1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,160 Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for sending the text that 2 00:00:02,279 --> 00:00:06,080 Speaker 1: destroyed my family? Bicy texts. This comes from Charming Educator 3 00:00:06,120 --> 00:00:09,000 Speaker 1: six point two and they say, so, my brother's wedding 4 00:00:09,119 --> 00:00:12,320 Speaker 1: happened two days ago, and it turned into a complete chaos, 5 00:00:12,400 --> 00:00:15,800 Speaker 1: which I know even though I don't were there. I 6 00:00:15,920 --> 00:00:18,880 Speaker 1: don't were there, which I know even though I wasn't there. 7 00:00:18,960 --> 00:00:20,720 Speaker 1: You might wonder why I didn't attend the wedding if 8 00:00:20,720 --> 00:00:24,160 Speaker 1: it's my brother as well, it's because of his wife's family. 9 00:00:24,280 --> 00:00:26,239 Speaker 1: He sent me an invitation to the wedding because he 10 00:00:26,320 --> 00:00:29,280 Speaker 1: wanted me there, but his fiance told them I couldn't 11 00:00:29,280 --> 00:00:32,839 Speaker 1: attend because I had a boyfriend. Might be confused, but 12 00:00:32,880 --> 00:00:35,080 Speaker 1: I'm a man, bisexual man to be exact, and I 13 00:00:35,080 --> 00:00:37,160 Speaker 1: have a boyfriend who I wanted to bring to the wedding, 14 00:00:37,200 --> 00:00:39,920 Speaker 1: which we've had. This situation happened before. But it was 15 00:00:40,400 --> 00:00:42,800 Speaker 1: the husband and wife that were like, I don't know 16 00:00:42,840 --> 00:00:45,559 Speaker 1: if I want that person at the wedding. Yeah, so 17 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:48,000 Speaker 1: she said, even though she doesn't have a problem with that, 18 00:00:48,159 --> 00:00:50,520 Speaker 1: and he doesn't have a problem with that, Her extremely 19 00:00:50,600 --> 00:00:53,440 Speaker 1: religious parents, who already forced her to do the wedding 20 00:00:53,520 --> 00:00:56,080 Speaker 1: in a church, would most likely banish us from the 21 00:00:56,080 --> 00:01:00,160 Speaker 1: wedding and cause trouble between our families. Right as you 22 00:01:00,160 --> 00:01:04,440 Speaker 1: said in that last episode, you are punishing the wrong person. Yes, yes, Also, 23 00:01:04,800 --> 00:01:07,440 Speaker 1: why this is your wedding? Why let someone force you 24 00:01:07,520 --> 00:01:09,040 Speaker 1: to host the wedding summer you don't want to be 25 00:01:09,080 --> 00:01:12,120 Speaker 1: too Exactly after she told him that, my brother told 26 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:14,480 Speaker 1: me I couldn't attend and told me why. You might 27 00:01:14,520 --> 00:01:17,640 Speaker 1: think I was angry, The truth is I was relieved. 28 00:01:18,080 --> 00:01:20,120 Speaker 1: I hate going to big events with lots of people 29 00:01:20,160 --> 00:01:22,920 Speaker 1: because of my social anxiety, and I already was used 30 00:01:22,959 --> 00:01:24,840 Speaker 1: to not being able to attend certain events because of 31 00:01:24,840 --> 00:01:27,559 Speaker 1: my sexuality. So it is nothing I haven't heard before 32 00:01:27,720 --> 00:01:30,000 Speaker 1: that sucks bragic. So the day of the wedding, I 33 00:01:30,040 --> 00:01:32,440 Speaker 1: stayed home with my boyfriend. It's worth mentioning my parents 34 00:01:32,480 --> 00:01:35,800 Speaker 1: apparently didn't know I wasn't attending the wedding. I was 35 00:01:35,920 --> 00:01:38,560 Speaker 1: chilling at home my boyfriend when I suddenly got a 36 00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:41,280 Speaker 1: text message from my parents ask me where I was 37 00:01:41,319 --> 00:01:43,360 Speaker 1: because they couldn't find me at the wedding party. I 38 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:45,959 Speaker 1: told them I wasn't attending the wedding and if my 39 00:01:46,000 --> 00:01:49,000 Speaker 1: brother hasn't told them anything. They said no and asked 40 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:51,600 Speaker 1: me what happened. He's like, oh, did my brother tell you? 41 00:01:51,760 --> 00:01:51,880 Speaker 2: Right? 42 00:01:52,160 --> 00:01:54,200 Speaker 1: I didn't say any reason to lie. So I sent 43 00:01:54,240 --> 00:01:57,320 Speaker 1: them a text message telling them exactly why I see 44 00:01:57,320 --> 00:01:59,480 Speaker 1: you I see in the comments. Now I have to 45 00:01:59,520 --> 00:02:02,280 Speaker 1: admit I don't know exactly what happened after I sent 46 00:02:02,320 --> 00:02:04,760 Speaker 1: them this message, because they read it but didn't reply. 47 00:02:05,080 --> 00:02:07,160 Speaker 1: And why did they even care in the first place. 48 00:02:07,240 --> 00:02:09,600 Speaker 1: They didn't notice I wasn't there before until the wedding 49 00:02:09,639 --> 00:02:13,120 Speaker 1: was already over. They only noticed when the wedding party started. However, 50 00:02:13,280 --> 00:02:15,919 Speaker 1: apparently my parents talked to my brother about it. All 51 00:02:15,919 --> 00:02:19,360 Speaker 1: of a sudden, my absence was the main topic of 52 00:02:19,400 --> 00:02:22,560 Speaker 1: the wedding party. From what I heard, two fronts formed, 53 00:02:22,760 --> 00:02:25,600 Speaker 1: one side against the other. Yes. Yeah, on the one hand, 54 00:02:25,680 --> 00:02:28,280 Speaker 1: my parents and the rest of my family against the 55 00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:30,920 Speaker 1: family of my brother's wife. And apparently he has a 56 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:34,000 Speaker 1: husband now felt compelled to take her side and tried 57 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:37,200 Speaker 1: to argue in her favor. So he's taking the wife's family. 58 00:02:37,320 --> 00:02:41,480 Speaker 1: R Yeah, it's crazy to think that I was just 59 00:02:41,520 --> 00:02:43,639 Speaker 1: sitting at home living my best life with my boyfriend 60 00:02:43,720 --> 00:02:46,880 Speaker 1: while all that crap went down at his wedding. The 61 00:02:46,880 --> 00:02:50,240 Speaker 1: wedding party was ruined and my brother appeared on my 62 00:02:50,360 --> 00:02:53,880 Speaker 1: door angrily screaming at me why I felt the need 63 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:57,000 Speaker 1: to ruin his wedding? Pause right here, right here, please 64 00:02:57,000 --> 00:02:59,280 Speaker 1: pap pause pause that to people in the comments to 65 00:02:59,360 --> 00:03:03,560 Speaker 1: John Riley, do you think Ope ruined his brother's wedding? 66 00:03:03,639 --> 00:03:06,840 Speaker 1: What basically the brothers claiming you ruined my wedding? Is 67 00:03:06,880 --> 00:03:07,320 Speaker 1: that true? 68 00:03:07,760 --> 00:03:11,320 Speaker 3: There's this little thing where when you make your bed, 69 00:03:11,480 --> 00:03:12,160 Speaker 3: you gotta. 70 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:15,320 Speaker 1: Lay in the bed you made exactly, so like you 71 00:03:15,440 --> 00:03:19,320 Speaker 1: chose the wrong side, you basically punish the wrong person exactly. 72 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:22,359 Speaker 3: So it's like, what's actually happening here is people are 73 00:03:22,800 --> 00:03:26,280 Speaker 3: mad at the decision you made that you chose to do, 74 00:03:26,600 --> 00:03:32,280 Speaker 3: and now you're facing those repercussions and you're misdirecting everything 75 00:03:32,320 --> 00:03:34,800 Speaker 3: towards Ope when OPI did nothing wrong. 76 00:03:34,960 --> 00:03:35,160 Speaker 1: Yeah. 77 00:03:35,240 --> 00:03:38,120 Speaker 2: No, I mean sometimes some people would take this as like, Oh, 78 00:03:38,120 --> 00:03:39,880 Speaker 2: I'm going to start the pod a little bit. I'm 79 00:03:39,920 --> 00:03:41,560 Speaker 2: gonna like say a little extra in the text you 80 00:03:41,560 --> 00:03:41,760 Speaker 2: did it. 81 00:03:41,840 --> 00:03:44,680 Speaker 3: You were just like, oh, what is literally exactly what 82 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:48,880 Speaker 3: happened with no malicious angle or intent or no, there 83 00:03:48,920 --> 00:03:49,640 Speaker 3: was no angling. 