WEBVTT - 22nd Date Update- Suspicious Ex Text 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:02.120 This is a second Date podcast with Brook and Jeffrey 0:00:02.120 --> 0:00:03.680 in the morning. And you may have noticed that the 0:00:03.720 --> 0:00:07.680 title looks like it got screwed up today. Go ahead 0:00:07.720 --> 0:00:09.480 and email Alexis your complaints. 0:00:09.480 --> 0:00:10.760 No, it's not a mistake. 0:00:10.880 --> 0:00:14.960 This time he didn't fall asleep and push two too 0:00:15.000 --> 0:00:15.960 many times. 0:00:16.480 --> 0:00:19.000 It's a little different today are we are doing something 0:00:19.000 --> 0:00:21.599 a little different. We hope you enjoy it. It's brand new. 0:00:21.840 --> 0:00:24.400 We like to try new things out, so always let 0:00:24.440 --> 0:00:26.520 us know in the comments, because, believe it or not. 0:00:26.480 --> 0:00:28.840 We read them all. We can't respond to every single one, 0:00:28.840 --> 0:00:29.640 but we read them all. 0:00:29.840 --> 0:00:32.280 What do you see Alexis now Rico and Midnight said 0:00:32.400 --> 0:00:37.120 a new pickup line I heard about like this right, okay, 0:00:37.400 --> 0:00:40.360 I watch you pee yeah on a scale of one 0:00:40.400 --> 0:00:44.919 to ten. Urinate like urinate, oh, urinate? 0:00:45.240 --> 0:00:46.800 And the delivery was pooring. 0:00:48.240 --> 0:00:53.040 Disappointed in that urna that's better your inn. 0:00:53.920 --> 0:00:55.640 You don't love a good urination. 0:00:56.360 --> 0:00:59.280 Please use this on a guy this weekend. 0:00:59.320 --> 0:01:01.640 Alexis are something that my husband I told them a 0:01:01.760 --> 0:01:02.880 uti joke, so. 0:01:04.400 --> 0:01:07.639 Jo known us about cranberry juice. You know it was fine. 0:01:09.840 --> 0:01:11.320 We'll get this brand new. 0:01:11.319 --> 0:01:12.559 Sort of get you hot and heavy. 0:01:12.600 --> 0:01:16.240 If you're listening a little different. Second Date up dates 0:01:16.280 --> 0:01:17.080 started right now. 0:01:19.480 --> 0:01:21.800 We like to shake things up every now and again 0:01:21.880 --> 0:01:22.480 on this show. 0:01:23.319 --> 0:01:25.600 But no Brook for the four hundredth time, we're not 0:01:25.640 --> 0:01:28.080 adding roadkill reviews on the tens. 0:01:31.000 --> 0:01:31.360 Like that. 0:01:31.560 --> 0:01:32.000 I want. 0:01:32.400 --> 0:01:35.920 We know the mango chutney raccoon tail tastes amazing, especially 0:01:36.000 --> 0:01:37.040 if it's microwaves. 0:01:37.120 --> 0:01:39.520 I mean, I can say that without not wanting to 0:01:39.560 --> 0:01:40.520 talk more about it. 0:01:41.360 --> 0:01:41.679 Get it. 0:01:41.760 --> 0:01:44.800 But this time we're shaking things up by doing an 0:01:44.840 --> 0:01:48.320 alternate version of our infamous second Date update. 0:01:49.200 --> 0:01:51.600 You're gonna have to hear it to believe it. We're 0:01:51.640 --> 0:01:59.440 doing it. No spoilers, it's coming up next. Second Date Updated. 0:02:00.840 --> 0:02:02.840 When you go on a date with someone and they 0:02:02.880 --> 0:02:07.200 suddenly break off all communication, no reasons given, that's called 0:02:07.440 --> 0:02:10.320 being ghosted. Yeah, and that's what our second Date updates 0:02:10.320 --> 0:02:10.919 are all about. 