1 00:00:11,320 --> 00:00:16,040 Speaker 1: Success? What does that word even mean? I have a 2 00:00:16,160 --> 00:00:18,960 Speaker 1: question for you that I've been trying to answer for myself. 3 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:24,040 Speaker 1: Putting aside success in a career, hobbies, or personal accomplishments, 4 00:00:24,120 --> 00:00:28,680 Speaker 1: in your opinion, how could you judge success for yourself 5 00:00:29,520 --> 00:00:32,560 Speaker 1: as a husband or a father, or a son or 6 00:00:32,600 --> 00:00:37,640 Speaker 1: a daughter, a mother? What does that even mean? That's 7 00:00:37,640 --> 00:00:41,559 Speaker 1: a question on an email I got today, and I'm 8 00:00:41,560 --> 00:00:43,800 Speaker 1: going to dive into it because it's an interesting concept. 9 00:00:43,880 --> 00:00:49,440 Speaker 1: Success is something that is That term is so widely used, 10 00:00:49,440 --> 00:00:54,360 Speaker 1: and yet it's still so mysterious because so many people 11 00:00:54,440 --> 00:00:57,520 Speaker 1: define that word in so many different ways, Like your 12 00:00:57,560 --> 00:01:02,480 Speaker 1: boss or your teacher might look at success for you differently, 13 00:01:02,800 --> 00:01:07,840 Speaker 1: or your parent or your grandparent or your kid might 14 00:01:07,920 --> 00:01:13,520 Speaker 1: look at that differently for you or themselves. And success 15 00:01:13,680 --> 00:01:18,560 Speaker 1: is defined so many different ways for that individual. So 16 00:01:18,600 --> 00:01:22,160 Speaker 1: how do you call yourself successful? And people struggle with that. 17 00:01:22,400 --> 00:01:25,920 Speaker 1: We all struggle at some level with defining our own success, 18 00:01:26,000 --> 00:01:30,240 Speaker 1: Like is it because of accomplishments in your career? Is 19 00:01:30,280 --> 00:01:33,360 Speaker 1: it because you have so many kids? Or is it 20 00:01:33,360 --> 00:01:36,039 Speaker 1: because you're married for so many years? Or is it 21 00:01:36,040 --> 00:01:40,479 Speaker 1: because you stayed single? What does success mean? And when 22 00:01:40,520 --> 00:01:43,720 Speaker 1: you start diving into that subject and you start stripping 23 00:01:43,720 --> 00:01:47,440 Speaker 1: away everything. It's actually amazing how much we all have 24 00:01:47,560 --> 00:01:52,280 Speaker 1: in common for the core idea of success, and I 25 00:01:52,360 --> 00:01:53,960 Speaker 1: love talking about it and I could talk about it 26 00:01:54,560 --> 00:01:57,800 Speaker 1: on every podcast if I wanted to, because it's something 27 00:01:57,920 --> 00:02:02,920 Speaker 1: that's worth discussing. What is your success and how do 28 00:02:03,000 --> 00:02:05,800 Speaker 1: you define that and how does that make you different 29 00:02:05,840 --> 00:02:09,679 Speaker 1: from anyone else or the same? I got my good 30 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:12,480 Speaker 1: buddy Bernie. We're going to talk about this and many 31 00:02:12,520 --> 00:02:15,280 Speaker 1: other questions that we are asked. If you have anything 32 00:02:15,280 --> 00:02:17,359 Speaker 1: for me at all, anything you want me to talk about, 33 00:02:17,440 --> 00:02:22,760 Speaker 1: could be music related or touring, or life or struggle 34 00:02:23,280 --> 00:02:30,720 Speaker 1: or happiness, anything. Email Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com 35 00:02:30,919 --> 00:02:34,560 Speaker 1: and we'll dive into it one of these mondays. Welcome 36 00:02:34,560 --> 00:03:12,560 Speaker 1: to this podcast. This is episode seventy one. Did du 37 00:03:15,639 --> 00:03:22,480 Speaker 1: Long line up and downed on the back? Crazy co 38 00:03:28,520 --> 00:03:42,640 Speaker 1: yeahation my podcast business associate partner Sidekick Today. It comes 39 00:03:42,640 --> 00:03:47,320 Speaker 1: from the corporate world of old Maybe yeah, let's go 40 00:03:47,360 --> 00:03:50,800 Speaker 1: with Sidekick. I'll be sidekick. When we first met, I 41 00:03:50,840 --> 00:03:53,760 Speaker 1: forgot to say this, Like meeting granger for the first 42 00:03:53,760 --> 00:03:56,240 Speaker 1: time is kind of like I feel like it's when 43 00:03:56,320 --> 00:03:59,560 Speaker 1: Robin met Batman automatically, he knows, like, Okay, I'm going 44 00:03:59,600 --> 00:04:03,240 Speaker 1: to be the kicking in this role. It's like, well, 45 00:04:03,320 --> 00:04:05,040 Speaker 1: I was gonna be the funny one and you'd be 46 00:04:05,080 --> 00:04:06,960 Speaker 1: the good looking one. But then you're pretty funny too, 47 00:04:07,000 --> 00:04:09,400 Speaker 1: so it's like, well, I'll just be the sidekick. I'll 48 00:04:09,400 --> 00:04:12,760 Speaker 1: be the rob. Stop to your back man. Stop it. 49 00:04:12,760 --> 00:04:14,680 Speaker 1: It's true, y'all know it's true. That's why you're here. 50 00:04:16,080 --> 00:04:18,200 Speaker 1: You missed the actual joke of the whole thing. You 51 00:04:18,279 --> 00:04:22,520 Speaker 1: come from the corporate world of Old Navy. Yeah, when 52 00:04:22,560 --> 00:04:25,760 Speaker 1: I met when I met Bernie a long time ago, 53 00:04:25,920 --> 00:04:28,840 Speaker 1: he was working at Old Navy, and a couple of 54 00:04:28,880 --> 00:04:30,840 Speaker 1: times I would come and see you and you had 55 00:04:30,839 --> 00:04:34,000 Speaker 1: the headset on. Remember that, Like all the Old Navy 56 00:04:34,000 --> 00:04:36,280 Speaker 1: people have to wear headsets. Yeah, well they don't need more. 57 00:04:36,279 --> 00:04:38,240 Speaker 1: They got these light they could just wear, like these 58 00:04:38,279 --> 00:04:40,839 Speaker 1: walkie talkies or something. But yeah, we had to wear 59 00:04:40,880 --> 00:04:43,440 Speaker 1: the headset and they got so mad. Put your headset on? 60 00:04:45,200 --> 00:04:49,000 Speaker 1: What was the purpose of it? I always know it's 61 00:04:49,080 --> 00:04:55,040 Speaker 1: not that big of a stores. Yeah, I don't know it. Yeah, 62 00:04:55,080 --> 00:04:57,080 Speaker 1: I have no idea. We should write them an ask, 63 00:04:57,320 --> 00:04:59,960 Speaker 1: I guess so they the Old Navy employees are in 64 00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:05,160 Speaker 1: constant communication with each other, Okay, and I guarantee you 65 00:05:05,279 --> 00:05:08,960 Speaker 1: ninety percent of that is not work related. Oh really, 66 00:05:08,960 --> 00:05:12,520 Speaker 1: it's about customers that are in the store, like, man, 67 00:05:12,640 --> 00:05:15,400 Speaker 1: stay away from that lady, she's crazy. Yeah, or you 68 00:05:15,440 --> 00:05:19,919 Speaker 1: know whatever. Okay. Comment if anyone has ever worked at 69 00:05:19,920 --> 00:05:23,400 Speaker 1: Old Navy, I'm curious why they use headsets. That's an 70 00:05:23,400 --> 00:05:26,200 Speaker 1: interesting business model that they or why they've gone. I 71 00:05:26,200 --> 00:05:28,080 Speaker 1: think they've gone away from them though, so if you 72 00:05:28,120 --> 00:05:30,880 Speaker 1: have any intel into why Old maybe lost the headsets 73 00:05:31,400 --> 00:05:36,680 Speaker 1: as a former, you know, like Old Lomba. How many 74 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:39,000 Speaker 1: years did you work at Old Navy? We'll see it's 75 00:05:39,000 --> 00:05:41,560 Speaker 1: a good job. Yeah, yeah, it was great. I met 76 00:05:41,560 --> 00:05:44,640 Speaker 1: a lot of great people there paid the bills while 77 00:05:44,640 --> 00:05:48,279 Speaker 1: I was just drifting trying to figure out life. Guys, 78 00:05:48,320 --> 00:05:51,240 Speaker 1: you know what you're doing right. I was probably there 79 00:05:51,279 --> 00:05:55,839 Speaker 1: for two and a half years. Yeah. Do you still 80 00:05:55,960 --> 00:06:00,400 Speaker 1: fold close and think about it? Yeah? Absolutely, dude. Lesly 81 00:06:00,440 --> 00:06:03,280 Speaker 1: can attest to this. Like Sunday nights, she takes the 82 00:06:03,600 --> 00:06:06,720 Speaker 1: the routine with the kids, like I give baths and 83 00:06:06,720 --> 00:06:09,880 Speaker 1: and and do the bedtime routine. Uh, every night except 84 00:06:09,920 --> 00:06:12,839 Speaker 1: Sunday night, because that's when we do laundry. And so 85 00:06:13,000 --> 00:06:15,080 Speaker 1: I walk into our dent and there's just like a 86 00:06:15,279 --> 00:06:19,040 Speaker 1: mound of clothes and I'm like, let's do this, about 87 00:06:19,040 --> 00:06:21,560 Speaker 1: to bust out my old Navy chops, And so I'll 88 00:06:21,600 --> 00:06:24,200 Speaker 1: just sit there and full close and the and the 89 00:06:24,200 --> 00:06:26,279 Speaker 1: thing is is nobody appreciates it. But it's not even 90 00:06:26,600 --> 00:06:28,359 Speaker 1: like the kids will take their stack and just like 91 00:06:28,480 --> 00:06:33,080 Speaker 1: throw it into that. But it does. It does remind 92 00:06:33,120 --> 00:06:36,280 Speaker 1: me of those days. And you know, just like if 93 00:06:36,279 --> 00:06:39,080 Speaker 1: you're gonna fold some clothes, just do it. Well, you know, 94 00:06:40,320 --> 00:06:43,440 Speaker 1: the kids are the harder it is to fold. It's like, yeah, 95 00:06:43,480 --> 00:06:46,000 Speaker 1: the shirt is so little, it doesn't fold in any direction. 96 00:06:46,120 --> 00:06:50,159 Speaker 1: That's true. Some things are really tough to fold. Common 97 00:06:50,200 --> 00:06:53,479 Speaker 1: below old Navy alumni. I'm interested to know. Let me 98 00:06:53,480 --> 00:07:00,160 Speaker 1: please don't like unsubscribe from this podcast because I know 99 00:07:01,360 --> 00:07:03,960 Speaker 1: a championing all of you old Navy people out there. 100 00:07:03,960 --> 00:07:07,320 Speaker 1: Why would anyone think badly of Old Navy for any reason? 101 00:07:07,360 --> 00:07:11,240 Speaker 1: I don't know. That's like the ones that works there 102 00:07:11,280 --> 00:07:13,800 Speaker 1: were like, okay, yeah, I'm with you. Everyone has bought 103 00:07:13,840 --> 00:07:16,440 Speaker 1: something in Old Navy. No matter what your style is, 104 00:07:16,640 --> 00:07:20,360 Speaker 1: or your background or your what, everyone has bought something 105 00:07:20,440 --> 00:07:24,400 Speaker 1: from there. Yep, it's got something for everybody. That's right. 106 00:07:24,520 --> 00:07:29,239 Speaker 1: It's a good brand. It's a good American brand. People 107 00:07:29,240 --> 00:07:31,000 Speaker 1: outside of the country are like, I've never been there, 108 00:07:31,280 --> 00:07:38,800 Speaker 1: Old Navy. That sounds stupid, not as American as an 109 00:07:38,720 --> 00:07:51,560 Speaker 1: American eagle. We've digressed. First question comes from Taylor, and 110 00:07:51,600 --> 00:07:54,640 Speaker 1: it says, if you get this email, I want to 111 00:07:54,680 --> 00:07:56,560 Speaker 1: thank you for reading it. If you decide to answer it, 112 00:07:56,600 --> 00:07:59,560 Speaker 1: I really look forward to hearing your opinions and your advice. 