WEBVTT - How a Brain Aneurysm Became a Blessing

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<v Speaker 1>You, guys.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know what to feel this week. I am happy,

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<v Speaker 2>I am sad. I am just a mix of emotions

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<v Speaker 2>right now. I don't know if you can tell.

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<v Speaker 3>But it's just me.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just Mandy. This week, Tiffany sadly couldn't be here.

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<v Speaker 2>She is on a plane somewhere over the United States,

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<v Speaker 2>somewhere over Idaho, I don't know, on the way back

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<v Speaker 2>from taping The Real in Los Angeles. So I'm here

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<v Speaker 2>on my own tonight taping the show. But like I said,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not just sad. I'm also really really excited. I

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<v Speaker 2>have an amazing guest joining the show tonight. I have

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<v Speaker 2>low key been stalking stalking Sharon Epperson for the past

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<v Speaker 2>three years throughout her career at CNBC, where she is

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<v Speaker 2>the senior Personal Finance correspondent at the network. She's actually

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<v Speaker 2>been there for twenty one years. It was just a

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<v Speaker 2>couple of years ago that I ran into Sharon at

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<v Speaker 2>an event at United Nations. I think it was around

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<v Speaker 2>Women's History Month or some sort of gathering when we

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<v Speaker 2>were both in the same room at the same time,

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<v Speaker 2>and I knew I just had to grab her. I

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<v Speaker 2>had to try and get her on Brown Ambition. So

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<v Speaker 2>I talked to Sharon's. She was so sweet to me,

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<v Speaker 2>so nice, so supportive. So I followed up with her,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, you follow up with the email trying to

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<v Speaker 2>get her on the show, and then it was crickets, y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>It was a little bit awkward, and you know, I

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<v Speaker 2>tried to send the casual follow up email. So Sharon,

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<v Speaker 2>did you get my email Brown Ambition?

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<v Speaker 3>You know?

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<v Speaker 2>Remember me still didn't hear back anything, And it wasn't

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<v Speaker 2>until this past fall in September that I finally realized why.

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<v Speaker 2>In late twenty sixteen, Sharon suffered a brain aneurism, a

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<v Speaker 2>traumatic brain injury that required months and months of rehabilitation.

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<v Speaker 2>She was out of work for thirteen months, and ever

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<v Speaker 2>since I heard her story, I knew I had to

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<v Speaker 2>get back into with Sharon, first of all, just to

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<v Speaker 2>tell her how excited I am and happy to hear

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<v Speaker 2>that she's doing well, but also to have her come

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<v Speaker 2>on the show and share her story with you guys.

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<v Speaker 2>Because as much as Sharon's story is about health and

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<v Speaker 2>what happens to us when the unimaginable finally occurs, it's

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<v Speaker 2>also a financial story. It's also how do you cope

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<v Speaker 2>when you have to leave your job for thirteen months

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<v Speaker 2>to deal with a health situation that's out of your control,

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<v Speaker 2>and that comes on so suddenly, in the middle of

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<v Speaker 2>nowhere and without further ado, I wanted to welcome to

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<v Speaker 2>the show, Sharon Epperson. Sharon, thank you so much for

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<v Speaker 2>coming on Brown Ambition.

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<v Speaker 3>Great to be here, Thanks for having me.

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<v Speaker 1>First, let me say I answer emails. I don't usually

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<v Speaker 1>take a really long time to answer emails. So now

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<v Speaker 1>that you know me, now that we're friends and we're

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<v Speaker 1>going to do more together, you should know that if

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<v Speaker 1>you email me, I will email you back pretty much

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<v Speaker 1>right away if I can. And when I don't, something's happened,

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<v Speaker 1>and in this case, something major happened.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, So take me back to that day in September

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<v Speaker 2>what was it again? Twenty sixteen?

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<v Speaker 1>In September twenty sixteen, Actually, on September twenty first, twenty sixteen,

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<v Speaker 1>I was get in the middle of the busiest fall

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<v Speaker 1>probably of my career. I was planning to interview the

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<v Speaker 1>Treasury Secretary later that week. I had just come back

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<v Speaker 1>from hosting a Financial Planners Association conference. I was looking

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<v Speaker 1>forward to going to a Charles Schwab Conference in a

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<v Speaker 1>few weeks to do a show, and I was really,

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<v Speaker 1>really busy. I also am a mother with two kids,

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<v Speaker 1>so my son was starting high school, my daughter was

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<v Speaker 1>in middle school, and it was the first couple weeks

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<v Speaker 1>of their school year as well. And so I try

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<v Speaker 1>when I can. I tried then, but now I do

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<v Speaker 1>it a lot more frequently. But I try to get

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<v Speaker 1>my time into exercise and take care of myself. And

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<v Speaker 1>I was actually at the gym. I'd already had my

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<v Speaker 1>spinach smoothie that morning, and I was at the gym

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<v Speaker 1>starting to exercise, and I really was just starting.

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<v Speaker 3>I wasn't doing anything.

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<v Speaker 1>Terribly excruciatingly difficult or anything like that. I was actually

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<v Speaker 1>just doing some stretching and lifting some light weights. And

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<v Speaker 1>all of a sudden, I was in a yoga post

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<v Speaker 1>and I felt the worst sensation I've ever felt in

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<v Speaker 1>my head and something that I can't really describe. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't get migraines, but it didn't seem like a very

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<v Speaker 1>bad headache or migraine.

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<v Speaker 3>It was just something that was very unusual.

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<v Speaker 1>And I also had difficulty moving my neck, and I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know if I had just pulled a muscle or something.

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<v Speaker 3>I just didn't know what had happened.

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<v Speaker 1>But I immediately left the exercise class and went to

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<v Speaker 1>my car, which was kind of funny because then I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, what am I supposed to do now? Because

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<v Speaker 1>I came with my head, which means I probably shouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>be driving. So I texted my husband and I said,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, can you come pick me up? I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what happened. My head really is bothering me. And

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<v Speaker 1>I text him in all caps and he happened to

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<v Speaker 1>be close to home at the time and was able

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<v Speaker 1>to come to me in a short while, which was very,

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<v Speaker 1>very crucial.

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<v Speaker 3>To all of this. But we still didn't know what

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<v Speaker 3>it was.

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<v Speaker 1>And I thought again that I just wouldn't be able

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<v Speaker 1>to go to work, probably because I just wasn't feeling well,

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<v Speaker 1>but I would go home and rest and see what happened.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I emailed my job let them know I

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<v Speaker 1>probably wouldn't be coming in, and then my husband went

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<v Speaker 1>to go get me a coffee and came back and

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<v Speaker 1>I said, you know, I really still don't feel well,

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<v Speaker 1>and he took me to the doctor's office. My doctor

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't available. I saw the doctor that was filling in

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<v Speaker 1>for her, and he says, now I'm kind of this part.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm in and out of really remembering what happened, but

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<v Speaker 1>he said that I just really didn't look well, ad

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<v Speaker 1>been nauseous, I was complaining of my head. I was

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<v Speaker 1>talking about this worst pain I'd ever felt in my

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<v Speaker 1>life in my head, and he thought, I need to

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<v Speaker 1>get her to the emergency room right now. She needs

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<v Speaker 1>to get some imaging done and get a CT scan.

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<v Speaker 1>And so my husband took me to the emergency room

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<v Speaker 1>to a hospital nearby and actually a hospital in your

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<v Speaker 1>new neck of the woods.

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<v Speaker 3>That's excellent.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I had that CT scan and the last

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<v Speaker 1>thing I kind of remember was the emergency room physician saying,

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<v Speaker 1>you have bleeding in your brain. What they discovered was

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<v Speaker 1>that a blood vessel on my brain had basically exploded.

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<v Speaker 1>And so what happens with what's known as a brain

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<v Speaker 1>aneurysm is it's almost like a balloon, like a little

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<v Speaker 1>bubble on the blood vessel, and it grows and grows

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<v Speaker 1>and grows, and then eventually, you know, it's like you

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<v Speaker 1>put too much air in it put too and it

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<v Speaker 1>gets too weak and it pops.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's what happened.

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<v Speaker 1>What I remember was after basically having the CT scan

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<v Speaker 1>at White Plains Hospital, then going to Montafior and being

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<v Speaker 1>in the in the o R and having the anthesiologist

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<v Speaker 1>putting me under. That's the last thing I remember. But

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<v Speaker 1>the thing that I wanted to that I actually haven't shared,

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<v Speaker 1>that really touched me was I wasn't scared. I wasn't scared.

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't know if it's you know, faith alone,

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<v Speaker 1>or just the environment I was in, or how wonderful

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<v Speaker 1>the people were that were taking care of me, but

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<v Speaker 1>when and the last person that I saw before I

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<v Speaker 1>went under was the anesthesiologist who was an African American woman,

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<v Speaker 1>and I looked at her and I said, you're my doctor,

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<v Speaker 1>and I just start smiling, like.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, this is like so cool. And that's

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<v Speaker 3>the last person I saw.

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<v Speaker 1>I never saw my neurosurgeons before I went under, and

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<v Speaker 1>I now love them dearly, both of them as well.

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<v Speaker 1>But that was the last person I saw, and that

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<v Speaker 1>was pretty profound for me. She I knew she was

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<v Speaker 1>taking care of me, and I think she.

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<v Speaker 2>Did obviously hindsight is twenty twenty, But looking back now,

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<v Speaker 2>were there any signs or any you know, indications that

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<v Speaker 2>this might be a risk for you.

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<v Speaker 1>What I've learned and what I had to learn kind

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<v Speaker 1>of more recently, because it took me time to be

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<v Speaker 1>well enough to kind of do the research and took

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<v Speaker 1>me even probably longer to be emotionally ready to understand

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<v Speaker 1>what had happened to me. But I did have a

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<v Speaker 1>propensity to get an aneurysm. I'm African American. African Americans

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<v Speaker 1>are twice as likely as whites to have a ruptured

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<v Speaker 1>brain aneurysm. Women I did not have more aneurysms. Women

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<v Speaker 1>have more aneurysms than men. And I also have three

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<v Speaker 1>relatives that passed away from brain hemorrhages. Whether or not

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<v Speaker 1>they were aneurysms, I don't know, but my maternal grandfather

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<v Speaker 1>and great grandfather and my mother's oldest sister all passed

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<v Speaker 1>away from brain hemorrhages, and family history is another risk

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<v Speaker 1>factor that I never knew, didn't consider, never told a

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<v Speaker 1>primary care physician ever in my medical history about it,

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<v Speaker 1>because they all three of them passed away when I

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<v Speaker 1>was before I was a toddler, so I didn't really

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<v Speaker 1>think about it, and I never knew the statistics of

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<v Speaker 1>the propensity, the greater propensity for Black women, And I

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<v Speaker 1>think that's something that I want everybody to understand and

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<v Speaker 1>be really conscious of when you have a migrain or

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<v Speaker 1>when you're not feeling well with you anything with your

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<v Speaker 1>head and youarticularly if you already have high blood pressure,

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<v Speaker 1>or if you're a smoker. It's something to really watch

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<v Speaker 1>out for, and also to really talk to your family

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<v Speaker 1>members and find out what happened. My cousins, now that

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<v Speaker 1>I've told everyone exactly what happened and about our family history,

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<v Speaker 1>my first cousin was like, I didn't know what grandaddy

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<v Speaker 1>died of. I had no idea, you know, because her

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<v Speaker 1>dad didn't talk about it. So it's important. That's a

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<v Speaker 1>time that we don't want to remember because we've lost

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<v Speaker 1>a loved one, but it's very very important to understand

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<v Speaker 1>what has happened, you.

