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Speaker 1: people do sometimes, except when you're married to me, it

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Speaker 1: the question, Babe, if this happened to us, then you

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Speaker 1: But then I wouldn't let myself be bad about it

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Speaker 1: because I had no right to be mad about it,

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Speaker 1: So you didn't see me get upset about it. Would

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Speaker 1: that be setting to you? Because I feel like some people,

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Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, I do well how you feel about me.

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Speaker 1: I didn't think we're gonna get back together and then

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Speaker 1: So because I would go, I can't. I can't. It's

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