1 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:05,640 Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen. If you 2 00:00:05,920 --> 00:00:11,240 Speaker 1: need advice on relationships, on sex, on dating, on parenting, 3 00:00:11,320 --> 00:00:15,160 Speaker 1: on work, and more. Please submit your Strawberry Letter to 4 00:00:15,360 --> 00:00:19,599 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey FM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter 5 00:00:19,960 --> 00:00:22,119 Speaker 1: because you never know, we could be reading your letter 6 00:00:22,239 --> 00:00:24,280 Speaker 1: live on the air, just like we're gonna read this 7 00:00:24,280 --> 00:00:28,840 Speaker 1: one right here, right now. Yeah, buggle up and hold 8 00:00:28,880 --> 00:00:30,640 Speaker 1: on tight. We got it for you. Here It is 9 00:00:30,880 --> 00:00:34,440 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter. Thank you nephew. Subject she had my clothes 10 00:00:34,479 --> 00:00:37,960 Speaker 1: on when he walked in. Dear Stephen Shirley, I just 11 00:00:38,040 --> 00:00:41,360 Speaker 1: got into a bad fistfight with my best buddy because 12 00:00:41,400 --> 00:00:44,360 Speaker 1: of a woman that he is secretly in love with. 13 00:00:45,040 --> 00:00:47,400 Speaker 1: I had a house party recently and we all had 14 00:00:47,400 --> 00:00:50,120 Speaker 1: a lot to drink, so I offered to let a 15 00:00:50,159 --> 00:00:53,040 Speaker 1: few people stay over all night. My boy was trying 16 00:00:53,040 --> 00:00:55,240 Speaker 1: to talk to the finest girl that was there, and 17 00:00:55,320 --> 00:00:58,240 Speaker 1: she was not really receptive to him. He told me 18 00:00:58,280 --> 00:01:01,320 Speaker 1: that she asked about me, but she's not my type, 19 00:01:01,360 --> 00:01:03,880 Speaker 1: so I didn't pay it any mind. She ended up 20 00:01:03,920 --> 00:01:06,759 Speaker 1: staying at my house because she lives in the suburbs 21 00:01:06,800 --> 00:01:09,200 Speaker 1: and had been drinking. In fact, two other girls that 22 00:01:09,319 --> 00:01:11,839 Speaker 1: came with her also stayed, and the three of them 23 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:15,000 Speaker 1: slept in my guest room. The fine girl asked for 24 00:01:15,040 --> 00:01:17,480 Speaker 1: a pair of basketball shorts and a T shirt to 25 00:01:17,520 --> 00:01:20,760 Speaker 1: sleep in because she had on a dress. I had 26 00:01:20,800 --> 00:01:23,000 Speaker 1: another girl in my bed that night, and we had 27 00:01:23,040 --> 00:01:25,800 Speaker 1: a great time. Let me be clear, it was not 28 00:01:25,840 --> 00:01:28,280 Speaker 1: the fine girl that my buddy has a crush on. 29 00:01:28,640 --> 00:01:30,960 Speaker 1: The Next morning, my buddy popped up at my place 30 00:01:30,959 --> 00:01:34,280 Speaker 1: and the girls were still there and making breakfast, so 31 00:01:34,360 --> 00:01:37,240 Speaker 1: his crush still had on my clothes. I could tell. 32 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:40,480 Speaker 1: He assumed that something went down between us. He asked 33 00:01:40,480 --> 00:01:43,360 Speaker 1: me to step outside, and without saying a word, he 34 00:01:43,480 --> 00:01:47,039 Speaker 1: punched me in the face. And then we started and 35 00:01:47,200 --> 00:01:50,320 Speaker 1: then we started