WEBVTT - Love Sick

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<v Speaker 1>Mm hmm. Good daddy, it's a queen spank bank Rock.

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome back. This is good mom's bad choices. I'm Erica,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Mela, Happy Wednesday. It is Wednesday. We were actually

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<v Speaker 1>recording on a Wednesday. We're both fucking sick. Shela fuck

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<v Speaker 1>got me sick, and it's my fault because I continued

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<v Speaker 1>to smoke after her and drink out of her waters.

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<v Speaker 1>Why did you do that? I don't know, because I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, I'm fine, I'm taking vitamin yeah, so forgive

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<v Speaker 1>me if I'm disgusting coughing into the microphone.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to try my best. But look, we've been

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<v Speaker 2>doing this year. This is my only time I've ever

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<v Speaker 2>been sick.

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<v Speaker 1>So sorry, I know I have well. I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sick all the time you were sick, like once

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<v Speaker 1>or time. I'm always like on the verge of sickness

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<v Speaker 1>and then I sometimes I'll recover, and then sometimes it

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<v Speaker 1>goes deep and bad.

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<v Speaker 2>I like am never sick except like one time a year,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's bad and I am so sick. I'm having

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<v Speaker 2>like strange dreams, I have a headache, I'm hacking coughing.

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<v Speaker 2>It's mostly because I try to ignore my sickness, like

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<v Speaker 2>keep going, keep going, keep going.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I'm like, I know, bit, you were out

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<v Speaker 1>with me last night and I was like, aren't you sick? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>And finally I was like, I gotta go home. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Speaking of our week, I feel like we've been NonStop

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<v Speaker 1>all week. Like if anyone's thinking of starting a podcast,

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<v Speaker 1>rethink it. Literally, this is It's a lot of work. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>We're trying, and I know it seems like all we

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<v Speaker 1>do is post on Instagram. We have a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>things we're trying to do behind the scenes, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>just a fucking goal struggle les drug goal le struggle Israel. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna need you to try to say I'm trying.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm actually trying. Sorry. We were actually supposed to go

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<v Speaker 1>on one of our other podcast today, but we had

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<v Speaker 1>to cancel because nobody else wants us to hack on

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<v Speaker 1>their podcasts. Shout out to the Dualities podcast. We'll be

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<v Speaker 1>on there with our Woman soon with our carbon our woman.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm about to drink some of this fat Donald's xxx

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<v Speaker 2>Caneleen sixteen do not exceed ten ounces per twelve hours.

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<v Speaker 2>Still friends, our good friend King Noir, who is previously a.

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<v Speaker 1>Guest on our podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>If you have not heard that episode it's Porn and Parenting.

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<v Speaker 2>Him and his girl, Jazzmin are on talking porn and parenting.

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<v Speaker 1>They have three kids, and they're sex workers. That's what

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<v Speaker 1>they That's what they're called. Okay, you don't like that, No,

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<v Speaker 1>porn star is better for you. Oh no, it sounds

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<v Speaker 1>more glamorous. Sex workers sounds that's what they That's what

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<v Speaker 1>they have said on their Instagram. Oh okay, well, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know whatever. They have sex and they work. They're

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<v Speaker 1>working sex people. Okay, that's true, right, Yeah, it's true.

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<v Speaker 1>Sex worker make you think like prostitution, Yeah, same thing

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<v Speaker 1>sort of anyway. Yeah, I mean it does, it does.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why whatever I mean if they I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>the term of fucking knowlogy.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, I guess they're sex workers. They're in the

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<v Speaker 1>porn industry. They're also parents. She's also a therapist. They're

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<v Speaker 1>also cool. They're also the coolest, smart as fuck, smart

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<v Speaker 1>as fuck for sure, and they go around teaching sex

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<v Speaker 1>positive parenting and kink. So, speaking of them, King was

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<v Speaker 1>out here this last week and we hung out and

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<v Speaker 1>we went to see a jazz show. That was dope.

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<v Speaker 2>And then he was like, come by, I have this

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<v Speaker 2>thing I want to give you from Fat Donald's. And

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<v Speaker 2>I went to meet him at the Sanctuary LA and

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<v Speaker 2>he was mid porn scene, which was very interesting and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm highly jealous. I've never walked in a porn scene.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm pretty sure most people haven't. Actually, I got there

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, oh, okay, and he's like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, you know, we're running little late, but do

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<v Speaker 1>you mind doing the behind the scenes. So not only

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<v Speaker 1>did I get to walk in on the porn scene,

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<v Speaker 1>I got to film some behind the scenes. So basically

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like behind the scenes. Basically, you're a porn director.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a porn director, except I didn't do any directing.

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<v Speaker 1>I was just getting this. They didn't need an er, they.

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<v Speaker 2>Didn't need any director. They knew what they were doing.

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<v Speaker 2>They are professionals. At first I was like okay, and

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<v Speaker 2>then I was like.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, okay. It was cool. It was nice. The sanctuary

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<v Speaker 1>is really cool. There's a lot of cool equipment there.

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<v Speaker 1>And shout out to Lotus Lane who was his co star,

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<v Speaker 1>and it was really cool. They're doing lots of scenes,

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<v Speaker 1>so lots of skirting squirting on the Jordans, lots of

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<v Speaker 1>long dick. Yeah, live long dick. Like if you haven't yet,

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<v Speaker 1>if you are, just are you, if you're new to

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<v Speaker 1>the podcast, or maybe you listen to our last are

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<v Speaker 1>not last episode, but our episode with King Norn and

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<v Speaker 1>Jet Setting Jasmine, I highly recommend you go and search

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<v Speaker 1>search them, search their porns. They're on top of quality.

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<v Speaker 1>Because they are top quality, they do a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>stuff that you won't see on like your typical porn

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<v Speaker 1>hub or your red Tube or your xx X tube.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's more porn. You porn, yeah, good old you porn.

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<v Speaker 1>You see more like of course you see the raunch,

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<v Speaker 1>you see the kink. We also see the black love,

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<v Speaker 1>which you know, when they were on our show, we

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<v Speaker 1>talked about you don't really see a lot of that

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<v Speaker 1>black love, intimacy, real intimacy, so or love black kink.

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<v Speaker 1>They were saying, that's like not a big thing in

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<v Speaker 1>the industry. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So anyway, one of the conditions of him gifting us

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<v Speaker 2>this fat Donald's canileen is that we need to drink

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<v Speaker 2>it during a podcast and do the whole podcast on

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<v Speaker 2>the canileen.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm about to take a sip okay. Hmmm, vegimond

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<v Speaker 1>and visionmin It's delicious. Do you remember that episode? Is

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<v Speaker 1>it delicious? It's not bad. I have to go be

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<v Speaker 1>a parent at some point today. Hmmm, it's very heavily

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<v Speaker 1>thh seed, very strong. You know I'm not good with

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<v Speaker 1>ingesting marijuana. Oh my god, Erica teld me she goes blind.

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<v Speaker 1>She said, I can't eat marijuana. I go blind and

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<v Speaker 1>I developed a stigmatism. It's like what I do. I like,

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<v Speaker 1>my whole vision gets fucked up. Everything starts shaking, and

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<v Speaker 1>I have no control over my vision. So I can't drive.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't basically can't walk. Maybe we shouldn't appeared that

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<v Speaker 1>with they quilled. Oh yeah, and coldies and all the

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<v Speaker 1>cold medicine we've taken today. Well, we'll see what happens.

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<v Speaker 1>Fuck it, No, we did. We did say we wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to start doing episodes under the influence of This is

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<v Speaker 1>our first step of a series to today's our Ingesting

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<v Speaker 1>Candeleen series, and we're gonna see how this plays out. Later.

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<v Speaker 2>We're gonna do one. Maybe we're gonna do one drunk.

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<v Speaker 2>We're gonna take some shots during the podcast. You guys

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<v Speaker 2>can join us.

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<v Speaker 1>We're gonna do one Mushrooms Mushrooms, and I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>whatever else we can get our hands on these.

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<v Speaker 2>Companies, mushrooms or others. We are looking to do some

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<v Speaker 2>podcasts under the influence. Here's to see how it affects

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<v Speaker 2>our psyche.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, maybe we'll dig out some deep dark gems.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I get into my feelings under the influence.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what, though, I really truly believe for those

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<v Speaker 1>of you who don't indulge in cannabis, like in certain religions,

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<v Speaker 1>it's it's thought to open up your third eye. And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm really I really believe that shit because.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes there's been times I see ship that I see

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<v Speaker 2>before I start stop liking people, I start liking people,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, this person's fake because that shit is taking

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<v Speaker 2>you to like god.

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<v Speaker 1>Level, and you see ship for what it is. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>So that's Tremila's advocacy of marijuana. Last piel spiel. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>this week in the news, there's been a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>stuff going on. But first the Grammys, the first most

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<v Speaker 1>import Grammys. Me and Jamila halfway watched the Grammys while

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<v Speaker 1>we were cooking slash. I don't know what the fuck

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<v Speaker 1>were doing working, working, uh, watching our kids working, cooking, eating. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't really give a fuck about the Grammys, but

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<v Speaker 1>I just like to see the performances, Like I told

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<v Speaker 1>you me, like just grap I'm in the kitchen cooking,

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<v Speaker 1>tell me when something good is happening.

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<v Speaker 2>I like to sometimes see the fashions and the fashions. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it's always very white to me.

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<v Speaker 1>It's always. First of all, let me say, Alicia Keys

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<v Speaker 1>was the host, So yeah, which was she was? I

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<v Speaker 1>thought she was cool. She was cool, I was. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just so disappointed that my other woman didn't win. Georgia Smith.

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<v Speaker 1>I like her too. I have both their albums, but

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<v Speaker 1>I just really really thought Georgia was gonna win. I

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<v Speaker 1>really loved Georgia Smith, but I think her for me

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<v Speaker 1>is more I could Georgia like, I can only listen

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes really she's like, yeah, it's like a lot depressing.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe I like depressing the music, whereas her she has

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<v Speaker 1>emotional music, but sometimes it gets you in that. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like a little more arm b.

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<v Speaker 3>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>I like it all. I love them both, but I

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<v Speaker 1>just have like like a sexual crush. Oh so, oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god. When I saw Georgia I Coachella this last year.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, take me.

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<v Speaker 2>I know we were dead together. Yeah, we're like an epiphany, like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh my god, I need her, I want you. If

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<v Speaker 2>anybody knows you're holler.

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<v Speaker 1>She is fine as fuck. Yeah true, yeah damn anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>and then Cardi B's win. I was really happy for her.

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<v Speaker 1>I felt like I won. I love her so much

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<v Speaker 1>and she poor girl, she couldn't even she didn't even

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<v Speaker 1>know what to say. I mean, I know, I know,

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<v Speaker 1>but you know, like it just it just goes to

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<v Speaker 1>show like transparency, authenticity. It wins every time, but your

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<v Speaker 1>fucking self because it wins. Now. I think we're in

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<v Speaker 1>a place now. I think before we're in the music

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<v Speaker 1>industry is it's interesting to watch how it shifts because

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<v Speaker 1>before it was like people loved that bigger than life,

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<v Speaker 1>untouchable artist like a Beyonce or like a Nicki Minaj,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like NICKI wasn't like you didn't like when

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<v Speaker 1>I think of Nikki, I never thought like, yeah, that

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<v Speaker 1>could be my homegirl, you know what I mean. It

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<v Speaker 1>was just like, oh my god, she's the queen of rap.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, she's so talented. What did she do on

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<v Speaker 1>the weekends like I don't even know, and now it's like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>we know what Cardi does and she could be my

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<v Speaker 1>homie too, and she could talk like Jicky, we know

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<v Speaker 1>what she did. She hosted a party at Argyle Club Argo.

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<v Speaker 1>She knew it. Shut up, No, she didn't. She would

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<v Speaker 1>of course she was at all. Did she see did

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<v Speaker 1>she get near Nicki?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, she said that she felt like she was like

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<v Speaker 2>she was like, excuse me, I'm trying to get to

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<v Speaker 2>the bathroom.

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<v Speaker 1>And she felt like she felt like she was like,

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<v Speaker 1>notice me who Nicki was. Yeah, so yeah, that was

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<v Speaker 1>her in her thoughts.

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<v Speaker 2>She was like, I just felt like she was like

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<v Speaker 2>thinking that I was gonna care who she was, and

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, yeah, I need to get the bothom

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<v Speaker 2>excuse me, because everybody else around her was like nicky,

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<v Speaker 2>nicky Nikki. She's like she didn't perform or anything at

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<v Speaker 2>the party.