84 00:03:49,680 --> 00:03:52,200 Speaker 1: He would like, oh, was just saying the facts? Yes, 85 00:03:52,240 --> 00:03:54,920 Speaker 1: And I think that is a real like, this is 86 00:03:54,960 --> 00:03:57,800 Speaker 1: a really good example of if you do things that 87 00:03:58,080 --> 00:04:01,400 Speaker 1: are of your values, yes, exposed for it, You're just like, yeah, 88 00:04:01,400 --> 00:04:03,000 Speaker 1: those are my values. Who cares. But if you do 89 00:04:03,080 --> 00:04:05,120 Speaker 1: things that are against your values and get exposed to it, 90 00:04:05,160 --> 00:04:07,640 Speaker 1: that's when it hurts that much more. I feel like 91 00:04:07,680 --> 00:04:09,560 Speaker 1: these people are unclear what their values actually are. 92 00:04:09,840 --> 00:04:12,640 Speaker 3: Exactly if someone said, if there was a big party, right, 93 00:04:12,680 --> 00:04:15,080 Speaker 3: we're having one of our potlucks here, and then all 94 00:04:15,120 --> 00:04:18,360 Speaker 3: of a sudden, everyone's, oh my gosh, John, John doesn't 95 00:04:18,360 --> 00:04:18,919 Speaker 3: watch movies. 96 00:04:18,960 --> 00:04:22,080 Speaker 1: What's wrong with him? Can I be angry? No, because 97 00:04:22,279 --> 00:04:26,240 Speaker 1: your value is not watching movies? Exactly. Give me that dude, 98 00:04:26,480 --> 00:04:30,200 Speaker 1: Why why doesn't know this song? Do Do Do Do 99 00:04:30,200 --> 00:04:32,800 Speaker 1: Do Do Do Do Do Do Do Do Do Do 100 00:04:32,800 --> 00:04:36,479 Speaker 1: Do Do Do Do do do do do? I thatt you 101 00:04:36,720 --> 00:04:39,360 Speaker 1: everyone in the car if you know that song, please 102 00:04:39,440 --> 00:04:45,200 Speaker 1: comment what movie that's from? Indiana Jones? Close? Kind of close, 103 00:04:45,279 --> 00:04:50,159 Speaker 1: Mickey Mouse. All right, we'll give me give me one hit, 104 00:04:50,200 --> 00:04:52,160 Speaker 1: one one super quick. I want one hit. 105 00:04:52,560 --> 00:04:54,040 Speaker 2: You just got the Indiana Jones in. 106 00:04:54,320 --> 00:04:56,480 Speaker 1: I just said Indiana Jones. Don't give them anything else. 107 00:04:56,480 --> 00:04:58,160 Speaker 1: Don't give it anything else. All right, let's get back 108 00:04:58,200 --> 00:05:01,640 Speaker 1: to the story, John, you can guess at the next break, Okay, Okay. 109 00:05:01,640 --> 00:05:04,280 Speaker 1: I was confused and asked him what happened, and he 110 00:05:04,360 --> 00:05:06,720 Speaker 1: told me everything. I told him. It wasn't my intention. 111 00:05:06,839 --> 00:05:09,480 Speaker 1: I just told our parents what happened because they didn't 112 00:05:09,520 --> 00:05:12,120 Speaker 1: know and wanted to know where I was, and I 113 00:05:12,240 --> 00:05:15,080 Speaker 1: thought he had told him beforehand. He screamed at me 114 00:05:15,240 --> 00:05:17,120 Speaker 1: that I ruined his wedding, which I don't think is true. 115 00:05:17,120 --> 00:05:19,159 Speaker 1: I told him it's not my fault. He wasn't honest 116 00:05:19,200 --> 00:05:21,560 Speaker 1: with them, damn straight and go. I just respected their 117 00:05:21,600 --> 00:05:24,039 Speaker 1: wish to not attend the wedding. I couldn't know it 118 00:05:24,040 --> 00:05:26,240 Speaker 1: would go down like this because, like I said, I 119 00:05:26,279 --> 00:05:28,839 Speaker 1: couldn't attend several events because of my sexuality, and my 120 00:05:28,960 --> 00:05:31,520 Speaker 1: parents never said anything about it, so I thought it 121 00:05:31,520 --> 00:05:33,400 Speaker 1: would be the same thing here. But I gotta admit 122 00:05:33,480 --> 00:05:35,120 Speaker 1: it's kind of sweet that my parents and the rest 123 00:05:35,160 --> 00:05:37,160 Speaker 1: of my family stood up for me. They haven't done 124 00:05:37,200 --> 00:05:40,560 Speaker 1: it before. That's a more than a welcome change. But 125 00:05:40,640 --> 00:05:43,920 Speaker 1: I still kind of feel bad because apparently I really 126 00:05:44,080 --> 00:05:46,680 Speaker 1: ruined the wedding party And there is an update two 127 00:05:46,760 --> 00:05:49,920 Speaker 1: days later. But do you think op is the ahole? 128 00:05:50,000 --> 00:05:52,840 Speaker 1: By telling the truth to his parents about the reason 129 00:05:52,960 --> 00:05:54,640 Speaker 1: that he was not invited. Let us know in the 130 00:05:54,640 --> 00:05:56,600 Speaker 1: comments right now there is a juicy update coming up. 131 00:05:56,600 --> 00:05:58,640 Speaker 1: But John Riley, what do you think absolutely not just 132 00:05:58,680 --> 00:06:00,400 Speaker 1: told the truth. I told the truth. Yep, he just 133 00:06:00,400 --> 00:06:02,120 Speaker 1: told the truth. I think the brother is the a hole. 134 00:06:02,160 --> 00:06:05,200 Speaker 1: Brother is one thousand percent the a hole. Yeah, you know, 135 00:06:05,360 --> 00:06:08,040 Speaker 1: the guys, give me more time, we'll do it another break, 136 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:12,320 Speaker 1: So updates one two days later. Didn't think i'd give 137 00:06:12,320 --> 00:06:15,159 Speaker 1: an update, but many interesting things have happened. So after 138 00:06:15,240 --> 00:06:18,560 Speaker 1: my brother's visit, his wife and him went on the honeymoon, 139 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:20,520 Speaker 1: and the way the wedding party went might have been 140 00:06:20,640 --> 00:06:24,520 Speaker 1: even worse than I imagine. What happens now is pretty incredible. 141 00:06:24,640 --> 00:06:26,320 Speaker 1: What I said in the main post that two fronts 142 00:06:26,360 --> 00:06:29,440 Speaker 1: had formed, I only meant metaphorically, of course, But it's 143 00:06:29,480 --> 00:06:31,800 Speaker 1: no longer that. Well, nothing much interesting has happened in 144 00:06:31,839 --> 00:06:35,120 Speaker 1: the first two days afterwards. The terror started. As soon 145 00:06:35,160 --> 00:06:37,640 Speaker 1: as my brother and his wife went on their honeymoon. 146 00:06:37,920 --> 00:06:40,320 Speaker 1: My mom and dad visited me and told me how 147 00:06:40,400 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 1: the wedding party escalated and they were so close to 148 00:06:44,600 --> 00:06:48,720 Speaker 1: physical violence. Wow. I thought it was funny at first. Oh, man, 149 00:06:48,800 --> 00:06:53,480 Speaker 1: this Celsius be hidden see tire We're ready to read 150 00:06:53,760 --> 00:06:56,880 Speaker 1: that's crazy. I thought it was funny at first, but 151 00:06:56,960 --> 00:06:59,280 Speaker 1: this truly bothers me. I also want to point out 152 00:06:59,320 --> 00:07:01,320 Speaker 1: that you did a great job at convincing me it's 153 00:07:01,320 --> 00:07:03,839 Speaker 1: not my fault, but hearing my parents' side still gave 154 00:07:03,880 --> 00:07:05,760 Speaker 1: me a bad feeling in my stomach. A right shout 155 00:07:05,760 --> 00:07:09,440 Speaker 1: out Reddit for making sure Ope realizes it's not their fault. Yes. However, 156 00:07:09,480 --> 00:07:11,680 Speaker 1: like I said, the terror started shortly after they went 157 00:07:11,720 --> 00:07:13,920 Speaker 1: on their honeymoon. And when I say terror, I mean 158 00:07:14,000 --> 00:07:17,240 Speaker 1: that my sister in law's family found both my Facebook 159 00:07:17,280 --> 00:07:22,280 Speaker 1: and Instagram account and started spamming me with hateful messages. God, 160 00:07:22,360 --> 00:07:25,600 Speaker 1: I received insult and hateful messages from various different accounts 161 00:07:25,640 --> 00:07:27,880 Speaker 1: who all had one thing in common. They all had 162 00:07:27,920 --> 00:07:30,520 Speaker 1: someone a Christian theme, and all of them had the 163 00:07:30,560 --> 00:07:33,360 Speaker 1: same last name, which probably means it's all from the 164 00:07:33,400 --> 00:07:35,720 Speaker 1: other side of the family. Yes, so it wasn't hard 165 00:07:35,760 --> 00:07:38,640 Speaker 1: to find whose account it was, mainly because I don't 166 00:07:38,680 --> 00:07:41,000 Speaker 1: know my sister in law's family at all. I only 167 00:07:41,120 --> 00:07:44,840 Speaker 1: know her and her parents were homophobic Christians. But whatever, 168 00:07:45,000 --> 00:07:47,920 Speaker 1: they not only started attacking me, they also found the 169 00:07:47,960 --> 00:07:53,360 Speaker 1: account of my boyfriend no over my account because we're 170 00:07:53,360 --> 00:07:55,880 Speaker 1: linked as a couple, and started to send him the 171 00:07:55,960 --> 00:08:01,240 Speaker 1: same messages. I know, so rough. So I was randomly 172 00:08:01,280 --> 00:08:04,440 Speaker 1: on Facebook yesterday and someone from high school updated their 173 00:08:04,560 --> 00:08:07,480 Speaker 1: relationship status on Facebook? What are you doing? Who does 174 00:08:07,520 --> 00:08:10,320 Speaker 1: That's crazy? Who is that? It's over? Wait? Did you 175 00:08:10,440 --> 00:08:11,760 Speaker 1: update your relationship status? 