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Speaker 2: Welcome back to Good Mops, Bad Choices, Episode thirty.

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Speaker 1: Hey we made it. It's thirty, dirty flirty, thirty, thirty

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Speaker 2: That could be.

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Speaker 1: That could be our new intro music something like that.

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Speaker 1: We need to intro.

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Speaker 3: So I know, because technically.

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Speaker 1: I have no idea. I do not know what we

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Speaker 3: I do, so it's yours. Anyway, they're stoned again. So

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Speaker 3: we're recording this episode a little early because we are

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Speaker 1: Oh, we're gonna be a little dated.

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Speaker 3: But because by the time this airs, we're gonna know

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Speaker 3: if Brett Kavanall is honest.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I know the US Supreme Court, what do you what

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Speaker 1: do you guess? Yes? That isn't Yeah, yeah, I agree, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 2: I'm for stopping these white people First of all, Clarience

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Speaker 1: They are definitely don't give a fuck. How many pussies?

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Speaker 1: What's Clarence Claires? What's the face? He's in the clear.

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Speaker 2: But I just know they're not going to recognize it

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Speaker 2: because that means who knows what he's what is he

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Speaker 3: I mean overturned row versus way do a bunch of

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Speaker 3: who knows? Maybe he'll surprise us, I don't know. All

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Speaker 1: Me he did. My psychic intuition said he's guilty. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I just think that, uh so many women gits abused,

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Speaker 2: Like of all my friends, I can think of, like

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Speaker 1: That's how men act like fucking savages. But that's just

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Speaker 3: Because so, guys, we're obviously talking about the sexual assault

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Speaker 2: One of which that happened in two in high school

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I don't no, one in high school, two in college.

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Speaker 1: And I don't know if that's the main reason people

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Speaker 2: And she took a polygraph test that came out that

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Speaker 3: They rejected it, and she also gave the notes. She

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Speaker 1: So I don't know, I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a serious topic, and it's something that I

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Speaker 1: I like a real disease.

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Speaker 2: You know we're here now, so now I have to right, No,

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Speaker 3: So it's like demean men because I know men get

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Speaker 3: Multiple guys that have told me that they lost a

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Speaker 2: But at sixteen, I was like, am I tripping? So

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Speaker 2: Not really huge deal or anything, but just how your

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Speaker 1: Many times I gotta tell the nick of time me up?

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Speaker 3: And then some people are scared to like tie a

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Speaker 2: But this also goes back to like why as women

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Speaker 3: Did something happened to me and I oversexed? Because men

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Speaker 1: Right? But yeah, but we do experience more trauma than men.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, even as questioning our five percent more than the

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Speaker 2: You know, what was her sexual history? What like what

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Speaker 3: Yeah, the doctor of psychology. She I think palout, she's

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Speaker 1: fish sheets? Did you eat your pasta? Oh? Yeah, she

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Speaker 1: has some more. She eat some of Luna's fish sheets.

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Speaker 1: Damn god, I want something fishies. I want donuts? Oh?

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Speaker 1: Should we get I don't know what? What do they

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Speaker 3: I wanted to open a delivery ice cream service where

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Speaker 3: someone walks around like you don't how like they have

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Speaker 3: the Mexicans, like the Mexican Like you want a donut car, yeah,

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Speaker 1: Ice cream. Oh if they travel.

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Speaker 3: Around with ice cream and they scoop it at your door,

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Speaker 1: This is your idea, This is my idea. It's a genius.

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Speaker 1: It's genius.

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Speaker 2: I would I mean, I'm very similar to very so

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Speaker 1: People want door to door service at a moment. We

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Speaker 3: We live in a town where we want. We have

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Speaker 1: First of all, it is nine thirty eight. Where the

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Speaker 2: I just thought of it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we must make them. No I can't. No, no,

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Speaker 1: it was your idea. No, no, I'm bad. It's a

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Speaker 3: Anyway, back on dry background dry. Yeah, So I was

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Speaker 1: Remember.

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Speaker 3: I don't have any specific memories of being molested when

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Speaker 3: Who's touching you? And I was like no, and there

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Speaker 1: Like I like I felt like a hoe, you know

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Speaker 3: And he knew he was making me feel that way,

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Speaker 1: He's just manipulating. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: So basically, like when I was like twenty or nineteen,

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Speaker 1: Things, don't finish them.

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Speaker 3: show him that I'm like serious about this, you know.

441
00:21:41,760 --> 00:21:42,920
Speaker 1: I think, like I don't know.

442
00:21:42,880 --> 00:21:45,160
Speaker 3: How many times I went to the studio and this happened.

443
00:21:45,520 --> 00:21:51,119
Speaker 3: But one night we were there and I remember like

444
00:21:51,240 --> 00:21:54,080
Speaker 3: there was somebody there. The sound engineer guy was there

445
00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:55,399
Speaker 3: and he was also there was like all this. So

446
00:21:55,640 --> 00:21:57,840
Speaker 3: this guy was like helping me with vocals or something,

447
00:21:58,280 --> 00:22:00,920
Speaker 3: and we're doing the song it was going to and

448
00:22:00,960 --> 00:22:02,960
Speaker 3: then he was like, Eric could come in the back,

449
00:22:03,040 --> 00:22:04,480
Speaker 3: come back in the back and talk to me. And

450
00:22:04,520 --> 00:22:06,120
Speaker 3: I was like okay, and I thought it was weird,

451
00:22:06,119 --> 00:22:08,200
Speaker 3: but I was like what e's And so we went

452
00:22:08,320 --> 00:22:10,679
Speaker 3: back there and we're talking. He was like, you know

453
00:22:11,600 --> 00:22:16,040
Speaker 3: how how serious are you about like this your career?

454
00:22:16,200 --> 00:22:18,120
Speaker 3: Like how serious? Like what are you willing to do

455
00:22:18,280 --> 00:22:19,919
Speaker 3: to like? And I was like, what are you not

456
00:22:19,960 --> 00:22:21,560
Speaker 3: willing to do? He said how serious are you about it?

457
00:22:21,560 --> 00:22:23,880
Speaker 3: And then I was like, you know, like I'm so serious,

458
00:22:23,920 --> 00:22:25,600
Speaker 3: like you know, this is like my passion, my.

459
00:22:25,640 --> 00:22:27,159
Speaker 1: Gol like da da da da da. Like he was

460
00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:28,960
Speaker 1: asking all these questions. I thought like he was really

461
00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:30,960
Speaker 1: interested in my story.

462
00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:33,879
Speaker 3: And then he was like no, but like what are

463
00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:37,320
Speaker 3: you willing to do to like have a career?

464
00:22:37,680 --> 00:22:38,760
Speaker 1: And I didn't understand.

465
00:22:38,840 --> 00:22:40,919
Speaker 3: I was still like trying to tell him, like everything

466
00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:45,680
Speaker 3: I was willing to do vocal and he was like well,

467
00:22:45,760 --> 00:22:47,919
Speaker 3: and then he used a refereuse a reference of an

468
00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:51,560
Speaker 3: artist her name is Nicole Shu's and gir pussy Cat Dolls, and.

469
00:22:51,400 --> 00:22:53,600
Speaker 1: He was like she was willing to do whatever it took.

470
00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:56,960
Speaker 1: Oh my god, what a piece of shit guy.

471
00:22:57,000 --> 00:22:58,439
Speaker 3: And then what are you willing to do? And he

472
00:22:58,520 --> 00:23:01,800
Speaker 3: just kept like positioning did say what she did? Yeah,

473
00:23:02,000 --> 00:23:04,000
Speaker 3: basically said that she slept with Jimmy I mean to

474
00:23:04,000 --> 00:23:06,560
Speaker 3: get her to get her to get her on the

475
00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:11,280
Speaker 3: pussy at Dolls, which is probably bullshit. Maybe she did

476
00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:13,600
Speaker 3: who knows, but she's actually really talented and beautiful.

477
00:23:15,320 --> 00:23:19,160
Speaker 2: We fucking saw the very first reality competition she was on.

478
00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:21,679
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh my god, that made that made the pussy

479
00:23:21,680 --> 00:23:23,120
Speaker 1: Cat Dolls? What the fuck was it called?

480
00:23:23,160 --> 00:23:23,480
Speaker 3: She was on?

481
00:23:23,520 --> 00:23:23,879
Speaker 1: To show you?

482
00:23:23,960 --> 00:23:26,840
Speaker 3: Before that, I think, yeah, yeah, that one bitch was

483
00:23:26,840 --> 00:23:34,119
Speaker 3: working either way, but anyway, So basically, he just like

484
00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:35,920
Speaker 3: kept pressuring me, and like.

485
00:23:37,920 --> 00:23:41,440
Speaker 1: Finally I understood what he was saying, and I was just.

486
00:23:41,359 --> 00:23:45,439
Speaker 3: Like oh, and he was like, yeah, you know, you

487
00:23:45,520 --> 00:23:46,639
Speaker 3: might have to do some things.

488
00:23:46,880 --> 00:23:50,240
Speaker 1: And I was like I don't know.

489
00:23:51,160 --> 00:23:53,600
Speaker 3: It's like, well, you're not serious, Like you're not really

490
00:23:53,640 --> 00:23:57,199
Speaker 3: serious about this then, And I was just at that

491
00:23:57,240 --> 00:23:59,080
Speaker 3: point in my life. That's why I was so like,

492
00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:01,040
Speaker 3: I felt so shamed because I was like, am I

493
00:24:01,119 --> 00:24:06,040
Speaker 3: this week? Am I this desperate? And I said okay,

494
00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:09,040
Speaker 3: And we went to this hotel, this cheap ass hotel,

495
00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:12,200
Speaker 3: and I just remember him getting taking his clothes off

496
00:24:12,960 --> 00:24:18,679
Speaker 3: and he was just like overweight, hairy, shame on, older,

497
00:24:18,800 --> 00:24:21,000
Speaker 3: much older than me too, he was probably like forty two,

498
00:24:21,200 --> 00:24:24,040
Speaker 3: shame on that. And I remember exactly what he was doing,

499
00:24:24,040 --> 00:24:25,760
Speaker 3: getting on top of me, and I just like like,

500
00:24:25,800 --> 00:24:27,040
Speaker 3: oh my god, oh he just let me be over,

501
00:24:27,080 --> 00:24:28,280
Speaker 3: Let it be over, Let it be over, and then

502
00:24:28,280 --> 00:24:32,560
Speaker 3: it was over, and then it was over. And then

503
00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:35,520
Speaker 3: afterwards I felt so disgusted with myself. I was like,

504
00:24:35,720 --> 00:24:39,159
Speaker 3: how the fuck? What the fuck? But I like as

505
00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:41,520
Speaker 3: as fucked up as I felt like, I felt like,

506
00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:42,920
Speaker 3: this is what, you know what, I'm gonna do what

507
00:24:42,960 --> 00:24:44,000
Speaker 3: I have to do. I'm gonna do what I have

508
00:24:44,040 --> 00:24:47,520
Speaker 3: to do. I want this and like whatever. I found

509
00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:49,200
Speaker 3: him a few times, fuck it whatever, you know what

510
00:24:49,240 --> 00:24:50,640
Speaker 3: I mean? And I did it again.

