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Speaker 2: Hey girl, I was just curious how did you and
Speaker 2: the medial approach the subject of a prenup. Granted I'm
Speaker 2: not as well as you, at least not yet, but
Speaker 2: that is just something that is on the back of
Speaker 2: my mind, like how do you bring that up? And
Speaker 2: what do you do if the other person's not okay
Speaker 2: with it. I may not have a lot yet, but
Speaker 2: I'm hustling, like I want my bag. I want to
Speaker 2: be safe and secure, and if for whatever reason it
Speaker 2: doesn't end up working, I want to make sure that
Speaker 2: I can leave with what I brought you know, and
Speaker 2: that what I've worked hard for doesn't.
Speaker 3: Get taken away from me.
Speaker 2: So how did you guys do it? Like? Was it
Speaker 2: something mutual? Did you talk about it? Did you agree
Speaker 2: like upon it? Like? How does that work? I'm really curious.
Speaker 2: I know that a lot of people like just don't
Speaker 2: do it, and that's just so scary to me. Haki
Speaker 2: that che's most up, But like, did you do it
Speaker 2: both times?
Speaker 3: Or no?
Speaker 2: And how scary is it?
Speaker 1: Ooh, we're starting off to your cheeky today with personal questions.
Speaker 1: That's a very personal question. But this is a very personal,
Speaker 1: very intimate podcast, so I don't mind answering that question.
Speaker 1: I love how you like automatically like knew that I
Speaker 1: have a prenup.
Speaker 3: I didn't ever think I was going to talk about this.
Speaker 1: Hopefully a media doesn't mind, but I don't think he
Speaker 1: would because he's a very honest, transparent man himself.
Speaker 3: But yes, I did.
Speaker 1: I did it both times, and I learned from the
Speaker 1: first time that it was important. I learned from my
Speaker 1: mother that it's important. And I think because Emilia went
Speaker 1: through it with me when I was getting divorced, he
Speaker 1: already knew that there was a prenup in place, and
Speaker 1: it really saved my ass, to be honest, so I
Speaker 1: he kind of already knew what was coming. But as
Speaker 1: soon as I told the media, I said, hey, like
Speaker 1: we're talking about getting married, Like, how do you feel
Speaker 1: about signing a prenup? He says, I don't care, Like
Speaker 1: it's like it's fine, Like I don't want you for
Speaker 1: any of your stuff. I love you for you And honestly,
Speaker 1: if he would have asked me for one, which my
Speaker 1: prenup obviously protects him as well because I'm a very
Speaker 1: fair person. Anything we build together obviously, like anyways, I'm
Speaker 1: not getting into the details in my prenup here, but anyways,
Speaker 1: but of course, like even if he asked me for one,
Speaker 1: I would I would sign one. I think that it's
Speaker 1: important in the world.
Speaker 3: That we live in.
Speaker 1: It's just it's important. It's important, and you never, unfortunately
Speaker 1: finish knowing the person. We evolve, we change, we grow
Speaker 1: into different people. So I think that it's okay, and
Speaker 1: I just had a simple conversation. I was very straight
Speaker 1: up with with him. I was like, look, I love you,
Speaker 1: I want to be with you for the rest of
Speaker 1: my life. I just I've been through things, I've seen
Speaker 1: things my whole life, and I just want to have
Speaker 1: that peace of mind.
Speaker 3: God forbid something happens.
Speaker 1: And he said, babe, not a problem, Like you know,
Speaker 1: I have no issue with it, And yeah, I mean
Speaker 1: it was very simple, straight to the point, and that's that.
Speaker 1: Or there's also the option of post nups, so if
Speaker 1: you get married and after you're like, okay, I just
Speaker 1: want to do this, there's that option as well.
Speaker 3: But yeah, I think it's a conversation.
Speaker 1: These types of things need to be talked about while
Speaker 1: you're dating as soon as you guys get engaged and
Speaker 1: put that on the table right away so that your
Speaker 1: partner knows where your headspace is and explain why that's important.
Speaker 1: And they shouldn't get offended if they get offended. I
Speaker 1: feel that there's there's something you should worry about personally.
Speaker 1: Some people are like, oh, you know, you're already with
Speaker 1: thinking we're going to get divorced. Like it's not that
Speaker 1: it's pre planning, like a will or a trust you're
Speaker 1: pre planning, or like life insurance. It's just that that
Speaker 1: that's all it is. People shouldn't take it that personal.
Speaker 1: In my opinion.
Speaker 3: So with that being said, Leslie, thank you for asking
Speaker 3: me a personal question.
Speaker 2: Girl.
Speaker 3: Starting off your cheeky's real good, but thank you. Hopefully
Speaker 3: it helps.
Speaker 1: And yes, I love that you're being you know, you're
Speaker 1: ambitious and you have these goals. Absolutely, that's you're manifesting
Speaker 1: and I love that for you, So more power to you. Okay, guys,
Speaker 1: next question from Lizbeth All.