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<v Speaker 1>She was just there. I don't know, but like, if

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<v Speaker 1>I was Nicki and I wasn't invited to the Grammys,

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<v Speaker 1>I just wouldn't have been in the city. I would

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<v Speaker 1>have been on VAK. You're like, what Grammys? I don't are?

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<v Speaker 1>What are those? I don't know her Instead, she decided

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<v Speaker 1>to have an after party, Lady Gaga one, which I

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<v Speaker 1>love Lady Gaga, I really do. I think she's like

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<v Speaker 1>kind of like that annoying stage, like that annoying theater

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<v Speaker 1>kid that's like so annoying. So it's so tough, so

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<v Speaker 1>over the top, like me, me, look at me, look

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<v Speaker 1>at me. But it's fucking amazing, and it's super talented.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't deny her talent. And also I think she's

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<v Speaker 1>really genuine. You know, she really wants to support artists

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<v Speaker 1>and upcoming artists, and she's so passionate. And I think

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<v Speaker 1>after I watched her documentary, I fear documentary. Why am

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<v Speaker 1>I sneezing and coughing because you're sick? I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I heard some weird shit about her. Why do I

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<v Speaker 1>know all the weird shit about it? Jesus, what'd she do? Now?

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<v Speaker 2>Cousin Chris told me that in the documentary or maybe

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<v Speaker 2>another documentary like something that like, okay, I know she

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<v Speaker 2>had a best friend who like committed suicide, but that

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<v Speaker 2>she tried to take her persona like that best friend

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<v Speaker 2>was like actually the weird theater kid and actually was very.

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<v Speaker 1>Like Star was. Her name is star or something. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know because I didn't watch it, but this is

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<v Speaker 1>what I heard. Okay, First of all, what I will say,

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<v Speaker 1>there's only so much of a persona you can take

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<v Speaker 1>and have a fucking ten plus year career, like you know.

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<v Speaker 1>Whether she did that or not, I don't know. It

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<v Speaker 1>could have been like an contribute to her, like commemoration.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's what it was. I think I remember that,

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<v Speaker 1>but I don't know. I like her. People will always

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<v Speaker 1>try to downplay and diminish a woman, It's true. And

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<v Speaker 1>so I'm going to you not well, I'm not. I'm not.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just telling you what I heard. But I just

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<v Speaker 1>know that she's very talented. She's a talented singer, she's

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<v Speaker 1>talented writer, she's talented musician, she's talented actress. She's nominated

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<v Speaker 1>for an Oscar I know, you see that movie. No,

0:14:13.679 --> 0:14:16.400
<v Speaker 1>I still need to watch it. I need too. So

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<v Speaker 1>I was happy that she won. I really liked Carti's performance.

0:14:21.120 --> 0:14:23.880
<v Speaker 1>She did that ship. I did look it up later. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't see it. We kept missing it. I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>even see that.

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<v Speaker 2>I was very disappointed in Camila Cabo's performance because I

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<v Speaker 2>hated that fucking outfit.

0:14:33.040 --> 0:14:36.360
<v Speaker 1>The outfit was trashola. I want to know who styled

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<v Speaker 1>it and who approved it, and why didn't nobody say

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<v Speaker 1>this shit is ugly? She is ugly, it's unflattering. And

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<v Speaker 1>why are we wearing skirts that just gently grazed the

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<v Speaker 1>top of our knee? No, it was the bottom of

0:14:46.280 --> 0:14:48.120
<v Speaker 1>her knee, like the bottom of her knee. I need

0:14:48.160 --> 0:14:50.520
<v Speaker 1>you to commit to either long or short. You need

0:14:50.520 --> 0:14:53.600
<v Speaker 1>a committal phase. That middle area has never been in

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<v Speaker 1>appealing for dance performances. And that Kitten Hill you didn't

0:14:57.040 --> 0:14:59.440
<v Speaker 1>even dance hard enough. Yeah, like for that Kitten Hill,

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<v Speaker 1>you didn't. You needn't be Beyonce on the stage. J

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<v Speaker 1>Loo can do fucking turns and a stiletto. I need

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<v Speaker 1>Jude Cabela Cabello and needs you to do that. You're

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<v Speaker 1>too young and beautiful and actually talented, So please.

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<v Speaker 2>Spare us with those ugly fucking outfits. Fire your stylist,

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<v Speaker 2>stylist asa. Also, there was all this backlash for j

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<v Speaker 2>Loo presenting the Motown Award.

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<v Speaker 1>Hmmm, why because she's Latina? I don't I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if it' because she's Latina because she doesn't really sing? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's probably both. Yeah, I missed that part.

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<v Speaker 1>You didn't see those all those names? No, I I

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<v Speaker 1>missed her performances because we really weren't watching. Wait did

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<v Speaker 1>she perform her? She presented, She performed. She did a

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<v Speaker 1>whole thing with Smokey Robinson. Oh no, how do you

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<v Speaker 1>miss that? I don't know. We started late, we went

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<v Speaker 1>we started watching it like halfway through, and then it

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<v Speaker 1>restarted again. I wonder what songs she sang? A few,

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<v Speaker 1>She's like a medley.

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<v Speaker 2>That's hilarious. It is, it's funny. I could have done it.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I get it. I get why you would

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<v Speaker 1>think that you would choose a black artist to execute

0:16:07.320 --> 0:16:10.520
<v Speaker 1>that are actually RelA things. I don't know. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>what's the grand We're in such a fucking sense time.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's like, I get it. But also she's

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<v Speaker 1>still a woman of color, and so's also the sides

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<v Speaker 1>to really talented. She might not be able to sing well,

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<v Speaker 1>but the bitch can perform her ass off. I saw

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<v Speaker 1>her in Vegas and I sold, I want to see

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<v Speaker 1>her in Vegas. So good. She's so good. Alisha Key's

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<v Speaker 1>playing two pianos. Fly fly, She's just fly and talented

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<v Speaker 1>and beautiful as well. So the Grammars was cool. It's cool,

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<v Speaker 1>you know till next year. Yeah, anything else new in

0:16:47.400 --> 0:16:52.720
<v Speaker 1>herd events? Yeah, the whole is it raining? It is, okay?

0:16:53.440 --> 0:17:02.520
<v Speaker 1>I think I wanted. I wanted to talk about Gucci, Prada, Montclair, Montclair, Oh,

0:17:02.560 --> 0:17:06.000
<v Speaker 1>and them the blackface doing blackface and their brand and

0:17:06.040 --> 0:17:09.080
<v Speaker 1>all celebrities getting their painties in a bunch knowing, damn well,

0:17:09.080 --> 0:17:12.439
<v Speaker 1>they're gonna buy these fucking brands like next week. And

0:17:13.680 --> 0:17:15.920
<v Speaker 1>these brands have been doing the shit forever and they

0:17:15.920 --> 0:17:19.399
<v Speaker 1>still buy their brands. What it's not right, it's not

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<v Speaker 1>on right, Yes it is. They still buy these brands.

0:17:24.560 --> 0:17:27.879
<v Speaker 1>And I think it's just like, I just want to

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<v Speaker 1>see more black people buy black buying from black businesses,

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<v Speaker 1>promote black businesses, and actually really do it. I mean

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<v Speaker 1>we have the power. I mean we are the trend

0:17:42.160 --> 0:17:46.680
<v Speaker 1>we are the like we're the trends. We set the bar. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and so we do have the power and we just

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<v Speaker 1>don't use it properly. And there are people in the

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<v Speaker 1>community that have bomb fashions and all types of businesses

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<v Speaker 1>that we could be putting our dollars to, but we

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<v Speaker 1>just choose to vibe from Gucci, who I am shocked

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<v Speaker 1>has never had any black designers. I'm sure we're like

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<v Speaker 1>number three top consumer of Gucci. Have never had black designers?

0:18:12.040 --> 0:18:17.000
<v Speaker 1>Well they have what's the guy's name New York. He

0:18:17.080 --> 0:18:21.760
<v Speaker 1>did a whole line with them, Dan Dapper Dapper Dan. Oh.

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<v Speaker 1>Why did they say that they never had black designers.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe he's not been like the house designer. You know

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<v Speaker 1>how they bring in people like the future like Carl

0:18:30.960 --> 0:18:34.159
<v Speaker 1>La Carl Lagerfeld is Chanelle and he also has his

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<v Speaker 1>own line. You know. Well, crazy Kanye said it's very

0:18:37.880 --> 0:18:40.879
<v Speaker 1>racist over there. They won't let him in. Kanye can

0:18:40.960 --> 0:18:44.199
<v Speaker 1>kiss my ass. He's just like a shut up. But

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<v Speaker 1>I think, like I just feel like, first of all,

0:18:50.920 --> 0:18:53.080
<v Speaker 1>these brands know better. I feel like, how do you

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<v Speaker 1>not know? How do you not know a shirt with

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<v Speaker 1>red fucking like lips and that's black it's a black

0:18:58.520 --> 0:19:01.040
<v Speaker 1>face shirt. It was literally like they do it on

0:19:01.119 --> 0:19:04.160
<v Speaker 1>purpose to start all this controversy, to get people all repped.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why they do it. That's the only thing I

0:19:06.960 --> 0:19:10.679
<v Speaker 1>could think of, because how how how do you go

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<v Speaker 1>through that many hands before it gets to the consumer's hands,

0:19:15.280 --> 0:19:18.880
<v Speaker 1>and no one says anything, like I used to think, Wow,

0:19:18.920 --> 0:19:21.919
<v Speaker 1>they're just really that dumb. But like with how socially

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<v Speaker 1>you know aware everyone is about race and racism and

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<v Speaker 1>all that, like how how how yeah? And I mean

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<v Speaker 1>and they know black people are still gonna buy their shit.

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<v Speaker 1>Look at Floyd walking into the Gucci store not giving

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<v Speaker 1>it one zero fuck is the demise of them. He

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<v Speaker 1>also doesn't read, so you know, he doesn't know what

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<v Speaker 1>the fuck is happening. He doesn't give a fuck about anything,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. So I have no respect for.

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<v Speaker 2>Ignorance. I mean, like ignorance is bliss. I just have

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<v Speaker 2>no respect for like a dumb ass like you have

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<v Speaker 2>all this money and you don't think, Okay, let me

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<v Speaker 2>just do better, Let me get a tutor, let me

0:20:02.240 --> 0:20:06.080
<v Speaker 2>you can learn, you know, And then it just irritates me.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not a huge like Gucci, Prada, Fandy, Like, I'm

0:20:11.320 --> 0:20:15.040
<v Speaker 1>not a huge like Main like not even if I

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<v Speaker 1>was rich. I don't know, I don't know.

0:20:16.880 --> 0:20:19.840
<v Speaker 2>I just think it's just there's other more important things

0:20:19.840 --> 0:20:22.399
<v Speaker 2>you could be putting your dollar two. There's other people

0:20:22.480 --> 0:20:25.480
<v Speaker 2>like starving and struggling, and there's just so much more

0:20:25.520 --> 0:20:29.119
<v Speaker 2>important things. And I just think it's fucking ridiculous. But

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<v Speaker 2>speaking of the blackface thing, I watched recently a part

0:20:33.680 --> 0:20:41.320
<v Speaker 2>of a documentary on PBS called Black Black Paraphernilia I

0:20:41.359 --> 0:20:44.480
<v Speaker 2>think it's called, and basically it's saying that there's recently

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<v Speaker 2>and been like a huge influx in like old menstrual,

0:20:52.520 --> 0:20:58.000
<v Speaker 2>uh black face like paraphernalia, and like so much so

0:20:58.119 --> 0:21:02.840
<v Speaker 2>that there's like Iron iron whatever you call them, iron

0:21:02.920 --> 0:21:07.800
<v Speaker 2>factories in China remanufacturing this shit and it's actually it's

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<v Speaker 2>not authentic because it's obviously not vintage.

0:21:09.920 --> 0:21:13.159
<v Speaker 1>But it's like who in the fuck is buying this

0:21:13.200 --> 0:21:18.159
<v Speaker 1>shit like as collectibles, as vintage collectibles, And it's just

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<v Speaker 1>a very dark history. It's just a very dark history

0:21:21.600 --> 0:21:24.720
<v Speaker 1>to be collecting and celebrating, Like I know, it's a

0:21:24.760 --> 0:21:27.399
<v Speaker 1>part of our history. And there's some things that I like.

