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Speaker 1: Keep It Positive Sweety is available on Apple Podcasts, iHeartRadio, Spotify,

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Speaker 1: Positive Sweety. That's Sweety with an Ie to listen. Hello,

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Speaker 1: and welcome to this episode of Keep It Positive Sweety.

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Speaker 1: I'm Christine Hayslet, and as you can tell, I am

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Speaker 1: not at home. I'm in Los Angeles right now catching

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Speaker 1: up with some of my favorite favorite people.

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Speaker 2: Today.

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Speaker 1: I have with me Sean Finney and we're gonna be

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Speaker 1: talking about Pivot season ed. You can see we're somewhere else.

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Speaker 1: I want to shout out thirteen Loon. Thirteen Loon is

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Speaker 1: a beautiful store founded by Nikayo Greco where ninety percent

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Speaker 1: of her products sold here.

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Speaker 2: Are Bipop founded. Thank you so much, thirteen Loon. Sean.

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Speaker 2: I'm so happy to have you here. Like you don't

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Speaker 2: even understand.

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Speaker 1: I've been trying to get this man on this podcast

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Speaker 1: and so I'm so happy to have you here.

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Speaker 3: And it was always yes, it was always yes, Thank you,

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Speaker 3: Thank you so much.

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Speaker 2: For people who do not know who Sean is, where

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Speaker 2: have you been?

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Speaker 4: It's the question.

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Speaker 1: So if you don't know, we're not gonna judge you.

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Speaker 1: But I'm gonna tell you a little bit about him.

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Speaker 1: Sean Finny is an award winning entertainment executive and producer

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Speaker 1: with over a decade of experience in Hollywood. Sean most

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Speaker 1: recently served as Executive vice President, Member Relations, Global Outreach

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Speaker 1: and Awards at the Academy of Motion Picture Arts and

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Speaker 1: Sciences OSCARS. He was the youngest black male executive in

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Speaker 1: the organization's history. Sean is a sought after host, moderator, commentator,

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Speaker 1: and facilitator in the entertainment sector.

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Speaker 2: Currently the host of La Times.

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Speaker 1: Digital series The Envelope, Ladies and Gentlemen.

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Speaker 3: Sean Finny, you can anywhere I go any time, but

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Speaker 3: before because I know this is your show, show thank you.

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Speaker 4: I'm so proud of you. I'm so proud of.

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Speaker 3: What you've done, what you're doing and where it's going.

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Speaker 2: Thank you.

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Speaker 3: Are so many things, but a light is the first

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Speaker 3: thing that comes to mind when Wowan.

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Speaker 1: It's crazy you say that because I started the shop

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Speaker 1: with a quote and this is the quote that I

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Speaker 1: pulled that makes me think of you, and it says,

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Speaker 1: simply shine your light on the road ahead, and you

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Speaker 1: are helping others see their way out of darkness.

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Speaker 4: That is never part like we get there.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, that is who you are to me. And

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Speaker 1: when we were thinking, I was like, I need a

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Speaker 1: quote for Sean, and we.

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Speaker 2: All were like, he's a light. He's a light.

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Speaker 1: And when I saw this and I was like, he

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Speaker 1: is bringing people out of darkness.

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Speaker 2: That just just being yourself.

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you, on a regular day, if I just

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Speaker 1: see you on Instagram, it brings me joy. That smile

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Speaker 1: we are shine fine my camera, but that smile brings

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Speaker 1: so many people joy. Then when you speak and you

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Speaker 1: give other people hope, it's just.

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Speaker 4: It means the world.

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Speaker 2: So thank you, friend.

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Speaker 4: Appreciate you, Yes, appreciate you. No.

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Speaker 2: I remember when we first met. It was through Fatima yep.

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Speaker 1: I think it was during you were doing a series

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Speaker 1: on social media.

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Speaker 2: What was that one called?

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Speaker 3: I was doing a series called Journey where I was

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Speaker 3: talking to different artists and filmmakers specifically just about what

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Speaker 3: was happening in the ecosystem from.

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Speaker 4: A human level and not really just about the headlines

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Speaker 4: how people were doing. And that's when we initially connected.

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Speaker 2: That is when we initially connected.

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Speaker 1: And it wasn't until a few years later that we

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Speaker 1: actually met. And I remember and I tell people this

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Speaker 1: story sometimes. Last year during Oscar season, we were at

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Speaker 1: an event, yes, where you had to speak, and you

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Speaker 1: walked out stage. You came straight to me and You're like,

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Speaker 1: how are you doing? I was like, I don't know

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Speaker 4: It just like came out, yeah and talked.

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Speaker 2: We talked about it right at that moment.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: And just hearing you.

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Speaker 1: Say, Crystal, sometimes you just gotta breathe. It's okay, I

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Speaker 1: go through it. It's fine, You're not alone in this

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Speaker 1: I feel like God put me in that room that

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Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, shut there. And then you come to

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Speaker 2: In surface level it's always no, how are you?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, no, because we're gonna have that conversation. And it's

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Speaker 3: So I came on and I was on stage and

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Speaker 3: I'm like, Crystal, finish what I got to do, and

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Speaker 4: You're right a B line straight to you, and I

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Speaker 4: was like, how's your heart, how's your spirit?

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Speaker 3: And what's interesting too, is I think that people think

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Speaker 3: when we're all dolled up at an event, you're at

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Speaker 3: an OSCAR event leading up to it, everything's good. And

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Speaker 3: those are the moments I find where I'm like, we

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Speaker 3: really got to tap in because everything is happening so fast,

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Speaker 4: Assumption is you're good because you're there.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but that's not always the truth is, and that's

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Speaker 3: why we're people that you really feel that connection with.

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Speaker 4: You got to really be like, no, no, no.

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Speaker 2: What's up?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? Yeah, literally, what's what's up? You're good?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we can have this conversation right now in front

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Speaker 4: In a way where we can understand. You know what

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Speaker 4: I'm saying. I love a voice note and I love

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Speaker 4: your voice back too. But just to check in because

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Speaker 4: I feel like that's a law for life.

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Speaker 3: We see people online, we see the accomplishments, things that

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Speaker 3: were doing so are assumption is always that oh they're thriving,

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Speaker 3: they're good, and they might be. That doesn't mean that

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Speaker 4: Day, and it's not always a bad day the end

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that is so true.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, in that moment, you really just helped because I

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Speaker 1: think even still, I was feeling that the heart palpitation

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Speaker 1: they just even talking, you just helped so much. And

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Speaker 1: just I feel like God literally sent you to me

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Speaker 1: we keep going heah right, literally, So You've done so

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Speaker 1: many amazing things, Shane. I want to talk about young

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Speaker 1: how we got to who you are today, the man

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Speaker 1: that people know.

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Speaker 2: You grew up in a Muslim home.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, my dad's Muslim, my mom's Christians. How did that

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Speaker 2: Because listen, I dated a Muslim?

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Speaker 4: Okay, what was that? Like? My mom and.

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Speaker 2: Daddy was like that ain't gonna work, and I was like,

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Speaker 1: He came to my college graduation day. To this day,

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Speaker 3: You know what's interesting because for me, I just thought

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Speaker 3: So I'm a military kid. I moved around quite a bit.

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Speaker 3: I was born in Virginia.

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Speaker 4: I don't know much about like, I can't. People were like, well,

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Speaker 2: Now they're still together.

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Speaker 3: So I would go to the temple with my father

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Speaker 3: But it really taught me the duality of two things

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Speaker 3: I think really helped me understand how to acclimate to people,

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Speaker 4: And then being a military kid moving around like I

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Speaker 4: And as a kid, you're like, this sucks.

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Speaker 3: But as an adult, I have such an appreciation for

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Speaker 2: Yes, you know what I mean. It makes sense why

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Speaker 2: you were able to pivot so easily.

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Speaker 3: Life, And so I would say the experience for me,

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Speaker 4: I love it.

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Speaker 3: you know, and really being a space to add that

447
00:18:10,840 --> 00:18:14,119
Speaker 3: impact and strategy and leverage it. And it's impacted me

448
00:18:14,200 --> 00:18:17,159
Speaker 3: in the best of ways. And it's also cost me

449
00:18:17,200 --> 00:18:19,520
Speaker 3: a lot, you know, And I think that some of

450
00:18:19,560 --> 00:18:22,520
Speaker 3: your biggest blessings can also take a lot out of you,

451
00:18:22,600 --> 00:18:25,440
Speaker 3: can also challenge you the most, and it has been

452
00:18:26,160 --> 00:18:29,200
Speaker 3: something I'm very grateful for that I've learned a lot

453
00:18:29,359 --> 00:18:34,520
Speaker 3: about as I walk into new spaces. But I'm also

454
00:18:34,560 --> 00:18:37,160
Speaker 3: completely good with letting it go. And I think that's

455
00:18:37,200 --> 00:18:39,960
Speaker 3: the thing is where we get something good, we hold

456
00:18:40,000 --> 00:18:42,280
Speaker 3: on to it so long because we think this is

457
00:18:42,280 --> 00:18:43,320
Speaker 3: as good as it's going to get.

458
00:18:43,720 --> 00:18:46,560
Speaker 2: But I've gotten greater before, so I want to get greater.

459
00:18:46,960 --> 00:18:49,400
Speaker 3: I want to get greater against you know what I mean,

460
00:18:49,960 --> 00:18:53,399
Speaker 3: And so those kind of things, and it's hard to

461
00:18:53,480 --> 00:18:56,560
Speaker 3: walk away from something when you feel like it's your safety.

462
00:18:57,040 --> 00:18:58,119
Speaker 4: It's one thing if it's your.

463
00:18:57,960 --> 00:19:01,760
Speaker 3: Success, because everybody has their perceived ideas.

464
00:19:02,160 --> 00:19:04,800
Speaker 4: And it's interesting, it wasn't even my own.

465
00:19:04,880 --> 00:19:07,840
Speaker 3: It was everybody else's perception of my success, everyone else's

466
00:19:07,880 --> 00:19:10,640
Speaker 3: perception of your success. There's what's actually happening, and there's

467
00:19:10,680 --> 00:19:13,000
Speaker 3: the perception of it. And then if you're not careful,

468
00:19:13,080 --> 00:19:16,479
Speaker 3: you can easily get card upon wanting to put up

469
00:19:16,560 --> 00:19:19,880
Speaker 3: whatever you think that that is and not really making

470
00:19:19,920 --> 00:19:22,000
Speaker 3: the decisions that you need to make. For you, because

471
00:19:22,000 --> 00:19:24,080
Speaker 3: the wind might not look like the wind for everybody else.

472
00:19:24,359 --> 00:19:26,360
Speaker 3: The whisper that God has for you might not look

473
00:19:26,440 --> 00:19:28,719
Speaker 3: like the whisper because everybody else like you made it,

474
00:19:29,560 --> 00:19:31,920
Speaker 3: You're good. And I'm like, no, this isn't isn't it,

475
00:19:33,680 --> 00:19:35,240
Speaker 3: This isn't it, And I'm grateful for what.

476
00:19:35,160 --> 00:19:37,520
Speaker 4: It is, but this is not it. This is not

477
00:19:37,600 --> 00:19:39,760
Speaker 4: my full stop. This is right now, you know what

478
00:19:39,840 --> 00:19:43,920
Speaker 4: I mean. And so for me, there was multiple, multiple

479
00:19:43,960 --> 00:19:46,560
Speaker 4: things that I think that occurred, but I know that.

480
00:19:46,600 --> 00:19:48,919
Speaker 4: I'm like, I've done it. Yeah, I did it. And

481
00:19:48,960 --> 00:19:50,720
Speaker 4: I think that sometimes we come into things and we

482
00:19:50,840 --> 00:19:52,719
Speaker 4: think we have to do all of it, and I'm like,

483
00:19:53,000 --> 00:19:54,439
Speaker 4: the part that I did, I know what I did.

484
00:19:54,520 --> 00:19:56,119
Speaker 3: I know the impact that I added, and I know

485
00:19:56,160 --> 00:19:58,840
Speaker 3: what happened while I was in this space, and most importantly,

486
00:19:58,880 --> 00:19:59,080
Speaker 3: I know.

487
00:19:59,080 --> 00:20:02,280
Speaker 4: Who I helped. I know who I spoke to.

