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Speaker 1: Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife.

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Speaker 2: She couldn't.

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Speaker 1: She cleaned and cared for her children and the man

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Speaker 1: of the house, and of course she didn't talk back.

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Speaker 1: She was both obeed, hint and soft by nature. She

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Speaker 1: was a good woman who always made good choices.

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Speaker 3: That we're good mom's bad choices. Who single mom who

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Speaker 3: said fuck the patriarchy, shared all their bad choices and

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Speaker 3: sound out they were so bad. After all, we're experts,

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Speaker 3: overshares and your new besties. Sit back and enjoy the ride.

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Speaker 3: I can do it. Welcome back to good Mom's bad Choices.

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Speaker 3: I'm Erica and I'm Mela. Happy humpty bitches, Happy motherfucking

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Speaker 3: hump day?

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Speaker 4: What did it do? How are you feeling. I'm good.

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Speaker 5: It's the second week of July. I can't believe how

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Speaker 5: quick the summer is going. It's getting very hot as

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Speaker 5: fuck in the valley, going to the beach a lot,

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Speaker 5: not getting in the water because I'm still scared. But yeah,

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Speaker 5: I've been good.

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Speaker 4: How are you? I'm good?

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Speaker 3: I know the summer is going by so fast. I

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Speaker 3: feel like, you know, like the summers get shorter as

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Speaker 3: you get older, like you start to notice time I

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Speaker 3: feel like that a lot like that summer is getting shorter,

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Speaker 3: time is going faster. I feel like we're going back

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Speaker 3: to Costa Rica. We just got back. And I also

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Speaker 3: feel like traveling and doing stuff is just like way

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Speaker 3: more tolling on my body. Like it's not even that

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Speaker 3: we're doing a lot of things. It's just like packing,

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Speaker 3: putting in the suitcase, washing, bringing it home, unpacking it,

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Speaker 3: putting it back, getting on the airplane, sitting in the

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Speaker 3: stupid ass, stupid chair. It's just like, I don't know,

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Speaker 3: it's just taxing. And I'm like I need when we

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Speaker 3: come back for like two or three weeks. I feel

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Speaker 3: like I need eight weeks to recover. Leave for three weeks,

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Speaker 3: recover for six to eight She Kim told me that.

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Speaker 5: This summer specifically, actually the world the world is turning

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Speaker 5: on its access faster, So this is actually going to

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Speaker 5: be the like one of the like fastest summers in

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Speaker 5: like recorded history or something like like like specifically this

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Speaker 5: summer by like two hours or by like how like

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Speaker 5: how much minutes, Because if every day is twenty four

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Speaker 5: hours and every month it's the same amount of days,

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Speaker 5: like how many minutes are we shaving off? I don't

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Speaker 5: know because I told him, I was like, I feel

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Speaker 5: like the time is being fucked with, And then like

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Speaker 5: a few days ago, he was like, I think you're

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Speaker 5: I think actually you're right.

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Speaker 3: Orlando told me that, did you say that the earth

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Speaker 3: is spending four hundred miles per hour or eight hundred

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Speaker 3: eight hundred miles per hour?

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Speaker 4: But obviously we can't feel it like that. But like.

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Speaker 3: I, I, you know, I don't believe anything that the

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Speaker 3: government tells us.

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Speaker 4: So I just who says they're not fucking with the time.

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Speaker 3: Who actually sat there today, yesterday, or last week and

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Speaker 3: counted every sixty seconds to every hour and said, yep,

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Speaker 3: they did it right.

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Speaker 4: We're just trusting the clocks and the cell phones.

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Speaker 3: We don't have watches anymore really unless you have a roleax,

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Speaker 3: and I doubt you even look at it. You just

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Speaker 3: look at the fucking phone. So if they were lying

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Speaker 3: and shaving off thirty minutes a year, we fucking wouldn't know.

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Speaker 5: Well, if you had a watch, you probably would know.

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Speaker 5: But that's why I don't think they're actually maybe doing that.

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Speaker 5: I think it's just like time is just adjusting, like

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Speaker 5: it's just moving faster. Like I think maybe the watches

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Speaker 5: actually start moving faster because everything else is moving faster,

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Speaker 5: like literally, like gravity.

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Speaker 3: Starts to pull the little thing face faster. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I mean I always think about a time before there

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Speaker 3: are watches and cell phones, and we were just measuring

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Speaker 3: by season and by daylight and noon is here, and

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Speaker 3: nighttime and even birthdays, like you think thousands of years ago.

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Speaker 3: They're like, I'm thirty five, No, you were just an adult.

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Speaker 5: Well, I said, I thought, well, if time is moving faster,

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Speaker 5: but we're not aging faster, does that mean we're going

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Speaker 5: to look younger longer. And he said, no, everything is

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Speaker 5: going to keep moving, and so is your age. I'd

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Speaker 5: so is your aging process?

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Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, I think the aging process is because

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Speaker 3: we're acknowledging time in this manner. Whoever, we have adopted

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Speaker 3: this programming that you know, twelve months is one year.

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Speaker 4: Blah blah blah blah blah blah blah.

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Speaker 3: And so technically I'm thirty seven, but in my soul

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Speaker 3: I'm twenty four, So why would my soul not be right?

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Speaker 3: And as long as I, in my soul deeply believe

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Speaker 3: that I'm twenty seven, I'm going to continue to look

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Speaker 3: twenty seven. I thought you said your twenty four, I

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Speaker 4: Four, okay, whatever.

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Speaker 3: As I said the other day at the party, that

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Speaker 3: i'm trans age, I identify as a twenty four year old,

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Speaker 3: and if anyone disrespects me and calls me outside of

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Speaker 3: my trans age, we're going to have a problem. I

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Speaker 3: identify as a twenty four year old. I feel that way.

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Speaker 3: I was born this way, and it's twenty four like

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Speaker 3: a good for you? Like why twenty four? You know?

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Speaker 3: It just seems like you're just old enough to not

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Speaker 3: be so stupid. I don't know. Twenty four I was

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Speaker 3: pretty fucking stupid. I'm twenty four with this, with this knowledge,

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Speaker 3: I'm twenty four years old in my.

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Speaker 5: So what is it that you're adopting from twenty four?

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Speaker 5: If you have the knowledge, what is it then? Because

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Speaker 5: you don't look thirty seven? So what about twenty four?

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Speaker 5: Do you need to adopt that? You can't adopt the

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Speaker 5: age that you are. It's I can't adopt the age

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Speaker 5: I am. I just choose not to because I'm transa aged.

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Speaker 3: But is it because you think thirty seven is old.

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Speaker 4: Or because I just don't feel thirty seven?

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Speaker 3: Like, what does it mean to feel thirty seven that

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Speaker 3: I've lived thirty seven years of life? But that's not

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Speaker 3: a long time though.

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Speaker 5: I think about like the scheme of the scope of

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Speaker 5: life and how long you're going to hopefully live it,

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Speaker 5: thirty seven is like still baby.

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Speaker 4: I mean not really if you think about it.

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Speaker 3: Most people are living to what ninety nine, one hundred

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Speaker 3: hopefully with technology and vitamins, I can at least make

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Speaker 3: it to one twenty five. That's like another sixty years.

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Speaker 3: But Matt, if we live that's a third of your

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Speaker 3: life already. If we live one hundred years and tidal,

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Speaker 3: let's say, and I'm thirty seven, that's about sixty four

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Speaker 4: I don't like that.

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Speaker 5: I mean, but technically you're still thirty seven. So your body,

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Speaker 5: you're still you're still gonna die.

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Speaker 4: Respect.

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Speaker 3: If we're gonna be friends, you're gonna have to respect

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Speaker 3: my HI identifying okay, which is trance age of twenty four. Okay,

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Speaker 3: I'm gonnaed you to remember the age. If we go

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Speaker 3: out and so it's like, oh my god, how old

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Speaker 3: are you? Like, oh this is my friend. She had

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Speaker 3: no because.

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Speaker 5: Everyone's gonna like, bitch, why are you hang out with

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Speaker 5: a twenty four year old, that the fuck is wrong

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Speaker 5: with you?

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Speaker 3: Where are you going? Especially they're gonna think you're twenty four?

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Speaker 3: Do you want to be twenty four? No?

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Speaker 4: What was twenty four a bad year for you?

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Speaker 3: I was.

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Speaker 5: I mean, it wasn't a bad year. I mean I

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Speaker 3: I mean, I don't ever remember, like, do you remember

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Speaker 3: specifically twenty four, yes, because it was like two years

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Speaker 5: So actually twenty four was a shitty year. Actually, I

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Speaker 5: moved to New York. I was like in the midst

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Speaker 3: Oh I don't want to be twenty four. No, I

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Speaker 3: was sad. I was having a sex.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I'm twenty four with this.

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Speaker 3: I was security. I was like, broke as fuck. Fuck.

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Speaker 4: I mean, everybody's broken their twenties. It doesn't like I

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Speaker 4: don't even thinking. I don't know. I wasn't broken. I

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Speaker 4: was twenty four, but I was stupid.

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Speaker 5: I was making dumb choices like I don't know, I

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Speaker 5: be four. If I was gonna choose a younger age

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Speaker 5: to be honestly, it would probably be like thirty one.

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Speaker 3: Thirty one was a good year. There's like I had

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Speaker 3: finally like twenty nine, I broke up with my baby daddy.

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Speaker 3: Thirty I was like healing.

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Speaker 5: Thirty one I was like prime outside like podcasts pop,

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Speaker 5: like just starting the podcast, like just just like discovering

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Speaker 5: all these new parts of myself, discovering all like building

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Speaker 3: Like that was a good That was a good time.

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Speaker 3: I'm not saying so much based on like Mike my

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Speaker 3: going back to that year because it was a mirror,

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Speaker 3: but I would just like to be that age with

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Speaker 3: this knowledge and this and this security and this like

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Speaker 3: I feel like I live my whole twenties without any

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Speaker 3: like I mean, not experience, but just like there was

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Speaker 3: just like if I could go back to twenty four,

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Speaker 3: but and I feel like I feel like twenty year

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Speaker 3: twenty the twenties now are more mature, maybe because the

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Speaker 3: Internet has more words. They have like more clarity. So

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Speaker 3: they're I mean watching Love Island. They're not that smart,

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Speaker 5: I think, I think perhaps a little bit, but as

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Speaker 5: i'm I'm like, actually, today one of my twenty four

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Speaker 5: year old I would say, she's like my little homegirl.

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Speaker 4: I was gonna say, but you don't want to be

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Speaker 3: I don't hang out with her.

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Speaker 4: When I said I was transferring, I don't hang out

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Speaker 5: Like she calls me when she needs advice. Oh I'm

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Speaker 5: not going to put her on that care right now,

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Speaker 5: but yeah, Like she calls me when she needs advice

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Speaker 5: and she's doing she's asking me some real twenty twenty

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Speaker 5: two year old shit, and I'm like, girl.

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Speaker 3: She send me pictures of shit, Like what what do

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Speaker 3: you think this means?

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Speaker 5: Do you think he's like a fluck boy and he's

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Speaker 5: like on stories with his abs out with Grace webpants on.

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Speaker 5: I'm like, yes, he is definitely getting pussy outside of you.

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Speaker 3: And like, what do you think?

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Speaker 4: Not the streenshot?

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Speaker 3: So you know, like I don't know how much far along.

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Speaker 5: The youth is just based off the Internet. I thought

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Speaker 5: about I thought that that would be the case. But

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Speaker 5: according to my calculation so far, based on the Yans

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Speaker 5: that I know, not the Whyans that I know, I'm

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Speaker 5: thinking the Internet actually isn't making them smarter, actually making

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Speaker 5: them question themselves even more and making them even more

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Speaker 5: confused and making them, specifically women, doubt their intuition even

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Speaker 5: more because there's so much confusion and there's so many options,

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Speaker 5: whereas before when we were Yans, we didn't have this

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Speaker 4: They at crazy. They turned to good moms about choices.

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Speaker 5: I watched two episodes of Love Island, and I don't

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Speaker 5: I've been getting fed so much Love Island content that

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Speaker 4: People.

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Speaker 3: Everyone's updated me on everything that's going to happen. Well,

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Speaker 4: Plotted on the show.

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Speaker 3: I want to know where Okay, I'm gonna I'm not

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Speaker 3: the shows for the older bitches? Like what's the reality

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Speaker 3: Emotional immaturity does not change because you know big words

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Speaker 5: And also, like I'm positive that there was an.

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Speaker 3: Sti STD outbreak on the show no, they're.

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Speaker 5: You can get an STI from making out if you

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Speaker 3: Oh, I mean like like herpies won. Yeah yeah, I

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Speaker 4: They have cold soares.

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Speaker 3: It's just gross. Honestly, it's really gross.

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Speaker 5: And I was like, I want to watch Love Island.

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Speaker 5: I was like, hell no, Like I left her watch

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Speaker 5: first of all, this is crazy. This is definitely not

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Speaker 5: You're not going to think that you can just go

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Speaker 4: I mean, they're do it. The twenty year old you're

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Speaker 5: I mean, I thought to myself, like when I was

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's back in the movie theaters cars, But

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Speaker 3: because we're in production, I can all all I can

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Speaker 3: You can't just see the producers on set, like, let's

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Speaker 3: let's make a make out I know a great idea,

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Speaker 3: send them a text.

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Speaker 3: Then I was like, they're got cheap because they didn't

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Speaker 3: she was too old, she was too old to be

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Speaker 5: First of all, this show's making so much money, I know,

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Speaker 3: I mean they're in Fiji though that's a huge house

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Speaker 3: they never eat dinner. I'm like, are they getting fed? No,

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Speaker 3: because they're drunk. No, actually I also heard it. But

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Speaker 3: I also noticed too because I peeped. They're not as

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Speaker 5: I haven't even gotten there, but I'm and I'm also

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Speaker 3: I will just do recap videos because.

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Speaker 5: I realized, like, my brain can't take this type of

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Speaker 4: A sure a while we're like, what the fuck are

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Speaker 3: What they want? It's like the same, like they're crying

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Speaker 3: get that I'm a mommy thing. I had no idea

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Speaker 5: But more so what I realized when I'm watching this

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Speaker 5: edge off or like distract us, and so this shit

441
00:19:26,320 --> 00:19:30,000
Speaker 5: is working. This is literally numbing people, desensitizing people, and

442
00:19:30,040 --> 00:19:36,800
Speaker 5: I'm concerned about reality TV and their connection to all

443
00:19:36,840 --> 00:19:40,440
Speaker 5: the propaganda of the world and how it is melting

444
00:19:40,440 --> 00:19:43,200
Speaker 5: our brains and making us numb to everything.

445
00:19:43,960 --> 00:19:46,919
Speaker 3: It's actually like I agree, it's it's gonna make you

446
00:19:46,960 --> 00:19:48,240
Speaker 3: stupid if you watch it too much.

447
00:19:48,400 --> 00:19:50,119
Speaker 5: It's like someone was like, I was like, give me

448
00:19:50,160 --> 00:19:51,960
Speaker 5: three to five hours to catch up. They're like, no,

449
00:19:52,000 --> 00:19:53,879
Speaker 5: you need three to five days.

450
00:19:54,560 --> 00:19:55,200
Speaker 3: Are lost.

451
00:19:55,520 --> 00:19:57,919
Speaker 5: I watched one episode and I kept like, you know,

452
00:19:58,119 --> 00:20:00,720
Speaker 5: talking on stories, and I realized it's been two hours

453
00:20:00,760 --> 00:20:01,760
Speaker 5: because I can pausing it.

454
00:20:02,640 --> 00:20:05,879
Speaker 3: They are so long, or and they're twenty eight episodes

455
00:20:05,920 --> 00:20:07,560
Speaker 3: and they're releasing them every single day.

456
00:20:07,960 --> 00:20:09,560
Speaker 4: I don't have time, and you can vote.

457
00:20:09,560 --> 00:20:10,400
Speaker 3: I don't want to have the time.

458
00:20:11,880 --> 00:20:12,680
Speaker 4: So I took a.