tussling. The girls ran out and broke 36 00:01:50,400 --> 00:01:52,520 Speaker 1: up the fight, and he told the fine girl she 37 00:01:52,880 --> 00:01:56,560 Speaker 1: was trash. She was puzzled because she had no idea 38 00:01:56,640 --> 00:01:59,280 Speaker 1: he was crazy about her. All I care about now 39 00:01:59,360 --> 00:02:02,040 Speaker 1: is getting him back for punching me. He has messed 40 00:02:02,120 --> 00:02:05,200 Speaker 1: up my any possibilities of getting with the girl, and 41 00:02:05,240 --> 00:02:09,160 Speaker 1: it was all over nothing. So should I try talking 42 00:02:09,240 --> 00:02:12,600 Speaker 1: some sense into him or should I beat his ass 43 00:02:12,639 --> 00:02:16,040 Speaker 1: first and then see what happens with our friendship? Let 44 00:02:16,120 --> 00:02:20,639 Speaker 1: us say it. Should I beat his ass first? Yeah? 45 00:02:20,680 --> 00:02:24,680 Speaker 1: And I spelled it same thing, all right? Yeah? Should 46 00:02:24,680 --> 00:02:27,040 Speaker 1: I beat him up first and then see what happens 47 00:02:27,080 --> 00:02:30,519 Speaker 1: with our friendship? Please help? Okay, how old are you guys? 48 00:02:30,600 --> 00:02:33,720 Speaker 1: Are you seven and eight? Because I don't know any 49 00:02:33,760 --> 00:02:35,920 Speaker 1: grown men who act like this? I just don't, And 50 00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:39,800 Speaker 1: your friend more so than you. I think you know 51 00:02:40,120 --> 00:02:47,440 Speaker 1: he's immature. He sucker punched you and for no reason. Yeah, 52 00:02:47,600 --> 00:02:51,799 Speaker 1: but now he was so wrong. He had no proof. 53 00:02:51,840 --> 00:02:54,880 Speaker 1: He didn't catch you guys doing anything. He didn't he 54 00:02:54,919 --> 00:02:57,640 Speaker 1: didn't see anything. I mean, all he saw was her 55 00:02:57,680 --> 00:03:01,320 Speaker 1: wearing your shorts and tea just came to his own 56 00:03:01,440 --> 00:03:05,080 Speaker 1: wrong conclusion. Okay, I just none of the stuff that 57 00:03:05,080 --> 00:03:06,880 Speaker 1: would make a man just haul off and put his 58 00:03:06,919 --> 00:03:09,640 Speaker 1: hands on you. And they don't go together, they're not 59 00:03:09,680 --> 00:03:12,880 Speaker 1: sleeping together, and the woman has no idea that he 60 00:03:12,919 --> 00:03:15,320 Speaker 1: feels a certain way about her. I don't think this 61 00:03:15,360 --> 00:03:17,560 Speaker 1: guy is really your friend. He sounds like a little 62 00:03:17,560 --> 00:03:20,720 Speaker 1: hater to me, and just a little child. I wouldn't 63 00:03:20,720 --> 00:03:23,080 Speaker 1: waste my time trying to explain to him what happened 64 00:03:23,560 --> 00:03:26,360 Speaker 1: or what didn't happen. I think he should have at 65 00:03:26,440 --> 00:03:28,840 Speaker 1: least asked you when he asked you to step outside. 66 00:03:28,840 --> 00:03:31,600 Speaker 1: Why couldn't he ask you what happened? Why does she 67 00:03:31,680 --> 00:03:35,680 Speaker 1: have on your clothes? Whatever? Before he just hauled off 68 00:03:35,680 --> 00:03:38,760 Speaker 1: and swung on you. I think at this point fighting 69 00:03:38,840 --> 00:03:42,440 Speaker 1: him as a waste too, especially since time has gone by. 70 00:03:42,520 --> 00:03:44,720 Speaker 1: I just think he needs to I just think he 71 00:03:44,760 --> 00:03:46,960 Speaker 1: