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Speaker 1: This is this is insanity, first double ever. Yeah, truly,

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Speaker 1: this comes from happy right, who says my stepdaughter Becca

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Speaker 1: were extremely close. My husband Derek forty male, his ex

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Speaker 2: And Becca's the daughter. Yes, So after Becca's passing, they

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Speaker 1: I also told him to check in on Sam every

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Speaker 3: This is exactly what you should do.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is no OPI has done nothing wrong.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely if OPI's the angel in this era or Opie

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Speaker 1: After stopping at the post office, I realized I forgot

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Speaker 1: This is literally like my mom. I think my mom

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Speaker 2: No, they're trauma bonded. The parents, Sam and Derek are

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Speaker 2: are like our grief, Are you grieving? And so they're

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Speaker 3: Now we got a trauma bond. This is bad, This

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Speaker 1: I immediately knew what was happening, and my heart completely

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Speaker 1: I wasn't completely sure what to do, but I ended

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Speaker 1: Understand that it was grief that caused them to become

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I understand. Along with some questions answered,

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Speaker 1: Like I feel like, especially especially if there's a child

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Speaker 2: Truly was like operating on Oh yeah, this was a

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Speaker 1: I know it's unusual to become friends with your husband's

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Speaker 1: one hundred percent thank you to everyone who commented nice

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Speaker 1: Has he tried fighting me on getting a divorce? Yes,

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Speaker 1: And honestly, I'm almost like we've sat on the show before,

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Speaker 3: that's the reason a reason to speak. Yeah, They're like

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Speaker 1: You you can have done something horrendous but still like,

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Speaker 1: Uh. What was Derek's excuse for cheating? He told me

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Speaker 3: Like like, actually, no, you're you're not You're you still

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but like no, he's just the worst.

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Speaker 2: Because again Opie's also grieving the loss of a child.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but I hate Derek the most.

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Speaker 2: Derek's duckiest one. Agreed.

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Speaker 3: But you know what we can all agree upon?

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Speaker 1: What?

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Speaker 4: What?

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Speaker 3: That? We want? Another story?

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Speaker 2: Okay? Am I the a hole for telling my husband

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Speaker 3: WHOA not good?

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Speaker 4: ROI pal.

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Speaker 2: So Practical Drama fifty five forty nine says back in

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Speaker 2: late twenty twenty one, my husband Craig male forty six

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Speaker 2: Since I was the one who drove the kids around

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Speaker 1: I was just about to say van life and I

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Speaker 2: Dude, say isspray it.

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Speaker 4: Wait why did you make that face about Kia.

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Speaker 2: No one likes kiz right.

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Speaker 4: I like Kias.

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Speaker 2: I thought they were like the easiest car to break into.

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Speaker 4: I like those little Gerbil commercials with those guys.

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Speaker 2: But Craig had his heart set on an s U

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Speaker 2: He argued that his car, Oh, that this car would

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Speaker 2: While the car does have good passenger space, it doesn't

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Speaker 2: The reliability has been junk. The car has had eight

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Speaker 2: Below are just some of the annoyances. The shifting can

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Speaker 2: the past few weeks, the check engine light has been

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Speaker 2: problems have stepped up in the past few weeks, I'm

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Speaker 2: beyond fed up. I don't feel safe driving around with

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Speaker 1: Thank god.

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Speaker 2: Craig always downplaced this and claims that this is normal

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Speaker 2: for the car to have some issues. I don't know

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's crazy.

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Speaker 2: Making things worse somehow, craig sedan has started developing issues lately.

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Speaker 1: I feel like he has like the reverse Midas touch

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Speaker 1: for like every car he has type turns to crap.

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Speaker 2: On Saturday, I was supposed to drive our eldest to

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Speaker 2: I didn't bother risking it and ended up ubering.

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Speaker 3: With the kids.

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Speaker 2: I told Craig about it that night. He listened at first,

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Speaker 2: and said that he wasn't getting just because I wanted that.

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Speaker 2: It was so combative and defensive the way he said it,

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Speaker 2: up saying, your fragile masculinity is costing our family so

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Speaker 2: he was being needlessly difficult. We haven't really spoken much

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Speaker 2: since then. I'll also be ubering to works this week,

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Speaker 2: since I won't be touching that car. Am I the

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Speaker 2: ahle and edit Where those wondering about the car's condition,

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Speaker 2: I've included the picture I took of it on Saturday

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Speaker 2: it was saying the temperature was negative twelve degrees fahnhite,

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Speaker 2: when it was really something like sixty degrees fahnite and

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Speaker 2: his masculinity being threatened by something minor. He also refuses

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Speaker 2: a lip bomb and purple dress shirts, among other things.

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Speaker 2: He just just chapped lips because he thinks it's gurly.

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Speaker 2: That's so stupid, Briley. You think chapstick is feminine certain

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Speaker 2: l products, perhaps, No, I chopstick.

