Speaker 1: I like to dedicate this episode to all the mothers
Speaker 1: in the world who made a world of difference, because
Speaker 1: without you there is no civilization or humanity. We appreciate you,
Speaker 1: we adore you, and we want to give gratitude and
Speaker 1: thanks to all the mothers and the whole worldwide. I
Speaker 1: know that my mother meant a lot to me, and
Speaker 1: I know people's mothers mean a lot to them. But
Speaker 1: without the mother, there is no life. Without the mother,
Speaker 1: there's no civilization. Now, I don't want to discount the
Speaker 1: fact that there's a God, but I'm just saying that
Speaker 1: I came through by way of a woman. I want
Speaker 1: to give acknowledgement and praise to women all over the
Speaker 1: world because you make the world going around. So this
Speaker 1: episode twenty four is devoted and dedicated to you, happy mothers,
Speaker 1: think to all the women and the whole wide world.
Speaker 1: Lead Books has all the knowledge you want, Malik Books
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Speaker 1: all the books that the whole wild world want to read. Books.
Speaker 1: This is Belise Bookshelf and I'm recorded on the spot.
Speaker 1: Ain't Got a Mother by a Deeper Nelson. Belis bookshelf
Speaker 1: got an author and we need to hear from her
Speaker 1: right now about this wonderful comedy book coming out just
Speaker 1: before Mother's Day. So just quick tell us about the
Speaker 1: book and what you want my audience on release bookshop
Speaker 1: bringing a world together with books, culture and community to
Speaker 1: know about your wonderful book. Well, thank you so much
Speaker 1: Withsta Malik. I don't know if I can match your energy,
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna try. So my book ain't that a mother?
Speaker 1: I'd like to call it a hilarious from through this
Speaker 1: comedy of areas we call parenthood. It's real talk about
Speaker 1: real parentsing the good, the bad and oh my god,
Speaker 1: hell no, god, you must be crazy. I tell all
Speaker 1: the secrets. I get very truthful, um. But I also
Speaker 1: bring some humor, some levity, some factual data, some historical data, um,
Speaker 1: and humanity to parenting. Well. I think that your colors
Speaker 1: are beautiful, your cover is beautiful, and I think this
Speaker 1: is a timely book for the right time. And I
Speaker 1: got a chance to hear you talk about it real
Speaker 1: deep and personal. And so what is the most important
Speaker 1: chapter you say is in this book? Oh man? The
Speaker 1: most important chapter the end family keepsakes right? And what
Speaker 1: does that mean? Um? How we move forward when everything
Speaker 1: has been thrown at us, how do we keep going forward?
Speaker 1: And what was your inspiration for writing this book? Um?
Speaker 1: Really just all the women that I come across who
Speaker 1: don't have a voice, whether you're a woman with a child,
Speaker 1: or woman without a child, or woman just walking through life.
Speaker 1: We've all experienced things, but we've all been told that
Speaker 1: we're not supposed to speak about them, and it's high
Speaker 1: time that we do well. I think that that is
Speaker 1: a great point, And so I have this fun, fun
Speaker 1: question to ask you. If you can sum up your
Speaker 1: life in one word, what would it be? You're okay,
Speaker 1: this is back get someone blessed? Yes, uh, I can't.
Speaker 1: That's the only word. There's no way else to describe
Speaker 1: living through all the things that I've lived through and
Speaker 1: still being here and being here at this very moment
Speaker 1: talking to you about a book that I wrote that
Speaker 1: is out in this world, talking about the things I'm
Speaker 1: talking about. Blessed. I think that that's an excellent um
Speaker 1: definition of the sum total of your life. And I
Speaker 1: think that you know, being blessed is important sometimes, you know,
Speaker 1: we don't see that. Sometimes things happen in our lives
Speaker 1: and we don't you know, recognized it at the end
Speaker 1: of the day that we still blessed it all joy,
Speaker 1: even the bad things, the things that go laugh, things
Speaker 1: were like, ah, are you crazy? Like are you serious
Speaker 1: right now? Lord? Even in the end, and you turn
Speaker 1: around and look at where you're at versus where you
Speaker 1: were when X y Z happened, you realize that it
Speaker 1: had to happens that way for you to be where
Speaker 1: you are right now. So it's still a less sounds
Speaker 1: like you learn from experience. Um read the book, you'll
Speaker 1: find out well. Thank you, Thank you, Deeva Nelson. Go
Speaker 1: out and buy your copy of Ain't That a Mother?
