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Dear Stephen Shirley, I cheated on my 20 00:01:07,920 --> 00:01:11,039 Speaker 1: fiance four years ago, and I found out he was 21 00:01:11,120 --> 00:01:14,160 Speaker 1: cheating on me too when he caught me in the act. 22 00:01:14,280 --> 00:01:16,880 Speaker 1: He wasn't upset at all and informed me that he 23 00:01:16,959 --> 00:01:20,080 Speaker 1: was cheating too, so we called the wedding off. I 24 00:01:20,120 --> 00:01:22,160 Speaker 1: was living in his house at the time, so I 25 00:01:22,240 --> 00:01:25,240 Speaker 1: moved out and into some apartments across the street so 26 00:01:25,280 --> 00:01:28,160 Speaker 1: we could see each other regularly, have sex, and work 27 00:01:28,280 --> 00:01:31,959 Speaker 1: on our relationship. One Saturday morning, I woke up and 28 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:34,039 Speaker 1: there was a moving truck in front of his house 29 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:37,000 Speaker 1: and the woman he cheated on me with was standing there. 30 00:01:37,280 --> 00:01:39,520 Speaker 1: I called him and he told me that he's getting 31 00:01:39,560 --> 00:01:42,440 Speaker 1: serious with the woman, so they decided to live together. 32 00:01:42,840 --> 00:01:45,959 Speaker 1: I was hurt because we've been having sex and acting 33 00:01:45,959 --> 00:01:47,760 Speaker 1: like a couple, and I thought we were working on 34 00:01:47,760 --> 00:01:51,120 Speaker 1: our relationship. Now it's been four years and he's been 35 00:01:51,160 --> 00:01:54,400 Speaker 1: stringing this woman along by telling her they're getting married, 36 00:01:54,800 --> 00:01:58,280 Speaker 1: then coming to see me when she's not looking. I 37 00:01:58,360 --> 00:02:02,920 Speaker 1: literally live across for them, so it's easy access. I've 38 00:02:02,960 --> 00:02:05,520 Speaker 1: tried to cut him off, and he always pulls me 39 00:02:05,600 --> 00:02:08,120 Speaker 1: back in. He has paid my rent since we broke 40 00:02:08,200 --> 00:02:11,359 Speaker 1: off our engagement, so I'm puzzled as to why he's 41 00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:14,160 Speaker 1: still with this woman. He told me that I'm very 42 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:16,960 Speaker 1: different than she is, so he's with her for her 43 00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:19,680 Speaker 1: good qualities? Is he trying to say I have a 44 00:02:19,680 --> 00:02:22,840 Speaker 1: lot of bad qualities. I can't ever get a straight 45 00:02:22,880 --> 00:02:26,280 Speaker 1: answer from him, and I've given him an ultimatum to 46 00:02:26,280 --> 00:02:28,919 Speaker 1: either marry her or get back with me. I think 47 00:02:28,919 --> 00:02:31,240 Speaker 1: I should move to a new apartment and make a 48 00:02:31,280 --> 00:02:33,960 Speaker 1: clean break from this mess. But he says he loves 49 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:36,440 Speaker 1: having me across the street so he can make sure 50 00:02:36,520 --> 00:02:39,280 Speaker 1: I'm safe. He still tells me he loves me, and 51 00:02:39,320 --> 00:02:45,080 Speaker 1: we still make sweet love. What should I do, girl? 52 00:02:45,160 --> 00:02:47,880 Speaker 1: If you don't pack your bags and get out of 53 00:02:47,919 --> 00:02:52,880 Speaker 1: the air today? I mean, right now, Okay, you gotta move, 54 00:02:52,760 --> 00:02:56,760 Speaker 1: You gotta leave him. I mean, aren't you tired of 55 00:02:56,919 --> 00:02:59,720 Speaker 1: letting him string you along? Like you see him stringing 56 00:02:59,760 --> 00:03:03,920 Speaker 1: this other woman along. I just think you should be 57 00:03:04,000 --> 00:03:06,440 Speaker 1: tired by now. He's not going to marry you. He's 58 00:03:06,480 --> 00:03:08,720 Speaker 1: not going to marry her. He's not