0:02:11.080 --> 0:02:12.079 Yeah, it happens a lot. 0:02:12.280 --> 0:02:14.239 Yeah, you're just learning the term now you're a little 0:02:14.280 --> 0:02:17.720 behind it, or I guess we'd also accept the terms breadcrumbing, orbiting, 0:02:18.040 --> 0:02:23.280 semi orbiting, and getting semi trucked, which is that's what 0:02:23.360 --> 0:02:27.480 happened to me off Exit sixteen last Friday, got eighteen 0:02:27.520 --> 0:02:28.840 wheeled within an each of. 0:02:29.280 --> 0:02:29.919 It's a good thing. 0:02:30.040 --> 0:02:31.920 You were disappointed though, Yeah, it was. 0:02:31.919 --> 0:02:33.240 The happiest I've been in YU. 0:02:34.160 --> 0:02:37.120 But what about the people that are past the first 0:02:37.200 --> 0:02:41.640 or second date but not quite into an exclusive relationship yet? 0:02:41.680 --> 0:02:43.359 Oh, you're like in the situationship. 0:02:43.680 --> 0:02:46.480 It's still ghosting though, isn't It's just like worse right. 0:02:46.720 --> 0:02:48.680 The thing is, we didn't really have an outlet a 0:02:48.720 --> 0:02:53.600 segment on this show to help them with that until today, really, 0:02:53.760 --> 0:02:57.680 because we're about to do our first ever twenty second 0:02:57.840 --> 0:03:02.360 date update. People who've been seeing someone for like a 0:03:02.400 --> 0:03:06.000 month or so and now suddenly it's not going well 0:03:06.080 --> 0:03:08.760 and they need our help, Okay, and that's why our 0:03:08.800 --> 0:03:12.400 listener Brittany emailed saying the guy that she's been hanging 0:03:12.440 --> 0:03:15.519 out with has been acting a little distant. She can't 0:03:15.560 --> 0:03:19.360 figure it out. So, Brittany, welcome to the show. I 0:03:19.400 --> 0:03:20.960 know this is a little bit different than our second 0:03:21.040 --> 0:03:24.079 date updates, So let's just start with what's the name 0:03:24.120 --> 0:03:26.000 of the guy? Are you two like in contact with 0:03:26.080 --> 0:03:28.880 each other? Now we're not in contact, Like, what's the situation? 0:03:29.560 --> 0:03:33.440 So his name is Mark. Okay, we've been dating for 0:03:33.520 --> 0:03:36.120 about a month and a half. Now we're not living 0:03:36.160 --> 0:03:37.480 with each other. It's my god. 0:03:38.080 --> 0:03:42.000 Yeah, not that after a month and a half you're 0:03:42.040 --> 0:03:42.640 going to move in. 0:03:42.800 --> 0:03:44.800 I'm just letting you know that's kind of where we are. 0:03:44.880 --> 0:03:46.920 We're not at the stage to move in at all. 0:03:47.640 --> 0:03:49.600 Girlfriend, then like officially. 0:03:50.080 --> 0:03:53.840 I think, so, I no, you're not just. 0:03:53.680 --> 0:03:55.880 Going to tell you you haven't had the official talk yet? 0:03:55.920 --> 0:03:56.040 Then? 0:03:56.200 --> 0:04:00.400 Yeah, right, Like I've deleted my dating app, and he 0:04:00.480 --> 0:04:02.040 says that he was not going to be on the 0:04:02.120 --> 0:04:05.800 dating app either. Here's here's how we're going right now. 0:04:06.400 --> 0:04:10.160 Starting off awesome of course, as most new relationships do. 0:04:10.880 --> 0:04:14.720 But lately we haven't been hanging out as much at night. 0:04:15.400 --> 0:04:18.479 Like before we'd like go on night dates or maybe 0:04:18.520 --> 0:04:21.120 I'd have a little stay over or something like that. 0:04:21.680 --> 0:04:25.080 And now it's not as much at night. 0:04:26.360 --> 0:04:27.560 I mean, doesn't that happen? 0:04:27.680 --> 0:04:29.880 Like after like a month or so, it's like, all right, 0:04:30.000 --> 0:04:31.640 now we see each other maybe twice a week instead 0:04:31.640 --> 0:04:32.280 of five days away. 0:04:32.320 --> 0:04:34.560 No, I think usually it goes the opposite. Usually, if 0:04:34.560 --> 0:04:38.160 you're really into something or someone sorry or something. 