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Speaker 1: Cheese man, Bonchinche bon chinch boch.

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Speaker 2: More Better, More Better, More.

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Speaker 3: Better, More.

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Speaker 1: Welcome to More Better, a podcast where we stop pretending

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Speaker 1: to have it all together and embrace the journey of

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Speaker 1: becoming a little more better every day.

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Speaker 2: Or at least trying to. Yeah. That's moll supher marrow

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Speaker 2: and that's Stephanie Beatrice. And here we are, guys, we're back.

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Speaker 2: We are back talking more ship.

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Speaker 1: That's essentially, if you've been listening to this podcast for

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Speaker 1: a while, you were quickly realizing that that's what this is.

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Speaker 2: We're just talking a lot of ship, trying to figure

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Speaker 2: shit out. Yep, you know what I mean, just trying

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Speaker 2: to we're doing. How are you? I'm good, friend, I'm good.

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Speaker 2: How are you? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, you know it's going

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Speaker 2: all right, it's going okay. What have you done lately?

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Speaker 2: That's a little more better? Oh man? I since my trip.

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Speaker 3: I got a lot of rest on my trip, and

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Speaker 3: I have been in a few days. I've been home

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Speaker 3: very productive, and I'm thinking about some projects in my

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Speaker 3: house that I want to do, like organizing projects and

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Speaker 3: like purging projects.

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Speaker 2: Yuck. Well, I do love a purge. I love a

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Speaker 2: purge and I love a purge because it's room to

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Speaker 2: buy new shit.

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Speaker 3: Pre trip, I was too I think, like stressed and

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Speaker 3: treading water. That every time I would come across that

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Speaker 3: closet that needs to be overhauled or whatever, that drawer,

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Speaker 3: that junk drawer that needs to be cleaned out, I

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Speaker 3: would just like close it and I couldn't even deal

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Speaker 3: like organize some shit, and I'm excited about it. So

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Speaker 3: that's my little bit of more better is that I'm

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Speaker 3: finally just like, that's nice figuring that out.

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Speaker 2: How about you anything lately staying that you've done that's

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Speaker 2: more better? Girl? I got myself a splint. Have I

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Speaker 1: Okay, So in general, my dental health is much better,

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Speaker 1: I think because I don't know about you, but I'm

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Speaker 1: not I'll admit it. I'm not a good flosser. I

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Speaker 3: I'm not a good flosser either. No, but you know what,

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Speaker 3: I think it's totally not our fault. We did not

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Speaker 3: grow up with lossing. I am baddy at it.

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Speaker 2: I did not grow up with flossing. No, my parents

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Speaker 1: Subsequently, I will say not to be a downer, but

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Speaker 2: Of my teeth, his teeth.

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Speaker 1: He like made me promise, which is really sweet, and

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Speaker 1: so it actively has made me. I know, well, because

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Speaker 1: it's connected to like your heart health and overall your

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Speaker 1: gum health is all. I went for a cleaning and

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Speaker 1: then my doctor was like, you need a scaling, and

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Speaker 1: scaling scaling, yes, yes, So anyway, then I also got

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Speaker 1: fitted for a splint, which is I I grind my

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Speaker 1: teeth that night and like subsequently, one side of my

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Speaker 2: Oh.

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Speaker 1: So I've been wearing my splint and it's really that

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Speaker 2: Kissing your partner.

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Speaker 1: Good night with that in your mouth is whoo. But

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Speaker 2: My husband has one of those two and yeah, does

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Speaker 3: He he usually waits to see, like, are just We're

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna put my thing in, Like.

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Speaker 1: See, I have to put mine in half an hour

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Speaker 3: Okay, I know his is just that you're different than his.

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Speaker 2: So I do that in your sleep? You take it out?

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Speaker 3: When I had him, bisi line, I would find my

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Speaker 1: So if I leave it in if I put it

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Speaker 2: Of used to it by then. Interesting.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, I've been I've been flossing like a mofo.

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Speaker 1: I've been wearing my splint. I'm feeling more relaxed in

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Speaker 1: the morning when I wake up.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, more better. Okay, So what are we talking about today?