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<v Speaker 2>There's like a black designer named Montgomery or something, and

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<v Speaker 2>she's out of New York and she does a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of like anti mi men blackface like things, and I

0:21:36.640 --> 0:21:38.280
<v Speaker 2>like her, but I just think it's.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a weird thing to celebrate.

0:21:43.040 --> 0:21:48.359
<v Speaker 2>And it's kind of still among us because we're in

0:21:48.400 --> 0:21:54.359
<v Speaker 2>a prime era again of like it's this weird version

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<v Speaker 2>of blackface with like what do they call it?

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<v Speaker 1>Blackfishing? Like it's called a a like makeup can make

0:22:01.640 --> 0:22:06.520
<v Speaker 1>you look more tanny bray, tailor fillers, baby hairs.

0:22:07.960 --> 0:22:10.119
<v Speaker 2>Erica show me me and our other friend Carleton in

0:22:10.200 --> 0:22:12.520
<v Speaker 2>the picture of her friend and she's like, she's white,

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<v Speaker 2>and I was like, Erica, she's blackfishing.

0:22:15.240 --> 0:22:17.360
<v Speaker 1>She's like really. I was like, really, bitch, she looks

0:22:17.400 --> 0:22:19.240
<v Speaker 1>like a light skinned black girl and me and me

0:22:19.280 --> 0:22:21.800
<v Speaker 1>and our other friend were like, yes, she didn't realize

0:22:21.840 --> 0:22:22.960
<v Speaker 1>it because she looks at her all the time. And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, this is the thing blackfishing, white girls, if

0:22:27.280 --> 0:22:31.760
<v Speaker 1>you were looking to look like a big booty black girl.

0:22:32.240 --> 0:22:33.919
<v Speaker 2>Was like, it's I don't want to say that all

0:22:33.960 --> 0:22:37.360
<v Speaker 2>black women like have these like long weaves and long

0:22:37.400 --> 0:22:39.480
<v Speaker 2>nails and baby hairs, but like I live in Atlanta.

0:22:39.760 --> 0:22:42.720
<v Speaker 2>There's a lot of shippers in Atlanta. I'm looking at Instagram.

0:22:43.880 --> 0:22:46.359
<v Speaker 1>These nails were not y'all were not trying to have

0:22:46.440 --> 0:22:50.520
<v Speaker 1>these long ass coffin nails, these long ass or baby

0:22:50.520 --> 0:22:55.760
<v Speaker 1>hairs rows. Yeah, it's just cheek boneas really, because they

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<v Speaker 1>used to make fun of black women for wearing legs

0:22:59.080 --> 0:23:01.880
<v Speaker 1>and it's just I don't know. It's it's very strange

0:23:01.920 --> 0:23:03.639
<v Speaker 1>the time we are in. And I try not to

0:23:03.680 --> 0:23:05.280
<v Speaker 1>be too sensitive because you know what, at the end

0:23:05.280 --> 0:23:07.080
<v Speaker 1>of the day, whatever, wear what you want to wear,

0:23:07.280 --> 0:23:11.160
<v Speaker 1>do what you want to do. But when she starts

0:23:11.200 --> 0:23:14.159
<v Speaker 1>hitting the fan and we have real issues in the community,

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<v Speaker 1>you bitches better be front line, okay, because if you

0:23:18.680 --> 0:23:21.160
<v Speaker 1>want to emulate a culture, or you think you're emulating

0:23:21.160 --> 0:23:23.879
<v Speaker 1>a culture by you know, that's the thing is that

0:23:23.960 --> 0:23:26.520
<v Speaker 1>I don't even think they realize they're emulating. No, there's

0:23:26.520 --> 0:23:28.880
<v Speaker 1>no way they don't realize it. There's no fucking way

0:23:29.040 --> 0:23:31.520
<v Speaker 1>they don't realize. No, they don't. They look at their

0:23:31.560 --> 0:23:34.119
<v Speaker 1>favorite celebrity that maybe happens to be black and they're like, oh,

0:23:34.160 --> 0:23:36.520
<v Speaker 1>I want my nails like that, not because she's black,

0:23:36.560 --> 0:23:38.960
<v Speaker 1>but just because she has those nails. But they don't

0:23:39.000 --> 0:23:42.560
<v Speaker 1>realize that she has these nails because this is what

0:23:42.640 --> 0:23:45.479
<v Speaker 1>she's grown up around in her community culture.

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<v Speaker 2>It irritates me that there was a time where certain

0:23:49.040 --> 0:23:52.520
<v Speaker 2>things were like looked at as just like like ghett

0:23:52.520 --> 0:23:56.200
<v Speaker 2>at a shine with where is like those nails, long braids?

0:23:56.600 --> 0:23:57.239
<v Speaker 1>Now it's in.

0:23:57.440 --> 0:23:59.040
<v Speaker 2>You know, there was a time where like you couldn't

0:23:59.040 --> 0:24:01.680
<v Speaker 2>go to a corporate and have dreads or braids.

0:24:01.920 --> 0:24:03.919
<v Speaker 1>They would tell you that even there's still to this

0:24:04.080 --> 0:24:06.520
<v Speaker 1>day that it was too ethnic. People were losing their

0:24:06.600 --> 0:24:07.400
<v Speaker 1>jobs over this shit.

0:24:07.520 --> 0:24:11.080
<v Speaker 2>So like you don't really realize like the history and

0:24:11.119 --> 0:24:14.640
<v Speaker 2>the struggle that has come to embrace our natural shit.

0:24:15.119 --> 0:24:20.040
<v Speaker 2>So much of black women have to conform to a

0:24:20.160 --> 0:24:23.960
<v Speaker 2>European standard of beauty just to feel like people can

0:24:24.000 --> 0:24:27.080
<v Speaker 2>hear me, or people can like take me serious, take

0:24:27.080 --> 0:24:30.800
<v Speaker 2>me seriously. Like even as a waitresser, like wearing certain hairstyles,

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<v Speaker 2>I totally noticed the difference in like tips and friendliness.

0:24:34.880 --> 0:24:37.800
<v Speaker 1>And it's just like now you want.

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<v Speaker 2>To be like you can't pick and choose take some

0:24:40.480 --> 0:24:42.119
<v Speaker 2>of a culture, but none of the bad.

0:24:42.240 --> 0:24:44.520
<v Speaker 1>You know, we go through a lot of shit just

0:24:44.600 --> 0:24:49.199
<v Speaker 1>being black, and it's just an ironic, strange thing to

0:24:49.320 --> 0:24:52.320
<v Speaker 1>see develop. And like sometimes they'll scroll past certain pictures

0:24:52.320 --> 0:24:55.280
<v Speaker 1>like fuck Chloe, and I love Chloe. She's a cancer,

0:24:55.840 --> 0:24:59.080
<v Speaker 1>she might be have fuck, but I just am like,

0:25:00.280 --> 0:25:02.200
<v Speaker 1>but she looks like a light skinned black girl.

0:25:02.520 --> 0:25:04.959
<v Speaker 2>I had to look twice, you know, and it's like

0:25:05.520 --> 0:25:09.240
<v Speaker 2>not to say yeah, okay, but okay, there's a difference

0:25:09.280 --> 0:25:12.320
<v Speaker 2>between like Chloe. And then what's the sister who hasn't

0:25:12.320 --> 0:25:14.159
<v Speaker 2>gotten any of the younger sister Kendall.

0:25:14.720 --> 0:25:18.240
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, she still looks what she is, white, white, and

0:25:18.320 --> 0:25:21.960
<v Speaker 1>you don't. Maybe it's that face and that ass and

0:25:22.080 --> 0:25:26.600
<v Speaker 1>that wig and those nails. But it's just like, damn

0:25:26.840 --> 0:25:30.160
<v Speaker 1>you guys. And I'm not saying we can't share.

0:25:30.440 --> 0:25:34.960
<v Speaker 2>But be present when you when there's when there's there's

0:25:34.960 --> 0:25:36.520
<v Speaker 2>fucked up shit going on the community.

0:25:36.200 --> 0:25:38.840
<v Speaker 1>Which is happening daily every day, be an ally. Be

0:25:38.880 --> 0:25:40.800
<v Speaker 1>an ally. If if you want to be so deep

0:25:40.800 --> 0:25:42.320
<v Speaker 1>in the culture, you want to date the man, you

0:25:42.320 --> 0:25:45.880
<v Speaker 1>want to wear that you want to dress off, the talk,

0:25:45.960 --> 0:25:49.280
<v Speaker 1>the slag wear, the nails, wear the support, the music,

0:25:49.480 --> 0:25:52.440
<v Speaker 1>go to the basketball game. Then when shit hits a fan,

0:25:52.520 --> 0:25:55.320
<v Speaker 1>when innocent people are getting killed, and when things are

0:25:55.359 --> 0:25:58.240
<v Speaker 1>when there's injustice in the community, I want you bitches

0:25:58.280 --> 0:26:01.280
<v Speaker 1>to be the first ones to use your media power

0:26:01.400 --> 0:26:03.680
<v Speaker 1>to speak the fuck up or at least ask how

0:26:03.720 --> 0:26:06.600
<v Speaker 1>can I help, how can I help? Tell me what

0:26:06.680 --> 0:26:11.080
<v Speaker 1>I can do? You know. Yeah, And like just to

0:26:11.080 --> 0:26:15.320
<v Speaker 1>touch on the history of the menstrual shows, because I mean,

0:26:15.600 --> 0:26:17.119
<v Speaker 1>of course I know what a mental show is. Of

0:26:17.119 --> 0:26:19.720
<v Speaker 1>course I know what black faces. But you know, that's

0:26:19.720 --> 0:26:21.840
<v Speaker 1>the beauty of having our podcast is that it forces

0:26:21.880 --> 0:26:26.560
<v Speaker 1>me to have to educate myself. So The Minstrual Show

0:26:27.119 --> 0:26:31.320
<v Speaker 1>first began around eighteen thirties around the eighteen thirties in

0:26:31.359 --> 0:26:36.520
<v Speaker 1>New York City and basically consisted of white actors painting

0:26:36.560 --> 0:26:41.560
<v Speaker 1>their face in black quark and their lips red to

0:26:41.760 --> 0:26:46.159
<v Speaker 1>emulate blacks black slaves.

0:26:45.520 --> 0:26:51.440
<v Speaker 4>Large, large over over lips, baboon like monkey like talking,

0:26:51.720 --> 0:26:55.280
<v Speaker 4>and it consisted of comedy skits or performances, but it

0:26:55.320 --> 0:27:01.040
<v Speaker 4>really mocked or depicted blacks as lazy, ignorant, cowardly, hypersexual.

0:27:01.800 --> 0:27:08.320
<v Speaker 4>The Help, The Help Uneducated and Kunes Yeah essentially and

0:27:08.400 --> 0:27:12.520
<v Speaker 4>Mint the Mitchell Show were essentially the lens through which

0:27:12.600 --> 0:27:17.800
<v Speaker 4>white people viewed black people in America. Like the white

0:27:17.840 --> 0:27:19.520
<v Speaker 4>people would look at these shows and like this is

0:27:19.720 --> 0:27:22.040
<v Speaker 4>this is who black people are, and you would think,

0:27:22.119 --> 0:27:25.040
<v Speaker 4>like it's crazy. When I was researching this to see

0:27:25.359 --> 0:27:30.160
<v Speaker 4>how many different celebrities had participated in this, like some.

0:27:29.800 --> 0:27:32.440
<v Speaker 1>Some of like celebrities like little like celebrities that I

0:27:32.480 --> 0:27:36.320
<v Speaker 1>grew up watching, had no I had no idea Charley Temple.

0:27:37.040 --> 0:27:39.800
<v Speaker 1>There was a picture of Shirley Temple getting her little

0:27:40.080 --> 0:27:43.359
<v Speaker 1>baby face painted black, and I almost like, wow, this

0:27:43.520 --> 0:27:46.840
<v Speaker 1>is so fucked up. She's a child, she doesn't even know.

0:27:47.119 --> 0:27:49.600
<v Speaker 1>Well I'm sure she does know, but like, just like

0:27:49.640 --> 0:27:52.640
<v Speaker 1>the educating of these kids, that's such an age, it's

0:27:52.680 --> 0:27:58.640
<v Speaker 1>so important. Mickey Rooney, Louis Armstrong, Joan Crawford being Crosby.

