1 00:00:00,600 --> 00:00:04,680 Speaker 1: Turn it up Life from the Windress Studios in America's 2 00:00:04,760 --> 00:00:13,000 Speaker 1: greatest city, Chicago Heart radio station. It's the French Show. 3 00:00:13,280 --> 00:00:15,480 Speaker 1: Want to hear? This is the nerdy story of the day. 4 00:00:15,760 --> 00:00:20,599 Speaker 1: United Airlines announced today that it will purchase fifteen Boom 5 00:00:20,920 --> 00:00:26,639 Speaker 1: Overture supersonic aircraft they will fly in twenty twenty nine. 6 00:00:27,280 --> 00:00:30,880 Speaker 1: I don't understand those what what does that plane do? Fast? 7 00:00:31,080 --> 00:00:33,360 Speaker 1: Is hell? Oh? What did it mean? And it will 8 00:00:33,360 --> 00:00:37,839 Speaker 1: operate on one hundred percent sustainable aviation fuel. That means 9 00:00:38,159 --> 00:00:40,680 Speaker 1: a trip from Newark to London could be operating in 10 00:00:40,800 --> 00:00:45,280 Speaker 1: three hours, thirty minutes, San Francisco to Tokyo six hours. 11 00:00:45,440 --> 00:00:52,200 Speaker 1: Really that's fast. Twenty twenty nine no earlier than twenty 12 00:00:52,280 --> 00:00:56,400 Speaker 1: twenty nine. Um, they got the whole thing. Yeah. I 13 00:00:56,440 --> 00:00:59,600 Speaker 1: gotta start saving up now for a ticket the plane 14 00:00:59,600 --> 00:01:02,560 Speaker 1: will there's an altitude of sixty thousand feet at mock 15 00:01:02,720 --> 00:01:07,640 Speaker 1: one point seven. As comparison, a Triple seven flies at 16 00:01:07,640 --> 00:01:10,880 Speaker 1: forty three thousand and is point eight four. Wow, that's 17 00:01:10,920 --> 00:01:14,560 Speaker 1: that's a fast upgrade, say you guys, that's like Exfinity 18 00:01:14,600 --> 00:01:22,960 Speaker 1: gigspeed Internet. Many Um, Shelley, you were talking about off 19 00:01:22,959 --> 00:01:27,080 Speaker 1: the air, about how Schobiz Mike apparently is a polka 20 00:01:27,560 --> 00:01:31,920 Speaker 1: music listener. Yes, why do you believe this? Yes, I 21 00:01:32,200 --> 00:01:35,440 Speaker 1: can't believe it myself. No, I don't believe it, but yes, yeah, 22 00:01:35,480 --> 00:01:38,160 Speaker 1: I know I should. Maybe I should tape him in 23 00:01:38,160 --> 00:01:40,520 Speaker 1: secret next time he's he this is no joke. He'll 24 00:01:40,560 --> 00:01:43,760 Speaker 1: go Alexa play polka and she's started. She plays polka 25 00:01:44,160 --> 00:01:46,640 Speaker 1: and uh, this is what And it's very loud too, 26 00:01:47,040 --> 00:01:50,280 Speaker 1: And so our neighbors around here, I'm pretty sure. I'm 27 00:01:50,280 --> 00:01:52,640 Speaker 1: not sure what they think actually, but it's it's a 28 00:01:52,640 --> 00:01:55,800 Speaker 1: little bit embarrassing. So is doing this to screw with you? 29 00:01:55,920 --> 00:01:59,160 Speaker 1: Or does he actually enjoy it? No, he actually let 30 00:01:59,240 --> 00:02:01,320 Speaker 1: He grew up with it. And I guess polka bands 31 00:02:01,360 --> 00:02:03,640 Speaker 1: were big where he grew up, so there was like 32 00:02:03,680 --> 00:02:07,120 Speaker 1: some popular polka band that I guess he plays. I 33 00:02:07,160 --> 00:02:09,480 Speaker 1: don't know, because I thought I had the worst taste 34 00:02:09,520 --> 00:02:12,080 Speaker 1: in music for anybody, you know, in our age demographic. 35 00:02:12,080 --> 00:02:14,320 Speaker 1: And I've learned now that Chilby's Mike is worse than 36 00:02:14,360 --> 00:02:17,760 Speaker 1: I am. So there's that wow. So you don't think 37 00:02:17,760 --> 00:02:20,080 Speaker 1: he's doing it to embarrass you, but it does embarrass you. 38 00:02:21,840 --> 00:02:23,400 Speaker 1: He might be doing a little bit to embarrass me 39 00:02:23,440 --> 00:02:26,320 Speaker 1: for fun. But like he he does definitely like it 40 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:28,160 Speaker 1: because he will even be in the car and he 41 00:02:28,400 --> 00:02:35,360 Speaker 1: will play some polka station and yeah, but yes, but 42 00:02:35,440 --> 00:02:37,519 Speaker 1: he also he likes all kinds of because he listens 43 00:02:37,560 --> 00:02:40,200 Speaker 1: to country, he listens to pop, he listens to rock. 44 00:02:40,280 --> 00:02:42,000 Speaker 1: He likes some heavy metal bands. So I don't know. 45 00:02:42,040 --> 00:02:44,520 Speaker 1: He's in all kinds of stuff. Chilby's Mike was texting 46 00:02:44,600 --> 00:02:46,679 Speaker 1: me trying to get the BTS song before it came out, 47 00:02:47,000 --> 00:02:49,360 Speaker 1: and I couldn't share it with him. I mean I 48 00:02:49,400 --> 00:02:51,120 Speaker 1: had it, of course, but I had signed that non 49 00:02:51,120 --> 00:02:53,280 Speaker 1: disclosure so I couldn't give it I really wanted. I 50 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:55,239 Speaker 1: played it, don't tell anybody. I did call him and 51 00:02:55,240 --> 00:02:56,960 Speaker 1: played over the phone for him, but no one. No 52 00:02:56,960 --> 00:03:00,000 Speaker 1: one knew because I had to. That's funny. Six months ago. 53 00:03:00,120 --> 00:03:01,919 Speaker 1: So I've been jamming out well. He requires me to 54 00:03:01,919 --> 00:03:06,360 Speaker 1: tell when I play it on my programs, right yeah. Um. 55 00:03:06,520 --> 00:03:08,280 Speaker 1: So those of you who are married or in relationships, 56 00:03:08,360 --> 00:03:11,440 Speaker 1: everybody but Christy, Um, come on, how do yours significant 57 00:03:11,440 --> 00:03:14,760 Speaker 1: others embarrass you? Is there anything embarrassing? I mean? Or 58 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:21,400 Speaker 1: are you the embarrassing way embarrassing? Not? Mike is one 59 00:03:21,400 --> 00:03:23,639 Speaker 1: of the people that will always like I'm a big 60 00:03:23,760 --> 00:03:26,160 Speaker 1: customer service, Like if someone gives me something like we're 61 00:03:26,200 --> 00:03:28,520 Speaker 1: at a restaurant and it's wrong, I'll just eat it right, 62 00:03:28,840 --> 00:03:30,680 Speaker 1: Like if it's something rangs gross, I just won't eat 63 00:03:30,680 --> 00:03:33,440 Speaker 1: out whatever. He'll be the person to like go and 64 00:03:33,800 --> 00:03:37,840 Speaker 1: complain and like get the food remade, or like go 65 00:03:38,000 --> 00:03:41,240 Speaker 1: return something that's like broken, or like like I just 66 00:03:41,400 --> 00:03:43,400 Speaker 1: hate doing all of that, and he loves doing it. 67 00:03:43,560 --> 00:03:45,480 Speaker 1: Like I get the most anxiety having to return something 68 00:03:45,520 --> 00:03:48,800 Speaker 1: out of store, and he lives, so it's just so embarrassing. 69 00:03:48,840 --> 00:03:50,320 Speaker 1: He'll give me all his stuff to go return and 70 00:03:50,480 --> 00:03:53,000 Speaker 1: be like, no, it's so it's gonna be really bad 71 00:03:53,160 --> 00:03:56,120 Speaker 1: or really expensive and wrong for me to Like if 72 00:03:56,240 --> 00:03:58,560 Speaker 1: if I order something and it's not exactly right, then 73 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:01,320 Speaker 1: I don't complain either because I don't know what happens 74 00:04:01,360 --> 00:04:04,280 Speaker 1: after I complain, nothing should happen. But I've heard stories 75 00:04:04,280 --> 00:04:06,480 Speaker 1: about what happens if you send stuff back, so I don't. 76 00:04:06,760 --> 00:04:08,760 Speaker 1: But if I order, like a if I go to 77 00:04:08,760 --> 00:04:10,960 Speaker 1: a fancy restaurant and order a steak and it's not 78 00:04:11,160 --> 00:04:13,840 Speaker 1: it's like you know chard or so I don't know 79 00:04:13,880 --> 00:04:15,400 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like like if it's like 80 00:04:15,640 --> 00:04:18,599 Speaker 1: I can bang it against the table because they overcooked it, 81 00:04:18,600 --> 00:04:20,440 Speaker 1: then I might say, hey, this is not what I 82 00:04:20,480 --> 00:04:22,919 Speaker 1: asked for because it was expensive. Other than that, thol, 83 00:04:24,480 --> 00:04:27,479 Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not doing it, Rufio, how would you say? 84 00:04:27,800 --> 00:04:29,120 Speaker 1: I mean, I'm sure there are so many ways that 85 00:04:29,160 --> 00:04:32,080 Speaker 1: you embarrass your wife, but yeah, she's just he's cool 86 00:04:32,120 --> 00:04:36,560 Speaker 1: and calm and chill, and like that's just you are 87 00:04:36,640 --> 00:04:38,640 Speaker 1: none of those things. You're cool, but you're none of 88 00:04:38,680 --> 00:04:40,520 Speaker 1: the other things. No, I mean, especially when we go 89 00:04:40,560 --> 00:04:44,160 Speaker 1: to like sporting events. I'm like, that's why I watch 90 00:04:44,200 --> 00:04:46,200 Speaker 1: a lot of sporting events from home, Like I don't 91 00:04:46,279 --> 00:04:48,359 Speaker 1: attend like a bar to watch my favorite team. But 92 00:04:48,440 --> 00:04:50,599 Speaker 1: if we do go to like a Bulls game, I'm 93 00:04:50,680 --> 00:04:53,240 Speaker 1: that person like that's trying to get the T shirt 94 00:04:53,400 --> 00:04:58,479 Speaker 1: you like, like like I'm the fool that was like, yeah, 95 00:04:58,640 --> 00:05:02,000 Speaker 1: what every experience possible here because she's just like, you know, 96 00:05:02,120 --> 00:05:04,000 Speaker 1: can we just watch this basketball game or whatever? Like 97 00:05:04,040 --> 00:05:07,600 Speaker 1: I'm just here to drink um. Yes, I'm just whatever. 98 00:05:07,680 --> 00:05:11,000 Speaker 1: I'm always walling out and then whatever. So, Paulina, what 99 00:05:11,040 --> 00:05:13,840 Speaker 1: would you say is that? I mean, I've only spoken 100 00:05:13,839 --> 00:05:16,720 Speaker 1: to Hobby on the phone, so I don't know. Man. Well, 101 00:05:16,720 --> 00:05:22,000 Speaker 1: I wrote him a song and that went over really well. Yeah, 102 00:05:22,040 --> 00:05:25,320 Speaker 1: you're definitely embarrassing. God, I do it all. I mean, 103 00:05:25,360 --> 00:05:27,600 Speaker 1: I'm the coupon girl. I love shopping with coupons. I 104 00:05:27,600 --> 00:05:30,279 Speaker 1: don't think he likes that very much. Um, I don't know. 105 00:05:30,320 --> 00:05:33,000 Speaker 1: I feel like being a Socks fan and he's a 106 00:05:33,040 --> 00:05:35,680 Speaker 1: Cubs fan. I die hard, like whole family going around 107 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:39,039 Speaker 1: the family like I'll be that person like Waitsino and 108 00:05:39,080 --> 00:05:40,640 Speaker 1: then they're like, I don't know. I feel like they 109 00:05:40,720 --> 00:05:42,720 Speaker 1: kind of bothers him. It's like, you're almost perfect, but 110 00:05:42,760 --> 00:05:46,000 Speaker 1: that's not perfect right now, so I think that bothers him. 111 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:47,800 Speaker 1: We went to the Yankees and Sox game in New 112 00:05:47,880 --> 00:05:50,920 Speaker 1: York what two weekends ago, and I was that person. Yeah, 113 00:05:50,960 --> 00:05:52,960 Speaker 1: let me say something. If I go to a Yankee game, 114 00:05:53,120 --> 00:05:55,640 Speaker 1: I'm cheering for the Socks. I can't hear for the Yankees. 115 00:05:55,680 --> 00:05:57,080 Speaker 1: I can't do it if it's a stadium full of 116 00:05:57,160 --> 00:05:58,880 Speaker 1: Yankees fans. And I was like, I'm about to get 117 00:05:58,880 --> 00:06:03,320 Speaker 1: my as being here. Yeah maybe maybe if I'm watching 118 00:06:03,320 --> 00:06:05,120 Speaker 1: it on TV there. I don't think I'd cheer with 119 00:06:05,480 --> 00:06:08,560 Speaker 1: anyone about the Yankees at Yankee Stadium. Yeah, that's me. 120 00:06:08,960 --> 00:06:10,520 Speaker 1: I mean I went to a Mets game one time 121 00:06:10,839 --> 00:06:12,679 Speaker 1: when they played the Cubs in the playoffs. That didn't 122 00:06:12,680 --> 00:06:15,640 Speaker 1: go all that well. Wearing Cubs stuff at a Mets 123 00:06:15,640 --> 00:06:20,040 Speaker 1: games welcome or during the World Series when we went 124 00:06:20,080 --> 00:06:22,719 Speaker 1: to Cleveland and I wore a Cubs they were throwing 125 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:25,840 Speaker 1: like things at said we were with a child. So 126 00:06:26,120 --> 00:06:29,080 Speaker 1: you gotta it's not not even people are trashy. I 127 00:06:29,120 --> 00:06:31,039 Speaker 1: know because I am one. So it's fine. Well you 128 00:06:31,040 --> 00:06:34,039 Speaker 1: can say that, I can say that, you can't. Yeah, okay, yeah, 129 00:06:34,040 --> 00:06:37,200 Speaker 1: I would say we're all the embarrassing ones. There's no way. Yeah. No, 130 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:39,279 Speaker 1: if you're with if you're withth dating any of us, 131 00:06:39,360 --> 00:06:40,880 Speaker 1: or merrits any of us, then you have to accept 132 00:06:40,880 --> 00:06:42,440 Speaker 1: that we're the ones who were going to be embarrassing. 133 00:06:42,839 --> 00:06:45,760 Speaker 1: I think, except in this case, Shelley's not. It's Mike. No. 134 00:06:45,839 --> 00:06:48,400 Speaker 1: Well actually, because I was like listen, so Jason, I 135 00:06:48,520 --> 00:06:50,400 Speaker 1: do what Mike does. Like I'm the one who like 136 00:06:50,520 --> 00:06:53,320 Speaker 1: I'll request like, hey can I maybe get this Jay? 137 00:06:53,360 --> 00:06:55,840 Speaker 1: And Mike hates that. My Mike hates that. Like me, 138 00:06:56,000 --> 00:06:57,839 Speaker 1: I guess I'm embarrassing my own also with all my 139 00:06:57,880 --> 00:07:01,479 Speaker 1: celebrity stories that can be embarrassing too. So yeah, yeah, 140 00:07:01,520 --> 00:07:03,520 Speaker 1: I mean Shelley totally out of the clear. As a 141 00:07:03,600 --> 00:07:06,599 Speaker 1: married woman, will you still jump at every opportunity to 142 00:07:06,640 --> 00:07:08,600 Speaker 1: get a picture with the celebrity or does it end 143 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:12,440 Speaker 1: with marriage? I don't think so. No, it's who you are, 144 00:07:12,720 --> 00:07:15,640 Speaker 1: you know, it's in the DNA. You were Yeah, you 145 00:07:15,680 --> 00:07:18,560 Speaker 1: were born this way, like there's no changing that. I'm like, hey, showbiz, Mike, 146 00:07:18,600 --> 00:07:20,040 Speaker 1: I know it's our wedding day, but look it's a 147 00:07:20,080 --> 00:07:22,440 Speaker 1: celebrity over their weight. And then he just has a 148 00:07:22,520 --> 00:07:24,760 Speaker 1: bigger guy now to push through the crowd. You know, 149 00:07:24,920 --> 00:07:28,360 Speaker 1: he's just like he's the bulldozer. And then she follows 150 00:07:28,400 --> 00:07:30,920 Speaker 1: behind right b lines to the celebrity like Shoba's Mike, 151 00:07:30,920 --> 00:07:33,800 Speaker 1: you know what to do. Clear the way you're in uniform, 152 00:07:33,840 --> 00:07:38,920 Speaker 1: Clear the way on your shoulders. Let's go. Yeah, I 153 00:07:40,040 --> 00:07:43,840 Speaker 1: believe that's completely one or three five Kiss FM, Chicago, 154 00:07:43,960 --> 00:07:46,119 Speaker 1: number one hit music station, Fred's show, There's a woman 155 00:07:46,880 --> 00:07:50,920 Speaker 1: who found her boyfriend's mother has a scary list of 156 00:07:51,000 --> 00:07:54,240 Speaker 1: rules for dating her son. Okay, so this is a 157 00:07:54,240 --> 00:07:57,800 Speaker 1: girl's dating guy. Guy's mom apparently made a list of 158 00:07:57,880 --> 00:08:01,840 Speaker 1: rules that women must follow in order to date her son, 159 00:08:01,880 --> 00:08:03,880 Speaker 1: I'll tell you what's on it in just a second. 160 00:08:03,880 --> 00:08:07,440 Speaker 1: One three five one three five Kiss FM, Chicago's number 161 00:08:07,440 --> 00:08:09,320 Speaker 1: one hit music stage, Fred's Shows. So a woman in 162 00:08:09,360 --> 00:08:11,840 Speaker 1: Louisiana was shocked after she found out that her boyfriend's 163 00:08:11,920 --> 00:08:15,640 Speaker 1: mom had posted a list of rules about dating her son. 164 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:18,240 Speaker 1: The eighteen year old took to TikTok to share the 165 00:08:18,280 --> 00:08:21,679 Speaker 1: photo of the ten demands that the woman had posted 166 00:08:21,720 --> 00:08:26,160 Speaker 1: to her Instagram account. Okay, so I guess this lady 167 00:08:26,160 --> 00:08:27,600 Speaker 1: goes up. This is something my mom would do, by 168 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:33,640 Speaker 1: the way, posted to her Instagram these rules. Yes, okay, okay, 169 00:08:33,840 --> 00:08:36,480 Speaker 1: I'm not sure if she fully knows how to use 170 00:08:36,520 --> 00:08:38,680 Speaker 1: it or what it does, but yes, and so my dad. 171 00:08:38,880 --> 00:08:40,640 Speaker 1: But I think it's more so they can follow my 172 00:08:40,679 --> 00:08:42,679 Speaker 1: sister and I got. I don't really think they're posting 173 00:08:42,679 --> 00:08:44,959 Speaker 1: their own content. But anyway, So these are the rules 174 00:08:45,000 --> 00:08:48,640 Speaker 1: for dating my son. He is not your ATM. If 175 00:08:48,679 --> 00:08:50,640 Speaker 1: you show up to my house looking like a stripper, 176 00:08:50,679 --> 00:08:53,400 Speaker 1: I will make you go away. If I see any 177 00:08:53,520 --> 00:08:58,679 Speaker 1: sexts on his phone, I will make you go away. 178 00:08:58,760 --> 00:09:02,320 Speaker 1: Sounds really doesn't that we're gonna have lesser Holton here 179 00:09:02,320 --> 00:09:05,880 Speaker 1: at Jim understand that a vital will like you. I 180 00:09:05,920 --> 00:09:08,880 Speaker 1: will make you go away. Understand that I can make 181 00:09:08,920 --> 00:09:12,760 Speaker 1: you go away. He's a mom's boy unless you have 182 00:09:12,800 --> 00:09:15,320 Speaker 1: a ring on your finger. Your opinion of that does 183 00:09:15,360 --> 00:09:18,920 Speaker 1: not matter. You are not in charge of him, and 184 00:09:19,000 --> 00:09:21,200 Speaker 1: it is not up to you to change him. Take 185 00:09:21,240 --> 00:09:23,440 Speaker 1: him for who he is, or see rule number five. 186 00:09:23,840 --> 00:09:26,320 Speaker 1: I can make you go away. He's a gentleman. I 187 00:09:26,400 --> 00:09:28,120 Speaker 1: taught him that you'd better act like a lady and 188 00:09:28,160 --> 00:09:31,600 Speaker 1: deserve that. Number nine, I know how to avoid jail. 189 00:09:32,320 --> 00:09:34,880 Speaker 1: And number ten. If you weasel your way past all 190 00:09:34,880 --> 00:09:36,680 Speaker 1: these rules and fake your way to a ring on 191 00:09:36,720 --> 00:09:39,520 Speaker 1: your finger, I will be something much worse than your 192 00:09:39,520 --> 00:09:43,920 Speaker 1: boyfriend's mom. I'll be your mother in law. Damn, Oh, 193 00:09:44,160 --> 00:09:47,680 Speaker 1: that's scary, that's terrible. A little bit. Yeah, she sounds 194 00:09:47,679 --> 00:09:49,480 Speaker 1: like the kind of mom that makes excuses for all 195 00:09:49,520 --> 00:09:51,440 Speaker 1: of her son's behavior, Like you could be the most 196 00:09:51,440 --> 00:09:54,240 Speaker 1: toxic guy in a relationship, and she's like, he's just 197 00:09:54,440 --> 00:09:57,600 Speaker 1: being himself. I wonder if he's a good guy. If 198 00:09:57,600 --> 00:10:01,600 Speaker 1: that's you know what I mean's like, then right, she 199 00:10:01,720 --> 00:10:04,880 Speaker 1: knows why are you going through his message? Why? Why 200 00:10:04,920 --> 00:10:08,200 Speaker 1: would you be reading our messages? Who was my question? 