Speaker 3: So I just want to know, what do you want
Speaker 3: to know?
Speaker 2: How many women have you been with? What's your maleage?
Speaker 1: We never asked nobody mind because I have to laugh it.
Speaker 4: We never ad guy, I ain't never had to do
Speaker 4: that ship like that. I never asked guys don't I
Speaker 4: think because guys really don't want to tell you.
Speaker 1: Honestly, he gonna tell your cool really and that's not
Speaker 1: bad because he've been fucking for twenty years and I've.
Speaker 3: Been single for fifteen years.
Speaker 2: So you average in like once a month.
Speaker 3: Maybe, No, it's not that consistent like that. It's more like.
Speaker 7: It's more like rain season in Phoenix. It's dry for
Speaker 7: long pier of time and then there's a monsoon season
Speaker 7: and then it's.
Speaker 4: Dry for a very long period that I can't.
Speaker 3: It averages out.
Speaker 1: You get enough ring.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's less than a year. It's less than ten years.
Speaker 1: Because Pete don't really see the value in a wife.
Speaker 3: It's part of that for me. Yeah, it's it's two things.
Speaker 3: I'll be I'll be very frank. That is for for
Speaker 3: where I'm at in my life now. That is the truth.
Speaker 1: He doesn't.
Speaker 7: Yeah, they don't bring any value to me now to
Speaker 7: where my life is or has been for a lot
Speaker 7: of years. Additionally, I'm not trying to just have a
Speaker 7: girlfriend for the summer to have one. If I'm not,
Speaker 7: if I'm taking myself out of the marketplace, it's because
Speaker 7: I'm trying to make that one the one otherwise I'm
Speaker 7: in the marketplace. So since I can't take anybody out
Speaker 7: of the marketplace with the standard that I have, except
Speaker 7: for my own self, I'm not gonna do it.
Speaker 1: Okay, makes sense sense. It's tough because one hundred years
Speaker 1: ago people got married to get pussy, and you know what,
Speaker 1: because it was that hard to get pussy one hundred
Speaker 1: years ago, it was tough to get pussy. At one
Speaker 1: time as a woman, nobody asked you what you brought
Speaker 1: to the table because they know what you brought to
Speaker 1: the table.
Speaker 7: They also didn't ask what your number was because they
Speaker 7: knew it was a round numbers than one.
Speaker 1: So so what I'm saying is they didn't you knew
Speaker 1: at that time you brought pussy to the table, and
Speaker 1: that was like enough because pussy was like it was
Speaker 1: like through the roof. It was like I get consistent pussy,
Speaker 1: like this is here for me, like vagina. That was
Speaker 1: a huge incentive if you go to Islam. It's like
Speaker 1: Islam when they talk about like yo, if you blow
Speaker 1: up this building, you get twelve virgin This was.
Speaker 3: All drafted prior to the telecom industry.
Speaker 1: Said like like you ever listened to the stuff the
Speaker 1: would tell me, like, you know, if you do this
Speaker 1: for a lie, like you know, you get in heaven,
Speaker 1: you get thirty r niggas will kill theyself for thirty virgins.
Speaker 3: Wow, that's a great ten days. That's an epic week
Speaker 3: and a half.
Speaker 1: So you but but and and that person would literally
Speaker 1: like kill themselves for virgins. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Now I would kill myself just trying to find a virgin.
Speaker 4: Yeah, oh man, chance.
Speaker 1: God damn.
Speaker 3: Morbid and dark.
Speaker 1: I don't know today's time. Y'all said they had the
Speaker 1: virginity at nine. Them motherfuckers is fucking nasty, fucking nasty. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you said they having a fucking periods at nine, and
Speaker 1: shit they at twelve. They probably got you the different
Speaker 1: even just rolling up on rolling up on an eleven
Speaker 1: year old, just rolling up on eleven year old. You
Speaker 1: get somebody in middle school, like what I.
Speaker 4: Heard, you just got to sixth grade.
Speaker 1: Oh, hold, you're fucking wrong. But I know for sure
Speaker 1: there was at least five girls fucking when I was
Speaker 1: in middle school. Yeah yeah, I know, like I know five,
Speaker 1: But I didn't get no push to in middle school
Speaker 1: for sure.
Speaker 2: I'm a white girl. One of my goodest friends, Lauren but.
Speaker 1: You know what's crazy. Me and Pete was talking about something.
Speaker 1: Me and Pete was talking about something that was crazy.