176 00:08:11,800 --> 00:08:14,360 Speaker 2: I haven't, but like it's I don't know. My family's 177 00:08:14,400 --> 00:08:15,160 Speaker 2: on there and they need to know. 178 00:08:15,440 --> 00:08:22,280 Speaker 1: Can't. Well, I'm down with my down chick. That's so. Anyway, 179 00:08:22,680 --> 00:08:24,840 Speaker 1: are you guys updating Facebook? I guess let us know. 180 00:08:24,880 --> 00:08:28,080 Speaker 1: Maybe y'all are updating. We had some people on face 181 00:08:28,360 --> 00:08:32,199 Speaker 1: facebookers in here facebookers faceboogers, face boggers, face boogers. That 182 00:08:32,320 --> 00:08:36,439 Speaker 1: was no anyway. Oh wow. The message is contained on 183 00:08:36,440 --> 00:08:38,880 Speaker 1: one side typical bigot stuff like you're burning in hell 184 00:08:38,960 --> 00:08:41,880 Speaker 1: for your sins. One even called me and my boyfriend 185 00:08:42,080 --> 00:08:47,439 Speaker 1: two devils in disguise. The other side was just blatant insults. 186 00:08:47,600 --> 00:08:49,959 Speaker 1: You get the idea. I called my parents and told 187 00:08:50,000 --> 00:08:51,960 Speaker 1: them what they were doing. Then I said a text 188 00:08:52,120 --> 00:08:54,920 Speaker 1: message to my brother with screenshots of the messages his 189 00:08:54,960 --> 00:08:57,560 Speaker 1: wife's family sent me, to which he replied, I shouldn't 190 00:08:57,559 --> 00:09:00,680 Speaker 1: disturb him with that during his honeymoon, as I already 191 00:09:00,679 --> 00:09:03,880 Speaker 1: destroyed his wedding party. Do you hate your brother? I 192 00:09:03,920 --> 00:09:08,280 Speaker 1: think the brother secretly is not okay with help. I 193 00:09:08,400 --> 00:09:11,840 Speaker 1: think the brother is actually adhering to his values. Yeah, 194 00:09:11,920 --> 00:09:16,120 Speaker 1: him and his wife share one specific value in common. Wow, 195 00:09:16,400 --> 00:09:18,080 Speaker 1: that's a good I see you. I see that. I 196 00:09:18,120 --> 00:09:21,840 Speaker 1: see that he was just like them. He did send 197 00:09:21,840 --> 00:09:24,679 Speaker 1: me an apology after my mom told me she called him. 198 00:09:24,720 --> 00:09:26,680 Speaker 1: But none of this is the main reason I'm giving 199 00:09:26,720 --> 00:09:28,880 Speaker 1: you this update this early, So that's not even the 200 00:09:28,920 --> 00:09:32,599 Speaker 1: tea We haven't even gotten to the tea stop. I 201 00:09:33,160 --> 00:09:35,800 Speaker 1: thought we were about to be drained dry. But there, 202 00:09:35,960 --> 00:09:37,800 Speaker 1: I just stuck my straw a little bit further in, 203 00:09:37,920 --> 00:09:42,800 Speaker 1: and there's more story here. But you really painted a 204 00:09:42,840 --> 00:09:46,360 Speaker 1: picture for me there. Because I got a call this 205 00:09:46,480 --> 00:09:49,520 Speaker 1: morning from an unknown number. I hesitated because I thought 206 00:09:49,559 --> 00:09:51,360 Speaker 1: it was one of them, and I was right, But 207 00:09:51,440 --> 00:09:53,480 Speaker 1: it was none of the people who insulted me. I 208 00:09:53,520 --> 00:09:56,840 Speaker 1: heard a woman's voice who introduced herself as the half 209 00:09:57,280 --> 00:10:00,880 Speaker 1: sister of my brother's wife. She said it didn't go 210 00:10:00,960 --> 00:10:03,920 Speaker 1: unnoticed what her family was doing, and she wanted to 211 00:10:04,000 --> 00:10:08,079 Speaker 1: apologize for them. Okay, it seems like OHP's rallying support 212 00:10:08,080 --> 00:10:10,440 Speaker 1: from the other side of the family. M I told 213 00:10:10,440 --> 00:10:12,000 Speaker 1: her I'm not going to tell anyone in the family 214 00:10:12,040 --> 00:10:14,079 Speaker 1: about this, and that I don't blame her for her 215 00:10:14,080 --> 00:10:17,480 Speaker 1: family's actions. Thank me and hung up. I don't know why, 216 00:10:17,600 --> 00:10:20,040 Speaker 1: but I have this feeling you only did this to 217 00:10:20,160 --> 00:10:24,400 Speaker 1: protect her family from being reported reported, maybe for like 218 00:10:24,440 --> 00:10:27,720 Speaker 1: a parassment, harassment, hate crime, something along those ones. My 219 00:10:27,720 --> 00:10:29,840 Speaker 1: mother wrote to me earlier that she wants to report 220 00:10:29,880 --> 00:10:32,520 Speaker 1: the insults and the harassment of these people, and that 221 00:10:32,559 --> 00:10:34,920 Speaker 1: she demands from my brothers, Oh my god, and that 222 00:10:35,000 --> 00:10:38,080 Speaker 1: she demands for my brother to divorce his wife or 223 00:10:38,120 --> 00:10:43,560 Speaker 1: she will disinherit him from her, who because that's not 224 00:10:43,720 --> 00:10:46,079 Speaker 1: how she raised him. A little radical in my opinion, 225 00:10:46,080 --> 00:10:48,439 Speaker 1: but I understand where she's coming from. This entire thing 226 00:10:48,559 --> 00:10:51,560 Speaker 1: escalated so much as unbelievable. Thank y'all for your support 227 00:10:51,559 --> 00:10:54,320 Speaker 1: of my first post. And there is another update, but 228 00:10:54,520 --> 00:10:58,080 Speaker 1: oh my goodness. Wow, so we all kind of like 229 00:10:58,280 --> 00:11:00,960 Speaker 1: we kind of buried the lead. Yeah, it all came 230 00:11:01,080 --> 00:11:03,679 Speaker 1: full circle that last moment. So the parents are like, 231 00:11:03,960 --> 00:11:07,679 Speaker 1: if you don't divorce your wife, we will disinherit you. 232 00:11:08,120 --> 00:11:10,720 Speaker 1: And also we're gonna report the whole family for harassment. 233 00:11:10,760 --> 00:11:12,040 Speaker 1: What do you think about both of those? 234 00:11:12,840 --> 00:11:18,120 Speaker 3: I actually kind of like the reporting for harassment because 235 00:11:18,160 --> 00:11:21,120 Speaker 3: I think, like I think, in so often in these stories, 236 00:11:21,280 --> 00:11:23,480 Speaker 3: it just goes like further and further and further, and 237 00:11:23,520 --> 00:11:26,240 Speaker 3: I think putting a stop to like if it was 238 00:11:26,280 --> 00:11:28,920 Speaker 3: someone on the street or something that did this, I 239 00:11:28,920 --> 00:11:31,240 Speaker 3: feel like that would be a pretty natural reaction, like, oh, 240 00:11:31,320 --> 00:11:33,920 Speaker 3: let's like report them for harassment or something along those lines. 241 00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:36,920 Speaker 1: Right, So, and it's gotten so it's like gone so far. 242 00:11:36,960 --> 00:11:41,319 Speaker 3: You're literally finding both of them personally doing all these insults. Crazy, 243 00:11:41,360 --> 00:11:44,800 Speaker 3: So I like that. On the disinheriting, you know what, 244 00:11:44,840 --> 00:11:46,440 Speaker 3: it kind of is like you know, you know how 245 00:11:46,480 --> 00:11:48,920 Speaker 3: they say with kids, like if you try to like 246 00:11:49,000 --> 00:11:51,760 Speaker 3: punish and push back against their bad behavior, all that 247 00:11:51,840 --> 00:11:54,080 Speaker 3: does is makes them want to dig in deeper. Like 248 00:11:54,400 --> 00:11:57,679 Speaker 3: it's almost like if they go so hard with the 249 00:11:57,800 --> 00:12:00,640 Speaker 3: ground your kids, when I ground my kids. Yeah, Like, 250 00:12:00,720 --> 00:12:03,760 Speaker 3: just in general, yeah, I think so, but mostly like 251 00:12:03,880 --> 00:12:07,720 Speaker 3: I'm big on the you disappointing me. Yeah, I believe 252 00:12:07,760 --> 00:12:12,000 Speaker 3: in a good disappoint But I think that these parents, 253 00:12:12,200 --> 00:12:15,200 Speaker 3: if they do this, that might cause him to double down. 254 00:12:15,280 --> 00:12:20,880 Speaker 1: I like getting a picture into John's parenting style. Sorry, 255 00:12:20,960 --> 00:12:23,240 Speaker 1: I was just distracted by imagining you as a father. 256 00:12:24,480 --> 00:12:26,520 Speaker 1: You're gonna have to go back like fifteen seconds. 