201 00:10:08,360 --> 00:10:10,040 Speaker 1: I mean I'm a mama's boy. My mom would not 202 00:10:10,080 --> 00:10:12,240 Speaker 1: go this far play any mean, she would say to me, 203 00:10:12,600 --> 00:10:20,880 Speaker 1: but she wouldn't. I wouldn't mess with a I really wouldn't. 204 00:10:21,320 --> 00:10:23,920 Speaker 1: But there's a headline at Paulina sent me here. This 205 00:10:24,000 --> 00:10:26,920 Speaker 1: is from a Yahoo It says, the millennial marriage trend 206 00:10:27,000 --> 00:10:30,000 Speaker 1: that actually increases your chances of divorce. Now I realize 207 00:10:30,240 --> 00:10:32,920 Speaker 1: you're barely a millennial. Maybe we're kind of barely, barely 208 00:10:32,960 --> 00:10:36,920 Speaker 1: barely on the threshold on the cosip of millennialism um. 209 00:10:37,000 --> 00:10:40,800 Speaker 1: But apparently if you live with the person who you're 210 00:10:40,840 --> 00:10:43,400 Speaker 1: going to marry before you marry them, you have a 211 00:10:43,480 --> 00:10:48,400 Speaker 1: higher chance of divorce. I don't know, I don't know how. 212 00:10:48,520 --> 00:10:50,920 Speaker 1: I mean, I've had this debate with a lot of 213 00:10:50,920 --> 00:10:54,360 Speaker 1: people before about Some will say, yeah, you should live 214 00:10:54,360 --> 00:10:55,959 Speaker 1: with that person ahead of time and kind of get 215 00:10:55,960 --> 00:10:57,920 Speaker 1: the kinks out and work through sort of the I 216 00:10:57,960 --> 00:11:01,920 Speaker 1: don't know, the everyday kind of challenge before you get married, 217 00:11:01,920 --> 00:11:04,280 Speaker 1: because then you could focus on sort of the relationship 218 00:11:04,280 --> 00:11:07,360 Speaker 1: and not necessarily on the little I don't know, little 219 00:11:07,440 --> 00:11:11,080 Speaker 1: quirks that the other person has. I've also had people argued, no, no, 220 00:11:11,160 --> 00:11:13,040 Speaker 1: we're not gonna live together till we're married, because we're 221 00:11:13,080 --> 00:11:15,840 Speaker 1: married now, and so you'll deal with the quirks because 222 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:18,160 Speaker 1: you're not getting divorced because that's not an option anyway. 223 00:11:18,160 --> 00:11:20,319 Speaker 1: So and by the way, if you're gonna if you're 224 00:11:20,320 --> 00:11:22,440 Speaker 1: gonna divorce me because I leave the twilest seat up, 225 00:11:22,480 --> 00:11:25,440 Speaker 1: then then we shouldn't have gotten married anyway. So I 226 00:11:25,480 --> 00:11:30,040 Speaker 1: see both sides of this. But but Shelley, what do 227 00:11:30,080 --> 00:11:32,160 Speaker 1: you think about I mean, because you're getting married and 228 00:11:32,200 --> 00:11:34,240 Speaker 1: I don't know if you're calling this officially living with 229 00:11:34,280 --> 00:11:36,679 Speaker 1: it with showbiz Mike, but I mean, you spend a 230 00:11:36,720 --> 00:11:38,400 Speaker 1: lot of time together. Do you feel like that's an 231 00:11:38,400 --> 00:11:42,400 Speaker 1: advantage or a disadvantage? Yeah, because I used to think 232 00:11:42,440 --> 00:11:44,920 Speaker 1: that way. What you were just saying that, like, why 233 00:11:44,920 --> 00:11:47,079 Speaker 1: would you move in with somebody before you get married, 234 00:11:47,120 --> 00:11:49,520 Speaker 1: Like you want to be together officially before you do that. 235 00:11:49,600 --> 00:11:52,440 Speaker 1: And then actually my therapist she was like, you know, 236 00:11:52,559 --> 00:11:54,360 Speaker 1: just like I do recommend that people live together, and 237 00:11:54,440 --> 00:11:56,360 Speaker 1: I think it's a good idea. So then after she 238 00:11:56,440 --> 00:11:58,600 Speaker 1: explained it, it it kind of changed my perspective, and then 239 00:11:59,440 --> 00:12:01,560 Speaker 1: I'm really really glad we are sort of doing this 240 00:12:01,600 --> 00:12:05,280 Speaker 1: half living situation because it does sort of prepare you 241 00:12:05,400 --> 00:12:07,680 Speaker 1: for what you know you're getting into, and you do 242 00:12:07,760 --> 00:12:10,720 Speaker 1: learn about quirks and the things that you know could 243 00:12:10,760 --> 00:12:12,800 Speaker 1: be frustrating are the things that you really like. And 244 00:12:12,880 --> 00:12:17,240 Speaker 1: so exactly like I discovered that because I should, Pauline, 245 00:12:17,280 --> 00:12:19,360 Speaker 1: I feel like I feel like if you if you 246 00:12:19,400 --> 00:12:21,960 Speaker 1: combine the living together, if you've never done it before, 247 00:12:22,120 --> 00:12:24,640 Speaker 1: which you never had, right with a boyfriend, Yeah, living 248 00:12:24,640 --> 00:12:27,080 Speaker 1: together and marriage, you put you pile that all on 249 00:12:27,160 --> 00:12:29,000 Speaker 1: and then boom, day after the wedding, It's like, here 250 00:12:29,000 --> 00:12:30,559 Speaker 1: we go, now all of this. I feel like that 251 00:12:30,600 --> 00:12:32,760 Speaker 1: could be overwhelming. It seems crazy to think that the 252 00:12:32,840 --> 00:12:34,520 Speaker 1: day after my wedding we're going to move in together 253 00:12:34,640 --> 00:12:37,640 Speaker 1: and learn about each other. Shouldn't we start that process before? 254 00:12:37,679 --> 00:12:39,840 Speaker 1: And I hate that this is a millennial trend too. 255 00:12:40,040 --> 00:12:42,440 Speaker 1: Moving in together has been happening since the beginning of time, 256 00:12:42,679 --> 00:12:45,120 Speaker 1: now millennia, the beginning of time. I didn't moving in together. 257 00:12:45,200 --> 00:12:50,240 Speaker 1: The Pilgrims, we're moving in together. I mean back in 258 00:12:50,320 --> 00:12:53,320 Speaker 1: the cavemen and women we're moving yeah, I mean, come on, 259 00:12:53,400 --> 00:12:56,199 Speaker 1: they were moving in with. Everybody knows that. Come on, 260 00:12:56,600 --> 00:12:59,800 Speaker 1: the avocado. I'm like, Paulina, I've never lived with I've 261 00:12:59,800 --> 00:13:02,000 Speaker 1: never live with anybody either, So I was like, you know, 262 00:13:02,080 --> 00:13:05,000 Speaker 1: I probably should get that experience. So absolutely, I'm not 263 00:13:05,080 --> 00:13:08,120 Speaker 1: that roommate thing, but the boyfriend is very different. But 264 00:13:08,240 --> 00:13:11,320 Speaker 1: I feel like it's important one one, three, five. I 265 00:13:11,320 --> 00:13:14,000 Speaker 1: just want to take a quick survey of the people 266 00:13:14,000 --> 00:13:16,040 Speaker 1: who have lived together or not lived together, and do 267 00:13:16,040 --> 00:13:18,840 Speaker 1: you feel like it has any real impact on the 268 00:13:18,880 --> 00:13:21,679 Speaker 1: success or failure of the relationship. People are saying this 269 00:13:23,000 --> 00:13:26,400 Speaker 1: relationship experts saying it decreases the likelihood that you will 270 00:13:26,400 --> 00:13:29,360 Speaker 1: marry and increases your chances of divorce after five years, 271 00:13:30,559 --> 00:13:33,520 Speaker 1: So says this individual, I heard that a lot. Actually, yeah, 272 00:13:33,559 --> 00:13:35,840 Speaker 1: I can see that being like there's no ring then 273 00:13:35,880 --> 00:13:38,320 Speaker 1: being promised or something, because at what point, right do 274 00:13:38,400 --> 00:13:40,600 Speaker 1: you then have that expectation because you're moving in together, 275 00:13:40,720 --> 00:13:43,560 Speaker 1: so you just prolong it. I can see that happening, Paulina, 276 00:13:43,640 --> 00:13:45,520 Speaker 1: you had that expectation on the second date. Yes, I 277 00:13:45,559 --> 00:13:49,280 Speaker 1: did I need a ring, But yeah, you know what 278 00:13:49,320 --> 00:13:51,720 Speaker 1: I'm saying. I feel like, then, if you're moved in together, 279 00:13:51,760 --> 00:13:53,680 Speaker 1: doesn't it all just feel already like you're married. Maybe 280 00:13:53,679 --> 00:13:56,240 Speaker 1: it just feels already natural, So why add the ring? 281 00:13:56,320 --> 00:13:58,720 Speaker 1: Why add the marriage? I can see that I'm arguing 282 00:13:58,760 --> 00:14:01,400 Speaker 1: that I don't agree with it. I would I can say, okay, 283 00:14:01,720 --> 00:14:04,880 Speaker 1: let's get engaged and then we move in together, so 284 00:14:04,920 --> 00:14:07,560 Speaker 1: at least there's a commitment, you know, there's there's like 285 00:14:07,600 --> 00:14:11,120 Speaker 1: a plan in place. It's not like just move in 286 00:14:11,160 --> 00:14:13,200 Speaker 1: and then I now don't have to Now we can 287 00:14:13,200 --> 00:14:14,640 Speaker 1: play a house. I don't have to commit to you 288 00:14:14,720 --> 00:14:17,280 Speaker 1: because you're already there. I could see how that could happen. Well, 289 00:14:17,320 --> 00:14:19,160 Speaker 1: you're already here. We already lived together, we already have 290 00:14:19,200 --> 00:14:21,480 Speaker 1: this system, and so I don't have to propose to 291 00:14:21,520 --> 00:14:23,400 Speaker 1: you now because we're already sort of doing it. So 292 00:14:23,440 --> 00:14:26,040 Speaker 1: what's the extra step? Yes, rufie Um, I don't agree 293 00:14:26,080 --> 00:14:28,560 Speaker 1: with this survey because I moved in with Jess, you know, 294 00:14:28,600 --> 00:14:31,400 Speaker 1: before we got married, and and we're still together. But 295 00:14:32,400 --> 00:14:36,800 Speaker 1: the thing I do say is it sometimes, like some 296 00:14:36,880 --> 00:14:38,960 Speaker 1: couples have said it, it it doesn't end like you live 297 00:14:39,040 --> 00:14:40,800 Speaker 1: together for a long time and then you get married. 298 00:14:41,120 --> 00:14:44,120 Speaker 1: It really doesn't. You really don't feel anything different, you know, 299 00:14:44,120 --> 00:14:46,920 Speaker 1: when you get married and then then you would move 300 00:14:46,960 --> 00:14:49,360 Speaker 1: in with somebody, there's something new, like hey, we're we're 301 00:14:49,440 --> 00:14:51,680 Speaker 1: newly married. Like see, so if you already lived together, 302 00:14:51,680 --> 00:14:53,800 Speaker 1: you'll get married and then you know, Monday, you come 303 00:14:53,840 --> 00:14:56,920 Speaker 1: back and it's like it's you know, yeah, like we oh, 304 00:14:56,960 --> 00:15:00,400 Speaker 1: we've already been doing this, so I guess it's official now. Yeah. 305 00:15:02,440 --> 00:15:04,080 Speaker 1: I can see that working in both ways though, Like 306 00:15:04,160 --> 00:15:06,040 Speaker 1: for the good end of bed, Hey John, good morning, 307 00:15:06,160 --> 00:15:08,280 Speaker 1: Hey Hey guys, what's up John? What do you think 308 00:15:08,320 --> 00:15:11,840 Speaker 1: lives together or don't live together before you marry somebody? Well, 309 00:15:11,880 --> 00:15:13,640 Speaker 1: I mean, I guess it really just depends on a 310 00:15:13,640 --> 00:15:17,360 Speaker 1: couple variables. Our variable was that my end laws, um, 311 00:15:17,400 --> 00:15:21,880 Speaker 1: they're old school, hardcore Italian, absolutely forbid it. Um, so 312 00:15:21,920 --> 00:15:23,880 Speaker 1: we had to respect their wishes. And my wife was like, 313 00:15:23,920 --> 00:15:26,240 Speaker 1: are you okay with not living I was like, yo, 314 00:15:26,280 --> 00:15:28,920 Speaker 1: I guess someone to have to be. So my advice 315 00:15:28,960 --> 00:15:32,800 Speaker 1: to anyone, if everyone listening, is if you if you 316 00:15:32,840 --> 00:15:35,880 Speaker 1: guys don't live together, all right, it makes it more 317 00:15:36,000 --> 00:15:37,520 Speaker 1: say hey, you know what works I to do this, 318 00:15:37,880 --> 00:15:40,280 Speaker 1: Whereas if you live together, you're like, all right, we're 319 00:15:40,280 --> 00:15:42,080 Speaker 1: getting married now, we're just going to our party and 320 00:15:42,120 --> 00:15:43,720 Speaker 1: then we're going back to our lives, you know what 321 00:15:43,800 --> 00:15:45,840 Speaker 1: I mean. So, I mean it's bad to both. I 322 00:15:45,880 --> 00:15:49,040 Speaker 1: just think it really depends on some you know, real variables. 323 00:15:49,080 --> 00:15:51,120 Speaker 1: I mean, if you love the person, you're going to 324 00:15:51,160 --> 00:15:54,880 Speaker 1: stick it out or whatever, You're not gonna hopefully you're 325 00:15:54,880 --> 00:15:56,480 Speaker 1: not going to marry somebody and then after a month 326 00:15:56,520 --> 00:15:58,840 Speaker 1: divorced them because of some weird quirk. But at the 327 00:15:58,880 --> 00:16:01,760 Speaker 1: same time, isn't that gonna? I could see for me, 328 00:16:01,800 --> 00:16:03,080 Speaker 1: at least as a person with a little bit of 329 00:16:03,080 --> 00:16:05,480 Speaker 1: anxiety like that, it could just pile on like, oh 330 00:16:05,520 --> 00:16:07,640 Speaker 1: my god, I'm in this forever and this person, well 331 00:16:07,640 --> 00:16:10,160 Speaker 1: I flash your damn dishes. It's like, I mean, you know, 332 00:16:10,280 --> 00:16:13,240 Speaker 1: it leads to other things. Yeah, I mean so like 333 00:16:13,280 --> 00:16:15,280 Speaker 1: my wife and I enable we've been married six years, 334 00:16:15,280 --> 00:16:18,240 Speaker 1: just had our first baby. By the way, congratulations, Yeah, 335 00:16:18,280 --> 00:16:20,240 Speaker 1: thank you. Yeah, it's really cool. So we're looking back 336 00:16:20,240 --> 00:16:22,160 Speaker 1: on it, I'm like, can you believe this stupid crap 337 00:16:22,560 --> 00:16:26,760 Speaker 1: that we argued over. We laugh about it, like hey 338 00:16:26,760 --> 00:16:29,160 Speaker 1: I don't want your toothbrush here, or hey, you are 339 00:16:29,440 --> 00:16:31,520 Speaker 1: kicking me off the edge of the bed. So I 340 00:16:31,560 --> 00:16:34,520 Speaker 1: think it's just I mean, you know, the whole old 341 00:16:34,560 --> 00:16:38,000 Speaker 1: school test driving before you buy it. I mean, you 342 00:16:38,040 --> 00:16:40,440 Speaker 1: know what I would want to say, Hey, you know what, 343 00:16:40,680 --> 00:16:42,680 Speaker 1: we're getting married. I can't wait to live with you. 344 00:16:42,720 --> 00:16:44,600 Speaker 1: And start our lives together where it's like, well we've 345 00:16:44,600 --> 00:16:48,000 Speaker 1: been dating and living together for two years whatever, We're 346 00:16:48,040 --> 00:16:49,920 Speaker 1: just going to a big party for us and then 347 00:16:49,960 --> 00:16:52,280 Speaker 1: back to our let's see that argument. Hey, thanks man, 348 00:16:52,360 --> 00:16:57,320 Speaker 1: have a great day, John. I see that. Hey, Samantha, Hi, Samantha, 349 00:16:57,400 --> 00:17:00,360 Speaker 1: lived together or don't live together before you marry someone 350 00:17:00,360 --> 00:17:02,440 Speaker 1: because this relationship ex where it says that it will 351 00:17:02,480 --> 00:17:09,440 Speaker 1: increase your chances of divorce. I support, Um, I've done 352 00:17:09,480 --> 00:17:14,480 Speaker 1: it twice now currently still doing it. A successful one 353 00:17:14,600 --> 00:17:17,240 Speaker 1: was not but I just think you don't you really 354 00:17:17,240 --> 00:17:21,479 Speaker 1: don't know someone like they're my current boyfriend. When we 355 00:17:21,480 --> 00:17:23,600 Speaker 1: weren't living together, he was like putting out all the 356 00:17:23,640 --> 00:17:26,919 Speaker 1: stops and it made me still like, oh, this is 357 00:17:26,920 --> 00:17:28,760 Speaker 1: what it's going to be like, and then live together 358 00:17:28,800 --> 00:17:30,600 Speaker 1: and I thought that it's a moress. It's just it's 359 00:17:30,640 --> 00:17:33,520 Speaker 1: a hard more like a partnership thing. The guy gave up. 360 00:17:33,520 --> 00:17:36,400 Speaker 1: It's like you're in You're in my layer. Now you're trapped. 