459
00:20:12,640 --> 00:20:19,440
Speaker 3: Break from Love Island and Orlando turned on Naked and Afraid,

460
00:20:19,640 --> 00:20:21,760
Speaker 3: which has been on for like a decade. I've seen that.

461
00:20:21,840 --> 00:20:24,000
Speaker 3: I guess I've seen it back in the day, but

462
00:20:24,119 --> 00:20:26,120
Speaker 3: can you open this for me? But I haven't seen

463
00:20:26,160 --> 00:20:31,480
Speaker 3: it recently, and I'm just like, reality TV lets me

464
00:20:31,600 --> 00:20:35,159
Speaker 3: know that the majority of humanity is stupid, and I

465
00:20:35,200 --> 00:20:37,679
Speaker 3: think it's important to note that, like, don't assume that

466
00:20:37,720 --> 00:20:42,320
Speaker 3: most people have common sense. I mean Luckily for Naked

467
00:20:42,359 --> 00:20:44,720
Speaker 3: and Afraid, they'll do twenty one days in one episode,

468
00:20:44,760 --> 00:20:47,280
Speaker 3: so I'm not fucking watching a budget. I mean, like,

469
00:20:47,800 --> 00:20:51,359
Speaker 3: but it's so many people. I mean there's black people

470
00:20:51,400 --> 00:20:53,439
Speaker 3: on there too, which is obviously shocking for me, but

471
00:20:53,480 --> 00:20:58,399
Speaker 3: there's mostly Caucasian people. But to voluntarily go into the

472
00:20:58,440 --> 00:21:04,080
Speaker 3: deep jungles of the Philippine, remove every single article of clothing,

473
00:21:04,440 --> 00:21:08,399
Speaker 3: have no supplies, and say I'm doing this for my daughter.

474
00:21:08,720 --> 00:21:11,760
Speaker 4: She's five. She's gonna know I'm so strong.

475
00:21:11,960 --> 00:21:14,639
Speaker 3: Like NIGGI, your daughter doesn't give a fuck if you

476
00:21:14,680 --> 00:21:16,760
Speaker 3: go on Naked Afraid and leave for three weeks so

477
00:21:16,800 --> 00:21:18,760
Speaker 3: you could prove to whoever the fuck that you can

478
00:21:18,800 --> 00:21:19,919
Speaker 3: survive all your money.

479
00:21:20,320 --> 00:21:21,399
Speaker 4: Now I look that up too.

480
00:21:21,480 --> 00:21:24,399
Speaker 3: They look at like compensation for missing work, like twenty grand.

481
00:21:24,840 --> 00:21:29,520
Speaker 3: They're eating snails. These two people ate a rat. They're

482
00:21:29,600 --> 00:21:34,760
Speaker 3: like getting attacked by aunts. This one girl, Erica, she

483
00:21:34,880 --> 00:21:39,840
Speaker 3: had no legs. She had a bilateral amputee. I thought

484
00:21:39,880 --> 00:21:41,840
Speaker 3: she was gonna be able to leave on her stilts.

485
00:21:42,240 --> 00:21:45,040
Speaker 3: The bitch took off her legs. She hopped out of

486
00:21:45,040 --> 00:21:48,320
Speaker 3: the truck and started crawling on her pussy through the jungle.

487
00:21:50,520 --> 00:21:53,800
Speaker 3: I mean, I got your calling, but why and then

488
00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:55,199
Speaker 3: I could just And then or Lando told me there

489
00:21:55,240 --> 00:21:58,040
Speaker 3: was an episode where they were starving because they starve

490
00:21:58,200 --> 00:22:02,480
Speaker 3: kid here in the air on Please, and the guy

491
00:22:03,600 --> 00:22:07,560
Speaker 3: found the production tent and stole food and was like

492
00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:09,119
Speaker 3: the girl was like on her last leg and he

493
00:22:09,160 --> 00:22:11,679
Speaker 3: was like, here, eat the food, and she's like where did.

494
00:22:11,560 --> 00:22:11,960
Speaker 4: You get this?

495
00:22:12,119 --> 00:22:13,960
Speaker 3: And that's again, that's all I keep thinking about, like

496
00:22:14,359 --> 00:22:16,120
Speaker 3: as me, if I signed up for this, even if

497
00:22:16,119 --> 00:22:19,439
Speaker 3: the maybe if the prize was a million dollars, I

498
00:22:19,720 --> 00:22:24,160
Speaker 3: voluntarily signed up to get naked and afraid and there's

499
00:22:24,200 --> 00:22:27,639
Speaker 3: probably like twenty motherfuckers and if within a fifteen minute

500
00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:30,880
Speaker 3: walk just eating and chilling with fucking shelter and I'm

501
00:22:30,920 --> 00:22:34,440
Speaker 3: just naked and starving because I'm stupid, Like it's one

502
00:22:34,440 --> 00:22:37,440
Speaker 3: thing if you have to survive in an apocalypt situation,

503
00:22:37,600 --> 00:22:40,480
Speaker 3: but if I just voluntarily, well maybe they want to

504
00:22:40,520 --> 00:22:42,760
Speaker 3: know if they can. I mean, shit, baby, go can

505
00:22:42,880 --> 00:22:46,440
Speaker 3: find thee want naked and Afraid. I'm gonna find them

506
00:22:46,480 --> 00:22:48,640
Speaker 3: because when the shit goes down, that's who I want.

507
00:22:48,440 --> 00:22:48,720
Speaker 1: To be with.

508
00:22:48,880 --> 00:22:49,160
Speaker 4: Baby.

509
00:22:49,200 --> 00:22:51,359
Speaker 3: They don't even look like they they don't even have

510
00:22:51,400 --> 00:22:52,959
Speaker 3: the skills. I don't even know why they're going there,

511
00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:55,080
Speaker 3: so I mean they know how to light fires and

512
00:22:55,080 --> 00:22:55,760
Speaker 3: bill shelters.

513
00:22:55,760 --> 00:22:57,440
Speaker 4: I've seen it, baby, I do too now because I

514
00:22:57,480 --> 00:22:58,320
Speaker 4: watch two episodes.

515
00:22:58,359 --> 00:23:00,960
Speaker 3: But it's it's hard. Ain't no. They all get a

516
00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:04,000
Speaker 3: fire starter in one pot. But I'm like, there's no

517
00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:06,000
Speaker 3: way in hell I'm going on a show to be

518
00:23:06,080 --> 00:23:08,960
Speaker 3: naked and afraid in the jungle. It's raining, it's cold,

519
00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:12,200
Speaker 3: no blankets, you know. And I watched a few days ago,

520
00:23:12,240 --> 00:23:15,960
Speaker 3: Tropic Thunder. I made Iri watch Tropic Thunder because I

521
00:23:16,000 --> 00:23:18,000
Speaker 3: was just like, I want to watch something stupid but

522
00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:21,880
Speaker 3: not fucking Love Island. And so it was either Talladiga Knights,

523
00:23:21,880 --> 00:23:23,480
Speaker 3: I thought of you, and we started watching it, but

524
00:23:23,520 --> 00:23:26,280
Speaker 3: she wasn't into it, and so we stopped watching it.

525
00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:28,880
Speaker 4: You know, Erica has never seen Telldiga Knights.

526
00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:30,919
Speaker 3: I watched it because I thought I told. I told she.

527
00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:32,679
Speaker 3: I was like, this is the Cumula's favorite movie. Let

528
00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:34,679
Speaker 3: me let me watch it so I get her fucking jokes.

529
00:23:35,359 --> 00:23:37,920
Speaker 4: I kepn't even missing my jokes for like almost ten years.

530
00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:41,280
Speaker 5: And so we started watching maybe like twenty five minutes

531
00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:43,720
Speaker 5: of it, and then Iri was like hmm hm, and

532
00:23:43,760 --> 00:23:46,240
Speaker 5: I was like, all right, fine, so we started watching it.

533
00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:48,600
Speaker 5: Then we started watching Tropic Thunder, and I've I'm like

534
00:23:48,640 --> 00:23:50,160
Speaker 5: trying to explain what's going on, Like.

535
00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:54,000
Speaker 3: He's not black, but he's white. That's Tony Stark. She's like,

536
00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:55,439
Speaker 3: who's Tony Stark. I'm like Marvel.

537
00:23:55,480 --> 00:23:56,000
Speaker 4: She's like, oh, I.

538
00:23:56,000 --> 00:23:58,600
Speaker 5: Hate Marvel, and I'm like, okay, just forget about Marvel. This

539
00:23:58,760 --> 00:24:01,560
Speaker 5: is a white man. He's like, now he's Asian. Now

540
00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:03,679
Speaker 5: he's Asians. But he was black. I'm like, I know,

541
00:24:03,760 --> 00:24:06,439
Speaker 5: but now he's an Asian, he's an act. So it

542
00:24:06,520 --> 00:24:08,760
Speaker 5: was a lot of communication, but she finally got it

543
00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:13,000
Speaker 5: and understand Yeah, And then I almost forgot how fucking

544
00:24:13,160 --> 00:24:16,879
Speaker 5: funny Tom Cruise was of that movie, because Tom Cruise

545
00:24:16,960 --> 00:24:18,840
Speaker 5: is so scary to me now because he's, you know,

546
00:24:18,880 --> 00:24:20,800
Speaker 5: such a deep in the scientology that every time I

547
00:24:20,840 --> 00:24:22,960
Speaker 5: see him, I'm like, what a fucking weirdo. But then

548
00:24:23,080 --> 00:24:25,159
Speaker 5: on the movie, like he was fucking hilarious. They had

549
00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:28,159
Speaker 5: prosthetics on his hands, like his hands were so big

550
00:24:28,240 --> 00:24:31,359
Speaker 5: and hairy, and his chest was so hairy.

551
00:24:31,680 --> 00:24:33,800
Speaker 3: It was it was, you know, And then I thought, too,

552
00:24:34,720 --> 00:24:36,240
Speaker 3: I don't know if this movie can come out now.

553
00:24:36,280 --> 00:24:39,480
Speaker 3: People are so fucking sensitive, Like, I can't say, how

554
00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:42,280
Speaker 3: could this movie have come out? They were talking about retard.

555
00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:44,360
Speaker 4: I watched old movies they were.

556
00:24:44,280 --> 00:24:47,480
Speaker 6: Retired, had this movie where he played like like metal

557
00:24:48,480 --> 00:24:52,159
Speaker 6: and they kept calling him retarded, and I was like, damn,

558
00:24:52,359 --> 00:24:56,080
Speaker 6: the days of just like Balls to the Wall, Calmedy,

559
00:24:56,119 --> 00:24:56,840
Speaker 6: You're fucking done.

560
00:24:56,840 --> 00:25:01,080
Speaker 3: You'll get canceled like here, yeah, I'm probably gonna get

561
00:25:01,080 --> 00:25:06,119
Speaker 3: canceled for saying I'm trans age. I just yeah, I

562
00:25:06,200 --> 00:25:09,679
Speaker 3: mean people need to have a little bit tougher skin. Anyway,

563
00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:11,920
Speaker 3: I highly recommend going back into the vault and watching

564
00:25:11,960 --> 00:25:14,200
Speaker 3: Traffic Thunder. It's a classic. It's very funny.

565
00:25:14,359 --> 00:25:16,399
Speaker 4: Can you please finish watching Child digod nights?

566
00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:16,760
Speaker 3: I will.

567
00:25:16,800 --> 00:25:19,200
Speaker 5: I have to watch it without you, without without irin.

568
00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:22,000
Speaker 5: The first it was good, Yeah, it was funny. I

569
00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:24,199
Speaker 5: love Will Ferrell, thank He's fucking hilarious. And you know

570
00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:27,000
Speaker 5: what I love the most about all those guys like

571
00:25:27,280 --> 00:25:31,960
Speaker 5: Will Ferrell, Ben Stiller, Adam Sandler, like they all.

572
00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:32,879
Speaker 3: Hire their friends.

573
00:25:32,920 --> 00:25:36,360
Speaker 5: Like Adam Sandler's wife is in a lot of his movies,

574
00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:39,960
Speaker 5: just like jeded Appatose. Adam Sandler has a wife, And

575
00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:41,960
Speaker 5: I'm sorry that Adam Samily does have a wife. I

576
00:25:42,000 --> 00:25:47,440
Speaker 5: met ben Stiller, and yeah, I remember, like Marsha, Marsha, Marsha,

577
00:25:47,480 --> 00:25:51,200
Speaker 5: I remember the Brady Bench, Marcia, like the new Brady Bench. Yeah,

578
00:25:51,240 --> 00:25:55,080
Speaker 5: Marcia is Adam ben Stiller's wife.

579
00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:56,720
Speaker 3: Oh okay, I didn't know that.

580
00:25:56,920 --> 00:25:57,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay.

581
00:25:58,040 --> 00:26:01,120
Speaker 5: So I just love how they they make each other

582
00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:04,200
Speaker 5: rich together, and that's what I wanted to casting each

583
00:26:04,200 --> 00:26:04,679
Speaker 5: other in it.

584
00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:07,040
Speaker 3: And it's fucking hilarious, and they're like funny movies, and

585
00:26:07,119 --> 00:26:09,640
Speaker 3: I always think about that, like even couples retreat the movie.

586
00:26:09,680 --> 00:26:11,280
Speaker 3: I'm like, they just got all their homies to go

587
00:26:11,280 --> 00:26:13,119
Speaker 3: out of town and make a movie and got a budget,

588
00:26:13,280 --> 00:26:15,600
Speaker 3: and I aspire for this. I just want to make

589
00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:18,200
Speaker 3: a bunch of funny movies, hang out with my friends

590
00:26:18,320 --> 00:26:21,040
Speaker 3: and make millions of dollars and laugh and not be

591
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:24,920
Speaker 3: too deep and just be able to do whatever you want. Yeah,

592
00:26:24,960 --> 00:26:31,840
Speaker 3: it was good. I hope you hear my christ baby Jesus. Yeah.

593
00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:35,679
Speaker 3: So that's how I've been enjoying my summer, getting slower,

594
00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:38,040
Speaker 3: making my brain soup by watching reality TV.

595
00:26:38,240 --> 00:26:40,280
Speaker 5: No, I haven't been doing that. I'm not doing that.

596
00:26:40,320 --> 00:26:42,840
Speaker 5: I'm not participating in this reality TV thing. I think

597
00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:45,359
Speaker 5: like I went through a really heavy reality season in

598
00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:46,919
Speaker 5: my life where I watched a lot of love and

599
00:26:46,960 --> 00:26:51,199
Speaker 5: hip hop and housewives, and I think I just like

600
00:26:51,359 --> 00:26:53,560
Speaker 5: overdid it then that I.

601
00:26:52,760 --> 00:26:54,680
Speaker 3: Just I just can't do it.

602
00:26:54,800 --> 00:26:55,359
Speaker 4: I don't love it.

603
00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:57,440
Speaker 3: But even like the funny ones like love like Love

604
00:26:57,480 --> 00:26:58,560
Speaker 3: after lock Up, like.

605
00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:02,880
Speaker 5: But then I like, I fall off because it's just

606
00:27:03,680 --> 00:27:05,359
Speaker 5: I don't know, I can't.

607
00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:09,000
Speaker 3: I mean, TV is definitely a distraction. I do enjoy

608
00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:13,000
Speaker 3: reality TV shows that are not exploiting black people as much.

609
00:27:13,240 --> 00:27:15,760
Speaker 3: Like sometimes I like I was I was getting my

610
00:27:15,760 --> 00:27:19,240
Speaker 3: hair braided and the raider's daughter came and she was

611
00:27:19,280 --> 00:27:22,040
Speaker 3: like filling me in on Love Island because she's fucking fifteen,

612
00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:25,400
Speaker 3: and she was saying, like, oh, you don't watch baddies.