0:27:59.000 --> 0:28:02.520
<v Speaker 1>Even like some black back, black people were dressing up

0:28:02.520 --> 0:28:05.000
<v Speaker 1>in blackface. I didn't want to say this one because

0:28:05.040 --> 0:28:09.399
<v Speaker 1>I love him still, Jimmy Kimball, Jimmy Kimble, and he

0:28:09.400 --> 0:28:13.320
<v Speaker 1>did it, but like, wait, yeah, for what on a show?

0:28:13.480 --> 0:28:18.159
<v Speaker 2>Yeah wait, Jimmy Kimble. No Fallon, Jimmy Fallon, Jimmy Fallon.

0:28:18.680 --> 0:28:21.159
<v Speaker 1>I love Jimmy Fallen. Why do you do that? What

0:28:21.200 --> 0:28:23.600
<v Speaker 1>was he doing? I forgot? Do you get a lot

0:28:23.600 --> 0:28:25.359
<v Speaker 1>of blacklash for that time? I don't think so, but

0:28:25.440 --> 0:28:28.320
<v Speaker 1>I just saw it on that show. But he seems

0:28:28.359 --> 0:28:32.360
<v Speaker 1>really socially where I'm surprised, but everybody's look into that.

0:28:32.640 --> 0:28:34.880
<v Speaker 1>But even black people were dressing up as black face

0:28:35.000 --> 0:28:37.880
<v Speaker 1>because that's the only way that they could work. People

0:28:37.880 --> 0:28:40.320
<v Speaker 1>didn't even want them to look black like how they

0:28:40.360 --> 0:28:43.520
<v Speaker 1>actually look. They wanted to look like this cartoonish depiction

0:28:43.720 --> 0:28:48.120
<v Speaker 1>of black. So when you see these designers like depicting

0:28:48.200 --> 0:28:51.960
<v Speaker 1>blackface on their products. Still it's just like and people

0:28:52.000 --> 0:28:54.760
<v Speaker 1>collecting things. It's just it's very strange.

0:28:54.360 --> 0:28:57.200
<v Speaker 2>And it's a global epidemic. Like when I watched that show,

0:28:57.240 --> 0:28:59.240
<v Speaker 2>at the end they you guys should look into that show.

0:28:59.280 --> 0:29:03.480
<v Speaker 2>But at the end they show blackface and all these

0:29:03.480 --> 0:29:10.040
<v Speaker 2>different countries on products, on TV shows, on mainstream things, Berlin, France, Mexico.

0:29:10.400 --> 0:29:14.640
<v Speaker 2>I mean, it was just a worldwide thing. Wasn't just here.

0:29:14.720 --> 0:29:17.600
<v Speaker 2>But it's just so insensitive. It's so insensitive, Like I

0:29:17.600 --> 0:29:19.760
<v Speaker 2>don't think people actually recognize just like.

0:29:21.440 --> 0:29:24.800
<v Speaker 1>Just how the dark history behind it being black. It's

0:29:24.840 --> 0:29:27.920
<v Speaker 1>just dark, and you know, and some people like you know,

0:29:28.040 --> 0:29:31.560
<v Speaker 1>like the designer that you like in Brooklyn who is

0:29:31.600 --> 0:29:34.240
<v Speaker 1>black and creates these images. I mean I get, I get,

0:29:34.360 --> 0:29:38.920
<v Speaker 1>I get like taking back the significance of it and

0:29:38.960 --> 0:29:43.720
<v Speaker 1>like reclaiming it and making it something different definitely, because

0:29:43.720 --> 0:29:44.479
<v Speaker 1>you know what it is.

0:29:44.520 --> 0:29:50.840
<v Speaker 2>Also I recognize is that as African Americans, we lack history,

0:29:50.640 --> 0:29:54.320
<v Speaker 2>we lack roots because we have only been taught this

0:29:54.480 --> 0:29:57.120
<v Speaker 2>really dark history. So there has to be a reclaim,

0:29:57.160 --> 0:29:59.680
<v Speaker 2>there has to be an embrace because a lot of

0:29:59.720 --> 0:30:02.160
<v Speaker 2>like our music our culture is who we are, it

0:30:02.200 --> 0:30:04.400
<v Speaker 2>is all we are. But it's like only from what

0:30:04.440 --> 0:30:07.160
<v Speaker 2>we've been given, and this is the type of shit

0:30:07.200 --> 0:30:12.640
<v Speaker 2>we've been given, like very dark things. So that's why

0:30:12.640 --> 0:30:17.080
<v Speaker 2>I like it that just to take it back, I like, I.

0:30:17.000 --> 0:30:20.239
<v Speaker 1>Don't know, I don't I'm like, I understand it, but

0:30:20.360 --> 0:30:23.720
<v Speaker 1>also I don't know, I don't know. I'm conflicted about

0:30:23.760 --> 0:30:26.520
<v Speaker 1>it because I feel like that sends so confused. White

0:30:26.520 --> 0:30:29.720
<v Speaker 1>people get confused. They get very confused. Sometimes you have

0:30:29.760 --> 0:30:33.600
<v Speaker 1>to draw hard lines. In the great words of Sharonas,

0:30:34.320 --> 0:30:39.520
<v Speaker 1>just a little slow. Wait. I had someone one of

0:30:39.520 --> 0:30:41.560
<v Speaker 1>the girls from my work who happens to be a

0:30:41.920 --> 0:30:45.000
<v Speaker 1>Caucasian and who loves Sharonas be like, I heard your

0:30:45.040 --> 0:30:47.280
<v Speaker 1>episode and he said, white girls are slow. I know

0:30:47.720 --> 0:30:53.920
<v Speaker 1>our favorite, our number one fan, our friend Nelly, was like, ah, Sharonas,

0:30:53.960 --> 0:30:56.000
<v Speaker 1>while we got to be slow. She dms me.

0:30:56.000 --> 0:31:00.400
<v Speaker 2>Specifically about this. Shout out to Nelly. I'm like, Key meant,

0:31:00.560 --> 0:31:02.320
<v Speaker 2>like that girl, he.

0:31:02.360 --> 0:31:07.960
<v Speaker 1>Did some slow shit. That's what I'm saying is I

0:31:07.960 --> 0:31:10.600
<v Speaker 1>think when we collect those items, even though we're trying

0:31:10.640 --> 0:31:15.160
<v Speaker 1>to reclaim, sorry, we're trying to reclaim them, I think

0:31:15.200 --> 0:31:17.959
<v Speaker 1>it sends a mixed message to white people, and then

0:31:17.960 --> 0:31:20.240
<v Speaker 1>they get confused and then they think they can participate

0:31:20.280 --> 0:31:22.960
<v Speaker 1>because they always want to participate in the shit we're participating,

0:31:22.960 --> 0:31:25.640
<v Speaker 1>and then it becomes this like circle. It's like either

0:31:25.680 --> 0:31:27.320
<v Speaker 1>you like it or you don't. I feel like sometimes

0:31:27.360 --> 0:31:29.560
<v Speaker 1>you have to just be like it's out. It's out

0:31:29.560 --> 0:31:33.480
<v Speaker 1>for everyone, you know, but we know that's not going

0:31:33.560 --> 0:31:37.200
<v Speaker 1>to happen. So I don't know anyway, I just I

0:31:37.320 --> 0:31:40.880
<v Speaker 1>encourage you guys. Obviously this is it's Black History Month,

0:31:40.920 --> 0:31:43.200
<v Speaker 1>but you know we've been designated this month. But really,

0:31:43.240 --> 0:31:46.200
<v Speaker 1>if you are black, you know that every day should

0:31:46.200 --> 0:31:50.040
<v Speaker 1>be you should honor who you are and we should

0:31:50.040 --> 0:31:52.880
<v Speaker 1>support one another. And if you aren't black and you

0:31:52.960 --> 0:31:55.840
<v Speaker 1>have black friends or you have black babies, you know,

0:31:56.520 --> 0:31:59.560
<v Speaker 1>try to We've had this episode before, you know, trying

0:31:59.600 --> 0:32:01.480
<v Speaker 1>to you know, talk about your kids, about who they are,

0:32:01.520 --> 0:32:07.440
<v Speaker 1>but also just try to support support black businesses, you know,

0:32:07.840 --> 0:32:10.960
<v Speaker 1>like just support, show that support we need. We want

0:32:11.000 --> 0:32:13.360
<v Speaker 1>to see it. And I know that sometimes people question

0:32:13.480 --> 0:32:15.720
<v Speaker 1>how we can help. That's one of the biggest ones

0:32:16.000 --> 0:32:20.520
<v Speaker 1>because money talks, and we need we need that support,

0:32:21.840 --> 0:32:24.080
<v Speaker 1>and black people will have to do better too. I

0:32:24.080 --> 0:32:25.840
<v Speaker 1>don't know If you guys have watched this Killer Mike

0:32:26.480 --> 0:32:31.400
<v Speaker 1>Show on Netflix. If you haven't, I highly highly highly

0:32:31.560 --> 0:32:34.640
<v Speaker 1>recommend it. It's so good. And one of the the

0:32:34.680 --> 0:32:37.920
<v Speaker 1>first episode is basically he has a show he's in

0:32:38.160 --> 0:32:39.760
<v Speaker 1>I guess he lives in I think he lives in Atlanta.

0:32:39.920 --> 0:32:42.680
<v Speaker 1>He has a show somewhere in Georgia, and he it's

0:32:42.720 --> 0:32:45.000
<v Speaker 1>like three days away, and he said, you know, I'm

0:32:45.080 --> 0:32:48.440
<v Speaker 1>challenging myself for the next three days to only buy

0:32:48.520 --> 0:32:52.520
<v Speaker 1>black and use black products, period. And so the show

0:32:52.600 --> 0:32:55.720
<v Speaker 1>was documenting this journey and basically it was a fucking

0:32:55.720 --> 0:32:58.680
<v Speaker 1>almost impossible, like like he went to this guy who

0:32:58.760 --> 0:33:01.600
<v Speaker 1>happened to be like the ress for all black things owned,

0:33:01.880 --> 0:33:04.360
<v Speaker 1>and he had a black phone, Like he had a

0:33:04.440 --> 0:33:06.280
<v Speaker 1>phone that was like owned by black people. So he

0:33:06.320 --> 0:33:08.600
<v Speaker 1>had his phone. He got that he couldn't smoke weed

0:33:08.640 --> 0:33:10.959
<v Speaker 1>because none of the farms were black owned or growers

0:33:10.960 --> 0:33:14.800
<v Speaker 1>were black owned. He barely could eat because even the

0:33:14.880 --> 0:33:17.720
<v Speaker 1>black owned restaurants, the food they were getting was from

0:33:18.160 --> 0:33:20.920
<v Speaker 1>tribute from blacks. So because he was taking it to

0:33:20.960 --> 0:33:24.360
<v Speaker 1>that level, so that the root of it, even trying

0:33:24.400 --> 0:33:28.360
<v Speaker 1>to get transportation to get to his show was difficult,

0:33:28.400 --> 0:33:29.960
<v Speaker 1>Like he had at the end of the day, he

0:33:30.000 --> 0:33:31.840
<v Speaker 1>had to make some sort of exception and so he

0:33:31.880 --> 0:33:35.959
<v Speaker 1>went to a black owned business that owned car like

0:33:36.040 --> 0:33:38.760
<v Speaker 1>owned tour buses, so he had to take a whole

0:33:38.800 --> 0:33:43.960
<v Speaker 1>tour bus to his show by himself, and fucks trying

0:33:43.960 --> 0:33:46.120
<v Speaker 1>to find a place to stay. He was sleeping on

0:33:46.120 --> 0:33:49.440
<v Speaker 1>a park bench, you know, black owned hotels or you

0:33:49.480 --> 0:33:51.920
<v Speaker 1>know what I mean. And just putting that like seeing

0:33:51.960 --> 0:33:55.880
<v Speaker 1>that in Georgia, that's crazy because even you would think

0:33:55.920 --> 0:33:57.960
<v Speaker 1>it really put it in perspective. For me, I was like, wow,

0:33:58.040 --> 0:34:00.760
<v Speaker 1>this is It's so true. Got to watch it. It's

0:34:00.760 --> 0:34:04.600
<v Speaker 1>really interesting. So I recommend you watch it. But anyway,

0:34:04.600 --> 0:34:09.880
<v Speaker 1>and if about all of our black shit, It's Valentine's

0:34:09.960 --> 0:34:14.319
<v Speaker 1>Day tomorrow. Happy Valentine's Day to those love birds out

0:34:14.360 --> 0:34:19.839
<v Speaker 1>there or you're not not. We wanted to do our

0:34:19.920 --> 0:34:24.400
<v Speaker 1>Valentine's Day episode and discuss our views and feelings on

0:34:24.480 --> 0:34:27.800
<v Speaker 1>Valentine's Day. And actually this came up for me recently

0:34:27.880 --> 0:34:30.759
<v Speaker 1>because they start instilling this whole Valentine's Day narrative. So

0:34:30.960 --> 0:34:35.560
<v Speaker 1>young Irie's in school obviously and she, you know, celebrating

0:34:35.640 --> 0:34:40.880
<v Speaker 1>Valentine's Day tomorrow, and you know, they teach it about love.

