1 00:00:05,000 --> 00:00:08,000 Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha, and welcome to Steph. 2 00:00:08,039 --> 00:00:20,599 Speaker 1: I've never told your production of I Heart Radio. So 3 00:00:20,840 --> 00:00:25,560 Speaker 1: as we record this, it is November, not March like 4 00:00:25,600 --> 00:00:32,120 Speaker 1: I recently missed, which means the holidays are coming, believe 5 00:00:32,159 --> 00:00:34,080 Speaker 1: it are not, and they are obviously going to look 6 00:00:34,479 --> 00:00:37,320 Speaker 1: very different for a lot of us this year. And Samantha, 7 00:00:37,400 --> 00:00:39,879 Speaker 1: for my question, I know you are not the biggest 8 00:00:39,880 --> 00:00:44,159 Speaker 1: fan of the holidays, but are there any traditions that 9 00:00:44,240 --> 00:00:47,879 Speaker 1: you do like and what is your general plan on 10 00:00:48,159 --> 00:00:51,840 Speaker 1: celebrating or not celebrating. So the one A few traditions 11 00:00:52,000 --> 00:00:57,240 Speaker 1: I do have, and especially in the last like five 12 00:00:57,360 --> 00:01:00,320 Speaker 1: years and being a trying to be an adult and 13 00:01:00,400 --> 00:01:03,120 Speaker 1: trying to get into the spirit, I always at least 14 00:01:03,240 --> 00:01:06,600 Speaker 1: try every time. I always buy a miniature Christmas tree, 15 00:01:06,640 --> 00:01:08,160 Speaker 1: not a big one, because I don't want a big one. 16 00:01:08,200 --> 00:01:09,800 Speaker 1: I can't deal with a big one. I don't have 17 00:01:09,840 --> 00:01:11,240 Speaker 1: time for a big one. I don't want to log 18 00:01:11,240 --> 00:01:18,000 Speaker 1: a big one. Oh maybe I didn't mean to say 19 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:20,760 Speaker 1: it like that, but uh. And if you've ever watched, 20 00:01:20,840 --> 00:01:23,759 Speaker 1: which you haven't while you were sleeping, there's this whole 21 00:01:23,800 --> 00:01:25,680 Speaker 1: thing where she's trying to drag a giant Christmas tree 22 00:01:25,760 --> 00:01:29,480 Speaker 1: up her window because you can't kill herself. Yeah, I 23 00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:32,240 Speaker 1: don't want that. So I go and buy a very 24 00:01:32,280 --> 00:01:35,920 Speaker 1: small Christmas tree and I decorate it with by myself, 25 00:01:36,000 --> 00:01:39,120 Speaker 1: and I put little presents for my dog typically and 26 00:01:39,200 --> 00:01:42,640 Speaker 1: usually for my family too, but because most of what 27 00:01:42,880 --> 00:01:45,839 Speaker 1: they get is like Christmas or gift cards, it doesn't 28 00:01:45,840 --> 00:01:48,040 Speaker 1: take up to much space. So um. And then I 29 00:01:48,120 --> 00:01:51,000 Speaker 1: have a stocking for myself and peaches, which is probably 30 00:01:52,320 --> 00:01:58,720 Speaker 1: four inches tall. Yes, yes, uh, And that's it. That's 31 00:01:58,760 --> 00:02:00,360 Speaker 1: my Christmas tree dish. And I try how to do 32 00:02:00,440 --> 00:02:02,960 Speaker 1: that as a way of being like, look at me, 33 00:02:03,640 --> 00:02:08,680 Speaker 1: huh Christmas. So that's my actual tradition. There are other 34 00:02:08,720 --> 00:02:10,720 Speaker 1: things that I'll do in between that I'm like, oh yeah, 35 00:02:10,760 --> 00:02:12,440 Speaker 1: I kind of want to do this too. Which you 36 00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:15,040 Speaker 1: would have talked about is Christmas movies or movies that 37 00:02:15,200 --> 00:02:17,960 Speaker 1: remind me of Christmas time, which I've been Harry Potter 38 00:02:18,000 --> 00:02:22,400 Speaker 1: and that category as well. Um, maybe not so much 39 00:02:22,440 --> 00:02:29,160 Speaker 1: this year, what about you. Um, I I think I've 40 00:02:29,160 --> 00:02:32,480 Speaker 1: said before, but I love the decorations of the holidays. 41 00:02:32,560 --> 00:02:36,000 Speaker 1: I love lights, like I have Christmas lights in my 42 00:02:36,040 --> 00:02:39,360 Speaker 1: apartment all year round. Um, and I do I also 43 00:02:39,400 --> 00:02:41,840 Speaker 1: get the minuture tree. I would get the big one, 44 00:02:41,840 --> 00:02:43,920 Speaker 1: of my apartment is too small. But also, yeah, they 45 00:02:44,040 --> 00:02:49,040 Speaker 1: looking up the stairs. It's not something I'm super excited about. Um. 46 00:02:49,120 --> 00:02:53,480 Speaker 1: And then I like the food aspects a lot, and 47 00:02:53,720 --> 00:02:56,520 Speaker 1: I kind of like the general, at least here in Georgia. 48 00:02:56,560 --> 00:02:58,359 Speaker 1: I don't know if I'd feel the same way elsewhere, 49 00:02:58,360 --> 00:03:00,200 Speaker 1: but I like the general. Like it's cold, I have 50 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:02,679 Speaker 1: to kind of snuggle up. I do have my set 51 00:03:02,760 --> 00:03:04,680 Speaker 1: of holiday movies I watch every year, and some of 52 00:03:04,720 --> 00:03:08,400 Speaker 1: them I too, are like this is a horror movie, 53 00:03:08,440 --> 00:03:10,640 Speaker 1: but it's it's set at Christmas or whatever, so it's 54 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:16,440 Speaker 1: a it's an interesting list. Um. Yeah. And you know, 55 00:03:16,560 --> 00:03:19,320 Speaker 1: if I when I do go home, we have a whole, 56 00:03:20,440 --> 00:03:22,799 Speaker 1: we have foods that we have to eat. And I 57 00:03:22,880 --> 00:03:25,120 Speaker 1: manage the lights in the Christmas tree. And I say 58 00:03:25,120 --> 00:03:27,000 Speaker 1: managed because it is like a job. I do enjoy it, 59 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:32,359 Speaker 1: but it is work. Uh yeah yeah, and then I 60 00:03:32,840 --> 00:03:36,119 Speaker 1: really don't look forward to taking all of that down. Yeah, 61 00:03:36,160 --> 00:03:39,200 Speaker 1: I hate it. So that's always hanging over, you know, 62 00:03:39,240 --> 00:03:42,760 Speaker 1: it's kind of unfortunate. The best thing about having the 63 00:03:42,760 --> 00:03:44,360 Speaker 1: miniature Christmas trees, I could just put it in my 64 00:03:44,440 --> 00:03:46,800 Speaker 1: bend and not have to take it to a special 65 00:03:46,840 --> 00:03:49,680 Speaker 1: place for it to be good, or you know, if 66 00:03:49,720 --> 00:03:53,040 Speaker 1: you have a fire put I guess it's just dried out. 67 00:03:53,240 --> 00:03:56,000 Speaker 1: Typically sometimes dries out a little bit, you can just 68 00:03:56,080 --> 00:03:59,760 Speaker 1: roll in the back. But yeah, my mom is the 69 00:04:00,040 --> 00:04:06,600 Speaker 1: queen of seasonal decoration and decorations and everything is themed 70 00:04:07,000 --> 00:04:10,720 Speaker 1: the freak out like on the mantels. She has fake 71 00:04:10,800 --> 00:04:15,680 Speaker 1: snow whole villages lights everywhere. Each Christmas tree, because there's 72 00:04:15,680 --> 00:04:17,880 Speaker 1: at least two, are both. I think both of the 73 00:04:17,880 --> 00:04:19,880 Speaker 1: more real. I don't know if she changed upgraded one 74 00:04:19,880 --> 00:04:22,839 Speaker 1: to not upgrade but downgraded I don't know, to a 75 00:04:23,000 --> 00:04:26,440 Speaker 1: pretty fake tree. Um, but both of them are themed 76 00:04:27,040 --> 00:04:30,479 Speaker 1: and one is traditional where it's like the kids put 77 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:32,480 Speaker 1: decorations on here, but the other one is that fancy 78 00:04:33,120 --> 00:04:37,919 Speaker 1: French like decorations with pretty crystals all over it or 79 00:04:38,000 --> 00:04:39,480 Speaker 1: ornaments all over it, And I'm like, what is this? 80 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:42,359 Speaker 1: What is happening? But yeah, she is the queen of 81 00:04:42,440 --> 00:04:47,360 Speaker 1: that reads everywhere. Um So after watching all the hard 82 00:04:47,360 --> 00:04:49,640 Speaker 1: work she has to do, and it's a chore, I'm like, nah, 83 00:04:49,680 --> 00:04:55,960 Speaker 1: I'm good, Yeah, I'm good not doing that. Yeah. Um, 84 00:04:56,000 --> 00:04:58,400 Speaker 1: I do think some people really enjoy it. But it is. 85 00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:00,520 Speaker 1: It is work. In either case, do you enjoy it 86 00:05:00,560 --> 00:05:03,320 Speaker 1: or not, it is work. Um. And I do want 87 00:05:03,320 --> 00:05:08,760 Speaker 1: to shout out my traditional in between holiday of cheese giving, um, 88 00:05:08,839 --> 00:05:13,080 Speaker 1: which I just saw that Ritz has it. I'm not 89 00:05:13,120 --> 00:05:14,840 Speaker 1: going to get this, but I just want to let 90 00:05:14,880 --> 00:05:17,280 Speaker 1: everyone know that it exists. They have a cheese plate 91 00:05:17,360 --> 00:05:19,880 Speaker 1: that you can get where the plate is a giant 92 00:05:20,000 --> 00:05:24,320 Speaker 1: Ritz cracker. Is it an actual edible cracker or shaped 93 00:05:24,400 --> 00:05:28,200 Speaker 1: like a cracker? It's an edible cracker. I'm to look 94 00:05:28,240 --> 00:05:31,359 Speaker 1: into this. Yes, So Che's Giving is what it sounds like. 95 00:05:31,400 --> 00:05:33,719 Speaker 1: It's me and a group of very big cheese fans 96 00:05:34,040 --> 00:05:37,840 Speaker 1: who do our friends giving a specifically cheese themes it. 97 00:05:38,040 --> 00:05:41,280 Speaker 1: This is the fourth annual cheese giving. Love it? Yeah, 98 00:05:41,320 --> 00:05:43,599 Speaker 1: I love good friends giving like I look forward to 99 00:05:43,640 --> 00:05:46,680 Speaker 1: that more than anything else to be where and unfortunately 100 00:05:46,720 --> 00:05:48,800 Speaker 1: this year is a little different. But yeah, I did 101 00:05:48,839 --> 00:05:52,280 Speaker 1: love that every year. And typically we have the one 102 00:05:52,320 --> 00:05:55,640 Speaker 1: person who always hosts, so we always wait for that, 103 00:05:56,000 --> 00:05:58,560 Speaker 1: or if there's three different people, but I always have 104 00:05:58,640 --> 00:06:03,719 Speaker 1: the one that I make