488
00:20:02,440 --> 00:20:06,119
Speaker 3: Yes, I know who I created advocacy for and a

489
00:20:06,119 --> 00:20:11,320
Speaker 3: lot of public winds and a lot of private scars, my.

490
00:20:11,240 --> 00:20:15,000
Speaker 2: Goodness, I did not know that.

491
00:20:15,800 --> 00:20:17,359
Speaker 1: And just to look at you, that's why you just

492
00:20:17,400 --> 00:20:20,080
Speaker 1: never know what people did to get where they are.

493
00:20:20,320 --> 00:20:21,959
Speaker 1: A lot of times people are not willing to go

494
00:20:22,040 --> 00:20:23,919
Speaker 1: through what a lot of people have had to go

495
00:20:23,920 --> 00:20:25,280
Speaker 1: through to get to certain.

496
00:20:25,000 --> 00:20:27,320
Speaker 2: Places where they feel like you've made it. Yeah I did.

497
00:20:27,359 --> 00:20:29,040
Speaker 2: But would you go through what I went through to

498
00:20:29,040 --> 00:20:29,400
Speaker 2: get here?

499
00:20:30,560 --> 00:20:30,600
Speaker 1: No?

500
00:20:30,840 --> 00:20:33,560
Speaker 3: No, And it's the highlight reel, right, it's the I

501
00:20:33,640 --> 00:20:36,600
Speaker 3: want the thing that I want, the moment on the carpet,

502
00:20:36,640 --> 00:20:39,040
Speaker 3: and it's like the moment on the carpet that's such

503
00:20:39,080 --> 00:20:42,879
Speaker 3: a fleeting moment. Are you willing to go through the

504
00:20:42,920 --> 00:20:47,080
Speaker 3: things that don't feel good continually and expand your idea

505
00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:51,160
Speaker 3: and your limitations of what you had for yourself, because

506
00:20:51,160 --> 00:20:54,199
Speaker 3: that's how you allow other these companies, these corporations, these

507
00:20:54,280 --> 00:20:56,879
Speaker 3: organizations and people to really treat you, you know what

508
00:20:56,920 --> 00:21:00,600
Speaker 3: I'm saying. So for me, it was amazing in so

509
00:21:00,680 --> 00:21:04,400
Speaker 3: many different aspects. And like anything any blessing that you have,

510
00:21:04,480 --> 00:21:06,520
Speaker 3: there are challenges. There are things that cause you to

511
00:21:06,600 --> 00:21:10,720
Speaker 3: question things about yourself, and most importantly, things that remind

512
00:21:10,800 --> 00:21:19,280
Speaker 3: you of yourself yeah yeah, yeah, you know yeah, and

513
00:21:19,720 --> 00:21:21,920
Speaker 3: or remind you more.

514
00:21:23,840 --> 00:21:27,480
Speaker 4: Better. Yeah, this is great. I want to leave the

515
00:21:27,520 --> 00:21:30,159
Speaker 4: good to grass the greater. And it's easy to do

516
00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:31,399
Speaker 4: that when you know it's on the other side.

517
00:21:31,480 --> 00:21:32,920
Speaker 1: When you don't know, and you got to have that

518
00:21:33,359 --> 00:21:34,920
Speaker 1: blind faith. It's different.

519
00:21:35,000 --> 00:21:36,159
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's very different.

520
00:21:36,280 --> 00:21:38,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, So with blind faith, how do you where do

521
00:21:38,960 --> 00:21:40,160
Speaker 1: you feel like that came from?

522
00:21:40,160 --> 00:21:41,000
Speaker 2: And how are you ab to be? Like?

523
00:21:41,040 --> 00:21:43,120
Speaker 1: All right, I don't know what's on the other side

524
00:21:43,119 --> 00:21:44,880
Speaker 1: of this, but I'm gonna take this leap.

525
00:21:45,080 --> 00:21:45,320
Speaker 4: Yeah.

526
00:21:45,680 --> 00:21:48,560
Speaker 3: You know, it's interesting because I think when people make decisions.

527
00:21:48,640 --> 00:21:52,080
Speaker 3: I'm fascinated by people's decisions. I'm fascinated by how people

528
00:21:52,119 --> 00:21:53,920
Speaker 3: make decisions. But one of the things that I've seen

529
00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:56,040
Speaker 3: is the common thread in people making decisions is that

530
00:21:56,160 --> 00:21:57,320
Speaker 3: it's never just one decision.

531
00:21:58,040 --> 00:22:01,480
Speaker 4: It's multiple decisions that have left up to one decision

532
00:22:01,560 --> 00:22:04,880
Speaker 4: right right. And for me, there were multiple things.

533
00:22:04,560 --> 00:22:11,680
Speaker 3: That occurred where I was like, hmm, I've put in

534
00:22:11,800 --> 00:22:14,720
Speaker 3: First of all, I was too exhausted to dream.

535
00:22:14,760 --> 00:22:16,760
Speaker 4: So that's the thing we.

536
00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:21,320
Speaker 3: Go up, we share in our comment we share in

537
00:22:21,320 --> 00:22:23,439
Speaker 3: the story. When there's a big announcement, you know, an

538
00:22:23,440 --> 00:22:25,520
Speaker 3: announcement of a job, announcement of somebody, we go and

539
00:22:25,560 --> 00:22:27,800
Speaker 3: it's great, but I don't know that we often think

540
00:22:27,840 --> 00:22:30,320
Speaker 3: about what their experience is going to be like in

541
00:22:30,400 --> 00:22:34,280
Speaker 3: there beyond that press release moment. Yeah, And I think

542
00:22:34,280 --> 00:22:36,600
Speaker 3: that that's a real thing, and I think I was like,

543
00:22:36,880 --> 00:22:39,480
Speaker 3: I'm here, i am successful, I'm making more money than

544
00:22:39,480 --> 00:22:42,800
Speaker 3: I've ever made, I have access, I have these things,

545
00:22:44,359 --> 00:22:50,600
Speaker 3: and I'm too exhausted to dream and is this success

546
00:22:51,600 --> 00:22:53,879
Speaker 3: or is this everyone else's idea of success and for

547
00:22:53,920 --> 00:22:56,080
Speaker 3: someone else might be great? And even though it's too

548
00:22:56,119 --> 00:22:58,160
Speaker 3: exhausted to dream, I kept doing it. I kept wanting

549
00:22:58,200 --> 00:22:59,680
Speaker 3: to make the impact because there were some dreams.

550
00:22:59,720 --> 00:23:03,320
Speaker 4: But I have dreams outside of this, yeah, right, I.

551
00:23:03,280 --> 00:23:07,119
Speaker 3: Have dreams outside of how much this is taking. And

552
00:23:07,160 --> 00:23:10,080
Speaker 3: I think that we often don't talk about safety. I

553
00:23:10,080 --> 00:23:14,200
Speaker 3: think there's a safety required to be in a ninety

554
00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:18,919
Speaker 3: seven or ninety eight year old anything but organization or

555
00:23:18,920 --> 00:23:24,359
Speaker 3: anything where it wasn't created at a time. So what

556
00:23:24,440 --> 00:23:27,480
Speaker 3: do you think that's like to be the person in

557
00:23:27,560 --> 00:23:30,640
Speaker 3: the room right? You know, to speak up, speak out

558
00:23:31,000 --> 00:23:34,800
Speaker 3: There's a safety required to feel safe to speak up,

559
00:23:34,840 --> 00:23:37,960
Speaker 3: to speak out right. And I think for a good

560
00:23:38,000 --> 00:23:40,600
Speaker 3: amount of time I felt that safety to be able

561
00:23:40,640 --> 00:23:43,040
Speaker 3: to do so. And then when I felt it wasn't

562
00:23:43,080 --> 00:23:46,640
Speaker 3: as safe as it was before, I'm like, Okay, I'm

563
00:23:46,640 --> 00:23:50,000
Speaker 3: too exhausted to dream. I don't have what I feel

564
00:23:50,040 --> 00:23:53,119
Speaker 3: like I need to continue to be able to blossom

565
00:23:53,200 --> 00:23:56,520
Speaker 3: in this space. I've put in so much time here,

566
00:23:57,200 --> 00:23:59,240
Speaker 3: I've done so much for other people here, and I'm

567
00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:01,240
Speaker 3: so proud of that, and proud of the teams, and

568
00:24:01,320 --> 00:24:03,840
Speaker 3: proud of whatever it is. And what would happen if

569
00:24:03,880 --> 00:24:06,840
Speaker 3: I started to dream again for me? I started to

570
00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:10,960
Speaker 3: put this time in here for me. And I always

571
00:24:10,960 --> 00:24:13,560
Speaker 3: ask this question personally and professionally, and I'm the question

572
00:24:13,680 --> 00:24:16,879
Speaker 3: is if I love myself, if I really love myself,

573
00:24:16,880 --> 00:24:19,080
Speaker 3: and by that, if I trust myself, I believe in myself,

574
00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:23,200
Speaker 3: I value myself. What I stay here a relationship, a friendship,

575
00:24:23,240 --> 00:24:29,320
Speaker 3: a family ship, a business deal. And when the answer

576
00:24:29,359 --> 00:24:32,440
Speaker 3: came a bit more clear to me, it's never.

577
00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:34,160
Speaker 4: At the right time. It's never when you think it's

578
00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:34,440
Speaker 4: going to be.

579
00:24:34,480 --> 00:24:36,000
Speaker 3: It's never at the time when you got the most

580
00:24:36,000 --> 00:24:38,320
Speaker 3: money in the ban, when you get whatever whatever. But

581
00:24:38,359 --> 00:24:40,199
Speaker 3: it comes at the time when it's clear. And at

582
00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:42,760
Speaker 3: that time, I was like, Okay, h I got it

583
00:24:43,119 --> 00:24:46,720
Speaker 3: because I've done this before and I'm willing to do

584
00:24:46,760 --> 00:24:49,840
Speaker 3: it again because I believe that there is something bigger

585
00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:53,800
Speaker 3: than what I'm willing to walk away from.

586
00:24:53,960 --> 00:24:56,120
Speaker 2: Wow, I can't. I can say a lot of people

587
00:24:56,160 --> 00:24:57,359
Speaker 2: probably wouldn't have walked away.

588
00:24:57,920 --> 00:24:58,080
Speaker 4: No.

589
00:24:58,280 --> 00:25:00,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, So I commend you that because a lot of

590
00:25:00,560 --> 00:25:03,040
Speaker 1: people wouldn't have the wherewithal to be like, you know what,

591
00:25:03,119 --> 00:25:05,080
Speaker 1: there is something better, yeah and bigger.

592
00:25:05,320 --> 00:25:07,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, And this is huge, this is huge and it's

593
00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:09,560
Speaker 3: incredible and it's all of these things.

594
00:25:09,920 --> 00:25:14,520
Speaker 4: And it's a job and it's a job and I

595
00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:15,280
Speaker 4: can get a job.

596
00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:17,960
Speaker 3: Listen, clearly not at seven eleven, but I can get

597
00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:22,639
Speaker 3: a job it right, But it's the job. But I

598
00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:25,359
Speaker 3: think that when we see these things, we're so attracted

599
00:25:25,440 --> 00:25:27,840
Speaker 3: to the light, or we're so attracted to the headline,

600
00:25:27,840 --> 00:25:30,400
Speaker 3: we're so attracted to the press release. And I think

601
00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:32,399
Speaker 3: that if we could all just pause for a second

602
00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:35,160
Speaker 3: and be like, that's great, and that's amazing. And when

603
00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:37,280
Speaker 3: you're inside of it and you start to have those questions,

604
00:25:37,280 --> 00:25:38,520
Speaker 3: it's like and at what costs?

605
00:25:38,640 --> 00:25:40,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, you just got to ask yourself.

606
00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:42,359
Speaker 3: And for everybody, it might be completely different. If you

607
00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:44,040
Speaker 3: want to have a family, if you want to you know,

608
00:25:44,119 --> 00:25:46,200
Speaker 3: do this, if you have other aspirations in your life,

609
00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:48,440
Speaker 3: you know, and a lot of people, I think get

610
00:25:48,440 --> 00:25:52,560
Speaker 3: in positions and there's the identity, and that identity is

611
00:25:52,600 --> 00:25:58,479
Speaker 3: attractive because people seem see you valuable, and that's feeding

612
00:25:58,480 --> 00:26:01,639
Speaker 3: and insecurity we may have within ourselves to continue to

613
00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:04,119
Speaker 3: be And in a town like this, where it's so

614
00:26:04,280 --> 00:26:06,320
Speaker 3: predicated on where you are.