0:04:41.120 --> 0:04:44.240 Stay extra club, you end up spending more time at 0:04:44.240 --> 0:04:46.000 their place than you do at your own place. 0:04:46.360 --> 0:04:47.840 If it's progressing. 0:04:47.480 --> 0:04:52.520 Well, Brittany would have been moved in by now, but 0:04:52.560 --> 0:04:53.719 that's not happening. 0:04:53.880 --> 0:04:55.880 He seems to be distancing. 0:04:55.400 --> 0:04:59.720 Himself right Like, I'm just getting these red flags, like 0:05:00.200 --> 0:05:02.400 not at the point where I have his phone pasthward, 0:05:02.720 --> 0:05:06.400 so I can't really look at what these texts are about. 0:05:06.440 --> 0:05:09.320 But I do notice that he is texting with a 0:05:09.360 --> 0:05:12.480 girl who has the same name as his ex. 0:05:13.360 --> 0:05:18.000 Oh, okay, it's a little shady. Have you like brought 0:05:18.040 --> 0:05:20.520 that fact up to him that you've seen the messages 0:05:20.560 --> 0:05:22.240 coming from someone with his ex's name. 0:05:22.920 --> 0:05:26.880 Well, I haven't said anything because I don't want to 0:05:27.200 --> 0:05:30.159 rock the boat and cause problems because it's so fresh 0:05:30.320 --> 0:05:34.400 and so early in this relationship. I just have been 0:05:34.440 --> 0:05:37.800 getting a feeling that he's like hiding something. 0:05:38.279 --> 0:05:40.359 Yeah, I mean, how is all of this affecting you, 0:05:40.600 --> 0:05:43.000 like emotionally, because if it was me and I was 0:05:43.040 --> 0:05:45.960 seeing X text coming in, I would have air tagged 0:05:46.080 --> 0:05:47.360 all of his stuff right now. 0:05:47.440 --> 0:05:50.520 Why are you not just asking him? 0:05:50.600 --> 0:05:53.640 I don't understand to be paranoid without getting an answer. 0:05:53.800 --> 0:05:55.760 Okay, well, yeah, I mean why aren't you doing that? 0:05:56.200 --> 0:05:59.120 I mean, I'm not because I just don't want to 0:06:00.160 --> 0:06:02.120 lose him, Because I really like him, and so I 0:06:02.160 --> 0:06:05.680 don't want to create this confrontation in case it's like, 0:06:05.839 --> 0:06:08.480 oh my gosh, my sister's name is the same as 0:06:08.520 --> 0:06:09.520 my act Okay, I. 0:06:09.480 --> 0:06:12.000 Don't think that's probably gonna be his sister's names after. 0:06:12.360 --> 0:06:14.839 Yeah, And like, where at the point where we're like, 0:06:14.880 --> 0:06:17.040 oh my gosh, you want a dog, I want a dog. 0:06:17.120 --> 0:06:19.400 Let's get a dog together? Not right now, but like. 0:06:19.480 --> 0:06:22.279 Sounds like we're getting a little quick into this relationship. 0:06:22.440 --> 0:06:23.760 You guys are moving through stages. 0:06:23.800 --> 0:06:26.159 Even when you guys both stop going on dating sites, 0:06:26.200 --> 0:06:27.520 that's another stage tours. 0:06:27.680 --> 0:06:29.480 But you can't ask him a question, but you want 0:06:29.520 --> 0:06:30.440 to live together and get a dog? 0:06:31.080 --> 0:06:32.159 Let me see what she's doing. 0:06:32.240 --> 0:06:35.680 She's like considering how he would take the conversation. He 0:06:35.800 --> 0:06:38.920 might feel attact if she's like, why am I getting 0:06:38.920 --> 0:06:42.440 these texts? Why aren't we living together yet? Where's our dog? 0:06:42.720 --> 0:06:42.960 Really? 0:06:43.040 --> 0:06:43.240 Wait? 0:06:43.240 --> 0:06:44.560 Though, I mean, where's our doctor? 0:06:44.680 --> 0:06:47.240 That feels a lot more simple than having us intervene. 