going to marry you. 59 00:03:09,520 --> 00:03:14,160 Speaker 1: And here's the bigger question. Why should he? Why should 60 00:03:14,160 --> 00:03:19,399 Speaker 1: he marry you? What's incentive to marry you? I mean, 61 00:03:19,440 --> 00:03:22,280 Speaker 1: you said it yourself. You live right across the street, 62 00:03:22,480 --> 00:03:27,360 Speaker 1: and you're easy access. You're easy, all right, You're easy. 63 00:03:27,560 --> 00:03:29,680 Speaker 1: Let's just put it like that. He doesn't have to 64 00:03:29,720 --> 00:03:32,160 Speaker 1: work to get you. He doesn't have to work to 65 00:03:32,240 --> 00:03:34,720 Speaker 1: keep you. He doesn't have to work to have you, 66 00:03:35,880 --> 00:03:38,880 Speaker 1: none of that nothing. He doesn't have to think about 67 00:03:38,880 --> 00:03:41,600 Speaker 1: it at all. All he has to do is walk 68 00:03:41,760 --> 00:03:45,440 Speaker 1: across the street and there you are, and he gets 69 00:03:45,440 --> 00:03:48,440 Speaker 1: exactly what he wants all the time. He tells you 70 00:03:48,480 --> 00:03:52,240 Speaker 1: whatever you need to hear and get you to your 71 00:03:52,320 --> 00:03:56,680 Speaker 1: words make sweet love. But what a cheap date? You 72 00:03:56,680 --> 00:03:58,720 Speaker 1: don't want to continue to be a cheap date? Right? 73 00:03:58,760 --> 00:04:01,680 Speaker 1: He doesn't have to take you anywhere anything, just walk 74 00:04:01,720 --> 00:04:06,200 Speaker 1: across the street. I just think this man is living 75 00:04:06,240 --> 00:04:09,840 Speaker 1: his best life. And the other thing, how is he 76 00:04:09,880 --> 00:04:12,480 Speaker 1: trying to work on your relationship when he moved another 77 00:04:12,520 --> 00:04:14,960 Speaker 1: woman in his house. She's been there for four years 78 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:17,800 Speaker 1: and she's right in your face. I don't get this. 79 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:20,800 Speaker 1: Like I said, he's living his best life. He's having 80 00:04:20,839 --> 00:04:23,599 Speaker 1: his cake and eating it too, So why should he 81 00:04:23,720 --> 00:04:26,760 Speaker 1: change anything about what's going on in his life. He's 82 00:04:26,800 --> 00:04:29,359 Speaker 1: got a made I mean, that's why you need to 83 00:04:29,360 --> 00:04:32,040 Speaker 1: do it. You gotta do this. You gotta get your 84 00:04:32,120 --> 00:04:34,920 Speaker 1: life and move on with your life. And please don't 85 00:04:34,960 --> 00:04:37,680 Speaker 1: allow another man to use you like this. This is 86 00:04:37,760 --> 00:04:45,640 Speaker 1: too easily accessible. You are okay, Steve Shirley Strawberry. Just 87 00:04:46,120 --> 00:04:51,479 Speaker 1: nail this entire letter top to bottom. She left no 88 00:04:52,080 --> 00:04:59,880 Speaker 1: rock unturned. I have nothing to add nor detract by 89 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:07,200 Speaker 1: get out right, Ye don't make no damn sense. I mean, Charlie, 90 00:05:07,400 --> 00:05:12,680 Speaker 1: you covered everything what's wrong with you? Here's the one 91 00:05:12,720 --> 00:05:16,039 Speaker 1: thing that I think I picked up in here. See, 92 00:05:16,080 --> 00:05:19,159 Speaker 1: you said that you cheated on your fiance four years ago, 93 00:05:20,320 --> 00:05:23,039 Speaker 1: and you found out he was cheating too. But he 94 00:05:23,120 --> 00:05:26,839 Speaker 1: see he caught you in the act that you found 95 00:05:26,880 --> 00:05:29,440 Speaker 1: out he was cheating later on, but he caught you 96 00:05:29,560 --> 00:05:35,520 Speaker 1: in the act. So y'all called off the wedding and 97 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:38,200 Speaker 1: you was living in this house, so you moved out 98 00:05:38,720 --> 00:05:41,280 Speaker 1: some apartments across the streets so we could see each 99 