Speaker 1: This is a second Date podcast with Brook and Jeffrey
Speaker 1: in the morning. And you may have noticed that the
Speaker 1: title looks like it got screwed up today. Go ahead
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Speaker 2: No, it's not a mistake.
Speaker 1: This time he didn't fall asleep and push two too
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Speaker 2: It's a little different today are we are doing something
Speaker 2: a little different. We hope you enjoy it. It's brand new.
Speaker 1: We like to try new things out, so always let
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Speaker 3: What do you see Alexis now Rico and Midnight said
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Speaker 2: You don't love a good urination.
Speaker 4: Please use this on a guy this weekend.
Speaker 1: Alexis are something that my husband I told them a
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Speaker 2: We'll get this brand new.
Speaker 4: Sort of get you hot and heavy.
Speaker 2: If you're listening a little different. Second Date up dates
Speaker 2: started right now.
Speaker 4: We like to shake things up every now and again
Speaker 4: on this show.
Speaker 5: But no Brook for the four hundredth time, we're not
Speaker 5: adding roadkill reviews on the tens.
Speaker 2: Like that.
Speaker 6: I want.
Speaker 5: We know the mango chutney raccoon tail tastes amazing, especially
Speaker 5: if it's microwaves.
Speaker 1: I mean, I can say that without not wanting to
Speaker 1: talk more about it.
Speaker 4: Get it.
Speaker 5: But this time we're shaking things up by doing an
Speaker 5: alternate version of our infamous second Date update.
Speaker 4: You're gonna have to hear it to believe it. We're
Speaker 4: doing it. No spoilers, it's coming up next. Second Date Updated.
Speaker 5: When you go on a date with someone and they
Speaker 5: suddenly break off all communication, no reasons given, that's called
Speaker 5: being ghosted. Yeah, and that's what our second Date updates
Speaker 5: are all about.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it happens a lot.
Speaker 5: Yeah, you're just learning the term now you're a little
Speaker 5: behind it, or I guess we'd also accept the terms breadcrumbing, orbiting,
Speaker 5: semi orbiting, and getting semi trucked, which is that's what
Speaker 5: happened to me off Exit sixteen last Friday, got eighteen
Speaker 5: wheeled within an each of.
Speaker 4: It's a good thing.
Speaker 2: You were disappointed though, Yeah, it was.
Speaker 4: The happiest I've been in YU.
Speaker 5: But what about the people that are past the first
Speaker 5: or second date but not quite into an exclusive relationship yet?
Speaker 4: Oh, you're like in the situationship.
Speaker 2: It's still ghosting though, isn't It's just like worse right.
Speaker 5: The thing is, we didn't really have an outlet a
Speaker 5: segment on this show to help them with that until today, really,
Speaker 5: because we're about to do our first ever twenty second
Speaker 5: date update. People who've been seeing someone for like a
Speaker 5: month or so and now suddenly it's not going well
Speaker 5: and they need our help, Okay, and that's why our
Speaker 5: listener Brittany emailed saying the guy that she's been hanging
Speaker 5: out with has been acting a little distant. She can't
Speaker 5: figure it out. So, Brittany, welcome to the show. I
Speaker 5: know this is a little bit different than our second
Speaker 5: date updates, So let's just start with what's the name
Speaker 5: of the guy? Are you two like in contact with
Speaker 5: each other? Now we're not in contact, Like, what's the situation?
Speaker 7: So his name is Mark. Okay, we've been dating for
Speaker 7: about a month and a half. Now we're not living
Speaker 7: with each other. It's my god.
Speaker 2: Yeah, not that after a month and a half you're
Speaker 2: going to move in.
Speaker 7: I'm just letting you know that's kind of where we are.
Speaker 7: We're not at the stage to move in at all.
Speaker 4: Girlfriend, then like officially.
Speaker 7: I think, so, I no, you're not just.
Speaker 4: Going to tell you you haven't had the official talk yet?
Speaker 6: Then?
Speaker 7: Yeah, right, Like I've deleted my dating app, and he
Speaker 7: says that he was not going to be on the
Speaker 7: dating app either. Here's here's how we're going right now.
Speaker 7: Starting off awesome of course, as most new relationships do.
Speaker 7: But lately we haven't been hanging out as much at night.
Speaker 7: Like before we'd like go on night dates or maybe
Speaker 7: I'd have a little stay over or something like that.