511
00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:53,159
Speaker 1: And then after that second time, I like, I was

512
00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:55,320
Speaker 1: I never I couldn't even talk to him anymore.

513
00:24:55,359 --> 00:24:57,439
Speaker 3: I was like, I can't even and so I just

514
00:24:57,560 --> 00:25:01,800
Speaker 3: I blamed myself for that and because I felt like.

515
00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:03,719
Speaker 1: Okay, you're not You're not a child.

516
00:25:04,119 --> 00:25:06,920
Speaker 2: You are the fucking thing is like nineteen twenty years Oh,

517
00:25:06,960 --> 00:25:09,560
Speaker 2: I know, I know, I just I don't even feel

518
00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:10,239
Speaker 2: like an adult right now.

519
00:25:10,359 --> 00:25:13,720
Speaker 1: No. And he prayed on me, He prayed on he

520
00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:14,400
Speaker 1: prayed on.

521
00:25:14,480 --> 00:25:16,239
Speaker 3: All my shit, you know I do. I mean at

522
00:25:16,240 --> 00:25:17,879
Speaker 3: that point in my life too, like I did, I

523
00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:20,919
Speaker 3: was always seeking male attention and male validation, and I

524
00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:23,399
Speaker 3: felt at that time that I didn't feel powerful. I

525
00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:27,280
Speaker 3: felt like men were in better positions to help me to.

526
00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:29,600
Speaker 2: Do and he used his position to manipulate you and

527
00:25:30,080 --> 00:25:32,080
Speaker 2: a lot of twenty year olds a lot of I

528
00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:34,720
Speaker 2: felt that. I felt like, like I don't want to

529
00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:37,440
Speaker 2: say weak, but like there's so many times I wasn't like,

530
00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:40,040
Speaker 2: get the fuck off me, I'm ready to go where.

531
00:25:39,920 --> 00:25:41,480
Speaker 1: Now you know what I'm saying, Like you were like,

532
00:25:41,600 --> 00:25:44,760
Speaker 1: I'm not, I'm a fucking with you. Also, there's a confidence.

533
00:25:45,000 --> 00:25:46,000
Speaker 1: I don't know why is.

534
00:25:45,960 --> 00:25:48,360
Speaker 3: That, but I also think, now i'm thinking about it,

535
00:25:48,400 --> 00:25:51,800
Speaker 3: is that I also felt like, because of my issues

536
00:25:51,800 --> 00:25:55,000
Speaker 3: and insecurities and my needs for male validation normally for

537
00:25:55,119 --> 00:25:56,600
Speaker 3: male botchers, that I actually want to fuck.

538
00:25:57,040 --> 00:25:58,400
Speaker 1: But the fact that I.

539
00:25:58,440 --> 00:26:01,600
Speaker 3: Knew he wanted me, and I knew he thought I

540
00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:04,560
Speaker 3: was so beautiful, Like there was something about that that

541
00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:08,240
Speaker 3: I was like, fine, I'll let you have this.

542
00:26:08,560 --> 00:26:11,480
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's weird that you said that, because I.

543
00:26:13,280 --> 00:26:15,160
Speaker 2: Can relate to that, and I don't think i've ever

544
00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:19,240
Speaker 2: noticed that that feeling or thought in that moment until

545
00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:24,400
Speaker 2: you've saying it. Now, like some strange, some strange satisfaction.

546
00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 1: That you have.

547
00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:29,000
Speaker 3: You feel like you're in control, but you're not you're

548
00:26:29,040 --> 00:26:31,399
Speaker 3: not because you're actually getting like taken advantage of.

549
00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:35,000
Speaker 2: You're almost aware of it. You're using your like oh yeah,

550
00:26:35,119 --> 00:26:37,960
Speaker 2: like it's me, yeah, to like downplay.

551
00:26:38,040 --> 00:26:40,560
Speaker 3: I don't know how to describe what that is, but

552
00:26:40,840 --> 00:26:42,399
Speaker 3: I'm sure some of the people are listening.

553
00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:44,960
Speaker 1: Maybe you can relate to that. But or is that

554
00:26:45,040 --> 00:26:47,960
Speaker 1: like to make yourself not feel I think too, maybe,

555
00:26:48,280 --> 00:26:51,560
Speaker 1: But I don't know what it was. It was such

556
00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:52,679
Speaker 1: a fucked up feeling.

557
00:26:52,960 --> 00:26:57,399
Speaker 3: And it wasn't until like probably.

558
00:26:57,160 --> 00:26:59,560
Speaker 1: Like a year or two later that I realized like

559
00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:02,320
Speaker 1: I was taken advantage of.

560
00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:05,679
Speaker 3: And and I realized that when I ran into him

561
00:27:05,720 --> 00:27:08,080
Speaker 3: at a party like two years later, and I saw him,

562
00:27:08,119 --> 00:27:14,120
Speaker 3: and I was like paralyzed, and like I felt like trauma, trauma,

563
00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:15,960
Speaker 3: and I didn't want to I wanted to leave, and

564
00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:17,639
Speaker 3: I didn't wanted to see me, and like I was

565
00:27:17,680 --> 00:27:19,560
Speaker 3: trying to like avoid him at all costs, and like

566
00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:21,800
Speaker 3: we didn't talk. I know he saw me, but I

567
00:27:21,880 --> 00:27:24,960
Speaker 3: just was like he knew too. He knew because he

568
00:27:24,960 --> 00:27:26,000
Speaker 3: didn't even tried to come.

569
00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:27,120
Speaker 1: Over there and talk to me. Yeah.

570
00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:29,600
Speaker 2: And usually if you're all give with somebody, you leave

571
00:27:29,640 --> 00:27:30,960
Speaker 2: someone good, you know what I mean.

572
00:27:31,280 --> 00:27:34,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't have no guilt, Yeah, but I couldn't.

573
00:27:34,480 --> 00:27:37,040
Speaker 3: Like it's just it's one of those incidents like you

574
00:27:37,119 --> 00:27:40,240
Speaker 3: just feel so like I felt shamed. I still feel ashamed,

575
00:27:40,359 --> 00:27:41,960
Speaker 3: you know what I mean to talk about it because

576
00:27:41,960 --> 00:27:43,840
Speaker 3: I know the woman that I am, and I know

577
00:27:44,040 --> 00:27:46,760
Speaker 3: who I am now, and I know like even then,

578
00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:48,800
Speaker 3: I knew I was capable of like come on, like

579
00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:51,000
Speaker 3: I think back on that moment, America.

580
00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:53,080
Speaker 1: Come on, like, yeah, me, I even had a conversation.

581
00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:58,280
Speaker 2: I've done a lot of stupid, stupid shit, and it's

582
00:27:58,359 --> 00:28:00,199
Speaker 2: a lot of it was like when being manipulated, not

583
00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:03,080
Speaker 2: being like it just feeling strong, not feeling strong enough,

584
00:28:03,119 --> 00:28:04,200
Speaker 2: not feeling strong enough.

585
00:28:04,480 --> 00:28:06,520
Speaker 1: Honestly, that's really it.

586
00:28:07,280 --> 00:28:10,080
Speaker 2: And it's like crazy that something still like your your

587
00:28:10,119 --> 00:28:14,560
Speaker 2: body and like you're uncomfort your discomfort wouldn't be enough

588
00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:17,560
Speaker 2: at any age to just be like nah, like well,

589
00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:19,199
Speaker 2: I don't know that is tippy, Like why does it

590
00:28:19,240 --> 00:28:21,560
Speaker 2: take thirty years for me twenty nine, twenty eight, twenty

591
00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:23,800
Speaker 2: seven years to just be like no, like you don't

592
00:28:23,880 --> 00:28:25,760
Speaker 2: mean like have confidence enough to.

593
00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:30,760
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think that's crazy. I think what

594
00:28:30,840 --> 00:28:32,000
Speaker 1: are we not telling our.

595
00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:37,760
Speaker 2: Girls that it's that first of all men think it's

596
00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:41,120
Speaker 2: okay because how many times also have you even like

597
00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:45,080
Speaker 2: in high school or whatever, college shit last week, if

598
00:28:45,080 --> 00:28:47,800
Speaker 2: you like, someone's trying you and trying you and trying

599
00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:51,160
Speaker 2: you and trying you and trying and you're like no, no, no, no.

600
00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:52,120
Speaker 1: No stop stop.

601
00:28:52,440 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 2: They keeps rubbing on your back, fucking keeps rubbing and

602
00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:56,640
Speaker 2: keeps touching you and try and try and touch you

603
00:28:56,720 --> 00:28:58,040
Speaker 2: for trying, try and trying, try and.

604
00:28:58,120 --> 00:28:59,840
Speaker 1: Be like no no, no, no, no, no no.

605
00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:04,440
Speaker 2: And at some point you're like, fucking yeah, and it's

606
00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:05,360
Speaker 2: definitely happened to me.

607
00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:09,240
Speaker 1: And I'm like, even that is like, no, dude, no,

608
00:29:10,600 --> 00:29:10,880
Speaker 1: do you.

609
00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:13,120
Speaker 2: Lack that much self control? But even that is a

610
00:29:13,200 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 2: violation of your you know, well, I feel like.

