WEBVTT - Mama and Her Numbers

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<v Speaker 1>Family Secrets as a production of I Heart Radio. One day,

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<v Speaker 1>I decided to organize mama's number running materials and went

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<v Speaker 1>through the house, gathering everything together into one shallow cardboard box.

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<v Speaker 1>I was enamored of my own organizational skills and decided

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<v Speaker 1>to add one final touch on the side of the box.

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<v Speaker 1>Using bright pink nail polish, I carefully painted in boxing

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<v Speaker 1>letters Mama's numbers. I probably showed this to my mother,

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<v Speaker 1>impressed with myself for remembering the possessive apostrophe. She took

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<v Speaker 1>one look and said, you can't put my business out

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<v Speaker 1>in the street like that. Looking back, this was the

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<v Speaker 1>moment when I became consciously aware that I must keep

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<v Speaker 1>my admiration from my mother's work a private experience. Before

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<v Speaker 1>I had known to keep her livelihood of secret, but

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<v Speaker 1>hadn't yet formed an opinion of feldny pride in when

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<v Speaker 1>Mamma actually did for a living. Now I understood that

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<v Speaker 1>my pride for her also had to be kept a secret,

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<v Speaker 1>as did all the evidence of her work. That's Brigette M.

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<v Speaker 1>Davis reading from her memoir The World according to Fanny Davis.

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<v Speaker 1>Fanny is Brigette's mom, and Fanny was a numbers runner

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<v Speaker 1>in Detroit in the nineteen sixties and nineteen seventies. This

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<v Speaker 1>is how she supported her family in style and provided

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<v Speaker 1>for their future. And Brigette grew up knowing one thing

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<v Speaker 1>for sure. Never ever was she to breathe a word

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<v Speaker 1>to a soul about what her mama did for a living.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Danny should euro and this is family secrets, the

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<v Speaker 1>secrets that are kept from us, the secrets we keep

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<v Speaker 1>from others, and the secrets we keep from ourselves. At

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<v Speaker 1>the time I was experiencing it, I thought it was

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<v Speaker 1>normal my childhood because there were many rituals that happened regularly.

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<v Speaker 1>I could listen to my mother on the phone every

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<v Speaker 1>day taking her customers beds, and it was like a

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<v Speaker 1>daytime lullaby. I loved it. It didn't seem odd to

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<v Speaker 1>me at all to hear this recitation of numbers right

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<v Speaker 1>by her, and then every evening we were all going

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<v Speaker 1>to wait to hear what the day's winning numbers were.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's how it worked if you were in a

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<v Speaker 1>household where your parents, in my case, my mom was

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<v Speaker 1>actually a numbers runner. It was simply a precursor to

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<v Speaker 1>the lottery, and it existed decades before the state got

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<v Speaker 1>around to taking it over, So that was the way

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<v Speaker 1>that you lived in that kind of elsehold. And I thought,

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<v Speaker 1>in an odd way, the structure was comforting because I

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<v Speaker 1>knew it. To count on, Let's go all the way back,

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<v Speaker 1>literally though, to Detroit the house here. We were in

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<v Speaker 1>this home that was a colonial, four bedroom brick house.

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<v Speaker 1>It was very traditional looking and for us, extremely spacious.

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<v Speaker 1>There was seven of us and all the sisters shared

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<v Speaker 1>a room. My brother had his own room, and then

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<v Speaker 1>there was my parents room, so we all had our space.

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<v Speaker 1>And what I loved about it as a child is

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<v Speaker 1>that it really did have this incredibly fascinating addict where

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<v Speaker 1>I could go up and just play and imagine all

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<v Speaker 1>kinds of things. I was as many writers as a child,

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<v Speaker 1>I was very caught up in my own imagination. I

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<v Speaker 1>could spend hours in my own head, and the attic

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<v Speaker 1>was a great place to do that because I could

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<v Speaker 1>look out that window and see everything in front of me,

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<v Speaker 1>the entire goings on of the street. But the basement

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<v Speaker 1>was the same way. It was this gorgeous space that

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<v Speaker 1>it turns out my mother had uh she renovated it

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<v Speaker 1>so it became like a lounge. And it was the sixties,

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<v Speaker 1>so there was wood paneling, there was a wrap around

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<v Speaker 1>bar that was you know, necessary back then. And because

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<v Speaker 1>I had all these siblings who were teenagers, there were

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<v Speaker 1>what I thought was parties every night. When I looked back,

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<v Speaker 1>it couldn't have been every night, but in my memory

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<v Speaker 1>it was. It was all of my siblings friends coming

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<v Speaker 1>in the side door and running down the steps and

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<v Speaker 1>listening to lots of Motown. You know, we were in Detroit,

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<v Speaker 1>so Motown was our soundtrack, and those records were spinning

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<v Speaker 1>regularly constantly, and I remember laughter and people playing cards

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<v Speaker 1>and smoke and you know, this sort of sense that

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<v Speaker 1>it was a social hub. So that was happening, and

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<v Speaker 1>at the same time, my mother was also inviting lots

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<v Speaker 1>of people into the home because she was a magnet

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<v Speaker 1>for people. They loved being around her. She really was

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<v Speaker 1>what we call a pillar of the community, but no

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<v Speaker 1>one used that term. She was just Fanny, Miss Fanny,

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<v Speaker 1>and her doors were open, so people who were really

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<v Speaker 1>wanting to come over and have a meal knew they

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<v Speaker 1>could do that at Fanny's house. If they needed advice,

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<v Speaker 1>they could come to her. If you know, a young

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<v Speaker 1>woman was struggling in her marriage and things were a

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<v Speaker 1>little crazy. My mother would say, why don't you stay

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<v Speaker 1>here a few days until things cool off. So there

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<v Speaker 1>were always these people in the house. My sister used

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<v Speaker 1>to call a Grand Central station. The doorbell was always ringing,

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<v Speaker 1>the doors were swinging open, the phone was going off

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<v Speaker 1>all the time. Describe Fanny for me, I mean, what

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<v Speaker 1>did she look like, what did she wear, what was

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<v Speaker 1>her style, what her voice sounds. So my mom was

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<v Speaker 1>really pretty. I often say that everyone thinks their mother

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<v Speaker 1>is beautiful, but mine really was. And we would say it.

