Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Tilly and Tanya wrap an iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.
Speaker 3: Scrub a dub dumb.
Speaker 4: It's early today. It's an early day for me, folks.
Speaker 3: Yeah, this is true.
Speaker 4: It's nine am.
Speaker 3: It's just another day for me. You've been here since
Speaker 3: what like four Yeah, close to it.
Speaker 4: That's right in the middle of my sleep.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's definitely in the middle of a rem cycle,
Speaker 5: that's for sure.
Speaker 4: That's speaking from experience.
Speaker 3: That tracks.
Speaker 4: Oh she's back, by the way.
Speaker 6: Do you see the woman on Facebook who made bracelets
Speaker 6: scrubbing in bracelets and one of them says that tracks?
Speaker 3: Oh one of those.
Speaker 4: Yeah, they never really own it. That's the only.
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, one is it that tracks? One says living,
Speaker 6: one says scrubbing in. I'm Rebecca, I'm a Tanya red Star,
Speaker 6: modern woman and modern woman energy you Hillary Mon.
Speaker 5: I know, I get surprised at how like quick scrubbers
Speaker 5: listen to the episodes. Like I was just with a
Speaker 5: scrubber yesterday, Ashley, and she was talking to me. She
Speaker 5: was listening to the Devon episode and she was like, Oh,
Speaker 5: I just feel like it takes me to church and
Speaker 5: I'm like.
Speaker 3: Oh, yeah, that one just aired. I love that there's
Speaker 3: on it.
Speaker 4: Are you because you you're.
Speaker 2: A podcast listener, do you just like kind of search
Speaker 2: random You don't like listen week by week?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 3: No, no, I don't.
Speaker 2: I don't listen to podcasts, So I mean I will
Speaker 2: listen to some, but like it'll be when I'm looking
Speaker 2: for a podcast on a specific topic, so I'll like
Speaker 2: search the topic, and so I don't really look at
Speaker 2: the date or when it came out because it's not
Speaker 2: that's not relevant to what I'm looking for.
Speaker 3: Interesting.
Speaker 2: Like, I listened to Brene Brown on one of her
Speaker 2: podcasts and it was from like I think twenty twenty
Speaker 2: one or something, and she was talking about like, oh yeah,
Speaker 2: it was my first she said something about like my
Speaker 2: first in person event since the pandemic, and I was like, when.
Speaker 4: The heck was this recorded? And I did not like that.
Speaker 4: You want it? Oh interesting?
Speaker 3: Yeah. I like to be as current as possible.
Speaker 4: But it's all current pop culture moment.
Speaker 3: I know, I know. Yeah, it's more for the mind.
Speaker 4: Okay, good to know. Yeah what a week.
Speaker 3: I was gonna say, big week.
Speaker 5: We should start up by congratulating your girlfriend on her
Speaker 5: New York Times bestselling.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: She so that morning was I think Wednesday she was
Speaker 2: supposed to find out. So she woke up that morning
Speaker 2: and googled, like the list, and it was the list
Speaker 2: from the week before. So she was like oh. She
Speaker 2: was like, I didn't get it. And I was like, oh,
Speaker 2: it's okay. But in my mind, I was like, that
Speaker 2: doesn't feel right, but I'm gonna be supportive, you know,
Speaker 2: so it's like it's okay. I was like, it doesn't
Speaker 2: I was literally thinking of Devond saying and like y'all
Speaker 2: having the conversation of like it doesn't change that the
Speaker 2: book is amazing or like the.
Speaker 5: Quality of the book, and so that's the same Robbie
Speaker 5: spiel he gave to me.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: So then she was like in the middle of a
Speaker 2: meeting and her uh I guess book agent called and
Speaker 2: told her, like while she was on the meeting, and
Speaker 2: she they told her she got number one New York
Speaker 2: Times bestseller. And so it was a very like it
Speaker 2: was a roller coaster day. So I'm so happy for her,
Speaker 2: and you know, I really just as the girlfriend, I
Speaker 2: really appreciated you coming to the signing.
Speaker 4: That was so kind and thoughtful.
Speaker 2: And I didn't even send a text and like invite
Speaker 2: I just because I was like, I don't know. Haley
Speaker 2: posted on her Instagram, so I was like, if they say,
Speaker 2: they say it.
Speaker 3: No, we tried. We were going to like bring the
Speaker 3: kids and stuff.
Speaker 5: Oh wow, yeah, because we saw it and I was like,
Speaker 5: I thought so Robbie said it to me Haley's Instagram
Speaker 5: and he's like, we need to go, and I was like, yeah,
Speaker 5: we need to go. And then we were like kind
Speaker 5: of like logistically figuring out what we were doing that
Speaker 5: night with the kids and stuff, and he's like, we
Speaker 5: can't go, but you definitely need to go.
Speaker 3: And I was like, yeah, of course I'm going. I
Speaker 3: didn't tell you that I was going. No, you just
Speaker 3: showed up, just showed up. What what are we good
Speaker 3: for if we're not here to support each other?
Speaker 4: So true.
Speaker 2: The Brene Brown podcast I was listening to was talking
Speaker 2: about how trust and relationships like friendships and everything, and
Speaker 2: it was saying like trust is who you uh, like,
Speaker 2: what is the term? She was like who you put
Speaker 2: your like where do you put your marbles in? And
Speaker 2: her daughter was like yeah, Like her daughter was in
Speaker 2: like third grade and she came home crying because she
Speaker 2: had told her friends something in confidence and then they
Speaker 2: she got into the class and they all started laughing
Speaker 2: at her. So she like was experiencing her try and
Speaker 2: she goes, well, Brenee was like, do you have any
Speaker 2: friends that you feel like you trust that you could
Speaker 2: give your marbles to? And she said she had a
Speaker 2: friend who always saved a seat for her at the
Speaker 2: launch table. And then she said at a soccer game,
Speaker 2: she said, Brenee said she was thinking she was gonna
Speaker 2: be like and then she passed me and I scored
Speaker 2: the winning goal. And she was like, but at the
Speaker 2: soccer game, my friend saw my grandparents and said, oh,
Speaker 2: there's your grandparents and she named them by name, and
Speaker 2: she said, oh, so and so and so and so
Speaker 2: are here, Grandma and grandpa whatever, huh. And Brene was like,
Speaker 2: that's it. That was how she earned of marvel. And
Speaker 2: she was like, well, it meant a lot to me
Speaker 2: that she knew that was important to me and that
Speaker 2: she remembered their names.
Speaker 4: And I was like, oh my gosh, it's so true.
Speaker 2: Like the small acts of like showing up and like
Speaker 2: recognizing small things is what leads to relationships being deep
Speaker 2: and having that trust. Yeah, so yeah, I think you
Speaker 2: showing up continuously.
Speaker 3: Well, I feel the same way about you, Like I
Speaker 3: really really do.
