Speaker 1: Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife.
Speaker 2: She couldn't.
Speaker 1: She cleaned and cared for her children and the man
Speaker 1: of the house, and of course she didn't talk back.
Speaker 1: She was both obeed, hint and soft by nature. She
Speaker 1: was a good woman who always made good choices.
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Speaker 3: I can do it. Welcome back to good Mom's bad Choices.
Speaker 3: I'm Erica and I'm Mela. Happy humpty bitches, Happy motherfucking
Speaker 3: hump day?
Speaker 4: What did it do? How are you feeling. I'm good.
Speaker 5: It's the second week of July. I can't believe how
Speaker 5: quick the summer is going. It's getting very hot as
Speaker 5: fuck in the valley, going to the beach a lot,
Speaker 5: not getting in the water because I'm still scared. But yeah,
Speaker 5: I've been good.
Speaker 4: How are you? I'm good?
Speaker 3: I know the summer is going by so fast. I
Speaker 3: feel like, you know, like the summers get shorter as
Speaker 3: you get older, like you start to notice time I
Speaker 3: feel like that a lot like that summer is getting shorter,
Speaker 3: time is going faster. I feel like we're going back
Speaker 3: to Costa Rica. We just got back. And I also
Speaker 3: feel like traveling and doing stuff is just like way
Speaker 3: more tolling on my body. Like it's not even that
Speaker 3: we're doing a lot of things. It's just like packing,
Speaker 3: putting in the suitcase, washing, bringing it home, unpacking it,
Speaker 3: putting it back, getting on the airplane, sitting in the
Speaker 3: stupid ass, stupid chair. It's just like, I don't know,
Speaker 3: it's just taxing. And I'm like I need when we
Speaker 3: come back for like two or three weeks. I feel
Speaker 3: like I need eight weeks to recover. Leave for three weeks,
Speaker 3: recover for six to eight She Kim told me that.
Speaker 5: This summer specifically, actually the world the world is turning
Speaker 5: on its access faster, So this is actually going to
Speaker 5: be the like one of the like fastest summers in
Speaker 5: like recorded history or something like like like specifically this
Speaker 5: summer by like two hours or by like how like
Speaker 5: how much minutes, Because if every day is twenty four
Speaker 5: hours and every month it's the same amount of days,
Speaker 5: like how many minutes are we shaving off? I don't
Speaker 5: know because I told him, I was like, I feel
Speaker 5: like the time is being fucked with, And then like
Speaker 5: a few days ago, he was like, I think you're
Speaker 5: I think actually you're right.
Speaker 3: Orlando told me that, did you say that the earth
Speaker 3: is spending four hundred miles per hour or eight hundred
Speaker 3: eight hundred miles per hour?
Speaker 4: But obviously we can't feel it like that. But like.
Speaker 3: I, I, you know, I don't believe anything that the
Speaker 3: government tells us.
Speaker 4: So I just who says they're not fucking with the time.
Speaker 3: Who actually sat there today, yesterday, or last week and
Speaker 3: counted every sixty seconds to every hour and said, yep,
Speaker 3: they did it right.
Speaker 4: We're just trusting the clocks and the cell phones.
Speaker 3: We don't have watches anymore really unless you have a roleax,
Speaker 3: and I doubt you even look at it. You just
Speaker 3: look at the fucking phone. So if they were lying
Speaker 3: and shaving off thirty minutes a year, we fucking wouldn't know.
Speaker 5: Well, if you had a watch, you probably would know.
Speaker 5: But that's why I don't think they're actually maybe doing that.
Speaker 5: I think it's just like time is just adjusting, like
Speaker 5: it's just moving faster. Like I think maybe the watches
Speaker 5: actually start moving faster because everything else is moving faster,
Speaker 5: like literally, like gravity.
Speaker 3: Starts to pull the little thing face faster. I don't know.
Speaker 3: I mean I always think about a time before there
Speaker 3: are watches and cell phones, and we were just measuring
Speaker 3: by season and by daylight and noon is here, and
Speaker 3: nighttime and even birthdays, like you think thousands of years ago.
Speaker 3: They're like, I'm thirty five, No, you were just an adult.
Speaker 5: Well, I said, I thought, well, if time is moving faster,
Speaker 5: but we're not aging faster, does that mean we're going
Speaker 5: to look younger longer. And he said, no, everything is
Speaker 5: going to keep moving, and so is your age. I'd
Speaker 5: so is your aging process?
Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, I think the aging process is because
Speaker 3: we're acknowledging time in this manner. Whoever, we have adopted
Speaker 3: this programming that you know, twelve months is one year.
Speaker 4: Blah blah blah blah blah blah blah.
Speaker 3: And so technically I'm thirty seven, but in my soul
Speaker 3: I'm twenty four, So why would my soul not be right?
Speaker 3: And as long as I, in my soul deeply believe
Speaker 3: that I'm twenty seven, I'm going to continue to look
Speaker 3: twenty seven. I thought you said your twenty four, I
Speaker 3: mean twenty.
Speaker 4: Four, okay, whatever.
Speaker 3: As I said the other day at the party, that
Speaker 3: i'm trans age, I identify as a twenty four year old,
Speaker 3: and if anyone disrespects me and calls me outside of
Speaker 3: my trans age, we're going to have a problem. I
Speaker 3: identify as a twenty four year old. I feel that way.
Speaker 3: I was born this way, and it's twenty four like
Speaker 3: a good for you? Like why twenty four? You know?
Speaker 3: It just seems like you're just old enough to not
Speaker 3: be so stupid. I don't know. Twenty four I was
Speaker 3: pretty fucking stupid. I'm twenty four with this, with this knowledge,
Speaker 3: I'm twenty four years old in my.
Speaker 5: So what is it that you're adopting from twenty four?
Speaker 5: If you have the knowledge, what is it then? Because
Speaker 5: you don't look thirty seven? So what about twenty four?
Speaker 5: Do you need to adopt that? You can't adopt the
Speaker 5: age that you are. It's I can't adopt the age
Speaker 5: I am. I just choose not to because I'm transa aged.
Speaker 3: But is it because you think thirty seven is old.
Speaker 4: Or because I just don't feel thirty seven?
Speaker 3: Like, what does it mean to feel thirty seven that
Speaker 3: I've lived thirty seven years of life? But that's not
Speaker 3: a long time though.
Speaker 5: I think about like the scheme of the scope of
Speaker 5: life and how long you're going to hopefully live it,
Speaker 5: thirty seven is like still baby.
Speaker 4: I mean not really if you think about it.
Speaker 3: Most people are living to what ninety nine, one hundred
Speaker 3: hopefully with technology and vitamins, I can at least make
Speaker 3: it to one twenty five. That's like another sixty years.
Speaker 3: But Matt, if we live that's a third of your
Speaker 3: life already. If we live one hundred years and tidal,
Speaker 3: let's say, and I'm thirty seven, that's about sixty four
Speaker 3: years ago.
Speaker 4: I don't like that.
Speaker 5: I mean, but technically you're still thirty seven. So your body,
Speaker 5: you're still you're still gonna die.
Speaker 4: Respect.
Speaker 3: If we're gonna be friends, you're gonna have to respect
Speaker 3: my HI identifying okay, which is trance age of twenty four. Okay,
Speaker 3: I'm gonnaed you to remember the age. If we go
Speaker 3: out and so it's like, oh my god, how old
Speaker 3: are you? Like, oh this is my friend. She had
Speaker 3: no because.
Speaker 5: Everyone's gonna like, bitch, why are you hang out with
Speaker 5: a twenty four year old, that the fuck is wrong
Speaker 5: with you?
Speaker 3: Where are you going? Especially they're gonna think you're twenty four?
Speaker 3: Do you want to be twenty four? No?
Speaker 4: What was twenty four a bad year for you?
Speaker 3: I was.
Speaker 5: I mean, it wasn't a bad year. I mean I
Speaker 5: was with my baby daddy, were traveling a lot.
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't ever remember, like, do you remember
Speaker 3: specifically twenty four, yes, because it was like two years
Speaker 3: before I got pregnant. Yeah, like a year and a
Speaker 3: half before I got pregnant.
Speaker 5: So actually twenty four was a shitty year. Actually, I
Speaker 5: moved to New York. I was like in the midst
Speaker 5: of a breakup. I was so confused. I was broke
Speaker 5: as fuck.
Speaker 3: Oh I don't want to be twenty four. No, I
Speaker 3: was sad. I was having a sex.
Speaker 4: I mean, I'm twenty four with this.
Speaker 3: I was security. I was like, broke as fuck. Fuck.
Speaker 4: I mean, everybody's broken their twenties. It doesn't like I
Speaker 4: don't even thinking. I don't know. I wasn't broken. I
Speaker 4: was twenty four, but I was stupid.
Speaker 5: I was making dumb choices like I don't know, I
Speaker 5: get it, but no, I don't think i'd want to
Speaker 5: be four. If I was gonna choose a younger age
Speaker 5: to be honestly, it would probably be like thirty one.
Speaker 3: Thirty one was a good year. There's like I had
Speaker 3: finally like twenty nine, I broke up with my baby daddy.
Speaker 3: Thirty I was like healing.
Speaker 5: Thirty one I was like prime outside like podcasts pop,
Speaker 5: like just starting the podcast, like just just like discovering
Speaker 5: all these new parts of myself, discovering all like building
Speaker 5: the tribe.
Speaker 3: Like that was a good That was a good time.
Speaker 3: I'm not saying so much based on like Mike my
Speaker 3: going back to that year because it was a mirror,
Speaker 3: but I would just like to be that age with
Speaker 3: this knowledge and this and this security and this like
Speaker 3: state of mind. I feel like in the twenty like
Speaker 3: I feel like I live my whole twenties without any
Speaker 3: like I mean, not experience, but just like there was
Speaker 3: just no care in the world, Like I didn't care
Speaker 3: about any of those things too. Yeah, So I was
Speaker 3: just like if I could go back to twenty four,
Speaker 3: but and I feel like I feel like twenty year
Speaker 3: twenty the twenties now are more mature, maybe because the
Speaker 3: Internet has more words. They have like more clarity. So
Speaker 3: they're I mean watching Love Island. They're not that smart,
Speaker 3: but they do know the words.
Speaker 5: I think, I think perhaps a little bit, but as
Speaker 5: i'm I'm like, actually, today one of my twenty four
Speaker 5: year old I would say, she's like my little homegirl.
Speaker 4: I was gonna say, but you don't want to be
Speaker 4: friends with me when I'm twenty four.
Speaker 3: I don't hang out with her.
Speaker 4: When I said I was transferring, I don't hang out
Speaker 4: with her.
