Speaker 1: Welcome to Decisions Decisions. I don't think you should say
Speaker 1: decision Decisions. It sounded like you was talking to Kirsty.
Speaker 1: You definitely say to welcome, Welcome to the new podcast.
Speaker 1: Oh wait, you want to say together Decisions Decisions.
Speaker 2: Welcome everybody to another episode of Decisions Decisions. It's your girl,
Speaker 2: man dB aka Peg the Stallion aka Mandy Lapute aka
Speaker 2: Mandy Dirt aka Mandy Baskins aka That Beach.
Speaker 1: Welcome back, everybody. My name is Weezy and oh yeah,
Speaker 1: we've never been on here before, so we haven't for y'all,
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna hold you. I think I told Alex
Speaker 1: I liked it.
Speaker 2: So I'm gonna copy the set that we're gonna record
Speaker 2: in Atlanta at my studio. I'm gonna make it like
Speaker 2: this color scheme and all.
Speaker 1: What I'm gonna get that's gun character next thing. Uh
Speaker 1: uh No, you not. You would never. I would never
Speaker 1: do a twenty seven piece, bitch. I've done a twenty
Speaker 1: seven people from Flora Le.
Speaker 2: Do no goddamn twenty seven piece. But y'all know you
Speaker 2: since you was fifteen.
Speaker 1: I've done a little like the Little bob Ones. They
Speaker 1: didn't look like that, though I didn't do the short one.
Speaker 1: I don't know if I would have.
Speaker 2: Twenty seven pieces are short? You did a quick weave,
Speaker 2: but not at twenty seven. This is twenty seven pieces.
Speaker 1: How do you know it's exactly twenty seven? That's what
Speaker 1: the box said, Oh, numbers, don't lie? What you want
Speaker 1: me to say? What do you want me to say?
Speaker 1: Got it? Well? I wouldn't remember that because I'm fucking washed.
Speaker 1: Let's have a catch up about how I don't want
Speaker 1: to do anything. No, what, You're not depressed, are you? Oh? No? Oh,
Speaker 1: you just really are washed. Okay, but you're not even
Speaker 1: thirty five yet. I got three more months. And let
Speaker 1: me tell your son. I literally, so this is how
Speaker 1: I know I'm washed. And tell me if anybody else
Speaker 1: can relate, and if we are together, washer and dry yours.
Speaker 1: So here's what happened. All right. I go out last weekend, okay,
Speaker 1: And before I went out, all I was talking about
Speaker 1: that whole week was, oh my god, I can't wait
Speaker 1: until we go out Saturday. I'm gonna get so fucked up.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get fucked up. I was talking about it
Speaker 1: for two weeks. Oh my god, we're gonna do this.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna sprinkle a little molly in my drink. It's
Speaker 1: gonna be a time. Then we're gonna go to this
Speaker 1: new afties in New York. It's called Refuse. Stays open
Speaker 1: till two pm. I'm out all night, you do. Bitch
Speaker 1: went to dinner right around dinner, right when, and I
Speaker 1: did late in little nine thirty. You know that's the
Speaker 1: party girl dinner time that is. That's a late dinner
Speaker 1: when I'm at one of our favorites and soho you are,
Speaker 1: you know, and I'm getting that duck breast and you
Speaker 1: know what that little I'm like, it's a living forty
Speaker 1: five and trying to get tired. So now I'm looking
Speaker 1: like around the table, I'm like, let's just do the
Speaker 1: drugs here, and they're like, damn, bitch, we needn't get
Speaker 1: to spot. But I'm like, I need something to pip
Speaker 1: you up. So yeah, I do drugs at dinner. So
Speaker 1: I'm like, should get it, by the way, not drugs,
Speaker 1: drugs shroops. She's still drugs. Ah honey, and you take
Speaker 1: I got you a little my niggas. Oh, I just
Speaker 1: want to chime in and talks shit. Yeah, drove back
Speaker 1: to the point where they be like they hate dart
Speaker 1: because I put it. I take them in chocolate. That's
Speaker 1: still drugs, but it's in chalc it's cookal Mine was water,
Speaker 1: it was molly. Oh. So anyway, I'm thinking, no, I'm
Speaker 1: getting tired, but I'm wanna be a party pooper. So
Speaker 1: I'm like starting to play this. How I done gets tired.
Speaker 1: I start playing music at the table, wat to check
Speaker 1: come in. I was like, ooh, rehythm, let's wake back up.
Speaker 1: And everybody else is like, which, we've been up? So
Speaker 1: we get to the spot. My friend Andre was DJing
Speaker 1: at this like Brooklyn warehouse, he thing, and it was
Speaker 1: a pive and so I'm like, what time you get on.
Speaker 1: He's like, I'm gonna play one to three thirty and
Speaker 1: I was like, god, damn, that's late. But it's all right.
Speaker 1: So now what I do. I don't know if anybody
Speaker 1: else has it. I go and yap mode. I just
Speaker 1: started yapping. I get a little high and I just
Speaker 1: start chatting to make the time pass. And I just
Speaker 1: start yapping everybody because that's how it keeps me up
Speaker 1: because I like to learn lives. I start talking to
Speaker 1: a Horrorhive member. She's like, oh my god, you need
Speaker 1: me both, like I'm a piano other than this. And
Speaker 1: we talked for thirty minutes. Boom, thirty minutes I know
Speaker 1: because I was high, and she says she needed the
Speaker 1: time to pass. Okay, So three o'clock, come right, somebod
Speaker 1: Nica looks at me. He's like, well already here, you
Speaker 1: already out. Bitch is snowed the night before. We already out.
Speaker 1: So then I say to Andre, like, damn, you got
Speaker 1: another show tomorrow in Atlanta. Damn you need some rest.
Speaker 1: He's like, no, I ain't seen you in a minute.
Speaker 1: We're good. I'm like, oh, you was trying to go home. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So we get to the athletes, this new spot in
Speaker 1: New York.
Speaker 2: How are you saying you're washed? But you made it
Speaker 2: all the way to the affies. This is not a
Speaker 2: washed story.
Speaker 1: It's like you, okay, hold on, you wanting to leave,
Speaker 1: but still being out doesn't make you wash. Bro, Like,
Speaker 1: this is not a story of you being washed.
Speaker 2: You've been watched it have been Like, instead of going out,
Speaker 2: I went home and binge the Beast in Meat on
Speaker 2: Netflix had popcorn and a glass of wine that is washed.
Speaker 1: But you made it to the Aftes at three o'clock
Speaker 1: in the morning. Okay. So once I get to the
Speaker 1: Aftes right now, it's about eight of us, but I
Speaker 1: ain't have my ID, so I'm like, I'm definitely not
Speaker 1: gonna get in. It's okay, guys. No. So everybody's like no,
Speaker 1: we're all together, like we're not going only weezy and
Speaker 1: I'm like okay. So then we go to the front.
Speaker 1: My man's like, give your phone. So he pulls out
Speaker 1: my ID. He's like, this is my girl, blah blah
Speaker 1: blah blah, and he's like, doesn't work. She can't get it.
Speaker 1: I'm like, no problem. Then the manager comes out and
Speaker 1: he's like, looking at me, that has really pissed me off.
Speaker 1: He's like, yeah, she's fine, she's good. So I wo all,
Speaker 1: I mean that's twenty one, bruh. I don't think you
Speaker 1: look over twenty one. Well yeah, you look over twenty one,
Speaker 1: mind you you should be happy and and you don't
Speaker 1: even know. Well we was young with fake id's this
Speaker 1: bitch all They would look at her and be like, yeah, bro,
Speaker 1: this ain't cute.
Speaker 2: Good truck, like she got good hard she got her
Speaker 2: fake id crumpled in half, and he said, I know
Speaker 2: you got school in the morning, go on home now
Speaker 2: and ruin my night. Bitch, I couldn't be out mind you,
Speaker 2: out of fake id of But bitch, it was five nine.
Speaker 2: Where the fuck am I five nine?
Speaker 1: Anywhere? Mine did look like mine?
Speaker 3: Yours?