257 00:12:27,840 --> 00:12:30,920 Speaker 3: So back to Pie's parents. I think that if they 258 00:12:31,280 --> 00:12:34,240 Speaker 3: try to do this disinheriting thing, the brother might actually 259 00:12:34,320 --> 00:12:38,960 Speaker 3: double down and just side with the wife and like 260 00:12:39,120 --> 00:12:42,560 Speaker 3: kind of remove himself from the family and now allow 261 00:12:42,760 --> 00:12:44,880 Speaker 3: or encourage the hate towards Yeah. 262 00:12:45,120 --> 00:12:47,640 Speaker 1: In a way, I also felt a tinge of o 263 00:12:47,920 --> 00:12:49,320 Speaker 1: like like when I heard the disinherit I'm like, oh, 264 00:12:49,320 --> 00:12:51,360 Speaker 1: I don't know if that feels right, Like, yeah, the 265 00:12:51,400 --> 00:12:54,719 Speaker 1: whole like I'm going to report this harassment felt really good, 266 00:12:54,760 --> 00:12:57,800 Speaker 1: But I feel like it's going to have a bad 267 00:12:58,160 --> 00:13:00,960 Speaker 1: unintended consequence, like a back I think it's going to 268 00:13:00,960 --> 00:13:03,560 Speaker 1: have a backfire. Yeah, And I think it could cause 269 00:13:03,720 --> 00:13:09,000 Speaker 1: more resentment in more isolation, and further radicalize Op's brother. 270 00:13:09,360 --> 00:13:11,600 Speaker 1: It's kind of like that idea of like I think 271 00:13:11,720 --> 00:13:15,040 Speaker 1: often we have a culture of when people say something 272 00:13:15,080 --> 00:13:18,560 Speaker 1: bad or have like a very different opinion of us. 273 00:13:18,679 --> 00:13:23,199 Speaker 1: I think the culture is ostracized and isolate, where it's 274 00:13:23,200 --> 00:13:25,120 Speaker 1: like I can't believe you said that. Ostracize and isolate 275 00:13:25,160 --> 00:13:26,520 Speaker 1: and then but then when you do that, when you 276 00:13:26,559 --> 00:13:30,400 Speaker 1: ostracize and isolate, then you essentially provide a chamber for 277 00:13:30,480 --> 00:13:34,600 Speaker 1: those views to magnify and metastasize. Right, And so I 278 00:13:34,640 --> 00:13:38,240 Speaker 1: think instead it should be like almost like bring in it, 279 00:13:38,280 --> 00:13:41,679 Speaker 1: like bring in closer and educate, discuss it, discussion and education, 280 00:13:41,920 --> 00:13:45,080 Speaker 1: discussion and education. And I feel like I don't. I 281 00:13:45,120 --> 00:13:48,439 Speaker 1: don't think the disinheriting thing will have the intended effect. 282 00:13:48,640 --> 00:13:51,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree, I think you need to the first 283 00:13:51,160 --> 00:13:53,240 Speaker 3: step is we need to all come to the table 284 00:13:53,280 --> 00:13:56,080 Speaker 3: and have a heart to harm on, like this is your. 285 00:13:55,960 --> 00:13:58,839 Speaker 1: Brother, you know. Like, but I can already see the 286 00:13:58,880 --> 00:14:04,360 Speaker 1: comments rolling in saying actually have consequences when yeah, that's 287 00:14:04,559 --> 00:14:05,600 Speaker 1: what do you say to that? What do you say 288 00:14:05,600 --> 00:14:07,800 Speaker 1: to those people that I say it in the comments? Again, 289 00:14:07,840 --> 00:14:11,960 Speaker 1: I'm big on I'm big on checking. You disappointed me? Good? No, 290 00:14:12,000 --> 00:14:17,360 Speaker 1: I mean that's what I imagined you would you disappointed 291 00:14:17,400 --> 00:14:20,840 Speaker 1: me from Yah, I'm saying. I'm saying that's what you 292 00:14:20,880 --> 00:14:25,160 Speaker 1: say in that situation as John. Yes, I'm embodying father John. Yes, 293 00:14:25,280 --> 00:14:26,480 Speaker 1: that is that is what I would say. 294 00:14:26,480 --> 00:14:28,520 Speaker 3: I would say, you disappointed me like this is your brother, 295 00:14:28,720 --> 00:14:31,840 Speaker 3: Like isn't this someone you want to like protect and 296 00:14:32,000 --> 00:14:35,120 Speaker 3: love and like sit down and hear out and empathize 297 00:14:35,160 --> 00:14:37,880 Speaker 3: and you know, all all of that. Like, I think 298 00:14:37,920 --> 00:14:40,240 Speaker 3: it starts with a sit down, heart to heart conversation 299 00:14:40,360 --> 00:14:43,000 Speaker 3: to try and assess where the brother is really at 300 00:14:43,120 --> 00:14:46,160 Speaker 3: right now, because it seems like he's teetering on just 301 00:14:46,240 --> 00:14:49,360 Speaker 3: like completely siding with the family and secretly does side 302 00:14:49,360 --> 00:14:50,000 Speaker 3: with them. 303 00:14:50,080 --> 00:14:54,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I think the brother is saying that 304 00:14:54,320 --> 00:14:57,600 Speaker 1: he supports OPI, But again, I just parroting what you 305 00:14:57,640 --> 00:15:00,840 Speaker 1: said actually has a value that's closer line with his 306 00:15:00,880 --> 00:15:03,160 Speaker 1: wife happened. Yeah, you know, I don't know if you 307 00:15:03,200 --> 00:15:07,160 Speaker 1: marry someone who has rather vastly different values in you, Yeah, 308 00:15:07,360 --> 00:15:10,920 Speaker 1: not generally, not that that different. Yeah, exactly. But but 309 00:15:11,480 --> 00:15:15,680 Speaker 1: there is an update and we are going to dive in. 310 00:15:15,720 --> 00:15:16,840 Speaker 1: This is another two days later. 311 00:15:17,160 --> 00:15:19,560 Speaker 2: Note this is all happening in June. 312 00:15:19,320 --> 00:15:20,200 Speaker 1: Of twenty twenty three. 313 00:15:20,320 --> 00:15:27,760 Speaker 2: In June, stay, oh, could catch they're pulling the stone 314 00:15:27,960 --> 00:15:32,200 Speaker 2: in June. That's crazy, dude, there they well cry over here, okay, 315 00:15:33,400 --> 00:15:34,680 Speaker 2: don't apparently. 316 00:15:38,320 --> 00:15:42,000 Speaker 1: Wow, good on you anyway. June third, I just know 317 00:15:42,080 --> 00:15:48,200 Speaker 1: that's okay. Priley is trying to backtrack his wokeness. Oh, 318 00:15:48,240 --> 00:15:50,320 Speaker 1: we should go to Pride for it. That would actually 319 00:15:50,320 --> 00:15:52,880 Speaker 1: be so fun. Let's go. Have you got a Pride 320 00:15:52,880 --> 00:15:57,360 Speaker 1: Pride is Oh, dude, is crazy. I went to the 321 00:15:57,440 --> 00:16:00,240 Speaker 1: last Friday I went was a weird Pride becau because 322 00:16:00,280 --> 00:16:03,240 Speaker 1: it was half Black Lives Matter, half Pride, and so 323 00:16:03,360 --> 00:16:05,480 Speaker 1: it was like a weird mix of emotions. 324 00:16:05,560 --> 00:16:07,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, there COVID happening too. 325 00:16:07,600 --> 00:16:10,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, it was proved Black Lives Matter and Pride all 326 00:16:10,560 --> 00:16:13,200 Speaker 1: in one. It was still cool. It was still really cool, 327 00:16:13,240 --> 00:16:15,480 Speaker 1: a very but very like there's a lot more somber 328 00:16:15,520 --> 00:16:18,080 Speaker 1: tones and things of that somber but like it was 329 00:16:18,160 --> 00:16:20,720 Speaker 1: just know, it was like a really like interesting cultural 330 00:16:21,040 --> 00:16:26,120 Speaker 1: melting pot at that moment. But this summer and wild 331 00:16:27,120 --> 00:16:30,160 Speaker 1: grabbed all around. I'm down. I'm taking my cheeks, taking 332 00:16:30,200 --> 00:16:35,800 Speaker 1: your cheeks. Dude, there your booty slowly, only you guys. 333 00:16:37,560 --> 00:16:39,600 Speaker 1: So here we're getting into the update June third. Some 334 00:16:39,680 --> 00:16:42,080 Speaker 1: of you were wondering why I seem so calm and 335 00:16:42,120 --> 00:16:45,120 Speaker 1: casual in the update when I'm being discriminated against. The 336 00:16:45,160 --> 00:16:47,000 Speaker 1: truth is that I am in a relationship with my 337 00:16:47,040 --> 00:16:49,440 Speaker 1: boyfriend for now three gears, and the things that happen 338 00:16:49,520 --> 00:16:52,200 Speaker 1: now are nothing compared to what I've been through. I've 339 00:16:52,200 --> 00:16:55,720 Speaker 1: received hateful messages almost daily, not only from their accounts 340 00:16:55,720 --> 00:16:57,560 Speaker 1: but in general, and I learned to ignore that. There 341 00:16:57,600 --> 00:17:00,000 Speaker 1: have been way worse situations, such as when my boyfriend 342 00:17:00,000 --> 00:17:01,880 Speaker 1: I went to visit his family and I couldn't go 343 00:17:01,960 --> 00:17:04,280 Speaker 1: with him. We kissed each other goodbye on a train station, 344 00:17:04,359 --> 00:17:06,240 Speaker 1: and when the train left and no one saw it, 345 00:17:06,359 --> 00:17:08,359 Speaker 1: a group of guys attacked me. I was sent to 346 00:17:08,400 --> 00:17:10,640 Speaker 1: the hospital because of