0:34:41.440 --> 0:34:43.520
<v Speaker 1>And I think this is almost like when people like

0:34:44.120 --> 0:34:47.840
<v Speaker 1>you is Valentine's Day, like where you start realizing, like

0:34:48.840 --> 0:34:51.440
<v Speaker 1>it's supposed to have a boyfriend now ny movies or

0:34:51.440 --> 0:34:53.040
<v Speaker 1>where you like, oh that's true, that's true.

0:34:53.160 --> 0:35:00.520
<v Speaker 2>Secon Luna bought the entire family cookies, lollipops, balloon. She

0:35:00.560 --> 0:35:03.120
<v Speaker 2>got me a fake bouquet of heart flowers, and she

0:35:03.160 --> 0:35:05.120
<v Speaker 2>said this is for you for when you get married.

0:35:07.480 --> 0:35:09.440
<v Speaker 2>So it's I know, and I always I was going

0:35:09.520 --> 0:35:12.279
<v Speaker 2>to be like the mom, like who made baskets for

0:35:12.400 --> 0:35:17.239
<v Speaker 2>Easter and like for Valentine's Like meanwhile, I'm like down

0:35:17.280 --> 0:35:21.400
<v Speaker 2>with the man. This is fake, but I mean, I

0:35:21.480 --> 0:35:23.960
<v Speaker 2>don't know, it's just some fake us. All the holidays

0:35:23.960 --> 0:35:24.400
<v Speaker 2>are fake.

0:35:24.640 --> 0:35:28.080
<v Speaker 1>I used to take Valentine's Day seriously when you're in

0:35:28.360 --> 0:35:33.839
<v Speaker 1>seventh grade, no, like like high school, early twenties. Well

0:35:33.880 --> 0:35:34.520
<v Speaker 1>that's what it's fun.

0:35:34.560 --> 0:35:36.520
<v Speaker 2>I mean, what's the fun. I like, I like arts

0:35:36.560 --> 0:35:38.719
<v Speaker 2>and crabs and shit, and I really do like love.

0:35:39.360 --> 0:35:43.080
<v Speaker 2>I'm just not into spending money on some fake ass

0:35:43.080 --> 0:35:46.160
<v Speaker 2>bullshit because to me, like doesn't make me feel special,

0:35:46.280 --> 0:35:48.479
<v Speaker 2>Like I just want you to do something special like.

0:35:48.600 --> 0:35:48.960
<v Speaker 1>I want to.

0:35:49.080 --> 0:35:50.440
<v Speaker 2>I don't know it is nice for someone to do

0:35:50.480 --> 0:35:52.120
<v Speaker 2>something nice for you. And of course I like gifts,

0:35:52.200 --> 0:35:55.879
<v Speaker 2>but like I'm go into cheesy as shit. Don't buy

0:35:55.920 --> 0:35:59.719
<v Speaker 2>me no rose, don't buy right. I don't want no

0:35:59.719 --> 0:36:03.360
<v Speaker 2>funck a teddy bear made of roses. Take me to

0:36:03.360 --> 0:36:05.719
<v Speaker 2>get a sake, pay a bill?

0:36:06.000 --> 0:36:06.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, for real?

0:36:07.040 --> 0:36:10.200
<v Speaker 2>Like I like to eat and I like experiences me too.

0:36:10.360 --> 0:36:13.000
<v Speaker 2>Get this, Get this flower rose out of my face.

0:36:13.320 --> 0:36:14.719
<v Speaker 2>I like flowers, I just don't want them to be

0:36:14.760 --> 0:36:16.399
<v Speaker 2>in a shape of a teddy bear.

0:36:17.080 --> 0:36:19.560
<v Speaker 1>So you really even want flowers on Valentine's Day though,

0:36:19.600 --> 0:36:21.719
<v Speaker 1>It's just so I want flowers every day to be

0:36:21.760 --> 0:36:26.600
<v Speaker 1>in that exactly, Like, yeah, chocolate, I don't fucking eat

0:36:26.640 --> 0:36:29.600
<v Speaker 1>chocolate at that ship out of my face? Yeah I don't.

0:36:29.840 --> 0:36:33.240
<v Speaker 1>I don't get it. I don't. It's funny though, because

0:36:33.239 --> 0:36:36.080
<v Speaker 1>there's a heart shaped Do you know what I find?

0:36:36.280 --> 0:36:38.160
<v Speaker 1>Or at least in my last relationship, I found that

0:36:38.239 --> 0:36:43.319
<v Speaker 1>Valentine's Day was more taken seriously by the man than

0:36:43.400 --> 0:36:46.160
<v Speaker 1>by me. I know, for real it is, But I'm like, no,

0:36:46.440 --> 0:36:48.319
<v Speaker 1>it's not always like that. I know there's a lot

0:36:48.320 --> 0:36:50.400
<v Speaker 1>of women out there that really pressure their men, like

0:36:50.400 --> 0:36:52.439
<v Speaker 1>what do we do have Valentine's Day, like, oh my god,

0:36:52.440 --> 0:36:54.200
<v Speaker 1>I got my BALANCEE. Then you go somewhere and there's

0:36:54.239 --> 0:36:57.000
<v Speaker 1>like everybody in their mama there because it's all pre set.

0:36:57.000 --> 0:36:58.480
<v Speaker 1>I didn't even want this. I wanted to order. I

0:36:58.520 --> 0:36:59.080
<v Speaker 1>wanted to order.

0:36:59.320 --> 0:37:03.560
<v Speaker 2>It's so many people, it's so crowded. Everybody's pretend holding hands.

0:37:03.560 --> 0:37:06.880
<v Speaker 1>So gay? Are we just? Are we better? No? We

0:37:06.880 --> 0:37:14.160
<v Speaker 1>don't have Valentine's No, really not, because you know what.

0:37:14.280 --> 0:37:16.800
<v Speaker 1>I had this. I had this conversation with myself the

0:37:16.800 --> 0:37:18.840
<v Speaker 1>other day because I know everybody else knows. I know

0:37:18.880 --> 0:37:20.759
<v Speaker 1>you know. You ever go on Instagram and.

0:37:20.719 --> 0:37:24.200
<v Speaker 2>See those people who are so in love it's like

0:37:25.280 --> 0:37:26.280
<v Speaker 2>beautiful but annoying.

0:37:27.160 --> 0:37:29.120
<v Speaker 1>And I had talk with myself. I'm like, am I

0:37:29.120 --> 0:37:29.719
<v Speaker 1>annoyed by this?

0:37:29.760 --> 0:37:32.120
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, no, because I want that, And I'm gonna

0:37:32.120 --> 0:37:34.320
<v Speaker 2>be that annoying on Instagram when I get a man

0:37:34.440 --> 0:37:35.120
<v Speaker 2>that I really like.

0:37:35.560 --> 0:37:37.000
<v Speaker 1>But it just has to be someone I really know.

0:37:37.080 --> 0:37:39.759
<v Speaker 1>I'm lying, I'm never gonna be that annoying on Instagram.

0:37:39.960 --> 0:37:41.400
<v Speaker 1>Have you ever been like that on Instagram?

0:37:41.480 --> 0:37:41.560
<v Speaker 4>No?

0:37:41.680 --> 0:37:43.680
<v Speaker 1>I mean I suppose I may be daddy, but like

0:37:44.600 --> 0:37:48.680
<v Speaker 1>maybe a little bit black love. No, I don't think

0:37:48.680 --> 0:37:52.680
<v Speaker 1>i've ever hashtagged that. But oh my god, I'm gonna

0:37:52.719 --> 0:37:58.399
<v Speaker 1>go back, bitch, makee me scroll back. Oh my god,

0:37:58.400 --> 0:37:59.719
<v Speaker 1>I think that Candileen is getting to me. What was

0:37:59.760 --> 0:38:03.520
<v Speaker 1>it talking about? Uh No, I'm not jealous. I just

0:38:05.120 --> 0:38:07.640
<v Speaker 1>I think when something's really good, you don't have to

0:38:07.680 --> 0:38:09.360
<v Speaker 1>talk about it a lot. It doesn't have to be

0:38:09.440 --> 0:38:11.799
<v Speaker 1>necessarily pushed up. But I get I get wanting to

0:38:12.040 --> 0:38:13.799
<v Speaker 1>I understand that. I don't. I don't like.

0:38:14.640 --> 0:38:16.160
<v Speaker 2>I don't think it's annoying. I think it's more annoying

0:38:16.200 --> 0:38:18.319
<v Speaker 2>when bitches are like I need a man, my love

0:38:18.400 --> 0:38:20.600
<v Speaker 2>is coming. Have you ever seen those posts too?

0:38:21.120 --> 0:38:21.200
<v Speaker 3>No?

0:38:21.480 --> 0:38:23.799
<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, so like the thirstiest bitches like I

0:38:23.800 --> 0:38:27.600
<v Speaker 1>can't wait for my man. Like it's that's annoying, more

0:38:27.600 --> 0:38:31.200
<v Speaker 1>annoying than real love posts. I just feel like you

0:38:31.280 --> 0:38:33.520
<v Speaker 1>and your partner, if you have one, should make an

0:38:33.520 --> 0:38:37.680
<v Speaker 1>effort to express your love for one another daily, daily,

0:38:38.040 --> 0:38:41.160
<v Speaker 1>And like, yeah, it doesn't have to be on February fourteenth.

0:38:41.280 --> 0:38:44.040
<v Speaker 1>You know, It's just I don't know even like happy Bay.

0:38:45.120 --> 0:38:49.279
<v Speaker 1>He asked me. He was like, so what do you

0:38:49.360 --> 0:38:51.840
<v Speaker 1>ask me? Like? What are you doing? What are you

0:38:51.880 --> 0:38:54.879
<v Speaker 1>doing on Valentine's Day? And I was like I don't

0:38:54.920 --> 0:38:56.759
<v Speaker 1>believe Valentine's Day and he was like, oh my god,

0:38:56.760 --> 0:38:59.799
<v Speaker 1>thank god. He was like, cause I was gonna tell

0:38:59.840 --> 0:39:02.640
<v Speaker 1>you all the reasons why I don't believe Valentine's Day.

0:39:03.200 --> 0:39:06.239
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, I mean my ex like, and

0:39:06.280 --> 0:39:07.920
<v Speaker 1>I would tell my ex too, like we don't have

0:39:07.960 --> 0:39:10.759
<v Speaker 1>to do anything on Valentine's Day, Like seriously, we don't

0:39:10.800 --> 0:39:12.920
<v Speaker 1>need to do anything. You don't need to buy me anything.

0:39:12.960 --> 0:39:14.799
<v Speaker 1>And he would always buy me something, and of course

0:39:14.800 --> 0:39:17.040
<v Speaker 1>that was nice and I liked it. It was sweet,

0:39:17.440 --> 0:39:19.080
<v Speaker 1>but then I'd get pissed because Nigga, I told you

0:39:19.120 --> 0:39:21.000
<v Speaker 1>I wasn't gonna buy you shit, and now you brought

0:39:21.000 --> 0:39:22.960
<v Speaker 1>me a gift and now I like it. Ask yeah,

0:39:23.000 --> 0:39:26.080
<v Speaker 1>I hate like I tell you, we told, I told you,

0:39:26.120 --> 0:39:28.759
<v Speaker 1>We're not doing that. I'm shit. I've also had like

0:39:29.120 --> 0:39:33.120
<v Speaker 1>a few fights on Valentine's Day, so like not even

0:39:33.120 --> 0:39:38.080
<v Speaker 1>about Valentine's Day, just like like an argument happened, happened

0:39:38.120 --> 0:39:39.600
<v Speaker 1>to happen on that day. So I was just like,

0:39:39.680 --> 0:39:41.239
<v Speaker 1>fuck this day. You know, at the end of the day,

0:39:41.280 --> 0:39:43.759
<v Speaker 1>this is just another month of fucking day where we're

0:39:43.760 --> 0:39:46.160
<v Speaker 1>gonna fight or not. You know.