Speaker 5: Like she calls me when she needs advice. Oh I'm
Speaker 5: not going to put her on that care right now,
Speaker 5: but yeah, Like she calls me when she needs advice
Speaker 5: and she's doing she's asking me some real twenty twenty
Speaker 5: two year old shit, and I'm like, girl.
Speaker 3: She send me pictures of shit, Like what what do
Speaker 3: you think this means?
Speaker 5: Do you think he's like a fluck boy and he's
Speaker 5: like on stories with his abs out with Grace webpants on.
Speaker 5: I'm like, yes, he is definitely getting pussy outside of you.
Speaker 3: And like, what do you think?
Speaker 4: Not the streenshot?
Speaker 3: So you know, like I don't know how much far along.
Speaker 5: The youth is just based off the Internet. I thought
Speaker 5: about I thought that that would be the case. But
Speaker 5: according to my calculation so far, based on the Yans
Speaker 5: that I know, not the Whyans that I know, I'm
Speaker 5: thinking the Internet actually isn't making them smarter, actually making
Speaker 5: them question themselves even more and making them even more
Speaker 5: confused and making them, specifically women, doubt their intuition even
Speaker 5: more because there's so much confusion and there's so many options,
Speaker 5: whereas before when we were Yans, we didn't have this
Speaker 5: many options. We just had like the at the party,
Speaker 5: or like our friend's friend who said we should hook
Speaker 5: up with this guy, or like a guy from high
Speaker 5: school that we're still fucking around with, or maybe like
Speaker 5: someone on my Space, or you know, like Instagram wasn't
Speaker 5: even popping when we were I don't think I joined Instagram.
Speaker 5: Maybe when I was like I think I joined Instagram
Speaker 5: maybe around twenty four twenty five. I was late to
Speaker 5: the Instagram think too. I was like Vine, and I
Speaker 5: wasn't finding niggas on Vine, so like it was like
Speaker 5: real life.
Speaker 3: I was at like the do over shout out to
Speaker 3: the oh Man.
Speaker 4: The doover was a time you always said you always
Speaker 4: take a.
Speaker 5: Moment for if anyone remembers the do Over. It was
Speaker 5: a hot party and on the YouTube channels right now.
Speaker 5: If you know the Duover, you're in Hollywood.
Speaker 4: In those times, it wasn't even in Hollywood.
Speaker 3: The duo Over expanded. It was in Brooklyn, it was
Speaker 3: in Seattle, but at first started here.
Speaker 5: I think it actually started in like Seattle. It was
Speaker 5: a day of part Portland or something was wherever a
Speaker 5: didas is at.
Speaker 3: That's where it started. Organ organ Yeah, it was a dud.
Speaker 3: It was ad just wants to party, but whatever. Anyway,
Speaker 3: that's where I would find people outside. I was outside.
Speaker 3: I wasn't like on the internet, like scrolling through TikTok
Speaker 3: and finding hot boys on TikTok and hoping that, like
Speaker 3: they I'd catch their attention. I don't feel like I
Speaker 3: ever was like so desperate like for love. I wasn't like,
Speaker 3: oh I want a boyfriend so bad. I was just
Speaker 3: a real yan out in the streets hoeing. But I
Speaker 3: but I see, you know what it is. One thing
Speaker 3: I'll say about like watching reality TV, especially from this
Speaker 3: like scope of like looking at people younger than me,
Speaker 3: it's women.
Speaker 4: Women are so deeply.
Speaker 3: Entangled with the need for like stability, romantically in relationship wise,
Speaker 3: like even on dating shows.
Speaker 4: I'm like, bitch, you're on a dating show.
Speaker 5: It's because of program I mean it's we're programmed from
Speaker 5: a very young age that we're supposed to find love
Speaker 5: and be married. I mean the marriage age just recently
Speaker 5: went up, Like we'rees.
Speaker 3: We're getting married at nineteen, and that was normal.
Speaker 5: Like that was like you graduate high school and you
Speaker 5: marry your call it your high school sweetheart. That was
Speaker 5: like a normal thing. Like parents weren't looking down on that.
Speaker 5: They were actually like happy that their kid was going
Speaker 5: to go get taken care of, like their daughter because
Speaker 5: she wasn't going to go to college because why would
Speaker 5: she do that?
Speaker 4: You know, Like no, our era was like go to college.
Speaker 1: No.
Speaker 5: But I'm just saying like from the beginning like of time,
Speaker 5: maybe at the beginning of time, but like as this
Speaker 5: like American as the scope of marriage was formed, which
Speaker 5: it was in different cultures, but I would say America,
Speaker 5: like there's this like there's this trajectory of like what
Speaker 5: happens to a woman. It's like the homemaker, and the
Speaker 5: homemaker is very young.
Speaker 4: It's our biological clock too.
Speaker 3: It's all it's like biologically, we're supposed to make babies
Speaker 3: and we're at our prime. It's just because we get horny,
Speaker 3: and then horny means it's time for babies. It's not
Speaker 3: like horny doesn't mean like, let's explore what pleasure is
Speaker 3: for us, what our bodies can do.
Speaker 4: You're getting a.
Speaker 3: Horny because we're trying to our bodies are ready to
Speaker 3: reproduce exactly.
Speaker 5: But I'm just saying like because of that, that was
Speaker 5: also I feel like you used as a way to like, Okay,
Speaker 5: so now that these women our horny and want to
Speaker 5: have sex, they shouldn't be going exploring that. They should
Speaker 5: go be making babies, but their hob they won't.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, we see what happens when you don't put
Speaker 3: them away.
Speaker 4: They at crazy. They turned to good moms about choices.
Speaker 3: And I, you know, I finally did catch up. Will
Speaker 3: not really catch up.
Speaker 5: I watched two episodes of Love Island, and I don't
Speaker 5: know if you guys saw my if you go on
Speaker 5: my Instagram, I posted a story today which she Kim
Speaker 5: talking about the bombshells and.
Speaker 3: Pulling him aside for a chat. Because I watched that
Speaker 3: was quick.
Speaker 4: You watched two episodes and now you're making.
Speaker 5: I got enough information because because I went on. I went,
Speaker 5: I talked about my like I was, had a watch
Speaker 5: party basically on my stories, And ever since then, I've
Speaker 5: been getting fed.
Speaker 3: You had a watch party of your stories.
Speaker 5: I've been getting fed so much Love Island content that
Speaker 5: I don't really think I even need to watch anymore.
Speaker 4: People.
Speaker 3: Everyone's updated me on everything that's going to happen. Well,
Speaker 3: the internet will tell you. Before I saw that Sierra
Speaker 3: got kicked off, but I'm not there yet. She got
Speaker 3: kicked off because she said something a racial slur.
Speaker 4: I didn't really know that was a I mean, I
Speaker 4: didn't really know that was racial.
Speaker 3: People are so fucking scisage. Yeah, Like, I don't think
Speaker 3: that was just and in my opinion, but Blue Centric
Speaker 3: went on a deep dive literally I didn't even know
Speaker 3: you can make reals this long, a five minute deep
Speaker 3: dive that I watched last night that said that Sierra.
Speaker 4: Plotted on the show.
Speaker 3: Her friend, her best friend before she got on the show,
Speaker 3: planned her a Love Island birthday party, and then she
Speaker 3: started becoming friends with other Love Islanders, one of which
Speaker 3: she was like a known racist who basically said Trayvon
Speaker 3: Martin if this all of this wouldn't happen if he
Speaker 3: was white, and she became friends with her and then
Speaker 3: she got on Love Island. So basically they're saying she's
Speaker 3: very calculated. She's friends with a previous Islander who was
Speaker 3: a known racist, and so obviously she's That's what Blue
Speaker 3: Centric said and that she obviously did all of these
Speaker 3: things to be like calculated and come on, Love Island,
Speaker 3: I want to know where Okay, I'm gonna I'm not
Speaker 3: gonna be transaged for one second are the Where are
Speaker 3: the shows for the older bitches? Like what's the reality
Speaker 3: show for the thirty plus? I don't know.
Speaker 5: All I know is that when I watched the two
Speaker 5: episodes of Love Island, that confirmed to me that the
Speaker 5: younger generation is not actually getting smarter. Maybe they're smarter
Speaker 5: and like just knowledge of what's happening in the world,
Speaker 5: we're still very immature when it comes to love, when
Speaker 5: it comes to their own personal value and why it
Speaker 5: is they want any of it.
Speaker 3: Emotional immaturity does not change because you know big words
Speaker 3: from the Internet.
Speaker 5: And also, like I'm positive that there was an.
Speaker 3: Sti STD outbreak on the show no, they're.
Speaker 4: Only making out not I'm positive. I'm like, you have proof,
Speaker 4: Yeah you can.
Speaker 5: You can get an STI from making out if you
Speaker 5: have an outbreak.
Speaker 3: Oh, I mean like like herpies won. Yeah yeah, I
Speaker 3: mean but no, I mean I'm assuming that they're probably
Speaker 3: not going to be making out.
Speaker 4: They have cold soares.
Speaker 3: They are also with the culture.
Speaker 4: There's like a lot you did in Orlando.
Speaker 3: It's just gross. Honestly, it's really gross.
Speaker 5: And I was like, I want to watch Love Island.
Speaker 5: I was like, hell no, Like I left her watch
Speaker 5: Love is Blind, and that was already pushing it because
Speaker 5: then I had to fucking tell her like about sex
Speaker 5: because Love is Blind, and I had to like have
Speaker 5: the Birds in the Beast conversation because of the fucking
Speaker 5: surrogate and all this other shit. So I was like, I'm,
Speaker 5: first of all, this is crazy. This is definitely not
Speaker 5: You're not going to think that you can just go
Speaker 5: around making out with your friends, friends and boyfriends and.
Speaker 3: Get blindfolded and duck dug goose bitch.
Speaker 4: I mean, they're do it. The twenty year old you're
Speaker 4: gonna do shit like that anyway.
Speaker 5: I mean, I thought to myself, like when I was
Speaker 5: in my early twenties. I probably would have like not
Speaker 5: done Love Island. I would never have been videoed doing
Speaker 5: this shit for my parents to see. But I probably
Speaker 5: would have done some. I probably did do sometime shit
Speaker 5: like this. I mean, we were all having sex and
Speaker 5: closets together, you know what I mean.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's back in the movie theaters cars, But
Speaker 3: but the thing was it was in private, like we
Speaker 3: weren't putting this on fucking national TV never to be
Speaker 3: able to be unseen again. Soone can just go back
Speaker 3: and just find all the negative things I've said, pulled
Speaker 3: me off the show, make it on the internet. I
Speaker 3: also read or saw something that was interesting. I guess
Speaker 3: because we're in production, I can all all I can
Speaker 3: think about with reality shows is production, Like, so the product.