Speaker 5: Like I'm like I know and like what's interesting in
Speaker 5: adult relationships. And I think because we've also never been
Speaker 5: friends when we've been in serious, committed relationships, like dynamics
Speaker 5: change and you know, like I used to come over
Speaker 5: to your apartment every single day and I wouldn't leave
Speaker 5: you alone, and the dynamic is different now, you know,
Speaker 5: Like we both have very very serious relationships. Mine has
Speaker 5: two kids involved, and there's like a lot going on
Speaker 5: in our lives. But I never want to lose that
Speaker 5: part of our friendship where we are always there for
Speaker 5: each other when we not only you didn't need me
Speaker 5: to be there, but like it was important for me
Speaker 5: to be there. You know, it's a big milestone for
Speaker 5: your girlfriend, and so like of course I'm going to
Speaker 5: be there, you know, And I think that's really really important.
Speaker 5: As we get older and we just get busier and busier,
Speaker 5: like I still you are that person for me, Like
Speaker 5: I know, no matter what, if I need you on
Speaker 5: like a Tuesday at four for something, like I know
Speaker 5: you will you would be there for me. You know,
Speaker 5: like and there's never we never hold anything against each other.
Speaker 5: And I don't know, it's just like a really it's
Speaker 5: a beautiful thing.
Speaker 6: You know.
Speaker 4: I'm happy you have my marbles.
Speaker 3: I'm happy you have my marbles too.
Speaker 5: Speaking of marbles, Oh, on Saturday, So we wanted to
Speaker 5: have a barbecue on Saturday, and cause like it's summer,
Speaker 5: you know, and so Robb's like, let's like, you know,
Speaker 5: text some of our friends and have and then it was.
Speaker 3: Like dark and gray and cold out and so you.
Speaker 6: Bloom as unique I think to southern California. Maybe I'm wrong,
Speaker 6: but I think it is just something we deal with here.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but we didn't last year.
Speaker 3: Especially burns off in the morning, right yeah, in.
Speaker 6: The morning till noon, sunny the rest of the day. Yeah,
Speaker 6: and that kind of rolls back in at seven or
Speaker 6: eight at night when the sun goes down.
Speaker 5: And this weekend, like I was wearing a parka, like
Speaker 5: it was like legitimately.
Speaker 2: Cold, you're in a parker best like the ninety percent
Speaker 2: of the year regardless of the weather.
Speaker 5: So our big barbecue plans ended up with jeff Becca
Speaker 5: coming over, which I thoroughly enjoyed.
Speaker 4: Well, she invites me. I think that day, right that
Speaker 4: morning for that day.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and we had big plans, big plans.
Speaker 2: I was just like chilling in bed because it was
Speaker 2: like gloomy. I watched a man called Aldo, which we can.
Speaker 4: Get to later.
Speaker 6: Oh, I wrote that book.
Speaker 2: I heard the books amazing, but I was like sobbing
Speaker 2: in bed. And Tanya's like, Hey, We're going to do
Speaker 2: a little barbecue tonight.
Speaker 4: Do you want to come over? And I was like,
Speaker 4: thank god, I have plans because I'm.
Speaker 2: In a dark head space now. So I was like,
Speaker 2: and I was at Haley's because she was Haley went
Speaker 2: to DC this weekend, so I was just I just
Speaker 2: stay to her place. And I didn't have any of
Speaker 2: my stuff there because when she went on tour, I
Speaker 2: kind of took all my things because she was gonna
Speaker 2: be gone for two months.
Speaker 4: So I just took everything back to my place.
Speaker 2: And so I was like trying to put an outfit
Speaker 2: together and all I had were like boots.
Speaker 4: And I was like, well, it's a barbecue, so I'm
Speaker 4: sure everyone will be cute.
Speaker 2: And Tania said like, oh, we're gross, but like I
Speaker 2: didn't know what that meant. You know, Tanya's gross ranges.
Speaker 2: It's a range.
Speaker 4: So I get there.
Speaker 2: She opens the door and she's in like just a
Speaker 2: sweat set. Her hair's wet, like freshly showered. Robbie's in
Speaker 2: a sweat set.
Speaker 4: And I'm the only one there, and I'm like in jeans.
Speaker 4: I'm like, not cute. I wasn't dressed up by any
Speaker 4: makeup on.
Speaker 5: Like Becca came in looking fabulous and I was like,
Speaker 5: I told you we were gross.
Speaker 4: I'm like, am I the only one coming? And She's
Speaker 4: like yeah.
Speaker 2: It's like I feel like there were some details left
Speaker 2: out here because I could have happily showed up in sweats.
Speaker 2: So but they cooked me the most delicious dinner and
Speaker 2: it was so fun, such a nice time.
Speaker 5: I will say, that's something that I really love about Robbie.
Speaker 5: He loves grilling for people. Like he like nothing makes
Speaker 5: him happier than buying like a juicy steak and like
Speaker 5: grilling it for people, cutting it and like there's so
Speaker 5: much joy in that for him, Like I don't know
Speaker 5: what it is, but he loves it and it's so good.
Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm I love it too. He's a girl master,
Speaker 3: He's a girl mas Dad.
Speaker 4: I can't remember what was said. Oh, there was like
Speaker 4: a whole fish.
Speaker 2: And I was like, I don't really know how to
Speaker 2: like cut in or get this, and and Tanya goes,
Speaker 2: don't worry, Daddy will.
Speaker 4: Do it, and I was like, holy hell, I am
Speaker 4: in torment.
Speaker 5: I like to say things to make Mecca cringe, and
Speaker 5: I knew that one was really.
Speaker 4: Going to get it turn me off guard.
Speaker 2: I wasn't ready for it, and I I didn't like it,
Speaker 2: but Daddy took care of it.
Speaker 6: Did not.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I like dad because like him grilling and stuff.
Speaker 4: I'm like, there's mom and dad taking care of me. Yeah.
Speaker 2: But during our after our dinner, I don't know, we
Speaker 2: naturally got on the conversation of using the bathroom.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Oh oh, because we're sharing a bathroom.
Speaker 4: Oh so okay.
Speaker 2: For Dean and Cayln's wedding, me, Tanya, Haley, and Robbie
Speaker 2: are in a cabin with one bathroom.
Speaker 3: One toilet.
Speaker 2: And the whole thing was like, there's cabins where they're
Speaker 2: getting married. It's closer to the venue, so everyone's going
Speaker 2: to kind of be in that section, or we could
Speaker 2: stay an aspen and shuttle in shuttle and so I
Speaker 2: was like, oh, cabin sounds fun, and Kaylen's like, well,
Speaker 2: there's one bathroom, but you know it's up to you.
Speaker 4: And I'm like, we'll make it work.
Speaker 2: So we were talking about and Probably's like no, no, no,
Speaker 2: like what there's one bathroom And Donny was like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 2: it's going to.
Speaker 4: Screw him up.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's going to really mess him up.
Speaker 5: So then more than anyone else he likes, he's like
Speaker 5: a meander me meander's in the bathroom.
Speaker 3: It's his like thing. He can go in there for
Speaker 3: forty five minutes and.
Speaker 5: Just like scrolls and just like chills me. I go
Speaker 5: in the bathroom and I just do my thing and
Speaker 5: I get out like it's I mean and out.
Speaker 2: But you have digestive issues, so maybe you should meander
Speaker 2: some more.
Speaker 3: And I'm saying that's how we got into this topic, right.