615
00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:08,440
Speaker 2: What you do, and that is the first question you

616
00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:12,879
Speaker 2: will ask you what you do first? I had to

617
00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:14,640
Speaker 2: tell long ago that is so rude. That's like, don't

618
00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:14,879
Speaker 2: do that?

619
00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:15,919
Speaker 4: Yeah, And she was like what.

620
00:26:16,040 --> 00:26:18,520
Speaker 1: I was like, don't that will start the conversation off

621
00:26:18,560 --> 00:26:20,040
Speaker 1: like this, Yeah, But you're so right.

622
00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:21,800
Speaker 2: That's exactly how they What do you do?

623
00:26:21,880 --> 00:26:25,240
Speaker 4: What do you do? And it's cold for not always,

624
00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:27,560
Speaker 4: but it's cold for how much respect should I give you?

625
00:26:28,119 --> 00:26:30,680
Speaker 4: How can we work together? How can I use you?

626
00:26:31,359 --> 00:26:34,399
Speaker 3: And it's not always negative, but it's very upfront, and

627
00:26:34,440 --> 00:26:36,080
Speaker 3: I don't think that it's always honest.

628
00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:36,840
Speaker 4: And I think that.

629
00:26:36,840 --> 00:26:40,840
Speaker 3: It's served so much and you had to know I've

630
00:26:40,840 --> 00:26:44,240
Speaker 3: had it's good, serve what it needed to serve, and

631
00:26:44,280 --> 00:26:46,680
Speaker 3: it's good. But I do think that we get addicted

632
00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:50,800
Speaker 3: to identity and because it gives us a false sense

633
00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:53,200
Speaker 3: of power and a false sense of value.

634
00:26:53,280 --> 00:26:55,120
Speaker 4: And I think the thing that I am the most.

635
00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:56,680
Speaker 3: Proud of out of all the things that have happened

636
00:26:56,720 --> 00:26:58,920
Speaker 3: there is that I was myself the whole time.

637
00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:00,760
Speaker 2: Good. I was going to ask you that was ever

638
00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:02,280
Speaker 2: a moment where you lost your identity?

639
00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:04,320
Speaker 4: That's so good? I was myself the whole time.

640
00:27:04,359 --> 00:27:08,199
Speaker 3: And I think when I realized that I was no

641
00:27:08,280 --> 00:27:10,040
Speaker 3: longer going to be able to show up as the

642
00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:14,199
Speaker 3: Seawan that be flourishing, that is when I was like,

643
00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:19,160
Speaker 3: I can't do that, Yeah, because I if I'm meeting

644
00:27:19,200 --> 00:27:22,320
Speaker 3: someone in any capacity, we're meeting each other and you're

645
00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:24,520
Speaker 3: meeting me, and I want to be that person for real.

646
00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:26,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, And I realized.

647
00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:28,600
Speaker 3: You know, if I couldn't show up like that, I

648
00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:30,040
Speaker 3: don't know that I'm really going to be able to

649
00:27:30,040 --> 00:27:32,399
Speaker 3: add the value that I would be able to add.

650
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:34,879
Speaker 2: No, that's so true.

651
00:27:35,000 --> 00:27:36,360
Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah.

652
00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:38,960
Speaker 1: In your journey, it seems like it was a lot

653
00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:39,880
Speaker 1: of ups and down yah.

654
00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:41,000
Speaker 2: Was there ever a moment.

655
00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:43,480
Speaker 1: Where depression kicked in or were you like, I need

656
00:27:43,520 --> 00:27:45,200
Speaker 1: to see mental health because this is a lot or

657
00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:47,160
Speaker 1: were you always this type person like I would push

658
00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:50,080
Speaker 1: through because I know sometimes we I think as black people,

659
00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:53,439
Speaker 1: we've it's in us to just push through, you know,

660
00:27:53,680 --> 00:27:57,200
Speaker 1: and sometimes not until late probably like the past couple

661
00:27:57,240 --> 00:28:00,680
Speaker 1: of years, mental health and therapy has become a pop yeah,

662
00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:02,800
Speaker 1: so to speak, you know, yeah, where before they we

663
00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:03,640
Speaker 1: were just like push through.

664
00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:05,200
Speaker 2: Nobody cares, Yeah, push through.

665
00:28:05,480 --> 00:28:07,400
Speaker 1: So was there any moments where you were like ooh,

666
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Speaker 1: or that you wish you looking back, you could have

667
00:28:09,840 --> 00:28:12,040
Speaker 1: had someone to talk to those times that.

668
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Speaker 4: There was just a moment of full depression. Yeah, I

669
00:28:15,440 --> 00:28:17,760
Speaker 4: was waiting for you to stop. I was like, yeah, yeah, no,

670
00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:19,880
Speaker 4: there was just a moment of full depression.

671
00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:23,080
Speaker 3: And I don't know that it was specifically work only,

672
00:28:23,200 --> 00:28:27,040
Speaker 3: and always I think that it's just a moment of like,

673
00:28:27,840 --> 00:28:29,879
Speaker 3: you fight so hard, you do all the things that

674
00:28:29,920 --> 00:28:34,360
Speaker 3: you think you're supposed to do for the world's idea

675
00:28:34,640 --> 00:28:37,119
Speaker 3: of you and what you should be doing, and then

676
00:28:37,160 --> 00:28:39,280
Speaker 3: you get in and you're like, why don't I feel

677
00:28:39,480 --> 00:28:42,440
Speaker 3: good about this? You know, whether it's I'm on TV

678
00:28:42,520 --> 00:28:44,360
Speaker 3: right now, I'm in living room, I dreamed about this,

679
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:47,240
Speaker 3: I'm at the biggest show in the world, I'm around

680
00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:50,320
Speaker 3: the people. I've dreamed about this in different scenarios, not

681
00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:54,680
Speaker 3: quite this, but and you almost am like, God, am

682
00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:55,560
Speaker 3: I being ungrateful?

683
00:28:56,840 --> 00:28:58,200
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying? Like, am I not?

684
00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:03,240
Speaker 3: It's something wrong that I am not fully content in

685
00:29:03,320 --> 00:29:05,800
Speaker 3: this moment. And I remember actually one time when I

686
00:29:05,840 --> 00:29:09,520
Speaker 3: was going to had different bouts with therapy, when I

687
00:29:09,560 --> 00:29:12,400
Speaker 3: was looking for a therapist, and I remember going into

688
00:29:12,440 --> 00:29:15,360
Speaker 3: an HR person there and was like, I just want

689
00:29:15,360 --> 00:29:16,280
Speaker 3: to find somebody.

690
00:29:16,200 --> 00:29:17,720
Speaker 4: And it's so difficult to find it. There. We also

691
00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:19,240
Speaker 4: want to talk about that it's so difficult to find

692
00:29:19,240 --> 00:29:21,200
Speaker 4: a therapist. They're making it a lot easier now.

693
00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:23,680
Speaker 3: And I just remember seeing my name and it was

694
00:29:23,720 --> 00:29:26,480
Speaker 3: like a folder and it was like Sean Finney depression

695
00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:29,080
Speaker 3: and then it was like a list of and it

696
00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:30,520
Speaker 3: was just like but it was the first time that

697
00:29:30,560 --> 00:29:33,800
Speaker 3: I had really seen it like that, and I was

698
00:29:33,840 --> 00:29:36,560
Speaker 3: just like, oh, that is where I am. Oh my goodness,

699
00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:38,800
Speaker 3: which wasn't a bad thing, but it was an honest thing.

700
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Speaker 4: Yeah, seeing it in the folder for me, I.

701
00:29:41,080 --> 00:29:42,960
Speaker 3: Was just like, well, that is why I said I

702
00:29:42,960 --> 00:29:44,280
Speaker 3: wanted to come and talk to y'all.

703
00:29:44,520 --> 00:29:47,720
Speaker 4: And I guess so, yeah.

704
00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:50,200
Speaker 3: I've had those moments, and those moments honestly started well

705
00:29:50,240 --> 00:29:53,640
Speaker 3: before I was working those moments. I've had an amazing

706
00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:57,960
Speaker 3: childhood and my biggest enemy was always myself.

707
00:29:58,320 --> 00:30:01,320
Speaker 4: Super critical, super very hard, super.

708
00:30:01,400 --> 00:30:07,080
Speaker 3: Pressure, a lot of pressure on myself to excel, to succeed,

709
00:30:07,680 --> 00:30:10,200
Speaker 3: and I've had to just continue to redefine, but what

710
00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:11,320
Speaker 3: does success mean for me?

711
00:30:11,360 --> 00:30:13,120
Speaker 4: Now? What a success mean for me now?

712
00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:15,600
Speaker 3: Because the artist in me was like, success means getting

713
00:30:15,600 --> 00:30:18,160
Speaker 3: the deal I got that I didn't and I didn't

714
00:30:18,200 --> 00:30:22,680
Speaker 3: take it right. Success was like the job had that. Yeah,

715
00:30:23,440 --> 00:30:26,760
Speaker 3: I'm ready, I can separate from this now, right. And

716
00:30:26,800 --> 00:30:29,800
Speaker 3: so it's the continuation for me of redefining what success

717
00:30:29,880 --> 00:30:32,000
Speaker 3: means for me in every season, just like we get

718
00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:35,280
Speaker 3: different wardrobe for the summer yep, so in this season,

719
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Speaker 3: just redefining what that means for me now?

720
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Speaker 4: Right.

721
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Speaker 2: I love it.

722
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Speaker 1: I love it where you are now? You what are

723
00:30:44,200 --> 00:30:44,720
Speaker 1: you doing now?

724
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Speaker 2: Because I know, yes, the good grades and I'm like, you.

725
00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:56,720
Speaker 4: Know, some things will come out very very soon. But but.

726
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Speaker 3: Just because I want the audience to really think about it,

727
00:31:01,000 --> 00:31:03,120
Speaker 3: because I think that for a while I felt like

728
00:31:03,160 --> 00:31:05,880
Speaker 3: I needed to answer that question and there's a pressure

729
00:31:05,960 --> 00:31:10,440
Speaker 3: to answer that question. And the truth is the biggest

730
00:31:10,440 --> 00:31:12,960
Speaker 3: project I'm ever going to work on as myself, you

731
00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:15,400
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying. And so I remember having this

732
00:31:15,400 --> 00:31:17,320
Speaker 3: conversation with someone they were like, who are you doing?

733
00:31:17,680 --> 00:31:19,440
Speaker 4: Because again it becomes like this thing where it's like,

734
00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:21,120
Speaker 4: I need to know how I can work with you

735
00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:23,880
Speaker 4: and what we're gonna do. And I was just like, me,

736
00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:25,400
Speaker 4: I'm working on me.

737
00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:28,920
Speaker 3: And it was really jarring to them because they were like,

738
00:31:28,920 --> 00:31:30,920
Speaker 3: oh me, and I was like, no, no, no, I'm working

739
00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:32,440
Speaker 3: on me, and they're like yeah, but no, no, no, I'm like,

740
00:31:32,440 --> 00:31:33,880
Speaker 3: what project me?

741
00:31:34,120 --> 00:31:35,960
Speaker 4: The project is me. The thing I'm looking at is me.

742
00:31:36,040 --> 00:31:38,000
Speaker 3: The thing I'm working on is me, me, me and me,

743
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:40,160
Speaker 3: because I'm going to carry me everywhere that I wanted

744
00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:41,920
Speaker 3: to go. And I think in this town and in

745
00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:46,560
Speaker 3: this time, there is a need to have something to

746
00:31:46,640 --> 00:31:50,280
Speaker 3: say for someone else to feel good about you and

747
00:31:50,320 --> 00:31:52,520
Speaker 3: where you're going, or to say, oh I thought you

748
00:31:52,560 --> 00:31:54,560
Speaker 3: would have been doing, or to feel bad about what

749
00:31:54,560 --> 00:31:55,000
Speaker 3: you're doing.

750
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Speaker 4: So it's not just always feeling good, right. And I

751
00:31:57,920 --> 00:32:01,520
Speaker 4: think for me, I needed to rest.

