1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:04,040 Speaker 1: My homophobic dad disowned me because I'm gay, But now 2 00:00:04,080 --> 00:00:07,080 Speaker 1: he's marrying a man. I want to expose him and 3 00:00:07,240 --> 00:00:09,080 Speaker 1: ruin the wedding. Am I the a hole? 4 00:00:09,240 --> 00:00:12,560 Speaker 2: You know, Sam? There's a question just floating right in 5 00:00:12,600 --> 00:00:14,800 Speaker 2: front of us that I do have to ask. 6 00:00:14,960 --> 00:00:15,600 Speaker 3: What's the question? 7 00:00:15,840 --> 00:00:18,400 Speaker 2: How can he be homophobic his husband is gay? That 8 00:00:18,520 --> 00:00:21,280 Speaker 2: is the greatest question of all time, that's the question. 9 00:00:21,560 --> 00:00:22,919 Speaker 2: Maybe the dad. 10 00:00:22,840 --> 00:00:25,400 Speaker 1: Was homophobic and he's like, you know what, don't knock 11 00:00:25,960 --> 00:00:26,760 Speaker 1: until he try. 12 00:00:27,040 --> 00:00:29,160 Speaker 3: I mean, and man tried all the last. 13 00:00:29,040 --> 00:00:31,680 Speaker 2: I mean the flip. It would be the biggest flip 14 00:00:31,680 --> 00:00:32,680 Speaker 2: flop in history. 15 00:00:32,760 --> 00:00:37,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, he learned his lesson. Dude. Oh someone someone taught 16 00:00:37,880 --> 00:00:38,360 Speaker 3: him something. 17 00:00:38,479 --> 00:00:42,360 Speaker 1: If anything, I think this shows that big a tree 18 00:00:42,440 --> 00:00:43,600 Speaker 1: can have a one to eighty. 19 00:00:43,840 --> 00:00:46,400 Speaker 3: Wow. You know we Well, there's only one way to 20 00:00:46,440 --> 00:00:48,599 Speaker 3: find out. Let's see, let's see, lets see where we go. 21 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:51,240 Speaker 1: My father threw me out of the house at fifteen 22 00:00:51,400 --> 00:00:52,560 Speaker 1: for coming out as gay. 23 00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:53,400 Speaker 3: Disgusting. 24 00:00:53,720 --> 00:00:56,360 Speaker 1: I'm now twenty one and happily married to the boyfriend 25 00:00:56,360 --> 00:00:58,880 Speaker 1: I wanted to introduce him to when I was fifteen. 26 00:00:59,080 --> 00:00:59,400 Speaker 3: Wow. 27 00:00:59,560 --> 00:01:03,280 Speaker 1: Wow, committed relationship for real. On my wedding day, my 28 00:01:03,440 --> 00:01:07,440 Speaker 1: father had an invitation to his wedding, hand delivered to 29 00:01:07,520 --> 00:01:10,560 Speaker 1: me by one of those hired delivery people. I don't 30 00:01:10,560 --> 00:01:13,880 Speaker 1: know what they're called. His wedding dates is the anniversary 31 00:01:14,120 --> 00:01:16,920 Speaker 1: of when I started dating my husband. Both dates he 32 00:01:17,000 --> 00:01:18,559 Speaker 1: knew because of my uncle. 33 00:01:19,040 --> 00:01:22,360 Speaker 3: What is going on over here? I'm confused? What is happening? 34 00:01:22,640 --> 00:01:25,560 Speaker 1: I threw the invitation away and didn't even think about 35 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:28,640 Speaker 1: it until my aunt, his sister, reached out and told 36 00:01:28,720 --> 00:01:32,120 Speaker 1: me he wanted to talk and apologize for everything, and 37 00:01:32,120 --> 00:01:34,679 Speaker 1: that he wanted me to be at his wedding. 38 00:01:35,480 --> 00:01:40,000 Speaker 3: Okay, oh huh. 39 00:01:38,680 --> 00:01:41,319 Speaker 1: Okay, so yeah, there's a bunch of movie pieces, so. 40 00:01:41,600 --> 00:01:42,360 Speaker 3: Let's get there. 41 00:01:43,600 --> 00:01:46,200 Speaker 2: We just walked into a living tetris. 42 00:01:46,319 --> 00:01:48,560 Speaker 1: I told her that I consider it and talk to 43 00:01:48,600 --> 00:01:50,760 Speaker 1: my husband about it. He's the one who convinced me 44 00:01:50,800 --> 00:01:53,840 Speaker 1: to go and said we should just see what he says. 45 00:01:54,120 --> 00:01:57,040 Speaker 1: We drove down a day early, and my father basically 46 00:01:57,080 --> 00:01:59,480 Speaker 1: avoided us all day. I know weddings are a busy time, 47 00:01:59,480 --> 00:02:01,640 Speaker 1: but every time time one of us tried to speak 48 00:02:01,680 --> 00:02:03,720 Speaker 1: to him, he had to go somewhere, and then he 49 00:02:03,760 --> 00:02:05,680 Speaker 1: said he'd talk to me after the wedding. 50 00:02:05,800 --> 00:02:08,320 Speaker 2: Not only that, he didn't even bother to have a 51 00:02:08,400 --> 00:02:11,639 Speaker 2: conversation with him before inviting him to his wedding. 52 00:02:11,520 --> 00:02:14,239 Speaker 3: Maybe as something to reveal. Oh god. 53 00:02:14,800 --> 00:02:17,640 Speaker 1: The problem with this was that their reception wasn't supposed 54 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:20,080 Speaker 1: to end until two, and they had a flight for 55 00:02:20,200 --> 00:02:22,600 Speaker 1: three point thirty to their honeymoon, so I knew he 56 00:02:22,639 --> 00:02:24,560 Speaker 1: wouldn't be able to talk to me, And then me 57 00:02:24,560 --> 00:02:27,040 Speaker 1: and my husband were going to leave the reception as 58 00:02:27,120 --> 00:02:30,080 Speaker 1: soon as was appropriate to go around our hometown to 59 00:02:30,120 --> 00:02:33,080 Speaker 1: places we haunted in high school when we first started dating. 60 00:02:33,240 --> 00:02:38,160 Speaker 3: But haunted, do we mean a little grow No? Oh goodness, clasis? 61 00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:44,360 Speaker 3: Oh sound like a dying wolf. I was going for 62 00:02:44,480 --> 00:02:49,560 Speaker 3: a sexy ghosts Yeah, yeah, kind of close. Yeah. 63 00:02:49,639 --> 00:02:52,360 Speaker 1: Because my father's wedding was held in the morning, we 64 00:02:52,400 --> 00:02:55,360 Speaker 1: thought we could celebrate our anniversary in the afternoon and evening. 65 00:02:55,480 --> 00:02:57,880 Speaker 1: I informed him of this, and he said that he 66 00:02:57,919 --> 00:03:00,480 Speaker 1: would just call me when he could. That's when I 67 00:03:00,520 --> 00:03:04,440 Speaker 1: realized none of his fiance's family or his fiance had 68 00:03:04,480 --> 00:03:07,240 Speaker 1: any idea that he had thrown me out and that 69 00:03:07,320 --> 00:03:10,160 Speaker 1: he had told them I moved away from college. I 70 00:03:10,240 --> 00:03:13,360 Speaker 1: gathered this through talking to his fiance and his family. 71 00:03:13,600 --> 00:03:16,160 Speaker 1: I'd never met the fiance nor his family until the 72 00:03:16,280 --> 00:03:18,960 Speaker 1: day before the wedding, and only briefly. I didn't really 73 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:21,120 Speaker 1: sit down and talk to any of them until the 74 00:03:21,160 --> 00:03:24,240 Speaker 1: morning of the ceremony. So my dad's fiance asked me 75 00:03:24,280 --> 00:03:28,160 Speaker 1: about college. I was like, uh, I've never been to college. 