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<v Speaker 1>The girls would say, Mama is prettier than any of us.

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<v Speaker 1>You know. She got the looks, but she wasn't in

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<v Speaker 1>any way arrogant or vain. She was just self assured

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<v Speaker 1>and she was pretty simple in her style in the

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<v Speaker 1>sense that my mom really only wore makeup if she

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<v Speaker 1>was going somewhere special. She wasn't someone to wear makeup.

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<v Speaker 1>She had this beautiful, naturally long, thick hair, which some

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<v Speaker 1>days she would comb and some days she wouldn't. And

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<v Speaker 1>the days she didn't want to comb her hair as

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<v Speaker 1>she put an Aramis scarf around it and cover it up.

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<v Speaker 1>She didn't shy away from luxurious things. She loved minx

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<v Speaker 1>and she liked beautiful leather purses before it was a thing.

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<v Speaker 1>She also liked to lounge around the house in these

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<v Speaker 1>gorgeous I call them ensembles, but they were basically beautiful

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<v Speaker 1>gowns and matching robes, and she had an array of them,

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<v Speaker 1>and they were so pretty. My favorite was just lace

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<v Speaker 1>trimmed with this ribbon woven through it. Gorgeous, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>white with pink trim. Yeah, sitting there looking lovely but

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<v Speaker 1>taking care of business. Brigette and her family lived in

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<v Speaker 1>the heart of Detroit. Fanny bought the house in from

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<v Speaker 1>a man named Mr. Prince during a time of white flight.

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<v Speaker 1>Whites were leaving the city and droves and they were

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<v Speaker 1>selling their homes to blacks. So this was a neighborhood

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<v Speaker 1>called Russell Woods, upscale, but not as tony as Gross Point,

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<v Speaker 1>where the automagnates lived. In the nine sixties, the auto

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<v Speaker 1>industry in Detroit was doing what it was supposed to do,

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<v Speaker 1>creating a solid middle class, and much of that middle

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<v Speaker 1>class was black, backed by strong unions and able to

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<v Speaker 1>buy their own homes. Then, as the sixties progressed, and

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<v Speaker 1>the civil rights movement really got a foot. Um. You

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<v Speaker 1>could see, you could feel the changes. I was just

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<v Speaker 1>a child, but I could feel this thing that was rumbling. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>This these tensions that I couldn't have given a name to,

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<v Speaker 1>but they were there, these racial tensions happening in the city.

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<v Speaker 1>And of course it all combusted in ninety seven with

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<v Speaker 1>the race riots, as they've called them in the media.

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<v Speaker 1>Detroitters called the uprising or the Great Rebellion. But that

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<v Speaker 1>was the moment when um, things really as in many

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<v Speaker 1>other cities, urban centers, in the city, in the country, Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>things really came to a head. And there were riots

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<v Speaker 1>that lasted across five days. And you have memories of this.

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<v Speaker 1>I have memories. You were a little kid. I was

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<v Speaker 1>a kid, but I definitely remember it. It was sixty seven,

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<v Speaker 1>forgive me, you know, King was assassinated and the rise

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<v Speaker 1>of sixty seven, and those years collapsed for me because

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<v Speaker 1>they were both traumatic, and I was seven and eight,

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<v Speaker 1>and I remember them almost as though they merge in

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<v Speaker 1>my mind. One long year of just trauma. Yeah, that's

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<v Speaker 1>what trauma does. We're going to pause for a moment.

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<v Speaker 1>So there's a story about the way Fanny was able

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<v Speaker 1>to buy that house from Mr Prince, a story that

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<v Speaker 1>Brigette really only learned when she began to do research

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<v Speaker 1>for her book. It says something about the way our

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<v Speaker 1>parents present our lives to us, and the way as

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<v Speaker 1>children we don't tend to question this stories we received.

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<v Speaker 1>In Brigette's case, all her life, what she knew was

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<v Speaker 1>that her mother bought their beautiful family home on contract,

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<v Speaker 1>as it was called. She essentially went into this arrangement

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<v Speaker 1>one on one with the seller Mr Prince, and didn't

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<v Speaker 1>involve a bank, and essentially bought it from him that way,

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<v Speaker 1>so that she paid him a mortgage. Every month paid

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<v Speaker 1>on the mortgage, and when she was done paying for it,

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<v Speaker 1>it was hers. And it seemed to me that she

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<v Speaker 1>was making that choice because she had this unorthodox profession.

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<v Speaker 1>I always thought, well into my adulthood that well, she

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't show a pay stuff. My dad wasn't able to work,

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<v Speaker 1>he was disabled, so she had to figure out this

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<v Speaker 1>creative way to buy home. It was only years later,

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<v Speaker 1>while working on this book that I found out that,

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<v Speaker 1>in fact, because she was a quote unquote Negro woman,

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<v Speaker 1>she wasn't allowed to get a mortgage in the ways

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<v Speaker 1>that most Americans can because there was this thing called redlining,

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<v Speaker 1>and it it enabled the Federal Housing Authority to impose

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<v Speaker 1>these boundaries around so called high risk communities and neighborhoods.

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<v Speaker 1>What made it high risk? If one black family lived

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<v Speaker 1>in that community, it was high risk. So what did

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<v Speaker 1>that mean? They wouldn't ensure the loans that banks were lending.