361 00:17:36,440 --> 00:17:38,880 Speaker 1: You have nowhere to go. I don't have to try 362 00:17:39,240 --> 00:17:42,000 Speaker 1: a lot of things. Well, it was kind of just 363 00:17:42,040 --> 00:17:44,440 Speaker 1: something like oh my, we've gotten married, and then this 364 00:17:44,920 --> 00:17:47,560 Speaker 1: kind of again not like a one eighty but definitely 365 00:17:47,600 --> 00:17:52,399 Speaker 1: not the same. It's probably pissed me off. Yeah, so 366 00:17:52,560 --> 00:17:54,640 Speaker 1: I feel that like it's something good to know, like, oh, 367 00:17:54,680 --> 00:17:57,680 Speaker 1: this is the true person I will see twenty four seven. Yeah, yeah, 368 00:17:57,680 --> 00:17:59,639 Speaker 1: it makes sense. Thank you, Thank you, Samantha, have a 369 00:17:59,640 --> 00:18:07,280 Speaker 1: great glad you call. Hey, Lizette Tilize, I'm sorry. Yeah, 370 00:18:07,359 --> 00:18:13,440 Speaker 1: I think you're like, then it's not COVID, I promise 371 00:18:13,600 --> 00:18:19,600 Speaker 1: us and go ahead. I think it was a positive. Um. 372 00:18:19,640 --> 00:18:22,680 Speaker 1: I do think it's one of those things where the 373 00:18:22,800 --> 00:18:25,119 Speaker 1: movie in part anyway, Um, I think it's one of 374 00:18:25,160 --> 00:18:29,159 Speaker 1: those things where you have to have the stamina to, 375 00:18:29,680 --> 00:18:33,080 Speaker 1: like the gentleman said two people ago, um, that you're 376 00:18:33,119 --> 00:18:35,359 Speaker 1: just going to stick it out and you're not going 377 00:18:35,440 --> 00:18:37,680 Speaker 1: to be that type of person to complain about every 378 00:18:37,680 --> 00:18:40,760 Speaker 1: little thing, which I was. I'm a clean freak, I'm 379 00:18:40,800 --> 00:18:43,640 Speaker 1: an organized freak, and I'm a micro manager. So I 380 00:18:43,680 --> 00:18:45,800 Speaker 1: had to like pull the rails back and be like, 381 00:18:45,840 --> 00:18:48,040 Speaker 1: all right, this is gonna happen. I'm not going to 382 00:18:48,080 --> 00:18:50,840 Speaker 1: complain about it because it shunts me out more so 383 00:18:51,040 --> 00:18:53,760 Speaker 1: at the end of the day, like you either don't 384 00:18:53,800 --> 00:18:56,760 Speaker 1: complain or you complain and you'll live by yourself. So 385 00:18:57,520 --> 00:19:01,440 Speaker 1: I throw someone to the side because of things that 386 00:19:01,480 --> 00:19:03,320 Speaker 1: they maybe they didn't have the right person in their 387 00:19:03,359 --> 00:19:06,280 Speaker 1: life to teach them, like, hey, cleanliness, it is kind 388 00:19:06,280 --> 00:19:11,680 Speaker 1: of cool, Like let's not Yeah, I think I would 389 00:19:11,680 --> 00:19:14,720 Speaker 1: have shirts made up to say like, cleanliness is cool. 390 00:19:14,840 --> 00:19:20,040 Speaker 1: I agree, I know cleanliness is cool. Drugs are bad? Yeah, 391 00:19:20,840 --> 00:19:22,320 Speaker 1: I know, I agree with you, But I guess I 392 00:19:22,320 --> 00:19:24,920 Speaker 1: just wouldn't want to I wouldn't want to find all 393 00:19:24,920 --> 00:19:28,480 Speaker 1: this stuff out like that we were there. I think 394 00:19:28,480 --> 00:19:30,560 Speaker 1: about it this way, if you weren't you got a girlfriend, 395 00:19:30,600 --> 00:19:32,720 Speaker 1: you got to love to different houses. But then what 396 00:19:32,760 --> 00:19:34,760 Speaker 1: happens when you can engage? Do you move in together? 397 00:19:34,840 --> 00:19:37,840 Speaker 1: Isn't that kind of the same thing. Yeah, you haven't 398 00:19:37,880 --> 00:19:42,720 Speaker 1: heard a friend's two house rule. Well, I mean those 399 00:19:42,800 --> 00:19:44,520 Speaker 1: isn't gonna be a problem for me because of the 400 00:19:44,560 --> 00:19:46,520 Speaker 1: two houses that we're going to purchase next to each other, 401 00:19:46,560 --> 00:19:49,399 Speaker 1: connected by a tunnel. But anyway, you know that's crazy 402 00:19:49,440 --> 00:19:52,440 Speaker 1: if I could say this. So he lived the department first, 403 00:19:52,480 --> 00:19:55,280 Speaker 1: and it was under his name, and it was for me, like, oh, 404 00:19:55,320 --> 00:19:57,840 Speaker 1: my god's so cute, Like yeah, I'm living with him, 405 00:19:57,920 --> 00:20:00,280 Speaker 1: and like, let me put my little photos. So what 406 00:20:00,600 --> 00:20:02,840 Speaker 1: does I speak in and then love, and then you 407 00:20:03,000 --> 00:20:05,600 Speaker 1: bought a house together. If that's when I noticed a 408 00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:08,960 Speaker 1: lot of um, a lot of things about myself that 409 00:20:09,040 --> 00:20:11,280 Speaker 1: we're driving him crazy too. So I think, like that 410 00:20:11,400 --> 00:20:14,760 Speaker 1: ownership and knowing that it's your money and you're like 411 00:20:14,880 --> 00:20:18,160 Speaker 1: fully invested. Yeah, really play the role too, makes sense. 412 00:20:18,200 --> 00:20:20,840 Speaker 1: Thank you so much, have a good day you called. 413 00:20:20,960 --> 00:20:23,920 Speaker 1: That's another thing that I didn't realize until college. And 414 00:20:24,119 --> 00:20:27,520 Speaker 1: it's hard for me to realize. But some people they 415 00:20:27,600 --> 00:20:30,480 Speaker 1: like the chaos, like they like the disarray that makes 416 00:20:30,520 --> 00:20:34,200 Speaker 1: them comfortable. For me, growing up, we weren't. It wasn't. 417 00:20:34,200 --> 00:20:36,680 Speaker 1: We weren't allowed to be disorganized or dirty. Everything had 418 00:20:36,720 --> 00:20:39,439 Speaker 1: to be clean, beds made everything in its place. That 419 00:20:39,560 --> 00:20:41,399 Speaker 1: was how everybody in our house had. That was just 420 00:20:41,440 --> 00:20:44,600 Speaker 1: the deal, right, That was like our obligation as kids 421 00:20:44,640 --> 00:20:46,879 Speaker 1: living in my mom's house. But then I would go 422 00:20:46,920 --> 00:20:48,800 Speaker 1: to college and I'm like cleaning up after my slab 423 00:20:49,040 --> 00:20:51,960 Speaker 1: ass of a roommate, cokehead roommate. And so the guy 424 00:20:51,960 --> 00:20:55,159 Speaker 1: I know, No, No, I don't know any seeing anybody, 425 00:20:56,040 --> 00:20:59,400 Speaker 1: I don't think. So these days I think I can 426 00:20:59,400 --> 00:21:01,840 Speaker 1: set you up with maybe you want no. But in fairness, 427 00:21:01,840 --> 00:21:03,520 Speaker 1: though he must have hated living with me because I 428 00:21:03,560 --> 00:21:06,119 Speaker 1: would clean up after him, and I don't think he 429 00:21:06,200 --> 00:21:08,480 Speaker 1: liked it, like I think he his side of the room. 430 00:21:08,560 --> 00:21:11,119 Speaker 1: He liked it, you know, crap everywhere that made him 431 00:21:11,160 --> 00:21:13,840 Speaker 1: feel comfortable in the same way like growing up like you, 432 00:21:14,200 --> 00:21:16,399 Speaker 1: like he was had to clean everything in his house too, 433 00:21:16,520 --> 00:21:18,600 Speaker 1: and he got to college. He's just like no min 434 00:21:18,640 --> 00:21:21,320 Speaker 1: I'm no rules, right, yeah, So in fairness, like I mean, 435 00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:23,760 Speaker 1: I like that that something makes that makes me happy 436 00:21:23,800 --> 00:21:26,720 Speaker 1: doesn't necessarily necessarily make the other person happy. So I 437 00:21:26,760 --> 00:21:29,439 Speaker 1: guess in ideally you find someone who's sort of aligned 438 00:21:29,480 --> 00:21:32,480 Speaker 1: with what where you find solace, Like I don't think 439 00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:34,879 Speaker 1: I could be with somebody whose happy place is with 440 00:21:34,960 --> 00:21:37,920 Speaker 1: crap everywhere like that would that would make me unhappy 441 00:21:38,040 --> 00:21:41,800 Speaker 1: and thus, um, we would have to purchase another house 442 00:21:41,840 --> 00:21:45,720 Speaker 1: connected by a tunnel with access only going one way. 443 00:21:45,760 --> 00:21:47,359 Speaker 1: I get to go there, but you don't get to 444 00:21:47,359 --> 00:21:52,360 Speaker 1: come here unless invited. Then I'll buzz you in lie 445 00:21:52,480 --> 00:21:57,840 Speaker 1: from the Windress Studios in America's Greatest city, m Chicago. 446 00:22:00,080 --> 00:22:05,080 Speaker 1: I heart radio station Kasey Musgrave's Ticket's got him at 447 00:22:05,080 --> 00:22:07,920 Speaker 1: seven thirty on the freend show, Good Morning, It's one 448 00:22:07,960 --> 00:22:13,919 Speaker 1: oh three five. Why were you left waiting by the 449 00:22:13,920 --> 00:22:16,640 Speaker 1: fronds and welcome to the show. Hey, there's it going. 450 00:22:17,160 --> 00:22:20,159 Speaker 1: Everybody's great here. We are trying to figure out why 451 00:22:20,520 --> 00:22:23,120 Speaker 1: you're in this situation. You went out with Marley? How 452 00:22:23,119 --> 00:22:25,720 Speaker 1: did you meet Marley? And then phill Us in on 453 00:22:25,800 --> 00:22:28,880 Speaker 1: sort of what happened next in any dates and where 454 00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:32,919 Speaker 1: you are now with her? Yeah? I just actually met Marley, 455 00:22:33,040 --> 00:22:36,280 Speaker 1: just randomly at a bar one night. Um. We were 456 00:22:36,320 --> 00:22:39,680 Speaker 1: both pretty barely drunk. I was gonna say you, there 457 00:22:39,680 --> 00:22:42,480 Speaker 1: haven't been some cocktails because you know, nobody actually speaks 458 00:22:42,480 --> 00:22:45,440 Speaker 1: to anyone anymore. No one actually like walks up and 459 00:22:45,640 --> 00:22:47,600 Speaker 1: hits on anybody anymore. I feel like you, you know, 460 00:22:47,920 --> 00:22:49,560 Speaker 1: you wait and then try and find their Instagram and 461 00:22:49,640 --> 00:22:51,280 Speaker 1: hit him up later or something, or I have rufe 462 00:22:51,400 --> 00:22:54,080 Speaker 1: I do it for me. Um. So you actually approached 463 00:22:54,080 --> 00:22:57,040 Speaker 1: her and spoke to her and hit on her in person? Yeah, 464 00:22:57,400 --> 00:23:01,320 Speaker 1: old school. Um. I got her number and I decided 465 00:23:01,320 --> 00:23:03,720 Speaker 1: to ask her out so we could actually get to 466 00:23:03,720 --> 00:23:08,680 Speaker 1: know each other sober, and you know, I just when 467 00:23:08,680 --> 00:23:12,919 Speaker 1: we got there, I was pleasantly surprised. You know, I 468 00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:16,720 Speaker 1: didn't have on beer goggles that night because she was 469 00:23:16,880 --> 00:23:22,119 Speaker 1: so smoking and we planned on seeing each other again 470 00:23:22,359 --> 00:23:25,840 Speaker 1: after our date. I just never thought she would ghost me, 471 00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:28,920 Speaker 1: and I'm just trying to figure it out. Okay, So 472 00:23:29,080 --> 00:23:32,600 Speaker 1: it met all expectations when you saw her the second time, 473 00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:35,480 Speaker 1: which is good. You know. Maybe sometimes you have a 474 00:23:35,480 --> 00:23:38,160 Speaker 1: few cocktails to your point about beer goggles, and it's 475 00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:40,080 Speaker 1: not quite what you remember. But this was great. The 476 00:23:40,160 --> 00:23:42,560 Speaker 1: chemistry was still there, and and you look back on 477 00:23:42,600 --> 00:23:44,080 Speaker 1: this day and you feel like it went well and 478 00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:47,679 Speaker 1: you haven't heard from her, and so you're disappointed. Yeah, 479 00:23:47,720 --> 00:23:50,560 Speaker 1: I mean, I was so good about it. It was 480 00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:53,440 Speaker 1: a good date. We connected and yeah, I'm just really 481 00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:56,480 Speaker 1: confused a little frustrating too. Yeah. Well we're hoping that too. 482 00:23:56,560 --> 00:23:58,240 Speaker 1: Let's see if we can get her on the phone 483 00:23:58,760 --> 00:24:00,600 Speaker 1: and ask these questions. You'll be on the phone too, 484 00:24:00,640 --> 00:24:03,080 Speaker 1: and hopefully we can. Uh, you'll figure out what's up, 485 00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:05,119 Speaker 1: straining it out, Set you guys up on another date, 486 00:24:05,160 --> 00:24:07,520 Speaker 1: and pay for that. Okay, Okay, can you hang on 487 00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:09,760 Speaker 1: for one second, gonna play one song. We'll come back 488 00:24:09,760 --> 00:24:11,880 Speaker 1: and do it. Okay, I stay right here. You've got 489 00:24:11,880 --> 00:24:13,600 Speaker 1: to hear what happens next. We'll do part two of 490 00:24:13,880 --> 00:24:16,240 Speaker 1: Waiting by the phone right after this song. On What 491 00:24:16,600 --> 00:24:19,920 Speaker 1: three to five. Good Morning Guys, Friend Shows on What 492 00:24:20,200 --> 00:24:25,040 Speaker 1: three to five Kiss FM, Chicago's number one hit music station. Justine, 493 00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:28,600 Speaker 1: welcome back, man. Let's call it. Yeah, let's call Marley. 494 00:24:28,760 --> 00:24:31,160 Speaker 1: You guys met at a bar, walked up, talk to her. 495 00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:34,320 Speaker 1: You felt like things went really well there, got her number, 496 00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:36,520 Speaker 1: and then you went on an actual date. You were 497 00:24:36,560 --> 00:24:39,480 Speaker 1: sober this time. You thought I went great, except now 498 00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:41,760 Speaker 1: she's ghosting you and you want to know why. Yeah, 499 00:24:41,840 --> 00:24:43,240 Speaker 1: let's call her now and see if we can figure 500 00:24:43,240 --> 00:24:56,520 Speaker 1: this out. Good luck? Okay, Hi is this Marley? Yeah Marley, 501 00:24:56,520 --> 00:24:58,360 Speaker 1: Good morning Fred from the Friend Show. The whole crew 502 00:24:58,440 --> 00:25:01,120 Speaker 1: is here one oh three five Kiss M in Chicago. 503 00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:02,959 Speaker 1: I'm trying to bother, but I do have to tell 504 00:25:03,040 --> 00:25:05,399 Speaker 1: you that we are on the radio right now and 505 00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:07,280 Speaker 1: I would need your consent to continue with the call. 506 00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:08,880 Speaker 1: Is that okay? If we chat for just a minute 507 00:25:08,920 --> 00:25:13,000 Speaker 1: on the show. Okay? All right? Yeah, I know it's weird. 508 00:25:13,320 --> 00:25:15,040 Speaker 1: I'm sorry to catch you off guard, but we're calling 509 00:25:15,040 --> 00:25:17,000 Speaker 1: on behalf of a guy says he met you in 510 00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:18,440 Speaker 1: a bar and you guys went on a date. His 511 00:25:18,520 --> 00:25:24,040 Speaker 1: name is Justin Oh my god, No, what does no? No? 512 00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:25,760 Speaker 1: You say? No, as soon as you hear his name, 513 00:25:25,760 --> 00:25:29,119 Speaker 1: what does that mean? What happened? Because I just can't 514 00:25:29,119 --> 00:25:33,959 Speaker 1: believe that his name is coming up in this way. Well, 515 00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:36,120 Speaker 1: he reached out to us, you should give you some context, 516 00:25:36,160 --> 00:25:38,080 Speaker 1: and he really liked you. Told us about meeting you 517 00:25:38,119 --> 00:25:40,000 Speaker 1: and walking up to you and said that you guys 518 00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:41,760 Speaker 1: had a great date. Sounds like maybe you have a 519 00:25:41,800 --> 00:25:43,840 Speaker 1: different version of events though, because he was wondering why 520 00:25:43,840 --> 00:25:47,520 Speaker 1: you're not calling him back. So we actually we met 521 00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:49,760 Speaker 1: at a bar and we had a really good time, 522 00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:53,920 Speaker 1: and like we then went out on a date like 523 00:25:53,960 --> 00:25:58,400 Speaker 1: the next day and I think it was like maybe 524 00:25:58,400 --> 00:26:01,920 Speaker 1: a couple days later. I can't really remember it. We um, 525 00:26:02,359 --> 00:26:06,680 Speaker 1: he was really great. Um, and this is just so embarrassing, 526 00:26:06,800 --> 00:26:09,560 Speaker 1: but like I guess, like I have to follow my truth, 527 00:26:09,640 --> 00:26:16,000 Speaker 1: and like you know, I went. I was sitting at 528 00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:19,399 Speaker 1: the table and he went, um. He got up to 529 00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:26,480 Speaker 1: go to the bathroom, and a girl walked by and 530 00:26:27,119 --> 00:26:30,600 Speaker 1: put a note on my table, and at first I 531 00:26:30,680 --> 00:26:33,400 Speaker 1: was like, oh, it's probably for him, I shouldn't open it, 532 00:26:33,680 --> 00:26:38,240 Speaker 1: but she like threw it directly towards me, and when 533 00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:42,360 Speaker 1: I opened it, it said that I'm a queen and 534 00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:46,439 Speaker 1: I'm way too good for him. You know, he doesn't 535 00:26:46,480 --> 00:26:49,720 Speaker 1: deserve you, and he's got to go. Wait, okay, so 536 00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:51,760 Speaker 1: do you think this person knew him or was it 537 00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:55,240 Speaker 1: just observing that he had, you know, out take discoverage 538 00:26:55,240 --> 00:27:00,679 Speaker 1: on this. You know, I have no idea. At first, 539 00:27:01,040 --> 00:27:04,840 Speaker 1: I was like, this is ridiculous, Like who is this person? 