WEBVTT - I Said No MotherFucker 0:00:22.160 --> 0:00:27.319 We walked along the beach. What a moment. Now he 0:00:27.640 --> 0:00:33.280 has my head is he kissed me. I want to 0:00:33.320 --> 0:00:38.479 spend my luck with you. I want you for my 0:00:39.960 --> 0:00:45.240 just been at the time, she said, not what you 0:00:45.320 --> 0:00:48.320 want me. 0:00:52.200 --> 0:00:56.680 Welcome back to Good Mops, Bad Choices, Episode thirty. 0:00:57.480 --> 0:01:04.760 Hey we made it. It's thirty, dirty flirty, thirty, thirty 0:01:05.000 --> 0:01:09.959 and thirty. We're thirty. We're podcasting and doing things. It's 0:01:10.080 --> 0:01:12.199 episode thirty. 0:01:13.000 --> 0:01:13.520 That could be. 0:01:15.440 --> 0:01:17.959 That could be our new intro music something like that. 0:01:18.000 --> 0:01:18.760 We need to intro. 0:01:18.959 --> 0:01:22.880 So I know, because technically. 0:01:22.880 --> 0:01:24.240 I have no idea. I do not know what we 0:01:24.280 --> 0:01:30.039 speak of. Maybe not admit to mindous. You said you 0:01:30.080 --> 0:01:30.880 own know you bought it. 0:01:30.959 --> 0:01:39.000 I do, so it's yours. Anyway, they're stoned again. So 0:01:39.040 --> 0:01:42.000 we're recording this episode a little early because we are 0:01:42.080 --> 0:01:45.960 going out of town and stuff and so apologies if 0:01:46.400 --> 0:01:47.080 we're dated. 0:01:47.160 --> 0:01:48.840 Oh, we're gonna be a little dated. 0:01:48.880 --> 0:01:52.160 But because by the time this airs, we're gonna know 0:01:52.160 --> 0:01:54.639 if Brett Kavanall is honest. 0:01:54.960 --> 0:01:56.720 Yeah, I know the US Supreme Court, what do you what 0:01:56.760 --> 0:02:01.520 do you guess? Yes? That isn't Yeah, yeah, I agree, yeah, yeah. 0:02:01.560 --> 0:02:03.760 I'm for stopping these white people First of all, Clarience 0:02:04.040 --> 0:02:05.920 got gone on black ass. 0:02:06.040 --> 0:02:09.120 They are definitely don't give a fuck. How many pussies? 0:02:09.120 --> 0:02:13.440 What's Clarence Claires? What's the face? He's in the clear. 0:02:13.520 --> 0:02:15.919 He's good. I mean it's not good. He's terrible. 0:02:15.960 --> 0:02:18.040 But I just know they're not going to recognize it 0:02:18.080 --> 0:02:21.280 as anything, as an injustice, and they're rarely like believing 0:02:21.400 --> 0:02:25.800 r now, So I know, hopefully if we're wrong, especially 0:02:25.800 --> 0:02:28.239 because that means who knows what he's what is he 0:02:28.320 --> 0:02:30.000 going to do once he gets on the Supreme Court? 0:02:31.480 --> 0:02:36.000 I mean overturned row versus way do a bunch of 0:02:36.040 --> 0:02:40.960 things for the immigration. So I don't know who knows, 0:02:41.000 --> 0:02:43.000 who knows? Maybe he'll surprise us, I don't know. All 0:02:43.000 --> 0:02:44.800 I know is when I saw his little screaming face 0:02:45.600 --> 0:02:49.359 getting all rouled up, something in me told. 0:02:49.160 --> 0:02:55.440 Me he did. My psychic intuition said he's guilty. Yeah. 0:02:56.040 --> 0:03:00.720 I just think that, uh so many women gits abused, 0:03:00.919 --> 0:03:04.000 Like of all my friends, I can think of, like 0:03:04.080 --> 0:03:09.080 off top, like eight people have experienced in some form 0:03:09.120 --> 0:03:12.200 of fashion, some inappropriatingness from a guy, and you kind 0:03:12.200 --> 0:03:14.440 of like brush it off because that's what guys do. 0:03:15.040 --> 0:03:18.160 That's how men act like fucking savages. But that's just 0:03:18.200 --> 0:03:23.240 not true, and that's unacceptable. No, it's not. But it's 0:03:23.360 --> 0:03:24.400 even like when I was. 0:03:24.639 --> 0:03:29.040 Because so, guys, we're obviously talking about the sexual assault 0:03:29.160 --> 0:03:33.240 case of accusations against Brett Kavanaugh, who is up for 0:03:33.560 --> 0:03:39.120 to be Supreme Court justice, which is a lifelong appointment, 0:03:40.040 --> 0:03:45.920 and he is being accused by three women of sexual assault. 