76 00:03:28,320 --> 00:03:31,160 Speaker 1: That's when I realized what my father never told him, 77 00:03:31,240 --> 00:03:34,120 Speaker 1: That he kicked out his own son for being gay. 78 00:03:34,360 --> 00:03:38,480 Speaker 2: Bro, this this guy has the audacity to bring him back. 79 00:03:38,600 --> 00:03:41,000 Speaker 2: And like, I mean, that's just from him. From a 80 00:03:41,000 --> 00:03:43,360 Speaker 2: logical perspective, that's a ticking time bomb. 81 00:03:43,520 --> 00:03:45,840 Speaker 1: Like yeah, you should really just like say what happened 82 00:03:45,840 --> 00:03:48,400 Speaker 1: in the past, like it's going to come out. Yeah, 83 00:03:48,440 --> 00:03:50,280 Speaker 1: and if anything, it's like you can just say, like, hey, 84 00:03:50,280 --> 00:03:52,960 Speaker 1: I made a ton of mistakes and didn't accept myself 85 00:03:53,000 --> 00:03:55,119 Speaker 1: and then you know, turned the new leaf. 86 00:03:55,160 --> 00:03:57,960 Speaker 2: Also, how was the fiance or no one else like, oh, hey, 87 00:03:58,120 --> 00:04:00,880 Speaker 2: here's your son. We're meeting for the first time ever. 88 00:04:01,200 --> 00:04:06,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I'm very confused. And also this story is 89 00:04:06,680 --> 00:04:09,280 Speaker 1: kind of short, and so we're I don't know if 90 00:04:09,280 --> 00:04:11,920 Speaker 1: we're gonna get a ton of resolution. Oh man, I 91 00:04:12,040 --> 00:04:14,920 Speaker 1: told him the truth at breakfast before we even had 92 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:17,880 Speaker 1: left for the venue. I objected the marriage right and 93 00:04:17,880 --> 00:04:21,440 Speaker 1: then before the ceremony even started, I objected because I 94 00:04:21,480 --> 00:04:23,719 Speaker 1: realized that this man was in love with my father, 95 00:04:23,920 --> 00:04:26,680 Speaker 1: but my father had lied to him, and I felt 96 00:04:26,760 --> 00:04:28,960 Speaker 1: that he deserved to know before they got married. I 97 00:04:29,040 --> 00:04:33,159 Speaker 1: apologized and then explained the situation and then promptly left. 98 00:04:33,400 --> 00:04:35,920 Speaker 1: He objected like on the as they were on the side, 99 00:04:36,160 --> 00:04:39,080 Speaker 1: he objected like, I don't think on the stand. It 100 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:41,160 Speaker 1: wasn't like like the Strexch moment where I was like, oh, 101 00:04:41,200 --> 00:04:44,000 Speaker 1: I object. I think it was more like, hey, like 102 00:04:44,400 --> 00:04:46,280 Speaker 1: I objected this wedding because you don't know the truth, 103 00:04:46,279 --> 00:04:46,880 Speaker 1: and let me tell. 104 00:04:46,800 --> 00:04:51,520 Speaker 3: You, right, he just straight juice, straight juice. 105 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:53,480 Speaker 1: A lot of my family members said I was an 106 00:04:53,520 --> 00:04:56,000 Speaker 1: asshole and that I could have waited until they got married, 107 00:04:56,040 --> 00:04:58,520 Speaker 1: But I don't think the fiance deserved to marry someone 108 00:04:58,520 --> 00:05:02,000 Speaker 1: who lied about something so big, especially something that was homophobic, 109 00:05:02,120 --> 00:05:05,080 Speaker 1: and they're a homosexual couple. I'm just surprised that the 110 00:05:05,120 --> 00:05:09,599 Speaker 1: father never said anything nothing, because that seems anyone seems 111 00:05:09,640 --> 00:05:11,400 Speaker 1: like a big arc you know, like, hey, I was 112 00:05:11,440 --> 00:05:14,400 Speaker 1: super homophobic. Then I started to accept myself, and then 113 00:05:14,839 --> 00:05:17,360 Speaker 1: I you know, like literally literally. 114 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:20,800 Speaker 2: Just the perspective of saving his own ass like he 115 00:05:20,920 --> 00:05:24,159 Speaker 2: isn't like just for self reservation, Like you don't think 116 00:05:24,200 --> 00:05:27,280 Speaker 2: that like a by them meeting and you're like, you know, 117 00:05:27,360 --> 00:05:31,200 Speaker 2: you can't monitoring everything that it might not come out, 118 00:05:31,279 --> 00:05:33,560 Speaker 2: and then if it does come out, that your fiance 119 00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:38,520 Speaker 2: is gonna be like dude, what the hell? Like what 120 00:05:38,880 --> 00:05:42,279 Speaker 2: and hey, like coming out is really really difficult, especially 121 00:05:42,279 --> 00:05:44,440 Speaker 2: in some areas of the country, and there can be 122 00:05:44,440 --> 00:05:47,480 Speaker 2: a lot of self hatred for people who just don't 123 00:05:47,480 --> 00:05:50,640 Speaker 2: feel comfortable in their own identities, and so like, yes, 124 00:05:50,800 --> 00:05:53,440 Speaker 2: it sucks and it's not excusable, and it's like it's 125 00:05:53,520 --> 00:05:55,680 Speaker 2: it's really really bad, but that can be part of 126 00:05:55,720 --> 00:05:58,520 Speaker 2: your your you know, coming of age and coming to 127 00:05:58,600 --> 00:06:01,039 Speaker 2: terms with who you are and coming out story. I mean, 128 00:06:01,320 --> 00:06:03,360 Speaker 2: and you can be you can say like, hey, I 129 00:06:03,440 --> 00:06:06,320 Speaker 2: was terrible before, but I've come around, Yeah, I mean, 130 00:06:06,360 --> 00:06:09,800 Speaker 2: which hopefully is the case. It's like I would have 131 00:06:10,120 --> 00:06:13,960 Speaker 2: to imagine that. But but it also is still weird 132 00:06:14,080 --> 00:06:17,000 Speaker 2: that he literally didn't talk to like, he didn't talk 133 00:06:17,040 --> 00:06:19,200 Speaker 2: till the sun till it made him look good, which 134 00:06:19,240 --> 00:06:21,560 Speaker 2: is the sun coming to the wedding. Yeah, you know, 135 00:06:21,760 --> 00:06:23,800 Speaker 2: so it's just so confusing a little bit. 136 00:06:23,839 --> 00:06:25,760 Speaker 1: More to the story, I only heard about the big 137 00:06:25,839 --> 00:06:28,640 Speaker 1: fallout through my aunt because I left with my husband. 138 00:06:28,760 --> 00:06:33,400 Speaker 1: But apparently my father an ex fiance, oh ex fiance 139 00:06:33,839 --> 00:06:37,520 Speaker 1: got into a massive argument and the wedding was called off. 140 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:40,840 Speaker 1: I don't speak to either parties now, though I did 141 00:06:40,960 --> 00:06:44,400 Speaker 1: message the fiance on Facebook to apologize later that day 142 00:06:44,440 --> 00:06:46,520 Speaker 1: because I felt bad about ruining his wedding, but he 143 00:06:46,640 --> 00:06:49,040 Speaker 1: said he was glad that I told him the truth. 144 00:06:49,200 --> 00:06:51,479 Speaker 1: So the question, all of you beautiful people, is, is 145 00:06:51,520 --> 00:06:54,800 Speaker 1: opda hole by telling the truth about his homophobic father 146 00:06:54,880 --> 00:06:57,160 Speaker 1: who's getting married to a man at the wedding? 