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<v Speaker 1>So banks could say, we're not lending to you because

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<v Speaker 1>we can't get this loan insured by the f h A.

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<v Speaker 1>It's too risky. And so it trickled throughout the real

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<v Speaker 1>estate community. Right realtors wouldn't show homes just two blacks

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<v Speaker 1>and certain communities, or sell their homes to them, sell

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<v Speaker 1>certain homes to them. And so imagine having the means,

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<v Speaker 1>but not being able to buy a house only because

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<v Speaker 1>of the color of your skin. You know, this thing

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<v Speaker 1>that is the symbol of your American dream. It really

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<v Speaker 1>is your foothold into the middle class. And so that

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<v Speaker 1>infuriated me when I learned it. Never did I hear

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<v Speaker 1>my mother talk about it that way or in that context.

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<v Speaker 1>But I have to tell you, it's pretty predatory because

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<v Speaker 1>it is essentially like renting your home, so you have

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<v Speaker 1>all the risk of renting and none of the none

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<v Speaker 1>of the benefits of owning. You put a huge deposit

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<v Speaker 1>down and you never actually build equity in the home.

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<v Speaker 1>The seller continues to hold the title and you don't

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<v Speaker 1>get the d to the property until you've completely paid

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<v Speaker 1>for it um And so if you, for instance, can't

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<v Speaker 1>make one payment, if you're late one month, the seller

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<v Speaker 1>can take the house back. So in fact, Fanny was

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<v Speaker 1>creating this, there was tremendous risk, and what she was

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<v Speaker 1>doing it was the only thing she could do to

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<v Speaker 1>buy a house. But there was this tremendous risk, and

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<v Speaker 1>yet you and your siblings I didn't know it. We

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know it was. It was there somewhere, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>thrumming in the underbelly of it all. Yeah. I suspect

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<v Speaker 1>my older siblings understood more because they were older. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>what I felt was Mr Prince coming to our home

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<v Speaker 1>every month to collect his mortgage payment. And I look

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<v Speaker 1>back on that and I thought, did he not trust

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<v Speaker 1>her to send him a check, you know, or he

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<v Speaker 1>was still checking on his investment in a way. While

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<v Speaker 1>there you go, there's that possibility too. And I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>know why, but I just felt every month that he

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<v Speaker 1>came that I was almost holding my breath until he

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<v Speaker 1>left to be able to say, okay, everything's all right.

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<v Speaker 1>It was serious business. Fanny had bought this home in

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<v Speaker 1>a risky manner and she had to trust that Mr

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<v Speaker 1>Prince would do right by her. On top of this,

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<v Speaker 1>her livelihood was risky when it came to her income.

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<v Speaker 1>There were no guarantees and she didn't have the space

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<v Speaker 1>to miss a single payment or she could lose everything.

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<v Speaker 1>Describe what running the numbers is for the uninitiated. Running

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<v Speaker 1>the numbers is a a way of being engaged in

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<v Speaker 1>this entirely underground but sprawling lottery business that proliferated throughout

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<v Speaker 1>much of the country underneath the radar, and it generated

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<v Speaker 1>millions of dollars in many cities throughout the country. It

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<v Speaker 1>was literally exactly like today's lottery in that today you

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<v Speaker 1>can go and play a lottery at any corner bodega

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<v Speaker 1>and you can say, here's three digits, I want to

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<v Speaker 1>play nine too, and I want to play them for

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<v Speaker 1>a dollar, And if those numbers come out, it's all

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<v Speaker 1>electronic now, so they just randomly choose those numbers. If

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<v Speaker 1>the number comes out, you could win five dollars because

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<v Speaker 1>the payoff is five one. Here's how it worked back then.

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<v Speaker 1>The winning numbers were arrived at using a convoluted system

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<v Speaker 1>involving the racing forms from certain race tracks like the

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<v Speaker 1>fair Grounds in New Orleans or Aqueduct in New York.

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<v Speaker 1>Once the winning numbers were determined, someone high up in

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<v Speaker 1>Detroit's racket received it through a long distance call from

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<v Speaker 1>the numbers service boss in Chicago. The winning numbers hit

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<v Speaker 1>the streets and spread by word of mouth. Numbers men

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<v Speaker 1>told their bankers, who told their bookers, who told their customers,

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<v Speaker 1>who told other customers, and so on. One of Brigette's

0:15:54.000 --> 0:15:56.080
<v Speaker 1>jobs was to call her mother's customers and give them

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<v Speaker 1>the winning combination. That system, which either way in New

0:16:01.040 --> 0:16:06.360
<v Speaker 1>York they called numbers, is exactly what my mom was

0:16:06.440 --> 0:16:10.480
<v Speaker 1>doing back in Detroit as a numbers runner. She and

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<v Speaker 1>many many others were basically engaged in and sort of

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<v Speaker 1>unofficial knows. I like to call it an informal lottery system.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, there was a precursor to even the numbers.

0:16:26.240 --> 0:16:29.840
<v Speaker 1>There was a game called Policy that was completely invented

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<v Speaker 1>by and run by whites, and it proliferated throughout the

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<v Speaker 1>country prior to this new game that was introduced by

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<v Speaker 1>one man in Harlem who came up with an elegant system,

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<v Speaker 1>a lot less complicated than what had come before it.

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<v Speaker 1>So this black man creates the numbers, and it thrives

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<v Speaker 1>in Harlem, and it moves across the country, and yes,

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<v Speaker 1>within a very short amount of time, others wanted in

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<v Speaker 1>because it generated millions of dollars. We saw it as

0:17:02.440 --> 0:17:07.760
<v Speaker 1>this communal business that was turning dollars over in the

0:17:07.800 --> 0:17:11.880
<v Speaker 1>community many times, right, and providing all of these legitimate

0:17:11.960 --> 0:17:16.520
<v Speaker 1>services through that money. Um. So it's like I knew

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<v Speaker 1>that it was. I now know that it was happening

0:17:18.800 --> 0:17:24.120
<v Speaker 1>everywhere and in many communities. Before they moved to Detroit.