0:03:46.040 --> 0:03:49.480 One of which that happened in two in high school 0:03:49.520 --> 0:03:50.520 and one in college. 0:03:50.720 --> 0:03:53.040 Yeah. I don't no, one in high school, two in college. 0:03:53.080 --> 0:03:55.680 And I don't know if that's the main reason people 0:03:55.760 --> 0:03:59.600 are dismissing it or just general people dismiss stuff like this. 0:04:01.480 --> 0:04:04.640 And she took a polygraph test that came out that 0:04:04.720 --> 0:04:07.640 she was not being dishonest, but they rejected it. 0:04:07.760 --> 0:04:12.320 They rejected it, and she also gave the notes. She 0:04:12.640 --> 0:04:17.080 gave permission to her therapist to release her notes, which 0:04:17.120 --> 0:04:20.440 she talked about this incident back in twenty twelve with 0:04:20.480 --> 0:04:21.120 her therapist. 0:04:22.000 --> 0:04:25.720 So I don't know, I don't know. 0:04:29.800 --> 0:04:32.360 Yeah, it looks like you no, no, no. All In all, 0:04:32.440 --> 0:04:37.240 though we wanted to talk this along with Bilkosby's recent sentence, 0:04:38.720 --> 0:04:40.720 we wanted to talk about sexualbse. 0:04:41.520 --> 0:04:44.960 Yeah, it's a serious topic, and it's something that I 0:04:45.000 --> 0:04:50.360 think so many women feel uncomfortable about talking about, or 0:04:50.400 --> 0:04:52.920 some women don't even realize they've experienced it, right, you 0:04:53.000 --> 0:04:56.040 know what I mean, because you start to put the 0:04:56.080 --> 0:04:59.279 blame on yourself, like, oh, I asked for this, or. 0:04:59.200 --> 0:05:01.080 I like a real disease. 0:05:02.279 --> 0:05:06.640 You know we're here now, so now I have to right, No, 0:05:06.720 --> 0:05:08.719 I don't want to see your penis. You know, these 0:05:08.720 --> 0:05:11.960 are all in some form refreshing ways. You know, people 0:05:12.160 --> 0:05:13.800 overset their boundaries. 0:05:13.600 --> 0:05:16.480 Right, Never have I been like you will, look at 0:05:16.480 --> 0:05:17.400 this pussy, look at this? 0:05:17.760 --> 0:05:17.880 Right? 0:05:17.920 --> 0:05:20.040 Can you look at this? Can you imagine? No, I'm 0:05:20.080 --> 0:05:22.880 not going anywhere. Come on, I'm not going anywhere, like 0:05:23.120 --> 0:05:24.240 please come on, I mean not. 0:05:24.800 --> 0:05:26.640 So it's like demean men because I know men get 0:05:26.680 --> 0:05:29.600 sexually assaulted as well, which I know it's not funny. 0:05:30.720 --> 0:05:33.800 I know it's not funny. The sad part is men. 0:05:34.080 --> 0:05:36.240 All the guys I know that have been like molested. 0:05:36.680 --> 0:05:39.200 It's always I'm talking about men, like about well, you know, 0:05:39.279 --> 0:05:42.000 I know one guy I dated, he was molested for 0:05:42.000 --> 0:05:43.920 a long period time by his mother's boyfriend. That was 0:05:43.960 --> 0:05:46.120 a real place in molistation, but a lot of times 0:05:46.360 --> 0:05:47.880 I've talked to guys and I'm like, how over. 0:05:47.880 --> 0:05:49.120 You when you not share your virginity? 0:05:49.360 --> 0:05:52.680 They're like twelve, eleven, thirteen, I'm like, how old was 0:05:52.720 --> 0:05:55.000 the person who It's always an older woman or an 0:05:55.000 --> 0:05:56.680 older person at least a king who knows what they're doing. 