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Speaker 1: This is John, this is them Okay Storytime podcast hosts.

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Speaker 2: And we have some good story's coming up for you.

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Speaker 2: That's right.

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Speaker 1: But before that, we have a little morsel of a

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Speaker 2: My friend manipulated me out of her wedding. She's too good,

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Speaker 2: too good. Well.

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Speaker 1: I twenty female met my friend Charlotte twenty one when

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Speaker 1: I moved into my college dorm in August of twenty

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Speaker 1: twenty two. We got along well, shared ideas for how

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Speaker 1: we wanted to divide the space and keep things clean

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Speaker 1: slash organized, and had many similar interests. Within a month,

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Speaker 1: we were studying and hanging out together and I considered her.

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Speaker 2: A good friend. We'll see how that went along went.

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Speaker 1: But by the way, this comes from Runaway Made of

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Speaker 1: go to the r slash Okay Storytime subreddits. So I

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Speaker 1: also met her now husband, Josh twenty two. They seemed

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Speaker 1: like a cute and loving couple, and I was very

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Speaker 1: happy when they got engaged a Christmas of twenty twenty

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Speaker 1: after three and a half years together. Charlotte had spent

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Speaker 1: the last eighteen months planning this wedding down to the

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Speaker 1: last detail. I won't say she's obsessive, but it's been

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Speaker 1: intense and I've tried to help her as best as

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Speaker 1: I can with making appointments, managing stress, et cetera, et cetera.

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Speaker 1: I also gave her two hundred and fifty dollars to help

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Speaker 1: pay for the wedding. Her family can only afford part

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Speaker 1: of it, which isn't included in the wedding gift I'm

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Speaker 1: going to give to her, which again we're talking two

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Speaker 1: hundred fifty at like twenty one twenty two, so that's.

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Speaker 3: Like, yeah, it's considerable that.

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Speaker 1: For her, that's not nothing. No, you know, you're on

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Speaker 1: the ram and the college Ramen budget over here, perhaps

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Speaker 1: to drop.

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Speaker 3: In the ocean in terms of how much the wedding costs,

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Speaker 3: but not a drop for a peek.

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Speaker 2: This is true. Great points, Sophia, great point. Thanks.

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Speaker 1: A month before the wedding, I was still trying to

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Speaker 1: decide exactly what to wear. I wanted something nice because

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Speaker 1: Charlotte said that she would have a photographer, videographer, and

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Speaker 1: wedding painter. I knew Charlotte had a vision for a wedding,

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Speaker 1: and I wanted her as in control as possible for

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Speaker 1: all the details of her special day. So I asked

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Speaker 1: her which dress out of the three, and I hear

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Speaker 1: it down to the one that I should wear. She

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Speaker 1: asked if I would actually pull out all my dresses,

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Speaker 1: so I did. She ended up narrowing it down to

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Speaker 1: one of my picks along with a dress, and I

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Speaker 1: had put firmly in the no pile for being white.

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Speaker 1: It was a wedding after all. She told me both

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Speaker 1: dresses were lovely, but that she prefers the white one.

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Speaker 1: What wear a white dress to my wedding?

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Speaker 3: Dude, I'd be like, aah no, Like do you have

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Speaker 3: a white theme where you're gonna be not wearing white

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Speaker 3: and everyone else is gonna be wearing white? And if

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Speaker 3: she said no, I'd be like, sorry, not wearing that dress.

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Speaker 1: But Sophia, this is your best friend of all I mean,

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Speaker 1: of all time throughout the universe.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's why if she was my best friend, I'd

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Speaker 3: be like, Gally, what are you talking about? But she's

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Speaker 3: like to wear white to your wedding.

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Speaker 2: She's like, Sophia as as we are the bestest of friends.

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Speaker 3: Unless I was a bridesmaid and she picked out the dress.

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Speaker 2: That's what's happening.

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Speaker 3: No, no, no ope, he's not a bride'smaid. She's just

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Speaker 3: she she's picking out.

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Speaker 2: Ohp he's like just picking out.

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Speaker 3: She has a bunch of dresses. She's like, I don't know,

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Speaker 3: why did she wear for your wedding? What do you

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Speaker 3: think of these dresses? And then she sat looked at

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Speaker 3: these three dresses that OPI sent, was like, let me

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Speaker 3: see all of your dresses, and Opie's like, yeah, here

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Speaker 3: you go. And then she's like that one, OPI. He's like,

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Speaker 3: that one's white. I feel like, if this was my

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Speaker 3: a white dress to your wedding unless that's your theme.

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Speaker 3: And if she said that's not my theme, I'd say, okay,

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Speaker 3: well I'm not wearing this dress, honey, Beauty like the

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Speaker 3: other ones. So it's fine, that's true, Honey, be eighty

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Speaker 2: It's a test.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. I feel like if she liked the other one,

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Speaker 3: feel comfortable wearing white to your wedding. So I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: But she wants it, she demands.

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Speaker 3: I don't care. She doesn't know what she wants.

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Speaker 2: Oh well, let's see what happens.

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Speaker 1: I asked if she was sure, and she said yes,

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Speaker 1: I figured that that was that. Fast forward last week.

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Speaker 1: I show up in the dress about half an hour

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Speaker 1: before the ceremony. I get some weird looks, but no

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Speaker 3: Really, you should have realized something wasn't right when she

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Speaker 3: it exactly, I'd be.

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Speaker 2: Like, why why?

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Speaker 3: Huh.

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Speaker 1: When Charlotte comes out of her dressing room for the

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Speaker 1: then she starts turning red.

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Speaker 2: She pulls me aside and.

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Speaker 1: Starts going off on me immediately about wearing that dress

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Speaker 2: Wow, yeah, proof o, it got prove right. I'm stunned.

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Speaker 1: I ask her what the problem is because she picked

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Speaker 3: Girl, be so for real, come on, sorry, your friendship

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Speaker 3: test was to see if your friend didn't listen to you?

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Speaker 1: Girl, she was literally doing what you asked. Like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: at least if it's something like and I'm not not

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Speaker 1: saying I'm in favor of this per se, but like

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Speaker 1: the orange peel test whatever, where it's like, oh, hey,

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Speaker 1: could you do this small thing for me to see

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Speaker 1: if someone is supportive or whatever. Yeah, at least that

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Speaker 1: is like harmless, harmless and doing something. Yeah, like if anything,

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Speaker 1: I would say, She's like, well, it's going against my

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Speaker 1: instincts to do this, but for you, if you really

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Speaker 1: want me to wear this dress, it's almost like the

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Speaker 1: inverse situation. It's like you're kind of like a good

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Speaker 1: friend if you just acquiesce because of your friendship in.

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Speaker 3: A way, So what the freaking heck?

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Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, And that if we were real friends,

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Speaker 1: then I wouldn't have worn a white dress or her

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Speaker 3: Said she gave her She gave you her shoes. What

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Speaker 1: I started laughing because I honestly thought it was a joke,

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Speaker 1: and she screamed at me that I ruined her e

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Speaker 1: out told her she was crazy and I left, not

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Speaker 1: wanting to fight anymore and not knowing how to deal

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Speaker 2: I grabbed my wedding gift of them on the way out.

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Speaker 1: My phone has been flooded with text, voicemails, and social

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Speaker 1: media notifications from her, her friends, and her family about

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Speaker 1: what an a hole I am because everyone sees her and.

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Speaker 3: You were white to a wedding.

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Speaker 2: Oh dude, it's so bad. It's so bad, dude.

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Speaker 1: I hope you approof release the proof, rease, release the recordings,

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Speaker 1: release the tape, release it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, freaking watergate this.

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Speaker 1: I honestly don't see what I did wrong. Am I

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Speaker 1: really the a hole here? And why you're a little

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Speaker 3: Sure? But she told you to do it. She told

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Speaker 3: you to do it. She set you up. Are you

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Speaker 3: like a little child walking into a freaking trap. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: you're like, oh, piano is above my head. Oh, and

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Speaker 3: then you lick your little lollipop. But you didn't. She

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Speaker 3: dropped a piano on you. Metaphorically. Oh, she dropped a

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Speaker 4: You and you assisted it too, acme style. You're like,

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Speaker 4: what's that doing up there? You're like, She's like, no,

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Speaker 4: don't worry about it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah exactly, Yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 4: What's that don't worry about it of scissors in your hand. Okay, No,

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Speaker 4: this might be a controversial take. Yeah, this might be

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Speaker 4: a red button issue. Sure to me, Like, think about this.

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Speaker 1: I have two lovely, incredible friends sitting in front of

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Speaker 1: me right If either of you tell me something, I

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Speaker 1: am inclined to believe it because I trust you, because

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Speaker 1: what incredible people you both are.

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Speaker 2: And John, you sound like Superman.

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Speaker 3: The thing is, John, the thing is you are that

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Speaker 3: little child walking underneath.

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Speaker 2: The piano, Sophia.

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Speaker 3: I trust I know John, John, I know you absolutely

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Speaker 1: If they if they really sit me down and they're

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Speaker 1: like they break it down, like they're like, okay.

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Speaker 2: As as as.

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Speaker 1: John is one of the most gullible, I am very gullible.

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Speaker 3: I trust you, trust man, and a bad thing.

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Speaker 2: Lock you up, go slap on the cuffs right now. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's that's my hot take.

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Speaker 1: To get back to it, because we got more, but

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Speaker 1: comments edit, quite a few people have said you're the

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Speaker 1: a hole slash everyone sucks here because you should not

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Speaker 1: clarify that I brought up this point to Charlotte more

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Speaker 2: We have edit number two.

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Speaker 1: Someone made a comment about if the bride is wearing white,

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Speaker 1: I should at least be prepared for the weird glances.

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Speaker 1: The bride didn't even wear white. That was another non

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Speaker 2: She wore blue.

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Speaker 3: You know what that is. I think that is a

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Speaker 3: little bit more credit to OP.

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Speaker 2: Two.

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Speaker 3: Ah, I think that is a little bit more credit.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I like more credit to OPI I'm with Op

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Speaker 1: on gullible act.

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Speaker 3: Well, I don't think that OP did anything wrong. I

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Speaker 3: just think Op is gullible. But I think that like

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Speaker 3: this makes a little bit more sense why she'd be like, Okay,

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Speaker 3: maybe it's like a theme thing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and there's no there's not a clash at the

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Speaker 1: bare minimum. But we've got some top comments. Oh and

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Speaker 1: and certainly Sunshine says I'm John two, but I will

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Speaker 1: get it in writing that it was her decision.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'd be like, okay, if you write down that

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Speaker 3: you want me to do this?

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Speaker 1: Sure, And you know what's so sad is like I'd

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Speaker 1: even be like, well, but we're kin, We're we're kin.

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Speaker 3: Know, you have a sign signed by her that just

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Speaker 1: Those like those like the deposition tastes for there being

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Speaker 1: Very legal, very legal, Sophia. We've got some top comments

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Speaker 2: How would you react? Would you like, text all the.

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Speaker 3: I if it's like if I cared about their opinion before.

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Speaker 2: It's friends that you like that are in the wedding venue.

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Speaker 3: And I would text all of them proof screenshots of

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Speaker 2: Hey, guys probably were like, what's going on?

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Speaker 3: Here you go, here's here's what's going on, and then

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Speaker 3: Yeah, don't like, don't go out of your way to

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't even have to be like she said this.