Speaker 3: You can't just see the producers on set, like, let's
Speaker 3: just do something crazy, let's just throw on ten new people. Yeah,
Speaker 3: let's make a make out I know a great idea,
Speaker 3: send them a text.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Then I was like, they're got cheap because they didn't
Speaker 3: even bring the host. And they stopped bringing the host
Speaker 3: in because she probably her hair and makeup was too much,
Speaker 3: she was too old, she was too old to be
Speaker 3: around them. I don't like I I I.
Speaker 5: First of all, this show's making so much money, I know,
Speaker 5: for such little reproduction.
Speaker 3: I mean they're in Fiji though that's a huge house
Speaker 3: or in Fiji. I also realized they're never eating They
Speaker 3: only eat breakfast. Did you notice that they never eat lunch,
Speaker 3: they never eat dinner. I'm like, are they getting fed? No,
Speaker 3: because they're drunk. No, actually I also heard it. But
Speaker 3: I also noticed too because I peeped. They're not as
Speaker 3: drunk as you if you've seen on other shows. I
Speaker 3: think they're being like they're kind of being somewhat monitoring there. No,
Speaker 3: I can only have two drinks a day, wine or beer,
Speaker 3: not hard liquor. Oh that's I always thought of Maya
Speaker 3: I was drunk, But apparently she's not drunk it she's
Speaker 3: just her. I don't even know who that is.
Speaker 5: I haven't even gotten there, but I'm and I'm also
Speaker 5: not going to get there because after I watched the
Speaker 5: second episode, I told myself there's no way that I
Speaker 5: can continue watching this.
Speaker 3: I will just do recap videos because.
Speaker 5: I realized, like, my brain can't take this type of
Speaker 5: like stimulation. It literally feels like my brain is melting.
Speaker 5: It wasn't even enjoyable for me, Like I was just.
Speaker 4: A sure a while we're like, what the fuck are
Speaker 4: they talking about?
Speaker 3: What they want? It's like the same, like they're crying
Speaker 3: when people go home. They're making it like I didn't
Speaker 3: get that I'm a mommy thing. I had no idea
Speaker 3: that was from Love Island. Like you see this like
Speaker 3: I'm I'm a mommy, You're a mommy, A mamasita, no,
Speaker 3: a mommy of a I had no idea that this
Speaker 3: was from Love Island. I told you by last week,
Speaker 3: I'm a mommy like the whole No, I had no idea.
Speaker 3: I had no idea where they came from.
Speaker 5: But more so what I realized when I'm watching this
Speaker 5: and just reality TV in general, And this is probably
Speaker 5: why I don't really watch a lot of TV. I
Speaker 5: like scripted shows and like TV and film, but I
Speaker 5: feel like these things are literally designed to desensitize us
Speaker 5: because there's so much chaos going on in the world,
Speaker 5: so it's like we want something to like take the
Speaker 5: edge off or like distract us, and so this shit
Speaker 5: is working. This is literally numbing people, desensitizing people, and
Speaker 5: I'm concerned about reality TV and their connection to all
Speaker 5: the propaganda of the world and how it is melting
Speaker 5: our brains and making us numb to everything.
Speaker 3: It's actually like I agree, it's it's gonna make you
Speaker 3: stupid if you watch it too much.
Speaker 5: It's like someone was like, I was like, give me
Speaker 5: three to five hours to catch up. They're like, no,
Speaker 5: you need three to five days.
Speaker 3: Are lost.
Speaker 5: I watched one episode and I kept like, you know,
Speaker 5: talking on stories, and I realized it's been two hours
Speaker 5: because I can pausing it.
Speaker 3: They are so long, or and they're twenty eight episodes
Speaker 3: and they're releasing them every single day.
Speaker 4: I don't have time, and you can vote.
Speaker 3: I don't want to have the time.
Speaker 4: So I took a.
Speaker 3: Break from Love Island and Orlando turned on Naked and Afraid,
Speaker 3: which has been on for like a decade. I've seen that.
Speaker 3: I guess I've seen it back in the day, but
Speaker 3: can you open this for me? But I haven't seen
Speaker 3: it recently, and I'm just like, reality TV lets me
Speaker 3: know that the majority of humanity is stupid, and I
Speaker 3: think it's important to note that, like, don't assume that
Speaker 3: most people have common sense. I mean Luckily for Naked
Speaker 3: and Afraid, they'll do twenty one days in one episode,
Speaker 3: so I'm not fucking watching a budget. I mean, like,
Speaker 3: but it's so many people. I mean there's black people
Speaker 3: on there too, which is obviously shocking for me, but
Speaker 3: there's mostly Caucasian people. But to voluntarily go into the
Speaker 3: deep jungles of the Philippine, remove every single article of clothing,
Speaker 3: have no supplies, and say I'm doing this for my daughter.
Speaker 4: She's five. She's gonna know I'm so strong.
Speaker 3: Like NIGGI, your daughter doesn't give a fuck if you
Speaker 3: go on Naked Afraid and leave for three weeks so
Speaker 3: you could prove to whoever the fuck that you can
Speaker 3: survive all your money.
Speaker 4: Now I look that up too.
Speaker 3: They look at like compensation for missing work, like twenty grand.
Speaker 3: They're eating snails. These two people ate a rat. They're
Speaker 3: like getting attacked by aunts. This one girl, Erica, she
Speaker 3: had no legs. She had a bilateral amputee. I thought
Speaker 3: she was gonna be able to leave on her stilts.
Speaker 3: The bitch took off her legs. She hopped out of
Speaker 3: the truck and started crawling on her pussy through the jungle.
Speaker 3: I mean, I got your calling, but why and then
Speaker 3: I could just And then or Lando told me there
Speaker 3: was an episode where they were starving because they starve
Speaker 3: kid here in the air on Please, and the guy
Speaker 3: found the production tent and stole food and was like
Speaker 3: the girl was like on her last leg and he
Speaker 3: was like, here, eat the food, and she's like where did.
Speaker 4: You get this?
Speaker 3: And that's again, that's all I keep thinking about, like
Speaker 3: as me, if I signed up for this, even if
Speaker 3: the maybe if the prize was a million dollars, I
Speaker 3: voluntarily signed up to get naked and afraid and there's
Speaker 3: probably like twenty motherfuckers and if within a fifteen minute
Speaker 3: walk just eating and chilling with fucking shelter and I'm
Speaker 3: just naked and starving because I'm stupid, Like it's one
Speaker 3: thing if you have to survive in an apocalypt situation,
Speaker 3: but if I just voluntarily, well maybe they want to
Speaker 3: know if they can. I mean, shit, baby, go can
Speaker 3: find thee want naked and Afraid. I'm gonna find them
Speaker 3: because when the shit goes down, that's who I want.
Speaker 1: To be with.
Speaker 4: Baby.
Speaker 3: They don't even look like they they don't even have
Speaker 3: the skills. I don't even know why they're going there,
Speaker 3: so I mean they know how to light fires and
Speaker 3: bill shelters.
Speaker 4: I've seen it, baby, I do too now because I
Speaker 4: watch two episodes.
Speaker 3: But it's it's hard. Ain't no. They all get a
Speaker 3: fire starter in one pot. But I'm like, there's no
Speaker 3: way in hell I'm going on a show to be
Speaker 3: naked and afraid in the jungle. It's raining, it's cold,
Speaker 3: no blankets, you know. And I watched a few days ago,
Speaker 3: Tropic Thunder. I made Iri watch Tropic Thunder because I
Speaker 3: was just like, I want to watch something stupid but
Speaker 3: not fucking Love Island. And so it was either Talladiga Knights,
Speaker 3: I thought of you, and we started watching it, but
Speaker 3: she wasn't into it, and so we stopped watching it.
Speaker 4: You know, Erica has never seen Telldiga Knights.
Speaker 3: I watched it because I thought I told. I told she.
Speaker 3: I was like, this is the Cumula's favorite movie. Let
Speaker 3: me let me watch it so I get her fucking jokes.
Speaker 4: I kepn't even missing my jokes for like almost ten years.
Speaker 5: And so we started watching maybe like twenty five minutes
Speaker 5: of it, and then Iri was like hmm hm, and
Speaker 5: I was like, all right, fine, so we started watching it.
Speaker 5: Then we started watching Tropic Thunder, and I've I'm like
Speaker 5: trying to explain what's going on, Like.
Speaker 3: He's not black, but he's white. That's Tony Stark. She's like,
Speaker 3: who's Tony Stark. I'm like Marvel.
Speaker 4: She's like, oh, I.
Speaker 5: Hate Marvel, and I'm like, okay, just forget about Marvel. This
Speaker 5: is a white man. He's like, now he's Asian. Now
Speaker 5: he's Asians. But he was black. I'm like, I know,
Speaker 5: but now he's an Asian, he's an act. So it
Speaker 5: was a lot of communication, but she finally got it
Speaker 5: and understand Yeah, And then I almost forgot how fucking
Speaker 5: funny Tom Cruise was of that movie, because Tom Cruise
Speaker 5: is so scary to me now because he's, you know,
Speaker 5: such a deep in the scientology that every time I
Speaker 5: see him, I'm like, what a fucking weirdo. But then
Speaker 5: on the movie, like he was fucking hilarious. They had
Speaker 5: prosthetics on his hands, like his hands were so big
Speaker 5: and hairy, and his chest was so hairy.
Speaker 3: It was it was, you know, And then I thought, too,
Speaker 3: I don't know if this movie can come out now.
Speaker 3: People are so fucking sensitive, Like, I can't say, how
Speaker 3: could this movie have come out? They were talking about retard.
Speaker 4: I watched old movies they were.
Speaker 6: Retired, had this movie where he played like like metal
Speaker 6: and they kept calling him retarded, and I was like, damn,
Speaker 6: the days of just like Balls to the Wall, Calmedy,
Speaker 6: You're fucking done.
Speaker 3: You'll get canceled like here, yeah, I'm probably gonna get
Speaker 3: canceled for saying I'm trans age. I just yeah, I
Speaker 3: mean people need to have a little bit tougher skin. Anyway,
Speaker 3: I highly recommend going back into the vault and watching
Speaker 3: Traffic Thunder. It's a classic. It's very funny.
Speaker 4: Can you please finish watching Child digod nights?
Speaker 3: I will.
Speaker 5: I have to watch it without you, without without irin.
Speaker 5: The first it was good, Yeah, it was funny. I
Speaker 5: love Will Ferrell, thank He's fucking hilarious. And you know
Speaker 5: what I love the most about all those guys like
Speaker 5: Will Ferrell, Ben Stiller, Adam Sandler, like they all.