sure I'm on. Yes, um. 105 00:06:03,800 --> 00:06:06,200 Speaker 1: And if you're listening to this and you're freaking out 106 00:06:06,240 --> 00:06:09,560 Speaker 1: and you're thinking, but what don't you know there's a pandemic. Yes, 107 00:06:09,920 --> 00:06:12,200 Speaker 1: we do, and that's why we said things that were 108 00:06:12,200 --> 00:06:13,640 Speaker 1: going to look a bit different this year. And we're 109 00:06:13,640 --> 00:06:16,800 Speaker 1: going to talk about all of that. So if you're 110 00:06:16,800 --> 00:06:19,320 Speaker 1: really not looking to hear anything about the pandemic, that's 111 00:06:19,360 --> 00:06:23,640 Speaker 1: totally cool. You can come back listen later. Also, we're 112 00:06:23,680 --> 00:06:25,480 Speaker 1: gonna have some good advice about it. So if you're 113 00:06:25,520 --> 00:06:30,560 Speaker 1: trying I used to think of think things through this year, yes, um. 114 00:06:30,760 --> 00:06:33,920 Speaker 1: And you know, creative ways to celebrate or hold onto 115 00:06:34,000 --> 00:06:38,440 Speaker 1: traditions where you can where it's safe. Um. We do 116 00:06:38,520 --> 00:06:42,360 Speaker 1: have all of that in this are jam packed holiday episode, because, 117 00:06:42,360 --> 00:06:45,120 Speaker 1: believe it or not, the holidays are coming. I had 118 00:06:45,160 --> 00:06:48,920 Speaker 1: a moment of shockuin. I think it was a whiskey 119 00:06:48,960 --> 00:06:51,839 Speaker 1: commercial and it had Christmas music in the in it, 120 00:06:51,880 --> 00:06:53,560 Speaker 1: and I was like, what is this? But then I 121 00:06:53,560 --> 00:06:55,239 Speaker 1: looked at the date and I was like, oh, yeah, 122 00:06:55,360 --> 00:07:00,080 Speaker 1: all right. And we have done episodes before on the 123 00:07:00,120 --> 00:07:03,880 Speaker 1: show about how specifically stressful holidays can be for women. 124 00:07:03,960 --> 00:07:07,560 Speaker 1: We did emotional Labor Holiday Edition episode, for instance. But 125 00:07:08,440 --> 00:07:10,920 Speaker 1: in the year of a pandemic and a very divisive 126 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:14,120 Speaker 1: presidential election here in the United States, coupled with job 127 00:07:14,160 --> 00:07:18,640 Speaker 1: losses and increases an unpaid domestic work for women disproportionately 128 00:07:18,680 --> 00:07:22,040 Speaker 1: impacting women. All of these things, UM, these times are 129 00:07:22,600 --> 00:07:24,840 Speaker 1: even more stressful, so we wanted to take a look 130 00:07:24,840 --> 00:07:28,360 Speaker 1: at that, right. So A recent survey found the seventy 131 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:33,280 Speaker 1: of Americans believe this will be their most challenging winter ever. 132 00:07:33,400 --> 00:07:37,920 Speaker 1: And I think there's a lot more than that. In 133 00:07:38,040 --> 00:07:42,679 Speaker 1: all honesty, UM, and believed that the coronavirus will search 134 00:07:42,800 --> 00:07:44,920 Speaker 1: in the winter, and we've been told that kind of 135 00:07:44,960 --> 00:07:47,920 Speaker 1: a lot lately on media, and most responded is reported 136 00:07:47,960 --> 00:07:50,560 Speaker 1: COVID as their biggest fear going into the holiday season 137 00:07:50,560 --> 00:07:54,200 Speaker 1: at over fifty which is less than I thought, but 138 00:07:54,240 --> 00:07:55,880 Speaker 1: I guess that kind of goes with where we are 139 00:07:56,040 --> 00:07:59,480 Speaker 1: in society. One third reported the election as their biggest 140 00:07:59,480 --> 00:08:02,520 Speaker 1: stressor to in quarantine and job insecurity came in third. 141 00:08:03,000 --> 00:08:05,600 Speaker 1: All of this means that sixty seven of the participants 142 00:08:05,680 --> 00:08:10,080 Speaker 1: reported they think the pandemic will ruin their holidays. Yeah, 143 00:08:10,120 --> 00:08:12,600 Speaker 1: I think that. I think this article was called Christmas 144 00:08:12,680 --> 00:08:18,440 Speaker 1: Year appropriate. Another poll found that instead of gifts, people 145 00:08:18,440 --> 00:08:20,520 Speaker 1: are stocking up on essentials and home goods in case 146 00:08:20,560 --> 00:08:23,720 Speaker 1: of quarantine and or shelter in place orders. About half 147 00:08:23,720 --> 00:08:26,320 Speaker 1: reported stocking up on face mask and the same number 148 00:08:26,360 --> 00:08:28,880 Speaker 1: said they were stocking up on toilet paper, tissues and 149 00:08:29,120 --> 00:08:32,520 Speaker 1: towels for and ten are stocking up on canned goods. 150 00:08:32,520 --> 00:08:35,520 Speaker 1: And over half report that due to the pandemic, they 151 00:08:35,520 --> 00:08:37,960 Speaker 1: won't be able to afford repairs to their heating systems 152 00:08:38,000 --> 00:08:42,960 Speaker 1: if something breaks in the winter. Yeah. Another poll found 153 00:08:42,960 --> 00:08:45,080 Speaker 1: that in the US, women are far more worried about 154 00:08:45,120 --> 00:08:48,400 Speaker 1: finances during this coming winter than men, and personal debt 155 00:08:48,400 --> 00:08:51,640 Speaker 1: in Europe is at an all time high. Yeah. And 156 00:08:51,800 --> 00:08:54,559 Speaker 1: Vice just published an article about how to tell people 157 00:08:54,679 --> 00:08:57,480 Speaker 1: you won't be at their holiday celebrations, which we're going 158 00:08:57,520 --> 00:09:03,560 Speaker 1: to get into later. M hm. I definitely need this advice. Um. 159 00:09:03,600 --> 00:09:06,679 Speaker 1: And of course a lot of traditions we participate in 160 00:09:06,920 --> 00:09:10,760 Speaker 1: our on hold stores are trying to mitigate one of them, 161 00:09:10,920 --> 00:09:13,959 Speaker 1: Black Friday by shifting from one day sales and stores 162 00:09:14,000 --> 00:09:18,560 Speaker 1: to slow rollouts of seals online. And that's why, as 163 00:09:18,600 --> 00:09:23,480 Speaker 1: you you all probably noticed, commercials and advertising for holiday 164 00:09:23,520 --> 00:09:26,160 Speaker 1: shopping did start earlier this year. In fact, you were 165 00:09:26,200 --> 00:09:28,800 Speaker 1: not imagining it. It's because they're trying to do this 166 00:09:28,920 --> 00:09:33,080 Speaker 1: slower rollout, uh, and just give it more time rather 167 00:09:33,120 --> 00:09:36,160 Speaker 1: than having a bunch of people go in person to 168 00:09:36,200 --> 00:09:39,640 Speaker 1: a store. UM. As we know, we are breaking COVID 169 00:09:39,679 --> 00:09:42,680 Speaker 1: records here in the US UH, and the virus is surging. 170 00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:45,800 Speaker 1: We have been warned about a dark winter, which is 171 00:09:45,800 --> 00:09:48,680 Speaker 1: a quote I'm not making that up. In part because 172 00:09:48,720 --> 00:09:51,760 Speaker 1: of the seasonal flu, people getting slack about social distancing 173 00:09:51,760 --> 00:09:54,880 Speaker 1: and precautions, which is called pandemic fatigue, by the way, 174 00:09:55,080 --> 00:09:57,400 Speaker 1: and because previous holidays like Labor Day and Fourth of 175 00:09:57,480 --> 00:10:01,040 Speaker 1: July saw upticks in faction rights. So you know, you 176 00:10:01,040 --> 00:10:06,600 Speaker 1: get to the end of the year and you have Thanksgiving, UH, Christmas, Hanukah, 177 00:10:06,960 --> 00:10:09,280 Speaker 1: New Year's whenever you celebrate, there's a lot of holidays 178 00:10:09,400 --> 00:10:14,120 Speaker 1: like kind of pretty close together. Yeah, so that's causing 179 00:10:14,280 --> 00:10:17,280 Speaker 1: officials a lot of concern and they predict that something 180 00:10:17,320 --> 00:10:20,319 Speaker 1: similar or worse where will happen this year end of 181 00:10:20,400 --> 00:10:23,720 Speaker 1: year holidays UM. Just for a reference on a non 182 00:10:23,760 --> 00:10:26,920 Speaker 1: pandemic year, over fifty million Americans travel more than fifty 183 00:10:26,920 --> 00:10:31,840 Speaker 1: miles for Thanksgiving, for instance. Surveys suggest that that number 184 00:10:31,920 --> 00:10:33,920 Speaker 1: is going to be cut in half this year, but 185 00:10:34,200 --> 00:10:35,719 Speaker 1: it remains to be seen. I've seen a lot of 186 00:10:35,760 --> 00:10:39,000 Speaker 1: different numbers around that, UM, but it does seem it's 187 00:10:39,040 --> 00:10:42,560 Speaker 1: going to be significantly less um cardships over your July 188 00:10:42,600 --> 00:10:44,920 Speaker 1: four and Labor Day over one miles but less than 189 00:10:44,960 --> 00:10:47,920 Speaker 1: five hundred miles rose by decent amount this year compared 190 00:10:47,960 --> 00:10:52,199 Speaker 1: to last. So that's sort of contradicting that previous data 191 00:10:52,280 --> 00:10:54,880 Speaker 1: I just mentioned. But it's people are more willing to 192 00:10:54,920 --> 00:10:59,000 Speaker 1: travel short distances in cars if they're traveling, right, And 193 00:10:59,080 --> 00:11:01,840 Speaker 1: I wonder what that looked flight for flights and such, 194 00:11:01,880 --> 00:11:04,600 Speaker 1: because I can't imagine it's going to increase in any 195 00:11:04,679 --> 00:11:08,800 Speaker 1: leaks way. Yeah, well, it's it's interesting because a lot 196 00:11:08,800 --> 00:11:11,920 Speaker 1: of airlines are slashing their prices. But I just read 197 00:11:11,960 --> 00:11:14,480 Speaker 1: a new survey that came out that says seventy of 198 00:11:14,520 --> 00:11:17,199 Speaker 1: Americans are anxious about flying. So I don't know that 199 00:11:17,240 --> 00:11:20,600 Speaker 1: should we need things? Um? Yeah? And the CDC has 200 00:11:20,640 --> 00:11:23,800 Speaker 1: already published guidelines on how to safely celebrate the holidays 201 00:11:23,880 --> 00:11:27,320 Speaker 1: during this pandemic, which we need and essentially is stay 202 00:11:27,360 --> 00:11:31,160 Speaker 1: at home yea story which for some of us is 203 00:11:31,200 --> 00:11:34,560 Speaker 1: really tough after being isolated for months and for various reasons, 204 00:11:34,840 --> 00:11:36,920 Speaker 1: the holidays can be difficult if you happen to be 205 00:11:37,200 --> 00:11:41,320 Speaker 1: or live alone. Right, Okay, so let's break down these 206 00:11:41,320 --> 00:11:46,200 Speaker 1: CDC guidelines um quote. The COVID nineteen pandemic has been 207 00:11:46,240 --> 00:11:49,360 Speaker 1: stressful and isolating for many people. Gatherings during the upcoming 208 00:11:49,360 --> 00:11:51,800 Speaker 1: holidays can be an opportunity to reconnect with family and 209 00:11:51,800 --> 00:11:54,840 Speaker 1: friends this holiday season. Consider how your holiday plans can 210 00:11:54,840 --> 00:11:57,439 Speaker 1: be modified to reduce the spread of COVID nineteen to 211 00:11:57,559 --> 00:12:02,120 Speaker 1: keep your friends, families, and communities healthy and safe. Unfortunately, 212 00:12:02,280 --> 00:12:05,360 Speaker 1: the COVID nineteen epidemic is worsening, and small household gatherings 213 00:12:05,360 --> 00:12:08,679 Speaker 1: are an important contributor to their eyes in COVID nineteen cases. 