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<v Speaker 1>Before the numbers running and began, Brigette's parents, like millions

0:17:28.560 --> 0:17:31.480
<v Speaker 1>of other blacks, migrated north as part of the second

0:17:31.520 --> 0:17:35.280
<v Speaker 1>wave of the Great Migration. This was the mid nineteen fifties,

0:17:35.560 --> 0:17:38.600
<v Speaker 1>and at that point they had three small children. When

0:17:38.640 --> 0:17:42.000
<v Speaker 1>they arrived in Detroit from Nashville. Brigette's father thought he'd

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<v Speaker 1>find work in the factories, which he did, but it

0:17:44.640 --> 0:17:49.919
<v Speaker 1>was difficult, inconsistent. Eventually he became disabled and couldn't work regularly.

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<v Speaker 1>So what was Fanny to do. My mom has these

0:17:54.080 --> 0:17:57.520
<v Speaker 1>young children, she's left her home. You know, all they've

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<v Speaker 1>ever known was in Nashville, air she her family had

0:18:01.400 --> 0:18:05.280
<v Speaker 1>been for generations. My mom's grandfather was born into slavery

0:18:05.320 --> 0:18:08.840
<v Speaker 1>in Nashville. That's how far back their roots went. So

0:18:08.880 --> 0:18:13.639
<v Speaker 1>she's in this new northern city, tough place. The discrimination

0:18:13.720 --> 0:18:17.000
<v Speaker 1>has its own flavor, and she's not prepared for it.

0:18:17.800 --> 0:18:20.840
<v Speaker 1>And she checks out the landscape and realizes that se

0:18:21.840 --> 0:18:26.400
<v Speaker 1>Detroit's black women are either doing day work, which means,

0:18:26.600 --> 0:18:30.760
<v Speaker 1>you know, cleaning white women's homes, or they are in

0:18:31.160 --> 0:18:34.840
<v Speaker 1>really low wrong jobs in these factories, making less than

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<v Speaker 1>the men, or they're cleaning offices at night. And as

0:18:40.880 --> 0:18:43.919
<v Speaker 1>she used to say, it seemed risky to her to

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<v Speaker 1>not figure out something else, because the idea of leaving

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<v Speaker 1>her children at home while she took one of these

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<v Speaker 1>jobs for very low pay and letting them raise themselves

0:18:56.080 --> 0:18:59.520
<v Speaker 1>was not an option. And so she started looking for

0:18:59.560 --> 0:19:02.360
<v Speaker 1>something else to do. And she didn't have to look

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<v Speaker 1>that far actually, because my mom was pretty observant. She

0:19:05.600 --> 0:19:08.680
<v Speaker 1>was a quick study, and everywhere around her her neighbors

0:19:08.680 --> 0:19:12.240
<v Speaker 1>were playing the numbers, you know, betting their fifty cents,

0:19:12.320 --> 0:19:15.040
<v Speaker 1>their quarter, their dollar, not a lot of money, but

0:19:15.160 --> 0:19:19.640
<v Speaker 1>she saw that it was a brisk business. So as

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<v Speaker 1>a child, you I know your mom is running numbers,

0:19:25.119 --> 0:19:28.840
<v Speaker 1>and it's not remotely hidden from you or your siblings.

0:19:28.920 --> 0:19:32.520
<v Speaker 1>It's it seems like it's almost sort of command central

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<v Speaker 1>of the home. You know she's there and and this

0:19:35.440 --> 0:19:38.000
<v Speaker 1>is her job, and she's not remotely ashamed of it.

0:19:38.560 --> 0:19:42.560
<v Speaker 1>Um none of you are, but you also know that

0:19:42.720 --> 0:19:46.080
<v Speaker 1>it must be kept a secret. Yes, I've been asked,

0:19:46.880 --> 0:19:49.920
<v Speaker 1>how is it that your mother never got caught? And

0:19:50.280 --> 0:19:52.800
<v Speaker 1>I don't have an actual answer for that. I think

0:19:52.800 --> 0:19:57.000
<v Speaker 1>she was lucky. But also my mother was really cautious

0:19:57.040 --> 0:19:59.360
<v Speaker 1>and really smart, and I think there were a few

0:19:59.400 --> 0:20:03.000
<v Speaker 1>things that she did to really mitigate, you know, the

0:20:03.080 --> 0:20:08.040
<v Speaker 1>risk of exposure. And one of them was my mother

0:20:08.280 --> 0:20:13.200
<v Speaker 1>only had customers through word of mouth, so she'd only

0:20:13.400 --> 0:20:17.480
<v Speaker 1>take your business if you came highly recommended. There was that,

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<v Speaker 1>and even though we had a household that felt like

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<v Speaker 1>grand central station, my mother was actually careful about who

0:20:23.680 --> 0:20:26.000
<v Speaker 1>came into the house. So there was that piece as well.

0:20:26.720 --> 0:20:31.199
<v Speaker 1>And also she wasn't flashy. She loved beautiful things, but

0:20:31.280 --> 0:20:34.280
<v Speaker 1>she was understated. I think that was really important too,

0:20:34.520 --> 0:20:37.960
<v Speaker 1>and then she had to take some very practical measures.