147 00:06:57,640 --> 00:06:58,000 Speaker 3: Wow? 148 00:06:58,279 --> 00:07:00,600 Speaker 1: John, I want to to be tell right now on 149 00:07:00,640 --> 00:07:02,159 Speaker 1: your keyboards and tell us who you think the A 150 00:07:02,240 --> 00:07:04,240 Speaker 1: hole is? But John, what do you think? Help me 151 00:07:04,279 --> 00:07:08,600 Speaker 1: out here, guys? Okay, I do not think that op 152 00:07:08,800 --> 00:07:10,840 Speaker 1: is the A hole because I do think that this 153 00:07:11,120 --> 00:07:15,480 Speaker 1: is a truth that both It's a a truth that 154 00:07:15,520 --> 00:07:19,280 Speaker 1: the fiance deserves to know because it's pretty like integral 155 00:07:19,360 --> 00:07:22,600 Speaker 1: to like his life. He is a gay man, so 156 00:07:22,880 --> 00:07:26,480 Speaker 1: to like that is an important part of your partner's 157 00:07:26,520 --> 00:07:29,320 Speaker 1: past and like to know to be aware of, and 158 00:07:29,480 --> 00:07:33,240 Speaker 1: also like the father literally kicked out his own son 159 00:07:33,280 --> 00:07:36,880 Speaker 1: at fifteen years old and like thinks he's gonna skate 160 00:07:37,000 --> 00:07:40,800 Speaker 1: out and like get away with him repercussions to face 161 00:07:40,840 --> 00:07:45,200 Speaker 1: the music Like that's like no, So yeah, I don't 162 00:07:45,200 --> 00:07:47,800 Speaker 1: think that OPI was the a hole. And and hey, 163 00:07:47,920 --> 00:07:51,120 Speaker 1: the fiance thanked OPI, like, thank you for telling me 164 00:07:51,200 --> 00:07:52,800 Speaker 1: the truth. At least he didn't have to get the 165 00:07:52,800 --> 00:07:54,000 Speaker 1: marriage and old like. 166 00:07:54,400 --> 00:07:56,960 Speaker 3: And that's so crazy. The family like, oh, just like 167 00:07:57,000 --> 00:07:58,040 Speaker 3: wait till after the wedding. 168 00:07:58,080 --> 00:08:00,000 Speaker 2: It's like bro, then they're married and they have to 169 00:08:00,120 --> 00:08:02,360 Speaker 2: go through the divorce, which is not easy, so it's 170 00:08:02,400 --> 00:08:03,640 Speaker 2: like what are we doing? 171 00:08:03,680 --> 00:08:06,360 Speaker 1: I completely agree. I think OPI is not the A hole. 172 00:08:06,440 --> 00:08:09,200 Speaker 1: But I guess this begs the question if you go 173 00:08:09,280 --> 00:08:12,160 Speaker 1: to a wedding and you're like, mm yo, I don't 174 00:08:12,200 --> 00:08:16,160 Speaker 1: know if Brad told Stacy about that one time that 175 00:08:16,240 --> 00:08:18,160 Speaker 1: me and the boys were in Vegas. I gotta make 176 00:08:18,200 --> 00:08:20,520 Speaker 1: sure she knows the truth. Do you tell Stacy about 177 00:08:20,520 --> 00:08:22,520 Speaker 1: that crazy night with the three hookers in Vegas? 178 00:08:22,600 --> 00:08:26,160 Speaker 2: I think it It definitely depends on the item in 179 00:08:26,200 --> 00:08:26,800 Speaker 2: the situation. 180 00:08:26,920 --> 00:08:29,520 Speaker 3: This is literally like this is him, is something that 181 00:08:29,520 --> 00:08:32,120 Speaker 3: happened to him and it was. 182 00:08:32,160 --> 00:08:35,080 Speaker 2: Just so just so egregious, you know what I mean 183 00:08:35,280 --> 00:08:37,880 Speaker 2: That scenario. I mean, there probably is a line like 184 00:08:37,920 --> 00:08:40,480 Speaker 2: probably like like there's probably some people that are like 185 00:08:40,480 --> 00:08:42,480 Speaker 2: like you could you could take that and be like, oh, 186 00:08:42,520 --> 00:08:45,720 Speaker 2: she like she used to go crazy in college, like 187 00:08:46,160 --> 00:08:49,360 Speaker 2: do you know your past? And that's like calm down. 188 00:08:49,640 --> 00:08:50,600 Speaker 2: So who is like. 189 00:08:50,640 --> 00:08:54,680 Speaker 1: Yo in the relationship before you he cheated on the 190 00:08:54,720 --> 00:08:56,520 Speaker 1: girl with me? And I think you should know. 191 00:08:57,559 --> 00:09:01,199 Speaker 2: Man, you are throwing some some good highypothetical So some 192 00:09:01,240 --> 00:09:02,719 Speaker 2: haroline hypotheticals at me. 193 00:09:02,720 --> 00:09:06,680 Speaker 1: Doesn't have anything to do with the current relationship. With 194 00:09:06,679 --> 00:09:10,080 Speaker 1: the current relationship, yeah, but it's indicative of maybe some 195 00:09:10,200 --> 00:09:11,800 Speaker 1: values that were previously Hell. 196 00:09:11,920 --> 00:09:16,400 Speaker 2: Only if there's strong suspicions from that person who would 197 00:09:16,400 --> 00:09:20,440 Speaker 2: be telling the bride that it's happening or going to 198 00:09:20,520 --> 00:09:23,880 Speaker 2: happen again, maybe this person turn a new leaf whatever. 199 00:09:23,960 --> 00:09:26,160 Speaker 1: And also what if what if what if OPI's dad 200 00:09:26,160 --> 00:09:26,800 Speaker 1: turned a new leaf? 201 00:09:26,960 --> 00:09:29,000 Speaker 3: Seems like he did. I mean, but that's such a 202 00:09:29,240 --> 00:09:29,839 Speaker 3: to to. 203 00:09:29,800 --> 00:09:31,559 Speaker 1: Not say anything, So did you actually turn the lead 204 00:09:32,120 --> 00:09:34,600 Speaker 1: being disnowledging the other side of that leaf? 205 00:09:34,720 --> 00:09:37,160 Speaker 2: Yes, they're being deceptive, I think like by not, I mean, 206 00:09:37,160 --> 00:09:40,040 Speaker 2: that's a pretty and that is just so because like 207 00:09:40,160 --> 00:09:42,560 Speaker 2: cheating on someone is one thing kicking out your own 208 00:09:42,679 --> 00:09:46,080 Speaker 2: son because he's gay. I mean that to me is huge. 209 00:09:46,200 --> 00:09:49,800 Speaker 2: So and also it's like like op didn't have a choice. 210 00:09:49,800 --> 00:09:51,880 Speaker 2: He was literally like invited to the wedding and it happened. 211 00:09:51,960 --> 00:09:55,800 Speaker 2: Like guys, tell tell the people before the goddamn wedding. 212 00:09:55,559 --> 00:09:57,600 Speaker 3: Like, yeah, this is what we mean to do. 213 00:09:58,320 --> 00:10:01,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, the dad could have saved the wedding if he 214 00:10:02,080 --> 00:10:03,640 Speaker 1: had said what happened. 215 00:10:03,800 --> 00:10:06,280 Speaker 3: Be honest, be honest, because. 216 00:10:06,040 --> 00:10:09,280 Speaker 1: It's goods always saying, you know, just be just be 217 00:10:10,559 --> 00:10:13,280 Speaker 1: yourself phobic and then be honest. 218 00:10:13,400 --> 00:10:16,199 Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah, be here a crazy homophobic self. No, 219 00:10:16,679 --> 00:10:16,960 Speaker 3: I think. 220 00:10:17,000 --> 00:10:19,840 Speaker 2: I think be honest and take accountability. That's the other, 221 00:10:20,080 --> 00:10:22,880 Speaker 2: like I need to own the mistake that I made 222 00:10:23,040 --> 00:10:28,400 Speaker 2: and come forth with it, and hopefully she's actually remorseful. 223 00:10:28,679 --> 00:10:31,200 Speaker 1: Also, I would love to know if anyone has ever 224 00:10:31,280 --> 00:10:36,600 Speaker 1: objected to a wedding. Oh object bro, we need some 225 00:10:36,679 --> 00:10:41,920 Speaker 1: straight shrek objections in our comments, please drop them back injections. 226 00:10:42,240 --> 00:10:45,720 Speaker 2: But speaking of amazing comments, I want to read some 227 00:10:45,760 --> 00:10:49,880 Speaker 2: comments from the beautiful bodacious public subscribers with this channel. 