0:05:56.720 --> 0:05:59.880 And I'm always like, yo, that's not funny. You got 0:06:00.160 --> 0:06:00.720 fucking rate. 0:06:01.120 --> 0:06:04.520 That's the lessation that is very disgusting. Even I for 0:06:04.640 --> 0:06:06.359 like seven, and I'm like, that's not cool. 0:06:06.520 --> 0:06:09.040 It's so true. It's so true, Like they don't mean. 0:06:09.120 --> 0:06:11.560 Multiple guys that have told me that they lost a 0:06:11.640 --> 0:06:14.480 virginity to like a much older, like a baby person, 0:06:14.680 --> 0:06:16.640 but they don't even view it as they're not when 0:06:16.680 --> 0:06:18.720 they're telling me. They're not telling me because they think 0:06:18.720 --> 0:06:21.640 they've been sexually assaulted. They're either like girl almost bragging 0:06:21.680 --> 0:06:22.040 about it. 0:06:22.120 --> 0:06:22.280 Yeah. 0:06:22.279 --> 0:06:23.480 I thought if you guys be like, yeah, you know, 0:06:23.480 --> 0:06:25.240 I lost my virginity, it's like twenty year old. I 0:06:25.279 --> 0:06:26.039 was like thirteen. 0:06:26.080 --> 0:06:28.280 I was like, that's that's rape, that's yeah, or like 0:06:28.320 --> 0:06:30.479 a seventeen year old and I was twelve, Yeah, you 0:06:30.520 --> 0:06:31.039 know what I mean? 0:06:31.240 --> 0:06:33.080 Like the babysitter. 0:06:33.160 --> 0:06:36.159 Yeah, I've heard crazy shit and it's like, yeah, dude, 0:06:36.200 --> 0:06:38.800 that that's you might need to heal from that. 0:06:39.160 --> 0:06:40.000 Yeah. Yeah. 0:06:42.800 --> 0:06:48.919 Also a big thing about like experience something experiencing something 0:06:49.000 --> 0:06:56.560 like that when you're younger is sometimes you. 0:06:54.160 --> 0:06:56.640 You like you numb it out, like the trauma is 0:06:56.680 --> 0:06:59.240 so great that like your body makes it you think 0:06:59.240 --> 0:07:03.520 it's a dream or like they suppressed the memory because 0:07:03.560 --> 0:07:06.200 it's too traumatic to relive and you feel gale and 0:07:06.200 --> 0:07:07.360 you don't know how to communicate it. 0:07:08.600 --> 0:07:12.320 Yeah, seriously, I mean, I mean, I know, like I know, 0:07:12.440 --> 0:07:16.360 maybe not cases of sexual assault for me, but I've 0:07:16.400 --> 0:07:19.280 definitely like had moments of like where like something has 0:07:19.320 --> 0:07:21.720 triggered a memory for me where I'm like, oh my god, 0:07:21.840 --> 0:07:23.720 is that And I'll be confused like was that a 0:07:23.800 --> 0:07:24.720 dream or was. 0:07:24.720 --> 0:07:27.960 That all right? My tripmen? Right real? I'm like, oh no, 0:07:28.040 --> 0:07:29.480 that was that was real? 0:07:32.080 --> 0:07:36.440 And like when that happens, it's just like you still 0:07:36.440 --> 0:07:38.200 don't because like even when I think about stuff like 0:07:38.200 --> 0:07:40.320 a memory that I have that I like I can't remember, 0:07:40.880 --> 0:07:42.920 I'm still not sure like what is real about it? 0:07:42.920 --> 0:07:44.960 And what is it not? Right? Yeah? 0:07:45.000 --> 0:07:47.880 And because you're thinking about it, are you what is 0:07:47.920 --> 0:07:49.480 fabricated or what is memory? 0:07:49.720 --> 0:07:50.040 Okay? 0:07:50.040 --> 0:07:52.200 So I have my friend this topic came up with 0:07:52.280 --> 0:07:53.760 was talking to my friend on the phone tonight and 0:07:53.800 --> 0:07:56.880 she was saying that she when she was like little, 0:07:56.920 --> 0:07:58.880 like six five or six, she always wear of her 0:07:58.880 --> 0:08:01.600 neighbor's house. There was two little girls over there, but 0:08:01.640 --> 0:08:04.600 she never like she was always asking them and your 0:08:04.680 --> 0:08:06.360 dad's going to be home? Is your dad going to 0:08:06.440 --> 0:08:07.960 be home? And even her mom thought that was weird. 