Speaker 1: Yours did not a little too brown, Yours did not brown,
Speaker 1: and I'm a little too white, but mine said I
Speaker 1: was five nine. Okay, same facial, but you should be
Speaker 1: happy that you're now able to just get in. So boom,
Speaker 1: I get into this crackhead afteres on tight and just
Speaker 1: how I know I'm mad. The acting is actually really good,
Speaker 1: but I was mad because I was so tired. So
Speaker 1: you know how like you could be doing the same
Speaker 1: ship as other people, but you're just gonna be talking
Speaker 1: about them, because like I could be doing some whole ship,
Speaker 1: I'd be like, she fucked a bunch of niggas. I
Speaker 1: could have fucked a bunch of niggas. That's the ship
Speaker 1: I was on. I was in there afters and I
Speaker 1: was like, movies, people are sucking right access well, while
Speaker 1: she was drinking molly water. The hypocrisy. So then this
Speaker 1: girl sitting there with a lobby pop and she's like,
Speaker 1: coming on, ma so much funny, you have me so
Speaker 1: much fun I'm like, I was just so mad because
Speaker 1: I can't be in it. It used to be me.
Speaker 1: I was young, water fright, so anyway, but you are
Speaker 1: still free. We both yeah, I washed as did. I
Speaker 1: was like damn getting kinds hired and was like, nigga,
Speaker 1: you the one who was talking about this shit. I
Speaker 1: was like, okay, So I sat an alarm on my
Speaker 1: phone when I was going You're like, damn, I god,
Speaker 1: she going on. You don't got to record horrible. Even
Speaker 1: though it was a week later. I was just starting,
Speaker 1: you know, so now you had to get vocal wrist
Speaker 1: a week before. I put an alarm on my phone
Speaker 1: for five am because I was like, that's too much,
Speaker 1: that's too far. So my man and him say, I
Speaker 1: go home, y'all. I get home to read my kindle.
Speaker 1: I was tucked in the bed in the sheets, reading
Speaker 1: a book.
Speaker 2: So she's watched because after an afties she went home
Speaker 2: and looked at her kindle.
Speaker 1: But it's only because she couldn't go to sleep because
Speaker 1: she was on Bodley. Hey, what are we talking? About
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie to you. I'm reading like I
Speaker 1: was reading. I was so high. I was reading the
Speaker 1: back of the book published by Simon the Shoots for
Speaker 1: two thousand and six. Yeah, you are alert, very alert
Speaker 1: and aware. By the way, the most unwashed washed story
Speaker 1: I think I've ever heard on the pods. But it's washed.
Speaker 1: If you know, you can't hang. And I also think
Speaker 1: this is the biggest wash factor about it. I was
Speaker 1: ready for this party for three weeks. Oh, it wasn't
Speaker 1: a music festival. It was just a Brooklyn little night out,
Speaker 1: like and I am like hyped about it. I made
Speaker 1: the dinner plans three weeks before. I picked my outfit
Speaker 1: three weeks before. I'm like, we're gonna go out, and
Speaker 1: then literally to the point where that Sunday the party
Speaker 1: was on Saturday. I'm told my man, on Sunday, we
Speaker 1: shouldn't never drink tonight. We're gonna drink on Saturday. Who
Speaker 1: if I think that's crazy, thank you?
Speaker 2: I mean, but I do that, Like on Sundays in Atlanta,
Speaker 2: I'll be ready to do my little my little run,
Speaker 2: and my little run is a little it's a run to.
Speaker 1: Where I have to take a nap. So my nap
Speaker 1: is normally at like six thirty. Ooh, I wake up
Speaker 1: about sam thirty s four to five, didn't get ready,
Speaker 1: Then I'll head out to eat. That's so I go
Speaker 1: to eat like eight thirty because they don't leave it
Speaker 1: like nine thirty. I like to be a whiskey mistress.
Speaker 2: That's the one we've talked about on Patreon where it's
Speaker 2: like Nike text suits and Fedoras, but it's like the
Speaker 2: older crowd of niggas that like just still ain't giving
Speaker 2: up the streets.
Speaker 1: But I like going there because I go there and
Speaker 1: it's just free drink.
Speaker 2: Scalore Okay, So I go there from it closes it twelve,
Speaker 2: So I go there from like ten ten thirty to
Speaker 2: like a LAMB forty five. Then next door is the
Speaker 2: mc cat, so I go there and keep drinking. But
Speaker 2: that's normally like every Sunday, three spots as long as
Speaker 2: I'm in Atlanta.
Speaker 1: And now I'm telling the whole world where I be,
Speaker 1: bitch I be, I've been there. Yeah, do you know
Speaker 1: what it used to be my repertoire? This was Meyer girl.
Speaker 1: I was okay, this me five years ago, Me and
Speaker 1: my girl girl. They know what you was doing five
Speaker 1: years ago with the ampless podcast. You ain't got a lot. No,
Speaker 1: I'm not going through my full night okay, so boom.
Speaker 1: I would start the night I have a cock til
Speaker 1: somewhere in the LS, not last nap, because you gotta
Speaker 1: go like at a certain time. But you can't go
Speaker 1: like midnight back in the day when it was lit,
Speaker 1: because that's all the people that listen to podcasts and shit.
Speaker 1: You gotta go for the neighborhood people. Around nine forty five,
Speaker 1: then I'll walk over have my late night dinner at Lucienne.
Speaker 1: The new kids do dime Square Ladiv. I'm an old
Speaker 1: school in New York Bay okay, okay. So I was
Speaker 1: doing Lucien and then I'm like, okay, it's midnight time.
Speaker 1: Where are we gonna go for a little she she
Speaker 1: I'd hit up the blonde that was my little soho
Speaker 1: Jam Paul's baby Grand Gold Room Boom. Then about two thirty,
Speaker 1: I'm tired of shit and now I need niggas. So
Speaker 1: that's when I used to go before everybody was at
Speaker 1: Dumbala to buttons capizually sometimes and then I was like, okay, tune,
Speaker 1: niggas done me in here. Now I gotta go, so
Speaker 1: then I would have a little small stint in Booker,
Speaker 1: Brooklyn Mirage or whatever afters was in Brooklyn. I like
Speaker 1: to go to the little home of the after parties.
Speaker 1: You ever been to one of them? Like a little lombarda.
Speaker 2: That's crazy what you never even know who got money.
Speaker 2: I don't believe you after parties because I'm washed. I'm
Speaker 2: going home.
Speaker 1: I'm going I don't throwly make it to the app.
Speaker 1: I'll be in there at eight in the morning. Let
Speaker 1: Nicki Minaj come on, niggas on the table.
Speaker 3: I be.
Speaker 1: I be lit by this. It's like the drug dealing.
Speaker 1: That's the thing I do. I do liquors. So I
Speaker 1: be so lit to where it's like ooh, bitch, slurring
Speaker 1: stumble it time to go home. Yeah, like this is
Speaker 1: upper material. Yeah you do no, no, no, no, like
Speaker 1: like we're not doing drugs every weekend. But I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't drink that. You don't drink like that, bitch.
Speaker 1: I'm we're doing shots. If I drink that much, I can't.
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna last. So let me tell you. I
Speaker 1: see you ride a club closing at four.
Speaker 2: I want to tell you because y'all know, we haven't
Speaker 2: been in the studio for a while. So there's a
Speaker 2: nigga that was around that y'all didn't really know about.
Speaker 2: But grand opening, grand closing. So I met a guy
Speaker 2: at the MTK.
Speaker 1: And you go there a lot. Don't know what it is, y'all.
Speaker 2: I have a type and it's not even aesthetics. This
Speaker 2: nigga too had a PhD. So in twenty twenty five
Speaker 2: the theme was niggas with PhD?
Speaker 1: What is the look? I don't know. I'll show you
Speaker 1: a pick. Well, I don't even know if I have
Speaker 1: a picture of him. I think I do.
Speaker 2: I have a screenshot of him because somehow he ended
Speaker 2: up on someone else's page and I said, nigga, I
Speaker 2: don't even have your social media, but yet somehow you
Speaker 2: ended up on.
Speaker 1: A picture of I'll show you him. I'll show you him.
