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Speaker 1: Buckle up and hold on today. We got it for

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Speaker 1: you here it is Strawberry Letter. You still sexy. I've

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Speaker 1: been gone couple days, you still got that voice. Okay,

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Speaker 1: thank you, neph you subject my house, my rules. Dear

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley. I've been with my lady for four years

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Speaker 1: and I told her we're getting married, so she suggested

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Speaker 1: up money for our wedding expenses. As soon as she

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Speaker 1: moved in, she stopped working. She said she needed a

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Speaker 1: That was a year ago, and she makes excuses when

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Speaker 1: I ask her about finding a job. She keeps asking

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Speaker 1: with whenever you find a job. I added her to

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Speaker 1: I'm almost fifty and she's thirty one, so I want

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Speaker 1: her to live her life, but be more responsible financially.

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Speaker 1: She cooks, cleans and even takes out the trash. Sex

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Speaker 1: it's amazing when she allows it. Most times, it's an

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Speaker 1: a nasty argument over me asking her to get a job,

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Speaker 1: me saying my house, my rules, and I understand that

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Speaker 1: it sounds mean spirited, but I mean it. That's all

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Speaker 1: why would I do that. I provide the home, I

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Speaker 1: Would I be crazy to propose to her if she

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Speaker 1: doesn't change? Well, absolutely yes, yes, you would be crazy

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Speaker 1: And what makes you think she's gonna change. You're fifty,

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Speaker 1: She probably sees you, sir, as a sugar daddy, which

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Speaker 1: at will. I mean who she is is who she is.

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Speaker 1: You'll only get more of the same if you propose

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Speaker 1: How much more proof do you need? It's been a

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Speaker 1: whole year. She's still not working, she's still living like

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Speaker 1: want it? So what is in this for you to me?

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Speaker 1: You're expecting her to do something she doesn't. Is not

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Speaker 1: We could call it sugar daddy. We could call it

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Speaker 1: the domino effect. We could call it raw sugar, whatever

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Speaker 1: but you want her to be more responsible financially. She's irresponsible.

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Speaker 1: She retired at thirty one. That's I don't know how

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Speaker 1: to say it to you though she retired. She tired working.

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Speaker 1: Hold that thought, Steve. We'll have part two of your

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Speaker 1: response to today's Strawberry Letter at twenty three minutes after

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Speaker 1: the hour. My house, my Rules is the subject. We'll

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Speaker 1: Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: Strawberry letter. The subject my house, my Rules. You know, dog,

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Speaker 1: get married. As soon as she said he would marry her,

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Speaker 1: she said, let's live together. As soon as they moved in,

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Speaker 1: Daddy sitting up in here, don't even understand what's going on. Well, daddy,

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Speaker 1: it's time for you to bring a sugar. So she's retired.

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Speaker 1: She's blowing through her personal savings, shopping online, hanging out

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Speaker 1: let's go over this. She could clean, She even take

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Speaker 1: most most sex. He I'm it's really it's the most

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Speaker 1: Grand Canyon or not Aga Falls. Waver Yeah, it's better

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Speaker 1: Sex is the most amazing thing. It's better than food,

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Speaker 1: better than absolutely it's it's better than breathing because it

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Speaker 1: Now you say most of the time it's an oil

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Speaker 1: Now y'all got in the nasty argument over her ask

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Speaker 1: my rude. And I understand that it sounds mean spirited,

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Speaker 1: but I mean it. Well, that's an apology that ain't

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Speaker 1: it means I sorry I said that. I know it

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Speaker 1: Ain't tell what you're doing, say anybody food? Huh. The

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Speaker 1: But we went in with that understanding that she wouldn't work.

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Speaker 1: she cleaned, she taking out trash. Thought, it's all right, trash.

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Speaker 1: I meant to say that early. Congratulations Sherley. I really

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Speaker 1: talking about what. Aint no more access to this money,

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Speaker 1: ain't no access to the credit? Cut her off and

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna sail that car that I brought you. Yeah, yeah,

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