WEBVTT - Ep. 55 "Is it a Wolf in Sheeps Clothing?" 0:00:03.120 --> 0:00:07.040 We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion to 0:00:07.280 --> 0:00:13.040 talk about. Hey, everybody is tam Bam. Welcome to a 0:00:13.160 --> 0:00:15.440 new episode if we talked back. Thank you so much 0:00:15.520 --> 0:00:19.120 for joining us. We missed you. Hey, hey, Jake, Hey Gil, 0:00:19.360 --> 0:00:23.239 how you doing. No, that's my radio voice. I feel 0:00:23.280 --> 0:00:27.160 like a real radio personality all you know. Now. I 0:00:27.200 --> 0:00:31.360 was listening to our episode one versus now we sound 0:00:31.440 --> 0:00:33.640 so different. Look, I had to tell a Nike over 0:00:33.640 --> 0:00:35.839 the weekend, like, listen, go back and listen to our podcast. 0:00:35.920 --> 0:00:38.600 As we was kind of ratchet in the beginning. We're 0:00:38.600 --> 0:00:42.680 still ratchet, but like a little more a little less ratchet, right, 0:00:42.760 --> 0:00:45.760 We're not as much of a novice as we was. Yeah, 0:00:45.800 --> 0:00:47.680 you gotta find your niche and you gotta find like 0:00:47.760 --> 0:00:49.720 who you want to be for the people. Like we're 0:00:49.720 --> 0:00:53.440 always gonna be our self. But yeah, just see how 0:00:53.479 --> 0:00:56.480 you want to be presented to the world. And I 0:00:56.560 --> 0:01:00.760 just want to be presented presented as authentically as possible. 0:01:01.800 --> 0:01:06.040 And I want to be Ratchett and that's authentic. Sis 0:01:06.080 --> 0:01:09.360 the Ratchett. How is your weekend girlfriend? Cool? I just 0:01:09.560 --> 0:01:12.160 hung out a little bit, a lot of tiny bit 0:01:12.600 --> 0:01:15.199 in the city in Charlotte. Y'all, me and Dammy sitting 0:01:15.240 --> 0:01:17.600 next to each other today we record were you right together? 0:01:18.040 --> 0:01:22.760 For the first time in a long time COVID for 0:01:22.840 --> 0:01:27.720 the first time for the How was your weekend? It 0:01:27.800 --> 0:01:29.560 was good, Like I said, I just hung out a 0:01:29.600 --> 0:01:34.199 little bit, um eight a lot for real. I feel 0:01:34.240 --> 0:01:36.960 like I gained ten pounds in a weekend. I'm getting 0:01:37.000 --> 0:01:42.880 some weight here too. January days January was not my 0:01:42.959 --> 0:01:45.880 friend because it was just so cold outside and all 0:01:45.920 --> 0:01:48.840 you do is, you know, you eat and drink. Oh 0:01:48.920 --> 0:01:51.200 I went to Speaking of eating and drinking, I went 0:01:51.240 --> 0:01:54.880 to this new spot in Charlotte called Para. I think, 0:01:54.920 --> 0:01:59.680 I don't know if it's Spanish, and it's like whatever, 0:02:00.080 --> 0:02:03.640 where is that. It's in up town and or it 0:02:03.760 --> 0:02:06.920 might be Southing Uptown Southing. I don't know. But the 0:02:07.000 --> 0:02:09.560 food was good. It's top us. So it's not like, 0:02:09.840 --> 0:02:11.959 if you're going to look for a meal, go somewhere 0:02:11.960 --> 0:02:15.079 else a big booty bitches right for you. But if 0:02:15.160 --> 0:02:17.680 you're looking for like some nice, good tap us, I 0:02:17.760 --> 0:02:22.000 had like, um this it was like a peanut butter 0:02:22.040 --> 0:02:24.560 and jelly sandwich, right, But it wasn't a sandwich. It 0:02:24.639 --> 0:02:27.560 was like small bites, right, But it was the bread, 0:02:28.080 --> 0:02:31.240 it was jelly. Then it was a duck liver. What 0:02:31.400 --> 0:02:34.360 with peanut butter? You eat stuff like that. I you know, 0:02:34.440 --> 0:02:39.280 I'm a I'm Mikey. Yeah that's me. You'd be eating ducks. 0:02:39.760 --> 0:02:42.800 You don't feel bad about that? I eat no what well, 0:02:42.800 --> 0:02:45.440 I'm gonna feel bad. Look all your motherfucker's out there, 0:02:45.440 --> 0:02:48.399 who ain't uh converted? Yat top platfors die. Y'all see 0:02:48.400 --> 0:02:51.679 how empty the shelves up. Like at one point you're 0:02:51.680 --> 0:02:54.200 gonna realize y'all can't eat nothing bullshit the more anyway, 0:02:54.560 --> 0:02:57.720 see miles ago ahead and start slowly taking the meat. 0:02:57.760 --> 0:02:59.560 Such a diet because there's not a lot of them 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:04.240 available right now. Like I had some duck liver that 0:03:04.360 --> 0:03:06.880 was good. I had some lamb chops that was good. 0:03:06.919 --> 0:03:09.560 I had some steak. Everything was. I'm a meat eater. 