0:06:47.279 --> 0:06:48.840 What do you want us to do about it? 0:06:49.080 --> 0:06:51.680 I I don't know. I just I don't like confrontations, 0:06:51.880 --> 0:06:55.039 and I don't want to make things worse and really 0:06:55.040 --> 0:06:57.400 need your help to just figure it out. Where I 0:06:57.440 --> 0:06:59.440 don't say something stupid to his face. 0:07:00.080 --> 0:07:00.640 Okay. 0:07:00.920 --> 0:07:04.560 I mean you are the professionals. 0:07:03.240 --> 0:07:06.720 The professional confrontational people, professional comedian lady. 0:07:06.720 --> 0:07:07.719 I'm not here for dating. 0:07:08.040 --> 0:07:10.320 Okay, you may end up getting hurt here. 0:07:10.400 --> 0:07:12.560 He just sounds like he may not be as interested 0:07:12.640 --> 0:07:14.080 as yet. 0:07:14.400 --> 0:07:18.480 I don't say that to be mean, but Barley, I mean. 0:07:18.400 --> 0:07:21.240 That might be hard for me to hear, but if 0:07:21.240 --> 0:07:23.920 he's feeling that way, then I would like to hear it. 0:07:24.160 --> 0:07:26.400 Yeah, and that's fair. 0:07:26.520 --> 0:07:26.840 Okay. 0:07:26.920 --> 0:07:30.440 So I mean normally, when we would do second date updates, 0:07:30.600 --> 0:07:33.760 we're asking about the date when we're talking to the 0:07:33.800 --> 0:07:35.520 person on the other line. This is going to be 0:07:35.560 --> 0:07:39.280 different with a twenty second date update. We're going to 0:07:39.360 --> 0:07:42.800 call him and confront him about the relationship issues that 0:07:42.880 --> 0:07:45.840 he doesn't know that his girlfriend has with his back front. 0:07:45.880 --> 0:07:48.440 Such a strong word, Okay, it's politely asked. 0:07:48.440 --> 0:07:51.680 Will politely poke his brain and try and get some 0:07:51.840 --> 0:07:55.600 answers for why he's suddenly becoming more distant in your 0:07:55.600 --> 0:07:58.640 new relationship. When we come back and give you your 0:07:58.680 --> 0:08:00.560 first ever twenty second date. 0:08:00.520 --> 0:08:03.080 Update, what folder do we put this in on the podcast? 0:08:03.880 --> 0:08:07.400 It's a typo, Okay, it's all a Lexis's fault. 0:08:07.480 --> 0:08:11.360 Let me come back right after this second date update. 0:08:12.720 --> 0:08:15.239 If you're just joining us, we're doing our first ever 0:08:15.520 --> 0:08:19.520 twenty second date update with our listener Brittany, who's been 0:08:19.520 --> 0:08:21.920 seeing a guy named Mark for the last six weeks 0:08:22.040 --> 0:08:25.520 or so, even though they're not officially labeled his boyfriend 0:08:25.520 --> 0:08:28.880 and girlfriend. They have agreed to get off the apps 0:08:28.920 --> 0:08:32.280 and try to focus more on each other. Brittany doesn't 0:08:32.280 --> 0:08:35.400 really feel like he's been doing that, though, especially not lately. 0:08:35.760 --> 0:08:38.520 He seems to be going out more at nights, acting 0:08:38.920 --> 0:08:41.959 more distant from her, and the really big red flag 0:08:42.000 --> 0:08:44.200 that stood out to her is he's been getting text 0:08:44.200 --> 0:08:47.240 messages from a woman with the same name as his 0:08:47.320 --> 0:08:48.280 ex girlfriend. 0:08:48.480 --> 0:08:51.679 It does not feel like a coincidence. N Yeah, say 0:08:51.679 --> 0:08:52.200 everything else. 0:08:52.240 --> 0:08:54.000 Can we give her a benefit of least? She's not 0:08:54.120 --> 0:08:57.280 like it's his ex. She's like trying to be optimistic. 