Speaker 2: Anyways, so he had he had very long locks, cute
Speaker 2: down his back, really smart, had money, no kids and
Speaker 2: that was the problem, no kids, and I think he
Speaker 2: was very traditional. So anyways, I met him at the
Speaker 2: spot that I go to all the time, so almost
Speaker 2: every other time I go there, I run into him.
Speaker 1: And it was the thing where once we.
Speaker 2: Saw each other, we would stand by each other the
Speaker 2: rest of the night. He would get me drinks. We're
Speaker 2: locked in. We'd either go to a diner after or
Speaker 2: you know, whatever the case may be. Right However, even
Speaker 2: wish I even spent my birthday with him.
Speaker 1: He bought a table with yet girl, girl, your birth
Speaker 1: my birthday girl. Anyways, So the last time I just
Speaker 1: saw him, I was lit, but I was in my
Speaker 1: feelings and I had to let I had to let
Speaker 1: him know. I said, hey, this has to stop now.
Speaker 2: When we see each other, it could be a head
Speaker 2: nod or a deuces, but let's we don't gotta do
Speaker 2: this every time me see each other. And the reason
Speaker 2: it got there is because the last two times he's
Speaker 2: seen me, mind you, he did the same thing that
Speaker 2: scientists they did. The first mind you we met, probably
Speaker 2: back in March, he found out I didn't want kids,
Speaker 2: and he ghosted me, stopped hitting me.
Speaker 1: Then when we saw each other.
Speaker 2: Again, he came back around, and then we had the
Speaker 2: conversation about me being non monogamous. Hey, girl, when I
Speaker 2: tell you, he just couldn't. It's it's like he was
Speaker 2: so amused by me, but also like really confused by
Speaker 2: me at the same time, and so as we like
Speaker 2: kept going, when we would get together and be intimate,
Speaker 2: I guess I would say things about like how I
Speaker 2: want us to be mind you, I got my boyfriends now, like, nigga,
Speaker 2: you don't wait it too long.
Speaker 1: I got niggas down, and I'd let him know.
Speaker 2: And it just got to the point where I kind
Speaker 2: of started feeling judged by him because I didn't want kids,
Speaker 2: and so we would have bro drunk as fuck. Bro,
Speaker 2: I'm on shrooms, I'm lit. Why are we at two
Speaker 2: o'clock in the morning talking about how I don't want kids?
Speaker 1: And so because he wants you to don't want to
Speaker 1: have kids. He wants me to want me to have kids.
Speaker 2: He wants to believe that I'm gonna change my mind.
Speaker 2: He wants to believe that he could make me change
Speaker 2: my mind because a part of him liked me. But
Speaker 2: he's like, so this is how you are, yes, nigga,
Speaker 2: this is how I am.
Speaker 1: Is who I say as someone who doesn't want kids,
Speaker 1: I think you could appreciate as someone who wants kids.
Speaker 1: Imagine if I met someone I was in love with
Speaker 1: and they didn't want kids. And then I had a
Speaker 1: child with them, how I would feel all the time
Speaker 1: in the back of my head, Damn, you didn't really
Speaker 1: fuck with them. Oh no, I vacuum would have been
Speaker 1: pulled out with him. I ain't even gonna hold you.
Speaker 1: I don't want kids. But I'm not saying, like the
Speaker 1: way you're trying to make someone like this thing.
Speaker 2: It's not even that he was I'll be honest at
Speaker 2: that point, do you think that's.
Speaker 1: The thing with him?
Speaker 2: I literally the last time I was with him, I said,
Speaker 2: we can stop doing this. I don't want to talk
Speaker 2: to you anymore. When we see each other, we can
Speaker 2: be cordial. But also I was like, you cock block him,
Speaker 2: because now every time we see each other at the spot,
Speaker 2: we stay by each other for the rest of the night.
Speaker 2: And I was like, you don't like how I am.
Speaker 2: You like the idea of me, but you keep waiting
Speaker 2: every time we talk for me to change who I
Speaker 2: am in my mind, and I'm like, no, this isn't
Speaker 2: who I am, Like, I'm not who you want me
Speaker 2: to be.
Speaker 1: And so I was like, we can stop the back
Speaker 1: and forth. And I literally had to just cut them off.
Speaker 2: And it was interesting because I was talking to my
Speaker 2: friends about it, and they were like, dang, but like
Speaker 2: we liked him, you know you liked him.
Speaker 1: And I was like, yeah, but does he like me?
Speaker 2: And so what I found last year he said almost
Speaker 2: the same thing verbatim as scientists bay. When I had
Speaker 2: mentioned that I didn't want kids, their like response was,
Speaker 2: so you just want to be a hope for the
Speaker 2: rest of your life.
Speaker 1: And I was like, both of them they didn't say
Speaker 1: it like that, but that soish.
Speaker 2: That's how I was like, because they were so confused,
Speaker 2: what kind you want to be a hope for the
Speaker 2: rest of your life?
Speaker 1: No, that's when the fuck I heard, bitch, And I
Speaker 1: was like, no, like, I'd still want to partner I'm
Speaker 1: looking for. Like it's weird because.
Speaker 2: When I asked them, and this is this is the
Speaker 2: conversation that I found more interesting when I asked them
Speaker 2: why they wanted to be fathers because they're both like
Speaker 2: thirty six thirty seven, make jobs all over two hundred k.
Speaker 2: They nice cars, nice spots, they be out every weekend
Speaker 2: doing the things right. But they're both ready right now
Speaker 2: to be a father. And when I ask both of
Speaker 2: them why they want to be a dad, it's so interesting,
Speaker 2: And ladies, if you're talking to a man with no
Speaker 2: kids who's like now wanting to be a dad, I
Speaker 2: was like, so, what makes you want to be a father?
Speaker 1: Bro? Both of them damn near set the same carry
Speaker 1: on my last name, fucking legacy, fucking carry on my
Speaker 1: last name. And I was like, yeah, yeah, we too.
Speaker 1: Hope your son is a fucking professor. Do you know
Speaker 1: what's crazy about that? Those needs? So I'm asking and
Speaker 1: I'm I'm like, okay, so that's it.
Speaker 2: He was like yeah, Like, because my life's not really
Speaker 2: going to change that much, but I want to be
Speaker 2: a dad. And I said, that is the most crazy,
Speaker 2: most selfish bullshit, because guess whose life is going to change.
Speaker 2: The woman's like, I have friends right now, like I
Speaker 2: love Deandra and we talk about it so much. She's like,
Speaker 2: I'm having to relearn myself as a whole person because
Speaker 2: I'm a whole new person now that I'm a mom.
Speaker 1: My life is different. I can't just get up and go.
Speaker 1: I can't.
Speaker 2: And it's crazy that men could be like, well, I
Speaker 2: want to be a dad because I want to be
Speaker 2: a dad. It's like they just want to wear the title.
Speaker 2: But they don't like really have the idea of how
Speaker 2: it will change their lives because they have the option
Speaker 2: and opportunity for it not to impact or change that.
Speaker 1: I actually had a guy ask me why I wanted
Speaker 1: to be a mom who didn't want children. Okay, and
Speaker 1: it was first day conversation. I don't even really remember
Speaker 1: his name. I remember where I was. We were having
Speaker 1: a cocktail at the public rooftop. And when he said
Speaker 1: he didn't want kids, there must have been a look
Speaker 1: that I had that immediately turned you off. And he's like,
Speaker 1: you need to like your life, you have to be
Speaker 1: I was like yes, and he said, well, why do
Speaker 1: you want children? I said, to be honest with you,
Speaker 1: even as a young adult, there's something missing. I know
Speaker 1: that I need to get my life in a financial
Speaker 1: place and in a healthy mental place to be a mom.
Speaker 1: But there's absolutely something missing because a lot of bitches
Speaker 1: I here fucking with like fucking broke I know, and
Speaker 1: haven't babies broke it Having babies without getting themselves together.
Speaker 1: People think because like, you'll eventually have them. No, That's
Speaker 1: why I believe in a worship. But basically what I
Speaker 1: said to him was I would like to extend my
Speaker 1: family beyond me and that partner. And I also really
Speaker 1: crave the desire to learn and grow and teach someone that's,
Speaker 1: you know, an extension of me. And he said to me,
Speaker 1: I meet women that want kids all the time, and
Speaker 1: I feel like that's the only answer that I can't combat.