113 00:07:59,600 --> 00:08:02,120 Speaker 1: My name is Taylor. I'll be twenty two years old 114 00:08:02,480 --> 00:08:06,320 Speaker 1: on November twelfth. That already happened, so you are now 115 00:08:06,360 --> 00:08:10,800 Speaker 1: twenty two Taylor. I'm from Baton Rouge, Louisiana. I'm a 116 00:08:10,840 --> 00:08:14,520 Speaker 1: technician at a dealership, and your podcast give me such 117 00:08:14,560 --> 00:08:18,200 Speaker 1: inspiration to keep working as hard as I can. I 118 00:08:18,280 --> 00:08:22,680 Speaker 1: have to ask a couple things. First and foremost, I've 119 00:08:22,680 --> 00:08:25,600 Speaker 1: been playing music since I was in fifth grade. I've 120 00:08:25,640 --> 00:08:27,800 Speaker 1: always been in love with music. It's such a great 121 00:08:27,920 --> 00:08:30,880 Speaker 1: escape from the world, and it's such a great way 122 00:08:30,880 --> 00:08:33,640 Speaker 1: to connect with people all over the world. I've been 123 00:08:33,679 --> 00:08:35,520 Speaker 1: wanting to start a band for a long time, and 124 00:08:35,559 --> 00:08:38,719 Speaker 1: I'm curious what you would recommend to get started I'm 125 00:08:38,760 --> 00:08:41,440 Speaker 1: a drummer, I play guitar, and I would love to 126 00:08:41,480 --> 00:08:44,640 Speaker 1: get something going. My second question is simple, do you 127 00:08:44,720 --> 00:08:49,559 Speaker 1: like coming to Baton Rouge? If so, what's your favorite part? Ye? 128 00:08:50,480 --> 00:08:53,120 Speaker 1: Thank you, Taylor. I'll start with the last question. Man, 129 00:08:54,240 --> 00:08:57,760 Speaker 1: what's my favorite part of Baton Rouge The food? I 130 00:08:57,800 --> 00:09:04,600 Speaker 1: love Cajun food. So yeah. I love traveling so much 131 00:09:05,400 --> 00:09:08,080 Speaker 1: because of the food in so many different places, you know, 132 00:09:08,240 --> 00:09:12,840 Speaker 1: Like I love to get whatever that that local cuisine 133 00:09:12,960 --> 00:09:17,959 Speaker 1: is in that region or country or state or city. 134 00:09:18,240 --> 00:09:21,520 Speaker 1: Everybody's known for something and everyone has even if it's 135 00:09:21,559 --> 00:09:24,440 Speaker 1: just like a local place that has an amazing burgers. 136 00:09:25,120 --> 00:09:27,600 Speaker 1: I love to do that kind of stuff. So yeah, 137 00:09:27,720 --> 00:09:30,440 Speaker 1: bet Ruter's Cajun food. Love it. Shout out to Louisiana, 138 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:35,080 Speaker 1: and thank you for the question, Taylor. Bernie and I 139 00:09:35,200 --> 00:09:38,439 Speaker 1: on the last podcast kind of had a similar question, 140 00:09:38,480 --> 00:09:40,920 Speaker 1: but it was backwards. It was a drummer trying to 141 00:09:40,960 --> 00:09:43,360 Speaker 1: be part of a band, and you are a singer 142 00:09:43,480 --> 00:09:47,200 Speaker 1: trying to get a band, And it's a little bit 143 00:09:47,240 --> 00:09:49,600 Speaker 1: different of an answer than a musician trying to find 144 00:09:49,600 --> 00:09:55,000 Speaker 1: a singer. It's a little bit a little bit different. I, 145 00:09:55,080 --> 00:09:57,320 Speaker 1: as I said mentioned on the last podcast. I started 146 00:09:57,320 --> 00:09:59,280 Speaker 1: my first band by putting an ad out in the 147 00:09:59,320 --> 00:10:03,319 Speaker 1: school paper that's a country singer looking for country band, 148 00:10:03,520 --> 00:10:06,120 Speaker 1: serious gigs in line, and I lied about the gigs. 149 00:10:06,400 --> 00:10:08,400 Speaker 1: I didn't have any gigs in line, but I did 150 00:10:08,400 --> 00:10:13,280 Speaker 1: get one reply, just one in the entire Texas A 151 00:10:13,320 --> 00:10:18,280 Speaker 1: and M system. One piano player that became a longtime 152 00:10:18,320 --> 00:10:23,800 Speaker 1: friend and actually moved to Nashville with me at some point, 153 00:10:22,920 --> 00:10:25,080 Speaker 1: and get you gave it a shot for like five 154 00:10:25,120 --> 00:10:30,480 Speaker 1: months and introduced me to other musicians. So it actually worked. 155 00:10:31,040 --> 00:10:34,400 Speaker 1: Then add in the paper worked. Uh so today's age, 156 00:10:34,400 --> 00:10:36,880 Speaker 1: you wouldn't do that. You would instead probably post on 157 00:10:36,920 --> 00:10:42,240 Speaker 1: Facebook and just say I'm looking for musicians and man 158 00:10:43,320 --> 00:10:48,079 Speaker 1: aim low at first. Aim low because your first band doesn't. 159 00:10:48,240 --> 00:10:51,720 Speaker 1: They don't have to be complete rock stars in any way. 160 00:10:51,800 --> 00:10:53,600 Speaker 1: They don't have to look like rock stars. They don't 161 00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:55,400 Speaker 1: have to play like rock stars. They just need to 162 00:10:55,440 --> 00:10:58,040 Speaker 1: be good people you want to hang around. If they're 163 00:10:58,040 --> 00:11:00,440 Speaker 1: good people, you want to hang around them. You're gonna 164 00:11:00,480 --> 00:11:02,240 Speaker 1: want to practice more. If you want to practice more, 165 00:11:02,320 --> 00:11:04,920 Speaker 1: you're going to get better. You don't want to look 166 00:11:04,920 --> 00:11:06,400 Speaker 1: at it and go I don't want to get around 167 00:11:06,440 --> 00:11:10,360 Speaker 1: those guys. Tonight. So put it out there, put it 168 00:11:10,360 --> 00:11:12,520 Speaker 1: out in the world, put it out on social media. 169 00:11:12,840 --> 00:11:15,400 Speaker 1: Say you're looking for a band, and it usually just 170 00:11:15,440 --> 00:11:18,160 Speaker 1: needs to start with one person. One person comes in 171 00:11:18,240 --> 00:11:21,240 Speaker 1: and goes I play bass, You go cool, come over, 172 00:11:21,559 --> 00:11:26,400 Speaker 1: come to the garage, and inevitably that bass player will 173 00:11:26,440 --> 00:11:30,160 Speaker 1: know a cousin or somebody that plays something else. You know, 174 00:11:30,280 --> 00:11:34,240 Speaker 1: my cousin plays keyboard or drums or whatever. Invite them over. 175 00:11:34,400 --> 00:11:40,400 Speaker 1: Aim low, start that network from the center and work outward. Right, Yeah, 176 00:11:40,640 --> 00:11:42,800 Speaker 1: I think he nailed it. I'll just say one thing 177 00:11:42,840 --> 00:11:48,360 Speaker 1: that Griz actually told me I hadn't done. I hadn't 178 00:11:48,400 --> 00:11:52,600 Speaker 1: had a songwriting appointment in like forever, and a buddy 179 00:11:52,600 --> 00:11:54,400 Speaker 1: of mine said, hey, let's you know, let's get together 180 00:11:54,400 --> 00:11:58,480 Speaker 1: write some songs. I was like, okay, So I called Grizz. 181 00:11:58,520 --> 00:12:00,720 Speaker 1: I was like, dude, I haven't done this a long time. 182 00:12:00,840 --> 00:12:02,640 Speaker 1: What do I expect? You know, like, what what do 183 00:12:02,679 --> 00:12:06,280 Speaker 1: I need to do? And I remember you said when 184 00:12:06,280 --> 00:12:09,760 Speaker 1: you can keep the level of your gratitude above the 185 00:12:09,840 --> 00:12:14,120 Speaker 1: level of your expectation, magic will happen. And I remember 186 00:12:14,240 --> 00:12:19,240 Speaker 1: leaving that appointment just feeling like man, we wrote probably 187 00:12:19,280 --> 00:12:21,720 Speaker 1: one of the worst songs ever written. But I had 188 00:12:21,800 --> 00:12:24,240 Speaker 1: a blast and like he did too, and it was 189 00:12:24,280 --> 00:12:26,360 Speaker 1: just like, yeah, let's do it again. And there's just 190 00:12:26,360 --> 00:12:29,679 Speaker 1: something about the experience of it that I think can help, 191 00:12:30,480 --> 00:12:33,199 Speaker 1: you know, kind of propel to another appointment and like, oh, 192 00:12:33,280 --> 00:12:35,480 Speaker 1: I'm gonna write with that person now. And so yeah, 193 00:12:35,520 --> 00:12:39,000 Speaker 1: I think that advice was really sound like he's saying 194 00:12:39,000 --> 00:12:41,280 Speaker 1: the same, you know kind of thing. You know, shoot low, 195 00:12:41,320 --> 00:12:44,640 Speaker 1: but keep your gratitude high, expectation low, and you'll you'll 196 00:12:44,640 --> 00:12:47,000 Speaker 1: really enjoy it and see what happens. Just put put 197 00:12:47,000 --> 00:12:50,000 Speaker 1: yourself out there. There's what's crazy is there's a bunch 198 00:12:50,000 --> 00:12:52,560 Speaker 1: of musicians out there right now looking for you, and 199 00:12:53,280 --> 00:12:55,080 Speaker 1: they don't know that they're looking for you, and you 200 00:12:55,080 --> 00:12:57,680 Speaker 1: don't know you're looking for them. But one day it'll 201 00:12:57,679 --> 00:12:59,280 Speaker 1: happen and you'll be at a garage one day and 202 00:12:59,280 --> 00:13:02,079 Speaker 1: the music will sound terrible, but it will be so fun. 203 00:13:02,600 --> 00:13:06,679 Speaker 1: That's how it starts, man, And we've everybody that's been 204 00:13:06,720 --> 00:13:11,120 Speaker 1: a musician at some point remembers those first days of 205 00:13:12,520 --> 00:13:15,800 Speaker 1: making music with another human in the room. So I 206 00:13:15,840 --> 00:13:18,800 Speaker 1: got a follow up question for you. His question, So 207 00:13:18,880 --> 00:13:22,400 Speaker 1: he has now opened himself up, like, Hey, you played 208 00:13:22,400 --> 00:13:24,760 Speaker 1: bass and you played drums, and yeah, they get together right, 209 00:13:25,160 --> 00:13:28,600 Speaker 1: and this drummer is awesome. It's like he's God, he's there. 210 00:13:29,800 --> 00:13:33,920 Speaker 1: The piano players okay, he's okay. The bass player is 211 00:13:34,000 --> 00:13:37,880 Speaker 1: just like, oh man, I don't know if he has 212 00:13:37,920 --> 00:13:41,240 Speaker 1: played this instrument before or just like borrowed. It happens. 213 00:13:41,240 --> 00:13:46,000 Speaker 1: How do you go through the process of like communicating 214 00:13:46,120 --> 00:13:50,160 Speaker 1: like I want to find another bass player or do 215 00:13:50,200 --> 00:13:52,560 Speaker 1: you do? You have to set that expectation from the beginning. 216 00:13:52,640 --> 00:13:55,240 Speaker 1: How do you navigate like getting the right people together 217 00:13:55,360 --> 00:13:59,520 Speaker 1: skill and you know, kind of chemistry And I hope 218 00:13:59,520 --> 00:14:01,760 Speaker 1: nobody listening that used to play with me back in 219 00:14:01,800 --> 00:14:06,360 Speaker 1: the day. But but yeah, that that happens, man, and 220 00:14:06,600 --> 00:14:11,800 Speaker 1: it's gonna happen, you know one day to Taylor you 221 00:14:11,800 --> 00:14:14,880 Speaker 1: you're gonna have that bass player or whoever that's terrible. 222 00:14:16,000 --> 00:14:19,920 Speaker 1: It always happened to me, and I don't ever I 223 00:14:20,200 --> 00:14:21,920 Speaker 1: know a couple of times it was a little awkward, 224 00:14:21,920 --> 00:14:24,480 Speaker 1: but I don't ever remember it being a situation where 225 00:14:24,480 --> 00:14:28,320 Speaker 1: that person didn't know it was coming already. Like if that, 226 00:14:28,440 --> 00:14:30,160 Speaker 1: if that, if like you're saying, the drummers great and 227 00:14:30,160 --> 00:14:33,000 Speaker 1: the bass player is terrible, He's just gonna know, man, 228 00:14:33,000 --> 00:14:37,720 Speaker 1: I can't keep up. And what's cool is a lot 229 00:14:37,760 --> 00:14:41,080 Speaker 1: of times you could still if he's a good guy, 230 00:14:41,200 --> 00:14:44,640 Speaker 1: the bass player, you could just say, man, I found 231 00:14:44,680 --> 00:14:48,720 Speaker 1: this guy and he's he's he has a lot of 232 00:14:48,800 --> 00:14:51,400 Speaker 1: experience at base and I want to bring him on 233 00:14:52,080 --> 00:14:55,280 Speaker 1: to show you some things and to jam with us. 234 00:14:55,920 --> 00:14:58,800 Speaker 1: But I also I don't want you to quit on me. 235 00:14:59,280 --> 00:15:02,360 Speaker 1: So we also needs somebody to sell T shirts or 236 00:15:02,400 --> 00:15:05,160 Speaker 1: to be the tour manager or you know, you could 237 00:15:05,280 --> 00:15:07,840 Speaker 1: keep them on the team. So they still feel like 238 00:15:07,960 --> 00:15:10,840 Speaker 1: they're like just getting replaced and fired, right, but they're 239 00:15:10,880 --> 00:15:14,600 Speaker 1: gonna know, Yeah, I can't. A musician knows when he's 240 00:15:14,640 --> 00:15:17,440 Speaker 1: not in a circle he can keep up with. Yeah. 241 00:15:17,760 --> 00:15:21,680 Speaker 1: So it's not it's not ever easy, but that's it's inevitable. 