WEBVTT - Say why you want to talk

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is that when you ask someone to give you

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<v Speaker 1>a call, let them know why. That way they can

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<v Speaker 1>be prepared for the conversation and they won't be worried

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<v Speaker 1>about the reason for it. In our personal and professional lives,

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<v Speaker 1>people sometimes ask us to call them or ask if

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<v Speaker 1>they can chat on the phone without saying why. The

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<v Speaker 1>more vague the email or text, the more you can

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<v Speaker 1>wonder what is going on? Can you give me a call?

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<v Speaker 1>I need to chat about something can definitely make you

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<v Speaker 1>think that something bad is about to happen. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>are we talking something so bad it can't even be

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<v Speaker 1>hinted at in an email? You don't want to create

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<v Speaker 1>a paper record what's going on? At least that's where

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<v Speaker 1>my brain goes. When I've had someone send me a

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<v Speaker 1>note like that, I usually think that something horrible is

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<v Speaker 1>going on, but it is almost never that, So why

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<v Speaker 1>create needless anxiety? I love that school nurses often now

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<v Speaker 1>call and say don't worry, it's not an emergency when

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<v Speaker 1>they are calling about let's say, a kid getting a

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<v Speaker 1>bump on the playground. In those first few seconds after

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<v Speaker 1>this is the school nurse Alex had an accident. You

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<v Speaker 1>don't know if we're talking something really serious or just

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<v Speaker 1>a skin knee that now has a band aid on it.

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<v Speaker 1>Bless the nurses for letting you know it is not

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<v Speaker 1>serious first. I think we should all aspire to that,

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<v Speaker 1>and even when things are serious, there is no reason

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<v Speaker 1>not to give people a heads up. If you are

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<v Speaker 1>planning to ask for a significant raise, you could say,

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<v Speaker 1>I'd like to talk about some of the financial details

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<v Speaker 1>of my job. If you'd like to be transferred to

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<v Speaker 1>something else, you can say, I'd like to talk about

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<v Speaker 1>my current projects and what I'd like to do in

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<v Speaker 1>the future. If you are planning to quit entirely and

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<v Speaker 1>you don't want to be shown the door immediately because

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<v Speaker 1>you work in a place that does that, perhaps you

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<v Speaker 1>can still say something like I'd like to talk about

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<v Speaker 1>some aspects of my job. In any case, this is

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<v Speaker 1>not hard to do. Rather than text your nephew to

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<v Speaker 1>call you and then let him spend the next few

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<v Speaker 1>hours wondering what he did that you are mad about,

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<v Speaker 1>to say, I'd love to talk with you about Christmas plans.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll give you a call tonight or to a friend.

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<v Speaker 1>I have some professional news that I'm excited to share.

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<v Speaker 1>When you have a few minutes, can you give me

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<v Speaker 1>a call after you've put the kids to bed? Is

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<v Speaker 1>perfectly fine. Just a few words can save a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of wondering, and when you give some clues about the

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<v Speaker 1>subject matter, that allows the other person to think it

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<v Speaker 1>through as well. I mean, who knows, maybe your boss

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<v Speaker 1>will take the hint that you are thinking of leaving

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<v Speaker 1>and come up with some plumb assignment she knows you'd

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<v Speaker 1>like and offer you a raise. I mean, wouldn't that

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<v Speaker 1>be a nice outcome to the tip off? In the

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<v Speaker 1>vast majority of cases, you are better off saying why

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<v Speaker 1>you want to talk. The element of surprise may be

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<v Speaker 1>good for investigative journalism or interviewing crime suspects, but for

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<v Speaker 1>most scenarios it really isn't. Let people know why you

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<v Speaker 1>want to talk and the conversation will start off with

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<v Speaker 1>a lot more goodwill. In the meantime, This is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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<v Speaker 1>our time. Thanks for listening to before breakfast. If you've

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<v Speaker 1>got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach me at

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<v Speaker 1>Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. Before Breakfast is a

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