Speaker 1: If you know it's something you've wanted forever, right the
Speaker 1: point where you're prepping for it, I have nothing that
Speaker 1: we can go back and forth about. He said. What
Speaker 1: I do go back and forth about is women that
Speaker 1: say I was born to be a mom. He's like,
Speaker 1: I feel like that's a woman's answer where a man's
Speaker 1: answer is legacy. He's like, the second I hear women
Speaker 1: say that, I'm like, no, you were born to think
Speaker 1: you should be a mom? And how and why? Yeah?
Speaker 1: But like, is that your true desire? And I think
Speaker 1: when it comes to creating and wanting family, the reason
Speaker 1: I respect those who don't want children so much is
Speaker 1: because I really believe too many people are parents and
Speaker 1: shouldn't be, and we are so critical of those who
Speaker 1: shouldn't be parents. I know some fuck niggas and women
Speaker 1: that are terrible moms, and I feel like, what is
Speaker 1: the point just to say you did it. Or I'm
Speaker 1: that age, like if you want to do something just
Speaker 1: to say you did it, jump out a plane and
Speaker 1: sky dies. I've heard a friend of mine say it
Speaker 1: was some shark as an excuse to not wanting to
Speaker 1: have an abortion. I mean, we're both in love, we're
Speaker 1: mid thirties.
Speaker 2: Okay, bringing a baby because yeah, it's just interesting me.
Speaker 2: For this episode, I did want to talk about a
Speaker 2: few things. So I have a list for tops and bottoms.
Speaker 2: Let's see, for people like me, you like this, sell
Speaker 2: y'all for top sip bottoms this week. I went through
Speaker 2: because this was a thing that like, really like, I
Speaker 2: felt a way about it. So I went through and
Speaker 2: found cities with the fewest children and the most adults
Speaker 2: without kids.
Speaker 1: Now, this could work both ways.
Speaker 2: These could be cities where they don't have kids so
Speaker 2: they're maybe looking to have kids, or cities that don't
Speaker 2: make you feel guilty for not having kids.
Speaker 1: I'll say for not make you feel guilty. I'm looking
Speaker 1: at this list so.
Speaker 2: For me, and when we get to the bottom list,
Speaker 2: I think that being in New York is like through
Speaker 2: my twenties and my thirties, New York was not only
Speaker 2: a former birth control but I never felt like I
Speaker 2: was missing out by not having a family because so
Speaker 2: many of our peers don't have kids.
Speaker 1: Actually, one thing that my mom noticed when she was
Speaker 1: in New York. So we brought my mom here for Christmas.
Speaker 1: It was just the three of us all week. And
Speaker 1: my mom has always talked about moving to New York,
Speaker 1: moving back, moving back. She's like, yeah, I can't do it.
Speaker 1: I'm I'm actually too old to live here. It's a
Speaker 1: little too hard to get around, the hard life. And
Speaker 1: she's like, just to go because my mom, we're making
Speaker 1: Christmas dinner. Let's just go run and get I think
Speaker 1: I want to get green peppers and blah blah blah.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, okay, well, hooleful, it's fifteen minute walk.
Speaker 1: But I mean, I guess you can get in a
Speaker 1: cap She's like, I'm not gonna get a cab for
Speaker 1: I order. It's frames ain't gonna just be delayed, right,
Speaker 1: So then my man's got to jump in the car.
Speaker 1: But then once he jumps in the car to take her,
Speaker 1: what you gotta do when he comes back? Fine, parky bitch,
Speaker 1: And New York is not easy, and so She then
Speaker 1: said to me, what are you going to do when
Speaker 1: you have the baby? Like, what are you going to do?
Speaker 1: And I'm really mad that she raised that up, because
Speaker 1: if y'all been listening to the show, you would know
Speaker 1: my happy relationship only as one little issue, not bitches niggas.
Speaker 1: It ain't money, it's where the fuck are we going
Speaker 1: to live? Where are we going to live?
Speaker 2: When I about to really live by coastal but talks
Speaker 2: a bottom. Here is a list of these cities with
Speaker 2: the fewest children or the most adults without kids.
Speaker 1: Okay, let's see this list, all right.
Speaker 2: We have number one San Francisco, California, which to me
Speaker 2: makes sense.
Speaker 1: Because all the gays. Oh what, all right? San Francisco
Speaker 1: has one of the highest rents because it has such
Speaker 1: an influx for startups. So then it's like, okay, man,
Speaker 1: she said, the homeless, the gays, I mean science. Okay.
Speaker 1: The second one is Seattle, Washington. I don't know that's somebody.
Speaker 1: I like Seattle.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, I actually like Seattle. It's one of
Speaker 2: my favorite cities in the US. I love it anyway,
Speaker 2: So you would go there? I actually want to go
Speaker 2: there to like, Yeah, I want to do a weekend
Speaker 2: that's not work.
Speaker 1: I love it. Me and Vinnie had a blast on
Speaker 1: the Piero dub work. I don't love Seattle hours to
Speaker 1: go home. I gotta tell you the second we went out,
Speaker 1: I love it, like the time she was living in Boston,
Speaker 1: living in New York going there, bitch, No, I like
Speaker 1: the whorehive there that even they don't want to be there.
Speaker 1: But see that's what listen. Okay.
Speaker 2: Next city is Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, followed by Scottsdale, Arizona. I
Speaker 2: don't know where daily City, California is either. The next
Speaker 2: one interesting but not surprising, Boston, Massachusetts.
Speaker 1: Now, a few weeks ago, Boston.
Speaker 2: Massachusetts was the city that was the easiest, one of
Speaker 2: the cities where you can get laid the easiest.
Speaker 1: But someone made a comment on that episode.
Speaker 2: It said it has the most colleges, so technically, if
Speaker 2: all those people are in college, yeah, it makes sense
Speaker 2: that they don't have kids, followed by uh. Following Boston
Speaker 2: is Columbia, South Carolina. Then Madison, Wisconsin, maybe because don't
Speaker 2: nobody live there, bitch, Wisconsin. Then Tallasey, Florida, also another
Speaker 2: college town, and then San Diego California. Now City is
Speaker 2: often cited by communities as friendly or popular for childless
Speaker 2: adults include New York City, Atlanta, Georgia, Austin, Texas, and
Speaker 2: Baltimore Mailand probably because Baltimore dangerous child people don't want
Speaker 2: to add kids.
Speaker 1: Baltimore, you know, looking at the ones that are childless adults. Austin,
Speaker 1: Texas also is another startup, startup tech place, so it's
Speaker 1: probably people that are going there to, like, I feel
Speaker 1: like their careers. They're more career focused, not you like Austin. Oh,
Speaker 1: I've never been. I've never been to Austin. I have
Speaker 1: a lot of do you know how I feel about Austin. Okay,
Speaker 1: it's the same Portland thing and it's a Seattle thing too. Okay,
Speaker 1: it's the cities with white people. This like maybe that's
Speaker 1: why I don't go. That give liberal, but it still
Speaker 1: gives like where are the black people? Like Austin is
Speaker 1: hella white? So I went to Austin for southwest south
Speaker 1: southwest and afro Tech was afro Tech in Austin. Bitch,
Speaker 1: I ain't go to eat the I don't know because
Speaker 1: someone why the fuck was on Austin, Texas? No, No, no,
Speaker 1: it was. It was two years ago. Was now they
Speaker 1: do Houston, but it wasn't Houston now. Yeah. So I
Speaker 1: remember the first time I went, I was like, oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, all this is a vibe. Maybe then I
Speaker 1: don't like city. I had to go another time for work,
Speaker 1: and then by south By south By. So while there,
Speaker 1: I noticed all the establishments had all those little Black
Speaker 1: Lives Matter stickers and the rainbow stickers, like we're welcome,
Speaker 1: we're friendly. But then I go to Soho House. Almost
Speaker 1: everybody had a cowboy hat on Mandy, and it really
Speaker 1: gave like we'll call you one if you weren't in
Speaker 1: this room. Oh I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 2: That's why the sex club experience and the sex spaces
Speaker 2: in Atlanta in the deep cell, Baby, dem Whites is
Speaker 2: different than the ones here in New York. Baby, it
Speaker 2: looks like they have Confederate flags on their pickup trucks.