242 00:15:23,880 --> 00:15:27,440 Speaker 1: All right. Here we go, new question. It says, Hey Granger, 243 00:15:28,200 --> 00:15:32,000 Speaker 1: this is Kyle from Washington. Shout out to Washington State. Says, 244 00:15:32,040 --> 00:15:33,920 Speaker 1: my wife and I had an opportunity to meet you 245 00:15:34,320 --> 00:15:37,160 Speaker 1: at a show in Idaho back in December before the 246 00:15:37,200 --> 00:15:39,720 Speaker 1: pandemic started. And when we met, you asked me what 247 00:15:39,760 --> 00:15:41,160 Speaker 1: I did for a living, and I said I'm a 248 00:15:41,200 --> 00:15:43,960 Speaker 1: youth pastor, which is still true Today, I wanted to 249 00:15:43,960 --> 00:15:46,080 Speaker 1: say how thankful I am for you and the example 250 00:15:46,160 --> 00:15:48,880 Speaker 1: you are setting living your life out in faith so 251 00:15:48,920 --> 00:15:51,720 Speaker 1: boldly without hesitation. I wanted to ask you a simple, 252 00:15:51,760 --> 00:15:56,480 Speaker 1: but genuinely curious question. Who is your favorite Bible character 253 00:15:56,880 --> 00:16:01,320 Speaker 1: that you admire or relate to? And why? I love 254 00:16:01,360 --> 00:16:03,320 Speaker 1: asking people this question to hear a little bit about 255 00:16:03,360 --> 00:16:04,960 Speaker 1: their story and why they chose to relate to a 256 00:16:04,960 --> 00:16:09,320 Speaker 1: certain person in the Bible. Over another, thank you, Kyle, 257 00:16:10,640 --> 00:16:16,760 Speaker 1: Junior High pastor for True Life Youth. That's it, Bethany 258 00:16:16,880 --> 00:16:23,120 Speaker 1: Christian Academy. What's up Kyle? Thanks for writing in man. Yeah, 259 00:16:23,240 --> 00:16:25,240 Speaker 1: I'm glad that I'm glad we got to meet in Idaho, 260 00:16:25,320 --> 00:16:29,480 Speaker 1: and then that you still listen to me to today. 261 00:16:29,640 --> 00:16:36,520 Speaker 1: That's awesome. Question came back in October, so little late. 262 00:16:36,560 --> 00:16:40,600 Speaker 1: All these questions. You could ask anything you want. You 263 00:16:40,720 --> 00:16:44,880 Speaker 1: email Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. I'm probably not 264 00:16:44,920 --> 00:16:47,640 Speaker 1: going to answer it on the next episode that from 265 00:16:47,640 --> 00:16:50,640 Speaker 1: when you emailed it like this question from Kyle for 266 00:16:50,760 --> 00:16:52,320 Speaker 1: a few months out, So I hope you guys can 267 00:16:52,400 --> 00:16:55,680 Speaker 1: have patience and keep listening knowing that maybe one day 268 00:16:55,720 --> 00:17:00,640 Speaker 1: I'm going to answer it. So ask anything you want, Bernie, 269 00:17:00,920 --> 00:17:04,600 Speaker 1: I'll start with you. Who's your favorite Bible character? He 270 00:17:04,680 --> 00:17:07,280 Speaker 1: says that either you admire or you relate to the most. 271 00:17:07,320 --> 00:17:16,400 Speaker 1: And why. I guess every answer is a Sunday School answer, right, 272 00:17:16,800 --> 00:17:18,879 Speaker 1: Which is interesting because you don't have to be a 273 00:17:18,960 --> 00:17:23,679 Speaker 1: Christian to be able to answer this question because most people, 274 00:17:24,320 --> 00:17:28,280 Speaker 1: regardless of your background or religion or atheism or whatever. Yeah, 275 00:17:28,520 --> 00:17:31,560 Speaker 1: no character is the Bible and there's somebody that you 276 00:17:31,560 --> 00:17:37,560 Speaker 1: could relate to. Yeah, yeah, there's a couple that kind 277 00:17:37,560 --> 00:17:40,760 Speaker 1: of jump out to me. I'll go with my can 278 00:17:40,760 --> 00:17:44,399 Speaker 1: I have a top two? Yeah? Okay, of course, of course. 279 00:17:45,000 --> 00:17:47,879 Speaker 1: The first one I think is probably the father of 280 00:17:47,920 --> 00:17:52,919 Speaker 1: the prodigal son. Wow, okay, I think that there's something 281 00:17:52,960 --> 00:18:00,240 Speaker 1: about like trying to like communicate to our kids what 282 00:18:00,280 --> 00:18:03,639 Speaker 1: that love is like. So explain a little bit of 283 00:18:03,680 --> 00:18:06,320 Speaker 1: the prodigal son's story. Okay, it's a short one. So 284 00:18:08,040 --> 00:18:10,960 Speaker 1: you know, young man goes to his dad, Hey, I 285 00:18:10,960 --> 00:18:13,160 Speaker 1: want my inheritance. I don't need you anymore. I'm gonna 286 00:18:13,160 --> 00:18:17,720 Speaker 1: go live my life. Takes his dad first. His dad says, okay, son, 287 00:18:17,760 --> 00:18:21,239 Speaker 1: here you go. Which that's a tough one for me 288 00:18:21,280 --> 00:18:23,040 Speaker 1: to swallow. I'd be like, I'm not giving that to 289 00:18:23,080 --> 00:18:26,399 Speaker 1: you. You You justually gonna like you're gonna go, you know, 290 00:18:26,760 --> 00:18:28,640 Speaker 1: give it all the way or party it away whatever. 291 00:18:28,680 --> 00:18:30,520 Speaker 1: So that's what the kid does. He goes and he 292 00:18:31,040 --> 00:18:33,159 Speaker 1: you know, you know, spends all of his money on 293 00:18:33,240 --> 00:18:38,400 Speaker 1: parties and you know, drinking whatever, ends up working with 294 00:18:38,640 --> 00:18:41,840 Speaker 1: animals and eating pig slop, and he has this moment 295 00:18:41,880 --> 00:18:44,720 Speaker 1: where he's like, what am I doing? You know, my 296 00:18:44,800 --> 00:18:47,280 Speaker 1: father is rich, and maybe he'll give me a job 297 00:18:47,840 --> 00:18:51,399 Speaker 1: to just work whatever. So he runs back and the 298 00:18:51,560 --> 00:18:56,840 Speaker 1: father had spent day after day just like looking out 299 00:18:57,000 --> 00:18:59,400 Speaker 1: down the road, just praying and hoping that his son 300 00:18:59,440 --> 00:19:02,960 Speaker 1: would come home. And you know, the Bible says when 301 00:19:02,960 --> 00:19:04,960 Speaker 1: he was still a long way off, his dad jumped 302 00:19:05,040 --> 00:19:10,440 Speaker 1: up and ran towards him. Yeah. I think that there's 303 00:19:10,440 --> 00:19:15,919 Speaker 1: something just pretty special about that relationship and what it 304 00:19:16,000 --> 00:19:19,080 Speaker 1: says kind of about what we can feel for our kids, 305 00:19:19,080 --> 00:19:23,199 Speaker 1: but also like how I can how I imagine God 306 00:19:23,280 --> 00:19:25,120 Speaker 1: feels about us, and he's trying to tell us like, hey, 307 00:19:25,520 --> 00:19:28,880 Speaker 1: it's okay, you want to go just do your own thing, okay, 308 00:19:29,560 --> 00:19:32,000 Speaker 1: And eventually we're going to come back and be like, Dad, 309 00:19:32,040 --> 00:19:33,919 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. Can I just like work for you, 310 00:19:34,040 --> 00:19:36,240 Speaker 1: He's like work for me. No, we're gonna throw a 311 00:19:36,280 --> 00:19:39,720 Speaker 1: party because you're here. You weren't here. Yeah. So I 312 00:19:39,760 --> 00:19:43,000 Speaker 1: think that that would be first one that came to mind, 313 00:19:43,119 --> 00:19:46,639 Speaker 1: and then the second would be Job only, because I 314 00:19:46,680 --> 00:19:50,399 Speaker 1: think to live is to suffer in some way and 315 00:19:50,440 --> 00:19:54,000 Speaker 1: to struggle. And I think that Job, you know, like 316 00:19:54,200 --> 00:19:56,520 Speaker 1: in all of that, he did not sin against God. 317 00:19:56,640 --> 00:20:00,399 Speaker 1: He he did not curse him, he did not he 318 00:20:00,720 --> 00:20:04,959 Speaker 1: stayed faithful, which I just cannot even imagine. And so 319 00:20:05,000 --> 00:20:08,280 Speaker 1: I think that testimony to me is like the things 320 00:20:08,320 --> 00:20:10,600 Speaker 1: that we go through in the struggles that we have, 321 00:20:11,000 --> 00:20:16,399 Speaker 1: is like this, this comforting hope of this you know, 322 00:20:16,440 --> 00:20:20,600 Speaker 1: biblical character that saw far more than I think, you know, 323 00:20:20,680 --> 00:20:24,160 Speaker 1: we can imagine. I could definitely relate to Job too. 324 00:20:24,400 --> 00:20:29,360 Speaker 1: And it's the oldest book that I learned this from 325 00:20:29,359 --> 00:20:33,399 Speaker 1: Billy Graham, But the Book of Job is the story 326 00:20:33,400 --> 00:20:38,359 Speaker 1: of Job is the oldest written story in human history. Wow, 327 00:20:38,680 --> 00:20:41,400 Speaker 1: it's the oldest piece of literature that we could trace 328 00:20:41,480 --> 00:20:45,719 Speaker 1: back to a human writing, which is interesting because it's 329 00:20:45,760 --> 00:20:51,760 Speaker 1: all about suffering and what's wild to me, it's a 330 00:20:51,800 --> 00:20:53,840 Speaker 1: little bit of a tangent from Kyle's question. But what's 331 00:20:53,880 --> 00:20:57,439 Speaker 1: wild about that story is that you know that the 332 00:20:57,480 --> 00:21:01,359 Speaker 1: Bible says God is is today and it always was. 333 00:21:01,400 --> 00:21:03,200 Speaker 1: He's the same as he always was and he always 334 00:21:03,200 --> 00:21:09,480 Speaker 1: will be. And that story Satan is with God. He says, 335 00:21:10,640 --> 00:21:13,080 Speaker 1: you got this guy Job, he's pretty good. Huh you 336 00:21:13,119 --> 00:21:15,200 Speaker 1: think he's good? And God's like, hey, he's one of 337 00:21:15,240 --> 00:21:17,760 Speaker 1: the best. He goes, I bet you if I start 338 00:21:17,800 --> 00:21:20,080 Speaker 1: messing with him a little bit, he won't be as 339 00:21:20,119 --> 00:21:24,040 Speaker 1: good as you think. Can I do it? God says, yeah, 340 00:21:24,320 --> 00:21:27,320 Speaker 1: you could mess with him? So do you realize what 341 00:21:27,359 --> 00:21:31,040 Speaker 1: I just said? This is a wild story that God 342 00:21:31,040 --> 00:21:36,280 Speaker 1: and Satan are talking. Satan doesn't mess with Job until 343 00:21:36,320 --> 00:21:40,600 Speaker 1: he gets permission. So it's interesting to think that's the 344 00:21:40,600 --> 00:21:45,360 Speaker 1: oldest story written history. It's interesting to think that that could. 345 00:21:45,960 --> 00:21:50,400 Speaker 1: I say could, but it probably does still happen today. Yeah, 346 00:21:50,560 --> 00:21:53,399 Speaker 1: Satan doesn't get to do anything without permission, right, he 347 00:21:53,440 --> 00:21:55,560 Speaker 1: didn't have the authority. And some people have a big 348 00:21:55,720 --> 00:21:59,520 Speaker 1: problem with that. Yeah, they're like, no, Satan acts on 349 00:21:59,560 --> 00:22:03,400 Speaker 1: his own power. He's a complete rebellion. He's his own 350 00:22:03,920 --> 00:22:07,880 Speaker 1: It's like, no, God's it still in control of everything. No, 351 00:22:07,920 --> 00:22:10,120 Speaker 1: I don't believe in that. Kind of God that lets 352 00:22:10,160 --> 00:22:12,800 Speaker 1: him do that would give him permission to do something terrible. 353 00:22:14,119 --> 00:22:16,840 Speaker 1: It's just what it says. Yeah, a lot of times 354 00:22:16,960 --> 00:22:20,280 Speaker 1: with this stuff. It's not what I feel in my heart. 355 00:22:20,440 --> 00:22:25,679 Speaker 1: That's what it says, right, yep. Way off on a tangent. 