540 00:27:05,359 --> 00:27:08,240 Speaker 1: And then I thought maybe it's a jealous X that 541 00:27:08,359 --> 00:27:11,520 Speaker 1: doesn't want me to be with him. But I didn't 542 00:27:11,520 --> 00:27:14,000 Speaker 1: want to bring that up because I didn't know him 543 00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:17,560 Speaker 1: like that. Well, it was like a first official date, 544 00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:22,200 Speaker 1: and so this note caused you then to think twice 545 00:27:22,240 --> 00:27:24,520 Speaker 1: about what you think of him. Like, I mean, obviously 546 00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:26,439 Speaker 1: it was fine when you met in the bar, and 547 00:27:26,480 --> 00:27:29,080 Speaker 1: then it was fine until the note comes across the table, 548 00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:30,680 Speaker 1: and then you get the note, and so what now 549 00:27:30,720 --> 00:27:33,159 Speaker 1: You're like, ah, maybe that person's right. Yeah, well I 550 00:27:33,200 --> 00:27:35,440 Speaker 1: just couldn't shake it. Like by the time I got home, 551 00:27:35,720 --> 00:27:39,000 Speaker 1: I was second guessing myself and all the doubts were 552 00:27:39,000 --> 00:27:42,399 Speaker 1: creeping in. And then I started thinking about like, you 553 00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:47,719 Speaker 1: know him at dinner and you know, he was checking 554 00:27:47,760 --> 00:27:52,119 Speaker 1: out other girls at tables, which is a red flag. 555 00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:55,680 Speaker 1: He was kind of like navel gazing a little bit. 556 00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:58,879 Speaker 1: I don't know about this. Let me bring in. I 557 00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:05,719 Speaker 1: forgot to mention Justine here. Justin what I yeah, surprise 558 00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:08,240 Speaker 1: Justin's here. I gotta be honest. I mean, I want 559 00:28:08,240 --> 00:28:09,800 Speaker 1: to hear your reaction to all of this, because you've 560 00:28:09,800 --> 00:28:11,480 Speaker 1: been listening to a Justin. But this sounds to me 561 00:28:11,600 --> 00:28:14,399 Speaker 1: like everything was fine until somebody sort of got in 562 00:28:14,480 --> 00:28:17,000 Speaker 1: your head about you know, him not being good enough, 563 00:28:17,040 --> 00:28:18,800 Speaker 1: and then you come up with reasons to sort of 564 00:28:18,840 --> 00:28:22,640 Speaker 1: validate that, because I don't think you thought that until then. Yeah, 565 00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:25,280 Speaker 1: I agree, I think, Marley, I think someone got in 566 00:28:25,320 --> 00:28:27,119 Speaker 1: your head. And I don't think it's right to ghost 567 00:28:27,160 --> 00:28:30,440 Speaker 1: me because some doesn't know me. Oh okay, you know what? Who? 568 00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:34,760 Speaker 1: But you were cutting okay and fairness, you were cutting 569 00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:37,399 Speaker 1: me off when I was thinking you didn't pull my 570 00:28:37,560 --> 00:28:43,040 Speaker 1: chair out. You know other women, Like we're not in 571 00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:45,600 Speaker 1: a relationship. I can check out other women. That's the 572 00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:52,920 Speaker 1: natural guy, all right. Anymore. You can't check out other 573 00:28:52,960 --> 00:28:55,840 Speaker 1: women in front of the girl that you're with. You 574 00:28:56,000 --> 00:28:59,160 Speaker 1: do it when they're not there. Hellow okay, but here's 575 00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:03,320 Speaker 1: the thing. You didn't who you were in my presence? Wow? 576 00:29:03,800 --> 00:29:06,800 Speaker 1: But Marley, Harley hold on, hold on, you didn't tell 577 00:29:06,880 --> 00:29:09,320 Speaker 1: us when we asked you what happened. You didn't lead 578 00:29:09,360 --> 00:29:11,520 Speaker 1: with he didn't pull out my chair, and he was 579 00:29:11,640 --> 00:29:14,520 Speaker 1: checking out other women. You led with the story about 580 00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:17,080 Speaker 1: the note, and now you're telling us all these bad 581 00:29:17,120 --> 00:29:18,960 Speaker 1: things about him. I still don't know that you would 582 00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:22,600 Speaker 1: have necessarily cared as much if you hadn't gotten this 583 00:29:22,640 --> 00:29:24,800 Speaker 1: weird note from a stranger who we don't even know 584 00:29:24,800 --> 00:29:27,320 Speaker 1: who it is. It's probably right, You're probably right. We 585 00:29:27,360 --> 00:29:30,400 Speaker 1: probably would have okay dates in. We would have gotten 586 00:29:30,400 --> 00:29:33,120 Speaker 1: five days in and he would have checked out someone 587 00:29:33,200 --> 00:29:35,200 Speaker 1: in front of me, and I would have been like, um, 588 00:29:35,240 --> 00:29:38,680 Speaker 1: I'm right here. We just had sex, dude, and he 589 00:29:38,680 --> 00:29:41,080 Speaker 1: would have said, I'm allowed to check out other women 590 00:29:41,120 --> 00:29:43,720 Speaker 1: while you're sitting there. See now, The flip side of 591 00:29:43,720 --> 00:29:46,360 Speaker 1: this argument is that maybe whoever was observing all this 592 00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:50,560 Speaker 1: was seeing things, other behaviors and seeing watching watching this 593 00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:53,800 Speaker 1: guy ak like an idiot. No, no, no, they don't 594 00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:57,760 Speaker 1: know me. Marley, Marley, you're just threw out a hypothetical there. 595 00:29:57,800 --> 00:30:00,880 Speaker 1: If we start having sex, When we start having sex, 596 00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:03,440 Speaker 1: when I won't look, I won't look at anyone. But 597 00:30:03,560 --> 00:30:06,800 Speaker 1: that's what you really want. I didn't. You didn't ask 598 00:30:07,040 --> 00:30:10,600 Speaker 1: why that's with you? For you not to look at 599 00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:13,840 Speaker 1: other women is that's where the bar is what we 600 00:30:14,520 --> 00:30:17,480 Speaker 1: parter deuterous issue. And I can't have sex with you 601 00:30:17,560 --> 00:30:22,960 Speaker 1: for six months, that's obscure. Okay, what if you did? Um? 602 00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:25,640 Speaker 1: I don't agree with some of his viewpoints here, but 603 00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:29,479 Speaker 1: I also can understand being frustrated if he thinks that 604 00:30:29,520 --> 00:30:32,680 Speaker 1: he was sabotaged on this date somehow, No, he wasn't. No, 605 00:30:32,840 --> 00:30:36,440 Speaker 1: he you sabotage yourself, like for some stranger to write 606 00:30:36,440 --> 00:30:38,480 Speaker 1: a note to a girl on a date, you must 607 00:30:38,520 --> 00:30:41,640 Speaker 1: have been really terrible on somebody. See that from the 608 00:30:41,680 --> 00:30:44,680 Speaker 1: other table, that's concerning. We also don't know this wasn't 609 00:30:44,680 --> 00:30:46,720 Speaker 1: the next We don't, but we don't know that she 610 00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:50,920 Speaker 1: didn't observe things that flas so true. I'm kind of 611 00:30:50,960 --> 00:30:53,479 Speaker 1: seeing what she saw. Yeah, it could be a stranger 612 00:30:53,520 --> 00:30:56,640 Speaker 1: that wanted to be with me. I'm okay now that 613 00:30:56,760 --> 00:30:58,960 Speaker 1: you keep talking, and now I can't it's just your 614 00:30:59,000 --> 00:31:02,760 Speaker 1: I'm further and further away from being able to defend you. UM. Okay, 615 00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:05,520 Speaker 1: So no second date then, curly, I don't even have 616 00:31:05,560 --> 00:31:08,520 Speaker 1: to know. I think to go to a therapist and 617 00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:12,160 Speaker 1: learn how to like be with women without them like 618 00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:18,720 Speaker 1: little comment stupid, Okay, whatever, I know, I'm completely out 619 00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:22,520 Speaker 1: so you no, Well, I wasn't really defending him, but 620 00:31:22,560 --> 00:31:24,040 Speaker 1: I was trying to see the other side here. But 621 00:31:24,240 --> 00:31:28,040 Speaker 1: I don't need to um. Justin there. You have your answer, Marley. 622 00:31:28,120 --> 00:31:30,040 Speaker 1: Thank you so much for taking the time to talk 623 00:31:30,080 --> 00:31:31,719 Speaker 1: to us, and I wish you the best with with 624 00:31:31,800 --> 00:31:41,880 Speaker 1: other people. Thank you. Good day, guys. I want I 625 00:31:41,920 --> 00:31:44,920 Speaker 1: want to give you a little life advice today that 626 00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:47,680 Speaker 1: this really helped me as I read it this morning 627 00:31:47,720 --> 00:31:50,120 Speaker 1: or yesterday morning, and I wanted to share with you 628 00:31:50,120 --> 00:31:52,280 Speaker 1: you all. This is a little tidbit. The more you 629 00:31:52,280 --> 00:31:54,480 Speaker 1: know a moment on our show, I know that we 630 00:31:54,480 --> 00:31:56,720 Speaker 1: did the good news stories make everyone feel nice. This 631 00:31:56,720 --> 00:31:58,640 Speaker 1: will make you feel nice too. Do you want to 632 00:31:58,640 --> 00:32:01,480 Speaker 1: know what the key to being happy is? Yeah? I do. 633 00:32:02,080 --> 00:32:07,840 Speaker 1: Just lower your expectations. This is real research results. It's true. 634 00:32:07,840 --> 00:32:10,160 Speaker 1: Then if you want to be happy, just don't expect 635 00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:15,160 Speaker 1: so much. Keep listening out terrible and totally true. I 636 00:32:15,160 --> 00:32:16,880 Speaker 1: don't think it's a negative thing. I think a lot 637 00:32:16,920 --> 00:32:19,160 Speaker 1: of us think that other people and situations will go 638 00:32:19,240 --> 00:32:21,880 Speaker 1: the way like we would have them. Go. And so 639 00:32:21,920 --> 00:32:24,880 Speaker 1: if you lower your expectations around people not having the 640 00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:27,280 Speaker 1: same heart and feelings as you do, then you're you're 641 00:32:27,280 --> 00:32:29,040 Speaker 1: talking about other people. I guess, yeah, No, that makes 642 00:32:29,040 --> 00:32:31,440 Speaker 1: sense life in general situations like how many times have 643 00:32:31,480 --> 00:32:34,080 Speaker 1: we had expectations for? But I don't like the idea 644 00:32:34,120 --> 00:32:36,040 Speaker 1: that we have to we have to expect less from 645 00:32:36,080 --> 00:32:38,520 Speaker 1: everybody else and then expect less for our own lives 646 00:32:38,600 --> 00:32:40,920 Speaker 1: in order to be happy. I think having expectations at 647 00:32:40,920 --> 00:32:42,640 Speaker 1: all is a bad thing, and I think all in 648 00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:46,080 Speaker 1: life is to not have them. But totally just sorry, Really, 649 00:32:46,200 --> 00:32:49,600 Speaker 1: therapy always is teaching me that no, to have expectations 650 00:32:49,640 --> 00:32:52,080 Speaker 1: to have You're not supposed to like you're supposed to anything. 651 00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:54,960 Speaker 1: You're just supposed to take what you get. Expectations are 652 00:32:55,000 --> 00:32:58,360 Speaker 1: resentments waiting to happen. That could be true. Remember how 653 00:32:58,400 --> 00:33:01,840 Speaker 1: mad I was at Valentine's saying my boy nothing, Yeah, 654 00:33:01,920 --> 00:33:03,840 Speaker 1: because I expected him to go all out because it 655 00:33:03,840 --> 00:33:06,880 Speaker 1: because favorite holiday, because you were in a relationship with him, 656 00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:09,200 Speaker 1: and you you love the holiday and you wanted it 657 00:33:09,280 --> 00:33:12,080 Speaker 1: to be acknowledged. No, but the adaptations what led me 658 00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:14,800 Speaker 1: to disappoint. You got hear you, hear what you're saying, 659 00:33:14,800 --> 00:33:17,240 Speaker 1: so you've got nothing, and so if you had no expectation, 660 00:33:17,320 --> 00:33:19,600 Speaker 1: So if you'd expected nothing on the day that's important 661 00:33:19,600 --> 00:33:21,640 Speaker 1: to you, happy, then you would have been happy, right, 662 00:33:21,680 --> 00:33:23,320 Speaker 1: And that sounds really shack. I mean I think that 663 00:33:23,440 --> 00:33:25,680 Speaker 1: the thing there is like they're two people who grew 664 00:33:25,720 --> 00:33:27,920 Speaker 1: up two different ways, who view Valentine's Day in two 665 00:33:27,960 --> 00:33:30,800 Speaker 1: different ways. And when you expect people to view Valentine's 666 00:33:30,880 --> 00:33:32,600 Speaker 1: Day the same way that you do, then you're going 667 00:33:32,640 --> 00:33:37,040 Speaker 1: to be disappointed communication. But if okay, so she communicated 668 00:33:37,040 --> 00:33:39,840 Speaker 1: that's it's your favorite day, he did nothing and she 669 00:33:39,960 --> 00:33:42,960 Speaker 1: felt bad. So the only you told him it was 670 00:33:42,960 --> 00:33:45,600 Speaker 1: your favorite day? Yeah, you know it was my favorite. 671 00:33:46,200 --> 00:33:48,480 Speaker 1: It's like you're in a relationship, so you so so 672 00:33:48,560 --> 00:33:51,680 Speaker 1: like do something for someone on their favorite day. I 673 00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:55,400 Speaker 1: guess I don't think having expectations if they're reasonable. Again, 674 00:33:55,440 --> 00:33:57,520 Speaker 1: this comes back to self awareness. I mean, yes, if 675 00:33:57,520 --> 00:33:59,680 Speaker 1: I expect to be a billionaire and I don't, I 676 00:33:59,720 --> 00:34:03,160 Speaker 1: don't hit that then And if I'm disappointed, well then 677 00:34:03,520 --> 00:34:06,680 Speaker 1: that's on me. But if I expect people around me 678 00:34:06,720 --> 00:34:08,560 Speaker 1: to respect me, and I expect to be in a 679 00:34:08,600 --> 00:34:12,359 Speaker 1: loving relationship, and I expect to perform well in my 680 00:34:12,440 --> 00:34:15,480 Speaker 1: job and I don't meet those expectations, then maybe I 681 00:34:15,480 --> 00:34:17,200 Speaker 1: should try harder to be you know what I'm saying. 682 00:34:17,200 --> 00:34:19,239 Speaker 1: Maybe I would be happier if I try harder to 683 00:34:19,280 --> 00:34:22,200 Speaker 1: meet those But if you're you know what I'm saying. Otherwise, 684 00:34:22,239 --> 00:34:24,600 Speaker 1: what this is saying is just don't expect anything, and 685 00:34:24,640 --> 00:34:27,040 Speaker 1: you'll never be unhappy. I can never get anything either. 686 00:34:27,200 --> 00:34:30,239 Speaker 1: Time and consistency. You realize that your partner is reliable, 687 00:34:30,320 --> 00:34:32,560 Speaker 1: and so it's just something that is I don't think, 688 00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:34,919 Speaker 1: you know, going into something expecting people think the same 689 00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:37,319 Speaker 1: way as you or handle the things the same way. 690 00:34:37,360 --> 00:34:40,319 Speaker 1: I think that's where you get trapped. Listen, if I 691 00:34:40,360 --> 00:34:43,120 Speaker 1: take law expectations into my next relationship, I might actually 692 00:34:43,160 --> 00:34:46,160 Speaker 1: get one. It's like I'm not saying like, oh, everybody 693 00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:48,319 Speaker 1: treat me like crap, but I'm just saying, like, you know, 694 00:34:48,360 --> 00:34:53,239 Speaker 1: if you build well, if you if that's your expectation, 695 00:34:53,320 --> 00:34:55,359 Speaker 1: that'll be easy to meet and you'll be really happy. 696 00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:57,160 Speaker 1: Someone might be nice to you, and then you'll be sad. 697 00:34:57,320 --> 00:34:59,880 Speaker 1: I don't agree with this at all. Yeah, I know, 698 00:35:00,520 --> 00:35:03,040 Speaker 1: Can I have it? Can I have reasonable expectations for 699 00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:04,680 Speaker 1: other people and for my life, and if they don't 700 00:35:04,719 --> 00:35:08,080 Speaker 1: meet them, then I act, um, well, that's an expectation. 701 00:35:09,400 --> 00:35:10,759 Speaker 1: Is a standard to me, Like, if you're going to 702 00:35:10,800 --> 00:35:14,040 Speaker 1: get into a relationship like you quote expect slash, you know, 703 00:35:14,200 --> 00:35:17,040 Speaker 1: want that standard. I think that's absolutely okay. And if 704 00:35:17,040 --> 00:35:20,040 Speaker 1: it's not met then you should have the self worth 705 00:35:20,080 --> 00:35:21,799 Speaker 1: and self awareness is if this isn't for me, and 706 00:35:21,800 --> 00:35:23,399 Speaker 1: move on to something that makes you happy. If your 707 00:35:23,400 --> 00:35:26,520 Speaker 1: expectation is to marry Prince Harry, then you know what's 708 00:35:26,560 --> 00:35:29,640 Speaker 1: wrong with that? You're probably going to be unhappy. Researchers 709 00:35:29,680 --> 00:35:33,680 Speaker 1: looked at over eighteen thousand people who played a mobile 710 00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:37,160 Speaker 1: app that encouraged them to make risky decisions and say 711 00:35:37,160 --> 00:35:39,400 Speaker 1: how they thought they would perform. They've found happiness is 712 00:35:39,440 --> 00:35:43,400 Speaker 1: linked to expectations, and lowering your expectations can increase happiness. 