Speaker 7: And now it's not as much at night.
Speaker 2: I mean, doesn't that happen?
Speaker 8: Like after like a month or so, it's like, all right,
Speaker 8: now we see each other maybe twice a week instead
Speaker 8: of five days away.
Speaker 2: No, I think usually it goes the opposite. Usually, if
Speaker 2: you're really into something or someone sorry or something.
Speaker 5: Stay extra club, you end up spending more time at
Speaker 5: their place than you do at your own place.
Speaker 4: If it's progressing.
Speaker 1: Well, Brittany would have been moved in by now, but
Speaker 1: that's not happening.
Speaker 4: He seems to be distancing.
Speaker 7: Himself right Like, I'm just getting these red flags, like
Speaker 7: not at the point where I have his phone pasthward,
Speaker 7: so I can't really look at what these texts are about.
Speaker 7: But I do notice that he is texting with a
Speaker 7: girl who has the same name as his ex.
Speaker 5: Oh, okay, it's a little shady. Have you like brought
Speaker 5: that fact up to him that you've seen the messages
Speaker 5: coming from someone with his ex's name.
Speaker 7: Well, I haven't said anything because I don't want to
Speaker 7: rock the boat and cause problems because it's so fresh
Speaker 7: and so early in this relationship. I just have been
Speaker 7: getting a feeling that he's like hiding something.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, how is all of this affecting you,
Speaker 5: like emotionally, because if it was me and I was
Speaker 5: seeing X text coming in, I would have air tagged
Speaker 5: all of his stuff right now.
Speaker 2: Why are you not just asking him?
Speaker 1: I don't understand to be paranoid without getting an answer.
Speaker 4: Okay, well, yeah, I mean why aren't you doing that?
Speaker 7: I mean, I'm not because I just don't want to
Speaker 7: lose him, Because I really like him, and so I
Speaker 7: don't want to create this confrontation in case it's like,
Speaker 7: oh my gosh, my sister's name is the same as
Speaker 7: my act Okay, I.
Speaker 2: Don't think that's probably gonna be his sister's names after.
Speaker 7: Yeah, And like, where at the point where we're like,
Speaker 7: oh my gosh, you want a dog, I want a dog.
Speaker 7: Let's get a dog together? Not right now, but like.
Speaker 1: Sounds like we're getting a little quick into this relationship.
Speaker 4: You guys are moving through stages.
Speaker 8: Even when you guys both stop going on dating sites,
Speaker 8: that's another stage tours.
Speaker 2: But you can't ask him a question, but you want
Speaker 2: to live together and get a dog?
Speaker 4: Let me see what she's doing.
Speaker 5: She's like considering how he would take the conversation. He
Speaker 5: might feel attact if she's like, why am I getting
Speaker 5: these texts? Why aren't we living together yet? Where's our dog?
Speaker 1: Really?
Speaker 6: Wait?
Speaker 2: Though, I mean, where's our doctor?
Speaker 1: That feels a lot more simple than having us intervene.
Speaker 1: What do you want us to do about it?
Speaker 7: I I don't know. I just I don't like confrontations,
Speaker 7: and I don't want to make things worse and really
Speaker 7: need your help to just figure it out. Where I
Speaker 7: don't say something stupid to his face.
Speaker 6: Okay.
Speaker 7: I mean you are the professionals.
Speaker 5: The professional confrontational people, professional comedian lady.
Speaker 4: I'm not here for dating.
Speaker 2: Okay, you may end up getting hurt here.
Speaker 1: He just sounds like he may not be as interested
Speaker 1: as yet.
Speaker 2: I don't say that to be mean, but Barley, I mean.
Speaker 7: That might be hard for me to hear, but if
Speaker 7: he's feeling that way, then I would like to hear it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's fair.
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 5: So I mean normally, when we would do second date updates,
Speaker 5: we're asking about the date when we're talking to the
Speaker 5: person on the other line. This is going to be
Speaker 5: different with a twenty second date update. We're going to
Speaker 5: call him and confront him about the relationship issues that
Speaker 5: he doesn't know that his girlfriend has with his back front.
Speaker 2: Such a strong word, Okay, it's politely asked.
Speaker 5: Will politely poke his brain and try and get some
Speaker 5: answers for why he's suddenly becoming more distant in your
Speaker 5: new relationship. When we come back and give you your
Speaker 5: first ever twenty second date.
Speaker 4: Update, what folder do we put this in on the podcast?
