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Speaker 1: was a time when we need Jesus. It is right

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Speaker 1: now written subject, thank you Tommy. Subject, doctor Love wrote

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Speaker 1: more than my prescriptions. Uh, doctor Love wrote more than

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Speaker 1: my prescriptions. Dear Steve Shirley in the entire Morning Crew.

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Speaker 1: I need some advice. I went to a specialty doctor

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Speaker 1: last year in May. My first visit, I noticed he

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Speaker 1: and they told him. He said, maybe I will call you.

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Speaker 1: I said to myself, this man will not call me.

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Speaker 1: After all, he is a doctor and I am just

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Speaker 1: a normal person and let alone my doctor. Well guess

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Speaker 1: what the man called me. But the conversation went from friendly,

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Speaker 1: I am not shallow, but I've been there and done

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Speaker 1: But I did think a code of ethics was broken. Well.

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Speaker 1: um I have a few un medically related meetings, but

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Speaker 1: I still like him and I call him every other day.

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Speaker 1: I feel it is because he knows it is me

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Speaker 1: even though my number is coming up private. I sometimes

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Speaker 1: whereas he probably could care less about me. Steve, please

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Speaker 1: be gentle, but I still want your feedback. There's your

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Speaker 1: name right there, Steve. I still want your feedback, but

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Speaker 1: be gentle. Twelve minutes after will We'll be back? You're

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Speaker 1: listening to the bad acting theater? Could you just try

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Speaker 1: to read there acting the worst bad actor? But come on,

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Speaker 1: stay with your part two afterday's strawberry letter, I'm just

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Speaker 1: gonna have to tell it to you straight. Okay, I'm

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Speaker 1: sorry you all um. You you keep setting yourself up,

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Speaker 1: and I'm trying to share with you how to avoid

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Speaker 1: go again. Dr Love wrote more than my prescription, did

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Speaker 1: Steve Sherlan entire Morning crew. I need some advice. I

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Speaker 1: I still want your feedback. Well, let me just go

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Speaker 1: and hip you to something. Gentle ain't my thing, So

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Speaker 1: let's don't even ask me to be gentle unless you're

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Speaker 1: or something. General. Ain't what I do. Okay, you're gonna

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Speaker 1: answer all my kids gentle, ain't what I do. My wife.

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Speaker 1: It's a different story, gentleman. I am but when you're

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Speaker 1: let the doctor talkshau. Now you wanta see you to

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Speaker 1: be gentle should have had this whole gentleman conversation with

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Speaker 1: tapping around the subject. Let's stop you. You mistaken it.

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Speaker 1: We don't mistakenly flirt with nobody. We flirt with you,

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Speaker 1: so let's get that out the way. Now you're trying

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Speaker 1: How the hell did the staff member know that? I

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Speaker 1: you told the staff member, See you don't you set

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Speaker 1: this hook in your own mouth. You beat this hook,

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Speaker 1: and you're the hunted. When you went after this man,

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Speaker 1: that I know enough? Something's missing in this centence right here? Okay?

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Speaker 1: So anywhere then when I act like I'm stupid, okay,

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Speaker 1: I said to myself, this man will not call me.

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Speaker 1: After all, he's a doctor and I'm just a normal person.

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Speaker 1: This is the beginning of what's wrong with this letter.

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Speaker 1: This is called self esteem. Ladies, don't you know that

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Speaker 1: to us as men? Because I see right now y'all

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Speaker 1: douta out of out of that? Well, guess what the

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Speaker 1: Then I played a yes you are. You're not only

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Speaker 1: and had it. I'm the first call though, the first call?

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Speaker 1: Didn't you? But didn't you, lady? Because I'm excited that

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Speaker 1: I figured why not? But I did think a code

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Speaker 1: that code? You are him? Or did both of y'all

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Speaker 1: What kind of code is that a lot of women

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Speaker 1: now you want to blame him, saying he wronged you.

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Speaker 1: You the one told the staff member you liked a

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Speaker 1: man in the first place. He called you. The phone

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Speaker 1: conversation turned a phone sex. You could have had some

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