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Speaker 1: thank you. Nephew's subject Will he leave her for me

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Speaker 1: or not? Dear Stephen Shirley. I've worked with a guy

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Speaker 1: had several passionate kisses, but nothing more. He explained to

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Speaker 1: the suburbs. I am divorced and my grown kids live

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Speaker 1: with me. The married guy and I enjoy each other's company,

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Speaker 1: but I told him we can't have sex until he's divorced.

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Speaker 1: He said he loves and respects me, so it's not

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Speaker 1: a problem. We really want to be together. So he

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Speaker 1: their assets. He told me that he needs time to

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Speaker 1: dissolve his marriage, and he hopes that I can be

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Speaker 1: patient and understanding. He explained to me that his wife

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Speaker 1: has never worked, so it will be a drawn out

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Speaker 1: legal battle over finances. We haven't seen each other much

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Speaker 1: said he loves her, but he's not in love with her. Now.

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Speaker 1: It's been a month since I've talked to him. He

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Speaker 1: hoping I can be patient. I know divorce can be

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Speaker 1: He's in a different office now, so I don't even

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Speaker 1: I think what you think, and what you think is

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Speaker 1: that you guys will never be together. That's what I think.

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Speaker 1: He's back with his wife. I say, definitely. If you're

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Speaker 1: before you wrote us, you know he's back. He's just

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Speaker 1: texting you now. Before it was all hot and heavy

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Speaker 1: without the sex, you know, those passionate kisses. None of

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Speaker 1: that is going on. You don't even see him anymore.

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Speaker 1: This is over, and that's how you should live your

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Speaker 1: life like this is over. He's with his wife, He's

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Speaker 1: his life. He is now back with his wife. Steve Ah, Well,

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Speaker 1: will he leave her for me or not? This Stephen Sirley,

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Speaker 1: she's been working with this guy for six years and

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Speaker 1: over time they became attracted to each other. They went

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Speaker 1: out a few times times and had several passionate kisses,

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Speaker 1: but nothing more. Pull up. We need to dig and

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Speaker 1: explore this situation. We've had several passionate kisses, but nothing more. Well,

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Speaker 1: anybody feeling anything, I'm feeling. Well, you think it's more

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Speaker 1: Now all of a sudden, he care he'd been having

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Speaker 1: Kissing ain't an a fair? What's it mean? Kissing? Is

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Speaker 1: it's been a month since I've talked to him, he

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Speaker 1: I know divorce can be tough, because I've been through one.

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Speaker 1: My intuition says he's back with his wife. He never

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Speaker 1: You're right. He's in a different office now, so Niven said.

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Speaker 1: he's doing an excellent job. He's not talking to you,

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Speaker 1: y'all ain't been to department. Y'all was kissing real heart.

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Speaker 1: Will he ever leave his wife to be with me?

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Speaker 1: Please advise he's not leaving his wife. I don't give

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Speaker 1: a damn if it is a twenty year deady in marriage.

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Speaker 1: Listen to me. Listen to what the man says. This

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Speaker 1: your vials, don't you say till death do us part?

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Speaker 1: We all in deady in marriage? Is damn deady in magic?

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Speaker 1: The vial said till death do us part. Don't that

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