Speaker 5: It's a typo, Okay, it's all a Lexis's fault.
Speaker 4: Let me come back right after this second date update.
Speaker 5: If you're just joining us, we're doing our first ever
Speaker 5: twenty second date update with our listener Brittany, who's been
Speaker 5: seeing a guy named Mark for the last six weeks
Speaker 5: or so, even though they're not officially labeled his boyfriend
Speaker 5: and girlfriend. They have agreed to get off the apps
Speaker 5: and try to focus more on each other. Brittany doesn't
Speaker 5: really feel like he's been doing that, though, especially not lately.
Speaker 5: He seems to be going out more at nights, acting
Speaker 5: more distant from her, and the really big red flag
Speaker 5: that stood out to her is he's been getting text
Speaker 5: messages from a woman with the same name as his
Speaker 5: ex girlfriend.
Speaker 2: It does not feel like a coincidence. N Yeah, say
Speaker 2: everything else.
Speaker 4: Can we give her a benefit of least? She's not
Speaker 4: like it's his ex. She's like trying to be optimistic.
Speaker 5: Because she can't read the text messages because he hasn't
Speaker 5: shared his passing. The bottom line, a lot of concerns
Speaker 5: on her side, and she personally hates confrontation doesn't want
Speaker 5: to risk the relationship in that way, so she's asked
Speaker 5: us to step in and try to investigate for.
Speaker 2: Her, because the one thing we love is confrontation.
Speaker 5: I know we're trying to keep it light here with you, Brittany,
Speaker 5: but I know you must be going through a lot
Speaker 5: emotionally right now before we make the call.
Speaker 7: Oh yeah, I'm a little stressed, but I mean I
Speaker 7: gotta find out before we keep going. You know.
Speaker 2: Just remember, you're like eight weeks into this thing.
Speaker 1: You know, it's it does feel like a lot, but
Speaker 1: you're gonna look back and be like, oh that oh
Speaker 1: that guy, I forgot about it.
Speaker 5: Actually, she's six weeks into it. Let's not like a relationships.
Speaker 2: Your friends aren't gonna remember this guy.
Speaker 1: Basically, it's not as serious as it feels.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the best way to say it.
Speaker 7: Yeah, for sure. I just I just really like him
Speaker 7: and I'm hoping that it's something.
Speaker 2: Really like And we hope that too for you.
Speaker 5: Yes we do, but not for the not for the
Speaker 5: show drama. Let's just see what happens for our very
Speaker 5: first twenty second date update.
Speaker 4: Still really doing this. We're branding it.
Speaker 6: Here we go.
Speaker 4: Hello, Hey is this Mark?
Speaker 6: This is Mark hey Man, thanks for.
Speaker 5: Picking up the phone. We're actually a radio show. We're
Speaker 5: called Broken Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 2: Hey, Mark, what's up?
Speaker 6: Mark?
Speaker 2: Good morning?
Speaker 1: Sorry, I'm laughing because I'm curious how jeff is going
Speaker 1: to explain why we're calling you?
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, I'm sorry? What what is this?
Speaker 5: So this is a segment we do for the very
Speaker 5: first time. It's called a twenty second date update.
Speaker 4: It rolls right off the tongue.
Speaker 6: Wait, I'm sorry, what what is happened? I feel like
Speaker 6: I do you guys mean to call me?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 5: Yes, we've been asked to call you by the woman
Speaker 5: that you're seeing lately, a woman named Brittany.
Speaker 6: Okay, so he called you, guys.
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, because she really likes you.
Speaker 5: But bottom line is, she's noticed some differences. She feels
Speaker 5: like you've been a little bit more distant, going out
Speaker 5: more at nights than you used to.
Speaker 6: Uh huh uh huh okay, yeah.
Speaker 2: Maybe not as interested in her.
Speaker 5: Yeah, And judging from that response, I can't see why
Speaker 5: she would think that. But uh, there's also a big
Speaker 5: problem that she's noticed with your text messages.
Speaker 4: She's not reading them.
Speaker 2: Because she saw a name pop up on your.
Speaker 4: Phone, but in a non confrontational type of way.
Speaker 5: When you say the word confrontational, doesn't take it away.
Speaker 2: Okay, just tell him, tell him the name.
Speaker 4: Well, I don't know the name.
Speaker 6: But why doesn't she just talk to me about it?