611
00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:21,000
Speaker 3: The word no has been changed so many times, you

612
00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:23,560
Speaker 3: know what I mean? I feel like no can Sometimes

613
00:29:24,120 --> 00:29:26,040
Speaker 3: it just feels like, oh, this is what she wants.

614
00:29:26,080 --> 00:29:26,840
Speaker 1: She's trying to like.

615
00:29:26,800 --> 00:29:29,560
Speaker 3: She's trying to let a hundred know, she's trying to

616
00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:33,000
Speaker 3: like make beg for it, you know what I mean,

617
00:29:33,160 --> 00:29:35,479
Speaker 3: She's trying to make me beg for it. Or you know,

618
00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:38,080
Speaker 3: they just don't know turns them on because they you know,

619
00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:39,760
Speaker 3: they want to convince you, and they want to show

620
00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:41,640
Speaker 3: you their dick or whatever that they can do it,

621
00:29:41,680 --> 00:29:43,720
Speaker 3: and like you're gonna like this.

622
00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:45,480
Speaker 1: Dick, you know what I mean? Dude, when I have

623
00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:48,680
Speaker 1: a son, we don't play those type of games. It's

624
00:29:48,800 --> 00:29:56,240
Speaker 1: just no turn turnover, leave immediately. Yeah, like that's yeah.

625
00:29:56,320 --> 00:29:58,080
Speaker 2: Like first of all, you don't need any you don't

626
00:29:58,080 --> 00:30:00,760
Speaker 2: need no pussy that bad. And second you're a girl,

627
00:30:00,920 --> 00:30:04,520
Speaker 2: like you're a respectful, self controlled.

628
00:30:04,280 --> 00:30:06,720
Speaker 1: Man and no it means no. And you have a

629
00:30:06,760 --> 00:30:07,959
Speaker 1: mother and aunts and sisters.

630
00:30:07,960 --> 00:30:10,560
Speaker 2: I mean, you're all messages that like boys need to

631
00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:12,200
Speaker 2: know because what.

632
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:15,840
Speaker 3: In the fuck I mean even just like not even

633
00:30:16,080 --> 00:30:21,000
Speaker 3: like like yeah the no, no, no, no, no of course,

634
00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:23,000
Speaker 3: but like then there's moments where like you're having sex,

635
00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:27,040
Speaker 3: you you initiates, maybe you initiated sex, okay, and then

636
00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:28,640
Speaker 3: you start having sex and then you have sex and

637
00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:30,120
Speaker 3: then you're like, wait, I don't really want to do this,

638
00:30:30,480 --> 00:30:34,760
Speaker 3: but you just let it happen because it's easier. It's

639
00:30:34,560 --> 00:30:36,480
Speaker 3: like you don't want embarrass them, you don't want to

640
00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:39,120
Speaker 3: make it a thing, you don't want to be you

641
00:30:39,280 --> 00:30:41,760
Speaker 3: just you know you're already here. You brought this on

642
00:30:41,880 --> 00:30:45,080
Speaker 3: because you led him to believe you wanted this, you know,

643
00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:47,440
Speaker 3: all those feelings that like we shouldn't have that, we

644
00:30:47,440 --> 00:30:48,680
Speaker 3: should just be like, you know what, I don't want

645
00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:49,000
Speaker 3: to do this.

646
00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:51,280
Speaker 1: Fuck it, get off, thank you, have a good day,

647
00:30:51,560 --> 00:30:53,280
Speaker 1: like or we could just chill again, you know what

648
00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:53,680
Speaker 1: I mean.

649
00:30:55,200 --> 00:30:59,960
Speaker 2: You have no idea how many times I've been situations

650
00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:00,400
Speaker 2: like that.

651
00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:03,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, me too, And just like.

652
00:31:03,480 --> 00:31:06,040
Speaker 3: And I can count on one hand how many times

653
00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:09,960
Speaker 3: I've said get off, Yeah, I'm good. I've maybe, like

654
00:31:10,040 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 3: I don't know how like probably twice. Yeah, out of

655
00:31:13,320 --> 00:31:16,600
Speaker 3: all the times that I was like, I'm not really

656
00:31:16,600 --> 00:31:19,520
Speaker 3: into this, right, even like having sex with like an

657
00:31:19,600 --> 00:31:20,640
Speaker 3: ex boyfriend, you.

658
00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 1: Know, yeah, I'm even having sex.

659
00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:25,120
Speaker 3: And and that's even more confusing because you're like, this

660
00:31:25,200 --> 00:31:27,440
Speaker 3: is my boyfriend. We do this all the time. It's

661
00:31:27,440 --> 00:31:29,360
Speaker 3: not like this is the first time. But like I

662
00:31:29,400 --> 00:31:30,560
Speaker 3: don't want to have sex.

663
00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:30,840
Speaker 1: You know what I mean.

664
00:31:30,960 --> 00:31:33,600
Speaker 2: And that's happened to me, and I'm in a relationship

665
00:31:33,640 --> 00:31:36,280
Speaker 2: and we're in an argument, and in my mind, I

666
00:31:36,280 --> 00:31:39,560
Speaker 2: was like, this is weird, Like in my like I

667
00:31:39,600 --> 00:31:41,600
Speaker 2: felt weird even repeating it to someone else, because like,

668
00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:44,880
Speaker 2: this doesn't even sound doesn't even sound right. But if

669
00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:47,320
Speaker 2: I fucking say no at any point in a relationship,

670
00:31:47,360 --> 00:31:57,360
Speaker 2: married whatever, no, no, no, right, yeah, women definitely get

671
00:31:57,840 --> 00:31:59,760
Speaker 2: brushed under the rug. I think that's why a lot

672
00:31:59,760 --> 00:32:03,720
Speaker 2: of time times we feel guilt. We feel like it's

673
00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 2: our fault because everything like sex, women being like overly

674
00:32:08,880 --> 00:32:12,239
Speaker 2: sexual a is not accepted, And then I don't know,

675
00:32:12,280 --> 00:32:16,560
Speaker 2: it's just all a.

676
00:32:18,560 --> 00:32:21,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, I just I think about, like, okay,

677
00:32:24,040 --> 00:32:26,960
Speaker 3: how do I and because society, you can you can

678
00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:29,000
Speaker 3: only teach your kids so much, you know what I mean,

679
00:32:29,040 --> 00:32:33,800
Speaker 3: because society also influences all these thoughts too, like what

680
00:32:33,920 --> 00:32:36,080
Speaker 3: do I need to teach Iri to be strong enough

681
00:32:36,200 --> 00:32:38,280
Speaker 3: to like, first of all, well, we need to be

682
00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:39,920
Speaker 3: able to talk about sex with.

683
00:32:39,880 --> 00:32:42,560
Speaker 1: Our kids, openly, openly about.

684
00:32:42,240 --> 00:32:45,719
Speaker 3: It and not like just avoid the subject so they

685
00:32:45,720 --> 00:32:49,640
Speaker 3: can kind of figure out limits on their own, you

686
00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:52,360
Speaker 3: know what I mean, Like we have to discuss it

687
00:32:52,360 --> 00:32:54,360
Speaker 3: with them, because I mean, it wasn't discussed with me.

688
00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:56,200
Speaker 1: I mean obviously my mom was like, no.

689
00:32:56,160 --> 00:32:58,840
Speaker 3: One talks to your touches, your vagina, but she wasn't like,

690
00:32:58,920 --> 00:33:00,560
Speaker 3: and you know what, I guess that if you're having

691
00:33:00,600 --> 00:33:02,120
Speaker 3: sex and you don't want to have sex, you can

692
00:33:02,160 --> 00:33:05,240
Speaker 3: say no, yeah, I remember that. Yeah, like when she

693
00:33:05,280 --> 00:33:06,719
Speaker 3: found out I had These are things like when you

694
00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:08,800
Speaker 3: find out your child still starting to have sex. These

695
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:10,880
Speaker 3: are the conversations you need to have with them, as

696
00:33:11,160 --> 00:33:13,920
Speaker 3: uncomfortable as they probably are, they need to.

697
00:33:13,840 --> 00:33:15,960
Speaker 2: Hear you didn't do it so much that they get comfortable.

698
00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:18,000
Speaker 2: That's how I feel like we should have such an

699
00:33:18,040 --> 00:33:20,560
Speaker 2: open dialogue. I mean, I know everything doesn't happened, how

700
00:33:20,600 --> 00:33:23,160
Speaker 2: you whatever, but yeah, like this is going to be

701
00:33:23,160 --> 00:33:26,480
Speaker 2: something we've discussed from like eleven on, because these are

702
00:33:26,800 --> 00:33:29,520
Speaker 2: not to encourage it, but like you have the power.

703
00:33:30,040 --> 00:33:35,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, it's true, because how do you prevent that?

704
00:33:36,400 --> 00:33:40,520
Speaker 1: Like just oh my god, it's so scary, it's terrifying.

705
00:33:40,400 --> 00:33:44,920
Speaker 2: Even oh yeah, even to like we were both discussing.

706
00:33:44,960 --> 00:33:47,360
Speaker 2: Like when I was like fifteen sixteen, there was a

707
00:33:47,480 --> 00:33:51,040
Speaker 2: dude who knew how old we were, took us to

708
00:33:51,080 --> 00:33:54,920
Speaker 2: the club, got me shit face drunk, like super drunk,

709
00:33:54,960 --> 00:33:55,960
Speaker 2: to the point right black dot.

710
00:33:55,960 --> 00:33:58,560
Speaker 1: I thought that I thought you slipped something in my drink,

711
00:33:59,160 --> 00:34:01,320
Speaker 1: but like I know, I just block up when.

712
00:34:01,280 --> 00:34:03,600
Speaker 2: I drink a lot of drink a lot, or maybe

713
00:34:03,640 --> 00:34:06,040
Speaker 2: he did, I don't fucking know. I was sixteen years old,

714
00:34:06,080 --> 00:34:11,880
Speaker 2: but like he was, he had to be shit in

715
00:34:11,920 --> 00:34:15,640
Speaker 2: his thirties and who the fuck wants to hang out

716
00:34:15,640 --> 00:34:20,160
Speaker 2: with the bitch in high school? And literally like who

717
00:34:20,160 --> 00:34:23,120
Speaker 2: wants to fuck with like Loki pasted out bitch because

718
00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:23,640
Speaker 2: like if I.