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<v Speaker 2>Know, Sharon, I have to say, just listening to your story,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sitting here and I'm realizing I only know two

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<v Speaker 2>people in my life who have had a brain bleed,

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<v Speaker 2>suffered a brain aneurism, and one of them is you.

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<v Speaker 2>One of them is also a friend of mine from college,

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<v Speaker 2>DeShawn Maria Harris, who five years ago, just last just

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<v Speaker 2>as past March, it was five years passed away in

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<v Speaker 2>her sleep from my brain anurism. DeShawn was only twenty five.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to say it. You know, I'm thirty now,

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<v Speaker 2>Deshaun was only twenty five when this happened. It wasn't it.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, Seeing someone close to me, not just an age,

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<v Speaker 2>but you know, someone actually knew passed away from that

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<v Speaker 2>injury was a huge wake up call for me at

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<v Speaker 2>the time. But I guess it wasn't until talking to

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<v Speaker 2>you today, and I'm putting two and two together. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>the two people I know who've had brain aneurysms were

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<v Speaker 2>African American women, And it's like you said, African Americans

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<v Speaker 2>are twice as likely, wasn't it to experience this type

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<v Speaker 2>of injury? And that's just I'm having a little aha

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<v Speaker 2>moment here. It makes me want to just call all

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<v Speaker 2>my aunts, all my cousins and tell them to see

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<v Speaker 2>a doctor asap.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I'm in a mother's group with about one hundred

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<v Speaker 1>African American women, and among our group, at least four

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<v Speaker 1>people have had a family member that has had a

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<v Speaker 1>brain aneurism, and one is still It's just a fiver

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<v Speaker 1>but has significant neurological issues, and the other two have

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<v Speaker 1>passed away. And so as you said with your friend Deshaun,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm so sorry to hear this, but it's unfortunately

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<v Speaker 1>that is what usually happens. Forty percent of the time,

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<v Speaker 1>people are killed instantly by this injury, and those that survive.

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<v Speaker 1>Of those that survive, the majority of them two thirds

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<v Speaker 1>of them have some type of neurological issues, some type

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<v Speaker 1>of neurological deficit that is significant.

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<v Speaker 2>And what if I know you're I think your inclination

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<v Speaker 2>when you first felt that pain in your head, you

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<v Speaker 2>know at the gym, was you know, okay, walk it off. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>you know we can manage this, call husband, have him come.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I think a lot of especially women, the

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<v Speaker 2>instinct is to just push through it. You know, there's

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<v Speaker 2>other things. You have a busy day ahead of you, work, kids, responsibilities.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't have time to have a headache, right. What

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<v Speaker 2>can you say to that in terms of taking the

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<v Speaker 2>time to listen to your body and to actually you know,

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<v Speaker 2>take those things a little bit seriously. You know, you're

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<v Speaker 2>you're the one who can feel your own pain and

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<v Speaker 2>speaking up and kind of being an advocate for yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I'm I'm definitely the type of person that goes

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<v Speaker 1>at one hundred and twenty miles an hour, or I

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<v Speaker 1>used to.

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<v Speaker 3>And I had.

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<v Speaker 1>Truly the biggest week of my career. I mean, I

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<v Speaker 1>was going to interview the Treasury Secretary in the Obama

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<v Speaker 1>White House when there was an Obama that White House,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, and I was invited by Treasury to come

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<v Speaker 1>down and to participate in a conference and to do

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<v Speaker 1>this big interview. I was looking forward to doing a

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<v Speaker 1>lot more, having a lot more visibility on CNBC, anchoring

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<v Speaker 1>a lot more, doing a lot more of the type

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<v Speaker 1>of personal finance stories and segments on NBC that I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to do. And I was about to, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>really start a whole new chapter in my motherhood in

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<v Speaker 1>terms of, you know, shepherding a high schooler through the

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<v Speaker 1>process and a middle schooler through the process, and then boom,

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<v Speaker 1>it all just came to a halt.

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<v Speaker 3>And so.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess I could have powered through it, but it

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<v Speaker 1>was just so unusual that I knew I needed to

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<v Speaker 1>stop and do something. But also, my husband truly saved

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<v Speaker 1>my life, because if I didn't have someone else to

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<v Speaker 1>say it to, or if someone else who knew me

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<v Speaker 1>love me and knew what I should be looking like,

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<v Speaker 1>and obviously I didn't look like myself and insists that

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<v Speaker 1>I go to get medical treatment right away.

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<v Speaker 3>I may have just kept going.

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<v Speaker 1>If that had happened at work, would I have necessarily stopped,

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<v Speaker 1>or would I had to keep the game face, the

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<v Speaker 1>TV face going and keep going.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>So everything happens for a reason, and I'm glad it

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<v Speaker 1>happened when it did and where it did, And though

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<v Speaker 1>I was on my way to work, I hadn't gotten

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<v Speaker 1>there yet. All of that stuff is very very important.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm also one who never misses a doctor's appointment. I

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<v Speaker 1>kind of have been very blessed to have a career

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<v Speaker 1>where I have a company that has provided health insurance,

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<v Speaker 1>so I know that that's often a reason why people

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<v Speaker 1>don't necessarily get the treatment that they want.

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<v Speaker 3>They're not covered.

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<v Speaker 1>But then sometimes they don't get the treatment because they

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<v Speaker 1>just don't get the treatment. And even those who are

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<v Speaker 1>my colleagues that cover healthcare sometimes don't go and get

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<v Speaker 1>to the doctor's office they need to. And it's just

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<v Speaker 1>so important because we research all the time. We're constantly

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<v Speaker 1>Mandy reporting stories and interviewing people and researching new things,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think there's nothing more important than researching yourself

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<v Speaker 1>and knowing what's going on with your own body. And

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<v Speaker 1>if you aren't getting regular medical care, you can't really

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<v Speaker 1>understand when something is going wrong because you may feel okay,

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<v Speaker 1>but the testing may not show that you are okay,

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<v Speaker 1>and you want to get treated right away if something

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<v Speaker 1>is not correct. So I think it's very very important

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<v Speaker 1>to pay attention to your body to know what is happening.

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<v Speaker 3>But then also you can do all that and this

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<v Speaker 3>can happen.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, one of the things that is definitely in

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<v Speaker 1>my family that I am aware of, and many women

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<v Speaker 1>and many African American women can say the same as cancer.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I am religious about my mammograms and ultrasounds

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<v Speaker 1>and everything annually to make sure that I am getting

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<v Speaker 1>tested and make sure that I do my own examinations

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<v Speaker 1>and everything, because I have breast cancer survivors and those

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<v Speaker 1>who have passed away from cancer in my family. And

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<v Speaker 1>I had actually gone for those tests just a couple

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<v Speaker 1>of weeks before this happened, So you know, you can

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<v Speaker 1>you can be diligent and something and sometimes things can

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<v Speaker 1>just go wrong. But if you know that you're supposed

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<v Speaker 1>to feel a certain way, if you know that you

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<v Speaker 1>normally wouldn't be, you know, kind of feeling this pain

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<v Speaker 1>and dozing in and out of consciousness and feeling nauseous

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<v Speaker 1>and all of that, you know, then you won't power through.

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<v Speaker 1>But most of the time, I will say, when I

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<v Speaker 1>hear of someone who has not had a successful outcome,

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<v Speaker 1>either they've passed away or they are there, they have suffered,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, really severe neurological issues, their family members or

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<v Speaker 1>they themselves will say, I just powered through it. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I just powered through it. And it can be it

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<v Speaker 1>can be deadly to do that.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, you said, you feel like it's a miracle to

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<v Speaker 2>even be alive. But I didn't want to gloss over

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<v Speaker 2>the recovery time. I mean you had to Yes, you survived,

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<v Speaker 2>which was amazing, but you had to take time off

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<v Speaker 2>of work months was it? And also like relearn how

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<v Speaker 2>to walk. So can you talk about the period after

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<v Speaker 2>the after surgery, the recovery and the impact it had

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<v Speaker 2>on your family and you know, in your career and

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<v Speaker 2>your finances.

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<v Speaker 3>So the recovery period is not over.

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<v Speaker 1>I you know, I would people always say, and even

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<v Speaker 1>early on after you know, the first couple of months,

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<v Speaker 1>you look great.

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<v Speaker 3>You know what's really the problem? You sound good?

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<v Speaker 1>You know. I was able to speak pretty much after

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<v Speaker 1>I had been in debated in all of those things.

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<v Speaker 1>But once I was all the tubes were gone, I

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<v Speaker 1>was able to pretty I was able to speak and

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<v Speaker 1>speak pretty clearly, whether or not other people realized. I

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<v Speaker 1>was making the right connections in my speech and I

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<v Speaker 1>was communicating effectively with which is, you know, as a

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<v Speaker 1>TV reporter, what I've done my whole career.

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<v Speaker 3>That's a whole other thing.

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<v Speaker 1>And that took a very long time to feel comfortable

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<v Speaker 1>enough to return to my career to do.

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<v Speaker 3>And I was away from CNBC for thirteen months.

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<v Speaker 1>I spent two and a half weeks, two weeks in

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<v Speaker 1>intensive care, a couple of days in the hospital after that,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I moved to a rehabilitation hospital where I

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<v Speaker 1>stayed for two weeks and every day I had physical therapy,

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<v Speaker 1>occupational therapy, and speech therapy. And my physical therapy was

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<v Speaker 1>indeed learning how to walk and maintain my balance again,

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<v Speaker 1>learning how to go up the stairs, learning how to

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't really have to learn how to dress myself

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<v Speaker 1>and all those things again. But I didn't need initially

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<v Speaker 1>need a little assistance or someone to just watch over

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<v Speaker 1>me and make sure that I did things correctly. I

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<v Speaker 1>think the biggest issues were definitely my balance, and it

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<v Speaker 1>was very strange to not walk for two weeks and

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<v Speaker 1>then have a physical therapist come into my room and

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<v Speaker 1>I see you and say, okay, we're going to try

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<v Speaker 1>to get you up now, and I thought, I haven't

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<v Speaker 1>even really sat up fully. You know, it's going to

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<v Speaker 1>be very difficult, and it was. It was very scary.