613
00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:28,640
Speaker 3: I was like, that's where I draw the line. I

614
00:27:28,680 --> 00:27:31,159
Speaker 3: was like, no, I do not want to see a

615
00:27:31,160 --> 00:27:32,880
Speaker 3: bunch of black women beat each other up and call

616
00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:36,480
Speaker 3: each other names. Absolutely not. I'm like being righteous. She's like, bitch,

617
00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:40,480
Speaker 3: we're watching Love Island for ten hours. But I just yeah,

618
00:27:40,800 --> 00:27:43,720
Speaker 3: I'm I don't want to watch zeus, but a bunch

619
00:27:43,800 --> 00:27:46,800
Speaker 3: of like young, stupid twenty year olds maybe, and then

620
00:27:46,840 --> 00:27:48,760
Speaker 3: I can. It kind of gives me insight to what

621
00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:51,879
Speaker 3: we have to look forward to having kids, you know, Like, so,

622
00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:54,280
Speaker 3: what what do you mean? I'm just saying they're gonna

623
00:27:54,280 --> 00:27:56,720
Speaker 3: be young and dumb and twenty something and like, and

624
00:27:56,720 --> 00:27:58,120
Speaker 3: you're gonna have to be like, hey, we're not that

625
00:27:58,160 --> 00:28:02,119
Speaker 3: fucking stupid. No, I've already told Lunash she's forbidden from

626
00:28:02,200 --> 00:28:05,119
Speaker 3: going on Love Island or naked and afraid.

627
00:28:05,880 --> 00:28:08,119
Speaker 5: I will disown you. I will cut off all funds.

628
00:28:08,359 --> 00:28:11,560
Speaker 5: Nothing will be available to you. Nothing, you hear me, Iri,

629
00:28:11,760 --> 00:28:14,399
Speaker 5: Absolutely fucking nothing nothing.

630
00:28:14,920 --> 00:28:16,040
Speaker 4: It's really you know what I think.

631
00:28:16,359 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 3: Mostly I'm realizing, I mean, watching stupid ass shows and

632
00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:23,520
Speaker 3: observing how stupid twenty something years old can be, and

633
00:28:23,600 --> 00:28:26,880
Speaker 3: like just the growth and the maturity that happens between

634
00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:34,600
Speaker 3: like twenty nine and forty is like I time is

635
00:28:34,640 --> 00:28:40,960
Speaker 3: going by so fast, and like faster than I don't know,

636
00:28:41,080 --> 00:28:45,960
Speaker 3: faster than I can like accept this last ten years

637
00:28:46,040 --> 00:28:48,520
Speaker 3: is eight years of good moms. How fast has it

638
00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:52,560
Speaker 3: gone by? I feel like I've blinked, and like every

639
00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:54,760
Speaker 3: time I think about it, I have to smoke. That's

640
00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:58,120
Speaker 3: why I'm gonna light this blackwood right now, because what

641
00:28:58,160 --> 00:29:00,520
Speaker 3: the fuck? No?

642
00:29:00,760 --> 00:29:02,880
Speaker 5: Time as is going by and I think I think

643
00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:05,280
Speaker 5: especially for like maybe not I want to say especially,

644
00:29:05,320 --> 00:29:07,120
Speaker 5: but I think for us because we have.

645
00:29:09,240 --> 00:29:12,400
Speaker 3: Time markers. I mean essentially everybody does now on their phone.

646
00:29:12,440 --> 00:29:14,120
Speaker 5: The phone will fucking trigger the fuck out of you

647
00:29:14,160 --> 00:29:16,440
Speaker 5: and remind you where you were four years ago on

648
00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:22,239
Speaker 5: this day. But I think just everyone having at like

649
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:26,960
Speaker 5: easily accessible moments to really see the moments in their

650
00:29:27,000 --> 00:29:31,680
Speaker 5: life puts this like a little bit of anxiety, a

651
00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:33,760
Speaker 5: little bit of fear, but also like I think that's

652
00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:37,080
Speaker 5: also a gift too. It's like an invitation for you

653
00:29:37,160 --> 00:29:40,480
Speaker 5: to like really appreciate the time and appreciate the moment.

654
00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:43,640
Speaker 5: And like, I know, for me, like in this season

655
00:29:43,680 --> 00:29:47,680
Speaker 5: of my life, I've been, you know I've been. I think,

656
00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:50,360
Speaker 5: like in my early thirties and starting good Moms, like

657
00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:54,080
Speaker 5: I really needed to reclaim myself and like who I

658
00:29:54,200 --> 00:29:57,720
Speaker 5: was outside of motherhood and what I wanted.

659
00:29:57,480 --> 00:30:00,080
Speaker 3: To do, Who was Erica? What made me happy?

660
00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:03,040
Speaker 5: Because I had been in a relationship for so long

661
00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:05,240
Speaker 5: and honestly, like even throughout my twenties, to think about

662
00:30:05,240 --> 00:30:09,360
Speaker 5: my twenties, like I had moments of like hot girls, subberbness,

663
00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:11,360
Speaker 5: but like I was in a relationship all the time,

664
00:30:11,480 --> 00:30:13,520
Speaker 5: Like I was always found myself in a relationship, and

665
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:15,640
Speaker 5: it wasn't because I was like seeking relationships. Yes, I

666
00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:17,880
Speaker 5: loved love, but like I would just fall into one.

667
00:30:18,240 --> 00:30:21,880
Speaker 5: So I think, like being in the beginning of Good Moms,

668
00:30:21,920 --> 00:30:25,240
Speaker 5: like that was my opportunity and my time to like

669
00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:30,520
Speaker 5: really understand who I wanted to identify as as a mother,

670
00:30:30,600 --> 00:30:33,320
Speaker 5: and I like Good Moms gave me that gift. And

671
00:30:33,360 --> 00:30:36,920
Speaker 5: I think that now I feel like I'm in a

672
00:30:36,960 --> 00:30:40,200
Speaker 5: season of like really enjoying not that I didn't enjoy

673
00:30:40,240 --> 00:30:42,760
Speaker 5: motherhood then, but like really enjoying this season of motherhood,

674
00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:44,960
Speaker 5: really enjoying this season of my daughter's life and wanting

675
00:30:45,000 --> 00:30:47,440
Speaker 5: to spend a lot of time with her because I

676
00:30:47,520 --> 00:30:49,640
Speaker 5: do know that it's going fast, because I do see

677
00:30:49,640 --> 00:30:51,400
Speaker 5: that it's going fast, and I do see that like

678
00:30:51,560 --> 00:30:55,360
Speaker 5: I've missed opportunities. I've missed opportunities pouring into myself because

679
00:30:55,400 --> 00:30:59,000
Speaker 5: it was necessary. But then there's also the guilt, and

680
00:30:59,040 --> 00:31:00,880
Speaker 5: the truth of the matter is that like there were

681
00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:03,360
Speaker 5: times where I wasn't there, you know, A, because I

682
00:31:03,400 --> 00:31:05,880
Speaker 5: was fulfilling my dreams. B because I was being selfish

683
00:31:05,880 --> 00:31:10,800
Speaker 5: because I needed to be. And now I feel like

684
00:31:11,520 --> 00:31:15,760
Speaker 5: I don't know I just I think this specifically this

685
00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:20,520
Speaker 5: summer and maybe this year has been really revealing to

686
00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:24,479
Speaker 5: me as to like how I want to spend like

687
00:31:24,680 --> 00:31:28,240
Speaker 5: the next I won't even say eight years of motherhood

688
00:31:28,280 --> 00:31:31,000
Speaker 5: because when she's eight seventeen, like she won't be at

689
00:31:31,000 --> 00:31:35,120
Speaker 5: the house or yeah, it's really like five yeah, five

690
00:31:35,200 --> 00:31:37,600
Speaker 5: to six, Like how what kind of mom do I

691
00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:40,680
Speaker 5: want to be? Like how am I building this relationship

692
00:31:40,720 --> 00:31:41,120
Speaker 5: with her?

693
00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:45,960
Speaker 3: Like how is she how is she fucking doing? Is

694
00:31:45,960 --> 00:31:46,440
Speaker 3: she okay?

695
00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:49,600
Speaker 5: Like what are her relationships like really investing time into?

696
00:31:49,720 --> 00:31:51,000
Speaker 5: Like what are the things do you want to be

697
00:31:51,040 --> 00:31:54,280
Speaker 5: good at the other day she we went bike riding

698
00:31:54,360 --> 00:31:55,360
Speaker 5: last night and.

699
00:31:57,920 --> 00:32:00,760
Speaker 3: The later and she was like, you know what I

700
00:32:00,800 --> 00:32:02,520
Speaker 3: used to do when I was eight? And I was

701
00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:05,360
Speaker 3: like today, like two years ago, year and a half.

702
00:32:07,440 --> 00:32:10,800
Speaker 3: She was like, sometimes I used to like go to

703
00:32:10,840 --> 00:32:13,520
Speaker 3: restaurants and I'm like, sometimes like with who me?

704
00:32:13,680 --> 00:32:15,160
Speaker 4: Like right?

705
00:32:17,320 --> 00:32:20,320
Speaker 5: And I would sing kind of loud because I hoped

706
00:32:20,320 --> 00:32:22,680
Speaker 5: like a music producer would hear me and then like

707
00:32:22,720 --> 00:32:23,640
Speaker 5: maybe they'd signed me.

708
00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:27,640
Speaker 3: And I was like really not kind of loud.

709
00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:30,840
Speaker 5: And She's like and I was like, so do you

710
00:32:31,080 --> 00:32:33,000
Speaker 5: want to be you want to sing? And then she

711
00:32:33,120 --> 00:32:35,120
Speaker 5: was like no, and I could see her like like no,

712
00:32:35,200 --> 00:32:37,400
Speaker 5: like she was afraid, Like I was gonna like judge her. No,

713
00:32:37,480 --> 00:32:39,320
Speaker 5: not not even judge her, like for sort of like

714
00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:41,600
Speaker 5: tried it, you know, like what do you want to

715
00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:41,840
Speaker 5: do it?

716
00:32:41,840 --> 00:32:42,440
Speaker 3: Like, let's do it.

717
00:32:43,200 --> 00:32:44,840
Speaker 5: And I was like, well, I ree like if you

718
00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:46,680
Speaker 5: ever wanted to sing, like you know, you have like

719
00:32:47,080 --> 00:32:49,400
Speaker 5: a dad that could like help you with that, like

720
00:32:49,480 --> 00:32:53,520
Speaker 5: he could produce a song for you, like whatever needed

721
00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:53,920
Speaker 5: to happen.

722
00:32:53,960 --> 00:32:55,480
Speaker 3: If you wanted to try it, we could do that.

723
00:32:55,600 --> 00:32:57,920
Speaker 3: She's like no, No. I was like okay, So we

724
00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:00,000
Speaker 3: got to we rode our bikes this restaurant near my house.

725
00:33:02,720 --> 00:33:06,480
Speaker 4: Do shit, be careful back and backward.

726
00:33:07,280 --> 00:33:12,680
Speaker 3: Oh, take a shout out to the backwoods, because that's

727
00:33:12,680 --> 00:33:13,360
Speaker 3: all I really need.

728
00:33:13,560 --> 00:33:13,920
Speaker 4: God damn.

729
00:33:16,520 --> 00:33:20,520
Speaker 5: And I think like I was just like trying to

730
00:33:20,560 --> 00:33:23,640
Speaker 5: casually bring it back up again because even for me,

731
00:33:23,720 --> 00:33:25,720
Speaker 5: like I loved, I love music, I know how to record.

732
00:33:25,760 --> 00:33:27,200
Speaker 5: The whole reason, like even I knew how to edit

733
00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:29,640
Speaker 5: our podcast was because I had made tons and tons

734
00:33:29,680 --> 00:33:31,240
Speaker 5: of music before and I knew how to use garage

735
00:33:31,280 --> 00:33:34,160
Speaker 5: band and blah blah blah, and like me and Chaquem,

736
00:33:34,280 --> 00:33:37,800
Speaker 5: like will he'll like fuck around and like like we'll

737
00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:41,280
Speaker 5: uh write, well, he'll write, and then I'll sing some

738
00:33:41,320 --> 00:33:43,440
Speaker 5: songs with him, and not because I want to be

739
00:33:43,520 --> 00:33:45,440
Speaker 5: a singer, but just because that's something that I really

740
00:33:45,520 --> 00:33:48,800
Speaker 5: genuinely loved and it like brought me joy, and so

741
00:33:48,880 --> 00:33:50,520
Speaker 5: I was like, when we got to dinner, I was like,

742
00:33:50,560 --> 00:33:52,400
Speaker 5: why don't we just I was like, you know what.

743
00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:54,240
Speaker 5: I looked at my notes and I found a song

744
00:33:54,240 --> 00:33:55,600
Speaker 5: that we wrote and we had written me and I

745
00:33:55,720 --> 00:33:58,640
Speaker 5: had written a song like twenty twenty one, and she

746
00:33:58,720 --> 00:34:00,720
Speaker 5: was like, let me hear it because my notes and

747
00:34:00,800 --> 00:34:03,239
Speaker 5: it was like the silly little song and she's like

748
00:34:03,360 --> 00:34:04,680
Speaker 5: and I was like do you like it?

749
00:34:04,760 --> 00:34:05,840
Speaker 3: And she's like it's cool?

750
00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:08,040
Speaker 5: And I was like, what if we like recorded it

751
00:34:08,200 --> 00:34:10,320
Speaker 5: and just like messed around, because like I want to

752
00:34:10,320 --> 00:34:12,279
Speaker 5: mess around. I miss me making music and maybe we

753
00:34:12,280 --> 00:34:14,759
Speaker 5: can make music together. And she was like Okay, She's like,

754
00:34:14,760 --> 00:34:16,640
Speaker 5: well then let's write it right now. And so we

755
00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:18,320
Speaker 5: like wrote like a little song last night at the

756
00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:22,840
Speaker 5: dinner table. And it's just like being able to like

757
00:34:22,880 --> 00:34:25,399
Speaker 5: really tap into like the things that she really wants

758
00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:28,000
Speaker 5: to do, even though I know there's fear behind it

759
00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:32,080
Speaker 5: and I feel like that's like my biggest joy right

760
00:34:32,120 --> 00:34:33,920
Speaker 5: now is like trying to figure out like what it

761
00:34:33,960 --> 00:34:35,680
Speaker 5: is that she wants to be good at, because at ten,

762
00:34:35,840 --> 00:34:39,719
Speaker 5: like I was way deep into sports already, I was

763
00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:41,400
Speaker 5: like I knew I wanted to be an actor.

764
00:34:41,840 --> 00:34:43,759
Speaker 3: I was already I had been auditioning since I was

765
00:34:43,800 --> 00:34:44,240
Speaker 3: like eight.

766
00:34:44,880 --> 00:34:47,600
Speaker 5: And for her, like, I've kind of like let it

767
00:34:47,640 --> 00:34:50,319
Speaker 5: be free flowing, and I want to keep it sort

768
00:34:50,360 --> 00:34:51,839
Speaker 5: of that way, but there is like a level of

769
00:34:51,840 --> 00:34:56,200
Speaker 5: discipline that I think is important right now in her

770
00:34:56,239 --> 00:34:58,239
Speaker 5: life that's going to set her up for the rest

771
00:34:58,280 --> 00:34:58,839
Speaker 5: of her life.

772
00:34:59,360 --> 00:35:01,480
Speaker 3: And I don't want to be too free flowing anymore.

773
00:35:01,520 --> 00:35:03,680
Speaker 5: I want to like really try to figure out, like, Okay,

774
00:35:03,760 --> 00:35:06,319
Speaker 5: if we're going to do something, let's do it. So

775
00:35:06,480 --> 00:35:08,640
Speaker 5: it's been like I don't know, it's it's been fun

776
00:35:08,760 --> 00:35:11,960
Speaker 5: figuring that out over the last month or so. I

777
00:35:12,000 --> 00:35:14,439
Speaker 5: think that I think we talked about this a couple

778
00:35:14,560 --> 00:35:19,040
Speaker 5: of weeks ago, but I agree, like I think that

779
00:35:19,239 --> 00:35:23,400
Speaker 5: there when you're your kid gets around this age and

780
00:35:23,680 --> 00:35:27,360
Speaker 5: they can form their own ideas and opinions, and like

781
00:35:27,400 --> 00:35:29,120
Speaker 5: you could talk to them like we're talking to each other,

782
00:35:29,120 --> 00:35:31,280
Speaker 5: there's a different like oh shit, this happened so quickly.