Speaker 2: Right outside. I saw him, Man, I don't want to
Speaker 2: be around them. Time white regular just walk with a horse,
Speaker 2: not walking the horse. Maybe he was taking the horse
Speaker 2: out for a shit. Me and my boy MoMA, we
Speaker 2: was walking down the street. He said, oh, baby, we
Speaker 2: have to go back to New York.
Speaker 1: Oh no, I was. Let me tell you, I was
Speaker 1: with my little blue last night. Who I don't worry
Speaker 1: about it. Don't worry about what I'm saying. It's this
Speaker 1: quarter zip, quarter zip? Okay, quarter zip? Happens? Hold zip? Hey?
Speaker 3: What?
Speaker 1: AnyWho? So?
Speaker 2: Where outside? And you you saw the picture of him.
Speaker 2: So we're in an elevator and he's tall, taw like,
Speaker 2: handsome guy.
Speaker 1: Bro.
Speaker 2: We get in the elevator and it's white people, and Bro,
Speaker 2: as soon as we get in, this white man starts
Speaker 2: touching his shoulders and it's like, look at this big one. Oh, like, Bro,
Speaker 2: you would think he wanted to auction my nigga off. Bro,
Speaker 2: I was, I was this close. I was this close, bro,
Speaker 2: And where were you smiling? Going up the elevator in
Speaker 2: my hotel and bruh, he's grabbing it. He's clearly drunk,
Speaker 2: but he's like.
Speaker 1: You a big one, You a big one, You a
Speaker 1: big motherfucker, but like grabbing his arms and like like
Speaker 1: touching on him, like if this was this out, he's like,
Speaker 1: I would have bought you niggle, like that's what it
Speaker 1: was given. And I was so mad and we couldn't
Speaker 1: tell where he was from. He's clearly not a New Yorker.
Speaker 1: So he goes, where are you from? Man? This is
Speaker 1: the only thing that changed the subject. Are you ready
Speaker 1: we're from Orlando? I said. I said me too.
Speaker 2: So he's like, no, what part bitch the god bitch bitch.
Speaker 2: He was like, oh, what par are you from? I said, Oh,
Speaker 2: I grew up on Oak Ridge. That's out of town.
Speaker 2: He's like, oh, we're from a Popka.
Speaker 1: What did it?
Speaker 2: So we just started talking and it's the only thing
Speaker 2: that got him from like looking like the way he
Speaker 2: was talking to him, like he was just a beautiful
Speaker 2: black specimen that he was like, you picked.
Speaker 1: My cotton, boy? Like it was. I almost like.
Speaker 2: So when we got off the elevator, I was like, bro,
Speaker 2: if that nigga didn't say he was from Orlando, I
Speaker 2: was this close to being like it was so uncomfortable
Speaker 2: these white people.
Speaker 1: It still didn't help it. You don't know what it is, bro,
Speaker 1: I was just like.
Speaker 2: So we ended up going back downstairs for some drinks
Speaker 2: and he was down there again and I said that
Speaker 2: he better not do that shit again, you know, but
Speaker 2: he you ready weird a little even worse. I kept
Speaker 2: walking he pounded him up and like introduced him to
Speaker 2: his other white friend.
Speaker 1: And I was just like the way they even like
Speaker 1: pounded his chest, like he was like one of theirs.
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't like it. I don't like it.
Speaker 1: I don't like it. Almost our entire euro trip, especially
Speaker 1: in Italy, maybe once a day someone took a picture
Speaker 1: of my boyfriend. I don't like it. It's so and
Speaker 1: they both have dreads. But I don't know. But and
Speaker 1: mind you, he's he's like, also, hello, I'm here as well.
Speaker 1: And I feel like he was out of town right
Speaker 1: because it's like we've been to Thailand a lot Thai
Speaker 1: people in different Asian countries have been fascinated by certain things.
Speaker 1: Half of my Thailand trip behind my out and I
Speaker 1: think a lot of people were like wanting to look
Speaker 1: or interested or wanted to see her. Bro I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: you're bringing it to a fucking Asian country. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: I'm bringing you in being somewhere out these white being
Speaker 1: somewhere else. I feel like it's more tolerable. Nah, bitch,
Speaker 1: that you got to teach them niggas are history. I
Speaker 1: don't really know that you know what happened in the
Speaker 1: us the Bay weird, But I learned about slavery in
Speaker 1: other countries. No, and I don't think they give a
Speaker 1: fuck do they edit don't they don't learn about slavery.
Speaker 1: I mean, we learned about the Home pol We learned
Speaker 1: about it, but we learned about the Vietnamese War. Did
Speaker 1: you see the clip of the black dude? We learned
Speaker 1: by interviewing the woman who didn't know nigga was a
Speaker 1: bad word. And you don't know that she was kind
Speaker 1: of sexy the little Arabic ground. She's like, yeah, what
Speaker 1: am I saying? What do you mean? I hate it
Speaker 1: and I love He was like it, bitch, it's a
Speaker 1: very American thing, too low key, Like, don't be knowing
Speaker 1: that I hate it?
Speaker 2: Anyways, because you guys are probably looking for love in
Speaker 2: the twenty twenty six.
Speaker 1: In the twenty six twenty six, I want to.
Speaker 2: Shout out our producer for this segment. So our reactionary
Speaker 2: comes from Barry Oo and Tier. He sent me a
Speaker 2: clip of a guy saying these are the questions that
Speaker 2: will give you all the answers you.
Speaker 1: Need on a date. And I want to know if
Speaker 1: you agree with him.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, he said these are the only five questions
Speaker 2: if you really want to know what you want to
Speaker 2: know about a nigga, like if you're married, if y'all
Speaker 2: are compack, if you're married, you got you gotta ask,
Speaker 2: bro at this what I ain't going?
Speaker 1: No, you know what a question? Does any woman think
Speaker 1: she's your girl? No? No, no, no, you got to
Speaker 1: ask if these niggas married? Okay, okay, here we go
Speaker 1: check number three.
Speaker 3: Oh wait, let me on too heavy on some of
Speaker 3: these first dates. Let me give you five light first
Speaker 3: date questions and you can still find out what you
Speaker 3: want to find out, just in a lightweight Number one.
Speaker 3: What's a perfect weekend for you? That's a lifestyle check?
Speaker 3: Number two, planner or go with the flow type person?
Speaker 3: That's a compatibility check. Number three? What are you into
Speaker 3: right now? That's an interest check? Number four? How do
Speaker 3: you like to communicate?
Speaker 1: That's asking?
Speaker 3: Then finally, what's a green flag you look for? That's
Speaker 3: a value checkat These are five light questions you can
Speaker 3: ask on the first date.
Speaker 1: What do you think is the most important? One? For me?
Speaker 1: It's for me it is I like the how do
Speaker 1: you like to communicate?
Speaker 2: Because when you first start meeting someone, I don't think
Speaker 2: people realize how quickly you create a pattern and how
Speaker 2: you're going to move forward talking.
Speaker 3: So like.
Speaker 2: Sorry, like with actor Bay, our first way that we
Speaker 2: started talking was FaceTime moving forward, that's how we communicated.
Speaker 2: It was always on FaceTime, whether we were on the
Speaker 2: phone for ten minutes or on the phone for three hours.
Speaker 2: And then there's been other partners where we only.
Speaker 1: Communicate via text to where they don't even feel like
Speaker 1: they have to pick up a phone call because that's
Speaker 1: not how you communicate.
Speaker 2: So for me, I think how do you communicate is
Speaker 2: a really important one. But also starting those out early.
Speaker 1: So ladies, if you like to talk on the phone
Speaker 1: with a man that you're in a relationship with, and
Speaker 1: you really like a guy that you just met, you
Speaker 1: probably immediately need to start the habits of him answering
Speaker 1: your calls of y'all talking on those phone is actually
Speaker 1: very toxic for me to say, but I actually don't
Speaker 1: care how you like to communicate. No, I that's why
Speaker 1: I but that's what I'm saying in it.
Speaker 2: As a woman, if you like a man communicating with
Speaker 2: you a certain way, it's important to a ask that question.