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<v Speaker 1>And the first walk that I took that seemed like

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<v Speaker 1>a marathon but was just walking from my.

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<v Speaker 3>Room and I see you just a couple rooms.

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<v Speaker 1>Down down the hallway, it seemed like such a long road,

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<v Speaker 1>and that road had so much pain on it because

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<v Speaker 1>there were people in those rooms that I knew probably

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't make it, and there were people in the rooms

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<v Speaker 1>that looked like I probably had two weeks prior right

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<v Speaker 1>after my surgery, and there were family members that were

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<v Speaker 1>devastated trying to figure out what the next steps were

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<v Speaker 1>going to be. And I remember thinking, I just have

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<v Speaker 1>to look at the door straight ahead. If I look

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<v Speaker 1>in these rooms, I'm going to fall down and my

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<v Speaker 1>therapy continues. I mean, I think as having a brain injury,

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<v Speaker 1>I think having a neuropsychologist who really understands the impact

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<v Speaker 1>that a brain injury can have. You cannot see it.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have a visible scar. People figured something happened

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<v Speaker 1>because I cut my hair off. I never had short

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<v Speaker 1>hair for four decades. They so they figured probably something

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<v Speaker 1>might have happened about that.

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<v Speaker 3>But you can't see it. So if you can't see it,

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<v Speaker 3>people think you're okay, and it's not true.

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<v Speaker 1>There's still difficulty in terms of fatigue, in terms of stamina,

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<v Speaker 1>in terms of focus, in terms of memory that can

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<v Speaker 1>last for months and months and months, for years and

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<v Speaker 1>years and years. And as a social worker told me

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<v Speaker 1>just today, actually, you know, people used to say that

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<v Speaker 1>recovery was in stages, and now they realize that it's

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<v Speaker 1>two steps forward, one step back, three steps forward, two

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<v Speaker 1>steps back, that it just ebbs and flows.

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<v Speaker 3>Like that, and that is very true.

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<v Speaker 1>And as soon as I start to feel like I

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<v Speaker 1>can I can work that twelve hour day, I can

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<v Speaker 1>do these things, and I'm going to switch this and

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<v Speaker 1>do this so I can make this, and then I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to go this and take the kids here, and

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<v Speaker 1>then the next day I can't move. I'm just exhausted,

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<v Speaker 1>And it's a different kind of exhaustion. It's actually has

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<v Speaker 1>we say I'm just wiped out for a brain injury,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, survivor, it's cognitive fatigue, and it's a real thing.

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<v Speaker 3>It's it's a medical condition. I was like, great, I

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<v Speaker 3>don't have to say I'm just wiped out anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>I can actually say I have cognitive fatigue, and people,

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<v Speaker 1>can you know know that I'm that I that I

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<v Speaker 1>sound like, you know, I actually have some a medical condition,

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<v Speaker 1>because it really is. So it's it's a long process,

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<v Speaker 1>but most important for me in terms of recovery, I

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<v Speaker 1>wonder what people mean when they say that, and do

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<v Speaker 1>they mean when you know, when, when will you be recovered?

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<v Speaker 1>Or are you seem fully recovered?

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<v Speaker 3>Does that mean they say I'm I seem just like

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<v Speaker 3>I was before? Because the person who I was before.

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<v Speaker 1>When one hundred and twenty miles an hour, did several

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<v Speaker 1>things at the same time, was probably not in the

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<v Speaker 1>moment very often. Because I was in five moments at

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<v Speaker 1>the same time. I was never present when I was

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<v Speaker 1>speaking to this person or that person because I was

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<v Speaker 1>answering this email while I was talking to this person

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<v Speaker 1>on the phone and doing all these things, and most

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<v Speaker 1>of us multitask on a daily basis. Now I try

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<v Speaker 1>hard not to do that or not to do that

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<v Speaker 1>to the degree that I was doing it before. And

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<v Speaker 1>so in a lot of ways, in terms of my recovery,

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<v Speaker 1>it's really a journey as a different person to a

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<v Speaker 1>new place. And so that's why I see it as

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<v Speaker 1>truly the greatest blessing in my life, because I am

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<v Speaker 1>now able to be a person that has been awakened

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<v Speaker 1>and that has been enlightened, and it can be more

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<v Speaker 1>mindful about what they're doing and hopefully, I think for

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<v Speaker 1>others to see that I'm doing I am recovered in

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<v Speaker 1>that I'm able to do that job, but I'm doing

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<v Speaker 1>it differently and better than I've ever done it before.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, how did you discuss your condition with your employers,

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<v Speaker 2>Because when you return to CNBC it had been what

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<v Speaker 2>you said thirteen months. Like you said, like a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of people who have problems or conditions that aren't you know,

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<v Speaker 2>can't be seen with the human eye. How did you

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<v Speaker 2>approach having that discussion and explaining to the people you

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<v Speaker 2>work with that you're not the same sharing anymore and

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<v Speaker 2>you need to approach your work differently, and were they

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<v Speaker 2>receptive to that.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, CNBC has been absolutely amazing. They've been extremely receptive,

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<v Speaker 1>extremely supportive, and they were supportive throughout my entire recovery

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<v Speaker 1>to my husband, my family in that they were not

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<v Speaker 1>pressuring me in any way to say you better come back,

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<v Speaker 1>or you won't have a place to come back to,

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<v Speaker 1>or anything like that. They were honestly concerned about my

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<v Speaker 1>health and the whole way through, and they continue to

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<v Speaker 1>be And I think part of that is because I

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<v Speaker 1>have been there for such a long time. I mean

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<v Speaker 1>I never imagined that I would be at the same place,

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<v Speaker 1>the same employer for twenty one years. But I have

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<v Speaker 1>been your a unicorn, right so they've been able to

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<v Speaker 1>see my dedication to my field, my work, and my brand,

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<v Speaker 1>but also to CNBC. And I am really committed to

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<v Speaker 1>my employer in that way, and they've been very very

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<v Speaker 1>supportive of me along the way. I spoke to a

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<v Speaker 1>woman a few weeks ago who said, you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>have a major illness or I've been through a major illness,

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<v Speaker 1>and I never told anybody.

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<v Speaker 3>I work with.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think that that's everyone has their own way

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<v Speaker 1>that they deal with it. I'm not saying that everyone

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<v Speaker 1>has to tell the employer everything, but you know, as

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<v Speaker 1>personal finance journalists, Mandy, there's another reason why you have

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<v Speaker 1>to be upfront.

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<v Speaker 3>Is that in order to afford.

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<v Speaker 1>To be sick, if that's the way way to say it,

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<v Speaker 1>to be enable, in order to finance a recovery a

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<v Speaker 1>medical condition and the journey that it takes to get better,

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<v Speaker 1>it takes insurance, and it takes if you, if you're

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<v Speaker 1>able to get it, great health insurance, disability insurance. And

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<v Speaker 1>in order to get the insurance, you have to show

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<v Speaker 1>what's wrong with you. You have to be able to

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<v Speaker 1>document what is wrong with you. And I completely understand that,

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<v Speaker 1>and I know that that's the way the business works.

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<v Speaker 1>Now from the patient perspective, I can say, it's so daunting,

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<v Speaker 1>and it seems so callous, and it seems why would

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<v Speaker 1>I want this to happen to me? You know, why

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<v Speaker 1>do I have to tell you every little thing that's happened.

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<v Speaker 1>If I just give you the bare basics, you should

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<v Speaker 1>just believe me, because I wouldn't want to have a

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<v Speaker 1>brain injury. But because I've had to go to so

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<v Speaker 1>many specialists, neurologists, neurosurgeon, neurologists, neuropsychologists, my interness as well,

0:24:37.480 --> 0:24:40.639
<v Speaker 1>and all of that, I have enough documentation. Then also

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<v Speaker 1>as a journalist, as you know, working for a media company,

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<v Speaker 1>I have the documentation and the research to show why

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<v Speaker 1>I also needed to be out of work for a

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<v Speaker 1>year and off the air for thirteen months. So I

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<v Speaker 1>think that has also helped me be able to show

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<v Speaker 1>to my employer from a totally you know, without without

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<v Speaker 1>having any of the emotional tie that we that we

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<v Speaker 1>have to show that I really do need to have

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<v Speaker 1>this time because it's a medical necessity and no one wants.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't want to relapse. I don't. I don't that's

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<v Speaker 3>not really the right word. But I don't want to

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<v Speaker 3>be sick.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to continue to not feel well, and

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to try to power through and work

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<v Speaker 1>through that because that's not going to benefit the company,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's certainly not going to benefit me.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, you you touched on something earlier that that really

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<v Speaker 2>hit home for me, which was disability insurance. Recently, we

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<v Speaker 2>had an episode, one of our most popular episodes of

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<v Speaker 2>twenty eighteen. So far all around the power of life

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<v Speaker 2>insurance and had it to how much you need and

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<v Speaker 2>the importance of it. Right now, I think what we

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<v Speaker 2>what we could talk about today, especially with you, is

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<v Speaker 2>disability insurance, because sometimes it's not that you pass away

0:25:50.760 --> 0:25:53.400
<v Speaker 2>and you're incapacitated, because you're not. You're no longer here

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<v Speaker 2>and able to provide for your family. But what happens

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<v Speaker 2>if you you know you're here, you're alive, you're breathing,

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<v Speaker 2>and yet some happened to you to where you can't

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<v Speaker 2>provide and you're going through something and you might need

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<v Speaker 2>some protection there. And I'd love to if you could

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<v Speaker 2>talk about the disability insurance coverage, you know, if you

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<v Speaker 2>had it, and how it helped you, and what advice

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<v Speaker 2>you would give to others if they're thinking, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>when they fill out their insurance forms at work, Oh,

0:26:17.680 --> 0:26:20.600
<v Speaker 2>disability insurance. What's that? I don't care and kind of

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<v Speaker 2>skip over it.

