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Speaker 1: All right, see this one's for you. This is from

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Speaker 1: Angela on Facebook. Angela writes, my boyfriend and I've been

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Speaker 1: together for five years. We get along great, like ninety

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Speaker 1: nine percent of the time, and he rarely has anything

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Speaker 1: bad to say about me or our relationship. But when

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Speaker 1: he gets drunk, which is only a few times a year,

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Speaker 1: all the things that he doesn't like about me and

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Speaker 1: our relationship come to the surface and he wants to

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Speaker 1: argue about them. Then I've told him, if he really

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Speaker 1: has an issue with me, we should talk it out

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Speaker 1: when he's sober. But when he's sober, he always says

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Speaker 1: he was just drunk and those things don't really bother him.

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Speaker 1: I'm sick of this predictable cycle and wish he would

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Speaker 1: just tell me if he has a problem with something.

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Speaker 1: It's made me not want to drink as much. Should

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Speaker 1: I ask him to stop drinking too? Does he really

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Speaker 1: have a problem and he's just not brave enough to

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Speaker 1: say anything except when he's drunk. Is this a good

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Speaker 1: reason for us to break up?

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Speaker 2: Well, listen to me answer. You're answering your own question. Yeah, Now,

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Speaker 2: do I think you should break up? No? But when

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Speaker 2: he gets drunk, he honestly tells you what's really on

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Speaker 2: his mind. When he's not drunk, he has a filter

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Speaker 2: and he filters everything to protect your feelings. When he's drunk,

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Speaker 2: the filter gets turned off. So now he just say whatever,

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Speaker 2: but there's some truth in it. So instead of you

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Speaker 2: addressing the real problem is, which is why don't you

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Speaker 2: all talk about some of the things he said when

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Speaker 2: he's drunk, And then you say you do, but he

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Speaker 2: said that don't really bother him. No, you have to

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Speaker 2: press the issue and you can change some things. Maybe

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Speaker 2: there's some things you need changing, and maybe there's some

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Speaker 2: things he needs change because you never did mention in that.

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Speaker 2: When do you tell him the things that he does

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Speaker 2: that you don't like? So I think if you sit

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Speaker 2: down and have that conversation and say listen, I will

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Speaker 2: listening to like I sometimes I do a quick check

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Speaker 2: right then, my girl to sit down somewhere and just

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Speaker 2: write down the things that we like about each other,

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Speaker 2: and then we'll have the things right down the list

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Speaker 2: while we sitting there in front of each other two minutes,

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Speaker 2: right down the things you have a problems, And then

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Speaker 2: we do that and then we discuss them.

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Speaker 1: Who's the long who's has the longest list between.

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Speaker 3: Should have turned over the back pace? Is it going

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Speaker 3: over the two minute?

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Speaker 2: Mok, we see it, two minutes, we see it, two minutes.

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Speaker 3: You still no, no, no, clear. It'd always be something

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Speaker 3: I ain't know nothing about.

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Speaker 1: You don't like that?

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Speaker 2: Then I say to myself, stop there. So well let

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Speaker 2: me see how I can hide that from now.

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Speaker 3: Because the next item on the list.

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Speaker 1: All right, So what about the line in here stee

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Speaker 1: from Angela which she says it has made her not

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Speaker 1: want to drink as much? Could that be the problem? Period?

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Speaker 3: Well, it has made her not want to drink as much?

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Speaker 2: So could it be that when y'all drinking and he

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Speaker 2: say all this when you drinking? Are you overreacting? You

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Speaker 2: see what I mean? Are you processing it correctly? Because

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Speaker 2: you drinking too? So y'all drink together?

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Speaker 1: Now here?

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Speaker 3: Come now you got a problem with Yeah, watch y'all

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Speaker 3: drink separately. That's enough. They don't need yeah.

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Speaker 2: They all really stopping at least drank separately like he

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Speaker 2: needs to drink with his boy and mantay what she

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Speaker 2: did the other day? And then you ain't even got

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Speaker 2: to hear about it because when y'all together, y'all happy,

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Speaker 2: y'all didn't put drinking together.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I've been drinking drunk. All your activities could be

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Speaker 3: done together.

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Speaker 1: That's true. That's very true. Steve.

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Speaker 3: See Larry have it up when he when he gets drunk.

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Speaker 3: What he's saying to when he letting I have it?

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Speaker 3: Are you and be talking to me? Well? I don't

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Speaker 3: want to talk to you and me Your more sound

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Speaker 3: horble sound like and squeaking and everything. And I don't

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Speaker 3: like your breath when you be drinking your broth.

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Speaker 1: Hot, oh like hot bro We'll have more of the

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