Speaker 3: Hire their friends.
Speaker 5: Like Adam Sandler's wife is in a lot of his movies,
Speaker 5: just like jeded Appatose. Adam Sandler has a wife, And
Speaker 5: I'm sorry that Adam Samily does have a wife. I
Speaker 5: met ben Stiller, and yeah, I remember, like Marsha, Marsha, Marsha,
Speaker 5: I remember the Brady Bench, Marcia, like the new Brady Bench. Yeah,
Speaker 5: Marcia is Adam ben Stiller's wife.
Speaker 3: Oh okay, I didn't know that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay.
Speaker 5: So I just love how they they make each other
Speaker 5: rich together, and that's what I wanted to casting each
Speaker 5: other in it.
Speaker 3: And it's fucking hilarious, and they're like funny movies, and
Speaker 3: I always think about that, like even couples retreat the movie.
Speaker 3: I'm like, they just got all their homies to go
Speaker 3: out of town and make a movie and got a budget,
Speaker 3: and I aspire for this. I just want to make
Speaker 3: a bunch of funny movies, hang out with my friends
Speaker 3: and make millions of dollars and laugh and not be
Speaker 3: too deep and just be able to do whatever you want. Yeah,
Speaker 3: it was good. I hope you hear my christ baby Jesus. Yeah.
Speaker 3: So that's how I've been enjoying my summer, getting slower,
Speaker 3: making my brain soup by watching reality TV.
Speaker 5: No, I haven't been doing that. I'm not doing that.
Speaker 5: I'm not participating in this reality TV thing. I think
Speaker 5: like I went through a really heavy reality season in
Speaker 5: my life where I watched a lot of love and
Speaker 5: hip hop and housewives, and I think I just like
Speaker 5: overdid it then that I.
Speaker 3: Just I just can't do it.
Speaker 4: I don't love it.
Speaker 3: But even like the funny ones like love like Love
Speaker 3: after lock Up, like.
Speaker 5: But then I like, I fall off because it's just
Speaker 5: I don't know, I can't.
Speaker 3: I mean, TV is definitely a distraction. I do enjoy
Speaker 3: reality TV shows that are not exploiting black people as much.
Speaker 3: Like sometimes I like I was I was getting my
Speaker 3: hair braided and the raider's daughter came and she was
Speaker 3: like filling me in on Love Island because she's fucking fifteen,
Speaker 3: and she was saying, like, oh, you don't watch baddies.
Speaker 3: I was like, that's where I draw the line. I
Speaker 3: was like, no, I do not want to see a
Speaker 3: bunch of black women beat each other up and call
Speaker 3: each other names. Absolutely not. I'm like being righteous. She's like, bitch,
Speaker 3: we're watching Love Island for ten hours. But I just yeah,
Speaker 3: I'm I don't want to watch zeus, but a bunch
Speaker 3: of like young, stupid twenty year olds maybe, and then
Speaker 3: I can. It kind of gives me insight to what
Speaker 3: we have to look forward to having kids, you know, Like, so,
Speaker 3: what what do you mean? I'm just saying they're gonna
Speaker 3: be young and dumb and twenty something and like, and
Speaker 3: you're gonna have to be like, hey, we're not that
Speaker 3: fucking stupid. No, I've already told Lunash she's forbidden from
Speaker 3: going on Love Island or naked and afraid.
Speaker 5: I will disown you. I will cut off all funds.
Speaker 5: Nothing will be available to you. Nothing, you hear me, Iri,
Speaker 5: Absolutely fucking nothing nothing.
Speaker 4: It's really you know what I think.
Speaker 3: Mostly I'm realizing, I mean, watching stupid ass shows and
Speaker 3: observing how stupid twenty something years old can be, and
Speaker 3: like just the growth and the maturity that happens between
Speaker 3: like twenty nine and forty is like I time is
Speaker 3: going by so fast, and like faster than I don't know,
Speaker 3: faster than I can like accept this last ten years
Speaker 3: is eight years of good moms. How fast has it
Speaker 3: gone by? I feel like I've blinked, and like every
Speaker 3: time I think about it, I have to smoke. That's
Speaker 3: why I'm gonna light this blackwood right now, because what
Speaker 3: the fuck? No?
Speaker 5: Time as is going by and I think I think
Speaker 5: especially for like maybe not I want to say especially,
Speaker 5: but I think for us because we have.
Speaker 3: Time markers. I mean essentially everybody does now on their phone.
Speaker 5: The phone will fucking trigger the fuck out of you
Speaker 5: and remind you where you were four years ago on
Speaker 5: this day. But I think just everyone having at like
Speaker 5: easily accessible moments to really see the moments in their
Speaker 5: life puts this like a little bit of anxiety, a
Speaker 5: little bit of fear, but also like I think that's
Speaker 5: also a gift too. It's like an invitation for you
Speaker 5: to like really appreciate the time and appreciate the moment.
Speaker 5: And like, I know, for me, like in this season
Speaker 5: of my life, I've been, you know I've been. I think,
Speaker 5: like in my early thirties and starting good Moms, like
Speaker 5: I really needed to reclaim myself and like who I
Speaker 5: was outside of motherhood and what I wanted.
Speaker 3: To do, Who was Erica? What made me happy?
Speaker 5: Because I had been in a relationship for so long
Speaker 5: and honestly, like even throughout my twenties, to think about
Speaker 5: my twenties, like I had moments of like hot girls, subberbness,
Speaker 5: but like I was in a relationship all the time,
Speaker 5: Like I was always found myself in a relationship, and
Speaker 5: it wasn't because I was like seeking relationships. Yes, I
Speaker 5: loved love, but like I would just fall into one.
Speaker 5: So I think, like being in the beginning of Good Moms,
Speaker 5: like that was my opportunity and my time to like
Speaker 5: really understand who I wanted to identify as as a mother,
Speaker 5: and I like Good Moms gave me that gift. And
Speaker 5: I think that now I feel like I'm in a
Speaker 5: season of like really enjoying not that I didn't enjoy
Speaker 5: motherhood then, but like really enjoying this season of motherhood,
Speaker 5: really enjoying this season of my daughter's life and wanting
Speaker 5: to spend a lot of time with her because I
Speaker 5: do know that it's going fast, because I do see
Speaker 5: that it's going fast, and I do see that like
Speaker 5: I've missed opportunities. I've missed opportunities pouring into myself because
Speaker 5: it was necessary. But then there's also the guilt, and
Speaker 5: the truth of the matter is that like there were
Speaker 5: times where I wasn't there, you know, A, because I
Speaker 5: was fulfilling my dreams. B because I was being selfish
Speaker 5: because I needed to be. And now I feel like
Speaker 5: I don't know I just I think this specifically this
Speaker 5: summer and maybe this year has been really revealing to
Speaker 5: me as to like how I want to spend like
Speaker 5: the next I won't even say eight years of motherhood
Speaker 5: because when she's eight seventeen, like she won't be at
Speaker 5: the house or yeah, it's really like five yeah, five
Speaker 5: to six, Like how what kind of mom do I
Speaker 5: want to be? Like how am I building this relationship
Speaker 5: with her?
Speaker 3: Like how is she how is she fucking doing? Is
Speaker 3: she okay?
Speaker 5: Like what are her relationships like really investing time into?
Speaker 5: Like what are the things do you want to be
Speaker 5: good at the other day she we went bike riding
Speaker 5: last night and.
Speaker 3: The later and she was like, you know what I
Speaker 3: used to do when I was eight? And I was
Speaker 3: like today, like two years ago, year and a half.
Speaker 3: She was like, sometimes I used to like go to
Speaker 3: restaurants and I'm like, sometimes like with who me?
Speaker 4: Like right?
Speaker 5: And I would sing kind of loud because I hoped
Speaker 5: like a music producer would hear me and then like
Speaker 5: maybe they'd signed me.
Speaker 3: And I was like really not kind of loud.
Speaker 5: And She's like and I was like, so do you
Speaker 5: want to be you want to sing? And then she
Speaker 5: was like no, and I could see her like like no,
Speaker 5: like she was afraid, Like I was gonna like judge her. No,
Speaker 5: not not even judge her, like for sort of like
Speaker 5: tried it, you know, like what do you want to
Speaker 5: do it?
Speaker 3: Like, let's do it.
Speaker 5: And I was like, well, I ree like if you
Speaker 5: ever wanted to sing, like you know, you have like
Speaker 5: a dad that could like help you with that, like
Speaker 5: he could produce a song for you, like whatever needed
Speaker 5: to happen.
Speaker 3: If you wanted to try it, we could do that.
Speaker 3: She's like no, No. I was like okay, So we
Speaker 3: got to we rode our bikes this restaurant near my house.
Speaker 4: Do shit, be careful back and backward.
Speaker 3: Oh, take a shout out to the backwoods, because that's
Speaker 3: all I really need.
Speaker 4: God damn.
Speaker 5: And I think like I was just like trying to
Speaker 5: casually bring it back up again because even for me,
Speaker 5: like I loved, I love music, I know how to record.
Speaker 5: The whole reason, like even I knew how to edit
Speaker 5: our podcast was because I had made tons and tons
Speaker 5: of music before and I knew how to use garage
Speaker 5: band and blah blah blah, and like me and Chaquem,
Speaker 5: like will he'll like fuck around and like like we'll
Speaker 5: uh write, well, he'll write, and then I'll sing some
Speaker 5: songs with him, and not because I want to be
Speaker 5: a singer, but just because that's something that I really
Speaker 5: genuinely loved and it like brought me joy, and so
Speaker 5: I was like, when we got to dinner, I was like,
Speaker 5: why don't we just I was like, you know what.
Speaker 5: I looked at my notes and I found a song
Speaker 5: that we wrote and we had written me and I
Speaker 5: had written a song like twenty twenty one, and she
Speaker 5: was like, let me hear it because my notes and
Speaker 5: it was like the silly little song and she's like
Speaker 5: and I was like do you like it?
Speaker 3: And she's like it's cool?
Speaker 5: And I was like, what if we like recorded it
Speaker 5: and just like messed around, because like I want to
Speaker 5: mess around. I miss me making music and maybe we
Speaker 5: can make music together. And she was like Okay, She's like,
Speaker 5: well then let's write it right now. And so we
Speaker 5: like wrote like a little song last night at the
Speaker 5: dinner table. And it's just like being able to like
Speaker 5: really tap into like the things that she really wants
Speaker 5: to do, even though I know there's fear behind it
Speaker 5: and I feel like that's like my biggest joy right
Speaker 5: now is like trying to figure out like what it
Speaker 5: is that she wants to be good at, because at ten,
Speaker 5: like I was way deep into sports already, I was
Speaker 5: like I knew I wanted to be an actor.