752
00:32:01,760 --> 00:32:04,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, ten years, it's a long time.

753
00:32:04,760 --> 00:32:05,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's a long time.

754
00:32:06,080 --> 00:32:08,360
Speaker 3: Just be like and I'm a whole human, you know,

755
00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:11,280
Speaker 3: having my own experiences, right, And I think I needed

756
00:32:11,320 --> 00:32:13,360
Speaker 3: to rest. I needed to relax, I needed to release,

757
00:32:13,400 --> 00:32:14,560
Speaker 3: I needed to reimagine.

758
00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:16,720
Speaker 4: I needed to dream again. And I've been.

759
00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:18,800
Speaker 3: Dreaming again and being able to exercise on some of

760
00:32:18,800 --> 00:32:20,800
Speaker 3: those dreams and pay my bills at the same time.

761
00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:23,120
Speaker 3: But I think what's also interesting is that we get

762
00:32:23,120 --> 00:32:29,240
Speaker 3: to this space where almost I almost takes the emotional thinking,

763
00:32:29,440 --> 00:32:32,000
Speaker 3: but to get to this space where we feel so

764
00:32:32,760 --> 00:32:37,640
Speaker 3: connected to the things that are not really real in

765
00:32:37,680 --> 00:32:40,840
Speaker 3: our lives about it. And I was really happy to

766
00:32:40,880 --> 00:32:44,000
Speaker 3: spend my mom's birthday with her and my brother's birthday.

767
00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:46,760
Speaker 1: With him because.

768
00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:47,840
Speaker 4: I burst out just like going and going and going.

769
00:32:48,120 --> 00:32:52,800
Speaker 3: And I appreciate the moments that I've had, and I'm

770
00:32:52,800 --> 00:32:56,200
Speaker 3: also appreciating what really really matters in this season where

771
00:32:56,200 --> 00:32:57,160
Speaker 3: I'm at right now.

772
00:32:58,080 --> 00:33:00,400
Speaker 4: Yah, working on me. I love it.

773
00:33:00,800 --> 00:33:04,040
Speaker 1: It is a pressure of like what's next, what if

774
00:33:04,040 --> 00:33:06,560
Speaker 1: I do it? And people like oh, I thought, no,

775
00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:08,880
Speaker 1: Like that's great that. I love when you say I'm

776
00:33:08,880 --> 00:33:10,440
Speaker 1: working on me, because.

777
00:33:10,200 --> 00:33:11,000
Speaker 2: That's a big project.

778
00:33:11,560 --> 00:33:13,000
Speaker 4: It's the biggest project I ever do.

779
00:33:13,480 --> 00:33:16,239
Speaker 3: And it's like, yeah, I'm doing stuff that is more

780
00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:18,320
Speaker 3: visible when I'm working doing some stuff for LA times

781
00:33:18,440 --> 00:33:20,760
Speaker 3: I'm doing working with other filmmakers, and I'm working on

782
00:33:21,280 --> 00:33:24,320
Speaker 3: doing strategy and consulting. All that is great too, But

783
00:33:25,560 --> 00:33:28,160
Speaker 3: I don't know that I ever necessarily need to answer

784
00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:31,880
Speaker 3: the way I used to answer before, and that's nothing

785
00:33:31,920 --> 00:33:32,400
Speaker 3: bad about it.

786
00:33:32,360 --> 00:33:33,800
Speaker 4: I don't think anyone that does it is bad.

787
00:33:34,240 --> 00:33:40,120
Speaker 3: I just think for me, I'm reprogramming for myself to continue.

788
00:33:40,400 --> 00:33:42,520
Speaker 4: It's me everywhere I go. It's me.

789
00:33:42,600 --> 00:33:44,280
Speaker 3: If I told you I'm landing at this place, or

790
00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:46,360
Speaker 3: I'm going to be in house at that place, you

791
00:33:46,360 --> 00:33:47,920
Speaker 3: know what I mean. And I think one of the

792
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:49,720
Speaker 3: things that's been a blessing is like I haven't had

793
00:33:49,760 --> 00:33:51,880
Speaker 3: to go in house somewhere to survive.

794
00:33:51,960 --> 00:33:53,120
Speaker 4: And I think that's.

795
00:33:52,960 --> 00:33:56,080
Speaker 3: What's been interesting in the reimagining the dreaming again, where

796
00:33:56,120 --> 00:33:59,440
Speaker 3: I'm like, wait, I can make money doing different things.

797
00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:03,400
Speaker 4: A word to describe my year every year this year.

798
00:34:03,280 --> 00:34:07,200
Speaker 3: Is multiple wow, okay, multiple streams of peace, multiples of love,

799
00:34:07,400 --> 00:34:10,600
Speaker 3: multiple streams of income, multiple streams of income and revenue,

800
00:34:11,160 --> 00:34:13,160
Speaker 3: but also just multiple streams.

801
00:34:12,760 --> 00:34:14,680
Speaker 4: Of like healing, you know what I'm saying.

802
00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:17,399
Speaker 3: And in my my in twenty three, when I wasn't

803
00:34:17,440 --> 00:34:19,120
Speaker 3: quite sure yet what was going to happen, my.

804
00:34:19,080 --> 00:34:20,120
Speaker 4: Word was illuminate.

805
00:34:20,520 --> 00:34:22,839
Speaker 3: The thing about illumination is that you can only see

806
00:34:22,880 --> 00:34:23,880
Speaker 3: how bright something shines.

807
00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:25,279
Speaker 4: Checkstaposed the darkness.

808
00:34:25,719 --> 00:34:27,920
Speaker 3: I was in a lot of perceived darkness, which I

809
00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:31,040
Speaker 3: now look back and say that was preparation. But in

810
00:34:31,080 --> 00:34:34,879
Speaker 3: my year of probably illuminating the most, there was the

811
00:34:34,880 --> 00:34:38,960
Speaker 3: most perception of darkness around. But it was for me

812
00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:40,799
Speaker 3: to see how bright I could shine and how bright

813
00:34:40,840 --> 00:34:42,880
Speaker 3: I could shine, not how bright I can shine at

814
00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:47,239
Speaker 3: this job with this because the title we can there's

815
00:34:47,280 --> 00:34:49,319
Speaker 3: a job we can go on LinkedIn right now.

816
00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:51,760
Speaker 4: There's a lot of jobs. There's a lot of jobs.

817
00:34:52,880 --> 00:34:53,920
Speaker 4: But who are you without that?

818
00:34:54,160 --> 00:34:56,000
Speaker 3: And that's the question I'm always just like when we

819
00:34:56,040 --> 00:34:59,840
Speaker 3: get wrapped up in this because it's so hard acting, creating,

820
00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:05,000
Speaker 3: conte producing music, it's so difficult that it almost becomes

821
00:35:05,480 --> 00:35:07,919
Speaker 3: your identity because it's what you're doing all of the time.

822
00:35:08,960 --> 00:35:12,359
Speaker 4: What if you couldn't do that? Who are you? How

823
00:35:12,360 --> 00:35:14,520
Speaker 4: do people answer that question? And so I've just been

824
00:35:14,560 --> 00:35:15,560
Speaker 4: working on that myself.

825
00:35:15,680 --> 00:35:18,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that, that's going to ask myself that

826
00:35:18,360 --> 00:35:21,120
Speaker 1: because I do feel like sometimes we get so wrapped

827
00:35:21,200 --> 00:35:24,560
Speaker 1: up in what we do that it becomes who we are.

828
00:35:24,880 --> 00:35:26,920
Speaker 1: And that's not the case at all, Yeah, but it

829
00:35:27,239 --> 00:35:28,560
Speaker 1: is when you're so wrapped up.

830
00:35:28,480 --> 00:35:30,879
Speaker 2: In it, it can become that You'll check it.

831
00:35:30,960 --> 00:35:32,960
Speaker 3: You get one hundred percent and there's nothing wrong with

832
00:35:33,040 --> 00:35:35,960
Speaker 3: it as long as you can just step out of it,

833
00:35:36,160 --> 00:35:40,080
Speaker 3: because it consumed a big part of everything that I

834
00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:42,120
Speaker 3: was doing. When your schedule is crazy, when you're going

835
00:35:42,120 --> 00:35:43,719
Speaker 3: from this thing to this and this thing this thing,

836
00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:46,759
Speaker 3: when it's paying your bills, when you've now able to

837
00:35:46,880 --> 00:35:48,200
Speaker 3: been able to create a life that.

838
00:35:48,200 --> 00:35:49,480
Speaker 4: Before you weren't able to create it.

839
00:35:49,840 --> 00:35:51,759
Speaker 3: For I saw when you were talking to Amber and

840
00:35:51,760 --> 00:35:53,200
Speaker 3: when you're talking abou how y'all first met.

841
00:35:54,800 --> 00:35:58,680
Speaker 4: We love and she's fly all the time A lot

842
00:35:58,760 --> 00:35:59,640
Speaker 4: of time. We love.

843
00:36:00,560 --> 00:36:02,080
Speaker 3: But when she was talking about like I think at

844
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:03,799
Speaker 3: that time you couldn't hear your rent and like the

845
00:36:03,840 --> 00:36:05,920
Speaker 3: person that she was working with, so like there was

846
00:36:06,000 --> 00:36:08,200
Speaker 3: there was a time, and now you're living in a

847
00:36:08,200 --> 00:36:10,560
Speaker 3: way where you're like, wow, I wanted this and now

848
00:36:10,600 --> 00:36:11,120
Speaker 3: I'm in it.

849
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:14,600
Speaker 4: Yes, you know what I'm saying, So yeah.

850
00:36:14,160 --> 00:36:14,480
Speaker 2: That's right.

851
00:36:14,560 --> 00:36:17,240
Speaker 1: You said something about I was too exhausted to dream

852
00:36:17,320 --> 00:36:20,200
Speaker 1: my own dreams, and I had. I was talking to

853
00:36:20,239 --> 00:36:22,280
Speaker 1: someone and they were like, well, if it's from God,

854
00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:25,680
Speaker 1: you won't be exhausted. You may be tired, but you

855
00:36:25,719 --> 00:36:27,480
Speaker 1: won't be exhausted. And when you said that, it reminded

856
00:36:27,480 --> 00:36:29,360
Speaker 1: me that I was like, because I was like this.

857
00:36:29,520 --> 00:36:32,400
Speaker 1: Some times I'm like right on the brink, Like, if

858
00:36:32,400 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 1: it's from God, it won't exhaust you. You may be tired,

859
00:36:35,719 --> 00:36:36,880
Speaker 1: but it won't be exhaustion.

860
00:36:37,480 --> 00:36:40,040
Speaker 4: I need to re evaluate a few things. Yeah, No,

861
00:36:40,120 --> 00:36:40,879
Speaker 4: that's really And I.

862
00:36:40,840 --> 00:36:43,160
Speaker 1: Was dan because he won't put more on you than

863
00:36:43,160 --> 00:36:45,799
Speaker 1: you can bear. And I do feel like sometimes I'm

864
00:36:45,880 --> 00:36:47,359
Speaker 1: right on the brink of it. I'm like, Okay, Lord,

865
00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:49,759
Speaker 1: is this in your wheel because I'm about to.

866
00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:55,319
Speaker 4: I'm tired, super tired. Yeah, I'm resting. Yeah.

867
00:36:56,200 --> 00:36:58,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, So when you said that, it made me think

868
00:36:58,880 --> 00:36:59,160
Speaker 2: of that.

869
00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:00,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, and.

870
00:37:03,400 --> 00:37:07,080
Speaker 3: What are we willing to release in order to step

871
00:37:07,080 --> 00:37:09,800
Speaker 3: into what we want to become? And it's so easy

872
00:37:09,800 --> 00:37:12,239
Speaker 3: to sit on this beautiful couch, well lit and say that.

873
00:37:12,280 --> 00:37:15,080
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying, it's the struggle. It's hard.

874
00:37:15,080 --> 00:37:16,960
Speaker 3: It's hard because your heart is in it. It's hard

875
00:37:17,000 --> 00:37:18,279
Speaker 3: because the attachment is in it.

876
00:37:18,320 --> 00:37:20,600
Speaker 4: It's hard because identity is in it.