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<v Speaker 3>Never skip over it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's probably the most important insurance that you can have. Certainly,

0:26:27.760 --> 0:26:30.840
<v Speaker 1>life insurance is important, but you're far more likely to

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<v Speaker 1>be disabled while you're working than to pass away and

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<v Speaker 1>your disability maybe just a couple months but it could

0:26:37.760 --> 0:26:41.960
<v Speaker 1>be years, and it's so important to have. If you

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<v Speaker 1>have the opportunity to get disability insurance through your employer,

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<v Speaker 1>absolutely take advantage of it because as a group disability policy,

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<v Speaker 1>it's going to be much more affordable in terms of

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<v Speaker 1>your premiums, or it may be that you don't have

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<v Speaker 1>to pay for it at all. The way some companies work,

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<v Speaker 1>as my company did. You can get short term disability

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<v Speaker 1>insurance through your company and you're not paying for that,

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<v Speaker 1>and that is one of the benefits of the company.

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<v Speaker 1>Then if you are disabled longer than six months, you

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<v Speaker 1>need to have long term disability insurance, and.

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<v Speaker 3>That may come at a cost. It may come as at.

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<v Speaker 1>A premium that is taken out of paychecks, payroll deductions

0:27:19.520 --> 0:27:21.320
<v Speaker 1>or something. And some people may say, well, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to do that. I got enough whatever they give

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<v Speaker 1>me for free. Of course I'm going to take that,

0:27:24.560 --> 0:27:26.520
<v Speaker 1>but I'm not going to pay for anything out of

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<v Speaker 1>my own paycheck.

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<v Speaker 3>Do it because the likelihood is that you're.

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<v Speaker 1>Going to then have more of your income covered because

0:27:34.640 --> 0:27:37.920
<v Speaker 1>you've put more money into this disability policy.

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<v Speaker 3>But also the thing to keep in mind that I

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<v Speaker 3>was not aware of until this happened to me.

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<v Speaker 1>Was that the long term disability insurance that you receive

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<v Speaker 1>because you've put premiums into it, this is now a

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<v Speaker 1>tax free benefit. So the income of yours that is

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<v Speaker 1>covered that you're getting may it's not going to be

0:27:57.160 --> 0:27:59.480
<v Speaker 1>one hundred percent of your salary or one hundred percent

0:27:59.520 --> 0:28:02.960
<v Speaker 1>of your your income, but it may be forty sixty percent,

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<v Speaker 1>and that is going to be a tax free benefit,

0:28:06.480 --> 0:28:09.159
<v Speaker 1>so you're not paying taxes on that money. If you

0:28:09.240 --> 0:28:12.320
<v Speaker 1>live in a high tax area like New York or

0:28:12.400 --> 0:28:16.280
<v Speaker 1>New Jersey or Connecticut or many other places, and you're

0:28:16.280 --> 0:28:18.920
<v Speaker 1>paying a lot in taxes, that can be a significant

0:28:18.960 --> 0:28:22.280
<v Speaker 1>difference between being pretty close to what your salary or

0:28:22.320 --> 0:28:25.480
<v Speaker 1>your take home pay was and being so far away

0:28:25.480 --> 0:28:25.800
<v Speaker 1>from it.

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<v Speaker 3>How are you ever going to be able to pay

0:28:27.040 --> 0:28:28.240
<v Speaker 3>your rent or your mortgage.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's really, really, really important to first take advantage

0:28:31.960 --> 0:28:36.399
<v Speaker 1>of the disability insurance offered by work, whatever's given and

0:28:36.440 --> 0:28:39.720
<v Speaker 1>it may be a free benefit. Then see if it's

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<v Speaker 1>possible if there is an option to get even more

0:28:41.960 --> 0:28:46.120
<v Speaker 1>disability insurance and to opt in by actually paying part

0:28:46.160 --> 0:28:48.120
<v Speaker 1>of the premium. Do that because you might get a

0:28:48.160 --> 0:28:50.920
<v Speaker 1>higher percentage. And then Finally, if you don't are not

0:28:51.120 --> 0:28:53.560
<v Speaker 1>offered it, or if you're just one of those people

0:28:53.600 --> 0:28:55.800
<v Speaker 1>that wants to make sure you have even more protection

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<v Speaker 1>by a private disability insurance policy, it is not cheap

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<v Speaker 1>at all. It is you know something that is it's

0:29:03.920 --> 0:29:05.600
<v Speaker 1>like any other insurance. Why am I paying for that?

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<v Speaker 1>Nothing's happened to me. I feel fine, But you just

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<v Speaker 1>never know. And I about fifteen years ago, was doing

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of freelancing in addition to working for CNBC,

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<v Speaker 1>and I thought, you know, I want to make sure

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<v Speaker 1>that all of the income that I'm getting is covered,

0:29:21.080 --> 0:29:23.640
<v Speaker 1>and so I'm going to take out a private disability.

0:29:23.200 --> 0:29:25.560
<v Speaker 3>Insurance policy on my own.

0:29:25.800 --> 0:29:28.160
<v Speaker 1>And my husband did the same thing, and it was

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<v Speaker 1>a very very smart move because that was a little

0:29:31.480 --> 0:29:33.200
<v Speaker 1>bit extra that I was able to get from the

0:29:33.240 --> 0:29:36.120
<v Speaker 1>private disability insurance company to really make sure we would

0:29:36.160 --> 0:29:38.400
<v Speaker 1>be able to pay for all of the expenses that

0:29:38.440 --> 0:29:38.920
<v Speaker 1>we have.

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<v Speaker 2>Now with your disability insurance and the health insurance you

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<v Speaker 2>were provided through CNBC, and you were fortunate to have

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<v Speaker 2>what were some of the you know, give me a

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<v Speaker 2>sense of the medical expenses that you guys have incurred.

0:29:52.960 --> 0:29:55.400
<v Speaker 2>You said, even yourself, you're still recovering, so you're still

0:29:55.400 --> 0:29:58.120
<v Speaker 2>going to physical therapy and you have these you know,

0:29:58.160 --> 0:30:00.880
<v Speaker 2>these these costs that are still part of your life

0:30:01.400 --> 0:30:02.280
<v Speaker 2>from what happened to you.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I must say, I kind of I look at

0:30:06.680 --> 0:30:09.200
<v Speaker 1>what I have to pay for my copays and my

0:30:10.680 --> 0:30:13.640
<v Speaker 1>what I have to pay out of pocket, and you know,

0:30:14.640 --> 0:30:18.640
<v Speaker 1>it may be thousands of dollars, but not hundreds of

0:30:18.680 --> 0:30:21.960
<v Speaker 1>thousands of dollars or close to half a million dollars,

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<v Speaker 1>which is probably about what my care was the cost

0:30:27.600 --> 0:30:30.120
<v Speaker 1>of my care, at least initially. And this is not ongoing,

0:30:30.160 --> 0:30:34.680
<v Speaker 1>This is just you know, in the emergent situation, it

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<v Speaker 1>was I'm sure if I had no insurance, it would

0:30:37.080 --> 0:30:40.000
<v Speaker 1>have been very, very high, but it was something that

0:30:40.120 --> 0:30:44.200
<v Speaker 1>was manageable because I did have insurance. It was also

0:30:44.400 --> 0:30:47.880
<v Speaker 1>manageable because I have talked about it so much and

0:30:47.920 --> 0:30:49.720
<v Speaker 1>I know you write about it all the time as well,

0:30:49.760 --> 0:30:53.040
<v Speaker 1>the importance of having an emergency fund. There could not

0:30:53.240 --> 0:30:56.240
<v Speaker 1>have been a rainier day for my rainy day fund,

0:30:56.320 --> 0:31:00.280
<v Speaker 1>and so the fact that I had emergency fund was key,

0:31:01.320 --> 0:31:03.200
<v Speaker 1>and it meant that I didn't have to do what

0:31:03.240 --> 0:31:05.520
<v Speaker 1>many people may have to do, which is dip into

0:31:05.520 --> 0:31:07.640
<v Speaker 1>their for a one K or the retirement savings or

0:31:07.680 --> 0:31:09.560
<v Speaker 1>something to pay for a medical bill. I didn't have

0:31:09.600 --> 0:31:12.480
<v Speaker 1>to do that because I also had had the emergency fund.

0:31:12.920 --> 0:31:15.400
<v Speaker 2>So did you have to deplete your emergency fund or

0:31:15.440 --> 0:31:16.920
<v Speaker 2>was it just a good chunk of it that was.

0:31:17.800 --> 0:31:18.560
<v Speaker 3>I did not I did.

0:31:18.720 --> 0:31:20.480
<v Speaker 1>I did not have to deplete it. No, I did

0:31:20.520 --> 0:31:22.760
<v Speaker 1>not have to deplete it. And I was fortunate that

0:31:24.680 --> 0:31:29.240
<v Speaker 1>that I was able to, you know, manage. One of

0:31:29.320 --> 0:31:32.560
<v Speaker 1>the things also keep in mind is when I'm when

0:31:32.600 --> 0:31:35.400
<v Speaker 1>I was in the hospital, when I was in the

0:31:35.440 --> 0:31:37.920
<v Speaker 1>rehab hospital, when I was home and on you know,

0:31:38.160 --> 0:31:40.520
<v Speaker 1>relegated to like one floor for a month.

0:31:41.160 --> 0:31:43.480
<v Speaker 3>I wasn't eating out, I wasn't driving, and.

0:31:43.560 --> 0:31:45.920
<v Speaker 1>Have gas bills I didn't have. I didn't have to

0:31:46.040 --> 0:31:47.040
<v Speaker 1>dry clean anything.

0:31:47.240 --> 0:31:53.840
<v Speaker 2>Oh, so all of those expenses that can really add up.

0:31:54.280 --> 0:31:55.720
<v Speaker 3>And I also had no desire.

0:31:56.360 --> 0:31:58.360
<v Speaker 1>I wasn't going anywhere, and I had no desire to

0:31:58.400 --> 0:32:03.120
<v Speaker 1>really eat anything fancy. All of those expenses, eating out, shopping,

0:32:04.040 --> 0:32:07.160
<v Speaker 1>I didn't have. So that also helped in the sense

0:32:07.200 --> 0:32:11.760
<v Speaker 1>that even though my income was less, my expenses were

0:32:11.800 --> 0:32:12.560
<v Speaker 1>also less.

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<v Speaker 2>And you mentioned earlier, you know, when you went back

0:32:16.400 --> 0:32:20.400
<v Speaker 2>to work in twenty seventeen. It wasn't the same Sharon Emberson,

0:32:20.480 --> 0:32:23.120
<v Speaker 2>the same one hundred and twenty mile an hour Sharon Epperson.