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Speaker 3: We're talking about gossip today. Were diving into the topic

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Speaker 3: of gossip. My favorite or some as as some may

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Speaker 3: call it cheese may.

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Speaker 2: What do you call it? Cheese may bonchinch bon chiche

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Speaker 2: Never heard that until you told me about it. Guys,

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Speaker 2: tell us what your what your gossip words are? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's what we call it. To us what your gossip

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Speaker 2: words are, because we want to know. Are they different

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Speaker 2: in different places? Oh? Yeah, I want to know different languages?

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Speaker 2: What is gossip? What is the gossip term?

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Speaker 1: All over the world, spilling the tea became very popular

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Speaker 1: thanks to the black community and many a drag queen

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Speaker 2: I actually don't know the actual origin of the spilling

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Speaker 2: the tea, Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Origin of it, but I'm imagining as all cool things.

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Speaker 1: It came from the black community and the LGBTQ community. Oh,

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Speaker 1: they are the culture makers, the taste makers of all things.

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Speaker 1: Isis what up isis?

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Speaker 2: Okay?

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Speaker 4: It says, spill the tea originated in black, gay and

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Speaker 4: drag culture. So you're right, stuff, What.

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Speaker 2: Did I say? Nailed it?

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Speaker 1: Black people, gay people, drag culture. They do everything better.

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Speaker 4: They spell it with just the letter T. It says.

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Speaker 4: Spilling Tea for Ruth can be seen in nineteen ninety

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Speaker 4: four is Midnight and the Garden of Good and Evil

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Speaker 4: by John Burrent, which featured a transgender character who spilled

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Speaker 4: the tea in sharing gossip.

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Speaker 2: I love cool. I didn't know that it was tea

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so at some point it became teach yeah.

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Speaker 2: And then it just became tea tea. I love that.

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Speaker 2: I love it. I do love that phrase.

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Speaker 3: I love when sometimes we get together and it's like,

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Speaker 3: you got any tea, any tea?

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Speaker 1: Well, what is the juiciest piece of gossip you've ever heard?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 3: It's hard because gossip is can be incredibly private, but yeah,

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Speaker 3: I have gotten juicy tips of like someone being secretly

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Speaker 2: Uh, the way you do just inale just like a

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Speaker 3: Yeah, identities protected, identities protected adultery. Uh like finding out

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Speaker 2: Oh my god. Yeah, give me more. You have to

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Speaker 2: actually give it though. Yeah, you can't just be like mmmm,

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Speaker 2: I don't. Do you have a juicy what's the juiciest?

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Speaker 1: Before I started acting in La not before I started acting,

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Speaker 1: So I was working at a workout studio. First I

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Speaker 1: I took so many classes that I got to be

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Speaker 1: there was so much gossip around the owners of that studio.

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Speaker 2: There was like there was stuff about her past and

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Speaker 1: You know, there was dabbling and like listen, there was

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Speaker 2: But there was also like hiding that there was.

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Speaker 1: Trips that that family would because it was family owned,

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Speaker 1: there were like trips that that family would take to

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Speaker 1: There was a time when I, as a I was

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Speaker 2: We don't know she stealing from us. Like meanwhile, that's

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Speaker 1: Her best clients, like took privates, like was like a

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Speaker 1: She paid like a premium rate and stuff, and like

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Speaker 2: I mean it was she was not cool. She was

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Speaker 2: not cool. She was not a cool person. Anyway. There

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Speaker 1: And then there the studios were like franchising and opening everywhere,

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Speaker 2: That they shouldn't have been doing.

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Speaker 1: The husband of the studio owner was like him, like

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Speaker 2: Yep. That is juicy. That's juicy, right, that is I mean, like,

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Speaker 2: here's the thing. Gossip is fun. You get really good

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Speaker 1: People get hurt twisted, you know, false, especially because like

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Speaker 1: There's a lot of parts of this, right because like gossiping, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: You know, yeah, hey, yeah, I want to never.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, what are there? What are they're? Like everybody

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Speaker 3: I mean, give me the tea, give me the ta

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Speaker 3: So I think that that that exchange of information can

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Speaker 1: I just made a face though, because like sometimes, I mean,

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Speaker 1: I know myself and I've certainly had moments where they're

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Speaker 3: I don't think unless like somebody was present for an

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Speaker 2: A whole, like we all have off day. Once when

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Speaker 1: I know they did. I know they didn't.