Speaker 1: Pete was telling me when he was growing up, And
Speaker 1: I think this is one of the greatest lies that
Speaker 1: they told us. Everybody said white girls were whores. They
Speaker 1: was fucking like in high school, or they was just
Speaker 1: sucking penis.
Speaker 3: I think.
Speaker 1: That like in high school, Like in high school, here's
Speaker 1: a question. In high school. Okay, let's say you wasn't
Speaker 1: fucking how many girls did you think was fucking in
Speaker 1: high what high schoold you go to?
Speaker 3: A Newport Beach I went to most of my time.
Speaker 3: I was at Newport Harbor High School?
Speaker 1: Close How many girls you thought was like, man, you
Speaker 1: know if I fucking her?
Speaker 3: Pretty low? That was a pretty low number.
Speaker 7: And the few that were doing that, they had like
Speaker 7: that one boyfriend the whole time, and it was like
Speaker 7: super duper like.
Speaker 3: Under wraps, you know what I mean, both parties. It
Speaker 3: wasn't really like that.
Speaker 7: Like, for example, in my four years in high school,
Speaker 7: there was one knock up that happened at the whole
Speaker 7: high school the whole time, and it was a It
Speaker 7: was a chick that transferred in from Santa Santa Anna Unified.
Speaker 3: It wasn't even one of.
Speaker 1: I go get it, you go get Santanna like that. Uh,
Speaker 1: you're gonna get that sant Ana like that. That's what
Speaker 1: we're doing.
Speaker 3: It's the truth.
Speaker 7: In the tenth grade and she sat next to me
Speaker 7: in geometry class, I was like, Oh, she's cute and
Speaker 7: there ain't even Blanca.
Speaker 3: And she was supposed to read from like paragraph one
Speaker 3: of the geometry books. Man, she couldn't read.
Speaker 1: Did you try to get pussy?
Speaker 3: Nah? I couldn't speak Spanish. It was a non starter.
Speaker 4: Oh no, where did you find you?
Speaker 6: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I know he not lying.
Speaker 3: Where did you find you?
Speaker 1: I know he got lying.
Speaker 2: I mean that was just our community.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because for sure, Saya was fucking red.
Speaker 2: Was fucking fucking I went to junior.
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, y'all. High school I wasn't.
Speaker 2: I wasn't.
Speaker 7: I had a.
Speaker 6: Scary ass parent who was like, if you do anything,
Speaker 6: they're gonna I'm gonna know.
Speaker 2: Well later in high school.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I did love my virginity.
Speaker 4: I lost my virginia in high school. I was remember
Speaker 4: I told you my my first love.
Speaker 1: I remember that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, And then I waited a long time. Two and
Speaker 4: a half years after that when I got my my boyfriend.
Speaker 6: Double okay, peace, I had sex when he got out
Speaker 6: of jail and I was in college.
Speaker 4: And that's another reason why I'm be honest with you.
Speaker 4: Another reason why I don't feel like I got married
Speaker 4: because I felt like I lost my soulmate. I think,
Speaker 4: like I really feel like if because it was just
Speaker 4: how I felt with him. So it took me a
Speaker 4: long time to even I didn't really get No, I'm serious.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to be apathetic.
Speaker 4: I just feel like it took me up. It just
Speaker 4: took me a while to look at somebody like like that. No,
Speaker 4: he was just my best friend, like that was.
Speaker 1: I know it took you a whole twenty four months.
Speaker 3: Did not.
Speaker 4: It took me longer than that.
Speaker 1: You said two years?
Speaker 4: Right, No, I'm saying this, noe, I was with him,
Speaker 4: but I'm saying he passed away after that. But I'm
Speaker 4: saying like he was that was my soulmate. I felt
Speaker 4: like that was my soulmate. And you know, shit, that's
Speaker 4: why I feel like.
Speaker 1: This the one that you was in high school with.
Speaker 1: Uh huh?
Speaker 4: Well, no, okay, So I had my very first boyfriend.
Speaker 1: I was with him from like, so you're not even
Speaker 1: the soul mat got the pussy first.
Speaker 4: Nope, and listen, I always keep it one hundred. I
Speaker 4: literally did that. I told you I fucking had sex
Speaker 4: because motherfuckers was doing I even want to fucking ask.
Speaker 4: That's why after I had sex the first time, I
Speaker 4: didn't have sex until two and a half years or
Speaker 4: so later. And that's when I met When I was
Speaker 4: telling you about myself, So that was just like the
Speaker 4: dumbest shit.