0:39:46.920 --> 0:39:49.439
<v Speaker 2>I had I had a girlfriend once and she made

0:39:49.640 --> 0:39:54.319
<v Speaker 2>such a big deal about Valentine's Day and like made

0:39:54.360 --> 0:39:56.960
<v Speaker 2>me get dressed, and I was like, be ready this time.

0:39:57.000 --> 0:39:58.839
<v Speaker 2>And then I guess when the day came, like we

0:39:58.880 --> 0:40:01.920
<v Speaker 2>missed the show, and then she just like got me

0:40:01.960 --> 0:40:04.960
<v Speaker 2>in necklace and then like fed me store bought sushi.

0:40:05.040 --> 0:40:06.600
<v Speaker 1>I was just like a girl that liked you. We

0:40:06.600 --> 0:40:08.560
<v Speaker 1>were in a relationship. Oh oh, this is a long

0:40:08.560 --> 0:40:16.480
<v Speaker 1>time ago. I was hot. I was so irritated.

0:40:16.600 --> 0:40:17.880
<v Speaker 2>I was like, why the fuck do you have me

0:40:17.960 --> 0:40:20.880
<v Speaker 2>get all this dressed, all this hype, and this bitch

0:40:21.040 --> 0:40:22.520
<v Speaker 2>is feeding me store bos.

0:40:22.840 --> 0:40:27.920
<v Speaker 1>It was more about the food shit, I know. Okay,

0:40:28.000 --> 0:40:31.719
<v Speaker 1>So so you said be cheap. Okay. So if you

0:40:31.760 --> 0:40:36.120
<v Speaker 1>have subscribed to our newsletter, is that everyone just jumped

0:40:36.120 --> 0:40:39.640
<v Speaker 1>on that roost. If you subscribe to our newsletter, which

0:40:39.680 --> 0:40:44.799
<v Speaker 1>you guys all should, because there's some extra information in there.

0:40:45.560 --> 0:40:48.360
<v Speaker 1>We do some updates on our personal lives up there,

0:40:48.600 --> 0:40:51.680
<v Speaker 1>and we share event information, which, by the way, we're

0:40:51.680 --> 0:40:56.439
<v Speaker 1>having an event March nineteenth, Wait sixteenth. March sixteenth. March

0:40:56.480 --> 0:40:59.200
<v Speaker 1>sixteenth is our one year Anna Versus a relive show

0:41:00.040 --> 0:41:06.680
<v Speaker 1>flash party. Flash party. But still but apparently this candeleeen

0:41:06.800 --> 0:41:15.399
<v Speaker 1>is working, so you drinks some more. Noma, Wait what

0:41:15.480 --> 0:41:17.439
<v Speaker 1>was I saying? I already forgot where this was going.

0:41:17.960 --> 0:41:20.360
<v Speaker 1>We have events? Oh our newsletter? Oh yeah, our newsletter.

0:41:20.480 --> 0:41:22.560
<v Speaker 1>Do you have a newsletter? Yeah? Follow it. You can

0:41:22.600 --> 0:41:24.640
<v Speaker 1>subscribe on our website to our newsletter. But I was

0:41:24.680 --> 0:41:28.560
<v Speaker 1>saying something before that. We talked about our views on

0:41:28.640 --> 0:41:33.400
<v Speaker 1>Valentine's Oh before the newsletter. Oh yeah, yeah, Jamila in

0:41:33.480 --> 0:41:37.640
<v Speaker 1>the newsletter was saying how she like, we were just

0:41:37.719 --> 0:41:41.400
<v Speaker 1>encouraging you guys to, you know, take yourself out on

0:41:41.480 --> 0:41:45.200
<v Speaker 1>Valentine's Day, get your stuff out on the day, your baby,

0:41:45.200 --> 0:41:47.520
<v Speaker 1>maybe you and your daughter out or your son out

0:41:47.640 --> 0:41:50.160
<v Speaker 1>on the jay and like do something special like that,

0:41:50.400 --> 0:41:53.239
<v Speaker 1>you know, or treat yourself to treat yourself. Yeah, get

0:41:53.239 --> 0:41:56.760
<v Speaker 1>a little massage, running a run of bath, smoke a joint,

0:41:57.040 --> 0:41:59.160
<v Speaker 1>watch your favorite show you've been meaning to catch up on,

0:42:00.280 --> 0:42:02.839
<v Speaker 1>and just do the whole do the self care thing

0:42:03.120 --> 0:42:06.640
<v Speaker 1>and not make it about a relationship. The biggest relationship

0:42:06.640 --> 0:42:09.200
<v Speaker 1>and the most important relationship you have is with yourself,

0:42:09.680 --> 0:42:12.160
<v Speaker 1>So nurture that if that's if it's so important to

0:42:12.200 --> 0:42:16.719
<v Speaker 1>you this day. But Jamila was saying, you know, the

0:42:16.719 --> 0:42:19.840
<v Speaker 1>best way to go is free. Just make it free.

0:42:20.080 --> 0:42:22.359
<v Speaker 1>And well, I think all the sexiest shit is free.

0:42:22.440 --> 0:42:26.000
<v Speaker 1>Like I want to cook naked for you. I want

0:42:26.000 --> 0:42:28.279
<v Speaker 1>to give you a massage naked. I want to wear

0:42:28.600 --> 0:42:31.400
<v Speaker 1>this lingerie and then get naked, which I for myself,

0:42:31.719 --> 0:42:34.279
<v Speaker 1>and then I'm gonna naked. I got this way, call

0:42:34.400 --> 0:42:38.239
<v Speaker 1>me something else that's yeah, it's role playing no, and

0:42:38.280 --> 0:42:40.080
<v Speaker 1>I get that too, I think. But I think if

0:42:40.120 --> 0:42:42.120
<v Speaker 1>you are, if you believe in this holiday so much,

0:42:42.160 --> 0:42:45.960
<v Speaker 1>then but buy something. Then don't be cheap about like

0:42:47.000 --> 0:42:49.560
<v Speaker 1>don't you don't have to buy something expensive, but don't

0:42:49.719 --> 0:42:53.359
<v Speaker 1>buy like the cheap teddy barrels. If you're gonna do it,

0:42:53.480 --> 0:42:55.839
<v Speaker 1>then do it. Get something actually that the person's gonna lie,

0:42:55.960 --> 0:42:59.919
<v Speaker 1>even if it is small. Yeah, But like Jamila, I'm

0:43:00.040 --> 0:43:04.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm definitely more so about if I'm if I was

0:43:04.600 --> 0:43:09.480
<v Speaker 1>celebrating Valentine's Day, it's about the experience. If I was

0:43:09.480 --> 0:43:10.840
<v Speaker 1>gonna spend it with someone else.

0:43:10.800 --> 0:43:14.839
<v Speaker 2>I'm so cursed my own family, My whole family is

0:43:15.239 --> 0:43:18.319
<v Speaker 2>all holidays are like it's the man's holiday trying to

0:43:18.320 --> 0:43:22.960
<v Speaker 2>get your money.

0:43:23.480 --> 0:43:25.920
<v Speaker 1>So I'm not very holidays. But except for my birthday,

0:43:26.880 --> 0:43:28.080
<v Speaker 1>A very into.

0:43:27.800 --> 0:43:31.680
<v Speaker 2>My birthday and everything else is the man's holiday.

0:43:32.600 --> 0:43:41.920
<v Speaker 1>So but yeah, sometimes it's fun. I'm gonna feel sick again.

0:43:43.280 --> 0:43:45.399
<v Speaker 1>Clearly my coughing my nose is.

0:43:46.920 --> 0:43:52.480
<v Speaker 2>I'm sorry, sorry, not not very appealing in the microphone.

0:43:52.480 --> 0:43:57.439
<v Speaker 1>I might have to add it that out. I don't

0:43:57.440 --> 0:44:04.160
<v Speaker 1>want me laugh. It makes me cough. Oh another update,

0:44:04.400 --> 0:44:08.839
<v Speaker 1>speaking of Valentine's Day and love and relationships that I'm

0:44:08.880 --> 0:44:19.680
<v Speaker 1>not participating it. I'm also sixty one days sullivant, and

0:44:19.840 --> 0:44:22.360
<v Speaker 1>I did not think that I could do that. So

0:44:22.600 --> 0:44:25.239
<v Speaker 1>that's neither did I.

0:44:25.400 --> 0:44:31.160
<v Speaker 2>Thanks friend, I'm really proud of you. So yeah, I've

0:44:31.239 --> 0:44:39.080
<v Speaker 2>been consciously sullivant for sixty one days and it's pretty.

0:44:39.120 --> 0:44:42.760
<v Speaker 1>It's cool. It's cool. Sometimes I get in like horny modes,

0:44:42.800 --> 0:44:45.279
<v Speaker 1>like must have dick, dick, dick, because I think all

0:44:45.280 --> 0:44:50.320
<v Speaker 1>these sexual thoughts and then it goes away. Oh so

0:44:50.440 --> 0:44:54.200
<v Speaker 1>you masturbate in your mind, my mo's mental master masturbation.

0:44:54.360 --> 0:44:59.320
<v Speaker 1>I just think like skin close thoughts, sweat, heavy, breathing, biting,

0:45:00.880 --> 0:45:06.480
<v Speaker 1>we liquid liquid measure me like penetration, penetration, penetration, and

0:45:06.520 --> 0:45:12.680
<v Speaker 1>then I'm like, okay, back to the regular life. Oh masturbation. Okay,

0:45:13.200 --> 0:45:17.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm still going to encourage you to get a vibrator,

0:45:17.719 --> 0:45:19.319
<v Speaker 1>a new one. Do you think you need a new one?

0:45:19.360 --> 0:45:26.080
<v Speaker 1>Because clearly, sorry, oh my god, clearly the old one

0:45:26.200 --> 0:45:29.040
<v Speaker 1>is not You're not going to it, you're not excited

0:45:29.080 --> 0:45:33.440
<v Speaker 1>about it. I don't have you watched tidy. She's like,

0:45:33.680 --> 0:45:36.640
<v Speaker 1>does this bring your joy? If it bring your joy,

0:45:36.840 --> 0:45:39.680
<v Speaker 1>you keep it. She doesn't like, she doesn't speak English,

0:45:40.200 --> 0:45:42.600
<v Speaker 1>anything that brings you joy. She's like this little voice.

0:45:42.600 --> 0:45:44.960
<v Speaker 1>But ever, the whole thing is like, does it make

0:45:45.000 --> 0:45:48.320
<v Speaker 1>you feel joy? So maybe my brother doesn't make me

0:45:48.320 --> 0:45:54.319
<v Speaker 1>feel joy? Yeah, you gotta find a new exciting, joyous vibratory.

0:45:54.400 --> 0:45:56.399
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna I'm gonna pull up close what she says

0:45:56.480 --> 0:45:57.920
<v Speaker 2>to do with your things, like bring it close to

0:45:57.920 --> 0:46:00.200
<v Speaker 2>your chest and see if it brings you joy.

0:46:00.520 --> 0:46:03.720
<v Speaker 1>Oh the show? Oh? Is that the show? Yeah?

0:46:03.920 --> 0:46:06.239
<v Speaker 2>Not even functually, it's about tidying, like getting rid of

0:46:06.239 --> 0:46:09.200
<v Speaker 2>shit and just keeping the things I bring you.

0:46:09.320 --> 0:46:11.200
<v Speaker 1>My friend Xavier was telling me about that. He was

0:46:11.200 --> 0:46:13.000
<v Speaker 1>telling me I needed to watch that. He just watched

0:46:13.000 --> 0:46:13.959
<v Speaker 1>and it changed his life.

0:46:14.080 --> 0:46:19.239
<v Speaker 2>It's like the top three shows right now on Netflix,

0:46:20.480 --> 0:46:22.799
<v Speaker 2>one of the top three watched shows.