Speaker 1: It's available everywhere because it's out. Just came out on Tuesday. Gratulations,
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Pleasure anniversary night, sixteen years in
Speaker 1: the game. It's been a wonderful ride. Looking forward to
Speaker 1: many more. On Melik's Bookshelf, I like to get personal.
Speaker 1: I like to talk about some things that are personal
Speaker 1: in my life without too much detail. But we like
Speaker 1: to talk, you know, we want to keep it real,
Speaker 1: we want to keep it exciting. Everything that we do
Speaker 1: at in our business Malik book, U uh, it's a
Speaker 1: derivative of our personal life as well, and it's our anniversary.
Speaker 1: We've been together seventeen years. It's sixteen years of marriage. Um,
Speaker 1: we hit it. We're hitting to uh a nice dinner. Um.
Speaker 1: We had lunch earlier at the Getty Museum. We sat
Speaker 1: down overlooking the mountains. It was beautiful and uh, the
Speaker 1: food was wonderful, the view was wonderful. And um, now
Speaker 1: we hit into our romantic dinner this evening at at
Speaker 1: a place at the Beverly Hills Hilton Hotel. Maybe I
Speaker 1: said the hotel wrong, that I've been known to get
Speaker 1: some names wrong, but listen, Um, we sixteen years in
Speaker 1: the game, and uh, I'm immenseally Um, I'm immensely happy
Speaker 1: as well as excited and looking forward to so many
Speaker 1: more things to come, more years to come. And yeah,
Speaker 1: I want to hear from a secret weapon. I want
Speaker 1: to hear from you know her thoughts about our sixteen
Speaker 1: year journey. Well, sixteen year journey was just that a journey. Um.
Speaker 1: In these sixteen years, I have grown as a woman
Speaker 1: and I have learned many things about you that I
Speaker 1: have grown to love and still trying to understand. You know,
Speaker 1: being married is there's a job in itself because you
Speaker 1: after not only love and learn your your better half,
Speaker 1: but you're also happened to learn and love yourself in
Speaker 1: the process. So that's why I say a journey, because
Speaker 1: it is a journey. It's a journey that I feel
Speaker 1: that has been worth the transition of being h a wife, mother, friend,
Speaker 1: business partner, all of it. I want you to know
Speaker 1: you my best friend. I love you, but you're really
Speaker 1: my best friend. I talked to you about everything and anything.
Speaker 1: My business partner, my best friend, my wife. Um, it
Speaker 1: could be, you know, um overwhelming simply because you're my everything.
Speaker 1: That can't be overwhelming. That can't be over No, of
Speaker 1: course it could be overwhelming in a good way. But yeah,
Speaker 1: overwhelming for sure. You bring the best out of me.
Speaker 1: Do I bring the best out of you? You do?
Speaker 1: You bring the You bring the the best out of me,
Speaker 1: even in my my my times that I feel that
Speaker 1: I need a quiet time, is still the best out
Speaker 1: of me. Still shopping still like men shopping men, But
Speaker 1: you know what, husband and wife can shop in each
Speaker 1: other as well. I think that I've grown over the years.
Speaker 1: I've learned a lot. Um it's just you know, a
Speaker 1: wonderful experience. But it don't come, well, you sometimes we
Speaker 1: get a little distraction, you know. Listen, I do a lot.
Speaker 1: I gotta wear a lot of hats at my league books.
Speaker 1: My wife wear a lot of hats too, and sometimes
Speaker 1: you know, we we uh, we try to get in
Speaker 1: our content, you know, wherever we can on to go.
Speaker 1: So we're trying to get some great content because it's
Speaker 1: our six team anniversary and we're excited. It's been a
Speaker 1: beautiful day. It was sunny, it was warm. We went
Speaker 1: back to Getty Center. We met a young lady where
Speaker 1: she ain't young. She was eighty years old, eighty still living,
Speaker 1: sitting right by, telling me a little bit about her life.
Speaker 1: And I don't believe in quincidence. It was a reason why,
Speaker 1: you know, we said they set us in that place.
