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Speaker 1: Let's go, let's buckle up, hold on tight head, and

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Speaker 1: thank you Tommy. Subject he doesn't call any more. Hello,

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley. I met a guy about a month ago.

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Speaker 1: We met at a restaurant he co owns with a friend.

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Speaker 1: We sat there for the whole night, chatting the night away,

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Speaker 1: and left in the morning. He got my numbers from

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Speaker 1: a girlfriend of mine just before we left the place.

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Speaker 1: He then called thirty minutes later to find out if

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Speaker 1: we got home safe. The next day I called him,

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Speaker 1: We had a chat, and during the week he proposed

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Speaker 1: to meet again with me, but he didn't pitch. I

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Speaker 1: don't get that part. I don't get that, but anyway,

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Speaker 1: buddy didn't pitch. That's what she says. Then called later

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Speaker 1: to apologize as he had to present reports to his manager.

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Speaker 1: In the same week, Friday, we met again at the restaurant,

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Speaker 1: then later went home, and the next week he called

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Speaker 1: and told me he wanted to see me, even if

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Speaker 1: it was only for a minute. By that time I

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Speaker 1: was on my way home. I called him again. We chatted,

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Speaker 1: then we met again at the restaurant and he offered

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Speaker 1: to give me a full body massage, of which I rejected.

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Speaker 1: Him nicely. Recently, he doesn't call at all. He doesn't

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Speaker 1: get back to me like he used to. Can you

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Speaker 1: please advise advise on what I can do without compromising

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Speaker 1: myself in this situation. Warmest regards, Laredo. Okay, Laredo. If

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Speaker 1: what I think happened actually did happen, then that could

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Speaker 1: be and it's probably why he's not calling you anymore.

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Speaker 1: He said, you guys met at a restaurant then later

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Speaker 1: went home. I gotta ask you if you meant that

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Speaker 1: you went home together, because that's certainly what it sounds like.

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Speaker 1: But then at the end of the letter you said

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Speaker 1: you don't want to compromise yourself. But if you guys

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Speaker 1: went home together already, then I'm assuming you compromised yourself

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Speaker 1: earlier in the letter. It's a little confusing right there

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Speaker 1: for me. And there's a lot of stuff going on,

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Speaker 1: a lot of stuff having really really fast. Uh, you

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Speaker 1: next day. It sounds a little eager, a little desperate

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Speaker 1: to me. That's just that's my opinion, you know. And

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Speaker 1: I have some other questions. Why was he presenting reports

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Speaker 1: to his manager if he owns the restaurant. A lot

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Speaker 1: of confusing stuff going on in this letter. Um. Also, um,

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Speaker 1: you called him again, he asked you for a full

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Speaker 1: body massage. You rejected him nicely. Again, that doesn't sound

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Speaker 1: like you know you guys went home and got busy.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. This letter is confusing to me, Steve,

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Speaker 1: What do you think you can at least get started?

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Speaker 1: This whole thing is just because your letter is s poetic.

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Speaker 1: You've um given us information out of order, uh, incomplete.

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Speaker 1: And any time a woman writes income completely, it's because

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Speaker 1: she's intentionally leaving something out. You're the most now, you're

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Speaker 1: the most thorough communicators I know on Earth. You all

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Speaker 1: will tell it all because you alls gift is probing

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Speaker 1: and digging in and getting into the depth of the conversation.

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Speaker 1: So when you read a letter from a woman who

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Speaker 1: has an incomplete letter, it's because she's trying to pick

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Speaker 1: the information she's going to share with you and leave

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Speaker 1: out other information. You all are the best at it

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Speaker 1: in the world, communicating and talking. So how she even

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Speaker 1: wrote a letter that we don't understand, it's because she

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Speaker 1: had left some stuff out, but she trying to figure

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Speaker 1: out But now, how does she clean up and fix

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Speaker 1: this mess. Well, I got some news for you when

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Speaker 1: we come back now. Um, and you probably not gonna

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Speaker 1: like this answer right here, But this answer is the

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Speaker 1: truth because you are a chapter in the book, and

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Speaker 1: sport Fisher, she's she's the chapter in the book. That's

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Speaker 1: why I wrote it. I'll explain it to you when

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Speaker 1: we come back. You know, ma'am, you left a lot

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Speaker 1: of information out of your letter. Uh, Laredo or Larato,

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Speaker 1: whatever your name is. You met a guy about a

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Speaker 1: a friend. Um, like Shirley said, if he call owns

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Speaker 1: a restaurant, why is he um feeling out? Reports to

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Speaker 1: his manager. Uh, the owner don't feel out, reports to

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Speaker 1: the manager. The manager feels out, reports to the owner. Uh.

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Speaker 1: Here's see, here's what here, here's here's what started this

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Speaker 1: whole thing. Ladies, be careful of this right here. We

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Speaker 1: you're impressed by that. And then he called and make

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Speaker 1: sure I got home. Ladies, listen to me. Don't be

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Speaker 1: totally impressed by the things we automatically doing the beginning.

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Speaker 1: it's nice that he does it, it's reasons troublesome if

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Speaker 1: he doesn't, that's the red flag. But please don't bring

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Speaker 1: you got home safe. Hell, that's routine. Player move one

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Speaker 1: on one first night, okay. Then the next day I

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Speaker 1: meet you again, but he didn't pitch. I think that's

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Speaker 1: meaning that he didn't show up. He didn't play. Then

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Speaker 1: met again at the restaurant, YadA YadA. The next week

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Speaker 1: a minute, but you was on the way home. I

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Speaker 1: called him again in the restaurant. Then he offered to

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Speaker 1: give you a full body massage and you rejected him. Nice.

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Speaker 1: Now recently he doesn't call at all. He doesn't get

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Speaker 1: back to me like he used to. Can you please

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Speaker 1: advise on what I can do without compromising myself in

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Speaker 1: this situation. Okay, First of all, what's wrong if all

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Speaker 1: y'all deal was chat a few times at the restaurant

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Speaker 1: at the house, he offered to do a full body massage.

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Speaker 1: You told him. Now now he don't call no more. Okay.

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Speaker 1: Then that's the chapter in the book that spurred the

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Speaker 1: sport fisherman theory. He's fishing not to keep, but to

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Speaker 1: throw back. Now you are a throwback, not because of

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Speaker 1: the actions you did, but because he just not looking

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Speaker 1: for someone like you. Here's a deal. See, it seems

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Speaker 1: like she did everything right. I agree with Shirley. Did

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Speaker 1: you sleep with the guy when you went home? What

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Speaker 1: does that mean? But if you didn't, you've done everything

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Speaker 1: right enough soul that you found out he was wrong. See, ladies,

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Speaker 1: that's what you gotta get yourself in a position to

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Speaker 1: wrong or not. Is it not better to find out

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Speaker 1: right now that you won't call you then if you

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Speaker 1: have broke off the cookie, gave him your time in

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Speaker 1: the short this is only a week or two we talk.

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Speaker 1: But now she's so distraught. She wrote a letter because

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Speaker 1: she can't figure out what's wrong. It's nothing wrong. You

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Speaker 1: figured out that he was wrong. You did everything right,

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Speaker 1: the guys talking, He didn't call you back walk away.

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Speaker 1: She was feeling him though it, and she just wanted

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Speaker 1: to quit feeling because he ain't feeling you exactly. He's

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Speaker 1: not that into you. All right, email, let's your Instagram.

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Speaker 1: That's your thoughts on today's letter at my girl. Surely okay.

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