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Speaker 4: I like to like bees wax.

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Speaker 3: That's chopstick, like some.

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Speaker 5: Light lip bombs. I mean I'm like whenever I kissed

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Speaker 4: I think I don't. I don't really put it on.

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Speaker 4: I don't think it's gurly.

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Speaker 3: One time, one time.

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Speaker 1: I got like cherry favorite flavored lip bomb and I

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Speaker 1: wearing like flavored lip bomb?

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Speaker 3: I was like, yeah, I think it's like, dude, I

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Speaker 3: fa I got the She's like, I hate that.

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Speaker 2: WHOA, Okay, well so I can see that she sucks.

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Speaker 2: Are you you telling me that if you went in

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Speaker 2: for a kiss and the person tastes like cherry, you'd

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Speaker 2: be like, yeh.

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Speaker 3: Fire, what the heck?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? Pretty far?

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Speaker 5: I mean now would be okay, but like in the

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Speaker 2: See that's but that's like a taste. So you're just

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Speaker 2: just don't like the cherry flavor. Yeah, cherry and chocolate

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Speaker 2: are a little girly cherry bombs.

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Speaker 4: Let that be for the girls.

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Speaker 2: Oh, I don't think either of curly. I think you

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Speaker 2: just don't like the flavors.

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Speaker 3: I've done both. I've done vanilla bean and cherry.

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Speaker 2: I like like, I like taste, and I don't think

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Speaker 1: Really, I apparently didn't because I about peppermint mint. You

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Speaker 1: think that's like the most, that's the most.

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Speaker 4: Santa Claus such a.

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Speaker 3: Gender big big man flavor.

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Speaker 5: Yeahrup is like lumberjack flavor, like oak theyrup, You.

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Speaker 4: Know, I don't.

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Speaker 2: I don't understand these weird genders. Yeah, gender love gendering.

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Speaker 4: My sirup Sophia doesn't see gender.

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Speaker 2: I don't see it. Where to go?

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Speaker 1: I can?

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Speaker 3: But what's your gender? John Cina, I can't see it?

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Speaker 2: Uh huh Is that a joke?

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Speaker 4: Yes? But like tell me, like if I like just

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Speaker 4: whipped out some cherry lip bomb, I'm just so used to.

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Speaker 3: What do you expect? Oh, guys, what do polls on

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Speaker 3: YouTube comments? No one's going to agree with Brett figure

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Speaker 3: that out.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I'm just saying I don't drink out of

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Speaker 2: You don't know about this, right, You don't drink the

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Speaker 4: Oh, it'll get girls.

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Speaker 1: In Riley's defense, a woman told him to his face

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Speaker 1: a man another man, Oh I thought it was another woman?

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Speaker 4: Was another man from.

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Speaker 3: In front of women?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, this dude. So basically like this, dude, don't

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Speaker 5: drink out of straws. Drink out of the straw and

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Speaker 5: ask one of these nine women out on a date

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Speaker 5: right now.

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Speaker 4: And I was at Brounche and I was like, oh wow,

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Speaker 4: that's a good point. What do I never drink out

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Speaker 4: a straw again?

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Speaker 2: Okay? Well, like good because straws are bad for the turtles.

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Speaker 2: But that's a stupid reason.

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Speaker 3: What is the turtle ever done for me? Maybe nothing?

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Speaker 5: Yes that has have you off the road and you

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Speaker 5: see a turtle and you stop and you're like, I'm

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Speaker 5: so happy I've found a turtle.

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Speaker 2: I did I do that all the time.

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Speaker 3: I've been in a car as a child. And then

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Speaker 3: we moved.

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Speaker 5: It didn't turtle that me did something. Yeah, didn't make

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Speaker 5: you happy that you did something nice with the I

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Speaker 5: was furious.

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Speaker 2: I was like this some bad takes from Riley and

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Speaker 2: Johns today.

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Speaker 3: Bad takes.

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Speaker 5: I was saying, I mean, I know my girlfriend would

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Speaker 5: rock with me, haven't you know what. Let's let me

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Speaker 5: get some cherry lip balmy, try it, try it?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, do that and then okay, story time on a

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Speaker 3: future episode.

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Speaker 4: I'll do it. I'll see what she says, because the

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Speaker 2: Okay, what if I like? It doesn't matter, It doesn't matter.

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Speaker 4: Okay, So you're too kind.

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Speaker 3: You don't understand why I know that you.

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Speaker 2: Had have on cherry lipstick except for your girlfriend, who

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Speaker 2: I know for a fact would not care.

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Speaker 4: And like you, like if I had an ear ring,

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Speaker 4: like I'd be made fun of. Two why by who by?

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Speaker 4: Like my family?

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Speaker 2: Okay, well you're not at home.

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Speaker 4: I'm just saying like this wouldn't make my mind.

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Speaker 2: Okay, well we're gonna work on that.