Speaker 2: We asked her the exact same.
Speaker 1: You would think that would be the first step if
Speaker 1: she is very scared of rocking the boats.
Speaker 5: Because she really values this relationship, this blossoming potential relationship
Speaker 5: that you two have, and doesn't want to create an
Speaker 5: issue if there isn't one.
Speaker 4: So is there one?
Speaker 8: I mean, look, there's a couple of things she doesn't know,
Speaker 8: but I don't think it's a big deal.
Speaker 1: Okay, wait, she did say that you guys both deleted
Speaker 1: your dating naps, right, Does that mean that you're only
Speaker 1: seeing her or you still seeing other people?
Speaker 6: No? No, no, I'm only seeing her.
Speaker 8: Okay, but I am technically seeing an ex girlfriend?
Speaker 2: What seeing I've only seen her?
Speaker 6: No?
Speaker 4: No, but dat you need to explain, dude.
Speaker 6: It's not romantic. It's just I don't have a choice.
Speaker 2: How are you somehow a victim in this?
Speaker 8: You don't have a Oh no, no, no, it's just
Speaker 8: I split custody of our French bulldog, so I.
Speaker 6: Have to like coordinate with her like the crop offs.
Speaker 6: Every other week, that's why? Is that all? No, that's all.
Speaker 2: How would she not know that you have a dog
Speaker 2: every other week? Yeah?
Speaker 6: Well, the thing is I don't have actual custody. I
Speaker 6: just have visitation rights.
Speaker 2: That's so late.
Speaker 7: On a second, let me let me clarify.
Speaker 4: So hold on wait sorry Brittany.
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, that's Brittany that she's on the other line
Speaker 5: listening to this phone call.
Speaker 2: Suddenly she's really good at confrontation.
Speaker 7: No, I just need a little bit of clarification. So
Speaker 7: what you're saying is that you're ditching me to hang
Speaker 7: out with the dog and your old doggy mama.
Speaker 6: I mean, why.
Speaker 7: Wouldn't you tell me this? Why have you been hiding this?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 6: Well, I mean I was going to tell you.
Speaker 8: I just I didn't know how to and I didn't
Speaker 8: know if it was like weird or if you think
Speaker 8: it was like normal or weird.
Speaker 6: I just didn't know how to tell you.
Speaker 1: You only have visitation rights at night because it's the night.
Speaker 2: Then you're not hanging out with Brittany.
Speaker 6: Yeah, it's visitation on Wednesday nights.
Speaker 4: You're tucking the dog in.
Speaker 6: You're not going and see another girls, are you? No? No,
Speaker 6: I'm not I'm not and isn't.
Speaker 2: Inviting you to stay the night on Wednesday nights? Issue?
Speaker 8: No, No, It's like I don't even go inside if
Speaker 8: I can avoid it. I just go in the backyard
Speaker 8: with the dog and like play for a few hours.
Speaker 7: Oh my god, Like I literally found a chewed up
Speaker 7: tennis ball in your jacket, Like what is.
Speaker 2: Oh so it's legit? Like he's okay.
Speaker 3: I mean i'd put my pet before a girl I
Speaker 3: met for six weeks.
Speaker 5: I mean, well, I mean, Brittany, now that you've heard that,
Speaker 5: how does that make you feel? Does that make you
Speaker 5: feel better about the situation?
Speaker 7: I feel weird because you lie to me and secretly
Speaker 7: sharing custody of a dog with your ex.
Speaker 6: Which I'm sorry I lied.
Speaker 8: But I mean it's just, you know, it's hard to
Speaker 8: be a good single dog parent and do what's the
Speaker 8: best interest of my dog son.
Speaker 2: I think, Brittany, I think you gotta let this one
Speaker 2: slide a little bit. It sounds really sweet.
Speaker 8: Yeah, well, I do have to say, I mean, in
Speaker 8: the interest of full disclosure, I actually don't share a
Speaker 8: custody of just one.
Speaker 6: I actually share has to be two dogs, two different women.
Speaker 7: Oh geez, what all is a.
Speaker 1: Real confused Do you remember Brittany told us that they
Speaker 1: were talking about getting a dog.
Speaker 7: You're gonna say, like, if we got a dog and
Speaker 7: we broke up, you're gonna have three doggy mommies, and
Speaker 7: why we're.
Speaker 4: Better with dogs and women, that's for sure.