877
00:37:21,320 --> 00:37:24,680
Speaker 3: Whether it's a relationship with someone that you love very much,

878
00:37:25,040 --> 00:37:27,320
Speaker 3: whether it's a job or someone that you love very much,

879
00:37:27,480 --> 00:37:30,359
Speaker 3: whether it's your relationship with yourself that you're figuring out,

880
00:37:30,760 --> 00:37:33,960
Speaker 3: or the things that we've Because sometimes you're like is

881
00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:35,560
Speaker 3: it intuition or is it insecurity?

882
00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:40,680
Speaker 4: Because sometimes we're like, this is my intuition.

883
00:37:41,760 --> 00:37:45,160
Speaker 3: Or is that your insecurity that's causing you to do that?

884
00:37:45,200 --> 00:37:47,520
Speaker 4: And I've been both. I've been both, but I'm.

885
00:37:47,400 --> 00:37:49,759
Speaker 5: Like, that was my intuition lit to me, I mean,

886
00:37:49,840 --> 00:37:51,799
Speaker 5: it kind of was my intuition, but it's also my

887
00:37:51,840 --> 00:37:54,719
Speaker 5: insecurity and so like taking that space to actually work

888
00:37:54,760 --> 00:37:56,960
Speaker 5: on what those things are to be able to decipher

889
00:37:57,480 --> 00:37:58,480
Speaker 5: you know what I mean what that is.

890
00:37:58,719 --> 00:38:03,120
Speaker 3: But speaking about dreaming, what's been interesting to me? Even

891
00:38:03,760 --> 00:38:05,759
Speaker 3: when I was like, Okay, what what is it? What

892
00:38:05,760 --> 00:38:07,520
Speaker 3: do I want to do? How do I want to play?

893
00:38:07,560 --> 00:38:09,799
Speaker 3: What do I want to do? I just realized my

894
00:38:09,920 --> 00:38:13,839
Speaker 3: approach to dreaming is different. I'm such a producer, I'm

895
00:38:13,880 --> 00:38:15,680
Speaker 3: such a I need to make it happy. Even before

896
00:38:15,680 --> 00:38:20,279
Speaker 3: we were sitting out like what's the angle? But what's

897
00:38:20,320 --> 00:38:22,320
Speaker 3: been interesting for me in this season is like, Sean,

898
00:38:22,360 --> 00:38:23,200
Speaker 3: you've produced a lot.

899
00:38:23,280 --> 00:38:24,640
Speaker 4: What are you going to allow.

900
00:38:25,920 --> 00:38:28,480
Speaker 3: Make space for acceptance and allowance because I'm so used

901
00:38:28,480 --> 00:38:30,399
Speaker 3: to being like, Okay, I'm gonna do this, put this together,

902
00:38:30,440 --> 00:38:32,359
Speaker 3: and I'm doing and it's like I feel like I

903
00:38:32,360 --> 00:38:35,279
Speaker 3: have blessings on reserve that were like trying to be

904
00:38:35,280 --> 00:38:37,080
Speaker 3: shipped to me, but I was moving the address, so

905
00:38:37,120 --> 00:38:40,080
Speaker 3: it was like return decender and I needed to actually.

906
00:38:39,760 --> 00:38:44,160
Speaker 4: Sit in the unknowing allow that to happen.

907
00:38:44,520 --> 00:38:47,560
Speaker 3: Because people want to help you, people want to show

908
00:38:47,640 --> 00:38:50,239
Speaker 3: up for you. But if you keep moving houses, they

909
00:38:50,320 --> 00:38:52,080
Speaker 3: keep going to the house looking for you to deliver

910
00:38:52,120 --> 00:38:54,239
Speaker 3: the package to you. And that person's god try to

911
00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:56,399
Speaker 3: deliver that to you, it's difficult for him.

912
00:38:56,320 --> 00:38:57,920
Speaker 4: To find you. You know what I'm saying. So my

913
00:38:58,000 --> 00:38:59,960
Speaker 4: approach to dreams have been different.

914
00:39:00,040 --> 00:39:04,719
Speaker 3: And then my other thing is is this really my dream?

915
00:39:04,880 --> 00:39:06,520
Speaker 3: Or is this the thing that I think I need

916
00:39:06,560 --> 00:39:08,440
Speaker 3: to do to get the bag? Is this the thing

917
00:39:08,480 --> 00:39:09,120
Speaker 3: that I need to do.

918
00:39:09,080 --> 00:39:10,040
Speaker 4: To seem valuable.

919
00:39:10,480 --> 00:39:11,600
Speaker 3: Is this the thing that I need to do to

920
00:39:11,640 --> 00:39:14,640
Speaker 3: seem like I'm doing well? So is it actually my

921
00:39:14,760 --> 00:39:16,560
Speaker 3: dream that I'm dreaming or is this the dream that

922
00:39:16,640 --> 00:39:20,480
Speaker 3: I think I should be dreaming at this phase? And

923
00:39:20,520 --> 00:39:23,279
Speaker 3: then what am I willing to release? And then the

924
00:39:23,280 --> 00:39:27,040
Speaker 3: hardest part is like saying it out loud, writing it down,

925
00:39:27,160 --> 00:39:31,520
Speaker 3: whatever your practice is, with no resistance, no resistance. I

926
00:39:31,560 --> 00:39:33,680
Speaker 3: want to speak all over the world and get paid

927
00:39:33,719 --> 00:39:34,760
Speaker 3: to speak all over the world.

928
00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:37,840
Speaker 4: That's it not how when? Well, who's going to do that?

929
00:39:38,880 --> 00:39:40,600
Speaker 4: You just get to a point where you can say

930
00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:42,360
Speaker 4: it and then just let it be.

931
00:39:43,560 --> 00:39:46,839
Speaker 3: That's been so my approach to dreaming has I've been

932
00:39:46,840 --> 00:39:49,960
Speaker 3: taking a lot of time on that than just being

933
00:39:49,960 --> 00:39:52,239
Speaker 3: like the dream is this, because the dream is going

934
00:39:52,320 --> 00:39:54,360
Speaker 3: to come. The dream is always shifting and moving. The

935
00:39:54,440 --> 00:39:57,640
Speaker 3: dream is always repositioning itself. Right, it's centered in something,

936
00:39:57,680 --> 00:40:00,880
Speaker 3: but it's repositioning itself. But how I out to find me?

937
00:40:02,239 --> 00:40:02,800
Speaker 3: That's a change?

938
00:40:02,880 --> 00:40:04,480
Speaker 2: Change, Yeah, that's a change.

939
00:40:04,680 --> 00:40:06,520
Speaker 1: I wanted to ask you just looking at you and

940
00:40:06,640 --> 00:40:08,440
Speaker 1: like you've seen it, Like you're in a very peaceful

941
00:40:09,120 --> 00:40:11,000
Speaker 1: space right now in your life.

942
00:40:11,160 --> 00:40:12,239
Speaker 2: What what are you doing?

943
00:40:12,320 --> 00:40:14,799
Speaker 1: What have you what steps have you taken to reach

944
00:40:14,880 --> 00:40:16,960
Speaker 1: this state? Are you in a peaceful place? Because you

945
00:40:17,200 --> 00:40:20,560
Speaker 1: feel very peaceful? And I often want to know, like

946
00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:22,680
Speaker 1: what do people do to like reach that phase in

947
00:40:22,680 --> 00:40:24,799
Speaker 1: their life? And then what are some practices that you

948
00:40:24,840 --> 00:40:27,600
Speaker 1: put in a place that make you feel at most peace?

949
00:40:28,960 --> 00:40:34,000
Speaker 3: Who sometimes sometimes I feel like I'm I feel really peaceful,

950
00:40:34,080 --> 00:40:37,839
Speaker 3: not all the time, sometimes more times than not. Now

951
00:40:37,960 --> 00:40:42,040
Speaker 3: I feel very peaceful, But you're always just like questioning,

952
00:40:42,520 --> 00:40:44,319
Speaker 3: even as confident as you can feel and be your

953
00:40:44,400 --> 00:40:45,480
Speaker 3: questioning like did I do that?

954
00:40:45,520 --> 00:40:47,000
Speaker 4: Did I am? I? Am? I? Am I?

955
00:40:47,640 --> 00:40:49,160
Speaker 3: The thing that I've been doing a lot is just

956
00:40:49,200 --> 00:40:51,200
Speaker 3: spending time with myself, reminding myself.

957
00:40:51,239 --> 00:40:54,080
Speaker 4: I talk to myself a lot. I talk to myself

958
00:40:54,160 --> 00:40:54,399
Speaker 4: a lot.

959
00:40:54,440 --> 00:40:57,200
Speaker 2: I love you, oh mmmm, I love that.

960
00:40:57,520 --> 00:40:58,440
Speaker 4: Because I think.

961
00:41:00,520 --> 00:41:03,840
Speaker 3: I think I've been wanting a lot of other people

962
00:41:04,000 --> 00:41:05,279
Speaker 3: to say certain things to me.

963
00:41:06,840 --> 00:41:08,040
Speaker 4: That I really needed.

964
00:41:07,760 --> 00:41:11,960
Speaker 3: To say to myself, and so I'm speaking to myself

965
00:41:12,080 --> 00:41:17,080
Speaker 3: a lot more. The things that I feel like are limiting,

966
00:41:17,400 --> 00:41:20,040
Speaker 3: I'm redefining is that even a limit? And who told

967
00:41:20,040 --> 00:41:21,520
Speaker 3: me that was a limit? And so like who am

968
00:41:21,520 --> 00:41:23,239
Speaker 3: I uninterrupted? And what interrupted me?

969
00:41:24,160 --> 00:41:25,200
Speaker 2: What is going on today?

970
00:41:25,400 --> 00:41:28,040
Speaker 3: I mean, no, it's the same thing, but because it's

971
00:41:28,080 --> 00:41:32,239
Speaker 3: like it's that that feeling of like that really when

972
00:41:32,239 --> 00:41:35,160
Speaker 3: you sit with yourself without any outside influences and you're

973
00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:37,640
Speaker 3: just like, you know yourself, you know the things that

974
00:41:37,680 --> 00:41:39,439
Speaker 3: you want to work on, the things that you want

975
00:41:39,480 --> 00:41:41,160
Speaker 3: that your heart is calling out, and you're like, I

976
00:41:41,200 --> 00:41:44,920
Speaker 3: don't know how this is going to happen. But I've

977
00:41:44,960 --> 00:41:47,719
Speaker 3: increased speaking to myself because I've been saying I've been

978
00:41:47,760 --> 00:41:53,440
Speaker 3: wanting a love that I think was really vacant within me.

979
00:41:53,719 --> 00:41:54,839
Speaker 4: Not because my parents are great.

980
00:41:54,840 --> 00:41:57,640
Speaker 3: I had a great childhood, and I think that I

981
00:41:57,680 --> 00:42:02,839
Speaker 3: have allowed profess only certain things because of that that

982
00:42:02,960 --> 00:42:06,920
Speaker 3: need or that value right you do it professionally and personally,

983
00:42:08,400 --> 00:42:10,879
Speaker 3: and I think that has been the biggest part of it.

984
00:42:10,960 --> 00:42:14,080
Speaker 3: And it's not that I don't speak when I'm not

985
00:42:14,120 --> 00:42:16,279
Speaker 3: in a but it's who am I speaking it to

986
00:42:17,120 --> 00:42:24,560
Speaker 3: That's changed a lot for me, because I realize some

987
00:42:24,600 --> 00:42:28,160
Speaker 3: people will hold space for you. Everybody won't hold space

988
00:42:28,200 --> 00:42:34,240
Speaker 3: for you at your moments where you're changing and finding yourself,

989
00:42:34,800 --> 00:42:38,080
Speaker 3: you know. And so I've been doing my best to

990
00:42:38,120 --> 00:42:40,520
Speaker 3: replace a lot of that. But I'm peaceful most of

991
00:42:40,560 --> 00:42:44,040
Speaker 3: the time. I feel peaceful most of the time. I

992
00:42:44,080 --> 00:42:49,560
Speaker 3: am confident in the fact that I have seen God

993
00:42:49,680 --> 00:42:52,640
Speaker 3: do so many things in my life that that's not

994
00:42:52,680 --> 00:42:53,120
Speaker 3: the thing.

995
00:42:53,000 --> 00:42:54,960
Speaker 4: I'm questioning, you know what I mean?