Speaker 2: But started out the gate if you like to be
Speaker 2: on the phone with your man, don't turn it into
Speaker 2: multiple conversations via text, because a man is going to
Speaker 2: get comfortable texting you.
Speaker 1: So for me, out of those things, actually, point blank,
Speaker 1: no matter how serious relationship could be, if it's only
Speaker 1: in text, I actually find it to be a little
Speaker 1: bit of an afterthought.
Speaker 2: I think that, oh yeah, and if you good relationship
Speaker 2: urgent like me, oh bitch, depending on what mood I'm
Speaker 2: in at that very moment that you text me, not
Speaker 2: even the tone. For me, I get in these things
Speaker 2: where I'll see a message, and depending on how my
Speaker 2: brain at the very moment is operating, I just won't respond.
Speaker 2: It doesn't matter how much I even like them. I
Speaker 2: get anxiety by certain text messages and things, and so
Speaker 2: if I'm not in the mood to text, I won't
Speaker 2: and I'll go back to my phone and then answer
Speaker 2: like five or six at a time, but I go
Speaker 2: I have sense where I don't want to communicate, so
Speaker 2: to me, a phone call will get you an immediate
Speaker 2: I even answer emails before texts.
Speaker 1: I don't do well with text messages that are a
Speaker 1: little too open and did like, hey, what am I
Speaker 1: gonna do? With this, like what they hid back? No, like,
Speaker 1: what do you want? Start the hey? The thing to
Speaker 1: say I need this. I think that's like a nudge.
Speaker 1: Then do what you want need to do. But the
Speaker 1: hey doesn't get responses from me. But you're also not
Speaker 1: dating right now. I guess you have your partners, so
Speaker 1: it's a little different. I mean, but you childly, you
Speaker 1: thought the women that you want to eat they kuchi girl.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you something that's been a twenty twenty
Speaker 1: five thing that's continuing. I would say this is the
Speaker 1: most I've ever kept a relationship private and the things
Speaker 1: that I do. However, I believe my relationship is so
Speaker 1: successful because whatever I share, I like go over for real,
Speaker 1: and I've been able to leave situations and scenarios out.
Speaker 2: Oh I told you that's what I would do, like
Speaker 2: moving forward. That's why I like y'all here a little
Speaker 2: bit over on the Patreot. But the way I'm navigating
Speaker 2: my like, I am actually being way more considerate with
Speaker 2: what I share on here, Like I have to ask first,
Speaker 2: can I share, Like even ask my mama.
Speaker 1: You see, I just asked my whole girl I could
Speaker 1: share her tea on my fame like we listen and
Speaker 1: we just it's actually been fun. What it's really been
Speaker 1: fun for is like the Turks and Kkos thing a
Speaker 1: few weeks ago. My friend isn't really When I got
Speaker 1: industry friends, may hey, no, and then my other friends
Speaker 1: were like, whatever, as long as they don't this isn't
Speaker 1: real to them. No, as long as they don't know, Like,
Speaker 1: but uh, what I was gonna say for mine would
Speaker 1: be the perfect weekend I have five Okay. The largest
Speaker 1: issue to me that I never clocked while falling in
Speaker 1: love with somebody was hospital Dick. We were completely incompatible
Speaker 1: in our leisure time and what we like to do,
Speaker 1: the way that the rate I like to go out,
Speaker 1: whether it be travel, how I like to spend time
Speaker 1: when someone's a homebody. I never really got to learn
Speaker 1: that because we were falling in love dating being out.
Speaker 1: He worked in hospitality, so I was seeing him out
Speaker 1: in that way a lot, but that wasn't necessarily something
Speaker 1: he liked to do all the time, and so that,
Speaker 1: however I asked that question in the last few years
Speaker 1: of my dating life, hasn't made it successful for him.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, no, for sure, Like that's what I like
Speaker 2: about quarters, Like he he came here to New York
Speaker 2: for Christmas, which is why I couldn't last minute get
Speaker 2: his ass to join me in Curis Out. But then
Speaker 2: also like, he'll like just go to Miami for a
Speaker 2: weekend and he'd be pushing on his close friends and
Speaker 2: he had the little thoughts dancing. I said, Oh, you
Speaker 2: lit nigga, Like he does game nights, he does things
Speaker 2: that I enjoy doing.
Speaker 1: He travels, he gets out the fucking house. I also
Speaker 1: like to know that you're doing shit that I like
Speaker 1: to do before you met me. Like, I like that too,
Speaker 1: introducing to somebody to things. It's cool, but like, eh,
Speaker 1: I kind of liked now, don't get me wrong, I
Speaker 1: don't want you to know all my moves. Like one
Speaker 1: of my homegirls just posted on her close friends and
Speaker 1: I laughed about it because I was like, yeah, bitch,
Speaker 1: you're meeting them there. She's like, I just ran into
Speaker 1: three dudes I dated. New York is too small, and
Speaker 1: I'm like, no, bitch, New York is too small. You
Speaker 1: hit raise, you're hitting up the same shit, and you
Speaker 1: bringing niggas to the same shit you like to do.
Speaker 1: How many times can you go to dumballa with your homegirls,
Speaker 1: meet a guy at Dumbala with your homegirls, and then
Speaker 1: go to Dumbala looking for a new nigga. Oh, I
Speaker 1: ain't gonna hold you.
Speaker 2: That's how I felt the last time I went to
Speaker 2: f C k W. Chall said, oh, not three niggas here.
Speaker 1: I don't fuck uh bitch, gotta go, And I did.
Speaker 1: I spoke to all of them. But what's crazy is
Speaker 1: what's crazy is I was like, this is how I
Speaker 1: know I'm shallow.
Speaker 2: They were the only three niggas in the whole establishment
Speaker 2: that I would have even talked to. Well, duh, they're
Speaker 2: my type, but no one else was even my type.
Speaker 2: So I was like, ain't nobody else?
Speaker 1: You know, whenever I go out with my like lit
Speaker 1: la homegirls and we go to a spine, like damn,
Speaker 1: he looked good, She's like, you know I already got
Speaker 1: that nigga. You like that?
Speaker 2: Oh, I let my friends know you can have him now,
Speaker 2: like especially like one of them I fucked when I
Speaker 2: lived up here. He lives in Atlanta now and I'll
Speaker 2: be seeing him out and I'd be like, I be
Speaker 2: like my friends, olt girl, his.
Speaker 1: Dick is biggest fuck. He just laying so I don't
Speaker 1: like when he talked, like, just shut up. Okay, you
Speaker 1: know what, just smile with your dimples.
Speaker 3: And I.
Speaker 1: Recently told my man about a friend of mine. He
Speaker 1: was like, she did that. That's some weird ass hater shit. Okay,
Speaker 1: it was weird hater shit. Okay. So one of my homegirls.
Speaker 1: This is a very old story, but I brought it
Speaker 1: up to him because it was relevant in our conversation
Speaker 1: at the time. This when I lived in Hell's kitchen.
Speaker 1: She was crashing out bottle Baby, and I didn't know
Speaker 1: what he looked like. I think because they met at
Speaker 1: a club or something. Yeah, I'd never seen him, but
Speaker 1: she was just super upset about him. A year later,
Speaker 1: I meet a nigga on Tinder. Because I was on
Speaker 1: Tender back then, I get I don't talk to her
Speaker 1: all the time. So by third or fourth date, her
Speaker 1: and I link up for cocktails and I'm sharing with
Speaker 1: her what he looks like and I have the tender profile. Okay.
Speaker 1: She's like, oh my god, that's one oak guy. I
Speaker 1: was like, oh shit. She's like, did you fuck him already?