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Speaker 2: Here you go, receipts, receipts, and that's it. But we've

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Speaker 1: Okay, it's been a crazy few days since I posted

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Speaker 1: Thank you to everyone who gave me feedback on why

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Speaker 1: I texted Charlotte a day after making the post, sometime

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Speaker 1: I tell them the truth myself. Interesting, interesting move, perfect

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Speaker 2: She told me that I had no proof and that

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Speaker 2: what about this proof? Ooh, don't do it to them.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think. And also, we can't trust the friend.

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Speaker 3: No, she's she's just gonna be like and OPI doctored

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Speaker 3: all of these text messages. She's all these fake text messages.

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Speaker 3: So if you see those, they're fake.

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Speaker 2: Don't get don't don't do it with her, don't give

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Speaker 1: Just receipts. Yeah, and that's it. I'm with Sophia's original plan.

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Speaker 1: I called her husband around lunchtime two days later to

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Speaker 1: But when I tried to convince him to talk Charlotte down,

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Speaker 3: They're perfect for each other.

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Speaker 2: Why we can't be surprised.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean getting married or they got married, so yeah,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and he's like, I can't believe. And he said

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Speaker 3: It's like, yeah, her husband sided with.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, just for the record, he said, Charlotte can be

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Speaker 1: forgive you if you apologize. I told him I didn't

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Speaker 3: Yikes, yikes, man, yikes.

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Speaker 2: Found the shit of a great relationship poof.

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Speaker 1: I told him I wasn't going to apologize, and they

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Speaker 3: Oh my, He's like, you could sleep with me as

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Speaker 1: This is another friend show, Sophia Donner, you're right, oh

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Speaker 1: my again again she was like, see was it was

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Speaker 1: a whole old slayer series of tests, a whole tests,

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Speaker 2: Then that negates the first one and then we'll be

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Speaker 2: friends again. And to be so happy. No, I told

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Speaker 3: Good And you have the recording of that, yes.

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Speaker 2: We do.

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Speaker 1: So I waited out the remaining bit of those forty

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Speaker 1: of her husband hitting on me. I don't know if

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Speaker 1: Facebook was the move here, but let's see what happens.

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Speaker 2: That was Friday evening.

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Speaker 1: Now it's Monday morning, and I've had to block Charlotte,

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Speaker 1: who will support them in our cross with me about

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Speaker 1: quote unquote trying to ruin their marriage?

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Speaker 3: How how just you busted that video of her husband

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Speaker 3: telling you that he would sleep with you, and you're

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Speaker 2: Would you do that to us? Why? Why you don't

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Speaker 1: Most people have reached out to apologize, but I'm honestly

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Speaker 1: in the future. But right before we get into we

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Speaker 1: just real quick, how are we feeling at this juncture

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Speaker 3: I think it's good. I think you cut off uh

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Speaker 3: what's her face? And her husband? Yes, get them out

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Speaker 3: anyone who doesn't believe you. Now, if there is anyone

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Speaker 3: after all that information and a little bit more. I

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I think this is a lesson in our sweet natured,

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Speaker 1: little more aware. Hey, heck, I'm walking away a little

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Speaker 3: All walking away a little more aware.

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Speaker 2: So there you have it, folks. But let's get into

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Speaker 1: Just a note because a lot of people have brought

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Speaker 1: did I. No, I haven't gotten it back, but I

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Speaker 1: did send her and her husband a Venmo request for

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Speaker 3: A huh.

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Speaker 1: Charlotte and Josh weren't struggling to afford things. I just

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Speaker 1: that is the end I will say it is. It's

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Speaker 1: a very tragical Losey's friends. But it's like, was there

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Are not red flags? Like?

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Speaker 3: Was she not testing you the whole time? And also

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 3: Was she testing all of her friends? Like what? You

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Speaker 3: know what? I feel like her husband had expressed some

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Speaker 3: sort of sign that he was into Ope, she got jealous,

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Speaker 3: was like, how do I get her out of you know?

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Speaker 3: How do I get her out of here? And she

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Speaker 3: that Ope has to leave.

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Speaker 1: That is a world class conspiracy.

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Speaker 3: That's my theory. That's my theory.

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Speaker 1: Let us know what you think in the comments. If

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Speaker 1: Sophia's theory is on the money or crackpot idea, that

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Speaker 3: This next story.

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Speaker 2: Oh that's correct.

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Speaker 3: My boyfriend's co worker is obsessed with him. Oh no,

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Speaker 3: working evenings. I perform mornings and afternoons whenever we happen

444
00:19:36,480 --> 00:19:38,280
Speaker 3: to be working at the same time, though we liked

445
00:19:38,280 --> 00:19:40,399
Speaker 3: to meet up during our breaks. By the way, this

446
00:19:40,480 --> 00:19:44,040
Speaker 3: comes from fixated and frustrated and if you honest meent

447
00:19:44,080 --> 00:19:46,560
Speaker 3: your own stories go to the rs slash Okay storytime

448
00:19:46,600 --> 00:19:47,080
Speaker 3: suppered it.

449
00:19:47,640 --> 00:19:47,720
Speaker 1: So.

450
00:19:48,359 --> 00:19:50,640
Speaker 3: A few weeks ago, he wasn't feeling good at work

451
00:19:50,720 --> 00:19:53,040
Speaker 3: and asked me to bring him some tea for his throat.

452
00:19:53,240 --> 00:19:56,200
Speaker 3: When I came in, there was a pretty hostess behind

453
00:19:56,240 --> 00:19:59,919
Speaker 3: the front podium who greeted me. I recognized her as

454
00:20:00,000 --> 00:20:03,040
Speaker 3: one of the girls my boyfriend talked about sometimes, one

455
00:20:03,080 --> 00:20:07,080
Speaker 3: of his work friends. I told her who I was

456
00:20:07,160 --> 00:20:09,240
Speaker 3: and that I came to give Joey ta and she

457
00:20:09,320 --> 00:20:11,880
Speaker 3: told me that leave it at the podium and she'd

458
00:20:11,880 --> 00:20:14,920
Speaker 3: give it to him herself. Joey specified in the text

459
00:20:14,920 --> 00:20:17,120
Speaker 3: for me to wait for him so he could see

460
00:20:17,119 --> 00:20:19,760
Speaker 3: me for a few minutes, so I said I'd rather

461
00:20:19,840 --> 00:20:21,840
Speaker 3: wait and give it to him. She got a kind

462
00:20:21,880 --> 00:20:23,800
Speaker 3: of mean look on her face and told me that

463
00:20:24,119 --> 00:20:27,399
Speaker 3: Joey was busy and I'd only be interfering if I

464
00:20:27,440 --> 00:20:31,160
Speaker 3: got in the way. Good the hostess is that guy

465
00:20:31,240 --> 00:20:34,720
Speaker 3: in the cage waving Joey's arm with the baby.

466
00:20:34,960 --> 00:20:41,600
Speaker 4: The baby, Oh superan reference too soon Joey.

467
00:20:42,359 --> 00:20:44,080
Speaker 3: I told her I would wait in the lobby, and

468
00:20:44,119 --> 00:20:46,840
Speaker 3: she said, you'll be taking spots away from our customers.

469
00:20:46,880 --> 00:20:47,960
Speaker 3: Spots in the lobby.

470
00:20:48,240 --> 00:20:51,159
Speaker 2: Good small lobby lobby.

471
00:20:51,320 --> 00:20:53,080
Speaker 3: Only it was a week day at four pm, and

472
00:20:53,119 --> 00:20:56,000
Speaker 3: practically nobody was in the restaurant or waiting for tables

473
00:20:56,600 --> 00:20:59,000
Speaker 3: at that moment. Joey whipped around the corner, gave me

474
00:20:59,040 --> 00:21:01,040
Speaker 3: a hug and kiss, and thanked me for the tea.

475
00:21:01,400 --> 00:21:04,000
Speaker 3: We talked for a few made plans for later that day,

476
00:21:04,119 --> 00:21:06,159
Speaker 3: and he went back to work. I said thank you

477
00:21:06,200 --> 00:21:08,840
Speaker 3: to the girl. Her name is Jess, female twenty three

478
00:21:08,920 --> 00:21:11,240
Speaker 3: or twenty four, and she kind of just said goodbye

479
00:21:11,840 --> 00:21:15,440
Speaker 3: in a distracted tone. I mentioned it to him when

480
00:21:15,480 --> 00:21:17,560
Speaker 3: we hung out later that day, and he said he

481
00:21:17,600 --> 00:21:20,560
Speaker 3: thought that was odd behavior. Thence, other waiters and waitresses

482
00:21:20,720 --> 00:21:23,520
Speaker 3: have SSOs who occasionally come in to drop something off,

483
00:21:24,040 --> 00:21:26,640
Speaker 3: say I, and she always directs them to the back

484
00:21:26,680 --> 00:21:29,680
Speaker 3: of the restaurant. Neither of us really thought much of it, though.

485
00:21:29,920 --> 00:21:32,359
Speaker 3: Two weeks ago, Joey and I happened to be working

486
00:21:32,400 --> 00:21:35,240
Speaker 3: at the same time and I forgot a lunch, so

487
00:21:35,320 --> 00:21:37,399
Speaker 3: he told me to come visit during my break and

488
00:21:37,440 --> 00:21:39,679
Speaker 3: we could eat together. When I got there, he had

489
00:21:39,720 --> 00:21:42,199
Speaker 3: a plate of food waiting at a table. When we

490
00:21:42,240 --> 00:21:45,240
Speaker 3: sat down, Jess sat right next to Joey without asking

491
00:21:45,320 --> 00:21:48,080
Speaker 3: if she could join. That's weird.

492
00:21:48,400 --> 00:21:49,240
Speaker 2: Yeah.

493
00:21:49,280 --> 00:21:51,520
Speaker 3: She seemed to make a point of only talking to him,

494
00:21:51,720 --> 00:21:55,280
Speaker 3: not even looking me in the eye, and talked about

495
00:21:55,280 --> 00:21:58,959
Speaker 3: their work friends, something I couldn't relate to. I stepped

496
00:21:58,960 --> 00:22:01,200
Speaker 3: away to use the restaurant, and when I came back,

497
00:22:01,280 --> 00:22:03,600
Speaker 3: I heard her saying to him in a witchy voice.

498
00:22:03,840 --> 00:22:06,359
Speaker 3: I thought, this is our tradition. I didn't say you

499
00:22:06,359 --> 00:22:09,600
Speaker 3: could invite your girlfriend to our lunch. You should have

500
00:22:09,600 --> 00:22:10,399
Speaker 3: asked me first.

501
00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:14,040
Speaker 2: Huh huh, huh.

502
00:22:14,200 --> 00:22:16,960
Speaker 3: Seems like you joined girl. Seems like they had lunch

503
00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:18,000
Speaker 3: plans and you joined.

504
00:22:18,160 --> 00:22:21,800
Speaker 1: See, I have this crazy tradition called getting lunch a

505
00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:23,240
Speaker 1: little lunch date with my boyfriend.

506
00:22:23,480 --> 00:22:24,160
Speaker 3: It's crazy.

507
00:22:24,320 --> 00:22:25,560
Speaker 2: It's super crazy.

508
00:22:25,280 --> 00:22:27,880
Speaker 3: Crazy because it seems like you don't have that tradition

509
00:22:27,880 --> 00:22:29,120
Speaker 3: because he's not your boyfriend.

510
00:22:29,160 --> 00:22:29,360
Speaker 2: Woo.