0:20:38.520 --> 0:20:43.400
<v Speaker 1>My mother had a lovely I say it's lovely because

0:20:43.440 --> 0:20:46.440
<v Speaker 1>I thought it was safe that she kept in her

0:20:46.560 --> 0:20:49.680
<v Speaker 1>bedroom closet. It was a metal safe with the combination lock,

0:20:50.160 --> 0:20:53.080
<v Speaker 1>and that's where she kept the day's proceeds. That's where

0:20:53.119 --> 0:20:55.719
<v Speaker 1>she kept the business. The cash was all in that

0:20:55.800 --> 0:21:00.280
<v Speaker 1>combination lock in her bedroom closet. She also carried a

0:21:00.280 --> 0:21:03.520
<v Speaker 1>pistol in her purse, and there was another one that

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<v Speaker 1>remained in the house in the linen closet underneath the

0:21:08.560 --> 0:21:14.679
<v Speaker 1>islet trimmed table claws and the lace napkins, and we

0:21:14.760 --> 0:21:17.560
<v Speaker 1>all knew it was there, and we understood. We actually

0:21:17.600 --> 0:21:21.199
<v Speaker 1>felt safer knowing it was there, because my mom was

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<v Speaker 1>not only worried about exposure and risk that could lead

0:21:24.840 --> 0:21:27.800
<v Speaker 1>to arrest, she also had to worry about being in

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<v Speaker 1>a cash business and and it getting out that that

0:21:32.040 --> 0:21:35.639
<v Speaker 1>maybe there's a lot of cash and family's house, and

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<v Speaker 1>so there was that precaution as well. You know, she

0:21:39.280 --> 0:21:43.720
<v Speaker 1>was really constantly trying to safeguard against a lot of

0:21:43.760 --> 0:21:49.160
<v Speaker 1>different things. We're going to take a quick break. We'll

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<v Speaker 1>be back in a moment. Brishette grows up in a

0:21:56.800 --> 0:21:59.679
<v Speaker 1>mixed race neighborhood and goes to a mixed school. She

0:21:59.760 --> 0:22:01.840
<v Speaker 1>lived on the street that's around the corner from Diana

0:22:01.920 --> 0:22:04.920
<v Speaker 1>Ross and the Supremes. They've all just begun to rise,

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<v Speaker 1>to start them, and all three of the supremes decided

0:22:07.600 --> 0:22:10.600
<v Speaker 1>to buy homes on the same block. Diana Ross gets

0:22:10.600 --> 0:22:14.080
<v Speaker 1>the big corner home. So it's a neighborhood of contrasts

0:22:14.400 --> 0:22:18.919
<v Speaker 1>and also of tensions simmering beneath the surface. I was

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<v Speaker 1>in first grade and I was just in my class,

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<v Speaker 1>showing my teacher and assignment, and she said to me,

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<v Speaker 1>literally out of nowhere, you sure do have a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of shoes. And the thing that was striking is that

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<v Speaker 1>the week before, she had asked me what my father

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<v Speaker 1>did for a living. I'm six years old. I said

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<v Speaker 1>the truth. I said, he doesn't work, which because by

0:22:44.240 --> 0:22:49.280
<v Speaker 1>then he really had become disabled. And then she said, well,

0:22:49.520 --> 0:22:54.760
<v Speaker 1>what does your mother do? Oh my goodness, Um, I

0:22:54.840 --> 0:22:59.000
<v Speaker 1>told her I didn't know, which wasn't true, but I

0:22:59.080 --> 0:23:02.040
<v Speaker 1>knew enough to not tell her the truth. But I

0:23:02.080 --> 0:23:06.480
<v Speaker 1>was nervous. So when she mentioned these shoes the next week,

0:23:07.160 --> 0:23:09.919
<v Speaker 1>you know, you know, even as a child, you have

0:23:10.040 --> 0:23:14.080
<v Speaker 1>a sense of things. Something's not right here. I thought,

0:23:14.119 --> 0:23:16.520
<v Speaker 1>all right, just not and you don't know what else

0:23:16.560 --> 0:23:19.440
<v Speaker 1>to do, Just not when she tells you that. And

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<v Speaker 1>then she really surprised me and said, before you sit down,

0:23:23.320 --> 0:23:25.240
<v Speaker 1>I want you to name every pair of shoes you have,

0:23:26.880 --> 0:23:30.320
<v Speaker 1>and you know, trying to be a good girl. I thought, well,

0:23:30.320 --> 0:23:32.320
<v Speaker 1>this is a test and I don't want to get

0:23:32.359 --> 0:23:35.320
<v Speaker 1>it wrong. I'm so anxious. Let me just really try

0:23:35.359 --> 0:23:38.480
<v Speaker 1>to picture all the shoes that line my closet shelf.

0:23:38.600 --> 0:23:41.640
<v Speaker 1>And I started listening them, all of them, the black

0:23:41.720 --> 0:23:43.960
<v Speaker 1>and white, polka dotted once with the bow tie and

0:23:44.040 --> 0:23:48.280
<v Speaker 1>the buckle ruby red ones, you know, And I managed

0:23:48.320 --> 0:23:53.520
<v Speaker 1>to come up with I recall ten pears. That teacher

0:23:53.600 --> 0:23:56.960
<v Speaker 1>Ms Miller said to me, what tim pears is an

0:23:57.000 --> 0:23:59.960
<v Speaker 1>awful lot. And then she just told me to take

0:24:00.080 --> 0:24:03.200
<v Speaker 1>my seat. But I could hear that thing in her voice.

0:24:03.400 --> 0:24:04.960
<v Speaker 1>I didn't know what to call it then, but it

0:24:05.040 --> 0:24:09.359
<v Speaker 1>was totally disdained, you know. I thought that was it.