0:08:08.000 --> 0:08:09.640 Even if their mom thought it was weird, Like why 0:08:09.640 --> 0:08:11.320 do you keep asking that? She said, I don't know. 0:08:11.480 --> 0:08:12.080 So she said she. 0:08:13.680 --> 0:08:16.040 Later started having this dream that he'd come in the 0:08:16.080 --> 0:08:17.880 room and touch her because she was sleeping in the 0:08:17.880 --> 0:08:20.400 guest room, and her body would is like tense up 0:08:20.600 --> 0:08:21.520 and get really stiff. 0:08:21.640 --> 0:08:23.080 This is the dream she's having. 0:08:23.560 --> 0:08:25.520 But later in like when she was eighteen, she took 0:08:25.560 --> 0:08:29.840 a psychology class and they were talking about how as 0:08:29.960 --> 0:08:33.880 children we make things into dreams because we can't process 0:08:34.160 --> 0:08:37.280 the trauma. And at that moment she realized that shit 0:08:37.360 --> 0:08:40.240 wasn't a dream. This was what really happened, and her 0:08:40.400 --> 0:08:42.840 body she was just thinking it was a dream. She's like, 0:08:42.840 --> 0:08:44.800 I've never had that dream when I was at my house, 0:08:44.920 --> 0:08:50.320 only when I was there, So that's one way you know, 0:08:50.400 --> 0:08:55.120 like people are like subconsciously don't even realize these abuses 0:08:55.160 --> 0:08:57.800 happened and how it's affecting them. And then there's other 0:08:57.840 --> 0:08:59.480 things like you said how you didn't remember, and then 0:08:59.520 --> 0:09:01.800 like suddenly something I remember when I was little, When 0:09:01.840 --> 0:09:05.640 I was like sixteen, I was in Philly and we 0:09:05.679 --> 0:09:07.880 passed by like an old house my grandmother lived in, 0:09:08.200 --> 0:09:10.280 and my dad was like, I remember, your grandmother used 0:09:10.320 --> 0:09:12.000 to live there. And I looked at it, and as 0:09:12.040 --> 0:09:14.360 soon as he said that, I had this rushing memory 0:09:14.720 --> 0:09:17.559 of like the neighbor two doors down like touching me 0:09:17.600 --> 0:09:18.600 while we were playing house. 0:09:18.880 --> 0:09:20.520 He was older than me. I was probably like three 0:09:20.600 --> 0:09:22.800 or four, honestly, and he was he was older. 0:09:22.840 --> 0:09:26.520 Maybe I don't know how much older, but like a 0:09:26.600 --> 0:09:30.079 teenager or I can't really really it matters. 0:09:30.480 --> 0:09:34.360 No, it's maybe like eleven or ten or something. I mean, 0:09:34.400 --> 0:09:37.040 that's pretty much's a lot older. Yeah, maybe it was 0:09:37.120 --> 0:09:39.520 nine or something. Matter he's three or four. I don't 0:09:39.520 --> 0:09:41.120 think I was like traumatized by it. 0:09:41.240 --> 0:09:43.480 But what did he do, like to like go in 0:09:43.520 --> 0:09:45.360 my pants and try to touch my pet? 0:09:46.480 --> 0:09:48.719 You know? Then I get confused because I mean I 0:09:48.720 --> 0:09:50.480 think a boy. It depends on how age he was. 0:09:50.520 --> 0:09:52.160 But a boy at a certain age doesn't even know, 0:09:52.240 --> 0:09:55.400 like they're both right, right, I'm not, But at the 0:09:55.400 --> 0:09:57.920 same time, if he was at that age, he should know. 0:09:57.960 --> 0:10:00.000 And that's even a big of a problem with parents. 0:10:00.040 --> 0:10:02.640 Aren't teaching the kids like you don't do that, you 0:10:02.679 --> 0:10:03.560 don't touch anybody. 0:10:03.679 --> 0:10:07.160 Yeah, but I remember mom telling me, like, always in 0:10:07.200 --> 0:10:09.040 the bathroom, someone tends to hear you tell me. And 0:10:09.080 --> 0:10:11.800 I told her, and I like, I don't really remember 0:10:11.960 --> 0:10:13.760 happen with that. My grandmother must have said something to them. 0:10:13.840 --> 0:10:16.679 But at sixteen, I was like, am I tripping? So 0:10:16.760 --> 0:10:18.360 I asked my parents do you remember? 