1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:02,160 Speaker 1: Alright, bu it up, Hold on tight, We got it 2 00:00:02,200 --> 00:00:04,280 Speaker 1: for you. Here. It is de Strawberry letter. Thank you 3 00:00:04,360 --> 00:00:06,520 Speaker 1: enough you subject. My old man is up to some 4 00:00:06,600 --> 00:00:09,719 Speaker 1: new tricks. Dear Stephen Shirley. My husband and I have 5 00:00:09,800 --> 00:00:13,440 Speaker 1: been married for twenty five years and we have a beautiful, 6 00:00:13,520 --> 00:00:16,640 Speaker 1: blended family. We worked hard to provide a great life 7 00:00:16,680 --> 00:00:19,640 Speaker 1: for our children and we put them all through college. 8 00:00:20,040 --> 00:00:22,480 Speaker 1: Now that our last child has left home, we are 9 00:00:22,520 --> 00:00:25,880 Speaker 1: finally empty nesters, so we decided to downsize on our 10 00:00:25,880 --> 00:00:28,720 Speaker 1: house so we can travel and do the things we enjoy. 11 00:00:29,160 --> 00:00:31,920 Speaker 1: We found a nice, much smaller house, and my husband 12 00:00:31,960 --> 00:00:35,600 Speaker 1: handled all of the financing and paperwork. After we closed 13 00:00:35,600 --> 00:00:38,040 Speaker 1: on the house, I found out that my name was 14 00:00:38,080 --> 00:00:40,839 Speaker 1: not on any of the paperwork, so it is my 15 00:00:41,000 --> 00:00:44,400 Speaker 1: husband's new house, but I did not make a big 16 00:00:44,440 --> 00:00:47,199 Speaker 1: deal out of it. Shortly after we moved in, my 17 00:00:47,280 --> 00:00:49,800 Speaker 1: husband started to change and I saw a side of 18 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:53,040 Speaker 1: him that I had never seen before. He was starting. 19 00:00:53,360 --> 00:00:55,959 Speaker 1: He had started coming and going as he pleases, and 20 00:00:56,200 --> 00:00:59,440 Speaker 1: he stopped wearing his wedding ring. He often sleeps in 21 00:00:59,520 --> 00:01:03,320 Speaker 1: his man cape all night, leaving me in our bed alone. 22 00:01:03,680 --> 00:01:06,520 Speaker 1: He has a cell phone on him at all times, 23 00:01:06,959 --> 00:01:09,760 Speaker 1: and he barely talks to me. Now. He goes to 24 00:01:09,800 --> 00:01:13,280 Speaker 1: a jazz club every Friday, Saturday and Sunday night. And 25 00:01:13,319 --> 00:01:15,920 Speaker 1: he goes to the casino once a week and spend 26 00:01:16,319 --> 00:01:19,800 Speaker 1: spends hours there. Oh, and I failed to mention that 27 00:01:19,840 --> 00:01:23,959 Speaker 1: he is sixty nine years old. I am a Christian 28 00:01:24,000 --> 00:01:26,600 Speaker 1: woman and I'm trying to do the right thing in 29 00:01:26,760 --> 00:01:29,199 Speaker 1: my marriage. But I feel like I need to leave 30 00:01:29,280 --> 00:01:32,360 Speaker 1: this man in his new house, with his new ways. 31 00:01:32,720 --> 00:01:35,559 Speaker 1: Do you think he has another woman? Maybe he wants 32 00:01:35,600 --> 00:01:38,200 Speaker 1: to move me out and move her in. What do 33 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:41,600 Speaker 1: you think I should do? Please? Help? Well? I gotta 34 00:01:41,640 --> 00:01:44,880 Speaker 1: commend you on, you know, being able to work hard 35 00:01:44,959 --> 00:01:47,320 Speaker 1: and put all of your kids through college. That is 36 00:01:47,400 --> 00:01:49,680 Speaker 1: quite a feat, um for for you guys to be 37 00:01:49,720 --> 00:01:52,040 Speaker 1: able to do that and to say that, and to 38 00:01:52,080 --> 00:01:54,960 Speaker 1: answer your other question, Uh, do I think he has 39 00:01:55,000 --> 00:01:57,720 Speaker 1: another woman? Yes? I do think he has another woman. 