Speaker 1: So care pressure really made Did you lose your virginity?
Speaker 2: I think it's real.
Speaker 3: I couldn't.
Speaker 1: You could't get no pussy.
Speaker 3: Still pure pressure at my school for me to get
Speaker 3: for the girls.
Speaker 1: But they was like, how close did you come in
Speaker 1: high school to get into buzzy? You never was closed
Speaker 1: to I know you had to start trying at least
Speaker 1: by tenth or eleventh grade.
Speaker 7: I mean you're always trying. Trying is a special state
Speaker 7: of mind. But I got my dicks a few times
Speaker 7: in high school.
Speaker 1: I was about it said the white girls, girl ain't
Speaker 1: putting this.
Speaker 3: The main two warn't or white girls though.
Speaker 1: This is gonna be too much. No, see this is
Speaker 1: gonna be racist.
Speaker 3: No, I did not get.
Speaker 1: About to pass out.
Speaker 5: Come.
Speaker 1: Oh this is gonna come across so racist. Okay, who
Speaker 1: don't tell me who's subject? We're not going to you
Speaker 1: asked you, But I don't want to know.
Speaker 2: As teacher, I know that ship.
Speaker 3: I've done better in school.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm crying. I want to know that.
Speaker 1: I don't want to know, because it's to come across
Speaker 1: the white girls. Oh no, he said no white girls
Speaker 1: was giving him. No, no, no one, no one did
Speaker 1: one of the Okay, okay, at least you.
Speaker 3: Was failing people Opportunity coalition.
Speaker 1: It was a joint. There was a oh ship, don't
Speaker 1: say it, just let us move it on. Let's move
Speaker 1: it on. Let's move So pure pressure made you came
Speaker 1: in for sex to.
Speaker 5: Red Oh yeah, my situation. It was pure pressure and
Speaker 5: I didn't want to do it, and they just kept going.
Speaker 1: So you know one of them.
Speaker 7: Oh god, that sounds like peer pressure of one like
Speaker 7: one peer it was gotcha.
Speaker 1: It's the motherfucker some ship. That kind of sound like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't want to talk about it.
Speaker 5: I didn't have any.
Speaker 3: I didn't have any.
Speaker 2: For a while after that.
Speaker 1: The first time I had sex. A girl tricked me
Speaker 1: to give me some pussy.
Speaker 3: Really, what were you?
Speaker 1: This is what happened, right. So it was a girl
Speaker 1: that I was tutoring in trigonometry, Like I'm in the
Speaker 1: eleventh grade. I'm really good at math, like unbelievably even
Speaker 1: at that point, I had calculus and math, like I
Speaker 1: never not had ap math. So I was helping her, like,
Speaker 1: and she was in a class that I was in
Speaker 1: somewhere else, but she knew I was good at math,
Speaker 1: and she hit me. She was like, hey, would you
Speaker 1: help me with my math? Like I'm getting the f
Speaker 1: It's on my progress report, right, and I think the
Speaker 1: progress report was in like October somewhere.
Speaker 3: It was the worst.
Speaker 1: Wow. Yeah, I think ours was every eight weeks, so
Speaker 1: like it was probably October because it came and they
Speaker 1: report card it's, you know, the halftime breakers. So she
Speaker 1: was getting in f and like she was finna be
Speaker 1: gonna punishment. So she was like, yo, would you tuning
Speaker 1: me in math? And I was like, yeah, I got you. Like,
Speaker 1: I mean, at this point, I'm selling dope, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, I'm already courted on the gang. I mean,
Speaker 1: I ain't shot it and I ain't shooting that motherfucker
Speaker 1: mighta drove a card, but I ain't fucking all the
Speaker 1: way up. But I'm still getting edge of school, even
Speaker 1: dealing with selling drugs. So I started helping her with
Speaker 1: math like I wasn't tripping. I mean, I knew that
Speaker 1: she she was killed and thinking and all that, but
Speaker 1: I'm I really wasn't pressed.
Speaker 3: What was the trick.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get to it because I wasn't trying to
Speaker 1: get pussy. Yeah, I wasn't trying to get pussy. Like
Speaker 1: I wasn't. I was dating the girl in high school
Speaker 1: that like guys wanted, she was too fast for me.
Speaker 1: She was trying to kiss me and shit my mouth.
Speaker 1: I was like, bro, why are you just like just
Speaker 1: kiss my lips? Like, don't put your tongue in my fucker.
Speaker 1: This is how I felt, right because honestly, to be honest,
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna be honest like I always thought I was.