0:08:56.640 --> 0:08:59.160 Because she can't read the text messages because he hasn't 0:08:59.160 --> 0:09:02.880 shared his passing. The bottom line, a lot of concerns 0:09:02.920 --> 0:09:07.000 on her side, and she personally hates confrontation doesn't want 0:09:07.000 --> 0:09:10.120 to risk the relationship in that way, so she's asked 0:09:10.240 --> 0:09:13.080 us to step in and try to investigate for. 0:09:13.000 --> 0:09:15.439 Her, because the one thing we love is confrontation. 0:09:15.720 --> 0:09:18.480 I know we're trying to keep it light here with you, Brittany, 0:09:18.520 --> 0:09:20.000 but I know you must be going through a lot 0:09:20.040 --> 0:09:21.840 emotionally right now before we make the call. 0:09:22.320 --> 0:09:24.800 Oh yeah, I'm a little stressed, but I mean I 0:09:24.840 --> 0:09:27.400 gotta find out before we keep going. You know. 0:09:27.800 --> 0:09:30.640 Just remember, you're like eight weeks into this thing. 0:09:31.080 --> 0:09:33.920 You know, it's it does feel like a lot, but 0:09:33.960 --> 0:09:35.600 you're gonna look back and be like, oh that oh 0:09:35.679 --> 0:09:36.679 that guy, I forgot about it. 0:09:37.320 --> 0:09:41.119 Actually, she's six weeks into it. Let's not like a relationships. 0:09:41.320 --> 0:09:42.600 Your friends aren't gonna remember this guy. 0:09:44.080 --> 0:09:47.520 Basically, it's not as serious as it feels. 0:09:47.760 --> 0:09:49.240 Yeah, that's the best way to say it. 0:09:49.320 --> 0:09:51.600 Yeah, for sure. I just I just really like him 0:09:51.600 --> 0:09:53.280 and I'm hoping that it's something. 0:09:53.240 --> 0:09:56.120 Really like And we hope that too for you. 0:09:56.480 --> 0:09:58.360 Yes we do, but not for the not for the 0:09:58.360 --> 0:10:01.840 show drama. Let's just see what happens for our very 0:10:01.880 --> 0:10:03.920 first twenty second date update. 0:10:04.559 --> 0:10:06.520 Still really doing this. We're branding it. 0:10:07.160 --> 0:10:07.640 Here we go. 0:10:15.480 --> 0:10:17.600 Hello, Hey is this Mark? 0:10:18.600 --> 0:10:20.840 This is Mark hey Man, thanks for. 0:10:20.720 --> 0:10:23.960 Picking up the phone. We're actually a radio show. We're 0:10:23.960 --> 0:10:25.360 called Broken Jeffrey in the morning. 0:10:25.880 --> 0:10:27.280 Hey, Mark, what's up? 0:10:27.320 --> 0:10:27.520 Mark? 0:10:27.520 --> 0:10:28.040 Good morning? 0:10:28.240 --> 0:10:30.760 Sorry, I'm laughing because I'm curious how jeff is going 0:10:30.800 --> 0:10:32.400 to explain why we're calling you? 0:10:32.640 --> 0:10:35.040 Oh yeah, I'm sorry? What what is this? 0:10:35.559 --> 0:10:39.959 So this is a segment we do for the very 0:10:39.960 --> 0:10:43.400 first time. It's called a twenty second date update. 0:10:45.240 --> 0:10:46.480 It rolls right off the tongue. 0:10:47.000 --> 0:10:48.760 Wait, I'm sorry, what what is happened? I feel like 0:10:48.760 --> 0:10:50.319 I do you guys mean to call me? 0:10:50.679 --> 0:10:50.839 Yes? 0:10:50.920 --> 0:10:54.640 Yes, we've been asked to call you by the woman 0:10:54.760 --> 0:10:58.200 that you're seeing lately, a woman named Brittany. 0:10:59.280 --> 0:11:01.720 Okay, so he called you, guys. 0:11:01.800 --> 0:11:04.880 Yes, yes, because she really likes you. 0:11:06.120 --> 0:11:10.200 But bottom line is, she's noticed some differences. She feels 0:11:10.240 --> 0:11:13.640 like you've been a little bit more distant, going out 0:11:13.640 --> 0:11:15.040 more at nights than you used to. 0:11:16.880 --> 0:11:19.520 Uh huh uh huh okay, yeah. 0:11:19.400 --> 0:11:20.719 Maybe not as interested in her. 0:11:20.960 --> 0:11:24.679 Yeah, And judging from that response, I can't see why 0:11:24.720 --> 0:11:27.920 she would think that. But uh, there's also a big 0:11:28.000 --> 0:11:30.400 problem that she's noticed with your text messages. 