511
00:22:30,240 --> 00:22:32,359
Speaker 3: I thought that was a little off, so I asked

512
00:22:32,400 --> 00:22:34,760
Speaker 3: him about it after she went back to work. He

513
00:22:34,840 --> 00:22:36,600
Speaker 3: told me they had lunch every time they worked a

514
00:22:36,640 --> 00:22:38,919
Speaker 3: lunch ship together and would use the time to crap

515
00:22:38,960 --> 00:22:41,880
Speaker 3: on the less likable workers at the restaurant. He said,

516
00:22:41,920 --> 00:22:44,240
Speaker 3: she called it tradition, but he didn't think he'd have

517
00:22:44,280 --> 00:22:46,879
Speaker 3: to ask permission to invite me. I was kind of

518
00:22:46,880 --> 00:22:49,080
Speaker 3: offended that I had to be invited to have lunch

519
00:22:49,119 --> 00:22:51,840
Speaker 3: with my own boyfriend. And that was the first time

520
00:22:51,920 --> 00:22:55,760
Speaker 3: I suspected something weird about her. He's constantly texting him

521
00:22:55,760 --> 00:22:59,119
Speaker 3: and asking to hang out whenever she's doing something whenever

522
00:22:59,119 --> 00:23:01,879
Speaker 3: she's near his house were out of work, she's asking

523
00:23:01,960 --> 00:23:04,159
Speaker 3: him if he's free. Joey doesn't have a lot of

524
00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:07,760
Speaker 3: free time outside of work, and his mentality toward it is, well,

525
00:23:07,800 --> 00:23:09,639
Speaker 3: I see you're at work all the time anyway, so

526
00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:11,320
Speaker 3: I don't really want to hang out with her outside

527
00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:13,560
Speaker 3: of work that much. So it seems like he's in

528
00:23:13,600 --> 00:23:17,800
Speaker 3: a good place, like he seems oblivious. Yeah, but also

529
00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:20,200
Speaker 3: kind of like, yeah, that is weird, that's not cool.

530
00:23:20,400 --> 00:23:22,639
Speaker 3: I don't know yeah so far, but I guess I

531
00:23:22,640 --> 00:23:25,000
Speaker 3: guess it in a good way. We're approaching. We're approaching

532
00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:25,399
Speaker 3: a line.

533
00:23:25,520 --> 00:23:27,960
Speaker 1: It feels and correct me if I'm wrong of like, Okay,

534
00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:30,960
Speaker 1: now you are understanding and acknowledging some.

535
00:23:31,119 --> 00:23:32,119
Speaker 3: Yah, now you're informed.

536
00:23:32,200 --> 00:23:33,399
Speaker 2: What do we what do we do?

537
00:23:33,480 --> 00:23:33,600
Speaker 4: Now?

538
00:23:33,600 --> 00:23:34,879
Speaker 2: That's why we really fix this.

539
00:23:35,840 --> 00:23:40,120
Speaker 3: She doesn't relent. She sends him snapchats constantly, where she's

540
00:23:40,200 --> 00:23:42,760
Speaker 3: dulled up or with other guys, or in bed with

541
00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:45,280
Speaker 3: a tank top and shorts on. I told him this

542
00:23:45,359 --> 00:23:48,040
Speaker 3: makes me uncomfortable, but he said he can't control what

543
00:23:48,080 --> 00:23:51,439
Speaker 3: she sends them. When she sent him a suggestive picture

544
00:23:51,480 --> 00:23:54,119
Speaker 3: of herself in a bikini that said about to get wet,

545
00:23:54,520 --> 00:24:02,359
Speaker 3: come over and join me. Huh uh, huh, no, dude, block?

546
00:24:02,960 --> 00:24:06,080
Speaker 3: What okay? Now you're now you're you've gone into the

547
00:24:06,119 --> 00:24:09,800
Speaker 3: bad place. Yep, dude, she sent you a picture of

548
00:24:09,840 --> 00:24:12,480
Speaker 3: her in a bikini and said, I'm about to get wet.

549
00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:14,280
Speaker 3: Come over what.

550
00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:18,200
Speaker 2: I can't control it. I'm just the man.

551
00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:21,679
Speaker 3: I admit. I started tearing up, and he felt so

552
00:24:21,880 --> 00:24:25,159
Speaker 3: bad he blocked her on Snapchat. But it shouldn't have

553
00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:28,159
Speaker 3: taken your girlfriend teering up over this. You should have

554
00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:31,359
Speaker 3: looked at that and went whoa block. This was a

555
00:24:31,400 --> 00:24:34,200
Speaker 3: week ago. Two days ago, I visited him at work

556
00:24:34,240 --> 00:24:36,560
Speaker 3: again for lunch and she was working. She didn't join

557
00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:39,600
Speaker 3: us this time, and after Joey kissed me goodbye, she

558
00:24:39,680 --> 00:24:43,560
Speaker 3: walked right up to me and said, very seriously, if

559
00:24:43,600 --> 00:24:47,240
Speaker 3: you come near this strostrant again, I'll end you. Don't

560
00:24:47,280 --> 00:24:47,800
Speaker 3: aff with me?

561
00:24:48,480 --> 00:24:49,600
Speaker 2: A a threat?

562
00:24:49,760 --> 00:24:54,840
Speaker 3: And then I say, did you just threaten me? Hello? Police? Now,

563
00:24:54,880 --> 00:24:56,720
Speaker 3: I don't think she actually wants to hurt me, but

564
00:24:56,800 --> 00:24:59,240
Speaker 3: I can't stomach the thought of him working with her anymore.

565
00:24:59,320 --> 00:25:02,440
Speaker 3: I mean, then you go tell your boyfriend, Hey, your

566
00:25:02,440 --> 00:25:06,159
Speaker 3: coworker just threatened to end my life. You won't stop

567
00:25:06,160 --> 00:25:08,280
Speaker 3: reaching out to him, and when he's been working these

568
00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:11,480
Speaker 3: past two days, I felt really stressed out and freaked.

569
00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:13,760
Speaker 3: I told him what she said, but he said she

570
00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:15,280
Speaker 3: must have been joking or something.

571
00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:16,480
Speaker 2: How is that a joke?

572
00:25:16,760 --> 00:25:19,840
Speaker 4: She probably was like, I told your girlfriend that I'm

573
00:25:19,880 --> 00:25:21,480
Speaker 4: going to end her ha ha.

574
00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:26,600
Speaker 3: It's clear she's obsessed with him the most unhealthy way,

575
00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:28,919
Speaker 3: and I don't know what to do. One of their

576
00:25:28,960 --> 00:25:31,280
Speaker 3: work friends is having a pool party sort of deal

577
00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:33,199
Speaker 3: this weekend, and all of the kids he works with

578
00:25:33,240 --> 00:25:33,800
Speaker 3: are going.

579
00:25:33,840 --> 00:25:35,800
Speaker 2: Oh, no, it's gonna be wet. Mmm.

580
00:25:36,000 --> 00:25:39,040
Speaker 3: She'd go be in a bakinie. He wanted me to come,

581
00:25:39,040 --> 00:25:41,919
Speaker 3: but I can't go because of a family obligation. But

582
00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:44,359
Speaker 3: Jess will be there, and the thought of him and

583
00:25:44,440 --> 00:25:47,320
Speaker 3: her swimming in a pool together and generally having very

584
00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:50,840
Speaker 3: little clothes on is making me dizzy. I know he'd

585
00:25:50,880 --> 00:25:53,080
Speaker 3: never do anything to hurt me, but I don't trust

586
00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:55,480
Speaker 3: this girl around him. I can't ask my boyfriend to

587
00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:58,080
Speaker 3: quit his job or stop hanging out with his work friends,

588
00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:01,040
Speaker 3: but how do I approach this. I'm sick to my

589
00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:03,159
Speaker 3: stomach about this girl right now, and I don't know

590
00:26:03,200 --> 00:26:06,840
Speaker 3: what to do. There is an edit, Folks, Oh, dude,

591
00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:10,000
Speaker 3: I mean, like, tell your boyfriend, I'm super uncomfortable. She

592
00:26:10,160 --> 00:26:13,720
Speaker 3: absolutely threatened me. It wasn't a joke, I really, I

593
00:26:13,880 --> 00:26:16,879
Speaker 3: just I am not comfortable with you having any sort of,

594
00:26:17,359 --> 00:26:20,440
Speaker 3: you know, interaction with her outside of purely work.

595
00:26:20,640 --> 00:26:24,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I and I feel unsupported.

596
00:26:24,240 --> 00:26:25,879
Speaker 3: You know, you're not listening to me.

597
00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:28,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're not listening to me. And then it's like, okay,

598
00:26:28,200 --> 00:26:30,000
Speaker 1: if you do nothing that. I'm kind of just like

599
00:26:30,400 --> 00:26:32,080
Speaker 1: kind of in this constant state of like, Okay, what's

600
00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:33,879
Speaker 1: she going to do next? And he and and you're not,

601
00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:36,320
Speaker 1: you know, talking her down, so she might get more

602
00:26:36,320 --> 00:26:38,400
Speaker 1: and more bold. Who knows what will happen? Like, Yeah,

603
00:26:38,440 --> 00:26:41,399
Speaker 1: I think I think it's like, yo, you need to

604
00:26:41,440 --> 00:26:45,040
Speaker 1: do something here. Like I'm just I'm like the little cat,

605
00:26:45,160 --> 00:26:46,960
Speaker 1: just hanging in there in the bad way.

606
00:26:47,080 --> 00:26:47,280
Speaker 2: You know.

607
00:26:47,680 --> 00:26:50,240
Speaker 3: And Nicole h says she's a patron, she can inform

608
00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:53,000
Speaker 3: management that she was threatened by the hostess.

609
00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:55,240
Speaker 2: Oh great point. Yeah I like that.

610
00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:56,040
Speaker 4: Edit.

611
00:26:56,960 --> 00:27:01,320
Speaker 3: So, after reading through some responses, I texted my boyfriend

612
00:27:01,760 --> 00:27:03,639
Speaker 3: he just got out of work, and told him everything

613
00:27:03,680 --> 00:27:05,520
Speaker 3: I felt. I told him that I was one hundred

614
00:27:05,560 --> 00:27:07,800
Speaker 3: percent shore. Jess was not kidding around me when she

615
00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:10,720
Speaker 3: said those things to me, and that I feel uncomfortable

616
00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:13,080
Speaker 3: with her presence in Joey's life and I think the

617
00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:16,480
Speaker 3: manager should be told. I also told him that I

618
00:27:16,480 --> 00:27:18,720
Speaker 3: don't feel comfortable with him going to the pool party.

619
00:27:18,880 --> 00:27:21,080
Speaker 3: The main reason he wanted to go was to see

620
00:27:21,080 --> 00:27:24,399
Speaker 3: off a friend who's enlisting in the army soon, but

621
00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:26,640
Speaker 3: someone mentioned he should just hang out with the guy

622
00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:29,760
Speaker 3: one on one instead, which I passed along to him

623
00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:32,280
Speaker 3: and he thought was a good idea. He's not gonna

624
00:27:32,280 --> 00:27:34,719
Speaker 3: go and will be coming to my grandma's party with

625
00:27:34,760 --> 00:27:37,919
Speaker 3: me instead. To be honest, after reading some of your responses,

626
00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:40,640
Speaker 3: I started getting mad, not at you guys, at him,

627
00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 3: and I kind of told him off about not standing

628
00:27:43,119 --> 00:27:45,879
Speaker 3: up for me and completely shutting this girl out. So

629
00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:48,879
Speaker 3: right now we're texting back and forth and he's apologizing.