Speaker 2: Right, So then Tanya starts saying that she since she
Speaker 2: doesn't have a squatty potty at rob at their place,
Speaker 2: she says she puts her feet up on the toilet seat, like.
Speaker 3: Because it helps, it helps the like the poop.
Speaker 5: I like, it's like a squatty potty, so when your
Speaker 5: legs are elevated, it helps push things through. So because
Speaker 5: I don't have the squatty potty, I do this.
Speaker 4: Yeah, please, h.
Speaker 6: Like that is that comfortable?
Speaker 3: No, No, it's not uncomfortable.
Speaker 6: I don't know if I can do it.
Speaker 5: Yeah, So you put your feet on the very edge
Speaker 5: of the toilet exactly like.
Speaker 4: The same thing about picturing you all it on the toilet.
Speaker 6: I feel like it would come out towards the front.
Speaker 3: It doesn't, let me tell you, It goes down.
Speaker 5: Everything goes where it's supposed to go, and it helps me,
Speaker 5: helps me go to the bathroom.
Speaker 7: If you're wearing jeans and doing this, you have to.
Speaker 3: Take your take them off, but I usually don't.
Speaker 2: Usually you just go full throttle Winnie the Pooh when
Speaker 2: you have jeans on.
Speaker 4: Yes, like everything.
Speaker 5: So what I'm saying is like, I don't like when
Speaker 5: I'm at work, I'm not going poop in the work
Speaker 5: bathroom like I usually go back in the morning.
Speaker 4: In the public house. That jail time is only in.
Speaker 3: The comfort of my own home.
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 2: So I'm sure there's science behind this. I don't doubt
Speaker 2: that there's some science here is you should google it.
Speaker 2: So Robbie's like, there's no way you do this, like,
Speaker 2: I don't even get what you're saying. So we go
Speaker 2: into the bathroom and she does a tutorial and he
Speaker 2: freaks out.
Speaker 4: He's like, this is not happening. Can I play the audio?
Speaker 4: And I'm saying it it's so funny. He like freaks
Speaker 4: out because he's like, this is not a thing.
Speaker 5: And you know what I say, You should never shame
Speaker 5: anybody for how they use the restroom because some of
Speaker 5: us that yeah, yeah, you're right. I know.
Speaker 3: You got really upset.
Speaker 4: So that was.
Speaker 3: But I just want to say, anybody listening.
Speaker 6: And you feel like you get a more full release.
Speaker 3: Yes, more of it is excruciated.
Speaker 4: Excreciated.
Speaker 5: The word is ex Yes, I just want to let
Speaker 5: anybody know that's listening. However, you need to use the
Speaker 5: restroom if you have digestive issues, you do. You don't
Speaker 5: let society tell you that you need to sit there
Speaker 5: with your legs down or whatever.
Speaker 4: You do.
Speaker 3: You baby boom, Yeah, you do.
Speaker 2: You and and you keep it to yourself whatever you're doing.
Speaker 5: You don't bring it up at a dinner party because,
Speaker 5: let me tell you, it did not end well for
Speaker 5: me that night.
Speaker 4: I don't bring it up at the three person barbecue.
Speaker 4: Why why don't we just get a squatty potty? Right?
Speaker 5: Because they are like an iore, Like I look at this.
Speaker 5: Whenever I had one, I would always hide. When I
Speaker 5: was dating, I'd always hide it.
Speaker 6: Before I went.
Speaker 2: I'd argue that what you're doing is an isore more
Speaker 2: than the squatty in.
Speaker 3: The bathroom with me while I'm doing us.
Speaker 5: No, but I don't do it when he's in there,
Speaker 5: and he's only been in there when I pee, not
Speaker 5: when I go.
Speaker 4: Regular happening.
Speaker 3: No, okay, I think the squad.
Speaker 2: I think you'll are in a place where a squatty
Speaker 2: potty would be like fine, just like to me.
Speaker 5: Now it's not about turn off. It's just like I
Speaker 5: don't like it. Like I look at it, and it's like.
Speaker 4: Maybe they have some chic ones that you.
Speaker 6: Maybe like a laser etched Tanya and Robbie squatty.
Speaker 2: What I thought like a monogramed what is.
Speaker 4: That's writing that down in my notes?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'll put it down your notes page. But speaking
Speaker 3: of what.
Speaker 5: Speaking and trying to find a really cute transition here,
Speaker 5: but such a good story.
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Speaker 4: All Right, we are back. You had you had a
Speaker 4: story before we took a break.
Speaker 6: I want to hear her transition from the squatty pot
Speaker 6: shooting story. That's what I'm most intrigued by because I
Speaker 6: know the story and it's a fantastic story.
Speaker 3: Speaking of let's say the common nominator is Robbie. Okay, great,
Speaker 3: that works a different.
Speaker 5: Night than that night the three person barbecue. We were
Speaker 5: at a restaurant in Los Angeles, and I'm going to
Speaker 5: say the restaurant because I don't think she'll get in trouble,
Speaker 5: right just maybe.
Speaker 6: Not Yeah, just a high end like, yeah, there are
Speaker 6: many people there that do her job, aren't there.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Whatever, it's a cute.
Speaker 4: It's cute.
Speaker 5: It's like a really cute chic restaurant in La I.
Speaker 5: We know the owner. We love him, great, great guy.
Speaker 5: But I was there and I was with Robbie and
Speaker 5: then two other friends, like a couple friends. So there
Speaker 5: were six of us total, and all of us you know,
Speaker 5: in relationships, right. So we're sitting at a table and
Speaker 5: this woman walks over who was like performing there.
Speaker 4: There's like burlesque dancers. Yeah.
Speaker 5: So she's like done up in this whole costume and
Speaker 5: she's so cute and so attractive, and she walks up
Speaker 5: to our table and she slides this note to Robbie.
Speaker 3: And I'm looking at this girl like you've got some nerves.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 3: This guy's got his hand in my lap. He's clearly
Speaker 3: with somebody, but you know, respect, he's hot.
Speaker 4: I get it, right.
Speaker 5: So then the whole table was like, oh, Robbie, he's
Speaker 5: got it, Like oh, someone's slipping him a nose, giving
Speaker 5: him his number, like you know, everybody's like all excited
Speaker 5: about this note.
Speaker 3: I didn't say anything. I kept him my opinion to myself.
Speaker 6: He opens it not easy for you to do it.
Speaker 6: I'm sure on your face you.
Speaker 3: Could see sure on my face.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm sure he.
Speaker 6: Was planning it up right, like check.
Speaker 5: Me out, woo, it's been a while, and it's like,
Speaker 5: got one of these, you know. And so he opens
Speaker 5: up the and opens up the letter and starts reading
Speaker 5: it to the table.
Speaker 3: Hi Tanya, And I was like, oh.
Speaker 4: This is so freaking good.
Speaker 5: My name is blank, her name is not blank, but
Speaker 5: I'm just not saying her name. Yeah, And I am
Speaker 5: a scrub sister, so happy I got to see you here.
Speaker 5: I'm not normally this moody because she had to be,
Speaker 5: you know, for her for her work. I'm fifty per Tanya,
Speaker 5: fifty percent Becca. But I have almost an identical story
Speaker 5: to Becca. I am a Christian who has been with
Speaker 5: a woman for eight years. Anyways, just wanted to say
Speaker 5: a quick hello, a quick hello since I'm not supposed to.