214 00:12:09,000 --> 00:12:11,720 Speaker 1: C DC offers the following considerations to slow the spread 215 00:12:11,720 --> 00:12:15,560 Speaker 1: of COVID nineteen during small gatherings. These considerations are meant 216 00:12:15,559 --> 00:12:19,120 Speaker 1: to supplement, not replace, any state, local, territorial, or tribal 217 00:12:19,160 --> 00:12:22,160 Speaker 1: health and safety laws, rules and regulations with which all 218 00:12:22,200 --> 00:12:27,000 Speaker 1: gatherings must comply. The last bit right there um and 219 00:12:27,080 --> 00:12:30,000 Speaker 1: they suggest virtual hangouts if you're not too tired of them. 220 00:12:30,360 --> 00:12:33,360 Speaker 1: Celebrating virtually or with members of your own household who 221 00:12:33,360 --> 00:12:35,800 Speaker 1: are consistently taking measures to reduce the spread of COVID 222 00:12:35,840 --> 00:12:39,840 Speaker 1: nineteen poses the lowest risk of spread in person gatherings 223 00:12:39,920 --> 00:12:42,960 Speaker 1: that bring together family members or friends from different households, 224 00:12:43,080 --> 00:12:47,400 Speaker 1: including college students, returning home poses varying levels of risk, 225 00:12:47,440 --> 00:12:51,840 Speaker 1: and I feel like and obvious, Yeah, but I hadn't. 226 00:12:51,920 --> 00:12:54,800 Speaker 1: I was reading all these articles about this sort of 227 00:12:55,000 --> 00:12:57,440 Speaker 1: terrible situation. A lot of college students are in where 228 00:12:57,440 --> 00:13:00,120 Speaker 1: they were sort kind of tricks into coming back to 229 00:13:00,240 --> 00:13:02,800 Speaker 1: campus and now they're like, actually it's really bad, go home, 230 00:13:05,040 --> 00:13:07,600 Speaker 1: and then having to make these decisions about well I 231 00:13:07,640 --> 00:13:11,960 Speaker 1: have this person with this amount of risk and whatever household. Um, 232 00:13:12,000 --> 00:13:15,120 Speaker 1: so it's complicated. And also I read another article that 233 00:13:15,240 --> 00:13:17,640 Speaker 1: really advised that you thought of it in three levels 234 00:13:17,679 --> 00:13:21,559 Speaker 1: of personal and then whoever you're going to be interacting 235 00:13:21,559 --> 00:13:23,520 Speaker 1: with if you do go to a holiday celebration, but 236 00:13:23,559 --> 00:13:28,880 Speaker 1: then also societally, because we're all suffering from this and 237 00:13:29,040 --> 00:13:31,880 Speaker 1: you don't know who you're impacting on that level. So, 238 00:13:32,000 --> 00:13:35,559 Speaker 1: like we talked about the wedding in which people did 239 00:13:35,559 --> 00:13:39,719 Speaker 1: spread it, none of them got super sick or hospitalized, 240 00:13:39,760 --> 00:13:42,680 Speaker 1: but people that they knew that they carried out to, 241 00:13:42,880 --> 00:13:44,839 Speaker 1: they're the ones who have suffered the most. So it's 242 00:13:44,840 --> 00:13:47,320 Speaker 1: gonna like you not only see within your small group, 243 00:13:47,320 --> 00:13:53,040 Speaker 1: but it becomes a big super spreader. Yeah. Um, And 244 00:13:53,120 --> 00:13:58,280 Speaker 1: the CDC asked that people consider when you're deciding whether 245 00:13:58,360 --> 00:14:01,400 Speaker 1: or not to travel for the holidays, things like UM, 246 00:14:01,679 --> 00:14:04,080 Speaker 1: community levels of COVID nineteen, both where you are and 247 00:14:04,120 --> 00:14:06,360 Speaker 1: where you are going, and any stops you might take 248 00:14:06,360 --> 00:14:10,360 Speaker 1: along the way, exposure during travel, location of gathering, duration 249 00:14:10,360 --> 00:14:13,080 Speaker 1: of gathering, the number and crowding of people at the gathering, 250 00:14:13,400 --> 00:14:17,920 Speaker 1: and behaviors of attendees before and during the gathering and 251 00:14:18,000 --> 00:14:25,120 Speaker 1: the gathering sounds. So it's ah, it is um. But um. Also, 252 00:14:25,280 --> 00:14:28,200 Speaker 1: as we know right now, in anticipation of all of this, 253 00:14:28,360 --> 00:14:32,360 Speaker 1: some some places like Chicago have put down lockdown order. 254 00:14:32,440 --> 00:14:36,320 Speaker 1: So also definitely check that where you going, where you 255 00:14:36,320 --> 00:14:40,480 Speaker 1: are right and of course they advise you should not 256 00:14:40,560 --> 00:14:43,920 Speaker 1: attend if you have any symptoms, are waiting for test results, 257 00:14:44,080 --> 00:14:46,840 Speaker 1: have been exposed to anyone who tested positive and or 258 00:14:46,880 --> 00:14:52,359 Speaker 1: at higher risk. Yeah, and they also recommend maintaining social distancing, 259 00:14:52,480 --> 00:14:56,200 Speaker 1: wearing masks, candwashing, and avoiding physical contact with anyone not 260 00:14:56,320 --> 00:15:01,880 Speaker 1: from your household. Um. And we're gonna talk about this 261 00:15:01,920 --> 00:15:04,760 Speaker 1: more later. I just have a lot of anxieties around 262 00:15:04,800 --> 00:15:06,880 Speaker 1: this because I feel like a lot of things start 263 00:15:06,960 --> 00:15:11,640 Speaker 1: that way and they don't end that way. UM. For 264 00:15:11,800 --> 00:15:16,640 Speaker 1: various breathons Um. The CDC has a bunch of chips 265 00:15:17,200 --> 00:15:19,400 Speaker 1: if you want. I mean, it's not like the happiest 266 00:15:19,440 --> 00:15:22,840 Speaker 1: thing there They're throw on their website and some of them, 267 00:15:22,840 --> 00:15:26,760 Speaker 1: I like conclude go encourage guests to avoid singing or 268 00:15:26,920 --> 00:15:32,680 Speaker 1: shouting some matha, especially indoors. Keep music levels down so 269 00:15:32,800 --> 00:15:35,760 Speaker 1: people don't have to shout or speak loudly to be heard, 270 00:15:35,840 --> 00:15:42,160 Speaker 1: so no karaoke. Um. They also suggest avoiding potluck style meals. 271 00:15:42,840 --> 00:15:47,040 Speaker 1: Makes sense, um. In short, Yeah, the holidays are going 272 00:15:47,080 --> 00:15:51,720 Speaker 1: to be very different this year, right, Um. But as 273 00:15:51,760 --> 00:15:54,800 Speaker 1: we've talked about in past holiday episodes and past COVID 274 00:15:54,880 --> 00:15:57,480 Speaker 1: nineteen episodes, a lot of the burden of both the 275 00:15:57,520 --> 00:16:00,800 Speaker 1: holidays and implementing these safety protocols fall and will most 276 00:16:00,840 --> 00:16:05,080 Speaker 1: likely fall on women. Everything has an extra step now 277 00:16:05,240 --> 00:16:07,200 Speaker 1: and we've seen this and it is everything has an 278 00:16:07,240 --> 00:16:10,280 Speaker 1: extra thought process as well, um, and one that people's 279 00:16:10,320 --> 00:16:12,960 Speaker 1: health depends on. You can't just clean, you have to 280 00:16:13,160 --> 00:16:16,400 Speaker 1: de clean and disinfect, spread everything down. You can't just 281 00:16:16,520 --> 00:16:19,640 Speaker 1: invite people now, there are all these conversations and considerations 282 00:16:19,680 --> 00:16:22,320 Speaker 1: to be had, and you have to have rules in place, 283 00:16:22,360 --> 00:16:25,280 Speaker 1: and then then monitoring and making sure that they adhere 284 00:16:25,280 --> 00:16:29,080 Speaker 1: to them, which is the whole thing. It's very exactly 285 00:16:29,200 --> 00:16:31,960 Speaker 1: written for me. Um. And where are you going to host? 286 00:16:32,080 --> 00:16:33,800 Speaker 1: Is it in your small house or are you gonna 287 00:16:33,800 --> 00:16:36,960 Speaker 1: go outside? Is it gonna rain? Um? And the CDC 288 00:16:37,160 --> 00:16:41,200 Speaker 1: recommends outside mills. Again, is that feasible? If not? What's 289 00:16:41,240 --> 00:16:43,520 Speaker 1: the largest room in the house and doesn't mean people 290 00:16:43,520 --> 00:16:46,960 Speaker 1: will pass through the kitchen. All these extra considerations that 291 00:16:47,040 --> 00:16:51,240 Speaker 1: come with heavily implications literally life and death. And again 292 00:16:51,320 --> 00:16:54,320 Speaker 1: it falls on women who are mainly the host, hostess, 293 00:16:54,440 --> 00:16:56,240 Speaker 1: whatever you want to call it. Who are the ones 294 00:16:56,280 --> 00:16:58,200 Speaker 1: that make plans for this, Who are the ones that 295 00:16:58,400 --> 00:17:01,800 Speaker 1: UM end up coordinating the all of those things. It's 296 00:17:01,840 --> 00:17:05,240 Speaker 1: the whole thing, absolutely, And as we talked about in 297 00:17:05,240 --> 00:17:09,080 Speaker 1: our recent episode with Bridget the other side of that 298 00:17:09,240 --> 00:17:11,919 Speaker 1: is women do make up a lot of the essential 299 00:17:11,960 --> 00:17:15,040 Speaker 1: workers who are likely to come in contact if we 300 00:17:15,119 --> 00:17:20,520 Speaker 1: are not following the safety protocols. So it's the double 301 00:17:20,800 --> 00:17:23,240 Speaker 1: it's a double women, actually a triple wommy because there's 302 00:17:23,280 --> 00:17:28,520 Speaker 1: also the financial burden of gift giving, especially for mothers UM, 303 00:17:28,560 --> 00:17:31,840 Speaker 1: which is greater due to COVID for a lot of women. 