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Speaker 1: a q a which is a q a wo man, dude,

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Speaker 1: be aqute it with too today to be a.

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Speaker 2: Qu a a.

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Speaker 3: Hey man, I'm doing just fine.

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Speaker 4: It's a little chilly this in between weathers for the birds.

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Speaker 4: It's like freezing in the morning, how is hew during

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Speaker 4: the day, chilli in the evening, then freezing in the

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Speaker 4: like chili in the early evening, and you know, like

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Speaker 2: I just don't know what to do. My body is

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Speaker 2: going up downside to side.

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Speaker 3: My trunk is just littered with like sweaters and hats

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Speaker 3: and coats that get shed. But it's a beautiful day

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Speaker 3: and I'm happy to be here with you. Your birthday

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Speaker 3: party was air thing.

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Speaker 4: I mean, first of all, I love that like that husband,

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Speaker 4: I was like, not him coming outside.

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Speaker 3: I know, there were several times that day I thought

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Speaker 3: he wasn't gonna come acause he was annoying me.

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Speaker 2: Like had it What did he say? Because I'm like, I.

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Speaker 3: Asked him, I was like, what was it like being

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Speaker 3: being out? And he said that he thinks he's forgotten

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Speaker 3: how to be social, and.

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Speaker 2: Because he seems social, you know, like no, he was

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Speaker 3: You know, I think he has some social anxiety just

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Speaker 3: like I do. But it was very hard, I think,

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Speaker 3: you know, yeah, like maybe you don't know everybody's name,

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Speaker 3: but your all family. I got the cookout, you know

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Speaker 3: what I mean? Yeah, Oh my god, the food.

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Speaker 4: Nichia girl, when I tell you and eat s h a, okay, yeah,

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna lie. People were eating things they don't even

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Speaker 4: people are like, I don't even eat rab meat. And

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Speaker 4: they was tearing down the ox, the oxtails.

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Speaker 3: I don't even know if I've had an oxtail in

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Speaker 3: the last decade. And I was like, Nicha made it.

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Speaker 3: I'm trying it.

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Speaker 4: I mean it was her and her sister naw just

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and they just become like family. But she made oxtail.

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Speaker 4: She made turkey chops with I never had a turkey

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Speaker 4: chops until I've heard of pork chop.

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Speaker 2: I didn't. I'm like, what's the turkey chop? Delicious is

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Speaker 4: Honeyglaze, salmon, jerk chicken. And then it was like rostapasta

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Speaker 4: like it was an herb in something mashed potatoes per urban,

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Speaker 3: Was mashed potatoes. The greens though, for me, it's always

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Speaker 3: about the greens. Yes, the greens and the corn bread.

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Speaker 2: Oh that corn bread literally me and you said it best.

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Speaker 4: You were like, yo, the food is like the Thriller

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Speaker 4: Like I think it was either you so somebody said

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Speaker 4: it was like the Thriller album.

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Speaker 2: No skips, Yes, really need that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I kept looking for something that I didn't want to

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Speaker 2: Nope, but the corn bread was vegan and it was

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Speaker 4: Honestly, this was probably one of my best birthdays ever

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Speaker 4: from being honest, because I am learning that if you

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Speaker 4: want something doesn't magically fall from the sky. Because some

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Speaker 4: birthdays I'd be like, you know, I don't want any

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Speaker 4: I'm like, well girl, you plan for nothing and nothing happened.

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Speaker 4: This time, I said, no, how do you want your

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Speaker 4: birthday to go? I'm like, I love Upstate New York.

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Speaker 4: I go every year around this time because the foliage is.

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Speaker 2: In full fall bloom.

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Speaker 4: I did that for the weekend and then for my

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Speaker 4: birthday on my actual birthday, and my sisters and I

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Speaker 4: went to dinner, which was so great. And then I

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Speaker 4: for the condo warming and plus birthday. I wanted good, delicious,

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Speaker 4: niche of food, but I wanted a house full of love.

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Speaker 4: And that's what I got. Just the most amazing people

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Speaker 2: I mean I don't. I'm always really mindful.

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Speaker 4: Well, everybody in mind is just awesome because I have

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Speaker 4: You're out, you're out, but just kind, loving, like I

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Speaker 4: love how you and my childhood friend EJ had like

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Speaker 4: she was oh my god, I had that same outfit.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, she's beautiful, yeah yes.

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Speaker 4: And so like, I just love that that everybody there

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Speaker 2: And you know, even my my my boyfriend was there.

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Speaker 4: Experiencing his own social anxieties. I was like, girl, please,

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Speaker 3: I loved his fit. I was like that quilted bomber

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Speaker 4: But it was just really great and I just loved

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it really did stunning to your interior designer, uh

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Speaker 3: Rihanna of Rehome Remain Remain Home. Oh my God, and

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Speaker 3: her husband. I know she did like so much of

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Speaker 3: bit when Terrell walked in with that plate of food

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Speaker 4: Mean, even though you know, I made sure I scotch

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Speaker 4: God damn, but you know, and I think.