0:03:09.880 --> 0:03:13.880 I'm a carnivoard. So I hate when y'all listen, I 0:03:13.880 --> 0:03:16.760 don't try to push you to eat meat. Leave me alone. Girl. 0:03:16.840 --> 0:03:19.600 Why the funk was I out with my friends and 0:03:19.880 --> 0:03:24.000 we're sitting at the bar eating brunch Saturday. I turned 0:03:24.000 --> 0:03:25.880 my head for one second. This nigga was trying to 0:03:25.919 --> 0:03:29.880 put a piece of chicken in my mouth. Yeah, nigga, 0:03:31.880 --> 0:03:33.840 what the fuck is happening? People was looking at me 0:03:33.880 --> 0:03:35.840 at the bar like because I caught an attitude like 0:03:36.160 --> 0:03:37.760 why would you be trying to put some chicken in 0:03:37.840 --> 0:03:42.640 my mouth? Help this nigga trying to poison. I had 0:03:42.720 --> 0:03:45.360 chicken it like five years. I don't want to get sick. 0:03:46.120 --> 0:03:48.280 Yeah you will. The only thing I do miss is 0:03:48.320 --> 0:03:51.840 like chicken off the girl, like barbecue chicken off the 0:03:51.880 --> 0:03:55.400 girl that I met, not other people's. But as of lately, 0:03:55.440 --> 0:03:57.320 I have been feeling like I want to like cut 0:03:57.360 --> 0:04:01.120 back on meat sometimes. How of funk are they producing 0:04:01.120 --> 0:04:04.200 all these cows and chickens too? You see what I'm saying, 0:04:04.240 --> 0:04:07.400 Like a cow only has one calf a year or 0:04:07.480 --> 0:04:09.480 every two years or something. But I listened. I was 0:04:09.520 --> 0:04:11.840 on I was in l A. And I wrote to 0:04:12.960 --> 0:04:17.320 uh San Diego in a car and I wrote, by 0:04:17.320 --> 0:04:22.279 seven hundred cow pastors with a million cows. Yeah, it 0:04:22.360 --> 0:04:25.479 was so stinc for at least two hours in the 0:04:25.520 --> 0:04:30.560 South like that. Yeah, So I'm scared of meat, not 0:04:30.680 --> 0:04:37.679 that kind of meat. Guess what, y'all, it's Black History Month. 0:04:37.800 --> 0:04:41.320 We celebrate blackness all year. However, the shortest month of 0:04:41.320 --> 0:04:43.239 the year is the one that was giving us to 0:04:43.240 --> 0:04:46.320 to us to celebrate ourselves. But we're gonna celebrate it 0:04:46.400 --> 0:04:50.599 to the fullest. And we always want to celebrate a 0:04:50.640 --> 0:04:56.360 batty who talks back, and today's batty is Halle Quinn Brown. 0:04:57.000 --> 0:05:01.080 She was an abolitionist and educator, writer, a women's rights 0:05:01.160 --> 0:05:04.720 activists in the Civil War era. She was born March temp, 0:05:04.920 --> 0:05:09.640 eighteen forty five in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, to former slaves who 0:05:09.680 --> 0:05:13.320 were both very well educated and actively involved with the 0:05:13.400 --> 0:05:17.480 underground railroad. Shout out to her parents. In eighteen sixty four, 0:05:17.480 --> 0:05:19.240 in the midst of the Civil War, Halley moved with 0:05:19.360 --> 0:05:23.760 her parents and five siblings to Canada and they attended 0:05:23.800 --> 0:05:26.320 local schools there, and then she came back to the 0:05:26.360 --> 0:05:30.440 States in eighteen seventy to Wilberforce, Ohio with her brother, 0:05:30.480 --> 0:05:33.280 where they went to Wilberforce College that which is a 0:05:33.320 --> 0:05:37.240 primarily black institution, and she graduated in eighteen seventy three 0:05:37.320 --> 0:05:41.600 with the Bachelors of Science degree. After graduation, she began 0:05:41.680 --> 0:05:45.680 teaching in Mississippi at the Senora Plantation to help educate 0:05:45.760 --> 0:05:49.200 southern blacks during reconstruction. She taught at plantation schools and 0:05:49.240 --> 0:05:52.279 public schools in Mississippi and South Carolina for twelve years. 