304 00:17:31,880 --> 00:17:33,879 Speaker 1: Who is going to have the conversation with the kids 305 00:17:34,119 --> 00:17:36,560 Speaker 1: about gifts. Who's going to be blamed and feel guilt 306 00:17:36,560 --> 00:17:38,840 Speaker 1: for not being able to meet the high expectations we 307 00:17:38,920 --> 00:17:44,080 Speaker 1: put on Christmas for children usually mothers, right, Um, And 308 00:17:44,119 --> 00:17:46,240 Speaker 1: there's this whole conversation about the fact that this year 309 00:17:46,280 --> 00:17:49,439 Speaker 1: alone we've only gotten one stimulus check and what does 310 00:17:49,480 --> 00:17:52,400 Speaker 1: that look like as we are coming into this holiday 311 00:17:52,440 --> 00:17:56,360 Speaker 1: season where you're supposed to have a huge celebration with presents. 312 00:17:56,920 --> 00:17:59,239 Speaker 1: And then I also saw a tweet about how, uh, 313 00:18:00,000 --> 00:18:02,920 Speaker 1: maybe we should stop talking about Santa giving presents because 314 00:18:02,920 --> 00:18:05,240 Speaker 1: it does seem really unfair for the children who didn't 315 00:18:05,280 --> 00:18:07,639 Speaker 1: get as much. It's like you're not as good or 316 00:18:07,680 --> 00:18:10,520 Speaker 1: you're not as like. And it's a whole conversation about 317 00:18:10,560 --> 00:18:14,640 Speaker 1: what is the greater implications on society. But then, as 318 00:18:14,640 --> 00:18:18,720 Speaker 1: we mentioned before, the food, the CDC recommends that only 319 00:18:18,840 --> 00:18:21,479 Speaker 1: one person I think we just all need to buy 320 00:18:21,480 --> 00:18:24,480 Speaker 1: hair netzing gloves now, should be involved in the preparation 321 00:18:24,760 --> 00:18:27,160 Speaker 1: if members not of their household will be eating it, 322 00:18:27,359 --> 00:18:30,679 Speaker 1: and that they serve it and that DIDs just be 323 00:18:30,760 --> 00:18:34,960 Speaker 1: washed with warm, soapy water asap. Uh, that's a whole 324 00:18:35,000 --> 00:18:38,480 Speaker 1: thing too. I'm telling you what, I don't have a dishwasher. 325 00:18:38,560 --> 00:18:41,480 Speaker 1: It is so annoying, and I can't imagine putting on 326 00:18:41,520 --> 00:18:45,040 Speaker 1: a big party without having a dishwasher anyway, and then 327 00:18:45,119 --> 00:18:47,680 Speaker 1: being like, I'm hoping I sanitized it because I burned 328 00:18:47,720 --> 00:18:51,040 Speaker 1: my hand off when I was washing it. Just listeners 329 00:18:51,119 --> 00:18:53,760 Speaker 1: know that I have like thirty page say I wrote 330 00:18:53,800 --> 00:18:56,720 Speaker 1: on doing the dishes. So I'm with you, Samantha. I 331 00:18:56,800 --> 00:19:00,040 Speaker 1: was so angry one time. I was like, just a 332 00:19:00,720 --> 00:19:05,359 Speaker 1: responsibility of saying sorry and and I will say again, 333 00:19:05,440 --> 00:19:09,760 Speaker 1: these tasks usually fall to women anyway. Definitely in my 334 00:19:09,880 --> 00:19:13,119 Speaker 1: kitchen and my family's kitchen, after dinner is done, the 335 00:19:13,160 --> 00:19:15,240 Speaker 1: women sit in the kitchen while the men just kind 336 00:19:15,240 --> 00:19:19,160 Speaker 1: of disperse to wash dishes. Um. But now it's become 337 00:19:19,240 --> 00:19:23,160 Speaker 1: perhaps even lonelier and more stressful, And because you have 338 00:19:23,240 --> 00:19:25,760 Speaker 1: to concentrate on what you're doing, how quickly you're doing it, 339 00:19:25,800 --> 00:19:30,120 Speaker 1: and what is it affecting and has it contaminated anything. Well, 340 00:19:30,240 --> 00:19:36,640 Speaker 1: I also think that there's an added almost higher expectation. 341 00:19:36,720 --> 00:19:38,359 Speaker 1: I think it could go both ways, but I think 342 00:19:38,400 --> 00:19:41,440 Speaker 1: in some cases there's almost Well, we've been alone, we've 343 00:19:41,440 --> 00:19:44,960 Speaker 1: been isolated so long. I've got to make this feel 344 00:19:45,080 --> 00:19:48,879 Speaker 1: like happy. You're trying to downplay how much work it 345 00:19:49,000 --> 00:19:52,040 Speaker 1: is that you're putting into it, and not make people 346 00:19:52,160 --> 00:19:54,960 Speaker 1: feel nervous about Oh, I could you know this is 347 00:19:55,000 --> 00:19:59,719 Speaker 1: a strange and scary time, right um, and also make 348 00:19:59,720 --> 00:20:02,320 Speaker 1: people feel really good because you're not sure when you 349 00:20:02,400 --> 00:20:04,080 Speaker 1: might be able to see each other again. You don't 350 00:20:04,080 --> 00:20:06,520 Speaker 1: know what's gonna happen. And from my family specifically, my 351 00:20:06,600 --> 00:20:09,280 Speaker 1: nephew is coming home. He's been stationed in South Korea 352 00:20:09,359 --> 00:20:11,399 Speaker 1: for the past year and he's gonna get to come 353 00:20:11,440 --> 00:20:14,360 Speaker 1: home for Christmas. And it's kind of one of those 354 00:20:14,400 --> 00:20:17,440 Speaker 1: things of like, ah, we want to make it big 355 00:20:17,480 --> 00:20:20,440 Speaker 1: for you. You've been gone and you know you're trying 356 00:20:20,440 --> 00:20:22,760 Speaker 1: to get into adulthood, and and we want to celebrate 357 00:20:22,760 --> 00:20:26,120 Speaker 1: in His favorite thing is Christmas and going to extended 358 00:20:26,119 --> 00:20:29,160 Speaker 1: families get together and seeing everyone and we're all like, 359 00:20:29,280 --> 00:20:32,719 Speaker 1: oh Christmas, maybe three people at a time, and we're 360 00:20:32,760 --> 00:20:35,000 Speaker 1: gonna get the guest cards with gloves and not no 361 00:20:35,119 --> 00:20:39,879 Speaker 1: hugs because we're wearing masks. We need like catapults, some 362 00:20:39,960 --> 00:20:47,560 Speaker 1: kind of system perfect. I'm on and and and like 363 00:20:47,600 --> 00:20:50,119 Speaker 1: Samantha said, we are going to discuss ways to to 364 00:20:50,880 --> 00:20:52,520 Speaker 1: have these traditions in the best way you can you 365 00:20:52,560 --> 00:20:56,119 Speaker 1: certainly can have a virtual like big get together party 366 00:20:56,160 --> 00:20:58,880 Speaker 1: with the understanding that next year we're going to really 367 00:20:58,920 --> 00:21:01,639 Speaker 1: do it up. But don't make that promise unless you 368 00:21:01,680 --> 00:21:03,199 Speaker 1: really want to, because I feel like a lot of 369 00:21:03,200 --> 00:21:06,800 Speaker 1: people will be like then you feel even more pressure. 370 00:21:07,880 --> 00:21:11,480 Speaker 1: You don't want that. Um. But yeah, there's all of 371 00:21:11,520 --> 00:21:16,399 Speaker 1: this going on. Um. And also something to be said, 372 00:21:16,760 --> 00:21:19,840 Speaker 1: not all people and not all women are taking this 373 00:21:20,000 --> 00:21:25,359 Speaker 1: virus seriously, so these extra layers will not necessarily weigh 374 00:21:25,359 --> 00:21:27,879 Speaker 1: on them. UM, it will weigh on any person attending 375 00:21:27,920 --> 00:21:31,480 Speaker 1: or deciding not to attend, absolutely um who does take 376 00:21:31,480 --> 00:21:33,920 Speaker 1: it seriously. And as we discussed in our gender differences 377 00:21:33,920 --> 00:21:38,520 Speaker 1: in COVID nineteen episode, women are in general more likely 378 00:21:38,560 --> 00:21:41,280 Speaker 1: to take the pandemic and precautions more seriously, which means 379 00:21:41,320 --> 00:21:43,719 Speaker 1: it will probably fall to women more often to have 380 00:21:43,880 --> 00:21:50,879 Speaker 1: these tough conversations. So, uh, that's kind of overview of 381 00:21:50,960 --> 00:21:54,159 Speaker 1: where we're at. Um. We do have some more for 382 00:21:54,280 --> 00:21:56,080 Speaker 1: you listeners, but first we're going to positive a quick 383 00:21:56,080 --> 00:22:11,760 Speaker 1: break for a word from our sponsor. Hey we're back, 384 00:22:11,800 --> 00:22:16,040 Speaker 1: thank you, fine, sir. So, uh, it's not enough that 385 00:22:16,080 --> 00:22:19,399 Speaker 1: we have that going on in because of course, of course, 386 00:22:19,480 --> 00:22:23,879 Speaker 1: not we also have the election and the fallout of 387 00:22:23,960 --> 00:22:28,080 Speaker 1: the election. UM, and you listeners have probably heard a 388 00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:29,800 Speaker 1: lot of the tips when it comes to politics during 389 00:22:29,800 --> 00:22:32,520 Speaker 1: the holidays. I know we've discussed in the past some 390 00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:35,560 Speaker 1: of those, and I did read some really interesting ones 391 00:22:35,840 --> 00:22:38,879 Speaker 1: UM like designated politics free zone. Make sure everyone is 392 00:22:38,920 --> 00:22:41,600 Speaker 1: on the same page about that politics free zone or 393 00:22:41,600 --> 00:22:44,080 Speaker 1: whatnot win or wherever we're going to discuss politics or 394 00:22:44,119 --> 00:22:49,600 Speaker 1: not UM. But personally, I feel like everyone a has 395 00:22:49,680 --> 00:22:53,440 Speaker 1: to want to do that and be once alcohol gets flown, 396 00:22:53,440 --> 00:22:56,920 Speaker 1: if that's a thing at at your holiday gathering, UM, 397 00:22:56,960 --> 00:23:01,240 Speaker 1: I guarantee things like this UM will most likely go 398 00:23:01,359 --> 00:23:04,400 Speaker 1: out the window. You're you're designated no politics zone will 399 00:23:04,520 --> 00:23:08,040 Speaker 1: not be that anymore. However, I do think that's worth 400 00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:09,679 Speaker 1: the shot if that If you think that something that 401 00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:12,000 Speaker 1: could work in your family, I think it's worth a shot. 402 00:23:12,040 --> 00:23:13,959 Speaker 1: But I do think you also need to be realistic 403 00:23:14,440 --> 00:23:17,640 Speaker 1: in your own context and your own circumstances if if 404 00:23:17,640 --> 00:23:20,840 Speaker 1: that would work. I know I've mentioned before my mom 405 00:23:20,960 --> 00:23:24,200 Speaker 1: has a silly hats rule that's so far has worked 406 00:23:24,240 --> 00:23:26,680 Speaker 1: for our family. We generally agree on politics, but we 407 00:23:26,760 --> 00:23:29,639 Speaker 1: definitely had some blowouts. This was more for like personal disagreements. 