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Speaker 2: So like if you were to ask them like, oh,

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Speaker 1: Or do you like her or whatever, they'd be like,

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Speaker 2: They don't think I'm good.

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Speaker 1: If somebody was shadowing you and then you looked over

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Speaker 3: I'd be hell annoyed. I'd be like some bullshit, Get

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Speaker 1: I'm awake and I'm working, suck it up. Yeah, yeah exactly.

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Speaker 1: You guys, don't judge me for falling asleep at work. God,

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Speaker 1: it was really embarrassing. It's really embarrassing because like I

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Speaker 2: Oh, no, oh no, did you do like A No,

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Speaker 1: Damn fuck, that would be so embarrassing. God, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: There's some people out there that don't like me and

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Speaker 1: gossip shit about me. You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: You know I'm saying, Listen, there's a lot of growth

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Speaker 2: Everyone everyone, Yeah, everybody's part. Yes, I remember.

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Speaker 3: There's like a there's like a family phone tree that

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Speaker 3: Something happens, my mom is like I'm waiting for the

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Speaker 3: I just grew up with that all the time of

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Speaker 3: And then we get the call from the DIA that

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Speaker 3: And I just grew up with that being like very normal.

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Speaker 1: And yeah, and I cannot and I and I find

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Speaker 2: Like I adopted that, like.

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Speaker 3: Oh, some shit just went down, I'm gonna call so

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Speaker 3: In that conversation, you go, hey, I don't I don't

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Speaker 3: feel like repeating the story, So can you call so

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Speaker 3: and so and tell them what happened?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well that's.

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Speaker 1: That community building thing too, because like when you know

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I think, yeah.

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Speaker 3: I think it is like a community thing, you know.

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Speaker 2: I do love gossip.

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Speaker 3: I think I enjoy gossip that you know, we're talking

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Speaker 2: I mean that.

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Speaker 3: I think that's why we're not trying to like her

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Speaker 1: But social media is so funny that way, because like

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Speaker 2: From my phone again, But what I'm getting fed.

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Speaker 1: In my in my for you page is always like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: It was like this awful story about this woman whose

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Speaker 2: With her mom is.

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Speaker 1: I know, I know, and she like her mom had

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Speaker 2: I'm getting this wrong, but like see I'm getting it wrong.

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Speaker 1: But like I think what happened was her mom was

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Speaker 2: Initials and she was like, oh, that's weird. That's my

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Speaker 1: And then like wait, the mom never met the husband. No,

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Speaker 2: The daughter's husband.

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Speaker 3: Oh, but like knew that sends her husband and was

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Speaker 2: They were like cheating in their hats. Psychotic.

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Speaker 1: I am not gonna argue with you, but I loved

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Speaker 1: listening to the story.

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Speaker 2: I loved it.

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Speaker 1: I was like with my popcorn, just like yes, give

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Speaker 2: Just think that something is so crazy.

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Speaker 1: to write it in a script and you've heard this before,

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00:22:52,600 --> 00:22:54,080
Speaker 1: but like if you were to write it, no one

445
00:22:54,080 --> 00:22:56,639
Speaker 1: would believe it. Everybody in the writer's room would veto it,

446
00:22:56,760 --> 00:22:59,000
Speaker 1: you know, because it's just so in, so out there

447
00:22:59,200 --> 00:22:59,879
Speaker 1: fucking saying.

448
00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:01,920
Speaker 3: You see the thing that went viral a few days

449
00:23:01,960 --> 00:23:04,800
Speaker 3: ago of a woman posted a picture of a man

450
00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:07,520
Speaker 3: on an airplane and she was like, if.

451
00:23:07,400 --> 00:23:10,720
Speaker 2: This is your husband, just know he's flying. Did you

452
00:23:10,760 --> 00:23:13,320
Speaker 2: see He's flying from San Jose to Miami?

453
00:23:13,359 --> 00:23:16,080
Speaker 3: And if this is your husband, he is probably spending

454
00:23:16,080 --> 00:23:17,920
Speaker 3: the night going home with this this girl.