Speaker 1: I didn't want to get nobody pregnant, like until I
Speaker 1: was married. That was really my mindset. All is selling
Speaker 1: drugs and gang bagg and shooting niggas. No, I did
Speaker 1: not want to get nobody for a successful marriage. Exactly.
Speaker 1: I'm not getting nobody fucking pregnant these bitches is not
Speaker 1: finna fuck this up, right, So it was just she
Speaker 1: was just super only she tried to kiss.
Speaker 7: She was just on me.
Speaker 1: Long story short, I'm tutoring this other girl, right man,
Speaker 1: I'm tuting this other girl in math, right, So she's
Speaker 1: getting f like, and I'm good at math, like, I'm
Speaker 1: great at translating material like to whatever you fuck with.
Speaker 1: So I started tutoring her probably like twice a week,
Speaker 1: three times, not even charging her, like all right, I
Speaker 1: stoped by there, blah blah blah. So I tutor her, tutor, tutor, tutor, tutor, tutor.
Speaker 1: I'm still not tripping off of her, just helping her.
Speaker 1: You were like the tutor. And so, long story short,
Speaker 1: her report card came and like that F turned to
Speaker 1: a fucking B minus. Oh that sounds good, right, So
Speaker 1: that's how good. Honestly, I was at math like, I'm
Speaker 1: really good at math. Right, So she was like ecstatic
Speaker 1: like her her Christmas break was back, She's gonna get
Speaker 1: Christmas gifts and she was winning, right.
Speaker 3: So.
Speaker 1: She hit me and she was so pumped up. She
Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, I'm getting a B minus.
Speaker 1: Thank you G, I love you blah blah, thank you G.
Speaker 1: Blah blah blah. And I'm like, I saw, I love you.
Speaker 1: Know what I'm saying. I appreciate you, know what I mean.
Speaker 1: Like we're good. She's like, Okay, look, can we brush
Speaker 1: up for like one more thing? Blah blah blah. And
Speaker 1: I'm not thinking because I'm not pressing her for pussy,
Speaker 1: like I wasn't pressing anybody for pussy really at that point.
Speaker 1: Like it was just like, yeah, I could get some bitches,
Speaker 1: but whatever, like if it happened, it happened. I never
Speaker 1: pressed for it. So I go over there to help
Speaker 1: her get ready for this thing. Right, I leave from
Speaker 1: where I'm at. I get over there. She's about five
Speaker 1: minutes from the crib. I get over there. She got
Speaker 1: the door. I'm shut on the doors open. So I
Speaker 1: walk in blah blah blah. I'm sitting down shut. I'll
Speaker 1: be in there in one second. I'm like, all right,
Speaker 1: for sure. So I'm chilling and I'm just fitting like
Speaker 1: I ain't tripping. I'm just waiting. I'm not even tripping
Speaker 1: out at that time. Did I have a phone. I
Speaker 1: don't even think I got a cell phone. Still might
Speaker 1: not a pager. No, I wasn't churned yet. Long story shot.
Speaker 1: I think I had a pager, but I'm just chilling.
Speaker 1: And she come out in a row like a roll,
Speaker 1: like a bath roll. Like, first off, why did somebody
Speaker 1: fifteen sixteen? I'm telling you I have no road back?
Speaker 4: Then I would have came out with a something.
Speaker 7: She came out with like a white rolle, have a robe,
Speaker 7: and then also a French tickler in her hand or something, you.
Speaker 1: Know, she had like a wife like like a like
Speaker 1: a hotel bath room. But it was short.
Speaker 3: Well you met her at the roadway in you should
Speaker 3: have you know, put two and two together.
Speaker 1: So her it was short. So she came out, She's like, okay,
Speaker 1: I'll be right back, and she set the book down
Speaker 1: and she walked off, and I looked. I was like, bitch,
Speaker 1: wasn't where nothing under this role?
Speaker 3: Right?
Speaker 1: So I was like, that's crazy.
Speaker 3: Now, So amidst all this trigonometry tutoring, you still couldn't
Speaker 3: do the math fact, I couldn't resist it. I couldn't fat.
Speaker 1: So she walks off and I'm like now I'm like
Speaker 1: now I'm starting to be like, well is this walking out?
Speaker 1: She must be Hella comfortable with me, Like sudden sucks.
Speaker 1: So she came back and she was talking. She's like,
Speaker 1: I'm so grave, I'm so thankful, blah blah, and started
Speaker 1: taking off her role in front of me. And I'm
Speaker 1: talking about this motherfucker had already ded like thirty eighths.