severe injuries. Just give you an 347 00:17:10,680 --> 00:17:13,840 Speaker 1: idea of what I had to deal within the past. Also, 348 00:17:14,119 --> 00:17:17,560 Speaker 1: the writing here is not perfect. I'm wondering if Ope 349 00:17:18,280 --> 00:17:22,280 Speaker 1: is not in the like United States, and this is 350 00:17:22,359 --> 00:17:25,760 Speaker 1: like English is a second language froby Yeah, possibly possibly yeah, 351 00:17:25,800 --> 00:17:27,840 Speaker 1: And don't get me wrong, we will report my sister 352 00:17:27,840 --> 00:17:30,120 Speaker 1: and laws family, but what they are doing is nothing 353 00:17:30,119 --> 00:17:34,440 Speaker 1: I haven't seen a thousand times before, which understandable. So sad, though, 354 00:17:34,600 --> 00:17:37,560 Speaker 1: so sad. We got another updates nine days later. Let's 355 00:17:37,520 --> 00:17:39,080 Speaker 1: get to it, but a few days. First of all, 356 00:17:39,200 --> 00:17:41,160 Speaker 1: me and my boyfriend are fine. Luckily for us, they 357 00:17:41,160 --> 00:17:43,720 Speaker 1: didn't go any further with their text messages. My mom 358 00:17:43,800 --> 00:17:46,080 Speaker 1: filed a report against them. Let's go. I don't know 359 00:17:46,119 --> 00:17:48,639 Speaker 1: the current situation about that, as I haven't filed the 360 00:17:48,680 --> 00:17:51,840 Speaker 1: report myself, the reason I update you is a different one. 361 00:17:51,840 --> 00:17:54,480 Speaker 1: First of all, one person in my sister in law's 362 00:17:54,520 --> 00:17:59,240 Speaker 1: family is actually going to testify in my favor against 363 00:17:59,359 --> 00:18:02,720 Speaker 1: her family. WHOA it really takes courage to do so. 364 00:18:02,880 --> 00:18:05,320 Speaker 1: It's the same person that called me in the last update. 365 00:18:05,359 --> 00:18:08,479 Speaker 1: Somehow they found out that she is into women and 366 00:18:08,520 --> 00:18:10,760 Speaker 1: there was no reason to hide it anymore. However, she 367 00:18:10,880 --> 00:18:13,040 Speaker 1: said she's fine, is going to stay at a friend's house. 368 00:18:13,080 --> 00:18:15,880 Speaker 1: I have so much respect for what she does. Imagine 369 00:18:15,920 --> 00:18:18,520 Speaker 1: the strength you need to testify against your own family. 370 00:18:18,640 --> 00:18:21,320 Speaker 1: I now feel bad for assuming she only called me 371 00:18:21,440 --> 00:18:25,840 Speaker 1: to save her family from being reported get an ally true. 372 00:18:25,840 --> 00:18:29,439 Speaker 1: More importantly, what is the situation with my brother? I 373 00:18:29,440 --> 00:18:33,080 Speaker 1: don't know because again reminder, Op's parents were like, we're 374 00:18:33,080 --> 00:18:36,080 Speaker 1: disinheriting you. Well, my mom talked to him and told 375 00:18:36,160 --> 00:18:39,360 Speaker 1: him to leave his wife or she will disinherit him 376 00:18:39,440 --> 00:18:43,040 Speaker 1: from her will. He decided to stay with his wife, 377 00:18:43,080 --> 00:18:47,000 Speaker 1: and my mom made her threat come true. Oh my god, 378 00:18:47,200 --> 00:18:50,120 Speaker 1: he's no longer in her will. My father did the same. 379 00:18:50,160 --> 00:18:52,399 Speaker 1: When I visited them, I told them that I wish 380 00:18:52,520 --> 00:18:55,440 Speaker 1: that this entire situation went differently. They assured me it's 381 00:18:55,480 --> 00:18:57,120 Speaker 1: not my fault, but I feel like if it wasn't 382 00:18:57,160 --> 00:18:59,800 Speaker 1: for me, then my family wouldn't have been ripped apart 383 00:18:59,880 --> 00:19:02,160 Speaker 1: like this. I haven't talked to my brother since then. 384 00:19:02,240 --> 00:19:04,679 Speaker 1: My boyfriend feels similar. He also told me he kind 385 00:19:04,680 --> 00:19:07,280 Speaker 1: of feels responsible for all the chaos. I assured him 386 00:19:07,320 --> 00:19:10,040 Speaker 1: it's not his fault. But ultimately, and honestly, I wasn't 387 00:19:10,080 --> 00:19:12,960 Speaker 1: even sure I could say this in my position. On 388 00:19:12,960 --> 00:19:15,520 Speaker 1: the other hand, it was my sister in law's family's 389 00:19:15,600 --> 00:19:18,520 Speaker 1: big a tree that ruined everything, and everything would have 390 00:19:18,520 --> 00:19:22,760 Speaker 1: been fine if I just could have attended. It's I mean, OPA, 391 00:19:22,880 --> 00:19:25,000 Speaker 1: just real talk. It is not your fault. It's not 392 00:19:25,080 --> 00:19:27,840 Speaker 1: your boyfriends, not at all. Big a tree is not 393 00:19:27,960 --> 00:19:30,520 Speaker 1: your fault. Yes, you know, if you get flack for 394 00:19:30,640 --> 00:19:33,119 Speaker 1: just being you know, that's uh. That is never on you. 395 00:19:33,160 --> 00:19:35,640 Speaker 1: To you, that's ever on you. But now it's time 396 00:19:35,680 --> 00:19:37,840 Speaker 1: for me to grow distant to the situation. We will 397 00:19:37,840 --> 00:19:39,760 Speaker 1: see what the report will do. I followed your advice 398 00:19:39,800 --> 00:19:43,080 Speaker 1: to document everything. The insulting and harassing messages continued until 399 00:19:43,080 --> 00:19:46,120 Speaker 1: two days ago, so I have much to say about them. Unfortunately, 400 00:19:46,200 --> 00:19:48,960 Speaker 1: homophobia is still very much normalized in our society. I 401 00:19:49,000 --> 00:19:50,720 Speaker 1: already said in a post in my profile with the 402 00:19:50,760 --> 00:19:52,960 Speaker 1: reason I'm so calm and casual about situations is a 403 00:19:53,000 --> 00:19:54,960 Speaker 1: simple fact. I'm used to situations like this, so don't 404 00:19:55,000 --> 00:19:57,560 Speaker 1: get to me anymore. If I let any insult get 405 00:19:57,600 --> 00:19:59,879 Speaker 1: to me, I wouldn't have made it for a long time. 406 00:20:00,000 --> 00:20:02,479 Speaker 1: It's a coping mechanism. I've been into situations where I 407 00:20:02,520 --> 00:20:04,359 Speaker 1: was sent to the hospital because I kissed my boyfriend 408 00:20:04,359 --> 00:20:07,439 Speaker 1: in public, so insults harassment like this is nothing I 409 00:20:07,440 --> 00:20:08,960 Speaker 1: haven't seen before. I want to say thank you for 410 00:20:09,000 --> 00:20:11,240 Speaker 1: all the support of my first two posts. And there 411 00:20:11,440 --> 00:20:15,760 Speaker 1: is an update number three two months later, and another 412 00:20:15,960 --> 00:20:21,399 Speaker 1: update number four Wow, and another update number five this 413 00:20:21,480 --> 00:20:24,280 Speaker 1: is a saga, and another update number six Wow. This 414 00:20:24,359 --> 00:20:27,760 Speaker 1: is a saga, the six part series OKP mini series. 415 00:20:27,800 --> 00:20:28,200 Speaker 1: Let's go. 416 00:20:28,359 --> 00:20:30,800 Speaker 2: If you love this saga, make sure to subscribe. 417 00:20:30,880 --> 00:20:33,920 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, but subscribe, Come on, do so subscribe 418 00:20:33,920 --> 00:20:37,760 Speaker 1: to the saga. Thank you so. Update three August twenty second, 419 00:20:37,760 --> 00:20:39,800 Speaker 1: twenty twenty three, two months later. I think some of 420 00:20:39,840 --> 00:20:41,480 Speaker 1: y'all are waiting for an update, so here I am. 421 00:20:41,640 --> 00:20:44,159 Speaker 1: Keep in mind that this update will probably be the 422 00:20:44,240 --> 00:20:47,000 Speaker 1: last one, Liar, it won't be the last time. I 423 00:20:47,040 --> 00:20:50,080 Speaker 1: told you. My mother was pressing charges against them, and 424 00:20:50,119 --> 00:20:53,280 Speaker 1: to my surprise, we won. Well, they weren't going to 425 00:20:53,359 --> 00:20:55,560 Speaker 1: jail or anything, but they did have to pay for 426 00:20:55,600 --> 00:20:58,560 Speaker 1: their actions. Literally. There was one incident where my sister 427 00:20:58,560 --> 00:21:01,520 Speaker 1: in law's dad was actually trying to find out where 428 00:21:01,560 --> 00:21:04,240 Speaker 1: I live and asked my brother, who told him only 429 00:21:04,240 --> 00:21:06,360 Speaker 1: God knows what he would have done to us if 430 00:21:06,400 --> 00:21:08,240 Speaker 1: we had still lived there. But in the time span 431 00:21:08,320 --> 00:21:10,160 Speaker 1: the last two months, me and my boyfriend moved into 432 00:21:10,200 --> 00:21:13,119 Speaker 1: a different place, which my brother didn't know anything of. Also, 433 00:21:13,119 --> 00:21:15,560 Speaker 1: their social