0:32:23.200 --> 0:32:26.320
<v Speaker 2>And I'm really you're really touching me in the part

0:32:26.320 --> 0:32:28.440
<v Speaker 2>of my brain I try to ignore, which is maybe

0:32:28.480 --> 0:32:32.520
<v Speaker 2>slow down, stop multitasking. It feels like one hundred and

0:32:32.560 --> 0:32:35.480
<v Speaker 2>twenty miles an hour, you know, And I just kind

0:32:35.480 --> 0:32:37.600
<v Speaker 2>of keep telling myself, Oh, it'll slow down.

0:32:37.680 --> 0:32:37.840
<v Speaker 3>You know.

0:32:37.920 --> 0:32:39.840
<v Speaker 2>Next year will be the year when you can kind

0:32:39.880 --> 0:32:43.240
<v Speaker 2>of step back. But I think speaking to you has

0:32:43.240 --> 0:32:45.360
<v Speaker 2>been helpful for me because it's, you know, it's you

0:32:45.360 --> 0:32:48.560
<v Speaker 2>don't want to get to the breaking point. I love

0:32:48.600 --> 0:32:50.840
<v Speaker 2>you to talk about some of the changes that you've

0:32:50.880 --> 0:32:55.720
<v Speaker 2>made since you've returned to the office, through your career,

0:32:55.800 --> 0:32:57.880
<v Speaker 2>through your family, any any sort of changes you put

0:32:57.920 --> 0:32:59.880
<v Speaker 2>in place as a result of what you learn from

0:32:59.880 --> 0:33:00.720
<v Speaker 2>the experience.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to say that there is something wrong

0:33:05.600 --> 0:33:09.800
<v Speaker 1>with being driven or wanting to excel in many areas,

0:33:10.000 --> 0:33:14.200
<v Speaker 1>and I think your career has just been remarkable because

0:33:14.240 --> 0:33:16.840
<v Speaker 1>I've been stalking you as well, so I know how

0:33:16.880 --> 0:33:19.320
<v Speaker 1>many things you're working on and how successful you and

0:33:19.360 --> 0:33:22.280
<v Speaker 1>Tiffany have been in creating your own brands and working

0:33:22.320 --> 0:33:24.920
<v Speaker 1>within brands to make them even better. And I think

0:33:24.960 --> 0:33:28.160
<v Speaker 1>that's remarkable, and I think that is something that is commendable.

0:33:28.520 --> 0:33:31.160
<v Speaker 1>But I also think that as you're doing these things

0:33:31.200 --> 0:33:35.640
<v Speaker 1>that are so fantastic, I, at least when my career,

0:33:35.840 --> 0:33:39.480
<v Speaker 1>I never stopped to appreciate them. Almost at any point,

0:33:39.640 --> 0:33:41.280
<v Speaker 1>I would just try to get to the next thing.

0:33:41.800 --> 0:33:43.920
<v Speaker 1>And so what I do now that I never did

0:33:43.920 --> 0:33:46.840
<v Speaker 1>before was really try to take a few minutes a

0:33:46.920 --> 0:33:48.320
<v Speaker 1>day and just.

0:33:49.240 --> 0:33:53.040
<v Speaker 3>Be present, be still. I mean, it seemed like the

0:33:53.080 --> 0:33:53.720
<v Speaker 3>weirdest thing.

0:33:53.760 --> 0:33:55.280
<v Speaker 1>It was one of the first things I learned in

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<v Speaker 1>one of my therapy sessions was to stop and just

0:34:00.640 --> 0:34:03.280
<v Speaker 1>be still. And you know, then you think about all

0:34:03.320 --> 0:34:05.360
<v Speaker 1>these things and you're, you know, okay, but just telling

0:34:05.360 --> 0:34:06.640
<v Speaker 1>me to be still. But I got to do this,

0:34:06.680 --> 0:34:09.120
<v Speaker 1>and then I have to do this next thing. But eventually,

0:34:09.440 --> 0:34:11.400
<v Speaker 1>over the course of five minutes or longer, if you

0:34:11.440 --> 0:34:15.200
<v Speaker 1>can do it, you may be able to really just

0:34:15.360 --> 0:34:18.960
<v Speaker 1>be have your mind almost completely blank for a moment,

0:34:19.239 --> 0:34:21.800
<v Speaker 1>so that when you come back into it, you realize

0:34:21.840 --> 0:34:25.960
<v Speaker 1>how much you have that is so good, and how

0:34:26.040 --> 0:34:28.680
<v Speaker 1>much you're doing that's that is not only great for you,

0:34:28.760 --> 0:34:31.640
<v Speaker 1>but great for so many other people. In terms of Mandy,

0:34:32.040 --> 0:34:33.920
<v Speaker 1>all the information that you are sharing and that you

0:34:33.960 --> 0:34:37.000
<v Speaker 1>and Tiphany are sharing. So that's something that I never

0:34:37.040 --> 0:34:40.280
<v Speaker 1>did before. I never really stopped. So now I start

0:34:40.320 --> 0:34:42.600
<v Speaker 1>my day by stopping, so rather than like jumping out

0:34:42.600 --> 0:34:44.719
<v Speaker 1>of bed getting everybody ready for everything. And I don't

0:34:44.760 --> 0:34:46.640
<v Speaker 1>do this every day. Sometimes i'd still jump out of

0:34:46.680 --> 0:34:48.640
<v Speaker 1>bed and just start going, but I just try to

0:34:48.680 --> 0:34:52.440
<v Speaker 1>take a minute, actually three to five minutes, and.

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<v Speaker 3>Just pause, give thanks for.

0:34:57.360 --> 0:35:02.120
<v Speaker 1>Waking up, for being there, being here and being able

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<v Speaker 1>to continue my day, and kind of asking for some

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<v Speaker 1>guidance on how I'm going to be used that day

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<v Speaker 1>to do the best that I can. There are sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>I don't I haven't been doing this as regularly as

0:35:14.600 --> 0:35:17.160
<v Speaker 1>I should, but I that I'm supposed to take breaks

0:35:17.239 --> 0:35:20.000
<v Speaker 1>during the day, so I had already put in my

0:35:20.080 --> 0:35:22.759
<v Speaker 1>calendar before I got sick, this is the time I

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<v Speaker 1>need to take a break to have a snack, so

0:35:24.160 --> 0:35:26.480
<v Speaker 1>that I wouldn't like binge eat. You know, you're working

0:35:26.480 --> 0:35:28.680
<v Speaker 1>so hard for twelve hours and then you're starving and

0:35:28.719 --> 0:35:30.680
<v Speaker 1>you have all the food that you shouldn't have because

0:35:30.719 --> 0:35:31.680
<v Speaker 1>that's what's available.

0:35:31.960 --> 0:35:33.360
<v Speaker 3>So I was so I would.

0:35:33.120 --> 0:35:37.560
<v Speaker 2>Take camera watching me with my cup, oh, my cup

0:35:37.560 --> 0:35:41.000
<v Speaker 2>of mixed nuts. I've sid my lunch and dinner all.

0:35:40.960 --> 0:35:43.920
<v Speaker 1>Right, exactly exactly, so you know, I had my breaks

0:35:43.960 --> 0:35:46.319
<v Speaker 1>well for eating. But now I need to have those

0:35:46.360 --> 0:35:49.400
<v Speaker 1>breaks to take five minutes to just walk around the office,

0:35:49.760 --> 0:35:52.200
<v Speaker 1>or just take a minute to go into a conference room.

0:35:52.239 --> 0:35:52.799
<v Speaker 3>Shut the door.

0:35:52.800 --> 0:35:54.960
<v Speaker 1>I hope, hope it can pick an empty conference room

0:35:55.000 --> 0:35:57.960
<v Speaker 1>to sit, just sit there for two minutes, for five minutes,

0:35:58.440 --> 0:36:00.600
<v Speaker 1>and it's my work is not going to suffer for

0:36:00.640 --> 0:36:03.000
<v Speaker 1>those few minutes, but I'm going to be probably in

0:36:03.040 --> 0:36:05.319
<v Speaker 1>a better place and sometimes more energized when I come

0:36:05.360 --> 0:36:08.680
<v Speaker 1>back to my desk to start writing again. So I'm

0:36:08.680 --> 0:36:11.400
<v Speaker 1>trying to do those things. And the other thing is sleep,

0:36:11.600 --> 0:36:14.040
<v Speaker 1>because I do still have suffer from the fatigue in

0:36:14.080 --> 0:36:17.040
<v Speaker 1>the stamina and lack of stamina a bit. I do

0:36:17.080 --> 0:36:19.640
<v Speaker 1>try to sleep more when I can, and sometimes I

0:36:19.760 --> 0:36:21.760
<v Speaker 1>just have to because I just can't go anymore.

0:36:22.160 --> 0:36:23.800
<v Speaker 3>I have to, I have to just rest.

0:36:23.960 --> 0:36:25.759
<v Speaker 1>So those are some of the things that I've that

0:36:25.920 --> 0:36:28.920
<v Speaker 1>I've done differently, but I think I never really understood

0:36:28.960 --> 0:36:31.200
<v Speaker 1>what it meant and I'm still learning. I'm still such

0:36:31.200 --> 0:36:34.439
<v Speaker 1>a novice about what it means to be mindful and

0:36:34.480 --> 0:36:39.239
<v Speaker 1>what it means to meditate, what it means to relax.

0:36:39.840 --> 0:36:42.799
<v Speaker 1>Not great at it, but I'm trying trying a lot

0:36:42.880 --> 0:36:46.000
<v Speaker 1>more to do it, and I think it makes when

0:36:46.040 --> 0:36:50.160
<v Speaker 1>I am able to, when I am able to then

0:36:50.239 --> 0:36:54.759
<v Speaker 1>focus on my work, I think I deliver much more efficiently,

0:36:55.560 --> 0:36:59.840
<v Speaker 1>and I think I'm hope that it's received even better

0:37:00.320 --> 0:37:03.760
<v Speaker 1>because I've really, I've really put put myself into it

0:37:03.840 --> 0:37:06.239
<v Speaker 1>to get it, to make sure it's right. Some of

0:37:06.239 --> 0:37:08.080
<v Speaker 1>it is because I have to, because I have to

0:37:08.120 --> 0:37:11.520
<v Speaker 1>focus more now, but I think part of it is

0:37:11.560 --> 0:37:15.959
<v Speaker 1>because I'm more mindful of wanting to really help hope

0:37:15.960 --> 0:37:18.520
<v Speaker 1>that my readers and my viewers understand that I am

0:37:18.560 --> 0:37:20.400
<v Speaker 1>with them right now. I'm not thinking about timillion a

0:37:20.400 --> 0:37:23.759
<v Speaker 1>million other things for these few minutes we're together, and

0:37:23.840 --> 0:37:27.319
<v Speaker 1>I'm talking about taxes because it's just so awesome, because

0:37:27.320 --> 0:37:30.200
<v Speaker 1>I really do get excited about these things. So I want,

0:37:30.239 --> 0:37:32.040
<v Speaker 1>I want, I want that to come across.