455
00:23:17,680 --> 00:23:19,000
Speaker 2: That he met at the airport bar.

456
00:23:19,280 --> 00:23:21,960
Speaker 3: And they even switched seats to sit next to each other,

457
00:23:22,240 --> 00:23:24,399
Speaker 3: and like, your man is gonna cheat on you tonight.

458
00:23:24,720 --> 00:23:28,480
Speaker 2: And I was like, I ate it up.

459
00:23:28,520 --> 00:23:31,639
Speaker 3: And I was like, also, kudos to that woman looking

460
00:23:31,640 --> 00:23:35,280
Speaker 3: out for some other woman that she doesn't know to

461
00:23:35,320 --> 00:23:40,199
Speaker 3: be like, man is out here being a douche good.

462
00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:45,440
Speaker 2: That makes me so sick. It's just like it's so scary.

463
00:23:45,680 --> 00:23:46,439
Speaker 2: It's so scary.

464
00:23:46,520 --> 00:23:48,200
Speaker 1: And then like one of the things that's really scary

465
00:23:48,280 --> 00:23:53,280
Speaker 1: is like, you know, gossip spreading that person had that

466
00:23:53,320 --> 00:23:56,080
Speaker 1: person's best interest at heart, But what happens when somebody

467
00:23:56,200 --> 00:23:59,040
Speaker 1: doesn't have someone's best interest at heart and he's like

468
00:23:59,119 --> 00:24:02,280
Speaker 1: spreading gossip, you know, like we've all been victim to

469
00:24:03,200 --> 00:24:06,119
Speaker 1: reading the gossip columns, and like you know, Britney Spears

470
00:24:06,160 --> 00:24:09,679
Speaker 1: is a perfect example of everybody gossiped about her. We

471
00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:12,800
Speaker 1: sold so many magazines, we took pictures of her, we

472
00:24:12,840 --> 00:24:15,239
Speaker 1: did this and that and the other, and like we

473
00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:20,080
Speaker 1: scarred her. We scarred her, you know, and we affected

474
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Speaker 1: her life.

475
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Speaker 3: I would love, yeah, I would love to see all

476
00:24:24,080 --> 00:24:27,879
Speaker 3: the gossip columns and magazines just like go away, because

477
00:24:27,880 --> 00:24:32,520
Speaker 3: it's just it's just bad for humanity and just hurts people.

478
00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:39,960
Speaker 2: I do subscribe to US Weekly. I love it. I

479
00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:42,520
Speaker 2: love it.

480
00:24:41,800 --> 00:24:46,160
Speaker 3: I love it rumors and just oh my god, they've

481
00:24:46,200 --> 00:24:50,920
Speaker 3: done to so many Jen Aniston, like so many.

482
00:24:50,800 --> 00:24:54,760
Speaker 2: Well listen, I don't that that part of it was horrible.

483
00:24:54,840 --> 00:24:58,280
Speaker 3: And they're always there are always women that they're like

484
00:24:59,040 --> 00:25:02,240
Speaker 3: I went down to sell papers.

485
00:25:03,840 --> 00:25:08,520
Speaker 1: I want to know your enemy, you know, in the

486
00:25:08,560 --> 00:25:12,600
Speaker 1: words of Rage against the Machine, know your enemy, know

487
00:25:12,680 --> 00:25:15,199
Speaker 1: them inside out, you know, like I know, I know,

488
00:25:15,400 --> 00:25:19,360
Speaker 1: I see I read it, and you know a lot

489
00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:22,040
Speaker 1: of it is like is this being sold to me?

490
00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:25,679
Speaker 1: And if so, why you know who's paying? And like,

491
00:25:26,000 --> 00:25:28,320
Speaker 1: as someone who's in this industry, now, like I can

492
00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:31,720
Speaker 1: tell you guys, all those people that you see in

493
00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:35,320
Speaker 1: the gossam columns or like in those magazines.

494
00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:37,919
Speaker 2: They all have publicists that they're paying like.

495
00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:43,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's thousands hard Like yes, that's like that part

496
00:25:43,880 --> 00:25:46,760
Speaker 1: some hundreds of thousands of dollars to be placed in

497
00:25:46,800 --> 00:25:50,280
Speaker 1: those magazines to have certain things said about them, to

498
00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:55,159
Speaker 1: get good press or bad press. They've got relationships with

499
00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:56,680
Speaker 1: those called gossip columnsts.