media accounts were deleted. However, I don't know 434 00:21:15,560 --> 00:21:17,359 Speaker 1: if this was part of their punishment or if they 435 00:21:17,400 --> 00:21:19,960 Speaker 1: did it themselves. My mom has also carried out the 436 00:21:20,000 --> 00:21:22,720 Speaker 1: threat towards my brother and disinherited him from her will. 437 00:21:22,840 --> 00:21:25,600 Speaker 1: After he came back from his honeymoon. He begged her 438 00:21:25,680 --> 00:21:27,960 Speaker 1: put him in again, but she said, only if he 439 00:21:28,040 --> 00:21:31,200 Speaker 1: apologized to me. Do you think he's gonna apologize? Uh? No, 440 00:21:31,600 --> 00:21:34,120 Speaker 1: I think he is, but for the wrong reasons. Yeah, right, 441 00:21:34,160 --> 00:21:36,760 Speaker 1: like he could he could give a sorry. I mean, 442 00:21:36,800 --> 00:21:38,960 Speaker 1: he's incentivized to get his will back like this is true, 443 00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:41,439 Speaker 1: I don't think it's a real apology. She invited me 444 00:21:41,480 --> 00:21:43,280 Speaker 1: and my boyfriend over, and my brother sat in the 445 00:21:43,320 --> 00:21:46,280 Speaker 1: living room with this mad look on his face. She 446 00:21:46,400 --> 00:21:49,800 Speaker 1: made him apologize, but I didn't accept this apology because 447 00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:52,280 Speaker 1: I could tell it wasn't sincere, which of course it's 448 00:21:52,280 --> 00:21:54,480 Speaker 1: not going to be sincere, like really quick, really quick, 449 00:21:54,800 --> 00:21:57,480 Speaker 1: like dwelling on this for a second. If you basically 450 00:21:57,560 --> 00:22:02,080 Speaker 1: financially try to hurt someone to make them change a 451 00:22:02,160 --> 00:22:04,680 Speaker 1: core belief, they're going to just say whatever they need 452 00:22:04,800 --> 00:22:07,199 Speaker 1: to get the finances, they get the finances back. So 453 00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:09,159 Speaker 1: it's like, I don't think it's an effective way to 454 00:22:09,600 --> 00:22:10,400 Speaker 1: enact change. 455 00:22:10,440 --> 00:22:12,639 Speaker 3: And also, now that we're at this point, I actually 456 00:22:12,720 --> 00:22:16,359 Speaker 3: think I understand disinheriting, but maybe on a much longer 457 00:22:16,400 --> 00:22:18,720 Speaker 3: time scale, you know what I mean, Like like like 458 00:22:18,920 --> 00:22:21,560 Speaker 3: as as the parents are like really getting into their 459 00:22:21,640 --> 00:22:24,439 Speaker 3: their older years, and they're like, okay, we've we've tried 460 00:22:24,640 --> 00:22:26,679 Speaker 3: and done all these things for like years and years 461 00:22:26,720 --> 00:22:29,480 Speaker 3: with the person, and at a later point. 462 00:22:29,440 --> 00:22:32,720 Speaker 1: Or or reverse it, take it away and say, hey, 463 00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:35,840 Speaker 1: if we see actual change and you trying to become 464 00:22:35,840 --> 00:22:39,600 Speaker 1: a better brother and better family member, we will reinstate 465 00:22:39,640 --> 00:22:40,320 Speaker 1: your inheritance. 466 00:22:40,520 --> 00:22:44,240 Speaker 2: That reminds me of the drug addicts story we read. 467 00:22:44,359 --> 00:22:46,199 Speaker 2: It was like, hey, if you are sober for this 468 00:22:46,320 --> 00:22:48,800 Speaker 2: many years, you will get your inheritance. 469 00:22:48,840 --> 00:22:50,640 Speaker 1: Pot. Yeah. I feel like it's kind of a good idea. 470 00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:54,200 Speaker 3: Yeah that's yeah, that's definitely definitely better than the immediate 471 00:22:54,359 --> 00:22:56,919 Speaker 3: yeah takeaway. Yeah, incentivizing a fake. 472 00:22:56,800 --> 00:23:00,520 Speaker 1: Apology, yeah exactly. I mean, this apology does nothing for anyone. 473 00:23:00,680 --> 00:23:02,840 Speaker 1: He did it because he had to and not because 474 00:23:02,880 --> 00:23:04,919 Speaker 1: he was actually sorry. I told my brother that I 475 00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:08,480 Speaker 1: am disappointed in him for who he became. Before that, 476 00:23:08,560 --> 00:23:11,080 Speaker 1: we had this huge bond usually never judged each other 477 00:23:11,119 --> 00:23:12,840 Speaker 1: for stuff like this, and all of a sudden he 478 00:23:12,880 --> 00:23:14,919 Speaker 1: has such a problem with me having a boyfriend. I 479 00:23:14,960 --> 00:23:16,720 Speaker 1: just don't get it. I told him that I missed 480 00:23:16,760 --> 00:23:19,320 Speaker 1: the old him. He didn't respond to anything, just sat 481 00:23:19,359 --> 00:23:23,720 Speaker 1: there quietly staring at the bottom he is the floor, funnyway. 482 00:23:23,760 --> 00:23:25,720 Speaker 1: After I finished, he just got up and left. This 483 00:23:25,840 --> 00:23:27,520 Speaker 1: was the last time I spoke with him, and it's 484 00:23:27,560 --> 00:23:29,960 Speaker 1: already been a few weeks since this happened. My parents 485 00:23:30,040 --> 00:23:32,880 Speaker 1: paid much more attention to the discrimination I face since 486 00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:35,440 Speaker 1: this incident. They wanted to learn more about my problems. 487 00:23:35,520 --> 00:23:37,879 Speaker 1: The problems I face as a queer person. I really 488 00:23:37,920 --> 00:23:40,879 Speaker 1: love them. My dad even got a bisexual pride flag 489 00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:42,440 Speaker 1: for me and asked if he could hang it in 490 00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:46,439 Speaker 1: our bedroom. That's that is cute. What is the bisexual flag? 491 00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:49,879 Speaker 3: It's one of the I think it's one of the 492 00:23:49,920 --> 00:23:51,160 Speaker 3: specific colors or. 493 00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:55,119 Speaker 2: Not three dude, that's so thrown off. This should be 494 00:23:55,160 --> 00:23:56,200 Speaker 2: two colored. 495 00:23:56,119 --> 00:23:59,080 Speaker 1: The bisexual flag. That makes sense. Well, it makes like 496 00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:03,240 Speaker 1: it makes sense because it's like girl guy like girl, 497 00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:05,600 Speaker 1: pink guy blue purple in the middle. 498 00:24:05,359 --> 00:24:08,280 Speaker 2: But like bye, like to be two colors. 499 00:24:08,359 --> 00:24:09,960 Speaker 1: I think it's represented. Don't call it a. 500 00:24:10,000 --> 00:24:14,840 Speaker 2: Bicycle and not have two wheels. I was like, this 501 00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:18,560 Speaker 2: is a bicycle with three wheels. Bilingual, you speak two languages, 502 00:24:18,720 --> 00:24:20,880 Speaker 2: bisexual flag, two colors. 503 00:24:21,760 --> 00:24:23,919 Speaker 1: Just say change the bisexual flag, put her answer to 504 00:24:23,960 --> 00:24:27,520 Speaker 1: the Anyway, I really loved that my dad got a 505 00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:29,600 Speaker 1: bisexual pride flag for me and asked if you can 506 00:24:29,640 --> 00:24:31,240 Speaker 1: hang it in our bedroom. I love that I have 507 00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:33,919 Speaker 1: such great parents. I just wish for my brother to 508 00:24:33,960 --> 00:24:36,200 Speaker 1: become the person he once was. By the way, since 509 00:24:36,200 --> 00:24:38,199 Speaker 1: the case with my sister and family is over, I 510 00:24:38,200 --> 00:24:40,880 Speaker 1: didn't hear anything about their lesbian daughter. If he supported 511 00:24:40,920 --> 00:24:43,520 Speaker 1: us during the process, but we lost contact afterwards. I 512 00:24:43,600 --> 00:24:45,879 Speaker 1: just hope he's fine us too. And there is an 513 00:24:45,960 --> 00:24:49,480 Speaker 1: update February sixteenth, twenty twenty four, six months after that 514 00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:52,600 Speaker 1: last update. Wow, we're getting close to the now. We're 515 00:24:52,840 --> 00:24:55,720 Speaker 1: close to the now. The final update of my story 516 00:24:55,840 --> 00:24:59,000 Speaker 1: not the final update. There's more happened six months ago, 517 00:24:59,080 --> 00:25:01,000 Speaker 1: and I figured some of you might be interested in 518 00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:03,240 Speaker 1: how things are going, so I'm back at least for 519 00:25:03,280 --> 00:25:05,879 Speaker 1: this post right now. There have been some things that happened. 