0:10:18.480 --> 0:10:19.800 Like it came out. I was like, do you remember? 0:10:19.960 --> 0:10:21.520 He's like, they asked me, do you remember that? And 0:10:21.559 --> 0:10:23.200 I was like, yeah, I do. I don't think I'm 0:10:23.200 --> 0:10:24.439 traumatized or anything by it. 0:10:24.520 --> 0:10:27.920 But the crazy part is is that had I not 0:10:28.000 --> 0:10:30.240 drove past that house at that moment, and I may 0:10:30.240 --> 0:10:30.640 not have. 0:10:30.640 --> 0:10:31.760 Ever really remembered that. 0:10:31.880 --> 0:10:35.520 Not really huge deal or anything, but just how your 0:10:35.559 --> 0:10:40.800 mind can be so tricky. Even I have a cousin 0:10:41.080 --> 0:10:46.720 and recently she's thirty two, and she was she smelled 0:10:46.720 --> 0:10:50.160 the scent and it started triggering these really dark memories 0:10:50.160 --> 0:10:53.360 of being like raped by a relative when she was 0:10:53.400 --> 0:10:56.960 like six years old, and then she started to play 0:10:56.960 --> 0:10:59.120 out other things in her mind where she was like 0:11:00.280 --> 0:11:07.600 she she she associated that with like with like, like 0:11:07.960 --> 0:11:08.840 like sex with love. 0:11:08.880 --> 0:11:10.440 So she tried to make her brother touch her. 0:11:10.520 --> 0:11:13.240 She tried to touch other people because even as a child, 0:11:13.280 --> 0:11:14.640 she she didn't understand. 0:11:14.679 --> 0:11:15.120 She didn't. 0:11:15.160 --> 0:11:17.800 You can't fully comprehend that. And it was someone she 0:11:18.080 --> 0:11:19.040 loved and a door. 0:11:19.120 --> 0:11:22.600 Yeah, she thought he was like giving her like affection 0:11:23.120 --> 0:11:28.640 appropriate effects, right, but six years old, raping a six 0:11:28.720 --> 0:11:29.120 year old? 0:11:29.720 --> 0:11:32.559 And the fourth the crazy thing is is that thirty 0:11:32.840 --> 0:11:35.240 in a growing up this is my close cousin. She 0:11:35.400 --> 0:11:37.960 was troubled, She got kicked out of schools a lot, 0:11:38.080 --> 0:11:41.839 she was she was angry. I'm we humped like and 0:11:41.920 --> 0:11:44.320 she even had asked him like me and me and 0:11:44.360 --> 0:11:47.679 her oh no, But I'm just saying, you know, she 0:11:47.760 --> 0:11:50.600 was hyper sexual, but she did never even understood why 0:11:50.679 --> 0:11:54.520 until she smelled this sense and it triggered all of 0:11:54.559 --> 0:11:57.280 these memories. And I'm like, fuck, can you imagine at 0:11:57.320 --> 0:11:59.640 thirty two years old suddenly. 0:11:59.520 --> 0:12:03.000 Everything you're like, oh oh yeah. 0:12:03.240 --> 0:12:07.679 And even she apologized to me about like things like 0:12:07.720 --> 0:12:08.280 when we're kids. 0:12:08.320 --> 0:12:10.040 I was like, we're both kids, Like we don't fucking know. 0:12:10.120 --> 0:12:14.400 She's like, no, it was wrong And I didn't even know, 0:12:14.440 --> 0:12:15.920 and obviously didn't know your drinking. But a lot of 0:12:15.960 --> 0:12:19.000 times that behavior stems from some where you learn that 0:12:19.000 --> 0:12:22.960 behavior from. But I'm just like I've always thought, like 0:12:23.080 --> 0:12:26.080 I'm a I know, I'm a very sexual person, hypersexual, 0:12:26.120 --> 0:12:29.400 and I'm probably that's probably like one of my vices. 