Speaker 3: I was already I had been auditioning since I was
Speaker 3: like eight.
Speaker 5: And for her, like, I've kind of like let it
Speaker 5: be free flowing, and I want to keep it sort
Speaker 5: of that way, but there is like a level of
Speaker 5: discipline that I think is important right now in her
Speaker 5: life that's going to set her up for the rest
Speaker 5: of her life.
Speaker 3: And I don't want to be too free flowing anymore.
Speaker 5: I want to like really try to figure out, like, Okay,
Speaker 5: if we're going to do something, let's do it. So
Speaker 5: it's been like I don't know, it's it's been fun
Speaker 5: figuring that out over the last month or so. I
Speaker 5: think that I think we talked about this a couple
Speaker 5: of weeks ago, but I agree, like I think that
Speaker 5: there when you're your kid gets around this age and
Speaker 5: they can form their own ideas and opinions, and like
Speaker 5: you could talk to them like we're talking to each other,
Speaker 5: there's a different like oh shit, this happened so quickly.
Speaker 5: And also I see that with Luna to like the fear,
Speaker 5: and I'm like, I'm I'm scary too, Like even when
Speaker 5: we do shows and stuff, I get so nervous, but
Speaker 5: I do it anyway, like that's my thing, Like I
Speaker 5: don't care how scared I am.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna do it anyway. But try to instill that
Speaker 3: in her. And also like I realize, like I get
Speaker 3: anxiety sometimes thinking like oh my god, you're not a
Speaker 3: master pianoist or anything like right now, or I haven't,
Speaker 3: like have I not made you disciplined enough so that
Speaker 3: you have something like what Macy Gray told us, make
Speaker 3: sure your kid has something that they're good at, which
Speaker 3: I agree.
Speaker 4: I also feel like like.
Speaker 3: For us, for instance, when we created Good Moms, it
Speaker 3: wasn't with all of this like very like we're like
Speaker 3: we're going to be rich. We're just like doing something
Speaker 3: because we enjoyed it, trying something new. And I feel
Speaker 3: like there's a point in adulthood where we kind of
Speaker 3: stop doing that because the reality of bills and responsibility
Speaker 3: dawns on us. And like I would I want to
Speaker 3: be more playful in my creativity because growing up and
Speaker 3: as a teenager, like I used to love to write,
Speaker 3: used to love to write poetry, scrap book, like just
Speaker 3: trying paint, like those are all things that I love
Speaker 3: to do. But as you get older, you'd make less
Speaker 3: time for them because it's like, what's going to pay
Speaker 3: the bills? And it's like I think that you're calling
Speaker 3: and you're discipline and all those things come when you're
Speaker 3: something that you really like, you just start to really like.
Speaker 3: But like like you said, bringing them in, introducing them
Speaker 3: to things free flowing and letting it like casually pushing
Speaker 3: them to get it disciplined so they get real in it.
Speaker 3: But even with us, like I'm like, we have a
Speaker 3: fucking production company, Like let's just walk around to make
Speaker 3: a movie.
Speaker 4: Let's see what happens. Like look at even Issa Ray.
Speaker 3: She put on I mean, I'm sure was serious, but
Speaker 3: like a series on the internet and this she's a
Speaker 3: fucking mogul. So it's just like I think sometimes we
Speaker 3: put we apply all this pressure to things as adults
Speaker 3: that we need to like apply the childhood lens to
Speaker 3: instead of being so.
Speaker 4: Like this is this is it?
Speaker 3: You know what I mean? And I do I want
Speaker 3: I've thought about this recently, like the nostalgia of like
Speaker 3: writing poetry or making like scrap books with poetry and
Speaker 3: them and things like I wouldn't necessarily do that now
Speaker 3: because why. But it's like why do I need a
Speaker 3: why and just and other than the point of just
Speaker 3: to create, you know. And I'm like I'm trying to, yes,
Speaker 3: be more present with Luna and like what she went
Speaker 3: like developing those skills, and also just like I'm recognizing
Speaker 3: like life is zooming by life is short, Like these
Speaker 3: moments are fleeting and it's scary, you know. I just
Speaker 3: was with my friend and he has a friend, his neighbor.
Speaker 4: He called me at the morning.
Speaker 3: He was like, you know, so and so killed themselves
Speaker 3: and I was just like I just saw this person
Speaker 3: at his house and it was so interesting, Like I
Speaker 3: had a bad feeling then, like he was arguing, he
Speaker 3: was crying, and I just like was like, you know,
Speaker 3: in passing. But when he called me, I was like,
Speaker 3: oh my god, Like somebody, like even someone who I'm
Speaker 3: not super close with but have been around, was here
Speaker 3: like a last week and then one day or he's not,
Speaker 3: and I was just like, you never know what someone's
Speaker 3: going through he was young, like twenty eight years old,
Speaker 3: and it's just like these moments, this life is so
Speaker 3: precious and like finding joy in it and just kind
Speaker 3: of removing these these societal made pressures. Like obviously it's
Speaker 3: it's real because you have to survive, you have to
Speaker 3: take care of yourself, but like every moment counts, and
Speaker 3: it's just like being playful in it, being present in it,
Speaker 3: and even being gentle with myself, you know, like how
Speaker 3: I'm gentle with my child. And I took Luna with
Speaker 3: me were to see my friend yesterday and I was
Speaker 3: like before we walked in, I was like, damn sure
Speaker 3: I tell her because I'm sure this is going to
Speaker 3: be come up as a topic. But like even thinking
Speaker 3: about introducing the concept of suicide to a ten year old,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean, Like I don't know what
Speaker 3: age I was when I realized, Like you know, when
Speaker 3: you start to realize about birth and about death and
Speaker 3: about life and like where do you go after? Like
Speaker 3: those questions that start to dawn on you at a
Speaker 3: certain age when you become cognitizant enough and conscious enough.
Speaker 3: But I'm just like sometimes I'm worried if I'm introducing
Speaker 3: to her to concepts too early. But then again, it's like,
Speaker 3: this is life, this is what you're about to walk into.
Speaker 3: But we're at such an interesting and delicate time that
Speaker 3: I think that our parenting is showing up different than
Speaker 3: our parents did too, Like we have so much more knowledge,
Speaker 3: we have so much more awareness because we're literally scrolling,
Speaker 3: we're literally present in adulthood in this way. And I'm
Speaker 3: just like, there's this, Am I doing a good job?
Speaker 3: Am I doing good enough? Am I going to like
Speaker 3: die one day and be like, oh my god, in
Speaker 3: twenty twenty four, I should have done this or should
Speaker 3: have been at the or whatever.
Speaker 4: And I'm just like, it is such a deep.
Speaker 5: I think that though, Like I mean, yeah, I mean
Speaker 5: I think there's gonna be the ebbs and flow of
Speaker 5: sometimes it's guilt, and sometimes it is true sometimes like
Speaker 5: what I said in my early like when I first
Speaker 5: started the show and I was trying to find myself,
Speaker 5: I was away doing shit that like was for me,
Speaker 5: that was probably sometimes I had to literally sometimes reregulate
Speaker 5: myself and say, bitch, go sit down, go be a mom,
Speaker 5: like stop chasing this nake. You know, Like there's times
Speaker 5: where you're doing that, like do you really need to
Speaker 5: go on this girl's trip? Like your daughter has this
Speaker 5: this this, Yes, you only get this moment to go
Speaker 5: see this first recital, you know, like there's like the
Speaker 5: ebbs and flow of the balance. And like one thing
Speaker 5: I'll say is like I totally agree with the playfulness.
Speaker 5: I totally agree that, Like as adults we lose sight
Speaker 5: of that. And like even me, like sitting down and
Speaker 5: looking at my old journals and seeing all the poetry
Speaker 5: I used to write for just no other reason, just
Speaker 5: because I was already in flow, because I was already
Speaker 5: writing music, and then like trying to get back to
Speaker 5: that and not overthink it. And then now we re
Speaker 5: trying to introduce my daughter to this concept of having
Speaker 5: fun making music. But then also like the discipline, and
Speaker 5: like why I think I think that that is important,
Speaker 5: Like yes, the play all those things, but then like
Speaker 5: once you decide or once you see something blossoming, then
Speaker 5: like really pushing the discipline. And that's where like I
Speaker 5: think it gets a little tricky for parents because we
Speaker 5: feel like I don't want to, like, am I forcing
Speaker 5: her to do something she doesn't want to do? And
Speaker 5: it's like, well, I think about all the times my
Speaker 5: mom forced me to get up and take my ass
Speaker 5: a soccer practice, forced me to do, like force me
Speaker 5: to go to the audition I didn't want to go
Speaker 5: to because I was scared, or because I just didn't
Speaker 5: feel like it.
Speaker 3: I wanted to go hang out with my friends. And like,
Speaker 3: I think that we.
Speaker 5: Become in a society sometimes a little too complacent too
Speaker 5: with our parenting, and like, I do believe like there's
Speaker 5: a level of discipline, especially in this age, that I
Speaker 5: maybe like even before this age, honestly, that I think
Speaker 5: it's important for kids, especially in the world that we're
Speaker 5: living in now, especially in a world that's like literally
Speaker 5: wants us to be numb, literally just wants us to
Speaker 5: just tap in away and go like desensitize ourselves and
Speaker 5: just go for pay and go forget what's really happening.
Speaker 5: And it's like, no, Like there's a level of discipline
Speaker 5: that at least for me, I can only speak for
Speaker 5: myself that I'm realizing that I want to implement in
Speaker 5: her because I've allowed her to.
Speaker 3: Be choose what she wants to do. Oh, you want
Speaker 3: to quit soccer? Okay, you know you're.
Speaker 5: Only eight let's like figure out some other stuff you
Speaker 5: want to do. And that's fine, but like I don't
Speaker 5: want that to continue to be the trend in like
Speaker 5: how I'm allowing her to flow in and out of
Speaker 5: her interests. Like, if you're going to be interested in something,
Speaker 5: let's really explore it all the way, fully decide if
Speaker 5: you don't like this all the way.
Speaker 3: Do you feel like when you did soccer and I
Speaker 3: sorry go ahead, no sorry, no, no, no, go ahead. Do
Speaker 3: you feel like when you were like, uh, deeply in
Speaker 3: sports it was because you were like, this is what
Speaker 3: I want to do and you're like, Mom picked me up,
Speaker 3: we have a game, or is because she was like,
Speaker 3: this is what you're.
Speaker 4: Going to do?
Speaker 3: No, I think that's My journey to sports was layered.
Speaker 3: It's my dad.
Speaker 1: My dad.