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Speaker 4: It's okay.

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Speaker 5: I mean, I'm okay with it. That's just no, you're

445
00:22:36,960 --> 00:22:39,879
Speaker 5: you're not. I'll put a lip balm and see what

446
00:22:39,920 --> 00:22:40,560
Speaker 5: happens there.

447
00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:46,080
Speaker 2: Speaking of type five, do you have a next third?

448
00:22:46,880 --> 00:22:47,320
Speaker 2: Type three?

449
00:22:48,320 --> 00:22:53,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, let's read that. My husband says, our house will

450
00:22:53,359 --> 00:22:54,080
Speaker 1: never be mine?

451
00:22:54,200 --> 00:22:55,280
Speaker 3: How do I move past this?

452
00:22:55,640 --> 00:22:58,240
Speaker 2: You're never see the inside of this house?

453
00:22:58,680 --> 00:23:02,040
Speaker 3: Oh this comes Old Cranberry twenty seventy eighty three.

454
00:23:02,119 --> 00:23:05,720
Speaker 1: Cranberry Monald Granberry, who says me, and my husband have

455
00:23:05,800 --> 00:23:07,800
Speaker 1: been married for almost one year and have been together

456
00:23:07,960 --> 00:23:12,160
Speaker 1: for seven years. I work a job in media podcast

457
00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:14,560
Speaker 1: and he works as a therapist of sorts.

458
00:23:14,800 --> 00:23:17,879
Speaker 4: A therapist and a media person.

459
00:23:18,280 --> 00:23:22,959
Speaker 5: Whoa imagine they give relationship advice and their significant other

460
00:23:23,080 --> 00:23:23,680
Speaker 5: is a therapist.

461
00:23:23,960 --> 00:23:27,160
Speaker 1: That's crazy crazy. We have been living in my inherited

462
00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:29,560
Speaker 1: home that has been in my family for many years.

463
00:23:29,720 --> 00:23:32,040
Speaker 1: Over the past years, we have both agreed the house

464
00:23:32,119 --> 00:23:35,160
Speaker 1: and location is just not idea. With the housing market

465
00:23:35,280 --> 00:23:37,200
Speaker 1: being what it is, we have sucked it up and

466
00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:40,240
Speaker 1: continued to live here. Recently, we were offered to purchase

467
00:23:40,280 --> 00:23:42,880
Speaker 1: my husband's family homes. It's a good house that needs

468
00:23:42,880 --> 00:23:44,600
Speaker 1: a lot of work, but I am confident we can

469
00:23:44,680 --> 00:23:47,320
Speaker 1: do what we need for under fifty thousand dollars in renovations.

470
00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:49,920
Speaker 1: Pretty impressive, so we are planning to move there and

471
00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:53,560
Speaker 1: begin renovating. We are both happy and excited until the

472
00:23:53,720 --> 00:23:56,560
Speaker 1: other day. Always the other day.

473
00:23:56,560 --> 00:23:59,760
Speaker 2: It's always another day, always another day, another day, another dollar.

474
00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:02,920
Speaker 3: That's what I never say, because more problems are on

475
00:24:02,960 --> 00:24:03,520
Speaker 3: the other days.

476
00:24:03,760 --> 00:24:06,639
Speaker 2: Whoa money? More problems there? We go.

477
00:24:08,560 --> 00:24:09,360
Speaker 3: Full circle.

478
00:24:10,920 --> 00:24:13,520
Speaker 1: When we were talking about it, out of nowhere, he

479
00:24:13,640 --> 00:24:16,400
Speaker 1: told me I want you to know this house will

480
00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:19,680
Speaker 1: never be yours. If we divorce or anything, you will

481
00:24:19,720 --> 00:24:21,320
Speaker 1: have no right to live there anymore.

482
00:24:21,880 --> 00:24:23,760
Speaker 2: So they were like, oh my god, I can't wait

483
00:24:23,840 --> 00:24:25,679
Speaker 2: to live with you. It's gonna be so funny.

484
00:24:25,720 --> 00:24:28,960
Speaker 3: Say I want you to know. I want you to

485
00:24:29,119 --> 00:24:31,760
Speaker 3: know this will never be your house.

486
00:24:32,440 --> 00:24:36,160
Speaker 1: How dare you think you had any right to live

487
00:24:36,240 --> 00:24:40,960
Speaker 1: here when we're married? How dare you think that we

488
00:24:41,520 --> 00:24:45,200
Speaker 1: have become a unit and we are one together, and

489
00:24:45,320 --> 00:24:47,800
Speaker 1: that even though I have your house, you will have mine?

490
00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:50,520
Speaker 3: Never eh?