needs to grow up. I just think he needs to 72 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:51,480 Speaker 1: grow up. Steve. I know you want to fight, because 73 00:03:51,480 --> 00:03:58,680 Speaker 1: that's what you do. You know, surely yesterday? Okay, we 74 00:03:58,760 --> 00:04:01,880 Speaker 1: don't always agree, now, well, just I'm right here. The 75 00:04:01,920 --> 00:04:04,560 Speaker 1: only reason we don't agree is because I know you're 76 00:04:04,640 --> 00:04:08,880 Speaker 1: missing a key element. You said in the letter. Men 77 00:04:09,000 --> 00:04:10,840 Speaker 1: don't do this. They do it all the damn time, 78 00:04:11,680 --> 00:04:15,960 Speaker 1: grown men, but men do It's asked what was going 79 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:20,960 Speaker 1: down about some sex? Now? But there was no sex? Well, 80 00:04:21,040 --> 00:04:24,720 Speaker 1: but see the thoughts that don't sex in this letter, shoulder, 81 00:04:25,520 --> 00:04:30,240 Speaker 1: Ain't nobody missed no sex? Yes? Right? Not the people 82 00:04:30,320 --> 00:04:33,960 Speaker 1: who Yeah, but surely here's what happens. See, here's what happened. 83 00:04:33,960 --> 00:04:35,440 Speaker 1: Sweet it because I don't want you to miss this 84 00:04:36,000 --> 00:04:39,400 Speaker 1: house party. We all had a lot to drink, so 85 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:41,599 Speaker 1: you let a few people stay over. You didn't really 86 00:04:41,600 --> 00:04:44,320 Speaker 1: give damn about no dude staying over. You wanted some 87 00:04:44,400 --> 00:04:47,200 Speaker 1: girls to stay over, so the few people just having 88 00:04:47,200 --> 00:04:50,559 Speaker 1: to be girls. Now, all night, your boy was talking 89 00:04:50,600 --> 00:04:53,760 Speaker 1: to the finest girl that was there, and she wasn't 90 00:04:53,839 --> 00:04:57,279 Speaker 1: having it. She wasn't feeling it. But now he crazy 91 00:04:57,320 --> 00:05:01,160 Speaker 1: about it? Right, He told me that she asked about me. 92 00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:04,760 Speaker 1: But then this dude say, she ain't my type, so 93 00:05:04,800 --> 00:05:07,520 Speaker 1: I ain't paying no mind. Hold up, dog, hold up, 94 00:05:07,800 --> 00:05:14,839 Speaker 1: See that like him, baddest girl at the party. Ain't 95 00:05:14,920 --> 00:05:20,560 Speaker 1: your damn tight boy. Oh that's the liar saying he's not. 96 00:05:22,040 --> 00:05:25,320 Speaker 1: This is Jesus. Young dudes, Now they are? They are? 97 00:05:27,360 --> 00:05:29,520 Speaker 1: You said, my boy was trying to talk to the 98 00:05:29,520 --> 00:05:33,200 Speaker 1: finest girl that was there. She was not really receptive 99 00:05:33,279 --> 00:05:36,719 Speaker 1: to him. Now, how did you know that unless you 100 00:05:36,800 --> 00:05:42,839 Speaker 1: observed it. He told me that she asked about me. Now, 101 00:05:43,040 --> 00:05:46,719 Speaker 1: this fine girl asked about you, But she's not my type, 102 00:05:46,720 --> 00:05:51,160 Speaker 1: so I ain't paying no mind. What So she ended 103 00:05:51,240 --> 00:05:53,120 Speaker 1: up staying at my house because she lived in the 104 00:05:53,160 --> 00:05:56,080 Speaker 1: suburbs and had been drinking. And two other girls came 105 00:05:56,120 --> 00:05:58,159 Speaker 1: with a state and the three of them