783
00:35:31,680 --> 00:35:34,240
Speaker 5: And also I see that with Luna to like the fear,

784
00:35:34,440 --> 00:35:37,440
Speaker 5: and I'm like, I'm I'm scary too, Like even when

785
00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:39,440
Speaker 5: we do shows and stuff, I get so nervous, but

786
00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:41,040
Speaker 5: I do it anyway, like that's my thing, Like I

787
00:35:41,040 --> 00:35:42,000
Speaker 5: don't care how scared I am.

788
00:35:42,040 --> 00:35:44,200
Speaker 3: I'm gonna do it anyway. But try to instill that

789
00:35:44,280 --> 00:35:48,160
Speaker 3: in her. And also like I realize, like I get

790
00:35:48,200 --> 00:35:50,799
Speaker 3: anxiety sometimes thinking like oh my god, you're not a

791
00:35:50,880 --> 00:35:53,960
Speaker 3: master pianoist or anything like right now, or I haven't,

792
00:35:54,000 --> 00:35:56,480
Speaker 3: like have I not made you disciplined enough so that

793
00:35:56,560 --> 00:35:59,239
Speaker 3: you have something like what Macy Gray told us, make

794
00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:01,080
Speaker 3: sure your kid has something that they're good at, which

795
00:36:01,120 --> 00:36:02,479
Speaker 3: I agree.

796
00:36:03,120 --> 00:36:04,640
Speaker 4: I also feel like like.

797
00:36:04,560 --> 00:36:06,960
Speaker 3: For us, for instance, when we created Good Moms, it

798
00:36:07,040 --> 00:36:09,320
Speaker 3: wasn't with all of this like very like we're like

799
00:36:09,320 --> 00:36:11,359
Speaker 3: we're going to be rich. We're just like doing something

800
00:36:11,360 --> 00:36:13,719
Speaker 3: because we enjoyed it, trying something new. And I feel

801
00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:15,440
Speaker 3: like there's a point in adulthood where we kind of

802
00:36:15,600 --> 00:36:19,160
Speaker 3: stop doing that because the reality of bills and responsibility

803
00:36:19,320 --> 00:36:22,359
Speaker 3: dawns on us. And like I would I want to

804
00:36:22,440 --> 00:36:27,160
Speaker 3: be more playful in my creativity because growing up and

805
00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:28,799
Speaker 3: as a teenager, like I used to love to write,

806
00:36:28,840 --> 00:36:31,560
Speaker 3: used to love to write poetry, scrap book, like just

807
00:36:31,600 --> 00:36:34,000
Speaker 3: trying paint, like those are all things that I love

808
00:36:34,040 --> 00:36:36,279
Speaker 3: to do. But as you get older, you'd make less

809
00:36:36,280 --> 00:36:37,880
Speaker 3: time for them because it's like, what's going to pay

810
00:36:37,920 --> 00:36:41,200
Speaker 3: the bills? And it's like I think that you're calling

811
00:36:41,280 --> 00:36:43,759
Speaker 3: and you're discipline and all those things come when you're

812
00:36:43,840 --> 00:36:46,480
Speaker 3: something that you really like, you just start to really like.

813
00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:49,359
Speaker 3: But like like you said, bringing them in, introducing them

814
00:36:49,360 --> 00:36:53,120
Speaker 3: to things free flowing and letting it like casually pushing

815
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:54,960
Speaker 3: them to get it disciplined so they get real in it.

816
00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:58,080
Speaker 3: But even with us, like I'm like, we have a

817
00:36:58,080 --> 00:37:00,279
Speaker 3: fucking production company, Like let's just walk around to make

818
00:37:00,280 --> 00:37:00,560
Speaker 3: a movie.

819
00:37:00,600 --> 00:37:02,440
Speaker 4: Let's see what happens. Like look at even Issa Ray.

820
00:37:02,520 --> 00:37:04,319
Speaker 3: She put on I mean, I'm sure was serious, but

821
00:37:04,440 --> 00:37:06,759
Speaker 3: like a series on the internet and this she's a

822
00:37:06,800 --> 00:37:09,560
Speaker 3: fucking mogul. So it's just like I think sometimes we

823
00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:12,200
Speaker 3: put we apply all this pressure to things as adults

824
00:37:12,480 --> 00:37:14,799
Speaker 3: that we need to like apply the childhood lens to

825
00:37:15,360 --> 00:37:16,680
Speaker 3: instead of being so.

826
00:37:18,360 --> 00:37:19,680
Speaker 4: Like this is this is it?

827
00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:21,560
Speaker 3: You know what I mean? And I do I want

828
00:37:21,600 --> 00:37:25,640
Speaker 3: I've thought about this recently, like the nostalgia of like

829
00:37:25,680 --> 00:37:29,320
Speaker 3: writing poetry or making like scrap books with poetry and

830
00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:31,839
Speaker 3: them and things like I wouldn't necessarily do that now

831
00:37:31,880 --> 00:37:33,880
Speaker 3: because why. But it's like why do I need a

832
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:36,920
Speaker 3: why and just and other than the point of just

833
00:37:36,960 --> 00:37:40,120
Speaker 3: to create, you know. And I'm like I'm trying to, yes,

834
00:37:40,440 --> 00:37:43,120
Speaker 3: be more present with Luna and like what she went

835
00:37:43,239 --> 00:37:47,480
Speaker 3: like developing those skills, and also just like I'm recognizing

836
00:37:47,520 --> 00:37:51,080
Speaker 3: like life is zooming by life is short, Like these

837
00:37:51,120 --> 00:37:54,719
Speaker 3: moments are fleeting and it's scary, you know. I just

838
00:37:54,840 --> 00:37:59,840
Speaker 3: was with my friend and he has a friend, his neighbor.

839
00:38:00,520 --> 00:38:01,400
Speaker 4: He called me at the morning.

840
00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:04,440
Speaker 3: He was like, you know, so and so killed themselves

841
00:38:04,760 --> 00:38:06,640
Speaker 3: and I was just like I just saw this person

842
00:38:06,800 --> 00:38:10,440
Speaker 3: at his house and it was so interesting, Like I

843
00:38:10,520 --> 00:38:13,319
Speaker 3: had a bad feeling then, like he was arguing, he

844
00:38:13,400 --> 00:38:15,000
Speaker 3: was crying, and I just like was like, you know,

845
00:38:15,160 --> 00:38:17,279
Speaker 3: in passing. But when he called me, I was like,

846
00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:20,319
Speaker 3: oh my god, Like somebody, like even someone who I'm

847
00:38:20,360 --> 00:38:22,919
Speaker 3: not super close with but have been around, was here

848
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:25,680
Speaker 3: like a last week and then one day or he's not,

849
00:38:26,360 --> 00:38:30,640
Speaker 3: and I was just like, you never know what someone's

850
00:38:30,680 --> 00:38:33,000
Speaker 3: going through he was young, like twenty eight years old,

851
00:38:33,440 --> 00:38:36,719
Speaker 3: and it's just like these moments, this life is so

852
00:38:36,880 --> 00:38:40,439
Speaker 3: precious and like finding joy in it and just kind

853
00:38:40,440 --> 00:38:45,560
Speaker 3: of removing these these societal made pressures. Like obviously it's

854
00:38:45,640 --> 00:38:47,719
Speaker 3: it's real because you have to survive, you have to

855
00:38:47,760 --> 00:38:51,000
Speaker 3: take care of yourself, but like every moment counts, and

856
00:38:51,040 --> 00:38:53,560
Speaker 3: it's just like being playful in it, being present in it,

857
00:38:53,920 --> 00:38:56,960
Speaker 3: and even being gentle with myself, you know, like how

858
00:38:57,000 --> 00:38:59,680
Speaker 3: I'm gentle with my child. And I took Luna with

859
00:38:59,719 --> 00:39:02,880
Speaker 3: me were to see my friend yesterday and I was

860
00:39:02,920 --> 00:39:04,520
Speaker 3: like before we walked in, I was like, damn sure

861
00:39:04,520 --> 00:39:06,239
Speaker 3: I tell her because I'm sure this is going to

862
00:39:06,280 --> 00:39:09,960
Speaker 3: be come up as a topic. But like even thinking

863
00:39:09,960 --> 00:39:14,359
Speaker 3: about introducing the concept of suicide to a ten year old,

864
00:39:14,400 --> 00:39:15,960
Speaker 3: you know what I mean, Like I don't know what

865
00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:17,799
Speaker 3: age I was when I realized, Like you know, when

866
00:39:17,800 --> 00:39:19,719
Speaker 3: you start to realize about birth and about death and

867
00:39:19,760 --> 00:39:21,719
Speaker 3: about life and like where do you go after? Like

868
00:39:21,719 --> 00:39:23,360
Speaker 3: those questions that start to dawn on you at a

869
00:39:23,360 --> 00:39:25,879
Speaker 3: certain age when you become cognitizant enough and conscious enough.

870
00:39:26,200 --> 00:39:29,040
Speaker 3: But I'm just like sometimes I'm worried if I'm introducing

871
00:39:29,040 --> 00:39:31,880
Speaker 3: to her to concepts too early. But then again, it's like,

872
00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:34,320
Speaker 3: this is life, this is what you're about to walk into.

873
00:39:34,360 --> 00:39:38,520
Speaker 3: But we're at such an interesting and delicate time that

874
00:39:38,960 --> 00:39:41,719
Speaker 3: I think that our parenting is showing up different than

875
00:39:41,719 --> 00:39:44,320
Speaker 3: our parents did too, Like we have so much more knowledge,

876
00:39:44,360 --> 00:39:46,520
Speaker 3: we have so much more awareness because we're literally scrolling,

877
00:39:46,520 --> 00:39:49,399
Speaker 3: we're literally present in adulthood in this way. And I'm

878
00:39:49,480 --> 00:39:53,080
Speaker 3: just like, there's this, Am I doing a good job?

879
00:39:53,120 --> 00:39:54,799
Speaker 3: Am I doing good enough? Am I going to like

880
00:39:55,160 --> 00:39:57,000
Speaker 3: die one day and be like, oh my god, in

881
00:39:57,040 --> 00:39:59,480
Speaker 3: twenty twenty four, I should have done this or should

882
00:39:59,480 --> 00:40:00,840
Speaker 3: have been at the or whatever.

883
00:40:00,840 --> 00:40:03,799
Speaker 4: And I'm just like, it is such a deep.

884
00:40:04,160 --> 00:40:06,239
Speaker 5: I think that though, Like I mean, yeah, I mean

885
00:40:06,280 --> 00:40:08,680
Speaker 5: I think there's gonna be the ebbs and flow of

886
00:40:09,719 --> 00:40:13,560
Speaker 5: sometimes it's guilt, and sometimes it is true sometimes like

887
00:40:13,880 --> 00:40:16,000
Speaker 5: what I said in my early like when I first

888
00:40:16,000 --> 00:40:17,880
Speaker 5: started the show and I was trying to find myself,

889
00:40:17,960 --> 00:40:21,239
Speaker 5: I was away doing shit that like was for me,

890
00:40:21,520 --> 00:40:25,120
Speaker 5: that was probably sometimes I had to literally sometimes reregulate

891
00:40:25,160 --> 00:40:28,080
Speaker 5: myself and say, bitch, go sit down, go be a mom,

892
00:40:28,360 --> 00:40:31,600
Speaker 5: like stop chasing this nake. You know, Like there's times

893
00:40:31,600 --> 00:40:33,200
Speaker 5: where you're doing that, like do you really need to

894
00:40:33,200 --> 00:40:35,279
Speaker 5: go on this girl's trip? Like your daughter has this

895
00:40:35,280 --> 00:40:37,440
Speaker 5: this this, Yes, you only get this moment to go

896
00:40:37,480 --> 00:40:39,640
Speaker 5: see this first recital, you know, like there's like the

897
00:40:39,680 --> 00:40:42,440
Speaker 5: ebbs and flow of the balance. And like one thing

898
00:40:42,480 --> 00:40:46,680
Speaker 5: I'll say is like I totally agree with the playfulness.

899
00:40:46,680 --> 00:40:49,919
Speaker 5: I totally agree that, Like as adults we lose sight

900
00:40:49,960 --> 00:40:52,799
Speaker 5: of that. And like even me, like sitting down and

901
00:40:52,800 --> 00:40:54,720
Speaker 5: looking at my old journals and seeing all the poetry

902
00:40:54,760 --> 00:40:57,000
Speaker 5: I used to write for just no other reason, just

903
00:40:57,040 --> 00:40:59,280
Speaker 5: because I was already in flow, because I was already

904
00:40:59,280 --> 00:41:02,319
Speaker 5: writing music, and then like trying to get back to

905
00:41:02,400 --> 00:41:06,120
Speaker 5: that and not overthink it. And then now we re

906
00:41:06,320 --> 00:41:09,239
Speaker 5: trying to introduce my daughter to this concept of having

907
00:41:09,280 --> 00:41:12,400
Speaker 5: fun making music. But then also like the discipline, and

908
00:41:12,440 --> 00:41:17,279
Speaker 5: like why I think I think that that is important,

909
00:41:17,560 --> 00:41:20,040
Speaker 5: Like yes, the play all those things, but then like

910
00:41:20,120 --> 00:41:23,200
Speaker 5: once you decide or once you see something blossoming, then

911
00:41:24,000 --> 00:41:26,400
Speaker 5: like really pushing the discipline. And that's where like I

912
00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:28,759
Speaker 5: think it gets a little tricky for parents because we

913
00:41:28,800 --> 00:41:30,840
Speaker 5: feel like I don't want to, like, am I forcing

914
00:41:30,880 --> 00:41:32,279
Speaker 5: her to do something she doesn't want to do? And

915
00:41:32,320 --> 00:41:34,200
Speaker 5: it's like, well, I think about all the times my

916
00:41:34,239 --> 00:41:36,000
Speaker 5: mom forced me to get up and take my ass

917
00:41:36,000 --> 00:41:39,080
Speaker 5: a soccer practice, forced me to do, like force me

918
00:41:39,120 --> 00:41:40,480
Speaker 5: to go to the audition I didn't want to go

919
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:42,640
Speaker 5: to because I was scared, or because I just didn't

920
00:41:42,680 --> 00:41:43,279
Speaker 5: feel like it.

921
00:41:43,320 --> 00:41:45,560
Speaker 3: I wanted to go hang out with my friends. And like,

922
00:41:45,880 --> 00:41:46,879
Speaker 3: I think that we.

923
00:41:46,920 --> 00:41:50,640
Speaker 5: Become in a society sometimes a little too complacent too

924
00:41:50,719 --> 00:41:53,319
Speaker 5: with our parenting, and like, I do believe like there's

925
00:41:53,360 --> 00:41:56,200
Speaker 5: a level of discipline, especially in this age, that I

926
00:41:56,320 --> 00:41:59,000
Speaker 5: maybe like even before this age, honestly, that I think

927
00:41:59,040 --> 00:42:01,160
Speaker 5: it's important for kids, especially in the world that we're

928
00:42:01,160 --> 00:42:03,719
Speaker 5: living in now, especially in a world that's like literally

929
00:42:03,760 --> 00:42:06,400
Speaker 5: wants us to be numb, literally just wants us to

930
00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:09,719
Speaker 5: just tap in away and go like desensitize ourselves and

931
00:42:09,800 --> 00:42:12,840
Speaker 5: just go for pay and go forget what's really happening.

932
00:42:12,880 --> 00:42:14,960
Speaker 5: And it's like, no, Like there's a level of discipline

933
00:42:14,960 --> 00:42:16,840
Speaker 5: that at least for me, I can only speak for

934
00:42:16,880 --> 00:42:21,040
Speaker 5: myself that I'm realizing that I want to implement in

935
00:42:21,080 --> 00:42:22,520
Speaker 5: her because I've allowed her to.