0:05:52.880 --> 0:05:56.239 From eighteen eighty five to eighteen eighty seven, Hallie served 0:05:56.279 --> 0:06:00.000 as a dean at all Allen University in Columbia. Side. 0:06:00.960 --> 0:06:03.240 That's crazy because that's the college my parents went to 0:06:03.360 --> 0:06:05.880 in med At So we went to college across the 0:06:05.880 --> 0:06:08.840 street and we went to college right CBC. You know, 0:06:09.000 --> 0:06:13.360 you know, you know, I love ec uh So, Anyway, 0:06:13.400 --> 0:06:16.440 Brown returned to Ohio on talking day in public schools 0:06:16.880 --> 0:06:20.520 from eighteen eighty seven eighteen to eighteen ninety one and 0:06:20.600 --> 0:06:24.520 opened up nice school for migrants from the South. Uh. 0:06:24.680 --> 0:06:30.000 This woman really dedicated her life to public service, you know, 0:06:30.400 --> 0:06:35.440 to being a public servant and educating blacks and lecturing. Uh. 0:06:35.680 --> 0:06:38.800 In eighteen nine four she worked as a lecturer in 0:06:38.880 --> 0:06:41.919 Europe and she remained for five years, spending most of 0:06:41.920 --> 0:06:45.839 her time in the United Kingdom. The Queen Victoria in 0:06:45.920 --> 0:06:49.960 eighteen ninety seven came to listen to her speeches, and 0:06:50.440 --> 0:06:53.680 she spoke for temperance groups and represented the United States 0:06:53.680 --> 0:06:57.440 at the International Congress of Women in London. She came 0:06:57.480 --> 0:07:00.359 back to the States and she started working and the 0:07:00.400 --> 0:07:03.280 women's suffrage and full citizen and trying to get full 0:07:03.279 --> 0:07:07.479 citizenship for women as well as civil rights for Black Americans. 0:07:07.839 --> 0:07:11.800 She lived nine nine years and and spent her whole 0:07:11.800 --> 0:07:16.520 life being a public servant. And she never married, which 0:07:17.200 --> 0:07:23.120 you know, she live years, y'all and never married. We 0:07:23.200 --> 0:07:26.119 know single women be living longer. Single woman be living 0:07:26.160 --> 0:07:30.960 a long time and be looking good, y'all. Do it 0:07:31.040 --> 0:07:37.440 that what you need. But listen, Hatty Quinn Brown, you 0:07:37.480 --> 0:07:40.640 were a batty who talked back, and we celebrate you 0:07:40.720 --> 0:07:46.480 this Black History Month. Thank you for your contribution, your contributions, 0:07:46.520 --> 0:07:49.560 and your accomplishments. We wouldn't be here today without you. 0:07:50.240 --> 0:07:53.080 Thank you, Thank you to having for that batty who 0:07:53.120 --> 0:07:56.960 talked back. You're welcome. I just want to find beautiful 0:07:56.960 --> 0:08:00.880 black women who we didn't hear about in school, who 0:08:00.920 --> 0:08:04.120 really made a contribution to us being who we are today. 0:08:04.160 --> 0:08:06.840 You know, yes, honey, All right, y'all, we're going to commercial. 0:08:06.880 --> 0:08:14.160 We'll be right back. So what we got in dumb 0:08:14.240 --> 0:08:17.160 internet news today? Job, well, this isn't dumb. This is 0:08:17.240 --> 0:08:23.840 kind of exciting. Rihanna's pregnant girl pregnant. She showed us 0:08:23.880 --> 0:08:27.560 some pictures and she looks so cute. I know, she 0:08:27.680 --> 0:08:30.960 looks so cute and happy. They're gonna have a beautiful baby. 0:08:31.200 --> 0:08:33.880 Her and a sapping together or sucking around at least 0:08:33.960 --> 0:08:36.520 for ten years now on and off, right, Yes, because 0:08:36.559 --> 0:08:38.679 you remember she's working with Travis Scott at some point too. 0:08:39.640 --> 0:08:42.640 She just looked Kylie had that nicked. She's been holding 0:08:42.679 --> 0:08:47.160 on the sap. You gotta find your person, right, because 0:08:47.720 --> 0:08:51.120 you know, I wouldn't assume that he would have been 0:08:51.160 --> 0:08:54.560 her person, right, But he's her person and they're having 0:08:54.600 --> 0:08:57.400 a beautiful baby, and we're all so excited to be 0:08:57.520 --> 0:09:02.920 invited to the baby shower. I love Rihanna Man. Rianna 0:09:02.960 --> 0:09:05.120 say funck y'all. Y'all kept asking for a damn album. 