520 00:25:05,920 --> 00:25:07,600 Speaker 1: First of all, I want to give you an update 521 00:25:07,640 --> 00:25:10,600 Speaker 1: about the sister of my brother's wife, the one that 522 00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:13,680 Speaker 1: liked women and came out to SUPPORTO Pete Yes. Around 523 00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:16,320 Speaker 1: two months after my update, she texted us and asked 524 00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:18,280 Speaker 1: if she could come over. We talked for a while, 525 00:25:18,320 --> 00:25:20,280 Speaker 1: and I was relieved to find out that she's fine. 526 00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:22,600 Speaker 1: She said that she moved in with her girlfriend when 527 00:25:22,640 --> 00:25:24,600 Speaker 1: the case was over, simply because her parents and the 528 00:25:24,600 --> 00:25:26,640 Speaker 1: rest of the family had just owned her and threatened 529 00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:30,320 Speaker 1: her with physical violence if she dares to return no 530 00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:33,280 Speaker 1: pat However, the relationship with her girlfriend ended after a while, 531 00:25:33,320 --> 00:25:35,480 Speaker 1: and she asked us if she could stay for a 532 00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:37,800 Speaker 1: few days until she found something. While she stayed with 533 00:25:37,880 --> 00:25:39,840 Speaker 1: us for two weeks, and during that time, my parents 534 00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:42,440 Speaker 1: has visited us and offered her to stay with them 535 00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:44,399 Speaker 1: because they had a big house with some free space. 536 00:25:44,560 --> 00:25:47,560 Speaker 1: Goat parents, dude, parents are really doing the most, truly, 537 00:25:47,640 --> 00:25:50,119 Speaker 1: and given the bisexual flag, arrays, you know, we were 538 00:25:50,119 --> 00:25:52,960 Speaker 1: all the right thing. W parents, parents, parents. She stays 539 00:25:52,960 --> 00:25:55,160 Speaker 1: there currently because she wanted to study, and my parents 540 00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:57,159 Speaker 1: had no problem with letting her stay a little longer. 541 00:25:57,240 --> 00:25:59,800 Speaker 1: Me and my boyfriend also support her financially a little bit, 542 00:26:00,000 --> 00:26:02,600 Speaker 1: so we included her in several different celebrations, such as 543 00:26:02,680 --> 00:26:04,760 Speaker 1: Christmas in New Year's Eve, and I feel like she 544 00:26:04,960 --> 00:26:07,800 Speaker 1: is like the sister I never had. What's probably more 545 00:26:07,840 --> 00:26:11,600 Speaker 1: interesting for you, though, is how my brother is currently doing. Hmmmm. 546 00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:15,600 Speaker 1: The truth is I don't know exactly that would be interesting. 547 00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:18,000 Speaker 1: I hope he doesn't know. We haven't talked since the apology. However, 548 00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:21,560 Speaker 1: he actually tried to attend our Christmas celebration party, but 549 00:26:21,680 --> 00:26:24,639 Speaker 1: the moment he appeared, my dad kicked him out and 550 00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:28,280 Speaker 1: said that and I quote, this homophobic rubbish is no 551 00:26:28,359 --> 00:26:32,120 Speaker 1: longer allowed in my house are days? Yeah, Daddy put 552 00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:34,800 Speaker 1: his foot down. Also, are the any of the UK rubbish. 553 00:26:34,840 --> 00:26:37,840 Speaker 1: Oh true, I love him. Oh by the way, of course, 554 00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:41,240 Speaker 1: both went through with disowning him, though both parents are like, hey, 555 00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:44,280 Speaker 1: we cannot have this. You out. My boyfriend and I 556 00:26:44,359 --> 00:26:46,600 Speaker 1: are still together and I feel like he might be 557 00:26:46,680 --> 00:26:49,400 Speaker 1: the one I want to marry. This entire situation made 558 00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:52,440 Speaker 1: our bond so much stronger. I planned proposing to him, 559 00:26:52,560 --> 00:26:54,639 Speaker 1: but there are so many ideas floating around in my 560 00:26:54,680 --> 00:26:59,080 Speaker 1: head for the proposal that I can't really decide which one. Also, 561 00:26:59,119 --> 00:27:01,720 Speaker 1: the social media can my sister and laws family had 562 00:27:01,760 --> 00:27:04,960 Speaker 1: disappeared entirely, all of them, but I assume they already 563 00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:06,879 Speaker 1: made new ones under a new name. I'm just glad 564 00:27:07,080 --> 00:27:09,840 Speaker 1: this is finally over. It's not I don't have any 565 00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:11,760 Speaker 1: compassion left for my brother. I just wish he had 566 00:27:11,800 --> 00:27:14,240 Speaker 1: never developed this way. Everything that happened to him, he 567 00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:16,520 Speaker 1: brought it on himself. If you guys want, I can 568 00:27:16,640 --> 00:27:19,600 Speaker 1: update and I'm engaged. Thanks for reading. Wish you all 569 00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:22,720 Speaker 1: the best, and there is another update, but relevant comments 570 00:27:22,920 --> 00:27:26,080 Speaker 1: valuable Pace nineteen oh versus be sure to also hire 571 00:27:26,119 --> 00:27:28,879 Speaker 1: security at your future wedding in case your brother, his wife, 572 00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:30,960 Speaker 1: and any in laws try to boycott it in any 573 00:27:31,000 --> 00:27:33,800 Speaker 1: shape or form. If they somehow find out where it 574 00:27:33,840 --> 00:27:36,080 Speaker 1: will take place. Ope, he response. I never thought about that, 575 00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:38,199 Speaker 1: but true. If someone would try to do something like 576 00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:41,600 Speaker 1: this as a revenge, it's them. I'll keep this in mind. 577 00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:43,880 Speaker 3: Bro, when you have to hire security for your own 578 00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:46,120 Speaker 3: freaking wedding, I know what is going on. 579 00:27:46,400 --> 00:27:49,240 Speaker 1: You got some crazy family members. Yes, but there is 580 00:27:49,280 --> 00:27:54,080 Speaker 1: another update April fourteenth, two months later. Ready, I'm ready, 581 00:27:54,080 --> 00:27:56,119 Speaker 1: I'm locked in. Do you remember when I told you 582 00:27:56,160 --> 00:27:58,199 Speaker 1: my last update two months ago that I will propose 583 00:27:58,200 --> 00:28:01,960 Speaker 1: to my boyfriend. Well, I did it today. I brought 584 00:28:02,040 --> 00:28:04,240 Speaker 1: up so many ideas that it was really hard to decide. 585 00:28:04,280 --> 00:28:06,320 Speaker 1: So I gave him some subtle hints not too obvious, 586 00:28:06,320 --> 00:28:08,680 Speaker 1: there's enough to see how he reacts, and then decided 587 00:28:08,840 --> 00:28:10,639 Speaker 1: based on his reaction. In the end, I made a 588 00:28:10,640 --> 00:28:13,320 Speaker 1: photo album of us featuring the most important events in 589 00:28:13,359 --> 00:28:16,040 Speaker 1: our relationship. Each of them had a thought of mine 590 00:28:16,119 --> 00:28:18,360 Speaker 1: and a caption below them. Some of them were meaningful, 591 00:28:18,440 --> 00:28:20,840 Speaker 1: but some of them were just random, like one photo 592 00:28:20,920 --> 00:28:23,840 Speaker 1: of us eating at his favorite restaurant at his birthday, 593 00:28:23,880 --> 00:28:26,600 Speaker 1: and the caption just says something like damn that pizza 594 00:28:26,680 --> 00:28:28,720 Speaker 1: was good. That made him laugh. We walked to his 595 00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:30,679 Speaker 1: favorite spot in town, which is a wonderful way, and 596 00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:33,160 Speaker 1: that is where I gave him the album and told 597 00:28:33,240 --> 00:28:35,040 Speaker 1: them it's a present and to look through it. He 598 00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:37,720 Speaker 1: was focused, didn't notice what I was doing behind him, 599 00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:40,040 Speaker 1: as I just told him I was getting something I forgot. 