500
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Speaker 2: It's crazy.

501
00:25:57,800 --> 00:26:01,439
Speaker 3: My husband was good friends with someone who was a

502
00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:05,520
Speaker 3: GM at a very at like a celebrity hot spot

503
00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:08,360
Speaker 3: kind of restaurant in La and he would tell us

504
00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:10,359
Speaker 3: he would be he would say, oh, the public He

505
00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:13,720
Speaker 3: was like, half the time the publics call the paparazzi

506
00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:14,760
Speaker 3: yeah and say so.

507
00:26:14,840 --> 00:26:16,159
Speaker 2: And so I was having dinner here tonight.

508
00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:19,040
Speaker 1: He was like, there's always oh my god, totally and

509
00:26:19,080 --> 00:26:21,199
Speaker 1: then they you know, I was doing a play and

510
00:26:21,280 --> 00:26:23,480
Speaker 1: like we were having drinks at a bar and then

511
00:26:23,480 --> 00:26:26,080
Speaker 1: we walked out and there were all these paparazzi and

512
00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:28,479
Speaker 1: afterwards another friend that was in the play, I was like, oh,

513
00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:30,520
Speaker 1: they those those people that came and saw the play

514
00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:32,600
Speaker 1: tonight that we were like at the bar having drinks

515
00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:35,239
Speaker 1: with they called the pops Like I'm friends with them

516
00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:36,240
Speaker 1: they called the paparazzi.

517
00:26:36,320 --> 00:26:39,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I was like what, like it was crazy. Yeah.

518
00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:42,080
Speaker 1: I also in my mind was thinking like wow, they

519
00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:45,159
Speaker 1: look really really great, right, and she has like a

520
00:26:45,200 --> 00:26:47,200
Speaker 1: full face of makeup on to just like go see

521
00:26:47,200 --> 00:26:47,520
Speaker 1: a play.

522
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:50,320
Speaker 2: That's so crazy, or like to go to dinner just

523
00:26:50,359 --> 00:26:54,000
Speaker 2: like super looking, super hot to go to a bar.

524
00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:57,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean like more power to them, but like wow,

525
00:26:58,000 --> 00:27:03,440
Speaker 1: it's you know, like it's all there's machine happening. That's

526
00:27:03,480 --> 00:27:07,000
Speaker 1: also why I like to post on social media when

527
00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:09,320
Speaker 1: I am on there. It's like you post the highlights, right,

528
00:27:09,359 --> 00:27:12,240
Speaker 1: but I also often post the low lights. I understand that,

529
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:14,800
Speaker 1: like everybody wants a curated version of themselves so that

530
00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:16,520
Speaker 1: no one will talk shit. But people are gonna talk

531
00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:19,480
Speaker 1: shit anyway, So what's the point.

532
00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:24,040
Speaker 2: Yeah? More better.

533
00:27:28,440 --> 00:27:28,680
Speaker 4: Better?

534
00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:31,600
Speaker 2: Okay, So you want to talk about the study that

535
00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:32,840
Speaker 2: you read about.

536
00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:37,679
Speaker 3: Yes, so, our amazing producer Isis sent this study. It

537
00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:40,359
Speaker 3: was a Dartmouth dar Dartmouth. Oh my god, how do

538
00:27:40,400 --> 00:27:43,160
Speaker 3: you say that? Dartmouth, Dartmouth, dart mounth out, Dartmouth, myth,

539
00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:48,720
Speaker 3: Dartmouth study, Dartmouth, thank you? Isis Dartmouth, Dartmouth Dartmouth.

540
00:27:48,840 --> 00:27:52,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, Dartmouth, yea Dartmouth, even though it's spelled like dart Mouth.