630
00:27:49,160 --> 00:27:51,080
Speaker 3: Part of the reason it took him so long to

631
00:27:51,160 --> 00:27:54,280
Speaker 3: distance himself from her was because he thought she was

632
00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:57,400
Speaker 3: sending those snapchats to all of his friends, not just him,

633
00:27:57,640 --> 00:28:00,920
Speaker 3: But after asking around, his friends told him they didn't

634
00:28:00,920 --> 00:28:04,399
Speaker 3: get many of the suggested ones, including the Bekini one.

635
00:28:04,480 --> 00:28:06,919
Speaker 3: He also told me he's been distancing himself from her

636
00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:09,800
Speaker 3: in the last week and refuses to spend his lunch

637
00:28:09,800 --> 00:28:11,960
Speaker 3: break with her. He's going to talk to the manager

638
00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:14,360
Speaker 3: about it, though he's worried about how his work friends,

639
00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:17,120
Speaker 3: who are very close to Jess. I guess she's worked

640
00:28:17,160 --> 00:28:19,800
Speaker 3: there for a while, will react if she gets canned,

641
00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:21,800
Speaker 3: but he wants to see her gone as much as

642
00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:24,840
Speaker 3: I do. Thanks for the responses. I'm curious as to

643
00:28:24,880 --> 00:28:27,280
Speaker 3: how the manager and Jess will respond to all of this,

644
00:28:27,880 --> 00:28:31,320
Speaker 3: and I'll update if something happens and there is an update, folks.

645
00:28:31,359 --> 00:28:32,160
Speaker 3: But what do you.

646
00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:36,639
Speaker 1: Think, Well, it looks like we're making positive progress.

647
00:28:36,760 --> 00:28:37,240
Speaker 2: Yeah.

648
00:28:37,800 --> 00:28:40,960
Speaker 1: I mean again, Initially we were like, Okay, he's naive, right,

649
00:28:41,000 --> 00:28:41,560
Speaker 1: and then it got to.

650
00:28:41,560 --> 00:28:44,920
Speaker 3: That point was like, ah, the naive excuse doesn't really

651
00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:45,560
Speaker 3: work anymore.

652
00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:48,920
Speaker 1: I think if we keep going in this direction, then

653
00:28:49,120 --> 00:28:52,680
Speaker 1: we can get back into the green zone of goodness.

654
00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:56,040
Speaker 2: Agreed, That's what I'm thinking. I agree, So I'm down

655
00:28:56,080 --> 00:28:57,080
Speaker 2: to way. Yes, I think if he.

656
00:28:57,120 --> 00:29:00,760
Speaker 3: Listens to Ope, you know, listens to her concerns and

657
00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:01,560
Speaker 3: acts on those.

658
00:29:01,440 --> 00:29:04,160
Speaker 2: Concerns, A thumb's up loop deep.

659
00:29:04,440 --> 00:29:06,760
Speaker 3: Joey went into work a few days ago and talked

660
00:29:06,800 --> 00:29:09,120
Speaker 3: to his boss. He told him what happened, but the

661
00:29:09,160 --> 00:29:11,880
Speaker 3: boss wanted to talk to me, so I came down

662
00:29:11,880 --> 00:29:14,320
Speaker 3: to the restaurant to tell him my side. He was

663
00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:17,240
Speaker 3: a really cool guy and seemed disturbed by what Jess

664
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Speaker 3: had been doing. Since he's known her for a while,

665
00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:22,520
Speaker 3: he told me he would handle it. Joe and I

666
00:29:22,600 --> 00:29:24,720
Speaker 3: figured he was going to fire her, and we were

667
00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:27,840
Speaker 3: really excited about it. But she didn't get fired.

668
00:29:28,600 --> 00:29:29,760
Speaker 2: She got talked to.

669
00:29:30,440 --> 00:29:32,680
Speaker 3: I guess since she's worked there for so long, the

670
00:29:32,720 --> 00:29:35,640
Speaker 3: boss felt more comfortable giving her a warning. Some of

671
00:29:35,720 --> 00:29:38,240
Speaker 3: Joey's friends from work told him that she spent much

672
00:29:38,240 --> 00:29:41,280
Speaker 3: of her shift running back and forth from the bathroom crying.

673
00:29:41,760 --> 00:29:43,720
Speaker 3: I would feel bad if she wasn't such a psycho.

674
00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:46,960
Speaker 3: I'm sorry she got talked. She started crying because she

675
00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:48,680
Speaker 3: she got talked to about her behavior.

676
00:29:48,960 --> 00:29:49,800
Speaker 2: Hey listen, Jess.

677
00:29:51,080 --> 00:29:54,440
Speaker 3: I don't want to listen, really, I just want to

678
00:29:54,520 --> 00:29:57,840
Speaker 3: get what. Do you want to join me? No one

679
00:29:57,880 --> 00:29:58,760
Speaker 3: wants to join me.

680
00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:02,280
Speaker 2: I'm always alone. We're gonna be alone for all him.

681
00:30:02,160 --> 00:30:04,520
Speaker 3: I mean mean me alone.

682
00:30:04,600 --> 00:30:06,200
Speaker 2: I'm naven alone and try.

683
00:30:06,960 --> 00:30:08,960
Speaker 3: Joe didn't want to go back to work, and he

684
00:30:09,080 --> 00:30:11,840
Speaker 3: was really pissed that she didn't lose her job. He

685
00:30:11,960 --> 00:30:13,880
Speaker 3: wanted to talk to his boss about it, but his

686
00:30:13,920 --> 00:30:16,280
Speaker 3: friends talked him out of it. I guess Jess had

687
00:30:16,280 --> 00:30:18,480
Speaker 3: a really rough time in high school and dropped out

688
00:30:18,480 --> 00:30:21,200
Speaker 3: of college, and the boss has been giving her second

689
00:30:21,280 --> 00:30:24,880
Speaker 3: chances since she was a teenager. So Joey was all

690
00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:28,320
Speaker 3: set to quit until this happened.

691
00:30:28,360 --> 00:30:30,600
Speaker 2: Oh don't, don't, don't whoa.

692
00:30:30,920 --> 00:30:33,120
Speaker 3: We were hanging out at Joey's house later that night

693
00:30:33,160 --> 00:30:36,480
Speaker 3: and his phone started blowing up. She was calling him

694
00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:40,320
Speaker 3: and she wouldn't stop. She left text messages like ain't

695
00:30:40,360 --> 00:30:42,680
Speaker 3: now you're home, I see you a car. Oh, and

696
00:30:42,720 --> 00:30:45,080
Speaker 3: he got freaked out and went to the window. There

697
00:30:45,120 --> 00:30:47,840
Speaker 3: she was standing in the driveway on her phone. He

698
00:30:47,920 --> 00:30:49,800
Speaker 3: wanted to call the police, but I just told him

699
00:30:49,800 --> 00:30:51,959
Speaker 3: we could go outside and tell her to go away,

700
00:30:52,240 --> 00:30:55,200
Speaker 3: so we did. There is a little bit left to

701
00:30:55,360 --> 00:30:57,320
Speaker 3: this story. What do you think is gonna happen?

702
00:30:58,360 --> 00:31:02,840
Speaker 2: I'm feeling some show. Oh jeez, I think so too right.

703
00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:05,280
Speaker 3: I think she's gonna get all upset and they're gonna

704
00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:09,160
Speaker 3: call it a polish I'll think, And then hopefully she

705
00:31:09,200 --> 00:31:09,959
Speaker 3: will get fired.

706
00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:13,680
Speaker 2: That would be great, and then she like great, he's

707
00:31:13,680 --> 00:31:16,200
Speaker 2: supposed to be with me. I don't understanding off.

708
00:31:16,440 --> 00:31:18,120
Speaker 3: From my job, and you stole the guy who was

709
00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:19,360
Speaker 3: supposed to be my boyfriend.

710
00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:21,400
Speaker 2: She's aid the if you should arrest her for life

711
00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:21,960
Speaker 2: or forever?

712
00:31:22,320 --> 00:31:26,160
Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, but there's a little bit left ooh.

713
00:31:26,200 --> 00:31:30,160
Speaker 3: But she started yelling at Joey, telling him how I

714
00:31:30,280 --> 00:31:33,200
Speaker 3: was a liar. No, she never said any of those things.

715
00:31:33,400 --> 00:31:35,440
Speaker 3: She said she still wanted to be his friend and

716
00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:37,520
Speaker 3: that I was getting in the way of their friendship.

717
00:31:37,880 --> 00:31:40,360
Speaker 3: Joey told her to f off, essentially, and that he

718
00:31:40,400 --> 00:31:42,880
Speaker 3: doesn't want her to speak to him anymore. He told

719
00:31:42,880 --> 00:31:45,400
Speaker 3: her if she didn't leave, he'd call the police. So

720
00:31:45,520 --> 00:31:48,480
Speaker 3: she did, but not without knocking down his family's trash

721
00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:51,160
Speaker 3: barrels first. When he went in the next day, she

722
00:31:51,320 --> 00:31:53,960
Speaker 3: wasn't there, even though she was scheduled to be. She

723
00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:56,360
Speaker 3: called the boss and quit after she left his house.

724
00:31:56,880 --> 00:31:59,000
Speaker 3: I don't know what the heck was wrong with this

725
00:31:59,040 --> 00:32:01,600
Speaker 3: girl and why she was so obsessed with my boyfriend,

726
00:32:01,920 --> 00:32:04,480
Speaker 3: but she's out of our lives now. I know some

727
00:32:04,520 --> 00:32:07,080
Speaker 3: people were saying Joey seemed to be loving the attention

728
00:32:07,360 --> 00:32:09,920
Speaker 3: or he was cheating, but if he was, I feel

729
00:32:09,960 --> 00:32:13,160
Speaker 3: like someone like Jess wouldn't have a problem spilling that,

730
00:32:13,960 --> 00:32:16,360
Speaker 3: And Joey's kind of a dumb butt. He wouldn't know

731
00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:18,600
Speaker 3: if someone was flirting with them, even if they danced

732
00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:21,080
Speaker 3: around and lingerie in front of him. So I trust him.

733
00:32:21,160 --> 00:32:24,800
Speaker 3: I mean she kind of did. I mean, I sent

734
00:32:24,960 --> 00:32:26,920
Speaker 3: him a picture of her in a bikini.

735
00:32:27,040 --> 00:32:29,960
Speaker 4: I've said it time and time again. Men are dumb.

736
00:32:30,320 --> 00:32:31,280
Speaker 4: We're really dumb.

737
00:32:31,400 --> 00:32:34,760
Speaker 3: You just gotta get smarter, dumb, bar get smarter.

738
00:32:34,960 --> 00:32:38,320
Speaker 4: Du Sometimes you gotta get We learn, We learned, we learned,

739
00:32:38,360 --> 00:32:41,800
Speaker 4: But we start, we start, we start very dumb stupid.

740
00:32:42,280 --> 00:32:44,880
Speaker 3: Joey may still quit his job just because his work

741
00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:47,560
Speaker 3: friends seem a little iffy about just quitting. But we'll see.

742
00:32:47,840 --> 00:32:50,920
Speaker 3: Thanks again for the responses, and that is the end

743
00:32:51,080 --> 00:32:52,200
Speaker 3: of that story.

744
00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:55,480
Speaker 4: Folks, Especially when it comes to flirting. Men are really dumb.

745
00:32:56,240 --> 00:32:56,840
Speaker 3: You're dumby.

746
00:32:56,960 --> 00:32:58,680
Speaker 4: You can literally tell us, hey, we are we're into you,

747
00:32:58,720 --> 00:33:00,400
Speaker 4: and we like you like I don't know. I don't

748
00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:02,520
Speaker 4: think she's in me. I don't think she likes me.