491
00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:56,119
Speaker 1: In scene, we crushed it winning also I have to

492
00:24:56,160 --> 00:25:00,399
Speaker 1: take on my jacket winning. And I found this hurtful

493
00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:03,120
Speaker 1: and odd. This was never a discussion in the years

494
00:25:03,160 --> 00:25:05,240
Speaker 1: we have lived in our current home. I would never

495
00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:08,440
Speaker 1: plan on taking his family home if we were separate,

496
00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:10,840
Speaker 1: but it felt like a stab in the heart, especially

497
00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:13,280
Speaker 1: when we are trying to have kids. I told him

498
00:25:13,320 --> 00:25:15,760
Speaker 1: it would be a marital asset since I'm paying half

499
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:19,080
Speaker 1: the mortgage and half the renovations. I would never fight

500
00:25:19,200 --> 00:25:21,880
Speaker 1: you for the house, but I don't plan on getting divorced.

501
00:25:22,760 --> 00:25:24,080
Speaker 1: This made him very upset.

502
00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:28,040
Speaker 2: Why did he bring it up? He brought it up

503
00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:28,600
Speaker 2: so random.

504
00:25:28,680 --> 00:25:30,600
Speaker 3: I was thinking the same thing. What is he is?

505
00:25:30,680 --> 00:25:32,160
Speaker 3: He just looking for a fight here?

506
00:25:33,119 --> 00:25:33,320
Speaker 1: Yeah?

507
00:25:33,760 --> 00:25:34,760
Speaker 4: Did they just buy the house?

508
00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:36,480
Speaker 2: He inherited it.

509
00:25:36,600 --> 00:25:37,960
Speaker 3: He inherited it, and then they were.

510
00:25:37,880 --> 00:25:39,840
Speaker 2: Talking about it all happy, and then he was like,

511
00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:42,200
Speaker 2: I just want you to know you're not that house

512
00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:46,280
Speaker 2: out of nowhere, out of nowhere, And she was like, uh, well,

513
00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:49,520
Speaker 2: I mean like technically it could be considered marital assets,

514
00:25:49,560 --> 00:25:50,919
Speaker 2: but I'm not planning on divorcing yet.

515
00:25:51,119 --> 00:25:53,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like where's this coming from? Put a nice you

516
00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:55,639
Speaker 1: in the comments. I there's something there. There's something to

517
00:25:56,320 --> 00:26:02,720
Speaker 1: Joffrey Fish. This made him very upset. He said he

518
00:26:02,760 --> 00:26:06,359
Speaker 1: would rather not move in if there's a chance a

519
00:26:06,560 --> 00:26:09,760
Speaker 1: judge would determine I had any rights over the home?

520
00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:13,639
Speaker 3: Was I wrong? How do I move past this?

521
00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:14,159
Speaker 1: With him?

522
00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:16,440
Speaker 2: He's thinking about only divorce?

523
00:26:16,720 --> 00:26:21,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like like I feel like the last and furthest

524
00:26:21,960 --> 00:26:25,159
Speaker 1: thing on your mind when you've already been married and

525
00:26:25,280 --> 00:26:30,520
Speaker 1: you're putting together and sorry and renovating this new house together,

526
00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:35,000
Speaker 1: is oh, we're gonna divorce And maybe you think about

527
00:26:35,040 --> 00:26:38,040
Speaker 1: that initially, like just as like oh what would happen?

528
00:26:38,760 --> 00:26:41,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, but like too little, too late, man, And also like.

529
00:26:42,520 --> 00:26:48,880
Speaker 1: Bringing it up that way something expressively Yeah, something's going on. Yeah, crazy, Yeah,

530
00:26:49,640 --> 00:26:53,119
Speaker 1: but there's some relevan comments. I Hate You nineteen seventy

531
00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:56,600
Speaker 1: five says, So, from what I understand, it's a family home.

532
00:26:56,920 --> 00:26:59,439
Speaker 2: Do you like I did that like the band nineteen

533
00:26:59,440 --> 00:27:01,400
Speaker 2: seventy five? I Hate You nineteen seventy five.

534
00:27:01,600 --> 00:27:02,280
Speaker 3: Oh maybe?

535
00:27:02,480 --> 00:27:04,320
Speaker 2: Or do they hate the year nineteen seventy five?

536
00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:05,480
Speaker 3: The world may never know.

537
00:27:06,359 --> 00:27:08,600
Speaker 1: So, from what I understand, it's a family home. But

538
00:27:08,960 --> 00:27:11,800
Speaker 1: you are paying on the mortgage half seas and paying

539
00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:15,240
Speaker 1: to rented. And he said no to you having ownership

540
00:27:15,320 --> 00:27:19,040
Speaker 1: at all, then hell nah, he can purchase it on

541
00:27:19,240 --> 00:27:21,960
Speaker 1: his own, renovate it on his own, and you keep

542
00:27:22,040 --> 00:27:24,879
Speaker 1: yours as a backup from this point forward, rent it

543
00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:28,840
Speaker 1: out and you keep that income. Yeah, honestly, that's actually

544
00:27:28,920 --> 00:27:33,760
Speaker 1: a brilliant I have a great man. Yeah, OPI, this

545
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:36,800
Speaker 1: is open to my eyes. We're going to definitely have

546
00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:40,360
Speaker 1: another conversation about how we would go about this purchase.