slept in 106 00:05:58,200 --> 00:06:01,279 Speaker 1: your guest room. The fine girl girl asked for a 107 00:06:01,360 --> 00:06:04,359 Speaker 1: pair of basketball shorts and a T shirt sleeping because 108 00:06:04,360 --> 00:06:07,280 Speaker 1: she had a dress on. I am now I had 109 00:06:07,320 --> 00:06:09,279 Speaker 1: another girl in my bed that night. We had a 110 00:06:09,320 --> 00:06:13,440 Speaker 1: great time. Now right there, the fine girl in your 111 00:06:13,440 --> 00:06:17,640 Speaker 1: basketball short the little the little time girl in the bed. 112 00:06:17,680 --> 00:06:20,960 Speaker 1: Which now, the only reason is fine girl ain't your 113 00:06:21,160 --> 00:06:23,839 Speaker 1: type is because she don't jump in the bed right away, 114 00:06:24,000 --> 00:06:27,560 Speaker 1: because you were in there with shock attack, in there 115 00:06:27,600 --> 00:06:35,280 Speaker 1: going at it. Okay, got some draws. All right, let's 116 00:06:35,279 --> 00:06:38,080 Speaker 1: hold that, hold that, hold that, hold that. Where are 117 00:06:38,080 --> 00:06:42,240 Speaker 1: you going, Steve, boy? We'll come back and I have 118 00:06:42,360 --> 00:06:44,920 Speaker 1: part two of Steve's response to this letter coming up 119 00:06:44,920 --> 00:06:48,599 Speaker 1: at twenty three minutes after the hour. Uh. Subject, she 120 00:06:48,720 --> 00:06:50,840 Speaker 1: had my clothes on when he walked in. We'll get 121 00:06:50,880 --> 00:06:56,560 Speaker 1: back into it right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve, 122 00:06:56,560 --> 00:07:00,040 Speaker 1: Come on, let's recap the Strawberry letter. Today's subject he 123 00:07:00,160 --> 00:07:03,320 Speaker 1: had my clothes on when he walked in. Yeah, dude, 124 00:07:03,360 --> 00:07:06,080 Speaker 1: got a best friend talking to this party they had. 125 00:07:06,120 --> 00:07:08,640 Speaker 1: They got to drink, and he decided to let some 126 00:07:08,640 --> 00:07:11,120 Speaker 1: people stay over the house. His boy was talking to 127 00:07:11,200 --> 00:07:14,120 Speaker 1: the finest chick at the party. She wasn't really feeling them, 128 00:07:14,160 --> 00:07:16,960 Speaker 1: so he came and told him, Hey, man, she feeling 129 00:07:17,040 --> 00:07:19,760 Speaker 1: you findest girl in the party. Now, he said, I 130 00:07:19,800 --> 00:07:22,800 Speaker 1: ain't paying no attention because she ain't my tight. They 131 00:07:22,880 --> 00:07:26,480 Speaker 1: spent the night. You gave the fine girl some basketball 132 00:07:26,480 --> 00:07:28,840 Speaker 1: shorts and a T shirt, but you was in the 133 00:07:28,880 --> 00:07:31,280 Speaker 1: other room with another girl having a great time. Now, 134 00:07:31,320 --> 00:07:33,640 Speaker 1: the reason to find girl ain't your type is cause 135 00:07:33,880 --> 00:07:36,440 Speaker 1: the fine girl might have had some standards and maybe 136 00:07:36,480 --> 00:07:38,680 Speaker 1: she won't just jump in the rack white away. But 137 00:07:38,800 --> 00:07:44,880 Speaker 1: you were in there with mighty Joe Young all night long. 138 00:07:46,080 --> 00:07:53,080 Speaker 1: I do not say that. Yeah, and a little mighty 139 00:07:53,160 --> 00:07:58,640 Speaker 1: Joe Young waring your ass out, good ass time all right. Now, Now, 140 00:07:59,440 --> 00:08:02,760 Speaker 1: then you said in the letter, let me be