Speaker 5: My dad was a professional athlete, like you know, the
Speaker 5: top athletes ever, and like I always knew that growing up,
Speaker 5: and people always assumed that I was an athlete because
Speaker 5: of that, And then I actually did have talent as
Speaker 5: an athlete. And then I also realized I liked winning
Speaker 5: and so like, and I realized I was naturally competitive
Speaker 5: and like that I could get good at something in
Speaker 5: that way I think the first thing that I was
Speaker 5: good at was swimming, So like I started competing in swimming, and.
Speaker 3: Like that was fun.
Speaker 5: I could hang out with my friends like I had
Speaker 5: my crew, you know. But then there's times where like
Speaker 5: I didn't fucking feel like doing it, and those are
Speaker 5: the times where your parenting has to step in and
Speaker 5: you have to like be.
Speaker 3: Like it's hard. I didn't realize how difficult it probably
Speaker 3: was for my mom At times. It's hard because you
Speaker 3: want to be like, oh, baby, like it is early.
Speaker 3: I did keep you up all late last night because
Speaker 3: we were out with my friends, right, and now I'm
Speaker 3: forcing you to get up at six am to go
Speaker 3: to your soccer. Let's just stay no, Like my mom
Speaker 3: did not play that shit, Like she was like, get
Speaker 3: your ass up, you're going I don't care. You have
Speaker 3: soccer in the morning and you have soccer after school,
Speaker 3: and you know, like granted, eventually, I wouldn't say that's
Speaker 3: why I started hating like that sport. It was probably
Speaker 3: my coach.
Speaker 5: But that level of discipline I see show up in
Speaker 5: me now. I see how it shows up in like
Speaker 5: how I like my well when I'm when I'm focused
Speaker 5: on something I'm going to I'm going to follow it through.
Speaker 5: I want to finish it, and then I see how
Speaker 5: like sometimes it has it showed up for me too,
Speaker 5: like in ways where I haven't completed things, and I
Speaker 5: just want I want to give I want to give
Speaker 5: my daughter the opportunity to really be able to hone
Speaker 5: in on discipline, because I think discipline I learned early.
Speaker 5: But then I think I kind of when you become an.
Speaker 3: Adult and you can do whatever you want, you kind
Speaker 3: of like lose track of that and you're like, fuck it,
Speaker 3: I don't have to do this. I don't have to
Speaker 3: do that well.
Speaker 4: Because there's no practice, there's no coach.
Speaker 3: Yeah, there's that's doing it. And then you're like, why
Speaker 3: am I Why don't I know what I'm doing with
Speaker 3: my life? I don't know what I'm doing? Mom? Help?
Speaker 5: And your mom's like, bitch, I tried, it's on my hands.
Speaker 5: So letting you get an adult. And then you're like,
Speaker 5: I hate my nine to five?
Speaker 3: What are you know? So it's I don't know.
Speaker 5: I just I don't want to be like a fucking
Speaker 5: what is it called an authoritarian? But I also I
Speaker 5: think that I'm I realized like that I want her
Speaker 5: to hone in on what it is that she wants, like,
Speaker 5: for example, even horseback riding, like she hasn't she stopped
Speaker 5: horseback riding.
Speaker 3: She was getting really good at that. Obviously that was expensive,
Speaker 3: so we had to stop that. That was getting crazy. But
Speaker 3: like just certain things, I don't want her to think
Speaker 3: that she can just pick and choose what she likes
Speaker 3: and then abandon it when it gets a little bit challenging. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I'm also realizing like we have to be examples for those,
Speaker 3: for those for those uh, just little hobbies, you know,
Speaker 3: like I I have.
Speaker 4: To read books. For you to read books, I'd be like,
Speaker 4: let's go.
Speaker 3: You have to see me do the thing to even
Speaker 3: be like, bitch you, I didn't see you read a
Speaker 3: book this year. And I've And that's another thing, Like
Speaker 3: I used to read so much and because I was,
Speaker 3: I was writing, so I was reading, and like time
Speaker 3: now like I've finished two books this year, which is
Speaker 3: a fucking miracle, you know, and it's we're in July,
Speaker 3: and I obviously that's not a lot, but just diving
Speaker 3: into my hobbies so that she sees me do the
Speaker 3: same thing, so that she's encouraged to do the same thing.
Speaker 4: Like it's such parenting.
Speaker 3: I don't know if we'll ever stop figuring it out,
Speaker 3: Like it's a constant dissection of like balance and compassion
Speaker 3: and discipline. And it's just like I realized where my
Speaker 3: parents could have probably been more like I never had
Speaker 3: a parent that was like you have to do this
Speaker 3: or like you know, I mean even when I was
Speaker 3: deep into dance, like it's because that's what I wanted
Speaker 3: to do, I was like waking that up, like yo,
Speaker 3: you gotta drop me off at seven am, you know.
Speaker 3: But I do feel like with adulthood, you're like, oh,
Speaker 3: I don't have to do that, and so I could
Speaker 3: just go hang out with my soul.
Speaker 5: And then you have to read and you have to
Speaker 5: you have to, Like it's like a resurgence of that
Speaker 5: on your own terms.
Speaker 3: And it's like but sometimes it takes a little bit longer.
Speaker 5: And I mean even in our space like of like
Speaker 5: having a business, like it's like the ebbs and flow
Speaker 5: of like staying focused, staying activated, staying inspired.
Speaker 3: Like right when there's no paycheck, there's no boss, you know,
Speaker 3: there's no deadline. Yeah, And I think it starts early.
Speaker 3: Oh and by the way, guys.
Speaker 5: I don't know if you guys, if there's any kids
Speaker 5: of parents between the ages of four and fourteen in
Speaker 5: the LA area. Speaking of mindfulness of discipline, my partner
Speaker 5: Skem is doing a muay time meditation program in the
Speaker 5: park for kids. So IRI's gonna be there. It starts
Speaker 5: this Friday and it's in the valley, and so if
Speaker 5: you're interested, make sure you go check out his Instagram.
Speaker 5: I don't know how to fun she Kem house at Instagram,
Speaker 5: at him, or you can email shakem works at gmail
Speaker 5: dot com and and tap in.
Speaker 3: Because I'm excited for Iri to do that. I'm excited
Speaker 3: you should bring Luna.
Speaker 5: To to just like even learn about I've meditated with Iri,
Speaker 5: but have I like sat down with her and like
Speaker 5: made it fun and like.
Speaker 3: She come so good with kids.
Speaker 5: So if you're interested in like introducing your kids to
Speaker 5: muy thai, which is a great confidence builder. Our kids
Speaker 5: need more than ever to know how to protect themselves
Speaker 5: and then also mindfulness and meditation, then come.
Speaker 3: Join us on Friday at the park in the valley.
Speaker 3: Do you remember when I used to hate we used
Speaker 3: to hate sing my partner. I know, I call my boyfriend,
Speaker 3: my part.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I just to say that my friend Romo, she
Speaker 5: used to call her man her partner, and I was like,
Speaker 5: he sounds like he's trans or like are you, like.
Speaker 4: Are you lesbian?
Speaker 3: Are you? I don't know, like what's going on that.
Speaker 4: We have a new vocabulary.
Speaker 5: But you know what I see, I understand it now
Speaker 5: because boy friend, my man.
Speaker 3: Is not a boy and he's not my friend. So
Speaker 3: where the fuck did we get this? I mean, he's
Speaker 3: my friend, but like, where the fuck did we get this?
Speaker 3: Like it's for teenagers, your boyfriend, yea, even a love Island.
Speaker 5: Sorry, not to go back to the violin one of
Speaker 5: the moments I noticed she was like, I'm going to
Speaker 5: pick one of the boys.
Speaker 4: I always call them boys.
Speaker 5: I'm like, because they are they're like little boys, not
Speaker 5: like the men.
Speaker 3: Never the men, the boys.
Speaker 4: Because they are boys.
Speaker 3: I love them though, I'm like, I love I love
Speaker 3: the life violent boys.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, Oh my god.
Speaker 5: But yeah, no, just like going back, like the discipline
Speaker 5: I think is important and but for sure like the play,
Speaker 5: like the play is is a big part of them
Speaker 5: deciding what you want to be disciplined in. So I'm
Speaker 5: excited to make some music with iron and see what
Speaker 5: comes of it. And you know, I even when we
Speaker 5: were writing the song, I could feel myself trying to
Speaker 5: like I was like wanting to like control, like that
Speaker 5: doesn't make sense, Like just leave it alone.
Speaker 3: Let it not make sense. Okay, it doesn't make sense.
Speaker 4: Music listen, it doesn't make sense. Yeah I do.
Speaker 3: I just want to do more kids stuff because adulting
Speaker 3: is intense. I want to pain and play and do
Speaker 3: makeup and ride bikes night cycles and yeah, just be
Speaker 3: the best mom I can be.
Speaker 4: But there's no rule book.
Speaker 3: Maybe that's the next book, a Good Mom's Guide to
Speaker 3: being a good mom. I think, well, you make the rules.
Speaker 3: You make the rule book for how you want a parent.
Speaker 3: I think that.
Speaker 5: I think you make the rules, and then you move
Speaker 5: through life within those guardrails, right, like they're yours to do.
Speaker 5: But I think that it's important to I don't know,
Speaker 5: like you wing it. And then eventually, like when you
Speaker 5: have your second child, you have tools, right, so then
Speaker 5: it's you do have a book at that point. I mean,
Speaker 5: obviously you're having a whole different child with a whole
Speaker 5: different set of needs and wants. But ideally, like generally,
Speaker 5: like there's some standard things that you know, like hey,
Speaker 5: last time I did this, maybe this time I'm not
Speaker 5: going to do that.
Speaker 4: I think I've been really.
Speaker 3: Scared and like it's not scared, but like really realizing
Speaker 3: the the realness of like having another baby. And I'm like, oh,
Speaker 3: like with one, it's one way, and it's been a
Speaker 3: certain way with this child.
Speaker 4: You know, we've been alone.
Speaker 3: You know, it's just been a whole different Twenty seven
Speaker 3: to ten years later to twenty seven to twenty four
Speaker 3: is such a It's like I'm a whole different human
Speaker 3: and like considering redoing that, and just like we have
Speaker 3: so many friends who just like popped out kids back
Speaker 3: to back, but we did it because we were just
Speaker 3: like whoa, we just got the hang of this one.