0:11:30.840 --> 0:11:31.959 She's not reading them. 0:11:37.200 --> 0:11:39.400 Because she saw a name pop up on your. 0:11:39.240 --> 0:11:41.840 Phone, but in a non confrontational type of way. 0:11:42.000 --> 0:11:44.680 When you say the word confrontational, doesn't take it away. 0:11:44.720 --> 0:11:47.480 Okay, just tell him, tell him the name. 0:11:47.720 --> 0:11:48.640 Well, I don't know the name. 0:11:48.640 --> 0:11:50.440 But why doesn't she just talk to me about it? 0:11:50.559 --> 0:11:51.840 We asked her the exact same. 0:11:51.880 --> 0:11:54.360 You would think that would be the first step if 0:11:54.400 --> 0:11:58.199 she is very scared of rocking the boats. 0:11:57.920 --> 0:12:02.479 Because she really values this relationship, this blossoming potential relationship 0:12:02.640 --> 0:12:05.560 that you two have, and doesn't want to create an 0:12:05.600 --> 0:12:06.800 issue if there isn't one. 0:12:07.320 --> 0:12:08.120 So is there one? 0:12:09.640 --> 0:12:11.920 I mean, look, there's a couple of things she doesn't know, 0:12:12.080 --> 0:12:13.200 but I don't think it's a big deal. 0:12:13.320 --> 0:12:17.319 Okay, wait, she did say that you guys both deleted 0:12:17.320 --> 0:12:21.240 your dating naps, right, Does that mean that you're only 0:12:21.280 --> 0:12:23.680 seeing her or you still seeing other people? 0:12:24.480 --> 0:12:26.319 No? No, no, I'm only seeing her. 0:12:26.840 --> 0:12:31.280 Okay, but I am technically seeing an ex girlfriend? 0:12:31.600 --> 0:12:34.960 What seeing I've only seen her? 0:12:36.080 --> 0:12:36.440 No? 0:12:36.240 --> 0:12:39.040 No, but dat you need to explain, dude. 0:12:39.720 --> 0:12:43.000 It's not romantic. It's just I don't have a choice. 0:12:43.520 --> 0:12:45.280 How are you somehow a victim in this? 0:12:45.440 --> 0:12:47.520 You don't have a Oh no, no, no, it's just 0:12:47.760 --> 0:12:53.160 I split custody of our French bulldog, so I. 0:12:53.080 --> 0:12:56.760 Have to like coordinate with her like the crop offs. 0:12:56.800 --> 0:13:00.960 Every other week, that's why? Is that all? No, that's all. 0:13:01.280 --> 0:13:03.280 How would she not know that you have a dog 0:13:03.440 --> 0:13:04.839 every other week? Yeah? 0:13:05.720 --> 0:13:08.440 Well, the thing is I don't have actual custody. I 0:13:08.520 --> 0:13:10.080 just have visitation rights. 0:13:12.160 --> 0:13:12.880 That's so late. 0:13:14.840 --> 0:13:18.040 On a second, let me let me clarify. 0:13:18.200 --> 0:13:19.880 So hold on wait sorry Brittany. 0:13:19.960 --> 0:13:22.280 Yeah, yeah, that's Brittany that she's on the other line 0:13:22.320 --> 0:13:23.439 listening to this phone call. 0:13:23.880 --> 0:13:25.400 Suddenly she's really good at confrontation. 0:13:27.080 --> 0:13:29.360 No, I just need a little bit of clarification. So 0:13:29.840 --> 0:13:33.040 what you're saying is that you're ditching me to hang 0:13:33.040 --> 0:13:39.079 out with the dog and your old doggy mama. 0:13:39.240 --> 0:13:40.880 I mean, why. 0:13:40.520 --> 0:13:42.680 Wouldn't you tell me this? Why have you been hiding this? 0:13:43.280 --> 0:13:43.600 Yeah? 0:13:43.640 --> 0:13:45.480 Well, I mean I was going to tell you. 0:13:45.559 --> 0:13:48.400 I just I didn't know how to and I didn't 0:13:48.400 --> 0:13:50.679 know if it was like weird or if you think 0:13:50.720 --> 0:13:52.280 it was like normal or weird. 