Speaker 6: But I learnt initiate talking.
Speaker 3: I supposed to shade talking. Yeah.
Speaker 5: So I love you guys. You guys are adorable, by
Speaker 5: the way. I have a great night. Love a day
Speaker 5: one scrubber.
Speaker 4: It's the PS high red Star.
Speaker 2: I felt so good about Oh my god, I would
Speaker 2: have been on a high. It was on a hot yeah.
Speaker 5: Yeah, Like, hey, I loved it so much, so I
Speaker 5: want to she knows I know because then I found
Speaker 5: her on Instagram when we were dming, so she knows
Speaker 5: I saw her and we tried to see each other,
Speaker 5: and I want to go back and I want to
Speaker 5: meet you and take pictures and do all the stuff.
Speaker 5: But it was you made my night. You have no idea.
Speaker 5: Scrub sisters are everywhere and they are doing the Lord's work.
Speaker 5: Because that was such a funny moment of the night
Speaker 5: and I really thoroughly enjoyed it.
Speaker 3: That is so funny, isn't that funny?
Speaker 4: Yeah, we should go back and have a night at
Speaker 4: dinner night there. We should.
Speaker 3: Maybe I'll see it when next time she's working and
Speaker 3: we could her.
Speaker 4: Yeah, would love that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's so good.
Speaker 4: Good.
Speaker 2: So it's just so I just know, like knowing Robbie,
Speaker 2: it's so funny thinking about like him being whoa this
Speaker 2: you jealous? And just the high to I was like, oh, yes,
Speaker 2: I think I would have like elevated out of I see.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it was.
Speaker 3: It was pretty high high. It was a pretty high high.
Speaker 5: Like I've never done drugs, but I imagine that's where
Speaker 5: it would take me.
Speaker 6: Handwriting is very similar to your handwriting, by the way, it.
Speaker 3: Is to mine. Yeah, Oh my gosh, look at.
Speaker 5: Us sisters separated at birth. Speaking of sisters, did you
Speaker 5: watch the vand Pump.
Speaker 6: Roles transitions today?
Speaker 2: Speaking of sisters, did you watch the Vander Pump rolls?
Speaker 3: They're like sisters?
Speaker 4: They were Yeah, anymore right?
Speaker 5: But it felt like a good watch it. Did you
Speaker 5: you did it?
Speaker 4: I don't.
Speaker 3: I don't either. I haven't a.
Speaker 5: Single episode, but there's so much hubbub and like commotion
Speaker 5: over this scandabal that I felt like I wanted to
Speaker 5: watch the Yeah.
Speaker 2: I you know what, I can't understand that this man
Speaker 2: had two women fighting over him.
Speaker 3: Because he's so like gross.
Speaker 4: He gives me.
Speaker 2: The biggest ad Like, I can't even I can't watch
Speaker 2: it and take it seriously because I'm like, this can't
Speaker 2: be real.
Speaker 4: These girls are like what is happening?
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, here's the thing.
Speaker 5: And I'm probably gonna get a lot of hate for
Speaker 5: this because people like hate this Quel girl, and I
Speaker 5: I don't like this for cael girl, Like I think
Speaker 5: what she did was awful and horrible and despicable and atrocious.
Speaker 5: I totally stand by everything that everybody says, but yeah,
Speaker 5: the level of hate and nastiness and just horribleness that
Speaker 5: is coming at her. To me is just so problematic.
Speaker 5: Like I'm like, this girl is gonna be severe. You'rely
Speaker 5: mentally messed up from this, And I'm not like it's
Speaker 5: not she doesn't deserve anything. Nobody deserves to be treated
Speaker 5: like that, you know, And she did a bad thing.
Speaker 5: Let karma get her. Like she's gonna you know what
Speaker 5: I mean? Like then this she's with this Tonguay, he's
Speaker 5: just gonna cheat on her too, you know what I mean?
Speaker 5: Like she will get what's coming to her just by
Speaker 5: living her life. But I feel like the amount of
Speaker 5: hate and the amount of negativity and harsh and mean
Speaker 5: words that she's getting is like so problematic.
Speaker 4: You know what they say?
Speaker 3: What do they say?
Speaker 4: The light that illuminates also.
Speaker 3: Burns Devon frank Franklin. That was a good one, Becka.
Speaker 4: I mean, so this is such a perfect example of
Speaker 4: like you go on a reality show your whole life,
Speaker 4: You're you're having this fame, the lights, the excitement, and
Speaker 4: then everything is exposed and the same thing that you
Speaker 4: were so excited about is the thing that.
Speaker 3: Burns you, burns.
Speaker 5: She's yeah, she's burning to burn and like I get like,
Speaker 5: I'm all Tea Mariana.
Speaker 3: Yes, I want her to live her best.
Speaker 4: People, it's like they're all human beings.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I just feel like the level that it's just
Speaker 5: it's like, I think she's going to be severely messed up.
Speaker 2: Social media has given a platform where there is zero,
Speaker 2: uh like room for empathy or compassion for people anymore. Yeah,
Speaker 2: Like even I see some things sometimes that are like
Speaker 2: so devastating, and I'll read the comments and I'm like,
Speaker 2: we have literally like almost numbed our brain to what
Speaker 2: we're being exposed to, to the point where we forget
Speaker 2: that there are these are like actual people and like, wait.
Speaker 5: This is the crazy thing. So I've never watched an episode,
Speaker 5: so I didn't know this, but apparently half the people
Speaker 5: sitting on that stage have cheated on their partner with
Speaker 5: people sitting in that room, Like literally there was like
Speaker 5: people there that have cheated on there. And I'm like,
Speaker 5: and they're bashing her and they're just like going crazy
Speaker 5: on her, and I'm like, and she was saying, She's like,
Speaker 5: you guys did this to me two years ago, and
Speaker 5: they're like.
Speaker 3: But we weren't like sisters.
Speaker 5: And I'm like, okay, so that makes it worse, Like
Speaker 5: I get, yes, it makes it worse that the level
Speaker 5: of friendship, but I'm just like, who were you? You
Speaker 5: were like a cheating partner two years ago. Now you're
Speaker 5: just shaking a finger at somebody else. It's just like
Speaker 5: it's so wrong to me.
Speaker 4: I know, I know. Is it over?
Speaker 8: Yeah?
Speaker 3: That was the last reunion that aired like last week. Okay,
Speaker 3: but it's not over. It's like everything on my feet
Speaker 3: is like where do they stand now?
Speaker 2: And you know, I just feel like if there wasn't
Speaker 2: so much attention around it, there wouldn't be like if
Speaker 2: there weren't continuous reunions and rehashing of everything, then yeah.
Speaker 3: I mean Bravo's milking this.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: Like there's a lot I mean there, it could have
Speaker 2: been like we had a full discussion about it, it got filmed,
Speaker 2: he did a reunion, and it's over.
Speaker 4: But it's like really gone on for a long time.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: So I hope she.
Speaker 2: I hope everyone goes and takes a nice vacation. I
Speaker 2: hope that Arianna find someone.