Speaker 3: And now considering redoing like doing that again. It's like
Speaker 3: a resurgence of I guess, like the second half of adulthood,
Speaker 3: the second half of motherhood. And it feels scary. It's like, oh,
Speaker 3: my life is changing. And even though as women were
Speaker 3: always talking about, like from young girls, we're like we
Speaker 3: have a husband and then I'm gonna get a house
Speaker 3: and then we're gonna live happy. I'll live every after
Speaker 3: and I have three to five kids. But the reality
Speaker 3: of that is like, oh my god, this is a
Speaker 3: decade later. This is a whole news, Like I know
Speaker 3: the I know that, not the darkness, but kind of
Speaker 3: the deep, the deepness of having an infant, of pregnancy.
Speaker 3: It's far away from me, but like I feel like
Speaker 3: a like a like an adolescence, an adolescent in adults
Speaker 3: like read dooing a new cycle again and I'm like,
Speaker 3: oh wow, this is requiring a different part of me
Speaker 3: because I do know better because I have done it
Speaker 3: this way, and like how am I going to do
Speaker 3: it this way?
Speaker 4: What does this look like? And also just.
Speaker 3: Thinking about aging and not in the like the vain sense,
Speaker 3: but like safety finances, like I don't want to work
Speaker 3: when I'm sixty five, Like I have to maintain comfortability
Speaker 3: and safety for myself and for my child even after
Speaker 3: I'm gone, And what does that look like?
Speaker 4: What is what is the four oh one? Kay? What
Speaker 4: is the retirement?
Speaker 3: Like those type of thoughts too, are like I in
Speaker 3: many ways, I still feel like a young I still
Speaker 3: feel like love island age, Like fuck, this is Shit's
Speaker 3: getting real, you know, and it's always been real, But
Speaker 3: like I it's interesting how we go through these cycles
Speaker 3: of adulthood, I mean just of life in general, Like
Speaker 3: you know, there's words for it all the way up
Speaker 3: into adulthood and then it's like you got it, but
Speaker 3: the reality is like I don't got it. And there's
Speaker 3: a lot of planning that's required that I wasn't necessarily taught,
Speaker 3: So what the fuck? And it's it's scary, And I
Speaker 3: think that there should be more conversations around like adult
Speaker 3: fear and and like just well.
Speaker 5: I think everyone, I think everything, there's a lot of
Speaker 5: conversations around adult fear.
Speaker 3: If you look on Instagram, everyone's scared. I think. I
Speaker 3: think that's the problem, is that everyone's scared. Yeah, I
Speaker 3: don't have I.
Speaker 5: Don't necessarily have fear around having a baby. I mean
Speaker 5: I just have Like I think I just know that's
Speaker 5: it's not about the fear. It's just like I'm I'm
Speaker 5: not in la la land about it. Like I'm very
Speaker 5: clear about like the reality of it. I'm not like
Speaker 5: what is it going to.
Speaker 3: Be, Like, oh my god, are you gonna have his face?
Speaker 3: I'm like, who's gonna pay these bills? Yeah?
Speaker 5: Yeah, Like like am I gonna have a v am
Speaker 5: I gonna be able to have a vback?
Speaker 3: If not, who's going to pay for this C section?
Speaker 5: And like where is the world going to be at
Speaker 5: when this baby's born? Like are we going to be
Speaker 5: living in ai fucking universe? Or am I be able
Speaker 5: to make money as a creator because now there's fake creators,
Speaker 5: Like like that's where myne mind goes. It's not necessarily
Speaker 5: like whether or not I can be a good parent
Speaker 5: or I can do it or if like if like
Speaker 5: sha Ken would be a good dad, Like I'm excited
Speaker 5: about that idea, but it's just like it's the it's
Speaker 5: the worldly things that I feel I think you have
Speaker 5: no control worried about, but also like yeah, I just know.
Speaker 5: I also know that historically God has looked out for me,
Speaker 5: like literally all the time, every day, always, and so
Speaker 5: I'm not really too worried about that either. It's just
Speaker 5: like if it happens, great, When it happens, I'd like
Speaker 5: to have a little bit more. I have control over
Speaker 5: right now, and I'm continuing to have control over until
Speaker 5: we feel like it's the time, which is not like
Speaker 5: I'm not gonna have a baby until I'm married. So yeah,
Speaker 5: I'm traditional in that way now now now, because and
Speaker 5: that's a learning for me. That's something that I've learned
Speaker 5: along the way, Like, don't have a baby with a
Speaker 5: nigga that you're kind of broken up with, Like that's
Speaker 5: probably not a great idea.
Speaker 3: I don't have a baby with a nigga that you
Speaker 3: see a lot of red flags and they're like, this
Speaker 3: is probably is going to be an issue now. If
Speaker 3: it's an issue now, it's probably gonna be an issue
Speaker 3: when I have a baby.
Speaker 5: Yeah, So you know, And I feel like I'm a
Speaker 5: lot more. I feel like I feel like I'm a
Speaker 5: patient parent, but I feel like I will have even
Speaker 5: more patients. And I also feel like I will have
Speaker 5: more support literally, like I like will be having a
Speaker 5: real person that can actually help me tangibly. So I
Speaker 5: do feel like it would be a different experience and
Speaker 5: I'm excited about that. But all the other stuff, like, yeah,
Speaker 5: I mean, it can be it can be scary. The
Speaker 5: world is scary place, The Internet is weird, and I
Speaker 5: highly highly recommend everyone unplug from the Internet, Instagram, TikTok,
Speaker 5: like do detox is as often as possible, especially right
Speaker 5: now because it's dark, it's weird and every time I
Speaker 5: specifically Instagram for me, whenever I open it up, it's
Speaker 5: a lot of negativity. Like I recently joined TikTok and
Speaker 5: I can't believe I'm saying that out loud.
Speaker 3: And when I'm there, it's a lot more cheerful, it's
Speaker 3: a lot more happy over on TikTok. And I'm not
Speaker 3: even scrolling on TikTok. I'm not even a TikTok scroller.
Speaker 3: But like whenever I open the app, it's not like
Speaker 3: duty is acquitted on all charges, Like it's not is.
Speaker 4: He quitted in all charges?
Speaker 5: Well, no, he's not quit all charges, but he's basically
Speaker 5: going he's not going to serve any time. I don't
Speaker 5: think he's not out though, No he's not out, but
Speaker 5: I doubt he'll serve time.
Speaker 3: Maybe he'll like do time served already rights.
Speaker 5: Wow, But like that, like that compares along with all
Speaker 5: of the all of the politics and the drownings and
Speaker 5: just the climates and the love islands and the like.
Speaker 4: It's a lot.
Speaker 5: And so it's just you know, unplug I would say,
Speaker 5: if you can, that's my tip of the day.
Speaker 3: This is unplugged from the Internet. That's affirmation unplugged from
Speaker 3: the ship. The affirmation is unplug from the Internet.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think I'm gonna go camping next week. I think,
Speaker 4: I mean, I think what I need to utilize.
Speaker 3: I'm realizing that to utilize nature in the place in
Speaker 3: which I live, and not just reserve it for me
Speaker 3: when I go to the jungle.
Speaker 5: No, And that's what I've been That's why I've said
Speaker 5: I've been going to the beach a lot. I live
Speaker 5: fucking near the beach. I was like, why am I
Speaker 5: not going to the beach more often? I mean, I
Speaker 5: knew I hadn't been to Malibu since the fires.
Speaker 4: How is it? Does it feel?
Speaker 5: I didn't go to the like so when you go
Speaker 5: over my canyon to the left is where all the
Speaker 5: fires were.
Speaker 3: I go to the right.
Speaker 5: And yesterday I can't no. On On Sunday, I went
Speaker 5: to Zooma zoom and it was beautiful. Really, it was
Speaker 5: so nice.
Speaker 3: The water was blue.
Speaker 5: It was like Zuoma reminds me of my childhood too.
Speaker 5: I spent so much of my child I don't know
Speaker 5: why everyone was going to Zooma.
Speaker 4: I would as a child too.
Speaker 5: I know, I'm say she came to he was like
Speaker 5: this was my beach. I'm like, why was everyone going
Speaker 5: to zoom?
Speaker 3: I guess I was a little bit outside of the city,
Speaker 3: so the water is supposed to be a little bit better.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 5: So anyway, I've been I've been doing that as much
Speaker 5: as I can, as much as I can, and it does.
Speaker 3: It feels good. I feel like my transition from Costa
Speaker 3: Rica to here has been pretty nice.
Speaker 5: Like it hasn't been. It's like we had those days off.
Speaker 5: Iri was at camp. I came back and it's been
Speaker 5: like smooth, smooth sailing. Typically it's like coming back in
Speaker 5: after a retreat in January and I have I'm in
Speaker 5: Q one of our business and I have to get
Speaker 5: back plug back in the team is like brand partnership.
Speaker 5: So it's a little bit different in the summertime. But
Speaker 5: I would encourage you guys, if your kids are out
Speaker 5: of school, this is the time to go plug into nature.
Speaker 5: Like if you've got to bring your laptop for work and.
Speaker 3: Do a few hours of work, do that. But you
Speaker 3: have the opportunity of like a free, open schedule and
Speaker 3: open day, take advantage of it.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I really just want to live my life in peace
Speaker 3: and just do it. Intentionally, so it doesn't feel I
Speaker 3: don't want to be on my deathbed and be like, wow,
Speaker 3: I was rushing, Where was I going?
Speaker 4: Everything was moving so fast?
Speaker 3: I want to be like I mean, I know, I know,
Speaker 3: like we I live such a full life, you know,
Speaker 3: like we have such a good friends, We do fun shit.
Speaker 3: This is everything that I manifested, you know, so like
Speaker 3: being present in that too, and just yeah, like in
Speaker 3: just the environment what we live outside of the internet,
Speaker 3: outside of that, and just in nature, in this fucking
Speaker 3: city that we pay thousands of dollars of taxes for
Speaker 3: and rent.
Speaker 4: So just yeah, fucking adult.
Speaker 5: Yeah, do that, but then also be disciplined and get
Speaker 5: your shit done so that you can do that right,
Speaker 5: you know, like make all the coins you can so
Speaker 5: that you can fucking retire early. Shrink your life down.
Speaker 5: I feel like that's like something I've been thinking about
Speaker 5: a lot too. It's like not that like I wouldn't
Speaker 5: want to dream big and I don't want to have
Speaker 5: like you know, I'm not like shrinking my dreams down.
Speaker 5: It's more so like my need for things, like I've
Speaker 5: I feel like I've gotten to a place where I've
Speaker 5: acquired a lot of things that I asked for. But
Speaker 5: then it's like I didn't think about the maintaining of
Speaker 5: these things, and how unhappy it's made.
Speaker 3: It's making me to have to maintain all.
Speaker 5: Of these things when like, really like the richness of
Speaker 5: life is in the experiences.
Speaker 3: The richness of life is like how you live, of.