749
00:33:02,880 --> 00:33:06,880
Speaker 3: I don't know. But uh, wowee wow. I mean glad

750
00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:11,160
Speaker 3: that Opie's you know, finally got her boyfriend to understand

751
00:33:11,280 --> 00:33:14,800
Speaker 3: and realize what was going on. Yeah, because a Yai

752
00:33:15,200 --> 00:33:16,880
Speaker 3: just was a problem maker.

753
00:33:17,080 --> 00:33:19,040
Speaker 2: And I'm glad that she's the one who quit because

754
00:33:19,200 --> 00:33:19,520
Speaker 2: me too.

755
00:33:19,920 --> 00:33:24,400
Speaker 3: Everyone would, Yeah, everyone would maybe you know, fault Ope's

756
00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:27,320
Speaker 3: boyfriend for it. But you know now, she quit on

757
00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:28,000
Speaker 3: her own accord.

758
00:33:28,320 --> 00:33:28,760
Speaker 2: He did it.

759
00:33:29,120 --> 00:33:29,800
Speaker 3: Oh that's good.

760
00:33:30,000 --> 00:33:31,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, But folks, that's.

761
00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:33,520
Speaker 3: The end of that story. And I think we've got

762
00:33:33,600 --> 00:33:34,720
Speaker 3: another one.

763
00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:38,600
Speaker 1: Oh hey, John Ogi host here, We're gonna get back

764
00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:39,280
Speaker 1: to this episode.

765
00:33:39,360 --> 00:33:41,080
Speaker 2: But a quick three minute break of ads from a

766
00:33:41,120 --> 00:33:43,840
Speaker 2: sponsor's keeping the show alive. I refuse to.

767
00:33:43,800 --> 00:33:46,960
Speaker 1: Rekindle with my best friend after our fallout.

768
00:33:47,160 --> 00:33:49,040
Speaker 3: It ain't burning anymore.

769
00:33:49,240 --> 00:33:50,400
Speaker 2: Ah.

770
00:33:50,440 --> 00:33:52,160
Speaker 1: My best friend and I have been friends since we

771
00:33:52,160 --> 00:33:53,840
Speaker 1: were twelve. We're both thirty six now.

772
00:33:53,920 --> 00:33:54,160
Speaker 2: Dang.

773
00:33:54,320 --> 00:33:57,120
Speaker 1: When I say best friends, I mean people know our

774
00:33:57,240 --> 00:34:01,640
Speaker 1: names together, like, oh, it's Kaylee me and Layla my friend.

775
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:04,280
Speaker 1: So it's Kaylee and Laila did blah blah blah, et cetera,

776
00:34:04,280 --> 00:34:06,600
Speaker 1: et cetera. By the way, this comes from Kate and

777
00:34:06,680 --> 00:34:08,840
Speaker 1: Severn And if you want to submit your own stories,

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Speaker 1: go to the r slash Okay storytime.

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Speaker 2: Sep reread it.

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00:34:11,040 --> 00:34:13,120
Speaker 1: So in twenty twenty three, she texted me to tell

781
00:34:13,160 --> 00:34:15,200
Speaker 1: me she had been talking to a mutual person we know,

782
00:34:15,680 --> 00:34:19,640
Speaker 1: and they were going to make it official on igooooooooo.

783
00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:23,040
Speaker 2: I was so excited because I had no idea.

784
00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:26,000
Speaker 1: I did have the thought I wish you would have confided,

785
00:34:26,280 --> 00:34:28,600
Speaker 1: but she had been wildly private her whole life with

786
00:34:28,640 --> 00:34:30,640
Speaker 1: big things, and I was just happy. She told me

787
00:34:30,719 --> 00:34:33,880
Speaker 1: before posting. I actually was at work when she told me,

788
00:34:34,080 --> 00:34:38,480
Speaker 1: but I called her because a text that big is coraze.

789
00:34:38,520 --> 00:34:39,640
Speaker 2: We gotta talk girl.

790
00:34:39,760 --> 00:34:41,560
Speaker 3: We got a check, I got a check, we got

791
00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:41,879
Speaker 3: a call.

792
00:34:42,280 --> 00:34:44,160
Speaker 1: I told her, I was so excited, and we need

793
00:34:44,200 --> 00:34:46,520
Speaker 1: a girl's day, a sap to catch up and hear

794
00:34:46,760 --> 00:34:49,480
Speaker 1: all about I actually got off the phone and told

795
00:34:49,520 --> 00:34:51,440
Speaker 1: my other friend who worked with me at the time,

796
00:34:51,880 --> 00:34:54,319
Speaker 1: how happy I was for her, and also how I

797
00:34:54,360 --> 00:34:56,600
Speaker 1: thought they were probably going to get married.

798
00:34:57,120 --> 00:34:59,359
Speaker 3: I could see it and see it all.

799
00:35:00,560 --> 00:35:02,720
Speaker 1: We are both in our thirties and our whole lives.

800
00:35:02,760 --> 00:35:05,040
Speaker 1: She has wanted to be a mom, probably more than

801
00:35:05,040 --> 00:35:08,480
Speaker 1: a wife. I was happy she had someone finally, and

802
00:35:08,520 --> 00:35:10,880
Speaker 1: from what I knew of him, I could see it working.

803
00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:14,400
Speaker 1: Both very smart, nice looking, and both opinionated, so I

804
00:35:14,480 --> 00:35:16,840
Speaker 1: know he could handle her. He's been around for years,

805
00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:18,719
Speaker 1: but we never really hung out with him and he

806
00:35:18,760 --> 00:35:21,680
Speaker 1: has had some difficulties in life over the years but

807
00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:25,040
Speaker 1: has come back around and is doing amazing. Now, okay,

808
00:35:25,680 --> 00:35:28,440
Speaker 1: all of that to get to this, So we plan

809
00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:31,440
Speaker 1: our girls evening a few weeks later. We have a

810
00:35:31,480 --> 00:35:34,319
Speaker 1: spot we always get dinner at, then walk over to

811
00:35:34,400 --> 00:35:35,760
Speaker 1: a coffee shop to drink.

812
00:35:35,960 --> 00:35:36,200
Speaker 2: Chat.

813
00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:40,719
Speaker 1: While at dinner, I was like, girl, tell me everything, Yeah.

814
00:35:40,560 --> 00:35:42,480
Speaker 2: Spill the tea, Billy bill it.

815
00:35:42,840 --> 00:35:45,000
Speaker 1: As she was telling me how they started talking, I

816
00:35:45,080 --> 00:35:47,279
Speaker 1: was tearing up a lot because of how happy I

817
00:35:47,400 --> 00:35:47,839
Speaker 1: was for her.

818
00:35:48,120 --> 00:35:49,480
Speaker 2: She comes from a broken family.

819
00:35:49,600 --> 00:35:52,840
Speaker 1: We've waited so long, and I was just happy it

820
00:35:52,920 --> 00:35:54,440
Speaker 1: was finally happening for her.

821
00:35:54,840 --> 00:35:57,200
Speaker 2: I super quick gut check Sophia.

822
00:35:57,239 --> 00:36:01,000
Speaker 1: I feel like they're literally just announcing it's Instagram official.

823
00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:03,719
Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't know if I would. She's like

824
00:36:04,160 --> 00:36:05,120
Speaker 1: hyping it up so much.

825
00:36:05,160 --> 00:36:08,280
Speaker 2: I would be a fraid do that because if something does.

826
00:36:08,760 --> 00:36:11,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'd be like, this is really like so excited

827
00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:12,040
Speaker 3: for you.

828
00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:14,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, but like it's happening.

829
00:36:14,640 --> 00:36:16,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know if we need to say it's happened.

830
00:36:16,360 --> 00:36:19,680
Speaker 3: I mean, you just became Instagram official. That means nothing.

831
00:36:19,960 --> 00:36:23,239
Speaker 2: Get married now do it immediately?

832
00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:27,120
Speaker 3: You're you're having a kid right now.

833
00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:31,960
Speaker 1: Impregnant, married with four impregnacious macious.

834
00:36:32,239 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 2: Yikes, that's the spell Gary, spell of love. Now.

835
00:36:35,800 --> 00:36:38,640
Speaker 1: Throughout a discussion, she said something really strange. I can't

836
00:36:38,680 --> 00:36:41,080
Speaker 1: remember exactly what I said, but it was something in

837
00:36:41,160 --> 00:36:44,160
Speaker 1: passing about like when we all get together and interacting

838
00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:46,719
Speaker 1: or something in the future. I'm community minded, and of

839
00:36:46,760 --> 00:36:48,799
Speaker 1: course I want to get to know the guy my

840
00:36:48,840 --> 00:36:51,440
Speaker 1: best friend is talking to. That's when she said the

841
00:36:51,520 --> 00:36:54,719
Speaker 1: strange thing. Well, you know, you have to be careful

842
00:36:54,880 --> 00:36:56,480
Speaker 1: when you're around taking men.

843
00:36:56,680 --> 00:37:00,840
Speaker 3: What like you personally or like you generally?

844
00:37:01,719 --> 00:37:05,160
Speaker 2: It sounds like, uh, this was this was a specific toop.

845
00:37:05,760 --> 00:37:07,720
Speaker 2: That's weird. Weird.

846
00:37:08,200 --> 00:37:11,080
Speaker 1: I heard her and was instantly confused, but so excited

847
00:37:11,080 --> 00:37:12,759
Speaker 1: for her. I just brushed it off. As we were

848
00:37:12,800 --> 00:37:15,799
Speaker 1: talking around the shopping center. Kept bugging me like what

849
00:37:15,880 --> 00:37:18,800
Speaker 1: else could she possibly mean by saying that, And also

850
00:37:18,880 --> 00:37:21,160
Speaker 1: she should know me better than anyone that I don't

851
00:37:21,160 --> 00:37:24,600
Speaker 1: want anyone's man ever, but especially not hers. I kept

852
00:37:24,680 --> 00:37:27,399
Speaker 1: justifying it into my head, but finally just asked her

853
00:37:27,560 --> 00:37:30,719
Speaker 1: straight out what she meant, and like, does she not

854
00:37:30,920 --> 00:37:33,520
Speaker 1: want me to get to know her boyfriend? She kind

855
00:37:33,520 --> 00:37:36,879
Speaker 1: of doubled down and said, like, well, you know, it's

856
00:37:37,000 --> 00:37:38,879
Speaker 1: just different now, like, well you.

857
00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:43,120
Speaker 3: Know, now explain I don't know, but like, well, you know,

858
00:37:43,440 --> 00:37:47,160
Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't know anything. You're being confusing.

859
00:37:47,800 --> 00:37:49,520
Speaker 3: Oh you heard of my feelings?

860
00:37:49,640 --> 00:37:54,440
Speaker 1: You you you ah keeon keon.

861
00:37:55,040 --> 00:37:56,160
Speaker 3: I've been shaken up.

862
00:37:56,440 --> 00:37:59,959
Speaker 2: He shook me up. I shook the baby.

863
00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:02,319
Speaker 3: I've got shaken baby syndrome. No no, no no no

864
00:38:02,320 --> 00:38:03,120
Speaker 3: no no no no.

865
00:38:03,520 --> 00:38:07,200
Speaker 2: She is I cast You're actually twenty four and guys

866
00:38:07,440 --> 00:38:07,919
Speaker 2: knew you.

867
00:38:07,800 --> 00:38:10,840
Speaker 3: Are no longer baby. Anyway, what happened?