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Speaker 3: That's why we were all slipping and busting almost busting her.

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Speaker 3: But I think you scotched guarden a little too close

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Speaker 2: I think I did because I was a slip and

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Speaker 2: I think I cleaned the Floyds a little bit too good.

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Speaker 3: Just have a little basket of grippy socks if you

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Speaker 3: don't want a lawsuit. It's all like that, you know

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Speaker 3: what I mean? I get your homeowner's insurance. It was great,

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Speaker 2: I know you guys have questions. I think our last question.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, we're here for that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so we're gonna take your Carrea questions question.

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Speaker 2: I can you want to be the first one? You

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Speaker 2: want me to be the first one? Oh? You go

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Speaker 3: Got it from a jazzman Janz Jazz.

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Speaker 2: It starts off with hey, hey, love that for her.

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Speaker 4: I have a question for a future Baqa, which is now,

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Speaker 4: please don't use my name, call me Jasmine.

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Speaker 2: We love when you give us a fake name.

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Speaker 4: I work in healthcare communications and it's something I fell into.

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Speaker 4: I've been job hunting for a while and getting a

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Speaker 4: few interviews, but never the final offer. All these jobs

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Speaker 4: have much higher salaries that I currently make. Recently, we

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Speaker 4: had a quarterly update where our top boss said, we

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Speaker 4: know money matters, but we're working really hard to improve

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Speaker 4: the environment because you stay for people, not money. Spoken

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Speaker 4: like someone who is untouched by inflation?

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Speaker 2: Am I right? Girl?

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Speaker 3: Is he crazy?

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Speaker 2: Anyway? Oh? She says, anyway.

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Speaker 4: My question is how do I bring up to my

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Speaker 4: direct manager that money is actually why I say okay,

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Speaker 4: And is it possible to leverage interviews into a salary

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Speaker 4: that's definitely an option. But with no office at the moment,

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Speaker 4: I want to do what I can where I am

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Speaker 4: for now. Thanks for your help, and I hope you

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Speaker 4: have a very happy holiday season.

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Speaker 2: Gas Man. I see you put your real name here,

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Speaker 2: but gas is your name? That made sense? Of course

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Speaker 2: it does. And anyway, yeah, so yeah, so much love

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Speaker 3: And yeah, so it's the holiday season.

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Speaker 4: First of all, I just real quick, and I'm gonna

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Speaker 4: you take it, Mandy, because this is the domain.

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Speaker 2: Let me read that box for a moment. Is you crazy?

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Speaker 4: I mean, what are we talking about? Not in Harriet

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Speaker 4: Tubman's Internet. Are we talking about people working for free?

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Speaker 4: It's giving slavery.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I don't know about for free.

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Speaker 2: I know, I'm just saying, I'm just this is yeah.

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Speaker 3: This is when the HR girls in the back are like, god, damn,

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Speaker 2: We stay for the people. It's like, people have bills

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Speaker 2: to pay? Are you crazy? So I just want to

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Speaker 2: be them? And then the so, mandra, what do give

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Speaker 3: So my first bit of advice is, don't let this

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Speaker 3: would like to discuss my compensation. I've done my own

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Speaker 3: Can we talk about getting my salary in line with

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Speaker 3: market value that is of the most powerful retention factor

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Speaker 3: and that is nice for a company culture, but it's not.

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Speaker 3: It's kind of it should be not. It shouldn't be

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Speaker 3: something that you like. It shouldn't be so rare that

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Speaker 3: you're bragging about it, like, well here everyone is great

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Speaker 3: and blah blah blah bah blah. Well that's just how

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Speaker 3: it should be. But what we can't take for granted

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Speaker 3: would keep interviewing for sure, and especially since we're heading

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Speaker 3: do we what can we do to get my compensation

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Speaker 3: to be more in line with what the marketplace is

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Speaker 3: little extra vulnerable myself. It makes situations a little more

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Speaker 3: then so so T says love with seven o's love you, ladies. Hey,

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Speaker 3: Mady and tif First of all, you get ten stars

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Speaker 3: because you're both amazing. Thank you for being authentic. There's

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Speaker 3: that I'm rooting for you both as you root for

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Speaker 3: us Brown women. Also, please have another live event, as

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Speaker 3: I couldn't make this one. I'd love to meet you

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Speaker 3: says her name is Solange. Ye, thank you, Solange. Hey, sister,

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Speaker 3: Oh behave fam What can we say? Just it's love,

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Speaker 3: It's all love. Thank you so much. I can't find

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Speaker 3: and I don't know where I am anymore. Oh, there

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Speaker 3: you are.

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Speaker 2: I V A fan.

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Speaker 3: Until next time, have a great day. Thank you for listening.

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Speaker 2: Bye y'all, Bye,