Speaker 3: Who's dating somebody. Oh she is? She like is it
Speaker 3: like it's her boyfriend. Oh great, Yeah, seems happy.
Speaker 4: Great. I hope everyone can move on.
Speaker 5: And I wish if anybody listening as a Scrubs sister
Speaker 5: and note, like, I'm so curious of the like how
Speaker 5: much these people get paid?
Speaker 3: You know, like how much these people get paid an episode?
Speaker 4: I think they're doing well, you don't think.
Speaker 5: I don't really, Yeah, I think that they don't make
Speaker 5: that much money off of the show. I think they
Speaker 5: make a lot of like endorsement deals and things outside of.
Speaker 4: It, but like just the contract being on the show.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't think so, because I'm like, how much
Speaker 5: is it worth to blow up your life like this?
Speaker 3: You know what I mean?
Speaker 2: Like, well, for some people, it's every Like some people
Speaker 2: are like, I'll do whatever.
Speaker 4: Just give me the fame, give me the you know right.
Speaker 6: The Hollywood Report Or reported in twenty twenty that the
Speaker 6: core Calf the vander Pump Rules makes around twenty five
Speaker 6: thousand an episode. That's they were making about ten thousand
Speaker 6: an episode before renegotiating in seventeen and eighteen.
Speaker 3: That's not about chunk change.
Speaker 6: Yeah, how many episodes do they do?
Speaker 3: Though? No, can you google that?
Speaker 6: Okay?
Speaker 3: Yellow with the math, so twenty five thousand.
Speaker 6: Yeah, they do uh oh, nineteen episodes for season ten.
Speaker 3: Times nineteen, that's almost half a million dollars.
Speaker 5: Okay, well that's all right after taxes, and that's that's twenty.
Speaker 4: Five just like a base.
Speaker 2: That's not including all of the endorsement and Instagram and
Speaker 2: all that stuff.
Speaker 3: So I stand corrected. That was a false.
Speaker 2: It's also they were getting like two thousand an episode
Speaker 2: trying to make it.
Speaker 5: Yeah, struggling, Like I was just like, what is it
Speaker 5: worth to be on this show that's like blowing up
Speaker 5: your life in such a way, you know, like.
Speaker 2: Well I don't know that the show blows up your
Speaker 2: I mean the action and blew up their life. It
Speaker 2: just happened to be, of course, documented on a massive show.
Speaker 7: Arianna did an ad for like Duris Cell Battery. Okay,
Speaker 7: I watched it and I was like, there's a bunch
Speaker 7: of jokes here that I'm not getting the same. It
Speaker 7: was a baffling. I felt like I was in an
Speaker 7: alternate like a multiverse thing, because she's like, don't settle
Speaker 7: for anything less than premium, and then she winks at
Speaker 7: the camera and then she's got like a bunch of
Speaker 7: batteries and she goes into her room with toilet paper,
Speaker 7: and I'm like, oh man, this by so funny if
Speaker 7: you watch the show.
Speaker 3: I have no idea what this.
Speaker 7: I don't even know if this is a commercial four batteries,
Speaker 7: Like is it toilet papers and batteries? There's some vibrator
Speaker 7: thing in the mix at some point.
Speaker 3: Oh wow.
Speaker 2: I had the same exact feelings watching it, going I
Speaker 2: might understand this if.
Speaker 4: I was an avid viewer of the show. Yeah, but
Speaker 4: I'm not. I felt the same fever dream.
Speaker 7: I went to the comments to see if everyone's like,
Speaker 7: oh my god, this is perfect, so give someone Durasall
Speaker 7: a raise.
Speaker 3: I was like, what, I'm missing the joke?
Speaker 4: So lost?
Speaker 2: I know I need to like, I need to figure
Speaker 2: out maybe get updated.
Speaker 4: Brittany Escoto is like obsessed, So.
Speaker 5: Like, I watched the last three episodes of this last
Speaker 5: season and then the reunion.
Speaker 4: Oh wow, that's some good work, Tony.
Speaker 3: Thank you. Yeah, I'm want to be a top notch
Speaker 3: journalists over there. You know what's going on?
Speaker 2: Well, speaking of more wholesome television, the summer I turned
Speaker 2: pretty Season two trailer came out and there is a
Speaker 2: cinematic version of August that I.
Speaker 4: Am dying for. I need I need it.
Speaker 2: I need it for the summer once the sun comes
Speaker 2: out again. Here, I need it on Spotify. Yeah, it
Speaker 2: gave me chills. Are you nervous first season two? No,
Speaker 2: You're just fine. It's fine.
Speaker 4: I'm really excited.
Speaker 5: Why are you nervous when I like a first season
Speaker 5: that much and there's all that hype around it, Like,
Speaker 5: I don't know, I always get nervous about the second season.
Speaker 4: Well, if they're all based on the.
Speaker 3: First season, was like, who is she going to pick?
Speaker 3: What's she going to pick?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 5: Think you like at the end you kind of figure
Speaker 5: out who she's gonna pick. So then I'm like, is
Speaker 5: it going to be as exciting?
Speaker 2: I think the whole thing is that the whole book series,
Speaker 2: you don't know. I think it's conflict of like who
Speaker 2: she's gonna have not read the books, I think either,
Speaker 2: But I've what I've gathered is that it's not like, oh,
Speaker 2: she chose him and that's that's it.
Speaker 3: We'll see.
Speaker 4: I'm very excited. So last night I was laying in bed.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, and I was like, what should I put
Speaker 2: on the television? And I was thinking about how Tawny
Speaker 2: had told me there was a new season of Love
Speaker 2: Island UK and there was only a few episodes, and
Speaker 2: I was thinking, part of the.
Speaker 5: Reason one there was only one, there's five. No, they're
Speaker 5: not out, they say upcoming.
Speaker 4: Oh there's only one two.
Speaker 3: Now, Oh but they go every day.
Speaker 2: Okay, so that really stresses me out. Oh yeah, the
Speaker 2: amount of episodes. Like I tried to watch a season.
Speaker 2: I think I got to like episode ten, and I
Speaker 2: was like, I just.
Speaker 3: Can't watch twenty five more.
Speaker 4: He's not sustainable.
Speaker 5: So I like say, there is a lull, there's like
Speaker 5: a lull between like episode like after Cossa more there's
Speaker 5: a little bit of a lull and then like then
Speaker 5: the end is good too, So there's like a good
Speaker 5: five or six seven episodes of like are kind of like.
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, but you just burnt through.
Speaker 5: You put them on, you brush your teeth, you like
Speaker 5: have some fun in the bedroom, like do whatever you want,
Speaker 5: just like to have it back.
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 2: With Love Island, those voices at host voice while messing
Speaker 2: around would be my nightmare.
Speaker 3: Okay, So.
Speaker 4: I wasn't. It didn't do anything for me.
Speaker 6: Were gonna stop talking about it?
Speaker 5: Now I think, but you don't watch, it doesn't mean
Speaker 5: there's a large large fan base for.
Speaker 2: Like people were messaging me like finally, like I'm so excited.
Speaker 2: Here's the thing, it's it's painful to watch forced conversation
Speaker 2: for me and the fact that they got coupled up
Speaker 2: by the public.