0:09:05.480 --> 0:09:07.960 Rianna say, hey, that's my fucking baby. Right. We didn't 0:09:07.960 --> 0:09:09.920 get no album, y'all. You might as gonna hanging up. 0:09:10.080 --> 0:09:13.599 Hell no, she making all the money with fenty and 0:09:14.040 --> 0:09:18.600 uh Savage fenty. Now she's got a baby. You got 0:09:18.640 --> 0:09:20.880 no time for us, y'all. Right, she's done. She might 0:09:20.960 --> 0:09:24.680 be done with music's okay, you know, yeah, she didn't 0:09:24.679 --> 0:09:26.520 accomplish a lot of ships, and now she gets to 0:09:26.600 --> 0:09:31.640 have something, something nice for her baby. I want one 0:09:31.679 --> 0:09:33.400 of them me too. Girl, I'm gonna buy me one 0:09:33.440 --> 0:09:36.640 this year. Sometimes because what I'm gonna buying me a baby? 0:09:37.120 --> 0:09:41.120 What do you mean like adopt adopt in virtuos someway, 0:09:41.200 --> 0:09:43.120 I'm gonna get me a baby this year. No. My 0:09:43.600 --> 0:09:46.160 my best friend just had her first child and it's 0:09:46.200 --> 0:09:48.320 my god baby, and I love that baby to the death. 0:09:48.360 --> 0:09:50.839 That's my hardest. I love that little baby and I'm 0:09:50.880 --> 0:09:53.240 gonna spoil her to death. But that baby be there 0:09:53.280 --> 0:09:57.800 every day when I call her. Think the baby is 0:09:57.800 --> 0:10:01.120 supposed to go back. You got a place to be. 0:10:01.360 --> 0:10:09.400 This is a real lifetime moment. You got no dacare 0:10:09.480 --> 0:10:13.000 You've got no place to be? Got every time I 0:10:13.080 --> 0:10:18.080 called my baby right there looking at the FaceTime girl, 0:10:18.200 --> 0:10:20.800 get out of my conference, like all my friends who 0:10:20.840 --> 0:10:23.599 got small kids. Isn't it crazy how they'd be so 0:10:23.720 --> 0:10:27.959 attentive with the phones but they'll be looking directly at 0:10:28.800 --> 0:10:31.360 I'm just seeing like face like it's like it's in 0:10:31.440 --> 0:10:33.280 a d n A. And she starting to recognize me 0:10:33.320 --> 0:10:37.880 because she get hyped. Know's like it's fun time, because 0:10:37.920 --> 0:10:40.280 that's all I get to be. Why is the girl 0:10:40.360 --> 0:10:43.040 down the desk downstairs to the desk calling you tam bad. 0:10:43.120 --> 0:10:45.680 She's like, Oh, you're going to Tam BAM's house because 0:10:45.800 --> 0:10:52.280 I'm a fucking local celebrity in the building. Oh Tam Bam. 0:10:52.400 --> 0:10:59.320 I'm like, yeah, Tamla, oh tam damn part of me? Yeah, 0:10:59.360 --> 0:11:03.360 because I'm a celebrity. But how come when I say 0:11:03.400 --> 0:11:05.280 it's a j she know who the funk I was? 0:11:08.200 --> 0:11:20.040 She's like, She's like, floor, bitch, what else happened in 0:11:20.120 --> 0:11:25.880 the world? Um? Shit, Nick Cannon got another fucking baby 0:11:25.960 --> 0:11:30.199 on the way. You know, you fucking lie. This nigga 0:11:30.400 --> 0:11:33.680 is so fertile. The Bible says, be fruit full, multiply. 0:11:34.160 --> 0:11:36.400 I'm taking care of you know. I saw a post 0:11:37.120 --> 0:11:40.560 on one of the blog sites and they basically talked 0:11:40.559 --> 0:11:43.320 about what they said, Nick Cannon is like going out 0:11:43.360 --> 0:11:45.959 of his way not to impregnate black women or some 0:11:46.080 --> 0:11:48.719 dumb ship like that, Like, what worry about your own 0:11:48.800 --> 0:11:52.040 fucking lineage? Wait? Are they any of them black? They 0:11:52.200 --> 0:11:55.839 look ambiguously black, Like they look like, you know, mixed 0:11:56.120 --> 0:12:00.839 mixed women, multiple ethnicities possibly, but so white, just tight whatever. 0:12:00.920 --> 0:12:03.679 I don't care exactly, Like he ain't the only nigga. 