541
00:27:52,680 --> 00:27:58,200
Speaker 3: You guys, pecan pecan anyway, Dartmouth. Study, Uh, that gossip

542
00:27:58,240 --> 00:28:01,199
Speaker 3: is good. So they set up this game essentially in

543
00:28:01,280 --> 00:28:06,000
Speaker 3: this study where trying to remember the details, but the

544
00:28:06,080 --> 00:28:11,080
Speaker 3: participants had they gave them ten dollars and they could

545
00:28:11,160 --> 00:28:13,359
Speaker 3: and they had the choice to just keep their money

546
00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:15,159
Speaker 3: or they could invest some of the money in like

547
00:28:15,200 --> 00:28:18,480
Speaker 3: a community kind of fund and it would be invested

548
00:28:18,640 --> 00:28:22,040
Speaker 3: and then dispersed throughout the group equally.

549
00:28:22,440 --> 00:28:23,760
Speaker 2: And so.

550
00:28:25,320 --> 00:28:27,440
Speaker 3: Once and then at a certain point, I think during

551
00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:31,080
Speaker 3: the game, they allowed the participants to privately message each other,

552
00:28:31,160 --> 00:28:37,119
Speaker 3: and what ended up happening was gossip exchanging information about

553
00:28:37,400 --> 00:28:42,680
Speaker 3: who was contributing, who was just flying easy way yay

554
00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:44,720
Speaker 3: yea holding on to their money, waiting to just like

555
00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:46,480
Speaker 3: get more money from the group.

556
00:28:46,800 --> 00:28:51,040
Speaker 2: And you know, it increased participation in the game.

557
00:28:51,160 --> 00:28:56,360
Speaker 3: It increased collaboration and community, and it also like the

558
00:28:56,440 --> 00:28:59,200
Speaker 3: group kind of like weeded out some sucos that were.

559
00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:02,600
Speaker 2: In the in the group that we're just free loading.

560
00:29:03,840 --> 00:29:07,360
Speaker 3: Nice and so it made the point that you know,

561
00:29:07,680 --> 00:29:11,400
Speaker 3: in certain scenarios, gossip can be really powerful, and it

562
00:29:11,520 --> 00:29:16,800
Speaker 3: made me think of professionally, like in the workplace, I

563
00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:22,360
Speaker 3: you know, like I said before, gossiping about certain personalities.

564
00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:24,960
Speaker 3: Also sharing, I mean, I don't know if this is

565
00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:28,640
Speaker 3: considered gossip, but like sharing what you're getting paid can

566
00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:33,360
Speaker 3: be really powerful. Sharing what you got in your deal

567
00:29:33,680 --> 00:29:37,560
Speaker 3: or your writer or what extra little things you got,

568
00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:44,680
Speaker 3: especially for women, I think can be incredibly powerful. Yeah,

569
00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:48,760
Speaker 3: as we all like fight for a more equal slice

570
00:29:48,800 --> 00:29:53,240
Speaker 3: of the pie, if you will, and so yeah, and

571
00:29:53,840 --> 00:29:56,680
Speaker 3: it said. The researchers explain that gossip should not be

572
00:29:56,840 --> 00:30:01,760
Speaker 3: relegated to just baseless trash talk excuse me sorry.

573
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:03,200
Speaker 2: According to the.

574
00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:05,560
Speaker 3: Paper, the team's findings on the role of gossip are

575
00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:08,760
Speaker 3: consistent with creating a shared reality in which friends and

576
00:30:08,840 --> 00:30:14,240
Speaker 3: colleagues often find common bonds, establish alliances, exchange personal information,

577
00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:17,480
Speaker 3: and discuss the behavior of others to establish a consensus

578
00:30:17,960 --> 00:30:21,960
Speaker 3: of socially acceptable behavior. Gossip can be used in too,

579
00:30:22,000 --> 00:30:24,920
Speaker 3: because it helps people learn through the experience of others

580
00:30:25,000 --> 00:30:27,960
Speaker 3: while enabling them to become closer to each other in

581
00:30:28,080 --> 00:30:31,600
Speaker 3: the process. And so their conclusion was that gossip can

582
00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:36,800
Speaker 3: be good informing bonds and forming community, informing alliances in

583
00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:45,000
Speaker 3: like I said, weeding out the suckers, waiting out the

584
00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:48,720
Speaker 3: weeding out the suckers to live.