clear, 141 00:08:03,920 --> 00:08:06,760 Speaker 1: it was not the fine girl that my body was 142 00:08:07,120 --> 00:08:09,640 Speaker 1: had a crush on. Which is cool, bro, I ain't 143 00:08:09,680 --> 00:08:12,680 Speaker 1: mad at you all. This was not the fine girl 144 00:08:12,760 --> 00:08:15,160 Speaker 1: you gave the basketball shorts too, that your boy got 145 00:08:15,200 --> 00:08:19,040 Speaker 1: a crush on. Next morning, your boy popped over the 146 00:08:19,120 --> 00:08:24,440 Speaker 1: girls was there making breakfast, so his crush was still 147 00:08:24,600 --> 00:08:28,760 Speaker 1: there making breakfast and had on your clothes. Your boy 148 00:08:28,840 --> 00:08:31,360 Speaker 1: know your basketball shorts because y'all at the gym in them, 149 00:08:31,400 --> 00:08:37,320 Speaker 1: same show. So now, then here what the letter took 150 00:08:37,320 --> 00:08:41,840 Speaker 1: a turn? I could tell he assumed that something went 151 00:08:41,920 --> 00:08:45,040 Speaker 1: down between us because he came here. Hey, man, was 152 00:08:45,080 --> 00:08:58,000 Speaker 1: that it? Man? Oh y'all still here? Still? He crushed? Yeah, yeah, 153 00:08:58,080 --> 00:09:00,000 Speaker 1: oh yeah, oh oh. She and there were his bands 154 00:09:00,000 --> 00:09:03,280 Speaker 1: about your what you what you? What you're doing? Were 155 00:09:03,320 --> 00:09:16,559 Speaker 1: cooking breakfast night, got his shots, got his shouts on it. 156 00:09:17,559 --> 00:09:22,360 Speaker 1: So now to dude, he spots this, he said, I 157 00:09:22,760 --> 00:09:26,320 Speaker 1: could tell he assumed that something went down. He asked 158 00:09:26,360 --> 00:09:30,880 Speaker 1: me to step outside. Not now, dog, then you already 159 00:09:30,960 --> 00:09:34,040 Speaker 1: know now how he feeled about this girl. You saw 160 00:09:34,080 --> 00:09:40,160 Speaker 1: the you're still here? Yeah, you stid Now he asked 161 00:09:40,200 --> 00:09:42,600 Speaker 1: you to step outside. What you think y'all? Was going 162 00:09:42,600 --> 00:09:46,440 Speaker 1: out there? Force the fresh air. He wanted to talk, 163 00:09:47,200 --> 00:09:53,040 Speaker 1: and he asked me to step outside. Without saying a word, 164 00:09:54,240 --> 00:09:59,800 Speaker 1: he hauls off sucker, punch me dead in my damn mouth, right, 165 00:10:01,000 --> 00:10:05,120 Speaker 1: and we got to tussling. The girls ran out and 166 00:10:05,160 --> 00:10:07,520 Speaker 1: broke up the fight, and he told the fight you 167 00:10:07,520 --> 00:10:13,120 Speaker 1: a piece of trash. You know I liked it at you. 168 00:10:14,040 --> 00:10:19,079 Speaker 1: Now the girl, the girl, what what is what is 169 00:10:19,120 --> 00:10:22,520 Speaker 1: wrong with you? Because she had no idea? The fire 170 00:10:22,600 --> 00:10:25,400 Speaker 1: girl that note that he was crazy about him, right, 171 00:10:26,200 --> 00:10:28,480 Speaker 1: but why would he go tell his boy that he 172 00:10:28,559 --> 00:10:33,280 Speaker 1: sucker punch. She asked about you because she let me 173 00:10:33,360 --> 00:10:35,760 Speaker 1: tell you something. She asked about you because you the 174 00:10:35,800 --> 00:10:39,000 Speaker 1: one got the house and she acts like she drunks 175 00:10:39,040 --> 00:10:40,839 Speaker 1: and she could spend the night there and wake up 176 00:10:40,840 --> 00:10:44,960 Speaker 