0:12:29.440 --> 0:12:30.719 But I always was like, damn, I don't need to 0:12:30.720 --> 0:12:33.320 get like some type of hypnotherapy and see if there's 0:12:33.320 --> 0:12:35.440 anything else in there, because maybe this is the reason 0:12:35.440 --> 0:12:37.960 maybe something's wrong with me, because I just know how 0:12:38.000 --> 0:12:39.240 tricky the mind is. 0:12:40.760 --> 0:12:43.720 I think also like you might just be sexual. Yeah, 0:12:43.720 --> 0:12:45.240 but I mean, I'm just trying to find like a 0:12:45.240 --> 0:12:47.880 good reason. But I think, but I mean, there are 0:12:47.880 --> 0:12:50.080 things that come up, you know, that can trigger you 0:12:50.200 --> 0:12:53.280 or influence you know, your level of importance on things, 0:12:53.320 --> 0:12:55.440 whether it's sex or whatever. 0:12:55.480 --> 0:12:56.720 It is, right, you know what I mean. 0:12:58.760 --> 0:13:01.720 How we view sex, how we how we go about 0:13:01.720 --> 0:13:06.920 getting sex, like the kind of sex we like, right, 0:13:07.120 --> 0:13:09.400 you know, And that's another thing I talked about my 0:13:09.400 --> 0:13:12.160 weird porn fantasies wait, what were they? 0:13:12.320 --> 0:13:15.360 It's always like older, like being take advantage of. But 0:13:16.240 --> 0:13:17.559 I'm like, oh yeah, what's wrong with me? 0:13:17.840 --> 0:13:19.600 Or maybe this is just my season right now when 0:13:19.600 --> 0:13:21.839 I'm meanto is that in a recent thing or it's 0:13:22.720 --> 0:13:25.439 more recent like the last year or two. 0:13:25.880 --> 0:13:29.559 I like bondage, So what does that say? Yeah, I 0:13:29.559 --> 0:13:30.880 don't know. I don't think. I don't know if does 0:13:30.920 --> 0:13:33.719 have any correlation. Like to be tied up. 0:13:34.400 --> 0:13:35.719 I mean I like to watch it, and no one 0:13:35.720 --> 0:13:39.360 ever does it, even I've asked multiple people to kiss 0:13:39.440 --> 0:13:41.839 pissed I am how. 0:13:41.800 --> 0:13:43.400 Many times I gotta tell the nick of time me up? 0:13:43.720 --> 0:13:45.760 Isn't that a fantasy? Is it just my fantasy? 0:13:45.800 --> 0:13:45.920 Oh? 0:13:45.920 --> 0:13:47.640 You don't get anything out of it, so therefore it 0:13:47.679 --> 0:13:50.640 doesn't that okay? You would have well, I guess I think. 0:13:50.760 --> 0:13:53.680 Also I'm always afraid like someone's gonna judge me because 0:13:53.720 --> 0:13:54.560 of my fantasies. 0:13:54.640 --> 0:13:57.079 And then some people are scared to like tie a 0:13:57.120 --> 0:14:01.080 bitch up. Clearly, clearly I asked my ex to do 0:14:01.160 --> 0:14:02.679 this for like seven years. I would want to be 0:14:02.720 --> 0:14:03.760 tied up and gagged a little. 0:14:03.880 --> 0:14:06.680 Yeah, just like tease me, show me your skills. 0:14:07.080 --> 0:14:09.360 I've been tied up and gagged and I was hot, hot, hot. 0:14:09.480 --> 0:14:13.959 I really like to fulfill fantasies to the off topic, 0:14:13.960 --> 0:14:16.000 which maybe not off topic because maybe why do I 0:14:16.040 --> 0:14:18.800 like to know? Because I'm sexual to it, which is 0:14:19.080 --> 0:14:19.920 totally natural. 0:14:19.960 --> 0:14:22.560 But this also goes back to like why as women 0:14:22.640 --> 0:14:24.720 we have to even question our sexuality? 0:14:24.760 --> 0:14:26.840 Did something happened to me and I oversexed? Because men 0:14:27.000 --> 0:14:29.720 just fuck all day and it's all They're not wondering. 0:14:29.760 --> 0:14:31.760 No one's asking them, Oh, they must have been raped? 