0:12:05.520 --> 0:12:09.839 Worry about your worry about you worry about yourself. I 0:12:10.040 --> 0:12:13.760 just really don't give a ship about men who that's 0:12:13.800 --> 0:12:16.200 his preference. Nick Cannon don't get nothing. But we're all 0:12:16.240 --> 0:12:19.319 pussy and I don't never see him talking about black 0:12:19.320 --> 0:12:21.000 women's I really don't give a funk. That's the only 0:12:21.080 --> 0:12:24.880 time I care about when a man is. I really 0:12:24.960 --> 0:12:27.280 even still don't care at that point because that's just 0:12:27.559 --> 0:12:30.160 that person won't exists to me. But I only know 0:12:30.320 --> 0:12:33.400 funk with the men that you know justify their dating 0:12:33.480 --> 0:12:36.679 preference by doubting black women, which he never does. Why 0:12:36.760 --> 0:12:40.280 y'all even care? Anyway? Congratulations to Nick Cannon. He doesn't 0:12:40.320 --> 0:12:42.200 has a new baby, you know, and that's I guess 0:12:42.280 --> 0:12:44.679 this person. He was just at a baby shower, so 0:12:44.960 --> 0:12:50.800 she would have been pregnant when Yeah the twin past. Yeah, 0:12:51.200 --> 0:12:54.440 very interesting. Nick Cannon is not playing out here. Listen, 0:12:54.559 --> 0:12:57.160 this nigga is trying to populate the earth with all 0:12:57.240 --> 0:13:00.160 of his seeds, and I'm at him. Do you long 0:13:00.200 --> 0:13:01.400 as you can take care of them? I don't care 0:13:01.679 --> 0:13:03.760 the niggas who making babies and don't help with them, 0:13:03.840 --> 0:13:06.920 that's the ones I'll be mad exactly. Yeah, what about 0:13:07.080 --> 0:13:12.199 um um big booty Judy, ain't that the real baby? 0:13:14.040 --> 0:13:15.640 And the brad they have, they got a baby on 0:13:15.720 --> 0:13:18.080 the way. Congratulations to them. I wonder who the baby 0:13:18.160 --> 0:13:25.720 daddy is the Brat right as far as I consider 0:13:25.840 --> 0:13:32.280 the Brad, is you all the father? She doesn't ask 0:13:32.760 --> 0:13:37.080 masculine to me. I know she's very androgynous. I would 0:13:37.640 --> 0:13:41.839 like the Brat. Happy for them, and congratulations to them. 0:13:42.440 --> 0:13:44.679 Lots of babies being made, and I'm here for it. 0:13:46.280 --> 0:13:49.280 I want one, but just I just need a nigga first, right, nigger. 0:13:49.920 --> 0:13:51.959 I do not want a baby without a family. I 0:13:52.120 --> 0:13:54.920 just don't just want a baby. I want a family, 0:13:55.679 --> 0:13:58.160 all right, So mother fuck get me pregnant and we 0:13:58.200 --> 0:13:59.959 all got the plans and getting married. If you leave, 0:14:00.000 --> 0:14:01.920 even please take your kid with you. I will call 0:14:02.000 --> 0:14:04.199 you from the corner and tell your child is on 0:14:04.280 --> 0:14:06.079 the porch. What I'm gonna do with two more kids? 0:14:08.880 --> 0:14:15.720 I turn a Roys a family man. Now, I see 0:14:16.600 --> 0:14:19.080 what said that you never seen? What's love got? Yes? 0:14:19.240 --> 0:14:22.640 But who to be remembering? I'm confused. I remember every 0:14:22.720 --> 0:14:24.920 movie I've ever seen in my life, like I can 0:14:25.000 --> 0:14:27.040 quote it at any time when it's relevant to what's 0:14:27.040 --> 0:14:31.520 going on in our conversation. Just get with it. What 0:14:31.560 --> 0:14:36.120 I'm gonna do with? Do more keys? What else happened? Um? 0:14:37.320 --> 0:14:41.280 So we talked about all the life miss Usa. That's 0:14:42.920 --> 0:14:49.400 and she allegedly um jumped from a New York City 0:14:49.680 --> 0:14:55.400 high rise building sixty fours sixty flours. I y'all know, 0:14:55.440 --> 0:14:59.400 I'm a hocux. I'll listen. I'm a truth theorist. I'm 0:14:59.440 --> 0:15:01.880 not a r theorist. I look at the facts, and 0:15:01.960 --> 0:15:05.680 I look at I look at things very objectively. And 0:15:05.720 --> 0:15:08.800 the headlines keep saying that Chelsea Chris fell, But she 0:15:08.960 --> 0:15:11.560 also wrote a note so white. Why not say she 0:15:11.680 --> 0:15:17.240 committed suicide? Did she fallen? She pushed? Did she commit suicide? 