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Speaker 1: Buggle up, hold on tight. We got it for you here.

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Speaker 1: It is a strawberry letter. Stop Jack, Shirley. I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: read the letter for you. Thank you, gonna ask you,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna do it. I appreciate it. Thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: Reads it. Subject I can't do this damn hood red wed.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I can't do the hood red wedding. Dear

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley. This isn't your typical letter, but just like

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Speaker 1: everyone else, I need advice. I'm a thirty seven year

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Speaker 1: old female. I am a professional wedding planner, but I

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Speaker 1: also have a corporate job that pays the bills. Six

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Speaker 1: months ago, a co worker asked me to help her

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Speaker 1: put together her dream wedding. I was excited at first,

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Speaker 1: but then I realized that she had a very limited

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Speaker 1: budget and very ghett old ideas. When it came time

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Speaker 1: to choose her men for the reception, she said that

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Speaker 1: she had already picked out her food and set up

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Speaker 1: the delivery. Almost died when she said when she said

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Speaker 1: she was getting churches, chicken and sides for her reception.

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Speaker 1: She told me that she has been dieting all year

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Speaker 1: to fit into her wear and dress and she can't

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Speaker 1: wait to have some real food to celebrate her weight loss.

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Speaker 1: I chose an inexpensive and really nice venue for her reception,

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Speaker 1: but she chose to have the reception in the activities

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Speaker 1: room that her grandmother Senior living home, so her friends

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Speaker 1: can smoke weed and bring their own liquor. And she

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Speaker 1: also asked me to get her some neat pads for

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Speaker 1: the reception, and I was too scared to ask her why.

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Speaker 1: I finally told her that I wanted no parts of

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Speaker 1: this and she could just pay me for what I

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Speaker 1: had done so far. She told me she owed me

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Speaker 1: nothing because we are work friends now. Stephen Sherley, you

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Speaker 1: know I was hot. We did not speak for weeks,

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Speaker 1: but recently she called me apologize and pleading for my help.

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Speaker 1: I don't want my name and reputation on this get

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Speaker 1: old mess, but I don't want to keep ignoring her

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Speaker 1: at work. You think I should help her out and

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Speaker 1: salvage the friendship or just say forget it and keep

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Speaker 1: my business morals, please advise? Wow, you know what, Weddings

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Speaker 1: seem to always bring out the best and the worst

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Speaker 1: in people. It just seems I don't know if it's

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Speaker 1: a stress level or what it is. But people just,

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Speaker 1: you know, they are crazy when it's wedding time and

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Speaker 1: you're planning it and all that. But I am a

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Speaker 1: bit confused on this letter, Steve, because in the beginning

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Speaker 1: she called she called her the letter writer called her

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Speaker 1: just a coworker, and then that's what she did in

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Speaker 1: the beginning, and then at the end of the letter,

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Speaker 1: you know, she's saying she's trying to salvage their friendship.

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Speaker 1: So I'm trying to figure out, are you guys just

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Speaker 1: co workers or are you truly friends? I mean, the lady,

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Speaker 1: your co worker or whatever called you work friends. That's

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Speaker 1: why she didn't want to pay you. So seems like

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Speaker 1: work friends is what you guys really are. And I

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Speaker 1: think that makes a difference in how you respond, And

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Speaker 1: it depends on what she really wants you to do.

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Speaker 1: She didn't you didn't say so if you're if you're

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Speaker 1: just work work friends, I mean, you can easily tell

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Speaker 1: her that you don't want to do it. You know,

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Speaker 1: you think it's best that you keep your work and

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Speaker 1: your business separate from this particular job right here. You

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Speaker 1: don't want to cause any friction on the job or

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Speaker 1: anything like that. Just tell her that you don't want

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Speaker 1: to do this and these are normally you know, you

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Speaker 1: don't normally do this kind of a wedding. And she

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Speaker 1: has her own ideas, so it's best that she gets

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Speaker 1: someone other than you that can handle it. I think

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Speaker 1: that's the way you should. You should deal with this

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Speaker 1: suggest as she go with someone else and you, guys,

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Speaker 1: if she needs help finding someone else, maybe you can

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Speaker 1: help her do that. But no, I don't think you

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Speaker 1: should help her with this wedding because, yeah, it may

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Speaker 1: ruin your reputation, and you don't. Yeah, I mean she

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Speaker 1: she doesn't take any of your suggestions. Steve, Hey, Shirley,

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Speaker 1: welcome back. Great answer. I disagree with every damn thing

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Speaker 1: you see. I'm for this wedding, right yeah, a hood wed.