936
00:42:22,480 --> 00:42:26,359
Speaker 3: Be choose what she wants to do. Oh, you want

937
00:42:26,360 --> 00:42:28,600
Speaker 3: to quit soccer? Okay, you know you're.

938
00:42:28,480 --> 00:42:30,480
Speaker 5: Only eight let's like figure out some other stuff you

939
00:42:30,520 --> 00:42:32,480
Speaker 5: want to do. And that's fine, but like I don't

940
00:42:32,520 --> 00:42:34,960
Speaker 5: want that to continue to be the trend in like

941
00:42:35,120 --> 00:42:37,319
Speaker 5: how I'm allowing her to flow in and out of

942
00:42:37,320 --> 00:42:39,560
Speaker 5: her interests. Like, if you're going to be interested in something,

943
00:42:39,640 --> 00:42:42,400
Speaker 5: let's really explore it all the way, fully decide if

944
00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:43,480
Speaker 5: you don't like this all the way.

945
00:42:43,760 --> 00:42:45,400
Speaker 3: Do you feel like when you did soccer and I

946
00:42:45,560 --> 00:42:48,400
Speaker 3: sorry go ahead, no sorry, no, no, no, go ahead. Do

947
00:42:48,440 --> 00:42:50,640
Speaker 3: you feel like when you were like, uh, deeply in

948
00:42:50,719 --> 00:42:52,799
Speaker 3: sports it was because you were like, this is what

949
00:42:52,840 --> 00:42:54,400
Speaker 3: I want to do and you're like, Mom picked me up,

950
00:42:54,520 --> 00:42:56,279
Speaker 3: we have a game, or is because she was like,

951
00:42:56,320 --> 00:42:56,960
Speaker 3: this is what you're.

952
00:42:56,800 --> 00:42:57,160
Speaker 4: Going to do?

953
00:42:58,040 --> 00:43:00,800
Speaker 3: No, I think that's My journey to sports was layered.

954
00:43:00,840 --> 00:43:01,359
Speaker 3: It's my dad.

955
00:43:01,400 --> 00:43:01,759
Speaker 1: My dad.

956
00:43:02,000 --> 00:43:04,239
Speaker 5: My dad was a professional athlete, like you know, the

957
00:43:04,320 --> 00:43:08,000
Speaker 5: top athletes ever, and like I always knew that growing up,

958
00:43:08,000 --> 00:43:11,240
Speaker 5: and people always assumed that I was an athlete because

959
00:43:11,239 --> 00:43:13,640
Speaker 5: of that, And then I actually did have talent as

960
00:43:13,640 --> 00:43:16,320
Speaker 5: an athlete. And then I also realized I liked winning

961
00:43:16,680 --> 00:43:19,400
Speaker 5: and so like, and I realized I was naturally competitive

962
00:43:19,480 --> 00:43:22,120
Speaker 5: and like that I could get good at something in

963
00:43:22,160 --> 00:43:24,640
Speaker 5: that way I think the first thing that I was

964
00:43:24,680 --> 00:43:27,399
Speaker 5: good at was swimming, So like I started competing in swimming, and.

965
00:43:27,360 --> 00:43:27,920
Speaker 3: Like that was fun.

966
00:43:27,960 --> 00:43:29,440
Speaker 5: I could hang out with my friends like I had

967
00:43:29,480 --> 00:43:33,160
Speaker 5: my crew, you know. But then there's times where like

968
00:43:33,200 --> 00:43:35,319
Speaker 5: I didn't fucking feel like doing it, and those are

969
00:43:35,360 --> 00:43:37,560
Speaker 5: the times where your parenting has to step in and

970
00:43:37,600 --> 00:43:39,479
Speaker 5: you have to like be.

971
00:43:39,600 --> 00:43:41,800
Speaker 3: Like it's hard. I didn't realize how difficult it probably

972
00:43:41,840 --> 00:43:43,680
Speaker 3: was for my mom At times. It's hard because you

973
00:43:43,760 --> 00:43:45,760
Speaker 3: want to be like, oh, baby, like it is early.

974
00:43:46,040 --> 00:43:48,080
Speaker 3: I did keep you up all late last night because

975
00:43:48,080 --> 00:43:49,759
Speaker 3: we were out with my friends, right, and now I'm

976
00:43:49,800 --> 00:43:51,360
Speaker 3: forcing you to get up at six am to go

977
00:43:51,360 --> 00:43:53,799
Speaker 3: to your soccer. Let's just stay no, Like my mom

978
00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:55,759
Speaker 3: did not play that shit, Like she was like, get

979
00:43:55,800 --> 00:43:57,960
Speaker 3: your ass up, you're going I don't care. You have

980
00:43:58,160 --> 00:44:00,640
Speaker 3: soccer in the morning and you have soccer after school,

981
00:44:00,960 --> 00:44:04,640
Speaker 3: and you know, like granted, eventually, I wouldn't say that's

982
00:44:04,640 --> 00:44:07,240
Speaker 3: why I started hating like that sport. It was probably

983
00:44:07,320 --> 00:44:07,800
Speaker 3: my coach.

984
00:44:08,239 --> 00:44:12,200
Speaker 5: But that level of discipline I see show up in

985
00:44:12,320 --> 00:44:14,759
Speaker 5: me now. I see how it shows up in like

986
00:44:15,120 --> 00:44:17,920
Speaker 5: how I like my well when I'm when I'm focused

987
00:44:17,960 --> 00:44:21,560
Speaker 5: on something I'm going to I'm going to follow it through.

988
00:44:21,600 --> 00:44:24,920
Speaker 5: I want to finish it, and then I see how

989
00:44:24,960 --> 00:44:27,279
Speaker 5: like sometimes it has it showed up for me too,

990
00:44:27,400 --> 00:44:31,239
Speaker 5: like in ways where I haven't completed things, and I

991
00:44:31,280 --> 00:44:32,919
Speaker 5: just want I want to give I want to give

992
00:44:32,920 --> 00:44:36,800
Speaker 5: my daughter the opportunity to really be able to hone

993
00:44:36,840 --> 00:44:39,640
Speaker 5: in on discipline, because I think discipline I learned early.

994
00:44:39,719 --> 00:44:42,439
Speaker 5: But then I think I kind of when you become an.

995
00:44:42,320 --> 00:44:44,520
Speaker 3: Adult and you can do whatever you want, you kind

996
00:44:44,520 --> 00:44:46,560
Speaker 3: of like lose track of that and you're like, fuck it,

997
00:44:46,560 --> 00:44:47,799
Speaker 3: I don't have to do this. I don't have to

998
00:44:47,800 --> 00:44:48,399
Speaker 3: do that well.

999
00:44:48,320 --> 00:44:50,000
Speaker 4: Because there's no practice, there's no coach.

1000
00:44:50,200 --> 00:44:52,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, there's that's doing it. And then you're like, why

1001
00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:54,920
Speaker 3: am I Why don't I know what I'm doing with

1002
00:44:54,960 --> 00:44:57,000
Speaker 3: my life? I don't know what I'm doing? Mom? Help?

1003
00:44:57,040 --> 00:44:59,919
Speaker 5: And your mom's like, bitch, I tried, it's on my hands.

1004
00:45:00,320 --> 00:45:02,120
Speaker 5: So letting you get an adult. And then you're like,

1005
00:45:02,200 --> 00:45:03,600
Speaker 5: I hate my nine to five?

1006
00:45:03,680 --> 00:45:05,759
Speaker 3: What are you know? So it's I don't know.

1007
00:45:05,840 --> 00:45:08,520
Speaker 5: I just I don't want to be like a fucking

1008
00:45:09,040 --> 00:45:12,960
Speaker 5: what is it called an authoritarian? But I also I

1009
00:45:12,960 --> 00:45:16,879
Speaker 5: think that I'm I realized like that I want her

1010
00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:20,480
Speaker 5: to hone in on what it is that she wants, like,

1011
00:45:20,520 --> 00:45:22,680
Speaker 5: for example, even horseback riding, like she hasn't she stopped

1012
00:45:22,680 --> 00:45:23,239
Speaker 5: horseback riding.

1013
00:45:23,320 --> 00:45:25,400
Speaker 3: She was getting really good at that. Obviously that was expensive,

1014
00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:27,560
Speaker 3: so we had to stop that. That was getting crazy. But

1015
00:45:27,800 --> 00:45:29,520
Speaker 3: like just certain things, I don't want her to think

1016
00:45:29,520 --> 00:45:32,799
Speaker 3: that she can just pick and choose what she likes

1017
00:45:32,840 --> 00:45:36,719
Speaker 3: and then abandon it when it gets a little bit challenging. Yeah,

1018
00:45:37,080 --> 00:45:40,120
Speaker 3: I'm also realizing like we have to be examples for those,

1019
00:45:40,280 --> 00:45:44,600
Speaker 3: for those for those uh, just little hobbies, you know,

1020
00:45:44,760 --> 00:45:47,560
Speaker 3: like I I have.

1021
00:45:47,560 --> 00:45:49,560
Speaker 4: To read books. For you to read books, I'd be like,

1022
00:45:49,640 --> 00:45:49,920
Speaker 4: let's go.

1023
00:45:50,080 --> 00:45:51,640
Speaker 3: You have to see me do the thing to even

1024
00:45:51,640 --> 00:45:53,640
Speaker 3: be like, bitch you, I didn't see you read a

1025
00:45:53,640 --> 00:45:55,440
Speaker 3: book this year. And I've And that's another thing, Like

1026
00:45:55,440 --> 00:45:58,000
Speaker 3: I used to read so much and because I was,

1027
00:45:58,200 --> 00:46:01,040
Speaker 3: I was writing, so I was reading, and like time

1028
00:46:01,200 --> 00:46:03,480
Speaker 3: now like I've finished two books this year, which is

1029
00:46:03,520 --> 00:46:06,120
Speaker 3: a fucking miracle, you know, and it's we're in July,

1030
00:46:06,320 --> 00:46:12,000
Speaker 3: and I obviously that's not a lot, but just diving

1031
00:46:12,040 --> 00:46:14,640
Speaker 3: into my hobbies so that she sees me do the

1032
00:46:14,719 --> 00:46:16,960
Speaker 3: same thing, so that she's encouraged to do the same thing.

1033
00:46:17,040 --> 00:46:19,680
Speaker 4: Like it's such parenting.

1034
00:46:20,840 --> 00:46:22,719
Speaker 3: I don't know if we'll ever stop figuring it out,

1035
00:46:22,760 --> 00:46:27,160
Speaker 3: Like it's a constant dissection of like balance and compassion

1036
00:46:27,239 --> 00:46:30,200
Speaker 3: and discipline. And it's just like I realized where my

1037
00:46:30,320 --> 00:46:33,160
Speaker 3: parents could have probably been more like I never had

1038
00:46:33,280 --> 00:46:35,600
Speaker 3: a parent that was like you have to do this

1039
00:46:35,719 --> 00:46:38,000
Speaker 3: or like you know, I mean even when I was

1040
00:46:38,120 --> 00:46:40,399
Speaker 3: deep into dance, like it's because that's what I wanted

1041
00:46:40,400 --> 00:46:41,759
Speaker 3: to do, I was like waking that up, like yo,

1042
00:46:41,760 --> 00:46:43,880
Speaker 3: you gotta drop me off at seven am, you know.

1043
00:46:44,400 --> 00:46:47,920
Speaker 3: But I do feel like with adulthood, you're like, oh,

1044
00:46:47,960 --> 00:46:49,560
Speaker 3: I don't have to do that, and so I could

1045
00:46:49,600 --> 00:46:50,600
Speaker 3: just go hang out with my soul.

1046
00:46:50,480 --> 00:46:51,880
Speaker 5: And then you have to read and you have to

1047
00:46:52,120 --> 00:46:54,600
Speaker 5: you have to, Like it's like a resurgence of that

1048
00:46:55,400 --> 00:46:56,400
Speaker 5: on your own terms.

1049
00:46:56,480 --> 00:46:58,600
Speaker 3: And it's like but sometimes it takes a little bit longer.

1050
00:46:59,200 --> 00:47:01,560
Speaker 5: And I mean even in our space like of like

1051
00:47:01,640 --> 00:47:03,960
Speaker 5: having a business, like it's like the ebbs and flow

1052
00:47:04,000 --> 00:47:07,879
Speaker 5: of like staying focused, staying activated, staying inspired.

1053
00:47:07,440 --> 00:47:10,080
Speaker 3: Like right when there's no paycheck, there's no boss, you know,

1054
00:47:10,120 --> 00:47:12,520
Speaker 3: there's no deadline. Yeah, And I think it starts early.

1055
00:47:13,239 --> 00:47:14,400
Speaker 3: Oh and by the way, guys.

1056
00:47:14,440 --> 00:47:16,600
Speaker 5: I don't know if you guys, if there's any kids

1057
00:47:16,719 --> 00:47:18,640
Speaker 5: of parents between the ages of four and fourteen in

1058
00:47:18,640 --> 00:47:25,120
Speaker 5: the LA area. Speaking of mindfulness of discipline, my partner

1059
00:47:25,200 --> 00:47:28,600
Speaker 5: Skem is doing a muay time meditation program in the

1060
00:47:28,600 --> 00:47:31,480
Speaker 5: park for kids. So IRI's gonna be there. It starts

1061
00:47:31,520 --> 00:47:35,279
Speaker 5: this Friday and it's in the valley, and so if

1062
00:47:35,320 --> 00:47:38,240
Speaker 5: you're interested, make sure you go check out his Instagram.

1063
00:47:38,280 --> 00:47:41,000
Speaker 5: I don't know how to fun she Kem house at Instagram,

1064
00:47:41,000 --> 00:47:46,040
Speaker 5: at him, or you can email shakem works at gmail

1065
00:47:46,080 --> 00:47:48,440
Speaker 5: dot com and and tap in.

1066
00:47:48,480 --> 00:47:50,520
Speaker 3: Because I'm excited for Iri to do that. I'm excited

1067
00:47:50,520 --> 00:47:51,520
Speaker 3: you should bring Luna.

1068
00:47:51,280 --> 00:47:56,560
Speaker 5: To to just like even learn about I've meditated with Iri,

1069
00:47:56,680 --> 00:47:59,080
Speaker 5: but have I like sat down with her and like

1070
00:47:59,320 --> 00:48:00,359
Speaker 5: made it fun and like.

1071
00:48:00,320 --> 00:48:01,520
Speaker 3: She come so good with kids.

1072
00:48:01,520 --> 00:48:04,759
Speaker 5: So if you're interested in like introducing your kids to

1073
00:48:04,960 --> 00:48:08,479
Speaker 5: muy thai, which is a great confidence builder. Our kids

1074
00:48:08,520 --> 00:48:10,759
Speaker 5: need more than ever to know how to protect themselves

1075
00:48:11,160 --> 00:48:14,160
Speaker 5: and then also mindfulness and meditation, then come.

1076
00:48:14,080 --> 00:48:16,880
Speaker 3: Join us on Friday at the park in the valley.

1077
00:48:17,440 --> 00:48:19,239
Speaker 3: Do you remember when I used to hate we used

1078
00:48:19,280 --> 00:48:24,080
Speaker 3: to hate sing my partner. I know, I call my boyfriend,

1079
00:48:24,400 --> 00:48:25,120
Speaker 3: my part.

1080
00:48:26,880 --> 00:48:28,840
Speaker 5: Yeah, I just to say that my friend Romo, she

1081
00:48:28,880 --> 00:48:30,520
Speaker 5: used to call her man her partner, and I was like,

1082
00:48:31,239 --> 00:48:33,719
Speaker 5: he sounds like he's trans or like are you, like.

1083
00:48:33,760 --> 00:48:34,440
Speaker 4: Are you lesbian?

1084
00:48:34,520 --> 00:48:38,400
Speaker 3: Are you? I don't know, like what's going on that.

1085
00:48:38,960 --> 00:48:39,960
Speaker 4: We have a new vocabulary.