228 00:10:49,880 --> 00:10:50,360 Speaker 3: We love him. 229 00:10:50,440 --> 00:10:52,800 Speaker 2: This is from the long video my parents evicted my 230 00:10:52,840 --> 00:10:55,920 Speaker 2: gay brother, But the Reddit story where Karen hates the 231 00:10:56,000 --> 00:10:58,520 Speaker 2: dog's names and we I think we asked for some 232 00:10:58,640 --> 00:11:00,800 Speaker 2: petny that we did, that we did, and we want 233 00:11:00,840 --> 00:11:03,640 Speaker 2: to know all your pets, so public subscriber Fuji Fuji 234 00:11:03,800 --> 00:11:06,840 Speaker 2: Chan says, while technically my cat is not a dog, 235 00:11:07,040 --> 00:11:10,480 Speaker 2: she plays fetch, chases other cats, and sits on command, 236 00:11:10,679 --> 00:11:13,560 Speaker 2: so I'm gonna counter. Her name is slinky. When she 237 00:11:13,679 --> 00:11:15,880 Speaker 2: doesn't want to be held, she acts like she has 238 00:11:15,920 --> 00:11:19,600 Speaker 2: no bones and gets all floppy. That's so cute. It's 239 00:11:19,640 --> 00:11:23,520 Speaker 2: adorable as hell. One final comment from public subscriber Lily D. 240 00:11:23,640 --> 00:11:24,080 Speaker 3: Cobain. 241 00:11:24,360 --> 00:11:27,520 Speaker 2: My dog's name is Nube, which means cloud in Spanish, 242 00:11:27,679 --> 00:11:29,480 Speaker 2: because she's white and fluffy. 243 00:11:29,760 --> 00:11:33,199 Speaker 3: Noobe, noop noo. That's such a good dog name. Noopoop. 244 00:11:33,360 --> 00:11:36,120 Speaker 2: Guys, these comments are eleven out of ten adorable. Please 245 00:11:36,200 --> 00:11:40,080 Speaker 2: leave your insatiably adorable comments below publicly subscribe and we 246 00:11:40,120 --> 00:11:40,679 Speaker 2: just might read them. 247 00:11:40,679 --> 00:11:41,280 Speaker 3: We'll see soon. 248 00:11:41,480 --> 00:11:45,000 Speaker 1: My best friend thinks it's our anniversary, but we're not 249 00:11:45,160 --> 00:11:49,000 Speaker 1: even dating. Now he's going on a sexist rant. Should 250 00:11:49,000 --> 00:11:51,319 Speaker 1: I get him canceled? Should I get him canceled? And 251 00:11:51,679 --> 00:11:52,520 Speaker 1: am I the a hole? 252 00:11:52,720 --> 00:11:53,040 Speaker 3: Babe? 253 00:11:53,040 --> 00:11:55,760 Speaker 2: I got you all of these flowers for our anniversary 254 00:11:55,800 --> 00:11:57,600 Speaker 2: and you're not even gonna give me any action. 255 00:11:57,800 --> 00:12:03,040 Speaker 1: Babelke Oh, they say one pump for every rose I 256 00:12:03,080 --> 00:12:06,160 Speaker 1: give you. That's right, And I gave you two pumps, 257 00:12:06,160 --> 00:12:07,920 Speaker 1: which is enough to have sexed twice. 258 00:12:08,760 --> 00:12:10,920 Speaker 2: That's all I need, Baby, I promise it won't take 259 00:12:11,040 --> 00:12:11,640 Speaker 2: long at all. 260 00:12:12,120 --> 00:12:16,000 Speaker 3: Gave you two roses? Two roses? Is tupunp dude. 261 00:12:16,559 --> 00:12:19,520 Speaker 1: Okay, So I've known him for five years, different classes 262 00:12:19,559 --> 00:12:22,319 Speaker 1: and courses, but same friend group. Over time, he has 263 00:12:22,440 --> 00:12:25,480 Speaker 1: genuinely become one of the best people I know, and 264 00:12:25,520 --> 00:12:27,560 Speaker 1: it's only getting better every day. 265 00:12:28,120 --> 00:12:29,840 Speaker 3: I can't lie. He's not my type. 266 00:12:29,960 --> 00:12:33,040 Speaker 1: Nerdy, charming, sweet, funny, flirty with the right amount of awkward. 267 00:12:33,559 --> 00:12:35,080 Speaker 1: It sounds like you're describing your type. 268 00:12:35,080 --> 00:12:35,760 Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying. 269 00:12:36,360 --> 00:12:39,600 Speaker 1: He's kind of perfect. But I've never even thought about 270 00:12:39,600 --> 00:12:42,439 Speaker 1: putting the moves on him. He's never shown romantic interest 271 00:12:42,480 --> 00:12:46,040 Speaker 1: to me. We're friends, nothing more. Zip not as zilla, right, 272 00:12:46,559 --> 00:12:52,680 Speaker 1: or that's what I thought. Today. He was spending the 273 00:12:52,720 --> 00:12:55,840 Speaker 1: afternoon at my dorm. We're laying on my bed when 274 00:12:55,880 --> 00:12:59,439 Speaker 1: he says, verbatim, So, Baby, where do you want to 275 00:12:59,480 --> 00:12:59,800 Speaker 1: go this? 276 00:13:01,120 --> 00:13:01,440 Speaker 2: No? 277 00:13:02,360 --> 00:13:06,360 Speaker 3: Oh, how are people so dumb? Bro? That's that's. 278 00:13:06,480 --> 00:13:08,680 Speaker 1: I feel like he like saw this in some like 279 00:13:09,480 --> 00:13:12,320 Speaker 1: fucking uh uh, I think. 280 00:13:12,160 --> 00:13:14,400 Speaker 3: You saw this in some like alpha male podcasts. 281 00:13:14,520 --> 00:13:17,000 Speaker 1: He's like, Bro, all you're gonna do to get out 282 00:13:17,040 --> 00:13:18,839 Speaker 1: of the reds, all you're gonna do to get out 283 00:13:18,840 --> 00:13:22,280 Speaker 1: of the friend zone is just say, hey, baby, so 284 00:13:22,320 --> 00:13:23,480 Speaker 1: where we going Friday night? 285 00:13:23,520 --> 00:13:23,720 Speaker 3: Yeah? 286 00:13:23,840 --> 00:13:26,360 Speaker 2: Just pretend you were in a relationship the whole time, 287 00:13:26,600 --> 00:13:28,120 Speaker 2: Like that's that's the whole time. 288 00:13:28,160 --> 00:13:30,560 Speaker 3: That's the nice guy, the nice guy, Andrew tape move. 289 00:13:30,840 --> 00:13:33,480 Speaker 1: Also, all right, I'm not I'm not subscribing to any 290 00:13:33,559 --> 00:13:36,280 Speaker 1: that alpha male shit, but if you were to truly 291 00:13:36,320 --> 00:13:38,880 Speaker 1: alpha male, if you were to truly alpha male, you 292 00:13:38,920 --> 00:13:41,960 Speaker 1: would already know where you're going Friday night, and you're 293 00:13:41,960 --> 00:13:43,559 Speaker 1: just asking her to come with you. 294 00:13:43,600 --> 00:13:46,760 Speaker 3: See see you're. 295 00:13:46,600 --> 00:13:50,679 Speaker 1: Not even alpha maling, right, bro, come on doing all right? 296 00:13:51,520 --> 00:13:54,079 Speaker 1: So matter of fact that this is the first time 297 00:13:54,160 --> 00:13:55,920 Speaker 1: it been called baby by him, and so that kind 298 00:13:55,920 --> 00:13:59,840 Speaker 1: of shocked me. Instead of asking why I froze, and 299 00:14:00,000 --> 00:14:06,640 Speaker 1: it was just like, what's happening Friday? He turns to 300 00:14:06,679 --> 00:14:11,480 Speaker 1: me and kisses me again, first time thing with us, 301 00:14:11,880 --> 00:14:17,040 Speaker 1: hugs my waist and goes our one year anniversary idiot. 302 00:14:17,440 --> 00:14:19,240 Speaker 3: I'm making reservations. 303 00:14:19,800 --> 00:14:21,120 Speaker 2: You're the idiot. 304 00:14:21,800 --> 00:14:25,880 Speaker 1: It's you. I love hands, Like you know what, we're 305 00:14:25,920 --> 00:14:27,800 Speaker 1: just dating right now. It's in my head. I'm just 306 00:14:27,800 --> 00:14:28,760 Speaker 1: gonna make it a reality. 307 00:14:28,760 --> 00:14:31,720 Speaker 2: Wow, my man is trying to manifest in all the 308 00:14:31,760 --> 00:14:32,400 Speaker 2: wrong ways. 309 00:14:32,880 --> 00:14:38,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, emphasis on the man the manifest. At this point, 310 00:14:39,080 --> 00:14:43,520 Speaker 1: I'm frozen. I genuinely don't know what to say. I'm gobsmacked. 311 00:14:43,760 --> 00:14:45,760 Speaker 1: The dude I thought was my best friend, who never 312 00:14:45,840 --> 00:14:48,920 Speaker 1: even showed interest in the dating thing, is under the 313 00:14:49,000 --> 00:14:53,480 Speaker 1: idea that we've been dating for an entire year, which, dude, 314 00:14:53,520 --> 00:14:57,520 Speaker 1: like if you haven't even kissed in the whole year, 315 00:14:57,600 --> 00:14:58,840 Speaker 1: Like how, I. 316 00:14:58,840 --> 00:15:00,880 Speaker 3: Don't know where do you at this idea? 317 00:15:01,400 --> 00:15:03,280 Speaker 1: Like like maybe he only kisses after a year, And 318 00:15:03,360 --> 00:15:05,720 Speaker 1: it's like all right, well, like now it's the yearly kiss. 319 00:15:05,840 --> 00:15:08,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, he's just creating all these data. He's just creating 320 00:15:08,640 --> 00:15:09,120 Speaker 3: all these. 