356 00:22:26,680 --> 00:22:30,720 Speaker 1: But this question is hard for me, Kyle, because it's 357 00:22:30,760 --> 00:22:36,639 Speaker 1: hard for me to compare myself or relate to anyone 358 00:22:37,640 --> 00:22:42,119 Speaker 1: in the Bible without sounding arrogant in some way like 359 00:22:42,160 --> 00:22:47,360 Speaker 1: oh you're sure, yeah, you're gonna be like him. Please, 360 00:22:47,600 --> 00:22:50,080 Speaker 1: with that being said, don't take it the wrong way 361 00:22:50,119 --> 00:22:52,000 Speaker 1: when I say I could relate a lot of times 362 00:22:52,000 --> 00:22:57,400 Speaker 1: to Peter. It's like I think most of the Bible characters, though, 363 00:22:57,440 --> 00:23:02,040 Speaker 1: they were like you know, and messed up a lot. Yeah, yeah, 364 00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:04,240 Speaker 1: And I just I'm thinking. I'm thinking of like the 365 00:23:04,280 --> 00:23:07,760 Speaker 1: first Pope, Peter, the first Pope of the Church the Rock, 366 00:23:07,840 --> 00:23:10,760 Speaker 1: you know, not that Peter. I'm talking about the fisherman 367 00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:16,399 Speaker 1: that was always a little bit on edge, you know, 368 00:23:16,520 --> 00:23:19,960 Speaker 1: when when the Roman soldiers came to get Jesus, he 369 00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:22,280 Speaker 1: just cuts the guy's ear off, you know, like, come on, man, 370 00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:24,359 Speaker 1: like gets this. I can't imagine Peter, like in the 371 00:23:24,359 --> 00:23:26,600 Speaker 1: garden getting the sword and be like, get out of here. Man. 372 00:23:26,680 --> 00:23:30,000 Speaker 1: Whack just whacks the guy's ear off, and he's just 373 00:23:30,040 --> 00:23:35,120 Speaker 1: like Peter, chill out, which he probably told he kind 374 00:23:35,119 --> 00:23:37,040 Speaker 1: of has that tone with Peter a lot, like dude, 375 00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:39,960 Speaker 1: chill would you chill out for a second, Like this 376 00:23:40,040 --> 00:23:42,640 Speaker 1: is supposed to happen, Let me deal with this. In fact, 377 00:23:42,680 --> 00:23:46,040 Speaker 1: he says, you know, Satan get behind me. He like, 378 00:23:46,040 --> 00:23:51,920 Speaker 1: like Satan is is affecting Peter's ability to control himself sometimes. 379 00:23:53,119 --> 00:23:57,720 Speaker 1: So yeah, I feel I feel that, and I feel 380 00:23:57,720 --> 00:24:00,440 Speaker 1: that side of Peter, and I also feel the side 381 00:24:00,280 --> 00:24:06,000 Speaker 1: where Jesus says, follow me, and Peter just drops everything, 382 00:24:06,920 --> 00:24:10,399 Speaker 1: leaves everything, leaves the boat, leaves the fishing nets, leaves 383 00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:13,240 Speaker 1: us everything, and just goes Yep, here we go. I'm in, 384 00:24:13,800 --> 00:24:17,800 Speaker 1: I'm in, I'm all in. I'm dropping everything. I love that. 385 00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:21,399 Speaker 1: I can't say that I've done it to that extent 386 00:24:21,440 --> 00:24:24,600 Speaker 1: in my life, but I want to. I want to 387 00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:27,280 Speaker 1: do that, and I want to be that. I want 388 00:24:27,280 --> 00:24:30,760 Speaker 1: to be that more than I am. The the ability 389 00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:35,080 Speaker 1: to not to not be perfect and not be so 390 00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:39,000 Speaker 1: righteous and high and mighty, but at the same time, 391 00:24:39,359 --> 00:24:42,879 Speaker 1: the total reverence, which in a lot of ways I 392 00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:45,640 Speaker 1: could say that about about David as well, who I could. 393 00:24:45,720 --> 00:24:47,960 Speaker 1: I could definitely relate to David because of you know, 394 00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:53,240 Speaker 1: musician makes a lot of mistakes but always gives God 395 00:24:53,359 --> 00:24:59,960 Speaker 1: the glory and he fears God. So an interesting question. 396 00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:02,200 Speaker 1: And I haven't gotten a question like this on the podcast, 397 00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:06,440 Speaker 1: probably won't anymore, but I think we kind of think 398 00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:09,119 Speaker 1: we kind of hit on it. So yeah, Kyle, one 399 00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:11,040 Speaker 1: day I'll meet you and hear your answer to all 400 00:25:11,080 --> 00:25:13,720 Speaker 1: this stuff. And that was kind of the light coding. 401 00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:17,240 Speaker 1: That's a deep conversation that could take hours, but those 402 00:25:17,320 --> 00:25:23,760 Speaker 1: kind of the frosting of it. See if we can 403 00:25:23,760 --> 00:25:25,760 Speaker 1: get We got about ten minutes, sot's see if we 404 00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:28,600 Speaker 1: can get one more before we take a break. And 405 00:25:28,600 --> 00:25:34,399 Speaker 1: it says, hey, grandeured, this is Eric from wake Forest, 406 00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:39,080 Speaker 1: North Carolina. Shout out to NC. Says I'm coming to 407 00:25:39,160 --> 00:25:42,840 Speaker 1: you as a child of God, father too incredible kids, 408 00:25:42,920 --> 00:25:45,200 Speaker 1: and husband to a loving woman. I have a question 409 00:25:45,280 --> 00:25:47,399 Speaker 1: for you that I've been trying to answer for myself. 410 00:25:48,359 --> 00:25:52,480 Speaker 1: Putting aside success in a career or hobbies or personal accomplishments, 411 00:25:52,560 --> 00:25:56,360 Speaker 1: in your opinion, how can you judge your success as 412 00:25:56,400 --> 00:25:59,760 Speaker 1: a husband and father I know. My goal is to 413 00:25:59,840 --> 00:26:03,119 Speaker 1: raise up confident, independent, responsible, caring and loving kids, to 414 00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:08,680 Speaker 1: grow old with my wife always being honest and never 415 00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:12,840 Speaker 1: losing sight of her my love for her. But how 416 00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:17,440 Speaker 1: could I know that I've accomplished that? Thanks brother Eric. 417 00:26:20,960 --> 00:26:25,800 Speaker 1: So my goal is to raise up confident, independent, responsible, 418 00:26:25,840 --> 00:26:28,920 Speaker 1: caring and loving kids, and to grow old with my wife, 419 00:26:28,960 --> 00:26:30,920 Speaker 1: always being honest and never losing sight of my love 420 00:26:30,960 --> 00:26:33,720 Speaker 1: for her. How could I know that I've accomplished that. 421 00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:45,080 Speaker 1: I don't think you will too. You're old, right, yeah, yeah, 422 00:26:45,160 --> 00:26:49,320 Speaker 1: I'm looking up a poem for your love it so much. 423 00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:53,040 Speaker 1: This poem I've probably read it on this podcast at 424 00:26:53,040 --> 00:26:59,000 Speaker 1: some point I can't remember, but it's by Ralph Waldo Emerson. 425 00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:04,439 Speaker 1: It's so interesting, this poem. I found it because in 426 00:27:04,520 --> 00:27:06,480 Speaker 1: such an interesting way. But I found it when my 427 00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:11,240 Speaker 1: dad died. We were going through all his stuff and 428 00:27:12,080 --> 00:27:15,080 Speaker 1: you know, like his desk, drawer and closet, and we're 429 00:27:15,119 --> 00:27:18,159 Speaker 1: going through a bunch of paperwork and we're trying to 430 00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:20,879 Speaker 1: find anything that was important and throw out anything that wasn't, 431 00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:26,359 Speaker 1: and we found this poem written by Ralph Waldo Emerson, 432 00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:30,760 Speaker 1: hand written by my dad on an eight y ten 433 00:27:30,840 --> 00:27:36,119 Speaker 1: piece of paper just in a folder. None of us 434 00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:38,200 Speaker 1: knew why he wrote it, none of us knew where 435 00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:42,439 Speaker 1: it came from. And that was the thing about my 436 00:27:42,560 --> 00:27:47,399 Speaker 1: dad was like, at some point he felt the need 437 00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:49,800 Speaker 1: to take out a pen and a fresh piece of 438 00:27:49,840 --> 00:27:54,000 Speaker 1: paper and write it by hand. Maybe we'd like to 439 00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:56,440 Speaker 1: think that because it meant so much to him, or 440 00:27:56,480 --> 00:28:00,840 Speaker 1: maybe because he wanted to live like that. But the 441 00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:02,639 Speaker 1: interesting thing is he didn't say anything to any of 442 00:28:02,720 --> 00:28:11,600 Speaker 1: us about it. The poem says success to laugh often 443 00:28:11,760 --> 00:28:15,679 Speaker 1: and much, To win the respect of intelligent people, in 444 00:28:15,720 --> 00:28:19,520 Speaker 1: the affection of children, to earn the appreciation of honest 445 00:28:19,560 --> 00:28:24,560 Speaker 1: critics and endure the betrayal of false friends, to appreciate beauty, 446 00:28:25,359 --> 00:28:29,240 Speaker 1: to find the beauty and others. To leave the world 447 00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:33,359 Speaker 1: a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, 448 00:28:34,119 --> 00:28:38,120 Speaker 1: or a redeemed social condition. To know that one life 449 00:28:38,760 --> 00:28:43,160 Speaker 1: has breathed easier because you lived here. This is to 450 00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:50,960 Speaker 1: have succeeded so good. That's great, man. And you don't 451 00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:54,240 Speaker 1: see anything in here about a lot of money in 452 00:28:54,240 --> 00:29:00,800 Speaker 1: your bank account or and so that kind of success. 