00:05:41,279 --> 00:05:46,200 Speaker 1: other regularly, have sex and work on our relationship. And 100 00:05:46,240 --> 00:05:48,240 Speaker 1: then you woke up one sad. Then there was this 101 00:05:48,440 --> 00:05:50,520 Speaker 1: moving truck in front of the house, and the woman 102 00:05:50,560 --> 00:05:54,440 Speaker 1: that he cheated on you with was standing there. So 103 00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:57,200 Speaker 1: then you called a dude and said, he told you 104 00:05:57,240 --> 00:05:59,920 Speaker 1: he getting serious with the woman, so they decided to 105 00:06:00,240 --> 00:06:05,839 Speaker 1: live together. Now you hurt because y'all been having sex 106 00:06:05,880 --> 00:06:08,560 Speaker 1: and acting like a couple, and I thought we were 107 00:06:08,600 --> 00:06:12,600 Speaker 1: working on our relationship. First of all, how do you 108 00:06:12,680 --> 00:06:18,640 Speaker 1: act like a couple, Because either y'all some bad actors 109 00:06:18,760 --> 00:06:20,920 Speaker 1: or this is all you're gonna get. And I think 110 00:06:20,920 --> 00:06:23,200 Speaker 1: it's both. I think you're bad actor. You acting like 111 00:06:23,279 --> 00:06:26,320 Speaker 1: you something you have something that you don't have. Because 112 00:06:26,400 --> 00:06:28,800 Speaker 1: now it's been four years that he'd have moved a 113 00:06:28,880 --> 00:06:31,520 Speaker 1: woman in and you've been she and you weren't talking 114 00:06:31,560 --> 00:06:34,320 Speaker 1: about she'd been stranging this woman along by telling her 115 00:06:34,360 --> 00:06:36,440 Speaker 1: they're gonna get married, then coming to see me when 116 00:06:36,440 --> 00:06:38,680 Speaker 1: he ain't looking, when she ain't looking. Wait, don't you 117 00:06:38,760 --> 00:06:43,080 Speaker 1: feel strong alone? Same thing? Right? Hang on, Steve, we're 118 00:06:43,120 --> 00:06:46,200 Speaker 1: gonna have part two of your response coming up at 119 00:06:46,200 --> 00:06:49,240 Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's subject I went 120 00:06:49,320 --> 00:06:52,080 Speaker 1: from the main House to the outhouse. We'll got back 121 00:06:52,080 --> 00:06:57,839 Speaker 1: into the letter right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve. 122 00:06:57,839 --> 00:07:00,800 Speaker 1: Come on, let's recap today's Strawberry letters. The subject I 123 00:07:00,839 --> 00:07:05,040 Speaker 1: went from the main house to the outhouse. Wow, this 124 00:07:05,160 --> 00:07:09,360 Speaker 1: letter is so ridiculous. It don't make no sense at all. 125 00:07:09,960 --> 00:07:12,680 Speaker 1: Now here's a woman that was dating a man that 126 00:07:12,760 --> 00:07:15,720 Speaker 1: she cheated on. He caught her in the act, then 127 00:07:15,840 --> 00:07:19,200 Speaker 1: she found out that he was cheating on her also, 128 00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:23,080 Speaker 1: now he moved she moved across the street so they 129 00:07:23,080 --> 00:07:26,440 Speaker 1: could work on a relationship and have sex. She wake 130 00:07:26,520 --> 00:07:29,040 Speaker 1: up one Saturday morning, she truck out front and a 131 00:07:29,160 --> 00:07:31,560 Speaker 1: chick standing at the same woman he cheated with her. 132 00:07:31,880 --> 00:07:34,040 Speaker 1: Now they're getting serious and he had moved her in. 133 00:07:34,760 --> 00:07:40,040 Speaker 1: Now four years have gone by, four four years, and 134 00:07:40,240 --> 00:07:44,320 Speaker 1: now you mad because he's stringing this woman alone by 135 00:07:44,400 --> 00:07:47,000 Speaker 1: telling her they're getting married, then coming to see you 136 00:07:47,080 --> 00:07:50,400 Speaker 1: when she ain't looking. Then you say, I literally live 137 00:07:50,440 --> 00:07:53,320 Speaker 1: across the street from them, so it's easy access. I've 138 00:07:53,360 --> 