0:14:31.960 --> 0:14:33.880 Were you molested? That's why you like to fuck so much? 0:14:34.160 --> 0:14:39.840 Right? But yeah, but we do experience more trauma than men. 0:14:39.880 --> 0:14:41.480 I think women experience more trauma than men on a 0:14:41.560 --> 0:14:44.560 daily basis, between getting cat called all day long to 0:14:44.800 --> 0:14:47.640 just like just just being demeaned all the time. 0:14:47.720 --> 0:14:51.840 Absolutely, even as questioning our five percent more than the 0:14:51.880 --> 0:14:55.880 next bitch sexuality goes to show that, like, as women 0:14:56.160 --> 0:14:59.960 were just held to a completely different accountability when we're 0:15:00.240 --> 0:15:02.680 when something happens to us and we're raped and we're fucking, 0:15:04.720 --> 0:15:07.040 you know, like the victim is like what was she wearing? 0:15:07.200 --> 0:15:09.760 You know, what was her sexual history? What like what 0:15:09.840 --> 0:15:12.920 did she do to get to deserve this? And I 0:15:12.920 --> 0:15:16.240 think in even some one state, there's. 0:15:16.040 --> 0:15:16.600 Like a point. 0:15:16.640 --> 0:15:18.760 There's like a point of entry, like once the dick 0:15:18.840 --> 0:15:21.240 is in this reagina, then like even if you say no, 0:15:21.440 --> 0:15:24.080 you can't count at as rape. There's like a specific 0:15:24.200 --> 0:15:26.960 amount like point in which they dictate no, no, it 0:15:27.040 --> 0:15:30.000 is rape or you must continue, which is even quay. 0:15:30.120 --> 0:15:31.640 So if it's all the way in, then they can't 0:15:31.680 --> 0:15:32.360 corry rape. 0:15:32.360 --> 0:15:34.760 I just I just yeah, that's the funck. Who's there 0:15:34.760 --> 0:15:37.680 and how would they know? How who's there to measure? 0:15:38.000 --> 0:15:41.880 Like I guess just hearsay, But I'm just saying that's 0:15:41.920 --> 0:15:43.240 an actual lot I read it. 0:15:43.280 --> 0:15:46.120 Okay, so don't know that's insane. I mean I don't 0:15:46.120 --> 0:15:49.560 put it past America, Okay, well right, I mean obviously 0:15:49.760 --> 0:15:51.600 past America. That's crazy. 0:15:52.840 --> 0:15:57.200 I mean even just. 0:15:55.880 --> 0:16:02.760 Super low minimal charges to pedophile, to fucking rapist, all 0:16:02.800 --> 0:16:06.240 these like it's just like, oh, bad boy, Johnny. 0:16:06.640 --> 0:16:11.000 You know, it's just not eagle. No, it's crazy. 0:16:11.240 --> 0:16:15.560 And I mean we'll probably never really know if what happened, 0:16:15.560 --> 0:16:17.680 you know what I mean with within this case in 0:16:17.720 --> 0:16:22.200 particular with Brett Kavanaugh or you know, clearly it didn't 0:16:22.200 --> 0:16:27.080 matter with Clarence Thomas. But that's what's so sad like too. 0:16:27.160 --> 0:16:30.720 You know, like this this woman doesn't have anything to 0:16:30.760 --> 0:16:34.520 gain from this. If anything, she's going to she's giving 0:16:34.520 --> 0:16:36.320 away a part of her life, you know what I mean, 0:16:36.480 --> 0:16:39.440 Like people are she's she had to move because she 0:16:39.520 --> 0:16:42.800 was getting death threats from people who support him. 0:16:42.840 --> 0:16:47.000 H Like, you know, her job, her job probably you know, 0:16:47.120 --> 0:16:51.040 she probably compromised everything and compromise everything because but she's 0:16:51.080 --> 0:16:52.960 the victim, and she's the victim. 0:16:53.320 --> 0:16:57.640 Yeah, it's it's she's like a doctor's and she's just 0:16:57.680 --> 0:16:59.600 like she's super educating college. 0:16:59.680 --> 0:17:05.160 Yeah, the doctor of psychology. She I think palout, she's 0:17:05.160 --> 0:17:08.480 a professor pado out. So I can't remember what college. 0:17:09.520 --> 0:17:12.680 At the hearing, the woman on the board or whatever said, 0:17:12.880 --> 0:17:16.679 how do you know it was him? And she was 0:17:16.680 --> 0:17:18.400 like just like how I know I'm here right now, 0:17:18.440 --> 0:17:19.159 I'm talking to you. 0:17:19.880 --> 0:17:22.119 And then she broke me down, way down. She was like, 0:17:22.160 --> 0:17:24.240 the hippocampus sends. 