408 00:23:29,640 --> 00:23:32,240 Speaker 1: So but she had she and stated this rule where 409 00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:34,000 Speaker 1: when you walk into the house you have to put 410 00:23:34,000 --> 00:23:36,400 Speaker 1: on a hat, a very silly hat of her choosing. 411 00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:39,280 Speaker 1: And it's just really hard to fight people when you're 412 00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:41,200 Speaker 1: in a silly hat, and you're in a silly hat, right. 413 00:23:42,040 --> 00:23:46,600 Speaker 1: I think my mom uses uh, religion and the Bible 414 00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:49,400 Speaker 1: as a way instead of like necessarily all that trying 415 00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:52,360 Speaker 1: to get sentimental because my family is very sentimental. Um, 416 00:23:52,440 --> 00:23:56,440 Speaker 1: And that's fine. They're steeped in family traditions based on religion. 417 00:23:57,040 --> 00:24:03,480 Speaker 1: So hopefully we'll see, uh, we've done really well. I 418 00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:06,000 Speaker 1: think as a family to not discuss it because I 419 00:24:06,040 --> 00:24:10,840 Speaker 1: am the outlier of this whole family contention, so they 420 00:24:10,880 --> 00:24:14,080 Speaker 1: don't talk about it with me specifically, and if they 421 00:24:14,119 --> 00:24:16,440 Speaker 1: do bring it up, I'm quick to shut it down 422 00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:21,239 Speaker 1: because my mom's base automatically goes into nervousness. Um. So 423 00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:23,320 Speaker 1: I tried to avoid that. But this year's course has 424 00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:25,560 Speaker 1: gotten a little more heated. Um. And then we also 425 00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:28,080 Speaker 1: do have COVID to talk about as well, so it's 426 00:24:28,080 --> 00:24:31,320 Speaker 1: always fun um. And yeah, exactly with the COVID stuff, 427 00:24:31,359 --> 00:24:33,679 Speaker 1: you have to start thinking about this as a stressor 428 00:24:33,720 --> 00:24:35,399 Speaker 1: of what's going to happen. So you start thinking about 429 00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:39,040 Speaker 1: people with pre existing conditions, UM, older relatives, if they're 430 00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:41,960 Speaker 1: coming through a fear of not seeing people again, because 431 00:24:41,960 --> 00:24:45,160 Speaker 1: this is the big holidays like family time, and even 432 00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:47,520 Speaker 1: I think you and I have talked about For me, 433 00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:50,159 Speaker 1: I like I said, I really enjoy friends giving because 434 00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:54,199 Speaker 1: that's kind of my relief for wanting to be with 435 00:24:54,240 --> 00:24:57,600 Speaker 1: people is my chosen family, and not being able to 436 00:24:57,640 --> 00:25:00,880 Speaker 1: see them again, it's really disappointing. And I'm wondering when 437 00:25:00,920 --> 00:25:03,520 Speaker 1: are we going to and because we are overly cautious, 438 00:25:03,680 --> 00:25:05,080 Speaker 1: we are the ones that's gonna be like now we're 439 00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:08,320 Speaker 1: not doing this, We're shutting this down. Now that's the 440 00:25:08,320 --> 00:25:10,719 Speaker 1: whole thing. And then so just kind of like my 441 00:25:10,840 --> 00:25:13,119 Speaker 1: nephew coming home because he was in the military. But 442 00:25:13,160 --> 00:25:15,439 Speaker 1: some people here from other countries won't be able to 443 00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:17,800 Speaker 1: return home, whether they want to or not because of 444 00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:21,200 Speaker 1: all the travel restrictions. So they are finding themselves alone 445 00:25:21,240 --> 00:25:25,159 Speaker 1: when they didn't anticipate to do so because us have 446 00:25:25,240 --> 00:25:30,920 Speaker 1: been put on a band list. I read some interviews 447 00:25:30,920 --> 00:25:35,120 Speaker 1: with people who said, um, and this is really unfortunate. 448 00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:37,840 Speaker 1: But they said if if the band lifts or when 449 00:25:37,920 --> 00:25:39,800 Speaker 1: it briefly, did they just went home even though they 450 00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:41,719 Speaker 1: knew it wasn't safe and went back to their country 451 00:25:41,720 --> 00:25:44,880 Speaker 1: in question because they didn't know if the dam would 452 00:25:44,880 --> 00:25:47,200 Speaker 1: come back, or how long it would be in place 453 00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:52,560 Speaker 1: or whatever things like that. So yeah, that's another another stressor. 454 00:25:52,920 --> 00:25:55,439 Speaker 1: And then again college students we talked about this before, 455 00:25:55,480 --> 00:25:58,200 Speaker 1: who went back to campuses that didn't put safety precautions 456 00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:01,320 Speaker 1: in place. That's a tough choice on what to do 457 00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:04,080 Speaker 1: for their family even though they missed them. You know, 458 00:26:04,160 --> 00:26:06,320 Speaker 1: this is kind of that. I remember being in college 459 00:26:06,320 --> 00:26:09,800 Speaker 1: and wanting to return home being cool and independent, but 460 00:26:10,040 --> 00:26:11,879 Speaker 1: you know, I want to be around my family sometimes. 461 00:26:11,920 --> 00:26:16,399 Speaker 1: And that was a nice little uh reprieve from dorm life. 462 00:26:16,400 --> 00:26:18,760 Speaker 1: And I know some dorms actually just shut down during 463 00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:22,560 Speaker 1: the holiday season. Did you have to leave anyway? Mm hmm. Yeah. 464 00:26:22,560 --> 00:26:27,720 Speaker 1: And then where do you go exactly? Well, let's let's 465 00:26:27,760 --> 00:26:30,040 Speaker 1: look at some options and then we're gonna try to 466 00:26:30,080 --> 00:26:32,560 Speaker 1: close this out on a more beat note. We got 467 00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:36,840 Speaker 1: some recipes to share with you, but before we get there, 468 00:26:36,880 --> 00:26:40,520 Speaker 1: In general, UM, the communication part of this is key, 469 00:26:40,680 --> 00:26:42,679 Speaker 1: and making sure that everyone is on the same page 470 00:26:43,240 --> 00:26:46,240 Speaker 1: is key. UM. And you have to start planning early 471 00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:51,280 Speaker 1: because visiting safely is going to take longer to plan. Um. Again, 472 00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:53,879 Speaker 1: check check the guidelines in every state you're in the 473 00:26:53,920 --> 00:26:57,439 Speaker 1: state you're going to if that applies. And yes, some 474 00:26:57,560 --> 00:27:00,440 Speaker 1: of this advice might be too late for Thanksgivings since 475 00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:04,960 Speaker 1: as this comes out, but still applicable for other holidays. Um. 476 00:27:05,160 --> 00:27:10,040 Speaker 1: So let's talk about if you do decide to go 477 00:27:10,440 --> 00:27:17,240 Speaker 1: or to host right, make sure you're clear about your guidelines. Communicate, communicate, communicate, 478 00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:21,480 Speaker 1: and that everyone has the same definition of careful because 479 00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:24,960 Speaker 1: as we've learned, I think throughout this whole year, when 480 00:27:24,960 --> 00:27:27,760 Speaker 1: I say quarantine and when I say I'm taking precautions, 481 00:27:27,880 --> 00:27:32,120 Speaker 1: that's the whole different sentence to another person. Yes, absolutely, um, 482 00:27:32,160 --> 00:27:35,040 Speaker 1: And things like fourteen days quarantine in a plan, fourteen 483 00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:38,520 Speaker 1: days quarantine after require social distancing, all of those things. 