Speaker 1: She was like, she was built. She was like an adult.
Speaker 1: Like no, like you know what I mean, she was
Speaker 1: like an adult. So at that point, she mounted me
Speaker 1: while I'm sitting on a couch and start kissing me.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. She tricked me. She knew coming
Speaker 1: over there she was gonna give me some pussy.
Speaker 4: Definitely was giving you some.
Speaker 1: So I remember that time right, like cause I remember
Speaker 1: I had sex for like twenty five minutes, right, and
Speaker 1: I did not come like I just the whole time.
Speaker 1: I don't think I could even be into the shit,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I didn't think I could
Speaker 1: be into the shit. You know what I'm saying. I
Speaker 1: was like, I cannot believe this is happening. This shit
Speaker 1: is great. So her mom came home, Oh wow, right,
Speaker 1: and we heard the mom. I don't know how she
Speaker 1: realized the mom was coming home or blah blah. So
Speaker 1: I got out of their boom left boom. I go
Speaker 1: back home. I'm like tripping. I'm telling my brother, I'm
Speaker 1: like nigga. The next day she calls me back, She's like, Yo,
Speaker 1: my mom's going to work. Come back now. I know
Speaker 1: the program. So I go back over there and I
Speaker 1: don't last a minute. I'm talking about condom minute, nigga.
Speaker 1: I'm talking about like nigga. It was fast, sure, and
Speaker 1: she just kissed me. She was like thank you, like
Speaker 1: and it was like the weirdest thing, yo. And what's
Speaker 1: funny is her mom. She got into her mom because
Speaker 1: she was talking to boys to early and he and
Speaker 1: her dad like they moved her to her dad. Her
Speaker 1: dad stayed in like Ontario, and so we didn't talk
Speaker 1: again till we was like in our twenty That's really
Speaker 1: how it happened for real. Fucked me up too, because
Speaker 1: I really wasn't tripping. I was like, yeah, I'm I
Speaker 1: always thought the only girl like.
Speaker 3: An easy trip to have foiled. Once you got in
Speaker 3: the room and she took.
Speaker 1: Off, you know, at that point, I know I caught
Speaker 1: it when she went back and once I've seen a rope.
Speaker 1: In the rope, I'm telling you, because the rope was short,
Speaker 1: you could see like cuff.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so she was letting you get ready, and I still.
Speaker 1: Didn't quite commit because I was like, wait a minute,
Speaker 1: it's been playing with me, like what is going on?
Speaker 3: This don't happen to people like me.
Speaker 1: Man, that's the first time it happened to me, and
Speaker 1: it really happened, and that shit was just like that,
Speaker 1: It's for real. I remember that motherfucker. Yeah, So that
Speaker 1: shit happened, happened. So I wasn't tripping off like I really.
Speaker 1: To me, the only person I ever tripped off pussy
Speaker 1: with took forever to give me some pussy. That's why
Speaker 1: I decided I was never gonna trip off pussy. You'll
Speaker 1: never hear me asking for no pussy. I don't go
Speaker 1: for who you if they said I asked for pussy,
Speaker 1: their motherfucking lie, I'm not asking. So I was saying
Speaker 1: that because I was just thinking to myself, like, why
Speaker 1: is it like I think in everybody I told you this,
Speaker 1: I think, like, let's say color, because there's no such
Speaker 1: thing as communities, right, communities is every other color white, yellow, brown,
Speaker 1: every red, everybody in the middle. If you get somebody pregnant,
Speaker 1: you gotta marry them.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's what happened to my sister.
Speaker 1: Like, that's it. I think that's how most marriages are.
Speaker 1: I don't think most marriages are.
Speaker 3: Like these, uh half my grandparents or that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I think marriages are really like that.
Speaker 1: They're like Maya.
Speaker 2: Angelou's story of how she had her first baby. Her
Speaker 2: mom was like, do you love the boy?
Speaker 6: She was like no, she do he love you?
Speaker 2: She's like no. She was like, we don't need to
Speaker 2: ruin three lives.
Speaker 1: I was like, that was a good I don't love
Speaker 1: that it says it. I don't know because I just
Speaker 1: think that.
Speaker 2: It's because there's no there's no one role to a destination.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but the problem is when you do that.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like if you have a child and yours,
Speaker 1: if it's like you have to raise a child by yourself,
Speaker 1: the chances of you being successful are really slim. Just
Speaker 1: the truth, you know what I mean. It's a really
Speaker 1: tough dynamic economically, it's really hard. It's and it's fucked up,
Speaker 1: right because y'all have to raise kids single, right.
