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Speaker 1: First Date of follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Mark is on the phone today for our first day

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Sasha.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call her and see

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Speaker 2: sells why she's ghosting him and maybe get him another day.

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Speaker 2: But first, Mark, how long has it been since you

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Speaker 2: heard from Sasha.

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Speaker 3: It's been about a couple of weeks, now, Okay.

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Speaker 1: Have you been reaching out to her during that time?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I've called a couple of times, I've

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Speaker 3: texted and been no reply, And that's why I'm calling you,

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Speaker 3: guys des I and see if you can figure out

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Speaker 3: what's going on.

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Speaker 1: Well, why don't you tell us about how you met

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Speaker 1: her and then the date and stuff.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so we met on Hinge and I just immediately

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Speaker 3: found her to be so beautiful and classy. I mean

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Speaker 3: one of her photos she was even wearing pearls and

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Speaker 3: I thought that was So we started chatting and she

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Speaker 3: told me how she always wanted to go to Paris,

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Speaker 3: So I thought for we could go to this Parisian

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Speaker 3: cafe and get coffee and croissants, which I thought was perfect.

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Speaker 4: Well, that's cool. Did you wear a beret?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's definitely why. I'm just kidding. That's a cute idea, though, Yeah, thoughtful.

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Speaker 3: I thought so too. I thought so too. So we

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Speaker 3: you know, we had our croissants in our coffee and

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Speaker 3: we're talking, laughing, and you know, she shared so much

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Speaker 3: of her life story with me. I just felt like

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Speaker 3: she really wanted me to know her, which you know,

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Speaker 3: was just so sweet. And we were supposed to go

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Speaker 3: in the bike ride, but then her roommate reached out

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Speaker 3: that she needed to be taken care of. So I

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Speaker 3: was okay with that because I love that she's good

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Speaker 3: to her friends. But after that, I never really heard

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Speaker 1: So what did she say to you, or like, what

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Speaker 1: was the interaction like after her roommate called, or like

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Speaker 1: as you guys were going your separate ways.

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Speaker 3: Well, you know, we were supposed to go on the

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Speaker 3: bike ride and she kind of had to dodge out,

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Speaker 3: so I gave her a hug, and you know, she's

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Speaker 3: had a great time, and that was basically it. I said,

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Speaker 3: you know, i'll call you later, and when I called,

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Speaker 3: I got no answer. I texted a couple of times

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Speaker 3: of the course of the last few days, and no.

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Speaker 2: Response is her Okay, I hope so not to freak out,

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Speaker 2: But you don't think it was one of those things

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Speaker 2: where someone says, hey, I'll text you on the sly

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Speaker 2: and then you call me and then I'll say I

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Speaker 2: have to go if you're on a day you don't like.

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Speaker 4: Do you think that could have been a thing.

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Speaker 3: I don't think. I don't think I didn't get that vibe.

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Speaker 3: I mean, she was opening up so much to me

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Speaker 3: about like her life and her family and her friends.

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Speaker 3: It just felt like she was she was having a

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Speaker 3: really great time. I mean, the only thing I can

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Speaker 3: think of is like, I mean, there's a bunch of

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Speaker 3: people checking me out in the cafe, which you know,

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Speaker 3: sometimes I'm a little awkward, but I do kind of

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Speaker 3: look like overal life Superman at times. So I was

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Speaker 4: To Okay, you look like a real life Superman. What

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Speaker 4: does that mean? Like, are you like ripped?

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Speaker 3: I got this Clark Kent's kind of swirl to my hair,

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Speaker 3: and okay, I've been compared a lot to it, but

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Speaker 3: my eyes were on her. I don't know, I don't

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Speaker 3: But yeah, I don't think anything was wrong with the fandite.

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Speaker 3: I just genuinely thought she had to go help her.

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Speaker 1: Did you tell her that you look like Superman at

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Speaker 3: Been Yeah, No, no, I.