0:37:32.480 --> 0:37:34.239
<v Speaker 2>And so it's not so much that you pulled back,

0:37:34.280 --> 0:37:37.400
<v Speaker 2>it's just you've sort of reoriented yourself and approached your

0:37:37.440 --> 0:37:40.879
<v Speaker 2>work a little bit differently. Yeah, I I my mother

0:37:41.200 --> 0:37:48.240
<v Speaker 2>had has a psychological slash neurological condition that it's called fibermiagia,

0:37:48.719 --> 0:37:51.399
<v Speaker 2>and it's really difficult. It's not something you can see,

0:37:51.440 --> 0:37:54.000
<v Speaker 2>and it's also very hard to diagnose, and even doctors

0:37:54.040 --> 0:37:57.000
<v Speaker 2>are don't agree on what it is. But just the

0:37:57.000 --> 0:38:00.600
<v Speaker 2>the interactions with family and friends and trying to explain

0:38:00.640 --> 0:38:03.000
<v Speaker 2>her condition to family and friends and and and you know,

0:38:03.120 --> 0:38:05.600
<v Speaker 2>even I'll raise a hand and play it, you know,

0:38:05.760 --> 0:38:08.440
<v Speaker 2>and be honest about what I went through seeing her

0:38:08.480 --> 0:38:10.200
<v Speaker 2>go through that. It's really hard to see your mom,

0:38:10.360 --> 0:38:12.799
<v Speaker 2>this superhero to you one hundred and twenty mile or

0:38:13.320 --> 0:38:15.839
<v Speaker 2>every day of your entire childhood and teenagehood and young

0:38:15.880 --> 0:38:19.840
<v Speaker 2>adulthood all of a sudden have to slow down. And

0:38:20.400 --> 0:38:23.560
<v Speaker 2>you know, I had to even learn how to get

0:38:23.640 --> 0:38:26.600
<v Speaker 2>to know this new mom in my life and what

0:38:26.640 --> 0:38:28.400
<v Speaker 2>she was going through. And I just wondered if you

0:38:28.440 --> 0:38:31.920
<v Speaker 2>had any situations where you felt like it sounds like

0:38:31.920 --> 0:38:34.200
<v Speaker 2>you had a really supportive family, friends and people at

0:38:34.239 --> 0:38:37.640
<v Speaker 2>your office, but you know, any any cases where you

0:38:38.640 --> 0:38:41.040
<v Speaker 2>had to sort of advocate for yourself or or you

0:38:41.160 --> 0:38:46.239
<v Speaker 2>felt like people around you weren't really understanding just how differently,

0:38:47.600 --> 0:38:50.400
<v Speaker 2>just how differently you've become, how different you've become since

0:38:50.760 --> 0:38:51.560
<v Speaker 2>this all happened.

0:38:53.000 --> 0:38:55.240
<v Speaker 1>I felt like that a number of times with friends

0:38:55.280 --> 0:38:57.880
<v Speaker 1>that I've had for a decade or more.

0:38:57.719 --> 0:39:00.640
<v Speaker 3>And saying, you know, you look great, What really is

0:39:00.640 --> 0:39:02.560
<v Speaker 3>the issue? You really look great? And this is when

0:39:02.560 --> 0:39:04.040
<v Speaker 3>I was still in the rehab hospital.

0:39:04.080 --> 0:39:06.759
<v Speaker 1>So I'm thinking, I'm in a rehab hospital. Don't you

0:39:06.800 --> 0:39:10.600
<v Speaker 1>don't see anything differently that I'm doing. But because I

0:39:10.640 --> 0:39:14.160
<v Speaker 1>could speak, because they know that this is it was

0:39:14.200 --> 0:39:18.640
<v Speaker 1>a severe injury, severe illness, severe affliction, but I didn't

0:39:18.680 --> 0:39:21.879
<v Speaker 1>seem I didn't show anything. I was able to move

0:39:21.920 --> 0:39:24.360
<v Speaker 1>my arms, I was able to walk slowly, I was

0:39:24.400 --> 0:39:26.520
<v Speaker 1>able to at this point a month out, I was

0:39:26.560 --> 0:39:29.799
<v Speaker 1>able to speak clearly to them, but they so it

0:39:29.840 --> 0:39:31.440
<v Speaker 1>was it was hard for them to see.

0:39:31.840 --> 0:39:32.840
<v Speaker 3>And I wanted to, you know.

0:39:32.840 --> 0:39:34.560
<v Speaker 1>At one point, I remember a friend coming to visit

0:39:34.640 --> 0:39:37.920
<v Speaker 1>me and saying that I look fine and what was.

0:39:37.880 --> 0:39:38.840
<v Speaker 3>Really the issue?

0:39:38.960 --> 0:39:41.600
<v Speaker 1>And I wanted to just scream, you know, I wanted

0:39:41.640 --> 0:39:43.600
<v Speaker 1>to say, you know, you can't see this. I feel

0:39:43.640 --> 0:39:48.680
<v Speaker 1>completely changed. I feel completely changed and completely devastated in

0:39:48.719 --> 0:39:52.920
<v Speaker 1>the sense that I can't imagine the week that I

0:39:53.000 --> 0:39:56.560
<v Speaker 1>had before this happened and going back to it, and

0:39:56.640 --> 0:39:58.640
<v Speaker 1>that was that was a month out, so I mean,

0:39:58.680 --> 0:40:00.880
<v Speaker 1>I had a long journey and I feel much more comfortable.

0:40:01.120 --> 0:40:03.480
<v Speaker 1>But even today, I don't think I could.

0:40:03.760 --> 0:40:04.279
<v Speaker 3>You know, I was.

0:40:04.960 --> 0:40:09.440
<v Speaker 1>Contemplating a five am flight the other day to you know,

0:40:10.160 --> 0:40:11.960
<v Speaker 1>or five am arrival at the airport to get on

0:40:12.000 --> 0:40:14.480
<v Speaker 1>a six am flight to go somewhere and speak and

0:40:14.520 --> 0:40:17.319
<v Speaker 1>then you know, go to a reception and then you know,

0:40:17.680 --> 0:40:19.120
<v Speaker 1>speak the next day. And I thought, you know what,

0:40:19.160 --> 0:40:22.600
<v Speaker 1>I can't do that anymore. I don't think that that's

0:40:22.640 --> 0:40:26.279
<v Speaker 1>a smart idea. It's just too much and to be

0:40:26.320 --> 0:40:29.560
<v Speaker 1>able to explain to people very honestly, you know, I

0:40:30.320 --> 0:40:32.719
<v Speaker 1>need to be prepared and be ready to speak, and

0:40:32.760 --> 0:40:34.279
<v Speaker 1>all of that I can't come in the day of

0:40:34.480 --> 0:40:37.080
<v Speaker 1>and I need time to rest and make sure that

0:40:37.120 --> 0:40:40.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm in good shape to do that. And people seem

0:40:40.120 --> 0:40:42.560
<v Speaker 1>to understand, but you do have to advocate for yourself

0:40:43.280 --> 0:40:47.560
<v Speaker 1>because people will not necessarily see it. And the other

0:40:47.640 --> 0:40:49.640
<v Speaker 1>part that and I'm much better now, but the other

0:40:49.680 --> 0:40:52.680
<v Speaker 1>part that really is difficult for people to understand is

0:40:52.680 --> 0:40:55.640
<v Speaker 1>you look fine, you're here, you're alive, you should be

0:40:55.680 --> 0:40:59.680
<v Speaker 1>so happy, and you're constantly emotional. It is a psychological,

0:41:00.080 --> 0:41:05.160
<v Speaker 1>neurological issue and being another medical term emotionally labile, and

0:41:05.239 --> 0:41:08.839
<v Speaker 1>having these mood swings is part of what happens to

0:41:08.840 --> 0:41:12.640
<v Speaker 1>someone who's had a brain injury. And so just hearing

0:41:12.719 --> 0:41:16.520
<v Speaker 1>about something or watching something or seeing something on TV

0:41:16.560 --> 0:41:19.400
<v Speaker 1>that's maybe slightly sad or maybe not even sad to

0:41:19.440 --> 0:41:21.560
<v Speaker 1>some people, but it just hits you a certain way

0:41:21.600 --> 0:41:26.200
<v Speaker 1>and you start crying or your reaction maybe another reaction

0:41:26.400 --> 0:41:29.799
<v Speaker 1>that would not normally seem appropriate. That kind of emotional

0:41:29.840 --> 0:41:32.640
<v Speaker 1>filter is a little bit skewed, and so that's something

0:41:32.640 --> 0:41:36.239
<v Speaker 1>else that's very difficult to explain to friends who may

0:41:36.239 --> 0:41:39.239
<v Speaker 1>be like, why is she reacting that way? Why is

0:41:39.280 --> 0:41:42.480
<v Speaker 1>she saying it that way? And it's not trying to

0:41:42.520 --> 0:41:44.919
<v Speaker 1>be mean or trying to be you know, you know,

0:41:45.880 --> 0:41:47.960
<v Speaker 1>gross or sad or I think it's just that's how

0:41:48.000 --> 0:41:51.280
<v Speaker 1>you feel. And so I was talking to survivor today

0:41:51.320 --> 0:41:54.719
<v Speaker 1>and she was saying, you know, just going into a

0:41:54.760 --> 0:41:58.320
<v Speaker 1>place or going past a place that she remembered having

0:41:58.800 --> 0:42:01.480
<v Speaker 1>gone there for surgery or gone there for you know,

0:42:01.560 --> 0:42:06.640
<v Speaker 1>medical treatment, she just started crying. And I completely understand

0:42:06.640 --> 0:42:09.719
<v Speaker 1>that feeling, and I completely understand doing that because it's

0:42:09.840 --> 0:42:13.120
<v Speaker 1>just it's a very it can your emotions just hit.

0:42:13.280 --> 0:42:16.799
<v Speaker 3>So hard, and that's very hard for family.

0:42:16.440 --> 0:42:19.160
<v Speaker 1>Members to understand and to see. And I had with

0:42:19.200 --> 0:42:22.399
<v Speaker 1>young with younger, they're not they're not babies, but having

0:42:22.440 --> 0:42:24.440
<v Speaker 1>a twelve year old and a fifteen year old as

0:42:24.440 --> 0:42:28.040
<v Speaker 1>well as my husband understanding those mood swings and knowing

0:42:28.040 --> 0:42:31.480
<v Speaker 1>that I was having them and and.

0:42:31.120 --> 0:42:33.120
<v Speaker 3>You know, that was hard. That was hard.