0:15:17.280 --> 0:15:21.280 Which one? I I? This girl was so beautiful, her 0:15:21.360 --> 0:15:24.800 mother and father was so together. She's a lawyer. I 0:15:24.960 --> 0:15:28.040 just don't see her just yeah, but off a building? 0:15:28.320 --> 0:15:32.120 But yeah, but do you say Robin Williams. He's so funny, 0:15:32.520 --> 0:15:36.720 he's so successful, he has a beautiful family. People. It 0:15:36.800 --> 0:15:39.600 doesn't matter when people are in pain, all right, So 0:15:39.680 --> 0:15:42.840 I got theories about Robert Williams. We won't go there. 0:15:44.360 --> 0:15:47.200 You never You just never know. And that's why it's 0:15:47.240 --> 0:15:52.640 important to give people grace and be kind, be kind 0:15:52.720 --> 0:15:56.000 to people because you just know, never know where people's 0:15:56.120 --> 0:15:59.320 mental state is, and you could be the catalyst that 0:15:59.400 --> 0:16:03.000 could make on one either decide to survive or go. 0:16:03.920 --> 0:16:06.760 So just be kind, man, they said. She wrote a 0:16:06.920 --> 0:16:09.600 note to her mom like leaving everything to her to 0:16:09.760 --> 0:16:14.480 her mom basically, I don't know. That's just real. It's real. 0:16:15.640 --> 0:16:18.360 It's sad at the end of the day. It's just sad, 0:16:18.520 --> 0:16:22.080 and I just you know, if anybody is listening to 0:16:22.160 --> 0:16:25.240 the sounds of our voice and you're feeling down and 0:16:25.320 --> 0:16:28.120 don't want to be here no more, you are loved 0:16:28.240 --> 0:16:31.240 and we want you to be here, and things can 0:16:31.320 --> 0:16:34.960 be better. Things will be better if you just continue 0:16:34.960 --> 0:16:37.680 to give life a chance. Hit me up. I'm your 0:16:37.720 --> 0:16:40.440 fucking friend and I love you if you're hurt, and 0:16:41.160 --> 0:16:44.800 I'll talk to you ship all right. I don't know. 0:16:44.880 --> 0:16:46.960 I guess sometimes people just feel like it's just no 0:16:48.080 --> 0:16:50.840 ending of this pain. You know, they just be in 0:16:51.000 --> 0:16:52.960 such a state where they think that they just feel 0:16:53.000 --> 0:16:55.800 like it's just this will never stop. But it does 0:16:55.920 --> 0:16:58.760 get better. Do get better. I just pray. I never 0:16:58.840 --> 0:17:00.720 know that type of darkness. Look, and when you don't 0:17:00.760 --> 0:17:03.680 have nothing left, you got your motherfucker self right, you 0:17:03.760 --> 0:17:06.920 got yourself left, Like I really funk with me on 0:17:07.000 --> 0:17:10.240 a big level. Yeah, Like you have to be so 0:17:10.400 --> 0:17:14.320 in love with yourself that nobody else, nothing that's happening 0:17:14.480 --> 0:17:17.640 really fucking matters. But we we live in a society 0:17:17.680 --> 0:17:22.680 where it makes it difficult, especially all these images of 0:17:22.920 --> 0:17:26.280 people who are especially on Instagram, where it's not really 0:17:26.400 --> 0:17:31.400 it's not real, okay, And I do it too. I'll 0:17:31.440 --> 0:17:34.480 be on the club boarder se somebody pull out a camera, ah, 0:17:36.200 --> 0:17:38.160 and then when the camera stop, I'm back to being bored. 0:17:38.240 --> 0:17:43.280 It's fake, it's fake. I'm such a real nigga. I 0:17:43.320 --> 0:17:45.920 can't even pretend for niggas on the internet. Listen, I'll 0:17:45.920 --> 0:17:48.520 be trying so hard. I don't. I got a couple 0:17:48.520 --> 0:17:51.160 of tiktoks that I made that I would never fucking post. 0:17:51.440 --> 0:17:53.320 Let me see all these different things, like let me 0:17:53.320 --> 0:17:54.600 see if I could be a part of this ship, 0:17:54.600 --> 0:17:57.159 and I just fucking can't. I just can't because I 0:17:57.400 --> 0:18:00.760 love living in a real fucking world. Like I love 0:18:00.960 --> 0:18:04.439 moments with my friends and family that's not on camera, 0:18:05.080 --> 0:18:06.760 you know what I'm saying, Because that's you're going on 0:18:06.800 --> 0:18:08.639 a vacation and the whole time you're just looking for 0:18:08.720 --> 0:18:11.240 a place to do a photo shoot. Like, are you 0:18:11.359 --> 0:18:15.280 really enjoying just being able to breathe right now or what? Well, 0:18:15.359 --> 0:18:18.720 that's that's some people's enjoyment though, that's what brings people enjoyment. 