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Speaker 4: Did not lucky you.

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Speaker 2: You're on a date with Superman, I know, all right,

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Speaker 2: and you didn't get kiss or anything right at.

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Speaker 3: The end of the day. No, I was gonna, you know,

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Speaker 3: I was gonna try and go for it, but there's

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Speaker 3: was the right move.

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Speaker 2: Okay, all right, Well we'll figure it out where you

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Speaker 2: will play a song, come back, and then call her

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Speaker 2: and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you

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Speaker 2: and maybe.

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Speaker 4: Get you another date.

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Speaker 3: Okay, thank you, I appreciate.

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Speaker 2: Plus, I'll come back and get your first day follow

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Speaker 2: up next if you're just joining us for today's first

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Speaker 2: date follow up. Mark is on the phone and he's

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Speaker 2: getting ghosted by Sasha, So we're about to call her

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Speaker 2: and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him

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Speaker 2: and maybe get him another date. But before we do that, Mark,

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Speaker 2: why don't you catch us up on your situation.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well, I met this beautiful girl named Sasha. We

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Speaker 3: went on hings, went on this great date to Parisian cafe,

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Speaker 3: had a great time, and now I haven't heard from her,

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Speaker 3: and I want to know why.

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Speaker 1: Well, and you do think it's because you look like

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Speaker 1: Superman maybe and you were getting checked out a lot.

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Speaker 3: I'm just worried. I'm just worried that she was aware

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Speaker 3: of that people were looking at me, that's all.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if that that can be kind of

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Speaker 1: operat like if you were somebody that's super hot that

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Speaker 1: everybody's staring at you do feel like such a meat,

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Speaker 1: you know?

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Speaker 4: I get that. Well, we're ready for us to call her. Yeah, yes, please,

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Speaker 4: here we go. Hello him, I speak to Sasha. Please Sasha.

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Speaker 1: Hi?

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Speaker 2: How are your name is Jewbel? I'm calling from a

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Speaker 2: radio show. It's called the Jubil Show.

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Speaker 5: Hi.

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Speaker 1: I'm Nina also on the show.

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Speaker 4: Hi, I'm Victoria. Oh Hi do you listen to the

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Speaker 4: show ever?

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Speaker 5: Sometimes?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? You guys agreed, this is so crazy.

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Speaker 4: You know why we're calling you.

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Speaker 3: I have a suspicion and I'm going about it.

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Speaker 1: That's suspicion being true.

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Speaker 4: What do you think it is? What's your suspicion?

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Speaker 3: Is it the second date?

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Speaker 4: The first day? Follow up?

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Speaker 2: Yes, you are ghosting somebody you.

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Speaker 4: Know who knows.

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Speaker 3: Hi. I'm a sneaking suspicion.

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Speaker 4: That it's Mark, And you're correct. She hasn't answered all question.

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Speaker 6: Well, because I don't really ghost that often, but this

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Speaker 6: was a unique experience.

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Speaker 2: Really, Okay, would you mind telling us why you're ghossing him?

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Speaker 3: He was just so gross. I'm sorry. That was like

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Speaker 3: the playton the most easiest way to say it.

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Speaker 5: He just he was burping the throughout the entire date,

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Speaker 5: and like the first time was just.

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Speaker 3: Kind of because it was loud and he.

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Speaker 5: Didn't say excuse me or anything like that, but then

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Speaker 5: it just kind of just kept happening, and so like

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Speaker 5: I felt like I had to keep talking so that

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Speaker 5: I didn't have to engage with him, and it was

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Speaker 5: it was just so uncomfortable, thoroughly grossed out.

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Speaker 1: Was it just really loud or was it kind of

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Speaker 3: I get that burping is.

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Speaker 5: Natural, but there are ways that you can kind of

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Speaker 5: minimize the damage, like you can kind of put it

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Speaker 5: under your you can cover your mouth, you can say

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Speaker 5: excuse me. But like, since none of that was happening,

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Speaker 5: but the burping and itself kept happening over and over, it.

