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Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is Drawlberry Letter

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Speaker 1: all right. Subject the Bartender's Big Tip. Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I've been married for twelve years, and my husband and

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Speaker 1: I are in our mid thirties and our regulars at

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Speaker 1: a local bar by our house. We've met most We've

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Speaker 1: met a lot of great people at this bar and

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Speaker 1: look forward to seeing them weekly for karaoke night. I

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Speaker 1: like the sense of community we have there, and we

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Speaker 1: can hang out with the other couples we've befriended. Everything

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Speaker 1: was fine until recently when I found out that my

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Speaker 1: husband has been sleeping with the twenty two year old

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Speaker 1: bartender that always serves us. I was devastated and I

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Speaker 1: couldn't believe it because when we would go there, she's

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Speaker 1: always serving us with a smile, and she's such a

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Speaker 1: sweet girl. I never thought about the large tip my

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Speaker 1: for great service, and she was giving him really, really

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Speaker 1: good service behind my back. The thought of her having

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Speaker 1: my husband's tiny little private part to herself has hurt

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Speaker 1: me to no end. She told me that my husband

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Speaker 1: has given her money for college, helped her with bills

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Speaker 1: at times, and keeps her hair and nails done. She

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Speaker 1: told me that she's been to my house, which is

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Speaker 1: conveniently around the corner from the bar. We dealt with

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Speaker 1: it in house, and argued and cried. He stopped, He

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Speaker 1: begged me for forgiveness, and he promised that he was

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Speaker 1: going to stop seeing her. The problem is, he's still

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Speaker 1: going to the bar once a week for karaoke night,

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Speaker 1: and even though he sits in another section now, she

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Speaker 1: still works there. I miss having fun with our regular crew,

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Speaker 1: and I want to go back at some point, but

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Speaker 1: I'm not there mentally. I'm still monitoring his phone and

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Speaker 1: his whereabouts. And he said it's getting old and I

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Speaker 1: need to trust him. How do I ever trust him again?

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Speaker 1: I don't know on this one. First of all, I

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Speaker 1: gotta say I'm really sorry that's happened. To you, it

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Speaker 1: is nothing worse than someone laughing and cheese and all

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Speaker 1: up in your face and everything while they're sleeping with

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Speaker 1: your husband behind your back. And because of that, that's

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Speaker 1: why the trust is darned near and possible to get

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Speaker 1: because of who it is and how it was done,

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Speaker 1: and the fact that he's had her all in your house,

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Speaker 1: probably in your bed, and all of that. Come on

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Speaker 1: now and excuse me. Did your husband have the nerve

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Speaker 1: checking his whereabouts? Did he have the nerve to say

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Speaker 1: that was getting old and that you need to trust him? Really, dude,

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Speaker 1: I don't know how you can. I just don't know

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Speaker 1: how you can. He's right back at the scene of

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Speaker 1: the crime, and the girl still works there. This is

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Speaker 1: compounding the situation that the trouble that he's in. He's

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Speaker 1: back there already. How can you trust that? I mean,

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Speaker 1: that's how it happened in the first place. So who

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Speaker 1: cares that he's in a different section. What does that

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Speaker 1: even matter? Why is that even in this letter, I

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Speaker 1: wouldn't trust him as far as I could throw him, period.

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Speaker 1: He's done nothing to try and win back your trust. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so you guys cried and I argued and all of that.

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Speaker 1: Come on, he doesn't even have sense enough just to

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Speaker 1: if you'll ever trust him again. I know you want

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Speaker 1: can you ever trust him with all of this going on? Steve?

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Speaker 1: You know, fellas, I know y'all think, man that I

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Speaker 1: signed up with women a lot of times, but I

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Speaker 1: just come from the true standpoint of it. I just

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Speaker 1: don't like it when men do stuff that's stupid and

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Speaker 1: then the rest of us have to baar the brunt

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Speaker 1: because of your mistake. A lot of us get distrusted

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Speaker 1: because you stupid. You know a lot of us can't

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Speaker 1: get past we deal with women with baggage cause you

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Speaker 1: gave them the baggage. And now here we go again.

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Speaker 1: I'm just this thirty, This couple been married for twelve years.

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Speaker 1: Y'all in your mid thirties. Your regulars at a local

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Speaker 1: bar by our house. It met a lot of great people.

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Speaker 1: Go there, you're saying, carryoker, You meet people, hang out

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Speaker 1: with other couples. Everything was fine, and too recently you

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Speaker 1: This lady said. I was devastated. I couldn't believe it

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Speaker 1: with a smile, and she's such a sweet girl. Well

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Speaker 1: it's very sweet, sweet as hell, ah sweet tape. So

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Speaker 1: you never thought about the large tip your husband left

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Speaker 1: for her weekly. We believe in giving money for great service,

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Speaker 1: And you decided to get him back by telling everybody

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Speaker 1: you just hurt him back. I guess he had that

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Speaker 1: coming though. She told me. Now, this is why I

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Speaker 1: don't know how to hear. We doesn't have She told

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Speaker 1: me my husband has given her money for college, help

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Speaker 1: told me that she hadn't been to my house, which

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Speaker 1: is around the corner from the bar. Now we dealt

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Speaker 1: with it in house and Agan and cried. Now who cried?

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Speaker 1: Was he cried? Because this sound like sh going right

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Speaker 1: now to Why is his ass crying? It's terrible. I

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Speaker 1: don't I'm confused. How did she tell you all this?

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Speaker 1: When we come back, I'm gonna tell you what I think, right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Thank you. We'll have part response coming up at twenty

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Speaker 1: three minutes after the hour, subject the Bartender's Big Tip.