713 00:35:43,600 --> 00:35:48,400 Speaker 1: But they say luring expectations too much can leave you unhappy. 714 00:35:49,360 --> 00:35:51,480 Speaker 1: So it's finding the right belt. So it's not having 715 00:35:51,480 --> 00:35:54,040 Speaker 1: no expectations. It's not expecting that you're going to win 716 00:35:54,040 --> 00:35:57,880 Speaker 1: the powerball in order to make your life right, and 717 00:35:57,920 --> 00:36:01,279 Speaker 1: then when you don't, every day is miserable. Because every 718 00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:03,560 Speaker 1: day is miserable because I've never won the power ball. 719 00:36:03,760 --> 00:36:06,239 Speaker 1: That's the way that I feel. You know, if every 720 00:36:06,320 --> 00:36:07,680 Speaker 1: day I thought I was gonna win the lottery and 721 00:36:07,719 --> 00:36:09,239 Speaker 1: that was gonna save my ass, I'd be a really 722 00:36:09,320 --> 00:36:14,319 Speaker 1: miserable person every single day. Some people, some people do 723 00:36:14,440 --> 00:36:19,319 Speaker 1: things like that, though no word today you say all 724 00:36:19,360 --> 00:36:24,160 Speaker 1: that every time there's a mega million, like poly, I 725 00:36:24,239 --> 00:36:30,239 Speaker 1: showed like Barney, I'm gonna win Watery. It's like a 726 00:36:30,360 --> 00:36:34,400 Speaker 1: brit British party. I'm gonna win the can you if 727 00:36:34,400 --> 00:36:36,839 Speaker 1: I shoud it like that, we'd have zero ratings eight 728 00:36:36,880 --> 00:36:42,439 Speaker 1: five five, we'd have a zero more than zero voice. Well, 729 00:36:42,520 --> 00:36:45,839 Speaker 1: you really didn't get anywhere close, so that was so 730 00:36:49,239 --> 00:36:52,799 Speaker 1: in front of it. I pulled away the Watery like 731 00:36:52,920 --> 00:36:58,360 Speaker 1: my niece sound drunk. I sound drunk like I like 732 00:36:58,560 --> 00:37:01,440 Speaker 1: maybe a speech impediment of time that which I mean anyway, 733 00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:08,720 Speaker 1: um expectations you actually went high and my voices anyway, 734 00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:10,600 Speaker 1: we go work on that. Okay, you work on that 735 00:37:10,640 --> 00:37:11,960 Speaker 1: in front of the mirror and get back to us. 736 00:37:12,120 --> 00:37:14,680 Speaker 1: Let's do some Casey Musgrave's tickets before you can buy them. 737 00:37:14,760 --> 00:37:19,640 Speaker 1: They go on sale next Thursday, September ninth, ten am 738 00:37:19,680 --> 00:37:21,840 Speaker 1: ticketmaster dot com thanks to AEG. But we'll hook you 739 00:37:21,880 --> 00:37:23,840 Speaker 1: up with some free tickets next on The Fred's show, 740 00:37:24,040 --> 00:37:27,960 Speaker 1: It's one oh three five. Every time Casey Musgrave's tickets, 741 00:37:28,200 --> 00:37:30,880 Speaker 1: you win right now Conniver twenty five eight five five 742 00:37:31,200 --> 00:37:34,880 Speaker 1: nine one three five. The show's January twentieth at the 743 00:37:35,040 --> 00:37:37,920 Speaker 1: UC and you are in thanks to AEG Presents one 744 00:37:38,000 --> 00:37:40,920 Speaker 1: O three five. My iPad has been on my nuts 745 00:37:40,920 --> 00:37:44,040 Speaker 1: about my screen time and how long and how loud 746 00:37:44,120 --> 00:37:48,000 Speaker 1: my headphones are. I'm like, hey, Apple, I'm half death. Okay, yeah, yeah, 747 00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:51,120 Speaker 1: I turn it up louder. Discrimination is what that is. 748 00:37:51,840 --> 00:37:55,640 Speaker 1: It's just doing my job. Yeah, No, And do you 749 00:37:55,680 --> 00:37:57,879 Speaker 1: know how much time you've spent watching Netflix this week? 750 00:37:57,920 --> 00:38:00,840 Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, I'm well aware all the time. Do 751 00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:02,839 Speaker 1: you know on your screen time report you can go 752 00:38:02,880 --> 00:38:05,279 Speaker 1: and click and see like specifically what you spent your 753 00:38:05,280 --> 00:38:07,800 Speaker 1: time on, so like it'll say like TikTok twenty hours. 754 00:38:07,920 --> 00:38:09,839 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, No, I don't do that. I don't 755 00:38:09,840 --> 00:38:11,479 Speaker 1: look at that. I don't either, But I just found 756 00:38:11,520 --> 00:38:14,200 Speaker 1: out and I was like terrifying, highly demoralizing. I spent 757 00:38:14,400 --> 00:38:16,840 Speaker 1: four to five hours a day on Instagram, according to 758 00:38:17,600 --> 00:38:20,560 Speaker 1: yeah on the Instagram. Yeah yeah, someone, what are you 759 00:38:20,600 --> 00:38:23,800 Speaker 1: doing it? To be fair? I work on Instagram a lot, 760 00:38:24,120 --> 00:38:26,880 Speaker 1: so like during the showing on Instagram, responding to messages 761 00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:29,560 Speaker 1: or like making videos for Instagram on our inst So 762 00:38:29,880 --> 00:38:33,120 Speaker 1: I consider that work related. I mean, you do you 763 00:38:33,480 --> 00:38:35,600 Speaker 1: do work, you work hard. The other half is you 764 00:38:35,640 --> 00:38:39,760 Speaker 1: posting selfies of yourself and better filtered, like doing videos 765 00:38:39,760 --> 00:38:44,359 Speaker 1: like got its nod? Yeah no, no, I mean he's 766 00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:48,759 Speaker 1: not wrong the Christie brand. I will know. I mean, 767 00:38:48,800 --> 00:38:51,759 Speaker 1: it's you know, at least you're consistent. I will give 768 00:38:51,800 --> 00:38:54,640 Speaker 1: you that. You know what I mean. It's just you know, 769 00:38:55,400 --> 00:38:57,799 Speaker 1: first it was the nineties. You know, we had the 770 00:38:57,880 --> 00:39:02,240 Speaker 1: nineties Showcase and and ecs. Now that any season now, guys, 771 00:39:02,600 --> 00:39:06,680 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I know, yeah, but you 772 00:39:06,880 --> 00:39:09,120 Speaker 1: have friends who are probably also doing the same thing 773 00:39:09,120 --> 00:39:10,839 Speaker 1: on their Instagram so that you guys can like trade 774 00:39:10,880 --> 00:39:12,680 Speaker 1: off and take pictures of each other. If I if 775 00:39:12,719 --> 00:39:14,120 Speaker 1: I went to one of my buddies and we go 776 00:39:14,160 --> 00:39:16,640 Speaker 1: out and I'm like, hey, dude, get a shot of me, 777 00:39:17,520 --> 00:39:18,960 Speaker 1: Get a shot of me? Oh no way, no, wrong, 778 00:39:19,000 --> 00:39:21,600 Speaker 1: angle like high or higher, used the ring light? No, no, no, 779 00:39:21,600 --> 00:39:23,560 Speaker 1: my buddy would be like, screw you, dude, Like I'm 780 00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:26,600 Speaker 1: not doing this, like absolutely not right. I'll take Instagram 781 00:39:26,640 --> 00:39:29,600 Speaker 1: pictures of you, but I would feel I feel stupid 782 00:39:29,680 --> 00:39:33,600 Speaker 1: posting them. Why. I don't know, Like I like posting 783 00:39:33,600 --> 00:39:35,920 Speaker 1: pictures on my knees and when I'm with my family 784 00:39:35,960 --> 00:39:38,800 Speaker 1: and the airplane stuff. I like the guy. I like that, 785 00:39:38,840 --> 00:39:41,719 Speaker 1: I'm really not. But the stories I struggle with because 786 00:39:41,760 --> 00:39:45,359 Speaker 1: I'm like, why does anybody care what I'm doing right now? 787 00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:47,000 Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Oh? They care, they can, 788 00:39:47,320 --> 00:39:49,439 Speaker 1: and I'm grateful. I know a lot of you guys 789 00:39:49,480 --> 00:39:52,720 Speaker 1: follow Fred on air Friendship Radio. I mean I appreciate 790 00:39:52,760 --> 00:39:54,640 Speaker 1: all that. I really do. I just for me. It's 791 00:39:54,680 --> 00:39:57,080 Speaker 1: like I can tell you right now, if I didn't 792 00:39:57,080 --> 00:39:59,920 Speaker 1: have this job, I wouldn't I'd have finsta. I would 793 00:40:00,080 --> 00:40:01,600 Speaker 1: just have one so I could look at other people. 794 00:40:01,719 --> 00:40:04,720 Speaker 1: That was only really because I didn't account. That's okay, 795 00:40:04,760 --> 00:40:06,960 Speaker 1: Well that's should look at your boyfriend. We know that. 796 00:40:07,040 --> 00:40:09,680 Speaker 1: But and it's not that you've looked at mine too. 797 00:40:09,719 --> 00:40:12,799 Speaker 1: It's not Christy, not me, not Christie sixty nine sixty nine. 798 00:40:12,800 --> 00:40:16,080 Speaker 1: I mean, I know it's you, and it's fine. You 799 00:40:16,160 --> 00:40:18,200 Speaker 1: know it also likes all of your other posts to 800 00:40:18,280 --> 00:40:23,000 Speaker 1: That's how I know it's That's how I know it's you, 801 00:40:25,000 --> 00:40:28,200 Speaker 1: Christie sucks sixty nine sixty nine spelled the right way 802 00:40:28,360 --> 00:40:31,680 Speaker 1: seems to like everything that you post. It's really weird. 803 00:40:31,480 --> 00:40:33,960 Speaker 1: I take all my hate comments just to get more engagement. 804 00:40:34,160 --> 00:40:36,319 Speaker 1: We know people who do that, Yeah, we know people 805 00:40:36,360 --> 00:40:40,160 Speaker 1: who hate comments people do we know people who have 806 00:40:40,360 --> 00:40:44,840 Speaker 1: who have created their own haters in in an effort 807 00:40:44,880 --> 00:40:47,480 Speaker 1: to uh there There have been people into business who 808 00:40:47,520 --> 00:40:51,279 Speaker 1: have who have created campaigns against themselves. They've admitted to 809 00:40:51,320 --> 00:40:54,120 Speaker 1: it too, um, some of them joke. I just want 810 00:40:54,120 --> 00:40:57,160 Speaker 1: to point out. I mean I can't it's all organic hates. 811 00:40:57,280 --> 00:40:59,200 Speaker 1: But look at you. I really can't hate on that. 812 00:40:59,360 --> 00:41:01,240 Speaker 1: I mean, I think it's sort of silly, but it worked. 813 00:41:01,480 --> 00:41:03,799 Speaker 1: I'm talking about I didn't work for that person. But yeah, no, 814 00:41:03,960 --> 00:41:06,120 Speaker 1: I think I know what you're talking about. To spend 815 00:41:06,160 --> 00:41:08,800 Speaker 1: his own money on a on a hate campaign for himself. 816 00:41:08,840 --> 00:41:11,120 Speaker 1: Yeah he did admit that. He admitted, he admitted to 817 00:41:11,160 --> 00:41:13,799 Speaker 1: doing it. That person admitted to it. Yeah no, but 818 00:41:13,840 --> 00:41:17,120 Speaker 1: I mean I guess I I'm not spending my money 819 00:41:17,160 --> 00:41:19,400 Speaker 1: that way though, Like I could probably just post actual 820 00:41:19,480 --> 00:41:21,960 Speaker 1: dms and you think you could pay me. I'll hate 821 00:41:21,960 --> 00:41:23,480 Speaker 1: on your Instagram all day, friend? Do you do it 822 00:41:23,520 --> 00:41:26,359 Speaker 1: for free? As it is. I mean no, actually, you're 823 00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:29,200 Speaker 1: you're at you're a you're an Instagram supporter. I can 824 00:41:29,239 --> 00:41:33,040 Speaker 1: always kind of like from Rufio, I really can. Um, yeah, 825 00:41:33,040 --> 00:41:35,439 Speaker 1: I don't know did this social media stuff is. We'll 826 00:41:35,480 --> 00:41:37,760 Speaker 1: just struggle for me. We'll go out, I'll take Instagram 827 00:41:37,760 --> 00:41:39,440 Speaker 1: pictures for your friend, will do a host session. You 828 00:41:39,520 --> 00:41:42,040 Speaker 1: can't change outfit, feel stupid like I would do it. 829 00:41:42,080 --> 00:41:44,000 Speaker 1: I wouldn't do it. She'll take one picture of you 830 00:41:44,120 --> 00:41:48,279 Speaker 1: and you'll take eighty pictures of her exactly right. Okay, 831 00:41:49,239 --> 00:41:52,400 Speaker 1: six five, that's a great angle. Okay, that's enough for you. 832 00:41:52,480 --> 00:41:57,680 Speaker 1: Now me, now me, no wardrobe change. It'll be like Christie, 833 00:41:57,719 --> 00:42:01,000 Speaker 1: put your clothes bag on them on for the picture. 834 00:42:01,280 --> 00:42:08,440 Speaker 1: I know, I know my boyfriend heart emojis. I was 835 00:42:08,480 --> 00:42:12,280 Speaker 1: also amazed at the amount of and you guys admitted 836 00:42:12,320 --> 00:42:16,799 Speaker 1: to this, but the number of like so, I'll put 837 00:42:16,800 --> 00:42:19,880 Speaker 1: it this way, sultry photo shoots that go on among friends, 838 00:42:19,920 --> 00:42:22,359 Speaker 1: like so that you have a nice cachet, like you'll 839 00:42:22,520 --> 00:42:26,320 Speaker 1: you'll do photo shoots of each other to send to men. 840 00:42:26,520 --> 00:42:28,520 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Best nudes were taking by 841 00:42:28,600 --> 00:42:31,040 Speaker 1: my best friend Carly. She takes the best nudes of me. 842 00:42:31,520 --> 00:42:34,560 Speaker 1: I didn't realize this was happening. I don't do that. 843 00:42:34,760 --> 00:42:36,440 Speaker 1: If my buddy heard about it, if he were like, hey, 844 00:42:36,520 --> 00:42:38,960 Speaker 1: d come over, Um, well I take I want you 845 00:42:39,000 --> 00:42:40,520 Speaker 1: take a couple of shots of me nude, you know, 846 00:42:40,560 --> 00:42:46,080 Speaker 1: for for the scrullum scene. I'd be like, uh, where 847 00:42:46,160 --> 00:42:49,319 Speaker 1: I got just the guy? I got just the guy 848 00:42:49,360 --> 00:42:54,680 Speaker 1: for you? How much? How much I get paid? Now? 849 00:42:54,719 --> 00:42:56,400 Speaker 1: You're a good friend, ruf. You'll believe it or not 850 00:42:56,600 --> 00:42:58,680 Speaker 1: what you speak to me sometimes on this program. But 851 00:42:58,719 --> 00:43:00,440 Speaker 1: if if I asked you to come over and take 852 00:43:00,560 --> 00:43:04,759 Speaker 1: nudes for me, you would do it. Yeah, yeah, Why 853 00:43:04,840 --> 00:43:06,520 Speaker 1: why is that? I'm like, you already have your own tripod. 854 00:43:06,560 --> 00:43:12,440 Speaker 1: I don't know what you need me. I love this 855 00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:17,560 Speaker 1: guy anything. We can keep talking about this segment as 856 00:43:17,560 --> 00:43:22,239 Speaker 1: long as you want. It's The Fred Show on one 857 00:43:22,480 --> 00:43:25,760 Speaker 1: three five, Kiss Him? Do you have what it takes? 858 00:43:25,800 --> 00:43:30,080 Speaker 1: The Battle Show, biss Shelley In the Showbiz Showdown show 859 00:43:34,640 --> 00:43:42,360 Speaker 1: Good Morning Him yesterday, Klein got you to say a 860 00:43:42,520 --> 00:43:45,600 Speaker 1: naughty thing at the end of our show. And if 861 00:43:45,640 --> 00:43:47,600 Speaker 1: anyone missed it, they can hear it on the iHeartRadio app. 862 00:43:48,400 --> 00:43:52,080 Speaker 1: Just search for the Fred Show. Sometimes you shocked me. 863 00:43:52,160 --> 00:43:53,920 Speaker 1: Sometimes you shocked me with the things that you say. 864 00:43:53,960 --> 00:43:58,279 Speaker 1: Occasionally you'd say something and I'm just like, WHOA, Yeah, 865 00:43:58,280 --> 00:44:00,680 Speaker 1: I honestly have no idea how you wanted playing your house. 866 00:44:00,840 --> 00:44:03,840 Speaker 1: Oh oh she's been to that Oh oh, I know. 867 00:44:04,920 --> 00:44:07,360 Speaker 1: I don't question whether she's been to that place or not. 868 00:44:07,560 --> 00:44:09,600 Speaker 1: I don't think she's been. I just I can't see 869 00:44:09,640 --> 00:44:11,200 Speaker 1: her visiting. It doesn't seem like a place that you 870 00:44:11,200 --> 00:44:13,520 Speaker 1: would visit. She and I never walked to that place, 871 00:44:13,680 --> 00:44:16,680 Speaker 1: but we but we talked about that place on our walks, 872 00:44:16,719 --> 00:44:19,279 Speaker 1: I'm sure, among other things, with our feet, with our 873 00:44:19,440 --> 00:44:21,560 Speaker 1: bare feet in the grass between you know, the blades 874 00:44:21,600 --> 00:44:25,400 Speaker 1: of grass between our toes, grass, And we were constantly 875 00:44:25,440 --> 00:44:28,680 Speaker 1: having naughty walks in Lincoln Park, just a naughty walk. 876 00:44:30,000 --> 00:44:35,680 Speaker 1: What remember when from the other radio station yesterday? Yeah, 877 00:44:35,719 --> 00:44:37,920 Speaker 1: I do remember that. Remember when you first time you 878 00:44:37,960 --> 00:44:39,719 Speaker 1: ever met her and you said, what's it like to 879 00:44:39,760 --> 00:44:41,920 Speaker 1: be on the winning team or something like that? Was 880 00:44:41,960 --> 00:44:45,240 Speaker 1: I not wrong? I didn't say that, but it's usually 881 00:44:45,280 --> 00:44:47,440 Speaker 1: not the right thing to say to somebody when you 882 00:44:47,480 --> 00:44:50,000 Speaker 1: first meet them. But anyway, and then she made our 883 00:44:50,040 --> 00:44:53,080 Speaker 1: team winning her So there you go. There you go, 884 00:44:53,120 --> 00:44:55,800 Speaker 1: all right? Let's welcome our challenger. He's back for another one. 885 00:44:56,480 --> 00:45:03,680 Speaker 1: Brandon's here high Brandon own, Brendan, Hi, Brendon, Hello, gay man, 886 00:45:03,800 --> 00:45:07,480 Speaker 1: how you doing? I'm good at pushing buttons, I really am. 887 00:45:07,600 --> 00:45:11,080 Speaker 1: I'm I'm a broadcast professional. So let's do this. Um, 888 00:45:11,200 --> 00:45:13,680 Speaker 1: you're back for this is the what fourth time that 889 00:45:13,800 --> 00:45:17,160 Speaker 1: you've tied three times? And you haven't missed a single question? 