484 00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:41,440 Speaker 1: And I also talked about the fact that, oh, I've 485 00:27:41,480 --> 00:27:43,800 Speaker 1: been keeping the six ft role because apparently six ft 486 00:27:43,880 --> 00:27:45,960 Speaker 1: is a lot smaller than I thought. Because when I 487 00:27:46,000 --> 00:27:47,800 Speaker 1: see when people like you know, in stores where they've 488 00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:49,240 Speaker 1: actually laid it out, I'm like, I don't want to 489 00:27:49,240 --> 00:27:50,720 Speaker 1: be that clue. I've never been lit close to a 490 00:27:50,720 --> 00:27:54,880 Speaker 1: person's stating in line. So apparently my definition of six 491 00:27:54,960 --> 00:27:57,399 Speaker 1: feet is like everybody, the reality is like twelve feet. 492 00:27:57,840 --> 00:28:03,320 Speaker 1: But again that's great, right, sure, I mean it's better 493 00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:07,520 Speaker 1: with it not make six stet Um. Yeah, and I've 494 00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:09,199 Speaker 1: heard I've read a lot of people who said, you know, 495 00:28:09,200 --> 00:28:11,320 Speaker 1: I've decided to do Christmas or not Thanksgiving, or I've 496 00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:12,959 Speaker 1: decided to do one and not the other. Because this 497 00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:15,200 Speaker 1: is all I mean, fourteen days of a strict quarantine 498 00:28:15,280 --> 00:28:18,280 Speaker 1: before and after. It's a lot. It might be worth 499 00:28:18,320 --> 00:28:22,000 Speaker 1: it to you, absolutely, but it is UM. And then 500 00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:24,679 Speaker 1: ask yourself questions like where will I stay if I 501 00:28:24,720 --> 00:28:27,000 Speaker 1: do plan on staying, what will I do if I 502 00:28:27,160 --> 00:28:31,320 Speaker 1: or someone else comes down with symptoms? The CDC has 503 00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:34,880 Speaker 1: answers to these questions are like best case practices. So 504 00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:38,240 Speaker 1: if this is something you're asking yourself, go check out 505 00:28:38,280 --> 00:28:41,760 Speaker 1: their website. UM ask people to bring their own food 506 00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:44,680 Speaker 1: and drinks, which would eliminate some of the stress for 507 00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:49,440 Speaker 1: the host. UM aim for a smaller gathering definitely. UM. 508 00:28:49,480 --> 00:28:53,040 Speaker 1: The less people from outside the household the better. Yeah. 509 00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:56,200 Speaker 1: And if you're traveling, drive of this feasible and try 510 00:28:56,240 --> 00:29:01,360 Speaker 1: to minimize stuff one gas trip don't go, and of 511 00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:05,200 Speaker 1: course get tested if possible. But remember false negatives are 512 00:29:05,240 --> 00:29:07,719 Speaker 1: a thing, and it doesn't mean in between your testing 513 00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:10,520 Speaker 1: and getting to the home that you might not get 514 00:29:10,520 --> 00:29:16,160 Speaker 1: it somewhere else. Yes, exactly. So those are some recommendations 515 00:29:16,200 --> 00:29:21,680 Speaker 1: for having these safe at possible family gatherings. But what 516 00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:25,560 Speaker 1: if you aren't decided not to go UM, Because the 517 00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:30,040 Speaker 1: safest thing is not to go, not to host UM 518 00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:33,680 Speaker 1: or not in person, you can still have a virtual 519 00:29:34,240 --> 00:29:37,480 Speaker 1: UM and if you have any doubts, experts really recommend 520 00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:40,240 Speaker 1: that you do that. UM. And I mean, this is 521 00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:42,920 Speaker 1: the ultimate time. If you do want to miss out, 522 00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:47,760 Speaker 1: this is it. It's here, here you go. UM. But 523 00:29:48,720 --> 00:29:51,480 Speaker 1: that's easier said than them in some cases, because we 524 00:29:51,480 --> 00:29:53,560 Speaker 1: do feel a lot of us do feel these pressures 525 00:29:54,040 --> 00:29:56,800 Speaker 1: to have these get togethers, to not quote let people 526 00:29:56,840 --> 00:30:02,840 Speaker 1: down people. I've definitely felt the from other other people, 527 00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:07,400 Speaker 1: like this push of but I really need this, You're like, UM. 528 00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:09,680 Speaker 1: So let's let's go back to that Vice article which 529 00:30:09,720 --> 00:30:14,200 Speaker 1: really uh made some waves a couple of weeks ago, UM, 530 00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:17,200 Speaker 1: about how to tell people you're not going. The first 531 00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:20,320 Speaker 1: thing was be confident in your decision and accept that 532 00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:24,000 Speaker 1: it's okay, Like just you've made the decision, allow no 533 00:30:24,200 --> 00:30:28,520 Speaker 1: room to be swayed. It's fine, Um, take into account 534 00:30:29,000 --> 00:30:31,479 Speaker 1: how whoever it is you're telling will react, and decide 535 00:30:31,480 --> 00:30:34,280 Speaker 1: the earliest point to tell them accordingly, as in, are 536 00:30:34,320 --> 00:30:35,960 Speaker 1: they going to harass you about it and try to 537 00:30:36,040 --> 00:30:37,840 Speaker 1: change your mind and you know that, maybe you wait 538 00:30:37,880 --> 00:30:41,040 Speaker 1: till later plan what you're going to say. Um, they 539 00:30:41,080 --> 00:30:43,800 Speaker 1: did say, tell them whoever it is, as early as 540 00:30:43,840 --> 00:30:46,320 Speaker 1: you think is the best because it's just polite, and 541 00:30:46,360 --> 00:30:48,880 Speaker 1: they don't give them more time to accept. But if 542 00:30:49,160 --> 00:30:52,040 Speaker 1: you know that they're gonna not listen to you, perhaps 543 00:30:52,120 --> 00:30:57,640 Speaker 1: then you can wait a little bit later. So of course, 544 00:30:57,840 --> 00:31:01,120 Speaker 1: allow the person to feel they are feelings. I think 545 00:31:01,120 --> 00:31:04,200 Speaker 1: we say that often, um, for a reasonable amount of time. 546 00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:06,160 Speaker 1: That is, so if they keep holding it over your head, 547 00:31:06,600 --> 00:31:09,400 Speaker 1: at some point you can just kind of move on. Again. 548 00:31:09,640 --> 00:31:14,440 Speaker 1: You don't owe anyone any promises about future holidays. Just 549 00:31:14,560 --> 00:31:17,800 Speaker 1: let them process their emotions and if you're disappointed, let 550 00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:21,920 Speaker 1: yourself build out too. Yeah, and I did crack up. 551 00:31:22,360 --> 00:31:25,000 Speaker 1: So this article has it's pretty decently long, and it 552 00:31:25,040 --> 00:31:27,960 Speaker 1: adds a kind of like scenario a scenario BEE. So 553 00:31:28,160 --> 00:31:30,120 Speaker 1: if you're if you're this is something you're shrugging with 554 00:31:30,200 --> 00:31:32,600 Speaker 1: go find it. But I did crack up thinking about 555 00:31:32,640 --> 00:31:34,320 Speaker 1: how funny it would be if you're preparing to tell 556 00:31:34,360 --> 00:31:38,360 Speaker 1: someone this, but they contacted you first with one of 557 00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:40,959 Speaker 1: these reasons are strategies, and you're like, wait, did you 558 00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:43,840 Speaker 1: read that Vice article too? But it would be good 559 00:31:43,840 --> 00:31:45,360 Speaker 1: because that means you guys are on the same page 560 00:31:45,400 --> 00:31:47,600 Speaker 1: and you just have to be a relieved, annoying off 561 00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:51,080 Speaker 1: good Exactly. Yeah, I mean that's the best case scenario, 562 00:31:51,160 --> 00:31:56,360 Speaker 1: realizing that you both have read the Vice article. Um, 563 00:31:56,400 --> 00:31:59,520 Speaker 1: if you want find virtual ways to continue traditions, I 564 00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:01,320 Speaker 1: feel like a lot of us have gotten really good 565 00:32:01,360 --> 00:32:05,320 Speaker 1: at this now. Um, cook the same breakfast, eat it together, 566 00:32:05,360 --> 00:32:09,360 Speaker 1: and your pgs have virtual watch parties for whatever holiday 567 00:32:09,360 --> 00:32:13,920 Speaker 1: movies so well are on your your lineup. Family recipe 568 00:32:13,960 --> 00:32:16,200 Speaker 1: swaps was a big one. Or dropping off favorite dishes 569 00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:18,720 Speaker 1: like pies at loved one's houses, whether you get it 570 00:32:18,760 --> 00:32:21,959 Speaker 1: delivered or you personally drop it off. If you send gifts, 571 00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:25,960 Speaker 1: opening them virtually together. Virtual ugly sweater contests are best 572 00:32:26,000 --> 00:32:28,440 Speaker 1: worst decorations a show and tell. I did that a 573 00:32:28,440 --> 00:32:31,600 Speaker 1: couple of weeks ago, and it was very fun. Um. 574 00:32:31,600 --> 00:32:34,720 Speaker 1: But yes, several of these things are not available to everyone. 