321 00:15:09,040 --> 00:15:11,000 Speaker 2: Rules just to keep up with Like, oh, yeah, baby, 322 00:15:11,000 --> 00:15:13,120 Speaker 2: you know how I told you, like I only kiss 323 00:15:13,160 --> 00:15:14,960 Speaker 2: after the first year. You know, I like to take 324 00:15:14,960 --> 00:15:15,640 Speaker 2: things slow, like. 325 00:15:15,680 --> 00:15:18,360 Speaker 1: I told you exactly. Yeah, I wants to take it slow. 326 00:15:18,440 --> 00:15:20,040 Speaker 1: It wants to take it slow. And finally he can 327 00:15:20,080 --> 00:15:21,640 Speaker 1: sell it right because it's their anniversary. 328 00:15:21,800 --> 00:15:22,040 Speaker 3: Wow. 329 00:15:22,520 --> 00:15:26,440 Speaker 1: I'm silent while he continues hugging me and scrolling on 330 00:15:26,480 --> 00:15:30,240 Speaker 1: his phone, racking my brain thinking about what to tell him. 331 00:15:30,560 --> 00:15:35,160 Speaker 1: When his phone starts ringing, it's his mom, which he 332 00:15:35,240 --> 00:15:39,040 Speaker 1: puts on speaker, and she dead asked, goes. 333 00:15:39,560 --> 00:15:44,720 Speaker 3: Hi, honey, are you still with your girlfriend? Oh? My god? 334 00:15:45,320 --> 00:15:46,720 Speaker 3: Did he get everyone in? Okay? 335 00:15:46,960 --> 00:15:51,000 Speaker 1: So now his mom, thanks for dating too, He tells her. Sorry, 336 00:15:51,120 --> 00:15:56,360 Speaker 1: I'll be back at a bit, sweetheart. I guess to Opie, Wow, 337 00:15:56,680 --> 00:15:59,240 Speaker 1: I just nodded, and I was just like, all right, 338 00:15:59,520 --> 00:16:04,520 Speaker 1: see you in a bit. No questions, no screaming, just acceptance, 339 00:16:04,800 --> 00:16:07,200 Speaker 1: which I guess is the best way that's gonna gone 340 00:16:07,200 --> 00:16:09,200 Speaker 1: for this guy who's like I just pulled out the 341 00:16:09,200 --> 00:16:10,640 Speaker 1: biggest in history. 342 00:16:11,360 --> 00:16:11,640 Speaker 3: God. 343 00:16:12,560 --> 00:16:16,720 Speaker 1: Oh, he's probably leaving me like oh yeah, baby. 344 00:16:16,480 --> 00:16:17,280 Speaker 3: He's walking out. 345 00:16:17,760 --> 00:16:19,560 Speaker 2: He's walking out like it's a super Bowl, and like 346 00:16:19,600 --> 00:16:20,960 Speaker 2: all his homies are outside of the door. 347 00:16:20,960 --> 00:16:24,240 Speaker 3: I'm like, yeah, I freaking got her. Bro, Yeah, he's 348 00:16:24,320 --> 00:16:25,360 Speaker 3: dabbing everyone else. 349 00:16:25,560 --> 00:16:28,800 Speaker 1: He's like that song where it's like, dude, you know 350 00:16:29,080 --> 00:16:32,680 Speaker 1: the the uh the exit music, what's the music called. 351 00:16:33,200 --> 00:16:35,200 Speaker 3: I'm trying to think, what's that? Uh? 352 00:16:35,960 --> 00:16:36,280 Speaker 1: Uh? 353 00:16:36,960 --> 00:16:37,560 Speaker 3: Oh? True. 354 00:16:38,040 --> 00:16:42,800 Speaker 1: All right, babe, see you on the flippity flop. Oh yeah, 355 00:16:43,240 --> 00:16:48,240 Speaker 1: right right, and he's walking away dabbing people up. Oh yeah, 356 00:16:48,560 --> 00:16:49,280 Speaker 1: slow mojo. 357 00:16:50,400 --> 00:16:51,280 Speaker 3: Uh. 358 00:16:51,320 --> 00:16:53,960 Speaker 1: He gets up to put on his sneakers and leans 359 00:16:54,040 --> 00:16:57,320 Speaker 1: down to kiss me again, which I just accept at 360 00:16:57,320 --> 00:16:59,880 Speaker 1: this point. It's a nice kiss besides the fact that 361 00:16:59,880 --> 00:17:04,320 Speaker 1: my mind is somewhere else and he leaves. Apparently the 362 00:17:04,359 --> 00:17:07,720 Speaker 1: majority of people I talked to think we're dating, or 363 00:17:07,760 --> 00:17:11,919 Speaker 1: if I'm being correct here, no, we're dating and just 364 00:17:12,040 --> 00:17:14,920 Speaker 1: have never mentioned it to me. So the whole friend 365 00:17:14,920 --> 00:17:16,000 Speaker 1: group thinks they're dating. 366 00:17:16,160 --> 00:17:17,560 Speaker 3: I feel like he's petting them off. 367 00:17:17,720 --> 00:17:21,119 Speaker 1: I guess the only person that doesn't think they're dating 368 00:17:21,200 --> 00:17:21,639 Speaker 1: is Opie. 369 00:17:21,960 --> 00:17:25,280 Speaker 3: This makes no sense. I don't know what to do now. 370 00:17:25,359 --> 00:17:27,439 Speaker 1: I mean, he's a great guy, don't get me wrong, 371 00:17:27,600 --> 00:17:30,240 Speaker 1: and if the last five years or anything to go by, 372 00:17:30,760 --> 00:17:35,199 Speaker 1: he would be is a great boyfriend, maybe even in 373 00:17:35,280 --> 00:17:38,200 Speaker 1: the future a husband. But I've never looked at him 374 00:17:38,200 --> 00:17:40,240 Speaker 1: that way, so I can't say I love him. When 375 00:17:40,240 --> 00:17:43,280 Speaker 1: this occurred, it was like the glass shattered, and I 376 00:17:43,320 --> 00:17:46,120 Speaker 1: saw how differently he looked at me, how he talked 377 00:17:46,480 --> 00:17:49,840 Speaker 1: and acted, stuff that never changed at the beginning, but 378 00:17:49,920 --> 00:17:52,680 Speaker 1: for some reason I've never noticed. I can't sit here 379 00:17:52,720 --> 00:17:55,359 Speaker 1: and pretend I love him like that. I wasn't thinking 380 00:17:55,359 --> 00:17:57,919 Speaker 1: about him in that sense all this time. But on 381 00:17:57,960 --> 00:17:59,840 Speaker 1: the other side, I don't want to hurt him. He 382 00:18:00,119 --> 00:18:03,119 Speaker 1: clearly thinks we've been together for that long, so he 383 00:18:03,320 --> 00:18:05,720 Speaker 1: has to have strong feelings for me, and I don't 384 00:18:05,760 --> 00:18:07,800 Speaker 1: want to step on them and scar him like that. 385 00:18:08,359 --> 00:18:12,159 Speaker 1: But a fucking year, how do you How do you 386 00:18:12,200 --> 00:18:14,240 Speaker 1: not kiss for a year and think you're data? 387 00:18:14,400 --> 00:18:15,760 Speaker 3: There's no possible way. 388 00:18:15,800 --> 00:18:18,320 Speaker 2: And also I could I could see how he gets 389 00:18:18,359 --> 00:18:20,720 Speaker 2: away with it with his friends because if they're always 390 00:18:20,760 --> 00:18:22,480 Speaker 2: hanging out and like, oh, maybe they're just not like 391 00:18:22,480 --> 00:18:23,679 Speaker 2: a super PDA couple. 392 00:18:23,840 --> 00:18:26,359 Speaker 3: Yeah, like no pdah, Yeah, that I could see. 393 00:18:26,400 --> 00:18:29,439 Speaker 2: But how in the world this man is absolutely capping 394 00:18:29,760 --> 00:18:31,080 Speaker 2: just just insane. 395 00:18:31,119 --> 00:18:34,640 Speaker 3: It's just off the charts, yo. But maybe he's speaking 396 00:18:34,640 --> 00:18:35,520 Speaker 3: into existence. 397 00:18:35,560 --> 00:18:40,560 Speaker 1: I mean, like, look, key, so far it's kind of working, 398 00:18:42,119 --> 00:18:46,120 Speaker 1: I guess. So all right, there's it's definitely in a blackfire. 