1: and fix breakfast. She knows your stupid ass was in 177 00:10:45,000 --> 00:10:48,040 Speaker 1: the back when Mighty Joe Young back the making jungle 178 00:10:48,120 --> 00:10:54,280 Speaker 1: noises all damn night, And now you're sending if it 179 00:10:54,360 --> 00:10:56,200 Speaker 1: tell about All I care about now it is getting 180 00:10:56,320 --> 00:10:59,920 Speaker 1: him back. He has messed up any possibilities to get 181 00:11:00,200 --> 00:11:04,000 Speaker 1: with the girl. Dog. But he told you that the 182 00:11:04,080 --> 00:11:08,720 Speaker 1: girl was asking about you. But since you said that 183 00:11:08,800 --> 00:11:11,959 Speaker 1: ain't Joe type, he figured he's still in the hunt. 184 00:11:12,679 --> 00:11:15,160 Speaker 1: But now he can't because you You hadn't been in 185 00:11:15,160 --> 00:11:18,320 Speaker 1: the bed with him with the clothes on. That's what 186 00:11:18,400 --> 00:11:20,920 Speaker 1: it looked like. That's why you gotta sucker punch. And 187 00:11:21,040 --> 00:11:23,240 Speaker 1: now he hadn't messed up any possibility of getting with 188 00:11:23,280 --> 00:11:25,680 Speaker 1: the girl because she think he crazy and it was 189 00:11:25,720 --> 00:11:28,680 Speaker 1: all over nothing. So should I try talking some sense 190 00:11:28,720 --> 00:11:30,880 Speaker 1: of to him? Or should I beat his ass first 191 00:11:31,040 --> 00:11:36,320 Speaker 1: and then see what happens without a friend show? Yeah, 192 00:11:36,440 --> 00:11:38,600 Speaker 1: because all I care about now is getting back at 193 00:11:38,679 --> 00:11:43,360 Speaker 1: him for punching me. Well, he tagged your ass nice 194 00:11:43,800 --> 00:11:47,199 Speaker 1: you got touched. Now you know your friend something wrong 195 00:11:47,240 --> 00:11:55,120 Speaker 1: with it? Strawberry. Now I let this go. Thank you. 196 00:11:56,480 --> 00:11:58,600 Speaker 1: What I don't understand though, is how you was in 197 00:11:58,679 --> 00:12:02,200 Speaker 1: there with Mighty Joe young fine ship. Got your clothes on? 198 00:12:03,320 --> 00:12:08,280 Speaker 1: He said, Tom to find this girl in the antio type. 199 00:12:08,480 --> 00:12:13,040 Speaker 1: What he said he had a good time. He said, 200 00:12:13,080 --> 00:12:16,160 Speaker 1: he had a great time with another girl with the girls. 201 00:12:16,320 --> 00:12:22,800 Speaker 1: He was getting there wrestling with God's jealo. What he 202 00:12:23,040 --> 00:12:26,720 Speaker 1: said if she wanted to find his girl after party? 203 00:12:26,800 --> 00:12:32,200 Speaker 1: What was she did? Third, we gotta go you back 204 00:12:32,240 --> 00:12:34,920 Speaker 1: in the end the bed sleeping with eighth place and 205 00:12:35,080 --> 00:12:40,120 Speaker 1: now you hell. Post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter. 206 00:12:40,160 --> 00:12:43,680 Speaker 1: It's Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook, and please 207 00:12:43,720 --> 00:12:46,040 Speaker 1: don't forget to check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on 208 00:12:46,120 --> 00:12:48,920 Speaker 1: demand now coming up at forty six minutes after the hour. 209 00:12:49,000 --> 00:12:50,839 Speaker 1: You know what time it is, It's time for Junior 210 00:12:50,880 --> 00:12:56,040 Speaker 1: Sports Talk. Right after this, you're listening to Harvey Morning Show.