40 00:01:57,840 --> 00:02:01,160 Speaker 1: I think that for sure. He's His chain behavior is 41 00:02:01,200 --> 00:02:03,360 Speaker 1: a clue and the fact that he is sixty nine 42 00:02:03,440 --> 00:02:07,720 Speaker 1: years old obviously means nothing to him or her. Uh. 43 00:02:07,760 --> 00:02:11,120 Speaker 1: He is behaving as a single man. And my question 44 00:02:11,160 --> 00:02:14,839 Speaker 1: to you is, uh, why haven't you said anything? Why 45 00:02:14,880 --> 00:02:16,760 Speaker 1: have you let it go on? To this point. When 46 00:02:16,800 --> 00:02:18,880 Speaker 1: you found out that your name wasn't on the house, 47 00:02:19,080 --> 00:02:21,160 Speaker 1: you should have spoken up right then. You should have 48 00:02:21,160 --> 00:02:24,919 Speaker 1: said something immediately. Um, you know, what are you doing here? 49 00:02:24,960 --> 00:02:27,359 Speaker 1: I see that you let him do all the financing 50 00:02:27,400 --> 00:02:30,560 Speaker 1: and take care of everything. Um, because you trusted him 51 00:02:30,600 --> 00:02:32,680 Speaker 1: and probably that's what you guys have been doing for 52 00:02:32,720 --> 00:02:34,600 Speaker 1: so long and you had nothing to worry about in 53 00:02:34,639 --> 00:02:37,840 Speaker 1: the past. But yeah, that that's a problem. And listen, 54 00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:40,200 Speaker 1: you mentioned that you're a Christian woman and you're trying 55 00:02:40,200 --> 00:02:42,320 Speaker 1: to do the right thing in your marriage. Just because 56 00:02:42,320 --> 00:02:44,520 Speaker 1: you're a Christian woman, it doesn't mean that you have 57 00:02:44,600 --> 00:02:46,880 Speaker 1: to be a doormat or anything like that. You have 58 00:02:46,960 --> 00:02:49,680 Speaker 1: to let him know that this is disrespectful and he 59 00:02:49,720 --> 00:02:52,440 Speaker 1: can't disrespect you like this. You have to speak up. 60 00:02:52,480 --> 00:02:55,360 Speaker 1: You have to find your voice and tell him that 61 00:02:55,400 --> 00:02:57,400 Speaker 1: what he's doing is wrong and to get your name 62 00:02:57,480 --> 00:02:59,480 Speaker 1: on that house. And if he wants to lead, he 63 00:02:59,520 --> 00:03:01,840 Speaker 1: can leave or you can put him out. You can 64 00:03:01,880 --> 00:03:04,880 Speaker 1: do these things. Okay, just because you're a Christian woman 65 00:03:04,960 --> 00:03:07,040 Speaker 1: does not mean that you just have to lie down 66 00:03:07,200 --> 00:03:16,600 Speaker 1: and take it. Steve, Well, well, well, play up, playoff, 67 00:03:17,960 --> 00:03:21,680 Speaker 1: all right. I've been together, been married twenty five years. 68 00:03:21,800 --> 00:03:26,840 Speaker 1: You know, beautiful blended family, provided a great life for 69 00:03:26,880 --> 00:03:28,920 Speaker 1: the kids. They're all in college. Everybody out of the 70 00:03:28,919 --> 00:03:33,760 Speaker 1: house now, so y'all figured, y'all empty nesters, so you're 71 00:03:33,800 --> 00:03:38,760 Speaker 1: gonna downsize. So now y'all the downside. Moved into a 72 00:03:38,840 --> 00:03:41,240 Speaker 1: smaller house, so y'all had money to do all the 73 00:03:41,280 --> 00:03:46,200 Speaker 1: stuff you want to do. He handled all the financing, 74 00:03:46,480 --> 00:03:49,080 Speaker 1: and after we close, you found out that your name 75 00:03:49,800 --> 00:03:55,360 Speaker 1: wouldn't own it. Now, so my husband has this new 76 00:03:55,440 --> 00:03:59,480 Speaker 1: house trying. After you moved in, you noticed the change. 