399 00:18:46,160 --> 00:18:48,360 Speaker 1: It has to backfire. Well, let's see where this goes, Okay, 400 00:18:48,520 --> 00:18:50,840 Speaker 1: So I just don't know what to do. I'm scared 401 00:18:50,960 --> 00:18:54,119 Speaker 1: and angry, just appointed in myself for not recognizing the 402 00:18:54,119 --> 00:18:58,239 Speaker 1: situation earlier. Feel like I'm stuck between the sword and 403 00:18:58,280 --> 00:19:00,840 Speaker 1: the wall. Last thing I want to do is hurt him, 404 00:19:00,840 --> 00:19:02,760 Speaker 1: But I also don't want to lie to him. How 405 00:19:02,760 --> 00:19:05,720 Speaker 1: should I go in about this with him? I've already 406 00:19:05,760 --> 00:19:08,080 Speaker 1: sent him a message to meet after practice. He said yes, 407 00:19:08,280 --> 00:19:10,240 Speaker 1: so I'll have to talk to him soon and there 408 00:19:10,280 --> 00:19:12,679 Speaker 1: is an update. But John, what should OP do? 409 00:19:14,080 --> 00:19:17,640 Speaker 3: Like totally totally shut it down? 410 00:19:17,760 --> 00:19:22,240 Speaker 2: Because it's one thing if maybe they were like friends 411 00:19:22,240 --> 00:19:24,160 Speaker 2: for like a few months and things seem to get 412 00:19:24,200 --> 00:19:27,320 Speaker 2: like flirty and whatever, and then the guy like maybe 413 00:19:27,320 --> 00:19:28,600 Speaker 2: he goes to kiss her or ask if you can 414 00:19:28,680 --> 00:19:31,560 Speaker 2: kiss her whatever, and then she's like whoa and he's like, oh, 415 00:19:31,680 --> 00:19:34,120 Speaker 2: I you know, there could be a misreading of the signals. 416 00:19:34,680 --> 00:19:38,560 Speaker 2: It is impossible to misread these signals, you like not 417 00:19:38,680 --> 00:19:42,359 Speaker 2: kissing someone for a year and not like calling them 418 00:19:42,640 --> 00:19:46,560 Speaker 2: baby babe. Like all of the things, all all of 419 00:19:46,560 --> 00:19:49,840 Speaker 2: the things happened the first time this day, not a chance. 420 00:19:50,280 --> 00:19:53,280 Speaker 3: Have to shut it down, have to shut it down. 421 00:19:53,960 --> 00:19:56,000 Speaker 1: But the thing is like it also sounds like she's 422 00:19:56,080 --> 00:19:57,080 Speaker 1: like into him a little bit. 423 00:19:57,119 --> 00:20:00,159 Speaker 2: It does, but he's he is putting it, all of 424 00:20:00,160 --> 00:20:03,880 Speaker 2: it in insane jeopardy by pulling this stunts. 425 00:20:04,359 --> 00:20:05,840 Speaker 3: That is the problem if he had just. 426 00:20:05,800 --> 00:20:07,320 Speaker 1: Know what I be But I don't know if he's 427 00:20:07,320 --> 00:20:09,520 Speaker 1: pulling a stunt, what if he actually believes that they've 428 00:20:09,520 --> 00:20:11,439 Speaker 1: been dating for a year. I mean, look, it seems 429 00:20:11,440 --> 00:20:13,639 Speaker 1: like the whole friend group thinks they've been dating for 430 00:20:13,640 --> 00:20:13,879 Speaker 1: a year. 431 00:20:13,960 --> 00:20:17,040 Speaker 2: It's possible with the delusion we've seen in these stories, 432 00:20:17,280 --> 00:20:21,840 Speaker 2: but just the level the sheer audacity of your of 433 00:20:21,880 --> 00:20:25,720 Speaker 2: your idiocy has to be so freaking high. 434 00:20:25,960 --> 00:20:29,280 Speaker 1: But bro, if the whole friend group thinks that you've 435 00:20:29,320 --> 00:20:32,400 Speaker 1: been dating, like there must have been signals on both 436 00:20:32,440 --> 00:20:33,440 Speaker 1: sides at least a little. 437 00:20:33,440 --> 00:20:35,600 Speaker 2: I think there could have been flirting and the whole 438 00:20:35,640 --> 00:20:38,640 Speaker 2: friend group. I think I think it's way. I think 439 00:20:38,640 --> 00:20:41,600 Speaker 2: it is a thousand times easier to swindle all of 440 00:20:41,640 --> 00:20:44,399 Speaker 2: the friend group because also it's kind of like a 441 00:20:44,520 --> 00:20:46,400 Speaker 2: like a cascading effect where it's like, all right, one 442 00:20:46,400 --> 00:20:49,080 Speaker 2: person thinks it, then then everyone kind of starts thinking it. 443 00:20:49,400 --> 00:20:55,440 Speaker 2: But like, just no, this guy, this guy, I think 444 00:20:55,480 --> 00:20:57,879 Speaker 2: what he might be doing is lying to himself and 445 00:20:57,920 --> 00:21:01,480 Speaker 2: convincing himself. Maybe I could, I could believe that he 446 00:21:01,520 --> 00:21:04,320 Speaker 2: made himself believe that he thought that they were in. 447 00:21:04,320 --> 00:21:09,280 Speaker 3: A relationship that I will accept. Okay, let's see what happens. 448 00:21:09,840 --> 00:21:12,679 Speaker 1: So I decided that we should meet up in a 449 00:21:12,680 --> 00:21:15,480 Speaker 1: public space before his practice. I sent him a text 450 00:21:15,600 --> 00:21:17,119 Speaker 1: and asked if you wanted to meet up at a 451 00:21:17,119 --> 00:21:18,240 Speaker 1: coffee shop we both know. 452 00:21:18,720 --> 00:21:22,159 Speaker 3: He called and said, yes, and you sound serious. 453 00:21:22,200 --> 00:21:24,879 Speaker 1: Should I be worried, to which I said, honestly, yes 454 00:21:24,960 --> 00:21:28,040 Speaker 1: you should. He told me to stop joking and went 455 00:21:28,080 --> 00:21:31,160 Speaker 1: on to his practice day. Fast forward a couple hours. 456 00:21:31,200 --> 00:21:33,479 Speaker 1: I'm sitting there and he comes in, Are you really okay? 457 00:21:33,960 --> 00:21:35,879 Speaker 1: You didn't seem good a while ago, and from what 458 00:21:35,920 --> 00:21:37,520 Speaker 1: you said, I'm actually worried now. 459 00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:39,360 Speaker 3: So I laid out on him. 460 00:21:39,560 --> 00:21:42,240 Speaker 1: I asked him why he thinks we're dating, and why 461 00:21:42,280 --> 00:21:45,480 Speaker 1: does everyone else too, and what led him to thinking that. 462 00:21:45,960 --> 00:21:48,399 Speaker 1: Now he's just quiet and I'm just looking at him, 463 00:21:48,560 --> 00:21:51,440 Speaker 1: not saying anything. Stuffed after. This is a bit fuzzy 464 00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:54,200 Speaker 1: because I just wanted to cry. This shit came very 465 00:21:54,240 --> 00:21:56,359 Speaker 1: out of the blue for me as well. It's just 466 00:21:56,440 --> 00:21:59,600 Speaker 1: effing weird looking back at it. He said something like, 467 00:22:00,119 --> 00:22:02,600 Speaker 1: I didn't really think we could actually date if I 468 00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:06,600 Speaker 1: asked you up front, so he knew he knew to 469 00:22:06,640 --> 00:22:10,960 Speaker 1: which I said, that's our relationships usually work, you ask, 470 00:22:11,520 --> 00:22:14,760 Speaker 1: to which led him on a tangent about women in general. 471 00:22:15,000 --> 00:22:16,879 Speaker 1: What I saw in front of me was no longer 472 00:22:16,920 --> 00:22:19,119 Speaker 1: my best friend of five years. It was a boy 473 00:22:19,359 --> 00:22:21,640 Speaker 1: who grew up to be a man and to have 474 00:22:21,760 --> 00:22:23,800 Speaker 1: a very damaging idea of women. 475 00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:24,919 Speaker 3: Thanks. 