Speaker 2: But sometimes you get married.
Speaker 4: I didn't raise kids.
Speaker 1: No, no, So do you want to get married? Britt? Sure?
Speaker 1: Why do you want to get married? Do you want
Speaker 1: to take care of somebody for the rest of their life?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 1: Do you want to cook for somebody for the rest
Speaker 1: of their life? Do you want to nurture somebody? I mean,
Speaker 1: do you want to do that for somebody else for
Speaker 1: the rest of your life?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Do you want to obey somebody for the rest of
Speaker 1: your life?
Speaker 4: Damn, that's hard, but yeah, I can.
Speaker 3: No.
Speaker 1: Do you want to like, are you like excited at
Speaker 1: the thought.
Speaker 4: Of I'm not excited about it. No, I'm not jumping
Speaker 4: through hoops about it. But I mean, yeah, So you
Speaker 4: want to do cartwheels to obey.
Speaker 1: Someone if they wanted you to do? Guardwell?
Speaker 4: I mean ship. I don't know how to do a cartwell,
Speaker 4: but I mean for the right one, I might learn.
Speaker 3: Right, that's a good like that positive attitude.
Speaker 4: My thing is before you know? Did you me? Y'all
Speaker 4: don't know how much I've grown? But it's all good.
Speaker 1: Oh, we know much roamed, We know a lot. We
Speaker 1: know much you roamed? Wow, I did not roam.
Speaker 4: I'm not coming in next week. Anybody want to join.
Speaker 1: And I'm not fucking with y'all.
Speaker 4: Don't take that.
Speaker 1: No, I'm not saying I'm not talking crazy, Brittain know
Speaker 1: what I'm talking about.
Speaker 4: No, I know what you mean. No, and you're right
Speaker 4: it shiit ible. That's why am I actually well ain't
Speaker 4: married because I didn't want to do none of this
Speaker 4: shit you just said. But I also don't want to
Speaker 4: fucking be old and alone either. So it's like, where
Speaker 4: the fuck do you grow up and say, hello, you
Speaker 4: want you want someone to share your life with?
Speaker 1: And I do.
Speaker 4: I want to go and be with my men and
Speaker 4: stuff and be like my me and my me and
Speaker 4: my men like everybody else, like you know.
Speaker 1: Lying like it's good.
Speaker 2: Of relationship.
Speaker 4: Can I ever think I have to be a lot?
Speaker 4: I think there's some people that are happy to everybody,
Speaker 4: not just run around here. But I mean, if you're
Speaker 4: not gonna get everything, you're not gonna I mean, because
Speaker 4: you don't.
Speaker 2: See it like that?
Speaker 1: What don't you see it like that? What don't you
Speaker 1: see it like what?
Speaker 3: I feel? Like?
Speaker 6: With you guys, y'all don't see women as a possibility
Speaker 6: of being like you're the partner, your best friend, the
Speaker 6: homie type of thing.
Speaker 1: That's just silly across you do?
Speaker 2: Really?
Speaker 3: Or were you asking? You said, can't there be a relationship? Right? Sure?
Speaker 3: Are you were?
Speaker 7: You're asking me to be in a relationship because you're
Speaker 7: like be obedient and.
Speaker 1: That's what marriage is. They say, will you always cherish
Speaker 1: and obey?
Speaker 3: M h?
Speaker 6: I mean yeah, but are we gonna like if you're
Speaker 6: eating or if you're doing certain things that's not conducive
Speaker 6: or healthy for us?
Speaker 2: Can I say something?
Speaker 1: Whoever said that? You couldn't say nothing?
Speaker 2: But are you gonna take it into consideration? Are you
Speaker 2: gonna move off?
Speaker 4: Okay? So remember how you explained to me about obedience.
Speaker 4: She she's having that. I thought the same way, Like
Speaker 4: when you say obey, it's like almost like that ice. Yeah,
Speaker 4: like yeah, you're gonna.
Speaker 1: Do But why is that the why is that? Why
Speaker 1: is it when discipline is involved you think the worst.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna obey sometimes, But if I don't agree, can
Speaker 2: I say that?
Speaker 1: No? That's the problem.
Speaker 8: Now you're not if you're already agreeing and going to
Speaker 8: do it, that's just doing what you want to do
Speaker 8: and happening to be a coincidence that the other person
Speaker 8: also wants you to do that.