1086
00:48:40,000 --> 00:48:42,280
Speaker 5: But you know what I see, I understand it now

1087
00:48:42,440 --> 00:48:45,360
Speaker 5: because boy friend, my man.

1088
00:48:45,239 --> 00:48:48,359
Speaker 3: Is not a boy and he's not my friend. So

1089
00:48:48,400 --> 00:48:50,040
Speaker 3: where the fuck did we get this? I mean, he's

1090
00:48:50,080 --> 00:48:51,920
Speaker 3: my friend, but like, where the fuck did we get this?

1091
00:48:52,040 --> 00:48:57,320
Speaker 3: Like it's for teenagers, your boyfriend, yea, even a love Island.

1092
00:48:57,560 --> 00:48:59,200
Speaker 5: Sorry, not to go back to the violin one of

1093
00:48:59,239 --> 00:49:01,680
Speaker 5: the moments I noticed she was like, I'm going to

1094
00:49:01,719 --> 00:49:02,640
Speaker 5: pick one of the boys.

1095
00:49:02,800 --> 00:49:03,719
Speaker 4: I always call them boys.

1096
00:49:03,800 --> 00:49:07,640
Speaker 5: I'm like, because they are they're like little boys, not

1097
00:49:07,719 --> 00:49:08,319
Speaker 5: like the men.

1098
00:49:08,640 --> 00:49:10,440
Speaker 3: Never the men, the boys.

1099
00:49:10,120 --> 00:49:11,000
Speaker 4: Because they are boys.

1100
00:49:11,360 --> 00:49:13,799
Speaker 3: I love them though, I'm like, I love I love

1101
00:49:13,840 --> 00:49:15,239
Speaker 3: the life violent boys.

1102
00:49:15,480 --> 00:49:17,480
Speaker 4: Oh my god, Oh my god.

1103
00:49:17,520 --> 00:49:19,720
Speaker 5: But yeah, no, just like going back, like the discipline

1104
00:49:19,760 --> 00:49:22,320
Speaker 5: I think is important and but for sure like the play,

1105
00:49:22,560 --> 00:49:25,319
Speaker 5: like the play is is a big part of them

1106
00:49:25,480 --> 00:49:28,399
Speaker 5: deciding what you want to be disciplined in. So I'm

1107
00:49:28,440 --> 00:49:31,120
Speaker 5: excited to make some music with iron and see what

1108
00:49:31,280 --> 00:49:33,880
Speaker 5: comes of it. And you know, I even when we

1109
00:49:33,880 --> 00:49:35,640
Speaker 5: were writing the song, I could feel myself trying to

1110
00:49:35,640 --> 00:49:38,840
Speaker 5: like I was like wanting to like control, like that

1111
00:49:38,880 --> 00:49:40,680
Speaker 5: doesn't make sense, Like just leave it alone.

1112
00:49:40,840 --> 00:49:43,080
Speaker 3: Let it not make sense. Okay, it doesn't make sense.

1113
00:49:43,600 --> 00:49:49,359
Speaker 4: Music listen, it doesn't make sense. Yeah I do.

1114
00:49:50,400 --> 00:49:53,880
Speaker 3: I just want to do more kids stuff because adulting

1115
00:49:54,000 --> 00:49:56,920
Speaker 3: is intense. I want to pain and play and do

1116
00:49:57,040 --> 00:50:01,840
Speaker 3: makeup and ride bikes night cycles and yeah, just be

1117
00:50:01,880 --> 00:50:02,960
Speaker 3: the best mom I can be.

1118
00:50:03,360 --> 00:50:05,479
Speaker 4: But there's no rule book.

1119
00:50:05,520 --> 00:50:07,759
Speaker 3: Maybe that's the next book, a Good Mom's Guide to

1120
00:50:07,880 --> 00:50:11,320
Speaker 3: being a good mom. I think, well, you make the rules.

1121
00:50:11,520 --> 00:50:13,520
Speaker 3: You make the rule book for how you want a parent.

1122
00:50:13,600 --> 00:50:14,080
Speaker 3: I think that.

1123
00:50:14,120 --> 00:50:16,760
Speaker 5: I think you make the rules, and then you move

1124
00:50:16,880 --> 00:50:21,839
Speaker 5: through life within those guardrails, right, like they're yours to do.

1125
00:50:23,160 --> 00:50:25,920
Speaker 5: But I think that it's important to I don't know,

1126
00:50:25,960 --> 00:50:29,080
Speaker 5: like you wing it. And then eventually, like when you

1127
00:50:29,120 --> 00:50:31,640
Speaker 5: have your second child, you have tools, right, so then

1128
00:50:31,680 --> 00:50:33,799
Speaker 5: it's you do have a book at that point. I mean,

1129
00:50:33,800 --> 00:50:36,000
Speaker 5: obviously you're having a whole different child with a whole

1130
00:50:36,040 --> 00:50:39,640
Speaker 5: different set of needs and wants. But ideally, like generally,

1131
00:50:39,680 --> 00:50:42,080
Speaker 5: like there's some standard things that you know, like hey,

1132
00:50:42,280 --> 00:50:44,239
Speaker 5: last time I did this, maybe this time I'm not

1133
00:50:44,280 --> 00:50:44,759
Speaker 5: going to do that.

1134
00:50:45,600 --> 00:50:47,000
Speaker 4: I think I've been really.

1135
00:50:49,000 --> 00:50:53,440
Speaker 3: Scared and like it's not scared, but like really realizing

1136
00:50:53,760 --> 00:50:59,560
Speaker 3: the the realness of like having another baby. And I'm like, oh,

1137
00:50:59,840 --> 00:51:02,520
Speaker 3: like with one, it's one way, and it's been a

1138
00:51:02,520 --> 00:51:03,680
Speaker 3: certain way with this child.

1139
00:51:03,800 --> 00:51:04,640
Speaker 4: You know, we've been alone.

1140
00:51:04,680 --> 00:51:06,920
Speaker 3: You know, it's just been a whole different Twenty seven

1141
00:51:07,520 --> 00:51:09,960
Speaker 3: to ten years later to twenty seven to twenty four

1142
00:51:11,880 --> 00:51:14,240
Speaker 3: is such a It's like I'm a whole different human

1143
00:51:14,360 --> 00:51:17,880
Speaker 3: and like considering redoing that, and just like we have

1144
00:51:17,920 --> 00:51:20,080
Speaker 3: so many friends who just like popped out kids back

1145
00:51:20,080 --> 00:51:22,080
Speaker 3: to back, but we did it because we were just

1146
00:51:22,120 --> 00:51:23,879
Speaker 3: like whoa, we just got the hang of this one.

1147
00:51:24,360 --> 00:51:27,560
Speaker 3: And now considering redoing like doing that again. It's like

1148
00:51:27,600 --> 00:51:33,080
Speaker 3: a resurgence of I guess, like the second half of adulthood,

1149
00:51:33,440 --> 00:51:37,440
Speaker 3: the second half of motherhood. And it feels scary. It's like, oh,

1150
00:51:37,520 --> 00:51:39,719
Speaker 3: my life is changing. And even though as women were

1151
00:51:39,760 --> 00:51:43,560
Speaker 3: always talking about, like from young girls, we're like we

1152
00:51:43,760 --> 00:51:45,279
Speaker 3: have a husband and then I'm gonna get a house

1153
00:51:45,280 --> 00:51:46,960
Speaker 3: and then we're gonna live happy. I'll live every after

1154
00:51:47,000 --> 00:51:49,360
Speaker 3: and I have three to five kids. But the reality

1155
00:51:49,400 --> 00:51:50,840
Speaker 3: of that is like, oh my god, this is a

1156
00:51:50,880 --> 00:51:53,879
Speaker 3: decade later. This is a whole news, Like I know

1157
00:51:53,960 --> 00:51:57,279
Speaker 3: the I know that, not the darkness, but kind of

1158
00:51:57,280 --> 00:52:01,160
Speaker 3: the deep, the deepness of having an infant, of pregnancy.

1159
00:52:01,280 --> 00:52:04,400
Speaker 3: It's far away from me, but like I feel like

1160
00:52:04,520 --> 00:52:10,320
Speaker 3: a like a like an adolescence, an adolescent in adults

1161
00:52:10,400 --> 00:52:13,120
Speaker 3: like read dooing a new cycle again and I'm like,

1162
00:52:13,239 --> 00:52:15,759
Speaker 3: oh wow, this is requiring a different part of me

1163
00:52:15,840 --> 00:52:18,040
Speaker 3: because I do know better because I have done it

1164
00:52:18,040 --> 00:52:19,279
Speaker 3: this way, and like how am I going to do

1165
00:52:19,280 --> 00:52:19,719
Speaker 3: it this way?

1166
00:52:19,719 --> 00:52:22,359
Speaker 4: What does this look like? And also just.

1167
00:52:24,640 --> 00:52:30,000
Speaker 3: Thinking about aging and not in the like the vain sense,

1168
00:52:30,080 --> 00:52:33,920
Speaker 3: but like safety finances, like I don't want to work

1169
00:52:33,960 --> 00:52:37,960
Speaker 3: when I'm sixty five, Like I have to maintain comfortability

1170
00:52:38,000 --> 00:52:41,160
Speaker 3: and safety for myself and for my child even after

1171
00:52:41,280 --> 00:52:42,839
Speaker 3: I'm gone, And what does that look like?

1172
00:52:42,880 --> 00:52:44,560
Speaker 4: What is what is the four oh one? Kay? What

1173
00:52:44,680 --> 00:52:45,400
Speaker 4: is the retirement?

1174
00:52:45,480 --> 00:52:48,400
Speaker 3: Like those type of thoughts too, are like I in

1175
00:52:48,400 --> 00:52:51,799
Speaker 3: many ways, I still feel like a young I still

1176
00:52:51,800 --> 00:52:55,160
Speaker 3: feel like love island age, Like fuck, this is Shit's

1177
00:52:55,200 --> 00:52:57,440
Speaker 3: getting real, you know, and it's always been real, But

1178
00:52:57,560 --> 00:53:00,200
Speaker 3: like I it's interesting how we go through these cycles

1179
00:53:00,520 --> 00:53:02,920
Speaker 3: of adulthood, I mean just of life in general, Like

1180
00:53:02,960 --> 00:53:05,200
Speaker 3: you know, there's words for it all the way up

1181
00:53:05,239 --> 00:53:07,640
Speaker 3: into adulthood and then it's like you got it, but

1182
00:53:07,680 --> 00:53:09,919
Speaker 3: the reality is like I don't got it. And there's

1183
00:53:09,960 --> 00:53:12,960
Speaker 3: a lot of planning that's required that I wasn't necessarily taught,

1184
00:53:13,000 --> 00:53:15,960
Speaker 3: So what the fuck? And it's it's scary, And I

1185
00:53:16,000 --> 00:53:20,200
Speaker 3: think that there should be more conversations around like adult

1186
00:53:20,280 --> 00:53:24,200
Speaker 3: fear and and like just well.

1187
00:53:24,120 --> 00:53:26,000
Speaker 5: I think everyone, I think everything, there's a lot of

1188
00:53:26,000 --> 00:53:27,279
Speaker 5: conversations around adult fear.

1189
00:53:27,280 --> 00:53:30,719
Speaker 3: If you look on Instagram, everyone's scared. I think. I

1190
00:53:30,719 --> 00:53:34,680
Speaker 3: think that's the problem, is that everyone's scared. Yeah, I

1191
00:53:35,040 --> 00:53:35,920
Speaker 3: don't have I.

1192
00:53:35,920 --> 00:53:38,759
Speaker 5: Don't necessarily have fear around having a baby. I mean

1193
00:53:38,880 --> 00:53:41,439
Speaker 5: I just have Like I think I just know that's

1194
00:53:41,719 --> 00:53:44,000
Speaker 5: it's not about the fear. It's just like I'm I'm

1195
00:53:44,040 --> 00:53:46,239
Speaker 5: not in la la land about it. Like I'm very

1196
00:53:46,320 --> 00:53:48,880
Speaker 5: clear about like the reality of it. I'm not like

1197
00:53:49,640 --> 00:53:50,360
Speaker 5: what is it going to.

1198
00:53:50,400 --> 00:53:53,280
Speaker 3: Be, Like, oh my god, are you gonna have his face?

1199
00:53:53,640 --> 00:53:56,760
Speaker 3: I'm like, who's gonna pay these bills? Yeah?

1200
00:53:57,040 --> 00:53:59,719
Speaker 5: Yeah, Like like am I gonna have a v am

1201
00:53:59,719 --> 00:54:01,040
Speaker 5: I gonna be able to have a vback?

1202
00:54:01,120 --> 00:54:03,320
Speaker 3: If not, who's going to pay for this C section?

1203
00:54:04,000 --> 00:54:07,640
Speaker 5: And like where is the world going to be at

1204
00:54:07,840 --> 00:54:09,960
Speaker 5: when this baby's born? Like are we going to be

1205
00:54:09,960 --> 00:54:13,359
Speaker 5: living in ai fucking universe? Or am I be able

1206
00:54:13,400 --> 00:54:16,480
Speaker 5: to make money as a creator because now there's fake creators,

1207
00:54:16,560 --> 00:54:20,960
Speaker 5: Like like that's where myne mind goes. It's not necessarily

1208
00:54:21,040 --> 00:54:24,160
Speaker 5: like whether or not I can be a good parent

1209
00:54:24,320 --> 00:54:27,160
Speaker 5: or I can do it or if like if like

1210
00:54:27,200 --> 00:54:29,560
Speaker 5: sha Ken would be a good dad, Like I'm excited

1211
00:54:29,640 --> 00:54:33,000
Speaker 5: about that idea, but it's just like it's the it's

1212
00:54:33,040 --> 00:54:36,040
Speaker 5: the worldly things that I feel I think you have

1213
00:54:36,080 --> 00:54:41,960
Speaker 5: no control worried about, but also like yeah, I just know.

1214
00:54:42,200 --> 00:54:46,200
Speaker 5: I also know that historically God has looked out for me,

1215
00:54:46,400 --> 00:54:50,360
Speaker 5: like literally all the time, every day, always, and so

1216
00:54:51,560 --> 00:54:55,759
Speaker 5: I'm not really too worried about that either. It's just

1217
00:54:55,800 --> 00:54:59,520
Speaker 5: like if it happens, great, When it happens, I'd like

1218
00:54:59,560 --> 00:55:01,960
Speaker 5: to have a little bit more. I have control over

1219
00:55:02,040 --> 00:55:06,120
Speaker 5: right now, and I'm continuing to have control over until

1220
00:55:06,960 --> 00:55:08,960
Speaker 5: we feel like it's the time, which is not like

1221
00:55:09,000 --> 00:55:13,120
Speaker 5: I'm not gonna have a baby until I'm married. So yeah,

1222
00:55:13,239 --> 00:55:17,520
Speaker 5: I'm traditional in that way now now now, because and

1223
00:55:17,840 --> 00:55:20,920
Speaker 5: that's a learning for me. That's something that I've learned

1224
00:55:21,000 --> 00:55:23,800
Speaker 5: along the way, Like, don't have a baby with a

1225
00:55:23,880 --> 00:55:26,200
Speaker 5: nigga that you're kind of broken up with, Like that's

1226
00:55:26,320 --> 00:55:27,480
Speaker 5: probably not a great idea.

1227
00:55:27,840 --> 00:55:29,560
Speaker 3: I don't have a baby with a nigga that you

1228
00:55:30,040 --> 00:55:32,319
Speaker 3: see a lot of red flags and they're like, this

1229
00:55:32,360 --> 00:55:34,120
Speaker 3: is probably is going to be an issue now. If

1230
00:55:34,120 --> 00:55:35,759
Speaker 3: it's an issue now, it's probably gonna be an issue

1231
00:55:35,760 --> 00:55:36,640
Speaker 3: when I have a baby.