585
00:30:48,760 --> 00:30:53,400
Speaker 2: A more peaceful life. Perhaps suck a free life. Suck

586
00:30:53,440 --> 00:30:58,600
Speaker 2: a free life. I like that. I like that. Oh

587
00:30:58,880 --> 00:31:01,360
Speaker 2: that's nice. Yeah, I don't mind it. I don't mind

588
00:31:01,400 --> 00:31:04,000
Speaker 2: it either. And listen. Yeah, the workplace.

589
00:31:04,800 --> 00:31:07,080
Speaker 3: As I've said before, I have a school age child,

590
00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:09,880
Speaker 3: and I have found gossip to be a useful tool

591
00:31:10,120 --> 00:31:13,840
Speaker 3: in navigating the elementary school.

592
00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:15,800
Speaker 2: Atmosphere.

593
00:31:15,960 --> 00:31:20,240
Speaker 3: If you will, all the parents, the teachers, the administrators

594
00:31:20,600 --> 00:31:24,680
Speaker 3: like it's important to be kind of clued in to

595
00:31:24,800 --> 00:31:29,920
Speaker 3: make sure your kid is on the right track surrounded

596
00:31:29,960 --> 00:31:33,440
Speaker 3: by good people, that the school is the right fit

597
00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:34,560
Speaker 3: for your child too.

598
00:31:35,080 --> 00:31:38,720
Speaker 2: That can be something. Also, this is important for me

599
00:31:38,800 --> 00:31:41,240
Speaker 2: to pay attention to. I'm listening. I'm listening.

600
00:31:41,600 --> 00:31:45,840
Speaker 3: For example, gossip alerted me to the fact that my

601
00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:48,840
Speaker 3: child was having a really difficult time with a teacher

602
00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:53,600
Speaker 3: last year, really and it started with parents calling me

603
00:31:53,680 --> 00:31:58,360
Speaker 3: and saying, hey, did Enzo tell you about this? Or hey,

604
00:31:58,640 --> 00:32:04,120
Speaker 3: my kid said that this happened, and what my child

605
00:32:04,520 --> 00:32:06,600
Speaker 3: was holding it in because he didn't want to get

606
00:32:06,600 --> 00:32:10,440
Speaker 3: in trouble because his teacher, so he immediately he was little,

607
00:32:10,600 --> 00:32:14,240
Speaker 3: and he was really really little, and he just naturally was,

608
00:32:14,840 --> 00:32:16,640
Speaker 3: you know, oh, what must be me. I must be

609
00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:20,520
Speaker 3: doing something wrong. And then it wasn't until I asked

610
00:32:20,600 --> 00:32:23,440
Speaker 3: him about it that it all came flooding out and

611
00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 3: it was heartbreaking. He was crying, and he figured out

612
00:32:28,920 --> 00:32:31,520
Speaker 3: that was you know, certain behavior, things we were seeing,

613
00:32:31,640 --> 00:32:34,760
Speaker 3: certain things, cracks and confidence that it was all coming

614
00:32:34,840 --> 00:32:38,960
Speaker 3: from this teacher, you know, what the fuck? And I

615
00:32:39,000 --> 00:32:41,160
Speaker 3: would never have known if it had not been first.

616
00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:42,280
Speaker 3: Who was this fucking teacher?

617
00:32:42,520 --> 00:32:45,120
Speaker 2: I know, I hate that fucking teacher. My teacher is

618
00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:51,200
Speaker 2: an enemy in mine. I mean, here's the thing that's

619
00:32:51,280 --> 00:32:51,640
Speaker 2: I don't know.

620
00:32:51,640 --> 00:32:55,720
Speaker 1: If that's gossip necessarily or if it's just like sharing information,

621
00:32:56,920 --> 00:32:59,400
Speaker 1: but I guess in the way of like, I'm not

622
00:32:59,480 --> 00:33:01,040
Speaker 1: sure I should be telling you this, but I'm going

623
00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:02,080
Speaker 1: to anyway.

624
00:33:01,920 --> 00:33:04,200
Speaker 3: It felt like, yeah, like it was like the delivery

625
00:33:04,400 --> 00:33:05,760
Speaker 3: felt a little bit gossip.

626
00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:07,480
Speaker 2: Ye, yes, because m hmm.