547
00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:44,800
Speaker 1: Zesty Close Sky eighty seven sixty five says, I really

548
00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:47,320
Speaker 1: hope you don't sell your home and make contributions to

549
00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:50,439
Speaker 1: something he straight told you wasn't yours.

550
00:27:51,240 --> 00:27:56,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, so yeah, do we a do do you think

551
00:27:56,720 --> 00:27:59,440
Speaker 3: we go with this plan of like, don't pay for

552
00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:01,320
Speaker 3: this house, rent out yours and keep the money.

553
00:28:02,280 --> 00:28:05,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think so. Just the fact that he said

554
00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:08,840
Speaker 2: it's not yours in it very clear. I'd be like, Okay, well,

555
00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:11,040
Speaker 2: if you feel that way, I don't want to pay

556
00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:11,200
Speaker 2: for it.

557
00:28:11,640 --> 00:28:14,560
Speaker 3: And like it's kind of like if like this is

558
00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:18,119
Speaker 3: this is a like oh does he like is he

559
00:28:18,200 --> 00:28:20,160
Speaker 3: planning on divorces? Is he planning on divorcing?

560
00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:24,160
Speaker 1: Which, like, if so, then like not paying your money

561
00:28:24,320 --> 00:28:28,560
Speaker 1: on the mortgage and also getting income from your your

562
00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:29,320
Speaker 1: your property.

563
00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:30,440
Speaker 2: Oh spiracy theory?

564
00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:30,800
Speaker 1: Do it?

565
00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:35,520
Speaker 2: Okay, So it feels like the husband needs, ope, he's

566
00:28:36,240 --> 00:28:39,680
Speaker 2: money to help fix up this house, right, is it

567
00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:41,280
Speaker 2: like putting money in the house.

568
00:28:41,560 --> 00:28:43,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, they are, They're both there. We can we can

569
00:28:43,320 --> 00:28:44,000
Speaker 3: probably assume.

570
00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:46,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, so maybe he just wants her to put money

571
00:28:46,040 --> 00:28:47,520
Speaker 2: into it and then divorce her.

572
00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:51,840
Speaker 1: But why would he Maybe, but then why would he

573
00:28:52,080 --> 00:28:57,920
Speaker 1: say that, Hey, you're not going to own anything. If anything,

574
00:28:57,960 --> 00:28:59,040
Speaker 1: he would be like, it's like an.

575
00:28:58,960 --> 00:29:01,480
Speaker 2: Evil guy telling you know, like the villain tells you

576
00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:02,160
Speaker 2: their plans.

577
00:29:02,720 --> 00:29:05,280
Speaker 3: Oh, oh he's monologging.

578
00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:10,400
Speaker 2: Maybe just so you'll know you'll never have this house.

579
00:29:10,680 --> 00:29:13,880
Speaker 1: Ah, even though you paid for it. It's got to

580
00:29:14,040 --> 00:29:19,200
Speaker 1: also be a legal a league, I guess. I guess

581
00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:21,360
Speaker 1: you would have to prove like someone's like, oh, it's

582
00:29:21,360 --> 00:29:24,640
Speaker 1: a gift. But yeah, I doubt it. I doubt that

583
00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:27,960
Speaker 1: he would if she is literally helping. Now he did

584
00:29:28,160 --> 00:29:30,600
Speaker 1: inherit the house, yeah, which normally it would just go

585
00:29:30,680 --> 00:29:33,280
Speaker 1: to him, but in this case there's a mortgage to

586
00:29:33,360 --> 00:29:37,440
Speaker 1: pay and renovations, both of which they're splitting fifty fifties.

587
00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:42,400
Speaker 1: So but there's an update one day later. There's a

588
00:29:42,440 --> 00:29:44,920
Speaker 1: lot of questions from many people who saw my last post.

589
00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:47,400
Speaker 1: We have a lot of questions too, so I figured

590
00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:49,360
Speaker 1: I would answer some of those and also update on

591
00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:50,040
Speaker 1: the situation.

592
00:29:50,720 --> 00:29:55,720
Speaker 3: My family home was inherited. There also, yes, who inherited homes?

593
00:29:55,840 --> 00:29:57,720
Speaker 2: Crazy? Right, where are you getting these?

594
00:29:58,720 --> 00:30:05,760
Speaker 3: Right? Family? There was no mortgage.

595
00:30:05,840 --> 00:30:08,040
Speaker 1: We paid our bills and taxes evenly between the two

596
00:30:08,120 --> 00:30:11,120
Speaker 1: of us, and the same with any repairs the home needed.