0:13:52.320 --> 0:13:53.960 I just didn't know how to tell you. 0:13:53.960 --> 0:13:57.920 You only have visitation rights at night because it's the night. 0:13:58.160 --> 0:14:00.920 Then you're not hanging out with Brittany. 0:14:01.480 --> 0:14:03.720 Yeah, it's visitation on Wednesday nights. 0:14:05.400 --> 0:14:06.720 You're tucking the dog in. 0:14:06.800 --> 0:14:09.839 You're not going and see another girls, are you? No? No, 0:14:09.920 --> 0:14:11.720 I'm not I'm not and isn't. 0:14:11.480 --> 0:14:14.600 Inviting you to stay the night on Wednesday nights? Issue? 0:14:14.840 --> 0:14:17.160 No, No, It's like I don't even go inside if 0:14:17.200 --> 0:14:18.880 I can avoid it. I just go in the backyard 0:14:18.920 --> 0:14:22.120 with the dog and like play for a few hours. 0:14:20.760 --> 0:14:25.080 Oh my god, Like I literally found a chewed up 0:14:25.120 --> 0:14:31.600 tennis ball in your jacket, Like what is. 0:14:32.360 --> 0:14:34.680 Oh so it's legit? Like he's okay. 0:14:34.760 --> 0:14:36.160 I mean i'd put my pet before a girl I 0:14:36.240 --> 0:14:37.000 met for six weeks. 0:14:37.240 --> 0:14:40.680 I mean, well, I mean, Brittany, now that you've heard that, 0:14:40.760 --> 0:14:42.480 how does that make you feel? Does that make you 0:14:42.520 --> 0:14:43.960 feel better about the situation? 0:14:44.520 --> 0:14:48.240 I feel weird because you lie to me and secretly 0:14:48.480 --> 0:14:51.600 sharing custody of a dog with your ex. 0:14:51.880 --> 0:14:53.240 Which I'm sorry I lied. 0:14:53.040 --> 0:14:54.840 But I mean it's just, you know, it's hard to 0:14:54.840 --> 0:14:57.600 be a good single dog parent and do what's the 0:14:57.600 --> 0:14:59.000 best interest of my dog son. 0:15:00.960 --> 0:15:04.080 I think, Brittany, I think you gotta let this one 0:15:04.080 --> 0:15:06.720 slide a little bit. It sounds really sweet. 0:15:07.000 --> 0:15:08.840 Yeah, well, I do have to say, I mean, in 0:15:08.880 --> 0:15:11.760 the interest of full disclosure, I actually don't share a 0:15:11.800 --> 0:15:12.800 custody of just one. 0:15:12.920 --> 0:15:16.520 I actually share has to be two dogs, two different women. 0:15:16.960 --> 0:15:19.480 Oh geez, what all is a. 0:15:19.600 --> 0:15:24.200 Real confused Do you remember Brittany told us that they 0:15:24.200 --> 0:15:25.720 were talking about getting a dog. 0:15:26.720 --> 0:15:30.600 You're gonna say, like, if we got a dog and 0:15:30.640 --> 0:15:33.360 we broke up, you're gonna have three doggy mommies, and 0:15:33.440 --> 0:15:34.240 why we're. 0:15:34.080 --> 0:15:35.760 Better with dogs and women, that's for sure. 0:15:35.800 --> 0:15:37.880 I don't know because he's not getting full custody of 0:15:37.920 --> 0:15:38.760 a dog. 0:15:40.840 --> 0:15:43.120 Are you just trying to be a part time dog owner? 0:15:43.800 --> 0:15:44.240 No? 0:15:44.320 --> 0:15:46.800 No, I'm just trying to do right by my children, 0:15:46.840 --> 0:15:47.960 I mean my dog's children. 0:15:48.640 --> 0:15:54.320 Like if my life's supposed to be doggy stepmom, now cute. 0:15:53.960 --> 0:15:55.400 I mean it's a French it's kind of cute. 0:15:55.560 --> 0:15:56.280 That is cute. 0:15:56.320 --> 0:15:58.480 I mean I would love for you to meet at 0:15:58.560 --> 0:15:59.760 least one of them at. 0:15:59.680 --> 0:16:03.280 Some soon, some point. 