0:24:10.040 --> 0:24:12.720
<v Speaker 1>And the next day she called me back to her

0:24:12.760 --> 0:24:16.680
<v Speaker 1>desk and she said to me, you did not tell

0:24:16.720 --> 0:24:20.439
<v Speaker 1>me you had white shoes. I looked down at my feet,

0:24:20.600 --> 0:24:22.480
<v Speaker 1>and sure enough, I was wearing a pair of white

0:24:22.480 --> 0:24:25.320
<v Speaker 1>shoes that I had forgotten to mention, and I thought,

0:24:25.720 --> 0:24:29.520
<v Speaker 1>I've been calling a lie. I thought, I have so

0:24:29.640 --> 0:24:33.440
<v Speaker 1>disappointed my teacher, and I hope I'm not in trouble.

0:24:33.720 --> 0:24:36.600
<v Speaker 1>I was really worried, and that's why I went home

0:24:36.600 --> 0:24:39.520
<v Speaker 1>and told my mother what happened. I just thought I

0:24:39.560 --> 0:24:42.280
<v Speaker 1>have to let her know. And I confessed, that's what

0:24:42.359 --> 0:24:45.199
<v Speaker 1>it felt like. I was confessing that I forgot to

0:24:45.200 --> 0:24:49.320
<v Speaker 1>tell miss Miller about the eleventh pair of shoes. My mom,

0:24:49.359 --> 0:24:52.040
<v Speaker 1>I had never seen her get this angry. I mean,

0:24:53.160 --> 0:24:55.359
<v Speaker 1>I mean her eyes flashed with anger like I had

0:24:55.400 --> 0:24:58.400
<v Speaker 1>never seen, and I thought I'm about to get a spanking.

0:24:59.560 --> 0:25:02.040
<v Speaker 1>But that's not what happened. She looked at me and said,

0:25:02.080 --> 0:25:05.080
<v Speaker 1>that's none of her damn business. Who does she think

0:25:05.160 --> 0:25:09.440
<v Speaker 1>she is? So I'm relieved that I'm not in trouble.

0:25:09.560 --> 0:25:12.400
<v Speaker 1>But then she said to me, get your code, let's go.

0:25:13.920 --> 0:25:17.160
<v Speaker 1>I thought, please God, I hope we're not going back

0:25:17.160 --> 0:25:20.080
<v Speaker 1>to school to come front miss Miller. But we weren't.

0:25:20.480 --> 0:25:23.720
<v Speaker 1>My mom put me in the car and drove me

0:25:23.920 --> 0:25:27.640
<v Speaker 1>to Saxoforth Avenue and then took me to the children's

0:25:27.640 --> 0:25:32.800
<v Speaker 1>shoe department and pointed to the most beautiful pair of

0:25:33.520 --> 0:25:36.199
<v Speaker 1>like yellow patent leather shoes that I've ever seen in

0:25:36.240 --> 0:25:38.600
<v Speaker 1>my life. She pointed to them and said, those are pretty,

0:25:39.760 --> 0:25:42.240
<v Speaker 1>and then she bought them for me. She pulled out

0:25:42.280 --> 0:25:45.199
<v Speaker 1>a one dollar bill and pay for those shoes. And

0:25:45.240 --> 0:25:48.080
<v Speaker 1>I still remember how the saleswoman looked at me and

0:25:48.200 --> 0:25:51.080
<v Speaker 1>her that saleswoman looked at my mom the way that

0:25:51.080 --> 0:25:54.920
<v Speaker 1>that Miss Miller I looked at me. My mom didn't

0:25:54.920 --> 0:25:58.400
<v Speaker 1>seem to even notice. She just said to me, you're

0:25:58.400 --> 0:26:01.520
<v Speaker 1>gonna wear these school tomorrow, and you better tell that

0:26:01.600 --> 0:26:03.960
<v Speaker 1>damn teacher of yours that you actually have a dozen

0:26:04.000 --> 0:26:07.640
<v Speaker 1>pair of shoes. You hearing me, So what could I do?

0:26:07.800 --> 0:26:12.280
<v Speaker 1>I did what I was told, and as nervous as

0:26:12.320 --> 0:26:15.000
<v Speaker 1>I was, I walked up to Miss Miller's desk. I

0:26:15.040 --> 0:26:18.720
<v Speaker 1>had chosen a beautiful little yellow knit dress to match

0:26:18.760 --> 0:26:22.879
<v Speaker 1>the shoes, and I said, Ms. Miller, I have twelve

0:26:22.880 --> 0:26:26.520
<v Speaker 1>pairs of shoes. Oh my god. She looked down at

0:26:26.560 --> 0:26:29.879
<v Speaker 1>my feet, she looked at my face with those blue eyes,

0:26:30.600 --> 0:26:34.080
<v Speaker 1>and she told me to sit out. And you know,

0:26:34.200 --> 0:26:37.919
<v Speaker 1>she never said another word to me ever again the

0:26:37.960 --> 0:26:42.160
<v Speaker 1>rest of the school year. How did that feel to you?

0:26:43.760 --> 0:26:45.800
<v Speaker 1>I mean, you're six years old, you're in first grade.

0:26:46.600 --> 0:26:49.119
<v Speaker 1>You again something you don't have language for, right, you

0:26:49.200 --> 0:26:53.959
<v Speaker 1>recognize disdaining, but you know you don't have that word. Um,

0:26:54.000 --> 0:26:58.000
<v Speaker 1>you recognize it in the saleswoman at sacks for your mother.

0:26:58.160 --> 0:27:01.040
<v Speaker 1>You don't have that word. But what your mother does

0:27:01.760 --> 0:27:10.760
<v Speaker 1>is models for you. UM, dignity, Yes, that's it. If

0:27:10.800 --> 0:27:13.840
<v Speaker 1>she had played that any other way, you know, I

0:27:13.920 --> 0:27:16.479
<v Speaker 1>think about that now because it's still stuck with me.

0:27:16.520 --> 0:27:18.520
<v Speaker 1>Look how it has stuck with me my whole life.