453 00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:05,080 Speaker 1: Eric is about the journey, not the destination. It's not 454 00:29:05,160 --> 00:29:11,640 Speaker 1: about knowing if you accomplished that because I found that note, 455 00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:15,040 Speaker 1: you know, tucked into my dad's stuff after he was dead, 456 00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:20,000 Speaker 1: and was like, yeah, he did it, he did this, 457 00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:27,560 Speaker 1: but he didn't know that right, you know what I mean, 458 00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:32,640 Speaker 1: Like it was past his time. So you can't. You're 459 00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:36,160 Speaker 1: never gonna sit back and go, ah, boom did it. Yeah, 460 00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:39,360 Speaker 1: I did the success thing. I succeeded as a husband 461 00:29:39,400 --> 00:29:44,000 Speaker 1: and father. It's an ongoing journey. You're going to continue 462 00:29:44,040 --> 00:29:48,520 Speaker 1: to unpack this and continue to live this every day. 463 00:29:50,760 --> 00:29:54,000 Speaker 1: So once again, I've said this many times, but the 464 00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:57,040 Speaker 1: fact that you're even asking it means you're on the path. Man. 465 00:29:57,120 --> 00:29:59,880 Speaker 1: You're doing great. You're doing great. You say, my go 466 00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:04,840 Speaker 1: goal is to raise up confident, independent, responsible, caring, loving kids, 467 00:30:04,840 --> 00:30:06,880 Speaker 1: to grow old with my wife, always being honest, never 468 00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:09,360 Speaker 1: losing sight of my love for her. Boom, you do. 469 00:30:09,680 --> 00:30:13,920 Speaker 1: Just do that. That's your goal. Do that, and that's 470 00:30:14,080 --> 00:30:17,720 Speaker 1: It's not a victory. Every moment you're gonna feel like 471 00:30:17,760 --> 00:30:22,840 Speaker 1: a failure. Sometimes you're gonna feel like you're not you know, 472 00:30:22,880 --> 00:30:25,520 Speaker 1: you're you're not caring enough for your kids, or you're 473 00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:28,680 Speaker 1: you're not being you're losing sight of your love for 474 00:30:28,760 --> 00:30:32,440 Speaker 1: your wife. Occasionally you might feel that, and then you 475 00:30:32,480 --> 00:30:35,560 Speaker 1: correct yourself and you straighten your boat up again, and 476 00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:41,040 Speaker 1: then you keep sailing, and that journey is the You're 477 00:30:41,080 --> 00:30:43,840 Speaker 1: playing the long game. You know, you're playing the game 478 00:30:43,880 --> 00:30:47,400 Speaker 1: of averages here. Nobody's perfect. You're gonna you're gonna have 479 00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:50,479 Speaker 1: tons of failures, but you're gonna win more than you 480 00:30:50,520 --> 00:30:57,200 Speaker 1: fail with that kind of goal and mentality. So yeah, 481 00:30:57,200 --> 00:30:59,320 Speaker 1: I think you're I think you're doing good. Brother. Yep, 482 00:30:59,520 --> 00:31:07,280 Speaker 1: right on, quick break, We'll be right back. I'm grateful 483 00:31:07,320 --> 00:31:10,880 Speaker 1: that this podcast is brought to you by features. You know, 484 00:31:11,000 --> 00:31:12,920 Speaker 1: changing your sock's gonna make a huge difference in your 485 00:31:12,960 --> 00:31:15,560 Speaker 1: daily walks or hitting the links or whatever you do. 486 00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:19,560 Speaker 1: For me, I'm a stage guy. My feet matter when 487 00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:22,280 Speaker 1: I'm on the stage. I can't explain why, but I 488 00:31:22,920 --> 00:31:25,480 Speaker 1: have fallen off the stage a couple times. That probably 489 00:31:25,520 --> 00:31:28,760 Speaker 1: has something to do with it. Knowing that I'm comfortable 490 00:31:28,760 --> 00:31:31,360 Speaker 1: in my feet. I know that sounds weird. When I'm 491 00:31:31,360 --> 00:31:33,920 Speaker 1: on the stage, If my feet are comfortable, I feel 492 00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:37,160 Speaker 1: like I have good footing, I feel relaxed. I'm going 493 00:31:37,240 --> 00:31:39,719 Speaker 1: to have a better performance. Now. 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I try to sort them a little bit, 574 00:36:16,320 --> 00:36:18,520 Speaker 1: and I'm giving you guys a little bit of a 575 00:36:18,560 --> 00:36:21,560 Speaker 1: warning because I think just looking at these subject lines, 576 00:36:21,600 --> 00:36:23,239 Speaker 1: I think the ones that I'm going to finish here 577 00:36:23,280 --> 00:36:27,120 Speaker 1: with today are a little deep and a little spiritual. 578 00:36:27,360 --> 00:36:31,799 Speaker 1: So I hope that everyone stays with me on this 579 00:36:32,840 --> 00:36:35,840 Speaker 1: and I'm just I'm answering it as they come. Okay, 580 00:36:36,200 --> 00:36:40,160 Speaker 1: I'm not. I'm not trying to pigeonhole this podcast. And 581 00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:42,920 Speaker 1: in any way besides the fact that I want to 582 00:36:42,920 --> 00:36:46,160 Speaker 1: be able to answer your questions. It could be how 583 00:36:46,160 --> 00:36:48,040 Speaker 1: do I become a drummer, it could be how do 584 00:36:48,120 --> 00:36:50,239 Speaker 1: I find God? I'm going to answer them as they come. 585 00:36:51,920 --> 00:36:55,680 Speaker 1: And sometimes I see comments that think that this podcast 586 00:36:55,480 --> 00:36:58,919 Speaker 1: is kind of pinching pigeonhole in itself in a certain way, 587 00:36:59,040 --> 00:37:02,279 Speaker 1: and it's not. I'm just answering as they come. If 588 00:37:02,280 --> 00:37:04,480 Speaker 1: you hear a lot of questions about career, it's not 589 00:37:04,520 --> 00:37:07,120 Speaker 1: because I'm picking them that way. It's because there's a 590 00:37:07,160 --> 00:37:09,719 Speaker 1: lot of people thinking about their career. There's a lot 591 00:37:09,719 --> 00:37:13,000 Speaker 1: of people. So if you think I'm only finding the 592 00:37:13,040 --> 00:37:15,279 Speaker 1: ones about faith, no, that's just a lot of people 593 00:37:15,360 --> 00:37:19,239 Speaker 1: are really questioning faith. Yeah. So with that being said, 594 00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:22,360 Speaker 1: the first question. The first question of this segment subject 595 00:37:22,360 --> 00:37:27,160 Speaker 1: line is walk in Faith says, how to grande your 596 00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:30,719 Speaker 1: My name is Timothy, which is another awesome character that 597 00:37:31,320 --> 00:37:33,839 Speaker 1: we don't know much about in the Bible besides Paul 598 00:37:33,880 --> 00:37:39,480 Speaker 1: writing to him. But strong name Timothy. I live in 599 00:37:39,480 --> 00:37:44,880 Speaker 1: a small town in Pulaski, Virginia. Long story short. I 600 00:37:44,880 --> 00:37:48,360 Speaker 1: grew up on a farm, joined the Marine Corps looking 601 00:37:48,400 --> 00:37:50,839 Speaker 1: for a better life and a better opportunity. After eight 602 00:37:50,920 --> 00:37:53,399 Speaker 1: years of service, I moved back and started a new 603 00:37:53,440 --> 00:37:57,239 Speaker 1: life with a family. Grew up going to church. I've 604 00:37:57,280 --> 00:38:00,840 Speaker 1: fallen away from Christ, but have now re establish myself 605 00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:05,440 Speaker 1: in my faith and wanting to grow it as well. 606 00:38:06,480 --> 00:38:10,880 Speaker 1: So my question is parentheses. Sorry it's long. I'm thinking 607 00:38:11,040 --> 00:38:14,279 Speaker 1: of my children as my parents do. How could I 608 00:38:14,360 --> 00:38:18,040 Speaker 1: help lead them to Christ and help them live for God? 609 00:38:18,080 --> 00:38:20,200 Speaker 1: Any advice would be helpful. I love you and Amber 610 00:38:20,480 --> 00:38:26,080 Speaker 1: on the podcast. I watched them on YouTube. Shout out 611 00:38:26,120 --> 00:38:30,320 Speaker 1: to YouTube watchers on this podcast. My oldest son Zane 612 00:38:30,640 --> 00:38:33,799 Speaker 1: agrees when I say your music is great and if 613 00:38:33,840 --> 00:38:37,439 Speaker 1: you ever are around us in August, We'll be sure 614 00:38:37,480 --> 00:38:39,000 Speaker 1: to come to your show. God bless and keep up 615 00:38:39,040 --> 00:38:46,000 Speaker 1: the good work. So your question is how could I 616 00:38:46,160 --> 00:38:48,960 Speaker 1: lead them to Christ and help them live for God? 617 00:38:50,120 --> 00:38:56,799 Speaker 1: Any advice would be helpful. Some missing pieces in this question, 618 00:38:56,920 --> 00:39:02,160 Speaker 1: and there's some missing stuff in here. And as always, 619 00:39:02,320 --> 00:39:05,720 Speaker 1: I'd always like to say, this is like we're sitting 620 00:39:05,719 --> 00:39:10,480 Speaker 1: in there, We're sitting around a campfire and these kind 621 00:39:10,520 --> 00:39:12,680 Speaker 1: of questions come up and we're gonna answer them like 622 00:39:12,680 --> 00:39:21,239 Speaker 1: we're sitting around campfire with their buddies. So Bernie's a 623 00:39:21,280 --> 00:39:23,239 Speaker 1: great guy, He's a great person to have on this 624 00:39:23,320 --> 00:39:28,040 Speaker 1: with me. I would say I would start, Timothy. If 625 00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:31,680 Speaker 1: you're asking how could I help lead them to Christ 626 00:39:31,680 --> 00:39:35,560 Speaker 1: and help them live for God? The number one place 627 00:39:35,560 --> 00:39:40,320 Speaker 1: to start is you living that in front of them. 628 00:39:40,719 --> 00:39:43,520 Speaker 1: Because you could only say so much. You could. You 629 00:39:43,520 --> 00:39:48,239 Speaker 1: could send them to school, you know you could. You 630 00:39:48,280 --> 00:39:50,760 Speaker 1: could put them on a YouTube channel that they should 631 00:39:50,760 --> 00:39:54,279 Speaker 1: be watching, or give them a book. But man, number one, 632 00:39:54,880 --> 00:39:59,000 Speaker 1: and way above number two, is you live that life 633 00:39:59,000 --> 00:40:01,120 Speaker 1: for them to watch you. They're watching you right now. 634 00:40:02,040 --> 00:40:06,799 Speaker 1: Live it, man, live it, and and through that example, 635 00:40:07,480 --> 00:40:10,120 Speaker 1: that's the best teacher you could be to your family. 636 00:40:11,200 --> 00:40:14,680 Speaker 1: If you can't live up to what you're trying to 637 00:40:14,719 --> 00:40:17,480 Speaker 1: preach here, then no one's going to be attracted to 638 00:40:17,560 --> 00:40:20,440 Speaker 1: that lifestyle that you're trying to pitch to them. So 639 00:40:20,480 --> 00:40:22,960 Speaker 1: it doesn't it doesn't even matter. We've all seen that. 640 00:40:23,040 --> 00:40:26,440 Speaker 1: We've all seen some crazy preacher on TV and been like, 641 00:40:27,040 --> 00:40:29,000 Speaker 1: I don't want to be that guy. So I don't 642 00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:30,680 Speaker 1: want to listen to anything you say in it or 643 00:40:30,719 --> 00:40:33,080 Speaker 1: whatever he snake O he's selling. I don't want it, 644 00:40:34,040 --> 00:40:40,560 Speaker 1: so right, Yeah, yeah, I think Griz, you know, hit 645 00:40:40,640 --> 00:40:43,680 Speaker 1: the nail on the head. It really starts with you. 646 00:40:45,040 --> 00:40:50,240 Speaker 1: So so the options here are you know, point your kids, 647 00:40:50,880 --> 00:40:57,400 Speaker 1: you know, to to know Jesus, lead your kids away 648 00:40:58,120 --> 00:41:05,040 Speaker 1: or to the world. Right. We know that, you know, 649 00:41:05,360 --> 00:41:09,960 Speaker 1: Jesus is hidden inside God's word. You know, he is 650 00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:13,960 Speaker 1: the word. It was there in the beginning, if you know. 651 00:41:14,000 --> 00:41:18,000 Speaker 1: The question really is like how how much time do 652 00:41:18,080 --> 00:41:21,600 Speaker 1: we really spend in God's Word? How much are we 653 00:41:21,719 --> 00:41:26,160 Speaker 1: letting it really saturate the small moments of our lives 654 00:41:26,239 --> 00:41:31,600 Speaker 1: and become the reactions that come out because much like 655 00:41:32,360 --> 00:41:35,160 Speaker 1: you know a lot of you know, TV shows or 656 00:41:35,400 --> 00:41:39,120 Speaker 1: different podcasts you could listen to, like, whatever you're putting 657 00:41:39,160 --> 00:41:42,919 Speaker 1: in is going to come out naturally. So the more. 658 00:41:43,239 --> 00:41:45,799 Speaker 1: I just feel like the more time that you know 659 00:41:45,880 --> 00:41:50,000 Speaker 1: that we are spending, you know, in stillness and quiet 660 00:41:50,200 --> 00:41:53,880 Speaker 1: and solitude, just letting that kind of you know, soak 661 00:41:53,960 --> 00:41:57,319 Speaker 1: into us, then it's going to naturally come out, which 662 00:41:57,360 --> 00:42:01,200 Speaker 1: is what your kids are watching. They you know, they're 663 00:42:01,239 --> 00:42:03,120 Speaker 1: going to pick up on if something's just kind of 664 00:42:03,160 --> 00:42:06,799 Speaker 1: forced from you, and they're going to pick up on like, no, 665 00:42:07,000 --> 00:42:10,640 Speaker 1: that's that's just what dad did. He you know, you 666 00:42:10,680 --> 00:42:13,000 Speaker 1: know my dad, he just sat in his chair and 667 00:42:13,040 --> 00:42:16,600 Speaker 1: sang old hymns like that's just what he did. You know, 668 00:42:16,680 --> 00:42:19,719 Speaker 1: these little things start to show your kids, you know, 669 00:42:19,760 --> 00:42:24,600 Speaker 1: where your heart, where your treasure lies, and so and 670 00:42:24,840 --> 00:42:28,680 Speaker 1: like just above everything though you're not alone. This is man. 671 00:42:28,840 --> 00:42:30,719 Speaker 1: My wife and I talk about it, Griz and I 672 00:42:30,719 --> 00:42:34,319 Speaker 1: talk about it. Man, this is such a difficult thing. 