0:42:33.200 --> 0:42:35.719
<v Speaker 1>And it's not like it doesn't happen ever again, you know,

0:42:35.760 --> 0:42:38.719
<v Speaker 1>it's still again. It's two steps forward, one step back

0:42:40.239 --> 0:42:41.600
<v Speaker 1>on a on a daily basis.

0:42:42.400 --> 0:42:44.279
<v Speaker 2>And I wanted to talk about your work with the

0:42:44.320 --> 0:42:47.480
<v Speaker 2>Brain Aneurysm Foundation. You mentioned a couple of times speaking

0:42:47.480 --> 0:42:50.360
<v Speaker 2>to survivors. Is is that party of recovery too? Do

0:42:50.400 --> 0:42:53.480
<v Speaker 2>you feel hearing stories from other survivors and kind of

0:42:53.480 --> 0:42:56.280
<v Speaker 2>building a network of support through your work with the foundation?

0:42:57.040 --> 0:42:57.680
<v Speaker 3>Absolutely.

0:42:57.760 --> 0:42:59.839
<v Speaker 1>I mean the way the way that I found out

0:42:59.880 --> 0:43:04.160
<v Speaker 1>of about the risk factors about brain aneurysms and about

0:43:04.160 --> 0:43:08.160
<v Speaker 1>family history and the propensity of African Americans and women

0:43:08.239 --> 0:43:12.160
<v Speaker 1>to have brain aneurysms was by just googling, doing some

0:43:12.200 --> 0:43:16.440
<v Speaker 1>research and then landing on the Brain Aneuralism Foundation web page.

0:43:16.520 --> 0:43:18.600
<v Speaker 1>And so for anybody who wants to know more information

0:43:18.640 --> 0:43:22.920
<v Speaker 1>about brain aneurysms. It's a beafound dot org and I

0:43:23.440 --> 0:43:27.839
<v Speaker 1>that has become my new passion. No one ever would want,

0:43:28.160 --> 0:43:32.480
<v Speaker 1>would wish something like this happened to them, But because

0:43:32.520 --> 0:43:35.279
<v Speaker 1>it has, and because I am able to speak about it,

0:43:35.320 --> 0:43:38.160
<v Speaker 1>and because I have covered personal finance and ask people

0:43:38.200 --> 0:43:43.279
<v Speaker 1>to divulge some of their most painful or most challenging

0:43:43.400 --> 0:43:48.840
<v Speaker 1>and or most triumphant personal finance situations, I've felt like

0:43:48.960 --> 0:43:52.319
<v Speaker 1>I must share my story and I must explain how

0:43:52.360 --> 0:43:55.200
<v Speaker 1>my story kind of also delves into the personal finance

0:43:55.239 --> 0:43:58.600
<v Speaker 1>journey that I took, but also the medical journey that

0:43:58.640 --> 0:44:02.640
<v Speaker 1>I took. The Brain andres and Foundation is an excellent

0:44:02.680 --> 0:44:07.760
<v Speaker 1>resource for survivors, for caregivers about and for those who've

0:44:07.760 --> 0:44:11.520
<v Speaker 1>lost their loved ones about what this really is, how

0:44:11.560 --> 0:44:15.600
<v Speaker 1>it happens, what types of treatments are available, what the

0:44:15.680 --> 0:44:20.080
<v Speaker 1>recovery or you know, existing with a brain aneurysm, what

0:44:20.120 --> 0:44:23.160
<v Speaker 1>that means, how that feels, how that can manifest itself

0:44:23.200 --> 0:44:28.360
<v Speaker 1>emotionally physically. It's just been really really important for me

0:44:28.480 --> 0:44:31.399
<v Speaker 1>to understand more about what happened to me and what

0:44:31.480 --> 0:44:34.880
<v Speaker 1>could happen next. And I try not to be you know,

0:44:34.960 --> 0:44:36.760
<v Speaker 1>I don't look at it as worst case scenario.

0:44:36.880 --> 0:44:39.920
<v Speaker 3>I look at it as being well informed.

0:44:40.280 --> 0:44:44.120
<v Speaker 1>So I want to know when my children should be tested.

0:44:44.239 --> 0:44:46.160
<v Speaker 1>I want to know when I should be tested again

0:44:46.239 --> 0:44:48.120
<v Speaker 1>to make sure that I don't have another one that

0:44:48.160 --> 0:44:51.600
<v Speaker 1>could happen, because they develop over years, not over a

0:44:51.600 --> 0:44:54.279
<v Speaker 1>couple of months, and so this is something ongoing that

0:44:54.320 --> 0:44:58.600
<v Speaker 1>I will constantly have to monitor. But I also am

0:44:58.719 --> 0:45:05.879
<v Speaker 1>just astounded how little information and funding and research goes

0:45:05.920 --> 0:45:10.960
<v Speaker 1>on about brain aneurysms, because it does impact one in

0:45:11.040 --> 0:45:13.920
<v Speaker 1>fifty people. One in fifty people is walking around with

0:45:13.920 --> 0:45:17.400
<v Speaker 1>a brain aneurysm. Most of the time, it's not a problem,

0:45:17.520 --> 0:45:20.760
<v Speaker 1>nothing's ever going to happen to them. But about thirty

0:45:20.760 --> 0:45:23.040
<v Speaker 1>thousand people a year out of those six million that

0:45:23.160 --> 0:45:28.000
<v Speaker 1>have a brain aneurysm will have it rupture, and those

0:45:28.080 --> 0:45:32.879
<v Speaker 1>ruptures happen frequently. Every eighteen minutes there's someone who has

0:45:32.920 --> 0:45:39.279
<v Speaker 1>a brain aneurysm rupture. And because of the likelihood that

0:45:39.680 --> 0:45:42.359
<v Speaker 1>someone is going to pass away if that happens two

0:45:42.360 --> 0:45:44.880
<v Speaker 1>out of five or that they're going to have a

0:45:45.000 --> 0:45:48.200
<v Speaker 1>serious neurological issue for the rest of their life, two

0:45:48.280 --> 0:45:51.799
<v Speaker 1>thirds who survive. It's important for people to understand what

0:45:51.840 --> 0:45:54.480
<v Speaker 1>this is and to understand what they see and when

0:45:54.480 --> 0:45:57.680
<v Speaker 1>they see a coworker who doesn't seem like they look right,

0:45:57.880 --> 0:46:01.000
<v Speaker 1>you know, take them to the hospital or suggest that

0:46:01.040 --> 0:46:03.120
<v Speaker 1>they go to the emergency room, or offer to cover

0:46:03.440 --> 0:46:06.080
<v Speaker 1>whatever they're working on so that they can go home

0:46:06.120 --> 0:46:08.279
<v Speaker 1>early and try to take care of themselves. And the

0:46:08.320 --> 0:46:12.080
<v Speaker 1>same goes for your friends and your family members, to

0:46:12.200 --> 0:46:16.239
<v Speaker 1>just be aware of what's happening. I was recently on

0:46:16.320 --> 0:46:20.719
<v Speaker 1>Capitol Hill speaking to some congressional leaders about brain aneurysms,

0:46:20.800 --> 0:46:26.480
<v Speaker 1>and there is so much funding in medical funding, federal

0:46:26.480 --> 0:46:30.920
<v Speaker 1>funding toward medical research and areas that are very important

0:46:31.239 --> 0:46:37.560
<v Speaker 1>cancer heart disease, there is so little funding given toward

0:46:37.640 --> 0:46:40.680
<v Speaker 1>brain aneurism research, and so part of my work with

0:46:40.719 --> 0:46:44.560
<v Speaker 1>the Brain Aneurism Foundation also is to raise awareness so

0:46:44.600 --> 0:46:48.319
<v Speaker 1>that people will also be willing to donate and give

0:46:48.480 --> 0:46:53.759
<v Speaker 1>to hopefully coming up with some early detection initiatives as

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<v Speaker 1>well as improve treatment and care for those who have

0:46:58.239 --> 0:47:02.799
<v Speaker 1>brain aneurysms. So I created the Sharon Eperson Chair of

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<v Speaker 1>Research and it will be awarded for the first time

0:47:06.280 --> 0:47:08.960
<v Speaker 1>this September two year, basically almost to the day on

0:47:09.080 --> 0:47:12.120
<v Speaker 1>my two year anniversary. Have my brain aneurysm, and the

0:47:12.160 --> 0:47:14.759
<v Speaker 1>goal of the Chair of Research is to provide a

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<v Speaker 1>research grant to a scientist medical professional so that they

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<v Speaker 1>will be able to look into early detection, come up

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<v Speaker 1>with better remedies or more technologically advanced perhaps remedies in

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<v Speaker 1>terms of figuring out who has a brain aneurysm, who

0:47:34.920 --> 0:47:37.399
<v Speaker 1>is more likely to have a brain aneurysm, and how

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<v Speaker 1>best to treat it. So I'm hoping that that is

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<v Speaker 1>something that will continue for my lifetime because it's I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's so important for people to be able to

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<v Speaker 1>have the very, very best care, and in order to

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<v Speaker 1>do that, we need to make sure that we have

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<v Speaker 1>the best technological advances to figure out what is causing

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<v Speaker 1>these and how they can be treated.

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<v Speaker 2>What an amazing way to turn such a traumatic experience

0:48:05.800 --> 0:48:09.400
<v Speaker 2>into such a positive, you know, light for the future

0:48:09.440 --> 0:48:15.279
<v Speaker 2>of research in this really important area. Congratulations on that.

0:48:15.600 --> 0:48:17.040
<v Speaker 2>You know a lot of what we spoke about in

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<v Speaker 2>the episode about life insurance is about your legacy and

0:48:19.560 --> 0:48:21.520
<v Speaker 2>what you'll leave behind and not just thinking about the

0:48:21.560 --> 0:48:23.160
<v Speaker 2>here and now. And I think that's such an amazing

0:48:23.800 --> 0:48:26.759
<v Speaker 2>take away from your story, Sharon. Thank you for sharing it.

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted to leave. I wanted to leave you guys

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<v Speaker 2>with kind of just a recap, you know, whether it's

0:48:30.560 --> 0:48:36.120
<v Speaker 2>a brain aneurysm or something else, you know, something another traumatic, unexpected,

0:48:36.160 --> 0:48:38.719
<v Speaker 2>the worst case scenario. I think that's what we're all

0:48:38.760 --> 0:48:40.640
<v Speaker 2>in the back of our minds afraid to think about.