Speaker 1: And I'm like no, but did you No? I didn't, okay,
Speaker 1: And she's like well, I don't care. His dick was
Speaker 1: little anyway, it was like some gummy shit and like
Speaker 1: he was just whatever. He was act confused, and I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: you sure you know my life. She's like no, so boom,
Speaker 1: she knows I'm meeting up with him on Saturday, because
Speaker 1: before this whole thing happens. I'm like, okay, well, let
Speaker 1: me talk about new nigga. Sturday we linking out, We
Speaker 1: got a hotel. A Saturday comes, she calls me at
Speaker 1: like three pm with some huge issue. She really needs advice,
Speaker 1: she really needs someone to talk to, and I'm just like,
Speaker 1: she know I'm going out with this nigga, and we
Speaker 1: have our whole hotel date plan. We're gonna be on
Speaker 1: the Upper East Side doing our all day and staying
Speaker 1: at a hotel by the park, obviously because he's ready
Speaker 1: to fuck. So I'm like, yo, I know why she
Speaker 1: doing this shit because you know I'm about to link
Speaker 1: with this nigga and she's just trying to catch She's
Speaker 1: just trying to get some tea. So boom, Well, I
Speaker 1: have sex with him and I don't mention her to him.
Speaker 1: The next day we wake up, I'm like, yo, have
Speaker 1: you ever met that you fucked him? And then asked
Speaker 1: him if you fucked up because I didn't want it
Speaker 1: to be like weird for him because she didn't give
Speaker 1: a fuck. It was a year ago. He claims she
Speaker 1: ain't give a fuck, but she she was a your
Speaker 1: phone trying to deter the date people be live. I
Speaker 1: didn't want to bring her up to him because it
Speaker 1: felt to like my friend says da da da, And
Speaker 1: I didn't know what kind of mess and she's a
Speaker 1: little messy. Next day, I'm like, you know, He's like,
Speaker 1: now she does have a people have her name. But
Speaker 1: I was like, I was like, she does X, y Z,
Speaker 1: and he's like, oh yeah, she's a cool girl. I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, did you guys date and he goes nope.
Speaker 1: I'm like, really, I told you it's the D word.
Speaker 1: But dating is so different for different people. Bro, the
Speaker 1: word date is crazy. We got to eliminate that word
Speaker 1: twenty six way way because I know because I agree,
Speaker 1: we have to clarify. And you and I have been
Speaker 1: potted now and every time you say date, I'm like, bro,
Speaker 1: it ain't dat. So I said to him, hate the
Speaker 1: word date. Are you sure you didn't date. He's like, like,
Speaker 1: we're doing I said, yes, like we're doing he said no, no, no,
Speaker 1: I'm like okay. He's like, I'm assuming you must have
Speaker 1: talked to her about me. I said, well, I went
Speaker 1: out with her, showed her a photo of you, and
Speaker 1: I just realized and she said, Yo, Dick was gummy.
Speaker 1: Were you honest with him? No, but I said, I said,
Speaker 1: she told me that. She said, Yo, Dick is gummy.
Speaker 1: That ain't even good. Wait this way me and my mom.
Speaker 1: So I said yes, I shared with her, like your profile,
Speaker 1: and I'm excited and he's like, oh yeah, she cool,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, so she seemed really upset at the year.
Speaker 1: I remember, like when y'all met. He was like, I
Speaker 1: would see her in the club. I used to get
Speaker 1: tables all the time, back in the day when Apple
Speaker 1: Spot was open. And maybe we slept together one time,
Speaker 1: he said, can't even remember. Maybe we slept together, he said.
Speaker 1: The reason he couldn't remember, He's like, we were really
Speaker 1: was gummy. He said, we were really fucked up. And
Speaker 1: there was other people there. He's like, I don't even
Speaker 1: want to, you know, make you feel uncomfortable. But another
Speaker 1: girl she knew was probably there too, and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: he's like, so I don't remember if I fucked her
Speaker 1: or a friend, bitch, mind you, here's why the ship
Speaker 1: was tea. She said his dick was gummy and he
Speaker 1: was lame. He was this bick ass dick, bitch, big, beautiful, veiny,
Speaker 1: nice chocolity dick. To be fair, the dicks that we
Speaker 1: get as women are not all created equal. Like the
Speaker 1: dick that I get ain't gonna be the dick that
Speaker 1: another bitch get.
Speaker 2: If you feel me, like I told you my number
Speaker 2: one day told me, I'll make his dick the hardest,
Speaker 2: So like I can fuck somebody and think the dick
Speaker 2: is amazing, and my homegirl, fuck it is.
Speaker 1: She has a completely different experience because she's said gummy
Speaker 1: and small. No.
Speaker 2: But but if they were lit like he said, because
Speaker 2: he doesn't remember, Bro, we talked about handy dick. We
Speaker 2: talked about dicks that like sometimes the man doesn't get
Speaker 2: hard over anxiety. There's performance anxiety. There's all these things
Speaker 2: like dick that you get ain't gonna be the dick
Speaker 2: that I get.
Speaker 1: Okay, right first, I agree, But what I do think
Speaker 1: when a girl says, where you just said, oh, you
Speaker 1: can fuck to your homegirls. We have to start. If
Speaker 1: you know it's really a problem, bitch, you need to
Speaker 1: speak now or hold jo people. Well, no, it's to
Speaker 1: be a problem. Take it up with your therapist, go
Speaker 1: to the lady. Because the nigga that you didn't really
Speaker 1: talk to very long, he didn't even say y'all de worded.
Speaker 1: Then that means worded. Bro, we gotta do d word that.
Speaker 1: I don't want to say date in twenty twenty six.
Speaker 2: But if it's a guy that ended up not being nothing,
Speaker 2: you might want to appen it didn't work out for you.
Speaker 2: We gotta also work on not not making our friends
Speaker 2: miss out on their so many.
Speaker 1: I also there, I completely agree with that, and I
Speaker 1: also just really want to say I think that the
Speaker 1: larger issue from it came because when me and my
Speaker 1: man is digging into it, did you ever tell her that,
Speaker 1: by the way, was good. The reason when I tell
Speaker 1: her that Dick was big long time, I told her
Speaker 1: shit because I was just like, oh, he was really hating.
Speaker 1: The reason it came up is because she did some
Speaker 1: other hater shit and I was like, baby, I gotta
Speaker 1: tell you about some shit. The hell did a few
Speaker 1: years ago. But you the first word like casual, Like
Speaker 1: it's not like we're not dogs. But one of the
Speaker 1: things that we clocked in that moment, he was like, oh,
Speaker 1: you approached the conversation by saying the nice dates the
Speaker 1: nigga took you on, how y'all were getting along? Mind you,
Speaker 1: we maybe even on three or four dates. And one
Speaker 1: of the conversations that was going on was where we
Speaker 1: want to travel to and he's like, okay, let's do
Speaker 1: a little mini vacation here in the city. He's like,
Speaker 1: if this bitch couldn't get him to give her a
Speaker 1: call back.
Speaker 2: So this is so funny that you bring this up.
Speaker 2: Let me tell you about a conversation that I literally
Speaker 2: had last night. So mea corns that we're talking about, Like,
Speaker 2: he was asking me a lot about my other boyfriends,
Speaker 2: and then I was asking him about the last person
Speaker 2: that he was seeing.
Speaker 1: So he shows me a picture. She cute.
Speaker 2: She not me, but she's cute. But it was so
Speaker 2: crazy because I was like, well, why did y'all stop talking?
Speaker 2: And mind you, I had to tell him about himself.
Speaker 2: So I said, well, why did y'all stop talking? And
Speaker 2: he said, well, we met at a bar and she
Speaker 2: lived nearby he lives. He lives out of Sandy Springs,
Speaker 2: and so they were like seeing each other. I was like, okay,
Speaker 2: and so what happened? He was like, she started getting
Speaker 2: like an attitude with me. It really weird with me,
Speaker 2: because she would.
Speaker 1: Like want to link, like as I'm leaving her, she'd
Speaker 1: want to be like, when am I seeing you again?
Speaker 2: And he was like, bro, we were just kicking it,
Speaker 2: like they weren't. They weren't going on dates, but they
Speaker 2: were fucking.
Speaker 1: And so she the last time he went to her house,
Speaker 1: she got an attitude with him because she was like, well,
Speaker 1: when can I see you again? I want to see
Speaker 1: you this date. And he was like, I don't plan
Speaker 1: for pleasure. He was like, I'll let you know. Hold on.
Speaker 1: He was like, I'll let you know how I feel
Speaker 1: that day if we could see each other. But like,
Speaker 1: I don't want to plan, Like that's weird. Like I
Speaker 1: could wake up and not want to fuck. I could
Speaker 1: wake up and not be in a good mood. And
Speaker 1: he started having all these excuses. So I'm listening to
Speaker 1: what he said to her, and I was like, how
Speaker 1: old was she around my age? Bruh. I told him.