0:17:23.960 --> 0:17:27.440 A sense a vibration to the I was like, oh, 0:17:27.440 --> 0:17:28.360 but she told. 0:17:30.080 --> 0:17:31.720 I was like, oh, she just told you how the 0:17:31.760 --> 0:17:37.760 brain work works. Take notes? What No, you had enough 0:17:37.800 --> 0:17:44.560 fish sheets? Did you eat your pasta? Oh? Yeah, she 0:17:44.600 --> 0:17:47.360 has some more. She eat some of Luna's fish sheets. 0:17:48.440 --> 0:17:53.160 Damn god, I want something fishies. I want donuts? Oh? 0:17:54.000 --> 0:17:57.719 Should we get I don't know what? What do they 0:17:57.720 --> 0:17:59.640 call it? All the Krispy Kreme? Why do they close 0:17:59.680 --> 0:18:02.640 donuts up so early? Don't they know? People? Hi? People 0:18:02.680 --> 0:18:05.320 want donuts? Oh my god, we should open a late 0:18:05.400 --> 0:18:07.919 night do That would be amazing. You know what I 0:18:07.920 --> 0:18:10.560 wanted to open when I live downtown. It's so stupid now. 0:18:10.880 --> 0:18:13.920 I wanted to open a delivery ice cream service where 0:18:13.960 --> 0:18:15.720 someone walks around like you don't how like they have 0:18:15.800 --> 0:18:19.280 the Mexicans, like the Mexican Like you want a donut car, yeah, 0:18:19.320 --> 0:18:23.560 like have the little cards and like yeah so I 0:18:23.720 --> 0:18:26.400 or like you know, they serve like the Mango and 0:18:26.440 --> 0:18:29.280 the bomb. But you would travel around downtown. It was 0:18:29.720 --> 0:18:31.960 specifically for downtown donuts. 0:18:32.119 --> 0:18:34.200 Ice cream. Oh if they travel. 0:18:33.880 --> 0:18:36.000 Around with ice cream and they scoop it at your door, 0:18:36.240 --> 0:18:37.400 doorfront ice cream. 0:18:37.200 --> 0:18:39.520 This is your idea, This is my idea. It's a genius. 0:18:39.560 --> 0:18:40.240 It's genius. 0:18:40.320 --> 0:18:43.320 I would I mean, I'm very similar to very so 0:18:43.359 --> 0:18:46.320 much an ice cream truck, except in downtown. 0:18:46.680 --> 0:18:49.520 People want door to door service at a moment. We 0:18:49.560 --> 0:18:49.879 live in it. 0:18:49.920 --> 0:18:51.320 We live in a town where we want. We have 0:18:51.359 --> 0:18:54.680 Postmates to go fucking grocery shopping for us. I'm really 0:18:54.720 --> 0:18:58.080 sorry we got high before this episode. Okay, our tangents 0:18:58.080 --> 0:19:02.480 on donuts and ice cream trucks and fissiness ideas are horrible. 0:19:02.840 --> 0:19:04.720 First of all, it is nine thirty eight. Where the 0:19:04.720 --> 0:19:06.200 fuck are we going to get some donuts from? I 0:19:06.200 --> 0:19:07.800 don't know, I was freaking. 0:19:09.240 --> 0:19:09.919 I just thought of it. 0:19:10.040 --> 0:19:13.200 Yeah, we must make them. No I can't. No, no, 0:19:13.440 --> 0:19:15.840 it was your idea. No, no, I'm bad. It's a 0:19:15.840 --> 0:19:16.920 bad idea. 0:19:17.440 --> 0:19:25.439 Anyway, back on dry background dry. Yeah, So I was 0:19:25.440 --> 0:19:27.400 actually when I when we were talking, we were talking 0:19:27.400 --> 0:19:29.760 about this topic, I was trying to. 0:19:31.480 --> 0:19:31.960 Remember. 0:19:33.119 --> 0:19:37.720 I don't have any specific memories of being molested when 0:19:37.720 --> 0:19:41.600 I was a child. I know, like my mom taught 0:19:41.600 --> 0:19:44.040 me very early too, like his name would to my 0:19:44.080 --> 0:19:45.359 mom's super paranoid about it. 0:19:45.400 --> 0:19:48.040 Like I remember having like a rash on my vagina when. 0:19:47.920 --> 0:19:50.680 I was like seven or like six, and I'm will 0:19:50.760 --> 0:19:54.440