1232
00:55:37,520 --> 00:55:40,400
Speaker 5: Yeah, So you know, And I feel like I'm a

1233
00:55:40,440 --> 00:55:42,040
Speaker 5: lot more. I feel like I feel like I'm a

1234
00:55:42,040 --> 00:55:43,919
Speaker 5: patient parent, but I feel like I will have even

1235
00:55:43,960 --> 00:55:46,239
Speaker 5: more patients. And I also feel like I will have

1236
00:55:46,280 --> 00:55:51,680
Speaker 5: more support literally, like I like will be having a

1237
00:55:51,719 --> 00:55:56,680
Speaker 5: real person that can actually help me tangibly. So I

1238
00:55:57,080 --> 00:55:59,279
Speaker 5: do feel like it would be a different experience and

1239
00:55:59,320 --> 00:56:03,439
Speaker 5: I'm excited about that. But all the other stuff, like, yeah,

1240
00:56:03,480 --> 00:56:05,239
Speaker 5: I mean, it can be it can be scary. The

1241
00:56:05,239 --> 00:56:08,600
Speaker 5: world is scary place, The Internet is weird, and I

1242
00:56:08,680 --> 00:56:15,920
Speaker 5: highly highly recommend everyone unplug from the Internet, Instagram, TikTok,

1243
00:56:16,440 --> 00:56:19,960
Speaker 5: like do detox is as often as possible, especially right

1244
00:56:20,040 --> 00:56:24,920
Speaker 5: now because it's dark, it's weird and every time I

1245
00:56:25,000 --> 00:56:27,600
Speaker 5: specifically Instagram for me, whenever I open it up, it's

1246
00:56:27,680 --> 00:56:31,440
Speaker 5: a lot of negativity. Like I recently joined TikTok and

1247
00:56:31,600 --> 00:56:33,080
Speaker 5: I can't believe I'm saying that out loud.

1248
00:56:34,320 --> 00:56:37,160
Speaker 3: And when I'm there, it's a lot more cheerful, it's

1249
00:56:37,200 --> 00:56:39,880
Speaker 3: a lot more happy over on TikTok. And I'm not

1250
00:56:39,920 --> 00:56:42,280
Speaker 3: even scrolling on TikTok. I'm not even a TikTok scroller.

1251
00:56:42,360 --> 00:56:44,719
Speaker 3: But like whenever I open the app, it's not like

1252
00:56:45,040 --> 00:56:48,000
Speaker 3: duty is acquitted on all charges, Like it's not is.

1253
00:56:48,000 --> 00:56:49,080
Speaker 4: He quitted in all charges?

1254
00:56:49,120 --> 00:56:51,000
Speaker 5: Well, no, he's not quit all charges, but he's basically

1255
00:56:51,000 --> 00:56:52,399
Speaker 5: going he's not going to serve any time. I don't

1256
00:56:52,440 --> 00:56:54,440
Speaker 5: think he's not out though, No he's not out, but

1257
00:56:54,480 --> 00:56:55,399
Speaker 5: I doubt he'll serve time.

1258
00:56:55,480 --> 00:56:58,000
Speaker 3: Maybe he'll like do time served already rights.

1259
00:56:58,680 --> 00:57:02,360
Speaker 5: Wow, But like that, like that compares along with all

1260
00:57:02,400 --> 00:57:05,680
Speaker 5: of the all of the politics and the drownings and

1261
00:57:06,320 --> 00:57:10,800
Speaker 5: just the climates and the love islands and the like.

1262
00:57:11,360 --> 00:57:12,120
Speaker 4: It's a lot.

1263
00:57:12,200 --> 00:57:15,759
Speaker 5: And so it's just you know, unplug I would say,

1264
00:57:15,800 --> 00:57:18,200
Speaker 5: if you can, that's my tip of the day.

1265
00:57:19,040 --> 00:57:22,040
Speaker 3: This is unplugged from the Internet. That's affirmation unplugged from

1266
00:57:22,040 --> 00:57:28,760
Speaker 3: the ship. The affirmation is unplug from the Internet.

1267
00:57:31,000 --> 00:57:33,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think I'm gonna go camping next week. I think,

1268
00:57:33,800 --> 00:57:36,000
Speaker 4: I mean, I think what I need to utilize.

1269
00:57:36,040 --> 00:57:39,200
Speaker 3: I'm realizing that to utilize nature in the place in

1270
00:57:39,200 --> 00:57:41,440
Speaker 3: which I live, and not just reserve it for me

1271
00:57:41,440 --> 00:57:42,360
Speaker 3: when I go to the jungle.

1272
00:57:43,040 --> 00:57:44,760
Speaker 5: No, And that's what I've been That's why I've said

1273
00:57:44,760 --> 00:57:46,160
Speaker 5: I've been going to the beach a lot. I live

1274
00:57:46,280 --> 00:57:47,960
Speaker 5: fucking near the beach. I was like, why am I

1275
00:57:48,000 --> 00:57:50,440
Speaker 5: not going to the beach more often? I mean, I

1276
00:57:50,520 --> 00:57:53,360
Speaker 5: knew I hadn't been to Malibu since the fires.

1277
00:57:53,600 --> 00:57:54,840
Speaker 4: How is it? Does it feel?

1278
00:57:54,960 --> 00:57:56,280
Speaker 5: I didn't go to the like so when you go

1279
00:57:56,320 --> 00:57:58,800
Speaker 5: over my canyon to the left is where all the

1280
00:57:58,800 --> 00:57:59,320
Speaker 5: fires were.

1281
00:57:59,520 --> 00:58:00,280
Speaker 3: I go to the right.

1282
00:58:00,720 --> 00:58:04,720
Speaker 5: And yesterday I can't no. On On Sunday, I went

1283
00:58:04,720 --> 00:58:07,920
Speaker 5: to Zooma zoom and it was beautiful. Really, it was

1284
00:58:08,040 --> 00:58:08,560
Speaker 5: so nice.

1285
00:58:08,600 --> 00:58:09,680
Speaker 3: The water was blue.

1286
00:58:10,120 --> 00:58:12,800
Speaker 5: It was like Zuoma reminds me of my childhood too.

1287
00:58:12,800 --> 00:58:14,200
Speaker 5: I spent so much of my child I don't know

1288
00:58:14,200 --> 00:58:15,280
Speaker 5: why everyone was going to Zooma.

1289
00:58:15,560 --> 00:58:16,840
Speaker 4: I would as a child too.

1290
00:58:16,880 --> 00:58:18,400
Speaker 5: I know, I'm say she came to he was like

1291
00:58:18,480 --> 00:58:20,440
Speaker 5: this was my beach. I'm like, why was everyone going

1292
00:58:20,480 --> 00:58:20,880
Speaker 5: to zoom?

1293
00:58:20,920 --> 00:58:22,600
Speaker 3: I guess I was a little bit outside of the city,

1294
00:58:22,600 --> 00:58:24,280
Speaker 3: so the water is supposed to be a little bit better.

1295
00:58:24,600 --> 00:58:24,840
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1296
00:58:25,440 --> 00:58:28,240
Speaker 5: So anyway, I've been I've been doing that as much

1297
00:58:28,240 --> 00:58:29,919
Speaker 5: as I can, as much as I can, and it does.

1298
00:58:29,960 --> 00:58:32,400
Speaker 3: It feels good. I feel like my transition from Costa

1299
00:58:32,480 --> 00:58:33,880
Speaker 3: Rica to here has been pretty nice.

1300
00:58:34,080 --> 00:58:37,480
Speaker 5: Like it hasn't been. It's like we had those days off.

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Speaker 5: Iri was at camp. I came back and it's been

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Speaker 5: like smooth, smooth sailing. Typically it's like coming back in

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00:58:46,280 --> 00:58:49,360
Speaker 5: after a retreat in January and I have I'm in

1304
00:58:49,680 --> 00:58:51,800
Speaker 5: Q one of our business and I have to get

1305
00:58:51,840 --> 00:58:54,680
Speaker 5: back plug back in the team is like brand partnership.

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00:58:54,720 --> 00:58:57,960
Speaker 5: So it's a little bit different in the summertime. But

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Speaker 5: I would encourage you guys, if your kids are out

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00:59:01,600 --> 00:59:04,240
Speaker 5: of school, this is the time to go plug into nature.

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00:59:05,000 --> 00:59:07,920
Speaker 5: Like if you've got to bring your laptop for work and.

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Speaker 3: Do a few hours of work, do that. But you

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00:59:10,040 --> 00:59:12,480
Speaker 3: have the opportunity of like a free, open schedule and

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Speaker 3: open day, take advantage of it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I really just want to live my life in peace

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Speaker 3: and just do it. Intentionally, so it doesn't feel I

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00:59:23,880 --> 00:59:27,000
Speaker 3: don't want to be on my deathbed and be like, wow,

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00:59:27,040 --> 00:59:28,920
Speaker 3: I was rushing, Where was I going?

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Speaker 4: Everything was moving so fast?

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Speaker 3: I want to be like I mean, I know, I know,

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Speaker 3: like we I live such a full life, you know,

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Speaker 3: like we have such a good friends, We do fun shit.

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Speaker 3: This is everything that I manifested, you know, so like

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Speaker 3: being present in that too, and just yeah, like in

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Speaker 3: just the environment what we live outside of the internet,

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Speaker 3: outside of that, and just in nature, in this fucking

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Speaker 3: city that we pay thousands of dollars of taxes for

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00:59:54,840 --> 00:59:55,840
Speaker 3: and rent.

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Speaker 4: So just yeah, fucking adult.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, do that, but then also be disciplined and get

1330
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Speaker 5: your shit done so that you can do that right,

1331
01:00:06,160 --> 01:00:08,200
Speaker 5: you know, like make all the coins you can so

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01:00:08,240 --> 01:00:11,959
Speaker 5: that you can fucking retire early. Shrink your life down.

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Speaker 5: I feel like that's like something I've been thinking about

1334
01:00:14,040 --> 01:00:16,680
Speaker 5: a lot too. It's like not that like I wouldn't

1335
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Speaker 5: want to dream big and I don't want to have

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Speaker 5: like you know, I'm not like shrinking my dreams down.

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Speaker 5: It's more so like my need for things, like I've

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Speaker 5: I feel like I've gotten to a place where I've

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Speaker 5: acquired a lot of things that I asked for. But

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01:00:28,680 --> 01:00:30,600
Speaker 5: then it's like I didn't think about the maintaining of

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Speaker 5: these things, and how unhappy it's made.

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Speaker 3: It's making me to have to maintain all.

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Speaker 5: Of these things when like, really like the richness of

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Speaker 5: life is in the experiences.

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Speaker 3: The richness of life is like how you live, of.

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Speaker 5: Course, but like simplicity, Yeah, there's like there's more simplicity

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Speaker 5: to it, Like and if you if you simplify your

1348
01:00:49,200 --> 01:00:51,240
Speaker 5: life that you can buy that first class ticket to

1349
01:00:51,440 --> 01:00:55,240
Speaker 5: Paris because you're not paying seven thousand dollars of rent

1350
01:00:55,400 --> 01:00:59,840
Speaker 5: back home, you know, So it's like reimagining like what

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Speaker 5: but like richness looks like in your life? And because

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Speaker 5: I've been thinking about like, yeah, the maintaining of life

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Speaker 5: and like how are people doing this till they're like sixty,

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Speaker 5: Like especially in this economy now, it's so much different

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Speaker 5: than when our parents were our grandparents.

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Speaker 3: Were alive, Like how are people retiring?

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Speaker 5: Like honestly and literally and like feeling good about it,

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Speaker 5: feeling like I can still live how I lived. And

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Speaker 5: I think it's like when you get older, you actually

1360
01:01:26,160 --> 01:01:28,880
Speaker 5: just realize you don't need all this shit, and you

1361
01:01:29,120 --> 01:01:33,760
Speaker 5: just slowly start to simplify your life until you're like

1362
01:01:34,120 --> 01:01:37,320
Speaker 5: living on a farm in Montana that you bought in

1363
01:01:37,360 --> 01:01:39,840
Speaker 5: your early thirties that you never thought you'd really live

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Speaker 5: at and it's.

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Speaker 3: Fine and you're actually better off and you're TechEd away.

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Speaker 3: So I'm trying to get to that place sooner, yeah

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Speaker 3: than sixty five to seventy. I do feel like simplicity.

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Speaker 3: I do feel like, yeah, simple shit, simple, simple, simple.

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01:01:57,520 --> 01:01:59,120
Speaker 3: But I do have things to do while I'm here,

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Speaker 3: and I love what I do, So yeah, I'm remembering that,

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Speaker 3: you know, like I we get to travel, we get

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Speaker 3: to make friends, we get to heal, we get to

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01:02:11,160 --> 01:02:14,480
Speaker 3: play in a lot of different like different parts of ourselves.

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Speaker 3: We get to sit and talk to each other in

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Speaker 3: our studio and put on makeup and our kids are

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01:02:19,280 --> 01:02:23,360
Speaker 3: in the other room and like barbecue and you know,

1377
01:02:23,480 --> 01:02:25,440
Speaker 3: like all the fun things that we do in our

1378
01:02:25,560 --> 01:02:27,560
Speaker 3: friend group. And I'm like, I'm grateful for that. I

1379
01:02:27,600 --> 01:02:30,120
Speaker 3: recognize that this is a gift. We don't have to

1380
01:02:30,160 --> 01:02:33,160
Speaker 3: go clock in and you know, and there's there's there's

1381
01:02:33,360 --> 01:02:35,360
Speaker 3: pros and there's cons, But for the most part, this

1382
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Speaker 3: is what I.

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Speaker 4: Envisioned in ways talking for a living hanging out with

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Speaker 4: my friend.

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Speaker 3: And pull a card. It's a terroot time.

1386
01:02:47,240 --> 01:02:48,120
Speaker 4: It is terroot time.

1387
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Speaker 3: Go ahead, okay. Resilience, courage, persistence, test of faith boundaries.

1388
01:03:05,760 --> 01:03:08,440
Speaker 3: It says, the nine of Wands comes as a sign

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01:03:08,480 --> 01:03:11,400
Speaker 3: that even in the face of adversity, you stand tall

1390
01:03:11,480 --> 01:03:14,480
Speaker 3: and strong. You may be on the edge of exhaustion,

1391
01:03:14,600 --> 01:03:16,720
Speaker 3: but you are resilient, persistent, and ready to do what

1392
01:03:16,760 --> 01:03:19,080
Speaker 3: it takes to get to the finish line. This card

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01:03:19,120 --> 01:03:22,080
Speaker 3: may also come when you feel battered and bruised, having

1394
01:03:22,200 --> 01:03:25,720
Speaker 3: endured significant challenges and struggles along your path. Just when

1395
01:03:25,760 --> 01:03:28,480
Speaker 3: you think you're making progress, you suffer another setback.

1396
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Speaker 4: The Nine of Wands.

1397
01:03:29,680 --> 01:03:32,440
Speaker 3: Asks you to trust that it trusts that this is

1398
01:03:32,520 --> 01:03:35,240
Speaker 3: merely a test of your grit and resilience, and know

1399
01:03:35,320 --> 01:03:38,480
Speaker 3: that every time you overcome an obstacle, you're getting stronger.

1400
01:03:38,760 --> 01:03:41,760
Speaker 3: You have the inner resources necessary to overcome any difficult

1401
01:03:42,120 --> 01:03:45,640
Speaker 3: any difficulty you encounter, even though it may seem impossible

1402
01:03:45,680 --> 01:03:48,600
Speaker 3: at the time. See this nine as an assurance that

1403
01:03:48,640 --> 01:03:51,920
Speaker 3: you will eventually prosper if you maintain your position, and

1404
01:03:51,960 --> 01:03:54,200
Speaker 3: if you do not succeed at first, then try again

1405
01:03:55,320 --> 01:03:57,760
Speaker 3: and encourage you to keep pushing. You are also close

1406
01:03:57,800 --> 01:04:00,360
Speaker 3: to the You're so close to the finish line, even

1407
01:04:00,360 --> 01:04:01,840
Speaker 3: if you want to give up. This is your final

1408
01:04:01,920 --> 01:04:04,160
Speaker 3: challenge before you reach your goal. So don't let go

1409
01:04:04,200 --> 01:04:06,480
Speaker 3: of your hopes and dreams when you are so close

1410
01:04:06,520 --> 01:04:08,880
Speaker 3: to making them a reality. Stand firm in the face

1411
01:04:08,880 --> 01:04:12,440
Speaker 3: of your challenges, and you will achieve your goal. Others

1412
01:04:12,440 --> 01:04:15,160
Speaker 3: may try to oppose your plans, make things difficult for you,

1413
01:04:15,280 --> 01:04:17,240
Speaker 3: or even attack you for what you're putting out into

1414
01:04:17,280 --> 01:04:19,760
Speaker 3: the world. Often they do it because they're jealous of

1415
01:04:19,800 --> 01:04:22,600
Speaker 3: your success or rare, or are projecting their own insecurities

1416
01:04:22,600 --> 01:04:25,120
Speaker 3: and fears on you. Don't let them get to you.