0:16:03.360 --> 0:16:05.960 You don't want to rush introducing your children to a 0:16:05.960 --> 0:16:06.920 new relationship. 0:16:09.280 --> 0:16:09.880 That makes sense. 0:16:09.920 --> 0:16:12.640 Don't traumatize those dogs for the rest of their lives. 0:16:12.880 --> 0:16:14.640 I mean, they will end up loving me better than 0:16:14.640 --> 0:16:15.520 their original mom. 0:16:15.640 --> 0:16:18.760 So I'm never going to get into a custody battle. Like, 0:16:18.920 --> 0:16:21.320 I don't know. This is getting kind of messy now, man, 0:16:21.400 --> 0:16:22.080 this isn't good. 0:16:22.200 --> 0:16:24.080 Okay to suggest if you guys are to stay in 0:16:24.080 --> 0:16:27.080 this relationship. Let's hold off on getting another dog. 0:16:27.320 --> 0:16:32.000 That's for sure. 0:16:32.320 --> 0:16:35.120 But Brittany, now that the whole situation is laid out, 0:16:35.160 --> 0:16:37.080 you know he's not cheating on you. 0:16:37.720 --> 0:16:40.040 Do you feel better about the situation? Like, where's your 0:16:40.040 --> 0:16:40.440 head at? 0:16:40.960 --> 0:16:44.280 Yeah, it's good, it's kind of sweet. 0:16:44.800 --> 0:16:46.640 I mean no, it's not a second date update. We're 0:16:46.640 --> 0:16:48.720 not offering to send them out again. You guys are 0:16:48.720 --> 0:16:50.000 going to agree to continue data. 0:16:50.320 --> 0:16:51.560 Why can't we said about a date? 0:16:51.880 --> 0:16:54.440 Yeah, why can't you send us on a date for 0:16:54.520 --> 0:16:55.000 the dog? 0:16:55.120 --> 0:16:56.440 And then the doggies mom? 0:16:56.600 --> 0:16:58.920 And like, there's there's too many moving parts in that 0:16:59.200 --> 0:17:01.400 a dog friendly You two can just go to a 0:17:01.440 --> 0:17:03.800 free dog park together and talk things out there. 0:17:04.760 --> 0:17:07.359 Perfect, Maybe the dog mom will let you take the 0:17:07.400 --> 0:17:10.560 dog to a dog's heart. 0:17:11.920 --> 0:17:13.639 I have to put in a request two months ahead 0:17:13.640 --> 0:17:14.960 of time, so that's gonna be wild. 0:17:15.000 --> 0:17:17.120 Oh okay, well. 0:17:17.280 --> 0:17:18.840 What did you do in that relationship? 0:17:21.920 --> 0:17:25.520 Well, at least we have some clarification. That's what we 0:17:25.600 --> 0:17:27.560 came here to do. So best of luck to the 0:17:27.600 --> 0:17:30.399 two of you in your developing situation. 0:17:30.880 --> 0:17:33.199 Thanks so much, thanks for helping with confrontation. 0:17:34.840 --> 0:17:36.560 This is a lot still for a couple. 0:17:36.280 --> 0:17:40.439 That's not official, Yes, and we'll come back in a 0:17:40.480 --> 0:17:43.600 few weeks to get our forty second date up with 0:17:43.720 --> 0:17:45.959 you to figure out where you are with your dogs. 0:17:46.040 --> 0:17:47.440 It's Brook and Jeffrey in the morning. 0:17:47.760 --> 0:17:50.040 Brook and Jeffrey in the morning. 0:17:50.320 --> 0:17:52.880 Now for me, and for I think everybody in the room. 0:17:52.920 --> 0:17:57.000 That was weirdly kind of sweet to hear that. 0:17:57.440 --> 0:17:59.840 But some people might. 0:17:59.680 --> 0:18:02.080 Say, though, it's a red flag that the person you're 0:18:02.160 --> 0:18:06.720 dating has multiple doggy mama drama and has already suggested 0:18:06.760 --> 0:18:07.680 adopting a third. 0:18:07.880 --> 0:18:08.480 Yeah, I was. 0:18:08.520 --> 0:18:10.880 At sweet with one, and then when we got to two, 0:18:11.000 --> 0:18:12.920 I'm like, dude, what are you doing right? 0:18:12.960 --> 0:18:15.119