627
00:33:08,200 --> 00:33:11,000
Speaker 3: Parents were like, this is coming from my kid or

628
00:33:11,360 --> 00:33:13,760
Speaker 3: I don't know, you know, and and it was all

629
00:33:14,800 --> 00:33:20,960
Speaker 3: sort of damn dude, it's yeah, all that shared information, man, Yeah,

630
00:33:21,160 --> 00:33:23,160
Speaker 3: that's the only way to like know what's going on

631
00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:26,920
Speaker 3: with like your kid's school life is through gossip.

632
00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:30,440
Speaker 2: That's cool. That's cool. That's I mean, I'll take that advice,

633
00:33:30,600 --> 00:33:34,360
Speaker 2: you know more better.

634
00:33:35,920 --> 00:33:37,920
Speaker 1: You know, I'm not sure that I actually learned anything

635
00:33:37,960 --> 00:33:40,160
Speaker 1: today other than that that was a good that was

636
00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:41,840
Speaker 1: a good tip. I feel like most of the time

637
00:33:41,880 --> 00:33:42,960
Speaker 1: I just spent it gossiping.

638
00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:48,680
Speaker 2: Actually just shit stories like we pretty much you know,

639
00:33:48,920 --> 00:33:49,560
Speaker 2: dog some shit.

640
00:33:49,840 --> 00:33:52,120
Speaker 1: I think I like kind of grabbed something about like

641
00:33:52,240 --> 00:33:55,120
Speaker 1: how to be how to use it more in a

642
00:33:55,200 --> 00:33:55,800
Speaker 1: healthy way.

643
00:33:57,360 --> 00:33:58,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, at least from that last thing.

644
00:33:58,800 --> 00:34:00,680
Speaker 1: But like, honestly, I don't want I don't know, Like

645
00:34:01,640 --> 00:34:04,240
Speaker 1: this is a tricky one because like sometimes it's real

646
00:34:04,320 --> 00:34:07,760
Speaker 1: bad and sometimes it's real good and it's very hard

647
00:34:07,840 --> 00:34:10,960
Speaker 1: to sift through, which is which, Yes, it is fun

648
00:34:11,000 --> 00:34:13,880
Speaker 1: and I do enjoy it, and I just you know,

649
00:34:14,239 --> 00:34:17,080
Speaker 1: so for anyone else who's listening to this who feels

650
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:22,600
Speaker 1: that way, you're not alone, which is probably everyone, because

651
00:34:22,680 --> 00:34:25,920
Speaker 1: I can't imagine anyone who doesn't like gossip. I mean,

652
00:34:25,960 --> 00:34:28,319
Speaker 1: even my husband, he'll like the way my the way

653
00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:30,719
Speaker 1: David will like perk up when I'm like guess what

654
00:34:30,840 --> 00:34:33,480
Speaker 1: I heard? Oh my god, Like I just grat start

655
00:34:33,560 --> 00:34:36,080
Speaker 1: a story like that, guess what I heard the same.

656
00:34:37,800 --> 00:34:39,800
Speaker 2: Or I'll be like, oh my god, you know what happened.

657
00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:45,520
Speaker 1: I'll be like what the excite? Tell me everything. That's

658
00:34:45,560 --> 00:34:48,600
Speaker 1: how I process information. Sometimes with Brad, I just gossip

659
00:34:48,719 --> 00:34:51,600
Speaker 1: to him and then yeah, process it. Yeah, it's nice.

660
00:34:51,920 --> 00:34:55,080
Speaker 2: All right. Well till next time, guys. Till next time.

661
00:34:55,120 --> 00:34:57,400
Speaker 2: I hope you and if you have any hot gossip

662
00:34:57,480 --> 00:34:58,040
Speaker 2: please send it to you.

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Speaker 2: More More Better.

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Speaker 1: Melissa Fumero More Better is produced by Isis Madrid, Leo Clem,

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Speaker 1: and Sophie Spencer Zebos. Our executive producers are Wilmer Valderrama

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Speaker 1: and Leo Clem at Wvsound. This episode was edited by

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Speaker 1: Isis Madrid and engineered by Sean Tracy and features original

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Speaker 1: music by Madison Devenport and Hey Loo Boy, our cover.

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Speaker 2: See you next week's sagas.

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