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Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura, Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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Speaker 1: Today's tip is about little ways you can show your

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Speaker 1: love to the important people in your life. The rose

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Speaker 1: industry always does a booming business right around February fourteen,

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Speaker 1: which is Valentine's Day in those places that celebrate this

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Speaker 1: holiday of romantic love, and certainly a big bunch of

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Speaker 1: roses can send a romantic message. Though my husband and

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Speaker 1: I joke that because our anniversary of meeting and also

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Speaker 1: of getting engaged a year later is February, we can

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Speaker 1: conveniently show our love with heavily discounted Valentine's Day merchandise.

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Speaker 1: But there are lots of creative ways to show love,

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Speaker 1: and not just on Valentine's Day but through the year.

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Speaker 1: Many of us are on our phones all day anyway.

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Speaker 1: A quick affectionate text to your partner or kids can

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Speaker 1: turn your phone and there's into something more than just

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Speaker 1: a source of stress. Or you can write a real note.

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Speaker 1: A few words on a sticky note put on the

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Speaker 1: bathroom mirror can bring a smile to someone's face. Flowers

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Speaker 1: on Valentine's Day might be expected but flowers on your

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Speaker 1: average Tuesday are not, so pick up a small bouquet

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Speaker 1: at the grocery store or even the gas station and

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Speaker 1: add a little beauty to the next time you say hello.

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Speaker 1: Other little gifts can work, too, like picking up a

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Speaker 1: book at the library that you know the person would enjoy.

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Speaker 1: Part of saying hello is actually well saying hello, and

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Speaker 1: increasingly I believe that one of the best gifts we

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Speaker 1: can give people is the gift of full focus. So

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Speaker 1: put the phone away for a while, ask someone a

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Speaker 1: question and really listen to the answer. You can also

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Speaker 1: share your love by allowing the other person to listen

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Speaker 1: to you saying something nice. Pretty much everyone loves being

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Speaker 1: complimented in front of other people, and this is great

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Speaker 1: when you're in a multiperson conversation. But I think it's

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Speaker 1: even nicer if the person accidentally overhears you say a

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Speaker 1: kid while you're talking on the phone with Grandma or

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Speaker 1: your spouse when you're on the phone with a friend.

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Speaker 1: Since the person doesn't know for sure, if you know

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Speaker 1: they're listening, it comes across it's more authentic. Sometimes the

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Speaker 1: best gift you can give is letting someone off the hook.

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Speaker 1: If you know the other person is really dreading an

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Speaker 1: event or a particular chore like calling customer service. Offered

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Speaker 1: to take this off their plate. You'll attend the family event,

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Speaker 1: you'll call to file the complaint. Lots of couples with

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Speaker 1: young kids split who wakes up early with them on weekends.

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Speaker 1: But if you've not made an explicit split, offer to

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Speaker 1: do it someday and let your partner know ahead of

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Speaker 1: time so he or she can relish the coming rest.

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Speaker 1: When I've written about some of these ideas in the past,

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Speaker 1: I've often heard from readers or listeners who remind me

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Speaker 1: about Gary Chapman's book The Five Love Languages. And you know,

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Speaker 1: we can assign too much stock to strict frame works,

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Speaker 1: but it is true that's certain ways to show love

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Speaker 1: register more with some people than others. Some people get

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Speaker 1: excited about fancily wrapped gifts, and some people are more

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Speaker 1: physically affectionate for someone else. Vacuuming out the car is

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Speaker 1: the equivalent of a dozen roses, So it might be

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Speaker 1: worth noting how your partner tries to express love to you,

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Speaker 1: because that might hold clues about how he or she

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Speaker 1: would like you to express love. But in any case,

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Speaker 1: when you study the research on human happiness, it's pretty

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Speaker 1: clear that a bunch of little things often outweighs one

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Speaker 1: big thing. We get used to much and the glow

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Speaker 1: from a big present well very cool, don't get me wrong.

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Speaker 1: May fade to baseline over a while, but learning again

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Speaker 1: and again how much you are loved makes every day

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Speaker 1: seemed like a gift. So how do you to express

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Speaker 1: love creatively? You can let me know at Before Breakfast

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Speaker 1: podcast at iHeart media dot com. In the meantime, this

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Speaker 1: is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making the

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