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Speaker 1: Can I come listen, take advantage of this. These are

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Speaker 1: rare moments in life. The memory of this wed will

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Speaker 1: last you forever. You you are blocking your blessing. You

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Speaker 1: don't know how hard. Everybody got cell phones. Now this

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Speaker 1: is gonna go viral. This gonna be the great You'll

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Speaker 1: Let's just go over how wonderful this opportunity. Just First

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Speaker 1: of all, you thirty seven, you got a job, So

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Speaker 1: hell if your wedding business ain't worth a damn no hwan,

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Speaker 1: nobody calling yourself hub because you got the main job

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Speaker 1: paying bill, So hell, why not take advantage of this

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Speaker 1: a good ass time. Now. You got excited when she

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Speaker 1: budget with very ghett old ideas. Let let me explain

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Speaker 1: something to you. Limited budgets press you towards hood is

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Speaker 1: a mass ideas. You can't do what regular weddings do

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Speaker 1: own own budgets. You don't have money for all them

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Speaker 1: damn candles. Crazy, You don't have money to rent out

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Speaker 1: no big church. You can't be having no damn rehearsal dinner.

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Speaker 1: You got, you got. You gotta put your money where

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Speaker 1: it is. This half of having churches, chicken and sides

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Speaker 1: after reception? What you mad think? Delicious? All right? Steve?

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Speaker 1: Who got the bed? Who got the biggest? You get

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Speaker 1: the most damned chip? All right, Steve, Come on let's

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Speaker 1: recap today's Discovery letter subject I can't do a hood

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Speaker 1: rat wedding. They are thirty seven year old lady seems professional,

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Speaker 1: real nice lady. She's also a professional wedding planner. She's

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Speaker 1: got a corporate job or the pays all the bills,

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Speaker 1: so this come does she does this on the side.

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Speaker 1: One of co workers asked her to plan to win,

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Speaker 1: and she was excited about it till she found out

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Speaker 1: well that the lady had a limited budget with some

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Speaker 1: ghetto ideas. And like I said, the little money presses

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Speaker 1: you towards ghetto ideas. So let's start with the first

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Speaker 1: ghetto idea. You wanted to plan the menu, she said,

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Speaker 1: no problem, I'm already to set up delivery. I've been

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Speaker 1: dieting all year trying to get in this dress on

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Speaker 1: some real damn food. Churches is delivering all the food.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if you understand what churches is. I

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Speaker 1: about they got fried okrah, Yes they got that, yes, yes, yes,

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Speaker 1: less they got corn, they got that, they got them rolls.

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Speaker 1: But what do churches have that no other chicken place offers.

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Speaker 1: They offer the now distinct Toronto Sauris size chicken parts. Yes,

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Speaker 1: you can get a damned leg that looked like a

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Speaker 1: turkey leg. You can get a five that looked like

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Speaker 1: a woman's ast. You are missing some of the biggest

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Speaker 1: pieces of chicken you eat. So I ain't mad at

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Speaker 1: her with the church church. She told me she'd been there.

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Speaker 1: I chose or you want some real food? And then

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Speaker 1: you said, I chose an inexpensive and really nice venue

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Speaker 1: in the activities room at her grandmama seen your living home.

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Speaker 1: See that's probably free. See that's free because old people

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Speaker 1: So grandmama get to come to the wed and invite

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Speaker 1: her friends. Now, the reason she chose that it saus

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Speaker 1: they can smoke weed and bring their own liquor. Now,

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Speaker 1: old people smoking weed. Now for glock hooma are the writers. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: pain symptoms, So they're gonna love them. Young people coming

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Speaker 1: over there with that weed and then drinking. Oh, this

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Speaker 1: finning to be a party, so you don't she wants that.

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Speaker 1: Then she asked me to get her some knee pads

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Speaker 1: her why. Yeah, I can't. This is why I come

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Speaker 1: in that. See, you ain't been in the hood Winds.

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Speaker 1: I have. I did a comedy special on one of

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Speaker 1: the biggest hood weddings I had ever went to, which

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Speaker 1: was my niece's damn wedding, And I told Margree's bullish,

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Speaker 1: you asked, we wasn't going. She's gonna tell me your

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Speaker 1: And then they got a game in the hood or

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Speaker 1: to stay on their knees to get it stop. I'm like, okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: so y'all ain't been there. That's all I used to

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Speaker 1: And you don't think I'm lying, Just ask some people. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I want to know part of this. She had just

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Speaker 1: I don't really know what you did because the suggestion

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Speaker 1: you gave her for the food, she didn't take. That

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Speaker 1: So I'm pretty damn show she ain't gonna wear what

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Speaker 1: owe you nothing now. Also, if you keep pressing her

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Speaker 1: I'm just gonna go out on live and say you're

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Speaker 1: probably setting yourself for for ass whipping. Cause people throw

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Speaker 1: hood as squids like this through hood as consequences too.

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Speaker 1: So you keep pressing her about this money if you

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Speaker 1: apologizing and pleading for your help. I don't want my

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Speaker 1: in my archives for laughs. You're missing one of the

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Speaker 1: great blessings in life. And how dare you not go

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Speaker 1: help her? You go help that lady and throw in

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Speaker 1: the extra ghetto stuff permental spread sandwiches along with the

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Speaker 1: church's chicken with two picks, and cut each sandwich up

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Speaker 1: into thirty twos and stick two picks with the Christmas

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