Speaker 1: We got a chance to talk to this young lady,
Speaker 1: This young lady. I keep saying young lady. But this
Speaker 1: just woman, my elder eighty years old and uh, she's
Speaker 1: been married, uh fifty years, fifty years, you know. So
Speaker 1: she shared us her story. Her husband passed on and
Speaker 1: she had a significant other for fourteen more of the
Speaker 1: years and she was there waiting for another she's on
Speaker 1: the internet. Um, she was waiting for someone, but he
Speaker 1: went to the the wrong Getty. Long story short, Companionship
Speaker 1: is everything. It's not overrated all that on. I don't
Speaker 1: need a man or, I don't need a Uh that's
Speaker 1: a lie. She was eighty years old and somebody yes
Speaker 1: to talk to. Yes, friendship with Yes. And what's she's
Speaker 1: saying about her? She said she lives in Hunted to
Speaker 1: be She said, living in that big old house is
Speaker 1: not a good thing she needs. So she wants someone. Yes, yes, Yes,
Speaker 1: it's not good, not good. Being alone is not good. Okay,
Speaker 1: And you know she coming out of the pandemic, coming
Speaker 1: out of relationship, she's trying to find companionship. She's sitting
Speaker 1: in her home all by herself. She drove all the
Speaker 1: way to hunting the beach to Getty to the Getty
Speaker 1: drove from Santa Barbro right right, So you know, don't
Speaker 1: underestimate companionship ship. Um, that's one of the things I
Speaker 1: know that in this sixteen year journey, uh seventeen years
Speaker 1: really just sixteen years, murk Um, we've learned um that, Um. Companionship.
Speaker 1: Friendship is important, you know, confining each other, having someone
Speaker 1: that you can go to to talk to and you know,
Speaker 1: confining help me all of those things, because you know,
Speaker 1: we do everything together. Everything, We do everything together, and
Speaker 1: it's a it's a good thing. You know, a lot
Speaker 1: of people that um I know say that's like, wow,
Speaker 1: you guys do everything again, say yes, we do everything together,
Speaker 1: and a question like how do you do it? You
Speaker 1: have to like the person. You have to like the
Speaker 1: person to give all your time and don't mind giving it.
Speaker 1: It's not like a burden, so you you really have
Speaker 1: to like the person in order to do that. Let
Speaker 1: me tell you something. You know, beauty, Yes it's important
Speaker 1: on the outside, but it's just as portant as important,
Speaker 1: or if if not more, on the inside. And secret
Speaker 1: Weapon has a beautiful personality. She's more beautiful inside. And
Speaker 1: believe me, she's physically beautiful on the outside, she's more
Speaker 1: beautiful on the inside. Just she's a gift and a
Speaker 1: rainbow of blessings. That's why I call a secret weapon.
Speaker 1: And let me tell you this. Let me tell you
Speaker 1: this because I know, I know that beauty is in
Speaker 1: the eye in bolder. So you know, it's all about
Speaker 1: what you like. But what's gonna sustain you? Because let
Speaker 1: me tell you something, you know, the physical movie me,
Speaker 1: don't get me, don't get it twisted. And she's very
Speaker 1: very beautiful and uh and she's looking scrumptious tonight. She's
Speaker 1: looking delicious. Yeah, you know, even earlier, even earlier when
Speaker 1: we went to the Getty, and even now when we
Speaker 1: changed up, she's looking scrumptious. She's looking edible, she's looking delicious.
Speaker 1: She's looking all intentional, all for you, and talk to
Speaker 1: me talk doesn't fire me up? Yummy yummy and fired
Speaker 1: me up. I'm like, Lord Mercy, Yes, this is what
Speaker 1: I'm talking about. The spicest real, the spark is real.
Speaker 1: And she and she looking all day just yummy, yummy, yummy.
Speaker 1: Come on, justin baby, yummy yummy yum. Yes it was
Speaker 1: all intentional. Oh yeah yeah yeah. So hey ladies out there,
Speaker 1: women out there, sisters out there, me tell you that,
Speaker 1: um you know, um, it's a beautiful thing when y'all
Speaker 1: go through your rit rolls and uh show your man
Speaker 1: um your beauty both hourly and em wily. It's a
Speaker 1: beautiful thing. But yeah, so today, um, what was what
Speaker 1: what was on the menu was secret weapon ha ha ha,
Speaker 1: Yes that's the dessert I don't need do on know
Speaker 1: that she is the deserved And it's sixteen years Mary
Speaker 1: is still strong, It's still spicy, it's still wonderful, you know.
Speaker 1: Um so it's a beautiful thing. Let me tell you something,
Speaker 1: beautiful thing. So talk to me secret weapon. Give our audience,
Speaker 1: you know, something that they can hold in their relationship,
Speaker 1: you know as they go through their journey. Well, I
Speaker 1: know this sounds katy. Shake, but don't move out of anger.