0:18:18.840 --> 0:18:23.240 How are you enjoying what's happening? Flex? That's all you're doing? 0:18:23.400 --> 0:18:27.080 Like you missed, you missed everything during a trip taking 0:18:27.119 --> 0:18:28.960 pictures of it. That's what. Let me tell you, I'm 0:18:29.000 --> 0:18:31.080 that one. I'm gonna be the entertainment and i'mnna be 0:18:31.119 --> 0:18:33.920 the fund and you send me your photo reel, give 0:18:33.960 --> 0:18:35.560 me the pictures you too, always like, did you take 0:18:35.600 --> 0:18:40.160 pictures like I did? I didn't, me neither. But that's 0:18:40.160 --> 0:18:43.520 why our instagram social media sucks. We still need interns, 0:18:43.600 --> 0:18:48.159 you guys, like, how for this is our fucking fault. Bit, 0:18:48.280 --> 0:18:50.040 We just gotta learn to be more social. That ship 0:18:50.160 --> 0:18:52.479 is a job. It is it is, and we need 0:18:52.520 --> 0:18:59.480 an eighteen year old because ye for this no note ye, yes, 0:18:59.640 --> 0:19:02.600 they was definitely born for this social media media. We 0:19:02.720 --> 0:19:04.399 were born in it like we were raised in it. 0:19:04.560 --> 0:19:08.440 But I'm still kind of private. I'm very private of 0:19:08.520 --> 0:19:11.520 my life, like I let it all hang out. I'm 0:19:11.560 --> 0:19:14.800 not as private. I feel like when you live in 0:19:14.840 --> 0:19:17.840 your truth, nobody can hurt you with it absolutely, you 0:19:17.960 --> 0:19:22.639 know what I mean. It's just like, um, I just 0:19:22.760 --> 0:19:24.560 want to keep But you know how celebrities back in 0:19:24.600 --> 0:19:26.560 the day, like they weren't on social media. Look how 0:19:26.640 --> 0:19:28.840 long it took for like will A Will Smith to 0:19:28.920 --> 0:19:31.040 finally get on in there because they realized, like you, 0:19:31.920 --> 0:19:34.960 and now he's depends on it soon as he started 0:19:35.000 --> 0:19:37.760 crying and looking sad. Now he's fucking me for every 0:19:37.800 --> 0:19:45.040 time the cowboys leaving Like that's that's why it's like hard, yo, 0:19:47.000 --> 0:19:49.160 I don't know I would get my life together, doll. 0:19:49.680 --> 0:19:54.760 So I'm gonna be social on social media, all right. 0:19:54.800 --> 0:19:57.720 So I want to talk about a topic that might 0:19:57.760 --> 0:20:01.280 be triggering for some of us and a little heavy. 0:20:01.800 --> 0:20:06.080 All right. If you've been listening, looking and watching, a 0:20:06.240 --> 0:20:11.600 lot of men have been brought to the forefront for 0:20:11.920 --> 0:20:19.760 being sexual predators of sorts, rapists, um, and that ship 0:20:19.840 --> 0:20:22.880 is real, right, So, and a lot of them are 0:20:23.840 --> 0:20:28.440 and it's about time that they get um what comes 0:20:28.480 --> 0:20:31.720 to people who behave that way? Right? But then there's 0:20:31.840 --> 0:20:36.760 also this idea that it could be a witch hunt 0:20:37.040 --> 0:20:41.560 and that some people are innocent and a woman can 0:20:41.720 --> 0:20:44.440 make a claim against a man and it would be 0:20:44.560 --> 0:20:50.760 totally false. Like, um, so, how how do you navigate that? What? 0:20:51.040 --> 0:20:54.600 What is a healthy way too? Especially for men like 0:20:55.960 --> 0:20:58.560 you can be potentially ruled for something that you didn't 0:20:58.600 --> 0:21:02.080 do and that's not fair. And what's the repercussions for 0:21:02.240 --> 0:21:06.159 a woman for doing something like that? Really nothing? They 0:21:06.240 --> 0:21:10.680 may get like a countersuit sometimes, but what happens and 0:21:10.720 --> 0:21:12.520 I see a lot of the cases that come up, 0:21:12.840 --> 0:21:14.760 it's not like the woman went to the police. They 0:21:15.080 --> 