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Speaker 6: Just felt like super disrespectful and just I was so

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Speaker 3: And grossed out.

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Speaker 2: Really, I mean, I mean, I wouldn't love that anything.

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Speaker 2: Like in the place you were at, he was just

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Speaker 3: Yes, constantly. It was just it was so.

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Speaker 6: Frequent and so loud, like it almost got to the

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Speaker 3: Like that's what I felt like.

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Speaker 6: Maybe it wasn't that bad, but like that's what kind

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Speaker 2: Like I was just, oh, I can't even okay, Well

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Speaker 2: you didn't tell us that.

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Speaker 1: No, it sounded like a very pleasant day.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe you forgot or maybe you haven't heard enough

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Speaker 7: Mark, Oh, yeah, hi, Sasam, Sorry, I don't I honestly

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Speaker 3: I mean, I worked a couple of times because I've

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Speaker 3: been dealing with some like specilated acid reflex. Oh, I'm

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Speaker 3: sorry to hear that, Like why did we go to coffee?

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Speaker 6: Like that's not going to help the situation, And you know, well,

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Speaker 6: because I wanted to take you to a Parisian cafe.

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Speaker 3: I mean, is the real reason that because I look

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Speaker 4: What?

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Speaker 3: Sorry? Sorry, that's not nice. I'm sorry. Okay, No, No,

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Speaker 3: that's not the reason.

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Speaker 6: Yes, you you are an objectively attractive man.

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Speaker 5: But if you're wondering about the why people were looking

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Speaker 5: at you, it was because you were burping so much

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Speaker 3: Are you sure that people weren't just looking at me

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Speaker 3: because of how I look? Oh?

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Speaker 5: No, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 3: I like it was not attractive. They were not looking

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Speaker 6: They were looking at you because they were disgusted. I'm

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Speaker 1: I can't even help, but ask like, Burt, are you okay?

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Speaker 1: Because to be burping that much, I don't know if

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Speaker 1: that's normal.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I've been on a different medication to try and

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Speaker 3: deal with my refleux. It's it's just been a struggle.

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Speaker 3: Bus But I'm doing much better. Thanks.

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Speaker 1: Okay.

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Speaker 3: You know, like Sasha, you say you want to go

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Speaker 3: to France, but you really probably shouldn't go to France

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Speaker 3: because in other countries it's actually considered polite to burp.

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Speaker 3: Is it? That's a compliment of the shame. Even if

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Speaker 6: Here in the stage, I like it when if someone

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Speaker 6: burbs that they at least they excuse me or cover

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Speaker 3: Maybe I'm reaching.

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Speaker 6: For the stars here, but that is something that I

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Speaker 3: You guys, they excuse me, I usually say excuse me,

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Speaker 3: but I just I was you were telling these beautiful stories.

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Speaker 3: I didn't want to interrupt you. I was time to

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Speaker 3: respect you.

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Speaker 4: Sasha, would you like to go on another day with Mark?

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Speaker 4: Will pay for it?

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Speaker 3: You know what, I didn't know that she was still

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Speaker 3: closed minded, So I honestly don't know that this is

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Speaker 3: going to work out. I'm closed minded? What do you

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Speaker 3: What do you mean? I mean, if you can't just

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Speaker 3: be present and accept the person for how they are,

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Speaker 3: I mean, burking happens.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I get that, it's just how you handle it that,

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Speaker 6: you know, really changes things.

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Speaker 5: And how you handle.

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Speaker 3: It was just not it for me. That's fine. I mean,

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Speaker 3: if somebody's going to accept me, accept me from adverbs too.

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Speaker 4: All right.

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Speaker 2: Well, sorry no second date mark, but it sounds like

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Speaker 2: you're fine with that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think it's for the best.

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Speaker 4: Juble's first date follow up