77 00:03:59,560 --> 00:04:02,840 Speaker 1: Now let's just start right here. Now, let's go down 78 00:04:02,880 --> 00:04:06,520 Speaker 1: to the bottom of the letter. You said, do you 79 00:04:06,680 --> 00:04:13,120 Speaker 1: think he has another woman? Shirley says, yes, Well, let 80 00:04:13,160 --> 00:04:18,360 Speaker 1: me show you some stuff. He don't wear a ring 81 00:04:18,480 --> 00:04:24,120 Speaker 1: no more. He stopped sleeping with you. He staying his 82 00:04:24,279 --> 00:04:29,159 Speaker 1: man cave all the time. Now, he got his cell 83 00:04:29,279 --> 00:04:34,200 Speaker 1: phone on him at all times. And he goes to 84 00:04:34,240 --> 00:04:38,440 Speaker 1: a jazz club every Friday, Saturday and Sunday. Ain't that 85 00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:44,719 Speaker 1: much damn good music? It just really mean the same 86 00:04:44,839 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 1: jazz club every Friday, said this Sunday? Or is he 87 00:04:48,520 --> 00:04:53,560 Speaker 1: telling you it's a jazz club? See, that's what it 88 00:04:53,640 --> 00:04:56,719 Speaker 1: sounds like to me. Sounds to me like he told 89 00:04:56,800 --> 00:05:00,800 Speaker 1: you it's a jazz club. I don't think he's going 90 00:05:00,880 --> 00:05:05,040 Speaker 1: to a jazz club. I think you do have somebody else. 91 00:05:05,960 --> 00:05:11,440 Speaker 1: I think he told the woman. I'm he told the woman, 92 00:05:11,800 --> 00:05:16,159 Speaker 1: I'm gonna get you a place to stay. I'm gonna 93 00:05:16,200 --> 00:05:20,520 Speaker 1: get us a house. That's what he told her. I'm 94 00:05:20,560 --> 00:05:25,240 Speaker 1: gonna get us a house. So now I can almost 95 00:05:25,320 --> 00:05:28,960 Speaker 1: guarantee you she has seen the paperwork on the house. 96 00:05:31,320 --> 00:05:35,160 Speaker 1: He didn't told her. He just buying time, gotta get 97 00:05:35,200 --> 00:05:38,279 Speaker 1: these kids that this is gonna be me and you. 98 00:05:38,279 --> 00:05:44,960 Speaker 1: You see all this, and he ain't at the jazz club. 99 00:05:45,040 --> 00:05:49,640 Speaker 1: Here at her house? About it? Seven years old? Go 100 00:05:49,760 --> 00:05:52,559 Speaker 1: sit there and watch the same damn jazz man. Every 101 00:05:52,640 --> 00:06:03,240 Speaker 1: damns ain't that seven same damn jazz bad. When we 102 00:06:03,360 --> 00:06:05,479 Speaker 1: come back, I'm gonna show you what you ought to do. 103 00:06:05,760 --> 00:06:13,080 Speaker 1: Let's recap for the people. Okay, here's this woman's been 104 00:06:13,160 --> 00:06:15,920 Speaker 1: married to this man twenty five years. Beautiful, blended family, 105 00:06:17,040 --> 00:06:18,840 Speaker 1: put the kids in college. They are all out. The 106 00:06:18,920 --> 00:06:26,760 Speaker 1: empty nest is now. Life is good downside. Smaller house 107 00:06:28,120 --> 00:06:33,159 Speaker 1: so y'all can travel and all of that. Right, Okay, cool? 108 00:06:34,920 --> 00:06:36,560 Speaker 1: Now all of a sudden, he don't sleep with you 109 00:06:36,640 --> 00:06:39,360 Speaker 1: no more. All of a sudden, he don't wear his 110 00:06:39,480 --> 00:06:41,840 Speaker 1: ring no more. All of a sudden, he got a 111 00:06:41,839 --> 00:06:44,520 Speaker 1: cell phone on him at all time. He didn't put 112 00:06:44,520 --> 00:06:47,279 Speaker 1: the house in your in his name, not your. And 113 00:06:47,360 --> 00:06:49,839 Speaker 1: he had the jazz club every Friday, said this Sunday. 