Speaker 2: I said, you know, you want to know what's crazy.
Speaker 2: We knew we were going to be together today. I
Speaker 2: knew we were gonna be together the last time. We
Speaker 2: kicked it because we made plans. You planned pleasure for
Speaker 2: me because you fuck with me. And I said, a
Speaker 2: woman my age knows when a nigga either likes them
Speaker 2: or does it. And I said, I couldn't imagine right
Speaker 2: now at my big age telling the man I want
Speaker 2: to see him to give him pussy, and he's saying,
Speaker 2: I don't know if I'm gonna want it that day,
Speaker 2: I'll let you know. I said, that's literally you telling
Speaker 2: her you not pressed to be around her. You not
Speaker 2: pressed the fuck her.
Speaker 1: You're not even willing enough to pencil her into your
Speaker 1: schedule because you're really not that interested because something else
Speaker 1: may come up, because.
Speaker 2: Someone else may come up, or you just really not
Speaker 2: She's not a priority. And I said, when a woman
Speaker 2: gets that type of response, it's she's smart, because a
Speaker 2: lot of you bitches be dumb. If a nigga says
Speaker 2: I don't know if I'm gonna want to fuck you
Speaker 2: two days from now, I'll let you know.
Speaker 1: He's just not that interested.
Speaker 2: So the fact that in his mind he was like,
Speaker 2: I'm not the type of person that plans for pleasure,
Speaker 2: I said, oh, nigga, we both said we was excited
Speaker 2: about fucking right, Oh, we could go.
Speaker 1: And the other thing, too, is how women crash out
Speaker 1: on realizing you can do those things for the women
Speaker 1: like no. And that's the thing I heard. If he
Speaker 1: wanted to, he would, and he normally will and does
Speaker 1: with other women. Just not you. Do you know what
Speaker 1: else a woman who's smart enough knows a nigga saying
Speaker 1: I don't plan for pleasure.
Speaker 2: Nigga, you telling me when them niggas go over to
Speaker 2: dr for the forty five dollar pussy, they not getting
Speaker 2: they standing already, so fuck them forty five dollars prostitutes.
Speaker 2: Like a man will go on a vacation and plan
Speaker 2: to have fun. A man will literally plan to fly
Speaker 2: a woman in or fly out to go see someone.
Speaker 2: Men plan and are excited about being around people that
Speaker 2: they're excited around being.
Speaker 1: And the problem is we accept these crumbs mainly because
Speaker 1: I did. Let's be very clear. When I was talking
Speaker 1: to him, I was like, ill you mean to tell me?
Speaker 1: You you the type of nigga that only want to
Speaker 1: give her dick when you want to give.
Speaker 2: Her tick, and she just got to accept that, and
Speaker 2: I was like, that was me, bitch. I used to
Speaker 2: only see a nigga when he flew.
Speaker 1: Me out with star Like. I was like, ew, that
Speaker 1: was me, just literally.
Speaker 2: Nick when a nigga made himself available to give me dick,
Speaker 2: and I was like, oh my god, yuck.
Speaker 1: And as I was saying it out loud, I said, oh, bitch,
Speaker 1: I'm glad I grew. I'm glad I learned, because I
Speaker 1: don't know if you know in terms of what their
Speaker 1: relationship is, if it's strictly fucked buddy shit. Well I
Speaker 1: think he wanted that. But after fucking with somebody four
Speaker 1: or five times, most women, where are we going from here? Yeah,
Speaker 1: you gotta get him out of the house. Pebbie, where
Speaker 1: are we going from here? You ain't going nowhere?
Speaker 2: That even that, it was so interesting, Like it's funny
Speaker 2: because when I first backwards, Zip, I was like, we
Speaker 2: need to meet at a bar. I'm not just pulling
Speaker 2: up to your house. And so I did my little
Speaker 2: espresso martini flight. And then the next time he cooked
Speaker 2: me that little shrimp off right on his cue.
Speaker 1: Dude, I give up a pissy first. Oh no, I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna lie. I'm not gonna lie. I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: not mind you. It was I didn't know it was
Speaker 1: a TikTok thing, but she made me to marry me
Speaker 1: Pas Shrimp and Paul. Oh my god. I was like,
Speaker 1: these fucking young niggas, bitch, I just married me chicken.
Speaker 1: I've married me he he I'm thinking he just we
Speaker 1: was married to the toilet. I said, I married me chicken.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna lie. He put a lot of seasons and that,
Speaker 1: and I felt real old because I said, you know
Speaker 1: the reflux, bitch, I said, God damn know some casus
Speaker 1: seasons on they God damn shrimp. No, God, that was
Speaker 1: a wash thing. But I'm sitting here with bind you.
Speaker 1: But I told you what I did, like. I told
Speaker 1: you what I did like huh.
Speaker 2: I stood up naked after we fucked, and he asked
Speaker 2: me if I had a BVL and I said, no, baby, this.
Speaker 1: Is this is grown woman body. Baby, there's a grown
Speaker 1: woman body. Okay, keep cooking that, marr. This is what
Speaker 1: happened when you deal with a bitch of a decade
Speaker 1: older than you. Okay, you know, I think young niggas
Speaker 1: they love a little thing. No, no, no, no. If
Speaker 1: they're dealing with a bitch, there's mid thirties they like
Speaker 1: are they Oh it's a whole new thing. But yellow untie.
Speaker 1: Oh no, I saw that. I saw ed. Did you
Speaker 1: see the internet saying that that that BBO. Now show
Speaker 1: what generation you're in, because it's like the thirty and
Speaker 1: forty year olds have the BBL. I feel like that
Speaker 1: makes sense because it was our era. We were too
Speaker 1: talking about starlets. When I was like saying that there
Speaker 1: was a guy that was always eating women at Starlets.
Speaker 1: Bro went to starlets. I'm gonna tell you right now,
Speaker 1: I knew from every BBL, every makeup style, everybody. It was.
Speaker 1: If they can't even do young, oh no, it already looked.
Speaker 2: Like that, it's thirty. I would say it's thirty three
Speaker 2: to forty three. Those are the bitches that literally all
Speaker 2: went to the same doctor.
Speaker 1: They was a yield. They d r done thirty and under.
Speaker 1: I know, I'd say, you like, there's also I say
Speaker 1: twenty eight. You know how there's like young fashioned niggas
Speaker 1: Like the Drew Ski video. He's like, yeah, this is
Speaker 1: come to girl, and this is like rick Like how
Speaker 1: they wear low ski mask. The bitches got that too,
Speaker 1: the ones that wear the fucking micro skirts with the thong.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, no, no, no, they dress. They dressed like
Speaker 1: Y two K Christina. There's a young horror and there's
Speaker 1: an old horror.
Speaker 2: No there is then there's Oh when I go out
Speaker 2: when they when they all look like they're just like Tyler.
Speaker 2: They got the furry boots with the little mini skirts,
Speaker 2: with the little I'm like this, bitch twenty four. But
Speaker 2: I could tell the old holes because they're still bringing
Speaker 2: out the goddamn cruel summers. They got the giuseppies deep
Speaker 2: in their closets. Bitch, I could tell, Oh, ho are
Speaker 2: they out with the cruels? I've seeing them dnngs, girl,
Speaker 2: don't do that.
Speaker 1: Hold on. I like my dnng's home, Okay, I like
Speaker 1: a little dough chackabye, bitch, oh hoole shit, oh shit,
Speaker 1: don't take about it. Actually, o hos like Bendy like
Speaker 1: they like the label. They like the lame luxury house.
Speaker 1: You get a young hole. Now she's into the me
Speaker 1: stuff like they want the non label. Fucking alayah ayah ship. Yeah,
Speaker 1: they like that we're fuck the young ho I'm riding
Speaker 1: because we fucking on the same niggas. Bitch. Anyway, Uh,
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Speaker 1: of a New Year, new mead, bitch, just because to
Speaker 1: me is new year, new hairstyle. Well, bitch, I'm still
Speaker 1: the same bitch o Okay it is.
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