890 00:45:17,200 --> 00:45:19,879 Speaker 1: Neither has Shelley. So we're back again. Four ninety six 891 00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:21,520 Speaker 1: and thirty four is a record. One hundred and three 892 00:45:21,520 --> 00:45:26,200 Speaker 1: dollars and fifty cents is the prize? Are you guys ready? Yeah, already? 893 00:45:26,600 --> 00:45:29,560 Speaker 1: Good lock Brendon you two? All right, Shelley, with all 894 00:45:29,600 --> 00:45:34,399 Speaker 1: due respect, good out to the sound booth. Poof, She goes, 895 00:45:34,440 --> 00:45:36,120 Speaker 1: I haven't had to do gorilla in like a week, 896 00:45:36,680 --> 00:45:41,120 Speaker 1: so Brendon, here we go. A question number one. This singer, dancer, 897 00:45:41,239 --> 00:45:45,080 Speaker 1: and diva, recently when viral after forgetting to take the 898 00:45:45,120 --> 00:45:49,799 Speaker 1: tag off for Dolce and Gabana outfit Jennifer Lopez. Why 899 00:45:49,840 --> 00:45:58,520 Speaker 1: has sold your boy Mattic Kanye West? Uh three too? Oh? 900 00:45:58,560 --> 00:46:01,360 Speaker 1: I don't know? Oh boy? Okay, all right, regroup, regroup. 901 00:46:01,960 --> 00:46:05,080 Speaker 1: This model and daughter of Cindy Crawford is twenty years 902 00:46:05,120 --> 00:46:15,800 Speaker 1: old today. Oh Man, Olivia Date, which horror movie remake 903 00:46:15,880 --> 00:46:18,760 Speaker 1: took the top spot and grossed twenty two million dollars 904 00:46:18,840 --> 00:46:23,960 Speaker 1: last weekend? And Man and a biopic about Amy Winehouse 905 00:46:24,080 --> 00:46:26,680 Speaker 1: is in the works. Amy joined a tragic club of 906 00:46:26,760 --> 00:46:32,239 Speaker 1: musician who all died at this young age. Okay, three? Three, 907 00:46:32,960 --> 00:46:35,160 Speaker 1: I don't know, we'll see. We gotta bring Shelley back. 908 00:46:35,160 --> 00:46:40,080 Speaker 1: Are we texting? I'm gonna update this board? He is 909 00:46:40,160 --> 00:46:44,400 Speaker 1: calling it a win for Shelley boy. Okay, the boards 910 00:46:44,400 --> 00:46:47,640 Speaker 1: being updated, that's the prediction. Three Shelley, three is the 911 00:46:47,640 --> 00:46:51,000 Speaker 1: score to beat. You have a window? Okay, I know, 912 00:46:51,040 --> 00:46:53,520 Speaker 1: I'm a little I'm a little surprised myself. Um here 913 00:46:53,520 --> 00:46:56,759 Speaker 1: we go. Question number one. This singer, dancer, and diva 914 00:46:57,000 --> 00:46:59,480 Speaker 1: recently win viral after forgetting to take the tag off 915 00:46:59,480 --> 00:47:05,760 Speaker 1: for Dulcha Gabana outfit Jennifer Lopez. Right, Why has Soldier 916 00:47:05,840 --> 00:47:12,720 Speaker 1: boy mad at Kanye West? He took him off his elbows? Correct? 917 00:47:13,040 --> 00:47:16,960 Speaker 1: This model and daughter, Cindy Crawford, is twenty years old today. 918 00:47:19,239 --> 00:47:31,120 Speaker 1: The heck is hurry did have to date the board 919 00:47:31,120 --> 00:47:34,480 Speaker 1: a lot of confidence, But who knows which horror movie 920 00:47:34,480 --> 00:47:36,839 Speaker 1: remake took the top spot and grows twenty two million 921 00:47:36,920 --> 00:47:42,480 Speaker 1: dollars last weekend. Candy Man, and finally, a biopic about 922 00:47:42,480 --> 00:47:45,000 Speaker 1: Amy Winehouse is in the works. Amy joined a tragic 923 00:47:45,000 --> 00:47:47,800 Speaker 1: club of musicians who all died at this young age. 924 00:47:49,520 --> 00:48:03,440 Speaker 1: Oh no, wow, I no, take that point back. Rufio 925 00:48:03,600 --> 00:48:06,600 Speaker 1: has to change the board again. In Brendon's he survives 926 00:48:06,680 --> 00:48:12,040 Speaker 1: another day. He's like Ken Jennings. He's never leaving oh 927 00:48:12,200 --> 00:48:15,720 Speaker 1: my seven club, and they all died with a lighter 928 00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:18,560 Speaker 1: in their hands. Where that superstition came for? Wow? I didn't. 929 00:48:18,600 --> 00:48:23,399 Speaker 1: I didn't know that last part m twenty seven. That's 930 00:48:23,400 --> 00:48:28,319 Speaker 1: pretty wild. All right, well, Chinese Choplin Morrison. We take 931 00:48:28,360 --> 00:48:30,239 Speaker 1: a break on Monday, but we're back on Tuesday. We 932 00:48:30,320 --> 00:48:34,800 Speaker 1: do it all over again, guys. So so it remains 933 00:48:34,800 --> 00:48:37,040 Speaker 1: four ninety six and thirty four, and Brendan has tied 934 00:48:37,040 --> 00:48:41,319 Speaker 1: with Shelley four consecutive times. Brendan, hold on one second, Okay, 935 00:48:41,320 --> 00:48:46,040 Speaker 1: stay right there, he's back on Tuesday morning. Shelley. Yeah, 936 00:48:46,400 --> 00:48:48,640 Speaker 1: you're upset, and you couldn't. You could have gotten rid 937 00:48:48,640 --> 00:48:51,200 Speaker 1: of this guy. You could have eliminated the threat. But no, no, 938 00:48:51,360 --> 00:48:54,280 Speaker 1: were he still here. I just love that Rufio was wrong. Honestly, 939 00:48:55,840 --> 00:48:59,799 Speaker 1: I thought that updating the board was in order for sure, right, No, 940 00:49:00,080 --> 00:49:02,319 Speaker 1: I thought you were gonna get Kaya Gurber right away. 941 00:49:02,320 --> 00:49:03,720 Speaker 1: I thought that was the one that was going to clinch. 942 00:49:03,760 --> 00:49:07,440 Speaker 1: It was Kaya Gerber, all right. Chovis Shelley Show ten 943 00:49:07,520 --> 00:49:10,200 Speaker 1: to noon later on today, have a great day, Shells 944 00:49:10,800 --> 00:49:14,400 Speaker 1: all right, you too, bye. So how about this childhood 945 00:49:14,440 --> 00:49:18,520 Speaker 1: sweethearts have married in a real life version of the Notebook. No, 946 00:49:18,600 --> 00:49:22,239 Speaker 1: I've never seen it. After twenty two years apart, you 947 00:49:22,280 --> 00:49:25,440 Speaker 1: can't do this story, friend, I think I know what 948 00:49:25,520 --> 00:49:27,960 Speaker 1: the story is now. The guy even proposed that the 949 00:49:28,000 --> 00:49:30,080 Speaker 1: engagement ring that he gave her when they were fifteen. 950 00:49:30,560 --> 00:49:33,560 Speaker 1: Helen Marshall and Graham or Richardson I believe, as how 951 00:49:33,560 --> 00:49:35,360 Speaker 1: you say his name, were both in an early forties 952 00:49:35,400 --> 00:49:37,960 Speaker 1: a met in school, admired each other from across the 953 00:49:38,000 --> 00:49:41,719 Speaker 1: hallways before they fell had over heels in love as teenagers. 954 00:49:41,719 --> 00:49:44,960 Speaker 1: After nine months of romantic walks and school discos and 955 00:49:45,160 --> 00:49:49,480 Speaker 1: whatever else, he apparently proposed to her at like fifteen. 956 00:49:50,320 --> 00:49:52,120 Speaker 1: Their parents were worried they were way too young. The 957 00:49:52,120 --> 00:49:55,280 Speaker 1: engagement never w up happening. He went off to college 958 00:49:55,280 --> 00:49:57,759 Speaker 1: in ninety four, the pair drifted apart, just like in 959 00:49:57,800 --> 00:50:00,960 Speaker 1: the movie with Ryan Gosling and Rachel McCadam. The letters 960 00:50:01,080 --> 00:50:04,239 Speaker 1: proclaiming their lost love never reached each other, and they 961 00:50:04,320 --> 00:50:07,399 Speaker 1: got on with their lives separately, so they got into 962 00:50:07,400 --> 00:50:10,520 Speaker 1: different relationships, They had kids, all of that, then both 963 00:50:10,640 --> 00:50:15,279 Speaker 1: split up. Um, she discovered I guess after reaching out 964 00:50:15,320 --> 00:50:17,719 Speaker 1: to him on Facebook. Maybe then he still wanted to 965 00:50:17,760 --> 00:50:21,080 Speaker 1: be with her, and two decades later they proposed. He 966 00:50:21,160 --> 00:50:24,319 Speaker 1: proposed with the same ring from all those years later, 967 00:50:24,320 --> 00:50:27,880 Speaker 1: and now they're married, they were less still there, like 968 00:50:27,920 --> 00:50:30,480 Speaker 1: if she got the letters, like at the end, you 969 00:50:30,600 --> 00:50:34,279 Speaker 1: know sure, I'm not sure you every day? So how 970 00:50:34,320 --> 00:50:36,439 Speaker 1: do let me ask you this question? Maybe you don't care, 971 00:50:36,480 --> 00:50:38,480 Speaker 1: but like I don't want to use anyone specific in 972 00:50:38,520 --> 00:50:40,120 Speaker 1: the room. You'd only married one, so I'm not going 973 00:50:40,160 --> 00:50:41,920 Speaker 1: to do this to you. But let's say you know 974 00:50:41,960 --> 00:50:47,080 Speaker 1: whoever was listening now and they're married and um, and 975 00:50:47,120 --> 00:50:50,360 Speaker 1: then god forbid, you get divorced and then your husband 976 00:50:50,400 --> 00:50:53,280 Speaker 1: or wife winds up with another person from from before 977 00:50:54,040 --> 00:50:57,120 Speaker 1: and proclaims that that was their soul mate? Does that 978 00:50:57,160 --> 00:51:00,319 Speaker 1: make you feel even worse? Like, oh, so, what was 979 00:51:00,360 --> 00:51:03,480 Speaker 1: I placeholder, you know what I mean? Like, I mean, 980 00:51:03,520 --> 00:51:05,800 Speaker 1: that would be like salt in the wound. I'd be like, also, 981 00:51:05,880 --> 00:51:08,160 Speaker 1: this was all a waste of time, like all of it, 982 00:51:08,200 --> 00:51:11,319 Speaker 1: like there wasn't but like I wasn't even number one ever. Yeah, 983 00:51:11,320 --> 00:51:14,759 Speaker 1: that's very true. I mean, I mean, no, people say 984 00:51:14,800 --> 00:51:16,400 Speaker 1: mean things that that they get divorced and maybe you 985 00:51:16,440 --> 00:51:18,440 Speaker 1: don't care anymore because you know I got divorced and 986 00:51:18,440 --> 00:51:20,040 Speaker 1: you're done with it. But I think that would be 987 00:51:20,080 --> 00:51:22,919 Speaker 1: the worst, Like if if I don't know, getting back 988 00:51:22,960 --> 00:51:25,520 Speaker 1: with that person, I'm married with someone for ten you know, 989 00:51:25,600 --> 00:51:27,920 Speaker 1: ten years, we have children together. You know, I know 990 00:51:28,000 --> 00:51:30,480 Speaker 1: that every marriage works out, but that would really I 991 00:51:30,480 --> 00:51:32,799 Speaker 1: think add salt to the wound. As if my ex wife, 992 00:51:32,840 --> 00:51:35,399 Speaker 1: if I had one married somebody else that was like, oh, 993 00:51:35,400 --> 00:51:37,080 Speaker 1: by the way, that was my soul mate. After all, 994 00:51:37,200 --> 00:51:39,120 Speaker 1: I've had excess to get back with their ax after 995 00:51:39,160 --> 00:51:41,520 Speaker 1: we break up, and that does her It feels like discarded, 996 00:51:41,560 --> 00:51:43,320 Speaker 1: Like were you thinking about her the whole time? Was 997 00:51:43,360 --> 00:51:46,600 Speaker 1: I just there for you? Yeah, Shelley, has that ever 998 00:51:46,640 --> 00:51:48,560 Speaker 1: happened to you? Have you ever dated somebody and then 999 00:51:48,600 --> 00:51:50,960 Speaker 1: they wound up like the next person they wound up 1000 00:51:51,000 --> 00:51:55,279 Speaker 1: with is the one. Oh yeah, yeah, it happens to 1001 00:51:55,320 --> 00:51:57,920 Speaker 1: me every time. I feel like I'm the guy that 1002 00:51:58,040 --> 00:52:00,399 Speaker 1: makes you realize that you don't want to date me more. 1003 00:52:00,440 --> 00:52:02,960 Speaker 1: There you go. No, I'm serious. What they had was 1004 00:52:03,040 --> 00:52:07,040 Speaker 1: better than what they're getting. And I don't I don't know, 1005 00:52:08,680 --> 00:52:11,600 Speaker 1: I don't. I'm not aware of anybody going backwards. But 1006 00:52:11,880 --> 00:52:15,080 Speaker 1: usually people date me, even if it's briefly, and then 1007 00:52:15,120 --> 00:52:18,840 Speaker 1: within a year they're married to somebody else. Exactly. No, 1008 00:52:18,920 --> 00:52:21,960 Speaker 1: I think it's like, you know what, if that's what 1009 00:52:22,000 --> 00:52:24,640 Speaker 1: I'm dealing with, I'll just marrying the next guy. Maybe 1010 00:52:24,680 --> 00:52:27,560 Speaker 1: what I was gonna say, maybe I'm the weird one here, 1011 00:52:27,600 --> 00:52:29,359 Speaker 1: But like, to me, that would make me feel better, 1012 00:52:29,440 --> 00:52:31,680 Speaker 1: like if they went back to somebody who they dated before, 1013 00:52:32,000 --> 00:52:33,760 Speaker 1: because it would be like, oh, then I never really 1014 00:52:34,320 --> 00:52:37,200 Speaker 1: had a shot, like that was always what was supposed 1015 00:52:37,239 --> 00:52:38,799 Speaker 1: to be for you. I guess that's the exact thing 1016 00:52:38,840 --> 00:52:41,000 Speaker 1: that would upset me, is like, oh well I never 1017 00:52:41,080 --> 00:52:43,520 Speaker 1: had a shot. Like all the issues we had, we 1018 00:52:43,719 --> 00:52:45,840 Speaker 1: were never really going to solve them because this person 1019 00:52:45,920 --> 00:52:47,400 Speaker 1: was who you were thinking about the whole time, and 1020 00:52:47,400 --> 00:52:49,520 Speaker 1: now now you're with them saying they were your soulmates, 1021 00:52:49,520 --> 00:52:51,720 Speaker 1: so like you didn't really care about fixing our problems. 1022 00:52:51,840 --> 00:52:55,040 Speaker 1: That's where my brain would go. I'm not saying that, 1023 00:52:56,000 --> 00:52:57,799 Speaker 1: I feel like there's nothing I could really do about it. 1024 00:52:57,800 --> 00:53:00,479 Speaker 1: Whereas if they went off as somebody knew, I feel 1025 00:53:00,520 --> 00:53:02,400 Speaker 1: like we could have done more, you know, anyone else. 1026 00:53:02,480 --> 00:53:04,719 Speaker 1: Not that over the fact that, like, once you date Fred, 1027 00:53:04,719 --> 00:53:07,920 Speaker 1: apparently you're just done dating. No, I mean yesterday. It's 1028 00:53:07,960 --> 00:53:09,520 Speaker 1: so bad that you're like, I'm going to settle with 1029 00:53:09,520 --> 00:53:11,239 Speaker 1: the next No, I mean I'm serious, Like, and I 1030 00:53:11,239 --> 00:53:13,279 Speaker 1: don't know if it's just the age demographic or whatever. 1031 00:53:13,320 --> 00:53:15,200 Speaker 1: I think. I think that has more to do with it, honestly. 1032 00:53:15,360 --> 00:53:18,000 Speaker 1: But if I can think of like ten girls I've dated, 1033 00:53:18,360 --> 00:53:20,680 Speaker 1: even casually over the past ten years I've lived in 1034 00:53:20,760 --> 00:53:23,319 Speaker 1: Chicago eleven years, I think most of the time they're 1035 00:53:23,360 --> 00:53:27,480 Speaker 1: married within within eighteen months of not talking to me anymore. 1036 00:53:28,200 --> 00:53:31,080 Speaker 1: So if you're single, if you're the ladies and you 1037 00:53:31,080 --> 00:53:34,160 Speaker 1: want to get married, date friend, yeah, no, because you're 1038 00:53:34,200 --> 00:53:39,080 Speaker 1: like exactly. I tend to be like the soulmate magnet. 1039 00:53:39,960 --> 00:53:42,760 Speaker 1: You know, I leave some fairy dust behind it. Maybe 1040 00:53:42,760 --> 00:53:45,960 Speaker 1: that's your soulmate comes crawling to find it. Am I 1041 00:53:45,960 --> 00:53:47,359 Speaker 1: about to try to go on a date with Fred. 1042 00:53:51,280 --> 00:53:59,640 Speaker 1: Fred's not trying to go on a date with you, Fred. 1043 00:53:59,680 --> 00:54:02,919 Speaker 1: Show one three m Chicago's number one hit music station, 1044 00:54:03,000 --> 00:54:06,560 Speaker 1: Good Mornings. I want to know what parents think of this. 1045 00:54:07,200 --> 00:54:10,560 Speaker 1: So this is related to a TikTok video that came 1046 00:54:10,600 --> 00:54:12,840 Speaker 1: out a couple of days ago. It's seen over a 1047 00:54:12,880 --> 00:54:18,719 Speaker 1: million views so far. A woman named Destiny, a mother, says, 1048 00:54:18,800 --> 00:54:21,600 Speaker 1: let me know if this is weird, and she goes 1049 00:54:21,600 --> 00:54:24,440 Speaker 1: on to explain I don't pay my daughter for chores. 