Speaker 5: Course, but like simplicity, Yeah, there's like there's more simplicity
Speaker 5: to it, Like and if you if you simplify your
Speaker 5: life that you can buy that first class ticket to
Speaker 5: Paris because you're not paying seven thousand dollars of rent
Speaker 5: back home, you know, So it's like reimagining like what
Speaker 5: but like richness looks like in your life? And because
Speaker 5: I've been thinking about like, yeah, the maintaining of life
Speaker 5: and like how are people doing this till they're like sixty,
Speaker 5: Like especially in this economy now, it's so much different
Speaker 5: than when our parents were our grandparents.
Speaker 3: Were alive, Like how are people retiring?
Speaker 5: Like honestly and literally and like feeling good about it,
Speaker 5: feeling like I can still live how I lived. And
Speaker 5: I think it's like when you get older, you actually
Speaker 5: just realize you don't need all this shit, and you
Speaker 5: just slowly start to simplify your life until you're like
Speaker 5: living on a farm in Montana that you bought in
Speaker 5: your early thirties that you never thought you'd really live
Speaker 5: at and it's.
Speaker 3: Fine and you're actually better off and you're TechEd away.
Speaker 3: So I'm trying to get to that place sooner, yeah
Speaker 3: than sixty five to seventy. I do feel like simplicity.
Speaker 3: I do feel like, yeah, simple shit, simple, simple, simple.
Speaker 3: But I do have things to do while I'm here,
Speaker 3: and I love what I do, So yeah, I'm remembering that,
Speaker 3: you know, like I we get to travel, we get
Speaker 3: to make friends, we get to heal, we get to
Speaker 3: play in a lot of different like different parts of ourselves.
Speaker 3: We get to sit and talk to each other in
Speaker 3: our studio and put on makeup and our kids are
Speaker 3: in the other room and like barbecue and you know,
Speaker 3: like all the fun things that we do in our
Speaker 3: friend group. And I'm like, I'm grateful for that. I
Speaker 3: recognize that this is a gift. We don't have to
Speaker 3: go clock in and you know, and there's there's there's
Speaker 3: pros and there's cons, But for the most part, this
Speaker 3: is what I.
Speaker 4: Envisioned in ways talking for a living hanging out with
Speaker 4: my friend.
Speaker 3: And pull a card. It's a terroot time.
Speaker 4: It is terroot time.
Speaker 3: Go ahead, okay. Resilience, courage, persistence, test of faith boundaries.
Speaker 3: It says, the nine of Wands comes as a sign
Speaker 3: that even in the face of adversity, you stand tall
Speaker 3: and strong. You may be on the edge of exhaustion,
Speaker 3: but you are resilient, persistent, and ready to do what
Speaker 3: it takes to get to the finish line. This card
Speaker 3: may also come when you feel battered and bruised, having
Speaker 3: endured significant challenges and struggles along your path. Just when
Speaker 3: you think you're making progress, you suffer another setback.
Speaker 4: The Nine of Wands.
Speaker 3: Asks you to trust that it trusts that this is
Speaker 3: merely a test of your grit and resilience, and know
Speaker 3: that every time you overcome an obstacle, you're getting stronger.
Speaker 3: You have the inner resources necessary to overcome any difficult
Speaker 3: any difficulty you encounter, even though it may seem impossible
Speaker 3: at the time. See this nine as an assurance that
Speaker 3: you will eventually prosper if you maintain your position, and
Speaker 3: if you do not succeed at first, then try again
Speaker 3: and encourage you to keep pushing. You are also close
Speaker 3: to the You're so close to the finish line, even
Speaker 3: if you want to give up. This is your final
Speaker 3: challenge before you reach your goal. So don't let go
Speaker 3: of your hopes and dreams when you are so close
Speaker 3: to making them a reality. Stand firm in the face
Speaker 3: of your challenges, and you will achieve your goal. Others
Speaker 3: may try to oppose your plans, make things difficult for you,
Speaker 3: or even attack you for what you're putting out into
Speaker 3: the world. Often they do it because they're jealous of
Speaker 3: your success or rare, or are projecting their own insecurities
Speaker 3: and fears on you. Don't let them get to you.
Speaker 3: You're a change maker and you have a vital message
Speaker 3: to share in this world. Don't dim your light because
Speaker 3: of others insecurities. Okay, it doesn't look as sad as
Speaker 3: he is. You're almost there. Just like we said, just
Speaker 3: keep going, Just keep going. Does that resonate with you?
Speaker 3: I don't feel battered and bruised, but yeah, I do
Speaker 3: feel like there's like a push right now for completion and.
Speaker 5: Knowing that there's more that I want to expand upon
Speaker 5: even in this space that I haven't really had the
Speaker 5: opportunity to, and that I wanted to. I wanted to
Speaker 5: feel good, I wanted to feel in play. But I
Speaker 5: also know that there's like a level of like focus
Speaker 5: that it requires, So I guess I resonate with that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I definitely feel like there's a shift happening, like
Speaker 3: there's I mean, I guess there's shit is always changing.
Speaker 4: Change is the one thing that's consistent.
Speaker 3: But yeah, in my I guess maybe because I just
Speaker 3: had a birthday and just where we're at in the world,
Speaker 3: but I do think there's like an awakening and a
Speaker 3: shifting happening and it's like a transitional time.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Sure, can you guys write in and give us hories
Speaker 3: I need, we need your horse stories.
Speaker 5: Riding your horries. If you have any hories, make sure
Speaker 5: you write them in. Well, actually, there's a link that
Speaker 5: will put in this episode description where.
Speaker 3: You can write in your hories.
Speaker 5: You can write in your bad choices of the week.
Speaker 5: Make sure you join our Facebook group. We have a
Speaker 5: retreat coming up you guys at the end of the month.
Speaker 5: We have a few more spots left. If you miss
Speaker 5: the sale for a memorial Memorial Day, whatever the fucking
Speaker 5: stupid ass to day that it was, and you want
Speaker 5: to escape with us. We've extended the discount code, so
Speaker 5: if you still want to use it, you can get
Speaker 5: eight hundred dollars off your trip when you use code escape.
Speaker 5: If you're like, fuck, I need a summer trip, I
Speaker 5: don't know where to go.
Speaker 3: Stop waiting for your friends.
Speaker 5: Fuck those bitches and come hang out with us and
Speaker 5: find a new tribe of bitches to hang out with.
Speaker 5: It's going to be in Costa Rica July thirty first
Speaker 5: through August fifth. We also have August eighth through the thirteenth.
Speaker 5: We have a few solo rooms left. We have a
Speaker 5: few shared rooms left, so if you do want to
Speaker 5: come with your homegirl, you can come, or if you
Speaker 5: want to share a room with a new homegirl, that's
Speaker 5: great too.
Speaker 3: If you're thinking this is very last minute and I
Speaker 3: am not going to be able to leave next week,
Speaker 3: you can because we've extended payments so you don't have
Speaker 3: to have it all paid by the thirty first. I
Speaker 3: realized that's in two weeks, but if you need a
Speaker 3: little more time, you have the option to do that.
Speaker 3: You can also get your friends and your family to
Speaker 3: contribute to your trip because there's a link for that,
Speaker 3: so utilize your tribe and your family. If you got
Speaker 3: a birthday coming up, let them know that's what you
Speaker 3: want for your birthday. But don't make excuses. Invest in
Speaker 3: your rest, invest in doing something different, like when you
Speaker 3: step outside of the box. Beautiful things happen when you
Speaker 3: say yes. And a lot of people are like, I
Speaker 3: wouldn't go on no trip, But no, bitches, I don't know.
Speaker 3: I've done it fifteen times and it's literally so much
Speaker 3: fun to meet new people and going on an adventure
Speaker 3: of you know, just the unknown and let somebody else
Speaker 3: plan everything for you. You don't have to do shit,
Speaker 3: you don't have to think about meals, you don't have
Speaker 3: to think about transportation, you want to think about activities.
Speaker 3: It's all provided for you. And that's the type of
Speaker 3: vacation I want to have.
Speaker 5: And you know, I think, like we used to post
Speaker 5: testimonials of the women from the retreat. If you go
Speaker 5: back in our episodes, you can listen to a few testimonials.
Speaker 5: But maybe we'll just share a testimonial at the end
Speaker 5: of this episode, just so you understand from someone else
Speaker 5: that has fully experienced this retreat what it does is
Speaker 5: all about. Because I think some people are like, what's
Speaker 5: going on there? What's happening. It's kind of hard, it's
Speaker 5: like hard to explain. You kind of like got to
Speaker 5: be there to get it. But we have some really
Speaker 5: beautiful testimonials from people that have come. If you go
Speaker 5: and check out our retreat site, we have five star reviews,
Speaker 5: five stars from all of our attendees. So don't take
Speaker 5: it from us, Take it from the other people that
Speaker 5: have come. Take it from the women whose lives have
Speaker 5: changed after this retreat, whose partners have now come to
Speaker 5: our retreat and the couple's retreat because their partners saw
Speaker 5: the transformation in their women, and we're like, fuck that
Speaker 5: we need to go to.
Speaker 3: Anyway. I hope that I see you guys in Costa Rica,
Speaker 3: because I'll be there and you should too. I'll definitely
Speaker 3: be there. And if we're there and you're on the
Speaker 3: stories and you're seeing us living our best lives, you're
Speaker 3: gonna be mad you didn't just.
Speaker 5: Especially because you didn't even have to pay for it
Speaker 5: all at one time. Girl, Come on, yeah, don't make excuses.
Speaker 5: Treat yourself, don't cheat yourself.
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Speaker 4: Bye please.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm living so good. Can't you tell I went
Speaker 2: through a drought. That's until I find out, well, may my.
Speaker 3: Have been known?
Speaker 2: Earth that used to be broken tail now got the
Speaker 2: blues in to like Beyonce Jasell throat shot or the
Speaker 2: Pop and his Cow wearing our voices. Patriarchy kept it
Speaker 2: in the box to exploit its women put the pee
Speaker 2: and powers.
Speaker 3: So what's pointless?
Speaker 2: They want me to be good?
Speaker 1: So I made bad choices.
Speaker 3: Bad mom, not a bad mom.
Speaker 4: But a bad mom. Ititter's in on, put cannabis in
Speaker 4: their bath.
Speaker 2: Bon walked in Bostons cap and I blew his cat
Speaker 2: ball tied dog. Now I'm immune to the cat called Herbie,
Speaker 2: and no waisted straight to it like a dollar sign. Mother,
Speaker 2: rent the lover when too, It's like a water sign
Speaker 2: where you're rent the winter essential will win the summertime.
Speaker 4: I do at all. Ain't no one that needs to
Speaker 4: run it by