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Speaker 1: Will get back into it right after this. You're listening,

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Speaker 1: all right, Steve. Come on, let's recap today's Strawberry Letters.

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Speaker 1: Subject the Bartender's Big Tip. Yeah, couple been married twelve years.

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Speaker 1: They in the mid thirties, been going to a local

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Speaker 1: bar for carryoke and everything. Got friends down there having

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Speaker 1: a good time until she found out that a husband

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Speaker 1: Never suspected anything because the girl is really really sweet,

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Speaker 1: and she's super sweet to your husband because he leaves

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Speaker 1: a big tip. Now, we want to make sure that

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Speaker 1: we got this right. We did say big tip because

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Speaker 1: we couldn't have mistaken it for anything, Because you said,

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Speaker 1: the thought of her having my husband's tiny little private

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Speaker 1: gets us back to all he had to do. All

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Speaker 1: he had was big tips. See when you got a little, small,

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Speaker 1: to have big tips. Of course, you ain't got nothing else.

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Speaker 1: You got to pay for college because you ain't doing

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Speaker 1: nothing else. You got to get your head done and

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Speaker 1: You got to have a big kill because your wife

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Speaker 1: got hit in the letter that you got the little

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Speaker 1: listening to this letter, No, it's you all right. Now,

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Speaker 1: here's a part that threw me a little bit. She

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Speaker 1: given her money for college, helped her with bills a time,

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Speaker 1: keeps her hand nails done, told me she'd been to

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Speaker 1: my house, which is conveniently around the corner from bar.

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Speaker 1: How did that conversation come about? Who? She went out

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Speaker 1: there and approached the girl, and the girl said, yeah,

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Speaker 1: he do this, he do that, he do that, and see,

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Speaker 1: dude got them young girls. She all on Instagram posting, yeah,

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Speaker 1: her nails all in the story in the story. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: any time she go down there get a bag or something.

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Speaker 1: She posted. Now, we dealt with it in the house

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Speaker 1: agon and cried. He begged me for forgiveness, and he

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Speaker 1: promised he was gonna stop seeing her. The problem is

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Speaker 1: he's still going to the bar once a week for

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Speaker 1: she still worked there. I'm miss having fun with out

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Speaker 1: regular crew, and I want to go back at some point,

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Speaker 1: but I'm not there mentally. So let me ask you

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Speaker 1: because you ain't been back down there, because you can't

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Speaker 1: bring yourself to go back. But see, I would go

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Speaker 1: down Now I go down there, I'd have myself a

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Speaker 1: good time because you know what I do. Well, I

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Speaker 1: don't want to say that because she might don't say it. Well,

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Speaker 1: come on saying I ain't gonna going down there, miss kaoke.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna tell her boss now she just slept with

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Speaker 1: my husband, and if you don't get rid of her,

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Speaker 1: me and my friends gonna take karaoke night somewhere else. Okay, Okay,

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Speaker 1: Now you ain't gonna worry about your husband going down

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Speaker 1: that seeing her because she's gonna be gone. See, lady,

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Speaker 1: you don't you letting everybody live like they used to

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Speaker 1: live except you. She's still working, she's still getting tips.

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Speaker 1: He's still going down there, he's still sanging kaloke. Everybody

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Speaker 1: goes back to life as usual. But you, I don't

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Speaker 1: know how you didn't go to the boss that on

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Speaker 1: the club to say this is gonna stop right here.

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Speaker 1: Either she go or week go. But Steve, what Why

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Speaker 1: is the husband still going down there? Why? And I

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Speaker 1: agree with you on that that's stupidness. The last thing

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna do is go back down. I ain't that good?

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Speaker 1: Do you got to be able to stay away from?

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Speaker 1: Ain't no man that's strong? Y'all can stop all this now,

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Speaker 1: she'll never be able to trust him again. He looking

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Speaker 1: What are you doing? You know he's sitting where he

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Speaker 1: can see her. Come on, she can see him everytime

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Speaker 1: she come about this? What he do? He's a section photo.

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Speaker 1: He's not at the bar. No, he got he got

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Speaker 1: his little bear, a little balla bear. Keep putting his

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Speaker 1: tongue down in. This is really bad. And you right,

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Speaker 1: I don't see how he still what? Yeah? How you

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Speaker 1: still going down there? Paul? How this work? And she

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Speaker 1: let him? But how you letting him go down there?

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Speaker 1: Go down there again and see what happened. Everybody goes

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Speaker 1: back to life is usual, except her because she's not

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Speaker 1: mentally ready. She said, oh, I'll be down I'm saying

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Speaker 1: your karoke get this Friday. Because guess who ain't gonna

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Speaker 1: be there? Right? Because she ain't gonna be here. I

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Speaker 1: she do? Because I told her we're gonna were singing

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Speaker 1: damn head that come to work Friday. Dog, I'm not

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Speaker 1: gonna be the only one uncomfortable in my life. Right.

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Speaker 1: She's too nice. I promise you I won't see her

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Speaker 1: no more. Go down to that ball again. She's down there.

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Speaker 1: How are you gonna see her? Well, you can go

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Speaker 1: down there, But when he come home, his whole big

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Speaker 1: gonna be on fire sooner. All right, listen, we gotta

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Speaker 1: talk to Junior about, you know, this story about the

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Speaker 1: Norman High School girls basketball teams. All right, we'll be

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Speaker 1: back at forty six minutes after the hour. Right after this,

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Speaker 1: you're listening to the Stay Harvey Morning Show