WEBVTT - Dear Chiquis: Did You Ask For A Prenup? 

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the

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<v Speaker 1>your question at the sound of the beat.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey girl, I was just curious how did you and

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<v Speaker 2>the medial approach the subject of a prenup. Granted I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not as well as you, at least not yet, but

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<v Speaker 2>that is just something that is on the back of

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<v Speaker 2>my mind, like how do you bring that up? And

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<v Speaker 2>what do you do if the other person's not okay

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<v Speaker 2>with it. I may not have a lot yet, but

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<v Speaker 2>I'm hustling, like I want my bag. I want to

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<v Speaker 2>be safe and secure, and if for whatever reason it

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't end up working, I want to make sure that

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<v Speaker 2>I can leave with what I brought you know, and

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<v Speaker 2>that what I've worked hard for doesn't.

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<v Speaker 3>Get taken away from me.

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<v Speaker 2>So how did you guys do it? Like? Was it

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<v Speaker 2>something mutual? Did you talk about it? Did you agree

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<v Speaker 2>like upon it? Like? How does that work? I'm really curious.

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<v Speaker 2>I know that a lot of people like just don't

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<v Speaker 2>do it, and that's just so scary to me. Haki

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<v Speaker 2>that che's most up, But like, did you do it

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<v Speaker 2>both times?

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<v Speaker 3>Or no?

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<v Speaker 2>And how scary is it?

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<v Speaker 1>Ooh, we're starting off to your cheeky today with personal questions.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a very personal question. But this is a very personal,

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<v Speaker 1>very intimate podcast, so I don't mind answering that question.

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<v Speaker 1>I love how you like automatically like knew that I

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<v Speaker 1>have a prenup.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't ever think I was going to talk about this.

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<v Speaker 1>Hopefully a media doesn't mind, but I don't think he

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<v Speaker 1>would because he's a very honest, transparent man himself.

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<v Speaker 3>But yes, I did.

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<v Speaker 1>I did it both times, and I learned from the

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<v Speaker 1>first time that it was important. I learned from my

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<v Speaker 1>mother that it's important. And I think because Emilia went

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<v Speaker 1>through it with me when I was getting divorced, he

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<v Speaker 1>already knew that there was a prenup in place, and

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<v Speaker 1>it really saved my ass, to be honest, so I

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<v Speaker 1>he kind of already knew what was coming. But as

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<v Speaker 1>soon as I told the media, I said, hey, like

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<v Speaker 1>we're talking about getting married, Like, how do you feel

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<v Speaker 1>about signing a prenup? He says, I don't care, Like

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<v Speaker 1>it's like it's fine, Like I don't want you for

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<v Speaker 1>any of your stuff. I love you for you And honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>if he would have asked me for one, which my

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<v Speaker 1>prenup obviously protects him as well because I'm a very

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<v Speaker 1>fair person. Anything we build together obviously, like anyways, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not getting into the details in my prenup here, but anyways,

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<v Speaker 1>but of course, like even if he asked me for one,

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<v Speaker 1>I would I would sign one. I think that it's

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<v Speaker 1>important in the world.

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<v Speaker 3>That we live in.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just it's important. It's important, and you never, unfortunately

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<v Speaker 1>finish knowing the person. We evolve, we change, we grow

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<v Speaker 1>into different people. So I think that it's okay, and

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<v Speaker 1>I just had a simple conversation. I was very straight

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<v Speaker 1>up with with him. I was like, look, I love you,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to be with you for the rest of

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<v Speaker 1>my life. I just I've been through things, I've seen

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<v Speaker 1>things my whole life, and I just want to have

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<v Speaker 1>that peace of mind.

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<v Speaker 3>God forbid something happens.

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<v Speaker 1>And he said, babe, not a problem, Like you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I have no issue with it, And yeah, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>it was very simple, straight to the point, and that's that.

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<v Speaker 1>Or there's also the option of post nups, so if

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<v Speaker 1>you get married and after you're like, okay, I just

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<v Speaker 1>want to do this, there's that option as well.

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<v Speaker 3>But yeah, I think it's a conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>These types of things need to be talked about while

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<v Speaker 1>you're dating as soon as you guys get engaged and

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<v Speaker 1>put that on the table right away so that your

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<v Speaker 1>partner knows where your headspace is and explain why that's important.

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<v Speaker 1>And they shouldn't get offended if they get offended. I

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<v Speaker 1>feel that there's there's something you should worry about personally.

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<v Speaker 1>Some people are like, oh, you know, you're already with

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<v Speaker 1>thinking we're going to get divorced. Like it's not that

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<v Speaker 1>it's pre planning, like a will or a trust you're

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<v Speaker 1>pre planning, or like life insurance. It's just that that

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<v Speaker 1>that's all it is. People shouldn't take it that personal.

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<v Speaker 1>In my opinion.

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<v Speaker 3>So with that being said, Leslie, thank you for asking

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<v Speaker 3>me a personal question.

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<v Speaker 2>Girl.

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<v Speaker 3>Starting off your cheeky's real good, but thank you. Hopefully

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<v Speaker 3>it helps.

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<v Speaker 1>And yes, I love that you're being you know, you're

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<v Speaker 1>ambitious and you have these goals. Absolutely, that's you're manifesting

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<v Speaker 1>and I love that for you, So more power to you. Okay, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>next question from Lizbeth All.