719
00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:27,920
Speaker 1: Don't remember, you know what I mean? And because it's

720
00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:29,760
Speaker 1: a whole Yeah, it's just immediate.

721
00:34:30,320 --> 00:34:33,200
Speaker 2: Well maybe it is like that too, people like that,

722
00:34:33,239 --> 00:34:37,239
Speaker 2: and so later we stay friends up until recently. And

723
00:34:37,400 --> 00:34:43,120
Speaker 2: his girlfriend now was like twenty nineteen twenty when you

724
00:34:43,160 --> 00:34:46,800
Speaker 2: met here, dumb and also like he would tell me

725
00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:49,320
Speaker 2: that he likes like teen porn and now like I

726
00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:50,120
Speaker 2: didn't want to like.

727
00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:54,080
Speaker 1: But I'm like, oh, this is your thing. People prey

728
00:34:54,160 --> 00:34:55,680
Speaker 1: on easily.

729
00:34:56,400 --> 00:34:58,400
Speaker 2: They don't want to deal with women because they know

730
00:34:58,440 --> 00:35:00,680
Speaker 2: they're not up to par for like girl woman, So

731
00:35:00,680 --> 00:35:03,600
Speaker 2: they actually prey on like young.

732
00:35:04,120 --> 00:35:06,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, women that are just learning about sex and what's normal,

733
00:35:06,680 --> 00:35:10,399
Speaker 3: what's normal for sex and what isn't and they normalize

734
00:35:11,320 --> 00:35:13,360
Speaker 3: a normal behavior right early.

735
00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:13,920
Speaker 1: Yeah.

736
00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:19,359
Speaker 7: Yeah, So there's just so many, so many levels to it,

737
00:35:19,800 --> 00:35:22,880
Speaker 7: I know, And it's crazy because ninety percent of the

738
00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:26,000
Speaker 7: time statistically it's someone that you know.

739
00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:28,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's why you have to be careful, Like with

740
00:35:28,840 --> 00:35:32,080
Speaker 3: family with you know, even when we had that talk

741
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:34,040
Speaker 3: with Jessica when she came on and she was talking

742
00:35:34,040 --> 00:35:36,480
Speaker 3: about like talking about sex with your kids, like and

743
00:35:36,520 --> 00:35:39,800
Speaker 3: she I remember she talked about that percent usually someone

744
00:35:39,960 --> 00:35:42,320
Speaker 3: within your family like that, even.

745
00:35:42,120 --> 00:35:44,480
Speaker 1: Aunts and uncles, they shouldn't be changing your kid. You

746
00:35:44,600 --> 00:35:46,200
Speaker 1: just don't know. You just never know.

747
00:35:46,600 --> 00:35:48,279
Speaker 3: And I was like, and at first I was like, well,

748
00:35:48,280 --> 00:35:49,640
Speaker 3: I don't want to live in a world where like

749
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:53,400
Speaker 3: I just think I'm accused, Like I always think someone

750
00:35:53,719 --> 00:35:54,640
Speaker 3: is going to be harmicy.

751
00:35:54,680 --> 00:35:57,560
Speaker 2: But to eliminate it by only you the only deals

752
00:35:57,560 --> 00:36:01,120
Speaker 2: that you and the dad, Yeah, eliminated And then like, yeah,

753
00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:05,160
Speaker 2: your parents they raise you, how the unlikely but didn't.

754
00:36:05,160 --> 00:36:07,240
Speaker 2: She also tell us about a case where the grandpa

755
00:36:07,440 --> 00:36:10,920
Speaker 2: was touching the little boy mm hmm, and he was like,

756
00:36:10,960 --> 00:36:11,560
Speaker 2: in diapers.

757
00:36:12,400 --> 00:36:13,040
Speaker 1: That's crazy.

758
00:36:13,160 --> 00:36:16,440
Speaker 2: So it's just yeah, and also go with your gut,

759
00:36:17,400 --> 00:36:19,480
Speaker 2: because how do you feel like a lot of times, dude,

760
00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:22,239
Speaker 2: it's in your gut, like you know, if something feels off,

761
00:36:22,239 --> 00:36:23,840
Speaker 2: you know, something feels like comfortable and anything. If you

762
00:36:23,880 --> 00:36:27,520
Speaker 2: don't know, you have that thought even one time, trust it.

763
00:36:28,000 --> 00:36:30,120
Speaker 2: Don't take any chances with your fucking kids.

764
00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:34,720
Speaker 1: That's crazy.

765
00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:36,160
Speaker 2: It scares me.

766
00:36:36,520 --> 00:36:41,560
Speaker 1: Of course, of course it's scary. I mean, you know what. Also,

767
00:36:41,640 --> 00:36:43,600
Speaker 1: though I think I talked about this too, it's like

768
00:36:46,200 --> 00:36:46,799
Speaker 1: I feel like.

769
00:36:49,840 --> 00:36:52,680
Speaker 3: I feel like the like the because of the situation

770
00:36:52,760 --> 00:36:55,480
Speaker 3: that I went through with my baby daddy and him

771
00:36:55,480 --> 00:37:00,920
Speaker 3: being falsely accused of rape, like my perspective change. Like

772
00:37:00,960 --> 00:37:03,800
Speaker 3: I've talked about this before, like he was a false

773
00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:05,920
Speaker 3: accused of rape and the woman was lying.

774
00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:07,000
Speaker 1: You know what I mean.

775
00:37:07,400 --> 00:37:10,360
Speaker 3: And it's like when those situations happen, it gives ammunition

776
00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:15,480
Speaker 3: to people like President Trump or like you know, these

777
00:37:15,520 --> 00:37:17,440
Speaker 3: people that don't want to believe women, you know what

778
00:37:17,520 --> 00:37:17,839
Speaker 3: I mean.

779
00:37:18,000 --> 00:37:20,319
Speaker 1: And it shouldn't take like just.

780
00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:22,280
Speaker 2: A couple of liars, but like, see, you're all lying,

781
00:37:22,360 --> 00:37:24,000
Speaker 2: you're all fabricating the truth.

782
00:37:24,320 --> 00:37:26,719
Speaker 3: No, but because of that, that's where that that's where,

783
00:37:26,760 --> 00:37:31,920
Speaker 3: that's where it's where the seed is grown out of you.

784
00:37:32,320 --> 00:37:35,759
Speaker 1: Like I can't even believe that president our president. I can't.

785
00:37:36,320 --> 00:37:38,880
Speaker 1: I can't even call him President Trump, but he is

786
00:37:39,000 --> 00:37:39,480
Speaker 1: our president.

787
00:37:39,560 --> 00:37:44,240
Speaker 3: Unfortunately, he has spoken out about the situation and saying like, oh,

788
00:37:44,400 --> 00:37:46,640
Speaker 3: like all these lies and all of this and all

789
00:37:46,680 --> 00:37:49,359
Speaker 3: of that and everything is created by the Democrats, and

790
00:37:49,920 --> 00:37:52,839
Speaker 3: like all these got dam accusations ain't all lies.

791
00:37:52,920 --> 00:37:53,240
Speaker 1: Bruh.

792
00:37:53,400 --> 00:37:57,440
Speaker 3: It's like saying Bill Cosby, Uh, Bill Cosby's shit was

793
00:37:57,480 --> 00:37:59,920
Speaker 3: all a lie. Like forty how many people came out

794
00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:03,040
Speaker 3: was like crazy, forty thirty forty people came out Like

795
00:38:03,120 --> 00:38:04,040
Speaker 3: at that point, one.

796
00:38:03,960 --> 00:38:06,440
Speaker 1: Of somebody's not lying, somebody's selling the truth, you know

797
00:38:06,480 --> 00:38:10,080
Speaker 1: what I mean. Do you talk about his sentence and

798
00:38:10,160 --> 00:38:14,200
Speaker 1: his quarters? No? Yeah, so Bill Cosby was sentenced to

799
00:38:14,239 --> 00:38:16,080
Speaker 1: three to ten years. I don't know if you guys

800
00:38:16,120 --> 00:38:20,360
Speaker 1: have seen his mug shot, but sh is it's really creepy.

801
00:38:20,680 --> 00:38:21,280
Speaker 1: It's sad.

802
00:38:21,360 --> 00:38:23,919
Speaker 3: It's very sad and creepy. I mean, that's I don't

803
00:38:23,960 --> 00:38:25,680
Speaker 3: know should have be said.

804
00:38:26,320 --> 00:38:32,719
Speaker 1: Is it a limit? Kay? I'm trying to say as

805
00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:36,040
Speaker 1: I'm smoking, I'm like an ash limit to go to jail.

806
00:38:36,239 --> 00:38:41,480
Speaker 3: No, like a sad statutory rape, no sagitation, a limited

807
00:38:42,160 --> 00:38:43,200
Speaker 3: statitute of womens.

808
00:38:43,320 --> 00:38:47,520
Speaker 1: Yeah's limits of statutution. Oh my god, that's for fucking mind.

809
00:38:48,600 --> 00:38:51,319
Speaker 3: A limit like there's like a time limit up until

810
00:38:51,360 --> 00:38:54,440
Speaker 3: you can, like you know, be a quarter crime. Quarter

811
00:38:54,560 --> 00:38:59,280
Speaker 3: crime that's only in rape. There's no limit of statute,

812
00:38:59,480 --> 00:39:00,560
Speaker 3: limit of stuf altitude.

813
00:39:01,320 --> 00:39:06,759
Speaker 1: Oh, oh my god, in murder is no, only only

814
00:39:06,800 --> 00:39:11,279
Speaker 1: certain things? Why why rape? Because they don't give up?

815
00:39:11,239 --> 00:39:13,319
Speaker 1: Because women, because women are the ones that usually getting rade,

816
00:39:13,320 --> 00:39:13,960
Speaker 1: but they don't give a fuck.

817
00:39:14,000 --> 00:39:15,520
Speaker 3: They want to like, all right, you know, women, you

818
00:39:15,560 --> 00:39:17,960
Speaker 3: have up until you have twenty years to talk about this.

819
00:39:18,200 --> 00:39:20,200
Speaker 1: No, you've got twenty four hours if you don't report it.