597
00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:14,000
Speaker 1: His mother is selling us the house at a twenty

598
00:30:14,040 --> 00:30:17,000
Speaker 1: five thousand dollars discount from when she lists on the market,

599
00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:19,960
Speaker 1: so that actually is a very important context. So it's

600
00:30:20,440 --> 00:30:24,520
Speaker 1: I initially thought it was like, hey, you're getting the house,

601
00:30:24,560 --> 00:30:26,400
Speaker 1: I'm giving you the house, but you need to pay

602
00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:29,760
Speaker 1: off the rest of the mortgage and the renovations. But

603
00:30:29,920 --> 00:30:32,600
Speaker 1: they're actually buying it just at a discount. Yeah, that's like,

604
00:30:33,280 --> 00:30:35,560
Speaker 1: that's a discount buy not like inherent and.

605
00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:37,479
Speaker 2: Inheritance really inherited anything.

606
00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:42,480
Speaker 3: Yeah right, Uh what if the husband's mom is like.

607
00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:45,200
Speaker 2: Now, listen, this is inheritance.

608
00:30:45,280 --> 00:30:49,160
Speaker 3: I'm so generous and all you have to do is pay.

609
00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:53,480
Speaker 2: Me with a little twenty five. It's just a tip

610
00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:56,680
Speaker 2: if you thinking about it, you know, like an eighty tip.

611
00:30:57,080 --> 00:30:59,520
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, yeah, you're tipping me for the house.

612
00:31:03,440 --> 00:31:07,000
Speaker 1: My husband was not on the deed to my family home. Uh,

613
00:31:07,200 --> 00:31:09,680
Speaker 1: this home was not going to be sold. It is

614
00:31:09,720 --> 00:31:12,440
Speaker 1: a home that has been passed down exclusively to family

615
00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:16,280
Speaker 1: members at virtually no cost, so a mortgage hasn't been

616
00:31:16,320 --> 00:31:19,520
Speaker 1: held on it in many decades. This house would be

617
00:31:19,640 --> 00:31:22,280
Speaker 1: going to my sister as she is welcoming her second

618
00:31:22,360 --> 00:31:23,920
Speaker 1: child soon, which is kind of fire.

619
00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:26,520
Speaker 3: I do like like the passing it down and like

620
00:31:26,640 --> 00:31:27,360
Speaker 3: everyone's like.

621
00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:29,320
Speaker 2: Oh, you really gets a house.

622
00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:30,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, you get a house.

623
00:31:30,440 --> 00:31:33,080
Speaker 1: You get a house, except you get a house, except

624
00:31:33,120 --> 00:31:37,760
Speaker 1: that house is not yours. Now for the update, Uh,

625
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:40,320
Speaker 1: me and my husband agreed to go to breakfast together

626
00:31:40,480 --> 00:31:43,600
Speaker 1: this morning, since our Mother's Day plans didn't start until lunch.

627
00:31:43,840 --> 00:31:45,760
Speaker 1: At breakfast, I brought up a topic of the house

628
00:31:46,000 --> 00:31:49,600
Speaker 1: we are going to buy. I told I told him

629
00:31:49,640 --> 00:31:51,840
Speaker 1: about how the things he said hurt my feelings and

630
00:31:51,920 --> 00:31:54,680
Speaker 1: made me insecure about where he stands in our marriage.

631
00:31:55,360 --> 00:31:56,800
Speaker 3: A great point hmm.

632
00:31:57,040 --> 00:31:59,680
Speaker 1: He told me, after seeing his dad lose his family

633
00:31:59,760 --> 00:32:03,160
Speaker 1: home in a divorce, it was scary to think that

634
00:32:03,240 --> 00:32:05,760
Speaker 1: our kids could possibly lose it if we were to separate.

635
00:32:06,120 --> 00:32:09,920
Speaker 1: What these are completely separate things.

636
00:32:10,040 --> 00:32:13,000
Speaker 2: That doesn't even make sense. Why would Ope steal from

637
00:32:13,040 --> 00:32:13,640
Speaker 2: her own kids?

638
00:32:14,360 --> 00:32:16,760
Speaker 4: He's been on our slash red pill.

639
00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:17,400
Speaker 2: Yeah.

640
00:32:17,640 --> 00:32:20,880
Speaker 3: Only only reason Bro's been going down the rabbit hole.

641
00:32:20,920 --> 00:32:22,720
Speaker 2: He's already giving her house to one of.

642
00:32:22,720 --> 00:32:26,760
Speaker 3: Their kids, to her sister. Her sister's having a kid.

643
00:32:26,840 --> 00:32:27,160
Speaker 2: Gotcha.