868
00:38:11,120 --> 00:38:15,120
Speaker 1: I still didn't get it, but thoughts whatever, we will

869
00:38:15,120 --> 00:38:17,319
Speaker 1: figure out the dynamic when it comes to it. She's

870
00:38:17,360 --> 00:38:20,960
Speaker 1: probably just overthinking and it's all new. So here is

871
00:38:21,040 --> 00:38:23,799
Speaker 1: where it got the most hurtful. So after that conversation,

872
00:38:24,120 --> 00:38:26,440
Speaker 1: it did kind of hurt my feelings because I felt

873
00:38:26,480 --> 00:38:29,000
Speaker 1: she should know me better than anyone. But I just

874
00:38:29,000 --> 00:38:32,640
Speaker 1: justified it and honestly gas lit myself into thinking, Wow,

875
00:38:32,680 --> 00:38:34,879
Speaker 1: maybe I come off as a flirt sometimes when I'm

876
00:38:34,880 --> 00:38:36,960
Speaker 1: trying to connect, i'd be nice, and no one has

877
00:38:37,080 --> 00:38:41,640
Speaker 1: told me anyway. So they do indeed get engaged after

878
00:38:41,680 --> 00:38:42,560
Speaker 1: about three months?

879
00:38:43,640 --> 00:38:46,960
Speaker 3: Wait, what how long have they been dating.

880
00:38:47,160 --> 00:38:47,719
Speaker 2: Three months long?

881
00:38:47,840 --> 00:38:48,040
Speaker 1: Was she?

882
00:38:48,600 --> 00:38:49,040
Speaker 4: Huh?

883
00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:53,440
Speaker 1: Three months officially? Like three months Instagram official exclusive?

884
00:38:54,800 --> 00:38:55,719
Speaker 3: How long before that?

885
00:38:56,800 --> 00:38:59,839
Speaker 2: Just a little a little bit of this? What is this?

886
00:39:00,000 --> 00:39:01,200
Speaker 2: A little bit of this, a little bit of that.

887
00:39:01,320 --> 00:39:03,680
Speaker 3: What is this? That's crazy?

888
00:39:04,040 --> 00:39:07,200
Speaker 1: And I found out about it via Instagram. We didn't

889
00:39:07,200 --> 00:39:11,000
Speaker 1: get the pre Instagram the call this time, not a

890
00:39:11,000 --> 00:39:13,360
Speaker 1: call or text from anyone. And it was down the

891
00:39:13,360 --> 00:39:15,280
Speaker 1: street from my house, out of park.

892
00:39:15,680 --> 00:39:17,280
Speaker 2: Oh if he could have seen it through her window.

893
00:39:17,840 --> 00:39:18,600
Speaker 2: God sakes.

894
00:39:18,920 --> 00:39:21,480
Speaker 3: Wait, they had the wedding, and I thought they just

895
00:39:21,480 --> 00:39:24,320
Speaker 3: didn't announce, Like they didn't tell you that the wedding

896
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:28,239
Speaker 3: was happening, and you saw that it was happening on Instagram.

897
00:39:28,280 --> 00:39:29,400
Speaker 3: You weren't even invited.

898
00:39:29,520 --> 00:39:31,120
Speaker 2: I think it was the proposal. I don't.

899
00:39:31,600 --> 00:39:33,200
Speaker 3: Oh, maybe it could be a proposal.

900
00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:35,279
Speaker 2: We'll see, we'll see. I could have helped set things up.

901
00:39:35,400 --> 00:39:37,640
Speaker 1: It didn't surprise me, though, because not once that I

902
00:39:37,680 --> 00:39:40,520
Speaker 1: get to interact with them while dating, and definitely didn't

903
00:39:40,560 --> 00:39:43,160
Speaker 1: have that friendship with him, even though he definitely knows

904
00:39:43,200 --> 00:39:45,320
Speaker 1: how tight she and I are. I had a twinge

905
00:39:45,320 --> 00:39:48,319
Speaker 1: of hurts, but then just told myself, Hey, life doesn't

906
00:39:48,360 --> 00:39:50,839
Speaker 1: always turn out to meet your childhood expectations.

907
00:39:51,080 --> 00:39:52,640
Speaker 2: I'll just focus on helping with the wedding.

908
00:39:52,680 --> 00:39:57,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're yes, it's going to be so great, Sophia,

909
00:39:57,120 --> 00:40:00,000
Speaker 1: because the wedding is going to be completely different.

910
00:40:02,239 --> 00:40:04,520
Speaker 3: Yeah. Are you even gonna be like one of the bridesmaids?

911
00:40:04,640 --> 00:40:07,600
Speaker 3: Y'all are supposedly such great friends.

912
00:40:07,800 --> 00:40:09,880
Speaker 2: Since twelve years old? Y?

913
00:40:09,960 --> 00:40:11,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, twelve to thirty six.

914
00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:12,560
Speaker 2: That's time.

915
00:40:12,760 --> 00:40:13,640
Speaker 3: That's a lot of time.

916
00:40:14,200 --> 00:40:14,959
Speaker 2: It's a lot of time.

917
00:40:15,200 --> 00:40:19,880
Speaker 1: Well, it got continuously confusing and hurtful from there. She

918
00:40:20,000 --> 00:40:22,399
Speaker 1: asked me to be a bridesmaid. I didn't expect maid

919
00:40:22,440 --> 00:40:25,400
Speaker 1: of honor because of her sisters, and that's who she

920
00:40:25,440 --> 00:40:25,839
Speaker 1: did pick.

921
00:40:26,160 --> 00:40:28,200
Speaker 2: So of course I was like, okay, I'm ready to

922
00:40:28,200 --> 00:40:28,840
Speaker 2: help with anything.

923
00:40:29,080 --> 00:40:30,759
Speaker 1: She kind of kept me out of some things that

924
00:40:30,800 --> 00:40:33,759
Speaker 1: I could tell, or when I gave a suggestion, would

925
00:40:33,760 --> 00:40:35,640
Speaker 1: shoot it down and make me feel like I was

926
00:40:35,680 --> 00:40:39,120
Speaker 1: being overbearing. I was so confused, so I started asking

927
00:40:39,200 --> 00:40:41,920
Speaker 1: other friends who I had been in their weddings if

928
00:40:41,960 --> 00:40:44,239
Speaker 1: they had one ever felt like I was flirting with

929
00:40:44,280 --> 00:40:47,680
Speaker 1: their man and two overbearing when helping them plan the wedding.

930
00:40:48,000 --> 00:40:50,400
Speaker 2: All of them said absolutely not.

931
00:40:51,120 --> 00:40:54,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, and some even reminded me they let me stay

932
00:40:54,000 --> 00:40:55,960
Speaker 1: in their houses and go on vacation with them.

933
00:40:56,040 --> 00:40:58,439
Speaker 3: They were like, we were so comfortable that you could

934
00:40:58,440 --> 00:40:59,719
Speaker 3: have slept in the bed with us.

935
00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:03,520
Speaker 2: Ooh, now that's a good friend respecting boundaries right there. Yeah,

936
00:41:03,560 --> 00:41:05,560
Speaker 2: if I do say so myself. Sounds funny.

937
00:41:05,600 --> 00:41:08,120
Speaker 1: But I hadn't even thought of that, and these friends

938
00:41:08,160 --> 00:41:10,560
Speaker 1: I hadn't even known as long as Leila. That's when

939
00:41:10,560 --> 00:41:12,360
Speaker 1: I started to get mad and not want to be

940
00:41:12,440 --> 00:41:15,279
Speaker 1: in Layla's wedding any longer. I felt every time I

941
00:41:15,320 --> 00:41:17,520
Speaker 1: turned around, she was treating me in a distant way,

942
00:41:17,680 --> 00:41:19,600
Speaker 1: as if I was going to ruin everything for her.

943
00:41:19,960 --> 00:41:22,560
Speaker 1: I did, however, persist on because I felt like we've

944
00:41:22,600 --> 00:41:25,640
Speaker 1: been friends too long for me to be dumb and withdraw.

945
00:41:26,280 --> 00:41:29,360
Speaker 1: I did finally feel a part of the group and everything.

946
00:41:29,600 --> 00:41:31,880
Speaker 1: When I helped her older sister playing her bridle shower.

947
00:41:32,040 --> 00:41:33,800
Speaker 1: They did schedule it on my birthday.

948
00:41:34,360 --> 00:41:34,720
Speaker 4: Huh.

949
00:41:34,760 --> 00:41:36,000
Speaker 2: I never acknowledged that.

950
00:41:36,600 --> 00:41:39,520
Speaker 3: What They never acknowledged that he was your birthday?

951
00:41:39,719 --> 00:41:40,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, we got to lead.

952
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:43,239
Speaker 3: They weren't even like, hey, girl, happy birthday, glad we

953
00:41:43,239 --> 00:41:47,520
Speaker 3: could celebrate this thing on your birthday. Not even a cake,

954
00:41:47,800 --> 00:41:50,560
Speaker 3: no presence. I don't like these aren't your friends.

955
00:41:51,280 --> 00:41:52,799
Speaker 1: We have to schedule over your birth And now I

956
00:41:52,800 --> 00:41:55,520
Speaker 1: don't know if they didn't at the event, but maybe

957
00:41:55,800 --> 00:41:57,279
Speaker 1: leading up to it, like planning the.

958
00:41:58,000 --> 00:42:01,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, I didn't seem like that totally totally easy to do,

959
00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:02,920
Speaker 3: and they didn't.

960
00:42:02,840 --> 00:42:06,239
Speaker 1: Well, And they definitely know my birthday because theirs are

961
00:42:06,280 --> 00:42:10,240
Speaker 1: all in that month too. But I told myself, Hayley,

962
00:42:10,560 --> 00:42:13,799
Speaker 1: it's life. I went all out, focusing on decorating the

963
00:42:13,880 --> 00:42:16,240
Speaker 1: plane cake. Her sister got her with a gold leaf

964
00:42:16,480 --> 00:42:19,360
Speaker 1: and painted the sugar flowers to match her colors. I

965
00:42:19,400 --> 00:42:21,799
Speaker 1: got personalized gifts for the guests and went all out

966
00:42:21,840 --> 00:42:24,520
Speaker 1: on her gifts, getting her beautiful things from Italy, et cetera,

967
00:42:24,560 --> 00:42:26,600
Speaker 1: et cetera. They don't have a lot of money and

968
00:42:26,680 --> 00:42:29,160
Speaker 1: neither do I, but for my best friends once in

969
00:42:29,200 --> 00:42:31,880
Speaker 1: a lifetime, I wanted its special.

970
00:42:32,320 --> 00:42:34,759
Speaker 3: OPI is going all out and they suck.

971
00:42:35,239 --> 00:42:38,760
Speaker 1: Dare I say it, Sophia say it? Ohpi is a

972
00:42:38,760 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 1: girl's girl.

973
00:42:39,800 --> 00:42:42,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh, he is a girl's girl. Her friend. Not

974
00:42:42,840 --> 00:42:46,840
Speaker 3: a girl's girl, not a girl's girl, not even a

975
00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:47,840
Speaker 3: girl squirrels.

976
00:42:48,560 --> 00:42:51,840
Speaker 1: Ouch, you heard it here first. She also just tossed

977
00:42:51,840 --> 00:42:53,680
Speaker 1: aside my gift as soon as she opened it.

978
00:42:54,480 --> 00:42:56,000
Speaker 2: What it was from Italy?

979
00:42:56,440 --> 00:42:57,520
Speaker 3: It was from Italy.