820
00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:23,200
Speaker 1: We don't get DNA. Yeah that's true, but no, you

821
00:39:23,239 --> 00:39:26,160
Speaker 1: don't get the rape. Kate, you're dead. I can't believe. Well,

822
00:39:26,200 --> 00:39:29,759
Speaker 1: I can't remember what the what is the How many

823
00:39:29,840 --> 00:39:32,000
Speaker 1: years is it? Is it like three? Ten? You said?

824
00:39:32,080 --> 00:39:33,680
Speaker 1: That's first of all, I don't know how many years

825
00:39:33,680 --> 00:39:35,400
Speaker 1: do you have to report a rape?

826
00:39:36,160 --> 00:39:36,239
Speaker 2: Like?

827
00:39:36,360 --> 00:39:37,640
Speaker 1: Isn't it fifteen or ten?

828
00:39:37,760 --> 00:39:41,479
Speaker 3: It's like fifteen, that's it has to be fifteen, Because

829
00:39:41,520 --> 00:39:44,920
Speaker 3: I think, how long do you have to report a rape?

830
00:39:47,320 --> 00:39:49,960
Speaker 1: Siri? Siri? How long do you have to report a

831
00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:55,600
Speaker 1: rape which has happened? It sounds like talking with someone

832
00:39:55,680 --> 00:39:59,160
Speaker 1: might help. The National Sexual Assault Hopline website.

833
00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:04,080
Speaker 2: Offers content, Oh you did no, go back in there,

834
00:40:04,719 --> 00:40:05,359
Speaker 2: it's not in here.

835
00:40:05,440 --> 00:40:06,840
Speaker 1: Go look in there, close it down.

836
00:40:09,600 --> 00:40:18,680
Speaker 4: You racey better see it, Lynette relaxed, calm down?

837
00:40:19,920 --> 00:40:22,080
Speaker 1: How long was that like that? I just noticed. It

838
00:40:22,120 --> 00:40:27,160
Speaker 1: doesn't fuck did sire answer? No, it's here's a number.

839
00:40:28,200 --> 00:40:30,440
Speaker 1: I feel like it's fifteen years Okay, you might be right.

840
00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:32,520
Speaker 1: It's because I mean the still Cosby should happened a

841
00:40:32,520 --> 00:40:32,919
Speaker 1: while ago.

842
00:40:33,160 --> 00:40:35,000
Speaker 3: I mean there were ones from way back in the day,

843
00:40:35,040 --> 00:40:37,200
Speaker 3: but this was like one of I think this was

844
00:40:37,239 --> 00:40:38,319
Speaker 3: the most recent.

845
00:40:38,040 --> 00:40:41,960
Speaker 1: One, and that's why he got Yeah what you made? Wait?

846
00:40:42,000 --> 00:40:45,920
Speaker 2: So okay, fifteen years ago he was he was useful

847
00:40:46,040 --> 00:40:47,120
Speaker 2: enough to drug a bitch.

848
00:40:46,960 --> 00:40:49,840
Speaker 1: And yeah, for sure, what wait? What are his quarters?

849
00:40:49,880 --> 00:40:53,000
Speaker 2: He so he's in a single cell seven by thirteen

850
00:40:53,280 --> 00:40:55,040
Speaker 2: feet ten foot ceiling.

851
00:40:56,400 --> 00:41:00,960
Speaker 3: He can he has he can buy a tvablet, tablet

852
00:41:01,080 --> 00:41:05,760
Speaker 3: and books, a radio, books, a radio, and a tablet

853
00:41:05,920 --> 00:41:06,520
Speaker 3: for texting.

854
00:41:06,560 --> 00:41:08,719
Speaker 1: Oh, to do emails, to do emails, so he can

855
00:41:08,760 --> 00:41:11,080
Speaker 1: basically talk to whoever he wants all day long. Well,

856
00:41:11,120 --> 00:41:14,000
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know. I mean a tablet.

857
00:41:14,280 --> 00:41:17,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess it's just like a limited limited edition

858
00:41:17,280 --> 00:41:17,960
Speaker 2: jail tablet.

859
00:41:17,960 --> 00:41:18,400
Speaker 1: I don't know.

860
00:41:18,560 --> 00:41:21,640
Speaker 2: Oh, and he's right by the infirmary, just in case

861
00:41:21,640 --> 00:41:23,000
Speaker 2: anyone was concerned.

862
00:41:25,280 --> 00:41:28,479
Speaker 1: But he might go into popular general population in ten days. Yeah,

863
00:41:29,640 --> 00:41:30,680
Speaker 1: what do you think they're going to do to it.

864
00:41:30,920 --> 00:41:32,080
Speaker 1: He's probably gonna be the king.

865
00:41:31,960 --> 00:41:32,279
Speaker 2: Of that fu.

866
00:41:32,480 --> 00:41:32,640
Speaker 3: Oh.

867
00:41:32,800 --> 00:41:34,640
Speaker 2: Also in the article we read, they said they've been

868
00:41:34,640 --> 00:41:41,040
Speaker 2: calling him OG, which stands for original gangster. Don't ask

869
00:41:41,120 --> 00:41:45,160
Speaker 2: us our source, but that's what the article said.

870
00:41:45,600 --> 00:41:48,279
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I mean fuck.

871
00:41:48,320 --> 00:41:50,359
Speaker 2: The thing is I don't really feel bad for him

872
00:41:50,840 --> 00:41:51,879
Speaker 2: because he looks.

873
00:41:51,600 --> 00:41:53,800
Speaker 1: Like a pretty uncle. Who I know you did that ship,

874
00:41:55,400 --> 00:42:00,960
Speaker 1: but yeah, I mean I didn't get me away with ship.

875
00:42:01,800 --> 00:42:06,759
Speaker 1: They've made an example, lot of billy example. I have

876
00:42:06,800 --> 00:42:09,480
Speaker 1: to be an old black man. Why couldn't they guy

877
00:42:09,640 --> 00:42:11,520
Speaker 1: like get someone? Well that's what I mean.

878
00:42:11,520 --> 00:42:12,960
Speaker 3: He needed to get got, but I'm just saying that

879
00:42:13,120 --> 00:42:15,839
Speaker 3: I couldn't. The first example been like, what's the guy?

880
00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:18,879
Speaker 3: Everybody's going crazy? Oh Harvey Wine ste Yeah, well he's

881
00:42:18,920 --> 00:42:21,839
Speaker 3: definitely going down. He better, he better go down because

882
00:42:21,880 --> 00:42:24,719
Speaker 3: this ship is all recent. So many people are coming

883
00:42:24,760 --> 00:42:28,160
Speaker 3: like people who are now yeah actively acting.

884
00:42:27,960 --> 00:42:30,400
Speaker 1: Like yeah, yeah, nigga, you know what you did.

885
00:42:30,600 --> 00:42:34,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, Stevie's a creepy What are we doing.

886
00:42:34,480 --> 00:42:38,799
Speaker 1: To raise creepy people is a question. Creepy men, creepy man.

887
00:42:39,160 --> 00:42:41,160
Speaker 1: Maybe there's creepy woman too. We don't know. Of course

888
00:42:41,200 --> 00:42:48,480
Speaker 1: there are there's a creepy women that molest girls, boys creepy.

889
00:42:50,480 --> 00:42:53,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, like what's happening that it's just that, okay, which

890
00:42:53,480 --> 00:42:57,719
Speaker 2: is the whole different thing. Because I sat next to

891
00:42:57,760 --> 00:42:59,239
Speaker 2: this Oh my god, I wish I could find her

892
00:42:59,640 --> 00:43:04,240
Speaker 2: name was I should look her up. I met this girl,

893
00:43:04,280 --> 00:43:05,920
Speaker 2: Sarah I think her names stare on a plane. She

894
00:43:06,000 --> 00:43:11,280
Speaker 2: works for Ashton Kutcher's nonprofit, which is like aimed geared

895
00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:15,040
Speaker 2: towards finding people who like who make child porn and

896
00:43:15,080 --> 00:43:17,920
Speaker 2: like do sex trafficking I think the United States globally,

897
00:43:18,000 --> 00:43:22,160
Speaker 2: and she makes the actual program to like to find

898
00:43:22,200 --> 00:43:26,279
Speaker 2: out the actual location or some shit. Anyway, we start

899
00:43:26,360 --> 00:43:29,600
Speaker 2: discussing it on the plane and she basically says that

900
00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:34,840
Speaker 2: it is somewhat like a mental illness, and the fucked

901
00:43:34,920 --> 00:43:37,520
Speaker 2: up part is that because it's such a taboo thing,

902
00:43:38,040 --> 00:43:41,319
Speaker 2: people aren't comfortable teenagers whatever, people aren't comfortable to come

903
00:43:41,320 --> 00:43:44,839
Speaker 2: out and say I'm having these thoughts of children, blah

904
00:43:44,920 --> 00:43:48,640
Speaker 2: blah blah, this way, I need help. And I think

905
00:43:48,719 --> 00:43:52,680
Speaker 2: if you tell a therapist, they have to report you

906
00:43:52,840 --> 00:43:54,920
Speaker 2: or something like that. So she's saying the problem is

907
00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:57,239
Speaker 2: that there is no dialogue for people who have this

908
00:43:57,360 --> 00:44:00,560
Speaker 2: illness because it is actually an illness, there has to

909
00:44:00,560 --> 00:44:03,680
Speaker 2: first be like a place for them to feel like

910
00:44:03,760 --> 00:44:05,880
Speaker 2: to say, be aware of it and tell someone to

911
00:44:05,920 --> 00:44:07,560
Speaker 2: get help and not feel like.

912
00:44:09,360 --> 00:44:12,560
Speaker 1: Is it an illness or is it trauma from their childhood?

913
00:44:13,520 --> 00:44:15,960
Speaker 2: I guess like with this approach, it was an illness,

914
00:44:16,000 --> 00:44:18,520
Speaker 2: but either way trauma or an illness. If that trauma

915
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:23,800
Speaker 2: has developed into use six shit, some sick shit, that shit.

916
00:44:23,719 --> 00:44:29,120
Speaker 3: Fixed, I feel like we have a we have a

917
00:44:29,200 --> 00:44:31,480
Speaker 3: way of making everything.