114 00:06:51,760 --> 00:06:55,680 Speaker 1: You ain't on the paperwork. This is what's called a 115 00:06:55,839 --> 00:07:01,159 Speaker 1: night move, wiking on the night move. This is a 116 00:07:01,279 --> 00:07:06,680 Speaker 1: night move. And he didn't done it. He didn't started 117 00:07:06,720 --> 00:07:11,240 Speaker 1: coming and going as he pleases. And and he goes 118 00:07:11,280 --> 00:07:14,280 Speaker 1: to the casino once a week and spends hours there. 119 00:07:15,400 --> 00:07:18,600 Speaker 1: He ain't at the casino either. You keep naming all 120 00:07:18,640 --> 00:07:20,840 Speaker 1: these places you're gonna go because you're a Christian. You 121 00:07:20,920 --> 00:07:25,680 Speaker 1: need to start gambling. What yeah, because she says she 122 00:07:25,800 --> 00:07:31,160 Speaker 1: a Christian woman. Christians gamble, Christian you need to go 123 00:07:31,240 --> 00:07:40,040 Speaker 1: to the jazz club. Ain't boat one, No, for real, 124 00:07:41,160 --> 00:07:44,280 Speaker 1: you need to find out what's happening here. You're saying, 125 00:07:44,360 --> 00:07:46,640 Speaker 1: she ain't this and all listen you can find all 126 00:07:46,680 --> 00:07:54,360 Speaker 1: this out. Now, listen to this. This man is gonna 127 00:07:54,440 --> 00:08:01,520 Speaker 1: leave you. It's clear he's already checked out. Now let's 128 00:08:01,560 --> 00:08:04,880 Speaker 1: talk about stuff you Since you're a Christian woman, and 129 00:08:04,920 --> 00:08:07,360 Speaker 1: I'm trying to do the right thing in my marriage, 130 00:08:08,960 --> 00:08:10,920 Speaker 1: but I feel like I need to lead this man 131 00:08:11,000 --> 00:08:15,960 Speaker 1: in his new house. Well, before you go, Christians, listen 132 00:08:16,000 --> 00:08:21,160 Speaker 1: to James. Christians go to casino. I'm a Christian. I 133 00:08:21,160 --> 00:08:28,920 Speaker 1: go to casino all the time as a Christian. I 134 00:08:29,240 --> 00:08:33,680 Speaker 1: down there trying hard as I can to win my ties. Boy, 135 00:08:34,920 --> 00:08:38,600 Speaker 1: stop and if you get out of here, y'all, don't 136 00:08:38,640 --> 00:08:42,440 Speaker 1: don't stop me. This is my Christianity, it's not your. 137 00:08:43,240 --> 00:08:45,120 Speaker 1: And let me explain something to her. I'm just saying, 138 00:08:45,160 --> 00:08:49,240 Speaker 1: I ain, this is not a suggestion of Hey, what 139 00:08:49,480 --> 00:08:57,959 Speaker 1: is going talking crazy? Wait what I have heard? That's 140 00:08:58,000 --> 00:09:03,920 Speaker 1: what I said, Carl He but why ye, I'm trying 141 00:09:03,960 --> 00:09:07,400 Speaker 1: to figure out why. I'm just going I just said 142 00:09:07,480 --> 00:09:11,160 Speaker 1: Christians go to casinos, don't Didn't I just tell you 143 00:09:11,200 --> 00:09:17,760 Speaker 1: that Christians also go to jazz clubs. Mm hmmm hmm. Yeah. 144 00:09:18,600 --> 00:09:22,120 Speaker 1: So now, stop making your Christianity so special where you 145 00:09:22,200 --> 00:09:26,160 Speaker 1: can't do nothing. You're gonna sit down in this marriage. 146 00:09:26,559 --> 00:09:29,079 Speaker 1: Let him get his house to this other woman to leave. Plus, 147 00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:31,360 Speaker 1: he can't do that, y'all been mad twenty five years. 