673 00:42:35,560 --> 00:42:38,120 Speaker 1: We value these relationships so much and we want to 674 00:42:38,239 --> 00:42:41,919 Speaker 1: like make sure that we're pointing them towards life that's 675 00:42:42,000 --> 00:42:46,600 Speaker 1: meaningful and eternal. And so because we care about it 676 00:42:46,680 --> 00:42:50,480 Speaker 1: so much, there's almost can be this like over analysis 677 00:42:50,520 --> 00:42:53,960 Speaker 1: of are we doing it right? Are we? So? I 678 00:42:53,960 --> 00:42:59,040 Speaker 1: think one just taking away the burden of like the 679 00:42:59,080 --> 00:43:02,640 Speaker 1: Holy spirit is to meet your kids and we can't 680 00:43:03,200 --> 00:43:07,399 Speaker 1: dictate when that happens, if it happens again, going back 681 00:43:07,400 --> 00:43:12,279 Speaker 1: to you can only control what you can control. You know, 682 00:43:12,360 --> 00:43:14,200 Speaker 1: God has written the rest, and we just have to 683 00:43:14,239 --> 00:43:18,520 Speaker 1: trust in him that, you know, if we abide in 684 00:43:18,640 --> 00:43:22,200 Speaker 1: him and that his word starts to come out, our 685 00:43:22,280 --> 00:43:26,880 Speaker 1: kids are just going to like be drawn to him, 686 00:43:27,200 --> 00:43:32,160 Speaker 1: which which, yeah, man is it's a constant daily battle. 687 00:43:32,200 --> 00:43:35,600 Speaker 1: We're all in it, and so know that you're not alone. 688 00:43:35,880 --> 00:43:38,879 Speaker 1: But it's worth the fight for sure. What good time 689 00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:42,400 Speaker 1: to do this, Timothy too, of an opportunity is your 690 00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:46,680 Speaker 1: nighttime prayers and could also be meal time prayers too, 691 00:43:46,719 --> 00:43:51,480 Speaker 1: But a nighttime prayer for me is really important because 692 00:43:52,719 --> 00:43:55,560 Speaker 1: when I lay down to pray with Lincoln or London, 693 00:43:57,600 --> 00:44:00,719 Speaker 1: I try not to ever let it become a repetitive, 694 00:44:03,080 --> 00:44:08,279 Speaker 1: repeated prayer from a book. I try to make it 695 00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:12,160 Speaker 1: different every night, which is the challenge, and I try 696 00:44:12,200 --> 00:44:16,359 Speaker 1: to make it creative in a way relative to our 697 00:44:16,360 --> 00:44:20,400 Speaker 1: current lives. And I try to let it be in 698 00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:26,760 Speaker 1: a language that they could easily digest. So for instance, 699 00:44:26,960 --> 00:44:30,560 Speaker 1: I'll lay down with you know, say Lincoln, and you 700 00:44:30,560 --> 00:44:32,400 Speaker 1: know every night we say prayer, and I'll just say 701 00:44:33,040 --> 00:44:36,399 Speaker 1: I'll try to be just as plain languaged as I can. God, 702 00:44:37,360 --> 00:44:42,120 Speaker 1: thank you for this little boy, led him to grow 703 00:44:42,200 --> 00:44:48,319 Speaker 1: strong and smart and love you above all else. And 704 00:44:48,360 --> 00:44:52,120 Speaker 1: if he's ever scared to talk to you, he said, 705 00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:55,440 Speaker 1: if he's ever happy to thank you, you know, and 706 00:44:55,880 --> 00:44:59,160 Speaker 1: just putting these little things in his brain, you know 707 00:44:59,239 --> 00:45:04,560 Speaker 1: that we're he just feels that relationship where I'm kind 708 00:45:04,560 --> 00:45:08,200 Speaker 1: of saying, I'm kind of saying the words that he 709 00:45:08,840 --> 00:45:14,279 Speaker 1: could think, if that makes sense. But to me, that's 710 00:45:14,280 --> 00:45:16,239 Speaker 1: a good opportunity because he's laying there, his eyes are 711 00:45:16,239 --> 00:45:19,440 Speaker 1: closed and I'm right in his ear, as opposed to 712 00:45:19,640 --> 00:45:22,239 Speaker 1: you know, he's with us at the farm now and 713 00:45:22,320 --> 00:45:24,000 Speaker 1: just run around with his sister, so it's hard to 714 00:45:24,120 --> 00:45:25,880 Speaker 1: get him focused, and that's a good time for them 715 00:45:25,920 --> 00:45:34,200 Speaker 1: to focus. Yeah, I think that's great. Making it like 716 00:45:34,239 --> 00:45:39,840 Speaker 1: you're saying, just different every time, and personal takes away 717 00:45:40,120 --> 00:45:44,280 Speaker 1: the ritual part of it, which there's a whole culture 718 00:45:44,400 --> 00:45:49,560 Speaker 1: of people that believe closeness to God and in relationship 719 00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:51,439 Speaker 1: with God is all about ritual. It's not the heart 720 00:45:51,719 --> 00:45:54,560 Speaker 1: behind what you're doing. It's just doing the thing. And 721 00:45:54,600 --> 00:45:57,279 Speaker 1: I think what you're doing separates that and saying it 722 00:45:58,160 --> 00:46:00,920 Speaker 1: kind of makes it like, no, we're you know, we're 723 00:46:01,000 --> 00:46:03,759 Speaker 1: doing this because if you were doing it just to 724 00:46:03,880 --> 00:46:05,520 Speaker 1: check it off the box, it would be the same 725 00:46:05,520 --> 00:46:07,880 Speaker 1: thing every night and just say oh yeah yeah, and 726 00:46:07,960 --> 00:46:12,439 Speaker 1: Lincoln would pick up on that. Yeah yeah. So yeah, 727 00:46:12,480 --> 00:46:16,520 Speaker 1: that's awesome. Man, good question, Timothy, really good and it's 728 00:46:16,560 --> 00:46:19,160 Speaker 1: awesome that you're thinking about that, and thank you for 729 00:46:19,200 --> 00:46:25,080 Speaker 1: your service. Shout out to Marine Corps two and Virginia. 730 00:46:29,560 --> 00:46:32,000 Speaker 1: All Right, this question comes from Eric. He says, Hey, 731 00:46:32,120 --> 00:46:37,520 Speaker 1: my name is Eric. I'm from Covington, Louisiana. And he says, 732 00:46:37,760 --> 00:46:40,359 Speaker 1: I like when you're good friend. How you and your 733 00:46:40,360 --> 00:46:43,279 Speaker 1: good friend Bernie think. He said, I need a friend 734 00:46:43,360 --> 00:46:46,920 Speaker 1: like him. I promise I didn't find this female before 735 00:46:46,960 --> 00:46:50,759 Speaker 1: you came. That's awesome. I love your new album. I'm 736 00:46:50,760 --> 00:46:52,880 Speaker 1: a big friend of your music and watching your podcast 737 00:46:52,920 --> 00:46:56,560 Speaker 1: and smith videos. My question is, how would you know 738 00:46:56,680 --> 00:47:01,680 Speaker 1: if God is trying to give you a blessing? Once again, 739 00:47:01,680 --> 00:47:07,560 Speaker 1: a spiritual question. So, my wife's dad inherited his family's 740 00:47:07,640 --> 00:47:11,520 Speaker 1: land in a small town called Blonde and it's a 741 00:47:11,520 --> 00:47:14,799 Speaker 1: big property with four houses on it, and he's trying 742 00:47:14,840 --> 00:47:16,960 Speaker 1: to offer us one of the houses on the property, 743 00:47:17,640 --> 00:47:21,360 Speaker 1: but it's the smallest house on the property, and it 744 00:47:21,480 --> 00:47:25,640 Speaker 1: also needs the most work. And I really I don't 745 00:47:25,680 --> 00:47:28,640 Speaker 1: make the best money at my work. So I want 746 00:47:28,719 --> 00:47:31,200 Speaker 1: to take the offer because we live in a two bedroom, 747 00:47:31,320 --> 00:47:35,080 Speaker 1: one bathroom apartment with a large dog and two cats. 748 00:47:36,360 --> 00:47:38,920 Speaker 1: If you were in my shoes, would you take this offer? 749 00:47:46,520 --> 00:47:49,799 Speaker 1: Let me read again, Yeah, to soak it in. Yeah, 750 00:47:49,960 --> 00:47:53,480 Speaker 1: shark take Would you take the offer for that reason? 751 00:47:56,080 --> 00:48:01,720 Speaker 1: All right? It says, how do you know if God 752 00:48:01,840 --> 00:48:05,359 Speaker 1: is trying to give you a blessing? My wife's dad 753 00:48:05,360 --> 00:48:08,080 Speaker 1: inherited his family's land in a small town. It's a 754 00:48:08,080 --> 00:48:10,680 Speaker 1: big property with four houses. He's trying to offer us 755 00:48:10,719 --> 00:48:12,120 Speaker 1: one of the houses on the property, but it's the 756 00:48:12,160 --> 00:48:14,680 Speaker 1: smallest house and it's the house that needs the most work. 757 00:48:16,640 --> 00:48:18,719 Speaker 1: I really don't make the best money at work. I 758 00:48:18,760 --> 00:48:20,400 Speaker 1: want to take the offer because we live in a 759 00:48:20,440 --> 00:48:23,080 Speaker 1: two bedroom, one bathroom apartment with a large dog and 760 00:48:23,080 --> 00:48:25,160 Speaker 1: two cats. If you very much chose, would you take 761 00:48:25,200 --> 00:48:28,920 Speaker 1: the offer? I'm trying to find the negative. Yes, that's 762 00:48:28,960 --> 00:48:32,360 Speaker 1: what I'm thinking. Yeah. So here here's a perfect example. 763 00:48:32,680 --> 00:48:35,640 Speaker 1: This actually recent not exactly the same, but recently happened. 