918
00:44:34,080 --> 00:44:37,759
Speaker 1: Curable. When you're saying, what some shit is just like

919
00:44:37,800 --> 00:44:39,440
Speaker 1: an illness or like.

920
00:44:42,000 --> 00:44:46,920
Speaker 3: I think that I think that like should happen to

921
00:44:47,000 --> 00:44:51,560
Speaker 3: people that definitely affects their life. You know, people have terrifying,

922
00:44:51,719 --> 00:44:56,680
Speaker 3: horrible situations happened to them that you know, could potentially

923
00:44:56,760 --> 00:45:00,560
Speaker 3: make them serial killers or rapists or whatever that may be.

924
00:45:01,719 --> 00:45:05,719
Speaker 3: But I don't know if I would consider I don't know.

925
00:45:05,760 --> 00:45:09,000
Speaker 3: I don't think trauma is an illness, you know what

926
00:45:09,040 --> 00:45:10,600
Speaker 3: I mean? Because I think that's where that's like where

927
00:45:10,640 --> 00:45:12,400
Speaker 3: it gets confusing, you know what I mean. Well, I

928
00:45:12,440 --> 00:45:14,160
Speaker 3: think also that I think they are all there are

929
00:45:14,200 --> 00:45:16,239
Speaker 3: people in this world that maybe you haven't experienced any

930
00:45:16,239 --> 00:45:18,000
Speaker 3: trauma and they are still fucked up.

931
00:45:18,160 --> 00:45:23,799
Speaker 2: Wait, okay, so you've seen Frankie and Alice. Yeah, that

932
00:45:23,840 --> 00:45:26,160
Speaker 2: was that with Calgary. Yeah yeah, So it's this movie

933
00:45:26,200 --> 00:45:29,160
Speaker 2: hal Iberi does and basically this relation amendous experience happened

934
00:45:29,160 --> 00:45:32,759
Speaker 2: to her and she produces all these different personalities. She's

935
00:45:32,760 --> 00:45:38,000
Speaker 2: a schizophrenic and doesn't recognize she's switching between these different

936
00:45:38,239 --> 00:45:39,480
Speaker 2: personalities inside of her.

937
00:45:39,880 --> 00:45:42,680
Speaker 1: And this is a true story, I know. So what

938
00:45:42,719 --> 00:45:47,160
Speaker 1: I'm saying is if trauma, trauma can trigger.

939
00:45:47,239 --> 00:45:51,000
Speaker 2: Trigger and you're like your cellular memory can be triggered

940
00:45:51,040 --> 00:45:53,840
Speaker 2: so much that it does, it can be considered a

941
00:45:53,920 --> 00:45:57,080
Speaker 2: mental illness. Even if it's inflicted, that's just trauma because

942
00:45:57,120 --> 00:45:59,040
Speaker 2: just like we talked about, when shit happens to you

943
00:45:59,120 --> 00:46:03,200
Speaker 2: as a kid, your body, your memory automatically does things

944
00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:08,680
Speaker 2: that we may not even recognize, and it could and

945
00:46:09,040 --> 00:46:10,320
Speaker 2: that I mean, I don't know if this is like

946
00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:13,960
Speaker 2: behavioral behavioral traits, not saying that to the extreme that

947
00:46:14,080 --> 00:46:17,239
Speaker 2: that's an illness, but I think it could be so

948
00:46:17,440 --> 00:46:19,680
Speaker 2: severe that it becomes an illness.

949
00:46:19,880 --> 00:46:22,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're right. Actually, you're right. You just convinced me,

950
00:46:22,400 --> 00:46:28,759
Speaker 1: okays convinced it was based on the story.

951
00:46:28,800 --> 00:46:35,800
Speaker 2: So I've come to the conclusion scientifically sold but also

952
00:46:36,000 --> 00:46:45,800
Speaker 2: I really wanted to talk about too, the guilt that

953
00:46:46,400 --> 00:46:49,840
Speaker 2: as victims when stuff happens to you, that you behold

954
00:46:49,920 --> 00:46:51,400
Speaker 2: guilt and you're like, it's my fault.

955
00:46:51,800 --> 00:46:54,440
Speaker 1: This happened because of X, Y and Z, and how

956
00:46:54,520 --> 00:46:57,080
Speaker 1: important it is as we go into our adulthood.

957
00:46:56,640 --> 00:46:59,880
Speaker 2: Even small things, big things, whatever, even things that you

958
00:47:00,239 --> 00:47:03,640
Speaker 2: may have in some might consented to or didn't say

959
00:47:03,680 --> 00:47:06,520
Speaker 2: anything and allowed the shit to happen. All of these

960
00:47:06,600 --> 00:47:10,400
Speaker 2: things things we collectively need to be like, that's that

961
00:47:11,320 --> 00:47:14,520
Speaker 2: I'm not letting this like this guilt and this this

962
00:47:14,680 --> 00:47:18,720
Speaker 2: feelings that I didn't do enough like steer my whole life.

963
00:47:18,840 --> 00:47:21,800
Speaker 2: I'm worthy, you know, and I can move forward and

964
00:47:21,960 --> 00:47:25,759
Speaker 2: accept it and forgive myself and forgive that person in

965
00:47:25,960 --> 00:47:28,880
Speaker 2: some way, shape or form or fashion, so you can

966
00:47:28,960 --> 00:47:31,320
Speaker 2: release it and move forward and live at peace.

967
00:47:31,360 --> 00:47:35,279
Speaker 3: You know. No, Yeah, I just had an equiphany when

968
00:47:35,320 --> 00:47:38,520
Speaker 3: you were just saying all that. Sorry, I just realized

969
00:47:38,600 --> 00:47:43,200
Speaker 3: that a lot of me and a lot of like,

970
00:47:43,480 --> 00:47:47,759
Speaker 3: I think that situation with this guy that I had

971
00:47:47,800 --> 00:47:51,719
Speaker 3: sex with and I didn't want to I think really well,

972
00:47:51,760 --> 00:47:53,920
Speaker 3: A it steered me away from music for sure, Like

973
00:47:53,960 --> 00:47:56,279
Speaker 3: I had so told you before, Like after that like

974
00:47:56,320 --> 00:47:58,200
Speaker 3: I slowly kind of just stopped like wanting to do

975
00:47:58,320 --> 00:48:00,560
Speaker 3: music anymore, Like I didn't want to. I felt like

976
00:48:01,000 --> 00:48:03,440
Speaker 3: maybe I'm not good enough because the fact that he

977
00:48:03,560 --> 00:48:05,440
Speaker 3: made me that he that I had to fuck him,

978
00:48:05,880 --> 00:48:07,880
Speaker 3: or that he was suggesting that this is what had

979
00:48:07,960 --> 00:48:12,200
Speaker 3: to be done, Like maybe I was just not that talented.

980
00:48:12,320 --> 00:48:13,440
Speaker 1: So this is you know what I mean.

981
00:48:14,200 --> 00:48:17,160
Speaker 3: It really affected me and my confidence in like what

982
00:48:17,280 --> 00:48:19,480
Speaker 3: I'm good at, you know, because especially because music had

983
00:48:19,560 --> 00:48:22,000
Speaker 3: been so important to me and I felt like I

984
00:48:22,080 --> 00:48:23,279
Speaker 3: was really good at it and it was like my

985
00:48:23,360 --> 00:48:25,520
Speaker 3: whole life and then to find to put that in

986
00:48:26,120 --> 00:48:27,960
Speaker 3: suddenly that was questioned.

987
00:48:27,600 --> 00:48:31,560
Speaker 1: By an older person in power, and I believed it,

988
00:48:32,200 --> 00:48:32,719
Speaker 1: you know what I mean.

989
00:48:32,800 --> 00:48:35,440
Speaker 3: And just how that can like shape the landscape of

990
00:48:35,520 --> 00:48:37,320
Speaker 3: your life, Like who knows, maybe I would have like

991
00:48:38,040 --> 00:48:41,000
Speaker 3: been more successful music had I just persevered and pushed

992
00:48:41,000 --> 00:48:44,640
Speaker 3: through that and didn't let that situation like shape me

993
00:48:44,719 --> 00:48:47,480
Speaker 3: in that way, right, And that's that's that's.

994
00:48:47,400 --> 00:48:51,640
Speaker 1: Kind of scary. You're so probably so unimpressionable even that's

995
00:48:51,640 --> 00:48:53,560
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. You do think I could be fucking

996
00:48:53,840 --> 00:48:56,160
Speaker 1: Britney Britney spears, bitch.

997
00:48:56,560 --> 00:48:58,800
Speaker 2: You can't go with any bit more current than Britney

998
00:49:00,080 --> 00:49:03,240
Speaker 2: gonna you want to do the next Britney Spears, baby, baby,

999
00:49:04,480 --> 00:49:08,640
Speaker 2: that's gonna think. No one's gonna think your talents. I

1000
00:49:08,680 --> 00:49:14,279
Speaker 2: could notice Britney's talent. I could be something gone. I

1001
00:49:14,320 --> 00:49:16,640
Speaker 2: could have been launch all right, okay, all.

1002
00:49:16,600 --> 00:49:17,759
Speaker 6: Right, I.

1003
00:49:19,480 --> 00:49:24,319
Speaker 1: Can't be There's no limit. Wasn't it Britney pop? Because

1004
00:49:24,320 --> 00:49:27,680
Speaker 1: that'sn't you? Very differently I would write pops. But for me,

1005
00:49:27,840 --> 00:49:29,799
Speaker 1: I really wanted to do more. You know, you need

1006
00:49:29,880 --> 00:49:31,600
Speaker 1: to might have need to pull up those EPs for

1007
00:49:31,719 --> 00:49:33,520
Speaker 1: good girl. Don't make me pull them up making me

1008
00:49:33,600 --> 00:49:37,120
Speaker 1: the intro the intros to this episode. We need music.

1009
00:49:37,320 --> 00:49:39,719
Speaker 1: Oh my god, maybe I have like a really deep

1010
00:49:39,800 --> 00:49:43,359
Speaker 1: song I composed the beginning of this episode. Oh my god,

1011
00:49:43,440 --> 00:49:47,960
Speaker 1: I can't wait. Oh my god, I have one. Can

1012
00:49:48,040 --> 00:49:51,120
Speaker 1: you called Seasons? Okay, I can't wait to hear it.