1050 00:54:25,120 --> 00:54:27,600 Speaker 1: She has two kids, She says, I do pay her 1051 00:54:28,120 --> 00:54:31,120 Speaker 1: for the things that she's passionate about. She used the 1052 00:54:31,160 --> 00:54:34,120 Speaker 1: example of when her daughter used to learn gymnastics, and 1053 00:54:34,160 --> 00:54:36,759 Speaker 1: when lessons began getting difficult, her daughter wanted to quit. 1054 00:54:37,080 --> 00:54:38,960 Speaker 1: I said, you know what, let's make this your job. 1055 00:54:39,239 --> 00:54:42,040 Speaker 1: I'll pay you for that. And my belief behind it 1056 00:54:42,080 --> 00:54:44,160 Speaker 1: is that I want my daughter to know and have 1057 00:54:44,360 --> 00:54:47,799 Speaker 1: a positive association with money and feel that she could 1058 00:54:47,800 --> 00:54:50,960 Speaker 1: actually get paid to do something that she enjoys. So, 1059 00:54:51,840 --> 00:54:53,759 Speaker 1: I mean, you got people all over the board on 1060 00:54:53,800 --> 00:54:55,479 Speaker 1: this right. You got people saying this is a great idea, 1061 00:54:55,520 --> 00:54:59,200 Speaker 1: this is a terrible idea. Fee three five say you 1062 00:54:59,200 --> 00:55:01,239 Speaker 1: get ahold of us at the ChIL. Some love the 1063 00:55:01,280 --> 00:55:04,200 Speaker 1: idea of incentivizing interests and believe that their younger selves 1064 00:55:04,239 --> 00:55:06,839 Speaker 1: may have been more encouraged to further pursue hobbies had 1065 00:55:06,880 --> 00:55:10,359 Speaker 1: they been given us a privilege. Some believe that self 1066 00:55:10,360 --> 00:55:15,480 Speaker 1: care tasks like daily George Orgeorge Coach Coach would have 1067 00:55:15,480 --> 00:55:19,960 Speaker 1: been viewed less begrudgingly without the money. However, as in 1068 00:55:20,040 --> 00:55:23,720 Speaker 1: any debate, others across the internet are opposed to the idea. 1069 00:55:23,800 --> 00:55:26,040 Speaker 1: My thing is my daughter already decided she didn't like it, 1070 00:55:26,400 --> 00:55:29,040 Speaker 1: so she is not indirectly teaching her to suffer through 1071 00:55:29,200 --> 00:55:31,719 Speaker 1: something she doesn't enjoy just to get paid. Or her 1072 00:55:31,800 --> 00:55:34,680 Speaker 1: daughter rather had decided she didn't like it, so I 1073 00:55:34,680 --> 00:55:37,480 Speaker 1: mean they were I've heard like a million different arguments 1074 00:55:37,480 --> 00:55:39,560 Speaker 1: on stuff like this before, Like growing up, I had 1075 00:55:39,600 --> 00:55:41,600 Speaker 1: stuff that my parents wanted me to do around the house, 1076 00:55:41,640 --> 00:55:45,520 Speaker 1: and it was all sort of included within I believe 1077 00:55:45,560 --> 00:55:47,600 Speaker 1: at one point there was an allowance. I think it 1078 00:55:47,680 --> 00:55:48,920 Speaker 1: was like I don't remember what it was, but I 1079 00:55:48,960 --> 00:55:50,719 Speaker 1: got a certain amount of money a week, and then 1080 00:55:50,719 --> 00:55:52,120 Speaker 1: there was a list of stuff I had to do. 1081 00:55:53,040 --> 00:55:56,320 Speaker 1: And some would argue, well, you know, you suppose you 1082 00:55:56,320 --> 00:55:58,239 Speaker 1: should do this stuff anyway because you live in a house, right, 1083 00:55:58,280 --> 00:56:00,520 Speaker 1: so it's just that just comes with it. Whatever. But 1084 00:56:00,520 --> 00:56:02,040 Speaker 1: I think what my parents were trying to do is 1085 00:56:02,080 --> 00:56:05,239 Speaker 1: teach me that, you know, you work and then you 1086 00:56:05,280 --> 00:56:07,279 Speaker 1: get paid, and then you have money, and then you 1087 00:56:07,360 --> 00:56:08,719 Speaker 1: save that, you know. I mean, so there's a lot 1088 00:56:08,719 --> 00:56:10,600 Speaker 1: of lessons there, right, Like if you do the work, 1089 00:56:10,600 --> 00:56:12,879 Speaker 1: then you get paid. If you have the money, then 1090 00:56:12,920 --> 00:56:15,040 Speaker 1: you can buy what you can afford now, or you 1091 00:56:15,040 --> 00:56:16,759 Speaker 1: could have buy you know, what you could afford like 1092 00:56:16,800 --> 00:56:19,160 Speaker 1: in a month or six months or whatever, depending on 1093 00:56:19,200 --> 00:56:21,600 Speaker 1: how much money you save. So I think that was 1094 00:56:21,640 --> 00:56:23,520 Speaker 1: a lesson there. But my parents were not going to 1095 00:56:23,520 --> 00:56:26,719 Speaker 1: pay me to go to basketball practice, right, They were 1096 00:56:26,719 --> 00:56:29,560 Speaker 1: not going to pay me to do you know whatever. 1097 00:56:29,760 --> 00:56:32,440 Speaker 1: But I don't understand. It's like if your child doesn't 1098 00:56:32,600 --> 00:56:35,200 Speaker 1: is not interested in whatever they're doing, you're kind of 1099 00:56:35,239 --> 00:56:37,920 Speaker 1: just bribing them to continue to do it with money, 1100 00:56:38,520 --> 00:56:42,600 Speaker 1: you know. Like she didn't like gymnastics, like find something else, 1101 00:56:42,600 --> 00:56:45,839 Speaker 1: but I'll pay you to continue to do gymnastics. And yeah, 1102 00:56:45,840 --> 00:56:47,520 Speaker 1: and the example she uses ROOFEO is that when it 1103 00:56:47,520 --> 00:56:49,600 Speaker 1: got hard, then she started paying her kid. It's like, 1104 00:56:49,880 --> 00:56:51,800 Speaker 1: which stuff gets hard in life. You don't start getting 1105 00:56:51,800 --> 00:56:54,480 Speaker 1: paid more right, just because it's hard, you know. And 1106 00:56:54,600 --> 00:56:56,719 Speaker 1: I also feel like there are other lessons there too, 1107 00:56:56,840 --> 00:56:58,560 Speaker 1: just coming from the guy who has no kids, but like, 1108 00:56:58,600 --> 00:57:01,000 Speaker 1: if you teach your kid, Okay, you know your kid 1109 00:57:01,000 --> 00:57:02,880 Speaker 1: wants to take gymnastics, you give them that choice. You 1110 00:57:02,880 --> 00:57:05,520 Speaker 1: want to take gymnastics, you want to take softball, baseball, 1111 00:57:05,840 --> 00:57:07,680 Speaker 1: basketb whatever it is you want to take this you 1112 00:57:07,680 --> 00:57:09,200 Speaker 1: want to do to say okay, yes, I do well, 1113 00:57:09,239 --> 00:57:11,439 Speaker 1: Then you're committed to the season, like you have to 1114 00:57:11,480 --> 00:57:14,080 Speaker 1: start to finish or a season or a period of 1115 00:57:14,120 --> 00:57:17,040 Speaker 1: time or whatever it is, and I like, you're not 1116 00:57:17,080 --> 00:57:19,560 Speaker 1: allowed to quit until that's over. You have to finish 1117 00:57:19,560 --> 00:57:22,360 Speaker 1: what you started, and you won't necessarily get paid to 1118 00:57:22,360 --> 00:57:24,200 Speaker 1: finish what you started always, So I guess I don't 1119 00:57:24,240 --> 00:57:25,880 Speaker 1: know that. I think it's a great idea to always 1120 00:57:25,920 --> 00:57:30,680 Speaker 1: associate completion with money because in the real world, won't 1121 00:57:30,720 --> 00:57:33,040 Speaker 1: necessarily always get paid for stuff that you like or 1122 00:57:33,080 --> 00:57:35,960 Speaker 1: don't like doing. You won't get Oftentimes people don't get 1123 00:57:36,000 --> 00:57:38,040 Speaker 1: paid anything but the stuff they love to do, and 1124 00:57:38,080 --> 00:57:40,280 Speaker 1: they're the stuff they do get paid for is the 1125 00:57:40,280 --> 00:57:42,320 Speaker 1: stuff that they're doing to be able to afford the 1126 00:57:42,320 --> 00:57:43,880 Speaker 1: stuff that they want to do, you know what I mean. 1127 00:57:44,000 --> 00:57:45,480 Speaker 1: So I don't know if I think it's it's a 1128 00:57:45,560 --> 00:57:47,760 Speaker 1: very good lesson. I don't know. I could see you 1129 00:57:47,840 --> 00:57:49,600 Speaker 1: getting an allowance for stuff like that. I never got 1130 00:57:49,640 --> 00:57:51,640 Speaker 1: an allowance as a kid, so I don't know what 1131 00:57:51,680 --> 00:57:53,280 Speaker 1: that's like. My mom would just say, I gave birth 1132 00:57:53,320 --> 00:57:55,400 Speaker 1: to you, you owe me. You are allowed to live. Yeah, 1133 00:57:55,440 --> 00:57:56,920 Speaker 1: She's like, I let you live in this house, so 1134 00:57:56,920 --> 00:57:58,920 Speaker 1: you have to do all the chores. But I like 1135 00:57:59,040 --> 00:58:00,919 Speaker 1: the idea of getting allowed, like because so many people 1136 00:58:00,960 --> 00:58:02,720 Speaker 1: just quit things when they get hard, So you have 1137 00:58:02,760 --> 00:58:04,680 Speaker 1: to have some kind of motivation to keep your kid 1138 00:58:04,720 --> 00:58:06,880 Speaker 1: in something. Yeah, but I don't like the part about 1139 00:58:07,040 --> 00:58:09,320 Speaker 1: you know, like you said, Fred, when life gets hard, 1140 00:58:09,600 --> 00:58:12,120 Speaker 1: then what like imagine going to work and life got 1141 00:58:12,120 --> 00:58:13,920 Speaker 1: hard or your job got hard, You're not about to 1142 00:58:13,920 --> 00:58:15,640 Speaker 1: go get this raise or something, you know what I mean. 1143 00:58:15,680 --> 00:58:17,520 Speaker 1: Like that's not really how it works. And that's where 1144 00:58:17,520 --> 00:58:19,280 Speaker 1: I have a hard time with parentings. I'm really a parent, 1145 00:58:19,320 --> 00:58:21,240 Speaker 1: But I think about this a lot, like how you're 1146 00:58:21,240 --> 00:58:24,320 Speaker 1: gonna teach Ashland, like, you know, just the difficulties in life, right, 1147 00:58:24,320 --> 00:58:26,360 Speaker 1: Like life's not fair, Like I think about the kids 1148 00:58:26,400 --> 00:58:28,640 Speaker 1: just pay him off to get through hard stuff. I'm 1149 00:58:28,640 --> 00:58:33,760 Speaker 1: paying him nothing. Trust me, we know that, Like you're 1150 00:58:33,800 --> 00:58:35,840 Speaker 1: gonna help me. You're gonna, like I said, kids eat 1151 00:58:35,840 --> 00:58:37,880 Speaker 1: free till eleven, You're gonna be eleven till you're eighteen. 1152 00:58:38,160 --> 00:58:45,280 Speaker 1: Like I believe it. I believe it. But it's kind 1153 00:58:45,320 --> 00:58:47,400 Speaker 1: of the same thing. Like you were saying Fred, like 1154 00:58:47,600 --> 00:58:49,840 Speaker 1: you're you're paying as it gets harder, Like but you 1155 00:58:49,920 --> 00:58:53,160 Speaker 1: also said like, um, like you're getting money at the 1156 00:58:53,240 --> 00:58:54,680 Speaker 1: end of things. That's kind of how like if you 1157 00:58:54,720 --> 00:58:57,439 Speaker 1: graduate high school, you you're assuming you're gonna get all 1158 00:58:57,440 --> 00:58:59,760 Speaker 1: this money, you know what I'm saying, Like I think 1159 00:58:59,760 --> 00:59:01,720 Speaker 1: it play. My parents tried to pay me for grades. 1160 00:59:02,160 --> 00:59:03,960 Speaker 1: And I've heard about that one before, like if you 1161 00:59:04,000 --> 00:59:07,560 Speaker 1: get a's, like school is your job, and so will 1162 00:59:07,600 --> 00:59:11,080 Speaker 1: incentivize a's and b's with X and Y. You know, 1163 00:59:11,160 --> 00:59:12,960 Speaker 1: I don't. I don't remember what the money was. And 1164 00:59:12,960 --> 00:59:15,080 Speaker 1: and there are people who would argue that that's that's 1165 00:59:15,160 --> 00:59:17,960 Speaker 1: overreaching too, because well, you you should just want to 1166 00:59:17,960 --> 00:59:20,680 Speaker 1: do well in school, But I didn't necessarily want to 1167 00:59:20,680 --> 00:59:22,520 Speaker 1: try that hardest school. I think my parents were trying 1168 00:59:22,520 --> 00:59:24,400 Speaker 1: to instill in me that the school was my job, 1169 00:59:24,640 --> 00:59:26,959 Speaker 1: and not that basketball or anything else was my job. 1170 00:59:27,200 --> 00:59:29,240 Speaker 1: And so I don't know if it worked. I don't 1171 00:59:29,280 --> 00:59:30,680 Speaker 1: think it. My grades were never very good, so it 1172 00:59:30,760 --> 00:59:33,160 Speaker 1: must not have worked. Even even money couldn't buy me 1173 00:59:33,200 --> 00:59:36,120 Speaker 1: an a. I couldn't do it. If my parents said 1174 00:59:36,120 --> 00:59:38,240 Speaker 1: I'll give you one hundred dollars forever A they would 1175 00:59:38,240 --> 00:59:41,520 Speaker 1: have not paid a dollar. Still, I wasn't. I don't know. 1176 00:59:41,600 --> 00:59:44,800 Speaker 1: School wasn't my thing. No, it wasn't. In so college, 1177 00:59:44,800 --> 00:59:47,200 Speaker 1: believe it or not, it's straight kind of get for 1178 00:59:47,240 --> 00:59:53,120 Speaker 1: a C season, d's let's go up. You went it 1179 00:59:53,160 --> 00:59:56,480 Speaker 1: with a career in radios, that's what you wind up with. 1180 00:59:58,040 --> 01:00:00,200 Speaker 1: I guess A's two depends where you get him in 1181 01:00:00,320 --> 01:00:04,480 Speaker 1: Mesopotamia aids me in radio career. Hey Kimberly, good morning, 1182 01:00:05,360 --> 01:00:08,640 Speaker 1: Good morning. So do you have kids story or have 1183 01:00:08,720 --> 01:00:10,440 Speaker 1: you experienced this yet for yourself or it's just just 1184 01:00:10,440 --> 01:00:13,560 Speaker 1: sort of what you experience growing up. So it's my 1185 01:00:13,720 --> 01:00:16,920 Speaker 1: experience growing up. But I also work with children. Okay, 1186 01:00:18,400 --> 01:00:20,480 Speaker 1: it's seeing that all the kids that I work with 1187 01:00:20,600 --> 01:00:25,640 Speaker 1: us that have gotten allowances, they end up quitting their 1188 01:00:25,680 --> 01:00:28,919 Speaker 1: sport because they just they hate it. Yeah, I don't. 1189 01:00:28,960 --> 01:00:31,040 Speaker 1: I just again not a parent. I would love to 1190 01:00:31,080 --> 01:00:32,560 Speaker 1: hear your parents have to say, I don't know that. 1191 01:00:32,600 --> 01:00:35,240 Speaker 1: I love the idea of when things get hard, then 1192 01:00:35,280 --> 01:00:39,439 Speaker 1: we start throwing money at you, because it ain't gonna 1193 01:00:39,440 --> 01:00:41,360 Speaker 1: happen in the real world. Things get hard and you 1194 01:00:41,360 --> 01:00:44,080 Speaker 1: either you either work through it or you don't and 1195 01:00:44,160 --> 01:00:45,880 Speaker 1: you quit, and then you don't get any money. If 1196 01:00:45,880 --> 01:00:50,800 Speaker 1: you quit your job, you don't get paid anymore. You know. Yeah, yeah, 1197 01:00:50,800 --> 01:00:53,040 Speaker 1: I don't know. But I also on the flip side, though, 1198 01:00:53,560 --> 01:00:55,960 Speaker 1: I like the idea of paying your kids to do something, 1199 01:00:56,000 --> 01:00:58,480 Speaker 1: even if it's a small amount, because you teach them 1200 01:00:58,480 --> 01:01:00,440 Speaker 1: the value of work, You teach them the value of money, 1201 01:01:00,520 --> 01:01:02,400 Speaker 1: and then maybe you could say, like, if you do more, 1202 01:01:02,440 --> 01:01:04,600 Speaker 1: you can make more. Like I don't know. Here, here 1203 01:01:04,600 --> 01:01:06,440 Speaker 1: are the basic obligations. You gotta make your betty, I 1204 01:01:06,440 --> 01:01:07,800 Speaker 1: clean your room, whatever. But if you want to go 1205 01:01:07,840 --> 01:01:09,440 Speaker 1: and mow the lawn or something, then we'll pay you 1206 01:01:09,480 --> 01:01:11,360 Speaker 1: this much more. And then the kid has the option 1207 01:01:11,800 --> 01:01:14,120 Speaker 1: to that you want your neighbor's lawns, and they'll, you know, 1208 01:01:14,200 --> 01:01:16,040 Speaker 1: go go pitch them and get that paid by them, 1209 01:01:16,040 --> 01:01:18,320 Speaker 1: and then you know, you're learning about the value of money. 1210 01:01:18,440 --> 01:01:20,400 Speaker 1: But if I go to my boss and go, hey, 1211 01:01:20,440 --> 01:01:21,560 Speaker 1: you know what, I really don't want to do that 1212 01:01:21,600 --> 01:01:23,840 Speaker 1: thing you're asking me to do unless you pay me more. 1213 01:01:24,000 --> 01:01:26,320 Speaker 1: They'll go cool, we'll find someone to do a cheaper buy. 1214 01:01:26,840 --> 01:01:29,720 Speaker 1: And my keycard doesn't work anymore. So I don't know 1215 01:01:29,760 --> 01:01:32,040 Speaker 1: if it's a good lesson, but thank you, Kimberly, have 1216 01:01:32,080 --> 01:01:36,439 Speaker 1: a good day. Yeah, And I know that, like racing 1217 01:01:36,520 --> 01:01:38,200 Speaker 1: kids right now has got to be so hard. I mean, 1218 01:01:38,360 --> 01:01:40,120 Speaker 1: my friends are doing it in social media, and they 1219 01:01:40,120 --> 01:01:43,520 Speaker 1: are all these different outlets now that didn't exist when 1220 01:01:43,680 --> 01:01:45,760 Speaker 1: we were all in school for the most part, I mean, 1221 01:01:45,920 --> 01:01:48,360 Speaker 1: some of us maybe, but like you know, the bullying 1222 01:01:48,800 --> 01:01:51,440 Speaker 1: doesn't stop necessarily when the when the bell rings anymore, 1223 01:01:51,440 --> 01:01:53,400 Speaker 1: because you can do it on social media, and you 1224 01:01:53,440 --> 01:01:54,920 Speaker 1: can do it anonymously. You don't, you know, have to 1225 01:01:54,960 --> 01:01:56,400 Speaker 1: put your name next to it. You can be mean 1226 01:01:56,400 --> 01:01:58,480 Speaker 1: to people. But at the same time, you know, I 1227 01:01:58,600 --> 01:02:01,000 Speaker 1: see and I hear about people protecting their kids from 1228 01:02:01,000 --> 01:02:03,120 Speaker 1: all these hard things, or trying to make the hard 1229 01:02:03,160 --> 01:02:06,640 Speaker 1: things easier by incentivizing them, and these you know, and 1230 01:02:06,960 --> 01:02:09,560 Speaker 1: I appreciate that, and I know that there's a line 1231 01:02:09,600 --> 01:02:12,120 Speaker 1: at which it's crossed and then it's it's not okay 1232 01:02:12,160 --> 01:02:15,280 Speaker 1: anymore on any level. But I keep going back to 1233 01:02:15,360 --> 01:02:18,560 Speaker 1: the real world analogy, where like, someday, your kid's gonna 1234 01:02:18,600 --> 01:02:20,120 Speaker 1: move out of the house, your kid's not gonna be 1235 01:02:20,160 --> 01:02:23,000 Speaker 1: under your supervision anymore, and your kid's gonna have to 1236 01:02:23,000 --> 01:02:26,439 Speaker 1: play by the rules the society lays out, whether they're 1237 01:02:26,440 --> 01:02:29,880 Speaker 1: fair or unfair, and they don't necessarily involve being nice, 1238 01:02:29,920 --> 01:02:32,320 Speaker 1: and they don't involve paying you more for things that 1239 01:02:32,360 --> 01:02:34,680 Speaker 1: you don't want to do. And so how do you 1240 01:02:34,720 --> 01:02:36,640 Speaker 1: equip your child? And I know it's hard, it's got 1241 01:02:36,640 --> 01:02:38,000 Speaker 1: to be hard, But how do you equip your child 1242 01:02:38,040 --> 01:02:43,560 Speaker 1: to deal with that, you know, without obviously demoralizing them 1243 01:02:43,560 --> 01:02:47,880 Speaker 1: in the process, or allowing people to demoralize them. Hey Mary, Hey, 1244 01:02:47,960 --> 01:02:52,000 Speaker 1: good morning Mary. Okay, you've got two kids, tell us 1245 01:02:52,000 --> 01:02:55,160 Speaker 1: how to do it. Well, you know, my kids are 1246 01:02:55,160 --> 01:02:58,520 Speaker 1: older now, twenty two and seventeen, so obviously this is 1247 01:02:58,560 --> 01:03:00,440 Speaker 1: going to fly to my twenty two year olds anymore, 1248 01:03:00,480 --> 01:03:02,520 Speaker 1: but it does to my seventeen year old still. But 1249 01:03:02,560 --> 01:03:06,960 Speaker 1: I've always been a big believer in paying your kids 1250 01:03:06,160 --> 01:03:11,160 Speaker 1: to do things in regards to chores or rewards for 1251 01:03:11,680 --> 01:03:14,640 Speaker 1: different things. And my theory behind that is because of 1252 01:03:14,680 --> 01:03:17,480 Speaker 1: the fact that there are things that they are going 1253 01:03:17,560 --> 01:03:20,040 Speaker 1: to want, and I would much rather have them work 1254 01:03:20,680 --> 01:03:23,560 Speaker 1: towards things and earn money for it so they can 1255 01:03:24,080 --> 01:03:28,280 Speaker 1: stay and budget accordingly, then for me to just go 1256 01:03:28,400 --> 01:03:30,680 Speaker 1: out and just buy them what they want for absolutely 1257 01:03:30,720 --> 01:03:33,040 Speaker 1: no reason and spoil them, because in my opinion, it's 1258 01:03:33,080 --> 01:03:35,240 Speaker 1: my money either way. But I'd much rather have them 1259 01:03:35,280 --> 01:03:38,000 Speaker 1: earn it than for me to just give it for 1260 01:03:38,040 --> 01:03:40,600 Speaker 1: no reason. Right. Yeah, And like I was saying before, 1261 01:03:40,640 --> 01:03:42,320 Speaker 1: my parents would say, so if you know, you can 1262 01:03:42,320 --> 01:03:45,000 Speaker 1: spend twenty dollars now, or you can spend two hundred 1263 01:03:45,040 --> 01:03:47,280 Speaker 1: dollars later if you earn it, and you know, the 1264 01:03:47,320 --> 01:03:49,120 Speaker 1: twenty now gets you this little thing, or the two 1265 01:03:49,160 --> 01:03:51,439 Speaker 1: hundred gets you the big thing. You know. It's it's 1266 01:03:51,560 --> 01:03:53,280 Speaker 1: how much discipline you have and how long do you 1267 01:03:53,320 --> 01:03:55,479 Speaker 1: want to wait? But how can you imagine having paid 1268 01:03:55,480 --> 01:03:57,920 Speaker 1: your kids to go to basketball practice and then when 1269 01:03:57,920 --> 01:03:59,720 Speaker 1: they come home and go coach with me to me today, 1270 01:03:59,760 --> 01:04:01,280 Speaker 1: you go, I'll throw you a fifty if you go 1271 01:04:01,320 --> 01:04:05,880 Speaker 1: back tomorrow. I mean really, yeah, no, I've never done that, 1272 01:04:06,000 --> 01:04:09,840 Speaker 1: of course. Um, but my kids were always, uh, you know, 1273 01:04:09,960 --> 01:04:12,000 Speaker 1: really motivated when it came to things. But I do 1274 01:04:12,080 --> 01:04:14,040 Speaker 1: have kind of a funny story. Really fast, did not 1275 01:04:14,160 --> 01:04:16,720 Speaker 1: take up too much time. But my younger daughter, who's 1276 01:04:16,720 --> 01:04:19,680 Speaker 1: a big softball player, she when she was younger, she 1277 01:04:19,760 --> 01:04:22,160 Speaker 1: just went into a really bad batting slump and she 1278 01:04:22,280 --> 01:04:24,080 Speaker 1: was just getting all up in her head and just 1279 01:04:24,240 --> 01:04:26,080 Speaker 1: all upset. And so I told her, I said, look, 1280 01:04:26,160 --> 01:04:28,200 Speaker 1: I said, just a fun little thing. I said, I'll 1281 01:04:28,200 --> 01:04:30,960 Speaker 1: pay you this much for a single, this much for 1282 01:04:31,040 --> 01:04:33,760 Speaker 1: a home run, blah blah blah blah blah. And anyway, 1283 01:04:33,840 --> 01:04:35,880 Speaker 1: she um because I just wanted her to have something 1284 01:04:35,880 --> 01:04:39,040 Speaker 1: else to think about, just something fun and never in 1285 01:04:39,080 --> 01:04:41,480 Speaker 1: a million years. And the parents laughed and laughed, and 1286 01:04:41,560 --> 01:04:43,439 Speaker 1: I think that she was going to ring up out 1287 01:04:43,440 --> 01:04:52,040 Speaker 1: of me enough to buy herself a fair ac cordless beat. 1288 01:04:52,840 --> 01:04:55,400 Speaker 1: So that's a funny story. We laugh about that offer. 1289 01:04:56,720 --> 01:04:58,560 Speaker 1: What it gave her. It was a fun little thing. 1290 01:04:58,600 --> 01:05:00,880 Speaker 1: Good memories. M don't done how you do it in 1291 01:05:01,000 --> 01:05:02,640 Speaker 1: order to make it work. I thought it was messed 1292 01:05:02,720 --> 01:05:05,760 Speaker 1: up that you were running an illegal gambling ring among 1293 01:05:05,800 --> 01:05:08,440 Speaker 1: the parents, telling her that you'd use your daughter up 1294 01:05:08,440 --> 01:05:09,720 Speaker 1: and that you know she was gonna hit all the 1295 01:05:09,720 --> 01:05:11,800 Speaker 1: home rings because you were paying her extra. It got 1296 01:05:11,800 --> 01:05:14,480 Speaker 1: a little messy, I thought. But anyway, Mary, have a 1297 01:05:14,480 --> 01:05:20,440 Speaker 1: great day. Glad you called. Hello Jenny, Good morning, Hi Jenny. 1298 01:05:20,640 --> 01:05:23,439 Speaker 1: So you have a son and what are you paying 1299 01:05:23,520 --> 01:05:28,480 Speaker 1: him to do? We discussed different shores. He can decide 1300 01:05:28,520 --> 01:05:31,400 Speaker 1: and we decide on an amount together. When he was little, 1301 01:05:31,600 --> 01:05:33,880 Speaker 1: you know, two years old, put your shoes away, things 1302 01:05:33,920 --> 01:05:37,040 Speaker 1: like that. Regular shores like you know, taking care of 1303 01:05:37,040 --> 01:05:39,960 Speaker 1: your pet or cleaning your bedroom. You don't get paid 1304 01:05:39,960 --> 01:05:42,720 Speaker 1: for that. That's part of living in the house. But 1305 01:05:42,960 --> 01:05:45,240 Speaker 1: I also wanted him to understand the value of a dollar. 1306 01:05:45,800 --> 01:05:49,320 Speaker 1: So there were different dollar amounts attached to each shore, 1307 01:05:49,400 --> 01:05:52,400 Speaker 1: and every week we would settle up. Okay, he did 1308 01:05:52,440 --> 01:05:54,680 Speaker 1: this one, so you get this money. And I just 1309 01:05:54,760 --> 01:05:56,880 Speaker 1: want him to understand the value of a dollar, like, 1310 01:05:57,000 --> 01:05:59,640 Speaker 1: if you do the work, you'll get the money. Yeah, 1311 01:06:00,200 --> 01:06:02,800 Speaker 1: that's your choice. Well that makes sense to me though, 1312 01:06:02,880 --> 01:06:04,880 Speaker 1: like that, I don't think anyone disagrees on that. But 1313 01:06:05,240 --> 01:06:07,880 Speaker 1: let's say he wants to take up a sport, or 1314 01:06:07,920 --> 01:06:09,560 Speaker 1: you want him to take up chests or something, and 1315 01:06:09,560 --> 01:06:11,760 Speaker 1: then he doesn't do well at it. He has a 1316 01:06:11,760 --> 01:06:13,320 Speaker 1: hard day and he comes home and says, I don't 1317 01:06:13,320 --> 01:06:15,000 Speaker 1: want to do it anymore. And then you pay him 1318 01:06:15,040 --> 01:06:18,240 Speaker 1: to go Like to me, that's not the way it works. No, 1319 01:06:18,560 --> 01:06:21,160 Speaker 1: and I agree with what you said, Like, if you 1320 01:06:21,200 --> 01:06:23,720 Speaker 1: start it, you're going to finish that season. You don't 1321 01:06:23,760 --> 01:06:25,680 Speaker 1: want to do it after that, that's fine, but I'm 1322 01:06:25,720 --> 01:06:28,160 Speaker 1: not gonna pay you to keep doing it. Now. It's 1323 01:06:28,200 --> 01:06:31,120 Speaker 1: just positive reinforcement. It's not like you guys are looking 1324 01:06:31,120 --> 01:06:33,120 Speaker 1: at it like bribery. But it is kind of just 1325 01:06:33,160 --> 01:06:35,840 Speaker 1: like positive reinforcement to keep going with something. No, it's 1326 01:06:36,880 --> 01:06:39,520 Speaker 1: it's one hundreds and bribery. So like if like if I, 1327 01:06:39,520 --> 01:06:41,840 Speaker 1: as me as a parent, if my kid signs up 1328 01:06:41,880 --> 01:06:44,320 Speaker 1: for like basketball, I paid for that, Like I paid 1329 01:06:44,320 --> 01:06:47,240 Speaker 1: for basketball, he doesn't finish it, I should be like, hey, 1330 01:06:47,480 --> 01:06:49,680 Speaker 1: you owe me the rest of that money, like you 1331 01:06:49,720 --> 01:06:52,280 Speaker 1: owe you a back. Now, that's an interesting like reverse 1332 01:06:52,280 --> 01:06:55,880 Speaker 1: approach to which is don't you don't want to do 1333 01:06:55,920 --> 01:06:57,360 Speaker 1: it anymore because you don't like it, because you don't 1334 01:06:57,360 --> 01:06:59,880 Speaker 1: want to work cards interesting, or because you're not good 1335 01:06:59,880 --> 01:07:01,760 Speaker 1: at it? Right? That's another thing, is how and I 1336 01:07:01,800 --> 01:07:03,800 Speaker 1: can coming from the no you're a parent, of course, 1337 01:07:03,840 --> 01:07:05,640 Speaker 1: coming from the non parent. I mean how many times 1338 01:07:05,680 --> 01:07:06,880 Speaker 1: I go home and tell my mom I didn't want 1339 01:07:06,920 --> 01:07:08,640 Speaker 1: to do something because I wasn't good at it, and 1340 01:07:08,680 --> 01:07:09,960 Speaker 1: the only way I was going to get better at 1341 01:07:10,000 --> 01:07:12,080 Speaker 1: it is if I kept doing it, and so I 1342 01:07:12,120 --> 01:07:14,480 Speaker 1: had to keep doing it and many things I never 1343 01:07:14,520 --> 01:07:16,520 Speaker 1: got better at it. But it doesn't matter. You know. 1344 01:07:16,600 --> 01:07:19,480 Speaker 1: That's interesting. If you flip it and you say no, 1345 01:07:19,560 --> 01:07:20,920 Speaker 1: you know what, you want to quit, then you have 1346 01:07:21,000 --> 01:07:23,720 Speaker 1: to pay me back for the investment that I may 1347 01:07:23,440 --> 01:07:25,800 Speaker 1: ye each week could be like a monetary value, like 1348 01:07:25,880 --> 01:07:28,040 Speaker 1: going towards the total, because you do pay to play. 1349 01:07:28,080 --> 01:07:30,120 Speaker 1: In high school, you know, you had your parents had 1350 01:07:30,160 --> 01:07:32,760 Speaker 1: it like, hey, you don't like it, fine, but you 1351 01:07:32,880 --> 01:07:35,400 Speaker 1: better make the most of the money because otherwise it's yours, 1352 01:07:35,560 --> 01:07:38,200 Speaker 1: right and then maybe you know once because it's interesting. 1353 01:07:38,280 --> 01:07:39,800 Speaker 1: That's another thing my parents you should say to me, 1354 01:07:39,920 --> 01:07:42,760 Speaker 1: is like when you get older and certain things are yours, 1355 01:07:42,920 --> 01:07:45,560 Speaker 1: like gas and other things are your responsibility to pay 1356 01:07:45,600 --> 01:07:48,160 Speaker 1: for in their entirety. I had a job in high school, 1357 01:07:48,160 --> 01:07:51,200 Speaker 1: but then you'll think about things differently because now it's 1358 01:07:51,200 --> 01:07:53,440 Speaker 1: your money in that hours like leaving lights on or 1359 01:07:53,520 --> 01:07:55,680 Speaker 1: letting the water run or whatever else. And they're damn 1360 01:07:55,760 --> 01:07:57,760 Speaker 1: right about that because now it's like at the electric 1361 01:07:57,840 --> 01:08:01,160 Speaker 1: vill I'm like, yeah, what was left on Rufia would 1362 01:08:01,160 --> 01:08:02,840 Speaker 1: pay like two hundred dollars for pay to play, but 1363 01:08:02,880 --> 01:08:07,440 Speaker 1: then tell Us said it was five hundred, fifteen hundred dollars, 1364 01:08:07,520 --> 01:08:09,960 Speaker 1: right hustle his own good. Yeah, thank you, Jenny, have 1365 01:08:10,000 --> 01:08:12,880 Speaker 1: a good day, you think, oh my god, he would 1366 01:08:13,040 --> 01:08:18,160 Speaker 1: before lon Rufie's profiting off its kids failures. Adriana, Hi, 1367 01:08:18,280 --> 01:08:22,200 Speaker 1: good morning, Hi, good morning. Your daughter's eight yeah, okay, 1368 01:08:22,439 --> 01:08:24,040 Speaker 1: eight year old and a two year old, and we're 1369 01:08:24,160 --> 01:08:25,920 Speaker 1: rarely starting to our teach her with the value of 1370 01:08:25,920 --> 01:08:29,519 Speaker 1: money because she's starting to ask her things. So of 1371 01:08:29,600 --> 01:08:32,960 Speaker 1: course her random like other woman said about her her 1372 01:08:33,000 --> 01:08:34,960 Speaker 1: room that we didn't give her money for her, but 1373 01:08:34,960 --> 01:08:37,800 Speaker 1: if she helps it up after her sister copy do 1374 01:08:37,920 --> 01:08:40,519 Speaker 1: other little things, we give her an allowance to make 1375 01:08:40,520 --> 01:08:42,160 Speaker 1: a chart, and we give her a certain amount for 1376 01:08:42,200 --> 01:08:44,800 Speaker 1: everything she does. So that way she learns when she 1377 01:08:44,840 --> 01:08:46,800 Speaker 1: got at the start, we teach her what the dollar means, 1378 01:08:46,800 --> 01:08:49,320 Speaker 1: the five dollars, you know, like that, how what she 1379 01:08:49,320 --> 01:08:52,800 Speaker 1: could buy in things like that. Yeah, yeah, makes sense. 1380 01:08:52,880 --> 01:08:54,000 Speaker 1: But if she doesn't want to do something, you're not 1381 01:08:54,040 --> 01:08:57,720 Speaker 1: gonna pay her to do it. No, um, no, definitely not. 1382 01:08:57,840 --> 01:08:59,280 Speaker 1: And she has to have to know if she throws 1383 01:08:59,280 --> 01:09:01,320 Speaker 1: a tantrum up on tent being told to do something. 1384 01:09:01,600 --> 01:09:05,000 Speaker 1: Josa losing her allowance as well, Oh you go, thank you, Adriana. 1385 01:09:05,080 --> 01:09:07,479 Speaker 1: Have a good day all wait on fact a reference 1386 01:09:07,439 --> 01:09:09,840 Speaker 1: to Rufil what he said about if this kids didn't 1387 01:09:09,840 --> 01:09:12,400 Speaker 1: wanted to quit, he's gonna make a kigree. Yeah. I 1388 01:09:12,439 --> 01:09:14,840 Speaker 1: had the same time with my daughter. She wasn't type fine, 1389 01:09:15,120 --> 01:09:17,080 Speaker 1: she wanted to quit. I said, Okay, if you quit, 1390 01:09:17,120 --> 01:09:19,160 Speaker 1: you have to pay me back all the money. Right, 1391 01:09:20,360 --> 01:09:23,880 Speaker 1: she stayed in it. I like that idea, breaking boards 1392 01:09:23,880 --> 01:09:26,600 Speaker 1: all day. Thank you, Adrianna. I liked that ideal a 1393 01:09:26,600 --> 01:09:29,040 Speaker 1: lot better. He's on you because I already had to 1394 01:09:29,040 --> 01:09:30,679 Speaker 1: pay the money. So why am I paying you more 1395 01:09:30,800 --> 01:09:33,040 Speaker 1: to show up to the thing I already paid for? Hey? 1396 01:09:33,400 --> 01:09:36,320 Speaker 1: Is it cursing? Good morning? Good morning Fred? How are 1397 01:09:36,320 --> 01:09:38,400 Speaker 1: you doing? Hi? Glad you called? Thanks for listening. How'd 1398 01:09:38,439 --> 01:09:41,800 Speaker 1: you bribe your kids? Don't want to hear about this? Well? I, um, 1399 01:09:42,120 --> 01:09:44,519 Speaker 1: this is my youngest two. I have four children. Then 1400 01:09:44,800 --> 01:09:46,720 Speaker 1: I couldn't. I couldn't afford to do this with the 1401 01:09:46,720 --> 01:09:49,639 Speaker 1: first two. But with the youngest two, I said, if 1402 01:09:49,640 --> 01:09:53,519 Speaker 1: they surpassed my high school act score, I would give 1403 01:09:53,600 --> 01:09:56,320 Speaker 1: them each five hundred dollars. Oh, I love that, and 1404 01:09:56,720 --> 01:10:00,920 Speaker 1: they did it. They did it. It paid off. It 1405 01:10:01,080 --> 01:10:04,160 Speaker 1: paid off greatly because they both went to out of 1406 01:10:04,240 --> 01:10:08,799 Speaker 1: state state schools that offered like ten thousand dollars plus 1407 01:10:08,840 --> 01:10:12,960 Speaker 1: off toys here because of those high ACP scores. So 1408 01:10:13,040 --> 01:10:15,240 Speaker 1: it was a great investment. But you know, I'm going 1409 01:10:15,280 --> 01:10:17,759 Speaker 1: to argue that's different though, because that's like a bonus 1410 01:10:17,840 --> 01:10:20,280 Speaker 1: at work. You know, a lot of places will incentivize 1411 01:10:20,320 --> 01:10:22,639 Speaker 1: you for selling more, for working harder, for doing more, 1412 01:10:23,040 --> 01:10:25,840 Speaker 1: you know whatever. And so you were saying to them, 1413 01:10:26,000 --> 01:10:28,040 Speaker 1: work harder, to do better, and I'll pay you for that. 1414 01:10:28,080 --> 01:10:31,599 Speaker 1: What you were saying is get a minimal score, and 1415 01:10:31,880 --> 01:10:33,639 Speaker 1: you know I'll pay you to I know you don't 1416 01:10:33,640 --> 01:10:35,720 Speaker 1: want to take the SAT, I'll pay you to do it. 1417 01:10:35,720 --> 01:10:37,479 Speaker 1: It's like, come on, you know you want to go 1418 01:10:37,520 --> 01:10:40,680 Speaker 1: to college. That's what you have to do, right right, 1419 01:10:40,439 --> 01:10:43,640 Speaker 1: I do. It's been interesting. I do have mixed emotions 1420 01:10:43,720 --> 01:10:47,360 Speaker 1: like you about the example of the bribing for the sports. 1421 01:10:47,439 --> 01:10:51,280 Speaker 1: But I do think that if that particular child had 1422 01:10:51,280 --> 01:10:53,680 Speaker 1: a talent in this and the parent really saw that, 1423 01:10:53,880 --> 01:10:56,479 Speaker 1: really wanted to keep them in, maybe that wasn't a 1424 01:10:56,520 --> 01:10:58,600 Speaker 1: bad thing to do, because you know how it is, 1425 01:10:58,680 --> 01:11:01,280 Speaker 1: we all look back twenty thirty years later and realize 1426 01:11:01,320 --> 01:11:04,479 Speaker 1: how right our parents were, even though maybe the methods 1427 01:11:04,520 --> 01:11:07,720 Speaker 1: were questionable, So you know, you never know. Well, it's 1428 01:11:07,720 --> 01:11:09,120 Speaker 1: a good thing. I got it all figured out. As 1429 01:11:09,120 --> 01:11:12,120 Speaker 1: a guy with no wife, no girlfriend, no kids, I 1430 01:11:12,160 --> 01:11:14,320 Speaker 1: know exactly how to do it. You know. Just if 1431 01:11:14,320 --> 01:11:16,200 Speaker 1: you ever need advice, you know, give me a call. 1432 01:11:16,280 --> 01:11:18,519 Speaker 1: I'll be there for you. You're a smart man, you'll 1433 01:11:18,520 --> 01:11:21,960 Speaker 1: figure it out. Well, thank you, Kirsten. I gotta figure 1434 01:11:21,960 --> 01:11:23,719 Speaker 1: out the part about putting the baby in the girl. 1435 01:11:24,240 --> 01:11:26,600 Speaker 1: Who I want the baby in the girl? You know 1436 01:11:26,640 --> 01:11:28,120 Speaker 1: what I mean? Like that. I haven't figured that part 1437 01:11:28,160 --> 01:11:33,600 Speaker 1: out yet, but practicing well yeah, thank you, Kurston. Have 1438 01:11:33,640 --> 01:11:36,080 Speaker 1: a good day. It's kids Fred Show.