Speaker 1: Don't make movements out of if you eat, if you're upset,
Speaker 1: just sit down for a second, be quiet, get in
Speaker 1: your zen and then make a decision or then say something.
Speaker 1: Don't move out of anger because anger will mess everything up.
Speaker 1: And then you say something I've done something you can't return.
Speaker 1: So trying to move out of peace and love the emotions.
Speaker 1: In other words, don't react out of it emotionally, you know,
Speaker 1: find a way to That's how I that's how I
Speaker 1: do it. I need quiet. I need to just be
Speaker 1: quiet because I've learned. If I react out of anger,
Speaker 1: I say things that are cruel sometimes and you can't
Speaker 1: take those back. You can't take them back, Like why
Speaker 1: did I say that? Why did I do that? That
Speaker 1: was really unnecessary? Just me. I need to just I
Speaker 1: need a quiet moment. Yeah, well I definitely dev have
Speaker 1: learned that. Um, being silent sometimes it is the best thing. Um.
Speaker 1: Having space sometimes this is the best thing. Um. You know,
Speaker 1: we we live in a world where everything is a microwave,
Speaker 1: wanted an instant, you know, we wanted right now, and
Speaker 1: sometimes right now is not the now and we have
Speaker 1: to you know, take time space to resolve this. It
Speaker 1: don't have to be resolved right now. UM. You know,
Speaker 1: everybody's different and it's easy to rub someone the wrong way.
Speaker 1: Everybody don't think the same, act the same, or want
Speaker 1: the same. So um, but just taking that minute to
Speaker 1: have space and time. UM, it's a very very good tip.
Speaker 1: You know. It's you know, small things can lead to
Speaker 1: big things. Tiny things can can be enormous things. And
Speaker 1: so UM I've learned to try to adapt that method
Speaker 1: as well. And UM, and you know, I'm I'm I'm
Speaker 1: in a sixteen year married, I'm happy, I love my wife. UM.
Speaker 1: And you know everything about what we do, you know,
Speaker 1: release book shelf bringing a world together with books, culture
Speaker 1: and community. You know, it's just an extension of what
Speaker 1: we do secret weapons. It's an extension of our journey
Speaker 1: in our in our relationship as well as both personal
Speaker 1: and business. You know, Malik's bookshelf is a reflection of
Speaker 1: Malik books. It's a reflection of us. And you know,
Speaker 1: I appreciate you, I adore you, I love you, and
Speaker 1: we're gonna celebrate our sixteen um your anniversary. I'm grateful
Speaker 1: to say that you are my husband. Thank you for
Speaker 1: giving me six and seventeen years of your life. Thank you.
Speaker 1: You're welcome. You're welcome. Well, that's concluse. I'll talk about
Speaker 1: our sixteen year journey here on release book show. I
Speaker 1: hope you enjoy. Olmar is enjoy. You know. I think
Speaker 1: that talking personal sometimes is being real, and you know,
Speaker 1: and being personal can be helpful. You know. I can
Speaker 1: always get on here and talk about what was lit,
Speaker 1: was hot? You know. Yeah, marriage is at a year
Speaker 1: two months we made seventeen. This is lit. It is lit.
Speaker 1: They say, if you make tend you you're successful having
Speaker 1: like each other. Oh yeah, since a humor, sense of
Speaker 1: humor before I I don't talk about the sense of humor.
Speaker 1: You gotta have that to keep me. If you don't
Speaker 1: have humor and make laughter, oh my goodness. This is
Speaker 1: I'll look at it. And in our relationship, we're gonna
Speaker 1: have to go out in this world and fighting, like
Speaker 1: go home and fight. Let's laugh, laugh and laugh at
Speaker 1: each other, laugh with each other, laugh at each other.
Speaker 1: It's okay, you know, to take life so seriously. You
Speaker 1: gotta fight when you walk out the door. You gotta
Speaker 1: put your gloves on the fight. I don't want to
Speaker 1: do that. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes yes. I've been
Speaker 1: known to, you know, being able to crack a joker too.
Speaker 1: I never, you know, I really be. I never saw myself,
Speaker 1: you know, as having a sense of humor, but I
Speaker 1: got to say that, you know, I've been the only
Speaker 1: cracker joker too. I know I keep you laughing. She
Speaker 1: gets my corny jokes. But hey, um well, I hope
Speaker 1: you'll enjoyed this episode and have a sense of humor
Speaker 1: in your relationship. So peace. Thanks for listening to me
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