476 00:22:25,119 --> 00:22:27,760 Speaker 1: I just interrupted him and asked what led him to 477 00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:30,280 Speaker 1: think about women this way. He was quiet for a while, 478 00:22:30,359 --> 00:22:32,919 Speaker 1: and that did give me some pity, until he opened 479 00:22:32,920 --> 00:22:36,639 Speaker 1: that mouth of his again and said, you know, there's 480 00:22:36,720 --> 00:22:43,320 Speaker 1: these podcasts no no, that let me know everything I 481 00:22:43,400 --> 00:22:46,720 Speaker 1: needed to. Oh, so you're a little Tate fanboy. Now 482 00:22:47,080 --> 00:22:49,679 Speaker 1: he starts arguing and yelling. To be honest, I'm not 483 00:22:49,720 --> 00:22:51,360 Speaker 1: really listening to him at this point. I just want 484 00:22:51,400 --> 00:22:53,439 Speaker 1: to get out of there and cry. I'm listening, but 485 00:22:53,520 --> 00:22:56,520 Speaker 1: nothing is registering. Some of the milder things he started 486 00:22:56,560 --> 00:22:59,280 Speaker 1: yelling are about women in our relationship with food, and 487 00:22:59,320 --> 00:23:01,119 Speaker 1: how we should have a limited amount, how we're so 488 00:23:01,240 --> 00:23:04,399 Speaker 1: vulnerable and emotional, ready to blame men for everything, and 489 00:23:04,440 --> 00:23:07,600 Speaker 1: how we start yelling at every minute inconvenience, which is 490 00:23:07,640 --> 00:23:11,479 Speaker 1: funny in hindsight, how menstrual stuff was a hoax, and 491 00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:14,040 Speaker 1: that I was no doubt lying when I couldn't walk 492 00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:16,919 Speaker 1: from my period pains because I wanted his attention, and 493 00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:20,680 Speaker 1: that no girl can possibly feel a greater pain than 494 00:23:20,680 --> 00:23:23,359 Speaker 1: that of a man. He also said that when we 495 00:23:23,359 --> 00:23:26,000 Speaker 1: were talking about his course, something to do with car parts, 496 00:23:26,080 --> 00:23:28,720 Speaker 1: it was not cute and sweet of me, let alone 497 00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:31,520 Speaker 1: women in general, to act dumb and pretend I'm clueless, 498 00:23:31,560 --> 00:23:34,520 Speaker 1: because that does not make me more appealing. I generally 499 00:23:34,520 --> 00:23:37,520 Speaker 1: don't know how a car works, my effing bath. I 500 00:23:37,560 --> 00:23:39,280 Speaker 1: tell him that if this is all a big joke, 501 00:23:39,480 --> 00:23:42,080 Speaker 1: it's not funny. He interrupts me and talks about how 502 00:23:42,119 --> 00:23:44,560 Speaker 1: he listens to these men but doesn't tell anyone because 503 00:23:44,560 --> 00:23:47,280 Speaker 1: he knows I and our friends wouldn't agree. Tells me 504 00:23:47,359 --> 00:23:51,159 Speaker 1: I'm not a perfect woman, whatever that means, but he 505 00:23:51,200 --> 00:23:53,520 Speaker 1: would still like to date me, but couldn't tell me 506 00:23:53,720 --> 00:23:54,720 Speaker 1: because I'd say. 507 00:23:54,520 --> 00:23:56,440 Speaker 3: No and ruin his fantasy. 508 00:23:56,800 --> 00:23:59,720 Speaker 1: My god, bro, you know the best way to get 509 00:23:59,720 --> 00:24:01,600 Speaker 1: a girl to date you is to go on a 510 00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:05,760 Speaker 1: sexist tyrant. Wow, it works every time, you know, bro? 511 00:24:05,960 --> 00:24:08,600 Speaker 1: Women love that, right? Women love a sexist tyrade. 512 00:24:08,640 --> 00:24:12,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, there's nothing women love more than hearing how much 513 00:24:12,359 --> 00:24:13,000 Speaker 2: you hate women. 514 00:24:13,119 --> 00:24:14,200 Speaker 3: It's just the biggest turn on. 515 00:24:14,440 --> 00:24:17,359 Speaker 1: And just know if if if you want that, DM me, 516 00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:21,040 Speaker 1: I will give you a sexist tyrade and just uh 517 00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:21,960 Speaker 1: you'll you'll be. 518 00:24:21,960 --> 00:24:23,080 Speaker 3: So excited, so kind. 519 00:24:23,200 --> 00:24:24,960 Speaker 1: All right, I'm kidding, by the way, because it's a 520 00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:29,040 Speaker 1: terrible way to approach it, all right, Um, do not 521 00:24:29,200 --> 00:24:30,760 Speaker 1: DM me sex is tyrade? 522 00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:31,880 Speaker 3: Uh? 523 00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:35,720 Speaker 2: I listen to this podcast plays to men Sam and 524 00:24:35,800 --> 00:24:37,840 Speaker 2: John these alphabets. 525 00:24:38,040 --> 00:24:44,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, we're so out to alphab Uh. 526 00:24:44,400 --> 00:24:46,600 Speaker 1: I'm crying now and people are noticing, so I just 527 00:24:46,640 --> 00:24:48,600 Speaker 1: want to get out of there immediately. I tell them, 528 00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:52,440 Speaker 1: not verbatim, but along the lines of you're so effing stupid. 529 00:24:52,680 --> 00:24:56,240 Speaker 1: You genuinely could have dated me if only you would ask, 530 00:24:56,640 --> 00:24:59,600 Speaker 1: You could have had everything, but you started listening to 531 00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:02,879 Speaker 1: opinion of guys who have nothing. How sad can you 532 00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:05,240 Speaker 1: be to pull a stunt like this instead of asking 533 00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:08,080 Speaker 1: like a normal person. He starts yelling that I'm wrong 534 00:25:08,320 --> 00:25:11,000 Speaker 1: and they know what is right, starting a whole rant 535 00:25:11,040 --> 00:25:13,400 Speaker 1: that I don't have the strength to listen to him. 536 00:25:13,760 --> 00:25:16,440 Speaker 1: I stand up, start walking and he grabs my arm. 537 00:25:16,720 --> 00:25:19,000 Speaker 1: More people are staring. I tell him to let go, 538 00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:21,359 Speaker 1: and he only does when I threatened to call the police. 539 00:25:21,520 --> 00:25:23,600 Speaker 1: I left, telling him to never speak to me again. 540 00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:26,879 Speaker 1: I am now home. I blocked him on everything and 541 00:25:26,920 --> 00:25:29,640 Speaker 1: told some friends what happened. They were all shocked by 542 00:25:29,640 --> 00:25:32,280 Speaker 1: how he acted and what he said. One guy did 543 00:25:32,280 --> 00:25:34,280 Speaker 1: tell me he was always easy. 544 00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:35,960 Speaker 3: To influence, though thang rough. 545 00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:38,560 Speaker 1: I asked why they thought we were dating, and they 546 00:25:38,600 --> 00:25:41,000 Speaker 1: told me it was how we acted like a couple. 547 00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:43,640 Speaker 3: I guess that one is on me, combined. 