0:27:18.880 --> 0:27:21.800
<v Speaker 1>I still remember as much as I tell people that story,

0:27:22.440 --> 0:27:25.000
<v Speaker 1>I can recall how I felt as a six year old.

0:27:25.440 --> 0:27:29.320
<v Speaker 1>It was traumatizing. And if my mother had, you know,

0:27:30.400 --> 0:27:34.000
<v Speaker 1>handled it any other way, said we'll just ignore her,

0:27:34.359 --> 0:27:36.720
<v Speaker 1>or well, you don't have to wear all your shoes

0:27:36.720 --> 0:27:38.760
<v Speaker 1>as cool. If she had done any of those things,

0:27:39.000 --> 0:27:42.400
<v Speaker 1>I think the shame would have come rushing down onto me,

0:27:43.400 --> 0:27:46.280
<v Speaker 1>all that shame that she had kept at bay. You know,

0:27:46.760 --> 0:27:49.800
<v Speaker 1>I think it would have really been really a very

0:27:49.800 --> 0:27:53.280
<v Speaker 1>different outcome. Um. So I'm grateful that she had to

0:27:53.320 --> 0:27:58.200
<v Speaker 1>wherewithal to handle it that way, because I knew right

0:27:58.280 --> 0:28:00.840
<v Speaker 1>then that no one could tell me what I was

0:28:00.960 --> 0:28:04.680
<v Speaker 1>entitled to. That was the thing that I quickly grasps

0:28:05.200 --> 0:28:10.360
<v Speaker 1>from that situation. There are stories that stay with us

0:28:10.480 --> 0:28:13.240
<v Speaker 1>and stories that we need to rediscover and re understand

0:28:13.280 --> 0:28:17.440
<v Speaker 1>as adults once our childhood's become clearer to us, especially

0:28:17.680 --> 0:28:21.800
<v Speaker 1>when our childhoods have involved a secret. Brigette is already

0:28:21.840 --> 0:28:25.520
<v Speaker 1>deep into her adult life. She's in her fifties, a journalist,

0:28:25.680 --> 0:28:29.359
<v Speaker 1>a professor, a wife, and a mom. Before this secret

0:28:29.440 --> 0:28:31.680
<v Speaker 1>she has kept her whole life starts to sit less

0:28:31.760 --> 0:28:36.199
<v Speaker 1>comfortably within her. Fanny's gone. The risks of what she

0:28:36.280 --> 0:28:40.360
<v Speaker 1>did are long past, and yet still the secret remains.

0:28:41.320 --> 0:28:45.520
<v Speaker 1>Why I was so used in not telling it was

0:28:45.560 --> 0:28:48.840
<v Speaker 1>all I ever knew. I inherited that way of life

0:28:49.560 --> 0:28:53.120
<v Speaker 1>that I never struggled with the idea of wanting to

0:28:53.160 --> 0:28:57.440
<v Speaker 1>tell of Oh oops, I'm gonna share this and I shouldn't.

0:28:57.560 --> 0:29:01.720
<v Speaker 1>I never did. It was incredible because as my best

0:29:01.760 --> 0:29:07.600
<v Speaker 1>friend since fourth grade, Diane Um, was being interviewed by

0:29:07.600 --> 0:29:10.200
<v Speaker 1>me as I was researching the book and now we're

0:29:10.200 --> 0:29:14.520
<v Speaker 1>in our fifties, and she thought, I just wanted to

0:29:14.560 --> 0:29:18.080
<v Speaker 1>talk about my mom, and she thought, well, that's a

0:29:18.080 --> 0:29:20.840
<v Speaker 1>great subject, because we all loved your mother. And we

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<v Speaker 1>all have stories of how she helped us. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'd love to talk to her, talk to you about her.

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<v Speaker 1>And then my final question to her was did you

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<v Speaker 1>know that my mom had this whole business? And and

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<v Speaker 1>she was like, what are you talking about? What it's like?

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<v Speaker 1>That's when I realized, Wow, I really did keep this

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<v Speaker 1>secret pretty well, and that we all did, and that

0:29:44.200 --> 0:29:47.880
<v Speaker 1>my mother did. And you know, I could see it

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<v Speaker 1>in my friend's face. She was like, wait a minute,

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<v Speaker 1>I I did know your mom was running something. I

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<v Speaker 1>just didn't know what. Like I could tell she was

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<v Speaker 1>in charge, I just didn't know what she was in

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<v Speaker 1>charge of. So it was both a revelation but not surprising.

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<v Speaker 1>But that was my way of understanding for myself that yes,

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<v Speaker 1>we did keep that secret, solidly kept it um across

0:30:12.400 --> 0:30:15.400
<v Speaker 1>many years. But here's the thing I came to learn

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<v Speaker 1>to just because it wasn't a dark, shameful secret didn't

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<v Speaker 1>mean it wasn't weighing on me. It was because a

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<v Speaker 1>secret morse, it ultimately becomes something that attaches shame to itself,

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<v Speaker 1>to itself. Right, It's like I call shame a secret

0:30:35.600 --> 0:30:41.400
<v Speaker 1>country cousin because they're not far from one another inevitably,

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<v Speaker 1>and in my case, I started feeling bad about not telling.

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<v Speaker 1>I started thinking, I'm acting like I'm ashamed of my

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<v Speaker 1>mother because I'm not telling anyone, and that felt awful.

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<v Speaker 1>At what point did you start feeling that way? It

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<v Speaker 1>really became a hute once I had a child, and

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<v Speaker 1>once my son got older and actually asked me one

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<v Speaker 1>day when he was like ten years old. This was

0:31:11.760 --> 0:31:15.360
<v Speaker 1>nine years ago, and he very innocently looked at a

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<v Speaker 1>photo of my mom and said, what was she like? Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>I managed to answer him. I said, oh, she was amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>But in my heart, I thought, Jesus, what have you done?