980
00:42:57,840 --> 00:43:02,600
Speaker 1: It was I still did said, Hailey, chill, life doesn't

981
00:43:02,640 --> 00:43:05,200
Speaker 1: turn out how you imagined. It kept getting worse, and

982
00:43:05,280 --> 00:43:07,560
Speaker 1: I did ask her for a friend date and I

983
00:43:07,640 --> 00:43:10,520
Speaker 1: confronted it a bit, but she just told me our

984
00:43:10,640 --> 00:43:13,200
Speaker 1: whole lives. When she was in a room with her

985
00:43:13,239 --> 00:43:16,840
Speaker 1: and others, she felt like I dominated conversations and she

986
00:43:16,920 --> 00:43:19,560
Speaker 1: didn't want that feeling when with her boyfriend. So we

987
00:43:19,680 --> 00:43:22,680
Speaker 1: finally have an answer to all of these comments in

988
00:43:22,719 --> 00:43:27,080
Speaker 1: this attitude. But all the other friends didn't say that,

989
00:43:27,560 --> 00:43:30,399
Speaker 1: so I was even more confused because her whole lives.

990
00:43:30,520 --> 00:43:32,360
Speaker 1: I've been trying to include her in things with my

991
00:43:32,440 --> 00:43:34,640
Speaker 1: other friends and struggled with the fact that she didn't

992
00:43:34,680 --> 00:43:37,720
Speaker 1: seem interested or wanting to get to know them. After

993
00:43:37,760 --> 00:43:40,600
Speaker 1: that convo, I was done. I definitely didn't want to

994
00:43:40,640 --> 00:43:43,160
Speaker 1: be in the wedding because I didn't feel wanted, but

995
00:43:43,360 --> 00:43:46,120
Speaker 1: if I pulled out, it would be obvious because everyone

996
00:43:46,200 --> 00:43:49,920
Speaker 1: knows us as friends and even like this. Actually I

997
00:43:50,080 --> 00:43:52,640
Speaker 1: was her only friend in the wedding and she only

998
00:43:52,680 --> 00:43:55,400
Speaker 1: had her sister's and niece, So long story shorts. In

999
00:43:55,480 --> 00:43:58,600
Speaker 1: the wedding and all day that day felt like I

1000
00:43:58,800 --> 00:44:02,000
Speaker 1: was in some twilight zone dream, so disconnected from my

1001
00:44:02,080 --> 00:44:04,960
Speaker 1: friend and the day we had dreamed about our whole

1002
00:44:05,360 --> 00:44:09,640
Speaker 1: lit I mean, just really quickly, like Sophia, Yes, let's say,

1003
00:44:09,719 --> 00:44:10,240
Speaker 1: let's say.

1004
00:44:10,120 --> 00:44:13,360
Speaker 2: We're right smack right before the wedding.

1005
00:44:13,560 --> 00:44:17,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, what what would you do as a girl's girl?

1006
00:44:17,440 --> 00:44:20,520
Speaker 1: Yourself sels girl? How would you handle the situations? Would

1007
00:44:20,560 --> 00:44:21,520
Speaker 1: you not attend the wedding?

1008
00:44:21,560 --> 00:44:22,640
Speaker 2: Talk to her? What are we doing?

1009
00:44:22,719 --> 00:44:26,799
Speaker 3: I would have had that conversation way earlier, like way earlier. Oh,

1010
00:44:26,920 --> 00:44:28,799
Speaker 3: he is in this kind of frame of mind of

1011
00:44:28,880 --> 00:44:31,120
Speaker 3: like I don't have to talk about it. If I

1012
00:44:31,160 --> 00:44:35,520
Speaker 3: don't talk about it, it will go away. Kaylee, don't

1013
00:44:35,560 --> 00:44:38,560
Speaker 3: talk about it, don't do it. Barry your feelings and

1014
00:44:38,600 --> 00:44:41,000
Speaker 3: it's like, no, girl, if this is your best friend

1015
00:44:41,160 --> 00:44:43,960
Speaker 3: and you don't know why she's acting like this, talk

1016
00:44:44,000 --> 00:44:45,720
Speaker 3: to her about it and say like, hey, I feel

1017
00:44:45,719 --> 00:44:47,879
Speaker 3: like you know, there's a little bit of distance between us,

1018
00:44:48,840 --> 00:44:50,880
Speaker 3: and I never wanted you to feel like I like

1019
00:44:51,320 --> 00:44:54,440
Speaker 3: dominated a room, but I will actively try not to

1020
00:44:54,520 --> 00:44:55,640
Speaker 3: do that with you and your partner.

1021
00:44:55,920 --> 00:44:56,440
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1022
00:44:56,600 --> 00:44:58,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, like if if you if you felt that way,

1023
00:44:58,520 --> 00:45:00,479
Speaker 1: I would have loved to have known. So I could

1024
00:45:00,640 --> 00:45:03,160
Speaker 1: you know, as a friend, try to uh.

1025
00:45:03,360 --> 00:45:05,600
Speaker 2: Include you more, includes you more, and.

1026
00:45:05,520 --> 00:45:08,240
Speaker 1: Just you know, could try because I care about you. Yeah,

1027
00:45:08,360 --> 00:45:11,680
Speaker 1: but no, but now you pushed me out. Well let's

1028
00:45:11,680 --> 00:45:12,440
Speaker 1: see what else we got.

1029
00:45:12,480 --> 00:45:14,160
Speaker 2: Hey, it's Sam. We're to get back to these stories.

1030
00:45:14,200 --> 00:45:16,239
Speaker 2: But here's three minutes of bads from our sponsors.

1031
00:45:17,120 --> 00:45:19,680
Speaker 1: After the wedding, I decided to just distance myself and

1032
00:45:19,719 --> 00:45:21,960
Speaker 1: honestly thought that she wouldn't try to reach out anyways.

1033
00:45:22,360 --> 00:45:24,840
Speaker 1: She did surprise me, and after the honeymoon she texted

1034
00:45:24,840 --> 00:45:26,200
Speaker 1: me saying thanks, but that.

1035
00:45:26,200 --> 00:45:27,560
Speaker 2: Was it thumbs up emoji.

1036
00:45:27,840 --> 00:45:31,680
Speaker 1: Mmmm, let's hit her back with that, kay, kay, okay,

1037
00:45:32,880 --> 00:45:34,520
Speaker 1: the worst text anyone get?

1038
00:45:34,960 --> 00:45:36,000
Speaker 2: Pape?

1039
00:45:36,120 --> 00:45:39,480
Speaker 1: Oh, whoa, that's crude all that's a that's a special

1040
00:45:39,640 --> 00:45:41,000
Speaker 1: kind of evil right there.

1041
00:45:41,520 --> 00:45:42,359
Speaker 2: So over the rest of.

1042
00:45:42,280 --> 00:45:44,279
Speaker 1: That year, I would hear small things going on in

1043
00:45:44,280 --> 00:45:46,319
Speaker 1: her life, like they had to take his young son

1044
00:45:46,400 --> 00:45:48,520
Speaker 1: in a few months after they got married due to

1045
00:45:48,560 --> 00:45:51,160
Speaker 1: his mom being unstable. But all seemed good and she

1046
00:45:51,239 --> 00:45:54,359
Speaker 1: seemed happy from her Instagram post. But I did wonder

1047
00:45:54,400 --> 00:45:57,040
Speaker 1: if she was. Okay, that's a lot of changes all

1048
00:45:57,080 --> 00:45:59,959
Speaker 1: at once. Once again, remember she got engaged three months

1049
00:46:00,120 --> 00:46:03,319
Speaker 1: after officially starting dating don't forget that.

1050
00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:06,200
Speaker 3: Part if Yeah, it feels like none of her relationships

1051
00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:12,400
Speaker 3: are very stable and she's actively destabilizing her friendship with Opie.

1052
00:46:12,680 --> 00:46:13,319
Speaker 2: That is so true.

1053
00:46:13,520 --> 00:46:17,240
Speaker 1: The most stable, the most song lasting. I also wonder

1054
00:46:17,400 --> 00:46:20,040
Speaker 1: if it was three months to engagement, how much time

1055
00:46:20,040 --> 00:46:24,239
Speaker 1: did they have before getting married and before her becoming

1056
00:46:24,840 --> 00:46:27,960
Speaker 1: the It seems like full custody stepmom, which wasn't part

1057
00:46:28,000 --> 00:46:29,600
Speaker 1: of the plan because the mom was taking care of

1058
00:46:29,640 --> 00:46:30,080
Speaker 1: the kids.

1059
00:46:30,120 --> 00:46:30,880
Speaker 2: So true.

1060
00:46:31,560 --> 00:46:35,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, Oh, that just doesn't feel like thought through it all.

1061
00:46:36,360 --> 00:46:38,759
Speaker 1: I would have to agree with that. That would be

1062
00:46:39,000 --> 00:46:40,080
Speaker 1: a lot to handle.

1063
00:46:40,360 --> 00:46:41,520
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1064
00:46:41,560 --> 00:46:44,200
Speaker 1: Well, then one day I go to work and a

1065
00:46:44,239 --> 00:46:46,719
Speaker 1: mutual friend of ours said to me, isn't it so

1066
00:46:46,800 --> 00:46:48,520
Speaker 1: exciting Layla's having twins?

1067
00:46:49,200 --> 00:46:52,440
Speaker 3: Dude, she didn't tell you that's not your friend anymore,

1068
00:46:53,600 --> 00:46:58,320
Speaker 3: Like that's not your friend at the point when I mean, honestly,

1069
00:46:58,320 --> 00:47:01,000
Speaker 3: I feel like, even before this, I'd be kind of

1070
00:47:01,560 --> 00:47:04,719
Speaker 3: on the side of, oh, this person is probably not

1071
00:47:04,880 --> 00:47:07,160
Speaker 3: trying to be my friend anymore. And I be like, okay, sure,

1072
00:47:07,719 --> 00:47:10,440
Speaker 3: But when she doesn't tell you that she had kids

1073
00:47:10,640 --> 00:47:13,760
Speaker 3: who twins, I mean just one when.

1074
00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:18,120
Speaker 1: And she'd been like when she'd been wanted to be

1075
00:47:18,160 --> 00:47:20,000
Speaker 1: a mom even more than a wife, Like.

1076
00:47:20,520 --> 00:47:21,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's over.

1077
00:47:22,239 --> 00:47:24,920
Speaker 1: Do you just kind of like naturally move on, or

1078
00:47:24,920 --> 00:47:26,560
Speaker 1: do you like try to contact her and say hey,

1079
00:47:27,200 --> 00:47:30,440
Speaker 1: I think the hmm, tough one, right.

1080
00:47:30,680 --> 00:47:32,759
Speaker 3: Because I think that that if you wanted to have

1081
00:47:32,800 --> 00:47:36,480
Speaker 3: that conversation should have happened earlier. I think like, potentially

1082
00:47:36,520 --> 00:47:40,040
Speaker 3: you are maybe too late to have it. But also

1083
00:47:40,200 --> 00:47:44,360
Speaker 3: I'm like, it's never truly too late to do something agreed.

1084
00:47:45,120 --> 00:47:48,160
Speaker 3: It's not like you guys are you know, mortal enemies.

1085
00:47:48,160 --> 00:47:50,720
Speaker 3: Now you're just kind of indifferent in each other's lives.

1086
00:47:50,760 --> 00:47:53,120
Speaker 3: So I feel like, if you really are like I

1087
00:47:53,160 --> 00:47:55,160
Speaker 3: want this friendship, I miss this friendship. I don't know

1088
00:47:55,200 --> 00:47:57,640
Speaker 3: what happened, go to her and say, hey, it feels

1089
00:47:57,719 --> 00:48:00,719
Speaker 3: like we've grown apart and I miss us. Can we

1090
00:48:00,719 --> 00:48:01,279
Speaker 3: go on friend date?