00:07:55,120 Speaker 1: tried to cut him off, but they always pulled me 139 00:07:55,160 --> 00:08:03,360 Speaker 1: back in. How how how she's easy access you right 140 00:08:03,400 --> 00:08:07,680 Speaker 1: across the street? What are you talking about? Shirley's absolutely 141 00:08:07,920 --> 00:08:10,480 Speaker 1: he playing both of y'all. But here's what I think 142 00:08:10,520 --> 00:08:14,720 Speaker 1: has happened. See, he got you guilt tripping because on 143 00:08:14,840 --> 00:08:18,640 Speaker 1: the way he caught you cheating. Then after you found 144 00:08:18,680 --> 00:08:21,520 Speaker 1: out he was cheating, y'all decided to split up. But 145 00:08:21,640 --> 00:08:23,960 Speaker 1: you moved across the street because you wanted him to 146 00:08:24,040 --> 00:08:27,480 Speaker 1: forgive you because he busted you. So now that you 147 00:08:27,560 --> 00:08:30,000 Speaker 1: haven't waited for four years while he living with this 148 00:08:30,120 --> 00:08:32,440 Speaker 1: other woman and he coming on the street just doing 149 00:08:32,480 --> 00:08:35,440 Speaker 1: you when he want to, but you didn't guilt tripped 150 00:08:35,440 --> 00:08:39,280 Speaker 1: yourself into accept it. A bunch of bad behavior on 151 00:08:39,360 --> 00:08:42,480 Speaker 1: his part. Now here's the kicker. He has paid my 152 00:08:42,559 --> 00:08:47,880 Speaker 1: rent since we broke off our engagement. Oh that's it. Oh, 153 00:08:47,920 --> 00:08:58,440 Speaker 1: buy your clothes. I'll pay your rent your dinner tonight, baby, 154 00:09:00,080 --> 00:09:05,120 Speaker 1: soon as I get home from work. Yes, okay, so 155 00:09:05,200 --> 00:09:10,240 Speaker 1: now you're getting your see what you're tripping for Now, 156 00:09:10,880 --> 00:09:13,400 Speaker 1: I'm puzzled as to why he's still with this woman. 157 00:09:14,240 --> 00:09:19,000 Speaker 1: What because she dumb enough to think that you can 158 00:09:19,120 --> 00:09:21,959 Speaker 1: live right across the street and he tapping over that 159 00:09:22,320 --> 00:09:25,600 Speaker 1: doing doing what he want to do. So you can't 160 00:09:25,600 --> 00:09:27,959 Speaker 1: believe she's still with this woman. The woman crossed the 161 00:09:28,000 --> 00:09:31,000 Speaker 1: street probably can't believe you. Still, he can't believe he 162 00:09:31,080 --> 00:09:35,120 Speaker 1: got either one of y'all exactly. Everybody's surprising this damn 163 00:09:35,280 --> 00:09:38,760 Speaker 1: letter and lady. I gotta tell you something. You're trying 164 00:09:38,800 --> 00:09:42,320 Speaker 1: too hard to make this work. You have nothing. So 165 00:09:42,400 --> 00:09:46,520 Speaker 1: now then he told you that I'm very different than 166 00:09:46,640 --> 00:09:50,199 Speaker 1: she is, So he's with her for her good qualities? 167 00:09:50,600 --> 00:09:55,719 Speaker 1: Is he trying to say, I have a letter bad quality? Yeah? Yeah, 168 00:09:55,880 --> 00:09:58,120 Speaker 1: hit Joe, you had bad qualities when he moved a 169 00:09:58,200 --> 00:10:00,440 Speaker 1: woman in that Saturday morning while you he was woke 170 00:10:00,520 --> 00:10:04,520 Speaker 1: up and look out there and saw the truck. He 171 00:10:04,679 --> 00:10:07,240 Speaker 1: was telling you, then you got bad quality. And then 172 00:10:07,280 --> 00:10:09,720 Speaker 1: you proved him right by staying over that, letting him 173 00:10:09,760 --> 00:10:11,319 Speaker 1: come over and do what he wanted to do to you, 174 00:10:11,559 --> 00:10:13,280 Speaker 1: and then go back across the street and do what 175 00:10:13,280 --> 00:10:16,880 Speaker 1: he want to do with hug all, y'all got bad qualities. 