0:46:23.680 --> 0:46:26.080
<v Speaker 1>Did we already talk about that? Other weird show Abducted

0:46:26.120 --> 0:46:30.080
<v Speaker 1>in plain Sight. Yeah we did, ok, Yeah, because I

0:46:30.120 --> 0:46:32.799
<v Speaker 1>know that's an What about Ted Bundy? I haven't seen that?

0:46:32.840 --> 0:46:34.560
<v Speaker 1>Have you seen it? Yeah? I watched it. Oh my god.

0:46:35.239 --> 0:46:37.839
<v Speaker 1>You know it's just got sick like we go means

0:46:37.840 --> 0:46:39.600
<v Speaker 1>you don't watch all six She always turns on the

0:46:39.680 --> 0:46:42.280
<v Speaker 1>darkest shit and then falls asleep, and then my nosey

0:46:42.320 --> 0:46:43.720
<v Speaker 1>ass can't stop watching.

0:46:43.760 --> 0:46:47.640
<v Speaker 2>It's like six episodes of the darkness of said Bundy,

0:46:47.680 --> 0:46:51.399
<v Speaker 2>and like a serial killer of young women.

0:46:51.520 --> 0:46:54.360
<v Speaker 1>It's very scary. Yeah. I know. He because he was

0:46:54.400 --> 0:46:57.359
<v Speaker 1>good looking and charming, and so he would get away

0:46:57.360 --> 0:46:59.960
<v Speaker 1>with it. And he was like Lokia genius. No, No,

0:47:00.040 --> 0:47:02.200
<v Speaker 1>that was a lie. He's not genious. He was just

0:47:02.280 --> 0:47:03.240
<v Speaker 1>so he was psycho.

0:47:03.440 --> 0:47:05.600
<v Speaker 2>No, he was kind of smart and he can manipulate,

0:47:05.600 --> 0:47:08.600
<v Speaker 2>but in reality he really wasn't that smart. His I

0:47:08.800 --> 0:47:10.960
<v Speaker 2>he could, his IQ was actually very low and adjusted,

0:47:11.040 --> 0:47:12.960
<v Speaker 2>and it made him feel inadequate.

0:47:13.040 --> 0:47:15.560
<v Speaker 1>He was didn't he defend himself? Yeah, but he was

0:47:15.760 --> 0:47:18.359
<v Speaker 1>tamed as a lawyer. He was crazy insecure in his

0:47:18.400 --> 0:47:21.440
<v Speaker 1>whole childhood, in his whole life, he was like pretending

0:47:21.520 --> 0:47:23.759
<v Speaker 1>to be so smart and so eloquent, and he wanted

0:47:23.760 --> 0:47:27.880
<v Speaker 1>to be like a Republican party against like juvenile delinquents.

0:47:28.080 --> 0:47:31.840
<v Speaker 1>And he's a psychopath and he really wasn't that smart,

0:47:31.880 --> 0:47:35.600
<v Speaker 1>but he was. How many people they killed seventeen thirty seventy,

0:47:35.680 --> 0:47:41.680
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, women brutally like smashing their heads, grabbing

0:47:41.680 --> 0:47:44.239
<v Speaker 1>them out of their beds, strangling them and pulling into

0:47:44.280 --> 0:47:47.240
<v Speaker 1>his trunk. Random bitches. Random.

0:47:47.400 --> 0:47:51.040
<v Speaker 2>He literally killed bitches through out of their bedrooms that

0:47:51.080 --> 0:47:52.120
<v Speaker 2>he'd never seen before.

0:47:52.280 --> 0:47:55.799
<v Speaker 1>It was crazy, followed them and took them and left

0:47:55.840 --> 0:47:59.279
<v Speaker 1>them in the woods. That's crazy. And then had a

0:47:59.320 --> 0:48:02.600
<v Speaker 1>girlfriend during and then didn't kill her, didn't not tell her.

0:48:02.880 --> 0:48:04.640
<v Speaker 2>She came to the places like, I don't know what

0:48:04.719 --> 0:48:08.000
<v Speaker 2>I think. It's my boyfriend. His name is Ted, and

0:48:08.440 --> 0:48:10.480
<v Speaker 2>he has all these different house keys at his house,

0:48:10.560 --> 0:48:14.160
<v Speaker 2>and he's been gone mysteriously from some of these times

0:48:14.160 --> 0:48:17.040
<v Speaker 2>of these women's abductions. And sometimes he tells me he

0:48:17.120 --> 0:48:19.359
<v Speaker 2>follows like college students and he can't help it.

0:48:21.440 --> 0:48:22.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so she's the one who got him caught up

0:48:22.960 --> 0:48:24.880
<v Speaker 1>or what? No, Then they were watching him, but he

0:48:25.040 --> 0:48:30.840
<v Speaker 1>kept going, damn bitch, they got him. He escaped twice, right, twice,

0:48:31.080 --> 0:48:34.960
<v Speaker 1>that's right. I wouldn't tell me, this niggas not a genius.

0:48:35.040 --> 0:48:36.640
<v Speaker 1>He's white. White.

0:48:37.040 --> 0:48:40.959
<v Speaker 2>It's so funny. I was doing a client and she's white.

0:48:41.360 --> 0:48:43.680
<v Speaker 2>I think she's half Mexican of white. And her boyfriend

0:48:43.800 --> 0:48:46.600
<v Speaker 2>is black and Indian, you know. And he was like,

0:48:46.719 --> 0:48:47.239
<v Speaker 2>she's like I was.

0:48:47.160 --> 0:48:49.440
<v Speaker 1>Watching them that with my boyfriend, and he said if

0:48:49.440 --> 0:48:51.480
<v Speaker 1>he was black, he would have never got away with that.

0:48:51.640 --> 0:48:58.120
<v Speaker 1>I was like, he's right, that's true. He like jumped

0:48:58.120 --> 0:49:01.280
<v Speaker 1>out of the window. Do you mean he's not shackled

0:49:01.280 --> 0:49:02.680
<v Speaker 1>to get this jug what do you mean here to

0:49:02.719 --> 0:49:05.560
<v Speaker 1>get shot? We're gonna chase him. He was gone for

0:49:05.600 --> 0:49:09.439
<v Speaker 1>a week. Girl in the woods. Almost god, I don't

0:49:09.560 --> 0:49:13.040
<v Speaker 1>use force right if you see him, if you see him,

0:49:13.200 --> 0:49:19.480
<v Speaker 1>whispered gently, come here, Ted come only killed thirty bitches? Crazy?

0:49:19.800 --> 0:49:21.760
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, Oh my god.

0:49:21.920 --> 0:49:26.280
<v Speaker 2>Also, my client told me that his mom said she

0:49:26.280 --> 0:49:28.759
<v Speaker 2>she like had a flat tire and he came to

0:49:28.840 --> 0:49:32.960
<v Speaker 2>help her. Ted Bundy, who's mom the guy Her boyfriend's

0:49:32.960 --> 0:49:35.319
<v Speaker 2>mom said back in the day she was driving from

0:49:35.400 --> 0:49:38.920
<v Speaker 2>Seattle and that he was like or from Oakland or something,

0:49:38.920 --> 0:49:41.440
<v Speaker 2>and that he was like she saw it was Ted

0:49:41.480 --> 0:49:43.200
<v Speaker 2>Bundy who came, But the police came, and so he

0:49:43.320 --> 0:49:45.439
<v Speaker 2>left but he came to help her.

0:49:46.239 --> 0:49:53.279
<v Speaker 1>I was like, that's crazy, right, perfect opportunity. Wow, I'm

0:49:54.000 --> 0:49:55.960
<v Speaker 1>sometimes I think about that. I have like weird thoughts,

0:49:56.000 --> 0:49:58.839
<v Speaker 1>like how many times have I escaped death? I have

0:49:58.920 --> 0:50:02.960
<v Speaker 1>not even known it right or escaped just anything. There's

0:50:02.960 --> 0:50:04.359
<v Speaker 1>been a lot of times I think back in my

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<v Speaker 1>teenage years, so dumb, so much shick should have happened

0:50:08.160 --> 0:50:10.600
<v Speaker 1>to me. You know how many hitchhikes down I like

0:50:10.840 --> 0:50:18.680
<v Speaker 1>gotten shit cars to strangers. Yeah, that's insane. Often often

0:50:18.719 --> 0:50:21.480
<v Speaker 1>where are you going? What do you mean? You were

0:50:21.520 --> 0:50:23.279
<v Speaker 1>just like on venturup with your finger out.

0:50:23.400 --> 0:50:25.040
<v Speaker 2>Like one time I went to be like, took the

0:50:25.040 --> 0:50:27.000
<v Speaker 2>bus to know such mam, but we didn't want to

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<v Speaker 2>take it back because so far on the bus and

0:50:30.360 --> 0:50:31.680
<v Speaker 2>let me just ask people.

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<v Speaker 1>What? Oh my god. One time in college, if some

0:50:36.880 --> 0:50:39.160
<v Speaker 1>teenager came up to me and was like, can you

0:50:39.200 --> 0:50:42.600
<v Speaker 1>take me home? I'd be like, hell, now, I have

0:50:42.760 --> 0:50:45.880
<v Speaker 1>gotten a lot of rides from strangers. Oh no, no,

0:50:46.000 --> 0:50:47.480
<v Speaker 1>But that was I think that's because I'm a woman.

0:50:47.480 --> 0:50:49.200
<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't be I'd be like, I'm not picking no,

0:50:49.360 --> 0:50:52.040
<v Speaker 1>but call your mama. You need a cell phone. We're

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<v Speaker 1>going to ride from a mom one time like not

0:50:54.280 --> 0:50:55.280
<v Speaker 1>a mom is a woman?

0:50:57.400 --> 0:50:59.000
<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, I hope my daughter is not as

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<v Speaker 2>retarded as I am because I was dup.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I think you just have to be honest with

0:51:06.280 --> 0:51:11.680
<v Speaker 1>her about those moments or not or maybe yeah, I

0:51:11.719 --> 0:51:15.799
<v Speaker 1>don't know, I'll figure it out as we go. If

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<v Speaker 1>anyone has any advice on how to make sure your

0:51:18.239 --> 0:51:20.560
<v Speaker 1>kid doesn't get in the car with the fucking strangers,

0:51:20.680 --> 0:51:23.960
<v Speaker 1>or like what if your Ted Bundy's mom? What do

0:51:23.960 --> 0:51:25.040
<v Speaker 1>you mean, like what, I love him.

0:51:24.960 --> 0:51:28.200
<v Speaker 2>Stone, yeah, like like that's also scary. It's also a

0:51:28.200 --> 0:51:29.520
<v Speaker 2>scary thought, Like as a.

0:51:29.520 --> 0:51:32.920
<v Speaker 1>Mom, I love him still, but I'd be like, what

0:51:33.000 --> 0:51:35.880
<v Speaker 1>the fuck did I do in life to have given

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<v Speaker 1>birth to now?

0:51:37.440 --> 0:51:39.680
<v Speaker 2>So in the movie, they say like he tries to

0:51:39.719 --> 0:51:42.359
<v Speaker 2>portray all like people would like to say that I've

0:51:42.360 --> 0:51:44.680
<v Speaker 2>had something happened to me as a child, but there's

0:51:44.719 --> 0:51:47.680
<v Speaker 2>nothing basically like he had a totally normal childhood.

0:51:48.040 --> 0:51:50.200
<v Speaker 1>However, he like basically.

0:51:49.800 --> 0:51:53.200
<v Speaker 2>Confesses on tape and they take it over to his

0:51:53.239 --> 0:51:56.319
<v Speaker 2>mom's house and they play the tape for her and

0:51:56.360 --> 0:51:59.359
<v Speaker 2>she like falls to the floor crying, weeping, and then

0:51:59.400 --> 0:52:02.320
<v Speaker 2>like five minutes Slater gets up and says, now, who wants.

0:52:02.080 --> 0:52:06.799
<v Speaker 1>Apple pie and ice cream. Yeah that's what I said. Okay, yeah,

0:52:06.840 --> 0:52:12.440
<v Speaker 1>that's weird. So I think we have a question from

0:52:12.480 --> 0:52:20.879
<v Speaker 1>a someone in our DMS. Yes, listener, Yes, this one

0:52:20.920 --> 0:52:25.240
<v Speaker 1>was pretty heavy. It's a heavy question. It was pretty heavy.