148 00:09:31,720 --> 00:09:33,760 Speaker 1: Even if he put the house in his name he 149 00:09:33,800 --> 00:09:36,000 Speaker 1: can't give it to this other woman. It's still yours. 150 00:09:36,960 --> 00:09:47,199 Speaker 1: H you still get half. Listen to me. Two divorces. Mhm, Hey, 151 00:09:47,280 --> 00:09:49,240 Speaker 1: my stuff split him chopped up, a kind of where 152 00:09:49,240 --> 00:09:59,200 Speaker 1: you can have it splitting chopped. Now everything's gonna be 153 00:09:59,280 --> 00:10:04,200 Speaker 1: right eventure m hmm. Eventually it's gonna be all right. 154 00:10:04,920 --> 00:10:08,800 Speaker 1: What do you mean? I mean he ain't no good, 155 00:10:08,960 --> 00:10:12,640 Speaker 1: it's gonna come around, come back now, he ain't coming back. 156 00:10:12,920 --> 00:10:14,280 Speaker 1: What do you mean it's going to be all right? 157 00:10:14,320 --> 00:10:19,800 Speaker 1: I'm just get yourself together, go do you Here's what 158 00:10:19,840 --> 00:10:21,760 Speaker 1: I would do, Lady, clear all the money out. They 159 00:10:21,920 --> 00:10:30,880 Speaker 1: count cleared all out. Yeah, get all the money, put 160 00:10:30,880 --> 00:10:34,040 Speaker 1: it on your side in case he tried to leave 161 00:10:34,120 --> 00:10:37,480 Speaker 1: with this other woman. You ain't gonna you canna leave it. 162 00:10:37,480 --> 00:10:47,800 Speaker 1: You ain't gonna leave a d fire, don't know. That's right, man. 163 00:10:48,280 --> 00:10:51,319 Speaker 1: And set all the furniture out, and next time he 164 00:10:51,400 --> 00:10:53,559 Speaker 1: goes down to the casino, have a y'all sale, put 165 00:10:53,559 --> 00:10:59,400 Speaker 1: all the furniture out on the tree lawns. Oh better man. 166 00:10:59,800 --> 00:11:07,720 Speaker 1: You you've awaking the sleeping giant. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah yeah. 167 00:11:07,920 --> 00:11:16,560 Speaker 1: Sell is close to burnam. I'm in the swimming pool. Yeah, 168 00:11:16,640 --> 00:11:19,600 Speaker 1: burn them I don't walked in the house seeing all 169 00:11:19,679 --> 00:11:22,839 Speaker 1: my stuff in the pool and put the pool on 170 00:11:23,000 --> 00:11:26,120 Speaker 1: the pool. Yeah, not in the pool with the sleeves 171 00:11:26,160 --> 00:11:33,640 Speaker 1: cut off. That's even work. What's his name, Steve, the 172 00:11:33,800 --> 00:11:42,439 Speaker 1: sixty nine year old man the food? And what's her name? Sandrew? 173 00:11:44,320 --> 00:11:55,959 Speaker 1: Not that name? No one of your kids? Uh no, No, 174 00:11:58,360 --> 00:12:01,920 Speaker 1: they're close though, but not in that saying you wanted 175 00:12:01,960 --> 00:12:04,880 Speaker 1: the six. We need to go over the names we 176 00:12:05,000 --> 00:12:14,960 Speaker 1: can't use on the list. That's on the list. You 177 00:12:15,040 --> 00:12:19,960 Speaker 1: need to do over with the names. Did you ask 178 00:12:20,000 --> 00:12:23,680 Speaker 1: Alex about the pictures? Yes? I did. She didn't find 179 00:12:23,760 --> 00:12:29,120 Speaker 1: him Alex's mind. I don't know what number, but yes 180 00:12:29,160 --> 00:12:32,000 Speaker 1: I did ask what's going on here? He was married 181 00:12:32,040 --> 00:12:34,400 Speaker 1: to Hunt? All right, look, we gotta get out of 182 00:12:34,400 --> 00:12:39,200 Speaker 1: this letter. First email, let's her instagram. That's your thoughts 183 00:12:39,240 --> 00:12:42,400 Speaker 1: on today's Strawberry Letter and Steve Harvey FM. You're listening 184 00:12:42,640 --> 00:12:44,480 Speaker 1: to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.