Speaker 2: Hey, I failed.
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 6: I have no relationship advice or ideas of what is
Speaker 6: wrong or what is right because they have failed my relationships.
Speaker 1: That's because I for sure you know what's funny. It's
Speaker 1: not really like that for you. You just you're just
Speaker 1: being your own head too much.
Speaker 2: Because I disagree with certain If I don't do you
Speaker 2: like that?
Speaker 1: Don't like that, niggas you do not leave the standard.
Speaker 1: I mean, he could put penis in you, but that
Speaker 1: don't mean you get to put penis in him.
Speaker 2: You guys, it shouldn't be.
Speaker 3: You shouldn't be.
Speaker 2: That's what I say.
Speaker 6: If if I'm treating you a certain way, and then
Speaker 6: when you treat me a certain way, and I say
Speaker 6: that wasn't right.
Speaker 1: And you be like, why is it that?
Speaker 3: What do you mean?
Speaker 1: That wasn't right?
Speaker 2: And I don't like fighting, so let's fight and we But.
Speaker 1: I'm asking you what there's this belief that things have
Speaker 1: to be equal in a marriage.
Speaker 2: They don't because there's.
Speaker 1: No such thing as equality.
Speaker 2: I'm not just talking about marriages.
Speaker 6: I'm just saying it's not so relationships between Like you said,
Speaker 6: love is not sex and I and I took that
Speaker 6: in consideration, like damn love, but it's a part of
Speaker 6: it when you're in type of relationships, not even part
Speaker 6: of it, even when you want a mate or a spouse.
Speaker 1: I mean, that's like saying walking. That's like saying walking.
Speaker 1: That's like saying walking is a relationship.
Speaker 6: I mean, yeah, but I would I wouldn't mind you
Speaker 6: showing me some love through sex with my mind.
Speaker 1: That's not showing you when it comes.
Speaker 2: But across the board, real love has nothing to do
Speaker 2: with sex, because I mean for a mom, love for child,
Speaker 2: love for you know.
Speaker 1: I mean, love is just love is the extreme care
Speaker 1: and part of it all. But again, I think healthy
Speaker 1: relationships is yeah, but healthy is in your mind, and
Speaker 1: your mind healthy is is a little bit jaded, right
Speaker 1: because like if we're talking about what does it take
Speaker 1: to be married? Right, and then I'm telling you like
Speaker 1: they say honor and obey it, and that bothers you
Speaker 1: or you feel like you need to bother me, I know,
Speaker 1: because that's because at that point you don't want to
Speaker 1: be married.
Speaker 2: No, if it makes sense.
Speaker 1: Nobody's asking you if it makes sense. That's not all
Speaker 1: they were husband is not and that's that and that's
Speaker 1: that spirit of and that's that spirit of defiance that
Speaker 1: stuck in you right where you feel like you if
Speaker 1: you don't understand it, it's not good.
Speaker 2: Enough donor in obeying.
Speaker 1: It's my question your husband, that's the point of it.
Speaker 2: But is it the man and the is it both
Speaker 2: ways or is just the one?
Speaker 1: Why do you care? Because the details I'm asking you
Speaker 1: if if they're saying you need to honor and obey
Speaker 1: your husband, what difference do it make if it's both ways?
Speaker 2: Okay, honor and no, okay, honor and obey does not
Speaker 2: have nothing to do with this, right.
Speaker 1: If you don't do what if you don't obey because
Speaker 1: you disagree, then you're not obeying.
Speaker 6: We're just saying digestion, right, that's I guess because I'm
Speaker 6: like honor and obey. It's it's like, yes, I'm following you,
Speaker 6: but and I honor you because I married you and
Speaker 6: of course I trust you. But then if it's something
Speaker 6: that I feel like, okay, we've been doing this in
Speaker 6: it and it don't make no sense, and I'll.
Speaker 2: Be like, I think you should trust me on this
Speaker 2: one this time, and you just.
Speaker 6: Stubborn because you're a man and you're like, no, I'm
Speaker 6: right all the time because I'm the man you need
Speaker 6: to honor an Obabian.
Speaker 2: But I'm like, baby's just me. It's not gonna make
Speaker 2: any sense, and you just say no.
Speaker 6: I think that's something else, like can some I'm gonna
Speaker 6: unenvoy you, but can sometimes if it gets that serious
Speaker 6: and you need to trust.
Speaker 2: Me on this one, will you?