996
00:42:56,239 --> 00:43:00,520
Speaker 3: Even when I don't know how you're question I'm like,

997
00:43:00,560 --> 00:43:02,160
Speaker 3: I know what's coming, I may not know what it is.

998
00:43:02,200 --> 00:43:03,960
Speaker 3: Am I willing to wait for it? Am I willing

999
00:43:03,960 --> 00:43:05,719
Speaker 3: to release something without knowing what's on the.

1000
00:43:05,640 --> 00:43:07,680
Speaker 4: Other side of it? What am I willing to become

1001
00:43:07,840 --> 00:43:08,480
Speaker 4: in order to do that?

1002
00:43:08,520 --> 00:43:10,759
Speaker 3: Am I willing to do the harder thing? But I've

1003
00:43:10,800 --> 00:43:14,240
Speaker 3: learned I can do hard things. I can do hard things.

1004
00:43:15,320 --> 00:43:16,920
Speaker 3: I need to write people around me. I need to

1005
00:43:16,920 --> 00:43:19,560
Speaker 3: be the right person to be around as well. But

1006
00:43:19,600 --> 00:43:22,359
Speaker 3: I can do hard things. So yeah, I mean I am.

1007
00:43:22,760 --> 00:43:24,840
Speaker 3: I'm at a good place right now. I am in

1008
00:43:24,880 --> 00:43:26,359
Speaker 3: a good place right now. And when I'm not at

1009
00:43:26,360 --> 00:43:27,760
Speaker 3: a good place, I'm honest about that.

1010
00:43:27,760 --> 00:43:30,759
Speaker 2: That's good. That's good. Does it ever feel heavy too?

1011
00:43:31,600 --> 00:43:33,200
Speaker 1: Because I'm sure like a lot of people look at

1012
00:43:33,200 --> 00:43:34,440
Speaker 1: you like you've got it all together?

1013
00:43:35,000 --> 00:43:35,799
Speaker 2: Does it ever get heavy?

1014
00:43:35,800 --> 00:43:39,279
Speaker 1: Because even when you walk in here, it's like.

1015
00:43:38,200 --> 00:43:40,560
Speaker 2: Like you ever feel like you got to be like at.

1016
00:43:40,480 --> 00:43:43,560
Speaker 1: A certain energy and like because you just just because

1017
00:43:43,800 --> 00:43:45,440
Speaker 1: you know, some days you just don't feel like that.

1018
00:43:45,600 --> 00:43:47,440
Speaker 2: But like when we see you, it's just like.

1019
00:43:49,120 --> 00:43:52,040
Speaker 4: You know, you might be like I don't feel like no, no, Well.

1020
00:43:51,920 --> 00:43:54,680
Speaker 3: You know what the honest thing is is that I

1021
00:43:54,760 --> 00:43:59,640
Speaker 3: spend a lot of time alone as much as I can. Yeah,

1022
00:44:02,120 --> 00:44:03,600
Speaker 3: I am extroverted.

1023
00:44:03,640 --> 00:44:05,200
Speaker 4: I'm also very introverted.

1024
00:44:06,160 --> 00:44:07,920
Speaker 2: I'm like the biggest introverted extrovert.

1025
00:44:08,120 --> 00:44:11,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, It's like I can go out and do the things,

1026
00:44:12,760 --> 00:44:15,319
Speaker 3: I also need time to just like recharge and do

1027
00:44:15,400 --> 00:44:17,200
Speaker 3: whatever the thing is that I need to do, whether

1028
00:44:17,239 --> 00:44:18,959
Speaker 3: that's you know what I'm saying, catching up on something

1029
00:44:19,080 --> 00:44:21,640
Speaker 3: on the show, and it's just like being at the crab.

1030
00:44:21,760 --> 00:44:24,080
Speaker 3: That's why the gym is important for me. Fitness is

1031
00:44:24,200 --> 00:44:30,480
Speaker 3: very important for me. It's no but the benefits of it,

1032
00:44:30,520 --> 00:44:34,120
Speaker 3: I think, are you know, aesthetic, but it's mental for me.

1033
00:44:34,239 --> 00:44:37,200
Speaker 4: And for me, it's also mental the discipline.

1034
00:44:36,680 --> 00:44:39,240
Speaker 3: Because I've realized whatever I want and as I continue

1035
00:44:39,239 --> 00:44:42,080
Speaker 3: to dream bigger, it's a higher level of discipline required.

1036
00:44:42,560 --> 00:44:43,680
Speaker 4: It's a higher level.

1037
00:44:43,480 --> 00:44:46,239
Speaker 3: Of releasing required, it's a higher level of decisiveness, It's

1038
00:44:46,239 --> 00:44:49,319
Speaker 3: a higher level of what are you willing to really

1039
00:44:49,400 --> 00:44:51,240
Speaker 3: let go of to do this?

1040
00:44:51,520 --> 00:44:53,480
Speaker 1: I feel like we need to change the title. You

1041
00:44:53,560 --> 00:44:55,680
Speaker 1: know that keeps coming up and that's a real thing.

1042
00:44:55,719 --> 00:44:56,839
Speaker 2: What are you willing to.

1043
00:44:56,840 --> 00:44:58,399
Speaker 4: Let go of? What are you willing to let go off?

1044
00:44:58,400 --> 00:45:00,719
Speaker 3: Because it's like it's we all don't want to like

1045
00:45:00,800 --> 00:45:02,520
Speaker 3: be the Space Shuttle, and we all want to take off,

1046
00:45:02,520 --> 00:45:05,240
Speaker 3: and the Space Shuttle takes off. What the Space Shuttle

1047
00:45:05,280 --> 00:45:10,120
Speaker 3: goes into space with is not what it took off with. Yeah,

1048
00:45:10,239 --> 00:45:13,200
Speaker 3: the boosters, all of that, everything drops off and things

1049
00:45:13,280 --> 00:45:14,400
Speaker 3: drop off as you get.

1050
00:45:14,239 --> 00:45:15,000
Speaker 4: To next levels.

1051
00:45:15,160 --> 00:45:16,280
Speaker 2: It's the same with us.

1052
00:45:16,560 --> 00:45:19,880
Speaker 3: But sometimes we I have wanted to hold on to things,

1053
00:45:20,040 --> 00:45:24,520
Speaker 3: situations and circumstances because it feels good, because it's comfortable,

1054
00:45:24,560 --> 00:45:26,919
Speaker 3: because you love it, because you love them, because because

1055
00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:29,200
Speaker 3: you love the job, you love what it's giving you.

1056
00:45:29,640 --> 00:45:31,520
Speaker 4: But I also know that I'm supposed to go to space,

1057
00:45:32,280 --> 00:45:34,799
Speaker 4: and so like, I can't get there with those things.

1058
00:45:34,520 --> 00:45:37,640
Speaker 3: And so like life will cause you, like the things

1059
00:45:37,640 --> 00:45:40,000
Speaker 3: that you take off with aren't always the things that can.

1060
00:45:39,920 --> 00:45:44,880
Speaker 4: Go with you the hard way? Yeah, yeah, yeah.

1061
00:45:45,239 --> 00:45:46,399
Speaker 2: The hard way. And that's so true.

1062
00:45:47,160 --> 00:45:49,360
Speaker 1: My therapist when I was going through a season my

1063
00:45:49,400 --> 00:45:52,040
Speaker 1: life I called the purging season, or I was having

1064
00:45:52,080 --> 00:45:53,799
Speaker 1: to let people go and things go.

1065
00:45:54,120 --> 00:45:56,080
Speaker 4: I'm glad I was on that list. I made it

1066
00:45:56,080 --> 00:46:00,680
Speaker 4: through the purging.

1067
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:01,480
Speaker 2: It got real.

1068
00:46:02,520 --> 00:46:04,600
Speaker 1: But she said to me, she said, Crystal, everyone that

1069
00:46:04,640 --> 00:46:07,720
Speaker 1: came with you can't go. And even that in itself

1070
00:46:07,840 --> 00:46:11,239
Speaker 1: was like, Okay, this is this is just a part

1071
00:46:11,280 --> 00:46:13,160
Speaker 1: of you know, and it really is. It's a part

1072
00:46:13,160 --> 00:46:15,279
Speaker 1: of evolution, is a part of life. It's a part

1073
00:46:15,280 --> 00:46:18,359
Speaker 1: of growing. And I think when you realize that it's

1074
00:46:18,560 --> 00:46:21,879
Speaker 1: it's not always a bad thing. You know it's okay,

1075
00:46:21,520 --> 00:46:22,920
Speaker 1: I've got grown this.

1076
00:46:23,000 --> 00:46:24,480
Speaker 2: Or this means I'm going to another level.

1077
00:46:24,960 --> 00:46:26,600
Speaker 1: And most times it's a it's a good thing, and

1078
00:46:26,640 --> 00:46:29,839
Speaker 1: you're ridding yourself of some person or thing that wasn't

1079
00:46:29,840 --> 00:46:30,600
Speaker 1: good for you anyway.

1080
00:46:31,320 --> 00:46:33,080
Speaker 3: And the real thing is sometimes you're the thing you

1081
00:46:33,120 --> 00:46:37,640
Speaker 3: need to let go. Yes, yes, sometimes you're the limited belief.

1082
00:46:37,920 --> 00:46:38,640
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.

1083
00:46:38,920 --> 00:46:41,319
Speaker 3: And I've done that too, where oh it's that thing,

1084
00:46:41,640 --> 00:46:47,359
Speaker 3: that thing, and I'm like, oh, my ideas, my things

1085
00:46:47,360 --> 00:46:49,440
Speaker 3: that are no longer serving where I actually want to go,

1086
00:46:49,680 --> 00:46:52,279
Speaker 3: how I need to move forward in life, and I

1087
00:46:52,320 --> 00:46:54,000
Speaker 3: can't get there because of me.

1088
00:46:54,320 --> 00:46:58,400
Speaker 1: And I tell you that's so true. I had a

1089
00:46:58,440 --> 00:47:00,759
Speaker 1: cousin of mine. I was like, you, you gotta get

1090
00:47:00,800 --> 00:47:03,600
Speaker 1: at this mindset. You're never gonna grow if you keep

1091
00:47:03,600 --> 00:47:04,960
Speaker 1: thinking this, And.

1092
00:47:04,920 --> 00:47:06,160
Speaker 2: She was like, I didn't think about that.

1093
00:47:06,200 --> 00:47:08,239
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, I was like, I don't think

1094
00:47:08,280 --> 00:47:10,359
Speaker 1: the same way. I thought, you know what I'm saying

1095
00:47:10,360 --> 00:47:11,920
Speaker 1: when I was twenty, Yeah, you know what I'm saying.

1096
00:47:11,960 --> 00:47:14,160
Speaker 1: Then when I turned thirty, I didn't think the same way.

1097
00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:14,359
Speaker 4: Then.

1098
00:47:14,520 --> 00:47:17,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, I said, you continue to grow and you have

1099
00:47:17,200 --> 00:47:18,960
Speaker 2: to evolve with where you're going.

1100
00:47:19,120 --> 00:47:21,759
Speaker 1: Or you'll never grow, And that is celtry. Sometimes we

1101
00:47:21,800 --> 00:47:23,960
Speaker 1: can be our own worst enemy and.

1102
00:47:23,960 --> 00:47:27,880
Speaker 3: Be like and just asking the question, poking the holes,

1103
00:47:27,880 --> 00:47:30,640
Speaker 3: like what is growth for me? Because growth for me

1104
00:47:31,200 --> 00:47:34,160
Speaker 3: might be something different, right, growth for your cousin, growth

1105
00:47:34,200 --> 00:47:34,360
Speaker 3: for it.

1106
00:47:34,440 --> 00:47:38,800
Speaker 4: You know, success all these things cause like being able

1107
00:47:38,880 --> 00:47:39,560
Speaker 4: to move.

1108
00:47:39,400 --> 00:47:43,920
Speaker 3: And do different things and walk away from a job

1109
00:47:44,040 --> 00:47:46,280
Speaker 3: or a career or a thing that you once thought

1110
00:47:46,440 --> 00:47:49,120
Speaker 3: was a thing. Right, that's that might be the most

1111
00:47:49,120 --> 00:47:51,320
Speaker 3: successful thing you ever did, and to somebody else is

1112
00:47:51,320 --> 00:47:52,160
Speaker 3: a big question mark.