1013
00:49:51,800 --> 00:49:54,080
Speaker 1: You guys for a treat. Oh my god, it's gonna

1014
00:49:54,080 --> 00:49:54,719
Speaker 1: be so good.

1015
00:49:57,160 --> 00:50:01,480
Speaker 3: Anyway, anyway, that just like when you were talking about that,

1016
00:50:01,520 --> 00:50:03,320
Speaker 3: I was just like wow, Like I was kept thinking

1017
00:50:03,440 --> 00:50:06,279
Speaker 3: like how did that situation affect me? What did and

1018
00:50:06,480 --> 00:50:08,640
Speaker 3: how did I really feel after that happened? And I

1019
00:50:08,719 --> 00:50:11,279
Speaker 3: did I felt obviously like dirty, ashamed, but I also

1020
00:50:11,360 --> 00:50:12,600
Speaker 3: felt like I wasn't good enough.

1021
00:50:13,160 --> 00:50:13,640
Speaker 4: No no, no, no no.

1022
00:50:15,600 --> 00:50:17,400
Speaker 3: But I also felt like I wasn't good enough, you

1023
00:50:17,480 --> 00:50:21,120
Speaker 3: know what I mean, Like I'm not worthy. Yeah, and

1024
00:50:21,200 --> 00:50:23,800
Speaker 3: I think I still carry that now. I think I

1025
00:50:23,920 --> 00:50:26,200
Speaker 3: already had that in me with my dad and like

1026
00:50:26,320 --> 00:50:28,480
Speaker 3: him not being around, But this was a different not

1027
00:50:28,560 --> 00:50:31,520
Speaker 3: good enough like my dad wasn't obviously thought.

1028
00:50:31,520 --> 00:50:34,520
Speaker 2: But sometimes when you're when you're used to receiving like

1029
00:50:35,000 --> 00:50:38,040
Speaker 2: a male attention in a certain way, we kind of continue.

1030
00:50:38,080 --> 00:50:40,080
Speaker 1: We kind of like it shows up in different forms. Yeah,

1031
00:50:40,080 --> 00:50:41,800
Speaker 1: it shows up in different forms because we're not realizing

1032
00:50:41,880 --> 00:50:44,440
Speaker 1: we're we're doing it because but it's almost like.

1033
00:50:44,719 --> 00:50:46,919
Speaker 3: Because like my dad, like for me, like my dad

1034
00:50:47,080 --> 00:50:49,000
Speaker 3: not being around and not choosing that to be in

1035
00:50:49,040 --> 00:50:50,920
Speaker 3: my life, I felt like not good enough to like

1036
00:50:51,000 --> 00:50:51,560
Speaker 3: for his love.

1037
00:50:51,880 --> 00:50:55,040
Speaker 1: Right with this, I felt like another man of power, not.

1038
00:50:55,120 --> 00:50:57,239
Speaker 3: A dead father figure, but maybe in some way, yeah,

1039
00:50:57,239 --> 00:50:59,840
Speaker 3: because he was guiding I wanted to guide me right,

1040
00:51:00,160 --> 00:51:02,080
Speaker 3: and then he wanted to have sex with me in

1041
00:51:02,200 --> 00:51:05,080
Speaker 3: order for that guidance to happen. So then like I

1042
00:51:05,200 --> 00:51:08,840
Speaker 3: felt like, well, maybe I'm what I'm providing. Like the

1043
00:51:09,000 --> 00:51:10,040
Speaker 3: music isn't good.

1044
00:51:10,000 --> 00:51:12,879
Speaker 1: Enough, right, So then that kind of correlated the other things.

1045
00:51:12,920 --> 00:51:14,960
Speaker 1: It's all correlated, you know, and it built upon it,

1046
00:51:15,040 --> 00:51:17,080
Speaker 1: and I think that's probably why I was.

1047
00:51:17,320 --> 00:51:20,040
Speaker 3: I've been very insecure in my life, not those not

1048
00:51:20,239 --> 00:51:24,600
Speaker 3: just those two situations, but they definitely for sure shaped

1049
00:51:24,840 --> 00:51:26,239
Speaker 3: a lot of things for me now that I'm thinking

1050
00:51:26,280 --> 00:51:26,560
Speaker 3: about it.

1051
00:51:27,280 --> 00:51:34,319
Speaker 1: Hey, you guys, guys enough, No, close close the door,

1052
00:51:34,560 --> 00:51:38,160
Speaker 1: close the door, close the door all the way. No, oh,

1053
00:51:38,520 --> 00:51:39,440
Speaker 1: don't hurt your fingers.

1054
00:51:46,360 --> 00:51:49,000
Speaker 2: I think even like high school, like that's why I said,

1055
00:51:49,080 --> 00:51:50,840
Speaker 2: whether you consented or didn't consent?

1056
00:51:51,440 --> 00:51:57,680
Speaker 1: Is even like high things just just shit, like even

1057
00:51:57,840 --> 00:52:02,439
Speaker 1: stupid she did in high school? College? I I wild out,

1058
00:52:03,600 --> 00:52:06,880
Speaker 1: like wild out, and even now is the adult have

1059
00:52:06,960 --> 00:52:08,120
Speaker 1: to go back and be like, Okay, what the fuck

1060
00:52:08,239 --> 00:52:08,759
Speaker 1: was going on here?

1061
00:52:09,560 --> 00:52:11,840
Speaker 2: But and was it like a lack of male attention

1062
00:52:11,920 --> 00:52:13,960
Speaker 2: from when I was young? Am I just fucking wild

1063
00:52:14,040 --> 00:52:17,279
Speaker 2: and free and crazy? Did it just sound fun? But

1064
00:52:17,480 --> 00:52:23,120
Speaker 2: also like do I subconsciously still have guilt from those things?

1065
00:52:23,280 --> 00:52:28,160
Speaker 2: Do I still not feel worthy and deserving? And that's

1066
00:52:28,200 --> 00:52:30,239
Speaker 2: why like when someone says something to me specific a

1067
00:52:30,280 --> 00:52:33,200
Speaker 2: trigger or something, but there's like even that's why I

1068
00:52:33,239 --> 00:52:35,360
Speaker 2: feel like even if you've consented to some shit or

1069
00:52:35,920 --> 00:52:38,640
Speaker 2: you need, you have to realise all of that because

1070
00:52:38,800 --> 00:52:42,680
Speaker 2: like what, anything that happens yesterday is yesterday and everything

1071
00:52:42,719 --> 00:52:43,960
Speaker 2: else is just moving forward.

1072
00:52:44,880 --> 00:52:55,960
Speaker 1: So that's true, it's true, it's true. Anyway. Oh wait,

1073
00:52:56,040 --> 00:52:58,400
Speaker 1: do we have a question about email?

1074
00:52:59,160 --> 00:53:00,279
Speaker 4: Do? Yeah?

1075
00:53:05,719 --> 00:53:10,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I still I think I think I'm happy.

1076
00:53:10,160 --> 00:53:12,040
Speaker 3: We're in a place now where you know, we're at

1077
00:53:12,120 --> 00:53:14,120
Speaker 3: least supporting each other more, you know what I mean.

1078
00:53:14,440 --> 00:53:17,360
Speaker 3: I don't really think things are changing that much, but

1079
00:53:17,480 --> 00:53:20,120
Speaker 3: they're slowly starting to and hopefully, like.

1080
00:53:22,560 --> 00:53:23,319
Speaker 1: Women just need to.

1081
00:53:23,280 --> 00:53:26,200
Speaker 3: Get in power powerful positions and just shut the ship down,

1082
00:53:27,200 --> 00:53:31,520
Speaker 3: shut it down, you need, it's just right, just go

1083
00:53:31,600 --> 00:53:38,560
Speaker 3: to oundboxes when it's recent. Oh going, Oh, okay, So

1084
00:53:38,640 --> 00:53:44,120
Speaker 3: we had a question from someone in our email, which,

1085
00:53:44,200 --> 00:53:45,640
Speaker 3: by the way, you can.

1086
00:53:45,640 --> 00:53:51,440
Speaker 2: Email us Parental Advisory gm b C at gmail dot com. Again,

1087
00:53:51,560 --> 00:53:57,120
Speaker 2: that's Parental Advisory GMBC at gmail dot com. Feel free

1088
00:53:57,239 --> 00:54:01,920
Speaker 2: to email us asking us, invite, telling us some horries,

1089
00:54:02,680 --> 00:54:03,440
Speaker 2: just to say, hey.

1090
00:54:03,360 --> 00:54:08,200
Speaker 8: Girl, hey, you know, free shit if you're gonna be

1091
00:54:08,239 --> 00:54:13,560
Speaker 8: in the LA area. Okay, So this is our question

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00:54:13,760 --> 00:54:18,520
Speaker 8: from anonymous. I have an eight year old daughter, who's

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00:54:18,560 --> 00:54:21,239
Speaker 8: my best friend, and it's been a whirlwind, whirlwind and

1094
00:54:21,360 --> 00:54:24,759
Speaker 8: raising her as I became a mom at twenty Now

1095
00:54:24,840 --> 00:54:27,920
Speaker 8: that I'm twenty nine, the sing and single, I'm curious

1096
00:54:28,000 --> 00:54:30,520
Speaker 8: on advice on dating and putting yourself out there but

1097
00:54:30,600 --> 00:54:34,480
Speaker 8: being cautious about letting people into my space and protecting

1098
00:54:34,600 --> 00:54:38,440
Speaker 8: my peace. I don't know.

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00:54:38,760 --> 00:54:42,560
Speaker 1: That sounds like two conflicting things. Wait, how does she?

1100
00:54:42,840 --> 00:54:45,920
Speaker 3: How does she? Basically, how do you put yourself out

1101
00:54:45,960 --> 00:54:49,919
Speaker 3: there and dating, but also be cautious about letting people

1102
00:54:49,920 --> 00:54:51,560
Speaker 3: into your space and protecting your peace?

1103
00:54:52,520 --> 00:54:58,600
Speaker 1: Yea filter? The filter, the akna happens out.