Speaker 1: If you're not obeying, you're not obeying, And if somebody's
Speaker 1: not trusting your opinion then they don't. Then that's a
Speaker 1: different conversation.
Speaker 6: Just like if I'm always submitting and it comes a
Speaker 6: time where I'm just like something inside of me is
Speaker 6: saying no.
Speaker 3: Will you?
Speaker 7: I think what you need to do in that scenario
Speaker 7: is you need to convince him to have a different
Speaker 7: directive that you can obey.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, Oh I see, I see trying to persuade
Speaker 2: him into Yeah, I get it, I get that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like that is just fucking crazy. What if I
Speaker 1: don't agree? Why do I have to bed? It's like
Speaker 1: it looks nobody's asking you, like I think, and I
Speaker 1: think this is about women where y'all just see it
Speaker 1: at the worst fucking point, Like what the fuck is
Speaker 1: a nigga going, what's the craziest thing a nigga asked
Speaker 1: you to do? Niggas, don't ask y'all to do nothing crazy.
Speaker 4: That it's not done though, What do you mean I'm.
Speaker 1: Telling you some crazy ship, Like, what what's the craziest
Speaker 1: thing a man asked you to do? Because it wasn't
Speaker 1: that crazy.
Speaker 4: I don't think i've had any Like, what.
Speaker 1: Does a man really ask you to do? That? You're like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I cannot believe he asked me to
Speaker 1: do this. If a nigga don't even think it's cool
Speaker 1: enough to ask, he won't even ask you. He may hint,
Speaker 1: but he's not going to ask you. Man, that's not
Speaker 1: gonna ask. What's the worst thing a guy asked you
Speaker 1: to do? Roll up your windows? You lose your mind
Speaker 1: and you feel like it's an excuse for why you
Speaker 1: should roll up your wind. You get what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: and then you'll be mad, like the nigga was saying,
Speaker 1: like roll up your windows and you're not rolling up
Speaker 1: the windows. This something bad happening, and then you talking
Speaker 1: shit because you just didn't fucking roll up the windows.
Speaker 7: I can think of a crazy thing that a guy
Speaker 7: uh asked his girl to do this. One girl was
Speaker 7: like messing with this guy who was like, I think,
Speaker 7: sixteen years older than her.
Speaker 3: That was right, he was sixteen years older than you.
Speaker 3: And he asked her to have my son.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, he wasn't even my man.
Speaker 3: Then, okay, oh my god, suggestion from passer by I
Speaker 3: get No, I was.
Speaker 2: I told you he was up.
Speaker 1: He was just knocking that thing down.
Speaker 2: I was always.
Speaker 1: Available when I wanted to go to him, and you
Speaker 1: decided giving him a son was worth it.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that's true.
Speaker 2: It wasn't even a boy, but I had a boy.
Speaker 2: I had no I'd have a boyfriend at the time.
Speaker 1: But so this person wasn't he was. But you know what,
Speaker 1: you're traumat but it's not. Nobody know you, and nobody
Speaker 1: knows what we're talking about.
Speaker 6: I had a boyfriend who I loved dearly, and he
Speaker 6: was he kept ended up in jail a couple of times.
Speaker 1: So then the guy that was always there, you know,
Speaker 1: so when he got out.
Speaker 2: That last time, we were never together again. But I
Speaker 2: still loved him.
Speaker 1: We were still you know, after you after you had
Speaker 1: your kid with the passer byer Oh no, no, he.
Speaker 6: Passed away, he passed away. Then I was just like
Speaker 6: he was always available. And then I was just emotional
Speaker 6: and went into him him and then he that's when
Speaker 6: he was like you know and then I was just
Speaker 6: like sure, you know, whatever, what is life? Let's try
Speaker 6: something else because I don't know.
Speaker 2: We just living at work, go to sleep, go to school,
Speaker 2: hang out with your friends. Like what do people do
Speaker 2: in life? They don't think to follow their dream and
Speaker 2: goals and visions. They just think of following what they see.
Speaker 1: A shoulder you can cry on, is a dick you
Speaker 1: can ride on?
Speaker 2: Anxiety?
Speaker 4: That's what.
Speaker 1: Why we both go.
Speaker 8: I was the.
Speaker 1: I did he hits you with the oldest strip in
Speaker 1: the book.
Speaker 6: I went to.
Speaker 4: I'm Sorry.
Speaker 3: It was like Will Ferrell was Crashers, but he was
Speaker 3: the funeral.
Speaker 2: Crash single forever.
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