0:48:41.120 --> 0:48:43.120
<v Speaker 2>But we should all at least take some time to

0:48:43.160 --> 0:48:44.680
<v Speaker 2>think about it. And I wondered if we can just

0:48:44.719 --> 0:48:48.920
<v Speaker 2>wrap up by reviewing some of the key steps anyone

0:48:49.000 --> 0:48:52.320
<v Speaker 2>can take today to make their lives and their loved

0:48:52.320 --> 0:48:54.520
<v Speaker 2>ones lives a little bit easier if something like this,

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<v Speaker 2>God forbid were to happen from them. So I assume

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<v Speaker 2>you'd start by saying, beef up that emergency fund. What

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<v Speaker 2>else would you add to that, Sharon, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Think one of the key things to do is automate

0:49:06.080 --> 0:49:09.480
<v Speaker 1>all of your financial life as much as you can.

0:49:09.920 --> 0:49:12.960
<v Speaker 1>So if you can do direct deposits for your paycheck,

0:49:13.400 --> 0:49:18.240
<v Speaker 1>if you can do automatic bill pay for your rent

0:49:18.560 --> 0:49:22.040
<v Speaker 1>or for your mortgage or for your utilities, if you

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<v Speaker 1>can make sure that you have all of your accounts

0:49:24.440 --> 0:49:28.160
<v Speaker 1>in one place so that you know where to find them,

0:49:28.360 --> 0:49:31.319
<v Speaker 1>using something like Mint or some other service that can

0:49:31.320 --> 0:49:34.440
<v Speaker 1>aggregate all of your accounts if you can use the

0:49:34.520 --> 0:49:37.520
<v Speaker 1>password manager and make sure that someone that you really

0:49:37.520 --> 0:49:40.880
<v Speaker 1>trust and really love has that information as well, so

0:49:40.920 --> 0:49:44.360
<v Speaker 1>that anything happens to you. Because you've automated your life,

0:49:44.400 --> 0:49:45.799
<v Speaker 1>you want to make sure that they're able to get

0:49:45.840 --> 0:49:48.440
<v Speaker 1>in there and help you in terms of figuring out

0:49:48.480 --> 0:49:50.560
<v Speaker 1>how to make sure the bills get paid and everything,

0:49:50.880 --> 0:49:53.080
<v Speaker 1>and that would be helpful to make sure that someone

0:49:53.160 --> 0:49:56.799
<v Speaker 1>has that information, your password to these accounts. The way

0:49:56.840 --> 0:49:58.640
<v Speaker 1>to make sure legally that it's the person that you

0:49:58.719 --> 0:50:00.640
<v Speaker 1>really want to have all this information is to make

0:50:00.680 --> 0:50:04.120
<v Speaker 1>sure you've done proper estate planning. So your health care

0:50:04.160 --> 0:50:06.720
<v Speaker 1>proxy the person who's going to make health care decisions

0:50:06.800 --> 0:50:09.200
<v Speaker 1>if you are unable to do so, figure out who

0:50:09.200 --> 0:50:10.799
<v Speaker 1>that person's going to be. Who's going to be the

0:50:10.800 --> 0:50:13.439
<v Speaker 1>person who's going to make the financial decisions if you're

0:50:13.719 --> 0:50:17.120
<v Speaker 1>unable to do that. And if you're a parent, make

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<v Speaker 1>sure that if you and your spouse or mom and

0:50:20.280 --> 0:50:22.200
<v Speaker 1>dad are not both there, who.

0:50:22.080 --> 0:50:23.959
<v Speaker 3>Is going to be able to take care of these kids?

0:50:23.960 --> 0:50:26.960
<v Speaker 1>Who is going to be the guardian for these children.

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<v Speaker 1>I was able to use my estate plan. I had

0:50:31.040 --> 0:50:33.719
<v Speaker 1>to use my estate plan because I wasn't able to

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<v Speaker 1>say what kind of surgery I wanted, or where I

0:50:35.760 --> 0:50:37.960
<v Speaker 1>wanted to ultimately go for my hospital, or any of

0:50:38.000 --> 0:50:41.040
<v Speaker 1>those things. My husband had to do that because that's

0:50:41.040 --> 0:50:43.680
<v Speaker 1>his role as my power of attorney for health care

0:50:43.719 --> 0:50:46.360
<v Speaker 1>and as my power of attorney for financial issues. He

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<v Speaker 1>was the one who handled all of the finances or

0:50:48.760 --> 0:50:51.279
<v Speaker 1>was in charge of the finances. But to make it

0:50:51.320 --> 0:50:54.040
<v Speaker 1>easier because he was overwhelmed at being at the hospital

0:50:54.040 --> 0:50:56.960
<v Speaker 1>with me every day, we had it automated so we

0:50:57.040 --> 0:50:59.279
<v Speaker 1>didn't really have to worry about when that check had

0:50:59.320 --> 0:51:01.720
<v Speaker 1>to go out because it was automatically going to get paid.

0:51:01.960 --> 0:51:03.880
<v Speaker 3>So those were really really key.

0:51:04.000 --> 0:51:07.959
<v Speaker 1>To managing our financial life when I was particularly gravely ill.

0:51:09.120 --> 0:51:11.400
<v Speaker 1>And the other part I would say is definitely to

0:51:11.520 --> 0:51:15.720
<v Speaker 1>have the insurances that you need, so don't go without

0:51:15.719 --> 0:51:19.640
<v Speaker 1>health insurance or disability insurance. And finally make sure that

0:51:19.719 --> 0:51:23.279
<v Speaker 1>you do have that emergency fund. You can forego perhaps

0:51:23.520 --> 0:51:27.799
<v Speaker 1>the fabulous vacation and just do a nice vacation. I mean,

0:51:27.840 --> 0:51:31.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to talk about putting a nice sum, not

0:51:31.280 --> 0:51:33.400
<v Speaker 1>just not having a coffee one day and adding up,

0:51:33.400 --> 0:51:36.000
<v Speaker 1>and that's a way to start, but you really need

0:51:36.040 --> 0:51:37.960
<v Speaker 1>to think about what you can cut out to make

0:51:37.960 --> 0:51:41.759
<v Speaker 1>sure you have the savings that you need, and the

0:51:41.800 --> 0:51:43.839
<v Speaker 1>first step is to figure out what that is. Many

0:51:43.880 --> 0:51:45.799
<v Speaker 1>people don't even know how much they spend per month.

0:51:46.040 --> 0:51:47.879
<v Speaker 1>So if you can figure out how much you might

0:51:47.920 --> 0:51:50.880
<v Speaker 1>need just for one month, Ideally people talk about a

0:51:50.880 --> 0:51:54.040
<v Speaker 1>six month emergency fund. Some people can't really fathom what

0:51:54.080 --> 0:51:56.960
<v Speaker 1>they spend in one month, So just start there and

0:51:57.040 --> 0:52:01.960
<v Speaker 1>start small and slowly build it up and realize. And

0:52:02.040 --> 0:52:04.040
<v Speaker 1>to me, trying to figure all of this out and

0:52:04.080 --> 0:52:05.880
<v Speaker 1>having some of it planned already and some of it

0:52:05.920 --> 0:52:08.400
<v Speaker 1>that I've had to now go back and say I

0:52:08.400 --> 0:52:10.040
<v Speaker 1>should do this a little bit differently, even with my

0:52:10.080 --> 0:52:13.840
<v Speaker 1>own personal finances. It's a blessing. It's the greatest gift

0:52:14.040 --> 0:52:16.560
<v Speaker 1>of being given another opportunity to get it right. And

0:52:16.600 --> 0:52:18.839
<v Speaker 1>it still may not be perfect, but I think I'm

0:52:18.840 --> 0:52:19.839
<v Speaker 1>doing a much better job.

0:52:20.680 --> 0:52:23.280
<v Speaker 2>Well. Sharon, Thank you so so much for being so candid,

0:52:23.680 --> 0:52:26.360
<v Speaker 2>for being such an amazing guest, for sharing your story

0:52:27.120 --> 0:52:28.640
<v Speaker 2>and keep sharing it. You know, like I said at

0:52:28.680 --> 0:52:30.920
<v Speaker 2>the beginning of the show, I was explaining to Sharon,

0:52:30.960 --> 0:52:33.680
<v Speaker 2>our audience is exactly the kind of person you guys.

0:52:33.719 --> 0:52:36.479
<v Speaker 2>Brand ambition listeners are exactly who needs to be hearing

0:52:36.480 --> 0:52:39.600
<v Speaker 2>this story. You know, African American women are the majority

0:52:39.640 --> 0:52:41.520
<v Speaker 2>of our listeners, and I hope that you guys are listening.

0:52:41.520 --> 0:52:43.600
<v Speaker 2>And if you don't think that you're at risk, you know,

0:52:43.680 --> 0:52:46.360
<v Speaker 2>tell a friend, Tell a friend, tell a friend, so

0:52:46.440 --> 0:52:48.640
<v Speaker 2>the word gets out. And I'll be sure to include

0:52:48.640 --> 0:52:52.000
<v Speaker 2>a link to the Brain Inurism Foundation website in the

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<v Speaker 2>show notes, so definitely go check that out. And Sharon, lastly,

0:52:55.840 --> 0:52:57.800
<v Speaker 2>just let people know where they can find you on Twitter,

0:52:57.840 --> 0:52:59.479
<v Speaker 2>Instagram Where are you at these days?

0:53:00.360 --> 0:53:03.440
<v Speaker 1>You can find me on Twitter at Sharon Underscore et

0:53:03.440 --> 0:53:06.040
<v Speaker 1>person E P P E R s O N. And

0:53:06.080 --> 0:53:09.880
<v Speaker 1>you can find me on Instagram at Sharon Epperson CNBC.

0:53:10.480 --> 0:53:13.640
<v Speaker 1>And you can also you like and follow my Facebook page.

0:53:14.160 --> 0:53:15.920
<v Speaker 2>Awesome. All include links to those in the show. To

0:53:16.000 --> 0:53:18.480
<v Speaker 2>you guys, Sharon again, thanks so much.

0:53:19.080 --> 0:53:19.520
<v Speaker 3>Thank you.

0:53:19.640 --> 0:53:21.799
<v Speaker 1>I'm really glad to be on the show, and thank

0:53:21.800 --> 0:53:24.840
<v Speaker 1>you all so much for listening. And please tell your girlfriends,

0:53:24.880 --> 0:53:27.920
<v Speaker 1>tell your mom, tell your cousin, tell your sister, tell everyone.

0:53:28.080 --> 0:53:32.080
<v Speaker 1>Just take care of yourself, remember to focus on yourself,

0:53:32.360 --> 0:53:35.279
<v Speaker 1>focus on being on the moment, in the moment, and

0:53:35.440 --> 0:53:38.920
<v Speaker 1>treasure every single day because you just truly never know