644
00:32:27,200 --> 00:32:31,520
Speaker 1: Yet, he said he was wrong to say the things

645
00:32:31,560 --> 00:32:35,320
Speaker 1: he did, and that he let anxiety control the way

646
00:32:35,320 --> 00:32:38,240
Speaker 1: he spoke and it wasn't fair to me. Okay, Yeah,

647
00:32:38,560 --> 00:32:43,840
Speaker 1: progress progress. We agreed that I would be put on

648
00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:48,080
Speaker 1: the deed getting even better, and agreed to start the

649
00:32:48,200 --> 00:32:51,720
Speaker 1: process of a posting up agreement for the home, among

650
00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:52,720
Speaker 1: some other things.

651
00:32:54,560 --> 00:32:55,640
Speaker 3: Huzza, huzzah.

652
00:32:56,120 --> 00:32:58,800
Speaker 1: I addressed feeling like maybe he had a feeling he

653
00:32:58,960 --> 00:33:01,000
Speaker 1: was going to leave or and that's why.

654
00:33:00,920 --> 00:33:01,920
Speaker 3: He was so defensive.

655
00:33:02,720 --> 00:33:05,920
Speaker 1: Mmm. He felt he felt hurt by that and told

656
00:33:06,000 --> 00:33:09,320
Speaker 1: me that and told me that was his fear when

657
00:33:09,400 --> 00:33:12,800
Speaker 1: getting married, that he would be cheated on or worse,

658
00:33:13,040 --> 00:33:13,880
Speaker 1: have kids.

659
00:33:13,680 --> 00:33:16,600
Speaker 3: Involved in that mess. I told him I felt the same.

660
00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:21,840
Speaker 3: Damn communication and realizing all the.

661
00:33:21,880 --> 00:33:22,920
Speaker 2: Things share drama.

662
00:33:23,400 --> 00:33:26,200
Speaker 3: Wow, wow, wow.

663
00:33:26,840 --> 00:33:29,720
Speaker 1: We both agreed the most comfortable we would both feel

664
00:33:29,760 --> 00:33:31,960
Speaker 1: would be us both being on the deed of the

665
00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:36,080
Speaker 1: home and getting a post nuptial agreement with an infidelity clause. Jesus,

666
00:33:36,200 --> 00:33:40,720
Speaker 1: they're well, honestly, I think they're I think what this

667
00:33:40,880 --> 00:33:43,680
Speaker 1: is at least doing is they were both super open

668
00:33:43,720 --> 00:33:47,640
Speaker 1: and communicated about their insecurities in a non confrontational way

669
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:50,400
Speaker 1: and are now like, hey, you know what, let's let's

670
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Speaker 1: let's do.

671
00:33:50,840 --> 00:33:54,400
Speaker 3: This thing to address our both of our insecurities.

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Speaker 1: Actually, it's kind of low key kind of clutch that

673
00:33:57,080 --> 00:33:59,840
Speaker 1: they both have the same insecute, I guess, so kind

674
00:33:59,840 --> 00:34:00,920
Speaker 1: of makes it a lot easier.

675
00:34:01,200 --> 00:34:03,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, they don't have to explain it. They're just like,

676
00:34:03,120 --> 00:34:05,440
Speaker 2: you get it, Yeah, you get it. I feel like

677
00:34:05,480 --> 00:34:06,280
Speaker 2: you might cheat on me.

678
00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:09,600
Speaker 3: You get it? Get it? Yeah, Like we feel the same.

679
00:34:09,960 --> 00:34:13,600
Speaker 1: Come on, we are both anxious people, and I understand

680
00:34:13,600 --> 00:34:16,120
Speaker 1: where he was coming from with wanting that. It's stung

681
00:34:16,160 --> 00:34:18,800
Speaker 1: a bit at first that he wanted an infidelity clause,

682
00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:21,600
Speaker 1: but we both agreed it would do nothing but benefit

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00:34:21,719 --> 00:34:23,799
Speaker 1: us if either of us were to go beyond our

684
00:34:23,880 --> 00:34:26,840
Speaker 1: marriage in that way. Yeah, it's kind of it's this

685
00:34:26,960 --> 00:34:28,880
Speaker 1: weird thing where it's like, on one hand, it's like

686
00:34:29,360 --> 00:34:31,080
Speaker 1: just in case you cheat, so it's kind of like

687
00:34:31,480 --> 00:34:32,000
Speaker 1: assuming that.

688
00:34:32,360 --> 00:34:34,279
Speaker 3: But on the other hand, it's kind of this like

689
00:34:35,280 --> 00:34:35,800
Speaker 3: you know what it is.

690
00:34:36,040 --> 00:34:38,760
Speaker 1: It's like, hey, my phone is unlocks, my computer's unlocked,

691
00:34:38,840 --> 00:34:39,960
Speaker 1: go check it anytime you want.

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00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:42,799
Speaker 3: It's like, I'm not worried because I know I'm not.

693
00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:45,759
Speaker 2: Going to do it, So like you go, I'm not worried,

694
00:34:45,800 --> 00:34:46,239
Speaker 2: so I'll do it.

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00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:46,600
Speaker 4: Yeah.