575 00:32:35,160 --> 00:32:39,080 Speaker 1: The Internet is key. Um, it's certainly easier with a 576 00:32:39,160 --> 00:32:44,560 Speaker 1: working video not everyone has that. And then UM and 577 00:32:45,440 --> 00:32:48,320 Speaker 1: technical difficulties. I swear we've been doing that. We have 578 00:32:48,440 --> 00:32:49,959 Speaker 1: we have figured it out for the most part. But 579 00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:53,320 Speaker 1: I can't get the audio on my other computer, the 580 00:32:53,360 --> 00:32:56,560 Speaker 1: Skype to work. I don't know why. You never know. 581 00:32:56,800 --> 00:32:59,160 Speaker 1: I feel that from me. I have a reminder from 582 00:32:59,200 --> 00:33:01,680 Speaker 1: producer Andrew every month or so would be like, Samantha, 583 00:33:01,800 --> 00:33:05,400 Speaker 1: you did this again, can you fix it? So I'm 584 00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:08,320 Speaker 1: not gonna say I'm on it. And then I lost 585 00:33:08,400 --> 00:33:10,920 Speaker 1: the internet for like it felt like a week, but 586 00:33:10,960 --> 00:33:13,600 Speaker 1: it was only a day. I was going to exaggerate 587 00:33:13,640 --> 00:33:15,840 Speaker 1: a lot. It was only one day. But you know, 588 00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:19,040 Speaker 1: something like that could happen absolutely uh. And I also 589 00:33:19,160 --> 00:33:21,680 Speaker 1: remember that for some people this sort of isolation due 590 00:33:21,720 --> 00:33:25,440 Speaker 1: to pre existing conditions or even people like soldiers away 591 00:33:26,600 --> 00:33:31,400 Speaker 1: or abroad. UM, this isn't new. So it's totally okay 592 00:33:31,440 --> 00:33:35,720 Speaker 1: to uh feel hurt and isolated by these things. But 593 00:33:35,800 --> 00:33:40,920 Speaker 1: just remember context perspective. Who are you talking to? I 594 00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:43,960 Speaker 1: don't know? Always good? And of course you can also 595 00:33:44,040 --> 00:33:46,800 Speaker 1: volunteer and if there's something that appeals to you do it, 596 00:33:47,000 --> 00:33:49,200 Speaker 1: donate if you can. UM. I know one of my 597 00:33:49,200 --> 00:33:52,800 Speaker 1: favorite organizations, Women's Shelter, does a whole Christmas thing, um, 598 00:33:52,840 --> 00:33:54,280 Speaker 1: and we're not going to do the same thing this year. 599 00:33:54,360 --> 00:33:55,920 Speaker 1: Usually we get a big group of people and we 600 00:33:56,040 --> 00:33:58,840 Speaker 1: come together and since stuff. But instead, because I don't 601 00:33:58,840 --> 00:34:01,960 Speaker 1: want to deal with everybody having the pressure of trying 602 00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:04,280 Speaker 1: to get together doing things, I'm going to do my 603 00:34:04,320 --> 00:34:06,920 Speaker 1: own thing. And that's great. Um. Keep up your favorite 604 00:34:06,920 --> 00:34:11,400 Speaker 1: traditions where possible, making cookies, tree decorating, non tree decorating, 605 00:34:11,560 --> 00:34:15,239 Speaker 1: baby tree decorating, um, and things like that. And just 606 00:34:15,360 --> 00:34:18,080 Speaker 1: to put this out there, with the fact that we 607 00:34:18,120 --> 00:34:20,960 Speaker 1: have election stuff in Georgia, we have plenty of stuff 608 00:34:20,960 --> 00:34:23,600 Speaker 1: to volunteer with that alone, because it's definitely gonna be 609 00:34:23,680 --> 00:34:26,319 Speaker 1: during our Christmas season and then we'll be thinking about 610 00:34:26,360 --> 00:34:30,080 Speaker 1: it a lot um, as you can tell. And also 611 00:34:30,520 --> 00:34:32,600 Speaker 1: for those who do have these great traditions, please send 612 00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:36,839 Speaker 1: us pictures. Oh yes, please do. And I mean this 613 00:34:36,920 --> 00:34:40,200 Speaker 1: is an excellent time to think of new traditions too. Um. 614 00:34:40,280 --> 00:34:41,839 Speaker 1: You can, you can come up with a new one. 615 00:34:41,880 --> 00:34:45,120 Speaker 1: And I'm already I'm already worked shopping some ideas. I'm 616 00:34:45,120 --> 00:34:47,640 Speaker 1: still trying to find people. Just play among us with me, 617 00:34:48,040 --> 00:34:50,480 Speaker 1: the listeners, any of they all want to join and 618 00:34:50,520 --> 00:34:52,360 Speaker 1: have interest. Let us know, we're gonna set up a 619 00:34:52,360 --> 00:34:54,799 Speaker 1: game because I just want to play one good time 620 00:34:54,880 --> 00:34:58,960 Speaker 1: with some of our friends. I am so bad at 621 00:34:58,960 --> 00:35:01,240 Speaker 1: those games. I'm half to play it, but I feel 622 00:35:01,239 --> 00:35:04,520 Speaker 1: like every time I'm the person, it's immediately obvious. But 623 00:35:04,560 --> 00:35:06,080 Speaker 1: the thing is, we can't just see. We can't see 624 00:35:06,120 --> 00:35:09,160 Speaker 1: your face. You're just one of those little somehow my 625 00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:12,400 Speaker 1: avatar would make a weird, embarrassing face and you'd be like, 626 00:35:12,560 --> 00:35:15,160 Speaker 1: m oh, I have seen a lot of among us fails. 627 00:35:15,160 --> 00:35:21,439 Speaker 1: Were they telling themselves that would be mere fun? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, 628 00:35:21,480 --> 00:35:23,759 Speaker 1: yeah yeah. I mean let us know listeners for sure, 629 00:35:25,120 --> 00:35:27,080 Speaker 1: and to check in with people. For a lot of us, 630 00:35:27,120 --> 00:35:30,000 Speaker 1: isolation has been very tough, and the loss of these 631 00:35:30,000 --> 00:35:33,799 Speaker 1: holiday traditions and seeing family is can be a big blow, 632 00:35:34,400 --> 00:35:39,239 Speaker 1: um and an already painful tough year. So just make sure, uh, 633 00:35:39,400 --> 00:35:44,040 Speaker 1: you know, check in where you can, um. And I 634 00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:48,880 Speaker 1: think that's that's good advice in general right now. But 635 00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:52,080 Speaker 1: I mean it's only a few months and a half 636 00:35:52,080 --> 00:35:56,200 Speaker 1: of twenty Can you believe that? Thank god? Yeah, it's 637 00:35:56,360 --> 00:36:00,400 Speaker 1: a very very interesting how time feels these days. But 638 00:36:00,760 --> 00:36:03,120 Speaker 1: we did want to close out on some fun things. 639 00:36:03,520 --> 00:36:05,480 Speaker 1: But first we have a one more cup back for 640 00:36:05,560 --> 00:36:23,000 Speaker 1: word from our sponsor, and we're back. Thank you sponsor. 641 00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:27,960 Speaker 1: So since UM, one of my favorite things of the 642 00:36:28,000 --> 00:36:31,920 Speaker 1: holidays is the food, and one of the biggest recommendations 643 00:36:31,960 --> 00:36:37,120 Speaker 1: we got UM was the rec the recipe swap. So Samanthan, 644 00:36:37,160 --> 00:36:43,200 Speaker 1: I thought we would share some of our favorite recipes. UM. 645 00:36:43,239 --> 00:36:46,400 Speaker 1: So I'm going to start with, uh, the sweet potato 646 00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:49,080 Speaker 1: recipe we make every year because this is the one 647 00:36:49,160 --> 00:36:54,960 Speaker 1: that people legitimately have uh passive aggressively fought over with 648 00:36:55,000 --> 00:36:58,400 Speaker 1: post it notes. UM where people right, I leave DIBs 649 00:36:58,440 --> 00:37:00,720 Speaker 1: and then there's another post it note. It's like DIBs 650 00:37:00,760 --> 00:37:04,200 Speaker 1: doesn't count. But I call this. I like, I'll just 651 00:37:04,239 --> 00:37:07,520 Speaker 1: find all these posted notes. Can I eat this? I 652 00:37:07,600 --> 00:37:10,279 Speaker 1: just want to eat it? What's happening? Yes, it is 653 00:37:10,280 --> 00:37:13,720 Speaker 1: my favorite thing. It is my favorite thing too, so UM. 654 00:37:13,800 --> 00:37:16,680 Speaker 1: For ingredients, you need three cups mashed sweet potatoes, one 655 00:37:16,680 --> 00:37:20,120 Speaker 1: cup sugar, one half teaspoon salt to lightly beaten eggs, 656 00:37:20,360 --> 00:37:22,960 Speaker 1: one third stick of butter, one half cup sweet milk, 657 00:37:23,320 --> 00:37:26,759 Speaker 1: one teaspoon vanilla, one a half teaspoon cinnamon. Do you 658 00:37:26,840 --> 00:37:29,080 Speaker 1: mix all that together in a buttered baking dish. Make 659 00:37:29,120 --> 00:37:32,320 Speaker 1: sure to remember that because I tell you, um, it'll stick. 660 00:37:34,600 --> 00:37:36,840 Speaker 1: And I usually use this like I think it's a 661 00:37:36,880 --> 00:37:40,520 Speaker 1: ten inch deep casserole bowl, but it's one of those 662 00:37:40,560 --> 00:37:42,440 Speaker 1: recipes that doesn't have it on there. And I've just 663 00:37:42,520 --> 00:37:46,040 Speaker 1: learned from my mom, so uh sorry, but that's what 664 00:37:46,200 --> 00:37:49,680 Speaker 1: I put it in. Um. And then after you've done that, 665 00:37:49,719 --> 00:37:52,200 Speaker 1: you cover with the topping. So the topping is one 666 00:37:52,280 --> 00:37:55,440 Speaker 1: third cup melted butter mixed together, one cup brown sugar 667 00:37:55,520 --> 00:37:59,239 Speaker 1: and one third cup plus one tablespoon flour. Um add butter, 668 00:37:59,480 --> 00:38:02,480 Speaker 1: you add one cup chop nuts, and then you it 669 00:38:02,520 --> 00:38:04,920 Speaker 1: makes kind of a strue sole topping almost, and you 670 00:38:04,920 --> 00:38:08,920 Speaker 1: put that on top. And my other recommendation here is 671 00:38:09,960 --> 00:38:11,960 Speaker 1: if you've made it the night before, get it out 672 00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:14,319 Speaker 1: before you cook it because it gets cold in the 673 00:38:14,320 --> 00:38:16,960 Speaker 1: center and it takes longer to cook and you don't 674 00:38:16,960 --> 00:38:18,640 Speaker 1: want that. You don't want to way any extra time 675 00:38:18,880 --> 00:38:22,000 Speaker 1: for your sweeptato cast frold. So you bake thirty five 676 00:38:22,040 --> 00:38:25,279 Speaker 1: to forty five minutes at three degrees. I test it, 677 00:38:25,320 --> 00:38:28,239 Speaker 1: I give it a jiggle, and if the inside is 678 00:38:28,280 --> 00:38:30,919 Speaker 1: pretty stable. When you do it, you'll know what I mean. 679 00:38:31,239 --> 00:38:36,400 Speaker 1: It's good a dessert. It is well, this is the 680 00:38:36,480 --> 00:38:38,879 Speaker 1: Southern way. Are all of our our size are either 681 00:38:39,000 --> 00:38:43,040 Speaker 1: fried or actually desserts in the sky. But I don't 682 00:38:43,080 --> 00:38:45,040 Speaker 1: have marshmallows on it like a lot of people do it. 683 00:38:45,080 --> 00:38:47,680 Speaker 1: And I was waiting for it. Yeah, no marshmallows. That 684 00:38:47,840 --> 00:38:51,400 Speaker 1: it's not my way. Um. And then I wanted to 685 00:38:51,400 --> 00:38:53,600 Speaker 1: share this one for putting gingerbread man cookies. I want 686 00:38:53,640 --> 00:38:57,800 Speaker 1: to share this one or are Woman or dinosaur um 687 00:38:57,840 --> 