1417
01:04:25,120 --> 01:04:27,480
Speaker 3: You're a change maker and you have a vital message

1418
01:04:27,520 --> 01:04:29,840
Speaker 3: to share in this world. Don't dim your light because

1419
01:04:29,840 --> 01:04:33,760
Speaker 3: of others insecurities. Okay, it doesn't look as sad as

1420
01:04:33,760 --> 01:04:36,440
Speaker 3: he is. You're almost there. Just like we said, just

1421
01:04:36,520 --> 01:04:41,040
Speaker 3: keep going, Just keep going. Does that resonate with you?

1422
01:04:41,960 --> 01:04:45,840
Speaker 3: I don't feel battered and bruised, but yeah, I do

1423
01:04:45,920 --> 01:04:56,120
Speaker 3: feel like there's like a push right now for completion and.

1424
01:04:58,840 --> 01:05:02,919
Speaker 5: Knowing that there's more that I want to expand upon

1425
01:05:02,960 --> 01:05:05,160
Speaker 5: even in this space that I haven't really had the

1426
01:05:05,160 --> 01:05:09,920
Speaker 5: opportunity to, and that I wanted to. I wanted to

1427
01:05:09,960 --> 01:05:13,360
Speaker 5: feel good, I wanted to feel in play. But I

1428
01:05:13,400 --> 01:05:15,720
Speaker 5: also know that there's like a level of like focus

1429
01:05:15,760 --> 01:05:19,720
Speaker 5: that it requires, So I guess I resonate with that.

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01:05:20,080 --> 01:05:24,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, I definitely feel like there's a shift happening, like

1431
01:05:24,160 --> 01:05:26,400
Speaker 3: there's I mean, I guess there's shit is always changing.

1432
01:05:26,560 --> 01:05:28,200
Speaker 4: Change is the one thing that's consistent.

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01:05:28,240 --> 01:05:30,760
Speaker 3: But yeah, in my I guess maybe because I just

1434
01:05:30,760 --> 01:05:33,840
Speaker 3: had a birthday and just where we're at in the world,

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01:05:33,880 --> 01:05:36,280
Speaker 3: but I do think there's like an awakening and a

1436
01:05:36,360 --> 01:05:40,000
Speaker 3: shifting happening and it's like a transitional time.

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01:05:40,680 --> 01:05:41,200
Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Sure, can you guys write in and give us hories

1439
01:05:43,760 --> 01:05:45,280
Speaker 3: I need, we need your horse stories.

1440
01:05:45,040 --> 01:05:46,960
Speaker 5: Riding your horries. If you have any hories, make sure

1441
01:05:46,960 --> 01:05:48,880
Speaker 5: you write them in. Well, actually, there's a link that

1442
01:05:48,920 --> 01:05:50,600
Speaker 5: will put in this episode description where.

1443
01:05:50,480 --> 01:05:51,880
Speaker 3: You can write in your hories.

1444
01:05:51,880 --> 01:05:53,560
Speaker 5: You can write in your bad choices of the week.

1445
01:05:53,840 --> 01:05:56,560
Speaker 5: Make sure you join our Facebook group. We have a

1446
01:05:56,560 --> 01:05:58,880
Speaker 5: retreat coming up you guys at the end of the month.

1447
01:05:58,920 --> 01:06:01,720
Speaker 5: We have a few more spots left. If you miss

1448
01:06:01,760 --> 01:06:05,000
Speaker 5: the sale for a memorial Memorial Day, whatever the fucking

1449
01:06:05,040 --> 01:06:07,720
Speaker 5: stupid ass to day that it was, and you want

1450
01:06:07,720 --> 01:06:10,400
Speaker 5: to escape with us. We've extended the discount code, so

1451
01:06:10,400 --> 01:06:12,040
Speaker 5: if you still want to use it, you can get

1452
01:06:12,040 --> 01:06:14,400
Speaker 5: eight hundred dollars off your trip when you use code escape.

1453
01:06:14,480 --> 01:06:16,360
Speaker 5: If you're like, fuck, I need a summer trip, I

1454
01:06:16,360 --> 01:06:17,160
Speaker 5: don't know where to go.

1455
01:06:17,440 --> 01:06:18,640
Speaker 3: Stop waiting for your friends.

1456
01:06:18,880 --> 01:06:21,040
Speaker 5: Fuck those bitches and come hang out with us and

1457
01:06:21,080 --> 01:06:22,800
Speaker 5: find a new tribe of bitches to hang out with.

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01:06:24,000 --> 01:06:26,439
Speaker 5: It's going to be in Costa Rica July thirty first

1459
01:06:26,440 --> 01:06:29,880
Speaker 5: through August fifth. We also have August eighth through the thirteenth.

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01:06:29,960 --> 01:06:32,000
Speaker 5: We have a few solo rooms left. We have a

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01:06:32,040 --> 01:06:33,680
Speaker 5: few shared rooms left, so if you do want to

1462
01:06:33,680 --> 01:06:35,080
Speaker 5: come with your homegirl, you can come, or if you

1463
01:06:35,120 --> 01:06:38,040
Speaker 5: want to share a room with a new homegirl, that's

1464
01:06:38,080 --> 01:06:38,600
Speaker 5: great too.

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01:06:39,920 --> 01:06:42,080
Speaker 3: If you're thinking this is very last minute and I

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01:06:42,120 --> 01:06:43,680
Speaker 3: am not going to be able to leave next week,

1467
01:06:43,720 --> 01:06:47,040
Speaker 3: you can because we've extended payments so you don't have

1468
01:06:47,080 --> 01:06:48,680
Speaker 3: to have it all paid by the thirty first. I

1469
01:06:48,800 --> 01:06:51,200
Speaker 3: realized that's in two weeks, but if you need a

1470
01:06:51,200 --> 01:06:53,800
Speaker 3: little more time, you have the option to do that.

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01:06:53,880 --> 01:06:56,960
Speaker 3: You can also get your friends and your family to

1472
01:06:57,040 --> 01:06:59,800
Speaker 3: contribute to your trip because there's a link for that,

1473
01:07:00,360 --> 01:07:03,640
Speaker 3: so utilize your tribe and your family. If you got

1474
01:07:03,640 --> 01:07:05,560
Speaker 3: a birthday coming up, let them know that's what you

1475
01:07:05,560 --> 01:07:08,600
Speaker 3: want for your birthday. But don't make excuses. Invest in

1476
01:07:08,640 --> 01:07:11,800
Speaker 3: your rest, invest in doing something different, like when you

1477
01:07:11,800 --> 01:07:14,760
Speaker 3: step outside of the box. Beautiful things happen when you

1478
01:07:14,760 --> 01:07:16,440
Speaker 3: say yes. And a lot of people are like, I

1479
01:07:16,440 --> 01:07:18,160
Speaker 3: wouldn't go on no trip, But no, bitches, I don't know.

1480
01:07:18,880 --> 01:07:23,400
Speaker 3: I've done it fifteen times and it's literally so much

1481
01:07:23,440 --> 01:07:25,440
Speaker 3: fun to meet new people and going on an adventure

1482
01:07:25,600 --> 01:07:28,720
Speaker 3: of you know, just the unknown and let somebody else

1483
01:07:28,840 --> 01:07:31,160
Speaker 3: plan everything for you. You don't have to do shit,

1484
01:07:31,360 --> 01:07:32,680
Speaker 3: you don't have to think about meals, you don't have

1485
01:07:32,720 --> 01:07:35,120
Speaker 3: to think about transportation, you want to think about activities.

1486
01:07:35,360 --> 01:07:37,400
Speaker 3: It's all provided for you. And that's the type of

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01:07:37,440 --> 01:07:38,560
Speaker 3: vacation I want to have.

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01:07:39,440 --> 01:07:41,880
Speaker 5: And you know, I think, like we used to post

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01:07:43,120 --> 01:07:46,360
Speaker 5: testimonials of the women from the retreat. If you go

1490
01:07:46,400 --> 01:07:49,560
Speaker 5: back in our episodes, you can listen to a few testimonials.

1491
01:07:49,560 --> 01:07:52,000
Speaker 5: But maybe we'll just share a testimonial at the end

1492
01:07:52,040 --> 01:07:55,640
Speaker 5: of this episode, just so you understand from someone else

1493
01:07:55,680 --> 01:07:59,280
Speaker 5: that has fully experienced this retreat what it does is

1494
01:07:59,320 --> 01:08:00,880
Speaker 5: all about. Because I think some people are like, what's

1495
01:08:00,920 --> 01:08:03,680
Speaker 5: going on there? What's happening. It's kind of hard, it's

1496
01:08:03,720 --> 01:08:05,840
Speaker 5: like hard to explain. You kind of like got to

1497
01:08:05,920 --> 01:08:08,480
Speaker 5: be there to get it. But we have some really

1498
01:08:08,520 --> 01:08:11,200
Speaker 5: beautiful testimonials from people that have come. If you go

1499
01:08:11,240 --> 01:08:14,080
Speaker 5: and check out our retreat site, we have five star reviews,

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01:08:14,440 --> 01:08:19,160
Speaker 5: five stars from all of our attendees. So don't take

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01:08:19,200 --> 01:08:21,040
Speaker 5: it from us, Take it from the other people that

1502
01:08:21,080 --> 01:08:23,640
Speaker 5: have come. Take it from the women whose lives have

1503
01:08:23,800 --> 01:08:27,439
Speaker 5: changed after this retreat, whose partners have now come to

1504
01:08:27,479 --> 01:08:29,880
Speaker 5: our retreat and the couple's retreat because their partners saw

1505
01:08:30,040 --> 01:08:33,080
Speaker 5: the transformation in their women, and we're like, fuck that

1506
01:08:33,120 --> 01:08:33,880
Speaker 5: we need to go to.

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01:08:35,560 --> 01:08:37,639
Speaker 3: Anyway. I hope that I see you guys in Costa Rica,

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01:08:37,680 --> 01:08:41,320
Speaker 3: because I'll be there and you should too. I'll definitely

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01:08:41,360 --> 01:08:43,880
Speaker 3: be there. And if we're there and you're on the

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01:08:43,920 --> 01:08:45,800
Speaker 3: stories and you're seeing us living our best lives, you're

1511
01:08:45,800 --> 01:08:47,120
Speaker 3: gonna be mad you didn't just.

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01:08:47,320 --> 01:08:48,880
Speaker 5: Especially because you didn't even have to pay for it

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Speaker 5: all at one time. Girl, Come on, yeah, don't make excuses.

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01:08:52,560 --> 01:08:54,839
Speaker 5: Treat yourself, don't cheat yourself.

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Speaker 3: Anyway. You can follow me at watch Erica. You can

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01:08:59,680 --> 01:09:04,800
Speaker 3: follow me on TikTok At. Watch Erica Cole and make

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Speaker 3: sure you follow Mela Mila Underscore, map and rate and

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Speaker 3: review this episode. Go subscribe on YouTube and share us

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Speaker 3: with your friends. Share us with any moms, upcoming moms,

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01:09:19,160 --> 01:09:23,200
Speaker 3: upcoming mom, upcoming moms, mom or mo or current moms,

1521
01:09:23,280 --> 01:09:25,120
Speaker 3: or people that are thinking about having babies, or just

1522
01:09:25,160 --> 01:09:27,439
Speaker 3: women in general. Spread the words bread, the good mom

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01:09:27,520 --> 01:09:31,000
Speaker 3: love and the message. We really rely on our tribe

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01:09:31,080 --> 01:09:33,519
Speaker 3: to spread the word about good mom's bad choices. That's

1525
01:09:33,600 --> 01:09:37,439
Speaker 3: really genuinely how our show became successful was because of

1526
01:09:37,479 --> 01:09:39,519
Speaker 3: you guys, because of you guys sharing us, and we

1527
01:09:39,600 --> 01:09:40,400
Speaker 3: really appreciate that.

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Speaker 4: So keep it going.

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01:09:42,040 --> 01:09:45,160
Speaker 3: Yes, that is your gift to us. We come here

1530
01:09:45,200 --> 01:09:47,120
Speaker 3: and we talk once a week, and.

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Speaker 1: You know.

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01:09:49,000 --> 01:09:52,040
Speaker 3: It doesn't see it's pretty often. So do us a favor,

1533
01:09:52,120 --> 01:09:55,160
Speaker 3: write a review, tell a friend. If you have any mom,

1534
01:09:55,240 --> 01:09:57,760
Speaker 3: any upcoming moms, give them a Good Mom's Guide to

1535
01:09:57,800 --> 01:10:01,320
Speaker 3: making Bad Choices. Because this it's the book for the

1536
01:10:01,320 --> 01:10:03,320
Speaker 3: moms to be and the moms who are already momming

1537
01:10:03,320 --> 01:10:10,519
Speaker 3: and maybe haven't read it yet. So Amazon, no Okay,

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01:10:11,400 --> 01:10:16,680
Speaker 3: or a black bookstore. Malik anyway, we love you and

1539
01:10:16,720 --> 01:10:17,559
Speaker 3: we'll see you next week.

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01:10:17,840 --> 01:10:19,400
Speaker 4: Bye please.

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01:10:20,080 --> 01:10:23,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm living so good. Can't you tell I went

1542
01:10:23,320 --> 01:10:25,640
Speaker 2: through a drought. That's until I find out, well, may my.

1543
01:10:25,720 --> 01:10:26,240
Speaker 3: Have been known?

1544
01:10:26,280 --> 01:10:28,519
Speaker 2: Earth that used to be broken tail now got the

1545
01:10:28,560 --> 01:10:31,560
Speaker 2: blues in to like Beyonce Jasell throat shot or the

1546
01:10:31,600 --> 01:10:34,519
Speaker 2: Pop and his Cow wearing our voices. Patriarchy kept it

1547
01:10:34,560 --> 01:10:36,960
Speaker 2: in the box to exploit its women put the pee

1548
01:10:37,040 --> 01:10:37,960
Speaker 2: and powers.

1549
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Speaker 3: So what's pointless?

1550
01:10:38,520 --> 01:10:39,599
Speaker 2: They want me to be good?

1551
01:10:39,640 --> 01:10:41,160
Speaker 1: So I made bad choices.

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01:10:41,280 --> 01:10:43,000
Speaker 3: Bad mom, not a bad mom.

1553
01:10:42,880 --> 01:10:45,640
Speaker 4: But a bad mom. Ititter's in on, put cannabis in

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01:10:45,720 --> 01:10:46,120
Speaker 4: their bath.

1555
01:10:46,200 --> 01:10:48,720
Speaker 2: Bon walked in Bostons cap and I blew his cat

1556
01:10:48,800 --> 01:10:52,080
Speaker 2: ball tied dog. Now I'm immune to the cat called Herbie,

1557
01:10:52,120 --> 01:10:54,519
Speaker 2: and no waisted straight to it like a dollar sign. Mother,

1558
01:10:54,600 --> 01:10:56,800
Speaker 2: rent the lover when too, It's like a water sign

1559
01:10:56,880 --> 01:10:59,480
Speaker 2: where you're rent the winter essential will win the summertime.

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Speaker 4: I do at all. Ain't no one that needs to

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Speaker 4: run it by