0:52:28.640 --> 0:52:31.440
<v Speaker 1>And the question is how do I tell my daughter

0:52:31.520 --> 0:52:34.960
<v Speaker 1>that her dad is incarcerated for life without parole. The

0:52:35.040 --> 0:52:38.440
<v Speaker 1>last time he's seen her she was only three months

0:52:38.480 --> 0:52:50.840
<v Speaker 1>old and she's almost three now. I have questions like,

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<v Speaker 1>as she sees, how she been to visit him. The

0:52:53.200 --> 0:52:55.439
<v Speaker 1>last time she saw her is at three months oh

0:52:55.480 --> 0:52:57.839
<v Speaker 1>three months old? Oh yeah, so I don't know if

0:52:57.840 --> 0:53:01.080
<v Speaker 1>I was a visitor, if that was before incident. I

0:53:01.120 --> 0:53:04.520
<v Speaker 1>have a friend that yeah, basically since the baby was

0:53:04.600 --> 0:53:08.480
<v Speaker 1>like three months old, the dad's been incarcerated, and she

0:53:08.680 --> 0:53:11.760
<v Speaker 1>lets him like FaceTime and stuff, because that's like an option.

0:53:11.880 --> 0:53:17.400
<v Speaker 1>But I don't know, would you like say, would you

0:53:17.480 --> 0:53:19.960
<v Speaker 1>like like you don't have a dad, or would you No,

0:53:20.000 --> 0:53:21.440
<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't say you don't have a dad, And I

0:53:21.480 --> 0:53:24.200
<v Speaker 1>would just maybe say he's away and never let her

0:53:24.200 --> 0:53:25.360
<v Speaker 1>see the dad.

0:53:25.640 --> 0:53:28.040
<v Speaker 2>Oh, like go there to visit, But that's not too much,

0:53:28.360 --> 0:53:35.279
<v Speaker 2>too difficult. I think at three maybe I would go

0:53:36.960 --> 0:53:40.800
<v Speaker 2>I think it's real. I think three they're getting really smart,

0:53:40.960 --> 0:53:43.359
<v Speaker 2>really sharp. I mean, I just know there's like such

0:53:43.360 --> 0:53:47.759
<v Speaker 2>a negative like association with jail for a child. That's

0:53:47.760 --> 0:53:50.560
<v Speaker 2>the only thing that makes me hesitant. But it's like,

0:53:50.600 --> 0:53:53.080
<v Speaker 2>how do you hide that and not sacrifice them not

0:53:53.120 --> 0:53:54.520
<v Speaker 2>seeing their father at all?

0:53:54.880 --> 0:53:55.120
<v Speaker 1>Right?

0:53:56.280 --> 0:53:58.840
<v Speaker 2>But she also said that I said it depends like

0:53:58.840 --> 0:54:00.640
<v Speaker 2>how much a relationship prior.

0:54:02.160 --> 0:54:05.560
<v Speaker 1>Prior to the incident, she said he was really disrespectful

0:54:05.600 --> 0:54:08.120
<v Speaker 1>to her, to her, he was really disrespectful to her

0:54:08.880 --> 0:54:11.239
<v Speaker 1>during the pregnancy and basically said that she tried to

0:54:11.280 --> 0:54:16.040
<v Speaker 1>trap him. Well, I'm I'm so does he not want

0:54:16.080 --> 0:54:18.120
<v Speaker 1>to see the child? Is that why she hasn't seen

0:54:18.200 --> 0:54:20.520
<v Speaker 1>the right? Right? If he didn't want to see her,

0:54:20.560 --> 0:54:23.319
<v Speaker 1>I would be like, yeah, he you don't.

0:54:23.360 --> 0:54:26.719
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, he basically doesn't exist. But if he wants to,

0:54:26.800 --> 0:54:29.200
<v Speaker 2>I would. I would, I would take it. Yeah, this

0:54:29.280 --> 0:54:31.719
<v Speaker 2>is something I felt like I was being. I mean

0:54:31.760 --> 0:54:34.600
<v Speaker 2>I kind of had to face when like my ex

0:54:34.760 --> 0:54:37.719
<v Speaker 2>was in jail and like facing time.

0:54:38.200 --> 0:54:41.160
<v Speaker 1>And like would you thank God, like you know, he

0:54:41.200 --> 0:54:46.200
<v Speaker 1>wasn't guilty and the truth came to life? But had

0:54:46.200 --> 0:54:48.480
<v Speaker 1>it not like I had, I had that thought. I

0:54:48.520 --> 0:54:49.960
<v Speaker 1>had to think about that. Am I going to be

0:54:50.000 --> 0:54:53.680
<v Speaker 1>traveling to Europe to show Iri her dad or to

0:54:53.680 --> 0:54:55.480
<v Speaker 1>bring Iri to see her dad? In this I was

0:54:55.520 --> 0:54:58.279
<v Speaker 1>already doing that at that point. We were out there

0:54:58.320 --> 0:55:02.120
<v Speaker 1>that whole, those whole we like taking her to take

0:55:02.239 --> 0:55:04.920
<v Speaker 1>to the jail, taking her to the No, I never

0:55:04.960 --> 0:55:09.560
<v Speaker 1>took her to the joke. No, but I probably would

0:55:09.600 --> 0:55:12.879
<v Speaker 1>have if that was what it had to be. Would

0:55:12.960 --> 0:55:20.200
<v Speaker 1>have a decision. Yeah, I mean I would have to. Yeah,

0:55:20.520 --> 0:55:23.240
<v Speaker 1>I mean he would. I mean, obviously it's a different situation.

0:55:23.600 --> 0:55:24.680
<v Speaker 1>You know, Well, we don't know.

0:55:24.800 --> 0:55:27.560
<v Speaker 2>But I think if he wants to see her, yes, yes,

0:55:27.719 --> 0:55:35.200
<v Speaker 2>I think if he doesn't, then do you tell her?

0:55:36.239 --> 0:55:38.600
<v Speaker 1>Of course, she's gonna have no. She's gonna know who

0:55:38.640 --> 0:55:41.040
<v Speaker 1>her dad is. She's gonna know. I'm not gonna say

0:55:41.040 --> 0:55:42.719
<v Speaker 1>you don't have a dad. She's gonna get old enough

0:55:42.760 --> 0:55:44.080
<v Speaker 1>and be like, where the fuck is my dad? Who

0:55:44.120 --> 0:55:45.799
<v Speaker 1>would fuck is this? Nigga? You know what I mean?

0:55:45.880 --> 0:55:49.279
<v Speaker 1>Like what you mean? You don't know what you mean?

0:55:50.000 --> 0:55:54.680
<v Speaker 1>Not a bird came down in delivery, not like that.

0:55:54.800 --> 0:55:57.439
<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying, like, would you say he's in jail,

0:55:57.440 --> 0:56:00.239
<v Speaker 1>I just say he's away, like or to say he

0:56:00.360 --> 0:56:05.279
<v Speaker 1>died or that. I don't know. I think eventually they're

0:56:05.320 --> 0:56:07.880
<v Speaker 1>gonna ask you more questions. You know, it's like, so

0:56:07.920 --> 0:56:10.000
<v Speaker 1>it's best to just keep it. Really, yeah, it's never

0:56:10.200 --> 0:56:12.759
<v Speaker 1>it's gonna be away and it's gonna be like, you know,

0:56:13.200 --> 0:56:18.640
<v Speaker 1>just just jail at three, he's being he's being housed somewhere.

0:56:20.719 --> 0:56:23.640
<v Speaker 1>It's not funny, and it's not funny at all. But

0:56:23.640 --> 0:56:26.000
<v Speaker 1>but I'm just saying, well, yeah, I mean I guess so, yeah.

0:56:26.160 --> 0:56:29.080
<v Speaker 1>I think you have to start incorporating it now so

0:56:29.120 --> 0:56:31.800
<v Speaker 1>that it's not weird for her. It's something she's gonna

0:56:31.800 --> 0:56:35.520
<v Speaker 1>have to face regardless period. You know, it's it's almost

0:56:35.560 --> 0:56:38.400
<v Speaker 1>better that she if she asks you to be honest,

0:56:38.440 --> 0:56:42.719
<v Speaker 1>but maybe not offer the information too. Really, I mean,

0:56:43.719 --> 0:56:46.840
<v Speaker 1>how are you gonna explain where you're taking her? Like,

0:56:47.640 --> 0:56:50.000
<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean, Like she's gonna have to say,

0:56:50.080 --> 0:56:55.080
<v Speaker 1>like assuming that she's taking here, Well, isn't that the point?

0:56:55.840 --> 0:56:57.719
<v Speaker 1>Or no, she said, just tell her about him. I

0:56:57.719 --> 0:57:04.880
<v Speaker 1>don't know. Oh my god, this stake well shit situation.

0:57:08.640 --> 0:57:19.160
<v Speaker 5>Oh my god, I'm high. Oh my god, this is

0:57:19.200 --> 0:57:20.520
<v Speaker 5>a tough topic in general.

0:57:20.600 --> 0:57:22.080
<v Speaker 1>I think you just have to be honest. I think

0:57:22.120 --> 0:57:25.880
<v Speaker 1>you have to start, there's like steps, like you know,

0:57:25.920 --> 0:57:28.600
<v Speaker 1>if you're bringing her to see him, like, you know,

0:57:28.680 --> 0:57:30.680
<v Speaker 1>she probably won't know what the jail is right now,

0:57:31.080 --> 0:57:34.240
<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean. But you try to associate

0:57:34.240 --> 0:57:37.800
<v Speaker 1>it with something positive. But you can't control what the

0:57:37.840 --> 0:57:44.680
<v Speaker 1>situation is when you get there, you know. But I

0:57:44.760 --> 0:57:48.320
<v Speaker 1>just couldn't imagine keeping my child away from her father

0:57:48.400 --> 0:57:51.080
<v Speaker 1>if he wanted to see her and they wanted to

0:57:51.120 --> 0:57:54.240
<v Speaker 1>see each other, you know. You know, jail has a

0:57:54.280 --> 0:57:59.520
<v Speaker 1>way of changing people too, you know, and so I'm

0:57:59.560 --> 0:58:01.600
<v Speaker 1>sure if he does want to see her, maybe he's

0:58:01.840 --> 0:58:04.880
<v Speaker 1>you know, remorseful for the way he treated you, and

0:58:06.320 --> 0:58:17.040
<v Speaker 1>you know, yeah, we need more information anyway. I hope

0:58:17.040 --> 0:58:20.160
<v Speaker 1>that was helpful. I don't know if it was. What

0:58:20.200 --> 0:58:23.240
<v Speaker 1>do you think? I think that was just the best

0:58:23.240 --> 0:58:26.520
<v Speaker 1>we could do knowledge.

0:58:26.080 --> 0:58:29.560
<v Speaker 2>Of the situation. I mean, we're not in that situation.

0:58:29.640 --> 0:58:34.040
<v Speaker 2>But no, I yeah, honesty is key, period.

0:58:34.560 --> 0:58:42.120
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Yeah, So I'm confident with that answer. Okay, wait's

0:58:42.160 --> 0:58:43.960
<v Speaker 1>got the right term? No, it's not, I think So

0:58:44.840 --> 0:58:48.680
<v Speaker 1>let's yeah, we gotta go all right. Anyway, We'll have

0:58:48.840 --> 0:58:52.200
<v Speaker 1>a wonderful week and we will catch you next time.

0:58:56.200 --> 0:58:59.960
<v Speaker 3>Keeping a woman because he trusted you when that is women.

0:58:59.800 --> 0:59:00.760
<v Speaker 1>Is need alone.

0:59:00.840 --> 0:59:03.680
<v Speaker 3>You got Masachi, your link stummach chains from rock up,

0:59:03.920 --> 0:59:05.720
<v Speaker 3>your hands down, but you stuck up in the spot

0:59:05.760 --> 0:59:07.560
<v Speaker 3>and make him plumb, duke and sweet. Then he falling

0:59:07.600 --> 0:59:09.680
<v Speaker 3>asleep if you want to fall with your old pee's

0:59:09.760 --> 0:59:11.920
<v Speaker 3>dying the creek between my shies. So what you got

0:59:11.960 --> 0:59:12.959
<v Speaker 3>sitting down on your feet?

0:59:13.000 --> 0:59:15.520
<v Speaker 1>Hot sex on the flatter, mixed the Michigan Fleet up

0:59:17.240 --> 0:59:18.000
<v Speaker 1>the lanternship.

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<v Speaker 5>I do what I've got to.

0:59:22.040 --> 0:59:22.400
<v Speaker 1>The last

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<v Speaker 3>I think