1091
00:48:01,480 --> 00:48:01,680
Speaker 2: Yeah?

1092
00:48:01,719 --> 00:48:04,920
Speaker 1: I think usually I'm always like, hey, just just communicate.

1093
00:48:05,040 --> 00:48:09,000
Speaker 1: I think in this specific context, if things, I mean,

1094
00:48:09,360 --> 00:48:12,120
Speaker 1: people nathlete naturally drift, life gets busy, that is a

1095
00:48:12,160 --> 00:48:15,359
Speaker 1: very natural human thing, then that could be fine too.

1096
00:48:15,520 --> 00:48:19,520
Speaker 2: But I think this is an either or maybe I agree.

1097
00:48:20,200 --> 00:48:22,200
Speaker 1: Well, I had been on Finstagram for a while, just

1098
00:48:22,200 --> 00:48:24,480
Speaker 1: taking a break, and I guess she announced it there

1099
00:48:24,520 --> 00:48:27,120
Speaker 1: the twins, so no call a text. I just pretended

1100
00:48:27,160 --> 00:48:29,360
Speaker 1: I knew to save face, but was so hurt and

1101
00:48:29,400 --> 00:48:31,359
Speaker 1: felt like it was another nail in the coffin of

1102
00:48:31,400 --> 00:48:34,000
Speaker 1: our friendship. I chose not to reach out, but I

1103
00:48:34,000 --> 00:48:36,360
Speaker 1: figured I'd get invited to the baby shower and I

1104
00:48:36,360 --> 00:48:37,600
Speaker 1: could buy things for the babies.

1105
00:48:37,640 --> 00:48:39,759
Speaker 2: They didn't get to reconnect there. I was wrong.

1106
00:48:40,120 --> 00:48:43,080
Speaker 1: Another mutual came up to me later and said, man,

1107
00:48:43,280 --> 00:48:46,600
Speaker 1: I'm so bummed I had to miss Layla's baby shower

1108
00:48:46,640 --> 00:48:47,200
Speaker 1: this weekend.

1109
00:48:47,400 --> 00:48:48,320
Speaker 2: But have fun.

1110
00:48:48,480 --> 00:48:54,040
Speaker 3: That's so rough. That's so rough. H Oh. That's happened

1111
00:48:54,040 --> 00:48:56,960
Speaker 3: to me before, where like a friend was like, hey, like,

1112
00:48:57,280 --> 00:48:59,400
Speaker 3: are you coming to this thing? And I'm like, I

1113
00:48:59,640 --> 00:49:06,759
Speaker 3: wasn't invited to that thing, so no, I'm not coming. Yeah. No.

1114
00:49:06,960 --> 00:49:10,040
Speaker 3: One time I was invited to a party and two

1115
00:49:10,080 --> 00:49:13,160
Speaker 3: separate people texted me saying like, hey, like, you going

1116
00:49:13,160 --> 00:49:15,719
Speaker 3: to this party, and I'm like, I stopped texting me

1117
00:49:15,760 --> 00:49:16,200
Speaker 3: about this.

1118
00:49:17,000 --> 00:49:19,279
Speaker 4: You just say what party and yeah, and then they

1119
00:49:19,280 --> 00:49:20,680
Speaker 4: get like, oh, no, I did.

1120
00:49:21,080 --> 00:49:24,160
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, I don't know about any party. Now you

1121
00:49:24,200 --> 00:49:27,080
Speaker 3: have to feel bad, oh yeah.

1122
00:49:26,920 --> 00:49:28,560
Speaker 4: And you get go back to the host and be

1123
00:49:28,640 --> 00:49:30,279
Speaker 4: like why didn't you invite the queen?

1124
00:49:30,360 --> 00:49:31,520
Speaker 3: I know why I didn't invite me.

1125
00:49:32,440 --> 00:49:34,440
Speaker 2: You dare get fine, bite the queen.

1126
00:49:34,760 --> 00:49:35,520
Speaker 3: I know why.

1127
00:49:36,719 --> 00:49:37,600
Speaker 2: I have some words.

1128
00:49:37,640 --> 00:49:44,040
Speaker 3: He's an icky boy, ikey, but it sucks, soy, that's right.

1129
00:49:43,960 --> 00:49:46,680
Speaker 2: That's right. I said we will have fun. But that

1130
00:49:46,880 --> 00:49:47,759
Speaker 2: was the final.

1131
00:49:47,560 --> 00:49:51,120
Speaker 1: Nail because I was not invited. But so you any

1132
00:49:51,160 --> 00:49:52,200
Speaker 1: final thoughts, just.

1133
00:49:52,120 --> 00:49:55,760
Speaker 3: That this isn't your friend anymore, and it sucks because

1134
00:49:55,800 --> 00:49:59,160
Speaker 3: you've been friends for ages and maybe you'll come back

1135
00:49:59,239 --> 00:50:02,640
Speaker 3: around and then, but for now, she ain't your friend.

1136
00:50:02,960 --> 00:50:04,360
Speaker 2: Couldn't have said it better myself.

1137
00:50:05,040 --> 00:50:09,919
Speaker 1: Don't spend time with people who aren't investing spending their

1138
00:50:10,080 --> 00:50:14,920
Speaker 1: energy into you in a healthy reciprocal way. Yeah, and

1139
00:50:14,960 --> 00:50:19,239
Speaker 1: that's it. But present time she had the babies, I

1140
00:50:19,320 --> 00:50:20,400
Speaker 1: found out for mutuals.

1141
00:50:20,440 --> 00:50:20,720
Speaker 2: Again.

1142
00:50:20,880 --> 00:50:23,000
Speaker 1: I didn't even know their names, which is crazy to

1143
00:50:23,000 --> 00:50:25,560
Speaker 1: think about since I had always pictured being aunt Kaylee.

1144
00:50:25,920 --> 00:50:28,080
Speaker 1: We did connect a year ago when I saw her

1145
00:50:28,160 --> 00:50:31,200
Speaker 1: and just went and apologized for being distant. I felt

1146
00:50:31,200 --> 00:50:33,360
Speaker 1: for my sake, I needed to make amends for my

1147
00:50:33,520 --> 00:50:36,000
Speaker 1: side and the resentment. We had to talk and she

1148
00:50:36,120 --> 00:50:38,560
Speaker 1: told me how jealous of me she had been our

1149
00:50:38,640 --> 00:50:41,799
Speaker 1: whole lives, which shocked me. I always thought she was

1150
00:50:41,840 --> 00:50:45,000
Speaker 1: the disciplined, smart, pretty and talented one out of us.

1151
00:50:45,360 --> 00:50:48,000
Speaker 1: I'm normal looking and had to work hard to do things.

1152
00:50:48,440 --> 00:50:51,080
Speaker 1: It was healing to hear her say sorry, but her

1153
00:50:51,120 --> 00:50:53,560
Speaker 1: three young children were with us, and I couldn't think

1154
00:50:53,600 --> 00:50:56,520
Speaker 1: straight to convey how I felt or to get clarity

1155
00:50:56,560 --> 00:50:59,360
Speaker 1: on things. So this was a this all could have

1156
00:50:59,360 --> 00:51:01,840
Speaker 1: been like you, you said multiple times. Yeah, could have

1157
00:51:01,880 --> 00:51:05,879
Speaker 1: done so much earlier. I walked away feeling a weight

1158
00:51:06,160 --> 00:51:09,560
Speaker 1: lifted of the resentment, but now having to grapple that

1159
00:51:09,640 --> 00:51:12,960
Speaker 1: our whole friendship she had been jealous. I must have

1160
00:51:13,080 --> 00:51:16,440
Speaker 1: done something. No, that's not necessarily trucessarily.

1161
00:51:16,600 --> 00:51:18,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe you didn't call it out and like have

1162
00:51:18,880 --> 00:51:22,080
Speaker 3: that conversation early enough. Yeah, but it doesn't mean that

1163
00:51:22,120 --> 00:51:23,920
Speaker 3: it's your fault that she was jealous of you.

1164
00:51:24,040 --> 00:51:25,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, you could have done nothing wrong.

1165
00:51:25,480 --> 00:51:28,120
Speaker 1: Could have just been really cool. Yeah, it could be

1166
00:51:28,239 --> 00:51:30,120
Speaker 1: you know, it could be any of this.

1167
00:51:30,480 --> 00:51:30,920
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1168
00:51:31,120 --> 00:51:33,640
Speaker 1: I realize now that our whole friendship was weird, and

1169
00:51:33,719 --> 00:51:36,640
Speaker 1: even though maybe we just did the best we knew

1170
00:51:36,680 --> 00:51:39,480
Speaker 1: to do growing up. I now have real deep friendships

1171
00:51:39,480 --> 00:51:42,080
Speaker 1: with others who continuously invite me to be part of

1172
00:51:42,120 --> 00:51:45,080
Speaker 1: their lives even though I'm the single one.

1173
00:51:44,920 --> 00:51:47,040
Speaker 3: Still yay, and that's what we love to see.

1174
00:51:47,320 --> 00:51:47,600
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1175
00:51:47,960 --> 00:51:51,839
Speaker 1: Also just side now anyone who doesn't. It's all I'm

1176
00:51:51,840 --> 00:51:53,640
Speaker 1: the single one still, who who cares?

1177
00:51:53,680 --> 00:51:54,240
Speaker 3: Who cares?

1178
00:51:54,320 --> 00:51:55,799
Speaker 2: Why does that mean you don't get to be part

1179
00:51:55,800 --> 00:51:56,399
Speaker 2: of the friend group?

1180
00:51:56,600 --> 00:51:57,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, that doesn't make any sense.

1181
00:51:58,000 --> 00:52:02,360
Speaker 1: That's dumby behavior. They don't make me feel bad for kring.

1182
00:52:02,760 --> 00:52:05,440
Speaker 1: So now am I the a hole? Because she wants

1183
00:52:05,440 --> 00:52:08,240
Speaker 1: to connect but it means a rebuild of a friendship

1184
00:52:08,239 --> 00:52:08,600
Speaker 1: and I.

1185
00:52:08,640 --> 00:52:11,760
Speaker 2: Just don't want to put in the effort anymore. Let's

1186
00:52:11,760 --> 00:52:13,840
Speaker 2: close it out. Sophia is OPI the a hole for not?

1187
00:52:15,280 --> 00:52:20,200
Speaker 3: Oh no, you're not the ahole. You just screw apart. Sucks.

1188
00:52:20,480 --> 00:52:22,960
Speaker 3: She was jealous of you, sucks. There you go.

1189
00:52:23,320 --> 00:52:29,080
Speaker 1: At the end of the day, people aren't entitled to us,

1190
00:52:29,120 --> 00:52:32,600
Speaker 1: and vice versa, we are not entitled to other people.

1191
00:52:33,440 --> 00:52:35,560
Speaker 1: And that's just the way the cookie crumble.

1192
00:52:35,640 --> 00:52:36,719
Speaker 3: That's how life goes, man.

1193
00:52:37,360 --> 00:52:39,800
Speaker 1: But the other thing that goes is this episode because

1194
00:52:39,840 --> 00:52:44,719
Speaker 1: it's freaking over it is Benito. So if you love us,

1195
00:52:44,760 --> 00:52:48,400
Speaker 1: make sure to subscribe We love you and see it tomorrow.