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<v Speaker 1>You know you have really now reached gone into a

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<v Speaker 1>territory that's unhealthy. You kept the secret longer than you

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<v Speaker 1>had to. Why are you still keeping the secret now?

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<v Speaker 1>Your own children don't know who their grandmother is, what

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<v Speaker 1>she did, what she accomplished. Then I thought, get it together.

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<v Speaker 1>Your mom died when you were thirty two. Yes, when

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<v Speaker 1>were your children born? So my son was born seven

0:31:52.800 --> 0:31:56.560
<v Speaker 1>years later. Okay, so you died before, right, So they

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<v Speaker 1>never knew her. They never knew her. I, as an aside, thought,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe I'll never have children. Um, I totally waited till

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<v Speaker 1>the last possible moment because I thought, you know, I

0:32:09.880 --> 0:32:11.920
<v Speaker 1>thought it was because I could never be the kind

0:32:11.920 --> 0:32:15.320
<v Speaker 1>of mother I had. And I wonder now, you know,

0:32:16.600 --> 0:32:19.600
<v Speaker 1>was that whole business of the secret implicated in there somehow?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how, but maybe something about children requires revelation.

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<v Speaker 1>And maybe I was hesitant about that too. I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>but I definitely felt an urgency once he was asking

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<v Speaker 1>about her. That was the trigger. What has it been

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<v Speaker 1>like for you after a lifetime of that being so

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<v Speaker 1>embedded as a secret, Not only to have it stopped

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<v Speaker 1>being a secret um to your children or to your

0:33:00.800 --> 0:33:05.520
<v Speaker 1>inner circle, but um really shining a light on Fanny

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<v Speaker 1>and on everything that had been kind of kept in

0:33:10.360 --> 0:33:12.960
<v Speaker 1>the dark, kept quiet. What what what's that been like

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<v Speaker 1>for you? Oh? My, Sally, And emotionally and psychologically, it

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<v Speaker 1>is incredible. It's life changing. I can't put it in

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<v Speaker 1>any other way. It's a relief. It's such a relief,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's so validating. All that time I was stopping

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<v Speaker 1>a lot from happening, from my children knowing who she was,

0:33:33.120 --> 0:33:36.160
<v Speaker 1>from myself being able to brag about her, from all

0:33:36.200 --> 0:33:38.400
<v Speaker 1>these people who loved her, and had been touched by her.

0:33:38.960 --> 0:33:41.320
<v Speaker 1>They weren't really able to talk about her. Is as

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<v Speaker 1>though I gave everyone permission, and then I gave permission

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<v Speaker 1>to all these people who didn't know Fanny but had

0:33:48.240 --> 0:33:53.080
<v Speaker 1>similar stories. It dawned on me I hadn't thought about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Everyone was keeping the number secret. Well. One of the

0:33:56.720 --> 0:34:02.280
<v Speaker 1>things about secrets, too, is the way that they they

0:34:02.360 --> 0:34:05.400
<v Speaker 1>beget secrets. That begets secrets, that begets secrets, and so

0:34:05.520 --> 0:34:10.160
<v Speaker 1>everybody is walking around holding some version of a secret,

0:34:10.680 --> 0:34:14.040
<v Speaker 1>and they think that they're the only one, right, right,

0:34:14.320 --> 0:34:21.160
<v Speaker 1>that's it. I thought that I thought that I, um,

0:34:21.200 --> 0:34:24.720
<v Speaker 1>I didn't have any friends who had, you know, mother's

0:34:24.800 --> 0:34:27.080
<v Speaker 1>doing what my mom did, so it felt like I

0:34:27.120 --> 0:34:32.080
<v Speaker 1>was the only one. But of course now I'm not kidding.

0:34:32.640 --> 0:34:36.719
<v Speaker 1>Almost everyone I talked to wants to tell me an anecdote.

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<v Speaker 1>Not just about I had a friend who was in

0:34:39.160 --> 0:34:42.080
<v Speaker 1>the numbers, though I remember that family down the street

0:34:42.160 --> 0:34:44.560
<v Speaker 1>or my uncle was doing that, but people who want

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<v Speaker 1>to tell me about their grandfather who bet on horses,

0:34:49.000 --> 0:34:52.440
<v Speaker 1>or you know, the history of bootlegging in their family,

0:34:52.640 --> 0:34:55.759
<v Speaker 1>or you know like that, to me is the quintessentral

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<v Speaker 1>American story. It's something. It's really something. Here's Bridgette reading

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<v Speaker 1>a passage from the World according to Fannie Davis, in

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<v Speaker 1>which the love of this remarkable daughter for her remarkable

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<v Speaker 1>mother shines through as a family secret finally blossoms into

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<v Speaker 1>the light of day. My mother gave us a good

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<v Speaker 1>life a great expense. I thought I knew her skills

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<v Speaker 1>as a number runner, that she used her facility with numbers,

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<v Speaker 1>good judge of character, winning personality, and dose of good

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<v Speaker 1>luck to build and maintain her business for three decades.

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<v Speaker 1>But I had no idea just how much of a

0:35:43.080 --> 0:35:46.920
<v Speaker 1>gambler she was, or the kind of psychological work it

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<v Speaker 1>took to keep our world afloat. Scariest of all, is

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<v Speaker 1>this The only way for me to tell Mamma's story

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<v Speaker 1>is to defy her by running my mouth. Many thanks

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<v Speaker 1>to my guest, Brigette M. Davis. She is the author

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<v Speaker 1>of the World according to Fannie Davis, and you can

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<v Speaker 1>find out more about Brigette at Brigette davis dot com.

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