764 00:48:36,680 --> 00:48:40,680 Speaker 1: I was out on a walk around my office and 765 00:48:40,840 --> 00:48:44,520 Speaker 1: I walked by this house that was in the area 766 00:48:45,160 --> 00:48:49,359 Speaker 1: that our office was currently that we were leasing, and 767 00:48:49,400 --> 00:48:51,080 Speaker 1: we knew that we wanted to buy a place. And 768 00:48:51,080 --> 00:48:53,920 Speaker 1: I walked past. All these houses are real nice, and 769 00:48:53,920 --> 00:48:56,440 Speaker 1: then we found one that was like it was kind 770 00:48:56,440 --> 00:49:02,480 Speaker 1: of overgrown, needed a lot of work, and I just 771 00:49:03,680 --> 00:49:05,400 Speaker 1: kind of felt like, I feel like I need to 772 00:49:05,560 --> 00:49:09,399 Speaker 1: talk to somebody about this. Who happened? So first of all, 773 00:49:09,640 --> 00:49:13,799 Speaker 1: don't underestimate just walking with God, go for walks, be 774 00:49:13,920 --> 00:49:16,640 Speaker 1: still and quiet, and just try to listen. Just try 775 00:49:16,680 --> 00:49:19,799 Speaker 1: to listen. That nudge will lead you a lot of 776 00:49:20,080 --> 00:49:24,279 Speaker 1: really fun, exciting places. So I walk around the back 777 00:49:24,320 --> 00:49:27,239 Speaker 1: and there's a kid outside that's raking the leaves, and 778 00:49:28,320 --> 00:49:30,680 Speaker 1: so I said, hey, do you own this house? He said, 779 00:49:30,719 --> 00:49:35,239 Speaker 1: my mom does. I shouldn't know in this house. So 780 00:49:35,440 --> 00:49:37,880 Speaker 1: Mom comes out and I said, hey, I was just 781 00:49:37,920 --> 00:49:41,399 Speaker 1: curious if you're interested in selling. She said, well, well, 782 00:49:41,400 --> 00:49:43,800 Speaker 1: maybe let me get your phone number a week and 783 00:49:43,920 --> 00:49:46,920 Speaker 1: talk about it. All that to say that lands me 784 00:49:46,960 --> 00:49:49,520 Speaker 1: then in this situation like you're in Okay, I have 785 00:49:49,640 --> 00:49:55,759 Speaker 1: this opportunity. The price that she came back with was 786 00:49:56,080 --> 00:49:58,200 Speaker 1: more than I felt like it was worth or that 787 00:49:58,280 --> 00:50:01,560 Speaker 1: I was comfortable paying for it. So that would be 788 00:50:01,560 --> 00:50:04,440 Speaker 1: the first question with this house, like is it is 789 00:50:04,520 --> 00:50:07,160 Speaker 1: does it make you uncomfortable? Do you know, listen to 790 00:50:07,200 --> 00:50:10,880 Speaker 1: your gut. It probably has the answer for you. But 791 00:50:11,000 --> 00:50:15,160 Speaker 1: if it, if it does, I think go So So 792 00:50:15,200 --> 00:50:16,400 Speaker 1: what I did is I went back to her and 793 00:50:16,400 --> 00:50:18,520 Speaker 1: I said, Hey, I would really love to have this 794 00:50:18,600 --> 00:50:22,759 Speaker 1: property and kind of continue its legacy here. We're not 795 00:50:22,920 --> 00:50:25,239 Speaker 1: going to tear it down and do whatever like restore it, 796 00:50:26,840 --> 00:50:29,879 Speaker 1: but honestly, this is kind of the budget that we're 797 00:50:29,880 --> 00:50:36,560 Speaker 1: looking at. And I said, if that you know, somehow 798 00:50:37,080 --> 00:50:38,719 Speaker 1: you know may work for you, just let me know. 799 00:50:40,400 --> 00:50:45,359 Speaker 1: And she called me back and said, yeah, actually that 800 00:50:46,880 --> 00:50:48,560 Speaker 1: I think if if you could kind of do this, 801 00:50:48,640 --> 00:50:50,399 Speaker 1: I think we may be able to make something work. 802 00:50:52,160 --> 00:50:57,239 Speaker 1: So the point of the story is if you communicate 803 00:50:57,360 --> 00:51:03,360 Speaker 1: with your dad earlier, Yeah, whoever, my wife's dad, Okay, 804 00:51:04,040 --> 00:51:06,120 Speaker 1: So you communicate with the father in law and just 805 00:51:06,160 --> 00:51:08,400 Speaker 1: show them like, hey, this is this is really what 806 00:51:08,640 --> 00:51:10,719 Speaker 1: we can afford. I want to be responsible for a 807 00:51:10,800 --> 00:51:14,640 Speaker 1: good steward or what I've been given and if and 808 00:51:14,920 --> 00:51:17,120 Speaker 1: don't be emotionally tied to it. I was ready to 809 00:51:17,160 --> 00:51:19,120 Speaker 1: walk away from that house and be like you know 810 00:51:19,200 --> 00:51:30,080 Speaker 1: it just it wasn't it you? You have the unlimited resources. 811 00:51:30,239 --> 00:51:33,080 Speaker 1: If God wants you to have that place, he's gonna 812 00:51:33,160 --> 00:51:35,680 Speaker 1: he's gonna move in the hearts of the people that 813 00:51:35,760 --> 00:51:37,839 Speaker 1: are you know, behind the scenes of it and say, 814 00:51:37,880 --> 00:51:40,000 Speaker 1: you know what, I think we could make this work 815 00:51:40,000 --> 00:51:41,880 Speaker 1: and we could give it to him for this or 816 00:51:42,719 --> 00:51:47,600 Speaker 1: you know whatever that may be. I just I think 817 00:51:47,600 --> 00:51:50,480 Speaker 1: that putting it out there and communicating with your father 818 00:51:50,520 --> 00:51:55,279 Speaker 1: in law where you sit with it and and make 819 00:51:55,320 --> 00:51:58,080 Speaker 1: sure that it's a win on both sides, Like because 820 00:51:58,120 --> 00:51:59,880 Speaker 1: I also went to this lady and said, look, I 821 00:52:00,040 --> 00:52:02,439 Speaker 1: don't want to lowball you. I don't want to like take, 822 00:52:02,600 --> 00:52:04,000 Speaker 1: I don't want to take from you. I want this 823 00:52:04,040 --> 00:52:06,480 Speaker 1: to be a win for you and a win for me. 824 00:52:06,760 --> 00:52:08,399 Speaker 1: And if it's not a win on both sides, then 825 00:52:08,480 --> 00:52:10,680 Speaker 1: don't get emotionally attached. There will be something else that 826 00:52:10,719 --> 00:52:14,600 Speaker 1: comes up and walk away. Props to the dad too, 827 00:52:14,800 --> 00:52:16,839 Speaker 1: like trying to get his daughter to live close to him. 828 00:52:17,360 --> 00:52:20,799 Speaker 1: That's gonna be me one day, like hey boy, I'm 829 00:52:20,800 --> 00:52:23,399 Speaker 1: gonna offer you a house so that London could live 830 00:52:23,400 --> 00:52:28,040 Speaker 1: close to me. Again, that is another variable in the question. Yeah, 831 00:52:28,360 --> 00:52:35,479 Speaker 1: so how's your relationship with them. Here's the thing, dude, 832 00:52:35,560 --> 00:52:38,600 Speaker 1: you're not going to be married to the house. If 833 00:52:38,600 --> 00:52:41,400 Speaker 1: it's not good, you're leave. It sounds like it's a 834 00:52:41,400 --> 00:52:45,279 Speaker 1: pretty good, decent opportunity because you're not. It's not like 835 00:52:45,320 --> 00:52:47,239 Speaker 1: you're giving up a lot to do it. You're giving 836 00:52:47,320 --> 00:52:51,520 Speaker 1: up a two bedroom, one bath apartment that you already 837 00:52:51,520 --> 00:52:53,759 Speaker 1: fill too crowded in with these with your animals and 838 00:52:53,800 --> 00:52:57,080 Speaker 1: your wife. So you're not giving up a lot. You're 839 00:52:57,080 --> 00:52:59,960 Speaker 1: gonna go into the house. If it doesn't work out, 840 00:53:00,080 --> 00:53:06,120 Speaker 1: If it makes your life terrible, just leave and patch 841 00:53:06,160 --> 00:53:07,960 Speaker 1: things up with the in laws and go back to 842 00:53:08,000 --> 00:53:11,000 Speaker 1: the two bedroom apartment. It doesn't feel like it's I 843 00:53:11,040 --> 00:53:13,759 Speaker 1: don't feel like there's too much negative in this in 844 00:53:13,840 --> 00:53:17,680 Speaker 1: this question. There's this is an easy This is an 845 00:53:17,680 --> 00:53:22,400 Speaker 1: easy commitment that you could easily get out of, unless 846 00:53:22,640 --> 00:53:24,880 Speaker 1: unless there's something I don't know in here where this 847 00:53:24,880 --> 00:53:27,360 Speaker 1: this is all the way across the country on the 848 00:53:27,360 --> 00:53:29,880 Speaker 1: other side of But you're in Louisiana and this is 849 00:53:29,880 --> 00:53:33,640 Speaker 1: in Maine or something, But you didn't say that. Sounds 850 00:53:33,640 --> 00:53:36,719 Speaker 1: like it's in the same area. You're not giving up much. 851 00:53:36,920 --> 00:53:40,080 Speaker 1: Give it a shot, and because you you have a 852 00:53:40,160 --> 00:53:43,000 Speaker 1: job that doesn't make that much money doesn't mean you 853 00:53:43,040 --> 00:53:49,120 Speaker 1: can't work on this property slowly with your own work, 854 00:53:49,520 --> 00:53:53,359 Speaker 1: you know, your own two hands and uh and and 855 00:53:53,400 --> 00:53:55,719 Speaker 1: make this better. It's amazing what some yard work could 856 00:53:55,760 --> 00:53:59,000 Speaker 1: do and cost nothing but a little sure, a little gasoline. 857 00:53:59,719 --> 00:54:01,680 Speaker 1: So and my guess is the father in law would 858 00:54:01,680 --> 00:54:05,120 Speaker 1: probably be willing to life. That's true. That's true. You 859 00:54:05,160 --> 00:54:07,400 Speaker 1: get a can of paint, you know, scrape some that 860 00:54:07,440 --> 00:54:10,319 Speaker 1: old paint off. It's it's been pretty amazing. And you 861 00:54:10,360 --> 00:54:12,680 Speaker 1: don't have to do anything right now, even if you 862 00:54:12,680 --> 00:54:15,280 Speaker 1: want to save money. You could just move in. And 863 00:54:15,320 --> 00:54:17,400 Speaker 1: there's nothing wrong with living in a little bit of 864 00:54:17,400 --> 00:54:20,759 Speaker 1: a junker right now with the vision of what it 865 00:54:20,800 --> 00:54:23,600 Speaker 1: could be. So, yeah, dude, I don't think there's anything 866 00:54:23,600 --> 00:54:25,839 Speaker 1: wrong with going in this house. You say, if if 867 00:54:25,840 --> 00:54:28,600 Speaker 1: I was in your shoes, Yeah, it sounds like sounds 868 00:54:28,640 --> 00:54:32,279 Speaker 1: like I don't get those dogs to some land, get them, 869 00:54:32,280 --> 00:54:39,239 Speaker 1: get them out of that apartment. We got wet. We 870 00:54:39,480 --> 00:54:45,040 Speaker 1: let's do another one. Okay, says hey Granger. My name 871 00:54:45,080 --> 00:54:54,000 Speaker 1: is Gage. I'm from small town, USA. Monta Signo, Washington, Montasigno. 872 00:54:54,080 --> 00:54:57,200 Speaker 1: Is that how you say it? Monta Signyo Washington or 873 00:54:57,200 --> 00:55:01,920 Speaker 1: it could be Monta Sano Montasana. That's probably right. Sorry, man, 874 00:55:01,920 --> 00:55:04,560 Speaker 1: I'm a butchering the town name. I'm twenty one years old. 875 00:55:04,600 --> 00:55:08,360 Speaker 1: I'm an automotive mechanic and also a volunteer firefighter and 876 00:55:08,400 --> 00:55:12,279 Speaker 1: medical responder. I'm currently taking EMT classes. Thank you for 877 00:55:12,320 --> 00:55:15,200 Speaker 1: your service. I love listening to your podcast. I listen 878 00:55:15,280 --> 00:55:18,400 Speaker 1: to them when I'm driving to and from work, and 879 00:55:18,440 --> 00:55:21,640 Speaker 1: when i'm driving to the fire station, and when i'm 880 00:55:21,719 --> 00:55:24,359 Speaker 1: driving to nine to one one calls. Listening to your 881 00:55:24,440 --> 00:55:26,640 Speaker 1: voice helps me stay calm and relax, especially when I'm 882 00:55:26,640 --> 00:55:33,920 Speaker 1: going to nine to one one medical calls. Hearing you 883 00:55:33,960 --> 00:55:37,239 Speaker 1: talk helps me stay focused, calm, and prepared to do 884 00:55:37,280 --> 00:55:39,960 Speaker 1: the best that I can. I'm emailing you because I've 885 00:55:40,000 --> 00:55:44,120 Speaker 1: always been a follower of God in Christ, but i 886 00:55:44,160 --> 00:55:47,360 Speaker 1: find myself at times putting Christ aside, kind of on 887 00:55:47,440 --> 00:55:50,160 Speaker 1: the back burner and focusing on things instead of when 888 00:55:50,200 --> 00:55:53,279 Speaker 1: I should be focusing on my Savior. I'm hoping you 889 00:55:53,280 --> 00:55:55,080 Speaker 1: can give me some advice on how I can can 890 00:55:55,200 --> 00:55:58,560 Speaker 1: can can excuse me, can continue to follow Christ and 891 00:55:58,640 --> 00:56:02,320 Speaker 1: make more of make him more of the priority overall, 892 00:56:02,360 --> 00:56:05,200 Speaker 1: want to become a better Christian. Anything helps thanks many 893 00:56:05,400 --> 00:56:14,640 Speaker 1: yee Gauge. You're human, dude, this is your human and 894 00:56:14,680 --> 00:56:18,040 Speaker 1: I'm sure Billy Graham ran into the same daily problem. 