Speaker 3: I don't like that twist. They didn't used to be
Speaker 3: like that.
Speaker 5: They used to do it differently, where like the girls
Speaker 5: would be there and they would step forward if they
Speaker 5: want it, and then they would they would choose, you know.
Speaker 5: I don't like the pairing up by the public aspect.
Speaker 5: I don't know why they did that.
Speaker 2: It's new, but the other version's cringed too, because when
Speaker 2: someone doesn't get picked at the end, that like feels
Speaker 2: like childhood trauma coming back.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but they'll deal with it so well.
Speaker 5: That's what's so fascinating to me is the uk rs
Speaker 5: are so much more mature and like, I don't know,
Speaker 5: there's just no sweat, you know, like it's like it
Speaker 5: is what it is, you know, like we're good.
Speaker 2: I have a bad feeling. I can't tell if Molly
Speaker 2: and Mitchell are going to be like in game right
Speaker 2: because it feels too fast.
Speaker 4: The connection feels.
Speaker 5: There was one couple last season that was like that,
Speaker 5: but then they had a little bit of a situation
Speaker 5: in the middle and then they came back to each other.
Speaker 6: Okay, and you're going to find out and just fifty
Speaker 6: three short Yeah, just the thing.
Speaker 2: Maybe I like every tenth episode, every third Oh that
Speaker 2: feels that.
Speaker 4: Still feels like a.
Speaker 3: Lot, because no, you'll miss a lot. They read couple
Speaker 3: every few days, I know.
Speaker 4: So that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: If I just kind of like keep up like every
Speaker 2: seven to ten, then I'm like, oh, by the end, no,
Speaker 2: I'll know everyone enough that.
Speaker 3: Gotta just stick with it. Just with this season, just
Speaker 3: stick you like this season. Well it's only two episodes,
Speaker 3: so I'm not.
Speaker 6: Really like zero point the season.
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, exactly, I'm not really. I do like Molly
Speaker 5: and Mitchell a lot. I don't know his name. I
Speaker 5: don't know his name, but he has the tattoo. He's
Speaker 5: has Tyreek Tyreek, he's the tattoo the lightning bolt behind
Speaker 5: his arm, because that's what you're he can hear out of.
Speaker 3: Did you get that part?
Speaker 5: He's deaf in one ear and then one ear he
Speaker 5: can hear, so he has like a lightning bolt behind it,
Speaker 5: because that's like his power, his superpower.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I really like he's the one that had met
Speaker 3: the girl before he forgot.
Speaker 5: Yeah, so I like him. And then that's pretty much
Speaker 5: it right now.
Speaker 3: Three Well, I'm giving it my best. People, bombshells coming
Speaker 3: in every day kills me.
Speaker 4: It's the whole thing.
Speaker 2: It's so cheering that I'm just like in my bed,
Speaker 2: like tense, like I remind myself to relax.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so I did.
Speaker 2: I did give it a chance, and I will. I
Speaker 2: will continue so that we can maybe have conversations.
Speaker 4: But that's where I stand right now.
Speaker 3: I appreciate it. I'm enjoying the season.
Speaker 5: I'm not like I've only watched two episode, So give
Speaker 5: me like a week and then I can really assess.
Speaker 2: Okay, great, did you watch the Ellen Pompeo and Catherine
Speaker 2: Heigel uh interview?
Speaker 3: I started it and I didn't finish it, Okay.
Speaker 2: So I just saw like a ton I don't even know.
Speaker 2: I feel like I watched the whole interview.
Speaker 3: On TikTok, but I wanted to avoid that.
Speaker 2: It was so fascinating because I feel like there's love
Speaker 2: and like respect for one another.
Speaker 4: But I didn't feel like, oh, they're gonna yeah, there's.
Speaker 2: But it was like such an honest conversation and I
Speaker 2: it it felt like healing or something to see them together.
Speaker 4: Yeah, even though it felt there was tension, I was like,
Speaker 4: there's a there's a I genuinely feel like there's a
Speaker 4: level of respect for one another of like that goes deep,
Speaker 4: you know, to be a.
Speaker 5: Fly on the wall those first five seasons, like I
Speaker 5: really wish somebody could just write a tell all and
Speaker 5: let us know actually like what went down, I was.
Speaker 5: I would give anything. I'd give my left really my
Speaker 5: left sleeve of this sweatshop smart good.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I thought it was interesting because they were talking about uh,
Speaker 2: I can't remember Catherine or Meredith was saying that.
Speaker 3: They were like, her name's Ellen, Katherine.
Speaker 2: I can't remember who said it, but someone said their
Speaker 2: daughter was like, oh, she's such a picny girl. I
Speaker 2: can't remember if they were talking about Izzier Meredith and
Speaker 2: Ellen was like, I am the original picnic girl for
Speaker 2: the you know, and she did the picnic Choose Me,
Speaker 2: Love Me, and she I guess fought to she didn't
Speaker 2: like that scene and she fought to have it removed.
Speaker 2: She's like, I did not want to do it. I
Speaker 2: fought them on it, and she was like, I had
Speaker 2: no idea it would be this like iconic scene from
Speaker 2: the whole show. Wow, But I thought that was so interesting. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's so good.
Speaker 4: I can't believe that she.
Speaker 3: If that didn't exist, I don't know who I would
Speaker 3: be today. Honestly, I'm not kidding.
Speaker 4: But I liked that.
Speaker 2: Katherine Heigel addressed like how the rumors of that she
Speaker 2: was difficult on set and stuff, and it was it
Speaker 2: was just a very honest and Ellen in her back.
Speaker 5: She was like, when a woman is inconfident and in
Speaker 5: charge of like who she is and what she wants
Speaker 5: to do, she's deemed like difficult and a bitch, and
Speaker 5: it's just such a double standard.
Speaker 3: And it's true.
Speaker 6: It is true. They said that there's a lot of
Speaker 6: stories about politicians. Female politicians are always getting stories, Oh
Speaker 6: it's just awful to her staff, But you never hear
Speaker 6: those about male politicians.
Speaker 8: Yeah.
Speaker 6: I don't think it's because all males are great. No,
Speaker 6: I think it's because they're kind of expected to be jerks. Yeah,
Speaker 6: and I think that's wrong.
Speaker 2: Yeah, did you know that Ellen Pompeo's filming a limited.
Speaker 4: Series for Hulu this fall.
Speaker 2: No, it's going to be like our first time we
Speaker 2: see her outside of Scrubs.
Speaker 5: She'll still be marred with the green right, Yeah, she's
Speaker 5: gonna be Yeah, she'll be back for I guess the
Speaker 5: twentieth season begins.
Speaker 2: But anyways, I want to watch it in full because
Speaker 2: I was like just so sucked in by the clin.
Speaker 5: Love series that that variety does the actors on actors.
Speaker 5: I love that they do that. They always pair up
Speaker 5: the most interesting people. They always have the most unique conversations.
Speaker 5: I just think it's really cool variety. If any scrubbers
Speaker 5: work for you, good on you.
Speaker 4: Good on you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's always very thoughtful. Yeah yeah, I really enjoy
Speaker 3: it too, and beautifully Shaw, It's just like a great
Speaker 3: piece of work.