1104
00:54:58,960 --> 00:55:02,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, But is it like, don't lie yourself,

1105
00:55:02,320 --> 00:55:04,880
Speaker 2: don't try to compromise too hard in your brain to yourself,

1106
00:55:05,280 --> 00:55:05,520
Speaker 2: you know.

1107
00:55:05,680 --> 00:55:08,040
Speaker 1: Don't ignore the red flags. You see a red flag,

1108
00:55:08,080 --> 00:55:08,400
Speaker 1: believe it.

1109
00:55:08,480 --> 00:55:10,920
Speaker 2: You know who you're really not that into. And when

1110
00:55:10,960 --> 00:55:12,640
Speaker 2: you see that, when people tell you who they are,

1111
00:55:12,719 --> 00:55:16,160
Speaker 2: believed them. I mean, there's basic boundaries when dating. You

1112
00:55:16,160 --> 00:55:17,920
Speaker 2: can put yourself out there. You go on dates, obviously,

1113
00:55:17,960 --> 00:55:20,719
Speaker 2: don't bring people back to your house, maybe drive your

1114
00:55:20,719 --> 00:55:25,160
Speaker 2: own car maybe or separately. Always obviously, you don't immediately

1115
00:55:25,920 --> 00:55:29,839
Speaker 2: like introduce anyone to your kids. No guys should ever

1116
00:55:29,960 --> 00:55:31,160
Speaker 2: be around your kids without you.

1117
00:55:31,239 --> 00:55:38,239
Speaker 1: Being there period. I mean I don't know, Like you

1118
00:55:38,400 --> 00:55:40,600
Speaker 1: just have to feel it out protecting your peace. I mean,

1119
00:55:40,680 --> 00:55:43,279
Speaker 1: if he starts disrupting it early on, no, it's just

1120
00:55:43,360 --> 00:55:45,319
Speaker 1: gonna get worse. Yeah, what I mean, if you.

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00:55:45,360 --> 00:55:47,440
Speaker 2: Feel this should mean there should be no disruption of

1122
00:55:47,520 --> 00:55:49,719
Speaker 2: peace in the first eight months, six to eight, like

1123
00:55:49,920 --> 00:55:50,960
Speaker 2: literally like forty six.

1124
00:55:51,080 --> 00:55:53,359
Speaker 3: And also take a look at the like why your

1125
00:55:53,480 --> 00:55:56,920
Speaker 3: past relationships haven't worked, and try to notice the trends

1126
00:55:57,040 --> 00:56:02,320
Speaker 3: and see if there are any similarities popping up in

1127
00:56:02,520 --> 00:56:06,040
Speaker 3: him that remind you of your ex because or something

1128
00:56:06,120 --> 00:56:07,840
Speaker 3: you don't want in your life or don't want to

1129
00:56:07,880 --> 00:56:10,480
Speaker 3: attracting your life. Because I've had to do that, I've

1130
00:56:10,520 --> 00:56:12,400
Speaker 3: had to sit back and be like what is it that?

1131
00:56:12,719 --> 00:56:16,560
Speaker 3: Like why am I I'm dating the same person but

1132
00:56:16,640 --> 00:56:20,279
Speaker 3: in different forms? Like there are very different but they

1133
00:56:20,360 --> 00:56:22,239
Speaker 3: share one quality, which is narcissism.

1134
00:56:23,840 --> 00:56:25,759
Speaker 1: Why do I love people that love themselves too?

1135
00:56:25,880 --> 00:56:28,000
Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, but they shut up in different forms, Like

1136
00:56:28,080 --> 00:56:31,560
Speaker 3: there's the nerd narcissist, then there's a thug narcissist. Then

1137
00:56:31,600 --> 00:56:33,680
Speaker 3: there's like the yoga narcissist.

1138
00:56:33,760 --> 00:56:36,760
Speaker 1: Right, you know, there was all different types of versions

1139
00:56:36,840 --> 00:56:40,279
Speaker 1: of that, and so you know, like for me in

1140
00:56:40,440 --> 00:56:42,239
Speaker 1: dating right now, because.

1141
00:56:42,080 --> 00:56:45,520
Speaker 3: I feel like I am like, i'm very I'm actually

1142
00:56:45,560 --> 00:56:48,279
Speaker 3: really hyper aware of that too. I'm like maybe too

1143
00:56:48,360 --> 00:56:49,120
Speaker 3: hyper probably be like, oh my.

1144
00:56:49,120 --> 00:56:51,239
Speaker 1: God, it's conceded. He's conceded. He's conceited, and he just

1145
00:56:51,320 --> 00:56:55,200
Speaker 1: like looks in the mirror something he like wiped the book.

1146
00:56:56,239 --> 00:56:58,440
Speaker 1: Oh no, you love yourself.

1147
00:57:00,080 --> 00:57:03,160
Speaker 3: Let that buggers say, there, no, no, But it's just

1148
00:57:03,200 --> 00:57:07,640
Speaker 3: something that I just look out for now. But also,

1149
00:57:07,800 --> 00:57:10,920
Speaker 3: like you if you put out good energy and you

1150
00:57:11,080 --> 00:57:13,359
Speaker 3: put out love and you're like in a place now

1151
00:57:13,400 --> 00:57:15,200
Speaker 3: where you feel like you said you're ready to date,

1152
00:57:15,280 --> 00:57:18,080
Speaker 3: and like you feel like mentally you're in a good place,

1153
00:57:18,160 --> 00:57:21,600
Speaker 3: like you'll start attracting good people, and you know, you

1154
00:57:21,720 --> 00:57:23,200
Speaker 3: just have to kind of like feel it out.

1155
00:57:23,320 --> 00:57:24,120
Speaker 1: You have to feel it out.

1156
00:57:24,160 --> 00:57:26,960
Speaker 3: Because I definitely am like now that I feel like

1157
00:57:27,080 --> 00:57:29,160
Speaker 3: in such a better place than I did a year

1158
00:57:29,280 --> 00:57:32,520
Speaker 3: or so ago. Like I'm attracting different types of men.

1159
00:57:32,600 --> 00:57:35,280
Speaker 3: They're still not perfect men, all of them, but they're

1160
00:57:35,400 --> 00:57:38,440
Speaker 3: different than anything I've ever attracted. And also I think

1161
00:57:38,440 --> 00:57:40,480
Speaker 3: I'm also in a different place want to be different

1162
00:57:40,600 --> 00:57:49,000
Speaker 3: also well, babe, Okay, come in here. She's an't ask

1163
00:57:49,040 --> 00:57:58,080
Speaker 3: for issues. We're gonna take a quick break, guys, br

1164
00:57:58,200 --> 00:58:15,520
Speaker 3: b anyway, okay, sorry about that.

1165
00:58:15,600 --> 00:58:16,000
Speaker 1: We're back.

1166
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Speaker 3: I think we answered her question. I think, yeah, you know,

1167
00:58:20,080 --> 00:58:23,920
Speaker 3: just you have to get out there. You know what,

1168
00:58:23,960 --> 00:58:27,760
Speaker 3: you're filtering until you encounter. Yeah, you gotta get out there,

1169
00:58:28,000 --> 00:58:29,240
Speaker 3: that's true. And then you gotta filter.

1170
00:58:29,480 --> 00:58:33,040
Speaker 1: And you're twenty nine and your kids are your kid

1171
00:58:33,160 --> 00:58:35,520
Speaker 1: is older, like, get out, you're lucky.

1172
00:58:36,160 --> 00:58:39,840
Speaker 3: Get on tender asa, Yeah, get on that ship tender

1173
00:58:40,320 --> 00:58:44,360
Speaker 3: and bumble not bumble, just get on Instagram because apparently

1174
00:58:44,440 --> 00:58:46,080
Speaker 3: these days just using the d ms.

1175
00:58:48,560 --> 00:58:50,080
Speaker 1: But anyway, I think.

1176
00:58:51,760 --> 00:58:56,000
Speaker 3: Me and Jamil are both really tired, and Hi, the

1177
00:58:56,120 --> 00:59:00,000
Speaker 3: kids won't leave the room, so we're gonna We're gonna

1178
00:59:00,080 --> 00:59:02,880
Speaker 3: to end it now. So thank you so much for

1179
00:59:03,840 --> 00:59:06,840
Speaker 3: joining us. If you haven't checked out our last episode,

1180
00:59:06,960 --> 00:59:09,480
Speaker 3: you definitely should. It's a London Brown. We talked about

1181
00:59:10,640 --> 00:59:14,600
Speaker 3: if men and women can actually be with patonic friends,

1182
00:59:15,440 --> 00:59:16,800
Speaker 3: which was an interesting discussion.

1183
00:59:17,040 --> 00:59:18,480
Speaker 1: Don't don't touch that lamp.

1184
00:59:21,040 --> 00:59:26,560
Speaker 3: And do you want to say bye? You guys over here? Okay,

1185
00:59:27,760 --> 00:59:32,400
Speaker 3: all right, bye, okay one two three?

1186
00:59:32,720 --> 00:59:33,000
Speaker 2: Bye?

1187
00:59:37,000 --> 00:59:38,480
Speaker 1: Okay, mom, bad.

1188
00:59:40,920 --> 00:59:44,560
Speaker 3: Choice. That's Whennie follow us A good moms underscore bad

1189
00:59:44,680 --> 00:59:46,720
Speaker 3: choices and we will see guys.

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00:59:47,280 --> 01:00:01,000
Speaker 1: We a bye f Savada.

1191
01:00:01,360 --> 01:00:02,520
Speaker 3: I'm like Baba.

1192
01:00:02,840 --> 01:00:05,560
Speaker 1: I'm not Bobiba, I'm not b Staa.

1193
01:00:07,320 --> 01:00:08,480
Speaker 3: I'm like to Baba.

1194
01:00:08,800 --> 01:00:11,480
Speaker 1: I'm going to make it an hour, Savva.

1195
01:00:11,800 --> 01:00:15,840
Speaker 3: You go Savada by agreeing without you, I'm in Helen.

1196
01:00:16,080 --> 01:00:18,880
Speaker 1: You're not a good A three without your perfect vision.

1197
01:00:19,040 --> 01:00:21,360
Speaker 1: It's not a good without your mother.