895 00:56:18,520 --> 00:56:21,799 Speaker 1: The most important thing is you're aware of it and 896 00:56:21,840 --> 00:56:27,239 Speaker 1: you want to be better. And that's the most important thing, 897 00:56:27,320 --> 00:56:30,480 Speaker 1: is the motivation to want to be better in anything 898 00:56:30,480 --> 00:56:33,560 Speaker 1: in life, whether it's a job, or your relationship with 899 00:56:33,600 --> 00:56:40,400 Speaker 1: your wife, or becoming a father, or your relationship with God. 900 00:56:41,520 --> 00:56:46,359 Speaker 1: So first of all, thank you for your service, Thank 901 00:56:46,400 --> 00:56:49,520 Speaker 1: you for listening to this podcast and using it as 902 00:56:49,560 --> 00:56:51,560 Speaker 1: a way. You know, on a nine to one one 903 00:56:51,600 --> 00:56:53,840 Speaker 1: call is not a place I thought I would this 904 00:56:53,920 --> 00:56:58,799 Speaker 1: podcast would exist, but you've y'all's emails have always made 905 00:56:58,800 --> 00:57:02,040 Speaker 1: it made podcast in my mind, get broader and broader 906 00:57:02,040 --> 00:57:04,279 Speaker 1: in terms of who's listening and why they're listening and 907 00:57:04,320 --> 00:57:08,399 Speaker 1: where they're listening. So that's that's a cool thing. If 908 00:57:08,400 --> 00:57:11,400 Speaker 1: I could, if I could help you like that success point, 909 00:57:11,640 --> 00:57:13,399 Speaker 1: if I could make one life breathe a little bit 910 00:57:13,400 --> 00:57:16,360 Speaker 1: easier than that success and if you if you're going 911 00:57:16,360 --> 00:57:17,959 Speaker 1: to a nine to one one call and a little 912 00:57:18,000 --> 00:57:21,720 Speaker 1: bit calmer by the time you get to the location, 913 00:57:21,920 --> 00:57:25,000 Speaker 1: then that's success for me. That's that's a great win. 914 00:57:25,080 --> 00:57:31,160 Speaker 1: For this podcast, Burns. What do you say he's put 915 00:57:31,240 --> 00:57:34,880 Speaker 1: he puts, puts God on back burner? Who doesn't? Yeah, 916 00:57:34,920 --> 00:57:37,360 Speaker 1: who doesn't? And if you don't, you're just you're not 917 00:57:37,480 --> 00:57:42,760 Speaker 1: truly admitting it. Yeah. Yeah, I think just having the 918 00:57:42,760 --> 00:57:47,840 Speaker 1: the awareness that man, the enemy has so many very 919 00:57:49,480 --> 00:57:54,680 Speaker 1: desirable and pleasurable tools at his disposal to distract us 920 00:57:54,720 --> 00:58:02,120 Speaker 1: with Yeah, and he's not taking days off either with 921 00:58:02,280 --> 00:58:06,640 Speaker 1: throwing them at us. And so yeah, it's it's it's 922 00:58:06,680 --> 00:58:12,200 Speaker 1: a struggle. It's it's tough. I Yeah. One thing that 923 00:58:12,360 --> 00:58:15,120 Speaker 1: comes to mind, Man, I'm not really sure why, but 924 00:58:15,320 --> 00:58:17,120 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna share it with you. Maybe it maybe 925 00:58:17,120 --> 00:58:19,360 Speaker 1: it connects, maybe it doesn't. I'm just gonna get kind 926 00:58:19,360 --> 00:58:23,080 Speaker 1: of practical. I would probably say two and a half 927 00:58:23,160 --> 00:58:28,640 Speaker 1: three years ago, I started practicing meditation. And I know 928 00:58:28,720 --> 00:58:32,640 Speaker 1: a lot of people hear the word meditation, they're like voodoo, 929 00:58:33,400 --> 00:58:37,080 Speaker 1: you know, new Age, And it's like, no, hey, let's 930 00:58:37,080 --> 00:58:40,040 Speaker 1: just let's go ahead and take that perception, throw it 931 00:58:40,040 --> 00:58:45,439 Speaker 1: out the window. Here's what I'm talking about. In order 932 00:58:45,520 --> 00:58:53,480 Speaker 1: to run faster, I do certain certain stretching and I 933 00:58:53,520 --> 00:58:57,240 Speaker 1: do certain kind of weight lifting because that enables me 934 00:58:57,360 --> 00:59:03,840 Speaker 1: to run faster meditation when we can. It's doing the 935 00:59:03,880 --> 00:59:06,040 Speaker 1: same thing but for our minds. And if you read 936 00:59:06,080 --> 00:59:08,800 Speaker 1: through the Bible, there's so many verses that are very 937 00:59:08,920 --> 00:59:13,200 Speaker 1: very powerful about mindset and where are you know, A 938 00:59:13,360 --> 00:59:17,760 Speaker 1: mind focused on the flesh is death. A mind focused 939 00:59:17,880 --> 00:59:21,440 Speaker 1: on the spirit is life and peace. These are the 940 00:59:21,480 --> 00:59:24,400 Speaker 1: two things we're talking about here. So what I found 941 00:59:24,440 --> 00:59:29,760 Speaker 1: with meditation is all I'm trying to do is really stretch, 942 00:59:30,600 --> 00:59:36,680 Speaker 1: exercise my mind and give it the ability to retain 943 00:59:36,840 --> 00:59:41,480 Speaker 1: things more and to focus more so that whenever it 944 00:59:41,520 --> 00:59:43,640 Speaker 1: comes time for that race, which is like I go 945 00:59:43,680 --> 00:59:46,680 Speaker 1: out into the world or I'm in a sermon, or 946 00:59:46,680 --> 00:59:48,640 Speaker 1: I'm listening to a sermon and I'm listening, I'm trying 947 00:59:48,680 --> 00:59:52,320 Speaker 1: to like my mind all of a sudden is not 948 00:59:53,040 --> 00:59:56,000 Speaker 1: just going a thousand different directions. It's like I'm able 949 00:59:56,040 --> 01:00:01,480 Speaker 1: to like listen and I'm able to focus. And not 950 01:00:01,520 --> 01:00:03,880 Speaker 1: only that, when I get in the situation where I 951 01:00:03,920 --> 01:00:08,560 Speaker 1: need those things I've heard to come out, I feel 952 01:00:08,560 --> 01:00:10,560 Speaker 1: like my mind is just a lot more clear. So 953 01:00:10,640 --> 01:00:15,439 Speaker 1: this is something very you know, practical and easy. Start 954 01:00:15,520 --> 01:00:18,360 Speaker 1: with three minutes a day and you can get on 955 01:00:18,440 --> 01:00:21,160 Speaker 1: an app or you can just sit in quiet, and 956 01:00:21,240 --> 01:00:23,680 Speaker 1: just like, just try to follow your breath for as 957 01:00:23,720 --> 01:00:26,800 Speaker 1: long as you can. And the point is not to 958 01:00:27,160 --> 01:00:29,560 Speaker 1: be able to go the three minutes without getting distracted. 959 01:00:30,680 --> 01:00:33,280 Speaker 1: The point is is to be able to recognize when 960 01:00:33,320 --> 01:00:37,560 Speaker 1: you've been distracted and then return back to your breath. Okay, 961 01:00:37,600 --> 01:00:41,000 Speaker 1: And here's what meditation has taught me about not only 962 01:00:41,040 --> 01:00:44,080 Speaker 1: following my breath but also my life, is that my 963 01:00:44,320 --> 01:00:49,120 Speaker 1: life is trying to pursue the breath of God, and 964 01:00:49,760 --> 01:00:53,720 Speaker 1: day in and day out, I get distracted. The point 965 01:00:53,800 --> 01:00:57,320 Speaker 1: is to recognize when I be more aware and recognize 966 01:00:57,360 --> 01:01:00,600 Speaker 1: when I've been distracted and just come back to that breath. 967 01:01:01,360 --> 01:01:04,160 Speaker 1: And the more that you do that, the easier it 968 01:01:04,240 --> 01:01:06,640 Speaker 1: is to recognize, and the easier it is just to 969 01:01:06,640 --> 01:01:10,520 Speaker 1: come back. You don't start veering miles away like you 970 01:01:10,560 --> 01:01:13,480 Speaker 1: may feel you are right now, like come back and 971 01:01:14,120 --> 01:01:15,800 Speaker 1: and just start that. You're going to start to see 972 01:01:16,560 --> 01:01:20,920 Speaker 1: parallels in your mindset and your spiritual life. Your mind, body, 973 01:01:20,920 --> 01:01:24,000 Speaker 1: and spirit are more connected than I think we know, 974 01:01:24,720 --> 01:01:27,480 Speaker 1: so that would just be a practical thing. I hope 975 01:01:27,480 --> 01:01:30,840 Speaker 1: it hits with you or maybe somebody else, but I 976 01:01:31,080 --> 01:01:34,960 Speaker 1: think that's awesome. Man, and dude, I wasn't asking that 977 01:01:35,040 --> 01:01:37,840 Speaker 1: question when I was twenty one years old. I just wasn't. 978 01:01:37,920 --> 01:01:42,040 Speaker 1: So yeah, it props to you. You're way ahead of 979 01:01:42,080 --> 01:01:46,200 Speaker 1: me and where I was at that age. So and 980 01:01:46,200 --> 01:01:50,320 Speaker 1: you're also you're working two jobs auto mechanic and volunteer 981 01:01:50,560 --> 01:01:54,800 Speaker 1: firefighter slash medical responder. Those are some stressful jobs you're working. 982 01:01:54,840 --> 01:01:59,560 Speaker 1: Because yeah, and it might be overlooked that auto mechanic 983 01:01:59,600 --> 01:02:01,880 Speaker 1: could be stressful, but dude, I know how it gets 984 01:02:01,880 --> 01:02:03,640 Speaker 1: when you're in a place and it starts getting backed 985 01:02:03,680 --> 01:02:07,560 Speaker 1: up and Joe Bow wants his vehicle right now, and 986 01:02:07,600 --> 01:02:10,480 Speaker 1: your boss is wondering why you know while you're not 987 01:02:10,520 --> 01:02:14,280 Speaker 1: on it, And that's a stressful thing. People want their 988 01:02:14,360 --> 01:02:17,840 Speaker 1: vehicles when they're getting worked on. They're mad that it 989 01:02:17,880 --> 01:02:20,680 Speaker 1: costs so much, they're mad that the part is hard 990 01:02:20,680 --> 01:02:23,120 Speaker 1: to find, and then they're mad that you can't do 991 01:02:23,160 --> 01:02:28,000 Speaker 1: it tomorrow. So I can't. I can't imagine that coupled 992 01:02:28,040 --> 01:02:32,560 Speaker 1: with your your medical responder stuff that you got. I 993 01:02:32,560 --> 01:02:37,000 Speaker 1: think Bernie's probably on something that it's really worth exploring, 994 01:02:37,000 --> 01:02:38,800 Speaker 1: because it sounds like you have a lot of stuff 995 01:02:39,720 --> 01:02:43,360 Speaker 1: clanking around in your brain during the day and especially 996 01:02:43,360 --> 01:02:45,880 Speaker 1: when you get home. It's time to shut your brain 997 01:02:45,920 --> 01:02:48,160 Speaker 1: off for a little bit and not just go to 998 01:02:48,400 --> 01:02:50,680 Speaker 1: besides this podcast. You make sure that the podcast is 999 01:02:50,720 --> 01:02:53,520 Speaker 1: part of your day, but other than that, you probably 1000 01:02:53,560 --> 01:02:57,560 Speaker 1: want to reduce the screen time a little bit. And 1001 01:02:58,960 --> 01:03:05,400 Speaker 1: that pause, that quiet is where God is going to 1002 01:03:05,440 --> 01:03:07,280 Speaker 1: have space to come and work in you. And so 1003 01:03:07,400 --> 01:03:09,000 Speaker 1: that's going to take care of itself. He's going to 1004 01:03:09,040 --> 01:03:13,800 Speaker 1: take care of itself. Give him that space, give him 1005 01:03:13,800 --> 01:03:18,200 Speaker 1: that pause, and watch him come in and start working 1006 01:03:18,240 --> 01:03:21,760 Speaker 1: you from the inside out. And keep asking that question. 1007 01:03:21,800 --> 01:03:24,680 Speaker 1: If you keep asking yourself that question, how could I 1008 01:03:24,760 --> 01:03:27,520 Speaker 1: continue to follow and make that a priority? I want 1009 01:03:27,520 --> 01:03:31,720 Speaker 1: to become better If you keep asking that, you got it, 1010 01:03:31,680 --> 01:03:34,560 Speaker 1: It's coming to you. There's no secret answer. There's no 1011 01:03:34,600 --> 01:03:37,439 Speaker 1: I'm not going to say start with fifteen minutes here 1012 01:03:37,520 --> 01:03:40,040 Speaker 1: and do and read this and make sure you journal that. 1013 01:03:40,120 --> 01:03:43,240 Speaker 1: I'm not going to say that. You're just you do you. 1014 01:03:43,680 --> 01:03:46,800 Speaker 1: As long as that is it is a focus and 1015 01:03:46,840 --> 01:03:50,760 Speaker 1: a priority for you, You're gonna be a good spot. 1016 01:03:51,280 --> 01:03:53,640 Speaker 1: That's all we got. Bro. Hey, good times man again, 1017 01:03:53,680 --> 01:03:56,320 Speaker 1: Thanks for giving back. Yeah, we'll see you guys soon. Ye, 1018 01:03:56,400 --> 01:03:59,440 Speaker 1: thanks for joining me on the Grangersmith podcast. I appreciate 1019 01:03:59,640 --> 01:04:01,640 Speaker 1: all of you guys. You could help me out by 1020 01:04:01,760 --> 01:04:05,560 Speaker 1: rating this podcast on iTunes. 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