548 00:25:43,200 --> 00:25:46,119 Speaker 1: With the fact that he told them yes when they asked, 549 00:25:46,400 --> 00:25:49,119 Speaker 1: and since the behavior checked out, they just never thought 550 00:25:49,240 --> 00:25:52,360 Speaker 1: to talk about it with me. So that is that 551 00:25:52,640 --> 00:25:54,520 Speaker 1: I thought I had a nice friend by my side, 552 00:25:54,800 --> 00:25:57,560 Speaker 1: but guess not. Never trust a guy, even if you 553 00:25:57,600 --> 00:26:01,240 Speaker 1: grew up with him. They'll disappoint you eventually. Hope you 554 00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:03,600 Speaker 1: don't get too jaded. But this dude does sound like 555 00:26:03,640 --> 00:26:04,240 Speaker 1: a cutbag. 556 00:26:04,440 --> 00:26:10,000 Speaker 3: Ah wow, wow, No is right. 557 00:26:10,840 --> 00:26:12,840 Speaker 1: I don't know how the like, I don't know how 558 00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:16,199 Speaker 1: this dude is still thinking the Tait method is working 559 00:26:16,280 --> 00:26:19,040 Speaker 1: when it literally is not working in front of his eyes. 560 00:26:20,480 --> 00:26:21,480 Speaker 3: You know what I think it is. 561 00:26:21,960 --> 00:26:27,280 Speaker 2: It's there's this like this this insecurity, this like desire 562 00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:30,640 Speaker 2: to be with the woman, and like they they are 563 00:26:30,720 --> 00:26:34,200 Speaker 2: so fearful of you know, like actually approaching the women 564 00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:36,400 Speaker 2: the right way, and like all these things that they 565 00:26:36,440 --> 00:26:39,720 Speaker 2: cling onto this as like a crutch to like, Okay, 566 00:26:39,800 --> 00:26:43,160 Speaker 2: I can like this, this kind of gives me the 567 00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:48,600 Speaker 2: the the imaginary dopamine hit that I maybe the real 568 00:26:48,680 --> 00:26:50,560 Speaker 2: thing I want is sort of actually like me in 569 00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:53,800 Speaker 2: a legitimate way, But like what's the next closest thing 570 00:26:53,840 --> 00:26:56,640 Speaker 2: I can get is like feel validation from this thing 571 00:26:56,760 --> 00:26:58,560 Speaker 2: versus like the hard thing that I don't want to 572 00:26:58,560 --> 00:26:59,240 Speaker 2: do or whatever. 573 00:27:00,600 --> 00:27:03,240 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, no, I think that's super true. 574 00:27:03,320 --> 00:27:06,560 Speaker 1: And it's just it's just like what world do I 575 00:27:06,560 --> 00:27:08,960 Speaker 1: think Op handled it well? Like, yeah, I mean I 576 00:27:08,960 --> 00:27:12,399 Speaker 1: think the right thing to do is just leave this 577 00:27:12,440 --> 00:27:12,960 Speaker 1: guy in the desk. 578 00:27:13,240 --> 00:27:15,200 Speaker 2: And also I feel like if I was in op 579 00:27:15,320 --> 00:27:18,400 Speaker 2: Sho's when he first started like being like, hey, babe, 580 00:27:18,400 --> 00:27:20,199 Speaker 2: where are we going for the anniversary? I feel like 581 00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:23,000 Speaker 2: I would just be so shocked. I would just kind 582 00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:25,440 Speaker 2: of like not know what to do, you know what 583 00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:26,040 Speaker 2: I mean. 584 00:27:26,119 --> 00:27:28,199 Speaker 3: Like fuck, you know, bad of me. 585 00:27:28,280 --> 00:27:30,160 Speaker 1: But I was giving him the benefit of the doubt 586 00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:33,320 Speaker 1: initially when he was like, oh, like when we go 587 00:27:33,320 --> 00:27:35,560 Speaker 1: on this date, I thought like maybe he like legitimately 588 00:27:35,560 --> 00:27:38,880 Speaker 1: thought they were dating, yeah, not trying like a tactic. 589 00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:41,360 Speaker 3: But fuck, that's such a bad tactic. 590 00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:45,160 Speaker 1: Well okay, actually okay, actually low key would have worked 591 00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:46,320 Speaker 1: if he wasn't an asshole. 592 00:27:46,520 --> 00:27:48,280 Speaker 3: If here we go, here we go, are you ready? 593 00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:51,840 Speaker 2: If he was like, so, hey, I'm picking you up 594 00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:55,040 Speaker 2: at seven for uh for Ruth Chris, right, like something 595 00:27:55,119 --> 00:27:56,920 Speaker 2: like that could be smooth. 596 00:27:57,440 --> 00:28:00,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, it like like it could it could be like, Hey, 597 00:28:02,359 --> 00:28:04,840 Speaker 1: we've known each other for a year and I've been 598 00:28:04,840 --> 00:28:06,000 Speaker 1: wanting to say this for a while. 599 00:28:06,200 --> 00:28:07,480 Speaker 3: Can I take you out on Friday night? 600 00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:10,879 Speaker 2: I mean that's the that's the real one that you 601 00:28:10,880 --> 00:28:14,560 Speaker 2: should do. That's what that's what it actually even if 602 00:28:14,560 --> 00:28:16,520 Speaker 2: you wanted to be a little a little cutesy with 603 00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:19,440 Speaker 2: it and be something like, hey, like I want to 604 00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:22,480 Speaker 2: celebrate our anniversary. We met a year ago, and yeah, 605 00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:24,560 Speaker 2: I've been working up the nerve like I would love 606 00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:26,720 Speaker 2: to take you out to dinner or I don't know, 607 00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:29,840 Speaker 2: they're like you, that's so fucking cute that I love that. 608 00:28:29,920 --> 00:28:32,080 Speaker 2: I love you could be cute about it, but he 609 00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:37,800 Speaker 2: just went about it the completely wrong opposite way. And 610 00:28:37,800 --> 00:28:41,479 Speaker 2: and also crazy that the it could have been cute, dude, 611 00:28:41,560 --> 00:28:44,880 Speaker 2: it could have been cute, And also wild that the 612 00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:49,560 Speaker 2: friends never were like, oh hey, how's how's you? 613 00:28:49,680 --> 00:28:53,600 Speaker 3: And uh you boo and it's like what do you mean? 614 00:28:53,800 --> 00:28:55,040 Speaker 3: Like we're not what do you mean? 615 00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:55,880 Speaker 2: What do you mean? 616 00:28:56,440 --> 00:28:57,920 Speaker 3: I can't believe it didn't come out early. 617 00:28:58,000 --> 00:29:01,360 Speaker 1: Yeah wow yeah, but you know what, I always love 618 00:29:01,760 --> 00:29:02,320 Speaker 1: coming out. 619 00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:06,960 Speaker 2: Comments from the beautiful Danny Fingers of our public subscribers. 620 00:29:07,520 --> 00:29:09,840 Speaker 3: We love your dainty fingers. 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