600 00:28:40,080 --> 00:28:42,880 Speaker 1: I positioned myself behind him, and that is when the 601 00:28:42,960 --> 00:28:45,959 Speaker 1: last page came into play. That page at a photo 602 00:28:46,120 --> 00:28:48,800 Speaker 1: of me holding the ring in the same way, positioned 603 00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:51,560 Speaker 1: myself behind him, looking straight at the camera, and the 604 00:28:51,600 --> 00:28:55,120 Speaker 1: caption says hopefully, He says yes. He turned around in 605 00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:58,960 Speaker 1: disbelief and started crying almost immediately when he saw me. 606 00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:02,080 Speaker 1: I couldn't even finish the question and he already said yes. 607 00:29:02,120 --> 00:29:04,000 Speaker 1: It was exactly how I hoped it would go. I 608 00:29:04,040 --> 00:29:06,600 Speaker 1: always dreamt of making my proposal like out of a 609 00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:09,840 Speaker 1: romance novel, and it was successful. Yeah, that's it. I'm 610 00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:12,600 Speaker 1: going to marry him. I already told my entire family, 611 00:29:12,680 --> 00:29:14,760 Speaker 1: except for my brother. Of course, they were so happy 612 00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:18,280 Speaker 1: about it, especially my mom and new sister shrieked out 613 00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:20,880 Speaker 1: of excitement on the phone. I assume quote unquote brother 614 00:29:21,080 --> 00:29:23,840 Speaker 1: knows anyway, considering I shared it on Facebook, you guys 615 00:29:23,960 --> 00:29:27,440 Speaker 1: probably aren't wrong that he might plan something, but if 616 00:29:27,480 --> 00:29:29,920 Speaker 1: he does, it won't stop us. Do you guys want 617 00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:32,040 Speaker 1: me to update you when I'm married, to tell you 618 00:29:32,080 --> 00:29:36,680 Speaker 1: about the wedding and everything, And there is one final update? 619 00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:40,480 Speaker 1: Dude adorable? All right, John, Yes, do do do do 620 00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:42,840 Speaker 1: do do do do do do. 621 00:29:45,800 --> 00:29:47,880 Speaker 3: So it's like kind of like Indiana Jones was not 622 00:29:47,920 --> 00:29:50,040 Speaker 3: Indiana joneses or it's like in that vein. 623 00:29:50,240 --> 00:29:52,959 Speaker 1: I don't know, it's not James Bond No one more 624 00:29:53,040 --> 00:29:58,360 Speaker 1: guess one other adventurous what other guests Aladdin? No further 625 00:29:58,440 --> 00:30:03,000 Speaker 1: and further makes of Indiana Jones and Indiana Jones. I'm 626 00:30:03,040 --> 00:30:05,040 Speaker 1: about to give you a huge clint. I'm about to 627 00:30:05,080 --> 00:30:07,320 Speaker 1: I'm about to give you what do you give it? 628 00:30:07,400 --> 00:30:10,840 Speaker 1: A huge what? I'm about to give you a huge hint? 629 00:30:11,120 --> 00:30:14,440 Speaker 1: I'll take it. And somehow it is very related to 630 00:30:14,480 --> 00:30:17,360 Speaker 1: what we've been talking about. Oh yeah, but one week later, 631 00:30:17,480 --> 00:30:19,560 Speaker 1: I just have to tell you guys this. We're currently 632 00:30:19,560 --> 00:30:21,840 Speaker 1: planning our wedding and instead of a regular wedding dance, 633 00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:25,600 Speaker 1: we decided we want to have a lightsaber battle against 634 00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:27,600 Speaker 1: each other. Of course, it's not just a random light 635 00:30:27,640 --> 00:30:30,520 Speaker 1: saber battle. It's like choreography that we have to learn. 636 00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:34,160 Speaker 1: We're both huge Star Wars fan. What's the movie on 637 00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:38,440 Speaker 1: Star Wars? It is Cabo Cantino? My dad, what did 638 00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:41,640 Speaker 1: you saymbo? No, what did you say, Cabo Cantina? 639 00:30:41,880 --> 00:30:43,840 Speaker 2: What most easily? Contina Cantina? 640 00:30:43,920 --> 00:30:46,680 Speaker 1: That was Cabo Canteen. Oh wait, that's just that's just 641 00:30:46,760 --> 00:30:53,880 Speaker 1: a bar that I would go to in college. Is 642 00:30:53,920 --> 00:30:57,880 Speaker 1: it most easily? Anyway? My dad, who also loves Star Wars, 643 00:30:57,920 --> 00:30:59,920 Speaker 1: said he wants to join and he had an idea 644 00:31:00,280 --> 00:31:02,640 Speaker 1: how to do that. He said to add a story 645 00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:04,720 Speaker 1: to it, that he wants to have a lightsaber battle 646 00:31:04,800 --> 00:31:07,400 Speaker 1: against my fiance where my fiance has to fight for 647 00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:10,200 Speaker 1: the right to marry me, where my dad would eventually lose, 648 00:31:10,240 --> 00:31:12,360 Speaker 1: and then I would step in to test my fiance 649 00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:15,680 Speaker 1: strength myself and there would be a lightsaber battle between us, 650 00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:18,160 Speaker 1: and then I acknowledge his force is worthy enough. I 651 00:31:18,200 --> 00:31:20,640 Speaker 1: know some of you might think as childish, but I'm 652 00:31:20,720 --> 00:31:23,360 Speaker 1: so excited for it. Our wedding will be a day 653 00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:28,480 Speaker 1: for people to remember. And that is the end of 654 00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:33,320 Speaker 1: the saga. Dude, what an adorable Opie is adorable? Also 655 00:31:33,800 --> 00:31:38,440 Speaker 1: hilarious that the clue the clue, I didn't even realize 656 00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:42,120 Speaker 1: that was That was so crazy. It's a sign. Truly, 657 00:31:42,320 --> 00:31:43,840 Speaker 1: I can't believe you don't know that song. I should 658 00:31:43,880 --> 00:31:45,800 Speaker 1: watch more movies. You should watch more movies at least 659 00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:48,640 Speaker 1: Star Wars. Yeah. I have seen Star Wars obviously not enough, 660 00:31:49,120 --> 00:31:52,280 Speaker 1: not enough. Yeah that's crazy. Never played lego Star Wars 661 00:31:52,600 --> 00:31:56,120 Speaker 1: only a little bit or like, uh Star Wars Battlefront 662 00:31:56,200 --> 00:31:58,280 Speaker 1: ooh yeah, Ran and I were playing that a couple 663 00:31:58,320 --> 00:32:01,560 Speaker 1: months ago. PS four, No way, you should totally play Okay, 664 00:32:01,640 --> 00:32:08,760 Speaker 1: I'm done. I think you're not Star Wars watching. Booty 665 00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:11,400 Speaker 1: can play Battlefront with us. No, you gotta sit down 666 00:32:11,640 --> 00:32:13,640 Speaker 1: and watch it at least four or five and six. 667 00:32:13,680 --> 00:32:17,960 Speaker 1: I will force my way into playing. Well, I have 668 00:32:18,080 --> 00:32:22,440 Speaker 1: a new hope. Mainks this happen. Well. If you want 669 00:32:22,440 --> 00:32:26,640 Speaker 1: to get revenge on John for his non Star Wars 670 00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:32,040 Speaker 1: watching abilities, you should subscribe. Yes, because if you love us, 671 00:32:32,240 --> 00:32:35,160 Speaker 1: make sure to subscribe, and we love you. See it 672 00:32:35,200 --> 00:32:35,240 Speaker 1: a