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Speaker 3: Saludos il is based the start.
Speaker 1: Guys, She's just basically asking do I identify more or
Speaker 1: as Mexican or American? And in what areas in my
Speaker 1: life do I feel more Mexican or American? And if
Speaker 1: I've ever had any type of like mishaps or obstacles.
Speaker 1: And I'm gonna answer the question I'll get back to
Speaker 1: you right now, okay. So, Lizbeth mene mesento Mexican and
Speaker 1: m aspectos in lausta mun musica and Gusta pason in
Speaker 1: this pertenesco, this same group of the dos sientos percento
Speaker 1: so so cien percento Mexicana, si percento Americana, glez menta Mexicos, aqui.
Speaker 3: So Mexicana, lo.
Speaker 1: Venas pero yet perficile alnicio porke pla music cant Mexicana
Speaker 1: Mexico the yeah, yah, yeah, it is the loss tonos
Speaker 1: in poi pero connel timpo.
Speaker 3: A Mexico.
Speaker 1: Yeah, meco so you Mexicana, caving Lespanoli mas espanol perosifue
Speaker 1: modificily I mean crescentos no no no yah as p
Speaker 1: pero aura crou mass como mass persona como so yeah, no.
Speaker 3: Per no nomer piano pero can so guys.
Speaker 1: I was just telling her that I consider myself to
Speaker 1: be from the two hundred percent club, if you could
Speaker 1: say it that way. So one hundred percent Mexican, one
Speaker 1: hundred percent American. I you know, the music I sing
Speaker 1: is very very Mexican, very like Musica Mexicana, and I
Speaker 1: love it.
Speaker 3: I love what I do. I love the culture, I
Speaker 3: love the food. I love Mexico.
Speaker 1: I love my people. I love that we're hardworking. I'm
Speaker 1: very proud to be Mexican, but I'm also very grateful
Speaker 1: and happy to be American and have the opportunities that
Speaker 1: we have here. And you know, in my career, in
Speaker 1: the beginning, it was very difficult because of the music
Speaker 1: that I sing. It was very Mexican, you know, and
Speaker 1: they would kind of like criticize me for that, like, oh,
Speaker 1: she's from the United States, she's not like us. And
Speaker 1: a little by little, with time, I showed them who
Speaker 1: I am, and it's not. I don't force it.
Speaker 2: I am.
Speaker 3: I live in both worlds, and I.
Speaker 1: Speak Spanish and I've tried my best to speak better Spanish,
Speaker 1: and i love everything about Mexico. So a little bit,
Speaker 1: it's gotten a lot better now. I feel like Mexico
Speaker 1: loves me, so I'm grateful for that. But yeah, Li's
Speaker 1: ben mucha But okay, okay, So next question comes from
Speaker 1: Maria Patakis.
Speaker 4: My question is, if you didn't pursue your music career,
Speaker 4: what other career. Do you have chosen?
Speaker 1: I love you by Ooh, Maria s right to the point. Okay, Well,
Speaker 1: a long time ago, when I was growing up, I
Speaker 1: wanted to be an ice skater. That was like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, I want to ice skate blah blah blah.
Speaker 3: Right, that was real cute.
Speaker 1: And then I wanted to go to the Air Force
Speaker 1: because I didn't know what I wanted to do. But
Speaker 1: then my plan was I'm going to go to the
Speaker 1: Air Force, and then while I'm in the Air Force,
Speaker 1: I'm going to have them pay for my college and
Speaker 1: I'm going to be a psychologist because I wanted to
Speaker 1: help people that have been sexually abused, and that's I
Speaker 1: had it in my heart and that was what I
Speaker 1: was going to do.
Speaker 3: And then life change and my mom needed me, and
Speaker 3: I don't regret it. But I've been thinking about going
Speaker 3: back to school.
Speaker 1: Actually, but I think for sure, like what makes me
Speaker 1: happy and ignites my soul is help being others, so motivational, speaking, counseling.
Speaker 1: What I do here with you guys, that is just oh,
Speaker 1: it's like I love it.
Speaker 3: I love it.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I think psychologists for sure. If I wasn't
Speaker 1: singing I'd be a psychologist most definitely. Yeah, I love
Speaker 1: these questions. Today we got personal, little funky.
Speaker 3: It was cute.
Speaker 1: I love it. But you, guys, thank you so much
Speaker 1: for listening always, for submitting your questions, for taking the time.
Speaker 1: I hope that my advice helps you, guys. I love
Speaker 1: you guys very much. I don't say that lightly. I
Speaker 1: really really appreciate you. And well, yeah, I'll catch you
Speaker 1: on the next episode of Dear Cheeky's because this is it.
Speaker 1: We're done with Maria, all right, guys, love you bye.
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