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<v Speaker 4>The chicken sprimar comer come persona ecomore sistem in canes

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<v Speaker 4>junta is commo identificas racial, mene q part tente Mexicana,

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<v Speaker 4>que partie equal znas casas cornas qyado os and ferentado

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<v Speaker 4>porno naci and Mexico como is the publico Mexicano Latino,

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<v Speaker 4>I can espanol k aspectos acento co partenes come on

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<v Speaker 4>and espertendo pero.

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<v Speaker 3>Saludos il is based the start.

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<v Speaker 1>Guys, She's just basically asking do I identify more or

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<v Speaker 1>as Mexican or American? And in what areas in my

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<v Speaker 1>life do I feel more Mexican or American? And if

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<v Speaker 1>I've ever had any type of like mishaps or obstacles.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm gonna answer the question I'll get back to

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<v Speaker 1>you right now, okay. So, Lizbeth mene mesento Mexican and

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<v Speaker 1>m aspectos in lausta mun musica and Gusta pason in

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<v Speaker 1>this pertenesco, this same group of the dos sientos percento

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<v Speaker 1>so so cien percento Mexicana, si percento Americana, glez menta Mexicos, aqui.

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<v Speaker 3>So Mexicana, lo.

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<v Speaker 1>Venas pero yet perficile alnicio porke pla music cant Mexicana

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<v Speaker 1>Mexico the yeah, yah, yeah, it is the loss tonos

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<v Speaker 1>in poi pero connel timpo.

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<v Speaker 3>A Mexico.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, meco so you Mexicana, caving Lespanoli mas espanol perosifue

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<v Speaker 1>modificily I mean crescentos no no no yah as p

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<v Speaker 1>pero aura crou mass como mass persona como so yeah, no.

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<v Speaker 3>Per no nomer piano pero can so guys.

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<v Speaker 1>I was just telling her that I consider myself to

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<v Speaker 1>be from the two hundred percent club, if you could

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<v Speaker 1>say it that way. So one hundred percent Mexican, one

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<v Speaker 1>hundred percent American. I you know, the music I sing

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<v Speaker 1>is very very Mexican, very like Musica Mexicana, and I

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<v Speaker 1>love it.

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<v Speaker 3>I love what I do. I love the culture, I

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<v Speaker 3>love the food. I love Mexico.

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<v Speaker 1>I love my people. I love that we're hardworking. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>very proud to be Mexican, but I'm also very grateful

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<v Speaker 1>and happy to be American and have the opportunities that

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<v Speaker 1>we have here. And you know, in my career, in

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<v Speaker 1>the beginning, it was very difficult because of the music

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<v Speaker 1>that I sing. It was very Mexican, you know, and

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<v Speaker 1>they would kind of like criticize me for that, like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>she's from the United States, she's not like us. And

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<v Speaker 1>a little by little, with time, I showed them who

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<v Speaker 1>I am, and it's not. I don't force it.

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<v Speaker 2>I am.

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<v Speaker 3>I live in both worlds, and I.

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<v Speaker 1>Speak Spanish and I've tried my best to speak better Spanish,

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<v Speaker 1>and i love everything about Mexico. So a little bit,

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<v Speaker 1>it's gotten a lot better now. I feel like Mexico

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<v Speaker 1>loves me, so I'm grateful for that. But yeah, Li's

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<v Speaker 1>ben mucha But okay, okay, So next question comes from

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<v Speaker 1>Maria Patakis.

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<v Speaker 4>My question is, if you didn't pursue your music career,

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<v Speaker 4>what other career. Do you have chosen?

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<v Speaker 1>I love you by Ooh, Maria s right to the point. Okay, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>a long time ago, when I was growing up, I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to be an ice skater. That was like, oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, I want to ice skate blah blah blah.

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<v Speaker 3>Right, that was real cute.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I wanted to go to the Air Force

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<v Speaker 1>because I didn't know what I wanted to do. But

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<v Speaker 1>then my plan was I'm going to go to the

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<v Speaker 1>Air Force, and then while I'm in the Air Force,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to have them pay for my college and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to be a psychologist because I wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>help people that have been sexually abused, and that's I

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<v Speaker 1>had it in my heart and that was what I

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<v Speaker 1>was going to do.

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<v Speaker 3>And then life change and my mom needed me, and

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<v Speaker 3>I don't regret it. But I've been thinking about going

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<v Speaker 3>back to school.

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<v Speaker 1>Actually, but I think for sure, like what makes me

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<v Speaker 1>happy and ignites my soul is help being others, so motivational, speaking, counseling.

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<v Speaker 1>What I do here with you guys, that is just oh,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like I love it.

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<v Speaker 3>I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, I think psychologists for sure. If I wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>singing I'd be a psychologist most definitely. Yeah, I love

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<v Speaker 1>these questions. Today we got personal, little funky.

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<v Speaker 3>It was cute.

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<v Speaker 1>I love it. But you, guys, thank you so much

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<v Speaker 1>for listening always, for submitting your questions, for taking the time.

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<v Speaker 1>I hope that my advice helps you, guys. I love

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<v Speaker 1>you guys very much. I don't say that lightly. I

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<v Speaker 1>really really appreciate you. And well, yeah, I'll catch you

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<v Speaker 1>on the next episode of Dear Cheeky's because this is it.

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<v Speaker 1>We're done with Maria, all right, guys, love you bye.

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