696
00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:48,680
Speaker 1: There's all sort a bit of those vibes in there

697
00:34:48,680 --> 00:34:51,320
Speaker 1: as well. So TLDR, we are both getting put on

698
00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:54,640
Speaker 1: the deed. We are getting a post nuptial agreement, which

699
00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:57,759
Speaker 1: is basically a like agreement after getting married, plus an

700
00:34:57,800 --> 00:35:00,520
Speaker 1: infidelity clause. And we had a very mature, an emotional

701
00:35:00,560 --> 00:35:03,960
Speaker 1: conversation about how we felt. Thank you all for your advice.

702
00:35:04,080 --> 00:35:05,759
Speaker 1: It gave me a very good idea of what your

703
00:35:05,840 --> 00:35:07,880
Speaker 1: research before I brought it up to him. And we

704
00:35:07,960 --> 00:35:10,080
Speaker 1: are setting up a meeting with a lawyer to start

705
00:35:10,120 --> 00:35:15,000
Speaker 1: the process on Monday. Who's this on? And we do

706
00:35:15,320 --> 00:35:18,719
Speaker 1: have some relevant comments that I'm going to close us

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00:35:18,719 --> 00:35:21,719
Speaker 1: out with. Jack F two ju nine one says, I'm

708
00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:23,959
Speaker 1: glad that everything seems to have worked out Smiley face

709
00:35:24,080 --> 00:35:26,520
Speaker 1: op very much so. I think I was a bit

710
00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:28,680
Speaker 1: dramatic about the things he said, and he was a

711
00:35:28,719 --> 00:35:31,040
Speaker 1: bit harsh and not thinking through what he said. It

712
00:35:31,160 --> 00:35:32,719
Speaker 1: happens to the best of us. But my mind is

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00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:35,279
Speaker 1: put at ease now, thankfully. And then call me Mama.

714
00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:38,000
Speaker 1: T says, I don't think you were dramatic at all.

715
00:35:39,280 --> 00:35:41,960
Speaker 1: You were protecting yourself. Good for you since you were

716
00:35:42,000 --> 00:35:44,880
Speaker 1: newly married. Oh I forgot that or didn't realize that.

717
00:35:45,480 --> 00:35:48,160
Speaker 1: This is a really great lesson for you both learn

718
00:35:48,239 --> 00:35:50,839
Speaker 1: to communicate, turn to each other when you're upset about something,

719
00:35:51,000 --> 00:35:53,800
Speaker 1: meaning don't go complain about your spouse to friends. You

720
00:35:54,000 --> 00:35:58,040
Speaker 1: talk to him and figure it out together. Great outcome,

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00:35:58,480 --> 00:36:01,600
Speaker 1: which leads me to the question, John, the real question,

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Speaker 1: The real Sophia Donnor are esteemed incredible co hosts. Do

723
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:16,080
Speaker 1: we think that we have resolved for now? Yes? Yeah,

724
00:36:16,320 --> 00:36:20,680
Speaker 1: I think we openly communicated with with this time, without

725
00:36:20,760 --> 00:36:25,840
Speaker 1: like insinuating or attacking or being aggressive. Good, good, open, honest, emotional,

726
00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:31,840
Speaker 1: communicative conversation. We came up with a solution for both sides,

727
00:36:31,880 --> 00:36:33,920
Speaker 1: which in this case happened to be the same thing

728
00:36:34,040 --> 00:36:37,680
Speaker 1: because they had the same fear and insecurity. Both put

729
00:36:37,719 --> 00:36:42,560
Speaker 1: it in. I feel like both both are apologetic and

730
00:36:44,080 --> 00:36:47,279
Speaker 1: self aware of the wrongs that each did to each other.

731
00:36:48,600 --> 00:36:50,960
Speaker 1: I think we're kind of all you could hope for.

732
00:36:51,080 --> 00:36:53,840
Speaker 1: And I think these kind of like in these times,

733
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Speaker 1: at least in these times, in the times we live in.

734
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Speaker 1: I mean, what a time to be alive in the

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Speaker 1: times we live in.

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Speaker 4: I was not expecting this.

737
00:37:02,760 --> 00:37:06,400
Speaker 3: We live in a society. I wasn't expecting this either.

738
00:37:06,680 --> 00:37:10,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, because usually if they go back to Reddit, it's worse.

739
00:37:10,719 --> 00:37:13,560
Speaker 3: But we got like a good update.

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Speaker 5: Yeah out of this month, probably like top three best

741
00:37:18,600 --> 00:37:23,480
Speaker 5: workout situations, best outcomes, best outcomes, best workouts.

742
00:37:23,920 --> 00:37:27,720
Speaker 3: Whoa whoa big protein pump in that big iron.

743
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Speaker 4: Yeah, John and I are gonna we're gonna get into the.

744
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Speaker 3: We're gonna get sold together. I'm excited.

745
00:37:32,719 --> 00:37:33,040
Speaker 4: Me too,