Speaker 4: I agreed.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think we should take a break and come
Speaker 2: back with emails.
Speaker 6: Fancy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Hey, guys, Rosa in Sanchez and I'm Eric Winter
Speaker 1: and together we host that he said Aadijo podcast. Yes,
Speaker 1: after eighteen years together fifteen married, we still disagree about
Speaker 1: a lot of things, but we do it with mutual
Speaker 1: more right.
Speaker 6: Eric, Yes, dear, whatever you say I mean.
Speaker 1: Sometimes you can be a dream popper, okay again, but
Speaker 1: I love the way we can be open and honest.
Speaker 3: With each other.
Speaker 6: Yeah, maybe a little too much.
Speaker 1: Listen to he said a Yadijo as a part of
Speaker 1: Michael Tura Network on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts or whatever.
Speaker 1: You listen to podcasts.
Speaker 5: All right before we get to emails. Yeah, a lot
Speaker 5: of questions about your double date with Krishelle and g Flip.
Speaker 4: Well, we didn't. It wasn't like a double date. Really.
Speaker 2: I was saying that I was saying that we should
Speaker 2: have a double date because we were all at La
Speaker 2: Pride together because g Flip performed earlier in the day
Speaker 2: and then Haley came out with Fletcher and so we
Speaker 2: were all there together and it was so fun and
Speaker 2: like right when they started dating, we went and had
Speaker 2: a dinner together, and I just love both of them,
Speaker 2: and I feel like that we're our relationship kind of
Speaker 2: our relationship dynamic, kind of mirrors each other in the
Speaker 2: sense that like Krishelle and I have both been on
Speaker 2: reality TV, and then g Flip and Haley are both
Speaker 2: like artists and like very like serious and driven and
Speaker 2: focused on their work. So there's like this similar dynamic
Speaker 2: between the four like all of us, but they're awesome.
Speaker 2: It was so fun. I told you, I really want
Speaker 2: Krishelle on the podcast.
Speaker 3: And what's what's stopping her? I think I think that
Speaker 3: she hates me. No, I'm scared of her.
Speaker 5: Why because remember I like did a trending report on
Speaker 5: her on Earth Ryan Seacrest and she like reposted it
Speaker 5: and was like this is not true. Yeah, And I
Speaker 5: was like, I know, I didn't say it was true.
Speaker 5: It was just a quote that came from this guy's mouth.
Speaker 4: Yeah, she didn't mention she hates you, so I don't
Speaker 4: think so.
Speaker 6: But she's more rebutting what he said than what you
Speaker 6: were saying.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I've never had I've never experienced that before
Speaker 3: and it.
Speaker 5: Was a level of of uncomfortableness that I never want
Speaker 5: to feel again.
Speaker 4: But I was just telling her.
Speaker 2: I was like, it's we we have experienced such a
Speaker 2: similar story. And like it's a very busy gals.
Speaker 4: She's she's filming selling sunset.
Speaker 3: She's sure she has a studio in her house.
Speaker 2: But yeah, it was it was really fun. I think
Speaker 2: Pride was crazy. It was like a mini Coachella.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I like Pride's got budget.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they had some budget, like Megan the stallion I carries.
Speaker 4: I was not expecting that, so that was really fun.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Shall we get into emails?
Speaker 6: This is from Actually they're all anonymous these days. I
Speaker 6: have found people have stopped giving us the names and
Speaker 6: that's fine. First one says I'm having a hard time currently. January,
Speaker 6: my fiance went off his antidepressants to see if he
Speaker 6: would feel okay. It's been months now, but he has
Speaker 6: not improved. He's doing a form of treatment soon, which
Speaker 6: I'm hopeful will help. The reason I'm emailing is because
Speaker 6: I made a trip to my parents' house recently because
Speaker 6: we're getting married in September and needed to get some
Speaker 6: things done. My dad stepped in and says he thinks
Speaker 6: we should postpone the wedding. It feels very hurtful. I
Speaker 6: was looking for support in this situation. Depression is a
Speaker 6: part of him, and I know that's what I've signed
Speaker 6: up for. My fiance has been excited about our wedding
Speaker 6: and I would never want to take that away from him.
Speaker 6: How do I get past this with my family? I
Speaker 6: feel judged and I don't feel comfortable around them now,
Speaker 6: I've always been super close with them, so this is hard.
Speaker 6: Your podcast is a light in my life weekly, So
Speaker 6: thank you for doing what you do nice.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry that you're navigating this. I think that sometimes
Speaker 2: our especially our parents don't maybe sometimes understand like mental health.
Speaker 2: Like I feel like that's a conversation around our generation
Speaker 2: a lot more and like younger generations, like we're like
Speaker 2: talking about it a lot more.
Speaker 3: I think that our parents go ahead, go ahead, Well,
Speaker 3: I'm just.
Speaker 4: Gonna say that.
Speaker 2: I think that sometimes with like our partners, we know
Speaker 2: our partners better than our parents will ever know our partners.
Speaker 2: So you've made this choice. You know that he struggles
Speaker 2: with depression, and he's doing his best, and you're doing
Speaker 2: your best to show up for him, and you know
Speaker 2: that that might be something that you're navigating for the
Speaker 2: entirety of your relationship. And your parents are just wanting
Speaker 2: to protect you and and make sure that you're not
Speaker 2: getting into a situation that's going to make life harder
Speaker 2: for you. Is what I feel like is how happening.
Speaker 2: And that doesn't mean that they're right. It just means
Speaker 2: that they're You're like, they're baby girl, and they're like,
Speaker 2: we don't want to see something bad happen to you,
Speaker 2: and if this is a struggle, we don't want to
Speaker 2: see you struggle. And I think it's just as not
Speaker 2: as easy, but it's having a conversation of like you
Speaker 2: are going to make the decisions for your life and
Speaker 2: you know what you're signing up for with this, and
Speaker 2: you're there to support him and you want to move
Speaker 2: forward with a wedding and know that they're not doing
Speaker 2: it from a place of wanting to hurt your feelings
Speaker 2: or not have you feel supported, but they're just they're
Speaker 2: just wanting you to be protected.
Speaker 4: That's what I feel.
Speaker 5: I think you hit the nail on the head with this.
Speaker 5: I think that parents just want their kids' lives to
Speaker 5: be as easy as humanly possible. And it's not necessarily
Speaker 5: it's not how life works, you know what I mean, Like,
Speaker 5: it's just not how life is. But I think that
Speaker 5: is the lens at which they view everything in and
Speaker 5: so in there eyes, this is something that's going to
Speaker 5: be really hard for you to deal with, but it's life,
Speaker 5: and that is something that you love this man, and
Speaker 5: this is something that he struggles with, and this is
Speaker 5: something that you've chosen to take on, and you are
Speaker 5: choosing to take on, and that is you know, like
Speaker 5: you are doing it and you are capable and you
Speaker 5: will do it. I think parents just see it as
Speaker 5: black and white. Honestly. I remember when I first started
Speaker 5: dating Robbie and my mom kind of was like it
Speaker 5: was like our second date, but she was like, oh,
Speaker 5: he had like about the fact that he had kids.