1113
00:47:52,320 --> 00:47:56,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, when I like, what are you're gonna go to

1114
00:47:56,800 --> 00:47:57,759
Speaker 1: Atlanta pursue music?

1115
00:47:58,560 --> 00:47:58,759
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1116
00:47:58,920 --> 00:48:02,760
Speaker 2: I literally quit a very stable job with benefits and.

1117
00:48:02,760 --> 00:48:06,440
Speaker 1: Health insurance to go do something I had no idea

1118
00:48:06,640 --> 00:48:08,520
Speaker 1: like how I was going to do it or anything.

1119
00:48:08,560 --> 00:48:11,439
Speaker 2: And everybody's looking to be like, you need to pray

1120
00:48:11,440 --> 00:48:11,799
Speaker 2: about that.

1121
00:48:12,920 --> 00:48:16,080
Speaker 3: The way, Yeah, and because and see that's the thing,

1122
00:48:16,160 --> 00:48:17,880
Speaker 3: And because you prayed about it, they think you're supposed

1123
00:48:17,880 --> 00:48:18,960
Speaker 3: to have an immediate answer to it.

1124
00:48:19,000 --> 00:48:21,879
Speaker 4: And it's like that's the faith. That's the walk. The

1125
00:48:21,920 --> 00:48:24,400
Speaker 4: walk is walking without.

1126
00:48:24,120 --> 00:48:26,960
Speaker 3: The thing being completely clear, but walking anyway, you know

1127
00:48:26,960 --> 00:48:27,520
Speaker 3: what I'm saying.

1128
00:48:27,560 --> 00:48:29,040
Speaker 4: And I think that like we.

1129
00:48:30,640 --> 00:48:34,000
Speaker 3: People project their ideas of what faith is and the

1130
00:48:34,120 --> 00:48:36,799
Speaker 3: and the limitations of what it can be. Sometimes they

1131
00:48:36,840 --> 00:48:38,520
Speaker 3: do it to protect you, they do, but they think

1132
00:48:38,520 --> 00:48:40,759
Speaker 3: they're doing it to protect you. But you went from

1133
00:48:40,800 --> 00:48:43,759
Speaker 3: there music, costume design and what if you're stand on

1134
00:48:43,800 --> 00:48:46,080
Speaker 3: the hill and there's nothing wrong with anyone who's still

1135
00:48:46,120 --> 00:48:46,279
Speaker 3: on that.

1136
00:48:46,360 --> 00:48:49,280
Speaker 4: Hell, y'all stay on the hill, but you're.

1137
00:48:49,760 --> 00:48:52,640
Speaker 3: You're on your own hill. Yeah, you know what I'm saying.

1138
00:48:52,719 --> 00:48:54,319
Speaker 3: And that's the part about it is where it's like,

1139
00:48:54,400 --> 00:48:56,920
Speaker 3: what are you willing to walk away from to step

1140
00:48:56,920 --> 00:48:57,880
Speaker 3: into something different?

1141
00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:00,560
Speaker 2: Me earlier?

1142
00:49:00,640 --> 00:49:03,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, what I had learned about myself in this whole process. Yeah,

1143
00:49:03,320 --> 00:49:05,680
Speaker 1: and I was like doing it scared, Yeah, because a

1144
00:49:05,719 --> 00:49:07,239
Speaker 1: lot of times you don't know what's on the other

1145
00:49:07,280 --> 00:49:08,600
Speaker 1: side of that step that.

1146
00:49:08,520 --> 00:49:09,120
Speaker 2: You have to take.

1147
00:49:09,320 --> 00:49:11,000
Speaker 4: Yeah. And I think too, Crystal.

1148
00:49:11,040 --> 00:49:19,399
Speaker 3: It's like we romanticize success, we romanticize love, romanticize.

1149
00:49:18,920 --> 00:49:21,000
Speaker 4: What it is, and we make it this.

1150
00:49:21,840 --> 00:49:23,640
Speaker 3: If it's hard, that must mean it's not for me.

1151
00:49:24,640 --> 00:49:26,759
Speaker 3: Or if it doesn't work out that one time, that

1152
00:49:26,800 --> 00:49:29,759
Speaker 3: must mean it's not for me. That's why there's auditions, right,

1153
00:49:29,800 --> 00:49:31,520
Speaker 3: because you go on auditions you don't get everything.

1154
00:49:31,520 --> 00:49:33,239
Speaker 4: You go on an audition for it. Here's the other thing.

1155
00:49:33,560 --> 00:49:36,239
Speaker 4: The person who got the thing is necessarily better than

1156
00:49:36,239 --> 00:49:38,160
Speaker 4: you either, you know what I'm saying.

1157
00:49:38,239 --> 00:49:41,560
Speaker 3: And so like the constant audition of life is going

1158
00:49:41,680 --> 00:49:44,200
Speaker 3: at it and expecting and knowing that you will be

1159
00:49:44,239 --> 00:49:46,120
Speaker 3: told no, that it's not going to work, that you

1160
00:49:46,160 --> 00:49:47,440
Speaker 3: didn't get picked this time.

1161
00:49:47,960 --> 00:49:50,239
Speaker 4: But that doesn't mean that it's not for you.

1162
00:49:50,320 --> 00:49:52,640
Speaker 3: It could just be known not right now, right And

1163
00:49:52,680 --> 00:49:54,520
Speaker 3: I think that's a hard thing to kind of process

1164
00:49:54,600 --> 00:49:57,280
Speaker 3: when it's someone's dreams and someone's going after the dreams

1165
00:49:57,320 --> 00:49:59,239
Speaker 3: with all of their money in their pocket right now.

1166
00:49:59,280 --> 00:50:01,239
Speaker 3: Somebody's going to the dream staying on somebody's couch, so

1167
00:50:01,640 --> 00:50:03,880
Speaker 3: to dreams, living in their car right now, and they

1168
00:50:03,920 --> 00:50:06,799
Speaker 3: can't have another no. But that that no is only

1169
00:50:06,840 --> 00:50:10,280
Speaker 3: really kind of really propelling you towards a guest yes later.

1170
00:50:10,520 --> 00:50:11,480
Speaker 4: But it's your yes.

1171
00:50:11,520 --> 00:50:14,960
Speaker 3: It's a yes that's going to be undeniable yes. And

1172
00:50:15,040 --> 00:50:16,440
Speaker 3: when you get the yes, it might not look like

1173
00:50:16,480 --> 00:50:17,080
Speaker 3: you think it is.

1174
00:50:17,400 --> 00:50:19,839
Speaker 2: It never does, but it blows your mind. It's like, ah,

1175
00:50:20,280 --> 00:50:21,319
Speaker 2: I never thought it was gonna be this.

1176
00:50:21,640 --> 00:50:24,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, everybody's trying out for the NFL. Everyone's not going

1177
00:50:24,120 --> 00:50:26,440
Speaker 3: to be the star football player. No, but you might

1178
00:50:26,440 --> 00:50:29,680
Speaker 3: be the coach, might be the chairman, you might have

1179
00:50:29,800 --> 00:50:31,560
Speaker 3: other different avenues and how you.

1180
00:50:31,440 --> 00:50:32,080
Speaker 4: Can be in it.

1181
00:50:32,239 --> 00:50:34,000
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying, and the same thing, but

1182
00:50:34,360 --> 00:50:36,680
Speaker 3: we have such a distorted view I think of what

1183
00:50:36,719 --> 00:50:37,960
Speaker 3: it can be because you're.

1184
00:50:37,880 --> 00:50:40,440
Speaker 4: So protective and precious about what we think it can be.

1185
00:50:44,960 --> 00:50:47,920
Speaker 1: To close, Sean, I want to ask you what brings

1186
00:50:47,920 --> 00:50:48,600
Speaker 1: you joy.

1187
00:50:50,239 --> 00:50:53,960
Speaker 3: Right now? No, seriously, and I say that.

1188
00:50:54,800 --> 00:50:58,440
Speaker 4: No. I say that because it's like everything else is

1189
00:50:58,480 --> 00:50:59,200
Speaker 4: so temporary.

1190
00:51:00,640 --> 00:51:02,319
Speaker 3: I can tell you what brings me Joy's like I

1191
00:51:02,320 --> 00:51:04,160
Speaker 3: can go get this, I can go buy this, I

1192
00:51:04,200 --> 00:51:05,240
Speaker 3: can go make this money.

1193
00:51:05,080 --> 00:51:05,919
Speaker 4: I can go. Yeah.

1194
00:51:06,600 --> 00:51:10,720
Speaker 3: Community brings me joy, having conversations, being able to share

1195
00:51:12,200 --> 00:51:14,760
Speaker 3: when things aren't good, being able to leave a voice note,

1196
00:51:14,960 --> 00:51:17,200
Speaker 3: being able to get one back, being able to pray

1197
00:51:17,440 --> 00:51:20,600
Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying, and being able to remind

1198
00:51:20,719 --> 00:51:23,880
Speaker 3: myself that like, I'm valuable, I'm lovable even with the

1199
00:51:23,920 --> 00:51:26,799
Speaker 3: things that I'm working through and figuring out, and being

1200
00:51:26,800 --> 00:51:29,360
Speaker 3: able to have some of the other side of the couch.

1201
00:51:29,440 --> 00:51:30,799
Speaker 4: That's like I see you, and.

1202
00:51:30,760 --> 00:51:32,640
Speaker 3: You're doing good, even though you're not where you think

1203
00:51:32,680 --> 00:51:34,239
Speaker 3: you want to do, where you want to be right now.

1204
00:51:34,880 --> 00:51:37,160
Speaker 4: What's bringing me Joy's community?

1205
00:51:36,480 --> 00:51:40,960
Speaker 2: I love it, Sean. Thank you you are such a delight.

1206
00:51:41,000 --> 00:51:43,000
Speaker 4: Thank you so much. I love you and I'm so

1207
00:51:43,000 --> 00:51:44,759
Speaker 4: proud of you. I love you too. Yeah, I love

1208
00:51:44,800 --> 00:51:45,239
Speaker 4: you so much.

1209
00:51:45,280 --> 00:51:49,600
Speaker 1: So the close out of the show, we're going to

1210
00:51:49,680 --> 00:51:51,240
Speaker 1: do what we call positive outcomes.

1211
00:51:51,280 --> 00:51:51,719
Speaker 4: Oh dope.

1212
00:51:52,200 --> 00:51:55,560
Speaker 2: The listeners right in and we give them advice.

1213
00:51:55,640 --> 00:51:56,320
Speaker 4: Oh dope.

1214
00:51:56,400 --> 00:51:59,920
Speaker 2: So this letter is from Soriah. I'm Sarriah.

1215
00:52:00,600 --> 00:52:02,640
Speaker 1: I have in the past five years been big on

1216
00:52:02,719 --> 00:52:06,400
Speaker 1: personal development and mental health and becoming more productive and

1217
00:52:06,480 --> 00:52:10,000
Speaker 1: planning for my and my family's future as well as

1218
00:52:10,040 --> 00:52:12,000
Speaker 1: a wife of almost ten years.

1219
00:52:11,880 --> 00:52:12,800
Speaker 2: With two kids.

1220
00:52:12,840 --> 00:52:15,839
Speaker 1: At some point five years ago, I felt lost, so

1221
00:52:15,920 --> 00:52:18,359
Speaker 1: I started working back to find me and what makes

1222
00:52:18,400 --> 00:52:22,440
Speaker 1: me happy. I started school, received my associates, and now

1223
00:52:22,440 --> 00:52:24,600
Speaker 1: I'm in school for my bachelor degree and Child and

1224
00:52:24,640 --> 00:52:28,000
Speaker 1: Family studies and will graduate July twenty twenty five with

1225
00:52:28,080 --> 00:52:31,359
Speaker 1: my bachelor degree. I see the same therapists for over

1226
00:52:31,400 --> 00:52:35,800
Speaker 1: the past four years now and have definitely done the work.

1227
00:52:35,920 --> 00:52:39,560
Speaker 1: Yet I get these spurts of feeling disappointment and dissatisfaction

1228
00:52:39,719 --> 00:52:43,080
Speaker 1: with myself that sends me into a depressed state of mind.