00:39:01,000 Speaker 1: because I've found that a lot of well don't make 688 00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:03,680 Speaker 1: make it this way. And I've had some friends who 689 00:39:03,680 --> 00:39:06,520 Speaker 1: say they don't like ginger person cookies, and when I 690 00:39:06,600 --> 00:39:12,879 Speaker 1: give them this recipe they like it. So for this one, 691 00:39:13,320 --> 00:39:15,680 Speaker 1: you need one half cup butter, one half cup cracked 692 00:39:15,680 --> 00:39:19,200 Speaker 1: bound sugar, one egg, one four ounce package regular butter 693 00:39:19,200 --> 00:39:23,040 Speaker 1: Scotch pudding uh usually found near the jello, one and 694 00:39:23,080 --> 00:39:26,440 Speaker 1: one half cup all purpose flour, one half teaspoon baking soda, 695 00:39:26,719 --> 00:39:29,520 Speaker 1: one and one half ground cinnamon, teaspoon ground cinnamon, and 696 00:39:29,520 --> 00:39:33,280 Speaker 1: one and one half teaspoon ground ginger. So you cream 697 00:39:33,440 --> 00:39:36,439 Speaker 1: the butter, brown sugar dry pudding mix. You add the egg. 698 00:39:36,760 --> 00:39:40,200 Speaker 1: You beat it well. Um. You stir together the flour, soda, 699 00:39:40,800 --> 00:39:44,560 Speaker 1: baking soda, ginger, and cinnamon. Then you stir that into 700 00:39:44,560 --> 00:39:48,160 Speaker 1: the creamed mixture. You chill, I say at least sod hour. Um. 701 00:39:48,440 --> 00:39:51,320 Speaker 1: Then you roll it out on a flowered surface until 702 00:39:51,360 --> 00:39:54,600 Speaker 1: it's like an eighth of an inch thick. Um. And 703 00:39:54,640 --> 00:39:59,560 Speaker 1: then you make whatever shapes. You decorate with all the 704 00:39:59,560 --> 00:40:04,279 Speaker 1: the sparkles, the sparkles, the sprinkles to your utter well, 705 00:40:04,320 --> 00:40:09,400 Speaker 1: I have like that edible sparkle glitters. Um. Decorate to 706 00:40:09,440 --> 00:40:12,920 Speaker 1: your heart's desire. I do have a lot of dinosaurs, 707 00:40:13,360 --> 00:40:16,200 Speaker 1: of a lot of nerdy. I've got Star Wars of course. Um. 708 00:40:16,320 --> 00:40:19,920 Speaker 1: Cookie cutters um. Then you place on on grease pan 709 00:40:19,960 --> 00:40:22,040 Speaker 1: and you cook three fifty degrees six state minutes. I 710 00:40:22,040 --> 00:40:23,960 Speaker 1: would check it at the six, especially if you like 711 00:40:23,960 --> 00:40:27,880 Speaker 1: a softer cookie. Um. And as you're listening to all 712 00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:30,239 Speaker 1: of this, if you're like any it's Amantha, this is 713 00:40:30,280 --> 00:40:33,120 Speaker 1: too fast, just email as we'll send you the restaurant 714 00:40:33,200 --> 00:40:36,759 Speaker 1: right right, and we might post these. But mine is 715 00:40:36,840 --> 00:40:39,279 Speaker 1: a little uh. Did you say you've never had this 716 00:40:39,360 --> 00:40:41,920 Speaker 1: any corn flakes? I never have this, Okay, so I 717 00:40:41,960 --> 00:40:44,319 Speaker 1: feel like it's pretty common and most people know about it, 718 00:40:44,320 --> 00:40:46,799 Speaker 1: but apparently not. I just realized it was a Southern thing. 719 00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:51,160 Speaker 1: It keeps saying Southern dishes, and I'm like, well, okay, um, 720 00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:53,560 Speaker 1: I guess that makes this because I definitely had this 721 00:40:53,600 --> 00:40:55,680 Speaker 1: when I was growing up in the mountains of Georgia. 722 00:40:56,120 --> 00:40:58,719 Speaker 1: So I'm from the South. That's what happens. But what 723 00:40:58,840 --> 00:41:02,320 Speaker 1: you need, oh yeah, and kind of like her yams 724 00:41:02,640 --> 00:41:05,640 Speaker 1: more so than her cookies. You sweet potatoes. I'm sorry 725 00:41:05,760 --> 00:41:08,000 Speaker 1: you do. How long sugar in this? So one cup 726 00:41:08,000 --> 00:41:11,600 Speaker 1: of granulated sugar, one cup of light corn syrup, one 727 00:41:11,640 --> 00:41:14,680 Speaker 1: cup of creamy peanut butter, a teaspoon of vanilla, and 728 00:41:14,719 --> 00:41:17,560 Speaker 1: about five cups of corn flakes, five like four or 729 00:41:17,560 --> 00:41:21,200 Speaker 1: five six, um. And then you combine the sugar and 730 00:41:21,239 --> 00:41:24,480 Speaker 1: syrup in a large pot. Let it boil, take it 731 00:41:24,520 --> 00:41:26,279 Speaker 1: off the stove as soon as it does that it's 732 00:41:26,280 --> 00:41:29,640 Speaker 1: all mixture together. Um. And immediately combined the peanut, butter 733 00:41:29,719 --> 00:41:32,680 Speaker 1: and vanilla. Stir until mix well that it's definitely gonna 734 00:41:32,719 --> 00:41:35,640 Speaker 1: melt together delightfully. And then you add the corn flakes 735 00:41:35,800 --> 00:41:40,000 Speaker 1: gently mixed together. Uh. Lay out some parchment papers and 736 00:41:40,080 --> 00:41:43,800 Speaker 1: drop spoonfuls onto the paper. Now there was another recipe 737 00:41:43,840 --> 00:41:45,680 Speaker 1: that I did look and see that they had it 738 00:41:45,719 --> 00:41:47,920 Speaker 1: in like a baking pan. So you can grease that 739 00:41:47,960 --> 00:41:49,160 Speaker 1: baking pan and just put it all in there and 740 00:41:49,160 --> 00:41:52,840 Speaker 1: then cut it up like rice crispy trees. I guess, um, 741 00:41:52,840 --> 00:41:55,600 Speaker 1: but I've always had it with like the drop um 742 00:41:55,680 --> 00:41:57,799 Speaker 1: and let it cool. If you want to make it 743 00:41:57,840 --> 00:42:01,680 Speaker 1: holiday like which we've done, you add like the color 744 00:42:02,200 --> 00:42:04,920 Speaker 1: sugars that are colors, like the green and the red colors, 745 00:42:04,960 --> 00:42:08,880 Speaker 1: you know, not sprinkles, but the sugar different. Yeah, and 746 00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:10,640 Speaker 1: then you can add that to give it that color, 747 00:42:10,719 --> 00:42:13,560 Speaker 1: the Christmas colors. However you want, do it, um, And 748 00:42:13,560 --> 00:42:15,720 Speaker 1: if you're like me and don't like to wait long, 749 00:42:15,920 --> 00:42:19,319 Speaker 1: is delicious? What's still warm? So I will eat about 750 00:42:19,320 --> 00:42:25,400 Speaker 1: ten of them? Yeah, don't worry about me. I'm fine. Yeah, well, 751 00:42:25,160 --> 00:42:27,200 Speaker 1: I would love to try it. Maybe what we should 752 00:42:27,239 --> 00:42:30,759 Speaker 1: do we'll do a swap. I feel like you do 753 00:42:30,840 --> 00:42:35,480 Speaker 1: a Christmas party Christmas, because you know people did cookie exchanges. Yeah, 754 00:42:35,520 --> 00:42:37,440 Speaker 1: as part of that, maybe we should exchange the recipe, 755 00:42:37,800 --> 00:42:40,919 Speaker 1: watch each other make it, and then kind of judge 756 00:42:40,920 --> 00:42:43,800 Speaker 1: about whether or not it was good or not. Oh wow, 757 00:42:45,880 --> 00:42:48,360 Speaker 1: into a competition. You turned to this thing that was 758 00:42:48,360 --> 00:42:50,400 Speaker 1: supposed to be sort of a beat into something that 759 00:42:50,440 --> 00:42:54,920 Speaker 1: could potentially go off the rails. That's cool, I you 760 00:42:54,960 --> 00:42:58,360 Speaker 1: know how I am very I do. Um. They also 761 00:42:58,400 --> 00:43:02,160 Speaker 1: recommend the Hershe's Chocolate Pie recipe. It's super easy and 762 00:43:02,239 --> 00:43:06,320 Speaker 1: easily google google ble google. Um. And I know that 763 00:43:06,400 --> 00:43:10,040 Speaker 1: these are all sweets. So if you if you're just 764 00:43:10,080 --> 00:43:12,879 Speaker 1: looking for new recipes to try, maybe I do have 765 00:43:12,920 --> 00:43:16,520 Speaker 1: to take into account my little brother UH is vegetarian. 766 00:43:16,600 --> 00:43:20,400 Speaker 1: Things like that. I'm happy to share any recipes right. Um. 767 00:43:20,440 --> 00:43:23,000 Speaker 1: This is a solid start though, Yes, yes, and uh, 768 00:43:23,040 --> 00:43:26,960 Speaker 1: if you do have special recipes that you're willing to share, 769 00:43:27,440 --> 00:43:30,160 Speaker 1: I say, posted up on your Instagram or your Twitter 770 00:43:30,200 --> 00:43:32,640 Speaker 1: and tag us uh letting us know that you got 771 00:43:32,680 --> 00:43:34,920 Speaker 1: it so we can retweet it or we UH post 772 00:43:34,960 --> 00:43:38,320 Speaker 1: it to let everybody share in on this holiday. SWAPLI 773 00:43:38,880 --> 00:43:42,480 Speaker 1: be swap. Let's get this sminty recipe swap going. I 774 00:43:42,560 --> 00:43:46,839 Speaker 1: like it. Yes, and and definitely let us know any 775 00:43:46,880 --> 00:43:52,239 Speaker 1: of your new traditions or new ways you're celebrating old traditions. 776 00:43:52,280 --> 00:43:56,319 Speaker 1: Send us pictures. We would love it. Be safe, take 777 00:43:56,360 --> 00:43:59,560 Speaker 1: care of yourself. We we love you with thinking of you. 778 00:44:00,239 --> 00:44:05,880 Speaker 1: Happy holiday, happy holidays. Yes, um, and if you want 779 00:44:05,920 --> 00:44:08,560 Speaker 1: to contact us, we would absolutely love to hear from you. 780 00:44:08,600 --> 00:44:11,080 Speaker 1: Our email is Stuff Media, mom Stuff at iHeart media 781 00:44:11,160 --> 00:44:13,440 Speaker 1: dot com. You can also find us on Instagram at 782 00:44:13,440 --> 00:44:15,239 Speaker 1: Stuff I've Never Told You are on Twitter at mom 783 00:44:15,280 --> 00:44:18,840 Speaker 1: Stuff Podcast. Thanks as always to us super producer Andrew Howard. 784 00:44:19,239 --> 00:44:23,680 Speaker 1: Thank you, Andrew, give me your recipes, yes, and thanks 785 00:44:23,680 --> 00:44:25,759 Speaker 1: to you for listening. Stuff I've Never Told You, the 786 00:44:25,800 --> 00:44:28,319 Speaker 1: production of I Heart Radio. For more podcasts from iHeart Radio, 787 00:44:28,400 --> 00:44:30,600 Speaker 1: visit the iHeart Radio app, Apple podcast, or wherever you 788 00:44:30,640 --> 00:44:31,720 Speaker 1: listen to your favorite shows