Speaker 3: Like she was like, that's going to be hard for you.
Speaker 3: And she's right, you know, like she it is.
Speaker 5: It's something that's not It's not like I'm just dating
Speaker 5: somebody willy nilly.
Speaker 3: It is like an obstacle, but that is.
Speaker 5: Something that I chose to do. I signed up for,
Speaker 5: and you know, like I think, it's like you have
Speaker 5: to just take your parents. You have to listen to
Speaker 5: what they say, but try not to take it to heart,
Speaker 5: because they just want what's easiest for you and you
Speaker 5: just kind of had in a weird way. You kind
Speaker 5: of just have to brush it off and just keep
Speaker 5: living your life. Don't let it come between you and
Speaker 5: your parents. They're your parents and they love you, you know,
Speaker 5: so just keep your relationship with them, try not to
Speaker 5: take it to heart. I know it sounds really hard,
Speaker 5: but know that it's coming from a place of love
Speaker 5: and just keep going.
Speaker 6: Next one Anonymous, I'm looking for some advice on how
Speaker 6: to navigate my relationship. My boyfriend and I've been together
Speaker 6: a little over seven months. He's divorced. He has three kids.
Speaker 6: Their mom only has visitation for a few hours on
Speaker 6: Sunday and it's supervised. That's interesting anyway. He has met
Speaker 6: most of my family and friends, but it doesn't feel
Speaker 6: comfortable having me meet his kids until we've been together
Speaker 6: for one year. I one hundred percent respect his decision
Speaker 6: and only want to meet them when he feels it's right.
Speaker 6: But I'm having trouble because I feel like I've welcomed
Speaker 6: him into my world. His kids are his world, so
Speaker 6: it's hard to feel validated when I don't know the
Speaker 6: biggest piece of his heart. I am thirty three, he
Speaker 6: is thirty seven. Tanya, Yeah, the tall actually.
Speaker 5: Together, Yeah, I totally. When I say I can relate
Speaker 5: to how you're feeling, I can one hundred percent relate
Speaker 5: to how you're feeling.
Speaker 3: I felt this exact same way. Robbie was very, very protective.
Speaker 5: He did not want his kids to quite frankly, he
Speaker 5: didn't want them to meet anybody until that woman was
Speaker 5: going to be in their lives forever. And so that's
Speaker 5: a lot of pressure when you're newly dating somebody, you know,
Speaker 5: because you want to that you're right, Their kids are
Speaker 5: their world, and so it's like hard to feel that
Speaker 5: you're fully in somebody's world when you haven't met something
Speaker 5: that is so important to them. But I think in hindsight,
Speaker 5: looking back, that time was really hard for me, but
Speaker 5: in a weird way, it was nice to have that
Speaker 5: separation for as long as we did, because once you
Speaker 5: do meet the kids and you get involved, it's full on.
Speaker 5: You know, there's no like middle really with it, you know,
Speaker 5: like there's you're Once you meet the kids, it's full
Speaker 5: on and it's a beautiful experience, but it's a totally
Speaker 5: different experience, and your relationship is going to change.
Speaker 3: The dynamic changes, and so I would.
Speaker 5: Just say to try and live in this moment where
Speaker 5: you just have him and it's just the two of you.
Speaker 5: Because we did that, I didn't meet them for close
Speaker 5: to a year, like nine months, ten months until I
Speaker 5: first met them, So try and live in this moment
Speaker 5: as much as you can and like cherish this phase
Speaker 5: of your relationship because you will meet them eventually and
Speaker 5: it's going to beautiful, but it's going to change the
Speaker 5: dynamic of your relationship.
Speaker 4: I can't relate to the feeling of it all.
Speaker 2: But I have so much respect for Robbie because I
Speaker 2: think that and I think it's people choose whatever they're
Speaker 2: comfortable with and how to introduce kids. But he was
Speaker 2: so protective to his kids and making sure that he
Speaker 2: wasn't just like introducing people that were going to be
Speaker 2: in and out of their lives, and he was so
Speaker 2: he stood so firm in that, and I knew it
Speaker 2: was so hard for you, but I now look he.
Speaker 4: Was hard for him too.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yah, of course, because I'm sure he was,
Speaker 2: Like I would love for them who.
Speaker 4: Wouldn't want their kids to meet you?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 3: And where would they say that?
Speaker 5: He's like I envision us all being together and having
Speaker 5: breakfast and watching, you know, like I was doing stuff
Speaker 5: with them, Like I dream of the day where we're
Speaker 5: all doing this together, you know.
Speaker 4: But I just really respect that he.
Speaker 2: Did it on his time, and I think it's really
Speaker 2: respectful because I think it probably would have been easier
Speaker 2: to have you there to like help and entertain right,
Speaker 2: like to go on trips and have you an extra.
Speaker 3: Hands set of hands.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 5: I think about all the time when we're doing stuff
Speaker 5: together and like one of them wants to do something
Speaker 5: and the other one wants to like go get a sandwich,
Speaker 5: you know, like I can divine and conquer.
Speaker 3: And I think about that all the time, like how.
Speaker 2: Much easier it would have been if he would have
Speaker 2: just been like whatever, It'll be easier just to have
Speaker 2: someone there. So I really, I think it's really respectful
Speaker 2: to hear these stories about people waiting because I think
Speaker 2: it just shows their level of you know, wanting to
Speaker 2: make sure that you're the right person and also what's
Speaker 2: right for their kids.
Speaker 5: So you just didn't want a revolving door, and that
Speaker 5: might be with what's going on with your boyfriend right
Speaker 5: now too.
Speaker 4: Yeah in seven months, so you're almost two years.
Speaker 5: Yeah, you're almost there. Like I I remember after three months,
Speaker 5: I was like, okay, when am I meeting the kids?
Speaker 3: Like I was ready like six weeks Yeah, so what
Speaker 3: do we do in dinner?
Speaker 2: Well?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 2: And I think when you fall in love with someone,
Speaker 2: you're like I want to be involved in every part
Speaker 2: of your life.
Speaker 4: I want you to be in every part of mine.
Speaker 2: And I think for you it was like Robbie was
Speaker 2: involved in every aspect of your life.
Speaker 3: And I was.
Speaker 5: I remember that and you can feel like it does.
Speaker 5: It does feel isolating, you know, like they would FaceTime
Speaker 5: and I couldn't. Really I felt like I was invisible,
Speaker 5: you know, because you're not there. So it does like
Speaker 5: I understand completely what you're going through and it's hard,
Speaker 5: but it.
Speaker 4: You know what they say, it doesn't challenge. If it
Speaker 4: doesn't challenge.
Speaker 3: You, it doesn't change you, and we can all do
Speaker 3: hard things. Oh, Glennon Doyle, that's right. Well, I'll bringing
Speaker 3: it back to my GD.
Speaker 4: That was quick. I think that's it for today. You guys,
Speaker 4: that's it.
Speaker 2: I don't think we don't have a Thursday episode, so
Speaker 2: really soaked this one in.
Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe replay it again on Thursday.
Speaker 2: Give us a replay on Thursday.
Speaker 3: And uh, we love you so much, see you next week.
Speaker 4: Have a great week. Bye bye m