1229
00:52:43,560 --> 00:52:46,279
Speaker 1: Feelings that I'm not sure if I'm doing enough or

1230
00:52:46,280 --> 00:52:49,000
Speaker 1: if I could be doing better. In between all this,

1231
00:52:49,160 --> 00:52:51,440
Speaker 1: I am trying to also build my business as an

1232
00:52:51,560 --> 00:52:55,800
Speaker 1: educational consultant for preschool age children. There are many times

1233
00:52:55,880 --> 00:52:58,720
Speaker 1: I almost feel that I am truly thriving my purpose,

1234
00:52:59,160 --> 00:53:01,759
Speaker 1: almost questioning God, are you sure this is what I'm

1235
00:53:01,800 --> 00:53:05,200
Speaker 1: supposed to be doing, because the minimum support I receive

1236
00:53:05,360 --> 00:53:08,360
Speaker 1: makes me second guess a lot. I know you're not

1237
00:53:08,400 --> 00:53:11,319
Speaker 1: supposed to think about what other's opinions are, but it's

1238
00:53:11,320 --> 00:53:14,320
Speaker 1: hard to say that. I don't any suggestions on saying

1239
00:53:14,400 --> 00:53:16,960
Speaker 1: focus with trying to be an entrepreneur despite the lack

1240
00:53:17,040 --> 00:53:20,799
Speaker 1: of support, even when you know it's for you, it's right.

1241
00:53:21,560 --> 00:53:25,800
Speaker 4: That's a beautiful It is beautiful and prouder. She's graduated

1242
00:53:25,800 --> 00:53:26,879
Speaker 4: in July twenty five.

1243
00:53:27,000 --> 00:53:32,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, here's the thing. Here's what I'm practicing Sian listening.

1244
00:53:33,239 --> 00:53:35,520
Speaker 3: This is what I'm practicing. I'm practicing when I'm in

1245
00:53:35,520 --> 00:53:39,840
Speaker 3: a good space, I write it down when I'm feeling good,

1246
00:53:39,880 --> 00:53:43,399
Speaker 3: when I'm hearing clearly God's direction, when I'm feeling good

1247
00:53:43,440 --> 00:53:45,200
Speaker 3: about what I'm doing, I write it down because i

1248
00:53:45,239 --> 00:53:47,520
Speaker 3: know there's gonna be a day that I don't feel good

1249
00:53:47,560 --> 00:53:49,640
Speaker 3: and I need to come back towards the truth. I

1250
00:53:49,640 --> 00:53:52,840
Speaker 3: think sometimes the fear to us feels so true and

1251
00:53:52,880 --> 00:53:55,880
Speaker 3: it's a lie because it's the worry of what could

1252
00:53:55,880 --> 00:53:59,240
Speaker 3: be for so many different reasons. Yes, but the truth

1253
00:53:59,520 --> 00:54:02,840
Speaker 3: is the truth, and so I always like to create

1254
00:54:02,840 --> 00:54:04,960
Speaker 3: a space to come back to the truth, and like,

1255
00:54:05,080 --> 00:54:05,919
Speaker 3: this is what I'm doing.

1256
00:54:06,080 --> 00:54:07,480
Speaker 4: Second of all, I feel my feelings.

1257
00:54:07,560 --> 00:54:09,799
Speaker 3: Yeah, so when I feel bad, I'm not the person

1258
00:54:09,800 --> 00:54:12,719
Speaker 3: who's like, you shouldn't feel I feel bad. I let

1259
00:54:12,760 --> 00:54:15,480
Speaker 3: myself feel bad. It's like a cold. I feel my

1260
00:54:15,480 --> 00:54:18,040
Speaker 3: throat getting scratched. I'm like, I'm gonna take the medicine

1261
00:54:18,040 --> 00:54:18,440
Speaker 3: need to take.

1262
00:54:18,760 --> 00:54:20,319
Speaker 4: But in order for it to go, it has to

1263
00:54:20,360 --> 00:54:20,920
Speaker 4: pass through.

1264
00:54:21,239 --> 00:54:23,759
Speaker 3: Now, everybody's passing through some two weeks too long, So

1265
00:54:24,040 --> 00:54:27,319
Speaker 3: you got things to do. But I'm honest about how

1266
00:54:27,360 --> 00:54:30,000
Speaker 3: I feel, and I go back to the truth because

1267
00:54:30,000 --> 00:54:33,160
Speaker 3: the truth is and it gives you permission, right because

1268
00:54:33,200 --> 00:54:35,360
Speaker 3: and I think we're not being honest with ourselves about anything.

1269
00:54:35,360 --> 00:54:37,000
Speaker 4: In entrepreneurship is so difficult.

1270
00:54:37,320 --> 00:54:40,760
Speaker 3: It has stretched so many ideas of what I thought

1271
00:54:40,840 --> 00:54:44,480
Speaker 3: and how, and people make it seem and be very easy,

1272
00:54:44,520 --> 00:54:46,520
Speaker 3: and it's not, And I think that if so, I

1273
00:54:46,600 --> 00:54:49,600
Speaker 3: would to realize and understand that everything she's experiencing, the

1274
00:54:49,640 --> 00:54:52,359
Speaker 3: person she admires the most is also experiencing the same thing.

1275
00:54:52,960 --> 00:54:55,040
Speaker 4: But that person goes back to their truth. So I

1276
00:54:55,080 --> 00:54:55,919
Speaker 4: would write down the truth.

1277
00:54:55,920 --> 00:54:57,520
Speaker 3: I would write down what God is saying to me

1278
00:54:57,719 --> 00:54:59,960
Speaker 3: in the moments when it's sad, as highest when it's real,

1279
00:55:00,440 --> 00:55:03,359
Speaker 3: because if I'm operating from that place of deficiency, which

1280
00:55:03,400 --> 00:55:04,799
Speaker 3: is fear, which is so normal, we.

1281
00:55:04,719 --> 00:55:05,160
Speaker 4: All do it.

1282
00:55:05,200 --> 00:55:08,400
Speaker 3: I do it all the time, that's not the truth

1283
00:55:08,520 --> 00:55:09,880
Speaker 3: of where and who we are.

1284
00:55:10,000 --> 00:55:10,520
Speaker 2: No, it's not.

1285
00:55:11,960 --> 00:55:12,600
Speaker 4: That's so good.

1286
00:55:13,000 --> 00:55:15,239
Speaker 3: And also I would tell her write down, write down

1287
00:55:15,280 --> 00:55:17,160
Speaker 3: what she's done, because even just in that, she's already

1288
00:55:17,160 --> 00:55:21,040
Speaker 3: done so much. Yeah, I'm like, you've already done so

1289
00:55:21,120 --> 00:55:22,719
Speaker 3: much that sometimes when your head.

1290
00:55:22,520 --> 00:55:25,120
Speaker 4: Is down and you're just walking, you're not able to

1291
00:55:25,160 --> 00:55:25,480
Speaker 4: see it.

1292
00:55:25,520 --> 00:55:27,759
Speaker 3: When I first started learning how to drive, I would

1293
00:55:27,840 --> 00:55:29,839
Speaker 3: drive and I would look down, like at the hood,

1294
00:55:29,880 --> 00:55:31,600
Speaker 3: because I'm like, my Dad's like, you got to look

1295
00:55:31,840 --> 00:55:32,839
Speaker 3: further down the road.

1296
00:55:33,440 --> 00:55:36,400
Speaker 4: So the same thing, like just look further down, but

1297
00:55:36,600 --> 00:55:38,480
Speaker 4: just look back in the rear view mirror and be like,

1298
00:55:38,560 --> 00:55:40,960
Speaker 4: I'm twenty four exits past where I used to be.

1299
00:55:41,520 --> 00:55:43,839
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying, That's what I would said.

1300
00:55:43,840 --> 00:55:44,399
Speaker 2: It is so good.

1301
00:55:49,880 --> 00:55:51,680
Speaker 1: The next thing we do is what I'm going through

1302
00:55:51,719 --> 00:55:53,040
Speaker 1: and what I'm growing through.

1303
00:55:53,920 --> 00:55:56,560
Speaker 4: Yes, and for me.

1304
00:55:58,320 --> 00:56:06,440
Speaker 1: In this season, I am growing going through just really

1305
00:56:11,320 --> 00:56:14,080
Speaker 1: understanding that everything is in God's time, because I do

1306
00:56:14,160 --> 00:56:17,720
Speaker 1: still sometimes like Okay, sometimes I'll put God the timeline.

1307
00:56:17,960 --> 00:56:21,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, this going.

1308
00:56:21,120 --> 00:56:23,279
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, we need to get this done.

1309
00:56:23,320 --> 00:56:25,399
Speaker 1: But I've learned to just let him do his thing

1310
00:56:25,680 --> 00:56:27,560
Speaker 1: because there are sometimes where I'm like, Okay, Lord, like

1311
00:56:27,840 --> 00:56:29,640
Speaker 1: I've been waiting for a long time, like when.

1312
00:56:29,520 --> 00:56:31,600
Speaker 4: Are we gonna move in this area? Yeah?

1313
00:56:31,840 --> 00:56:32,839
Speaker 2: So still trying to.

1314
00:56:32,800 --> 00:56:36,319
Speaker 1: Be patient and and not rush him because I know

1315
00:56:36,400 --> 00:56:38,239
Speaker 1: sometimes when we do that, he'll get going to give

1316
00:56:38,320 --> 00:56:40,200
Speaker 1: us what we asked for, but it ain't what we want.

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Speaker 2: So that's what I'm going through and growing through.

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Speaker 3: What am I going through and growing through? I think

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Speaker 3: I'm going through change, and I think change always feels uncomfortable,

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Speaker 3: but it's also right where I'm supposed to be. So

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Speaker 3: it's an interesting concept of like I'm going through things

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Speaker 3: out of my element that are so different but also

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Speaker 3: so necessary for where I'm.

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Speaker 4: About to go.

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Speaker 3: And so I think I'm going through understanding, releasing what was,

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Speaker 3: and stepping into.

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Speaker 4: What will be.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and that isn't always as easy as it seems.

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Speaker 3: And we glamorize romanticize stepping into your next version of yourself,

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Speaker 3: but we don't often talk about it's okay to miss

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Speaker 3: something that you had, because that's the truth. You're human, right,

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Speaker 3: It's okay to miss aspects of certain things or people

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Speaker 3: or situations or circumstances. And I think I'm going through

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Speaker 3: realizing that every level is going to require a new

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Speaker 3: level of not only my faith, but a new level

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Speaker 3: of releasing from me.

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Speaker 2: That's good.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's good.

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Speaker 1: And the last thing we do is keep it blank, sweety.

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Speaker 1: And for this one, I will say, keep it disciplined,

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Speaker 1: sweetie m. We talked about every level type of discipline.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, in every state disciplined, sweetie.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: And keep it blooming, sweety, because keep it blooming scar

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Speaker 3: Because I think the thing about it is that like

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Speaker 3: we're just looking at the flower, but underneath are the roots, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: and how far that is and how deep that is,

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Speaker 3: And it's in seasons, right when you're looking at the

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Speaker 3: trees in the wintertime. It looks like it's dead, but

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Speaker 3: all the energy is really at the bottom, so just

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Speaker 3: keep it blooming, Sweety.

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Speaker 4: I love it, Yeah, I love you.

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Speaker 2: Oh God heard, Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 1: Guys, thank you so much for tuning to this episode

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Speaker 1: of Keep It Positive, Sweety. If you want to write

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Speaker 1: into our Positive Outcome listener letter, you can write in

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Speaker 1: to keep It Positivesweety at gmail.

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Speaker 2: Dot com and as Sweetye with an Ie.

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Speaker 1: You can follow me on all platforms at l u

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Speaker 1: V christorinee and tell the people they can.

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Speaker 3: Find you Instagram, Sean finnybe Flourishing, Twitter, Shanbie blooming.

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Speaker 4: And that's really it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, tapping with Sean, stay up to date with all

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Speaker 1: the amazing things that he has coming up in the future.

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Speaker 1: And if you want a little sunshine you're light, just

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Speaker 1: follow him right now.

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Speaker 4: You'll definitely get that.

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Speaker 1: All right, guys, thank you so much for tuning into

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Speaker 1: this episode of Keep It Positive.

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Speaker 2: Sweetie.

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Speaker 1: In the meantime in between times, you know what to do.

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Speaker 1: Keep it positive, Sweetie.

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Speaker 2: Bye,