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Speaker 1: It is time to ask the c l O Chief

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Speaker 1: Love Officer, Steve Harvey Lowell and Saint Paul writes, my

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Speaker 1: boyfriend loves sleeping naked and I don't mind it.

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Speaker 2: I don't mind it at all.

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Speaker 1: But it would be great if he showered before getting

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Speaker 1: into bed with me. What he prefers to shower in

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Speaker 1: the morning, and I get it, But how can I

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Speaker 1: get him to wash up before he tries to spoon

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Speaker 1: with me?

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Speaker 3: Well, you know, moo spooning, no mo sex. I need

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Speaker 3: that shower before bed, that's the Yeah, you can throw

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Speaker 3: some water on your face in the morning, but we're

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Speaker 3: gonna leave that bath before you climb up in here though.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, after all days, eight.

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Speaker 3: Hours under this cover which you ain't working, you need

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Speaker 3: to wrestle.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yes, rach rang out range.

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Speaker 1: All right, an easy one, see Sheila and Roanok says,

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Speaker 1: I'm fifty seven years old and my husband and I

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Speaker 1: are separated because I caught him sexting with the woman.

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Speaker 1: He had a new picture of her on his phone

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Speaker 1: and he said she just said it and he didn't

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Speaker 1: ask her to. He swears he hasn't cheated on me,

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Speaker 1: But isn't this the first step too cheating.

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Speaker 2: Should I go talk to the woman?

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Speaker 3: Well, I don't see what going to talk to the

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Speaker 3: woman does. You're not married to her and she didn't

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Speaker 3: extend any bows to you. Your conversation is purely with

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Speaker 3: your husband. And if he says they haven't had sex yet,

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Speaker 3: that's a possibility. But now is that the first step

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Speaker 3: to haven't it? Well, let me just say this, if

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Speaker 3: you talk about it long enough, once you start talking

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Speaker 3: about it sexty, then you got to wonder what it

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Speaker 3: would really be.

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Speaker 2: Like words into action.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, if this don't stop, this could be a problem.

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Speaker 3: And no, you shouldn't go talk to the woman because no,

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Speaker 3: that ain't who you married to.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, all right, part I like that. All right?

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Speaker 2: Moving on to Kamika and Jacksonville.

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Speaker 1: Kamika Rights, I'm twenty eight years old and I'm dating

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Speaker 1: a forty four year old married man and he pays

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Speaker 1: my rent. He had a kid to my apartment, so

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Speaker 1: I had my locks changed. He got upset and said

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Speaker 1: that I violated the rules. I never agreed to give

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Speaker 1: him full access to me. He's married, so why can't

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Speaker 1: I have my privacy to date others?

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Speaker 3: Right? I mean, you know what Yeah, y'all need to

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Speaker 3: get these rules established early before. Yeah, you know, why

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Speaker 3: did he have a key in the first place? See,

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Speaker 3: you gave him McKy then you changed a lot. Now

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Speaker 3: he confused because if I'm paying for the place, it's

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Speaker 3: because I can get a key. Now you ain't got

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Speaker 3: no key to his house. Nor will you get a key.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, he's married now, So.

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Speaker 3: You got to re establish what it is. Now he

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Speaker 3: may stop paying. So you have to understand now what

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Speaker 3: it is you're in it for. That's right, because this

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Speaker 3: is a form of you know, this is an arrangement,

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Speaker 3: a contract. It's just an organized form of prostitution. That's

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Speaker 3: what it is. It's an organized.

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Speaker 2: Prostitute right now.

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Speaker 3: So you call it what you want to call it.

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Speaker 3: But if you're doing performing sex for a monetary game,

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Speaker 3: that's prostitution. Matter of fact, that you'all regular.

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Speaker 2: That happened all the time.

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Speaker 3: There's a lot of prostitutes got regular because m hmm lot.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, is everyone clear on what it is? One more time, Steve.

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Speaker 3: So it's just a verbalized, contractual form of prostitution, that's

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Speaker 3: what it is. For I will provide you monetary gain

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Speaker 3: in exchange for sexual faith. Okay, and the monitor's name

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Speaker 3: was an apartment with a key. You change the locks,

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Speaker 3: you know, because you want to do some other stuff.

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Speaker 3: Why are you doing it? So now we got a problem.

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Speaker 3: He upset he changed the rules because he established the

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Speaker 3: rules when he gave you.

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Speaker 1: Yes, she said, I never agreed to give him full

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Speaker 1: access to me.

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Speaker 3: Well, when you give him a key to the apartment

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Speaker 3: and now the key don't work anymore? What what? Yeh? See?

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Speaker 3: What do you think that check was for? Yeah, I

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Speaker 3: don't know how you wanted to go your way anyway.

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Speaker 3: Didn't you say he was married?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he's married, and he had a key, she said,

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Speaker 1: he had a key.

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Speaker 3: There's no right way to do this. You do know

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Speaker 3: that because all this is wrong?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because he's married. That's a right there.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know how. Y'all want some clear Oh

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Speaker 3: this works for me, and when the whole thing is wrong,

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Speaker 3: so you know, grow up, put your big girl panties on.

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Speaker 3: This is what you signed up for. Now y'all have

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Speaker 3: to renegotiate the deal.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 3: So now you may be down to just half.

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Speaker 2: Rent, shipping in on the.

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Speaker 3: Rent, half access, I guess, Yeah, you're gonna mess around

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Speaker 3: and be one hundred dollars a visit in the middle.

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Speaker 2: Money. Here we go, last one, Steve, last one.

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Speaker 1: Uh. Falana in Arkansas says I'm married and I have

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Speaker 1: a male best friend. We are strictly platonic friends. We

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Speaker 1: talk twenty four to seven and enjoy shopping together. My

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Speaker 1: husband assumes that my bestie is a new female I

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Speaker 1: work with, and he wants to meet her. Would my

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Speaker 1: husband flip out if I introduced him to my tall,

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Speaker 1: fine and chocolate new best friend.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, wouldn't you flip out of his new

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Speaker 3: best friend was a tall, fine, chocolate chick.

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Speaker 2: Really yeah?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So yeah, he gonna flip out, And you know

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Speaker 3: you're wrong. That's why you write the letter. And he's

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Speaker 3: so fine. Yeah, okay, okay, now unless he's gay, get ready, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: the flip and you know it because.

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Speaker 2: He fine, yeah, tall and fine.

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, y'all just talk twenty four to seven. You

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Speaker 3: gonna introduce him to your husband. Finna be a problem.

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Speaker 1: But she's letting her husband think that it's her her

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Speaker 1: new coworker.

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Speaker 2: She's letting your husband think that.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, that's deception. Yes, no, no, no, listen, that's lying.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Oh, oh, you're not upset that she's lying.

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Speaker 2: That's not what I'm hearing, is it.

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Speaker 3: Oh see, I get over there with women lie. But

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Speaker 3: y'all so always talking about why I do me and lie?

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Speaker 3: Why you lie? Why aren't you just telling me they

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Speaker 3: ain't joke co working down there, that he's a big, tall,

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Speaker 3: fine man and he gonna shop it with me.

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Speaker 2: And we talked twenty four we.

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Speaker 3: Talked twenty four seven. Why don't you tell that truth?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she's wrong, all right, Cela?

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Speaker 2: You nailed it today, Yes you did. You're listening Hardy

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Speaker 2: Morning Show