Speaker 1: I don't know because he's not getting full custody of
Speaker 1: a dog.
Speaker 2: Are you just trying to be a part time dog owner?
Speaker 6: No?
Speaker 8: No, I'm just trying to do right by my children,
Speaker 8: I mean my dog's children.
Speaker 7: Like if my life's supposed to be doggy stepmom, now cute.
Speaker 2: I mean it's a French it's kind of cute.
Speaker 1: That is cute.
Speaker 8: I mean I would love for you to meet at
Speaker 8: least one of them at.
Speaker 2: Some soon, some point.
Speaker 1: You don't want to rush introducing your children to a
Speaker 1: new relationship.
Speaker 2: That makes sense.
Speaker 4: Don't traumatize those dogs for the rest of their lives.
Speaker 7: I mean, they will end up loving me better than
Speaker 7: their original mom.
Speaker 4: So I'm never going to get into a custody battle. Like,
Speaker 4: I don't know. This is getting kind of messy now, man,
Speaker 4: this isn't good.
Speaker 1: Okay to suggest if you guys are to stay in
Speaker 1: this relationship. Let's hold off on getting another dog.
Speaker 3: That's for sure.
Speaker 5: But Brittany, now that the whole situation is laid out,
Speaker 5: you know he's not cheating on you.
Speaker 4: Do you feel better about the situation? Like, where's your
Speaker 4: head at?
Speaker 7: Yeah, it's good, it's kind of sweet.
Speaker 4: I mean no, it's not a second date update. We're
Speaker 4: not offering to send them out again. You guys are
Speaker 4: going to agree to continue data.
Speaker 2: Why can't we said about a date?
Speaker 8: Yeah, why can't you send us on a date for
Speaker 8: the dog?
Speaker 4: And then the doggies mom?
Speaker 5: And like, there's there's too many moving parts in that
Speaker 5: a dog friendly You two can just go to a
Speaker 5: free dog park together and talk things out there.
Speaker 7: Perfect, Maybe the dog mom will let you take the
Speaker 7: dog to a dog's heart.
Speaker 8: I have to put in a request two months ahead
Speaker 8: of time, so that's gonna be wild.
Speaker 4: Oh okay, well.
Speaker 2: What did you do in that relationship?
Speaker 5: Well, at least we have some clarification. That's what we
Speaker 5: came here to do. So best of luck to the
Speaker 5: two of you in your developing situation.
Speaker 7: Thanks so much, thanks for helping with confrontation.
Speaker 4: This is a lot still for a couple.
Speaker 5: That's not official, Yes, and we'll come back in a
Speaker 5: few weeks to get our forty second date up with
Speaker 5: you to figure out where you are with your dogs.
Speaker 4: It's Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 2: Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 5: Now for me, and for I think everybody in the room.
Speaker 5: That was weirdly kind of sweet to hear that.
Speaker 4: But some people might.
Speaker 5: Say, though, it's a red flag that the person you're
Speaker 5: dating has multiple doggy mama drama and has already suggested
Speaker 5: adopting a third.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was.
Speaker 1: At sweet with one, and then when we got to two,
Speaker 1: I'm like, dude, what are you doing right?
Speaker 5: I mean, eventually her nights are going to be fully
Speaker 5: booked up visiting all these baby doggies, not to mention
Speaker 5: having to go and for their birthdays and their piano recitals.
Speaker 1: And I really think that he has kind of an
Speaker 1: inflated idea of how important he is to the dog.
Speaker 5: Yeah, with his visitations once a week, once a week
Speaker 5: with it. So if she decides to stick with it,
Speaker 5: it's going to be quite a commitment from her.
Speaker 4: I'm not sure if she really realizes what she's signing
Speaker 4: up for. You.
Speaker 1: I guarantee you they're going to email us back in
Speaker 1: three months and they're going to have a dog, and
Speaker 1: then another six months and then they're gonna be broken up.
Speaker 2: Oh it's a cycle. This man's in a psycle. And
Speaker 2: we didn't even ask him about cats.
Speaker 4: Yeah, or grand baby dogs that he has to deal
Speaker 4: with too.
Speaker 2: We got to span new.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's true.
Speaker 5: So what a thing she really needs to be signing
Speaker 5: up for is our YouTube channel. You can help you
Speaker 5: subscribe to it and that I'm not going to help
Speaker 5: her in a relationship, but we would love to have you.
Speaker 5: We have all of our content up on our YouTube
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