176 00:10:18,600 --> 00:10:20,600 Speaker 1: I think I should move to a new apartment to 177 00:10:20,640 --> 00:10:22,959 Speaker 1: make a clean break from this mess. But he says 178 00:10:23,000 --> 00:10:25,560 Speaker 1: he loves having me across the street so he can 179 00:10:25,640 --> 00:10:33,240 Speaker 1: make sure I'm safe. What wait minute, wait him, he said, 180 00:10:34,800 --> 00:10:39,160 Speaker 1: And you believe that I want you to stay across 181 00:10:39,240 --> 00:10:40,880 Speaker 1: the street because I know where you are and I 182 00:10:41,000 --> 00:10:47,000 Speaker 1: know you safe. Oh he loves me. He still tells 183 00:10:47,040 --> 00:10:50,080 Speaker 1: me he loves me, and we still make sweet love. 184 00:10:50,679 --> 00:11:01,040 Speaker 1: What should I do? Move? Start over? Forget him? By man? 185 00:11:01,559 --> 00:11:04,960 Speaker 1: This is crazy, just don't make no sense. I want 186 00:11:05,000 --> 00:11:07,680 Speaker 1: to make sure you say so. I need you to 187 00:11:07,720 --> 00:11:09,679 Speaker 1: stay right there. I don't feel like burning on this 188 00:11:09,800 --> 00:11:15,040 Speaker 1: gass and throwing across town. You're easy access and with 189 00:11:15,240 --> 00:11:17,520 Speaker 1: my girl, did Leah with me go to the stove. 190 00:11:17,640 --> 00:11:23,360 Speaker 1: I come over to the other stove. Everybody's shopping. I 191 00:11:23,440 --> 00:11:28,280 Speaker 1: want some fresh vegetables too. Yes, but they started out 192 00:11:28,320 --> 00:11:31,839 Speaker 1: wrong though, they started up both cheating on cheat. They 193 00:11:31,920 --> 00:11:35,520 Speaker 1: have nothing. Neither one of them has anything. Let him 194 00:11:35,559 --> 00:11:38,960 Speaker 1: have that girl, and you go start somewhere else and 195 00:11:39,120 --> 00:11:45,520 Speaker 1: don't cheat this time. And the street. I can see 196 00:11:45,600 --> 00:11:52,959 Speaker 1: Russia from my back window. Yeah, you think she'd be 197 00:11:53,000 --> 00:11:57,120 Speaker 1: on the porch where y'all going to day? Yeah, because 198 00:11:57,160 --> 00:12:02,120 Speaker 1: he takes her out. Y'all drive careful. See when you 199 00:12:02,200 --> 00:12:12,959 Speaker 1: get back next Tuesday, easy access doesn't get taken out. Wow. Sad? Yeah, 200 00:12:13,040 --> 00:12:18,040 Speaker 1: you're sad? Yeah? What about what about Steve herb When 201 00:12:18,040 --> 00:12:20,960 Speaker 1: she says I can't ever get a straight answer from him, 202 00:12:21,000 --> 00:12:23,520 Speaker 1: and I've given him an ultimatum to me either to 203 00:12:23,640 --> 00:12:26,280 Speaker 1: either marry her or get back with me. Wait a minute, 204 00:12:26,760 --> 00:12:34,840 Speaker 1: that's not an ultimatum. He he already got both. Either 205 00:12:35,040 --> 00:12:38,000 Speaker 1: marry her or get back with me. You can't make 206 00:12:38,080 --> 00:12:41,679 Speaker 1: him marry her. She can't even make him marry her. Now, 207 00:12:41,679 --> 00:12:43,640 Speaker 1: you either marry her, and then he gonna come over 208 00:12:43,640 --> 00:12:46,400 Speaker 1: to you and go, well, we're getting married. But I 209 00:12:46,480 --> 00:12:48,559 Speaker 1: still love you and I want you across the street 210 00:12:48,600 --> 00:12:53,440 Speaker 1: so you'll be safe because you keep having the wrong 211 00:12:53,520 --> 00:12:57,440 Speaker 1: takeaway from y'all's conversation. He still loves me, he still 212 00:12:57,520 --> 00:13:00,760 Speaker 1: loves doing you. Yes, there you go, There you go. 213 00:13:00,840 --> 00:13:03,120 Speaker 1: All right, Thank you, Steve. Post your comments on today's 214 00:13:03,160 --> 00:13:06,839 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM, on Instagram and Facebook, 215 00:13:07,000 --> 00:13:10,400 Speaker 1: and please check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand now. 216 00:13:10,440 --> 00:13:12,720 Speaker 1: Coming up at forty six minutes after the hour, it 217 00:13:12,800 --> 00:13:16,880 Speaker 1: will be our girl from the Talk, Cheryl Underwood. 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