0:21:18.600 it's just automatic a civil suit. When I see stuff 0:21:18.640 --> 0:21:21.560 like that, like it's like an automatic civil suit, like 0:21:21.680 --> 0:21:24.520 you just want twenty million dollars or whatever the summer 0:21:24.560 --> 0:21:28.320 is for having been violated. You don't really want do 0:21:28.400 --> 0:21:30.119 you want justice? But do you want this person to 0:21:30.160 --> 0:21:31.920 go to prison? Because I wouldn't want your fucking asked 0:21:31.920 --> 0:21:34.760 to be underneath the jail you violate me. I actually 0:21:34.800 --> 0:21:36.880 probably wouldn't tell a police because don'ta make you disappearing 0:21:36.880 --> 0:21:42.040 about two years, I'm gonna lay on you, So that's 0:21:42.119 --> 0:21:45.720 probably what I'm gonna do. But look, so it's just 0:21:45.840 --> 0:21:48.200 a weird it's a weird space, and it's it's even 0:21:48.280 --> 0:21:50.840 hard to talk about. Like, I'm trying to choose my 0:21:51.160 --> 0:21:56.240 words very carefully because I don't want to offend anyone 0:21:56.880 --> 0:21:59.600 or make people feel like I'm not an advocate for 0:21:59.680 --> 0:22:02.760 women and who are victims, because I am, you know 0:22:02.960 --> 0:22:06.560 I am. But I also am an advocate for men 0:22:06.640 --> 0:22:14.119 who are victims. So what was this guy recently? I 0:22:14.160 --> 0:22:16.880 don't really want to speak to anybody's name, but a guy. 0:22:16.920 --> 0:22:19.200 I've seen it, y'all stay seen it, Yeah, y'all saw it. 0:22:19.520 --> 0:22:23.520 This guy. This woman accused him of molesting her son, 0:22:25.480 --> 0:22:29.840 and she went on the lie detector and then it 0:22:30.000 --> 0:22:32.440 came out that was she was like, my son, he 0:22:32.720 --> 0:22:36.840 made that up. Then she came back and said it 0:22:37.040 --> 0:22:40.760 wasn't made up. She was being forced to say that 0:22:40.960 --> 0:22:45.200 it was a lie. And and that's just a scary 0:22:45.280 --> 0:22:48.200 place to be in, like because now you're your mother 0:22:48.800 --> 0:22:51.640 and you obviously want to protect your child from any 0:22:51.720 --> 0:22:54.680 predator that would ever hurt them. But you're saying it's 0:22:54.680 --> 0:22:56.119 a lot, and he's saying this is the truth and 0:22:56.200 --> 0:22:58.800 it's a lie. It's like a lot, And then you 0:22:58.880 --> 0:23:00.639 don't know who to believe, and you don't know who 0:23:00.760 --> 0:23:03.119 is the real victim? Here is it? This baby, or 0:23:03.240 --> 0:23:07.760 is it this man that's that's that's scary. Oh you 0:23:08.080 --> 0:23:14.200 talking about duty low right, the rapper of associated with 0:23:14.560 --> 0:23:18.920 um um a little dirt and the little girl, the 0:23:19.000 --> 0:23:22.200 young girl, the young mother f T NBA whoever. I 0:23:22.240 --> 0:23:24.000 don't know she raps or whatever it is, or just 0:23:24.119 --> 0:23:28.960 the social social media um um socialite or whatever. But 0:23:29.080 --> 0:23:32.600 it was her saying that he he abused her son. 0:23:32.840 --> 0:23:35.800 And there was a recording that was online the little 0:23:35.840 --> 0:23:41.879 boy crying very very very like devastating, Right, anybody listened 0:23:42.000 --> 0:23:44.280 to that, it was like, what the fuck? Like I 0:23:44.400 --> 0:23:46.680 didn't feel like, I, deep down I don't feel like 0:23:46.680 --> 0:23:48.920 the little boy was lying. And I do feel like 0:23:48.960 --> 0:23:51.639 the video she put out was kind of forced, you 0:23:51.720 --> 0:23:53.120 know what I'm saying, And then for her to come back, 0:23:53.320 --> 0:23:55.879 you know, in a text kind of you know, on 0:23:55.960 --> 0:23:58.720 her Instagram story saying that she's still going to try 0:23:58.760 --> 0:24:02.119 to get justice for her son. And liars passed lie 0:24:02.200 --> 0:24:05.359 detectors all the time. Yeah, you know what I'm saying, 0:24:05.400 --> 0:24:09.359 Like they are professional liars, but something like that, something 0:24:09.440 --> 0:24:13.440